Which is true especially when you go back to the part of the video on how most people take over conversations...when a quiet person finds someone that doesn't do that, then they aren't so quiet. lol
I’ve always felt at odds with the world because in different school classes, groups, etc I’m either really, really quiet and shy, or I’m talkative and confident. It depends on the vibe of, say, 30 people all the way down to 3 people, if that makes sense? One of the things I hate the most about it is how people who haven’t interacted with me think I’m conceited and posh - but I’m the absolute opposite!
Absolutely. As a quiet person, if you put the right people in the room, you would think I was an extrovert the way I open up. But it takes time for me to get to that level with people.
For me that is an indicator of one of two situations. 1. I trust the people present enough to primarily present constructive criticism to something I say. 2. I have concluded that you are incapable of constructive thought and anything that I have to say to you one on one is for your education and I fully expect you to ignore it. Otherwise I am usually accused of being shy or distant/detached.
As a quiet person myself, I often find that I have trouble breaking into conversations with more extroverted people, and it can be very frustrating, because while I prefer to stay quiet until I have an opinion that deserves to be shared, finding an appropriate opening to slide into the conversation without seeming rude or oppressive to the voices of the people around me is extremely difficult and many times I just end up staying quiet while I wait for an opening that never comes. At that point, the relevance of my comment is long-gone and I just have to silently seethe at being ignored, even though I know that they're not doing it intentionally.
There will be those 1 second pauses where I'm like "okay this is my time" and then an extrovert just somehow naturally chimes in either before me or at the same time, which is so awkward.
When I finally try to say something, an extrovert interrupts me, I stay on my ground and continue to speak... and everyone is listening the extrovert. 😂
@@grenade8572speak more confidently, clearer, louder, with some intonation and emotion, and look into the groups' eyes while speaking. Don't scream though obviously, be reasonable. Prolly should help. If you can't do that - go get some singing lessons (offline with a human teacher), it helps a lot, very indirectly, but actually helps.
As a shy, quiet, and socially awkward person, I agree that sometimes it can be a blessing and a curse. It's also nice to learn additional facts about quiet people. Growing up, I was the quiet kid and I dreaded the times when the teacher would randomly call on me to answer a question. After what felt like an eternity, the teacher would give me a dirty look before she called on another kid. It didn't help that some other students would ask me why I'm so quiet and why don't I say something. I also dreaded family gatherings because most of my relatives are loud and gregarious (and for some of them, highly opinionated, rude, judgmental) and expected me to say something. Being more talkative and extroverted was usually more acceptable than being shy/quiet and introverted. Over time, I've learned to sharpen my listening and observational skills and improve on my social skills. The people whom I talk to the most appreciate my listening, observational, and imaginative skills. I suppose being quiet is not so bad after all.
@@ralthefish1880 Aside from the fact that I was a shy, quiet and socially awkward child, I was also very sheltered. My parents preferred/demanded their children do well in their classes rather than make friends and develop social skills. I improved on my social skills by talking to my friends, watching TV shows and observing how the characters interact with each other, and applying those skills to make small talks with cashiers, neighbors, restaurant servers, postal workers, etc.
I have the exact feeling. I can relate. Sometimes I feel like ppl who are more social and being more extrovert are better. And ppl like them better than a shy and quiet person. It sucks
As a a quiet person most of the times I am bored of making an effort to be heard by people I don't think highly off. I am talkative to the people that matter and I choose to use my energy for them.
Timestamps 1). If you need to be heard, talk to a quiet friend 0:28 2). Quiet people as leaders 1:38 3). Being quiet doesn't equal depressed 2:43 4). Being quiet doesn't make you more creative or intelligent, but neither does being loud 3:30 5). They are more self-aware, for better or worse 4:53 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I've always been overly self-aware, and throughout my life it's made me especially afraid of "saying the wrong thing". I was always that one kid that almost never spoke, I had very few friends growing up (I'm also autistic and socially awkward, and been bullied and taken advantage of a lot)
I am a younger version of you, but I never talk, but a genius once told me that if someone tries to beat you up, let them since you get paid that good bread (:
Aw im sorry you've had to go through that. I can relate to being self aware and worrying about saying the wrong thing. My mom told me that there is no right thing to say cause everyone is different. . I also found advice on reddit to just be yourself and enjoy yourself. It's hard but I'm trying to follow that advice. Sometimes it's hard and I feel like there's something wrong with me cause I'm quiet or I don't get along with people as well. Know you are not alone and things can get better! I hope that people will realize the good in you and make you feel good about yourself. Everyone deserves that!
As a member of the introvert community, I really relate to the self-awareness issue. Whenever I’m with friends I’m always analyzing the situation or topic at hand, while everyone else can just flow in a conversation. I get to choose my conversations, but this isn’t all the time and I feel mostly disconnected because of course, SOMETIMES people talk nonsense.
That ferling when someone in the group says something interessant, you're thinking a few secs about it, and when you want, the whole group has already moved on to another subject one light-year apart. 😂
@@AJ-xu5dh just change your way of thinking. I used to be very quiet and aware of the vibes in the room, how I felt, how people perceived me, who was dominant, even what people could be capable of or how they are better than me at things. For me, I was being distracted by all these thoughts because somewhere inside, I thought that was how I was supposed to be. At some point, I became tired of it and started to ignore all these things and focus on what I wanted, which may have been to dominate a conversation or show off my knowledge or look cool in front of a girl. Really a memory that sticks with me is losing at basketball to my dad and his friend when I was a teenager. I was not aggressive enough because I wasn't focused on playing. I was focused on how I was being perceived, how these guys are older and more experienced, how I looked up to these guys, or what if I looked weak? Again, I just got tired of it. Today, I can work harder, play better, be more confident, take charge of just about anything. I'll always remember my old mindset and it wasn't necessarily wrong. Some of the best times were like this but I never go back because I don't want to be a little punk, don't want anyone to take advantage of me and someone might need me to be strong. The thought of being like that again seems very vulnerable and I've gotten used to being anything but vulnerable. Why should someone else dominate me or why should I be afraid or self aware? Being on my own and in a lot of bad situations where I had to handle myself in order to survive also forced me to learn to be more assertive. But basically, it's all about focus. You are what you think you are. It all starts in your mind. You may have to practice but the first step is to think it. You gotta have motivation though. I think deep inside, you don't want anything from the situation, so you do nothing. Once you want something bad enough, all the distractions will go away and you won't see them any more.
I think being quiet is more a blessing than a curse. It allows me to listen more attentively, to observe more keenly, and to appreciate more deeply. Being quiet does not mean being passive or timid. It means being confident and respectful. I enjoy being quiet and I am proud of it.
Sometimes I find it hard to think of it that way. I feel like a lot of people misunderstand me, but I can hardly bring up the courage to start a conversation to explain myself.
People in the comments under this video prolly aren't addicted to TikTok, I can say that much. To describe their life experience in such ways, it takes some philosophy points and to gain them you have to choose to sit in silence without any distractions and have a high attention span. Which is harder today for most people because of ✨short form content✨ which doesn't let you process information effectively and produce your own thoughts. Yeah there's less and less of people who can listen
As a quiet person, this video definitely helped me out a lot. I really need to work on my inner thoughts and the way I talk to myself. I've known this for a while, so this was a welcoming friendly reminder. I'm going to share this video with my husband. My husband is an more of an extrovert and I'm more of an introvert. I feel like this video will help us to better understand each other and ultimately help our communication. It is something that we've been working on, and I feel this video will definitely help in that area. Thank you for this video! 💗
I'm generally quiet and introverted with people I don't know well , but I'm very loud and laughing all the time with people close to me , and i even dare to say I'm one of the most liked persons for people who know me well , so to the quiet folks out there , being silent in front of other people you're not comfortable with yet is not bad , don't be harsh on yourselves , although it's good to socialize with others , 'cause you might learn new experiences and make beautiful friendships , so don't be afraid to be out there ❤❤❤❤
As a quiet person this is so true. I met many people that has problems because maybe they don't want to show their real feelings and talk about their problems or they just think i was weird because i was a quiet kid. And for a few of my friends came near at me and talk about their problems and i'm so much glad i really help them. Also i maybe quiet but i am considering myself as ambivert but have strong percentage of introvert
Actually i think that people who are introvert think more about emotions and feelings and real problems and that when they talk, its not some sort of nonsense that comes out of their mouth.
