You Can’t Shame A Gay Boy Straight | Gareth Patterson | TEDxStormontStudio

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  • @musicdirector8661
    @musicdirector8661 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    It breaks my heart that this is even an issue for our youth. I am 58 years old and I listen to this man like it was back in the 1980’s with all the hate and prejudice that I grew up with. These so called “fake Christians” have no idea how much pain they have inflicted on our children because of their backward and uneducated views. I am so happy to see that you are moving forward with your life with no more shame and fear and challenging those around you.

    • @bherrin67
      @bherrin67 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same 🤚🏻💔

    • @AndrewtateIsinjail
      @AndrewtateIsinjail 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you queen or king for supporting 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️

  • @selispeks
    @selispeks ปีที่แล้ว +68

    The world needs YOUR memoir. If you wrote this script yourself, your talent is IMMENSE, and your story can help millions. Thank you so much for telling your story ❤

  • @hansherrmannshausen9669
    @hansherrmannshausen9669 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    i prayed to god to be changed, too. in the 70ties. The brilliance of Gareth's talk is, that he shares how deeply hurtfull and painfull this feeling of shame is, which was imposed to us. But that alone can be re-traumatizing to hear, depressing. Instead, he shows how far he got in transforming the impact of the unhealthy power structures over him, and to reconstruct a healthy self. He speaks so breautifully, his voice sounds form the depth of his heart and soul. Thank you so much, Gareth.

  • @nesa2000
    @nesa2000 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Beautifully and articulately spoken. Thank you.

  • @desfrancis2543
    @desfrancis2543 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    At 63 I'm only just Starting the process of accepting that my evangelical Christian upbringing led me to shut down and hide from myself and be overcome by the shame that haunted me all my life.. No more shame is my goal. Thank you so much for sharing xx

  • @leeboriack8054
    @leeboriack8054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Hope he has a life filled with happiness and finds the love of his life!

  • @chnalvr
    @chnalvr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Spot on, 100%! Living openly and authentically will not waste so much human potential that we really need in our world.

  • @wendyshannon789
    @wendyshannon789 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Gareth, your story is powerful and impactful. My nephew came out 15 years ago, and he had the same struggles with his church and Christianity. Thank you for sharing and will be sharing this with my wonderful nephew!

  • @mikevale3620
    @mikevale3620 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Very powerful and uplifting. I'm so pleased you found your path Gareth.

  • @roberthutchens7004
    @roberthutchens7004 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Beautifully chosen words expressing a profound message in just about the most beautiful spoken English I’ve ever heard.

  • @juliancoulden1753
    @juliancoulden1753 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    What a beautiful man.

  • @oliverlondon5246
    @oliverlondon5246 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Incredibly powerful and impactful. Thanks for sharing. No more shame!

  • @stephendavidbailey2743
    @stephendavidbailey2743 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    At age 77, I still have the struggle I had at age 7.

    • @steelcrown7130
      @steelcrown7130 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That is appalling. I was also 7, but it was 1967, so I am a little younger than you. I hope the struggle passes, and peace takes its place. It did eventually with me.

    • @auguststudio2707
      @auguststudio2707 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hmm, I'd love to hear all about your journey.

    • @auguststudio2707
      @auguststudio2707 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hmm, I'd love to hear all about your journey.

    • @Ravisingh-hm2kx
      @Ravisingh-hm2kx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why God has made us ,better I would have died in my young only 😭😭😭😭.

    • @rahil5989
      @rahil5989 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Ravisingh-hm2kxwe can connect, I am from india.

  • @denniscampeau6577
    @denniscampeau6577 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Brilliant young man! Love is always the best answer.

  • @ozfritz69
    @ozfritz69 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you Gareth, for your story, for the pain you experienced growing up. In my case, it was easier to remove myself from the situation (I.e. the church and sadly family as well). As you eloquently state we lived with shame. I will never lose sight of your closing words about self-love, don’t let anyone put you down so one day this shame we endured and unfortunately has left us damaged will be no more and living is living regardless of who you love. Thank you!!!🤗

  • @judesharvin4238
    @judesharvin4238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Illuminating, Intelligent and moving. Gareth, you’re exceptional

  • @roberthernandez4975
    @roberthernandez4975 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    God loves you and does NOT judge you. We are our own worst enemies. God accepts and loves you exactly as you arenas beyond your wildest dreams. People judge not God

  • @nexty2
    @nexty2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you for sharing your story. As someone who has had a similar experience this speaks to me.

