I went back to it after 2 years, the guilt almost killed me.. then a voice inside me said.. you beat the habit for two years.. you can do it again.. I set myself a new goal, I am clean going 6 years. You can do it. We got this.
I been in this addiction for 3 years, I’m tired of it I have gotten better though I use to do it almost every day now for the past year I been doing it every 1-2 weeks. But I still have not quit it’s so hard I’m trying my best, today is day 1 for me on a new journey to quit this addiction once and for all.
@@epicfighter7653 hey there buddy. I know it can be hard but i want you to know that its possible. You have to really want it. Just like everything else. Take it from me. I was addicted since i was 12. Im almost 29 now but gosh... so much shame it brought. Dont live life in regret. Take that from me. Break the chains and be in control of your life. It will make you soo proud. It sounds corny, but trust me it will defy you as a human at my age. You dont wanna drag shame with you. It will eat you alive.
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body. Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers. Take care brothers
It’s especially amazing to see people supporting, and being a kind to each other no matter who the other person is. And with there being so much hate, and sin, and shame, and regrets in the world; we need to support each other. In places such as addiction support is such an important thing. Because if you don’t have that support from other or the reassurance from others you can’t accomplish any form of sobriety. So I would 100% agree that they have passes the vibe check. And I pray that we can learn to see more of these sorts of comment sections all over SM.
@@andreas3850 unnatural if that no longer is a part of your life but your life is a part of that small pleasure. Orgasm should be enjoyed- nothing more than that. Addiction is bad cause it hinders your decisions and by the time you realise this you've already lost a lot of time
It’s strange that subliminal affirmations for overcoming addiction aren't more popular on Borlest. It just goes to show how many are stuck in a cycle, not realizing the transformative potential they’re ignoring.
Been clean for months, just keep yourself busy and find a purpose or cause that keeps you going. Make friends. Loneliness and sadness make you addicted, just like it does for any other drug.
but being with friends can become like an addiction too? not everyone can surround themselves with friends all the time as in most of the time. besides i don't think replacing your addiction with 'being with friends' is a good idea.... just imo.
What makes this addiction so crippling is how lonely it makes me feel. It's difficult to openly talk about it because the guilt and shame is just too overwhelming.
Yeah.. 4 years in, 3 years trying to quit and no progress. 18 and never even had a girlfriend yet, im scared. I think it’s the reason im depressed too. I wish I had the gut to talk about it
Let me give you simple, definitely not easy, advice: talk to someone, maybe psychologist. And you'll find that it's becoming easier to openly talk about it and ask for help and advice. Hope you'll find person that will help you through this
Little did 10 year old me hiding under the covers watching that filth out curiousity for the first time know that i would be igniting the flame that would destroy me for the next 10 years of my life...
1. Uninstall Instagram 2. Work out everyday for atleast 15 minutes 3. Keep yourself busy ( You can work out as long as you want. This 15 minutes is the least you could do.)
@@benjaminfranklin4760 push ups, pull ups, crunches, squats and jumping jack doesn't require any machines. Yours response is just another excuse for yourself of not doing it.
I can confidently say that I am in one of the darkest points of my life. And its been that way for a very long time. Your talk gives me so much strength, eli. Thank you.
Consider this replies section a safe space. People like us have very less of those. I hope we can be there for you like most of us want someone to be there for us.
Thanks for sharing your struggle. Remember what Eli said: Don't allow shame to cause you to hide. Talk to someone. Seek help. The moment you do, the shame will start weakening and giving way to healing.
許祐群 while you were addicted did you loose body weight significantly compared to when you never masturbated ????? Cause iam loosing a lot of weight and my bone joints are getting weaker ????? So I have decided to stop
You can sense the nervousness in his voice. I'm sure over 80% of people especially young men may be suffering from this, but its like a shameful thing that not everyone has the courage to talk about. Thank you man.
I appreciate him coming up to speak on this. I’m having trouble with it too. I’m 21 and I just want to quit. It’s been altering the way I look at people and it’s legitimately disturbing me.
Hey, my best friend told me today he is addicted of it... And I want to help him. Can you recommend me any books you read about it or other information which could be helpful? Thank you very much"
I know what you mean at looking at people differently. Same thing happened to me. Good news is that after being clean for a while, those thoughts started tapering off and I feel free from that disturbing point of view. It's a very liberating feeling. Best of luck, my friend!
It’s been 1 month! How are you doing? Remember, we’re human. We will fail. It is inevitable. But how we respond to our failures is what matters. If today is day 0 again, get back up, fight harder, and seek help. God Bless
@Crumbs & Cookies o man thank you for this message I needed it. I have failed once again and once again day 0 but I will continue to keep fighting. Blessings
If you fail, don’t let the shame lead you back into it. Realize that everyone fails at some point. “It’s not about how many times you fall down, but how many times you get back up” -Abraham Lincoln
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body. Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers. Take care brothers
@@bestrong1854 Do you realize how many atheists have this problem as well? Someone reads your comments and thinks "oh so this is just some Christian thing cause they're afraid of sin
I just can’t believe it’s not a recognized addiction or psychological problem even. It’s sad to hear it be so invalidated. But props to this man for speaking up & sharing his story.
I feel disgusted with myself most times after I do it. Sometimes it isn't even as satisfying as I want it to be. But still I continue on and keep doing it.
I am astounded by Eli's courage. To face the eyes of judgement from your peers, friends and family! I cannot imagine a worse thing to admit to. This is a real man. Fullest respect Eli!
I actually cried listening to this tedtalk. I've always been ashamed of my struggle with this. I realized only today that it was an addiction. I never talked about it with anybody because of shame. Especially since I'm a woman. And I'm known by people around me as a religious woman. I personally haven't met anyone who was a girl and admitted to struggling with this like me. I'm 21 now and I've been hooked on this since I was 10. Its so validating and comforting to have someone speak out about the struggle with this and the desire to end it.
hi, you're not alone. I sobbed watching this. I'm a woman who struggles with this and am also religious. just wanted you to know you are definitely not the only woman that struggles with this, let alone religious woman, but I know how isolating and shameful it can feel ❤️
I am hugely religious too and constantly battling this. Constant relapses make you feel horrible and guilty. Bottom line is always keep trying, never give up. You are not worth any less because of these mistakes. You are not any less religious or spiritual because of it either.
@@williamverdine5294 Thank you for the encouragement! Relapses are the worst. When you feel like you were already doing great for so long then fall right back into it. I hope we break free completely! God bless you! :))
@@BethThereseReacts tell all this situation to your parents . Believe me I try this and talked about this to my parents and now I fell very much comfortable.
Well, he probably told her about it years ago. Come on, you can't keep something so big from someone you care about. I told my girlfriend(well, later turned out to be ex) about it like 5-6 months in our relationship. She was very supportive.
I’m a addict too. A majority of addicts are men so when people here it coming from a woman they really look down on me. It’s aggravating to hear just stop watching it. It’s definitely not that easy. I’m proud of you for standing up and saying it. I needed this video as a support because I don’t have anyone to talk to and hearing this today made me feel like I was finally with someone who understands.
I remember watching this video a homeless man in New York a year ago. Seeing this brought tears to my eyes as how much better my life is now and this video is still here. Never give up in life. No condition is permanent
It's because it's wrong and we all know it. Our nature tells us when things aren't good, which is why almost everyone will universally agree murder is wrong.
Seeing how many teenagers and even kids as young as 13 are trying to escape this addiction just breaks my heart. My message to you is: keep fighting it no matter how hard it is, no matter how many times you will fail. With every fail to quit it you will understand how strong your addiction is and you will get more and more scared to realize how it is taking control over your life. I encourage you to read my whole comment. I have an example of a man I knew a while ago. He had struggled with alcohol addiction for decades, this addiction took everything from him: he lost his job, his wife left him, he was carried out by friends every night dead drunk till no one would do that anymore and he would just lay on the street with vomit and pee on his pants. He lost his reputation, his self-esteem, literally everything. I don't know what his revelation was because I met him as a church cantor. But from the moment I saw him singing a chant named "Forgive me, Father" I knew this was a converted man. I never saw someone displaying so much repent on their faces. And every single time he was singing this chant, he had the same expression and tears in his eyes. The most profound sorrow one could ever imagine. I asked my grandma what his story was and she told me that he used to be that heavy drinker that everyone would despise. After a couple of years I had the chance to sit at the same table with him. Everyone was drinking wine, but he alone was drinking water. I knew his story, but I pretended I didn't. I guess it was just curiosity to see if he would confess his old addiction, how he sees that now etc. So I asked him just like nothing: "But aren't you up for a glass of wine, sir?" He looked at me with a look that I will never forget. It was a mix of profound sorrow and determination, then he looked at my glass of wine as detached as we could look at something that doesn't belong to our world anymore and told me with a firm voice: "That was my biggest enemy for years. I will never surrender to my enemy again. I am the happiest man on Earth that I can have this glass of water today here, Miss." And that moment I understood something that I will always use to fight my own addictions and to help others fight with theirs: you will never overcome your addiction until you look at it as an ENEMY. A monstrous, hideous enemy right there, in front of you. As long as you will play it soft, you won't be able to escape it. Unless you are not really an addict and doesn't take a lot of effort to quit. If that man who was so low and completely owned by his addiction could escape it, I think everyone can. It doesn't have to be this extreme like in the case I presented to destroy your life. The thing with addictions is that you don't know how bad and how fast can it evolve and control you without you even realizing it. The sooner you can get rid of it, the easier will be your fight. And although everyone needs encouragement on their path on quitting, please remember that until the moment when you reach absolute and complete detachment from your addiction, your fight didn't end. Your enemy is still there, hidden, waiting for you to be vulnerable....waiting for you to fall again. KEEP FIGHTING!
