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I can't draw anything really to save my life hehe. But I agree. They got other ways to express themselves that don't require them to be the centre of attention.
Can someone hand you a Nobel please? I am so introverted i live in my mind. But if someone gave me the chance to express myself without words, they would see i am no less than they.
I deeply appreciate the last message that she delivered in her speech: the introvert, occasionally, should open up their 'suitcase' for others to see because the world needs you and needs the thing you carry
It’s not up to others, even well-intentioned others, to suggest what an introvert should or shouldn’t do or whether the world needs them or not (that is the most insulting and condescending load of crap I’ve ever read and you need to apologize for it). Unless you’re an introvert you just wouldn’t get it. Don’t feel the need to judge introverts either.
sierra remsen lol me to 😂 It’s funner just to sit their and enjoy the show than to just talk with them 😂 Sometimes yet can be about the stupidest things or it can just be really funny. 😂🤦♂️ For example, my parents were talking about schedules at lunch and I just sat there and watched them argue about it for 10 minutes 😂😂😂😂
@Chubbachuubs I believe "boring" is the wrong word. I believe people mean to say it's "uncomfortable" being around an introvert. I have a niece that's an introvert, who yerns for new friends. I believe Introverts MUST learn to adjust to having conversations if they yern for friends. If they don't care to make friends, then that's a different story. But, to suggest that it's okay to be quiet and either have the other person do all the talking or expect them to be quiet as well, is just not fair. It's kind of a catch-22. My niece now has a boyfriend, and went on a double-date with her male couson and his girlfriend. Her mom and I suggestested that she NOT just sit quietly in a corner and open up a little. She took our advice and had a WONDERFUL time. Her male-cousin was soooo amazed and happy that she was able to join in with the fun (just for the moment). There is a time to be quiet and then there are also times when introverts must open up just a little bit. I want to add that I am an extrovert, who wishes to be an ambivert, which is a balance between the two. I can see how it's just as difficult being either intoverted or extroverted. One talks too little and the other talks too much. Balance is what's necessary. #JustMyOpinion
As an introvert, I have learned how to act like an extrovert if needed: leading meetings, calming down real extroverts, etc. We can learn how to mimic an extrovert, but they can never mimic us. As a teacher and certifying instructors, extroverts can actually scare introverted students of any age. But introverts can modify their behaviors to work with most any student.
I too learned to act like an introvert to finish grad school but as soon as I was no longer in that environment I soon reverted to being an introvert. Acting like an extrovert is exhausting so is trying to explain being an introvert. Most extroverts largely don't seem to want to understand and are not interested in our 'suitcase'. Being an introvert has a genetic basis so it is difficult to turn that switch off. Great Ted talk.
Gossip wears me out....I listen but am not one....it doesnt interest me beyond hearing the news per se....guess that's one reason why I'm not a great conversationalist.
you cant really call anyone an extrovert or introvert. Everyone is different. I don't talk to people much in general, and I generally stay at home. However I love to socialize when people share my interests.
that is so true! i was always a „promoted” child in my family. i had to dance on concerts, play the piano in front of people and i had to read poems in front of my family. all these things were the worst to me. like, i do love doing these things for myself but not for other people
For an introvert, a group task means everyone else will waste the whole time socializing while you do the whole work alone silently in a corner. Pure nightmare!
@@thediamondminecrafters4059 Then nobody would get the work done. I am a very responsible person and I find it shameful to deliver something barely passable or incomplete when I have all the qualifications to do a great job. In a group task the outcome is shared by all. So instead of procrastinating with everyone (which is boring anyway) and deliver a last minute "whatever comes out" assignment, I'd rather be the odd one out who does a great 3-5 people's work, even at the cost of my sleeptime. Not that anyone will ever thank me for doing their work while sharing the credit, but at least my dignity will stay undamaged.
Story of my life... :/ I received those kinds of comments every single time I'm in a group chat. I don't speak unless spoken to, and I also don't find it necessary to blatantly blurt out ideas or topics that comes on my mind. And it's not that I'm afraid of what people are going to think about what I'm saying, it's just that I tend to prioritise the things I actually want to talk about. You can say that I'm always in deep contemplations. When I find that the subject is not important enough to speak upon, then I simply swipe that out from my list of topics. I can be very pessimistic as well so that may also be the case... XD
They always often say that and I get conscience like "Am I too plain and boring, It's just I'm different from you that's why" I'm just really a self reserved person I think :P
I can see myself through her body gestures and facial expressions , the anxiety for her and the courage and strength she has to stand up there and speak in front of a huge crowd! Bravo! I would most likely get all mixed up and lost my concentration. She’s very valiant and focused!
She had to do some public speaking training for a year to get ready for those kind of events. Even yourself, with a bit of training and practice, you can do it. Been facing that challenge all my life and had to train myself either. The Beauty with Introverts, they tend to research a lot before going public, many times you would find yourself having immense knowledge on the area you are talking about than your audience and eventually the audience would just have to cheer you up because most of them would be left in awe of admiring your work!
@@kajaljaiswal9846 we can somewhat understand each other don't you think? The biggest problem is that if we were the kind of person to talk about that with people often, we wouldn't have the kind of problem we want to talk about...
Problem introverts have with society.. Society : be who you are. Do whatever you think makes you happy. Introvert : sure. Society : no, not that way. Like this. It's only like this.
Well true But have u thought they just want to include u too nd want u to join them , well just saying not trying to be negative becoz im an introvert too
time less some people ask that question politely, and i made friends before just because someone asked me why i am myself instead of assuming the reason for my silence. many times it just comes off as rude, especially when someone says it loudly so everyone in the room hears and if you don’t answer they just keep going. that’s different than someone who actually wants to befriend you or at least have a polite conversation with you.
Am both and I give no explainations 😄 cz for either they will try to fix you 😄. Depression can apparently be cured when they say ' think positive' and being introverted can be fixed by saying ' u dont talk much?' 🙄 ( sarcasm)
@@sadia2395 Oh my god, the "You don't talk much, do you?" is SO annoying. Seriously, what do they even expect me to say in response to such a stupid question?
If youre an introvert, people judge you as "arrogant", "disrespectful", "rude", "selfish" and all of us introverts can do is just... Stay silent and quiet
In latin america being intriver is sooo hard cause here people are so happy and close to others and when you reject something or don't get excited becaise one or other thing they will called you grinch, just because you don't feel like they.. and is something like "Why should i become excite about something i don't care and wrost, of a person i met 1 week ago?"
The annoying dumb kid: why don’t you want to help me? Is it something I said? Wow so rude not even answering My brain: I’m about to end this man’s whole career, first of all, yes it’s something you said, it’s everything you say to me, we’re not even friends and I don’t even like you so why would you think I would even consider helping you and plus it’s literally the easiest thing we’ve done all year come on just do it yourself. Second, you didn’t even breathe in between all those sentences so how was I supposed to answer? If anything I won’t answer so you die from oxygen deficiency. Thirdly- Me in reality: k bye
As a med school student and introvert, this video was really helpful. There’s been countless times where I’ve questioned myself why am I even trying to pursue a career where only extroverts can succeed, but I also can’t imagine myself doing anything else. Thank you for helping me realize that being an introvert is not an obstacle for what I want to achieve, even if the world wants me to believe it.
@@fruitypopwhickle6806 hi stranger! I’m doing better than the day I wrote that, working on my social skills but also accepting who I am and listening less to what people say (it’s hard but needed). Thanks for asking and hope you’re doing better too :)
@@mcs9661 Hey there! Glad to hear that you're doing much better. I'm also in a better place. I've chosen to appreciate my introversion as a super power. We are deep thinkers, great listeners and don't care for unnecessary attention. Your patients are going to be so lucky to have you treating them. I wish you nothing but the best in life.
But this is the kind of speakers that I like listening to. I don't trust speakers who are too confident because for me, those are people who don't introspect. She, on the other hand, seems genuine and thoughtful.
A common misconception is that “introvert” means “doesn’t like speaking to large groups of people.” That isn’t precisely true. Introverts don’t derive energy from large groups of people. They are recharged by alone time or small groups of close friends, but I know many introverts who love public speaking (myself included) and many extroverts who are terrified by it. I just need time to recharge afterward, where the extrovert is running to the meet-and-greet 😂
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MOST Introverts: 1. Wait for people to make friends with them 2. Can be loud and energetic but only with close friends/ family 3. Don't like to open up 4. *waits in silence for someone to start the conversation* 5. Gets super energetic when discussing topics that they have a strong opinion about 6. Thinks Shhhhhhhh I'm reading but doesn't actually say it 7. Likes someone but doesn't confess 8. Likes being in the company of people but not essentially talking or socialising 9. *Sarcasm & witty remarks* (speaking to self) 10. Hates showing feelings 11. (new one XD) says hi multiple times but no one responds/notices ^^^Disclaimer:Okay, so this one miiiiight just be me, and not all introverts. 12. (creds Cosmic Gaming) Not wanting to go first because you're afraid of how people will react
Number 9 is so accurate. Whenever I'm in a large group or something and the leader says something that is technically incorrect like "there are 4 months with 30 days" I usually say quietly to myself "technically you're wrong cause 30 is a subset of 31 so actually 11 months have 30 days" or something like that.
i personally feel uncomfortable when it comes to family reunion, everyone enjoys irrelevant, time-consuming conversations, whereas, i enjoy alone time for peace and self-healing.
It can be easy to mistake introversion for shyness or something else that leads to a general underestimation of what introverted people are capable of. Love seeing that idea being corrected.
True. I saw a video about a year ago about the Myers Briggs stuff. It was a guy trying to be funny (drumming up a YT channel in the hopes for making a living). So he used side comments and side skits that were basically all social anxiety. And kids were commenting "omg that's me. I just have so much trouble fitting in not knowing what to say so insecure, I'm such an introvert😭". It was swimming against the stream trying to educate people "he got introversion wrong. that's not introversion..." For my sanity I left the video, deleted it from my watch history so I don't get more reccs from that channel.
@@GeronimOCZECH What do you mean by you "honor greater values than you"? It doesnt make sense for what is being talked about but sounds like an insult.
That was literally all my teachers in elementary. They had me go to a special therapy just because I minded my own business and took some time to warm up to people.
Actually. Forcing introverts to be like extroverts (especially at a young age) and then blaming them for when they can't be like "the rest" is very traumatic and can cause a lot of issues later in life.
I think I might have got diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome b/c of it, but my dad looks like he has it and not just introverted so I might have gotten it from him.
Bulletproof Diamond WINSTAR lol. My mom and dad don’t talk that much when I don’t talk at breakfast time they mostly talk about boring business stuff. Although my mom seems like an introvert but when she is in a con conversation she acts as an extrovert. I probably got this from my mom or something my dad says my brother had trouble talking to other people to so he always brought his younger brother with him. My mom also said she used to be shy when she was my age that doesn’t really mean she was an introvert though...🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I hate it when people say "why don't you go out more? It's so much fun!" It may be fun to you but for me it sucks. My dream summer is staying inside, listening to music, going online, reading and talking to my friends online. I like to be alone. It's just who I am.
i'm an introvert, perhaps an austistic, and i do prefer going out exploring the world *all by myself*, or maybe with my closest friend (if he should agree).
Social media and society swarms around extrovers, but if you sit down with a introvert and really got to know them you will learn more about the world and be astonished with the way a introvert can analyze their surrondings and what is really happening around them.
Yeah I felt that too Being an introvert, it may seem to others that you are shy and don't know what's happening around you but that's totally opposite on the inside.. introverts are not shy they just don't want to get involved in the worldly talking and they observe everything happening around them..