One of the many upsides about being quiet is that you're usually a good listener just like this video said. Being a good listener usually also comes with the quality of being able to assess the situation and to see if this person just needs to be heard or if this person needs help and/or advise. I see this in my personal life alot; i have a friend with bpd and most of the time she just needs to be heard instead of being bombarded with advise which she's not gonna follow anyway. After having just a normal conversation and being thanked for listening, it gives me a proud feeling about myself because i was able to do and to understand what others couldn't.
As one of the quiet people in the internet I will say I like it when people talk because I can just stay quiet but if they do need me to speak I will, but still have to fight my speech anxiety so I can express my feelings more
I am always super analyzing, it's just the fact I am afraid I might mess it up or just can't add to it. I love to know everything just it's frustrating. I can't just express sometimes. I love being quiet but depends on the situation. My specialty comes out when people need help or art or gaming. Seems a good way to express
I find this especially interesting, cuz when i was a child i would literally never shut up, but after transferring to a new secondary school, i adopted these traits befause of the anxiety i felt. Things are different, but I'm still a "quiet person" and ngl i wouldn't change it
I'm not exactly an introvert, but I am a quiet person and this is so true. I can tell you that with most quiet people, they are always willing to listen, as the first fact says. Don't be afraid to get more personal and develop a deeper connection with a quiet person you know, especially if you're having a hard time and need someone to talk to. It's powerful both for the person talking mostly and the person listening.
I'm quiet all the time just Because I'm constantly upset that I can't talk to people normally, and I do a 180 on my personality which turns me into quiet shy type person at school, which makes it even harder for me to talk to people! I'm frustrated, but I know I cannot just give up and any type of information that makes me understand myself is very much appreciated and I would like to understand myself more😊🙏 thank you for videos like this! ❤️
@catfriend8888 I feel you mate❤️ I'm short for my grade, and I'm skinny so there's some attention to me because of that. Let's not forget who we are and continue being ourselves ^^
Like always, you can’t judge someone until you know them. I had a friend in middle school who was a “quiet kid” however when I got to know her better, I learned that she really likes talking and she talks a lot. Although I knew who she was, whenever someone else talked about her they portrayed her as a nice, quiet, smart girl who got good grades. Not that there was anything wrong with that, but it was a very different version than the her I knew.
I'm a quiet person and have taken necessary hints about what I should do when I am in society from you. I have grasped thoroughly . Thank you very much.
I'm glad to hear that wanting to be quiet whilst hanging out with friends isn't wierd. But I do feel a bit guilty, it feels as though I end up being a "taker" so to speak. It's like I'm not giving my friends anything in return.
I’m quiet and it kinda sucks bc I have maybe 2 real friends and a whole lotta fake friends. I’m really good at listening to people, though nobody really listens to me.
Are you just assume that they are fake friend based on your feeling, or critical thinking. If it's the latter, then resemble all the sign, or edvidence that shows they're fake friend. Also, if you mostly listen to people, the people you're going to attract are more likely to be an great speaker, and bad at listening. So you can try to speak to them about this.
Sometimes it can be hard to express yourself because you are expected to be good at listening when you are quiet. Of course, it gives a good feeling when you help someone by hearing the person out, but with an overanalysing mind, a quiet person could overthink that it is unnecessary to be heard when they are expected to be the listener. It could get into a negative spiral when there isn't some mutuality in listening to each other. Nice to see the topic being discussed!
I really like family get togethers with my wife’s family. I’ve always been a quiet person, and sometimes situations with a lot of people give me anxiety. Almost from the get go they just accepted the fact that’s just how I was and didn’t take issue with it or try and change it. If I just want to listen to everyone, they just let me be. If I join in the conversation, they listen. It was mind blowing at first, because I love my family, but being a quiet person in social settings is very much NOT acceptable with them.
The whole self-awareness thing hit hard, I've always felt pressured to socialize so every time I stay quiet there's a recuring thought that forces me to speak, making me feel bad about my quiet self and it sucks, I want to just enjoy being there without feeling guilty for not talking
I'm quiet, but have a comorbidity of ASC/ADHD, so can lose track of what I need to reply during a conversation, so interject when most necessary. I always feel like I'm butting in, but have hopefully learned by now when there is a lull in the sentence structure I'm listening to.
I'm relatively quiet, and one of the things I noticed that benefit me slightly, but also annoy me to no extent is that when I'm listening to a conversation happening in a group of people, I sort of get ignored as I'm not really adding anything to the conversation, but when I decide to speak up, it usually makes people go quiet and listen carefully to what I might have to add to the conversation. The annoying part is that I also get ignored a lot or not taken into account when something is being group-discussed. Another thing that seems a bit funny to me is that when talking online in a group through text, not audio calls, when there are conflicts going on and I happen to have something to add, people often get intimidated by just seeing me start to type something up, as literally nobody quite expects me of all people wanting to get involved in a loud and screamy mess. This sort of makes myself getting to be a person of authority in some situations which I'm not a huge fan of most of the times, but also helps me keep an eye out and stop people from doing stupid stuff, which oftentimes gets appreciated.
I’ve been forced to be quiet, despite being a loud, outgoing person, because for some reason, people treat me like a 5 year old, treat me like I’m stupid. This is until they need me for something. Usually I love helping others, but I don’t help them because whenever they don’t need something of me they treat me wrong. But when they need help with something in class, all of a sudden all eyes are on me. Being used sucks, and forces people into silence, I’m a prime example. It’s to the point where my friend group is Essentially all the outcasts. That said, it’s good to surround yourself with good, true friends, who’ll help you, as you also help them.
I’m not necessarily “shy” but I’m somewhat quiet. Even though I can be sociable at times, I’m REALLY introverted compared to most of my family (except for my cousin maybe) and most of my friends are extroverts as well. I can feel alienated at times, and I try to talk to them and try to get closer, but I personally can feel a bit jealous about how extroverted people tend to have this indescribable “charm” and charisma about them that seems to be able to befriend so many people. I have a few friends, but unfortunately I still haven’t found many people who I can confide in for when I need. Hoping to make that a long-lasting priority and goal. ❤
As an introverted, very quiet person, I love how this is all so true. It's so factual and very educational. I was rewarded as the most quiet person in 4th grade. I decided to be homeschooled for 2 years after that. Not because of that "award" but because I can never get used to socializing. My anxiety always kicks in whenever I'm in public. Decided to go to proper school on 7th grade. I'm now in 8th grade, but homeschooled again. But this is my last homeschool experience, cause it's pretty hard too tbh.
I am really sorry that you're anxiety is so bad whenever you are in public, but i am 100% sure you can handle this! Whenever you have a hard time, breath in an breath out and seek a bit of a more quieter space. Also (what i like to do) since im a bit of a reader i sometimes just like to take a book with me and whenever it gets too hard i grab my book and just live in the book for a while. What also helps is writing you're feelings down. I hope this helps! You got this!
fellow quiet person here. I homeschooled in middle school as well and then went to school freshman year. it was a big adjustment and pretty hard, but now I'm in sophomore year with a few really good friends that I can be myself around or just be quiet and comfortable with. In freshman year I was tempted to give up and just go back to homeschool but I didn't and I'm so glad. Don't give up!!
I have really bad social anxiety but i do feel much better now i try not to care what others thinking of me or judged me but i don't give a crap about it that's why I need to get out my comfort zone and go out and try socialized and still my parents are overprotective of me afraid the real world so yeah it was hard for me to go and do normal teenage would do it's sucks 🥺😭
I am a quiet person. My favorite thing to do in my friend group is be the one that people come to to vent and get a hug. It has even become part of my profession, I listen to people having a crisis and talk them into getting help instead of causing a self destructive action using Crisis Intervention Training from law enforcement.