The last part got me, I myself thought I beat it but after 3 months of clear mind I gave in it started with 1 video and not fapping then here I am now trying to find ways again and u just gave me the key to this whole puzzle. This addiction is my ENEMY.
Just now I understand why I'm such a miserable person. I'm 18 and I'm not diagnosed with anything but I feel anxiety a lot, I am very shy and anti social unless it's my closest friends or family. I get angry so much every single day. I always lash out at my girlfriend verbally. I really don't like myself. I really want to be happy. I am happy throughout the day at some points but.... I'm not happy. I can't find any motivation within myself. I feel dull. I'm unhealthy, I stopped working out and dieting last year. I always feel tired and weak. This isn't a life to live. I want to get better. I want to improve in every way and find my own definition of success. Please pray for me. I hope that anyone else that's struggling like me eventually finds a way out. Stay strong, this addiction is a killer. We have to kill it.
God bless you and help you in this situation. Whenever you feel empty, pray to Jesus and try to be in close with him. He will help you in your struggle. And when the struggle is over. And you are happy again, don't forget Jesus help you.
I am 19 years old, a guy. I stand with you. You’re not alone in this. We’ll beat it together. I believe in you, and although I barely know you, I care about you. I truly want you to succeed and overcome this.
In the 7 years of my addiction, the most I ever went without self pleasure was 10 days and that's cause I was in a summer camp and I was really busy all the time. Guess we just have to keep busy. I'll be really glad if I break my record and although it's a really short amount of time I'll still feel good and more capable
Been addicted since 9 and I’m 25 years old now! I’m going to break this curse. There’s no full happiness that comes from it , psychologically not physically, and important relationships are at risk. Happy lifestyle is at risk I hope everyone stays strong and gets through this dark cloud!
Please pray for me I’m a Christian and this is something I’ve been struggling with for the past few years and ik this sin is the one that’s keeping me from really furthering my relationship from God.
I prayed for you! Remember who you are in Christ !you are not your actions you are a new creation in Christ Jesus! And also seek out someone you can trust to talk about it, like a counselor.. we are not to walk through our struggles alone but with one another!
I'm at my 39 day. For many days I had the feeling of being overwhelmed by the urge to look again ... Now, the weight and the desire to look have diminished, but the mind begins to tell me that I can look again and stop anytime, but I keep following ignoring my mind. To you, who are also trying to get over it, I say, YOU WILL WIN! BE STRONG!
If only i could tell you how much you just did for me! You help, therefore you are truly achieved. I promise to spread this idea where I find it fitting. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
@@liguania sometimes a short walk isn’t enough, a good workout and a good sweat will literally get you high and help retire the brain quicker. Prepare the mind as well and watch people like Les Brown or David Goggins, or shoot I grew up watching the terminator and now I watch Arnold videos for motivation. Light the fire within and keep trying, win every battle you can!! Hope this helps Anna
@@liguania But the Scriptures declare that we are all prisoners of sin, so we receive God’s promise of freedom only by believing in Jesus Christ. Galatians 3:22-23
I was an addict since the age 11 for years, but by the power of God I have been sober for about 8 years. Many times I have come close to falling back in because of lies of just “I will just look for a minute, or I am just curious about something” But there is no freer feeling being able to sit at a computer and get some work done without crushing guilt and fear that you will do something you hate doing. That freedom is out there guys.
I completed 117 days of nofap and I continue nofap and now it doesn’t feel like a challenge it’s just the way I live now and I never look back, best decision I ever made was giving up PMO
Kunta Kinte whenever I got an urge I kept on repeating myself saying “addiction sadness” over and over until the urge went away but everyone has their different strategies that was just my way to get over urges, the urges went away after day 30
I wish you luck bro find something to make yourself exhausted and busy ,please support me l made a video QAND A :boys vs girls buy laptops check out the channel for some cool videos do not forget to subscribe
twice a day isn't even bad bro lol, it's not really that unhealthy. I think a lot of people are wrongly classifying themselves as "addicted" because it's come up that this is an addiction now.
Phil Johnson You can kick it, man!!! I’m with you and I lapse every single day but we’ve got to keep the fire burning. We can kick it!!!! It might take us longer than others but we will get there.
I am now 1 year and 1 month free from this horrible addiction and I have never been happier it was a years fight and i fell more than 50 times but i kept on getting up. Dont give up. Ill be praying for all people who suffer from this.
“My story is not only something not to be ashamed of; it might just be something to be proud of.” I’ve recently realized this truth in my struggle with a serious mental health condition, and it has changed my life. I used to be ashamed of who I am, how much help I need, and how much downtime I need. Now I feel like it is the story that makes me a man, and that I should live my life without a thought in my head about what others might think about it. Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. Heroes who rarely receive the credit they earn every single day. Thank you for stepping out of the darkness and sharing the most vulnerable part of you. You say it is the way to start healing and you are absolutely right 🙏🏻
Fibromyalgia Warrior here, and this just puts a pep in my step. " Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. " God bless you for saying that.
@It’z Velly I do. It takes a change of mindset. You have to fill your time with other positive things instead of hanging around in your room, where most of us know we’re prone to engage in that. For example, read books/ the Bible, pray, go to the gym/ for a run, etc. to fill your time with something positive in order to REPLACE the bad habit with good habits.
@It’z Velly It’s not enough to just resist it. It has to be replaced with something else so the time you have to engage in it lessens. I’m praying for you 🙏🏻
The anxiety and depression are fueled entirely by feelings of shame and guilt because our culture tells us masturbation is wrong, when there's nothing inherently wrong with it.
@@clubpenguinrockie No one uses it in moderation though. More guys are addicted than not, at this point. With something that addictive, the negatives outweigh the benefits. It's just too dangerous
@@delaware12pwner Jesus said you must be born again to enter God's Kingdom, born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism). this will show you why, do you remember the encounter between Jesus and the rich young ruler?
@@delaware12pwner ok, stay with me for this will show you why you must be born again as Jesus said. the rich young ruler asked Jesus, good Master what shall i do to inherit eternal life? how would you answer that question?
Not only I wish I would have never seen it, I wish it never even existed. Everyone thinks it's a joke, but they don't know of how much damage it is capable of. I'm 19 years old and I've tried several times to quit, but I failed every single time. I really hope we all find the strength to scape this horrible addiction we are trapped in. It's good to know that I'm not the only one struggling with this.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes i wonder how many religions are preaching this specific thing. does it vary among different religions or does it boil down to the same thing?
Clicked this video in a desperate attempt to escape this rotten habit. I WANT TO STOP. I NEED TO STOP. Not only for myself, but for my future spouse as well. I CANNOT let this continue any longer.
stay strong bro, we'll all get out of it eventually! a tip i can give is that you should not have your phone near your bed when you go to sleep, and to be near people when you're not doing anything so you aren't doing it! also exercise when you're bored!
Easypeasy method, search it on Google and read the whole book or SAA (12 step groups, yes many prn addicts are members of 12 step fellowships). Message me here if u want more help,I know being in that cycle, I was addicted too but after SA and Easypeasy I am free now and want to help people.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
The moment I couldn’t get “ready” for a woman who was a knockout 10/10, I knew I had a serious problem. This addiction is as destructive to your daily life and relationships just as any other one is.
I deeply relate to this, it happened to me. The worst part is that the fact that it made it more difficult to be intimate with a girl lead me to stop even trying to get to that situation because I have this feeling that I wouldn’t be able to
It is a embarrassing addiction it’s not as cool of a overcome as drug or alcohol most will joke and say I wish I had that addiction or look at u in disgust.
