Deafening Silence of Growing up Gay in a Heteronormative Society | Ross Rossouw | TEDxYouth@KCISLK

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  • @ldh781
    @ldh781 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    I am so proud of you, and so happy and proud to have you in my life as my boyfriend! You did incredibly well!❤

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ditto❤

    • @petelovesbevsills
      @petelovesbevsills 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Geluk julle twee!

    • @diandierossouw101
      @diandierossouw101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤​@@wernerrossouw8479

    • @markmh835
      @markmh835 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      If you are still Ross's boyfriend 1 year later, please pass on to him how important and meaningful his talk was to me and so many people. His intelligence and compassion will continue to reverberate to many people worldwide for years to come. He is helping to change the world. You -- and his students -- are very lucky to have such a man in your lives. 👍🙂🙏

  • @AtlasBlizzard
    @AtlasBlizzard หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    One of my favorite TED Talks. Thank you, Ross! You inspire me!

  • @chrisjeffries2322
    @chrisjeffries2322 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Thank you, Ross, for speaking up to society.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the comment Chris.

  • @kellyharrison5184
    @kellyharrison5184 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    What a lovely, and brave, young man.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Kelly. Far from brave but I try haha

  • @jakebe4915
    @jakebe4915 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Superbly presented....
    Your courage is applauded.
    Bravo....

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you, I really appreciate it.

  • @sufyanlowel4631
    @sufyanlowel4631 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thanks to my parents and Madonna I never wanted to be 'like the rest'. I never have any doubts about myself. I am very lucky and this is very sad because this should be a regular situation for everyone, not some 'lucky'.

  • @thomasmulroney2065
    @thomasmulroney2065 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    So enlightening especially on British colonialism. Thank you for your courage. I loved the symbolism of moving out of the red circle.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching Thomas. ❤

    • @timothyj1966
      @timothyj1966 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      WTF are you dating about British Colonialism!??? LMFAO!!!

    • @sufyanlowel4631
      @sufyanlowel4631 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That doesn't explain Russia, China and the rest of the red terror

    • @sufyanlowel4631
      @sufyanlowel4631 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And I'm still very very far to idolizing any religion. Except Pastawhatever they all basically the same. Old tales that ruins people lives.

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I fully understand being outside the circle!
    But why is there nobody in the audience??? It's like no body is listening.. Very sad!
    We all have the right to live and thrive!😢 Amen

    • @umbertopapale428
      @umbertopapale428 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Of course there's an audience! What you saw, the empty hall, was the Parliament building!😊

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This event was organized by my school and run completely by the students. Initially it was a closed event, only for students and school staff, but only two weeks before the talks did the school decide to open it to the public, so I'm afraid it wasn't advertised as much. The picture you saw of the empty seats was a slide in my presentation and not the audience I was speaking to.

  • @lokiji108
    @lokiji108 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you for shining light & clarity

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your kind words

  • @ryanmrh4006
    @ryanmrh4006 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This video was a great find, at the right time. Thank you for your vulnerability, it helps those of us that relate.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm glad that it meant something to you. If this touched one person, then I've reached my goal.

  • @TotRevalution
    @TotRevalution 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    This was so moving. Thank you! Made me emotional ;-;

  • @michaellewis9839
    @michaellewis9839 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Beautifully done!!! Well, done!!

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had to watch this again 👍
    Thankyou

  • @bigRed90
    @bigRed90 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    A beautiful presentation of the truth.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Just sad that some are blinded by the truth. Thanks for watching❤

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro7318 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thanks, Ross. Like any day on the freeway, I am grateful for those who use their mirrors. 😉 🪞 Keep the faith. 🏳️‍🌈👍🏼☮️

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for your kind words

  • @johnphillips3054
    @johnphillips3054 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    First, he is stunning, just saying wow very handsome. And great Ted talk

  • @KelleyMeyer-f9h
    @KelleyMeyer-f9h ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for your beautiful presentation…😊❤️🙏

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for watching!

