@@GoatlikeitornotYeah I agree with basically everything she said, but what is she like? She doesn’t give off the personality or energy I’d want to be around.
This is why I never got married. Women just want an easy ride literally. I didnt bust my ass to hand it over to some entitled woman. Just because her features all fell in the right place. I keep them at arms length. No man with any sense should be marrying in this day and age. They are marrying a court system. Not the woman. But common sense aint that common....
"Arbitrary" is an odd word choice here since 1) pretty much all things anyone finds attractive are "arbitrary", and 2) there is a reasonable explanation for pretty much every point here So idk, this seems like a childish clap back over nothing
Totally disagree dude. Making a list is the first step in learning how to prioritize and make rational decisions. If it offends you then you probably lack self discipline.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Modern Provider=Walking ATM Funny sound like she looking for a dad not husband but if a man says he wants a wife who cleans and cook than someone how he looking for a mom I bat she doesn’t even follow her own list She says get off your ass while she on TikTok This just reminds me of the dumb red flag of females list meme
The first one alone is a bad take. Someone posting photos a certain way on IG does not at all tell you if they’re marriage material. Judging people on such a superficial level will continue to leave them single.
Totally, Like hey look - My life is so cool with all these filters. This means I am a great guy. But for us guys, if your single, have an account attracting the girls. Once you got the girl, leave the internet and focus on building the life of your dreams, not looking at others.
@DDD11239 I am a financial professional. I really shouldn't be getting too into this conversation so what I say doesn't sound like financial advice. That said I merely wanted to point out that she seemed to be recommending having one not saying not to have one as the commenter seemed to be interpreting this.
While a lot of these make sense, she frames them in a way that seems to make one statement: Provider type men should be ignorant, success driven, overachievers while women can do the complete opposite and waste time on useless apps (it's fine if THEY know stupid TikTok trends) because they are merely the recipient of her mans success. But again, some of her points are valid - I think both men AND women should follow those points because they show maturity.
very good take. this type of modern woman is overzealous about demanding this ideal type of man, and sadly it's a common trope with women right now as they're overcorrecting for decades of putting up with effeminate wimps and losers. i get it, and men do need to lock it in in some of the ways she describes, but it's still kinda goofy, hypocritical, overly dramatic, honestly annoying
women think having to drag them through every conversation/dating milestone is a pleasant experience for the other person i wouldn't even mess with them unless they're gaga for you and willing to put in 120% effort, even then there are ulterior motives
Ah, but a man providing for a woman, is subjecting her to the patriarchy 🤣? 21st Century feminism = why have consistancy and respect for others when you can just play victim no matter what you get?
Exactly!!!! While I don't disagree with her points with exception of the lower case thing that's just weird & has no bearing on anything. Her attitude & the vitriol with which she spat it out was unnecessary. It tells me these are the guys she's choosing & wants to do better but why, she'll still chase them despite everything. Also tells me she most likely doesn't hold herself to same standards.
Women are strong and independent. Women should not need men for support. Men would be wise to live a life of solitude and avoid the financial pitfalls of divorce.
Typing in only lowercase is wild. My keyboard auto-capitalizes words. Having to go back and deliberately making them lowercase is a ton of pointless effort. 😂
5 things I think make a guy unable to provide: 1) He has no career ambition, direction, or plan for growing wealth. 2) Living paycheck to paycheck (uncontrolled spending or debt). 3) He avoids social interactions with people. 4) He has no interest in learning new skills or hobbies. 5) He does not proactively consider the cost of future expenses (e.g. a house down payment, car emergency, medical emergency, maintenance, etc).
No 5) also applies to including a woman into one's life = future expense (e.g. dates, entertainment, excursions, vacations, engagement ring, wedding ring, wedding, a house down payment, children, car emergency, medical emergency, maintenance, etc) all of which a women, seeking a provider, will expect said provider, to provide.