Day 5 bois, wish me luck Edit: I relapsed in 2020 , stopped beating my junk after Christmas , haven’t relapsed ever since which is one of my goals for 21’
This was powerful and I admire his courage but honestly reading these comments is even better. I've struggled with this since I was 14, now i'm in my early 30s and married and I still fight it. Been free from this demon for roughly 4 months now. Take it day by day. Stay the course all, we can do this by the strength, grace and peace of God. STAY STRONG BROTHERS & SISTERS
I'm 14 now fighting it, I've been watching since I was around 10, but I wasn't addicted till I was 13. The genres are the worst thing about it, I can waste hours and hours trying to find the ''right'' video, and the disgust I have when I look in the mirror with my new post nut clarity and old promise to stop watching it, it's horrible. I can't tell anyone about, I don't eat healthy, I don't exercise, I can't sleep anymore, I feel like Christian Bale in the Machinist. Sorry for ranting.
I started when I was 14, I’m 22 now and all I feel is this dark cloud of shame on my back eating me. I’m too scared to ask for help, and it feels like I’m repeating the same thing everyday. Especially because of the pandemic. I wish the best of luck for all of you, day 1 here we go!
when you go to bed put your phone away from your reach, so you aren't tempted. when bored go exercise. if possible spend most of you time near other people.
Oh my God! When you said "share" I instantly realized what I have never done in my entire life including with my wife of 33 and 1/2 years. Share. I've never shared anything with anybody. Thank you Eli for sharing your story with us.
@@StFelly Some people are ashamed to speak about it because they wouldn't want their family or friends to see them that way or maybe they live in a religious household. For me, it was both. Even though you're not alone, you still think people will view you as some type of horrible monster.
@@PracticalProblems in theory, youtube recommends videos based off what you watch. If this is in your recommend, youtube might be telling you something
For the sake of this video and you all I want to confess that I struggle with my lustful desires every single day too. Sometimes it feels like every single moment and I want to stop. I have faith that I can overcome this dilemma because some of you guys have. And yes it is tough. Almost insanely difficult but I will find strength in my God because he is with me.
Mgtow Psycho as a follower of Christ I’d say because it’s sinful, I feel so disgusted with myself because of how much I enjoy it. It’s like someone eating nothing but fast food, deserts and sweets, sure it’s tastes good and is enjoyable but not healthy at all to live a lifestyle like that
I've been an addict for almost 11 years. I've been suffering from it for so long, and it escalated greatly. The thing I hate the most is the desensitization of it, and you begin viewing things you despise yet the shock factor helps you get off. I put my life in danger several times to try to get laid as a teenager, and my behavior got so out of control. I'm 22 and still an addict, but I'm working hard to fight this, and do social activities every day. To all my fellow people who suffer from this, you got this. You're not alone.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes Your support is much appreciated. I'm not interested in converting to religion, and I never will be. But I will no doubt beat my addiction and treat myself with love and kindness. For me, myself, my family and friends is all I need. Be well friend.
There aren’t many options in regards to breaking the addiction. The urge is just too strong. But instead of viewing it as a long shot, just take it one day at a time. It may take years since it took years to develop the addiction in the first place. But if you NEVER give up the fight, you’ll get further than most.
Everything he said resonated with me. I’ve been struggling in silence for my entire life since getting introduced to it as a kid. I hide it from everyone, and carry so much shame. Tried quitting a thousand times, and have failed. I feel trapped and alone. It’s destroyed intimacy in every relationship. Too embarrassed to share it with my therapist. Too scared to attend a support group. I feel like a complete fraud. Please pray for me.
Listen man, you can do it! I know it seems impossible, but it will happen. Maybe start learning about God. I’m beginning to make a schedule. Every two hours I have to watch a video about addiction. This will remind me to not watch it. God bless you.
Addicted over 20 years. I haven't watched for almost two weeks. I know this road will be very difficult and that I will have moments where I will probably fall off the wagon but I need to mitigate the problem the best way I can.
I wish you strength and willpower to overcome your bad habit. Use great ideas to build yourself into a man of strength and character, a man of your word, skilful and with a purpose that serves the ones around you as well. If you enjoy ideas about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
I thank him for sharing his story. God bless him for having the courage and desire to help others. I could tell that it wasn’t easy and I will be sharing it to help others.
Recently realized I'm truly addicted, and an additional layer of stress has been added to my daily life. It's a psychological disorder, it's equally as bad for women and for men. Be strong my girls, let's try to not escape reality any longer.
@@Vishwesh2 a couple times a week, but for several hours at once. what makes me worry is that I use it as a mental escape from stressful situations, I do it to ignore bad things happening in my life, and I end up feeling guilty and still having to face my issues. It's just not a healthy thing anymore.
@@Vishwesh2 the thing is, mate, that you cant help in these things over the internet. I think addiction takes a change in the person themself to be fixed.
To everyone that doesn't see this as the problem it is .. I knew that it was bad and that I was addicted, but never really gave my all to fight it, or look for help or talked about it. And finally, it took losing the love of my life for me to finally seek help. To late to save my relationship. The damage is done. But not to late to get over this addiction once and for all. Stay strong
Exactly at a somewhat similar situation,i ended a dead relationship of 4 years,she said that she was feeling alone in this relationship and the major problem was that i was always thirsty for sex,i did not care for her other needs.
On my 60th day of nofap journey .! Self-esteem has been increased .! I don't need reasons for being happy I smile often I can sleep well No anxiety No depression or depression related thought even .! Focus developed .! More power to you my friends across the world .!
It affected everything. I almost lost the love of my life because of it... I've been a week and a day sober, and man I do feel a difference. If anyone is watching this, stay strong. I believe in you
Thanks man it Rob's of of everything for me my drive time with my family makes me not happy with my GF like I normally am takes your inner peace gives anxiety just think bout your girl and what u really want from life I will do the same when I feel like watching it
@@lavarball7538 hey there man man. I'm doing really well. I'm proud to say that even though I did replase a couple times, I am so proud to say it's been almost 4months says I've done it. I feel so much better and my relationship with my girlfriend has improved dramatically, how about yourself?
I cried. And cried....and then cried some more I am so done! I will share and use my shame to heal myself and others. Thank you for your courage! Thank you for being a part of my awakening!
And cry always when you feel like it. We have that masochistic culture trait of condemning crying as a sign of weakness, while in truth it is the most empowering, strengheting and puryfying act on earth. Its when the soul makes up with itself.
Richie Saul Hey man I hope everything’s going well. Just personal advice but here’s what I’d do, find something you enjoy doing. whether it’s fitness, martial arts, learning an instrument, you name it, doesn’t matter what. if you’re having trouble, make a schedule, use google calendar. Make a day you want, not a forceful plan but you also want to put in responsibility obviously. But yeah, that’s what has been helping me out. I once heard someone say the fundamental concepts in life everyone should strive for are Family Friends Career Plans outside work Physical well-being People that have NONE will live a life filled with unbearable suffering
I wish you luck bro find something to make yourself exhausted and busy ,please support me l made a video QAND A :boys vs girls buy laptops check out the channel for some cool videos do not forget to subscribe
Eli, thanks for sharing your story, I am clean for 3 months now. I have also been sharing my story since then with the people around me. It is a big problem that is greatly overseen in our western societies. Sharing is not easy, but it truly does move us into healing and really connecting with people.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes I recommend not bringing any particular religion into it. As people have differing beliefs and it can kinda contradict others and cause even more stress. im muslim. I am revert albeit, once christian.
You never really know you’re addicted until you try to quit...
You're right!
Deadhead89 Amen
@Mgtow Psycho you need to eat it's not addictive unless you eat more than you need
@@daxtrow (the joke)
(your head)
@@bran2355 .... WHAT?
Sometimes I wish I would have never seen it in the first place.
John Fazzio I do all the time
No sometimes brother. Always. Get real.
True
The problem is when you relapse and remember some of the videos you have watched, especially the ones you liked most.
Sometimes i wish humans didn't exist
The worst thing about this addiction is that most suffer alone and in silence, most often unknowingly.
Yeah exactly like me basically
And me
Same with me
It’s true.
It's rough when your caught doing it
I would like to acknowlege the bravery and courage of this man standing in front of a group of strangers and talked about his addition publicly.
Bricked up listening to your comment ngl
@Zesty Nathaniel B Cousin, listening??
@@severetiredamage6754 damn bruh I got text to speech what's wrong with it question mark
I also struggle with addition 😢
@@storming. I struggle with subtraction sadly
I went back to it after 2 years, the guilt almost killed me.. then a voice inside me said.. you beat the habit for two years.. you can do it again.. I set myself a new goal, I am clean going 6 years. You can do it. We got this.
Amen! I hope to do the same. Thanks for your testimony.
@@madethisaccounttocommentlo8498 Pray.
