Would you be interested in having a copyeditor on staff? I see quite a few errors in your videos and I think it would greatly improve your credibility if you did have one.
1. Attraction 2. Awkwardness 3. Immediate connection 4. Similarities 5. Speedy heart and sweaty palms 6. Touch that excites both of you 7. You enjoy one another’s company 8. Your conversations are very flirty 9. You continue thinking about them after you have separated
Sexual tension is definitely real. The most notably experience would be with my husband back when we very first met. We were friends for a solid month before finally going on our first date. I’ve never experienced such intense attraction/desire/arousal as I did on our first date (or a few of the other times we were together before dating.) The experience was extremely mutual from the beginning - almost instant. It’s actually pretty incredible to talk about our instant attraction to each other. We were 17 and 18. We’ve been together 23 years/married 17 years. I’m extremely fortunate and try not to take him for granted.
My wife was 16 when she approached me in church. I was 20. I knew her since I was a little boy in Sunday school. Saw her every Sunday. I would take my grandmother to church. Growing up my grandparents were everything to me. After my grandfather passed I would take her to church and then the cemetery. My wife knew this and my devotion to my family won her heart. For two years she went to church just to see me. That and I was tall and handsome. She approached me after church service and her smile said it all. My wife was only of those red haired beauties whose figure came early and so did the jealousy of many girls. Knowing her so well I was open to her greetings. We talked, she touched my hand and before I knew it we were kissing. She didn’t hold back her feelings. When she turned 19 we got engaged. Bought her a beautiful ring she picked out. We got married right after we both finished college. Been so for 29 years. Yes I was weak and she didn’t have to press hard for us to become intimate. I was guilty for the first few months then I wasn’t. I saw her everyday. Took her to her prom. It’s so strange it happened that way. I never dated anyone else. Never felt anything for other girls.
Wow, what a great love story! 29 years and many more, I’m sure. Thank you for sharing! It doesn’t seem like the ‘norm’ for the girl to approach the guy, but in both our cases, it totally worked. I wasn’t about to let my to-be-husband get away, lol.
Hi I have a question. Do you guys still have sexual tension? or does that go away over time? I have very strong feelings / tension with a guy I just met which usually never happens. I rarely feel instant chemistry with someone. But is this temporary? I think I need to keep on going on dates to see if he is a good fit for me.
@@valentina-bAfter being together for 23 years, that extreme lust has obviously faded. BUT there are still times when it comes back around. It’s just not a constant thing anymore. I do remember that tension lasting a long time - most of our dating years (6) and it was more than awesome. But we didn’t live together until we got married…. My husband wasn’t the only person I had sexual tension with though. With him, it was just the strongest.
Sexual tension is absolute madness , i had the sad chance to experience it and gosh its like being addicted to someone you dont even know , and each interaction or moment with that person feels 10000 times amplified, a simple hello make your heart feel like its gonna beat outta your chest , plus you just feel a DEEP CONNECTION like idk how to say it but it feel like you knew eachothers forever , sometimes it makes you wander if those theories about past lives are real bc to feel such a strong feeling for someone when they didn't even earned your trust and affection and gosh about the touchy thing let me tell you a simple hug of a good morning shake makes you feel so good .
..."strong feeling for someone who has not even earned your trust..." well 😂😂 Absolutly true!! It's such a bizzar Moment, something that can't be real, but it is. Personally, I believe in those Past-Life-Theoris \(^o^)/
@@Sheeta93 aww thank you for agreeing 👍 i find it quite difficult to open about it , its a strange feeling to be explained but tbh its the best experienced i had i dont think you experience it twice in a lifetime so i think one should feel lucky and cherish memories like that
How crazy is it that everyone's in their own heads so much we have to watch a video about how our own bodies feel. What a paradox things are, you study so much you study yourself out of naturally connecting to stuff.
Wow! 😂I’m dealing with this now. I have a crush on this guy and want to invite him to coffee to see if we actually bond. I’m so stuck in all of these ridiculous rules. I don’t know what to do. I’ve resorted to videos like I’m in 7th grade sex ed🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤣 Someone liked this comment and I never add on to existing comments. However, this is for someone doubting themselves. I finally decided to invite the guy out for coffee. He was hit by a car on his bike and propelled into a tree. He’s currently in icu. This happened 2 days after I got the courage to ask him out. I learned from this, go after what you want because we have one chance sometimes. Life is fleeting, go after it! No regrets!
Currently me trying to deny the sexual tension I know we both feel, cuz I haven't even meet him in real life and I can't and won't give in to the feelings I have had after just two days writing 😅😂
Lol you're like my Current GF. She denied having proper feelings for me. Just physical attraction. She even saw other guys and spend time with them...but she'd finish her every night with me on a phone call. Said she thinks she might not even be monogamous. I say my piece during one heart to heart and she seems convinced we just want different things in life. I leave her, saying its best I move on and just stop being a close friend for my own sake. She effectively pushed me away. She spirals badly. Spews it all out to a mutual friend and he basically calls me at 2 A.M to tell me she "Needs" me. I rush back to her. She finally opens the flood gates about how she really feels about me, but it is scary for her. Been together and growing together since. Love the woman to bits...she is now asleep close by me after an 8 hour drive to see her. I'm grateful for my friend for realizing how much we needed one another.
1:09 Attraction 1:50 Awkwardness 2:22 Immediate connection 2:47 Similarities 3:24 Speedy heart & sweaty palms 4:11 Touch that excites both of you 4:50 You enjoy one another's company 5:24 Your conversations are very flirty 5:53 You continue thinking about them after you've separated Have a beautiful day, folks!🤗🌱
The most erotic relationship I’ve ever had was someone I never even kissed. It was the ultimate slow burn over 4 years. We bonded over a love of food and sharing food with one another became a sensual dance between us. It just wasn’t in the cards. I think we were both afraid of what might happen if we took things to the next level. Our chemistry was electric though… I often think about him. In Another Life, I Think I Would Have Really Liked Just Doing Laundry and Taxes With him 😅 and other stuff…
If it helps any... I recently had a similar situation where the connection we had was the strongest I've ever felt and it was for her too. We were together 24/7 and literally messaging the moment we woke up (usually in sync) and right before bed. That went on for almost a year just gaming, chatting etc. We decided to try and take it to the next level and, well, it didn't end well. But because that bond didn't just vanish, we couldn't just 'go back to what we had' We tried, but ended up pulling together again, only to push apart again. In order to break that cycle and allow myself to move on, I've had to block her entirely from my life, because I know if I didn't, it'd end up as a constant back and forth. Both cutting off and staying together hurt. Just happened that cutting off hurts less in the long run.
All fun and games until you like someone, feel as though they might feel the same, just to find out they're already in a relationship and get your heart stomped on again
The "look" is my go to every time. I don't return the look until I'm certain I get it. You don't need to say anything, even though everyone does. I usually respond with "I know". I think it has something to do with our innate body language and abilities to pick up on it subconsciously. I don't know how I learned to pick up on it, but everyone who experienced it, knows what I'm talking about. I've forced myself to refuse in the past. Even though I really wanted to. It hurts, but some times for the best. The look makes you feel feral. Like you're ready to eat. Pupils dilate and the eyes widen. Tunnel vision sets in and your predatory instinct is active. The eye contact is strong, binding. It takes true strength to break away from it, yet so pleasing to give in. You both get closer, breathing in each other. That is the trigger. The scent. Our minds can fool us of all memory, but not scent. That link sticks. Once you reach that point, it's only a matter of time. You'll both make sure of it. I would say it resembles "love at first sight" but it has nothing to do with love. If you know what I'm talking about, you'll agree with me. It's lust.
Lust is very feral. Sometimes we're all like cats in heat, but we're much quieter about it. Unlike cats, we don't go around announcing to anyone with ears "I'm horny!!!" But we do tend to do things like put our ass on display (whether it be twerking, picking up things we dropped on purpose, or wearing yoga pants...we find ways.) We're really not that different from the animal kingdom if we act primarily on our instincts. We see it more clearly after last call at the bars
@gypsywoman9140 you're so Damn right! I knew that it wasn't love that I was feeling the fact that I now realise that it was just sexual tension... as a person I have been struggling with my sexuality for most of my life and these comments are rlly helpful to overcome this "fear" so thank you :)
Actually i'm feeling atraction by someone who works with me, she's so nice and charming. But i always regret of trying something more than a friendship because she's already have someone special and there's no way i'm going to destroy it. But even if she hadn't, i there's something like a "fear" that doesn't allow me to a stronger bond to someone.