  • @carolbell4811
    @carolbell4811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    No, you can't, nor should you. I would accept my child and love him or her.

  • @Brigadier_Beau
    @Brigadier_Beau ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Similar to my own teen years. This breaks my heart. I hate that children still have to live in silent fear, shame. 😢

  • @martiansonmaui1749
    @martiansonmaui1749 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Thank you for sharing your experiences, Gareth. I hope you are finding happiness on your own terms.

  • @franklinshouse8719
    @franklinshouse8719 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Very well said. A great story. The shame you feel is the direct result of religion. Religion poisons everything. Coming out is hard enough, but adding religious shame to it makes it all the more difficult. I hope you can continue down the path you are on, with or without religion. Btw, I'm an MD from the US.

    • @LemarSipes
      @LemarSipes 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well one of the worst religions of the world is Humanism of which you embrace. Human nature is the most vile since it is separation & rebellion from the Creator. It is just as bad as those who believe they are religious yet live as humanists

    • @garymagruder7154
      @garymagruder7154 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My male partner (husband) now in the U.S. have been faithfully together for sixty years . We are now in our eighties. Together forever, EDLOVESGARY

    • @Pk-wu9tl
      @Pk-wu9tl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@garymagruder7154we need people like this ❤

  • @upsupeter
    @upsupeter ปีที่แล้ว +30

    God made you just the way you are.
    There is no shame in that remember this life in not a choice. Your perfect go live your life and be happy. ❤

    • @LemarSipes
      @LemarSipes 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is true. God mage me a pyrimaniac, I love to burn things down. I was born this way, always loved matches as a kid then explosives. I go to church and feel no guilt, I didn't choose to be this way

    • @ludovicleprinceroyal8721
      @ludovicleprinceroyal8721 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@LemarSipes proud of you....as long as you're not Irish

  • @xzavierhamlet265
    @xzavierhamlet265 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Thank you for the beautiful message and story ❤️

  • @GrotrianSeiler
    @GrotrianSeiler 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    People don’t understand it’s not a choice. Just like it’s not a choice to be straight. Someday maybe this won’t be an issue.

  • @dbona4445
    @dbona4445 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Love Yourself. That says it all. Just love yourself.

  • @charlesjohnston1506
    @charlesjohnston1506 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for your beautiful testimony. I hope you will share again.

  • @YananoBere
    @YananoBere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    This is so beautiful and illuminating ❤️

  • @chuckvaughn
    @chuckvaughn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I'm sorry you had this path to travel. I hope you are doing well today. God loves you.
    Exudes international hurt too many.
    Hugs to you.

  • @thestickgatherer
    @thestickgatherer ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Wow! Incredibly powerful. Relatable. Thank you for sharing. Very appreciated.

  • @crisvelundertale2159
    @crisvelundertale2159 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    i really like the musicality of his voice

  • @MiKe_Az2
    @MiKe_Az2 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Accepting ourselves is the best way to live fulfulling life!❤
    I hope your message reaches to every person out there 🙏

  • @marknewport8151
    @marknewport8151 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The word "Homosexuality" was NOT in the Bible until 1946. It was an "Editorial Decision". Consider the hatred that that "Editorial Decision" has fed and the lives destroyed. The Bible is NOT inerrant, but a highly edited and modified collection of books (some discarded from the collection when they didn't fit the chosen narrative) and stories from "pre-history". "Pre-history" is a period prior to written history. How have those "Pre-history" stories changed when only communicated verbally? Consider the familiar parlor game of "Chain of Whispers". Take ten people and begin with a whisper in one ear to be shared with the next and the next. After only 10 whispers, the message is entirely different. Now take that chain of whispers and multiply its repetition over years and generations. Hate is a terrible thing and hurts millions of people, yet there is nothing more satisfying to the righteous than to Hate in the name of God.

    • @jakejackson8238
      @jakejackson8238 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      They so enjoy putting on that ghastly, fools-no one grin as they express their “love and concern “.

  • @lesperonis1146
    @lesperonis1146 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Well done Gareth ! You spoke the truth from your "Heart" ❤ not the interlect from the head ! Thank you for sharing this with world ,I can only imagine the massive amount of people that you have helped by telling this spiritual truth. 🙂👏

  • @roysmallian2889
    @roysmallian2889 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What a Wonderfully spoken understanding of his life condition. He speaks poetry.