Kayla Yes, I leant this at a young age ( I am still young but when I was really young.) , as people told me that I was stupid. That I could do nothing. Then around a two years ago I started realising that I was actually pretty smart. Then I started answering more questions, and people started to see that I was almost two times smarter than them. Sure they had comprehension over other things but in what they called me stupid in, I beat them at. I always hated people for doing this to me ( Being prejudice against me .) , yet it wasn"t their fault, they were just reacting. Now, sorry if I have taken your time away but I shall take my leave now. If you wish me to elaborate upon my thoughts etc etc, just ask. ( P.S sorry for the bad grammar and punctuation as I typed this with haste. )
I love how she's obviously an introvert. She's so scared and excited at the same same time. She keeps stopping but then she starts again cus she's passionate about this
This really hits home for me, I often feel like the world is terrible for forcing me to be extroverted. I really think we need to change our social norms and let introverts be themselves!
Indeed! While we should try our best to adapt to the world around us, I do think the world should also try to create a safe space for introverts to feel comfortable exercising their creativity and capabilities.
It can also show that you think quicker than majority. I'm an introvert as well, and when I talk my mouth is trying to reach the speed of my brain conjuring the sentences so I had to work FOR YEARS to try and slow down my speaking because most people had no idea what I was saying and I would have to repeat myself a dozen times and it was a NIGHTMARE
@@ivankovwink1311 I hate being so excited about talking about my experiences (Which is rare) then they wont actually pay attention and will make me repeat, makes me not wanna talk more
@@daisyyoonmin it's worse when you say something and like ten other people start making you question what you said like they understand what your saying better than you. You might start to feel over whelmed.
I hate HATEEE.. when people ask me "wHy ArE yOu So QuIeT?" Because that's who I am! That's how I function. I don't ask others "Why do you talk too much? Why are you so noisy? It's *RUDE*
@* . ʚ just k ɞ . * Intention is irrelevant to a person receiving a comment. If I call someone an arsehole with the best intentions, it'll still be taken offensively. I think an extrovert's comment to me to "speak up" draws the line between good intentions and ignorance for introversion.
This video is an answer to all the teachers who said..'your daughter doesn't participates in the class' update: I graduated high school and I'm apparently studying French that I love, and I found out that I participate way more in my French classes than I ever have. I think it has to do with my love and interest towards the language. Find what you love and you'll see yourself change xx
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
Well, uh, introverts are usually very self conscious, and usually are more in tuned with who they are than extroverts. Don't need anybody els to make you realize who and what your are honestly. I personally can't figure out how anyone can be an introvert and be clueless about themselves. But I suppose you get smart and dumb introverts too.
I am not sure if it's only me but in a group discussion or meetings, I felt like I always need more time to think before I can ask question or provide a suggestions. I hate it when they do break out rooms where you don't have a choice but to participate. However, there is kind of an unspoken expectation that each should be able to speak up and just spontaneously provide feedback or comments or suggestions. So at the end, I'm forced to provide a rushed ideas that sometimes not a very good one. So most of the time I've beat myself for thinking so slow, for not contributing. In a corporate race of being the best, those the loudest and fastest are seen to be capable and able to lead.
I'm that way. I have to take the info in and think on it, analyze, see it from different angles and try to come up with the most logical, working plan.
Well said! ..group social interactions seem fast to me. The group has often moved on to a different topic when I wish to respond. It has left me feeling stupid, out of step and not enjoying social groups. It feels good to know that others feel the same. I’m a sociable person, and was brought up in a house of loudest & most dominant being ‘best’ which has taken its toll and taken along time for me to rebalance & accept myself. I was always the bookish one who didn’t want to join in… when actually I did like joining in but not in such a robust & insensitive manner. Love this talk and feel like I need to watch it regularly perhaps every Xmas! 😊
Then why do people keep trying? The only reason I can think of is most are threatened by non disclosure. Think about it ( I know you will) , the more you reveal, the more they can use against you. The more power they feel over you if you do what they do. Introverts are mysterious, you don't "get them" unless THEY choose to let you in. Information is power, and we won't give it up that up easily, just because someone demands it.😁
@@annadawson5325 um.. who is "they"? We're not in a battle royale movie, what will "they" use against you. There's nothing wrong with being extroverted, the same with introverted.
That one guy....By "they" , I simply mean anyone who starts a statement with the words , " why don't you?" , and " you need to", and my personal favorite pet peeve...." I don't understand you". You're right in saying that there's nothing wrong with being an extrovert or an introvert. And those above mentioned statements might mean something if they are coming from someone who knows you well. But when they come from someone you just met, who come on too strong in trying to included you in something, but won't take no for an answer. And then they get mad but don't care to ask about your feelings about it. It pisses us off and the more reclusive we become. I've gotten these statements from some introverts too.
@@annadawson5325 literally 95% of people who says that actually wants to help you. I was in your same boat, not too long ago. I always took those statements as "they're making fun of me" or "they're not serious" and I always said nothing or rejected what they said. Now I look back, and I think that wasn't a good way of thinking. Honestly, I think your in that phase where you hate people other than than your friends (I've been there). It's not a healthy way of thinking, people really do want to help and include you, I do too.
Guys, before commenting our own experiences regarding the topic, *can we just take a moment* to absolutely APPRECIATE the speech delivered by her? The amount of factual research, great empathy, and ways of delivering the speech despite being an introvert were truly astounding.
The video made me cry…I have never heard someone so understanding nor that it is not some awful flaw to be an introvert before. It truly touched my heart and I don’t think I will ever be the same after this.
It makes me tear up. I’m 77yr old and it describes me perfectly. I wouldn’t have traded a moment of it. Thank you for helping to validate my life. Not that it really needed it because from childhood I felt right.
As an extrovert myself I've always thought one of the greatest pieces advice for other extroverts is to make time to listen to introverted people. Introverted doesn't mean shy and they often have the best insights into the world.
I hate how everything in this world is designed only to extroverts, and I am really afraid that I won't achieve my goals, professionally, because I am introvert, I feel like people won't even notice me, just because I'm not outgoing.
The world is indeed optimized for extroverts, and there is nothing wrong with that. Social skills have been important for many centuries, and if you want a job that is good for introverts, go ahead and get that job. But you shouldn't complain that the world is optimized for extroverts, because it is simply natural for humans to talk to each other.
@@ethanmeier4645 Totally agreed. Rather than crying about the world biased to extroverts, you simply need to understand that it's a society and not your quarantined home. Don't talk if you don't want to but it's not a selfish world. You can choose to do professional things which suits you. Definately some jobs are best suited for introverts. A million dislikes for this stupid rant video
Chaotic Demons Same. Like they’ll be times when I think, “Okay. She asked a question I know the answer to. I can do this. I won’t make a fool of myself. It’s easy, just raise your hand…” And then she picks the loud kid who always gets it wrong, and I’m just sitting there like, “welp.”
I'm an introvert and I love it. Love reading, love painting in my studio, love sitting outside developing thoughts and creating ideas for art, love my time alone...so relaxing and freeing.
do you guys ever have the feeling where you want to add onto something when another person is talking, but you don't know the right time to interrupt cuz they won't stop talking, so you just sit and wait until they finish- WHICH IS NEVER !! 😭👍
@@jeniquereid7557 Not really Because we are only thinking about that, and not listening to the others... We don't have the courage to speak out.. that's all
I saw a meme one time that said that everyone always tells introverts to step out of their comfort zones and speak up, but no one seems to ever tell extraverts to tone down a bit and make the 'zone' more comfortable. Honestly, it's so true. I've always been introverted, and find it super hard to make friends and be accepted into social environments, so it makes it that much harder when no one seems to value who you are.
I have a serious question for all of u to ponder? Are u comfortable with other INROVERTS (given that, as you said we have trouble making friends)? I'm a introvert in these respects: Public speaking Conversation within a (let's say, class group) But I m very much comfortable with close friends(3-5 , i have😃) Comfortable with close family members Comfortable with strangers (1 on one talk🤪)
Glad to know i am not alone. I felt very sad when i cannot socialize like others. I always thought it as a problem. But now i am okay. I am what i am and its okay. Let people judge us. We shouldn't care 🙌🙌
That is exactly what I felt too! When I wanted to tell someone something I used to always ask myself "what if I say things in a way that could be ever so slightly awkward?" and that made it worse because I was paying too much atention on how I was saying things and what pauses i was doing while speaking. I saw myself as the unsocial kid that does not talk often. At the time this also made me feel like I was different in a bad way. But thankfully we both have learned to accept ourselves as we are and not care too much. I am happy to be an introvert today. For example I sometimes find myself sitting on the chair in our bathroom and brushing my teeth and i forgot how I walked from the washbasin to the chair. Then realize out I had just been in my thoughts for a few minutes. Looking back at it then I kind of find it funny in a that I just sat without really realizing. I think it is because it makes me happy that I am able to spend time just letting my thoughts go somewhere. It also makes boring school lessons way easier to get through. It is hard to explain but I think this is the best way I can put it with my limited English.
@@Froahk Whenever you are overthinking; remember that things can go both way. It may make conversation awkward but in the flip side, things can go positively. You can share your thoughts and have a conversation about it. Learn something new about them and let them learn about you- your ideas etc. :))
I have never understood I am sort of an introvert (not extreme, but as a tendency) until half a year ago. Now that I understand what I am and what my needs are everything is a bit easier.
I can relate myself i always wonder that why my replies used to be so long while chatting with my friends while they reply in only a single line or sentence. I used to get open when i write something but if i have to talk while facing the person i get nervous and doesn't know how to react😊
Because most of the people watching are introvert as a introvert I feel like people don't understand us it's just feels good to see a person talking about introvert
The real power of introverts is that they obtain insight much earlier than other types of people and find purpose in their life much earlier. And with insight and a purpose, they do incredible things.
It's not even just group work, it's also giving a student a grade based on participation. I came to class every day, did all my work on time, took active notes through every class, and yet I would be penalised for not raising my hand regularly. It wasn't even until college that I got up the nerve to raise my hand and join in during discussion. Just because a student isn't raising their hand and letting their voices be heard that doesn't mean that they aren't engaged and present.
Cara Stone I often join in convo in uni maybe cuz I don’t care about what others think of me, but when I go to my mosque gathering, I just become hella quiet and fear that I’d sound dumb and un-intellect. I also fear that I’d be made of my little accent
Cara Stone totally agreeing with you, It happens with me everyday and I feel like there's no reason to sit in the class and just run and jump off the window and not to waste the precious resources. 😢
Omg yes. My english teacher used up half of the teachers comment on my report card to basically rant about how I never participate in class discussions, I never put my hand up and that I should really put my ideas out there. My 'mark' in the behaviour section of that class was LOWERED because of this. What I found pretty ironic was that she then proceeded to say that I achieved outstanding results in the academic side of things. She also mentioned that 'Ela's collaborative task proved she is able to communicate/collaborate', as if I had some kind of mental issue that I needed assistance with. Overall, she basically said I was a troubled student.
As a child I was always reminded of how I was dumb for not talking a lot, I was always compared with siblings who were extroverted, despite being good at studies my family always thought I wasn’t bright because I didn’t speak a lot and spent most of my time being in my room. It did affect me while growing up, so much that a part of me felt that I would never be able to get over the fact that I am not bright enough for this world. Parents need to understand that introversion is not a disease or an indication of low IQ, it’s something every other individual is born with.Introverts are already not devoid of inhibitions of the outer world, at such times it is extremely crucial for the family members to not push their children and realise the amount of damage it can lead to one’s self esteem at such a tender age.
Yeah it is the worst thing that could ever happened to an introvert when they are questioned at their way of existence. I feel utterly disturbed when they say why don't you talk much, it feels like that you don't even exist in this world man... At the end of the day.. everyone just want someone to entertain them through their talking skills and we introvert are left out.