I really relate to all of these points. I am super introverted and do love to stay quiet sometimes, but I also love socializing with my friends. I love listening and am extremely self-aware.
As a quiet and depressed person, I can relate to all of this. We just tend to use our energy more on people that is worth our energy and time. Thank you for sharing this video🙏
Hahaha I just love sitting quietly while listening to my group of friends chat about what happened with their day. Seeing them smile and laugh just makes my day so bright, internally.
Knowing that it's possible to be quiet and happy and that being talkative/sociable is social pressure really helps pinpoint that yes, I'm a quiet type and I'm happy that way.
I relate to the self-awareness part. I generally don't like speaking out as I am comfortable staying quiet until spoken to and I tend to catch myself overthinking my words so much that I stumble on my sentences every single time I try to actually talk with others, and when I just let go I often accidently say rude things despite it not being my intention. I try to be better at communicating and being a team person, since my current workspace requires me to do so, but I'm still having a hard time. But I don't let it discourage me. If it hurts that day, I let it all out and prepare for the next day. Failing or making mistakes can be hurtful, but giving up is even more so.
Can confirm, been a quiet person my whole life. When I spoke, it sounded like I was whispering. Bit louder now, and I actually enjoy listening to the problems of those close to me. I relate immensely to this video
I fully agree with this vid, people back in school, at home, at work, even in social games people wonder why all the silence, self awareness is definitely a big thing for us, for some it's scary and others it's kind of a helpful tool
This help me a lot , your videos help me realize a lot about myself, I’ve talked to my friends and therapist and I recommend them your videos, thank you for sharing important information
I’m usually pretty quiet and tend to listen to others. The details are a little more than i can comment on here but I will say it can lend towards heightened sensitivity and expansion of imagination. Our type tend to sound more articulated in their speech and writing.
I’m talking to a girl and I really like her but before I knew her she had never spoken a word in any of the classes me or my friends have shared with her. Now that I know her and talk to her, she’s very energetic around me but she’s still very shy in public. I asked her why to the response “i dunno, i guess i’m just quiet”. I’m a very social and extroverted person and it’s really interesting and I wish to understand her more. I’m hoping this video will bring me closer to my crush and allow me to understand her!
i brlieve myself to be quiet often but i can be more extroverted with my friends, ive learned to be self aware of how i feel overtime and my actions, an old friend told me not to hide my feelings but when i try to share ppl dont listen or like me talking sm so i began hiding again, i appreciate this video cause it helped me learn more abt me and my close friends who are quieter
I'm a quiet person, many people and mates told me that, and yes, I feel identified 😊 Specially the part of self-awareness. Idk if I have depression (bc I live in constant denial), but yeah, this video is really accurate, thank u.
I am not introverted, I'd say ambiverted at best and for me, my quietness depends on the person I am with. With my friends and in school I am usually the most confident, not to mention this video taught me that I am more of an extroverted leader although I try my best to seek out other people's interests in a project (although my classmates are stupid and dont care). There are also certain friends I am more open with, like my former crush and good friend and my best friend who I find easy to get absorbed in a conversation with. When meeting new people I tend to be more analytical.
Well, I'm a very loud and talkative person but also a good listener. I appreciate quiet people the most because I have the best conversations with them. They don't do small talk, they actually talk about interesting and meaningful things and I rlly enjoy listening to them
I am a quiet person i am too self aware of my surroundings and people and this was very relatble that my inner speech takes out all the fun am working on it and the self awareness is helpful too sometimes and i am not intelligent but i do draw and make my own ideas so a really good video
THANKYOU FOR SAYING THAT BEING QUIET DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE DEPRESSED. Honestly some people look at me like I need mental help when I'm actually quite happy.
It might sound sad but when I watch your video I tend to tear up a little it's just nice to know people feel the same way as me and it's great to hear it all said out loud so thank you
It all depends on a person's inner qualities to determine how creative and practical they can be... While also being able to network with others in a healthy manner even if they are a introverted quiet person who prefers to speak only when it's necessary 🌻 And there are quiet introverts who really enjoy their own company in their own ways even if others don't understand them 💯
I'm quiet because nobody wants to listen to me. Ever say something, get ignored then a minute later someone else in the same room says the same thing and get's all sort of attention from it? While I don't like to deal in absolutes I feel like quiet people are a product of nurture due to not being likable by others.
You're making a mistake, whenever you enter a new social group the first thing people will notice is your appearance then your personality. Your mistake is about being quiet and not expressing yourself very well. If you don't provide anything to the group besides your standing there, you'll often be seen as dumb, and people will not pay attention to what you say. But if you are quiet and whenever you open your mouth to say something nobody thought of, that's gold, and people will think "Huh, he's smart alright." Being quiet and good-looking is also a plus, but even these kinds of people will have to provide something besides their beauty, a joke is often enough. Hope that helps.
@@zkennedy5671 Thank you for the tips. :) and reading my post. I guess it's like the ol' "No decision is worse that a bad one" Saying something is better than saying nothing at all?
@@Novaximus Why should you start a conversation with people, and not the other way around? If they ignore you, don't waste your time on something that isn't worth it. I don't start conversations with people, they often ask me questions and I answer them, they ask even more questions and I get bored. I can feel when someone is trying so hard to engage with me, and I get repulsive about that person 'cause they often can't think for themself or need validation (look I'm here), I'm not being rude but those who can hold silence around me are the most secure people in the room, they've spent enough time inside their head to know themself, and (thank god) I don't need to feed their ego. So answering your question: Believe it or not communication nowadays outclass knowledge, you can be pretty damn smart but what's the use of if you can't share it? It's Not What You Say It's How You Say It, people like those who are similar to them, your tone of voice, how you express yourself, body language so on... all of these can attract or repel people. If you like your own company, you don't need to force yourself into people, just be yourself. But if you like people try to work on your communication and body language. Just be you.
@@zkennedy5671 Most of the people I see daily are just coworkers. Otherwise I agree. I ordinarily won't peruse a conversation with someone that doesn't want to be around me. Krammer from Seinfeld pops into my head when you mentioned body language and being more expressive. Being boisterous doesn't come naturally to me. Maybe that's why I watch so many reaction videos?
I am an introvert and also a quiet person. I tend to listen more if someone wants to have a conversation with me. I also want a friend who can listen to me without interrupting my talk and without judging me😢. Nowadays, I am forcing myself too much to talk and have nice conversations with everyone. It's really hard. As you said in video, I carefully choose words and before saying them, I try them on my mind so many times. But I am a little confuse. My friends become happy when we have a conversation but I think I am changing and pushing myself too much. Sometimes I feel proud that I did itbut sometimes I become too embarrassed because I said too much in flow😅.
im an extrovert and i used to be very talkative and energetic but lately ive been more quiet and tired. and sometimes when i need to talk to one of my friends about something i think about what im going to say and then i start making scenarios in my head that just stresses me out. i dont even hang out with my friends that much anymore and im usually just alone, because i just think that my friends would rather hang out with someone other than me. but when someone chooses to hang out with me i feel really happy and i dont even care if they talk the whole time, im just happy theyre hanging out with me.
As a young child i was very very loud, but when i grew up i became more quiet. Maybe this is because of other people, but i would also like to think that i became more self-aware because of it! There is still a lot to learn about myself and other people, but i actually got the chance to become more self-aware!
As a quiet person, the 5th fact definitely hit a nerve. Sometimes I notice things so easily that I tend to overthink it, although for a good reason most of the time. As soon as I see that something might be wrong, my alarms would be going off.
I relate to all of these. I am more of an introvert however I also enjoy getting to know people, and I can be quiet when needed. I am usually a quiet person. I, however, do not like silence.
Thank you I'm trying to be more mindful and enjoy the moment rather than over analyse everything When I feel too stressed, my chatterbox disappears and I become mute without control. Idk what one would call that, but I cant even ask for help. Thank you this helps ❤
You're welcome! Being mindful and focusing on enjoying the present moment can be beneficial for reducing overanalysis. It sounds like when you're stressed, you experience a loss of speech or control. Have you found any strategies that help you in such situations?