  • @shaunkilpatrick2113
    @shaunkilpatrick2113 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you! ♥May we all live in love ♥

  • @gmcm7432
    @gmcm7432 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Proud of you for this, Gareth

  • @FinianSeaberg
    @FinianSeaberg ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you so much for sharing that! As a side note, I have always loved the Irish accent and I could listen to you talk all day!

  • @sweetbb125
    @sweetbb125 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for telling your story, it could easily have been me talking for the most part. It is a more universal story than what society would like to believe or admit.

  • @selispeks
    @selispeks ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My exact thought after finishing this: "That was beautiful. Thank you ❤" I couldn't say more. Just so beautiful. Thank you ❤

  • @tolstoy431
    @tolstoy431 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Indeed beautiful spoken...NO more shame....you of all people should be Happy....because you struggled far to long....I hope you will find Your Man as soon as possible....Let your SOULS be Free FINALLY....And DON,T let anyone Hurt your PRECIOUS SOUL AGAIN.....EVER....❤❤❤

  • @cantstopthefeed
    @cantstopthefeed ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Awesome talk man!

  • @johndurham1633
    @johndurham1633 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for shining light & hope

  • @alanthompson9871
    @alanthompson9871 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you so much for your words. I am grateful for them and I know they will help many (including those of us who have already gone through what you have)

  • @dennissmallwood9082
    @dennissmallwood9082 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You have a beautiful story. I hope you are happy and loved.

  • @gsxrcharlie
    @gsxrcharlie 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story and powerful message. I also grew up in a N Irish evangelical church and could identify with everything you said. Thankfully, I eventually saw the light and freed myself of the shackles of their loveless dogma and judgement. Keep living in the light Gareth, the light that is you and your kindness to yourself and to those around you.

  • @tenorchazz4274
    @tenorchazz4274 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    BEAUTIFUL!!! 🙏🏾👏🏾

  • @johnpresley4108
    @johnpresley4108 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love you so much man, my lifes been a lot like that mate, thank you for your story/sharing

  • @cainen6355
    @cainen6355 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Intense, with a very inspiring and uplifting conclusion.

  • @johnpresley4108
    @johnpresley4108 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You seem like such a good dude, wish you were my friend. Cheers from the Us, Oklahoma City to be exact. Hof bless you for your courage man. Seem like a wonderful dude.👍❤️

  • @billligon4005
    @billligon4005 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are so well spoken, your talents lie in teaching/writing/acting and YES loving someone special. It all gets better - much better just you wait in see.

  • @davidolien2828
    @davidolien2828 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You are an incredibly gifted human being

  • @danielwilda8167
    @danielwilda8167 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    What a brave beautiful strong MAN you are! Best wishes for a joyful life and t freedom from shame that is yours to enjoy who you were created by God to be! Much love to you my Brother 🌈👍🙋‍♂️⭐️💪🏳️‍🌈💜🇺🇸✝️❤️

  • @philiplovings9810
    @philiplovings9810 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    People NEED TO REALIZE that NOT ALL PRIZES WON are MADE OF GOLD ( etc ) !

  • @blinkburrito7101
    @blinkburrito7101 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    resonated so deeply to his story

  • @sandrew255
    @sandrew255 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just fantastic. I’m in awe of you. ❤

  • @ralphwortley1206
    @ralphwortley1206 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your presentation and your bravery in showing your face to the whole of the world.

  • @mnarmstrongii
    @mnarmstrongii 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I love and respect you, my friend ❤

  • @JosephSgroi
    @JosephSgroi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    That someone should go through this journey of shame is the real son. I was raised Roman Catholic and as soon as as I was 18 and went off to college I turned by back on all the nonsense of the church and all religions, as they are all cults. You can be an evolved human without all their manipulative nonsense.

  • @davidjaslow6458
    @davidjaslow6458 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    A breathtaking presentation. You are amazing. You would be a perfect partner for some lucky guy. Dave

  • @jakebe4915
    @jakebe4915 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Find your own God and find your true SELF....You will be happy at the end, trust me. BRAVO PRESENTATION.

  • @arthurcoomes2942
    @arthurcoomes2942 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wonderful and a remembrance of of sad youth. Yet, uplifting. calm firm and loving STRENGTH

  • @袁雷-i1d
    @袁雷-i1d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I like this handsome cute boy, and I hope I have a boyfriend like him❤

  • @tuneaddicted
    @tuneaddicted 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Gorgeous man. So brave too

  • @DaRyteJuan
    @DaRyteJuan ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Learn to meditate and you will discover you stop seeking love and approval from the outside. Love yourself first to set the example. Shame is self-generated.