Being an introvert is seriously so hard , people are always like "you restrain yourself from having fun ,that's not good" "go have fun party a bit because that's the only way to live life better " Like seriously I see no point in going out with a bunch of people and dancing like crazy to find meaning in life . The books I read so far have been more enlightening for me .
Right? I loved fantasy books since I was a small kid. That's why I am writing a fantasy book recently. I am going to write a book and nobody can stop me!
itsidz Vang that’s true. When I always went to parties I felt sooo weird like wtf I’m I doing here everybody’s looking at me so many thoughts in my head, I’m an attractive guy and have so much charisma so most of the time all eyes are on me and it freaks me out.
Schools are so bad for favouring extroverts, I’m in school at the moment and teachers think that there’s something wrong or that you don’t get the work if you’re quiet. Teachers pick me all the time to answer questions and while they think that it’s giving me a chance to talk, I just feel uncomfortable and I often get the question wrong because I’m so worried about be asked in the first place.
When you are an introvert you are likely to spend time developing your talents the way extroverts might not have the patience for. This makes you stand out a bit in your talent areas, and envious extroverts are sometimes likely to target you to embarrass you and 'bring you down a notch' to make themselves feel better. Teachers are humans with faults just like everyone else and are not perfect and can be mean and petty sometimes. (They may not even realize they are doing this. Another talent of introverts can be sensing hidden stuff in others, motives and unconscious desires. A talent that can feel very threatening to some types without this ability.)
I'm a massive introvert, but (oddly, perhaps) decided to go into teaching. I'm well aware that students can be introverted and hate group work or answering questions. I always hated both - I still do. BUT I thought it important to ask the quiet kid and do group work sometimes because it's not always clear that it's an introvert issue if the student is quiet. Other reasons too, I just wanted to let you know not all teachers are extroverts. There are introverts out there who really understand, but feel pressured to get the quiet kid involved.
Well... I don't know how school is right now, but I've been lucky enough to have teachers in highschool who had the patience of waiting a few seconds more than usual for my answer. Instead, they often told me to think it through. The problem was that before I could actually answer I would think it three, four times before speaking and to doubt everything I remembered.
I took a graduate course in Constitutional Law with the amazing Judge Higginbotham, at the time a sitting Federal Appellate Court judge. The class was conducted using the Socratic method; in this case Judge Higginbotham would create discussion by randomly calling on students in our theater style classroom. I will never forget how I would have answers for all the questions, but when my name was called, putting the spotlight on ME, my mind would go blank! My grandfather had been a renowned NYC attorney, first ADA, then criminal defense lawyer. He could have taken a judicial post but chose instead to practice his passion, criminal defense. I had thought I'd follow his footsteps into the law - until this class experience, a cue to later understanding my introversion, led me to reassess. I revel in my opportunities for solitude, thinking, reading, exploring, creating. I am still most driven by connecting the dots of community, society, the complexity of the one and the many. I have and will always believe that I think and see as I do, for my core purpose, to speak out quietly but hopefully with powerful insights that may touch the minds and actions of those who , through their own pain hurt others, or through complacency - compounded by our industrial-> now media/high tech centered reality, judge, or preen their vanity for power or superficiality might open their lives to the needed betterment of us all.
introverted does not mean you don't have lots of friends. it just means you like being alone. gosh I hate when people post nba youngboy quotes on their story its sooooo agravating
I'm still only 11 and I'm an ambivert but this is true and I changed circles a lot of times too but I want to stick with the one I'm with right now and we understand each other a lot. We became so close after a lot of hardships. I was an ambivert back then too, but more on the introvert side or so, but now, I'm more on the extrovert side or so. And our circle had like 6 or 7 people including me, but now it's only 4.
we were taught that introverts don't have a chance to grow in life but this video is so revealing and enlightening that everyone should watch it (especially extroverts)
I almost cried at the end when she said 'to speak softly', like remembering all those times someone pointed at her because of her behaviour. Great talk Susan
I strongly dislike group projects. When I'm (forced into) working with others, I always think "If I was alone right now, the work would have already been done but instead, I'm here with this set of obnoxious individuals and we haven't even properly started yet".
I agree. During my years of American public education, there was always the 'obligatory' first 5 minutes of being chatty Kathy to your peers.....when the assignment was slated for a 10 minute window, even if it was a 5-problem geometry proof selection.
I love how REAL she was during the speech. And how she stood up for introverts as an introvert and educating the audience how an introvert should be treated. How an introvert must overcome their fears and speak up for themselves, do what they like to do, and not feel guilty about it. She delivered the speech so precisely using facts, which I liked the most. So much to learn from her.❤
"Let's go out with this group of 10 people to this crowded noisy place, it will be fun" Sure, feeling unconfortable for around 5 hours sure does sound very fun
I think being an introvert has impacted my teaching in a good way. The quiet introverts have a teacher they connect with and I feel like I notice them more. I consider them with group work.
Brown Dairus i think theres a lot of truth in this. Is like or you express your ideas "outside" or "inside", but they need to manifest themselves one way or another.
Do not think something is truth and applies to everyone just because some famous person said it. Being introverted is nothing special, it doesn't give you some mental superiority. If anything, it shows mental inferiority, if introverts' lack of social abilities is anything to judge by.
AmIgOltu introverts aren't socially challenged, they just don't do it as much. Also, I think introverts build better relationships with friends or family as that's how most of us are. IMHO of course.
As a teacher myself, I totally understand the demand from schools to do group work. They love it, preach it, and submerge in it. Proximity, over their shoulder, make them talk to each other, they say, so they can learn. Collaboration over individualism... My students are quiet, kind, and smart. They are the future of computing, and they are LEARNING without all the damn noise.
Thank you for understanding and IMPLEMENTING the right way, regardless of what’s being shoved in your teacher face by state (?) entities that do not respect individuals. Thank you for recognizing each child’s strengths and weaknesses and working with both to achieve greatness and a true sense of belonging.
Introverts suffer from the paradox of education more in my opinion. It is hard to be outspoken on things when you realize how much there is that you don't know.
Introverts have a lot to say; we just choose who deserve our thoughts. There are a lot of ignorant people out there. You got to pick who is worth having conversations with. I think I am both. I am extrovert when I have to be. I introvert to energize.
True, very true. The worst part is that, us introverts, while good at listening, don't really want to mingle even with other introverts so our ability to listen goes to waste. We all also want to be heard.
I cried so hard during this video. It really hurt my heart because I could identify with everything she addressed in this video. I have always known I am an introvert, and I spent the last 19 years of my life being ashamed of it. Growing up I always saw "conscientious" as a comment my teachers left on my report cards. They always walked up to me and asked me what was wrong because I usually didn't say anything in groups. Kids called me stupid and stuck up because I prefer silence and I've been accused many times of cheating because obviously quiet and stupid are synonymous *sarcasm XD*. I love this video because I couldn't have said it better myself. Introversion is not a bad thing. It's not. Extroversion is not a bad thing either. My hope is that society allows individuals to embrace themselves as they are. I can laugh about the experiences I have had as an introvert in a social world now, but growing up it was very difficult. It was even harder for me when I started college. If there are any introverts who are reading this, I'm going to tell you what I wish someone had told me every time I got made fun of for being quiet: "Your silence speaks volumes. It takes courage to be able to stand alone and not be shaken by the quiet within. Don't let anyone tell you that the way you are is wrong. You are who you were meant to be and the more you embrace that, the further you will go." I love introverts! :D :D :D
You described it so well that it touched my soul. I loved the last statement you made, it reflects the reality. Thanks for sharing your words. It actually tells me that we not alone and we are not wrong. Thanks and Thanks. Positive Vibes.
I like people who you can just be next to and not talk to without feeling akward. If I don't have anything interesting to say, I don't waste my time talking. It's that simple, really.
Absolutely. Now I'm older I don't feel so awkward about it myself and you know you're sitting with the right person if they don't feel awkward either. More people should be comfortable with silence.
i have a friend like that, and I think she's an introvert , but when I told her she's the person I enjoy the company of the most because I don't feel the need to fill the silence whith random stuff, she did not understand and did not relate.
I've never understood why people are so threatened by introverts. I'm perfectly happy not speaking, but if I don't, people think it's because I'm distant, stuck up, or think I'm better than they are. I've had people become hostile toward me for not responding the way they think I should. I'm really just thinking about what I'm going to make for dinner or wishing I was reading.
Same here, some people could get really mad and threat you with disdain, just for not be like an extrovert. It has happened to me in the past, some coworkers treated me like a dumb, nasty person, just because I didn't talked or socialized as much as they did, so they tended to think that I hadn't have ideas, had a bad behavior, and even was bad at my work (when it was the contrary, and even I received awards for my excellent performance and good project results). So, that's a truth, most people will respect you and give you more opportunities if you're an extrovert.
We introverts are forced to talk and pretend to be something we're not to succeed. To make sure I'm not graded down on marks, I force myself to put my hand up at least three times every lesson and it takes me at least ten minutes to build up the courage for each one. I just wish I could be myself.
"takes me at least ten minutes to build up the courage" Your a socially anxious person, different from being introvert. Introverts can be confident people too
@@rv7w602 in fact there are different types of Introverts. And i don't think that he is Social anxious. I would be afraid to say something wrong, because then the attention of people falls to me.
I feel pretty similar, but at work. I am in an Apprenticeship currently (in switzerland) and to get it, I had to ask questions and talk with all the people. And the when I started working, they asked why I was so silent. Why don't you say good morning to everyone. Why didn't you just ask. And I started to try and force myself to do all of that. Because of this, i then stopped to eat with all the others. I needed a break somewhere in the day
I think a lot of people are mistaking introversion with shyness/social anxiety. I'm an introvert: it just means that I like to stay alone, and that being alone gives me energy. Socializing is exhausting to me, but that doesn't mean I can't have a casual conversation with people. It's just that if I have to choose between being alone and being with people, I will choose to be by myself. I may be a little shy, however I can and will talk to someone if I can't find my way for example, and that isn't necessarily a sign of extroversion, is it? Remember: extroversion is when people find their energy in other people, going to parties, etc. While introversion is the opposite. You can be a shy extrovert, and confident introvert.
Socializing sucks the life out of me. It is quite shocking how it affects me to have to be at a social gathering for 3-4 hours. Afterwards I feel completely mentally and physically zapped and I might even feel tired through the following day as a result. So we introverts must pick who we talk to very carefully!
@@billsimms2511 Indeed, Bill. I'm in a walking group and I have no problems talking to some if not all of them whilst on a walk. I feel totally fine and energised all day afterwards too. Now put me around those people all sat at a table (i.e. one of our Christmas meals) and after 2 hours (or even less) and I'm DONE. If I stay for longer (and I'm forced to make even more small talk *bleughh!), I feel like I'm 'hungover' for a day or two afterwards. I never understood why until I read up on introverts and then it made so much damn sense to me!
Similarly, notice that many people will mistake introverts as being "antisocial". This is the entirely wrong terminology, in fact. Asocial refers to the indifference or separation one has from society. Antisocial is related to mental illness and a person who is antisocial has a lack of empathy and understanding for others. People who are antisocial can even be hostile to society and this kind of behavior is typical in sociopaths. An antisocial person do not have the ability to socialize. An asocial person can and can do so well, but often choose not to for lack of interest. Most introverts are asocial not antisocial.
Tbf it's really introverts who are shy and socially anxious that really have a hard time. People brought up Einstein, Gandhi, etc when they talk about introversion. I wish they talk more about the quiet introverted kid sitting next to them at school who is just an average student and not the star of the class.
As am ambivert, going out an meditating for 15 minutes every day in the outdoors, with zero interruptions, for about 3 months straight was some of the most life-changing moments in my nearly 40 years on earth. Being in the wilderness, focusing on nothing but existence is the essence of existence.