Ok people, listen to my advice. Do NOT do the opposite attracts thing. It won't work and if you're married forever then you're fooling yourselves and didn't realize you settled. When you do opposites then you live half your life away from them and when older you start ragging on each other because of the differences. Think about it, would you have a best friend that you are opposite of? If you don't believe me then get married and get back to me in ten years.
I totally agree, my partner and I's relationship is smooth sailing 99% of the time because we're on the same page about almost everything in terms of interests, priorities, and how to behave and love each other in the relationship.
this happens to a friend and me, but ig we just don't wanna spoil peace in our friend group still, the sexual attraction is so heavy that party goers have told us how strong of a sexual tension they feel between us, and we openly accept it haha~
Yeah. Love should be built naturally, not from education. My advice for this is for you to be yourself. Maybe you both can be talented together. You both could have a set of agreements, and that should enhance both your relationship and how you two feel about each other.
this can be so frustrating in so many ways, I have had a friend since junior high we have everything you need for the perfect relationship, respect, regard, acceptance, affection, endless trust, and attraction, we are completely comfortable in each other's company we've leaned on each other's shoulders through bad times and heartaches and I know there is nothing I can't count on him for if needed, and he knows the same about me
And then both of you will find partners while remaining these "friends" that have sexual tension between each other. I've been that partner and it's horrible to have to swallow such dangerous friendships.
@@keco_mentariothat’s ignorant, you don’t LOOK for a partner, a friend, it comes to you and if you keep thinking that way you may miss out and something that could’ve been great for the rest of your life…all because “you’re not looking for a partner rn” yet you both enjoy the little flirty moments you have…the truth is one if not both are scared to say anything, scared to invest in the other, no one will ever say anything and it will break both of you slowly…that is if you or the other person isn’t like that with multiple people, if they are, they’re using you if not, you got something special be smart😂
the sexual attraction that I have with my coworker is really strong and the sad part is just he is already committed. its quite painful that that tension cant be eased up. :(
I been feeling a connection towards my bestie! We have kissed each other's hand and been hugging each other tightly never wanting to let go. I relate to this video so much!! 🥺
Hi psych2go, uhm, I have a request for a video, and I was wondering if you could do one about bullying and how it affects someone as they grow? Thanks so much for taking time to read this and I hope that everyone in the comments and the people reading this have a good day:)
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
As an empath, I think about someone alot after I interact with them, and go over everything always, it keeps me up at night. That's just processing for me.
Every is like that, it's not because you're an "empath." Everyone had empathy unless something severely is wrong with you mentally. And if that is the case get some help
As am empath I have been known to think and feel way more than the average person about my interpersonal interactions as noted by many psychological professionals to an extreme degree seen in very few people and extremely rare. Empathy varies and empaths have an extreme degree. "Empath" is short for "an extreme amount of thought and feeling from interpersonal connections and interactions that is much more so than the average person"
No, I don't have social anxiety. I just need to process things. Wow people are really against empathy. Weird. Having deeper thoughts and feelings doesn't have to be anxiety.
The issue is that at least for me usually the people I think I have sexual attraction with are either strangers or people I cross paths with on a daily basis but have never spoken to. For example I have this coworker who I find myself attracted to and I think it's reciprocal (just based on the way we look at one another) but then that's only one of the 9 possible signs so it's so hard to know whether it's just me imagining things. Also I would like to be straight up and just ask them if there's something going on but a) might be awkward afterwards if it turns out there's nothing on their side and b) how do you get the conversation started with someone you barely see during the day and who you wouldn't have an excuse to talk to?
Hey, I totally get you. I have had the same experience and the person I had a connection with seemed very confused but they would send signals aswell. I would suggest you ask them to come over at a party or someplace just act casual and see how they react to your invite. If they’re excited then maybe they do want to meet you outside work and that might be one of the many signs that they like you!
Sometimes I feel like it is just not meant to be. Like you know these people you are not attracted to because you are straight and they are the same sex as you, but you like them a lot and would love to chat, and you both just smile weirdly at each other but have nothing to talk about?
I’m battling it.. I’ve started at a new job a month ago as an admin for a department where the mechanics fix construction machines and the cars of the employees etc. One of the mechanics is very attractive and he is really kind like smiles a lot and helps sometimes. He is in a relationship so I try so hard to look at him as a simple colleague. I even started to avoid him and I feel that I behave really awkwardly when he’s around..I just have to stop this madness😩
Timestamps 1). Attraction 1:09 2). Awkwardness 1:49 3). Immediate connection 2:22 4). Similarities 2:47 5). Speedy heart and sweaty palms 3:23 6). Touch that excites both of you 4:11 7). You enjoy one another's company 4:50 8). Your conversations are very flirty 5:23 9). You continue thinking about them after you've separated 5:52 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
My ex and I had this so intensely. We had engaged in an online relationship for the first month, then met up in person for a week. During that week, she would wait at her mother's house while I was working. There was this one day in particular where she picked me up from work and we got to her mother's house, and she had cooked some food so I could eat lunch once I got home. While we were eating, we were standing in the kitchen together, talking about something random, positioned on either side of the kitchen island. I remember we both kept pausing just to stare at each other for a few seconds, smirk, then continue eating. Once we finished the food, she stood by the sink and was like, "I think I left my phone in my bedroom." So I followed her in and of course we know what happened after that. Our chemistry was off the charts, and it was certainly the most memorable week of my life to date.
Every single scene if this episode was so PERFECT! Which means fitting on 100% to the information which we received. x) And such things makes me appreciate such videos even more .x3
Anytime I start feeling the vaguest of attraction to anybody, I quickly leave the area and avoid the person. I went down the route of acting on an attraction once. I will not repeat the error. There is no way I will allow myself any sort of connection with anybody ever again.
Yep so real. Recently did act on my feelings and to be honest it’s the most embarrassing thing I have been through. I don’t even know if the feeling was mutual or I was just too pushy but it ended with me not being able to get out of bed for days. Better just walk away and ignore these things. If someone wants you, they will find a way to let you know.
0:42 "attraction and attention between" is a harmful language construct which leads to misunderstanding and misbehaving - attraction is never between, it is always towards, because you can only feel for yourself and never for the other person, for whom you can only perceive their language and actions.
0:55 To be honest, I used to be that kind flirty when I was little. That's something I've learned from Disney movies. Those movies educates you (Even unintentional) how to romantically love.
Thank you for presenting/ sharing this videos. I have felt the 9 signs of sexual tension with the person I am with now. It was so strong and exactly how you described it.
Watching this made me realize the only time I've ever experienced this was in a 2-minute conversation with a stranger on a bus, but I didn't ask for her number and never saw her again. I'm on the spectrum and usually not very perceptive of the indirect ways we communicate with each other or interaction dynamics, but I think that time showed me that I can still experience a connection like this even if they're harder for me to find.
Those interactions are sprinkled throughout life. Last one I had was with a total stranger by happenstance years ago. Spent the night together knowing it would never go anywhere cuz we live across the country. But that night is something I’ll never forget that night
Has anyone here felt those things, worked up the courage to convey them had them say the same about you... but got rejected for someone else in the space of a night even though it took a long time to build it up?. Not sure I can trust the connection again. Because it hurt. Think I'll keep my distances.
It happened very recently. I met someone online by accident through a pun I instantly clicked with so much it's ridiculous. At first we were not going to do anything because we were both married to others. We kept chatting day in day out about normal stuff, but the tension got too grand to contain and exploded. Soon we had to meet, just a lunch date. The feeling was high voltage to say the least. The feeling is intense and addicting. It ended up being very very genuine between us. Long story short, we both ended up divorcing our significant others in a respectuf manner and are now dating. For the record, both of us did have our own marital problems going on for a long time, but the intensity and strength of our connection is just something out of this world.