@@madethisaccounttocommentlo8498 Praying for you, king. Ave Maria!
sorry about your relapse. In the last few years, I went 9 months and 5 months without using or playing with myself. Relapses are tough.
@@Ether-pb5gb You did great. You can do it again. We can lose wars, let's be focused on the battle. No one is perfect.
I think the biggest problem is easy access.
tfw ur an artist and no form of governamental intervention can stop u
Thats true I had a wet dream does that mean I broke it ?
No wet dreams don’t count you still have your streak
Daniel Dahlhausen thanks for replying appreciate it :)
boyd nicol Osama*** 😬
Lot of people don’t accept its an addiction.
Leads to:
1. Low Self Confidence.
2. Anxiety, Depression.
3. Irritation.
Thanks for Spreading Awareness.
But surely it is personal. Not all people who watch photography have negative feelings.
It's an escape from no.2, it's sad when you don't fit in.
That's because it isn't 🤷
@@yacovlevi Depends how much you are doing it and how much you do to improve your good habits!
@@kubauhlir1730 it is
A week clean here. Prayers to all of you struggling with this. We can kick this habit!
go strong dude
How's it going
Yes we can!!!
I been in this addiction for 3 years, I’m tired of it I have gotten better though I use to do it almost every day now for the past year I been doing it every 1-2 weeks. But I still have not quit it’s so hard I’m trying my best, today is day 1 for me on a new journey to quit this addiction once and for all.
Hope you’re still going strong. But there’s no judgement from anyone that’s on this comment board. Only support.
The fact that this video has over a million views proves that there are so many people out there battling this demon, that nobody talks about.
All people are prone to that no matter men or women, Christian or Muslim, everyone
Or maybe it was recommended by TH-cam? It just popped up for me
Not everyone struggles with it....
Coomer nation
@@davida6146 ok?? And your point is..
Its honestly disturbing how easy it is to access especially as a child.
Yeah I started when I was 7 and im 15 and its gotten worse and its because the phone
@@epicfighter7653 7
@@epicfighter7653 7??!!!
Ya its really hard to eacape
@@epicfighter7653 hey there buddy. I know it can be hard but i want you to know that its possible. You have to really want it. Just like everything else. Take it from me. I was addicted since i was 12. Im almost 29 now but gosh... so much shame it brought. Dont live life in regret. Take that from me. Break the chains and be in control of your life. It will make you soo proud. It sounds corny, but trust me it will defy you as a human at my age. You dont wanna drag shame with you. It will eat you alive.
This guy is one of the bravest person I have ever seen
Truly amazing guy God bless him
Check out videos of Terry Crews.....try being a famous person doing that
This guy has balls
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body.
Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers.
Take care brothers
“When you see the problem but you can’t find the solution, you’re the problem” hits very hard on a lot of levels
It's not a bad addiction it's good
@@DamndDaue no
It’s actually the worst.
@@DamndDaueYou're Wrong, it's actual torture to be attracted to something you KNOW is ruining you
True
I’m 6 months strong and I haven’t felt better. I wish someone would take down those websites for everyone
nice m8 keep going I'm on day 29 today
Hii, could you tell me what the advantages are?
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
I'm on day 3..... my wish Is to never look back. Let us stay strong brothers.
@@mr.stealyourgrill1190 did you cross day 3?
this comment section passes the vibe check. everyone supporting everyone is great to see
I know!! It's so great and gives me so much hope
H O P E
It’s especially amazing to see people supporting, and being a kind to each other no matter who the other person is. And with there being so much hate, and sin, and shame, and regrets in the world; we need to support each other. In places such as addiction support is such an important thing. Because if you don’t have that support from other or the reassurance from others you can’t accomplish any form of sobriety. So I would 100% agree that they have passes the vibe check. And I pray that we can learn to see more of these sorts of comment sections all over SM.
Hopium
Real talk!
Dopamine lasts a moment
Greatness lasts forever
why should we be ashamed for doing what nature intended for us ?what so unnatural about reaching orgasm
Andreas Ras unnatural when you bring yourself to orgasm as a part of your routine
@@andreas3850 unnatural if that no longer is a part of your life but your life is a part of that small pleasure.
Orgasm should be enjoyed- nothing more than that. Addiction is bad cause it hinders your decisions and by the time you realise this you've already lost a lot of time
Dopamine is what pushed human race further.
Don't shame it lol
@@hairyputter5363 Dopamine can be reached by far more than orgasms, and 'nature' intended for those orgasms only to further recreation.
It’s strange that subliminal affirmations for overcoming addiction aren't more popular on Borlest. It just goes to show how many are stuck in a cycle, not realizing the transformative potential they’re ignoring.
Been clean for months, just keep yourself busy and find a purpose or cause that keeps you going. Make friends. Loneliness and sadness make you addicted, just like it does for any other drug.
but being with friends can become like an addiction too? not everyone can surround themselves with friends all the time as in most of the time. besides i don't think replacing your addiction with 'being with friends' is a good idea.... just imo.
It's not a drug, and obsessions/fixations/habitations are not true parallels to chemical addiction.
I HAVE to “take care of business” every night or I can’t sleep. It’s not an addiction it’s a mandatory thing.
@@angelgjr1999 not an addiction if it doesnt mess with your everyday life
yall sleep asf
I’m quitting, starting today.
Thomas Fuell hope you’re doing well man
Me too
I lied to myself why.
How far guys
Me too
Fun fact: if you got this recommended to you, that incognito tab that you used last night did not work
What kind of pussies use incognito mode??? Lol
@@christophersurnname9967 lmao
Lmao!
😂
so was my tor browser :p
What makes this addiction so crippling is how lonely it makes me feel. It's difficult to openly talk about it because the guilt and shame is just too overwhelming.
said a prayer for you. hope you've made progress. how ever often you've fallen, there's always hope.
Yeah.. 4 years in, 3 years trying to quit and no progress. 18 and never even had a girlfriend yet, im scared. I think it’s the reason im depressed too. I wish I had the gut to talk about it
Let me give you simple, definitely not easy, advice: talk to someone, maybe psychologist. And you'll find that it's becoming easier to openly talk about it and ask for help and advice. Hope you'll find person that will help you through this
Shame is the glue in this. I identify completely with your dilemma. Sharing this is the start
Exactly, i wanna quit so bad but im too scared to tell anyone
Little did 10 year old me hiding under the covers watching that filth out curiousity for the first time know that i would be igniting the flame that would destroy me for the next 10 years of my life...
Goddd...ikr😭💔
Same here I've been an addict for over 13 years
Not your fault bro
I am so grateful that I found this video soon enough 1 year of addiction now done
Ruined my mental well-being for the next dozen years . Emotions are rare but scarred and random . Each relapse causes major changes to mentality
After watching this video, I've decided to quit as well.
Wish me luck.
The first week is the hardest
You never know that you’re addicted until you try to quit. I learned that the hard way at 14
🚫Strive 21🚫
Is your way out
It s free
How you holding up mate?
Yeah man how's it going now?
1. Uninstall Instagram
2. Work out everyday for atleast 15 minutes
3. Keep yourself busy
( You can work out as long as you want. This 15 minutes is the least you could do.)
Instagrams deadly
Lol what a 15 min workout lol. That’s how long it takes to rack up a machine and un rack it when finished
@@benjaminfranklin4760 push ups, pull ups, crunches, squats and jumping jack doesn't require any machines. Yours response is just another excuse for yourself of not doing it.
@@peedjar2231 lol I work out 5 days a week buddy. 5’10 190lbs shredded.
@@peedjar2231 plus I wasn’t trying to diss you I was just saying in my opinion
I can confidently say that I am in one of the darkest points of my life. And its been that way for a very long time. Your talk gives me so much strength, eli. Thank you.
It’s gonna be ok man. We are here for you and just remember you are valued and that you, and people like us, are always in my prayers. Be strong
Consider this replies section a safe space. People like us have very less of those. I hope we can be there for you like most of us want someone to be there for us.
Thanks for sharing your struggle. Remember what Eli said: Don't allow shame to cause you to hide. Talk to someone. Seek help. The moment you do, the shame will start weakening and giving way to healing.
Read the book EASY PEASY METHOD
Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried but actually you've been planted.
30+ days nofap and I can honestly say that there is a tremendous change in me. Confidence, Happiness and Calmness, comes back to me altogether.
許祐群 while you were addicted did you loose body weight significantly compared to when you never masturbated ????? Cause iam loosing a lot of weight and my bone joints are getting weaker ????? So I have decided to stop
Nothing wrong with fabbing. If you do it all day everyday then it's a proble.
How do you do it?
@@DerDoenerInMir I started this journey in 2016, it's already 3 years and I've learned a lot of lessons during this.
許祐群 Would you mind talking about what you’ve learned?