@Psych2Go I've heard meditation can help, i feel restless sometimes so I'm finding stuff to entertain myself as I go through life ^_^ Thank you for your videos 🧡
Sometimes being quiet and then being angered by someone is hard. Because you know you cant express it so you have to really keep it in. Sometimes we must learn to keep our mouths shut 😊
As a quiet person, on one side of things, it’s not easy. As I am sometimes my biggest critic, asking myself why I’m not interacting with others when other people around me are doing so is a recurring thing. On the other hand, it’s really peaceful, and nice. It can feel special, like my presence is enough to satisfy my needs. Overall, it can be very easy to get lost in our insecurities as quiet people, but it’s also a precious gift that can allow us to feel self sufficient. All that based on my personal experience!
when i was a kid a used to be so quiet and unsecure about myself, i was shy to even talk to people. Nowdays i am still a quiet person but i am a lot more confident i can consider myself even a lider as the video says! When im quiet it's not i don't walk to talk, i just want to listen. So everything is pretyy true!
As an introverted quiet person who contemplated every little thing I've ever said that was embarrassing and over analyzing every little nuance of the way I represent myself, after years of therapy and the constant threat of concerned friends and family members constantly thinking I was depressed and going to unalive myself, ultimately made me pry open the way I think and interact, with extreme force and effort only to find that those very people preferred me to be quiet and depressed rather than expressing myself and my overly complicated and unrealistic opinions. I've now been in a state of upheaval, of deciding to be quiet since it's what's most comfortable and reverting to the way I was, or being the extrovert everyone both wants and doesn't want me to be. This being the case, and the inability to see anything positive come from this change, I've learned that by being in a state of limbo and constantly changing my personality to fit to those around me, is slowly causing me to go insane, often thinking about insane scenarios or unaliving myself for the sake of unaliving myself, not out of depression, or anxiety, or trauma, but out of a sheer desire to see what would happen, I feel like I'm slowly losing myself and contemplating if there was anything inside me to begin with, often feeling empty and completely void of emotion, until it eventually hits me as a wave of depression that causes me to retreat into my room, sleep for 20+ hours at a time, often taking off of work, or losing jobs, and causing the whole cyclical process to start over. At one point I saw therapy as helpful and rather eye opening to how other people view me, but at this point I'm not even sure if I even want help anymore. Edit: In retrospect of commenting this completely insane and nonsensical comment that I sincerely doubt will evoke any reaction whatsoever out of anyone, if you have read this far, any advise or criticism would be appreciated.
I am 100000% the type of quiet person who simply enjoys being in the conversation but not necessarily adding to it. I’ve always seen it as less being quiet and more taking notes on the conversation itself, the people who are talking, and what makes them feel the way they feel about the convo
All these facts are all true, As a quiet person myself I can testify. Wanting to talk in a social gathering but start to think of the reception how you look awkward and all those useless though that just makes you think it's not worth it to say anything or how people around you start looking at you as the next Albert Einstein just because you are quiet
I used to be the friend people vent to about their problems, I just had to nip that in the bud. So while I would listen, I just began to let it go in one ear and out the other.
I can 100% relate to the leadership part, I struggle way more when people around dont have tha passionand ideas, as just delgating things to be done seems so frustrating
I may be a quiet person, but I like being around others too, even if I'm not as good at talking to them as the people around me are. It just feels nice to be included. :)
The self awareness thing is definitely true. I myself am my hardest judge. But I still have my friend groups where I feel comfortable, not really needing to judge every word I say. On a bigger scale that gets a little different. I am more careful what I say and am harsh to myself when thinking i did something wrong. I am not fun at parties, though I would like to be
I can relate, my negative thoughts always hold me back, like when people are doing something new with zero experience, I will just try to stay away cause I never practiced and have no confidence, I’m also afraid that I would mess up everything Self awareness is good but not when you have too much
I'm not always quiet, and when I'm not I'm super talkative about whatever nerdy thing I'm going on about, I'm like deadly quiet; a 6th one that could be mentioned, is that we quiet people can startle people when we walk behind them without saying anything 😬
Thank you, thank you for offering me an alternative perspective on the world around me instead of having to be hard on myself because I cannot communicate like an extrovert in normal situations. Additionally introverts can be loud in the right group.
As a quiet person i can relate to the first point because all of my friendships actually started from me listening to people and making them feel comfortable but yeah sometimes people think that I'm depressed or that there is something wrong just because I'm quiet
I just want to say something really interesting. As a loud outspoken person, I was very happy. Ignorance is bliss. Only when I shut up and started to listen did I realize that I wasn’t as well liked as I thought I was. I’m quieter now but sadder because I know what people think about me. Very interesting
Im an ENFJ, and i like having a few friends that are quiet listeners. My partner is an INFJ he is the quiet listener or the listener of a friend group unless if he's asked for feedback. And i love this balance, and its nice to listen to someone
Thank you so much for this video on Quiet People ❤ I have a loved one who calls me " Nanna " . He has a Genuinely Sweet Intelligence About him that I cannot define ❤ . He's had my heart since the day he was born. I was given the gift to care for him until preschool and I filled his world with everything imaginable with the exception of money . I'm watching him graduate now . He has lived with intention in his studies and a small group of friends . They all have similar interests and a variety of personalities. Now, he's coming Into His Own . Quietly he walks and because he speaks softly , I must listen loudly ! Quiet people have so much to say , nonverbal ques can give them away ❤.
not gonna lie I can relate to almost all of this. also this helps me see that I'm too self-aware I believe but I just have a trouble talking in general I'm quiet and I hate it at times but I always listen just I don't have the confidence on things to ask for stuff. I'm kind a glad theirs a video of this because I thought maybe I'm just too depressed on things mostly family at times but I'm glad this video cheer me up a bit for comfort on being a quiet person :)
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As an introverted quiet person, I can confirm this is all true. Love ur channel!
As an also another introvert, I also confirm this comment.
as an person, i can confirm i am an introvert
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Idem. I am are INFP
@@QuellachescriveL yes me too
One thing that's sat with me for a while cause I found it to be true with me.
"The quiet ones always talk a lot more around the right people"
Which is true especially when you go back to the part of the video on how most people take over conversations...when a quiet person finds someone that doesn't do that, then they aren't so quiet. lol
I’ve always felt at odds with the world because in different school classes, groups, etc I’m either really, really quiet and shy, or I’m talkative and confident. It depends on the vibe of, say, 30 people all the way down to 3 people, if that makes sense? One of the things I hate the most about it is how people who haven’t interacted with me think I’m conceited and posh - but I’m the absolute opposite!
Absolutely. As a quiet person, if you put the right people in the room, you would think I was an extrovert the way I open up. But it takes time for me to get to that level with people.
Truee me too
For me that is an indicator of one of two situations.
1. I trust the people present enough to primarily present constructive criticism to something I say.
2. I have concluded that you are incapable of constructive thought and anything that I have to say to you one on one is for your education and I fully expect you to ignore it.
Otherwise I am usually accused of being shy or distant/detached.
I’m a really quiet person my self so I’m glad I found this video
I agree, I am also a bit quiet person
Same here. I usually don’t have much to say unless I’m able to find something to connect to with someone.
I’m generally a quiet person but if a topic I’m very familiar with is brought up in a conversation, I’m able to engage more in the discussion.
Me too
same
As a quiet person myself, I often find that I have trouble breaking into conversations with more extroverted people, and it can be very frustrating, because while I prefer to stay quiet until I have an opinion that deserves to be shared, finding an appropriate opening to slide into the conversation without seeming rude or oppressive to the voices of the people around me is extremely difficult and many times I just end up staying quiet while I wait for an opening that never comes.
At that point, the relevance of my comment is long-gone and I just have to silently seethe at being ignored, even though I know that they're not doing it intentionally.