Well...this is me and my friend. Who has a girlfriend. He used to hit on me. Or so I thought, because he used to follow me around everywhere. I didn't mind, because he's a very nice guy, and I liked him. But all that extra attention freaked me out and I avoided him sometimes. I've had really bad experiences with stalkers and insistent creeps before, I freak out at the smallest things probably nobody else would be bothered by. For example, I flinched and unconsciously moved away everytime he touched me. I felt guilty about it. And I felt mad at him. Every time I avoided him and he reached out to me again, I felt grateful, angry and death scared at the same time. I was grateful he still wanted to be friends with a loser like me, scared he was being too persistent and had other motives, and angry that he wouldn't just leave me alone sometimes. And after an incident with another stalker, I progressively avoided him more and more. That probably didn't sit right with him, and he moved on to someone else. I feel bad about it and miss him sometimes but I know I have no right to. I would've never been a partner to him, and I wasn't much of a friend either. We still see each other sometimes, and everytime I just feel terribly guilty and sad. I want to wish him and his girlfriend well, but I find myself hoping they'd break up sometimes, so that he'd maybe talk to me again like he used to, and we'd be friends again. I immediately feel horrible about it. Being friends was probably not what he wanted, and he's done with my bullshit already. I should probably not keep in touch with them.
If you haven't and you're up for it, can you do a video on how different orientations in the asexual spectrum experience sexual attraction? Compared to other orientations or whatever?
Only once I had the spark, it was a random girl on the street when I was walking home. After we both crossed paths, we both turned to look at the other, she smiled, I smiled, nobody went after the other one to start a conversation.
I had what felt like a spiritual connection with someone like a soulmate but that didn't work out. Now I've met someone and it feels like a sexual connection. I just adore her so much. She's sweet and friendly and passionate. I think I'm the stable, mature man she wants. Even though we don't have much in common we love talking and sneaking peeks at each other. I think we both secretly wish we could sleep together.
the first time I realized I had a crush on him was when we made eye contact for the first time. Everytime we make eye contact even if we don’t talk, I feel a strong connection and how my body inside feels it, does it mean it’s mutual?
this is just how i feel with all of my friends? ive been trying to figure out the difference between sexual attraction romantic attraction and platonic attraction but i feel like theyre all so equal to me that i feel it for most of the people in my life?
Yes, know yourself and know your feelings. You can observe signs but don't jump into actions. Ask first! We cannot read minds but we can ask people to read their thoughts to us. There have been plenty of situations where one person was soooo sure that they say clear, obvious signs of attraction by someone only to fall flat on their face :( Please let's all be smarter and more communicative!
how can you be entirely sure that they feel the same way you do and that you didnt misinterpret their signals? or that you are the only one who is trying?
I remembered back when I was working, I was eating lunch and this attractive woman in our prod sat next to me to eat even though her friends are on a different table. She was throwing alot of dirty jokes that at the time I didn't get. Because I was concentrated on eating. Like she kept asking about "my" sausage, and if maybe she could eat my sausage... So I gave her some of my sausage. And when our shift was over she was apologizing to me for being inappropriate and I was like oh so that's what it was. I told her that it was fine with me and we dated for a time. 😅
O my, I’m really attracted to my new love! 😅❤️ I’ve just started and it feels so great! He’s so good to me, I just wanted to see another perspective. Thanks for this video 🙏🏾 wishing you a wonderful New Year ahead 🎊
as much as i loved to watch these, i came to a quick conclusion: I was giving myself false hope.. i know that i will start toi overthink after this video but here i am 😔
I’ve watched more of these videos than I’m willing to admit. Because no matter how many of them I watch, I can’t for the life of me tell if it’s sexual tension or not.
Wow, maybe my boyfriend and I really did had sexual tension that bad when we first got know each other. It was months before December, probably around mid October since he joined this huge friend group I had, a friend so happened to invite him in the place and he was able to hang out with us pretty nicely. I didn't pay attention to him that much before because he barely showed up during the first few times, but when he started joining game nights with our friends he was really funny and I loved his humor, I always found myself to be laughing at his jokes no matter how clever or stupid they are. He was basically the clown of the group and so that was bonus points for my slowly burning spark for him. It wasn't just his humor or jokes that so happened to catch my attention, he had a really clever and mature mindset that I was immediately mesmerized over, I found him quite charming. Whenever he talks about anything whether it be some historical lesson about why the color purple is associated with royalty or explain to me how a certain character's skill mechanic works in this one game we both loved and tells me how I can go about it makes me want to listen to him rant for hours. It felt like I was already familiar with him for so long to the point that I grew attached to him quite quickly, I started hanging out with him even more gradually until eventually our friend group noticed the sudden attachment between us two. My admiration for him wasn't the only thing that I had burning for him, it was honestly also my desire and lust that made me want to chase after him even more. I found him to be quite cute, and I have a type for soft and cute guys so it was all lining up so perfectly, I just needed to keep it cool and take it "slowly" building up my connection with him (or so I thought I needed to do). Not to mention I was, to be fair, craving for affection from someone, so my huge crush or desire for him was at the maximum level I could ever have for anyone. It wasn't for too long before I eventually told my two best friends (one of them was at that time) about my whole admiration for him, I told them how I found him to be quite cute and how he sometimes would interact with me (I was delusional). I remember hanging out with a friend before and I thought it was just her and I in the place, we were doing our bdsm tests like idiots and just showing it to each other, not much of a surprise I was a switch and I was more of a dominatrix. He randomly showed up and thought he wanted to do it too, so he then took the test and I saw that he was a complete sub, you don't know how much I was celebrating when I found that out. Fast forward to a few more hangouts, we were chilling with two friends and we were just talking about some inappropriate stuff and what we think about it and such, we were just chill about it. And when I mentioned something about doujinshis he recommended me something to read and he offered to read it with me if I ever want to and that it could be at that very evening if I wanted, I was in complete shock but I was also so excited that of course I agreed. So later that night he and I were just together alone, reading smut together as if we hadn't just known each other for just a month or two (He joined the friend group around mid October, and we only talked a lot during late November). He and I were reading as if up close to each other, we were both in bed as well and it felt that my chest was so heavy from being so close to him, the doujinshis we were reading was meeting both our preferences just perfectly and I was doing my best to not do anything to him. After a night of reading and he went off, I was over the moon and definitely wanted to hang out with him that way, and so I took up the courage to ask him for another reading night and he agreed with it until we eventually started making it an evening routine where we read the most shivering hentais together. It was up until one night I was on my period, I started to have severe cramps and it was really bad at that time, so he stayed up with me for so long up until 4 AM because he thought about accompanying me during my painful time, I fell harder for him and wanted him more. And he did stay up with me late at night for a day or more during my period week, until eventually one night we were both so tired that we were sort of just out of our minds or was much more bolder. We were just chilling and I was honestly torn apart at that time, I was on my period so I was basically in heat, the urge to fight back my inappropriate advances were weakening each day, until that night. I was complaining that I was I can hear the cute boys moaning like actually whenever we would read doujinshis, and he said "I can moan for you instead", every ounce of shame and will broke down within me once I heard that question and I immediately said "Sure". He started whimpering and making soft noises and I couldn't hold back anymore, I started to make out with him and shoved my hands under his pants and played with him. I made him come that night and then when he went to go, I immediately told my friend about it and I was panicking so bad because I thought I did something bad and it was just the heat of the moment. I was comforted but I thought to myself that I didn't want this whole thing to be a one night stand. The next morning I woke up and immediately went to talk to him, I really didn't want to beat around the bush and just wanted to be straightforward with him and asked him if he liked me romantically or not. I was scared our friendship was gonna be torn apart because I did like him as a person, but I wanted to be more with him because I really did feel something deep with him. He said that he liked hanging out with me a lot and didn't want to risk our friendship by making it weird so he sort of just held back, so yes he did like me romantically he said. I was over the moon when I found that out, but of course I didn't want to rush him, I wanted us to take our time and get to know each other first (or so I thought). After a few hours we officially declared our relationship and told only a few close friends first until we had made it very obvious and let everyone in the group know. Of course I was still aching for him and my drive was still up so we agreed that when my period is done, we'll do something, and we did, almost everyday for the next few months. Now we're together for almost 2 years, and I don't really regret every single decision I had made with him, the relationship was rushed honestly due to our high drive during that time. But I don't care, it felt like I knew him for such a long time, that feeling of familiarity and the way our chemistry just clicked was enough for me to take a step forward with him. We're still together and going strong, knowing each other more personally than sexually and would have problems every now and then, but we're constantly reassuring each other that it'll be okay. We have a low drive now and haven't done it with each other in months, but I still love him just as much when I was crushing on him so hard. I love him to bits and I wish he knew how much I admired him ever since the time before he even joined the friend group, I was admiring him as a clever player from the game we loved. I support him in everything he likes or wants to do and I hope that I'm able to help him the best way I can, I wish that he goes far in life especially with me, but even if it's without me or something bad happens I wish that he prospers and becomes successful as well as happy in the future.