  • @johannalberts8029
    @johannalberts8029 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for what you are doing here. How wonderfully explained 👏👏.

  • @alfredbooth6854
    @alfredbooth6854 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Thank you for continuing to speak for all of us. You have the soul of a beautiful Human Being.

  • @raisingruckus1
    @raisingruckus1 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Agreed. To all. Where is the audience?

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      It was an event run by my school and the students actually planned and set up everything. Initially it was a closed event only meant for students and teachers but only later did the school decide to open it up to the public. By then, there wasn't enough time to do proper advertising. Also, I'm in Taiwan, so not a big English speaking community.

  • @paestum70
    @paestum70 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    @wernerrossouw8479 what a wonderful presentation. Eloquent, insightful and heart-felt. Congratulations and thank you.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate the kind words. Thanks for watching😊

  • @a-complished4406
    @a-complished4406 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    It’s depressing. Good talk, but we have two options: disappear, or be on everybody’s face all the time, which is exhausting

    • @selispeks
      @selispeks ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I decided to be in everyone's face all the time. If we don't speak up for those who are being persecuted we don't deserve anyone speaking up for us if/when it happens to us.

    • @yotubr08
      @yotubr08 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Both are exhausting - Disappearing and being in others face and costly.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Normal, that's the take away❤

  • @kimsteinke713
    @kimsteinke713 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you and God bless you I'm 63 and it's been a very hard road I don't know any other road though. To all the young children hang in there it does get better and sometimes it gets worse but hang in there live your life change the world Make it better there's enough hate here We're here for love. Don't let them distort unconditional love. 💙🏳️‍🌈🙏😇 And vote blue cuz fascism is at the door again. Anytime LGBT children are free and to live happy the fascist come after us. But we won this war.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for watching and for this beautiful comment

  • @jackstrubbe7608
    @jackstrubbe7608 ปีที่แล้ว +258

    As a survivor of the bashings at Stonewall, they have never managed to silence this lifelong 75 year old activist. I fear we are having all our work undone now. Vote Blue.

    • @briandbenson
      @briandbenson ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I’ll do my best to make sure your work isn’t undone. Thank you for fighting for our right to exist. ❤

    • @rjcarter2904
      @rjcarter2904 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Good for you!

    • @mikeg8276
      @mikeg8276 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I think it’s amazing you lived through Stonewall, but can you really call yourself a “survivor of the bashings” when no one died? To quote Willam, “Nobody was killed at Stonewall.” You definitely endured something and I’m not trying to minimize that. I just don’t want people to read this and misunderstand the history of the event.

    • @donhamill5939
      @donhamill5939 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thanks, but I don’t need a political party to validate my life. My friends and associates make a difference in my life, not political parties.

    • @lance694
      @lance694 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@donhamill5939 congratulations? 🤷‍♂️

  • @curthill7646
    @curthill7646 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Ross for this talk!

  • @terryhuggins8414
    @terryhuggins8414 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Ross...brilliant! Thank you....

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @kaseyford1490
    @kaseyford1490 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I can only hope that the audience in these Ted Talks learn something from this. 😊🏳️‍🌈

  • @Michael_Livingstone
    @Michael_Livingstone ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amen Brother!

  • @bilalahmed-if1en
    @bilalahmed-if1en 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I am exhausted scared and nervous what life has inspired for me I wish I can live in peace I feellike as if I am glitch in the algorithm

  • @fireflymary9269
    @fireflymary9269 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Same here. Hi my brother who fought the good fight in NY. 63 years fighting and watching our hard work become undone and if Republicans get their way they will kill us for real instead of slow psychological death

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There are still good people out there, keep the faith. Thanks for watching❤

  • @CostaComedian-rn2zr
    @CostaComedian-rn2zr ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bravo ❤ thank you

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for watching :)

  • @davidoran123
    @davidoran123 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    the malignant mythology of religion and the repression of anyone who is 'different' can be deadly when shame and blame are used to manipulate. Find and be your true 'self'. Orientation is not a lifestyle choice, religion is.