Why do people always try to FORCE introverts to change? People should be free to be who they naturally are without that pressure to "fit in". It's the absolute worst feeling when someone wants you to change who you are.
Because it can help them in certain occasions. I used to have anxiety asking questions in class, talking to people older than me, even picking up a phone to order anything or just call someone i dont know on the phone. But in every instance throughout my life i got pushed to do things that I hated which helped me cope more.
@@z3toot: Possibly. Of course, if people let us be ourselves they may find we naturally get better at this stuff without being pushed to be something we're not.
Lot of people reflect their life on you and thinking you must be a very lonley and sad person beeing with you alone. Because they would be in our situation. They dont understand we are not lonley, we are not bored having time with ourself, we are not sad or how much energy we loose in "normal" situations. But to be fair, i dont understand extroverts too.
Thank you for this. I'm such a quiet person, and all my life I've heard that I need to be more social. I am social. But I have a timer for my social capacity. When the timer runs out, I am done. I need my solitude. I need my space to recharge. I need my space to be a good person. When I feel like I have to sacrifice who I am, I am so unhappy.
I feel like introverts often get misunderstood. People who I'm not close with most commonly see me as that quiet, spineless, and weak person. It's not that. I open up more to the people I know the longest, such as my BFF and the friends I've known since 1st and 5th grade, which explains why I have a very small friend circle. What really annoys me is when people ask ignorant questions such as, "Does she even talk?"
we're usually the most interesting people though. We hardly talk but sometimes we have moments where we open up and have so much to say. I think this should be taught in schools, not to allow introverts to be anti-social, but to allow others to accept introverts, which will just give the introverts the go-ahead to be themselves and therefore attract more people for many different reasons.
yes! I got bullied for being the quiet kid before coz people think im weak.. I have few friends whom I trust who also have the same experiences as me..
I'm extremely introverted. However, I am not shy. I can introduce myself to strangers with confidence and hold conversation. I can look people in the eyes while talking to them. I just prefer to be alone most of the time. Also, being in situations with large groups of people physically drains me.
how are you extremely introverted if you can hold conversations and can look people in the eyes while talking to them? Cause if that's the case, I might be beyong extremely introverted -_-
jqkrish introvert doesn't mean you're shy. Somebody can be very confident and look people in the eyes, but still be an introvert, meaning you need your time alone. It's where you get your energy from. Extroverts get their energy from being with other people.
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I legit teared up at the conclusion, this was a nice insight.
i hate it when people say "why are you so quiet". Like i dont know why are you so loud?
Who are you? And how do you know my thoughts so well!!!!
I have a friend exactly like this...
SO TRUE
That makes me laugh so hard because I can relate I’m introverts
Ryt👍👍😅😅
I don't feel sad when i'm alone. I feel sad when i'm surrounded by people and feel left out.
Aww 🥺
i love being lonely, who needs people anyway?
So true...
So Trueeeeeee
Ikr! It’s the worst
Give an introvert a pen and a few blank pages. And you would realise he is no less louder than an extrovert.
I can't draw anything really to save my life hehe. But I agree. They got other ways to express themselves that don't require them to be the centre of attention.
Damn bro.... I totally relate it...we say we express ourselves without uttering a single word through paint n writing
😍😍😍
Me: *draws my oc doing something stupid* a picture says a thousand words,,,,,
Can someone hand you a Nobel please? I am so introverted i live in my mind. But if someone gave me the chance to express myself without words, they would see i am no less than they.
I deeply appreciate the last message that she delivered in her speech: the introvert, occasionally, should open up their 'suitcase' for others to see because the world needs you and needs the thing you carry
agree
thanks! that's how we should do
Ya i'm really appreciate what she said. So i'll try my best to do it occasionally
yeah and that alone can empower an introvert to go out and make a difference because he is carrying treasures in his suitcase. am inspired here!
It’s not up to others, even well-intentioned others, to suggest what an introvert should or shouldn’t do or whether the world needs them or not (that is the most insulting and condescending load of crap I’ve ever read and you need to apologize for it). Unless you’re an introvert you just wouldn’t get it. Don’t feel the need to judge introverts either.
people think I'm minding my business but Im really listening to everyones else conversation
Amen!
Yeah, funny when they say something then I comment or add something to the convo and they be like "I don't know that you know about this!"
same
And sharing my opinion with myself
sierra remsen lol me to 😂
It’s funner just to sit their and enjoy the show than to just talk with them 😂
Sometimes yet can be about the stupidest things or it can just be really funny. 😂🤦♂️
For example, my parents were talking about schedules at lunch and I just sat there and watched them argue about it for 10 minutes 😂😂😂😂
Bro being called boring is so hurtful, just cos you dont talk a lot
I know right 😔😔😔
Factssss
Better to not talk a lot and say something when it has meaning, than to jabber on and on and on about nothing all day
@Chubbachuubs
I believe "boring" is the wrong word. I believe people mean to say it's "uncomfortable" being around an introvert. I have a niece that's an introvert, who yerns for new friends. I believe Introverts MUST learn to adjust to having conversations if they yern for friends. If they don't care to make friends, then that's a different story. But, to suggest that it's okay to be quiet and either have the other person do all the talking or expect them to be quiet as well, is just not fair. It's kind of a catch-22. My niece now has a boyfriend, and went on a double-date with her male couson and his girlfriend. Her mom and I suggestested that she NOT just sit quietly in a corner and open up a little. She took our advice and had a WONDERFUL time. Her male-cousin was soooo amazed and happy that she was able to join in with the fun (just for the moment). There is a time to be quiet and then there are also times when introverts must open up just a little bit. I want to add that I am an extrovert, who wishes to be an ambivert, which is a balance between the two. I can see how it's just as difficult being either intoverted or extroverted. One talks too little and the other talks too much. Balance is what's necessary. #JustMyOpinion
Jasper Stone Chronicles II love this!
“Everyone always tells introverts to speak up and talk more, no one ever tells extroverts to shut up and listen more” -unknown
Yah feel you
I do 😂
big true
Exactly 💯
True. Life is tough as an introvert
As an introvert, I have learned how to act like an extrovert if needed: leading meetings, calming down real extroverts, etc. We can learn how to mimic an extrovert, but they can never mimic us. As a teacher and certifying instructors, extroverts can actually scare introverted students of any age. But introverts can modify their behaviors to work with most any student.
I love the last line u said about modification ❤❤
I too learned to act like an introvert to finish grad school but as soon as I was no longer in that environment I soon reverted to being an introvert. Acting like an extrovert is exhausting so is trying to explain being an introvert. Most extroverts largely don't seem to want to understand and are not interested in our 'suitcase'. Being an introvert has a genetic basis so it is difficult to turn that switch off. Great Ted talk.
I too have mastered this!! They can no longer see me, but I can see them… they didn’t even see it coming 😈. It allows me to feel invisible almost!
how do you do that?? That's what I've been wanting to do!!
Indeed, did exactly that but my facial expressions and emotions are the only hard part. The rest is completely fine
I'm an introvert because i don't like talking about people all the time. Talk to me about ideas and I'll suddenly become an extrovert. Period.
U are an ambivert
Gossip wears me out....I listen but am not one....it doesnt interest me beyond hearing the news per se....guess that's one reason why I'm not a great conversationalist.
so me
you cant really call anyone an extrovert or introvert. Everyone is different. I don't talk to people much in general, and I generally stay at home. However I love to socialize when people share my interests.
Same!!
*Introverts, rise up. We're finally valid*
Always have been
we always were
epic gamer moment
Yes
finally
Introverts that have to leave their house for work: "I'm too weak"
Introverts during Covid-19: "UNLIMITED POWER!!!"
us introvert prepared our whole lives for quarantine, its amazing
Maybe not always
Yeah , moments before work , golden moments .
True
I never knew i was a introvert and i always taught i am a failure and Don't speak. This feels home.
Introverts pure nightmares:
1) Parties
2)Group Project
3) Speaking in front of class
4) When parents say to "speak up!"
5) Social Gatherings
😂😂😂 It's true. I'm one of them.
that is so true! i was always a „promoted” child in my family. i had to dance on concerts, play the piano in front of people and i had to read poems in front of my family. all these things were the worst to me. like, i do love doing these things for myself but not for other people
6) Competitions and criticism
im an introvert, but im really like to speak in formal forum :)
Nightmares for who? For inauthentic fake people
For an introvert, a group task means everyone else will waste the whole time socializing while you do the whole work alone silently in a corner. Pure nightmare!
I felt it so hard :(
I am an introvert and I join the others socializing for the pure reason of procrastinating
@@thediamondminecrafters4059 me tooo lmao
@@thediamondminecrafters4059 Then nobody would get the work done. I am a very responsible person and I find it shameful to deliver something barely passable or incomplete when I have all the qualifications to do a great job. In a group task the outcome is shared by all. So instead of procrastinating with everyone (which is boring anyway) and deliver a last minute "whatever comes out" assignment, I'd rather be the odd one out who does a great 3-5 people's work, even at the cost of my sleeptime. Not that anyone will ever thank me for doing their work while sharing the credit, but at least my dignity will stay undamaged.
No. That's shy, not introvert
I felt uncomfortable when people said why are you so quiet.
Sometimes just simply because I'm not interested in the topics they are talking about.
Story of my life... :/
I received those kinds of comments every single time I'm in a group chat. I don't speak unless spoken to, and I also don't find it necessary to blatantly blurt out ideas or topics that comes on my mind. And it's not that I'm afraid of what people are going to think about what I'm saying, it's just that I tend to prioritise the things I actually want to talk about. You can say that I'm always in deep contemplations. When I find that the subject is not important enough to speak upon, then I simply swipe that out from my list of topics. I can be very pessimistic as well so that may also be the case... XD
Exactly!
Grew up hating it, when people asked me that question also.
They always often say that and I get conscience like "Am I too plain and boring, It's just I'm different from you that's why"
I'm just really a self reserved person I think :P
When that question comes up it usually pisses me off so much it actually makes me answer loudly in a very cocky way
Introverts sometimes act so much more of an extrovert when with the closest friends and family 😁😁
True
True
soooooo true
Yup!
you talking about me.. 🙋🏻♀️
I can see myself through her body gestures and facial expressions , the anxiety for her and the courage and strength she has to stand up there and speak in front of a huge crowd! Bravo! I would most likely get all mixed up and lost my concentration. She’s very valiant and focused!
She had to do some public speaking training for a year to get ready for those kind of events. Even yourself, with a bit of training and practice, you can do it. Been facing that challenge all my life and had to train myself either.
The Beauty with Introverts, they tend to research a lot before going public, many times you would find yourself having immense knowledge on the area you are talking about than your audience and eventually the audience would just have to cheer you up because most of them would be left in awe of admiring your work!
🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲❤💗💗💗💗💗
Introvert doesn’t mean you’re shy and anxiety riddled… I just can’t stand most people
I was looking for this comment. I see myself in her, but she does it way better where I wish I could be at some point in my life
99% of these comments made by us introverts are things we most likely wouldn’t say out loud.
internet is truly the place for us to speak up our mind
@@cheekers4445 i agree, plus i talk to it with my mother outside because i started to open up to her this year for her trusting me to go outside
Indeed. I would never march up to my friend and say anything I’ve written to her 😂
Yeah actually no body understands our pain
@@kajaljaiswal9846 we can somewhat understand each other don't you think? The biggest problem is that if we were the kind of person to talk about that with people often, we wouldn't have the kind of problem we want to talk about...
Problem introverts have with society..
Society : be who you are. Do whatever you think makes you happy.
Introvert : sure.
Society : no, not that way. Like this. It's only like this.