There will be those 1 second pauses where I'm like "okay this is my time" and then an extrovert just somehow naturally chimes in either before me or at the same time, which is so awkward.
When I finally try to say something, an extrovert interrupts me, I stay on my ground and continue to speak... and everyone is listening the extrovert. 😂
Yes, yes , and yes xD all three
Me too :>
@@grenade8572speak more confidently, clearer, louder, with some intonation and emotion, and look into the groups' eyes while speaking. Don't scream though obviously, be reasonable. Prolly should help. If you can't do that - go get some singing lessons (offline with a human teacher), it helps a lot, very indirectly, but actually helps.
As a shy, quiet, and socially awkward person, I agree that sometimes it can be a blessing and a curse. It's also nice to learn additional facts about quiet people. Growing up, I was the quiet kid and I dreaded the times when the teacher would randomly call on me to answer a question. After what felt like an eternity, the teacher would give me a dirty look before she called on another kid. It didn't help that some other students would ask me why I'm so quiet and why don't I say something. I also dreaded family gatherings because most of my relatives are loud and gregarious (and for some of them, highly opinionated, rude, judgmental) and expected me to say something. Being more talkative and extroverted was usually more acceptable than being shy/quiet and introverted. Over time, I've learned to sharpen my listening and observational skills and improve on my social skills. The people whom I talk to the most appreciate my listening, observational, and imaginative skills. I suppose being quiet is not so bad after all.
I hope I can confidently say that someday, I had just same experience as you and I 100% agree with you.
How did u improve your social skills
@@ralthefish1880 Aside from the fact that I was a shy, quiet and socially awkward child, I was also very sheltered. My parents preferred/demanded their children do well in their classes rather than make friends and develop social skills. I improved on my social skills by talking to my friends, watching TV shows and observing how the characters interact with each other, and applying those skills to make small talks with cashiers, neighbors, restaurant servers, postal workers, etc.
Another way I improve on my social skills is visualizing the interactions of book characters whenever I was reading.
I have the exact feeling. I can relate. Sometimes I feel like ppl who are more social and being more extrovert are better. And ppl like them better than a shy and quiet person. It sucks
The biggest hurdle I’ve faced being a quiet person is feeling alienated. Im glad this video brought that up.
As a a quiet person most of the times I am bored of making an effort to be heard by people I don't think highly off. I am talkative to the people that matter and I choose to use my energy for them.
Literally same
Sounds like something an INTJ would say, are you one?
@@hassaniq0777 I am lol
@@hassaniq0777I have the same opinion and also I'm an INTJ, maybe she/he is an INTJ as well
Timestamps
1). If you need to be heard, talk to a quiet friend 0:28
2). Quiet people as leaders 1:38
3). Being quiet doesn't equal depressed 2:43
4). Being quiet doesn't make you more creative or intelligent, but neither does being loud 3:30
5). They are more self-aware, for better or worse 4:53
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
You too ❤
@@kaylewolf not a problem happy to help
Thank you! 💙
Thanks
@@ckmodele happy to help
I've always been overly self-aware, and throughout my life it's made me especially afraid of "saying the wrong thing". I was always that one kid that almost never spoke, I had very few friends growing up (I'm also autistic and socially awkward, and been bullied and taken advantage of a lot)
I am a younger version of you, but I never talk, but a genius once told me that if someone tries to beat you up, let them since you get paid that good bread (:
And they go to jail
Way smarter
Aw im sorry you've had to go through that. I can relate to being self aware and worrying about saying the wrong thing. My mom told me that there is no right thing to say cause everyone is different. . I also found advice on reddit to just be yourself and enjoy yourself. It's hard but I'm trying to follow that advice. Sometimes it's hard and I feel like there's something wrong with me cause I'm quiet or I don't get along with people as well.
Know you are not alone and things can get better! I hope that people will realize the good in you and make you feel good about yourself. Everyone deserves that!
I feel you so much
As a member of the introvert community, I really relate to the self-awareness issue.
Whenever I’m with friends I’m always analyzing the situation or topic at hand, while everyone else can just flow in a conversation. I get to choose my conversations, but this isn’t all the time and I feel mostly disconnected because of course, SOMETIMES people talk nonsense.
True awareness increases when we are silent
What's the solution to this
@@AJ-xu5dhthere is a book "Just Listen" and I think it's quite effective 🙂
That ferling when someone in the group says something interessant, you're thinking a few secs about it, and when you want, the whole group has already moved on to another subject one light-year apart. 😂
@@AJ-xu5dh just change your way of thinking. I used to be very quiet and aware of the vibes in the room, how I felt, how people perceived me, who was dominant, even what people could be capable of or how they are better than me at things. For me, I was being distracted by all these thoughts because somewhere inside, I thought that was how I was supposed to be. At some point, I became tired of it and started to ignore all these things and focus on what I wanted, which may have been to dominate a conversation or show off my knowledge or look cool in front of a girl.
Really a memory that sticks with me is losing at basketball to my dad and his friend when I was a teenager. I was not aggressive enough because I wasn't focused on playing. I was focused on how I was being perceived, how these guys are older and more experienced, how I looked up to these guys, or what if I looked weak?
Again, I just got tired of it. Today, I can work harder, play better, be more confident, take charge of just about anything. I'll always remember my old mindset and it wasn't necessarily wrong. Some of the best times were like this but I never go back because I don't want to be a little punk, don't want anyone to take advantage of me and someone might need me to be strong. The thought of being like that again seems very vulnerable and I've gotten used to being anything but vulnerable. Why should someone else dominate me or why should I be afraid or self aware?
Being on my own and in a lot of bad situations where I had to handle myself in order to survive also forced me to learn to be more assertive. But basically, it's all about focus. You are what you think you are. It all starts in your mind. You may have to practice but the first step is to think it. You gotta have motivation though. I think deep inside, you don't want anything from the situation, so you do nothing. Once you want something bad enough, all the distractions will go away and you won't see them any more.
I think being quiet is more a blessing than a curse. It allows me to listen more attentively, to observe more keenly, and to appreciate more deeply. Being quiet does not mean being passive or timid. It means being confident and respectful. I enjoy being quiet and I am proud of it.
Sometimes I find it hard to think of it that way. I feel like a lot of people misunderstand me, but I can hardly bring up the courage to start a conversation to explain myself.
People in the comments under this video prolly aren't addicted to TikTok, I can say that much. To describe their life experience in such ways, it takes some philosophy points and to gain them you have to choose to sit in silence without any distractions and have a high attention span. Which is harder today for most people because of ✨short form content✨ which doesn't let you process information effectively and produce your own thoughts.
Yeah there's less and less of people who can listen
As a quiet person, this video definitely helped me out a lot. I really need to work on my inner thoughts and the way I talk to myself. I've known this for a while, so this was a welcoming friendly reminder. I'm going to share this video with my husband. My husband is an more of an extrovert and I'm more of an introvert. I feel like this video will help us to better understand each other and ultimately help our communication. It is something that we've been working on, and I feel this video will definitely help in that area. Thank you for this video! 💗
I'm generally quiet and introverted with people I don't know well , but I'm very loud and laughing all the time with people close to me , and i even dare to say I'm one of the most liked persons for people who know me well , so to the quiet folks out there , being silent in front of other people you're not comfortable with yet is not bad , don't be harsh on yourselves , although it's good to socialize with others , 'cause you might learn new experiences and make beautiful friendships , so don't be afraid to be out there ❤❤❤❤
As a quiet person this is so true. I met many people that has problems because maybe they don't want to show their real feelings and talk about their problems or they just think i was weird because i was a quiet kid. And for a few of my friends came near at me and talk about their problems and i'm so much glad i really help them. Also i maybe quiet but i am considering myself as ambivert but have strong percentage of introvert
Actually i think that people who are introvert think more about emotions and feelings and real problems and that when they talk, its not some sort of nonsense that comes out of their mouth.