Gotcha. So if you don't qualify for rule number 1, attraction, then there's no need to worry if someone else would feel the other 8 steps towards you 😊
I did feel huge sexual attraction with my salsa dance partner, we met at dancing and his Mes amazing, he help me dance better. He was so sensual. It was absolutely reciprocated. Then we had a kiss, and it was possibly the worst kiss of my entire life, worse than those fumbling kisses you experiences a teenager. Bearing in mind we were both in our 40s at this point, it absolutely killed the desire.
I’m sorry, but I found some thing a little off at 3:30😢 yes, I do remember being told as a child that the butterfly feeling in my belly is supposed to be attraction, but it actually is the body’s way of telling us know that this is not good, and that we need to break it off whether the fear comes from your belly order from your chest is usually the key to finding out if it’s wrong or right When the butterflies comes from your belly and the stress comes from your belly, it means that it’s bad or fear-based If it comes from your chess, it’s usually an excitement a good thing … perhaps you guys can look up those ones and send us a video on that if you want to I mean research is always fun, right?😊😊 I do love watching you guys. I appreciate your videos very much.❤❤❤🎉 please keep growing and being awesome🎉🎉❤ you guys teach me a lot about the world around me❣️🫣🫶
This is interesting; when my boyfriend and I were just friends everyone around us would tell us that there was sexual tension between us but we would think they were wrong as we didn’t feel like that about each other… yet. So, it makes me think, could we be blind to those signs sometimes? 🧐
that's called denial my friend lol. IF everyone else sees it. You're the only ones not in on it yet. Happened to me with my current GF. She denied it. I knew it. Our friends knew it. Everyone would notice it. We'd sleep with each other but she said it was just for fun. But everyone just refered to us as a couple based off how we'd talk to one another and how she'd behave towards me as compared to everyone else. (even other men she had slept with before in time). She eventually admitted to it going from lust to proper love over time, though.
I feel the sexual tention without romantic feelings but touching isnt allowed and we dont talk often cause noone should recognize it. We smile at each other every time when we see each other but thats the maximum whats allowed.... this goes on for over a year.
1 - Im checking them out, personality wise 2 - They always make things awkward but I knock that out of the way 3 - There was none to be honest since I knew them last year and barely liked them 4 - I look nothing like them cuz sweet home Alabama 5 - My face got red once and a weird heartbeat that was weird 6 - Nope. Minus me kicking him in the shoe bc he tried to call an old crush and I was mad 7 - Hell yeah he's funny (but I only talk with him to friends nothing more) 8 - Nope (minus one time we were making fun of each other and he called me kind for paying for him) 9 - I remember conversations, I was overthinking about him bc we went to the carnival together Im pretty sure I don't apply to this 👍
My late husband of 40 years and I had immediate attraction. We were in bed with each other within hours of having met. This attraction lasted until he died. ❤️❤️❤️
Holy ahit i bate having these connections with people and then just conpletely ghosting them and idk why. I just get extremely uncomfortable and shy and shut down... ive had soo many missed opportunities due to this. Ive been hurt pretty bad in the past and its scares me trying to move forward.
There is little empirical research on this topic, but sexual tension is basically sexual attraction or desire, where two people don't give in to it.
Would you be interested in having a copyeditor on staff? I see quite a few errors in your videos and I think it would greatly improve your credibility if you did have one.
@@TheMetizic Damn, I hope you get the gig bro
Translating this topic into Spanish would be very interesting for Spanish-speaking people 👍🏻 😉excellent work @psych2go 👌🏻🥰
Can you do on how a conversation works with your partner 😅
Limerence is sexual tension, either one-sided or mutual.😊
1. Attraction
2. Awkwardness
3. Immediate connection
4. Similarities
5. Speedy heart and sweaty palms
6. Touch that excites both of you
7. You enjoy one another’s company
8. Your conversations are very flirty
9. You continue thinking about them after you have separated
I had to get you to 69 likes 😉
Thank you for the detailed summary!
im not even joking all this happens between me and my crush...😭IM SO STUNNED
Thanks for the listed time stamps
Jesus, I've experienced this and didn't even know! 😱
I’m gonna die alone
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Yooo same here man
Let's hoodoo
Same
You won't. I hope you find someone special and that can appreciate you for what you are. Take care
just don’t worry about it, you have many years left to meet somebody
Sexual tension is definitely real. The most notably experience would be with my husband back when we very first met. We were friends for a solid month before finally going on our first date. I’ve never experienced such intense attraction/desire/arousal as I did on our first date (or a few of the other times we were together before dating.) The experience was extremely mutual from the beginning - almost instant. It’s actually pretty incredible to talk about our instant attraction to each other. We were 17 and 18. We’ve been together 23 years/married 17 years. I’m extremely fortunate and try not to take him for granted.
My wife was 16 when she approached me in church. I was 20. I knew her since I was a little boy in Sunday school. Saw her every Sunday. I would take my grandmother to church. Growing up my grandparents were everything to me. After my grandfather passed I would take her to church and then the cemetery. My wife knew this and my devotion to my family won her heart. For two years she went to church just to see me. That and I was tall and handsome. She approached me after church service and her smile said it all. My wife was only of those red haired beauties whose figure came early and so did the jealousy of many girls. Knowing her so well I was open to her greetings. We talked, she touched my hand and before I knew it we were kissing. She didn’t hold back her feelings. When she turned 19 we got engaged. Bought her a beautiful ring she picked out. We got married right after we both finished college. Been so for 29 years. Yes I was weak and she didn’t have to press hard for us to become intimate. I was guilty for the first few months then I wasn’t. I saw her everyday. Took her to her prom. It’s so strange it happened that way. I never dated anyone else. Never felt anything for other girls.
Wow, what a great love story! 29 years and many more, I’m sure. Thank you for sharing! It doesn’t seem like the ‘norm’ for the girl to approach the guy, but in both our cases, it totally worked. I wasn’t about to let my to-be-husband get away, lol.
@@map3384 My friend count your blessings because most are not anywhere near as lucky as you have been lol.
Hi I have a question. Do you guys still have sexual tension? or does that go away over time? I have very strong feelings / tension with a guy I just met which usually never happens. I rarely feel instant chemistry with someone. But is this temporary? I think I need to keep on going on dates to see if he is a good fit for me.
@@valentina-bAfter being together for 23 years, that extreme lust has obviously faded. BUT there are still times when it comes back around. It’s just not a constant thing anymore. I do remember that tension lasting a long time - most of our dating years (6) and it was more than awesome. But we didn’t live together until we got married….
My husband wasn’t the only person I had sexual tension with though. With him, it was just the strongest.
Sexual tension is absolute madness , i had the sad chance to experience it and gosh its like being addicted to someone you dont even know , and each interaction or moment with that person feels 10000 times amplified, a simple hello make your heart feel like its gonna beat outta your chest , plus you just feel a DEEP CONNECTION like idk how to say it but it feel like you knew eachothers forever , sometimes it makes you wander if those theories about past lives are real bc to feel such a strong feeling for someone when they didn't even earned your trust and affection and gosh about the touchy thing let me tell you a simple hug of a good morning shake makes you feel so good .