    • @backhand4
      @backhand4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But for the speaker to blame the current totalitarian regimes' rampant bigotry ingrained in radical Islamism in most of the middle east on Western colonialism from hundreds of years ago - while simultaneously overstating the alleged openness of the middle east society prior to colonialism - is simply ahistorical nonsense. It's a prime example of presentism - that is, taking what you want to be true and backing history into that lens while being intentionally devoid of all nuance. This talk was of exceptional poor quality and framing even if you agree with the overall message.

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@backhand4In other words, the militant Islam is their own doing? Of course that's true. Islam is quite abhorrent on it's own and you see this every day. Moderates are just not following the book to the hilt. Just like Catholicism and the now quite insane the evangelical cults. Moderate Christianity is just not following all texts. All the Abrahamic religions destroy knowledge given complete power.
      Of course the colonists put in place horrendous laws. All religion stinks.

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 ปีที่แล้ว

      The only difference between mythology and theology is faith

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@backhand4thanks for your comment. This TEDx Talk was organized by a group of grade ten students and for a first time organozing an event like this I'd say they did a pretty good job.

  • @F80armitgod369
    @F80armitgod369 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    New Iran people are more where of homosexuality In big plac like Tehran its far mor accepting specially in yung generation its far more accepting but out tahran whete people are closed minded and religion such crimes will hapen i lucky i live in tehran but thos who are out of tehran are in danger with far more% and taht so 😭😭

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry to hear this, but glad you're safe❤

  • @jethrotaylor2614
    @jethrotaylor2614 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I grew up in country Western Australia 1969, life was tough.

  • @alexprieto8277
    @alexprieto8277 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm 35 and I feel my life has been a waste, simply because society doesn't accept people like me. I'm lost ..... don't see how things will get better. I enjoyed this talk at least

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sorry that you're feeling like that. It's not always easy but try to surround you with people who love and accept you for who you are. Thank you for watching❤

    • @ruskov5685
      @ruskov5685 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It will get easier.
      Ça ira mieux.

  • @DannyLara-pf4vy
    @DannyLara-pf4vy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for watching.

  • @maitlandbowen5969
    @maitlandbowen5969 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you, Ross.
    I am 68 years old and, yes, I’m damaged to this day (“permanently”) despite all the changes in our world that have occurred over recent decades of my life. I am of the LGBTIAQ people. Today, for example, I so endorse the inclusiveness that has now arisen, at least within this division of people. However, it should never be forgotten that it wasn’t until 1984 that the illegality of homosexuality was removed from the statutes in NSW (I worked on that campaign), and a fuller law reform did not occur in that state until 2003. Both basic and fuller law reform emerged only on a piecemeal basis throughout the states and territories of Australia. And then, this is only pertaining to the law of course; the rest is even harder to achieve (as this video well captures some of the myriad of other aspects).
    When I see worthwhile presentations such as this, and portrayals of other LGBTIAQ matters (along with matters relating to humanitarianism, or considerations of ‘the other’), I often want to ‘show and tell’ to people significant to me. My sister, for example, remains as one of those people (she is the only example of a family member still available to me today). I guess, via this kind of process, I am forever seeking recognition, understanding and ‘validation’ for my ‘outsider’ status. But, doing this is difficult because one just feels as though one is climbing onto a soapbox each time (& that’s not really acceptable, somehow)! There seem to be no solutions.

  • @RosebeeVids
    @RosebeeVids ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Because of our heteronormative society, I grew up in the 80s & 90s thinking I was a broken straight woman. It wasn't until my late 30s that I first heard the word Asexual. It took me until I was 40 to realize I was actually Ace & bi-romantic. More conversations like this need to happen.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so happy for you. Thanks for watching, I really appreciate it.

  • @cowinwatts9025
    @cowinwatts9025 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes, I am a lost soul.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're not❤

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I want to meet and know you!
      Do you ever come to Australia?