@@maudreinierkens8762 That's true. They never lie when it comes feelings to feelings
One of the many upsides about being quiet is that you're usually a good listener just like this video said. Being a good listener usually also comes with the quality of being able to assess the situation and to see if this person just needs to be heard or if this person needs help and/or advise.
I see this in my personal life alot; i have a friend with bpd and most of the time she just needs to be heard instead of being bombarded with advise which she's not gonna follow anyway. After having just a normal conversation and being thanked for listening, it gives me a proud feeling about myself because i was able to do and to understand what others couldn't.
As one of the quiet people in the internet I will say I like it when people talk because I can just stay quiet but if they do need me to speak I will, but still have to fight my speech anxiety so I can express my feelings more
I am always super analyzing, it's just the fact I am afraid I might mess it up or just can't add to it. I love to know everything just it's frustrating. I can't just express sometimes. I love being quiet but depends on the situation. My specialty comes out when people need help or art or gaming. Seems a good way to express
Because we think so much of how many influence it has when we speak, that when we speak our thoughts are actually appreciated!
@@maudreinierkens8762 indeed, or it's the fear taking hold, drowning us making us go numb
Thanks I needed this reflection too 🙏
1:28 agree. Sometimes people don’t want advice, just ads to a convo.. not every convo is someone asking for help and a solution.
I find this especially interesting, cuz when i was a child i would literally never shut up, but after transferring to a new secondary school, i adopted these traits befause of the anxiety i felt. Things are different, but I'm still a "quiet person" and ngl i wouldn't change it
I'm not exactly an introvert, but I am a quiet person and this is so true. I can tell you that with most quiet people, they are always willing to listen, as the first fact says. Don't be afraid to get more personal and develop a deeper connection with a quiet person you know, especially if you're having a hard time and need someone to talk to. It's powerful both for the person talking mostly and the person listening.
I'm quiet all the time just Because I'm constantly upset that I can't talk to people normally, and I do a 180 on my personality which turns me into quiet shy type person at school, which makes it even harder for me to talk to people! I'm frustrated, but I know I cannot just give up and any type of information that makes me understand myself is very much appreciated and I would like to understand myself more😊🙏
thank you for videos like this! ❤️
I’m also quiet so I deal with this a lot too. I am constantly asked about my speech, height, grade, etc.
@catfriend8888 I feel you mate❤️ I'm short for my grade, and I'm skinny so there's some attention to me because of that. Let's not forget who we are and continue being ourselves ^^
Like always, you can’t judge someone until you know them. I had a friend in middle school who was a “quiet kid” however when I got to know her better, I learned that she really likes talking and she talks a lot. Although I knew who she was, whenever someone else talked about her they portrayed her as a nice, quiet, smart girl who got good grades. Not that there was anything wrong with that, but it was a very different version than the her I knew.
I'm a quiet person and have taken necessary hints about what I should do when I am in society from you. I have grasped thoroughly . Thank you very much.
I'm glad to hear that wanting to be quiet whilst hanging out with friends isn't wierd. But I do feel a bit guilty, it feels as though I end up being a "taker" so to speak. It's like I'm not giving my friends anything in return.
I’m quiet and it kinda sucks bc I have maybe 2 real friends and a whole lotta fake friends. I’m really good at listening to people, though nobody really listens to me.
Are you just assume that they are fake friend based on your feeling, or critical thinking. If it's the latter, then resemble all the sign, or edvidence that shows they're fake friend. Also, if you mostly listen to people, the people you're going to attract are more likely to be an great speaker, and bad at listening. So you can try to speak to them about this.
That’s the thing about life the more you interact with the less the rules apply to you
Sometimes it can be hard to express yourself because you are expected to be good at listening when you are quiet. Of course, it gives a good feeling when you help someone by hearing the person out, but with an overanalysing mind, a quiet person could overthink that it is unnecessary to be heard when they are expected to be the listener.
It could get into a negative spiral when there isn't some mutuality in listening to each other.
Nice to see the topic being discussed!
As a quiet person this is truth
As a quiet person i can say that this is true
I really like family get togethers with my wife’s family. I’ve always been a quiet person, and sometimes situations with a lot of people give me anxiety. Almost from the get go they just accepted the fact that’s just how I was and didn’t take issue with it or try and change it. If I just want to listen to everyone, they just let me be. If I join in the conversation, they listen.
It was mind blowing at first, because I love my family, but being a quiet person in social settings is very much NOT acceptable with them.
The whole self-awareness thing hit hard, I've always felt pressured to socialize so every time I stay quiet there's a recuring thought that forces me to speak, making me feel bad about my quiet self and it sucks, I want to just enjoy being there without feeling guilty for not talking
it makes it even harder when the person who speaks with you just asks why are you quiet? talk something!
I'm quiet, but have a comorbidity of ASC/ADHD, so can lose track of what I need to reply during a conversation, so interject when most necessary.
I always feel like I'm butting in, but have hopefully learned by now when there is a lull in the sentence structure I'm listening to.
i’m so grateful to my quiet friend literallyyy she’s such a good listener
I'm relatively quiet, and one of the things I noticed that benefit me slightly, but also annoy me to no extent is that when I'm listening to a conversation happening in a group of people, I sort of get ignored as I'm not really adding anything to the conversation, but when I decide to speak up, it usually makes people go quiet and listen carefully to what I might have to add to the conversation. The annoying part is that I also get ignored a lot or not taken into account when something is being group-discussed.
Another thing that seems a bit funny to me is that when talking online in a group through text, not audio calls, when there are conflicts going on and I happen to have something to add, people often get intimidated by just seeing me start to type something up, as literally nobody quite expects me of all people wanting to get involved in a loud and screamy mess. This sort of makes myself getting to be a person of authority in some situations which I'm not a huge fan of most of the times, but also helps me keep an eye out and stop people from doing stupid stuff, which oftentimes gets appreciated.
I’ve been forced to be quiet, despite being a loud, outgoing person, because for some reason, people treat me like a 5 year old, treat me like I’m stupid. This is until they need me for something. Usually I love helping others, but I don’t help them because whenever they don’t need something of me they treat me wrong. But when they need help with something in class, all of a sudden all eyes are on me. Being used sucks, and forces people into silence, I’m a prime example. It’s to the point where my friend group is Essentially all the outcasts. That said, it’s good to surround yourself with good, true friends, who’ll help you, as you also help them.
Really interesting. As a quiet person with no friends I see all the points you raise.....very fascinating.
I’m not necessarily “shy” but I’m somewhat quiet. Even though I can be sociable at times, I’m REALLY introverted compared to most of my family (except for my cousin maybe) and most of my friends are extroverts as well. I can feel alienated at times, and I try to talk to them and try to get closer, but I personally can feel a bit jealous about how extroverted people tend to have this indescribable “charm” and charisma about them that seems to be able to befriend so many people. I have a few friends, but unfortunately I still haven’t found many people who I can confide in for when I need. Hoping to make that a long-lasting priority and goal. ❤
As an introverted, very quiet person, I love how this is all so true. It's so factual and very educational.
I was rewarded as the most quiet person in 4th grade. I decided to be homeschooled for 2 years after that. Not because of that "award" but because I can never get used to socializing. My anxiety always kicks in whenever I'm in public. Decided to go to proper school on 7th grade. I'm now in 8th grade, but homeschooled again. But this is my last homeschool experience, cause it's pretty hard too tbh.
I am really sorry that you're anxiety is so bad whenever you are in public, but i am 100% sure you can handle this! Whenever you have a hard time, breath in an breath out and seek a bit of a more quieter space. Also (what i like to do) since im a bit of a reader i sometimes just like to take a book with me and whenever it gets too hard i grab my book and just live in the book for a while. What also helps is writing you're feelings down. I hope this helps! You got this!
fellow quiet person here. I homeschooled in middle school as well and then went to school freshman year. it was a big adjustment and pretty hard, but now I'm in sophomore year with a few really good friends that I can be myself around or just be quiet and comfortable with. In freshman year I was tempted to give up and just go back to homeschool but I didn't and I'm so glad. Don't give up!!