..."strong feeling for someone who has not even earned your trust..." well 😂😂 Absolutly true!! It's such a bizzar Moment, something that can't be real, but it is. Personally, I believe in those Past-Life-Theoris \(^o^)/
@@Sheeta93 aww thank you for agreeing 👍 i find it quite difficult to open about it , its a strange feeling to be explained but tbh its the best experienced i had i dont think you experience it twice in a lifetime so i think one should feel lucky and cherish memories like that
This Psychology issue is being addressed as Twinflame/soulmate connection
Twin flames don't exist.
@@TheKaumarya i will certainly look it up tysm
How crazy is it that everyone's in their own heads so much we have to watch a video about how our own bodies feel. What a paradox things are, you study so much you study yourself out of naturally connecting to stuff.
Wow! 😂I’m dealing with this now. I have a crush on this guy and want to invite him to coffee to see if we actually bond. I’m so stuck in all of these ridiculous rules. I don’t know what to do. I’ve resorted to videos like I’m in 7th grade sex ed🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤣
Someone liked this comment and I never add on to existing comments. However, this is for someone doubting themselves. I finally decided to invite the guy out for coffee. He was hit by a car on his bike and propelled into a tree. He’s currently in icu. This happened 2 days after I got the courage to ask him out. I learned from this, go after what you want because we have one chance sometimes. Life is fleeting, go after it! No regrets!
@@BayouBarbie504 Just give his balls a tug and ask him to do fun stuff.
"Identity theft is not a joke, Jim. Millions of families suffer from it from every year" 😭 2:47
SAMEEEEE 😂😂
LMFAO!!! 😹
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bruh 😂
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You never know until the both of you are in agreement. Some people's nature is to deny reality, and it's not your place to make them accept it.
Very wise!
6:31 lol, they go over that
facts
Currently me trying to deny the sexual tension I know we both feel, cuz I haven't even meet him in real life and I can't and won't give in to the feelings I have had after just two days writing 😅😂
Lol you're like my Current GF. She denied having proper feelings for me. Just physical attraction. She even saw other guys and spend time with them...but she'd finish her every night with me on a phone call. Said she thinks she might not even be monogamous. I say my piece during one heart to heart and she seems convinced we just want different things in life. I leave her, saying its best I move on and just stop being a close friend for my own sake. She effectively pushed me away.
She spirals badly. Spews it all out to a mutual friend and he basically calls me at 2 A.M to tell me she "Needs" me.
I rush back to her. She finally opens the flood gates about how she really feels about me, but it is scary for her.
Been together and growing together since. Love the woman to bits...she is now asleep close by me after an 8 hour drive to see her. I'm grateful for my friend for realizing how much we needed one another.
Bit sad innit
Lmao
Indeed bruv
Yea mate
Damn this made me laugh haha
Haha
1:09 Attraction
1:50 Awkwardness
2:22 Immediate connection
2:47 Similarities
3:24 Speedy heart & sweaty palms
4:11 Touch that excites both of you
4:50 You enjoy one another's company
5:24 Your conversations are very flirty
5:53 You continue thinking about them after you've separated
Have a beautiful day, folks!🤗🌱
Thank you for being so kind and providing us the time stamps! Hope you have a wonderful day as well!
@@Psych2gogo to sleep so that you can make some more awesome videos lol
I have all of these signs between me and my right hand
Thank you, I think I might be in love 🥰
The brain is so cute. Doing all the work and what not lol
The most erotic relationship I’ve ever had was someone I never even kissed. It was the ultimate slow burn over 4 years. We bonded over a love of food and sharing food with one another became a sensual dance between us. It just wasn’t in the cards. I think we were both afraid of what might happen if we took things to the next level. Our chemistry was electric though… I often think about him.
In Another Life, I Think I Would Have Really Liked Just Doing Laundry and Taxes With him 😅 and other stuff…
i had a one like this too.. hope yall will find what's best for yall
Love the Everything Everywhere All At Once quote
If it helps any... I recently had a similar situation where the connection we had was the strongest I've ever felt and it was for her too. We were together 24/7 and literally messaging the moment we woke up (usually in sync) and right before bed. That went on for almost a year just gaming, chatting etc.
We decided to try and take it to the next level and, well, it didn't end well. But because that bond didn't just vanish, we couldn't just 'go back to what we had' We tried, but ended up pulling together again, only to push apart again. In order to break that cycle and allow myself to move on, I've had to block her entirely from my life, because I know if I didn't, it'd end up as a constant back and forth.
Both cutting off and staying together hurt. Just happened that cutting off hurts less in the long run.
@@Grigeral yea, doing anything would’ve certainly been costly. It’s a fun daydream not much more than that.
So this is what me and my manager had... Makes sense now!!!
All fun and games until you like someone, feel as though they might feel the same, just to find out they're already in a relationship and get your heart stomped on again
The "look" is my go to every time. I don't return the look until I'm certain I get it. You don't need to say anything, even though everyone does. I usually respond with "I know". I think it has something to do with our innate body language and abilities to pick up on it subconsciously. I don't know how I learned to pick up on it, but everyone who experienced it, knows what I'm talking about. I've forced myself to refuse in the past. Even though I really wanted to. It hurts, but some times for the best. The look makes you feel feral. Like you're ready to eat. Pupils dilate and the eyes widen. Tunnel vision sets in and your predatory instinct is active. The eye contact is strong, binding. It takes true strength to break away from it, yet so pleasing to give in. You both get closer, breathing in each other. That is the trigger. The scent. Our minds can fool us of all memory, but not scent. That link sticks. Once you reach that point, it's only a matter of time. You'll both make sure of it. I would say it resembles "love at first sight" but it has nothing to do with love. If you know what I'm talking about, you'll agree with me. It's lust.
Wow, great descriptive point of view! Pretty dead on.
Lust is very feral. Sometimes we're all like cats in heat, but we're much quieter about it. Unlike cats, we don't go around announcing to anyone with ears "I'm horny!!!" But we do tend to do things like put our ass on display (whether it be twerking, picking up things we dropped on purpose, or wearing yoga pants...we find ways.) We're really not that different from the animal kingdom if we act primarily on our instincts. We see it more clearly after last call at the bars
@gypsywoman9140 you're so Damn right! I knew that it wasn't love that I was feeling the fact that I now realise that it was just sexual tension... as a person I have been struggling with my sexuality for most of my life and these comments are rlly helpful to overcome this "fear" so thank you :)
mmm well said!!
Santal 33 🫤
I seriously like this woman's voice
Amanda's voice has a very soothing quality :)
Me too so addicting 😂
@@Psych2goyeah, yah...yah soothing...
I find it annoying but suffer through because the content is good.
@@SmallBobbyhow?
Man these animations are both wholesome and hilarious
Ikrrr i laughed at the awkwardness part 😂😂
Spraying sweat on the palms got me 😂
I think they are very sweet.
The lil altercations between the heart and mind are adorable! 😍
Actually i'm feeling atraction by someone who works with me, she's so nice and charming. But i always regret of trying something more than a friendship because she's already have someone special and there's no way i'm going to destroy it. But even if she hadn't, i there's something like a "fear" that doesn't allow me to a stronger bond to someone.
Ok people, listen to my advice. Do NOT do the opposite attracts thing. It won't work and if you're married forever then you're fooling yourselves and didn't realize you settled. When you do opposites then you live half your life away from them and when older you start ragging on each other because of the differences. Think about it, would you have a best friend that you are opposite of? If you don't believe me then get married and get back to me in ten years.
I strongly agree
I totally agree, my partner and I's relationship is smooth sailing 99% of the time because we're on the same page about almost everything in terms of interests, priorities, and how to behave and love each other in the relationship.
This was taught by old timers to the youth 50 years ago. "In the beginning, Opposites attract. In the end, Opposites annoy. Don't marry an Opposite."
I was rejected by an toaster. I will die alone
this happens to a friend and me, but ig we just don't wanna spoil peace in our friend group
still, the sexual attraction is so heavy that party goers have told us how strong of a sexual tension they feel between us, and we openly accept it haha~
Yeah. Love should be built naturally, not from education. My advice for this is for you to be yourself. Maybe you both can be talented together. You both could have a set of agreements, and that should enhance both your relationship and how you two feel about each other.
this can be so frustrating in so many ways, I have had a friend since junior high we have everything you need for the perfect relationship, respect, regard, acceptance, affection, endless trust, and attraction, we are completely comfortable in each other's company we've leaned on each other's shoulders through bad times and heartaches and I know there is nothing I can't count on him for if needed, and he knows the same about me
And then both of you will find partners while remaining these "friends" that have sexual tension between each other.