You can sense the nervousness in his voice. I'm sure over 80% of people especially young men may be suffering from this, but its like a shameful thing that not everyone has the courage to talk about. Thank you man.
@@crimsonstripes No thanks. Stop spamming for a religion not everybody is part of.
@@pdxcorgidad do you believe in afterlife?
@@ryanflanagan9624 No. No I do not.
@@pdxcorgidad why is that?
@@ryanflanagan9624 Because I don't.
My question: did I ask you for this conversation in a comment section of a video unrelated to religion?
I appreciate him coming up to speak on this. I’m having trouble with it too. I’m 21 and I just want to quit. It’s been altering the way I look at people and it’s legitimately disturbing me.
I will pray for you. May the lord give you will power and strength and fill you with his peace and grace. You can do this. God bless!
Hey, my best friend told me today he is addicted of it... And I want to help him. Can you recommend me any books you read about it or other information which could be helpful? Thank you very much"
No More-me also.
I know what you mean at looking at people differently. Same thing happened to me. Good news is that after being clean for a while, those thoughts started tapering off and I feel free from that disturbing point of view. It's a very liberating feeling. Best of luck, my friend!
Good luck man. Do Nofap.
Day 0 for me. But starting now I will fight my hardest to fight this horrible addiction.
You got this ! You can do this !
@@lupedelacruz957 thanks , ive failed mamy time since u wrote this but im still trying one day a time
Same bro I did it today and told myself this is it
It’s been 1 month! How are you doing?
Remember, we’re human. We will fail. It is inevitable. But how we respond to our failures is what matters. If today is day 0 again, get back up, fight harder, and seek help.
God Bless
@Crumbs & Cookies o man thank you for this message I needed it. I have failed once again and once again day 0 but I will continue to keep fighting. Blessings
This popped up on my recommendations... my FBI agent has my back
John B 😂😂😂😂😂😂
OnG😂😂😂😂
lol
🐐🐐🐐🐐🐐
😂😂😂
Nowadays with it being a click away at any given time, it can be tremendously difficult. 14 days nofap and I'm gonna beat this
Day 16 yet?
Ronald Vasquez yessir
You can do it brother!
Still in this
Good luck g
If you fail, don’t let the shame lead you back into it. Realize that everyone fails at some point. “It’s not about how many times you fall down, but how many times you get back up” -Abraham Lincoln
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body.
Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers.
Take care brothers
I was 7 days strong than slipped up now I’m having a hard time stopping again 🤦♂️
@@bestrong1854
Can you please stop posting comments like those?
I'm a Christian as well, but that's not the way to speak against this.
@@bestrong1854
Do you realize how many atheists have this problem as well?
Someone reads your comments and thinks "oh so this is just some Christian thing cause they're afraid of sin
I just can’t believe it’s not a recognized addiction or psychological problem even. It’s sad to hear it be so invalidated. But props to this man for speaking up & sharing his story.
This is one of the worst addictions for people
wallahi it is
its way too accessible now too. its literally one click away
me : im gonna quit right now im never gonna watch it again
Me a couple of minutes after : damn itttt
@@astroboy1147 im still trying, although I'm not doing the action, I've still been watching😔
@@shaunladon4359 I've tried so many times
"Shame is the single biggest cause of most of our psychological problems."
I want to explore this statement.
Yes, that is a very big statement. Count me in the conversation!
So... Shame is the fear of rejection. Agree?
Let’s make a group chat about it
Let's make a school project about it
Count me in i guess
I feel disgusted with myself most times after I do it. Sometimes it isn't even as satisfying as I want it to be. But still I continue on and keep doing it.
And the worst things I stray you cannot help it
we've been there.. stay strong brother.. u can make a better change
Same here but things are gonna be better
It gets better, keep going. We are stronger than this thing.
Me too at this point it’s not even for pleasure it’s just a habit now
I am astounded by Eli's courage.
To face the eyes of judgement from your peers, friends and family! I cannot imagine a worse thing to admit to.
This is a real man. Fullest respect Eli!
I actually cried listening to this tedtalk.
I've always been ashamed of my struggle with this. I realized only today that it was an addiction. I never talked about it with anybody because of shame. Especially since I'm a woman. And I'm known by people around me as a religious woman. I personally haven't met anyone who was a girl and admitted to struggling with this like me.
I'm 21 now and I've been hooked on this since I was 10. Its so validating and comforting to have someone speak out about the struggle with this and the desire to end it.
hi, you're not alone. I sobbed watching this. I'm a woman who struggles with this and am also religious. just wanted you to know you are definitely not the only woman that struggles with this, let alone religious woman, but I know how isolating and shameful it can feel ❤️
I am hugely religious too and constantly battling this. Constant relapses make you feel horrible and guilty. Bottom line is always keep trying, never give up. You are not worth any less because of these mistakes. You are not any less religious or spiritual because of it either.
@@BethThereseReacts Thank you so much! 💗 I hope we overcome this for good! God bless you always!
@@williamverdine5294 Thank you for the encouragement! Relapses are the worst. When you feel like you were already doing great for so long then fall right back into it. I hope we break free completely! God bless you! :))
@@BethThereseReacts tell all this situation to your parents . Believe me I try this and talked about this to my parents and now I fell very much comfortable.
Mans got balls, especially to talk about it with his wife in front of him
Aye, That's true.
Well, he probably told her about it years ago.
Come on, you can't keep something so big from someone you care about. I told my girlfriend(well, later turned out to be ex) about it like 5-6 months in our relationship. She was very supportive.
Its not like he cheating
Maybe she put him up to it
And on tedx ffs he's amazing
I’m a addict too. A majority of addicts are men so when people here it coming from a woman they really look down on me. It’s aggravating to hear just stop watching it. It’s definitely not that easy. I’m proud of you for standing up and saying it. I needed this video as a support because I don’t have anyone to talk to and hearing this today made me feel like I was finally with someone who understands.
I'm here for you! ❤
Hope you get someone in you life you can speak freely and who can help you with the addiction when its difficult
I am here for you Crystal! you got this, we are all here together. peace
not sure how affective it is but i’ve heard cold showers lower urges
good luck
I remember watching this video a homeless man in New York a year ago. Seeing this brought tears to my eyes as how much better my life is now and this video is still here. Never give up in life. No condition is permanent
Good luck!
And you feel sense of guilt when you done watching it that you don't feel when you start.
Facts 💯💯
it goes away after you do it enough times
@@KlebersPhone I been doing it for like 6 years and I still feel guilty
The question you should ask yourself is why you feel guilty. There are different possible reasons for it.....
It's because it's wrong and we all know it. Our nature tells us when things aren't good, which is why almost everyone will universally agree murder is wrong.
Seeing how many teenagers and even kids as young as 13 are trying to escape this addiction just breaks my heart. My message to you is: keep fighting it no matter how hard it is, no matter how many times you will fail. With every fail to quit it you will understand how strong your addiction is and you will get more and more scared to realize how it is taking control over your life. I encourage you to read my whole comment.
I have an example of a man I knew a while ago. He had struggled with alcohol addiction for decades, this addiction took everything from him: he lost his job, his wife left him, he was carried out by friends every night dead drunk till no one would do that anymore and he would just lay on the street with vomit and pee on his pants. He lost his reputation, his self-esteem, literally everything. I don't know what his revelation was because I met him as a church cantor. But from the moment I saw him singing a chant named "Forgive me, Father" I knew this was a converted man. I never saw someone displaying so much repent on their faces. And every single time he was singing this chant, he had the same expression and tears in his eyes. The most profound sorrow one could ever imagine. I asked my grandma what his story was and she told me that he used to be that heavy drinker that everyone would despise.
After a couple of years I had the chance to sit at the same table with him. Everyone was drinking wine, but he alone was drinking water. I knew his story, but I pretended I didn't. I guess it was just curiosity to see if he would confess his old addiction, how he sees that now etc. So I asked him just like nothing: "But aren't you up for a glass of wine, sir?" He looked at me with a look that I will never forget. It was a mix of profound sorrow and determination, then he looked at my glass of wine as detached as we could look at something that doesn't belong to our world anymore and told me with a firm voice: "That was my biggest enemy for years. I will never surrender to my enemy again. I am the happiest man on Earth that I can have this glass of water today here, Miss." And that moment I understood something that I will always use to fight my own addictions and to help others fight with theirs: you will never overcome your addiction until you look at it as an ENEMY. A monstrous, hideous enemy right there, in front of you. As long as you will play it soft, you won't be able to escape it. Unless you are not really an addict and doesn't take a lot of effort to quit. If that man who was so low and completely owned by his addiction could escape it, I think everyone can. It doesn't have to be this extreme like in the case I presented to destroy your life. The thing with addictions is that you don't know how bad and how fast can it evolve and control you without you even realizing it. The sooner you can get rid of it, the easier will be your fight.