True
Great
True
Good comment Lydia! You made your point in such a creative way!
I just ignore society and what it wants - works really well
I hate it when people ask "why are you so quiet?"
Well...
I just *MET* you.
U are 100 percent right....i experienced that.
AND THIS IS CRAZY
"My mouth is closed. And I'm not speaking." My usual response...
Well true
But have u thought they just want to include u too nd want u to join them , well just saying not trying to be negative becoz im an introvert too
time less some people ask that question politely, and i made friends before just because someone asked me why i am myself instead of assuming the reason for my silence. many times it just comes off as rude, especially when someone says it loudly so everyone in the room hears and if you don’t answer they just keep going. that’s different than someone who actually wants to befriend you or at least have a polite conversation with you.
when someone thinks you're depressed but you're just an introvert.. i know how that feels..
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Really
And I don't know what to answer him
Am both and I give no explainations 😄 cz for either they will try to fix you 😄. Depression can apparently be cured when they say ' think positive' and being introverted can be fixed by saying ' u dont talk much?' 🙄 ( sarcasm)
@@sadia2395 Oh my god, the "You don't talk much, do you?" is SO annoying. Seriously, what do they even expect me to say in response to such a stupid question?
Am both .....
If youre an introvert, people judge you as "arrogant", "disrespectful", "rude", "selfish" and all of us introverts can do is just... Stay silent and quiet
In latin america being intriver is sooo hard cause here people are so happy and close to others and when you reject something or don't get excited becaise one or other thing they will called you grinch, just because you don't feel like they.. and is something like
"Why should i become excite about something i don't care and wrost, of a person i met 1 week ago?"
I can feet that...and I will show this comment to my family..... hope they will understand me...):
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This is so true😫😫😫😫
No one has ever said that to me in person but somehow I can feel that that's how they see me and it's kinda sad.
The annoying dumb kid: why don’t you want to help me? Is it something I said? Wow so rude not even answering
My brain: I’m about to end this man’s whole career, first of all, yes it’s something you said, it’s everything you say to me, we’re not even friends and I don’t even like you so why would you think I would even consider helping you and plus it’s literally the easiest thing we’ve done all year come on just do it yourself. Second, you didn’t even breathe in between all those sentences so how was I supposed to answer? If anything I won’t answer so you die from oxygen deficiency. Thirdly-
Me in reality: k bye
Telling an introvert to open up is as rude as telling an extrovert to shut up..!!
Nishyank Patel underrated coment
For me, I think it also depends on their intentions.
LOL! By far my favorite comment
Exactly
Very often I have a willingness to say "shut up" for an extravert... sometimes it's super annoying 😴😴😴
"Group work": Extroverts do the "group" part, introvert does the "work" part.
Olga Cat YEP
Omg trueeeee! Never though of it like that, but so true!!!
Accurate AF
Never thought about that, but it‘s proven to be true in my entire life :D
this was my entire fucking experience in highschool.....pisses me off thinking about it
As a med school student and introvert, this video was really helpful. There’s been countless times where I’ve questioned myself why am I even trying to pursue a career where only extroverts can succeed, but I also can’t imagine myself doing anything else. Thank you for helping me realize that being an introvert is not an obstacle for what I want to achieve, even if the world wants me to believe it.
Introverted doctors are the best. They listen!
I cant relate to youu! 💯
I'm in a similar situation. How are you doing?
@@fruitypopwhickle6806 hi stranger! I’m doing better than the day I wrote that, working on my social skills but also accepting who I am and listening less to what people say (it’s hard but needed). Thanks for asking and hope you’re doing better too :)
@@mcs9661 Hey there! Glad to hear that you're doing much better. I'm also in a better place. I've chosen to appreciate my introversion as a super power. We are deep thinkers, great listeners and don't care for unnecessary attention. Your patients are going to be so lucky to have you treating them. I wish you nothing but the best in life.
Only an Introvert can sense the discomfort she must have felt delivering this amazing Ted talk .. Amazing
But this is the kind of speakers that I like listening to. I don't trust speakers who are too confident because for me, those are people who don't introspect.
She, on the other hand, seems genuine and thoughtful.
yes dude..exactly
A common misconception is that “introvert” means “doesn’t like speaking to large groups of people.” That isn’t precisely true. Introverts don’t derive energy from large groups of people. They are recharged by alone time or small groups of close friends, but I know many introverts who love public speaking (myself included) and many extroverts who are terrified by it. I just need time to recharge afterward, where the extrovert is running to the meet-and-greet 😂
I am introverted and i absolutely HATE public speaking..........i avoid it like the plague!!!!
I think an introvert and a person with public-anxiety are different...
When she said : "Stop the madness for constant group working", I heard the introvert gods cheering
😀
And the worshipers dance with joy
More like nodding in agreement
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Yesssss i hate it, especially the "ChOoSe yOuR PaRtNers!!" Thing 🤢🤮
" We are not antisocial , we are selectively social "
- introverts
right
hey I'm also an arijitian 😅❤
True 👍
Well said
thank you for saying this now some people will understand
From my childhood & even till now people told me Be social, talk more it's not good to be silent. But I'm happy being a introvert.
MOST Introverts:
1. Wait for people to make friends with them
2. Can be loud and energetic but only with close friends/ family
3. Don't like to open up
4. *waits in silence for someone to start the conversation*
5. Gets super energetic when discussing topics that they have a strong opinion about
6. Thinks Shhhhhhhh I'm reading but doesn't actually say it
7. Likes someone but doesn't confess
8. Likes being in the company of people but not essentially talking or socialising
9. *Sarcasm & witty remarks* (speaking to self)
10. Hates showing feelings
11. (new one XD) says hi multiple times but no one responds/notices
^^^Disclaimer:Okay, so this one miiiiight just be me, and not all introverts.
12. (creds Cosmic Gaming) Not wanting to go first because you're afraid of how people will react
Saaaaaame
Who are you dude? Why we thinking the same things😂
Number 9 is so accurate. Whenever I'm in a large group or something and the leader says something that is technically incorrect like "there are 4 months with 30 days" I usually say quietly to myself "technically you're wrong cause 30 is a subset of 31 so actually 11 months have 30 days" or something like that.
Literally just described me. What the hecc XD
Especially point 5.
Are you stalking me?
i personally feel uncomfortable when it comes to family reunion, everyone enjoys irrelevant, time-consuming conversations,
whereas, i enjoy alone time for peace and self-healing.
right i just sit in the corner with my phone or talk with my favorite cousin if he comes
and it feels so awkward when my mom forces me to talk with some kids of my age at those family reunions when we dont even have any topic to talk about
@@thakur.snigdha 😂
Especially if those kids are so extrovert.
I hate family reunion.
It ruin up my space
SAME
you know you are a true introvert when the lockdown and social distance changed nothing in your life
You caught it right
mostly
Ya😂
Ya 😂 so true
So true for Ambiverts as well🥲
It can be easy to mistake introversion for shyness or something else that leads to a general underestimation of what introverted people are capable of. Love seeing that idea being corrected.
True. I saw a video about a year ago about the Myers Briggs stuff. It was a guy trying to be funny (drumming up a YT channel in the hopes for making a living). So he used side comments and side skits that were basically all social anxiety. And kids were commenting "omg that's me. I just have so much trouble fitting in not knowing what to say so insecure, I'm such an introvert😭". It was swimming against the stream trying to educate people "he got introversion wrong. that's not introversion..." For my sanity I left the video, deleted it from my watch history so I don't get more reccs from that channel.
@@GeronimOCZECH Who is "you"?
@@GeronimOCZECH What do you mean by you "honor greater values than you"? It doesnt make sense for what is being talked about but sounds like an insult.
Is being introverted sometimes mistaken for autism?
@thisisauser To add to this being introverted doesn't mean being antisocial or withdrawn
"What's wrong, why are you upset, why aren't you talking"
*Me just trying to vibe*
Indeed
That was literally all my teachers in elementary. They had me go to a special therapy just because I minded my own business and took some time to warm up to people.
Yup
"Are you okay? You're so quiet..."
Nana, you've know me for the 13 years I've been alive, when have I ever _not_ been quiet?
Ok
Actually. Forcing introverts to be like extroverts (especially at a young age) and then blaming them for when they can't be like "the rest" is very traumatic and can cause a lot of issues later in life.
So true...
i agree, coz thats what i am going through ri8 now
My parents force me to speak up they’ve been forcing me to speak up ever since I can remember and I’m 15 now
I think I might have got diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome b/c of it, but my dad looks like he has it and not just introverted so I might have gotten it from him.
Bulletproof Diamond WINSTAR lol. My mom and dad don’t talk that much when I don’t talk at breakfast time they mostly talk about boring business stuff. Although my mom seems like an introvert but when she is in a con conversation she acts as an extrovert.
I probably got this from my mom or something my dad says my brother had trouble talking to other people to so he always brought his younger brother with him. My mom also said she used to be shy when she was my age that doesn’t really mean she was an introvert though...🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I hate it when people say "why don't you go out more? It's so much fun!" It may be fun to you but for me it sucks. My dream summer is staying inside, listening to music, going online, reading and talking to my friends online. I like to be alone. It's just who I am.
Don't Ask me too bro
haha this is exactly me. except i am so introverted i just prefer generally not talking to people as much..
i'm an introvert, perhaps an austistic, and i do prefer going out exploring the world *all by myself*, or maybe with my closest friend (if he should agree).
I like to be alone but not feeling lonely.
Don't Ask i Think you just described Me 😂
Social media and society swarms around extrovers, but if you sit down with a introvert and really got to know them you will learn more about the world and be astonished with the way a introvert can analyze their surrondings and what is really happening around them.
I agree with you.
You can say that again.
They give a unique perspective to life
THIS 🎉🎉🎉
well said
Yeah I felt that too
Being an introvert, it may seem to others that you are shy and don't know what's happening around you but that's totally opposite on the inside.. introverts are not shy they just don't want to get involved in the worldly talking and they observe everything happening around them..
I'm an introvert and we really are repressed in the workplace. People think if you don't talk enough you're incompetent. I hate it so much
Kayla so agreeing
YUP. fucking awful
I hear you. It really sucks. I hope the people from my office can read this. Haha.
Kayla Yes, I leant this at a young age ( I am still young but when I was really young.) , as people told me that I was stupid. That I could do nothing. Then around a two years ago I started realising that I was actually pretty smart. Then I started answering more questions, and people started to see that I was almost two times smarter than them. Sure they had comprehension over other things but in what they called me stupid in, I beat them at. I always hated people for doing this to me ( Being prejudice against me .) , yet it wasn"t their fault, they were just reacting. Now, sorry if I have taken your time away but I shall take my leave now. If you wish me to elaborate upon my thoughts etc etc, just ask. ( P.S sorry for the bad grammar and punctuation as I typed this with haste. )
I didn't get promoted because I don't talk that much, fml.
I love how she's obviously an introvert. She's so scared and excited at the same same time. She keeps stopping but then she starts again cus she's passionate about this
Ikrr
and how she acknowledges her audience in between
She's not scared but rather give pose of concentration intentionally for words to just sink in in mind. It's a public speaking technique
@@nas209 well... She actually is using that technique in a natural way....
It was not obvious for me. I thought she was calm and confident throughout her whole talk.
INTROVERTS UNITE!!!!!
virtually and quietly
Dane Bryant Frazier lmafo
😋😋😋🤐🤐... It was right..
Yeah 🤘🤘
I'm here to unite with all the others like me. (Introverts)
I tried Virtualy. VR Chat. Feeling was the same.
This really hits home for me, I often feel like the world is terrible for forcing me to be extroverted. I really think we need to change our social norms and let introverts be themselves!