I've been that partner and it's horrible to have to swallow such dangerous friendships.
@@ari_jean nah I'm not really looking for a partner rn lol
@@keco_mentariothat’s ignorant, you don’t LOOK for a partner, a friend, it comes to you and if you keep thinking that way you may miss out and something that could’ve been great for the rest of your life…all because “you’re not looking for a partner rn” yet you both enjoy the little flirty moments you have…the truth is one if not both are scared to say anything, scared to invest in the other, no one will ever say anything and it will break both of you slowly…that is if you or the other person isn’t like that with multiple people, if they are, they’re using you if not, you got something special be smart😂
The fact that nobody talks about the book Womens Magic Truths on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
My longest relationships didn’t start out as physical attraction necessarily. 2nd or third date is when I would realize I’m really into someone
the sexual attraction that I have with my coworker is really strong and the sad part is just he is already committed. its quite painful that that tension cant be eased up. :(
restaurant job?
@@brendonprophette8890 I swear, they’re pumping some kind of love chemical into restaurants, everyone is boning.
Find a new job
for sure hahaha @@brendonprophette8890
I been feeling a connection towards my bestie! We have kissed each other's hand and been hugging each other tightly never wanting to let go. I relate to this video so much!! 🥺
Ask. Them. Out.
Do it.
@@derigel9783agree
That’s sweet.
@@derigel9783FR DO IT
Hi psych2go, uhm, I have a request for a video, and I was wondering if you could do one about bullying and how it affects someone as they grow? Thanks so much for taking time to read this and I hope that everyone in the comments and the people reading this have a good day:)
Make this comment go well guys
I'd watch it! 😥
"Uhm" lay off the character ai ☠️
@@juno00033 I’m just not that good at writing comments
bruh why’re you judging someone FOR A WORD💀
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
@@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEUYes, dr.sporesss
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@@eddiejohn8506Is he on instagram?
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
Omg Amanda’s voice is just so relaxing and calming!! Such a beautiful voice to listen to - also this video hits every nail on the head wow 😭
Is she the same voice of that cute, cute ghost cartoon account on IG and she always tells us she loves us… do you know which one I’m talking about lol
Not me watching this video and realizing I haven’t felt sexual tension of any kind in years 💀
Lmaooo
Lmao same
Or your first time
I got rejected by my toaster... You are off better than me
As an empath, I think about someone alot after I interact with them, and go over everything always, it keeps me up at night. That's just processing for me.
Same
Every is like that, it's not because you're an "empath." Everyone had empathy unless something severely is wrong with you mentally. And if that is the case get some help
As am empath I have been known to think and feel way more than the average person about my interpersonal interactions as noted by many psychological professionals to an extreme degree seen in very few people and extremely rare. Empathy varies and empaths have an extreme degree. "Empath" is short for "an extreme amount of thought and feeling from interpersonal connections and interactions that is much more so than the average person"
That is social anxiety 🤝 hope this helps
No, I don't have social anxiety. I just need to process things. Wow people are really against empathy. Weird. Having deeper thoughts and feelings doesn't have to be anxiety.
The issue is that at least for me usually the people I think I have sexual attraction with are either strangers or people I cross paths with on a daily basis but have never spoken to. For example I have this coworker who I find myself attracted to and I think it's reciprocal (just based on the way we look at one another) but then that's only one of the 9 possible signs so it's so hard to know whether it's just me imagining things. Also I would like to be straight up and just ask them if there's something going on but a) might be awkward afterwards if it turns out there's nothing on their side and b) how do you get the conversation started with someone you barely see during the day and who you wouldn't have an excuse to talk to?
Hey, I totally get you. I have had the same experience and the person I had a connection with seemed very confused but they would send signals aswell. I would suggest you ask them to come over at a party or someplace just act casual and see how they react to your invite. If they’re excited then maybe they do want to meet you outside work and that might be one of the many signs that they like you!
Stop thinking about it and just do it. Get your answer.
Sometimes I feel like it is just not meant to be. Like you know these people you are not attracted to because you are straight and they are the same sex as you, but you like them a lot and would love to chat, and you both just smile weirdly at each other but have nothing to talk about?
@@TheBanjoShowOfficial a week later, you're invited to a Zoom meeting with your boss and HR…
I died with all the cuteness happening by the characters.
"Here are 9 signs"
The slide: "8 signs"
Sorry
I’m battling it.. I’ve started at a new job a month ago as an admin for a department where the mechanics fix construction machines and the cars of the employees etc. One of the mechanics is very attractive and he is really kind like smiles a lot and helps sometimes. He is in a relationship so I try so hard to look at him as a simple colleague. I even started to avoid him and I feel that I behave really awkwardly when he’s around..I just have to stop this madness😩
These drawings are sooo cuuuuute AAAAAAARGH
Thank you! We love the hard work that our animators put into each of our videos :) What did you think of today's topic on sexual connection?
Thank you!
I love the drawings too, they’re very cute❤️😊💕
Timestamps
1). Attraction 1:09
2). Awkwardness 1:49
3). Immediate connection 2:22
4). Similarities 2:47
5). Speedy heart and sweaty palms 3:23
6). Touch that excites both of you 4:11
7). You enjoy one another's company 4:50
8). Your conversations are very flirty 5:23
9). You continue thinking about them after you've separated 5:52
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Never too late for @A55a511n 's time stamps! :)
@@Psych2go thanks for your kind words. I was busy helping feeding people with my mother.
2:00 who filmed me without my consent? 😭😭😭
My ex and I had this so intensely. We had engaged in an online relationship for the first month, then met up in person for a week. During that week, she would wait at her mother's house while I was working. There was this one day in particular where she picked me up from work and we got to her mother's house, and she had cooked some food so I could eat lunch once I got home. While we were eating, we were standing in the kitchen together, talking about something random, positioned on either side of the kitchen island. I remember we both kept pausing just to stare at each other for a few seconds, smirk, then continue eating. Once we finished the food, she stood by the sink and was like, "I think I left my phone in my bedroom." So I followed her in and of course we know what happened after that. Our chemistry was off the charts, and it was certainly the most memorable week of my life to date.
She cheat?
Ex?
Why did you guys break up?
Every single scene if this episode was so PERFECT! Which means fitting on 100% to the information which we received. x) And such things makes me appreciate such videos even more .x3
The animation feels like its on another level 🤩
Thank you!
Anytime I start feeling the vaguest of attraction to anybody, I quickly leave the area and avoid the person. I went down the route of acting on an attraction once. I will not repeat the error. There is no way I will allow myself any sort of connection with anybody ever again.
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I completely understand. Same thing happened to me, and now I avoid those situations completely.
Same here I find that feeling mainly sexual tension leads to heartache
It's interesting to see how different people respond to these topics. This reaction is a bit extreme but people come in all different flavors I guess.
Yep so real. Recently did act on my feelings and to be honest it’s the most embarrassing thing I have been through. I don’t even know if the feeling was mutual or I was just too pushy but it ended with me not being able to get out of bed for days. Better just walk away and ignore these things. If someone wants you, they will find a way to let you know.
I think you guys should make a video about "What People With Facial Dysmorphia Want You To Know"
This needs more attention!
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0:42 "attraction and attention between" is a harmful language construct which leads to misunderstanding and misbehaving - attraction is never between, it is always towards, because you can only feel for yourself and never for the other person, for whom you can only perceive their language and actions.
0:55 To be honest, I used to be that kind flirty when I was little. That's something I've learned from Disney movies. Those movies educates you (Even unintentional) how to romantically love.
Thank you for presenting/ sharing this videos. I have felt the 9 signs of sexual tension with the person I am with now. It was so strong and exactly how you described it.
Ok. Now I'm depressed.
Why? What's troubling you?
