Ive noticed when I'm becoming dysregulated I have a tendency to take over the role of my abusers and get hard on myself. It's really important to have self compassion and self love for me when I'm getting like that. . To treat myself as i would a close friend. It helps calm me down.
I hear you one thousand percent…. I think that I came to understand I would do this because if I could just punish myself, I might not have to put up with the unpredictable punishment that I would receive from another person. Well, not anybody my family members. Also, of course, when we’re little we don’t want to admit to ourselves that are caregivers are unreliable, and that we’re in danger so we think we need to change ourselves if we do that, and then the circumstances will get better. Of course it doesn’t work that way. Please be kind to yourself. That’s the one thing we need more than anything, more than other people, even.
I'm 61 and just recently diagnosed with cptsd and autism. The toughest thing is to experience authentic and intrinsic compassion for myself. I'm so rough on myself and it has become my normal way of coping with life. But the older I get the more anxiety I experience. I believe the absence of compassion sabotages my proces of healing myself and taking care of myself. How do I change the believe that I'm not worthy?
And Tim Fletcher's channel is also utterly incredible. We're very lucky to have such high quality therapeutic resources available for free. It's done more for me than 20+ years of in-office "therapy"
OMG I’m just realize that I have CPTSD !!!! I get completely deregulated with almost everything related to my family and I thought that maybe I was just a bit crazy and needed a bit more self control, but you ladies are right, all this anxiety comes from my early childhood and even maybe before I was born. I’m not saying that I’ve being an unhappy unaccomplished person but I’ve being tormented with a terrible anguish my entire life and that is a long time because I’m already 63. Thank you so much for all you do. God bless you.
Started journaling at 15, as a response to trauma and crisis, and have kept it going for over 30 years now. Therapy has never quite connected the dots. It's not the literal words or thoughts being written down that matter as much as the desire and expression of them. There is great therapeutic and cognitive power in the habit of pen to paper. However, it can also be incredibly isolating and fuel rampant escapism. Ego loves to wallow and thrives in an echo-chamber
This is such an interesting observation! I just started journaling and it sometimes feels like such a relief and like it really could be helping, but then I start wondering if it’s indulging and wallowing in my feelings. I figure I’ll be able to tell after a year if it’s actually helping me to process things, so I’ve set that as an experiment for myself.
Thank you for sharing. Anna mentions being mirrored by caregivers, and as someone who identifies as a writer, I agree completely and have found being in safe community where I can verbalize my truth to be transformative. But in support of the writing process, I imagine your experience vibes perfectly with Anna's protocol, where she says dump everything on the page in order to release it. As she says in this video, processing with a therapist can be disregulating, but in groups or as a partner in a pairing, coregulation can finally happen. Seeing and affirming my words on the page is another super powerful way of regulating.
I understand your observations, that's why I journaled over a year, got it out of my chest and just stopped. I was realising it's not healthy to crave this moment when you can go on and on about what's going wrong. It helped getting over my confusion after a hospitalisation for a severe depression but as I said after over a year I could realise it would have been unhealthy to keep going with the journaling.
These two ladies have had a huge impact on my life and given me so many tools that got me through (and still get me through) the most difficult times! Re-regulated is a great book that everyone should read!
I have never bobbed my head up and down in agreement like I have while watching this video. I just now ordered the book Re-regulated. While listening to Anna describe a person with CPTSD, resulting from childhood trauma, I felt like she was describing me to a T. Thank you, Emma, for bringing Anna on.
Anna and Emma you are both part of my success journey of self-regulating. Anna i’ve been doing the daily practice for 3 weeks and i already feel much less emotional and Emma you made me undestand how make nervous system works. I am so grateful to both of you, thank you so much for your work 💝💝
This CPTSD revealed itself when I enrolled in college at 38 after having major surgery for endometriosis. I thought everything was good timing and then I developed inner ear crystals and vertigo for almost an entire year of pain. I was surprised the schools in WI weren’t educated on the difference between chronic and regular PTSD. I appreciate when experts talk about this matter from lived experience. ❤
Wow is there a connection between the ear crystal vertigo and Cptsd? The last year has been so much harder with the ear issues 😞 if anyone knows how to mitigate this kind of vertigo besides keeping sinuses clear and Epley head maneuvers I would be grateful. (I also have issues with mineral balances and staying hydrated but the ENT doctor said the calcium crystal ear issue was not related).
I had quite a few therapists myself Anna from when I was in 6th grade until now. They all did their best I believe but the one I have now recognized my neurodivergence immediately and my cptsd. She got me with a psych who diagnosed me with autism and inattentive ADHD. The diagnoses, the medication, and my sobriety soon after really is getting the ball rolling in my healing. That was 5 months ago, I’m 39 now.
What a great surprise to see two of my favorites together. Both have helped me significantly!! Blessings and gratitude 🙏 ✨️ 62 and still getting better.
I just want to publicly say that I found both of you on TH-cam and fed myself your knowledge daily. Now I’m much more emotionally happy and I wake up every day excited to have my life. Thank you for your tireless work. I love this collaboration!! 🩷🩷🩷
I am JUST SMILING and laughing and crying! And I AM NOT DYSREGULATED. LOL❤❤❤❤I am just absolutely thrilled to the toes to click on and got such a GREAT SURPRISE!! Wow WOW! WOOW!!!!! Two of my VERY FAVORITE, Most supportive and useful CPTSD healing helpers who I have relied upon on YT for the last 5 years....TOGETHER???! What have I done that's so good to deserve this treat?? (KIDDING. Little cptsd humor) Anna- your new book is shear genius. I've been so hoping you would capture your methods, in your uniqye vouce, onto 'paper'. Thank You, Thank you for taking the time, making the humongous effort for us!! You are a better woman than me, still!! Congrats, Lady🎉 Books are the gift that keeps on giving.. Now we ALSO get to see Ms Runkle on other people's shows, spreading her invaluable wisdom. Love You, Emma.... Thank you both❤
Wow, two of my favorite therapists together! I'm 75 and obsessed with becoming a better person everyday. I'm so grateful for modern technology so all of us have access to your wisdom.
Some things were more clearly expressed than I had heard Anna say before. I love seeing you two together and appreciate the wisdom and compassion you both hold. xxx❤❤❤
Having always left tasks to the brink of the moment they need done… Someone told me “when you’re behind on life, get ahead on Christmas.” This has really helped me, and has expanded into every area of my life. Cut my losses about things going on now that I didn’t prepare well for, but look ahead to the next week and month and season. Using a calendar planner, I look to the events coming up. I break down the things that would make me feel prepared for the event into the smallest possible pieces. Which pieces can I pick off soon? Then it brings me joy and peace to get some of the pieces going as soon as I can.
This is so helpful! Four of our children were adopted from Foster Care after experiencing significant neglect and instability with their biological families. They have health issues that doctors have never been able to figure out. This video, as well as many of the others Emma has created, is helping us put the puzzle pieces together
Such a great chat between two fabulous people both in service to the world. Im so grateful to you both for the commitment to healing that youve both made, to help others in the world. I find it really inspiring and also really helpful. You both bring me a lot of hope, thank you ❤ Cant wait to read the book, Im going to ask my local library to get a copy
My ex husband broke into my laptop with the help of his brother. He shared my journal with his family. I have literally been unable to write anything down since then ...... Around 15 years ago. My goal (one of a million lol) is to relearn to do and appreciate journaling, as i know it is very important to my healing.
Thank you Emma, I have benefited from your channel for quite some time and found Anna Runkle through you, and downloaded her book and all the bells started ringing, and I realised I wasn't 'mad' as virtually all the symptoms she mentioned she had were mine too. I hate labels but I now know I have cptsd and there Is something I can do to help myself - Thank you Two wonderful humans So much 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Thank you so much for your efforts. Both of your content has deeply helped in my own healing from Trauma and just seeing that my identity isn't defined by the worst things that happened to me and there is hope for us who've been through multiple occurrences of trauma. God bless both of you!
As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has CPTSD, I didn’t get the love and understanding from my stepmom. But she was this way to everyone in the house. She was like this towards my father. I was disciplined and punished for things that benefited my blindness and autism. I wasn’t allowed to cry, get mad, run into things, touch and explore my surroundings, have intense emotions even if I was happy or sad. And I wasn’t allowed to not tell my stepmom what was wrong if I was dysregulated. I didn’t want to tell her what was wrong, but I was pressured to anyway. I basically had to suppress myself and fit in with the rules and norms of society. I now live with my biological mom, and I can now be myself. I also have a husband who is also totally blind and autistic.
@ thank you. I’m going to keep on striving to be myself, and not have to mask just to make everyone else happy. At this point, they can either take me or leave me. It’s their choice.
May I suggest somatic tools to retrain our habits by spending just a few minutes a day practicing coping skills to calm our polyvagal nerve. DBT is phenomenal. God Bless You on your journey. 🙏🏻❤️💪🏼
You two of my favourite teachers/ human beings ! I have been watching both of your videos very long time, your videos given me so many different perspectives to help with my emotional health, Thank you for what you do !💕
This made me cry. It is me. No help. I have been silenced. Now, I'm just waiting for what? Nothing. Nothing but the sorry, shameful, embarrassed & guilt ridden end. Erin 🇨🇦 😢😢😢
You can work through all of these painful emotions and come out the other side with the help of self compassion 🌻I'm a trauma survivor and on this journey myself ..some day it feels like a constant battle and so much loneliness but the answers will always lie within yourself, not from external support or validation. It can definitely help but only so much. Sending you lots of love and positivity on your own healing journey 💖
I am a survivor of childhood abuse. There is light at the other side... After getting away from the abusers. Are you out of the abusive situation? Do you have help from your doctor to see a psychiatrist and or psychologist? If you are a teenager stuck try and get help from CAS & a non abusive family member or friend's parent. There is often help from your local community center via doctors & social workers and also local Family Service groups.
I was adopted out of a place of trauma and abuse, and have been in and out of therapies and psych medications for most of my life. None of it helped-- but picking up a cheap little ukulele and learning a few chords over a few months has done me more help than the last decade's worth of therapy.
Hi Emily, I have Severe COMPLEX PTSD. My childhood was a living hell. It absolutely has been so difficult to find healing. I also have very bad treatment-resistant Depression. I've done every kind of therapy, including 1 year of EMDR.I am 66 and have horrible regulating issues. The crazy part is as I've gotten older, I have Meltowns. I get overwhelmed so easy. I don't want to say anything negative about Crappy Childhood Fairy. However, I committed myself to her writing exercises, the whole thing. For me it was very triggering, and it was not helpful. We are all different, this I understand. I just felt compelled to share, it's not a guarantee of healing. Don't blame yourself If you give something your all but get no results. Thank you Emily, I am thrilled you are 0n TH-cam.
@erinclaman6875 Hi Erin, thank you so much for replying to me. I feel AWFUL, YOU ARE GOING THROUGH SUCH A DIFFICULT TIME IN YOUR LIFE. There are so many questions I want to ask you. If you'd like someone to share things with, let me know. ❤
@amaria7735 hi, thank you so much. Did I mention I had both ovaries removed in 2007? I tried bioidentical hormones.way to expensive. To be honest I have tried so many different things I can't even remember what I tried I mean I did everything I could just so many different things so thank you for asking I really appreciate it but I don't know what to do anymore I just I'm just doing life and trying to get through because I have right now polyneuropathy which is so agonizingly painful. Thank you for your input I do appreciate it so much
I started having seizures 8 years ago. After watching both your videos & reading a ton of books I've put togther that my seizures are triggered by stressful situations (I'm a highly sensitive person with CPTSD from my childhood) 6 months ago I got a Vagus Nerve Stimulation device transplanted in me. It's definitely helped ease my depression and seizures. Every day I continue to learn about how our brains, bodies and emotions work. I just have to keep trying to retrain my brains natural reaction to stress. You two have been a huge encouragement & given me so much knowledge. Thank you.
Hello I have epilepsy but it could be panic attacks or non epileptic seizures... gave tried alot of meds nothing is working... wanting vns but first still trying to see if surgery is possible...I always have normal mri sometimes I have abnormal eeg but they never find something too serious.. not enough to find the spot for surgery, so im convince I also have cptsd because I've had multiple traumas im my life so now in therapy to see what happens .
Oh my goodness, I'm so happy to see you both together and I hope there are more collaborations. You girls make the world a better place for people and it's so inspiring! Happy Holidays!!
Thank you both. You are wise, compassionate and altruistic women - you are both/each a gift to the world and to hurting people. -- Anna: I found you a few years ago now, and for some reason have been resistant to doing your writing/meditation practice. Today, listening, I finally faced this head-on and realized my discomfort in trying this practice is completely married to my disregulation. I plan to start tomorrow. I have printed out your Daily Practice (I'm a tactile person) and plan to begin! -- Emma: You are wonderful! I have also subscribed to you for a few years now and your words/videos have really helped me numerous times. Two years ago I was anticipating surgery the end of December and started having daily panic attacks. As we know, these are random and I just kept having to go through them, once a day, every day, starting about 10 days before the surgery. Emma - I watched your video about panic attacks and what you said there helped me so much! I used your advice when I had one again the next day and it helped! They stopped two days later...THANK YOU ANNA & EMMA. I thank you both with deep gratitude. I am a 62-year-old woman from Portland, OR.
Im thankful I found both of you. This is a helpful video. I learned about ruminating and disregulation from you. I'm thankful I can put a name to what I have. It is helping me in my healing.
I’ve been to so many therapists during the years, trying so many different kind of things to heal. This video has given me more than most of all the therapy I’ve gone through. Thank you!❤
Okay so admittedly, Anna is knowledgeable about specific things, and I do agree that she can give some good advice on those things, but as someone that used to view her content, I have issues it. First it's really important for ppl to understand, there many other conditions that can cause symptoms identical to those of cptsd. But they're different, and they require different treatment. Many of her listeners are self-diagnosed, and contrary to what they think, this really isn't possible. Some people may get it right, but undoubtably, some are mistakenly assuming they have cptsd when actually its BPD or adhd, and/or something else. Plus many people with trauma have comorbidities. I've never heard her acknowledge any this on her channel and she absolutely should. MHPs are trained to compare and differentiate between all conditions possible. Laymen(like Ana) are not. Regardless of how knowledgeable she is about one thing, she is still unaware of the many others that could be the problem. Also she gives off an anti-therapy vibe. Constantly makes negative/discouraging comments about it, implying that it won't help, which is irresponsible. She's not qualified to make that call, simply because she didn't have a good experience with it. Talk therapy isn't the only kind available, there are other options, especially nowadays, and no real therapist is going to imply or treat you like you're unfixable. That's total garbage. It's also kind of sus, considering she is literally counseling people that write her letters and offering paid courses. Which isn't a problem alone, but combined with the anti-therapy narrative, it starts to get grifty. I guess personally, if I was going to offer those services, especially the paid ones, I would at least get some sort of training. Apparently she doesn't think that's relevant but clearly it is. In this conversation alone, she's demonstrated multiple knowledge gaps when talking with someone who actually does have qualifications. Like when somatic therapy was mentioned, she was super dismissive, and immediately steered away. She isn't interested in discussing valid current therapy techniques, instead rehashes the exact same talking points she uses in all of her videos. For the record, journaling and meditating, are not a fix all, and they don't work for everyone. Contrary to what she claims, she's not interested in exploring or even hearing about other options available. I had hoped she had progressed at least some, since I stopped watching her, but apparently not at all. No thanks.
I couldn't even finish your disrespectful rant. You missed the point of this one. She did not say talk therapy did not work or claim any kind of all knowing on mental health.
I've had similar thoughts. I'll keep the baby but Chuck the bathwater, but it would be good to have a heads up about what might be missing from her work. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
I’m glad to hear. I hope you find help. I was a cop for 37 years. I’m sure I have this. Severe anxiety and panic attacks. It began at the end of my career and only has gotten worse in retirement.
@@babycakes8434 A social worker pointed it out to me something like eight years ago, then I read a bunch of books, and last week it was finally confirmed by a psychiatrist. Now I hope this is the reason why my depression is "treatment resistant", and that with a different treatment approach, it will finally get better.
@@babycakes8434 A social worker mentioned it five ago, I had a hunch it might be right, I read a bunch of books, and last week it was confirmed by a psychiatrist.
The Crappy Childhood Fairy in a Nut Shell, fabulous. Great reminder about daily practice and Bessel's work. I particularly like the illumination of trusting onesself. 'Becoming your own best expert' as I've termed it. Healing wthin the context of community is my challenge. 'friends' evaporating is tough. Can't force connection, Learn that lesson!
This interview and discussion is truly PRICELESS! Thank you both for all the time you have invested to understand and share this very important, life saving/changing information. I am about to be 62 and this registered with me to my core. I am excited after watching/listening to you both. I plan to purchase the book today and will continue to follow and support your channels to help you continue this much needed information for soooo many. ❤❤
Pivotal Question to Emma or @crappychildhoodfairy At 32:00, you, Anna, warn that certain approaches to writing can make me feel worse -- I SUPER APPRECIATE THIS CAVEAT!!!! At 32:14 I believe you accidentally misspoke: I believe you meant to say "just giving the litany, the laundry-list of complaints will make you feel worse." On video you said it'll make me feel better...?!
Watching your childhood drama ACES Study on tv. It's a good start. I am 77 and have enough psych credits to graduate but had a child that chose to go on to law school so I didn't finish the lesser part. However, I have used what I have learned in many ways through the years. The issue I would like to point out is this: the family structure needs to be rebuilt ( which has been destroyed intentionally) before we can have healthy families and healthy children. We need to re-establish communities. I have experienced many childhood issues myself and simple solutions do not work. Putting together a family structure with others on one's life has been most helpful to myself and others. Many coping skills have been overlooked in your presentation. I overachiever. Learning to not do too much has been my most difficult adjustment. This is like 12 points of dysfunction. I do believe there is far more to acknowledgement and healing. It first begins at home and then in one's community. ❤🎉
The daily writing I did for several months and it dysregulated me every time I did it and made me worse over time. I wish there was something that really worked.😢
Yes, I often find it just makes things worse and gets me more deeply entrenched in whatever the negative thing is rather than help release or process it.
Really appreciate Anna Runkle insight and background. I've started reading the book yet I felt into a depressive episode/relapse when doing the trauma exercise, I'd recommend doing tat exercise when in active therapy.
@@Jas-zzz Yes, completely agree. I think Anna's daily practice can be effectively utilised by more than those struggling with cPTSD. The genius of it lies in it's simplicity, which then facilitates this broader application.
I was just diagnosed with CPTSD, earlier this spring/summer by my counselor. I've had 2.5 years of constant break-ins, property damage, and theft. Perpetrators never caught. Police did little-to- nothing. Now, I will be selling my home I wanted to grow old/retire in. I am raging one minute, & weeping/crying at the thought of leaving & selling my home the next. I spent over $5000 on cameras, deadbolts, changed locks, and security lighting.Nothing worked. Still finding things stolen and damaged by someone who knows how to bypass cameras. Even a police camera on my property didn't catch the thieves. I am simply DONE!!
Ponder this: This was an interesting video of an underutilized term (CPTSD-Chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) in regards to making a diagnosis! I think many people were often misdiagnosed and rather have this than what I was given! 👏🏾👍🏾🔥
Oh my gosh! I hear what you are saying regarding therapist appt, sharing all your issues and after appt, not being able to deal with yourself… guilt, shame, etc. I’m disregulated!! Wow!
Talk therapy makes people with trauma worst when the therapist only wants to relive the trauma. There was never any solutions or help from therapy that I experienced. It was all just the therapist wanting to relive it. When I started questioning what she was doing, why three are no goals, what was her modality, she abruptly ended the therapy saying, "You won't understand". Looking back, I believe she got some sort of arousal in other words 'got off' from hearing about the abuse. I was only retraumatized and violated by this. It is similar to 6 million subscribers watching Soft White Underbelly. For some reason alot of people love hearing about abuse. This was before the internet and I believe I would have known better if the education about therapy was accessible and available back then. After that, I will never seek therapy. I found simply living a good life is better than any therapy.
Thank you both for helping me understand and have a name to what I've gone through. I've learned to not rush into any type of relationship due to my attachment trauma. What I'm learning from taking my time, is that so many people have mal-adaptive patterns of behavior and I've yet to find "emotionally healthy" people to relate to. I've done all the work on me (20 plus) years of research and self-help. I'm having a hard time connecting with other's who are healing and self-aware. Any suggestions?
Dysregulated that's it! It's me ...I avoid talking about my trauma and replace it with humor. It's hard because I get full of nerves I can't think , I can't function...so instead of feeling it I avoid it. This makes sense thanks for talking about this.
I have known for years that i had cptsd, but I wasn't diagnosed until March of this year. March was also the month i found out my now ex cheated on me. He lied about it, and i didn't find out the truth until May. I was already in trauma therapy for childhood and relationship trauma , so this was another trauma on top of what i was healing. Fast forward to December and im in back in therapy because i haven't been able to get over the break up and betrayal....but my sister thinks i have a hormonal issue. Its the same for me, I'm fine until i talk about it, then i start crying. I have never had a relationship that wasn't first sexual because of my Attachment wounds. I have been working on these wounds so i don't ever trauma bond again. I so needed to hear yhis today!
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Ive noticed when I'm becoming dysregulated I have a tendency to take over the role of my abusers and get hard on myself.
It's really important to have self compassion and self love for me when I'm getting like that. . To treat myself as i would a close friend.
It helps calm me down.
Yup but it’s so tough when criticism is our normal
I hear you one thousand percent…. I think that I came to understand I would do this because if I could just punish myself, I might not have to put up with the unpredictable punishment that I would receive from another person. Well, not anybody my family members. Also, of course, when we’re little we don’t want to admit to ourselves that are caregivers are unreliable, and that we’re in danger so we think we need to change ourselves if we do that, and then the circumstances will get better. Of course it doesn’t work that way. Please be kind to yourself. That’s the one thing we need more than anything, more than other people, even.
Wow ..me too
I'm 61 and just recently diagnosed with cptsd and autism. The toughest thing is to experience authentic and intrinsic compassion for myself. I'm so rough on myself and it has become my normal way of coping with life. But the older I get the more anxiety I experience.
I believe the absence of compassion sabotages my proces of healing myself and taking care of myself.
How do I change the believe that I'm not worthy?
Absolutely...same with me
Two ladies that changed my life for the better. Thank you both very much.
And Tim Fletcher's channel is also utterly incredible.
We're very lucky to have such high quality therapeutic resources available for free. It's done more for me than 20+ years of in-office "therapy"
Two of my favorites! This is golden ✨️
😊❤I came here to comment the same thing 😂
@@drawingmomentumMe too lol lol and to learn more about my health
Yes. These young ladies & Kati Morton. Great gals.
@@drawingmomentum Same! 😃
Same!
OMG I’m just realize that I have CPTSD !!!! I get completely deregulated with almost everything related to my family and I thought that maybe I was just a bit crazy and needed a bit more self control, but you ladies are right, all this anxiety comes from my early childhood and even maybe before I was born. I’m not saying that I’ve being an unhappy unaccomplished person but I’ve being tormented with a terrible anguish my entire life and that is a long time because I’m already 63. Thank you so much for all you do. God bless you.
I would love to connect with you..me too!❤
Started journaling at 15, as a response to trauma and crisis, and have kept it going for over 30 years now. Therapy has never quite connected the dots. It's not the literal words or thoughts being written down that matter as much as the desire and expression of them. There is great therapeutic and cognitive power in the habit of pen to paper. However, it can also be incredibly isolating and fuel rampant escapism. Ego loves to wallow and thrives in an echo-chamber
This is such an interesting observation! I just started journaling and it sometimes feels like such a relief and like it really could be helping, but then I start wondering if it’s indulging and wallowing in my feelings. I figure I’ll be able to tell after a year if it’s actually helping me to process things, so I’ve set that as an experiment for myself.
Poetry helped me
Thank you for sharing. Anna mentions being mirrored by caregivers, and as someone who identifies as a writer, I agree completely and have found being in safe community where I can verbalize my truth to be transformative.
But in support of the writing process, I imagine your experience vibes perfectly with Anna's protocol, where she says dump everything on the page in order to release it.
As she says in this video, processing with a therapist can be disregulating, but in groups or as a partner in a pairing, coregulation can finally happen. Seeing and affirming my words on the page is another super powerful way of regulating.
I understand your observations, that's why I journaled over a year, got it out of my chest and just stopped. I was realising it's not healthy to crave this moment when you can go on and on about what's going wrong. It helped getting over my confusion after a hospitalisation for a severe depression but as I said after over a year I could realise it would have been unhealthy to keep going with the journaling.
Ooh, I'm so delighted to see the two of you together, sharing your experiences and therapeutic methods.
These two ladies have had a huge impact on my life and given me so many tools that got me through (and still get me through) the most difficult times!
Re-regulated is a great book that everyone should read!
Fabulous!
May I ask the name of their book, that was life changing for you?❤
@meredithevans5314 Re-Regulated is the name of the book, by Anna Runkle
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
It is available on Audible too!
So glad these 2 people have come together. Watched them both before this. Thankyou
I have never bobbed my head up and down in agreement like I have while watching this video. I just now ordered the book Re-regulated. While listening to Anna describe a person with CPTSD, resulting from childhood trauma, I felt like she was describing me to a T. Thank you, Emma, for bringing Anna on.
Anna and Emma you are both part of my success journey of self-regulating. Anna i’ve been doing the daily practice for 3 weeks and i already feel much less emotional and Emma you made me undestand how make nervous system works. I am so grateful to both of you, thank you so much for your work 💝💝
This CPTSD revealed itself when I enrolled in college at 38 after having major surgery for endometriosis. I thought everything was good timing and then I developed inner ear crystals and vertigo for almost an entire year of pain. I was surprised the schools in WI weren’t educated on the difference between chronic and regular PTSD. I appreciate when experts talk about this matter from lived experience. ❤
Wow is there a connection between
the ear crystal vertigo and Cptsd?
The last year has been so much harder with the ear issues 😞 if anyone knows how to mitigate this kind of vertigo besides keeping sinuses clear and Epley head maneuvers I would be grateful. (I also have issues with mineral balances and staying hydrated but the ENT doctor said the calcium crystal ear issue was not related).
I had quite a few therapists myself Anna from when I was in 6th grade until now. They all did their best I believe but the one I have now recognized my neurodivergence immediately and my cptsd. She got me with a psych who diagnosed me with autism and inattentive ADHD. The diagnoses, the medication, and my sobriety soon after really is getting the ball rolling in my healing. That was 5 months ago, I’m 39 now.
Oh my goodness! I havent watched yet but I will, two women who have helped me SO much. Bless you both!
What a great surprise to see two of my favorites together. Both have helped me significantly!! Blessings and gratitude 🙏 ✨️
62 and still getting better.
My absolute two favourites in the same place! Thanks for what you do for us!!
I just want to publicly say that I found both of you on TH-cam and fed myself your knowledge daily. Now I’m much more emotionally happy and I wake up every day excited to have my life. Thank you for your tireless work. I love this collaboration!! 🩷🩷🩷
I am JUST SMILING and laughing and crying! And I AM NOT DYSREGULATED. LOL❤❤❤❤I am just absolutely thrilled to the toes to click on and got such a GREAT SURPRISE!!
Wow WOW! WOOW!!!!!
Two of my VERY FAVORITE, Most supportive and useful CPTSD healing helpers who I have relied upon on YT for the last 5 years....TOGETHER???! What have I done that's so good to deserve this treat?? (KIDDING. Little cptsd humor)
Anna- your new book is shear genius. I've been so hoping you would capture your methods, in your uniqye vouce, onto 'paper'. Thank You, Thank you for taking the time, making the humongous effort for us!! You are a better woman than me, still!! Congrats, Lady🎉
Books are the gift that keeps on giving.. Now we ALSO get to see Ms Runkle on other people's shows, spreading her invaluable wisdom.
Love You, Emma.... Thank you both❤
Wow, two of my favorite therapists together!
I'm 75 and obsessed with becoming a better person everyday.
I'm so grateful for modern technology so all of us have access to your wisdom.
My two favorite TH-camrs in one episode! Thank you both for all you do ❤
Some things were more clearly expressed than I had heard Anna say before. I love seeing you two together and appreciate the wisdom and compassion you both hold. xxx❤❤❤
My two most favorite ladies together.... woooohooooo!!! It doesn't get any better than this!!!!
Having always left tasks to the brink of the moment they need done…
Someone told me “when you’re behind on life, get ahead on Christmas.”
This has really helped me, and has expanded into every area of my life. Cut my losses about things going on now that I didn’t prepare well for, but look ahead to the next week and month and season. Using a calendar planner, I look to the events coming up. I break down the things that would make me feel prepared for the event into the smallest possible pieces. Which pieces can I pick off soon? Then it brings me joy and peace to get some of the pieces going as soon as I can.
This is so helpful! Four of our children were adopted from Foster Care after experiencing significant neglect and instability with their biological families. They have health issues that doctors have never been able to figure out. This video, as well as many of the others Emma has created, is helping us put the puzzle pieces together
Relinquishment and adoption trauma. 😔 babies are not blank slates and children need love, affection, mirroring and their grief recognized 💝
Such a great chat between two fabulous people both in service to the world. Im so grateful to you both for the commitment to healing that youve both made, to help others in the world. I find it really inspiring and also really helpful. You both bring me a lot of hope, thank you ❤
Cant wait to read the book, Im going to ask my local library to get a copy
it's so lovely to see you 2 working together!! angels!! i don't even necessarily believe in angels but ANGELS!!
My ex husband broke into my laptop with the help of his brother. He shared my journal with his family. I have literally been unable to write anything down since then ...... Around 15 years ago. My goal (one of a million lol) is to relearn to do and appreciate journaling, as i know it is very important to my healing.
Thank you Emma, I have benefited from your channel for quite some time and found Anna Runkle through you, and downloaded her book and all the bells started ringing, and I realised I wasn't 'mad' as virtually all the symptoms she mentioned she had were mine too. I hate labels but I now know I have cptsd and there Is something I can do to help myself - Thank you Two wonderful humans So much 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Thank you so much for your efforts. Both of your content has deeply helped in my own healing from Trauma and just seeing that my identity isn't defined by the worst things that happened to me and there is hope for us who've been through multiple occurrences of trauma. God bless both of you!
As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has CPTSD, I didn’t get the love and understanding from my stepmom. But she was this way to everyone in the house. She was like this towards my father. I was disciplined and punished for things that benefited my blindness and autism. I wasn’t allowed to cry, get mad, run into things, touch and explore my surroundings, have intense emotions even if I was happy or sad. And I wasn’t allowed to not tell my stepmom what was wrong if I was dysregulated. I didn’t want to tell her what was wrong, but I was pressured to anyway. I basically had to suppress myself and fit in with the rules and norms of society. I now live with my biological mom, and I can now be myself. I also have a husband who is also totally blind and autistic.
Im so sorry to hear this.. but am glad that you have the freedom to be yourself now and accepted for who you are now.
@ thank you. I’m going to keep on striving to be myself, and not have to mask just to make everyone else happy. At this point, they can either take me or leave me. It’s their choice.
May I suggest somatic tools to retrain our habits by spending just a few minutes a day practicing coping skills to calm our polyvagal nerve. DBT is phenomenal. God Bless You on your journey. 🙏🏻❤️💪🏼
@@BrandyinIndy I actually have a lot of coping skills.
Hope you are doing all right now❤ Wish you all the best.
I'm feeling so blessed to have watched this conversation. Thank you both for your hard work and dedication to learning, sharing and improving lives!
You two of my favourite teachers/ human beings ! I have been watching both of your videos very long time, your videos given me so many different perspectives to help with my emotional health, Thank you for what you do !💕
Wow! I am a guy, late life diagnosis with ADHD, and alcoholic active in AA. My whole bag identifies with her way of doing life. So, thank you.
Thank you BOTH, I have found so much support from your channels. What a team. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙏 I truly thought I was lost
This made me cry. It is me. No help. I have been silenced. Now, I'm just waiting for what? Nothing. Nothing but the sorry, shameful, embarrassed & guilt ridden end. Erin 🇨🇦 😢😢😢
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You can work through all of these painful emotions and come out the other side with the help of self compassion 🌻I'm a trauma survivor and on this journey myself ..some day it feels like a constant battle and so much loneliness but the answers will always lie within yourself, not from external support or validation. It can definitely help but only so much. Sending you lots of love and positivity on your own healing journey 💖
I am a survivor of childhood abuse. There is light at the other side... After getting away from the abusers. Are you out of the abusive situation? Do you have help from your doctor to see a psychiatrist and or psychologist? If you are a teenager stuck try and get help from CAS & a non abusive family member or friend's parent. There is often help from your local community center via doctors & social workers and also local Family Service groups.
I was adopted out of a place of trauma and abuse, and have been in and out of therapies and psych medications for most of my life. None of it helped-- but picking up a cheap little ukulele and learning a few chords over a few months has done me more help than the last decade's worth of therapy.
Hi Emily, I have Severe COMPLEX PTSD. My childhood was a living hell. It absolutely has been so difficult to find healing. I also have very bad treatment-resistant Depression. I've done every kind of therapy, including 1 year of EMDR.I am 66 and have horrible regulating issues. The crazy part is as I've gotten older, I have Meltowns. I get overwhelmed so easy.
I don't want to say anything negative about Crappy Childhood Fairy. However, I committed myself to her writing exercises, the whole thing. For me it was very triggering, and it was not helpful. We are all different, this I understand. I just felt compelled to share, it's not a guarantee of healing. Don't blame yourself If you give something your all but get no results. Thank you Emily, I am thrilled you are 0n
TH-cam.
I get what your going through & your struggle. I am 58 & experiencing the same thing. sending validation & strength your way, Erin
@erinclaman6875 Hi Erin, thank you so much for replying to me.
I feel AWFUL, YOU ARE GOING THROUGH SUCH A DIFFICULT TIME IN YOUR LIFE. There are so many questions I want to ask you. If you'd like someone to share things with, let me know. ❤
Did you try supplements for nuerological support? And hormone replacement? Menopause will destroy women who were barely keeping it together ❤️
@amaria7735 hi, thank you so much.
Did I mention I had both ovaries removed in 2007? I tried bioidentical hormones.way to expensive. To be honest I have tried so many different things I can't even remember what I tried I mean I did everything I could just so many different things so thank you for asking I really appreciate it but I don't know what to do anymore I just I'm just doing life and trying to get through because I have right now polyneuropathy which is so agonizingly painful. Thank you for your input I do appreciate it so much
The colab I have been waiting for ❤
Thanks!
Thank you so much for making this video and reminding me as a parent to mirror my child more often I really appreciate that
Two of my favorite you-Tubers in one video! It feels like a Christmas gift!
I started having seizures 8 years ago. After watching both your videos & reading a ton of books I've put togther that my seizures are triggered by stressful situations (I'm a highly sensitive person with CPTSD from my childhood) 6 months ago I got a Vagus Nerve Stimulation device transplanted in me. It's definitely helped ease my depression and seizures. Every day I continue to learn about how our brains, bodies and emotions work. I just have to keep trying to retrain my brains natural reaction to stress. You two have been a huge encouragement & given me so much knowledge. Thank you.
I loved hearing that too..."Follow my own light"!!!!!
Hello I have epilepsy but it could be panic attacks or non epileptic seizures... gave tried alot of meds nothing is working... wanting vns but first still trying to see if surgery is possible...I always have normal mri sometimes I have abnormal eeg but they never find something too serious.. not enough to find the spot for surgery, so im convince I also have cptsd because I've had multiple traumas im my life so now in therapy to see what happens
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Love Anna Runkle. She has opened my eyes and helped me so much to put a name on the issue I have suffered with my whole life; CPTSD.
Oh my goodness, I'm so happy to see you both together and I hope there are more collaborations. You girls make the world a better place for people and it's so inspiring! Happy Holidays!!
Yessss love these two!! So happy to see them doing this !!
Woooow, what a cool surprise! Anna is so awesome, you two are a perfect combo, thanks for this great episode!❤🙏
You two are the very best. Thank you.
I watch this really cool horse trainer and one of his favorite quotes frequent favorite quotes is : without breakdown there is no breakthrough
Thank you both. You are wise, compassionate and altruistic women - you are both/each a gift to the world and to hurting people. -- Anna: I found you a few years ago now, and for some reason have been resistant to doing your writing/meditation practice. Today, listening, I finally faced this head-on and realized my discomfort in trying this practice is completely married to my disregulation. I plan to start tomorrow. I have printed out your Daily Practice (I'm a tactile person) and plan to begin! -- Emma: You are wonderful! I have also subscribed to you for a few years now and your words/videos have really helped me numerous times. Two years ago I was anticipating surgery the end of December and started having daily panic attacks. As we know, these are random and I just kept having to go through them, once a day, every day, starting about 10 days before the surgery. Emma - I watched your video about panic attacks and what you said there helped me so much! I used your advice when I had one again the next day and it helped! They stopped two days later...THANK YOU ANNA & EMMA. I thank you both with deep gratitude. I am a 62-year-old woman from Portland, OR.
Awesome guest. I love her channel. She is definitely in her calling.
I love this channel!
Im thankful I found both of you. This is a helpful video. I learned about ruminating and disregulation from you. I'm thankful I can put a name to what I have. It is helping me in my healing.
You two make a great team! Thank you both, for educating many of us.
I’ve been to so many therapists during the years, trying so many different kind of things to heal. This video has given me more than most of all the therapy I’ve gone through. Thank you!❤
The collab of the century :)
I so much appreciate this honest conversation. Thank you from my heart.
Wow! You two are great together! What a blessing to have been a fly on the wall for your conversation! Thank you both!
Both great speakers...great to have them together ❤
Okay so admittedly, Anna is knowledgeable about specific things, and I do agree that she can give some good advice on those things, but as someone that used to view her content, I have issues it. First it's really important for ppl to understand, there many other conditions that can cause symptoms identical to those of cptsd. But they're different, and they require different treatment. Many of her listeners are self-diagnosed, and contrary to what they think, this really isn't possible. Some people may get it right, but undoubtably, some are mistakenly assuming they have cptsd when actually its BPD or adhd, and/or something else. Plus many people with trauma have comorbidities. I've never heard her acknowledge any this on her channel and she absolutely should. MHPs are trained to compare and differentiate between all conditions possible. Laymen(like Ana) are not. Regardless of how knowledgeable she is about one thing, she is still unaware of the many others that could be the problem. Also she gives off an anti-therapy vibe. Constantly makes negative/discouraging comments about it, implying that it won't help, which is irresponsible. She's not qualified to make that call, simply because she didn't have a good experience with it. Talk therapy isn't the only kind available, there are other options, especially nowadays, and no real therapist is going to imply or treat you like you're unfixable. That's total garbage. It's also kind of sus, considering she is literally counseling people that write her letters and offering paid courses. Which isn't a problem alone, but combined with the anti-therapy narrative, it starts to get grifty. I guess personally, if I was going to offer those services, especially the paid ones, I would at least get some sort of training. Apparently she doesn't think that's relevant but clearly it is. In this conversation alone, she's demonstrated multiple knowledge gaps when talking with someone who actually does have qualifications. Like when somatic therapy was mentioned, she was super dismissive, and immediately steered away. She isn't interested in discussing valid current therapy techniques, instead rehashes the exact same talking points she uses in all of her videos. For the record, journaling and meditating, are not a fix all, and they don't work for everyone. Contrary to what she claims, she's not interested in exploring or even hearing about other options available. I had hoped she had progressed at least some, since I stopped watching her, but apparently not at all. No thanks.
I couldn't even finish your disrespectful rant. You missed the point of this one. She did not say talk therapy did not work or claim any kind of all knowing on mental health.
I've had similar thoughts. I'll keep the baby but Chuck the bathwater, but it would be good to have a heads up about what might be missing from her work. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
Wow, perfect timing for me. My cPTSD was officially medically confirmed two days ago.
I’m glad to hear. I hope you find help. I was a cop for 37 years. I’m sure I have this. Severe anxiety and panic attacks. It began at the end of my career and only has gotten worse in retirement.
How did you confirm it?
@@babycakes8434 A social worker pointed it out to me something like eight years ago, then I read a bunch of books, and last week it was finally confirmed by a psychiatrist. Now I hope this is the reason why my depression is "treatment resistant", and that with a different treatment approach, it will finally get better.
@@babycakes8434 A social worker mentioned it five ago, I had a hunch it might be right, I read a bunch of books, and last week it was confirmed by a psychiatrist.
@@MrSouthofBoston Having been a cop, "regular" PTSD is also possible. If you can, it might be worth it to seek treatment. There's EMDR and stuff.
Anna & Emma, you both are wonderful. Gotta read that new book.
Thank you! Just got the audio book.
The Crappy Childhood Fairy in a Nut Shell, fabulous.
Great reminder about daily practice and Bessel's work. I particularly like the illumination of trusting onesself.
'Becoming your own best expert' as I've termed it.
Healing wthin the context of community is my challenge. 'friends' evaporating is tough.
Can't force connection,
Learn that lesson!
This episode has truly truly enlightened me! Thank you so so much for all of your insights and for all of Anna‘s! This was amazing!
This interview and discussion is truly PRICELESS! Thank you both for all the time you have invested to understand and share this very important, life saving/changing information. I am about to be 62 and this registered with me to my core. I am excited after watching/listening to you both. I plan to purchase the book today and will continue to follow and support your channels to help you continue this much needed information for soooo many. ❤❤
Love these two women. I just dropped Anna's book in my Audible library.