Indeed! While we should try our best to adapt to the world around us, I do think the world should also try to create a safe space for introverts to feel comfortable exercising their creativity and capabilities.
I can see that she's really an introvert, I talk so fast as well especially when I'm excited to share something
It can also show that you think quicker than majority. I'm an introvert as well, and when I talk my mouth is trying to reach the speed of my brain conjuring the sentences so I had to work FOR YEARS to try and slow down my speaking because most people had no idea what I was saying and I would have to repeat myself a dozen times and it was a NIGHTMARE
Yes then after sharing I will keep quiet
@@ivankovwink1311 I hate being so excited about talking about my experiences (Which is rare) then they wont actually pay attention and will make me repeat, makes me not wanna talk more
@@daisyyoonmin it's worse when you say something and like ten other people start making you question what you said like they understand what your saying better than you. You might start to feel over whelmed.
@@zeemonrollin8340 Ooof that IS horrible
I hate HATEEE.. when people ask me "wHy ArE yOu So QuIeT?" Because that's who I am! That's how I function. I don't ask others "Why do you talk too much? Why are you so noisy?
It's *RUDE*
Exactly!! People always think I'm rude for not talking even though that's who i am.
@* . ʚ just k ɞ . * Maybe I'll let them in when I feel like it.
what does it means? I saw this same comment in whacky Jacky's pubg video. what does it mean here
@* . ʚ just k ɞ . * Intention is irrelevant to a person receiving a comment. If I call someone an arsehole with the best intentions, it'll still be taken offensively.
I think an extrovert's comment to me to "speak up" draws the line between good intentions and ignorance for introversion.
@* . ʚ just k ɞ . * Why should I try to understand them? They are always the ones trying coerce us into extroversion.
This video is an answer to all the teachers who said..'your daughter doesn't participates in the class'
update: I graduated high school and I'm apparently studying French that I love, and I found out that I participate way more in my French classes than I ever have. I think it has to do with my love and interest towards the language. Find what you love and you'll see yourself change xx
yes
So true
Ikr?
+YUOZ Highlights I checked it out. Lol.
agreed
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
I assume mostly introverts are watching this when extroverts _need_ to watch it.
They are too busy talking, they don't have time to listen
Actually they do have time to listen....but not to a 19 minutes video
@@penielchery2765 they are just lazy and ignorant
Jane Erstić that’s pretty ironic, calling someone who likes to be social ignorant is in itself ignorant.
Peniel Chery “They are too busy talking, they don’t have time to listen” that was gold
I just love this comment section, this feels home 😌
same here potter...;)
Me too. Feel like right person for me, it's really warm
Could it be the colloquial language?
MMMMMMPottar
Why we all introverts Don't make a social group?
She spent her 7 years to Make us ( introverts) realize who we really are
Hats off For her
Edit : Dang Never got this many likes 😱
Yup , big respect for her
yep :)
👏🏻💕
Yep
Well, uh, introverts are usually very self conscious, and usually are more in tuned with who they are than extroverts. Don't need anybody els to make you realize who and what your are honestly. I personally can't figure out how anyone can be an introvert and be clueless about themselves. But I suppose you get smart and dumb introverts too.
I am not sure if it's only me but in a group discussion or meetings, I felt like I always need more time to think before I can ask question or provide a suggestions. I hate it when they do break out rooms where you don't have a choice but to participate. However, there is kind of an unspoken expectation that each should be able to speak up and just spontaneously provide feedback or comments or suggestions. So at the end, I'm forced to provide a rushed ideas that sometimes not a very good one. So most of the time I've beat myself for thinking so slow, for not contributing. In a corporate race of being the best, those the loudest and fastest are seen to be capable and able to lead.
I'm that way. I have to take the info in and think on it, analyze, see it from different angles and try to come up with the most logical, working plan.
Well said! ..group social interactions seem fast to me. The group has often moved on to a different topic when I wish to respond. It has left me feeling stupid, out of step and not enjoying social groups. It feels good to know that others feel the same. I’m a sociable person, and was brought up in a house of loudest & most dominant being ‘best’ which has taken its toll and taken along time for me to rebalance & accept myself. I was always the bookish one who didn’t want to join in… when actually I did like joining in but not in such a robust & insensitive manner. Love this talk and feel like I need to watch it regularly perhaps every Xmas! 😊
Holy crap I’ve never related more to anything before
My feelings exactly!
This is how I feel too
"Introvert is not something that needs to be cure " _Susan Cain
The most mistake an introvert person can make is trying to be an extrovert
Then why do people keep trying? The only reason I can think of is most are threatened by non disclosure. Think about it ( I know you will) , the more you reveal, the more they can use against you. The more power they feel over you if you do what they do. Introverts are mysterious, you don't "get them" unless THEY choose to let you in. Information is power, and we won't give it up that up easily, just because someone demands it.😁
Yes, I've watched so many videos on how to be more outgoing, but all I did was make me crawl back into my introvert shell even more.
@@annadawson5325 um.. who is "they"? We're not in a battle royale movie, what will "they" use against you. There's nothing wrong with being extroverted, the same with introverted.
That one guy....By "they" , I simply mean anyone who starts a statement with the words , " why don't you?" , and " you need to", and my personal favorite pet peeve...." I don't understand you". You're right in saying that there's nothing wrong with being an extrovert or an introvert. And those above mentioned statements might mean something if they are coming from someone who knows you well. But when they come from someone you just met, who come on too strong in trying to included you in something, but won't take no for an answer. And then they get mad but don't care to ask about your feelings about it. It pisses us off and the more reclusive we become. I've gotten these statements from some introverts too.
@@annadawson5325 literally 95% of people who says that actually wants to help you. I was in your same boat, not too long ago. I always took those statements as "they're making fun of me" or "they're not serious" and I always said nothing or rejected what they said. Now I look back, and I think that wasn't a good way of thinking. Honestly, I think your in that phase where you hate people other than than your friends (I've been there). It's not a healthy way of thinking, people really do want to help and include you, I do too.
Guys, before commenting our own experiences regarding the topic, *can we just take a moment* to absolutely APPRECIATE the speech delivered by her? The amount of factual research, great empathy, and ways of delivering the speech despite being an introvert were truly astounding.
I finished Quiet last night and came to see her give a talk. She surprised me so much, I think I will follow her work more closely
she is kinda living in both ways since she forced herself to be an extrovert when she was younger
Honestly!
I'll be honest, I only just came across this now, but that was a real eye opener!
The video made me cry…I have never heard someone so understanding nor that it is not some awful flaw to be an introvert before. It truly touched my heart and I don’t think I will ever be the same after this.
“Stop the madness for constant group work. Just stop it.“ - Susan Cain
I want a shirt of this, please.
😂😂😂😂😂
She sounded like Phoebe Buffay when she said that
Yes! I'd buy that shirt in a heartbeat .
@@super8man807 she dresses as phoebe. If she dyed her hair blonde, she definitely will pass as phoebe 😊
It makes me tear up. I’m 77yr old and it describes me perfectly. I wouldn’t have traded a moment of it. Thank you for helping to validate my life. Not that it really needed it because from childhood I felt right.
bless you
Power of introverts? #socialdistancing #quarantine #stayhome We wholeheartedly comply to these rules.
I am thoroughly enjoying all this alone time.
My boss says “one day less of being locked at home”, I think “one day less of enjoying life at home”.
N P I haven’t gone out once lmao. I am enjoying this
Somehow my life became public policy for ~6 weeks. Was fun while it lasted.
Absolutely 👍
We live in an extroverted world.
Coronavirus: Yeah, I’ll do something about that.
Maybe........... maybe corona (chan) is an introvert too then...............
For introverts, oh can now make a good excuse not to leave your house.🥳
Minecaff hahaa
@@minecaff625 can't be. He's travelling all over the world at a rapid speed. Definitely an extrovert
Thanks coronavirus :)
You know what’s worst? Being an introvert AND having social anxiety, it’s just like, “what am I supposed to do?”
Keep this in mind. Introversion is your way. Social Anxiety is in your way.
Same here😌
@@arkwhite23 Woah, love how this was put. Well said
I’m exactly like this
Same
As an extrovert myself I've always thought one of the greatest pieces advice for other extroverts is to make time to listen to introverted people. Introverted doesn't mean shy and they often have the best insights into the world.
I hate how everything in this world is designed only to extroverts, and I am really afraid that I won't achieve my goals, professionally, because I am introvert, I feel like people won't even notice me, just because I'm not outgoing.
Good thing we live in the internet age where you can get your voice heard with out saying anything. Specificly what are your dreams?
Same applies to me
The world is indeed optimized for extroverts, and there is nothing wrong with that. Social skills have been important for many centuries, and if you want a job that is good for introverts, go ahead and get that job. But you shouldn't complain that the world is optimized for extroverts, because it is simply natural for humans to talk to each other.
i can relate
@@ethanmeier4645 Totally agreed. Rather than crying about the world biased to extroverts, you simply need to understand that it's a society and not your quarantined home. Don't talk if you don't want to but it's not a selfish world. You can choose to do professional things which suits you. Definately some jobs are best suited for introverts. A million dislikes for this stupid rant video
Fricking teachers bring down my grades because "I don't talk enough", apparently meaning that if I don't talk, I don't know anything. lol
what are you the most knowledgeable about/enjoy?
@@SugarooLM okay :I
@@SugarooLM Dude, that was uncalled for!
Teachers are losers. Without exception.
@@TRUMP.BEATS.DIVERSITY Then you've never had some of my teachers.
Ironically, teachers ask introverts to open up and try to shut up extroverts.
Chaotic Demons Same. Like they’ll be times when I think, “Okay. She asked a question I know the answer to. I can do this. I won’t make a fool of myself. It’s easy, just raise your hand…”
And then she picks the loud kid who always gets it wrong, and I’m just sitting there like, “welp.”
I guess even teachers know introverts have the loudest minds and not the loudest mouths
Tech & Knowledge why is this accurate
So true 😂
Agree.. me during school day..
I'm an introvert and I love it. Love reading, love painting in my studio, love sitting outside developing thoughts and creating ideas for art, love my time alone...so relaxing and freeing.
*me trying to speak a little bit during group conversations*
My voice: 🔊🔉🔈🔇
RIGHT💔
Dang that is true 🔥
Me😭
@Jake McKillop i want to suicide
@@sergiusko4327 noo
do you guys ever have the feeling where you want to add onto something when another person is talking, but you don't know the right time to interrupt cuz they won't stop talking, so you just sit and wait until they finish- WHICH IS NEVER !! 😭👍
So true...
Oh god true!
And then when they're finished, I forget what I wanted to say...🙄
@@jeniquereid7557
Not really Because we are only thinking about that, and not listening to the others...
We don't have the courage to speak out.. that's all
All the time it is so sad
I saw a meme one time that said that everyone always tells introverts to step out of their comfort zones and speak up, but no one seems to ever tell extraverts to tone down a bit and make the 'zone' more comfortable. Honestly, it's so true. I've always been introverted, and find it super hard to make friends and be accepted into social environments, so it makes it that much harder when no one seems to value who you are.
That's why I hate my parents
@@invalidaccount6147
That's not our parents (depends ofc)
That's society
@@LUKFUNTV my case is different
I have a serious question for all of u to ponder?
Are u comfortable with other INROVERTS (given that, as you said we have trouble making friends)?
I'm a introvert in these respects:
Public speaking
Conversation within a (let's say, class group)
But I m very much comfortable with close friends(3-5 , i have😃)
Comfortable with close family members
Comfortable with strangers (1 on one talk🤪)
ikr
Glad to know i am not alone. I felt very sad when i cannot socialize like others. I always thought it as a problem. But now i am okay. I am what i am and its okay.