Watching this made me realize the only time I've ever experienced this was in a 2-minute conversation with a stranger on a bus, but I didn't ask for her number and never saw her again. I'm on the spectrum and usually not very perceptive of the indirect ways we communicate with each other or interaction dynamics, but I think that time showed me that I can still experience a connection like this even if they're harder for me to find.
Not delt a single spark for a relationship since my last break up.
I don't know what to do
Those interactions are sprinkled throughout life. Last one I had was with a total stranger by happenstance years ago. Spent the night together knowing it would never go anywhere cuz we live across the country. But that night is something I’ll never forget that night
Has anyone here felt those things, worked up the courage to convey them had them say the same about you... but got rejected for someone else in the space of a night even though it took a long time to build it up?. Not sure I can trust the connection again. Because it hurt. Think I'll keep my distances.
Keep your distance to protect yourself. The right person will close that gap and stay -- which will make you happy.
It happened very recently. I met someone online by accident through a pun I instantly clicked with so much it's ridiculous. At first we were not going to do anything because we were both married to others. We kept chatting day in day out about normal stuff, but the tension got too grand to contain and exploded. Soon we had to meet, just a lunch date. The feeling was high voltage to say the least. The feeling is intense and addicting. It ended up being very very genuine between us.
Long story short, we both ended up divorcing our significant others in a respectuf manner and are now dating. For the record, both of us did have our own marital problems going on for a long time, but the intensity and strength of our connection is just something out of this world.
Happy for you guys!
Well...this is me and my friend. Who has a girlfriend. He used to hit on me. Or so I thought, because he used to follow me around everywhere. I didn't mind, because he's a very nice guy, and I liked him. But all that extra attention freaked me out and I avoided him sometimes. I've had really bad experiences with stalkers and insistent creeps before, I freak out at the smallest things probably nobody else would be bothered by. For example, I flinched and unconsciously moved away everytime he touched me. I felt guilty about it. And I felt mad at him. Every time I avoided him and he reached out to me again, I felt grateful, angry and death scared at the same time. I was grateful he still wanted to be friends with a loser like me, scared he was being too persistent and had other motives, and angry that he wouldn't just leave me alone sometimes. And after an incident with another stalker, I progressively avoided him more and more. That probably didn't sit right with him, and he moved on to someone else. I feel bad about it and miss him sometimes but I know I have no right to. I would've never been a partner to him, and I wasn't much of a friend either. We still see each other sometimes, and everytime I just feel terribly guilty and sad. I want to wish him and his girlfriend well, but I find myself hoping they'd break up sometimes, so that he'd maybe talk to me again like he used to, and we'd be friends again. I immediately feel horrible about it. Being friends was probably not what he wanted, and he's done with my bullshit already. I should probably not keep in touch with them.
If he did such to you while having a girlfriend, he's straight a Criminal
Go to therapy
2:14
Brain - ignore
Heart - no, we must be civil
Brain - O\_/O
Heart - O\_/O
*Begins gladiator battle*
This got me
I love the thumbnail that is used, referring to Simon and Betty ❤
Does anyone know the name of the song starting at 7:00? i'm pretty sure i've heard it before but i can't remember it's name :(
PLEASE THE ART STYLE IS AMAZING I LOVE IT I COULDNT STOP GIGGLING SYGDUAANJK
The artist is @ZereSugaranova
If you haven't and you're up for it, can you do a video on how different orientations in the asexual spectrum experience sexual attraction? Compared to other orientations or whatever?
Always good stuff!
I just realize
That I have never been in love ....
Me tooo 🥲⚰️👍🏾
Lmao
4:54 this made me laugh 😂 this is so cute
😂😂😂 Our animators are quite creative with their animation!
Looking for this
Only once I had the spark, it was a random girl on the street when I was walking home. After we both crossed paths, we both turned to look at the other, she smiled, I smiled, nobody went after the other one to start a conversation.
This is the quickest ive ever clicked a notif-😭
@Covid-19-is-awesome spamming!
This video has confirmed that I am 99% sure that over the last 5 years, anyone I've been attracted to has not reciprocated the feeling...
I had what felt like a spiritual connection with someone like a soulmate but that didn't work out. Now I've met someone and it feels like a sexual connection. I just adore her so much. She's sweet and friendly and passionate. I think I'm the stable, mature man she wants. Even though we don't have much in common we love talking and sneaking peeks at each other. I think we both secretly wish we could sleep together.
Your patient feels the same😉
The most confusing part is that I have no idea if that person feels the same, I only have assumptions
Why don’t you know if the other person feels the same? There are so many signs that clearly point to either a yes or no answer…
@camillem.350 I can't read any signs
All of them could mean the person is just being friendly or polite
the first time I realized I had a crush on him was when we made eye contact for the first time. Everytime we make eye contact even if we don’t talk, I feel a strong connection and how my body inside feels it, does it mean it’s mutual?
If he hold the glare . yes.
this is just how i feel with all of my friends? ive been trying to figure out the difference between sexual attraction romantic attraction and platonic attraction but i feel like theyre all so equal to me that i feel it for most of the people in my life?
Yes, know yourself and know your feelings. You can observe signs but don't jump into actions. Ask first! We cannot read minds but we can ask people to read their thoughts to us. There have been plenty of situations where one person was soooo sure that they say clear, obvious signs of attraction by someone only to fall flat on their face :(
Please let's all be smarter and more communicative!
how can you be entirely sure that they feel the same way you do and that you didnt misinterpret their signals? or that you are the only one who is trying?
I remembered back when I was working, I was eating lunch and this attractive woman in our prod sat next to me to eat even though her friends are on a different table. She was throwing alot of dirty jokes that at the time I didn't get. Because I was concentrated on eating. Like she kept asking about "my" sausage, and if maybe she could eat my sausage... So I gave her some of my sausage. And when our shift was over she was apologizing to me for being inappropriate and I was like oh so that's what it was. I told her that it was fine with me and we dated for a time. 😅
O my, I’m really attracted to my new love! 😅❤️ I’ve just started and it feels so great! He’s so good to me, I just wanted to see another perspective. Thanks for this video 🙏🏾 wishing you a wonderful New Year ahead 🎊
These videos are my guilty pleasure, so comforting
2:40 this part of the animation was so corny (in a good way) and adorable omg I love it hahaha
Is it possible to have sexual tension with more than one person at the same time??
Pov: you fell in love and got this video in recommendations
I love Amanda’s voice it’s so soothing❤
as much as i loved to watch these, i came to a quick conclusion:
I was giving myself false hope.. i know that i will start toi overthink after this video but here i am 😔
I’m going through this right now with a coworker. Unfortunately, he’s married so it’s not meant to be. 😞🥺
Fck, so same... What did we do to deserve this particular sort of hell...
The sameeeee
Not everyone will naturally be touchy or talk flirty. Then everything is messed up and unclear.
I relate to this video so much but we don’t see each other anymore 😢 too much attraction can be dangerous
This is SO ADORABLE and especially fun when you just started daling somekne and it's going really well. I love these videos.
This animation had me cracking up! I absolutely loved it!
the way people got married after Highschool is wild like what👁️👄👁️
I’ve watched more of these videos than I’m willing to admit. Because no matter how many of them I watch, I can’t for the life of me tell if it’s sexual tension or not.
Wow, maybe my boyfriend and I really did had sexual tension that bad when we first got know each other.
It was months before December, probably around mid October since he joined this huge friend group I had, a friend so happened to invite him in the place and he was able to hang out with us pretty nicely. I didn't pay attention to him that much before because he barely showed up during the first few times, but when he started joining game nights with our friends he was really funny and I loved his humor, I always found myself to be laughing at his jokes no matter how clever or stupid they are. He was basically the clown of the group and so that was bonus points for my slowly burning spark for him.
It wasn't just his humor or jokes that so happened to catch my attention, he had a really clever and mature mindset that I was immediately mesmerized over, I found him quite charming. Whenever he talks about anything whether it be some historical lesson about why the color purple is associated with royalty or explain to me how a certain character's skill mechanic works in this one game we both loved and tells me how I can go about it makes me want to listen to him rant for hours. It felt like I was already familiar with him for so long to the point that I grew attached to him quite quickly, I started hanging out with him even more gradually until eventually our friend group noticed the sudden attachment between us two.