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@cowinwatts9025moving there in a year

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@wernerrossouw8479 are you Serious?? Keep me informed 👍

    • @cowinwatts9025
      @cowinwatts9025 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@wernerrossouw8479I think of the song by SKIDROW, WASTED TIME . Have A Listen ? Maybe you could change my life 😊

  • @YesItsMeGuys68
    @YesItsMeGuys68 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    He is a natural speaker ! Very well done .

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much. I really appreciate that

  • @steviemitchell9373
    @steviemitchell9373 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I, too, knew from an early age. You beautiful human ❤

  • @anthonyjames4648
    @anthonyjames4648 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Baie dankie Ross❤

  • @davebarrett33
    @davebarrett33 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    100% agree and empathize

  • @Twenty20kmusic
    @Twenty20kmusic ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Needed this video so badly. Thank you.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so happy to see that it touched you and helped you in some sort of way. Thanks for watching ❤

  • @paulnovosel9469
    @paulnovosel9469 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This is one of the BEST TTS EVER. Well thought through with impeccable logic and meaning. A+++

  • @kevinlapointe74
    @kevinlapointe74 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Some time people show hate by not saying nuthing and treating it like its not a problem, silence can be louder then word's

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      This👆 and thanks for watching. I appreciate it.

  • @JoseMendez-bq6st
    @JoseMendez-bq6st ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very moving, compassionate and painfully real speech. I hope we can continue to support our younger generation to develop a healthier sense of self without the stink of homophobia.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much. You paved the way for us and therefore I had the privilege of going on a stage. Thanks for the watch❤

  • @Bobby-kp6ln
    @Bobby-kp6ln ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Its amazing how much hate there is towards lgbtq and still alive. People have done so much to shape the opinions of people towards discrimination of others for anything to differentiate one another, although we are all gods creation. How many messed up straight people do you know? Why is someone so obsessed over someones elses bedroom....thats sick

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't get it either❤

    • @AutomaticDuck300
      @AutomaticDuck300 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Because “it’s a bad example for society” apparently

  • @jaredleemease
    @jaredleemease ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you Ross. 🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

  • @scubawrestler
    @scubawrestler ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Beautiful Presentation! Thank You.

  • @christosegkos
    @christosegkos ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Beautiful speech 👏🏽

  • @davidcwitkin6729
    @davidcwitkin6729 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    He must have had to work hard to get up the courage to speak in such a huge space

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have awesome friends and colleagues who supported me.

  • @juliussmith4001
    @juliussmith4001 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    BRAVO!

  • @michaeldonohue-ju6hm
    @michaeldonohue-ju6hm ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I feel validated!

  • @stevengarman4848
    @stevengarman4848 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The hatred of us has existed for centuries, not years.

    • @vorpal22
      @vorpal22 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes, you are right, but if you trace back to the origins of early Christian thought, rejection and criminalization of homosexuality are geographically correlated with it. In very few places was homosexuality a problem until Christianity and then western thinking based on Christianity spread.

    • @stinooke
      @stinooke ปีที่แล้ว

      @@vorpal22 That is absolutely untrue. Homosexuality as you know it today was not socially accepted in Greek or Roman Societies, and it may have in fact been more accepted in Christian medieval Europe than in classical antiquity. Widepread homophobia and criminalization of homosexuality is a Rennaissance-era idea.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@stinookehow sure are you about your claim on the Greeks😉

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching❤

  • @dobwatches
    @dobwatches ปีที่แล้ว +12

    “We won’t die secret deaths anymore. The world only spins forward. We will be citizens. The time has come. Bye now. You are fabulous creatures, each and every one. And I bless you: More Life. The Great Work Begins.”
    Tony Kushner

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love this. Thank you so much for sharing and for watching❤

  • @klauskotowski6588
    @klauskotowski6588 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Danke schön für diesen Beitrag!!! You are great ❤

  • @m.akbr.1201
    @m.akbr.1201 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    😇🙏💖💕🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌟✨

  • @fabiogiacometti7518
    @fabiogiacometti7518 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you for this interesting and very well delivered speech. I really appreciated the perspective and the message.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for watching, I appreciate that❤

  • @3506Dodge
    @3506Dodge ปีที่แล้ว

    What country is this?

  • @AndrewPatrick-n7r
    @AndrewPatrick-n7r ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This has been the honest and caring thing I have ever seen on TH-cam it is so true and hit me to my very soul

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am so happy that you enjoyed watching this and that it meant something to you. I appreciate that a lot, thanks❤

  • @blanchefan
    @blanchefan ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Outstanding--much needed--vital--common sense, for heaven's sake! Thank you, Ted Talks and Ross R-- :)

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I chuckled at this. Thanks for watching and putting a smile on my face😂

  • @hanslagewaard5083
    @hanslagewaard5083 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I find this talk unconvincing. I'm 60 years old and even though underrepresentation was the norm. But zero representation certainly wasn't the case.
    Also, colonialism isn't the only reason why homosexuality is problematic in the non-Christian parts of the world. To represent it as such is more an expression of the imperial mindset than the speaker realizes. Other cultures can come up with ghastly outcomes just as easily. Don't deny their agency just because you ruled them for a short while.

    • @backhand4
      @backhand4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This talk is utter nonsense...

    • @freddenker9537
      @freddenker9537 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      see buddist Thailand !!!!! not evere Religion eats the Brain !!

  • @jamesjames1364
    @jamesjames1364 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Ditto & BRAVO To You! :) Great job. I could listen to you all day long.

  • @stud28gr
    @stud28gr ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Story of my life...

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm sorry, keep on living your truth and shining your light.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching btw❤

  • @Jim-bh7gs
    @Jim-bh7gs ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Islam permissive!??

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What a thing was should not be confused with what a thing is

    • @ak5659
      @ak5659 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't even to pretend to understand it, but it seems that Islam is as varied as Christianity and like Christianity there're groups that have opposing views on many things.
      I know that in Poland the Muslims who've been living there since at least the 1400's and the Muslims who've moved there recently apparently disagree on many things.

    • @youseftumeh4166
      @youseftumeh4166 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Historically yes....but not any more
      Homosexuality was prevalent there once upon a time indeed

  • @RossCompose
    @RossCompose ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Another Ross! We're rare.

  • @donseiler1307
    @donseiler1307 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Thank you. Very brave.

    • @RossRossouw
      @RossRossouw ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it.

  • @MaoChio
    @MaoChio ปีที่แล้ว +16

    So trots op jou Werner, wel gedaan!
    ❤️🏳️‍🌈❤️

  • @martincampbell7774
    @martincampbell7774 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well said, much needed...but how many will listen? More than previously I hope. Most societies need to change their outlook on LGBTQ+ people, because they are people that should have the same behaviors exhibited to them as non LGBTQ+ people.

  • @joecutro7318
    @joecutro7318 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Difficult and complex topic to address in a TED nutshell format. Major kudos for his courage and willingness to be who he is and state his Truth. We all need to watch out for our brothers, sisters and others, no mattah what. ❤ Love always wins.

    • @joecutro7318
      @joecutro7318 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nope, not kidding and I am fully aware of and understand your sentiments. It is a perspective for which you are equally entitled. I just wish you could have expressed it more respectfully in a social media context, but hey we all need to thicken our skin if we value the 1st amendment, right?

    • @stinooke
      @stinooke ปีที่แล้ว

      There is no such thing as "his truth". Truth is not relative. This is his opinion.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@joecutro7318thanks for watching. I think it comes down to the way we listen. We either listen to get offended or we listen to understand. And you are right, everyone is entitled to their opinion but if your opinion demerits the existance of someone else I think it's time to take a look in the mirror. Once again, thanks fro your encouraging comment, I really appreciate it.

  • @CajunGators
    @CajunGators ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I highly disagree with him and wish he’d just speak on his experience. It’s really not that difficult.