And although everyone needs encouragement on their path on quitting, please remember that until the moment when you reach absolute and complete detachment from your addiction, your fight didn't end. Your enemy is still there, hidden, waiting for you to be vulnerable....waiting for you to fall again. KEEP FIGHTING!
thank you so much. 17 years of age and fighting. Your words will not be forgotten.
Your story will stay in my mind forever. Thank you.
The last part got me, I myself thought I beat it but after 3 months of clear mind I gave in it started with 1 video and not fapping then here I am now trying to find ways again and u just gave me the key to this whole puzzle. This addiction is my ENEMY.
Thanks so much am 16 years of age and am fighting to overcome this addiction plz if u see this pray for me ....
@@solankesanchez1823 I will. Don't give up praying, don't give up fighting. May we all receive the grace to see the evil's true face.
Just now I understand why I'm such a miserable person. I'm 18 and I'm not diagnosed with anything but I feel anxiety a lot, I am very shy and anti social unless it's my closest friends or family. I get angry so much every single day. I always lash out at my girlfriend verbally. I really don't like myself. I really want to be happy. I am happy throughout the day at some points but.... I'm not happy. I can't find any motivation within myself. I feel dull. I'm unhealthy, I stopped working out and dieting last year. I always feel tired and weak. This isn't a life to live. I want to get better. I want to improve in every way and find my own definition of success. Please pray for me. I hope that anyone else that's struggling like me eventually finds a way out. Stay strong, this addiction is a killer. We have to kill it.
God bless you and help you in this situation. Whenever you feel empty, pray to Jesus and try to be in close with him. He will help you in your struggle. And when the struggle is over. And you are happy again, don't forget Jesus help you.
I am 19 years old, a guy. I stand with you. You’re not alone in this. We’ll beat it together. I believe in you, and although I barely know you, I care about you. I truly want you to succeed and overcome this.
I will personally pray for you. You are not alone in battling this demon. Don’t give up.
Same thing is happening to me.we can beat this addiction together.
In the 7 years of my addiction, the most I ever went without self pleasure was 10 days and that's cause I was in a summer camp and I was really busy all the time. Guess we just have to keep busy. I'll be really glad if I break my record and although it's a really short amount of time I'll still feel good and more capable
Been addicted since 9 and I’m 25 years old now! I’m going to break this curse. There’s no full happiness that comes from it , psychologically not physically, and important relationships are at risk. Happy lifestyle is at risk I hope everyone stays strong and gets through this dark cloud!
How’s it goin
I am 26 , out of fuel
I wasn't an addict but I watch it from 17 until 35 I'm also breaking it now!
I’m trying myself and I will pull through this I’m on thin ice and it’s just hard really hard
@@naadan_ruchi3190 I believe in you bro!
Its not all about willpower, its helped me to seek help from others and a therapist!
Please pray for me I’m a Christian and this is something I’ve been struggling with for the past few years and ik this sin is the one that’s keeping me from really furthering my relationship from God.
I'm praying for you man.
We love u bro
I prayed for you! Remember who you are in Christ !you are not your actions you are a new creation in Christ Jesus! And also seek out someone you can trust to talk about it, like a counselor.. we are not to walk through our struggles alone but with one another!
Amen brother hope you are still going strong🙏🏽
It will surely give you a lot more clarity and closeness to god even if it is not sin. Hope you made it
Sadly, this is a problem that plagues so many young men. It's an extremely hard habit to kick.
Interesting choice of words
Stuke yeah if your an antisocial dummy who doesn’t realize theirs more to life than just satisfying yourself
@@prettyflygamer what's wrong with a little pud pullin'?
HC1024 G I’m far from an antisocial person and yet I still struggled greatly with this. Even though I have a gf. It can affect ANYONE man
@@saminates2002 Something intriguing about it. Maybe it touches on the voyeuristic side of us
I'm at my 39 day. For many days I had the feeling of being overwhelmed by the urge to look again ... Now, the weight and the desire to look have diminished, but the mind begins to tell me that I can look again and stop anytime, but I keep following ignoring my mind. To you, who are also trying to get over it, I say, YOU WILL WIN! BE STRONG!
Tallysson Borges Thanks man
Get a girlfriend or boyfriend
@@ryandonnelly2661 It wont help him.
And how did it help you?
😭😭😭
If only i could tell you how much you just did for me!
You help, therefore you are truly achieved.
I promise to spread this idea where I find it fitting.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
A lot of balls you have. Respect
Or you could say....blue balls
You really had to mention them... ?
Hey Master Yoda
max_payne listen up guys this is important
Max_Payne mhmmmm, ketamine i need
Fun fact: I SEARCHED for this video
me too aha
Me 3! 😅
Me too!
I didn't, but as soon I saw it, I clicked
ME TWO MAN IM STOPPIN TODAY IDGAF
A piece of advice: when you feel the urge to do it, try and find a physically tiring activity to replace that. Just my two cents.
I went for a walk but it didn’t help. But Thank you for the advice.
@@liguania sometimes a short walk isn’t enough, a good workout and a good sweat will literally get you high and help retire the brain quicker. Prepare the mind as well and watch people like Les Brown or David Goggins, or shoot I grew up watching the terminator and now I watch Arnold videos for motivation. Light the fire within and keep trying, win every battle you can!! Hope this helps Anna
@@liguania rewire the brain*. Autocorrect wants to retire the brain it appears lol
keep yourself busy.
@@liguania But the Scriptures declare that we are all prisoners of sin, so we receive God’s promise of freedom only by believing in Jesus Christ.
Galatians 3:22-23
I was an addict since the age 11 for years, but by the power of God I have been sober for about 8 years.
Many times I have come close to falling back in because of lies of just “I will just look for a minute, or I am just curious about something”
But there is no freer feeling being able to sit at a computer and get some work done without crushing guilt and fear that you will do something you hate doing. That freedom is out there guys.
Man the “I will just look for a minute, or I am just curious about something” is always what gets me.
I completed 117 days of nofap and I continue nofap and now it doesn’t feel like a challenge it’s just the way I live now and I never look back, best decision I ever made was giving up PMO
How did you do it?
Kunta Kinte whenever I got an urge I kept on repeating myself saying “addiction sadness” over and over until the urge went away but everyone has their different strategies that was just my way to get over urges, the urges went away after day 30
I'll come back 117 days later to share the same message with everyone
I wish you luck bro find something to make yourself exhausted and busy ,please support me l made a video QAND A :boys vs girls buy laptops check out the channel for some cool videos do not forget to subscribe
Nice tip ll try
I watch it at least twice a day and feel horrible for it, may God help me on this journey to become clean
twice a day isn't even bad bro lol, it's not really that unhealthy. I think a lot of people are wrongly classifying themselves as "addicted" because it's come up that this is an addiction now.
Phil Johnson You can kick it, man!!!
I’m with you and I lapse every single day but we’ve got to keep the fire burning. We can kick it!!!! It might take us longer than others but we will get there.
Dont give up
@@thatrespectablehuman1884 sounds like somthing a cumbrain would say
@@johnathons1789 I'm right though.
I’ve been clean for 4 years after 10+ years of being addicted.
Well done!
Do you observe any physical changes apart from confidence , anxiety
please, any advice? book that talks about this addiction?
How different are you feeling?
Good job
I am now 1 year and 1 month free from this horrible addiction and I have never been happier it was a years fight and i fell more than 50 times but i kept on getting up. Dont give up. Ill be praying for all people who suffer from this.
Do you feel any change on your brain effectiveness?
This man has been living his entire life in post nut clarity
You aren’t wrong
First you laugh then you think about it and.. Well
@Soisauce321 care to explain? I just didn't get it...
Soisauce321 lmaooo facts
😅😂🤣😅😂🤣😅
You will never look back in life and say "I wish I would have watched more"
true
King
How do you know that?
@@redloopy it doesn't take that long!
There's plenty of time left to visit and make the world better.
It works for one day too. You'll never say, I wish I watched more yesterday
Watched this video around 2 years ago for the first time. Finally quit for good 15 months ago. Never give up.
Thanks for this. It gave me hope.
.Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
wow 15 months thats amazing! any tips?
thank you. I am 2 weeks. Hopefully I can reach that
I am gonna cut it whatever it takes.
“My story is not only something not to be ashamed of; it might just be something to be proud of.” I’ve recently realized this truth in my struggle with a serious mental health condition, and it has changed my life. I used to be ashamed of who I am, how much help I need, and how much downtime I need. Now I feel like it is the story that makes me a man, and that I should live my life without a thought in my head about what others might think about it. Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. Heroes who rarely receive the credit they earn every single day. Thank you for stepping out of the darkness and sharing the most vulnerable part of you. You say it is the way to start healing and you are absolutely right 🙏🏻
Conquering a struggle is a part of what we call nobility! Proud of you dude!!