  • @randywatts6969
    @randywatts6969 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    None of us chose it!

  • @PeBoVision
    @PeBoVision 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    By the teachings of your own faith, you are exactly as god wished you to be.

  • @auguststudio2707
    @auguststudio2707 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you!

  • @bonsaijimmy
    @bonsaijimmy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I applaud your courage , sympathise with your trauma & congratulate you for being true to yourself. If you were born in Southern Ireland , you will be Catholic. If you were born in Thailand you most probably be Buddhist. I don't believe that you have to be baptised a Christian to go to Heaven. Pope Francisdeclared recently" Homosexuality is NOT a crime". If you were born in Uganda or Zimbabwe, you will be jailed or killed. God loves me & you too !

  • @alexandreweber1024
    @alexandreweber1024 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    God bless you man ❤

  • @rickgelb2213
    @rickgelb2213 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This man is amazing ❤😊😊😊❤

  • @David-xm3ph
    @David-xm3ph 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First off, you must know that in your faith belief, that God is the creator of life. He created you the way you are. And God is described as perfection. Therefore, the way you are is perfection. Believe in your purity and authentic self and embrace those ideals. Love is love and whom you love is ideal.

  • @erhardhauth1487
    @erhardhauth1487 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank`s !
    You are beautyfull.......inside and outside !
    Greetings from Germany !

  • @brittneyhaggerty762
    @brittneyhaggerty762 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @geronarhu3107
    @geronarhu3107 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    bless your heart

  • @lorenzobianchini4415
    @lorenzobianchini4415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very well said ❤

  • @alasdairmacmillan5359
    @alasdairmacmillan5359 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Bravo

  • @draconiancomments
    @draconiancomments ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This!! ❤❤❤

  • @David-ho6mu
    @David-ho6mu 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Silence serves no one. ☝️ very true. We have to be “out” …. And they ask why we still need Pride…

  • @campbelllloyd6520
    @campbelllloyd6520 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Well done you.

  • @noopinionslikeswitzerland6966
    @noopinionslikeswitzerland6966 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I love the Scottish accent, as an American. Such a beautiful voice.

    • @edheal3246
      @edheal3246 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It is an Irish accent BTW

    • @PS-ru2ov
      @PS-ru2ov 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@edheal3246 its Northern Irish

    • @harrycoplin8414
      @harrycoplin8414 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      PLSSSSSS😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @wardenblack9734
      @wardenblack9734 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      He is not Scottish! He tells us that he comes from Northern Ireland.

    • @robertcaley2671
      @robertcaley2671 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The accent is Northern Irish, actually

  • @BERTONI704
    @BERTONI704 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Fantastico
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @psychiatristsarecriminals332
    @psychiatristsarecriminals332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The idea is to get you to get rid of yourself so straight alpha chad had more room. Get to getting.

  • @Spinksreptiles
    @Spinksreptiles 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You can shame them into being heart broken and pretend there less them… like me… I think I’ll die alone

  • @BERTONI704
    @BERTONI704 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are so nice man so beautiful ❤❤❤
    Un hombre hermoso 😍😍💖

  • @brucass93
    @brucass93 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    💙

  • @willembissett7223
    @willembissett7223 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    🙏

  • @truthhurts986
    @truthhurts986 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Is he still single?

  • @corgiowner436
    @corgiowner436 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for sharing your very poignant story.

  • @mattmas32
    @mattmas32 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @samuelgalea7679
    @samuelgalea7679 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😔

  • @rajaknowles2287
    @rajaknowles2287 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Deny your self take up your cross and follow me. JESUS
    JESUS BORE YOUR SHAME.
    adultery, fornication, are also sins.
    Dont try to justify sin or expect people to validate it.
    Confess and ask Hod to free you.
    Jesus came to set the captives free not to endorse bondage.
    He who trust in himself is a.fool.
    The road to life is.Narrow.
    Stop blaming christians
    Read the bible.
    GODS WORD

  • @coolfix948
    @coolfix948 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ನನ್ನಿಗಳು ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ ದಿಂದ

    • @markreid9499
      @markreid9499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awesome. So uplifting

    • @markreid9499
      @markreid9499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awesome...so uplifting

    • @coolfix948
      @coolfix948 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Alexander thanks , from Karnataka

  • @andrewaway
    @andrewaway 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤❤