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OMG Bea (4th letter) I've done this - and I stayed with him for years, all the while telling myself "he didn't mean it" . We were together when he bought a house, and on that very first stressful day of moving in, while he was trying to accommodate a power chord to be where I wanted it, he yelled out in anger and frustration and exhaustion "get out of my house!" 🚩🚩🚩 It was like sitting in boiling water, and he made me very crazy. Never did I need so much Valium in all my years, and he was the one who introduced it to me. I stayed in that house for 8 years, and woke up one day ((after having started the Daily Practice)) and realized I had greatly overstayed my welcome. He didn't want me to go, but only because he didn't want to be alone.
@Jennifer-gr7hn my/our kindred community is in nature with Mother Earth Cosmos and animals, as this helps raise our vibration even higher (when we do no harm) and other kindred Spirits in human being form may come further along our journey. We did the correct thing for ourselves to go no contact with those who do us harm. You can have a community with your Guardian Angel and Universe and Holy Spirit , if you're so inclined, if you invite them in (because of free will, we must invite Angels and the Divine in). Biess you, wishing you all the best and sending you Love and Light sweetheart ! ⚡️♥️✨️💜🔆♥️🎶🌟🌻🐾🍀🌈🙏🏼😇🕊💫
Good advice. I lost many friends as I began to heal & take proper care of myself. One friend started picking fights with me & I always responded to her with, “is everything ok?” & etc. this really enraged her. As it turns out she no longer wanted to be my friend & wanted to end the relationship without looking bad. It hurt as she eventually succeeded, but I realized years later I was better off.
It can make people uncomfortable when you no longer fit the role they have assigned to you, because it means they then have to re-evaluate themselves which is uncomfortable.
Yes, but it's just a distraction......we all need hugs, a home, humans for home. Yes, we must fix our own problems, but love also heals.....deep, agape love. It's not either or.
Oh Dear Nora I can so relate and I confirm what Anna is saying. We are only attempting to fool ourselves if we're thinking we can have sex with someone and keep it 'casual' when the truth is we want a relationship with real Intimacy not just sexual Intimacy. I have done similarly and only to find once I slept with someone who wanted only casual , things got really weird and uncomfortable and the guy grew distant while i only wanted more and kept torturing myself. This is definitely related to our attachment wounds and being used to emotional neglect, though what we really need and want is emotional nurturing and a healthy, caring, reciprocating bond with an equal partner. We must move slowly and only proceed if the person wants the same and is capable of doing so. Let it all go as a learning lesson and know that you are worth so much more! We can focus on our own healing and meeting our needs to raise the bar and our own vibration so our 'cab light' is shining brightly, attracting what we deserve ! Let's love our own selves more with self care, compassion and self nurturing for our own healing. We are worth it ! Much Love and Light to you ; Bless you ! 🌻💞🎶🌟🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
I've been chaste ("celibate") due to my faith and it's been so helpful with out even knowing it would be ad I'm 45. I didn't go into isolation until I was forced to, by my actual death during the plandemic 2020 as a nurse and didn't get healthcare, lost my life, neglected by healthcare, a sibling happy about my situation, other family ignoring she was happy about it...painful mess, but yes, healing is underway. Good job and God bless, keep going. It's unbearable to be sober your whole life too :(
Before I married the man I'm married to I almost ran him offby moving too fast. Once GOD helped me to slow down my husband picked up the speed. I had too slow down & get to know what I really wanted!!!
I’ve given up. I can’t even watch a movie with friendly people or handle most social situations. I just go straight into being overwhelmed. Maybe I’m disregulated, and my nervous system doesn’t work as it should anymore as I now have chronic neuropathic pain. Even daylight feels like acid on my skin some days…. Something is really wrong with me. This whole thing started as chronic trauma and stress as I was growing up. I still suffer from it today, 35 years later, tired. But I am grateful for what I have and find joy in the smallest things. Being in the moment, practicing the skills I’ve been learning from you and the wonderful community online of people who have been through long-term trauma and stress.
Please don't give up. If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
Neuropathic pain might also have to do with a lack of B12 (vegan, vegetarian or low stomach acidity), so eating more eggs, animal fat in butter, ghee, lard, bacon, fatty animal products might be a good idea in general. Talking from experience btw, had neuropathic pain in my feet after having been vegan for many years, then read Weston A. Price and started eating fatty animal foods again plus started to supplement B12, no more neuropathy at all. All the best to you
The inner child wounds can be life long I am assuming. I began self help at age 13, and I am 44 now and still struggling a lot with things. My biggest regret is that its taken so long to have a full psychological sense of agency, decision making power and self governance. So I would say to anyone else it is most important to be able to identify the specific deficits you have and get professional guidance on how to better yourself, plus your own research into filling your empty well in the specific ways you most need. In my experience these childhood wounds do not just go away. I wish they would as I am 44, but I find it is more a continual need to reframe past bad experiences and keep learning how to cope better and stronger throughout time. Honoring the fact that you are growing in resilience and this is the gift. The bad stuff isn't the gift, what you make out of it in the long run is.
Agree to can't connect. I just can't stand men anymore, simply hang around them for money. Feel like I wouldn't be able to feel love towards men ever again. Which is kinda good too, to be honest. Lol.
I can so relate to James as I've outgrown everyone who all cling to denial and avoidance. I'm all alone now ; my solace being in nature and with animals working on healing and reparenting myself to further raise my vibration to attract more kindred spirits etc. I am proud of you James, you sound like such an authentic friend, as am I. Better days ahead ! Keep faith . Bless you, and all here, sending Love and Light ! ♥️🌟🎶🙏🏼😇🌈🔆🕊💫
I have found adult children of alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families 12.step groups...it's not about the booze or drugs..it's about the trauma...learning how to love ourselves
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy
I’ve been a little interested about psychedelic assisted therapy for trying to deal with my shit. What scares me about that is past psyc shit. Truth be told I’m in a better space in my head now than I have been in a long time. I’m on the brink of being homeless and without any family. Talk about a long strange trip.
If you haven’t already, could you do a video focusing on how we go to people we match and as we heal, those relationships fall away? That statement alone is helping to release guilt and anger toward myself.
Nora writes in a lot .....trust me, I would too! I just wonder if these are real people ;) If not, it's TOOOOOOTALLY okay because we need this and the scenario and teachings are the worth it and the point.
I am at a point where my healing journey obviously required a steep learning journey, which by necessity required massive personal growth, and now? Sigh... omg, people bore my mind to near unbearable levels... soooo basic minded, it's just painful to listen too & suffer thru faking interest in small talk. Honestly, lonely isn't fun, but I'd rather stand in a corner & bang my head on the wall than bother trying to 'people' anymore.
I really agree with what you are sharing here. I would like to add however; I believe that people who can and do have casual sex with others are going to transform themselves more and more into predators who objectify and use others. It is my belief that sex is a very deeply intimate thing which cannot be casual at all. I think trying to make it casual is harming to oneself and if you become adept at this fooling yourself into thinking this is just fun than you are in for a rude awakening down the line at some point.
My life is "friendship trough". I have friends I love and I'm gratefull, but most live far away, are busy or as introvert as me, so we rarely see each other and im 47, recently single, no family of my own and so So lonely. I used to "solve" this with sex, no more though, too old and "wise" for that now. So now....??
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
In my case it is only feelings not thoughts...always a dread, terror and fear feeling with some sadness like something wrong has just happened...there is no thoughts to write...a constant low grade fear, sadness, terror feelings on chest and in heart.....only feelings not attached thoughts...how to do writing practice then.......???...i see subtle neglect in my childhood...that could have generated these feelings...but how your writing practice i can apply to get this stuck feelings processed
I would encourage you to attend a free Daily Practice call where you can ask Anna or one of our coaches this question directly! You can do so once you've completed the course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Brilliant, prolific. Unfortunately this true : every single sentence 🙏😢❤been abused, discarded and now alone in a WARZONE, having followed my American mom to Israel. DISCARDed me, literally " leaving me homeless on the streets of Jerusalem. Not 1- human if organization is willing to accompany me to attempt to state my truth about this topic. If another person here wants to sponsor a session for me, that would be awesome 👍 8:08 😮❤1/18 siblings. Not 1 parent or step parent who really cares. I can't believe I'm finally starting to get my TRUTH out!! 8:08 narcissistic parents siblings and bosses. Heaven help me Lord protect me. Thank you in advance for your consideration!😅🎉❤
*Take my free Daily Practice course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
*Join my Membership and access my private online community: bit.ly/CCF-Membership
*Visit my website at crappychildhoodfairy.com
*Order my new book RE-REGULATED here: bit.ly/3XiLsj2
*Have a question for me to answer on TH-cam? Write me here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters
OMG Bea (4th letter) I've done this - and I stayed with him for years, all the while telling myself "he didn't mean it" . We were together when he bought a house, and on that very first stressful day of moving in, while he was trying to accommodate a power chord to be where I wanted it, he yelled out in anger and frustration and exhaustion "get out of my house!" 🚩🚩🚩 It was like sitting in boiling water, and he made me very crazy. Never did I need so much Valium in all my years, and he was the one who introduced it to me. I stayed in that house for 8 years, and woke up one day ((after having started the Daily Practice)) and realized I had greatly overstayed my welcome. He didn't want me to go, but only because he didn't want to be alone.
We all need a "tribe"... even more so than a serious relationship IMO...
No thanks.. I’ve seen the tribe and I want nothing to do with them
Yeah, but damn hard to find. 😕
I thought you said above, we shouldn't? I agree, but they all left me after I died and couldn't be who I was to them anymore.....
@@RoadRunnergarage8570 we all need kindred community and spirituality, yes indeed! Blessings 🎶💜🙏🏼😇🕊💫
@Jennifer-gr7hn my/our kindred community is in nature with Mother Earth Cosmos and animals, as this helps raise our vibration even higher (when we do no harm) and other kindred Spirits in human being form may come further along our journey. We did the correct thing for ourselves to go no contact with those who do us harm. You can have a community with your Guardian Angel and Universe and Holy Spirit , if you're so inclined, if you invite them in (because of free will, we must invite Angels and the Divine in). Biess you, wishing you all the best and sending you Love and Light sweetheart ! ⚡️♥️✨️💜🔆♥️🎶🌟🌻🐾🍀🌈🙏🏼😇🕊💫
I’m 69 years old. Wish I’d learned all this at 20! Thanks!
Glad you're here now! -Calista@TeamFairy
Good advice. I lost many friends as I began to heal & take proper care of myself. One friend started picking fights with me & I always responded to her with, “is everything ok?” & etc. this really enraged her. As it turns out she no longer wanted to be my friend & wanted to end the relationship without looking bad. It hurt as she eventually succeeded, but I realized years later I was better off.
It can make people uncomfortable when you no longer fit the role they have assigned to you, because it means they then have to re-evaluate themselves which is uncomfortable.
@ nod
@saraha2667 very true!
I saw a meme the other day that said "I think I healed too much - now I don't like anyone anymore"
LOL!
Really lol so gard, but that's exactly how I feel at the moment. Lol at that.
This is why hobbies are great.... They keep my mind off of relationships....
Yes, but it's just a distraction......we all need hugs, a home, humans for home. Yes, we must fix our own problems, but love also heals.....deep, agape love. It's not either or.
@@Jennifer-gr7hn But luckily pets make a pretty good stand in for human love/company...anyone else agree with me??
I enjoy hobbies unlike most adults because I never had kids. I like my life, alot.
Yes! Also doing something proactive for oneself! Thanks for the reminder. I need to get back to my hobbies ! Bless you ! ♥️🌟🎶🙏🏼😇🕊💫
Oh Dear Nora I can so relate and I confirm what Anna is saying. We are only attempting to fool ourselves if we're thinking we can have sex with someone and keep it 'casual' when the truth is we want a relationship with real Intimacy not just sexual Intimacy. I have done similarly and only to find once I slept with someone who wanted only casual , things got really weird and uncomfortable and the guy grew distant while i only wanted more and kept torturing myself. This is definitely related to our attachment wounds and being used to emotional neglect, though what we really need and want is emotional nurturing and a healthy, caring, reciprocating bond with an equal partner. We must move slowly and only proceed if the person wants the same and is capable of doing so. Let it all go as a learning lesson and know that you are worth so much more! We can focus on our own healing and meeting our needs to raise the bar and our own vibration so our 'cab light' is shining brightly, attracting what we deserve ! Let's love our own selves more with self care, compassion and self nurturing for our own healing. We are worth it ! Much Love and Light to you ; Bless you ! 🌻💞🎶🌟🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
sobriety celibacy and isolation are where I have found myself at 36 years old lol
I've been chaste ("celibate") due to my faith and it's been so helpful with out even knowing it would be ad I'm 45. I didn't go into isolation until I was forced to, by my actual death during the plandemic 2020 as a nurse and didn't get healthcare, lost my life, neglected by healthcare, a sibling happy about my situation, other family ignoring she was happy about it...painful mess, but yes, healing is underway. Good job and God bless, keep going. It's unbearable to be sober your whole life too :(
@@Jennifer-gr7hn i am 44 turning 45 in 5 mos
That’s all I want at 60…..
@ i hope you get everything you want in this lifetime✨
Before I married the man I'm married to I almost ran him offby moving too fast. Once GOD helped me to slow down my husband picked up the speed. I had too slow down & get to know what I really wanted!!!
I’ve given up.
I can’t even watch a movie with friendly people or handle most social situations. I just go straight into being overwhelmed. Maybe I’m disregulated, and my nervous system doesn’t work as it should anymore as I now have chronic neuropathic pain.
Even daylight feels like acid on my skin some days…. Something is really wrong with me.
This whole thing started as chronic trauma and stress as I was growing up. I still suffer from it today, 35 years later, tired. But I am grateful for what I have and find joy in the smallest things. Being in the moment, practicing the skills I’ve been learning from you and the wonderful community online of people who have been through long-term trauma and stress.
Please don't give up. If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Neuropathic pain might also have to do with a lack of B12 (vegan, vegetarian or low stomach acidity), so eating more eggs, animal fat in butter, ghee, lard, bacon, fatty animal products might be a good idea in general. Talking from experience btw, had neuropathic pain in my feet after having been vegan for many years, then read Weston A. Price and started eating fatty animal foods again plus started to supplement B12, no more neuropathy at all. All the best to you
The inner child wounds can be life long I am assuming. I began self help at age 13, and I am 44 now and still struggling a lot with things. My biggest regret is that its taken so long to have a full psychological sense of agency, decision making power and self governance. So I would say to anyone else it is most important to be able to identify the specific deficits you have and get professional guidance on how to better yourself, plus your own research into filling your empty well in the specific ways you most need. In my experience these childhood wounds do not just go away. I wish they would as I am 44, but I find it is more a continual need to reframe past bad experiences and keep learning how to cope better and stronger throughout time. Honoring the fact that you are growing in resilience and this is the gift. The bad stuff isn't the gift, what you make out of it in the long run is.
Glad you are here! Thank you for sharing your insight with us.
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you so much for this! Same here. We got this.💗
🙏🏼God bless you and thank you for all your sincere, heartfelt advice please keep sending us more info and discussing situation. You’re the best.❤
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Anna, I love your wisdom and compassion and most of all I just love your voice. It’s like a soothing balm.
First I was codependent but now I can’t connect at all. Just safer to be alone.
I can't connect, too. It is horrible.
@@santisanti8386how do you know you can’t connect? I think I have this too
Agree to can't connect. I just can't stand men anymore, simply hang around them for money. Feel like I wouldn't be able to feel love towards men ever again. Which is kinda good too, to be honest. Lol.
You can't expect someone else to fix your problems... You MUST fix your problems from within!!
But others contribute to making yu feel worse or not lol u can't deny that truth
Your timing is always spot on ❤
For real especially around the holidays it’s hard. Working on healthy relationships is difficult.
Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy
Always! 🙏🏻♥️🥰
I can so relate to James as I've outgrown everyone who all cling to denial and avoidance. I'm all alone now ; my solace being in nature and with animals working on healing and reparenting myself to further raise my vibration to attract more kindred spirits etc. I am proud of you James, you sound like such an authentic friend, as am I. Better days ahead ! Keep faith . Bless you, and all here, sending Love and Light ! ♥️🌟🎶🙏🏼😇🌈🔆🕊💫
“You’ve made it very easy to be indifferent to you.” OUCH! That has so been me. But this clarity is freeing. Damn. Dat me. LOL
Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy
A sitcom episode, a seasonal blockbuster, or a cinematic saga all depend on how much one is willing to invest.
I'm very impressed with the compassion and connection that CCF affords people .
I wish I were gifted like that 🎉
Maybe someday ...
Activities... Activities... Activities!!
"compartmentalizing" 👌🏻 you're so good with describing cptsd phenomenon 🙏🏻
Not cared for, yep that's me, because i dont know how it feels to be cared for.
You're not alone. Hang in there!
Nika@TeamFairy
I’m glad I’m not the only one with these issues. I’m going to look into SLAA, I am absolutely powerless and get addicted to the idea of love.
Unfortunately true ..
How does one heal affordably with extensive trauma spanning 64 yrs ?
I have found adult children of alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families 12.step groups...it's not about the booze or drugs..it's about the trauma...learning how to love ourselves
Did that in my 20s and 30s ... @@lauraleemoderndaysamaritan4137
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
-Calista@TeamFairy
I’ve been a little interested about psychedelic assisted therapy for trying to deal with my shit. What scares me about that is past psyc shit. Truth be told I’m in a better space in my head now than I have been in a long time. I’m on the brink of being homeless and without any family. Talk about a long strange trip.
Thanks for posting this video.....
If you haven’t already, could you do a video focusing on how we go to people we match and as we heal, those relationships fall away? That statement alone is helping to release guilt and anger toward myself.
The Ultimate Cool Girl Syndrome:
“Oh you dumped me? That’s okay. We’ll just carry on like nothing happened.”
Oof, boy did that one hit home.
Thanks SO much🌹
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Nora writes in a lot .....trust me, I would too! I just wonder if these are real people ;) If not, it's TOOOOOOTALLY okay because we need this and the scenario and teachings are the worth it and the point.
This is a medley of videos she’s already posted.
The letters are from real people. Glad you enjoy watching the compilation video!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thankyou 🌸🙏
I am at a point where my healing journey obviously required a steep learning journey, which by necessity required massive personal growth, and now? Sigh... omg, people bore my mind to near unbearable levels... soooo basic minded, it's just painful to listen too & suffer thru faking interest in small talk.
Honestly, lonely isn't fun, but I'd rather stand in a corner & bang my head on the wall than bother trying to 'people' anymore.
Thanks for sharing
I hope I find my tribe.
Thank you
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I have noticed that in groups I start to pay for things, also I lie and exaggerate.
I really agree with what you are sharing here. I would like to add however; I believe that people who can and do have casual sex with others are going to transform themselves more and more into predators who objectify and use others. It is my belief that sex is a very deeply intimate thing which cannot be casual at all. I think trying to make it casual is harming to oneself and if you become adept at this fooling yourself into thinking this is just fun than you are in for a rude awakening down the line at some point.
My life is "friendship trough". I have friends I love and I'm gratefull, but most live far away, are busy or as introvert as me, so we rarely see each other and im 47, recently single, no family of my own and so So lonely. I used to "solve" this with sex, no more though, too old and "wise" for that now. So now....??
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
In my case it is only feelings not thoughts...always a dread, terror and fear feeling with some sadness like something wrong has just happened...there is no thoughts to write...a constant low grade fear, sadness, terror feelings on chest and in heart.....only feelings not attached thoughts...how to do writing practice then.......???...i see subtle neglect in my childhood...that could have generated these feelings...but how your writing practice i can apply to get this stuck feelings processed
I would encourage you to attend a free Daily Practice call where you can ask Anna or one of our coaches this question directly! You can do so once you've completed the course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice :)
-Calista@TeamFairy
The crazies 😂😂🥰
Take that submissive posturing one step at a time in safe increments rather than a leap in faith.
Brilliant, prolific. Unfortunately this true : every single sentence 🙏😢❤been abused, discarded and now alone in a WARZONE, having followed my American mom to Israel. DISCARDed me, literally " leaving me homeless on the streets of Jerusalem. Not 1- human if organization is willing to accompany me to attempt to state my truth about this topic. If another person here wants to sponsor a session for me, that would be awesome 👍 8:08 😮❤1/18 siblings. Not 1 parent or step parent who really cares. I can't believe I'm finally starting to get my TRUTH out!! 8:08 narcissistic parents siblings and bosses. Heaven help me Lord protect me. Thank you in advance for your consideration!😅🎉❤
Glad you are here. Stay safe!
Nika@TeamFairy
Bookmark 26:38
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stage 5 clinger 😳
That’s cruel.
🙏