Let people judge us. We shouldn't care 🙌🙌
That is exactly what I felt too! When I wanted to tell someone something I used to always ask myself "what if I say things in a way that could be ever so slightly awkward?" and that made it worse because I was paying too much atention on how I was saying things and what pauses i was doing while speaking. I saw myself as the unsocial kid that does not talk often. At the time this also made me feel like I was different in a bad way. But thankfully we both have learned to accept ourselves as we are and not care too much. I am happy to be an introvert today. For example I sometimes find myself sitting on the chair in our bathroom and brushing my teeth and i forgot how I walked from the washbasin to the chair. Then realize out I had just been in my thoughts for a few minutes. Looking back at it then I kind of find it funny in a that I just sat without really realizing. I think it is because it makes me happy that I am able to spend time just letting my thoughts go somewhere. It also makes boring school lessons way easier to get through. It is hard to explain but I think this is the best way I can put it with my limited English.
@@Froahk Whenever you are overthinking; remember that things can go both way. It may make conversation awkward but in the flip side, things can go positively. You can share your thoughts and have a conversation about it. Learn something new about them and let them learn about you- your ideas etc. :))
I have never understood I am sort of an introvert (not extreme, but as a tendency) until half a year ago. Now that I understand what I am and what my needs are everything is a bit easier.
You know the comment section belongs to introverts when you see paragraphs.
omg this is so true
😂😂😂😂True
lets be honest, only introverts would be interested enough to watch things about introverts
🤣🤣🤣
I can relate myself i always wonder that why my replies used to be so long while chatting with my friends while they reply in only a single line or sentence. I used to get open when i write something but if i have to talk while facing the person i get nervous and doesn't know how to react😊
Irony: A TED talk given by an introvert, about introversion, becomes one of the most popular of all TEDs.
The power of introverts bruh
Nathan Gumulya we out here bruh
(except when everyone else is 👀)
Because most of the people watching are introvert as a introvert I feel like people don't understand us it's just feels good to see a person talking about introvert
The real power of introverts is that they obtain insight much earlier than other types of people and find purpose in their life much earlier. And with insight and a purpose, they do incredible things.
She is not introvert. No introvert on this world could be on a stage like that.
It's not even just group work, it's also giving a student a grade based on participation. I came to class every day, did all my work on time, took active notes through every class, and yet I would be penalised for not raising my hand regularly. It wasn't even until college that I got up the nerve to raise my hand and join in during discussion. Just because a student isn't raising their hand and letting their voices be heard that doesn't mean that they aren't engaged and present.
Cara Stone I often join in convo in uni maybe cuz I don’t care about what others think of me, but when I go to my mosque gathering, I just become hella quiet and fear that I’d sound dumb and un-intellect. I also fear that I’d be made of my little accent
Cara Stone totally agreeing with you, It happens with me everyday and I feel like there's no reason to sit in the class and just run and jump off the window and not to waste the precious resources. 😢
Cara Stone I feel you
one of my problems too
Omg yes. My english teacher used up half of the teachers comment on my report card to basically rant about how I never participate in class discussions, I never put my hand up and that I should really put my ideas out there. My 'mark' in the behaviour section of that class was LOWERED because of this. What I found pretty ironic was that she then proceeded to say that I achieved outstanding results in the academic side of things. She also mentioned that 'Ela's collaborative task proved she is able to communicate/collaborate', as if I had some kind of mental issue that I needed assistance with.
Overall, she basically said I was a troubled student.
As a child I was always reminded of how I was dumb for not talking a lot, I was always compared with siblings who were extroverted, despite being good at studies my family always thought I wasn’t bright because I didn’t speak a lot and spent most of my time being in my room. It did affect me while growing up, so much that a part of me felt that I would never be able to get over the fact that I am not bright enough for this world. Parents need to understand that introversion is not a disease or an indication of low IQ, it’s something every other individual is born with.Introverts are already not devoid of inhibitions of the outer world, at such times it is extremely crucial for the family members to not push their children and realise the amount of damage it can lead to one’s self esteem at such a tender age.
Yeah it is the worst thing that could ever happened to an introvert when they are questioned at their way of existence. I feel utterly disturbed when they say why don't you talk much, it feels like that you don't even exist in this world man...
At the end of the day.. everyone just want someone to entertain them through their talking skills and we introvert are left out.
Being an introvert is seriously so hard , people are always like "you restrain yourself from having fun ,that's not good" "go have fun party a bit because that's the only way to live life better "
Like seriously I see no point in going out with a bunch of people and dancing like crazy to find meaning in life . The books I read so far have been more enlightening for me .
Right? I loved fantasy books since I was a small kid. That's why I am writing a fantasy book recently. I am going to write a book and nobody can stop me!
Yeah and it's not like partying is the only fun thing that a person can do
I have partied for 12 years and realised it was killing me. Time to be my true self.
itsidz Vang OMG!! That is so true! XDDD
itsidz Vang that’s true. When I always went to parties I felt sooo weird like wtf I’m I doing here everybody’s looking at me so many thoughts in my head, I’m an attractive guy and have so much charisma so most of the time all eyes are on me and it freaks me out.
Schools are so bad for favouring extroverts, I’m in school at the moment and teachers think that there’s something wrong or that you don’t get the work if you’re quiet. Teachers pick me all the time to answer questions and while they think that it’s giving me a chance to talk, I just feel uncomfortable and I often get the question wrong because I’m so worried about be asked in the first place.
When you are an introvert you are likely to spend time developing your talents the way extroverts might not have the patience for. This makes you stand out a bit in your talent areas, and envious extroverts are sometimes likely to target you to embarrass you and 'bring you down a notch' to make themselves feel better. Teachers are humans with faults just like everyone else and are not perfect and can be mean and petty sometimes. (They may not even realize they are doing this. Another talent of introverts can be sensing hidden stuff in others, motives and unconscious desires. A talent that can feel very threatening to some types without this ability.)
I'm a massive introvert, but (oddly, perhaps) decided to go into teaching. I'm well aware that students can be introverted and hate group work or answering questions. I always hated both - I still do. BUT I thought it important to ask the quiet kid and do group work sometimes because it's not always clear that it's an introvert issue if the student is quiet. Other reasons too, I just wanted to let you know not all teachers are extroverts. There are introverts out there who really understand, but feel pressured to get the quiet kid involved.
Teachers don't get that introverts are likely 'participating in class', just because they prefer to consider a question before answering.
Well... I don't know how school is right now, but I've been lucky enough to have teachers in highschool who had the patience of waiting a few seconds more than usual for my answer. Instead, they often told me to think it through. The problem was that before I could actually answer I would think it three, four times before speaking and to doubt everything I remembered.
I took a graduate course in Constitutional Law with the amazing Judge Higginbotham, at the time a sitting Federal Appellate Court judge. The class was conducted using the Socratic method; in this case Judge Higginbotham would create discussion by randomly calling on students in our theater style classroom. I will never forget how I would have answers for all the questions, but when my name was called, putting the spotlight on ME, my mind would go blank! My grandfather had been a renowned NYC attorney, first ADA, then criminal defense lawyer. He could have taken a judicial post but chose instead to practice his passion, criminal defense. I had thought I'd follow his footsteps into the law - until this class experience, a cue to later understanding my introversion, led me to reassess. I revel in my opportunities for solitude, thinking, reading, exploring, creating. I am still most driven by connecting the dots of community, society, the complexity of the one and the many. I have and will always believe that I think and see as I do, for my core purpose, to speak out quietly but hopefully with powerful insights that may touch the minds and actions of those who , through their own pain hurt others, or through complacency - compounded by our industrial-> now media/high tech centered reality, judge, or preen their vanity for power or superficiality might open their lives to the needed betterment of us all.
'Sometimes ur circles decrease in size but increase in value'
As with every comment here, I agree! I had a lot of friends when I was young (11 lol)
The best part of being an introvert.
Sometimes you don't have a circle at all🤔🤔🤔🤔
introverted does not mean you don't have lots of friends. it just means you like being alone. gosh I hate when people post nba youngboy quotes on their story its sooooo agravating
I'm still only 11 and I'm an ambivert but this is true and I changed circles a lot of times too but I want to stick with the one I'm with right now and we understand each other a lot. We became so close after a lot of hardships. I was an ambivert back then too, but more on the introvert side or so, but now, I'm more on the extrovert side or so. And our circle had like 6 or 7 people including me, but now it's only 4.
we were taught that introverts don't have a chance to grow in life but this video is so revealing and enlightening that everyone should watch it (especially extroverts)
Introverts of the world unite! Preferably without having to actually talk to each other.
Michael Gloch, * silently nods *
lol
+Michael Gloch
I don't mind talking, as long as we're not just spewing bullshit at each other.
very funny
The lack of replies on this comment is wonderfully accurate
Does anyone else get really emotional when something like this really hits home
+whatchachattin YES!
+whatchachattin Yes...
U bet!!!! :')
+whatchachattin We do!
I almost cried at the end when she said 'to speak softly', like remembering all those times someone pointed at her because of her behaviour. Great talk Susan
I strongly dislike group projects. When I'm (forced into) working with others, I always think "If I was alone right now, the work would have already been done but instead, I'm here with this set of obnoxious individuals and we haven't even properly started yet".
same
I agree. During my years of American public education, there was always the 'obligatory' first 5 minutes of being chatty Kathy to your peers.....when the assignment was slated for a 10 minute window, even if it was a 5-problem geometry proof selection.
Oh my this is so me. 😆
100% agree..
I feel best when I'm doing that by myself.
@@dayuwaisly03 Super agree.
I love how REAL she was during the speech. And how she stood up for introverts as an introvert and educating the audience how an introvert should be treated. How an introvert must overcome their fears and speak up for themselves, do what they like to do, and not feel guilty about it. She delivered the speech so precisely using facts, which I liked the most. So much to learn from her.❤
“You should be a social butterfly.”
Um, I don’t want to have panic attacks.
"Let's go out with this group of 10 people to this crowded noisy place, it will be fun"
Sure, feeling unconfortable for around 5 hours sure does sound very fun
@@bibizinha847 im not sure what i am. if i like a topic i will talk alot about it, but if i dont then i wont talk at all. but im also very shy so idk
but also once i trust people more i talk alot
so would i be an anxious extrovert?
Kyler Phoenix I eat social butterflies for breakfast... I’m not edgy i promise
shout out to the teachers that give you an option to work alone or with a partner
As she said, it is better to work alone and then share the work.
RIGHT OMFG
Omg yesss
I think being an introvert has impacted my teaching in a good way. The quiet introverts have a teacher they connect with and I feel like I notice them more. I consider them with group work.
The real MVPs.
Quiet people have the loudest mind. - Stephen Hawkin
Brown Dairus i think theres a lot of truth in this. Is like or you express your ideas "outside" or "inside", but they need to manifest themselves one way or another.
Do not think something is truth and applies to everyone just because some famous person said it. Being introverted is nothing special, it doesn't give you some mental superiority. If anything, it shows mental inferiority, if introverts' lack of social abilities is anything to judge by.
Brown Dairus So true
I didn't know vegetables were that intelligent.
AmIgOltu introverts aren't socially challenged, they just don't do it as much. Also, I think introverts build better relationships with friends or family as that's how most of us are. IMHO of course.
As a teacher myself, I totally understand the demand from schools to do group work. They love it, preach it, and submerge in it. Proximity, over their shoulder, make them talk to each other, they say, so they can learn. Collaboration over individualism... My students are quiet, kind, and smart. They are the future of computing, and they are LEARNING without all the damn noise.
Thank you for understanding and IMPLEMENTING the right way, regardless of what’s being shoved in your teacher face by state (?) entities that do not respect individuals. Thank you for recognizing each child’s strengths and weaknesses and working with both to achieve greatness and a true sense of belonging.