    • @thinkerpanda
      @thinkerpanda ปีที่แล้ว +1

      well it depends on society, community and people around you growing up

    • @cuahutemocrex2871
      @cuahutemocrex2871 ปีที่แล้ว

      It can be.

    • @CajunGators
      @CajunGators ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@cuahutemocrex2871 I’m sure it can in many many places. He can still speak on his experience without blanket statements. This is how stereotypes happen.

  • @caiothatdreamer
    @caiothatdreamer ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Anyone has his IG or social media? He’s brilliant.

  • @joaoeuqueres1739
    @joaoeuqueres1739 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Well spoken! Thank you!!!

  • @michaelhovden7846
    @michaelhovden7846 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow - great, brave talk - thank you so much! Perfectly said, and the message needs to continue to be carried forth.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      I really appreciate this. Thank you so much for watching.

  • @mdgraystone
    @mdgraystone ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Nice talk. Too bad there wasn’t a live audience there to appreciate it.

    • @Mister_Listener
      @Mister_Listener ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed! Weird, then, that there is such a weird problem with the sound.

    • @ldh781
      @ldh781 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There was an audience, I was there.

    • @Mister_Listener
      @Mister_Listener ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ldh781 oh good! 😊

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      The entire talk, sound, video, and organization was done by the students of my school and I think they did a good job. I also wish the sound could have been better❤

  • @skymuffn
    @skymuffn ปีที่แล้ว +11

    …well said and will still sadly resonate in the decades to come. One thing I am grateful for is my entire extended family who always has been there for me. My exceptional folks has been the key to my well being. My Filipino Father, an immigrant conservative engineer who had a worldwide Industrial Engineering Corporation who with my modern American born Mother who is understandingly kind who instilled my sense of awareness and self worth which gave me
    the confidence to be who I am. Then my 2 sets of Grandparents who has showed me the value of respect with a good dose of humor will lead to an amazing journey. Now at 54, comfortably aging and happy to be where I am in life.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is beautiful and I'm so glad you have such amazing support from your family. I really appreciate the watch, thanks you❤

  • @pereinarolsson3928
    @pereinarolsson3928 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If your intention is to educate and teach the world to be and act in a certain way - what a sisyfos job and impossible. Change your inner world instead because there is nothing on the outside that is not on the inside. Much easier - not easy but possible. But I do not exclude that what you are doing might be your mission - who knows.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The intention is to educate, I however was told to be and act in a certain way. Thanks for your comment❤

  • @sweetbb125
    @sweetbb125 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dankie dat jy jou storie so professioneel met die wêreld deel.

  • @getrealnow73
    @getrealnow73 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      No, thank you for watching and for being you❤

  • @embreis2257
    @embreis2257 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    this need for validation he is talking about in a society which claims to favour individualism and diversity comes down to our mores and morals ludicrously out of date with modern standards. why? because most mores and morals go way back and were formed long before our modern laws were introduced, let alone modern concepts like being free of discrimination etc.
    sure, mores and morals change but it takes time - we are talking many decades here.
    our modern laws get changed all the time but most we adhere today are much younger than 100yrs old while the law itself often is influenced by the mores and morals of the day it was introduced.
    discriminating against homosexuals and practically outlawing it climaxed in Victorian times with criminal codes all over the world made in the 1860s. that was a time when modern concepts of basic human rights and liberties had a different ring to it. just remember what was accepted back then (slavery in the US, death penalties all over the globe, no female suffrage etc pp.) - heteronormativity was accepted back then and the christian churches were preaching it for several centuries before. unfortunately, many things the churches preach do not pass modern standards but are very difficult to get rid off. people needlessly suffer for it.
    we need to accept the fact that heteronormativity only serves roughly 90% of any population, the rest is left out and discriminating against 10% of any population who can't escape it is neither democratic nor just, sustainable or fair, especially when their needs to live a normal life do not harm anyone. heteronormativity therefore needs to get discarded in all walks of life asap

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching, I really appreciate the support❤