Fibromyalgia Warrior here, and this just puts a pep in my step. " Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. "
God bless you for saying that.
This man said shame and addiction go hand in hand. Powerful stuff! Tackling the issue head on. Shame is the root. I am the captain of my destiny.
Do not let anybody shame you for liking erotic entertainment.
@@brandonmoore6115 w h a t ?
Shame is the fear to not be worthy of connection 💪🏽🔥
@Chandi Patah Shame is what prevents you from doing others wrong not yourself
This is such a bad/ addictive habit. I know from experience. I’m praying for all in the chat. We can overcome this 🙏🏻
Amen 🙏 praying for you bro
.Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
@It’z Velly I do. It takes a change of mindset. You have to fill your time with other positive things instead of hanging around in your room, where most of us know we’re prone to engage in that. For example, read books/ the Bible, pray, go to the gym/ for a run, etc. to fill your time with something positive in order to REPLACE the bad habit with good habits.
@It’z Velly It’s not enough to just resist it. It has to be replaced with something else so the time you have to engage in it lessens. I’m praying for you 🙏🏻
why is it so bad tho
It desensitizes us and depletes dopamine... hence anxiety and depression
The anxiety and depression are fueled entirely by feelings of shame and guilt because our culture tells us masturbation is wrong, when there's nothing inherently wrong with it.
Sii el cerebro se desestabiliza es una mierda la pornografia pura basura
@jimbob well said dude these guys are way too lost in the sauce it’s actually a disaster..
nah masturbation is scientifically proven to be healthy (unless you're addicted ofc, too much of anything is bad)
@@clubpenguinrockie No one uses it in moderation though. More guys are addicted than not, at this point. With something that addictive, the negatives outweigh the benefits. It's just too dangerous
He's really brave honestly. God bless him and all of you trying to escape this problem.
God bless you too! have you been born again? born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism)
@@ryanflanagan9624 I don't understand what you mean?
@@delaware12pwner Jesus said you must be born again to enter God's Kingdom, born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism). this will show you why, do you remember the encounter between Jesus and the rich young ruler?
@@ryanflanagan9624 no not really
@@delaware12pwner ok, stay with me for this will show you why you must be born again as Jesus said. the rich young ruler asked Jesus, good Master what shall i do to inherit eternal life?
how would you answer that question?
I applaud people who are trying quit this addiction...👏👏👏 you can do it 💪💪
Thanks
I don’t know you, but thank you
im gunna stop today. but the thing is theres no help for teenagers who r addicted only adults
@@lumbago9379 check out nofap for teens on Reddit
I dont know why they call it an addiction. it's satisfying an urge. everyone eats 3 times a day but they dont say you are addicted to food.
Not only I wish I would have never seen it, I wish it never even existed.
Everyone thinks it's a joke, but they don't know of how much damage it is capable of.
I'm 19 years old and I've tried several times to quit, but I failed every single time. I really hope we all find the strength to scape this horrible addiction we are trapped in.
It's good to know that I'm not the only one struggling with this.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes God bless you! have you been born again? born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism)
@@crimsonstripes i wonder how many religions are preaching this specific thing. does it vary among different religions or does it boil down to the same thing?
@@crimsonstripes are you free from it yet? Truthfully
I'm 18 and fighting too. I keep failing but I get up regardless
Clicked this video in a desperate attempt to escape this rotten habit. I WANT TO STOP. I NEED TO STOP. Not only for myself, but for my future spouse as well. I CANNOT let this continue any longer.
stay strong bro, we'll all get out of it eventually!
a tip i can give is that you should not have your phone near your bed when you go to sleep, and to be near people when you're not doing anything so you aren't doing it!
also exercise when you're bored!
Easypeasy method, search it on Google and read the whole book or SAA (12 step groups, yes many prn addicts are members of 12 step fellowships).
Message me here if u want more help,I know being in that cycle, I was addicted too but after SA and Easypeasy I am free now and want to help people.
well if you don't like it, then stop already!
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes God bless you! have you been born again? born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism)
The moment I couldn’t get “ready” for a woman who was a knockout 10/10, I knew I had a serious problem. This addiction is as destructive to your daily life and relationships just as any other one is.
I deeply relate to this, it happened to me. The worst part is that the fact that it made it more difficult to be intimate with a girl lead me to stop even trying to get to that situation because I have this feeling that I wouldn’t be able to
Have you been able to get over this?
@@agustinpereyra77sad experience
True
It is a embarrassing addiction it’s not as cool of a overcome as drug or alcohol most will joke and say I wish I had that addiction or look at u in disgust.
You don't know what you're talking about..
Frantisek Zavodny not understanding someone isn’t the same as them not knowing what they’re talking about
Frantisek Zavodny he definitely knows what he’s talking about. It’s not his fault you don’t understand.
Yea man getting off of drugs is the coolest *irony off*
Love you man I hope you get over your problems but I can tell you that drug and alchohol addiction are as bad as it gets
Day 5 bois, wish me luck
Edit: I relapsed in 2020 , stopped beating my junk after Christmas , haven’t relapsed ever since which is one of my goals for 21’
Don't count your days. It becomes a competition. Take one hour, one day at a time.
Ayo you're still on your clean streak?
Still going bios , it’s a way of life .....
x plicit poop bro how do u do it, I just can’t off a 9 day streak I’m pissed
Came”
This was powerful and I admire his courage but honestly reading these comments is even better. I've struggled with this since I was 14, now i'm in my early 30s and married and I still fight it. Been free from this demon for roughly 4 months now. Take it day by day. Stay the course all, we can do this by the strength, grace and peace of God. STAY STRONG BROTHERS & SISTERS
I'm 14 now fighting it, I've been watching since I was around 10, but I wasn't addicted till I was 13. The genres are the worst thing about it, I can waste hours and hours trying to find the ''right'' video, and the disgust I have when I look in the mirror with my new post nut clarity and old promise to stop watching it, it's horrible. I can't tell anyone about, I don't eat healthy, I don't exercise, I can't sleep anymore, I feel like Christian Bale in the Machinist.
Sorry for ranting.
Are you Okey, where are you now ?
Bro i need some help
@@blujay9030 How are coping mate?
@@blujay9030Go to r/LoveAfterPorn they have info for addicts
I quitted it after 12 years of addiction with willpower. On my 330 days, proud of myself.
How did you do?
❤❤❤
I started when I was 14, I’m 22 now and all I feel is this dark cloud of shame on my back eating me. I’m too scared to ask for help, and it feels like I’m repeating the same thing everyday. Especially because of the pandemic. I wish the best of luck for all of you, day 1 here we go!
Just don’t watch it I really don’t understand you weak minded fools
@@yaboiluffy2833 Such a weak minded thing to say
Every human needs help dont we ?
when you go to bed put your phone away from your reach, so you aren't tempted.
when bored go exercise.
if possible spend most of you time near other people.
@@killgaet6253 reading book is also something u can do, do anything productive
His shift from silence to publicly speaking about this took so much courage and commitment! All respect to Eli! 👏
Since 9 weeks Absolutely clean. I still can't believe that! I'm proud of myself!
You should be!
Congrats
Well done. Proud of you buddy
Can I get some advice how do you do that
Well done! We're all proud of you :)
Oh my God! When you said "share" I instantly realized what I have never done in my entire life including with my wife of 33 and 1/2 years. Share. I've never shared anything with anybody. Thank you Eli for sharing your story with us.
Now THIS is what you should learn in health class
Schools teach us nothing
💯
Yeah 🙂
"Shame is much bigger than addiction."
Yes
Why be ashamed? Everyone does it
@@StFelly the shame of lying to other around you, and more importantly yourself.
Syed Jelani I ain’t lying I’m being real. That’s the truth tons of people do it except I’m not worried about admitting it since I’m not alone
@@StFelly Some people are ashamed to speak about it because they wouldn't want their family or friends to see them that way or maybe they live in a religious household. For me, it was both. Even though you're not alone, you still think people will view you as some type of horrible monster.
the fact that this is was on my recommended, ya hate to see it
Why would hate to see it?
lol
@@PracticalProblems in theory, youtube recommends videos based off what you watch. If this is in your recommend, youtube might be telling you something
@@callang9 Yea if youtube is recommending me this I wouldnt hate to see it lol
There's an entire community called nofap that disagrees.
Praying for all addicted ❤ you got this!! You are LOVED AND WORTHY ❤
Το έχεις!!
So courageous and so honest. Much love and much respect
1 year and 9 months on nofap. It hasn't been easy but many things have improved in my life
Awsome dude
That's awesome man! Bravo! Can you elaborate what has improved?