Introverts suffer from the paradox of education more in my opinion. It is hard to be outspoken on things when you realize how much there is that you don't know.
This. I always feel like if I'm not 100% sure, I would rather not share my opinion on things.
I feel the same way . If i'm not 100% sure of what I'm going to say , I just say nothing at all !
FYI , This comment was for toyotasupra97 , if we don't know, we don't talk .
Furthermore , that is called keeping our noses where they belong !!!!
So true.
Introverts have a lot to say; we just choose who deserve our thoughts. There are a lot of ignorant people out there. You got to pick who is worth having conversations with. I think I am both. I am extrovert when I have to be. I introvert to energize.
agreed, but im a introvert. I can say a lot if needed but that doesnt make me a extrovert.
@@herosjourney8725 you make a great point.
I strongly agree with that, and I can also be an extrovert when need or feel like it
Me too, I am an ambivert
" Introverts have a lot to say; we just choose who deserve our thoughts." - That's a gem of a comment! So many of them in this section! :D
person: why you so quiet??
me in response: because the world is loud enough already. everybody's talking, nobody's listning.
*listening
Wise words
True, very true. The worst part is that, us introverts, while good at listening, don't really want to mingle even with other introverts so our ability to listen goes to waste. We all also want to be heard.
And then they don’t hear you and ask you to repeat what you said
how deep and edgy
Rewatching this many years after I first found it and thinking how cool a summer camp for introverts would be.
I always ran for the animals and the arts and crafts, where I could be alone with my project or animals
I cried so hard during this video. It really hurt my heart because I could identify with everything she addressed in this video. I have always known I am an introvert, and I spent the last 19 years of my life being ashamed of it. Growing up I always saw "conscientious" as a comment my teachers left on my report cards. They always walked up to me and asked me what was wrong because I usually didn't say anything in groups. Kids called me stupid and stuck up because I prefer silence and I've been accused many times of cheating because obviously quiet and stupid are synonymous *sarcasm XD*. I love this video because I couldn't have said it better myself. Introversion is not a bad thing. It's not. Extroversion is not a bad thing either. My hope is that society allows individuals to embrace themselves as they are. I can laugh about the experiences I have had as an introvert in a social world now, but growing up it was very difficult. It was even harder for me when I started college. If there are any introverts who are reading this, I'm going to tell you what I wish someone had told me every time I got made fun of for being quiet:
"Your silence speaks volumes. It takes courage to be able to stand alone and not be shaken by the quiet within. Don't let anyone tell you that the way you are is wrong. You are who you were meant to be and the more you embrace that, the further you will go."
I love introverts! :D :D :D
Wonderfully said, and I agree fully as a fellow introvert.
RobTi
Thank you! :D
You described it so well that it touched my soul. I loved the last statement you made, it reflects the reality. Thanks for sharing your words. It actually tells me that we not alone and we are not wrong. Thanks and Thanks. Positive Vibes.
Chandur Khetpal
Thank you! Positive vibes to you as well and all other introverts in the universe
Thankyou. I also watched your channel. It was great. What course are you into at college?
I like people who you can just be next to and not talk to without feeling akward. If I don't have anything interesting to say, I don't waste my time talking. It's that simple, really.
Olga Cat I wish more people could understand that
Absolutely. Now I'm older I don't feel so awkward about it myself and you know you're sitting with the right person if they don't feel awkward either. More people should be comfortable with silence.
Exactly!!!! Thank youu
same here
i have a friend like that, and I think she's an introvert , but when I told her she's the person I enjoy the company of the most because I don't feel the need to fill the silence whith random stuff, she did not understand and did not relate.
I've never understood why people are so threatened by introverts. I'm perfectly happy not speaking, but if I don't, people think it's because I'm distant, stuck up, or think I'm better than they are. I've had people become hostile toward me for not responding the way they think I should. I'm really just thinking about what I'm going to make for dinner or wishing I was reading.
It's because people do not understand the concept of introverts.
I get it, we introverts should stick together.
Or that I am cold hearted
Same here, some people could get really mad and threat you with disdain, just for not be like an extrovert. It has happened to me in the past, some coworkers treated me like a dumb, nasty person, just because I didn't talked or socialized as much as they did, so they tended to think that I hadn't have ideas, had a bad behavior, and even was bad at my work (when it was the contrary, and even I received awards for my excellent performance and good project results). So, that's a truth, most people will respect you and give you more opportunities if you're an extrovert.
@@cuac5869 How can you stick together? You don't like being part of a group. ;)
I just lost all my energy when I'm around people. Being alone make me so much better and relax.
Sometimes those who don't socialize much aren't actually anti-social they just have no tolerance for drama & fake people.
-8man
true true true,......
Truth
wait, Hachiman from Snafu/Oregairu?
This
@@faturr hai!
We introverts are forced to talk and pretend to be something we're not to succeed. To make sure I'm not graded down on marks, I force myself to put my hand up at least three times every lesson and it takes me at least ten minutes to build up the courage for each one.
I just wish I could be myself.
same,I spend 10-15 minutes trying to coax myself that i should say something,it doesn't matter what the other's think of me blah blah
@@nupursingh6760 Yh and then when you mess up and the entire class laughs. 😬😭
"takes me at least ten minutes to build up the courage"
Your a socially anxious person, different from being introvert. Introverts can be confident people too
@@rv7w602 in fact there are different types of Introverts. And i don't think that he is Social anxious. I would be afraid to say something wrong, because then the attention of people falls to me.
I feel pretty similar, but at work. I am in an Apprenticeship currently (in switzerland) and to get it, I had to ask questions and talk with all the people. And the when I started working, they asked why I was so silent. Why don't you say good morning to everyone. Why didn't you just ask. And I started to try and force myself to do all of that. Because of this, i then stopped to eat with all the others. I needed a break somewhere in the day
I think a lot of people are mistaking introversion with shyness/social anxiety. I'm an introvert: it just means that I like to stay alone, and that being alone gives me energy. Socializing is exhausting to me, but that doesn't mean I can't have a casual conversation with people. It's just that if I have to choose between being alone and being with people, I will choose to be by myself.
I may be a little shy, however I can and will talk to someone if I can't find my way for example, and that isn't necessarily a sign of extroversion, is it?
Remember: extroversion is when people find their energy in other people, going to parties, etc. While introversion is the opposite. You can be a shy extrovert, and confident introvert.
You can always tell when someone is truly an introvert by what they type :-)
So spot on x
Socializing sucks the life out of me. It is quite shocking how it affects me to have to be at a social gathering for 3-4 hours. Afterwards I feel completely mentally and physically zapped and I might even feel tired through the following day as a result. So we introverts must pick who we talk to very carefully!
@@billsimms2511 Indeed, Bill. I'm in a walking group and I have no problems talking to some if not all of them whilst on a walk. I feel totally fine and energised all day afterwards too. Now put me around those people all sat at a table (i.e. one of our Christmas meals) and after 2 hours (or even less) and I'm DONE. If I stay for longer (and I'm forced to make even more small talk *bleughh!), I feel like I'm 'hungover' for a day or two afterwards. I never understood why until I read up on introverts and then it made so much damn sense to me!
Similarly, notice that many people will mistake introverts as being "antisocial". This is the entirely wrong terminology, in fact. Asocial refers to the indifference or separation one has from society. Antisocial is related to mental illness and a person who is antisocial has a lack of empathy and understanding for others. People who are antisocial can even be hostile to society and this kind of behavior is typical in sociopaths. An antisocial person do not have the ability to socialize. An asocial person can and can do so well, but often choose not to for lack of interest. Most introverts are asocial not antisocial.
Tbf it's really introverts who are shy and socially anxious that really have a hard time. People brought up Einstein, Gandhi, etc when they talk about introversion. I wish they talk more about the quiet introverted kid sitting next to them at school who is just an average student and not the star of the class.
As am ambivert, going out an meditating for 15 minutes every day in the outdoors, with zero interruptions, for about 3 months straight was some of the most life-changing moments in my nearly 40 years on earth. Being in the wilderness, focusing on nothing but existence is the essence of existence.
Why do people always try to FORCE introverts to change?
People should be free to be who they naturally are without that pressure to "fit in". It's the absolute worst feeling when someone wants you to change who you are.
Because it can help them in certain occasions. I used to have anxiety asking questions in class, talking to people older than me, even picking up a phone to order anything or just call someone i dont know on the phone. But in every instance throughout my life i got pushed to do things that I hated which helped me cope more.
@@z3toot: Possibly. Of course, if people let us be ourselves they may find we naturally get better at this stuff without being pushed to be something we're not.
Lot of people reflect their life on you and thinking you must be a very lonley and sad person beeing with you alone.
Because they would be in our situation.
They dont understand we are not lonley, we are not bored having time with ourself, we are not sad or how much energy we loose in "normal" situations.
But to be fair, i dont understand extroverts too.
Neb-Taui-Djeser true
Absolutely right!!!
I need people to stop telling me that - "Be more social!"
My family needs to hear this
Or *I wish you talked more*
Gosh yesssss
UrMom •-•
Me: I wish you talked less
@@zage5495 Me: I wished YOU typed less.
Introverts unite!
Quietly.
In our own homes.
My extrovert friend is going out almost everyday and I'm staying home everyday.
This aged nicely
@@panicontheargo7034 Ah, for sure
Thank you for this. I'm such a quiet person, and all my life I've heard that I need to be more social. I am social. But I have a timer for my social capacity. When the timer runs out, I am done. I need my solitude. I need my space to recharge. I need my space to be a good person. When I feel like I have to sacrifice who I am, I am so unhappy.
I feel like introverts often get misunderstood. People who I'm not close with most commonly see me as that quiet, spineless, and weak person. It's not that. I open up more to the people I know the longest, such as my BFF and the friends I've known since 1st and 5th grade, which explains why I have a very small friend circle.
What really annoys me is when people ask ignorant questions such as, "Does she even talk?"
"Does he/she even talk" said a silly extrovert. "Yes" said the introvert after throwing a book at the extrovert.
I totally agree with what you mean.
we're usually the most interesting people though. We hardly talk but sometimes we have moments where we open up and have so much to say. I think this should be taught in schools, not to allow introverts to be anti-social, but to allow others to accept introverts, which will just give the introverts the go-ahead to be themselves and therefore attract more people for many different reasons.
same! unfortunately, some of the people close to me dont understand me, and unintentionally antagonize me
yes! I got bullied for being the quiet kid before coz people think im weak.. I have few friends whom I trust who also have the same experiences as me..
We introverts should plan a meet up. I didn't knew there are so many people like me.
it's half of the population, it may not be half of the people you know since introverts are normally less popular, but they're there, everywhere.
I didn't either
I would meet up but im to introverted🤣
There are lots of introverts like us. Usually because we're treated as problems we're too scared to show it.
Me too I'm an introvert
I'm extremely introverted. However, I am not shy. I can introduce myself to strangers with confidence and hold conversation. I can look people in the eyes while talking to them. I just prefer to be alone most of the time. Also, being in situations with large groups of people physically drains me.
I am quite similar to how you have described yourself
This is is me as well. I have had to learn to overcome shyness but larger groups of people do drain me. I enjoy doing things alone like reading 📖📓
xLoveLexii I agree wholeheartedly. Most of my friends are extroverts so they like hanging out alot, but sometimes it get to be a bit much.
how are you extremely introverted if you can hold conversations and can look people in the eyes while talking to them? Cause if that's the case, I might be beyong extremely introverted -_-
jqkrish introvert doesn't mean you're shy. Somebody can be very confident and look people in the eyes, but still be an introvert, meaning you need your time alone. It's where you get your energy from. Extroverts get their energy from being with other people.