Thank you for bringing her back. I will rewatch her channel.
I believe that this information is key for my healing. Now I can attach some names and understanding to what I have go through. Thank you.
Wonderful insights! Thank you both 🙏🏻
Anna is so grounded which makes listening to her so easy. In gratitude ❤
Pivotal Question to Emma or @crappychildhoodfairy
At 32:00, you, Anna, warn that certain approaches to writing can make me feel worse -- I SUPER APPRECIATE THIS CAVEAT!!!!
At 32:14 I believe you accidentally misspoke:
I believe you meant to say "just giving the litany, the laundry-list of complaints will make you feel worse."
On video you said it'll make me feel better...?!
Oh my God, thank you! The stars aligned 🌟🌟 the best 2 ladies!!
So grateful for you both
What a collab! two fabs
This was a tremendous session. Thank you, both of you, for your work to help others.
Thank you so much....I am a fan of Anna Runkle and happy she has written a book. ❤
Great collaboration video (as always) Emma and Anna!
Wow… This is so powerful. I truly appreciate you making this video. I’ve learned so much from it thank you.
Watching your childhood drama ACES Study on tv. It's a good start. I am 77 and have enough psych credits to graduate but had a child that chose to go on to law school so I didn't finish the lesser part. However, I have used what I have learned in many ways through the years. The issue I would like to point out is this: the family structure needs to be rebuilt ( which has been destroyed intentionally) before we can have healthy families and healthy children. We need to re-establish communities. I have experienced many childhood issues myself and simple solutions do not work. Putting together a family structure with others on one's life has been most helpful to myself and others. Many coping skills have been overlooked in your presentation. I overachiever. Learning to not do too much has been my most difficult adjustment. This is like 12 points of dysfunction. I do believe there is far more to acknowledgement and healing. It first begins at home and then in one's community. ❤🎉
Thank you both
Oh my, I'd been in therapy for years and I am just this last year have learned of c ptsd, from Anna in fact, ❤ her thanks Anna. Good show🎉
Wow this is like a special early Christmas present.....thank you 🧡🔥✨️
The daily writing I did for several months and it dysregulated me every time I did it and made me worse over time. I wish there was something that really worked.😢
Yes, I often find it just makes things worse and gets me more deeply entrenched in whatever the negative thing is rather than help release or process it.
How awesome to you TWO together!!
Really appreciate Anna Runkle insight and background. I've started reading the book yet I felt into a depressive episode/relapse when doing the trauma exercise, I'd recommend doing tat exercise when in active therapy.
Love you both!!
It seems like many on the autism spectrum are regularly disregulated as well. I hope all who needs to hear this can find it in their algorithm 😮
@@Jas-zzz Yes, completely agree. I think Anna's daily practice can be effectively utilised by more than those struggling with cPTSD. The genius of it lies in it's simplicity, which then facilitates this broader application.
I was just diagnosed with CPTSD, earlier this spring/summer by my counselor. I've had 2.5 years of constant break-ins, property damage, and theft. Perpetrators never caught. Police did little-to- nothing. Now, I will be selling my home I wanted to grow old/retire in. I am raging one minute, & weeping/crying at the thought of leaving & selling my home the next. I spent over $5000 on cameras, deadbolts, changed locks, and security lighting.Nothing worked. Still finding things stolen and damaged by someone who knows how to bypass cameras. Even a police camera on my property didn't catch the thieves. I am simply DONE!!
I hope she's going to share this writing technique. I'm definitely getting her book! Ty so much for addressing this issue!
Two wonderful wise women 😀
Ponder this: This was an interesting video of an underutilized term (CPTSD-Chronic Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) in regards to making a diagnosis! I think many people were often misdiagnosed and rather have this than what I was given! 👏🏾👍🏾🔥
Oh my gosh! I hear what you are saying regarding therapist appt, sharing all your issues and after appt, not being able to deal with yourself… guilt, shame, etc.
I’m disregulated!! Wow!
I’m diagnosed cptsd… thank you 🙏 for sharing ❤
Absolutely golden! Thank you for this
Thank you 💖
Keep hope..
Talk therapy makes people with trauma worst when the therapist only wants to relive the trauma. There was never any solutions or help from therapy that I experienced. It was all just the therapist wanting to relive it. When I started questioning what she was doing, why three are no goals, what was her modality, she abruptly ended the therapy saying, "You won't understand". Looking back, I believe she got some sort of arousal in other words 'got off' from hearing about the abuse. I was only retraumatized and violated by this. It is similar to 6 million subscribers watching Soft White Underbelly. For some reason alot of people love hearing about abuse. This was before the internet and I believe I would have known better if the education about therapy was accessible and available back then. After that, I will never seek therapy. I found simply living a good life is better than any therapy.
Thank you both for helping me understand and have a name to what I've gone through. I've learned to not rush into any type of relationship due to my attachment trauma. What I'm learning from taking my time, is that so many people have mal-adaptive patterns of behavior and I've yet to find "emotionally healthy" people to relate to. I've done all the work on me (20 plus) years of research and self-help. I'm having a hard time connecting with other's who are healing and self-aware. Any suggestions?
Amazing ❤ Thank you
I just downloaded Anna’s book 😮
Excited (and nervous) to try again 🙏
Dysregulated that's it! It's me ...I avoid talking about my trauma and replace it with humor. It's hard because I get full of nerves I can't think , I can't function...so instead of feeling it I avoid it. This makes sense thanks for talking about this.
I have known for years that i had cptsd, but I wasn't diagnosed until March of this year. March was also the month i found out my now ex cheated on me. He lied about it, and i didn't find out the truth until May. I was already in trauma therapy for childhood and relationship trauma , so this was another trauma on top of what i was healing. Fast forward to December and im in back in therapy because i haven't been able to get over the break up and betrayal....but my sister thinks i have a hormonal issue. Its the same for me, I'm fine until i talk about it, then i start crying. I have never had a relationship that wasn't first sexual because of my Attachment wounds. I have been working on these wounds so i don't ever trauma bond again. I so needed to hear yhis today!
Thank you so much 🫶🏽