I have really bad social anxiety but i do feel much better now i try not to care what others thinking of me or judged me but i don't give a crap about it that's why I need to get out my comfort zone and go out and try socialized and still my parents are overprotective of me afraid the real world so yeah it was hard for me to go and do normal teenage would do it's sucks 🥺😭
I am a quiet person.
My favorite thing to do in my friend group is be the one that people come to to vent and get a hug. It has even become part of my profession, I listen to people having a crisis and talk them into getting help instead of causing a self destructive action using Crisis Intervention Training from law enforcement.
I really relate to all of these points. I am super introverted and do love to stay quiet sometimes, but I also love socializing with my friends. I love listening and am extremely self-aware.
As a quiet and depressed person, I can relate to all of this. We just tend to use our energy more on people that is worth our energy and time. Thank you for sharing this video🙏
Hahaha I just love sitting quietly while listening to my group of friends chat about what happened with their day. Seeing them smile and laugh just makes my day so bright, internally.
I am a loud person but I just enjoy learning about people no matter who or what they are like.
Knowing that it's possible to be quiet and happy and that being talkative/sociable is social pressure really helps pinpoint that yes, I'm a quiet type and I'm happy that way.
I relate to the self-awareness part. I generally don't like speaking out as I am comfortable staying quiet until spoken to and I tend to catch myself overthinking my words so much that I stumble on my sentences every single time I try to actually talk with others, and when I just let go I often accidently say rude things despite it not being my intention.
I try to be better at communicating and being a team person, since my current workspace requires me to do so, but I'm still having a hard time.
But I don't let it discourage me. If it hurts that day, I let it all out and prepare for the next day. Failing or making mistakes can be hurtful, but giving up is even more so.
Can confirm, been a quiet person my whole life. When I spoke, it sounded like I was whispering. Bit louder now, and I actually enjoy listening to the problems of those close to me. I relate immensely to this video
I fully agree with this vid, people back in school, at home, at work, even in social games people wonder why all the silence, self awareness is definitely a big thing for us, for some it's scary and others it's kind of a helpful tool
This help me a lot , your videos help me realize a lot about myself, I’ve talked to my friends and therapist and I recommend them your videos, thank you for sharing important information
as a quiet person, the self awareness point is extremely relatable
As a quiet person I’m happy to hear that someone understands and i relate to what you have said, thank you for putting this out there 😊
I am a shy & a quiet person and i enjoy this video :)
I’m usually pretty quiet and tend to listen to others. The details are a little more than i can comment on here but I will say it can lend towards heightened sensitivity and expansion of imagination. Our type tend to sound more articulated in their speech and writing.
I'm glad to learn a lot from this channel. As a quiet and introverted person, I can confirm that this is quite true.
I’m talking to a girl and I really like her but before I knew her she had never spoken a word in any of the classes me or my friends have shared with her. Now that I know her and talk to her, she’s very energetic around me but she’s still very shy in public. I asked her why to the response “i dunno, i guess i’m just quiet”. I’m a very social and extroverted person and it’s really interesting and I wish to understand her more. I’m hoping this video will bring me closer to my crush and allow me to understand her!
i brlieve myself to be quiet often but i can be more extroverted with my friends, ive learned to be self aware of how i feel overtime and my actions, an old friend told me not to hide my feelings but when i try to share ppl dont listen or like me talking sm so i began hiding again, i appreciate this video cause it helped me learn more abt me and my close friends who are quieter
I'm a quiet person, many people and mates told me that, and yes, I feel identified 😊 Specially the part of self-awareness. Idk if I have depression (bc I live in constant denial), but yeah, this video is really accurate, thank u.
I am not introverted, I'd say ambiverted at best and for me, my quietness depends on the person I am with. With my friends and in school I am usually the most confident, not to mention this video taught me that I am more of an extroverted leader although I try my best to seek out other people's interests in a project (although my classmates are stupid and dont care). There are also certain friends I am more open with, like my former crush and good friend and my best friend who I find easy to get absorbed in a conversation with. When meeting new people I tend to be more analytical.
Well, I'm a very loud and talkative person but also a good listener. I appreciate quiet people the most because I have the best conversations with them. They don't do small talk, they actually talk about interesting and meaningful things and I rlly enjoy listening to them
I am a quiet person i am too self aware of my surroundings and people and this was very relatble that my inner speech takes out all the fun am working on it and the self awareness is helpful too sometimes and i am not intelligent but i do draw and make my own ideas so a really good video
THANKYOU FOR SAYING THAT BEING QUIET DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE DEPRESSED. Honestly some people look at me like I need mental help when I'm actually quite happy.
As sort of a quiet, introverted person, I can relate to most of these. Keep up the good work!
It might sound sad but when I watch your video I tend to tear up a little it's just nice to know people feel the same way as me and it's great to hear it all said out loud so thank you
It all depends on a person's inner qualities to determine how creative and practical they can be... While also being able to network with others in a healthy manner even if they are a introverted quiet person who prefers to speak only when it's necessary 🌻
And there are quiet introverts who really enjoy their own company in their own ways even if others don't understand them 💯
Usually quiet most of the day, that last thing about self awareness really hit hope.
I'm quiet because nobody wants to listen to me. Ever say something, get ignored then a minute later someone else in the same room says the same thing and get's all sort of attention from it?
While I don't like to deal in absolutes I feel like quiet people are a product of nurture due to not being likable by others.
You're making a mistake, whenever you enter a new social group the first thing people will notice is your appearance then your personality. Your mistake is about being quiet and not expressing yourself very well. If you don't provide anything to the group besides your standing there, you'll often be seen as dumb, and people will not pay attention to what you say. But if you are quiet and whenever you open your mouth to say something nobody thought of, that's gold, and people will think "Huh, he's smart alright."
Being quiet and good-looking is also a plus, but even these kinds of people will have to provide something besides their beauty, a joke is often enough. Hope that helps.
@@zkennedy5671 Thank you for the tips. :) and reading my post. I guess it's like the ol' "No decision is worse that a bad one"
Saying something is better than saying nothing at all?
@@Novaximus Why should you start a conversation with people, and not the other way around? If they ignore you, don't waste your time on something that isn't worth it.
I don't start conversations with people, they often ask me questions and I answer them, they ask even more questions and I get bored. I can feel when someone is trying so hard to engage with me, and I get repulsive about that person 'cause they often can't think for themself or need validation (look I'm here), I'm not being rude but those who can hold silence around me are the most secure people in the room, they've spent enough time inside their head to know themself, and (thank god) I don't need to feed their ego.
So answering your question: Believe it or not communication nowadays outclass knowledge, you can be pretty damn smart but what's the use of if you can't share it?
It's Not What You Say It's How You Say It, people like those who are similar to them, your tone of voice, how you express yourself, body language so on... all of these can attract or repel people.
If you like your own company, you don't need to force yourself into people, just be yourself. But if you like people try to work on your communication and body language. Just be you.
@@zkennedy5671 Most of the people I see daily are just coworkers.
Otherwise I agree. I ordinarily won't peruse a conversation with someone that doesn't want to be around me.
Krammer from Seinfeld pops into my head when you mentioned body language and being more expressive. Being boisterous doesn't come naturally to me. Maybe that's why I watch so many reaction videos?
I am an introvert and also a quiet person. I tend to listen more if someone wants to have a conversation with me.
I also want a friend who can listen to me without interrupting my talk and without judging me😢.
Nowadays, I am forcing myself too much to talk and have nice conversations with everyone. It's really hard. As you said in video, I carefully choose words and before saying them, I try them on my mind so many times.
But I am a little confuse. My friends become happy when we have a conversation but I think I am changing and pushing myself too much. Sometimes I feel proud that I did itbut sometimes I become too embarrassed because I said too much in flow😅.
I loved this video!I am a quiet person,but when i speak with the people i am confortable with i speak a LOT
im an extrovert and i used to be very talkative and energetic but lately ive been more quiet and tired. and sometimes when i need to talk to one of my friends about something i think about what im going to say and then i start making scenarios in my head that just stresses me out. i dont even hang out with my friends that much anymore and im usually just alone, because i just think that my friends would rather hang out with someone other than me. but when someone chooses to hang out with me i feel really happy and i dont even care if they talk the whole time, im just happy theyre hanging out with me.