  • @Nomadic813
    @Nomadic813 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What a strange coincidence that all these queer struggle tedx videos are of classically handsome white men.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      First of all, thanks for the compliment. Secondly, privilege is one of the numerous topics I discuss in my Grade 12 elective course. If we are aware of our privilege we can use it to do good. I volunteered to do this TEDx Talk and a lot of research and preparation went into it. It was open to anyone and I wasn't chosen😊. If my privilege as a white "handsome" man can get me on a stage to talk about something that matters, I'll use that privilege and do just that❤

  • @claudiopoles9672
    @claudiopoles9672 ปีที่แล้ว

    🥱🥱🥱🥱

  • @OldMaidenType
    @OldMaidenType ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great talk... is Ross single? asking for a friend...😉

  • @riccardo50001
    @riccardo50001 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So depressing speaking to an empty auditorium, what the point? I guess if it's posted here that helps get the message out. I think most straight people are not interested. They have their traditional families and don't have the need to questions. They are probaby often horrified about what gays in bed. On the other hand, bravo for him standing up and doing the talk anyway!!!

    • @patrick_starX
      @patrick_starX ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I believe that was just a slide in his presentation, meant to illustrate some of his arguments. You can hear the live audience clapping towards the end of his talk.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, that was just a slide in my presentation to represent the stage I "perform" my life on. There was an audience, although not big, but I live and work in Taiwan so the language barrier also contributed to not as many people showing up. I appreciate the support though❤

  • @hanssolos3699
    @hanssolos3699 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    'nuff already!!!
    come to 🇲🇾 and u will understand.

  • @habicht6
    @habicht6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    danke...cheers... spasibo... merci..

  • @Youradsspecialist
    @Youradsspecialist ปีที่แล้ว +4

    nice!

  • @wotan10950
    @wotan10950 ปีที่แล้ว

    A brave speech. But it’s a little easier to pontificate when you’re as fit, young, and handsome as Ross. Ask yourselves honestly if you would’ve even bothered to watch if the speaker had been a senior, overweight, and very plain. Yeah, didn’t think so.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว

      Privilege is one of the numerous topics we discuss in my Grade 12 elective course and if we are aware of our privilege we can use it for good. To answer your question, yes, I personally listen to the content instead of judging the looks❤

  • @sanjoserock1
    @sanjoserock1 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wrong is wrong no matter who says it’s right!

    • @jakeharvey6692
      @jakeharvey6692 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What are you talking about?

    • @user-mx8wt2nz6b
      @user-mx8wt2nz6b ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right is right no matter who says it's wrong...

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If I'm not mistaken, slavery wasn't considered a bad thing.... so wrong is right depending on who decides it's right? Don't know, you tell me?

    • @user-mx8wt2nz6b
      @user-mx8wt2nz6b ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@wernerrossouw8479 Some people just enjoy dictating other people how to live...

  • @thevalkyrie8
    @thevalkyrie8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He is talking about individualism, but I bet he’s a socialist

  • @andrewstevenjo9621
    @andrewstevenjo9621 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is what indoctrination looks like.

  • @1hayes1
    @1hayes1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The love that dare not speak its name won't shut the f up.

  • @rupertfergusson
    @rupertfergusson ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Boooooooo

    • @brianmatthews1736
      @brianmatthews1736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This shows just what a miserable, hate filled person you are. One of the people who thinks God will welcome them into heaven with open arms, and then gets told by him for your hatred "I never knew you", and sends you to the fire. Enjoy your hate, and misery. So sad.

    • @Maletearsasoil
      @Maletearsasoil ปีที่แล้ว

      Filled with sht, can't learn

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You've got 8 'o's in that one. I guess there's no more in the letter pot?

  • @kissed_by_sunshine_10
    @kissed_by_sunshine_10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lost me at the acceptance in the schools.

    • @wernerrossouw8479
      @wernerrossouw8479 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And yet I did this talk at my school in Taiwan and the entire event was organized by the students, also teach a subject on social awareness, my students love it😊
      Thanks for watching❤

  • @ericknea
    @ericknea 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    thank you