Gamesurrection In my opinion Most importantly better mood and better concentration.
Your Mrs must be drowning in that jizzm bruh... you’re so selfish
Congrats, that's amazing
For the sake of this video and you all I want to confess that I struggle with my lustful desires every single day too. Sometimes it feels like every single moment and I want to stop. I have faith that I can overcome this dilemma because some of you guys have. And yes it is tough. Almost insanely difficult but I will find strength in my God because he is with me.
Mgtow Psycho I don’t wish. I have faith that I will overcome it
Mgtow Psycho as a follower of Christ I’d say because it’s sinful, I feel so disgusted with myself because of how much I enjoy it. It’s like someone eating nothing but fast food, deserts and sweets, sure it’s tastes good and is enjoyable but not healthy at all to live a lifestyle like that
You can do this! God wants you to be free more than you want to be free. I am also in the same boat, brother.
@Mgtow Psycho you sure do sound like a psycho.
Mgtow Psycho Its not that I think it isn’t healthy it’s that I feel it in my soul. My soul yearns for something greater than temporary pleasures
You're so brave to talk publicly. I can just talk to my wife and God at most.
Bro can I know yr age .?
I've been an addict for almost 11 years. I've been suffering from it for so long, and it escalated greatly. The thing I hate the most is the desensitization of it, and you begin viewing things you despise yet the shock factor helps you get off. I put my life in danger several times to try to get laid as a teenager, and my behavior got so out of control. I'm 22 and still an addict, but I'm working hard to fight this, and do social activities every day. To all my fellow people who suffer from this, you got this. You're not alone.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes Your support is much appreciated. I'm not interested in converting to religion, and I never will be. But I will no doubt beat my addiction and treat myself with love and kindness. For me, myself, my family and friends is all I need. Be well friend.
Amen 🙏
There aren’t many options in regards to breaking the addiction. The urge is just too strong. But instead of viewing it as a long shot, just take it one day at a time. It may take years since it took years to develop the addiction in the first place. But if you NEVER give up the fight, you’ll get further than most.
I’ve never heard it worded like that and you hit the nail on the head. “Despise it yet the shock factor gets you off”
Everything he said resonated with me. I’ve been struggling in silence for my entire life since getting introduced to it as a kid. I hide it from everyone, and carry so much shame. Tried quitting a thousand times, and have failed. I feel trapped and alone. It’s destroyed intimacy in every relationship. Too embarrassed to share it with my therapist. Too scared to attend a support group. I feel like a complete fraud. Please pray for me.
You can do this. Prayers and love for you.
Listen man, you can do it! I know it seems impossible, but it will happen. Maybe start learning about God. I’m beginning to make a schedule. Every two hours I have to watch a video about addiction. This will remind me to not watch it. God bless you.
sehreen Jafry thank you so much for the words of encouragement and for praying!
Johnathan Prince You can do it dude I believe in you
I felt this so much
Addicted over 20 years. I haven't watched for almost two weeks. I know this road will be very difficult and that I will have moments where I will probably fall off the wagon but I need to mitigate the problem the best way I can.
Just believe in god
Keep it up 👍
@scott how are you doing?
good luck man. if a twelve year old can make it almost two months (and counting) you can. I guess I'll share my story.
u got this just dont stop pushing
I started when I was 10 or 11, I’m 20 now. Thank you for having the courage to speak when I can’t.
I wish you strength and willpower to overcome your bad habit. Use great ideas to build yourself into a man of strength and character, a man of your word, skilful and with a purpose that serves the ones around you as well.
If you enjoy ideas about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
Proud of this guy for conquering his fear of public speaking and sharing his message with the world! - Rosh Lowe
nothing like a guy who puts his full name at the end of every youtube comment - a normal person
Ya famous or something, mate?
It’s almost like this guy is his business partner at MicDrop...
Wtf are you quoting what you just said in a TH-cam comment
I thank him for sharing his story. God bless him for having the courage and desire to help others. I could tell that it wasn’t easy and I will be sharing it to help others.
Maihot
Recently realized I'm truly addicted, and an additional layer of stress has been added to my daily life.
It's a psychological disorder, it's equally as bad for women and for men.
Be strong my girls, let's try to not escape reality any longer.
Hmm how often do you do it? Maybe you just think you're addicted.
@@Vishwesh2 a couple times a week, but for several hours at once. what makes me worry is that I use it as a mental escape from stressful situations, I do it to ignore bad things happening in my life, and I end up feeling guilty and still having to face my issues. It's just not a healthy thing anymore.
@@Vishwesh2 the thing is, mate, that you cant help in these things over the internet. I think addiction takes a change in the person themself to be fixed.
@@Irondragon1945 yeah you're right.
Hi how you doing need to find out something
To everyone that doesn't see this as the problem it is ..
I knew that it was bad and that I was addicted, but never really gave my all to fight it, or look for help or talked about it. And finally, it took losing the love of my life for me to finally seek help.
To late to save my relationship. The damage is done. But not to late to get over this addiction once and for all.
Stay strong
Exactly at a somewhat similar situation,i ended a dead relationship of 4 years,she said that she was feeling alone in this relationship and the major problem was that i was always thirsty for sex,i did not care for her other needs.
I’m trying to save mine 🙏🏾🙏🏾
On my 60th day of nofap journey .!
Self-esteem has been increased .!
I don't need reasons for being happy
I smile often
I can sleep well
No anxiety
No depression or depression related thought even .!
Focus developed .!
More power to you my friends across the world .!
Self improvement channel congrats to you! I pray it goes amazing for you and us all trying to lead our best lives. Amen! (:
Wait, so you think masturbation even without *pron* is a bad thing? Have to disagree with that.
@@matteframe hmm. You are right.
mapezaid it is a sin
@@symonegreen7493 you are a tool
It affected everything. I almost lost the love of my life because of it... I've been a week and a day sober, and man I do feel a difference. If anyone is watching this, stay strong. I believe in you
Thanks man it Rob's of of everything for me my drive time with my family makes me not happy with my GF like I normally am takes your inner peace gives anxiety just think bout your girl and what u really want from life I will do the same when I feel like watching it
We need a online community, im here for anyone that wants to chat, insta on my channel.
How you doing now, how are you holding up
@@lavarball7538 hey there man man. I'm doing really well. I'm proud to say that even though I did replase a couple times, I am so proud to say it's been almost 4months says I've done it. I feel so much better and my relationship with my girlfriend has improved dramatically, how about yourself?
To everyone who replied I'm always available if you want to talk. I'm proud of everyone who is just trying. Stay strong everyone!
This year was a serious test for mental health, but i'm glad we came out stronger together
I’m so glad your subordinate talked you out of the talk…or should I say , got you to do this TedX instead. I needed this.
How are things going for you?
I cried. And cried....and then cried some more
I am so done! I will share and use my shame to heal myself and others.
Thank you for your courage!
Thank you for being a part of my awakening!
Hope you get better
And cry always when you feel like it.
We have that masochistic culture trait of condemning crying as a sign of weakness, while in truth it is the most empowering, strengheting and puryfying act on earth.
Its when the soul makes up with itself.
David Copperfield : Amen! Vulnerability is not weakness !
Well said my friend!
Thank you
Richie Saul Hey man I hope everything’s going well. Just personal advice but here’s what I’d do, find something you enjoy doing. whether it’s fitness, martial arts, learning an instrument, you name it, doesn’t matter what. if you’re having trouble, make a schedule, use google calendar. Make a day you want, not a forceful plan but you also want to put in responsibility obviously. But yeah, that’s what has been helping me out.
I once heard someone say the fundamental concepts in life everyone should strive for are
Family
Friends
Career
Plans outside work
Physical well-being
People that have NONE will live a life filled with unbearable suffering
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Eli, thanks for sharing your story, I am clean for 3 months now. I have also been sharing my story since then with the people around me. It is a big problem that is greatly overseen in our western societies. Sharing is not easy, but it truly does move us into healing and really connecting with people.
have you noticed any differences since you quit?
In clean for half an hour:)
Been free since January 1st. Never seen so much improvement in my life. I pray for everyone who’s stuck with the addiction and can’t get past it.
Amen
Amen
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
How’s it going I have just begun
@@crimsonstripes I recommend not bringing any particular religion into it. As people have differing beliefs and it can kinda contradict others and cause even more stress. im muslim. I am revert albeit, once christian.
I watched this 15-12-2022.I commit myself to stop this addiction. I will share story 10 years later.
I will update everyone after a week that is on 22.
Starting 16/12/22 see you then
@@The13thender All the best.
Starting 17/12/22 i wish everyone the best of luck, i have been struggling severely i need tips
Starting 12/17/22. I will not watch it again