My admiration for him wasn't the only thing that I had burning for him, it was honestly also my desire and lust that made me want to chase after him even more. I found him to be quite cute, and I have a type for soft and cute guys so it was all lining up so perfectly, I just needed to keep it cool and take it "slowly" building up my connection with him (or so I thought I needed to do). Not to mention I was, to be fair, craving for affection from someone, so my huge crush or desire for him was at the maximum level I could ever have for anyone.
It wasn't for too long before I eventually told my two best friends (one of them was at that time) about my whole admiration for him, I told them how I found him to be quite cute and how he sometimes would interact with me (I was delusional). I remember hanging out with a friend before and I thought it was just her and I in the place, we were doing our bdsm tests like idiots and just showing it to each other, not much of a surprise I was a switch and I was more of a dominatrix. He randomly showed up and thought he wanted to do it too, so he then took the test and I saw that he was a complete sub, you don't know how much I was celebrating when I found that out.
Fast forward to a few more hangouts, we were chilling with two friends and we were just talking about some inappropriate stuff and what we think about it and such, we were just chill about it. And when I mentioned something about doujinshis he recommended me something to read and he offered to read it with me if I ever want to and that it could be at that very evening if I wanted, I was in complete shock but I was also so excited that of course I agreed. So later that night he and I were just together alone, reading smut together as if we hadn't just known each other for just a month or two (He joined the friend group around mid October, and we only talked a lot during late November).
He and I were reading as if up close to each other, we were both in bed as well and it felt that my chest was so heavy from being so close to him, the doujinshis we were reading was meeting both our preferences just perfectly and I was doing my best to not do anything to him. After a night of reading and he went off, I was over the moon and definitely wanted to hang out with him that way, and so I took up the courage to ask him for another reading night and he agreed with it until we eventually started making it an evening routine where we read the most shivering hentais together. It was up until one night I was on my period, I started to have severe cramps and it was really bad at that time, so he stayed up with me for so long up until 4 AM because he thought about accompanying me during my painful time, I fell harder for him and wanted him more.
And he did stay up with me late at night for a day or more during my period week, until eventually one night we were both so tired that we were sort of just out of our minds or was much more bolder. We were just chilling and I was honestly torn apart at that time, I was on my period so I was basically in heat, the urge to fight back my inappropriate advances were weakening each day, until that night. I was complaining that I was I can hear the cute boys moaning like actually whenever we would read doujinshis, and he said "I can moan for you instead", every ounce of shame and will broke down within me once I heard that question and I immediately said "Sure".
He started whimpering and making soft noises and I couldn't hold back anymore, I started to make out with him and shoved my hands under his pants and played with him. I made him come that night and then when he went to go, I immediately told my friend about it and I was panicking so bad because I thought I did something bad and it was just the heat of the moment. I was comforted but I thought to myself that I didn't want this whole thing to be a one night stand.
The next morning I woke up and immediately went to talk to him, I really didn't want to beat around the bush and just wanted to be straightforward with him and asked him if he liked me romantically or not. I was scared our friendship was gonna be torn apart because I did like him as a person, but I wanted to be more with him because I really did feel something deep with him. He said that he liked hanging out with me a lot and didn't want to risk our friendship by making it weird so he sort of just held back, so yes he did like me romantically he said.
I was over the moon when I found that out, but of course I didn't want to rush him, I wanted us to take our time and get to know each other first (or so I thought). After a few hours we officially declared our relationship and told only a few close friends first until we had made it very obvious and let everyone in the group know. Of course I was still aching for him and my drive was still up so we agreed that when my period is done, we'll do something, and we did, almost everyday for the next few months.
Now we're together for almost 2 years, and I don't really regret every single decision I had made with him, the relationship was rushed honestly due to our high drive during that time. But I don't care, it felt like I knew him for such a long time, that feeling of familiarity and the way our chemistry just clicked was enough for me to take a step forward with him. We're still together and going strong, knowing each other more personally than sexually and would have problems every now and then, but we're constantly reassuring each other that it'll be okay.
We have a low drive now and haven't done it with each other in months, but I still love him just as much when I was crushing on him so hard. I love him to bits and I wish he knew how much I admired him ever since the time before he even joined the friend group, I was admiring him as a clever player from the game we loved. I support him in everything he likes or wants to do and I hope that I'm able to help him the best way I can, I wish that he goes far in life especially with me, but even if it's without me or something bad happens I wish that he prospers and becomes successful as well as happy in the future.
I really like the art in this one😂 it’s lovely
Psych2Go makes the videos better cause they are usually just a room a camera and a person explain while this is an animation
Unfortunately my attraction is one way 😢
Gotcha. So if you don't qualify for rule number 1, attraction, then there's no need to worry if someone else would feel the other 8 steps towards you 😊
I did feel huge sexual attraction with my salsa dance partner, we met at dancing and his Mes amazing, he help me dance better. He was so sensual. It was absolutely reciprocated. Then we had a kiss, and it was possibly the worst kiss of my entire life, worse than those fumbling kisses you experiences a teenager. Bearing in mind we were both in our 40s at this point, it absolutely killed the desire.
I’m sorry, but I found some thing a little off at 3:30😢 yes, I do remember being told as a child that the butterfly feeling in my belly is supposed to be attraction, but it actually is the body’s way of telling us know that this is not good, and that we need to break it off whether the fear comes from your belly order from your chest is usually the key to finding out if it’s wrong or right
When the butterflies comes from your belly and the stress comes from your belly, it means that it’s bad or fear-based
If it comes from your chess, it’s usually an excitement a good thing … perhaps you guys can look up those ones and send us a video on that if you want to I mean research is always fun, right?😊😊 I do love watching you guys. I appreciate your videos very much.❤❤❤🎉 please keep growing and being awesome🎉🎉❤ you guys teach me a lot about the world around me❣️🫣🫶
Its embarassing on how fast I clicked on this
This is interesting; when my boyfriend and I were just friends everyone around us would tell us that there was sexual tension between us but we would think they were wrong as we didn’t feel like that about each other… yet. So, it makes me think, could we be blind to those signs sometimes? 🧐
that's called denial my friend lol.
IF everyone else sees it. You're the only ones not in on it yet. Happened to me with my current GF. She denied it. I knew it. Our friends knew it. Everyone would notice it. We'd sleep with each other but she said it was just for fun. But everyone just refered to us as a couple based off how we'd talk to one another and how she'd behave towards me as compared to everyone else. (even other men she had slept with before in time). She eventually admitted to it going from lust to proper love over time, though.
I feel the sexual tention without romantic feelings but touching isnt allowed and we dont talk often cause noone should recognize it. We smile at each other every time when we see each other but thats the maximum whats allowed.... this goes on for over a year.
1:04
"Here are 9 signs...."
Editor: nah
1 - Im checking them out, personality wise
2 - They always make things awkward but I knock that out of the way
3 - There was none to be honest since I knew them last year and barely liked them
4 - I look nothing like them cuz sweet home Alabama
5 - My face got red once and a weird heartbeat that was weird
6 - Nope. Minus me kicking him in the shoe bc he tried to call an old crush and I was mad
7 - Hell yeah he's funny (but I only talk with him to friends nothing more)
8 - Nope (minus one time we were making fun of each other and he called me kind for paying for him)
9 - I remember conversations, I was overthinking about him bc we went to the carnival together
Im pretty sure I don't apply to this 👍
I have a question, isn't this romantic attraction? aren't this signs of someone who fell in love? I mean separated from sexual tension
"thinking about them?"
Not me dreaming about them every moment i get
I really am feeling this for a friend of mine that we've known for 3 years, shame we are on different countries
My late husband of 40 years and I had immediate attraction. We were in bed with each other within hours of having met. This attraction lasted until he died. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm sorry for your loss. What a beautiful marriage ❤
Holy ahit i bate having these connections with people and then just conpletely ghosting them and idk why. I just get extremely uncomfortable and shy and shut down... ive had soo many missed opportunities due to this. Ive been hurt pretty bad in the past and its scares me trying to move forward.