I am a quiet person, and only a little part of the people that know me is understanding me correctly. So happy and glad you ade this video :)
As a young child i was very very loud, but when i grew up i became more quiet. Maybe this is because of other people, but i would also like to think that i became more self-aware because of it! There is still a lot to learn about myself and other people, but i actually got the chance to become more self-aware!
I’m a quiet person I like to be around with quiet people it’s a blessing and it makes me happy
As a quiet person, the 5th fact definitely hit a nerve.
Sometimes I notice things so easily that I tend to overthink it, although for a good reason most of the time. As soon as I see that something might be wrong, my alarms would be going off.
I relate to all of these. I am more of an introvert however I also enjoy getting to know people, and I can be quiet when needed. I am usually a quiet person. I, however, do not like silence.
I've been a quiet person for the majority of my life
It's good to learn a little bit more about the types of quiet people 😊
Thank you I'm trying to be more mindful and enjoy the moment rather than over analyse everything
When I feel too stressed, my chatterbox disappears and I become mute without control. Idk what one would call that, but I cant even ask for help.
Thank you this helps ❤
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You're welcome! Being mindful and focusing on enjoying the present moment can be beneficial for reducing overanalysis. It sounds like when you're stressed, you experience a loss of speech or control. Have you found any strategies that help you in such situations?
@Psych2Go I've heard meditation can help, i feel restless sometimes so I'm finding stuff to entertain myself as I go through life ^_^
Thank you for your videos 🧡
Sometimes being quiet and then being angered by someone is hard. Because you know you cant express it so you have to really keep it in. Sometimes we must learn to keep our mouths shut 😊
As a quiet person, on one side of things, it’s not easy. As I am sometimes my biggest critic, asking myself why I’m not interacting with others when other people around me are doing so is a recurring thing.
On the other hand, it’s really peaceful, and nice. It can feel special, like my presence is enough to satisfy my needs.
Overall, it can be very easy to get lost in our insecurities as quiet people, but it’s also a precious gift that can allow us to feel self sufficient. All that based on my personal experience!
I swear you have the most calming voice of the internet and i love it
as a quite person i love to feel like a fly on the wall, this was such a fun, interesting and relatable video... love you guy
when i was a kid a used to be so quiet and unsecure about myself, i was shy to even talk to people. Nowdays i am still a quiet person but i am a lot more confident i can consider myself even a lider as the video says! When im quiet it's not i don't walk to talk, i just want to listen. So everything is pretyy true!
Wow, all true… It was awkward because people don’t get it when you’re younger but as you learn more about yourself you learn to appreciate it 😊
As an introverted quiet person who contemplated every little thing I've ever said that was embarrassing and over analyzing every little nuance of the way I represent myself, after years of therapy and the constant threat of concerned friends and family members constantly thinking I was depressed and going to unalive myself, ultimately made me pry open the way I think and interact, with extreme force and effort only to find that those very people preferred me to be quiet and depressed rather than expressing myself and my overly complicated and unrealistic opinions. I've now been in a state of upheaval, of deciding to be quiet since it's what's most comfortable and reverting to the way I was, or being the extrovert everyone both wants and doesn't want me to be. This being the case, and the inability to see anything positive come from this change, I've learned that by being in a state of limbo and constantly changing my personality to fit to those around me, is slowly causing me to go insane, often thinking about insane scenarios or unaliving myself for the sake of unaliving myself, not out of depression, or anxiety, or trauma, but out of a sheer desire to see what would happen, I feel like I'm slowly losing myself and contemplating if there was anything inside me to begin with, often feeling empty and completely void of emotion, until it eventually hits me as a wave of depression that causes me to retreat into my room, sleep for 20+ hours at a time, often taking off of work, or losing jobs, and causing the whole cyclical process to start over. At one point I saw therapy as helpful and rather eye opening to how other people view me, but at this point I'm not even sure if I even want help anymore.
Edit: In retrospect of commenting this completely insane and nonsensical comment that I sincerely doubt will evoke any reaction whatsoever out of anyone, if you have read this far, any advise or criticism would be appreciated.
I am 100000% the type of quiet person who simply enjoys being in the conversation but not necessarily adding to it. I’ve always seen it as less being quiet and more taking notes on the conversation itself, the people who are talking, and what makes them feel the way they feel about the convo
All these facts are all true, As a quiet person myself I can testify. Wanting to talk in a social gathering but start to think of the reception how you look awkward and all those useless though that just makes you think it's not worth it to say anything or how people around you start looking at you as the next Albert Einstein just because you are quiet
I used to be the friend people vent to about their problems, I just had to nip that in the bud. So while I would listen, I just began to let it go in one ear and out the other.
I can 100% relate to the leadership part, I struggle way more when people around dont have tha passionand ideas, as just delgating things to be done seems so frustrating
I may be a quiet person, but I like being around others too, even if I'm not as good at talking to them as the people around me are. It just feels nice to be included. :)
I’m very quiet around ppl I like listening to the stories and conversations that people are having it’s relaxing to me
The self-awareness thing really did hit me hard
As a quiet person, I really enjoy this video. This video also relates to me. ❤
whoever drew the thumbnail, seriously needs a raise becoz the thumbnail looks soo cute.
oh and btw Nice video.
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The self awareness thing is definitely true. I myself am my hardest judge. But I still have my friend groups where I feel comfortable, not really needing to judge every word I say. On a bigger scale that gets a little different. I am more careful what I say and am harsh to myself when thinking i did something wrong. I am not fun at parties, though I would like to be
I can relate, my negative thoughts always hold me back, like when people are doing something new with zero experience, I will just try to stay away cause I never practiced and have no confidence, I’m also afraid that I would mess up everything
Self awareness is good but not when you have too much
I'm not always quiet, and when I'm not I'm super talkative about whatever nerdy thing I'm going on about, I'm like deadly quiet; a 6th one that could be mentioned, is that we quiet people can startle people when we walk behind them without saying anything 😬
Thank you, thank you for offering me an alternative perspective on the world around me instead of having to be hard on myself because I cannot communicate like an extrovert in normal situations. Additionally introverts can be loud in the right group.
As a quiet person i can relate to the first point because all of my friendships actually started from me listening to people and making them feel comfortable but yeah sometimes people think that I'm depressed or that there is something wrong just because I'm quiet
I just want to say something really interesting. As a loud outspoken person, I was very happy. Ignorance is bliss. Only when I shut up and started to listen did I realize that I wasn’t as well liked as I thought I was. I’m quieter now but sadder because I know what people think about me. Very interesting
Im an ENFJ, and i like having a few friends that are quiet listeners. My partner is an INFJ he is the quiet listener or the listener of a friend group unless if he's asked for feedback. And i love this balance, and its nice to listen to someone
I mean I’m not quiet but I do like quiet people because if we were both talking each other’s ear off neither of us would listen to each other
Thank you so much for this video on Quiet People ❤
I have a loved one who calls me " Nanna " .
He has a Genuinely Sweet
Intelligence About him that I cannot define ❤ .
He's had my heart since the day he was born. I was given the gift to care for him until preschool and I filled his world with everything imaginable with the exception of money .
I'm watching him graduate now . He has lived with intention in his studies and a small group of friends . They all have similar interests and a variety of personalities.
Now, he's coming Into His Own .
Quietly he walks and
because he speaks softly , I must listen loudly !
Quiet people have so much to say , nonverbal ques can give them away ❤.
not gonna lie I can relate to almost all of this. also this helps me see that I'm too self-aware I believe but I just have a trouble talking in general I'm quiet and I hate it at times but I always listen just I don't have the confidence on things to ask for stuff. I'm kind a glad theirs a video of this because I thought maybe I'm just too depressed on things mostly family at times but I'm glad this video cheer me up a bit for comfort on being a quiet person :)