Those are very good points. Luckily Points, 1, 4 and 5 I got solved out. Points 2 and 3 is going to be changing very soon. Point 2 is currently paycheck to paycheck due to my current wage rate and throwing as much money as possible into my 401K, but that will be changing come December and within the next several months (next wage increase will be $32 come December and then finally $64 an hour by April or May, the joy of being an electrician). Point 3. I do not mind socializing whenever it happens either at work or at the gym or a family occasion. But honestly, I have nobody to hang out with or go out during the evening, why even bother going out? That and my job sometimes will cut in to that social period, especially if Overtime hits.
Doesn’t have a Tik Tok but clearly posting a video on Tik Tok. Oh the double standards. Oh barely post on IG! I hope that goes both ways because we all know how many individuals use IG as a dating app. I can agree with some of her points but that list on signs he will provide is pure childish. No mention of understanding of the importance of balancing time with family and work, sacrifice, has future goals, or anything of that sort. But hey who we live in an era where we value meaningless things.
If she can't provide the lifestyle she wants for herself, she's not on my level. It isn't on me to sponsor a lifestyle she thinks she's entitled to, but can't afford
vegans are much more likely to have conviction that stands outside and above social norms. that conviction directed towards you, ladies, is what you want. trust me. secondly, vegans don't have protein problems. the protein thing is just a thing people say because they don't want to actually contend with the ideas. thirdly, my girlfriend used to love to make me vegan versions of her favorite puerto rican dishes. she loved the challenge and now she's vegan herself.
That woman is describing me! I check off over 90% of those boxes. But I find her attitude repulsive. Imagine if men started posting on TikTok lists of twenty different things that we demand in a woman. The internet would meltdown.
@@gordongekko2781 Thank you. I'm pretty sure most of us agree with some of these but the vitriolic attitude with which she delivered it all tells me she probably doesn't hold herself to those same which is pretty ironic given we kinda expect an adult woman to have these same traits too. We want partners not dependents.
Men SHOULD be listing their demands and putting people trying to keep us down in their place. We are people and deserve actual wives, not jokers who don't know how to (very easily) keep house.
Respectfully, the woman in this tiktok comes off as someone who cares way too much about her appearance and clout and just herself in general (from an ego/vanity standpoint). I did go check her link, btw. She isn't wrong about a handful of things but she really doesn't seem like the kind of woman I'd take any advice from. I respect you Courtney, and value a lot of your takes, so I understand you want to display as many viewpoints as possible. She doesn't want a man chronically online, but she IS chronically online.
I don't get it. 🤨 How does this video help anyone? A short, poor, out of shape man who does every item on this list will still not get a date from a woman like this. A woman who adds this list on top of her own is alienating any other men who might not check off one of these items. I think most everyone knows a blue collar guy who is a responsible adult, likes sports over social media, and checks every box on this list. That guy is probably not getting a date this weekend because he is invisible to women. Yes, the emoji was necessary. :)
No excuse to be fat as a guy this day and age. Planet fitness is like $15-20 a month lol. This list is helpful because if you are ever wondering why you can’t get girls that look like that, boom here is a baseline list you can have in your head to know how girls like her think.. Lucky for that girl she’s in shape and very attractive and prob mid to lower 20’s so she can have a laundry list guys need to meet FOR NOW she can find her guy that comes close. Most girls can’t have a list like that because they’re not as young and attractive like this girl.
While she makes some good points about certain antisocial behaviors, what about her red flags? ...posting videos on instagram, too much makeup, too much attitude and what kind of guy does she think is going find that is THAT unaware of emojis and memes. She'd have to be dating older guys or someone born under a rock. Anyone under 30 with have grown up with that stuff and are just ubiquitous things in today's culture.
@@DDD11239 Yes, but while you may not be aware of specific memes, you know "what" memes are. I'm not a big meme follower either, but even at 51 I do know what they are.
You can’t be like that but she is hot and can do what she wants… lol. Courtney is so cute trying to make these tiktok wacks look like they are worth anything more than a pretty face… better to focus on yourself and let these women get multiple divorces. You attract what you put out there.
@@wildmildew1 I agree, Courtney is quite pretty, very classy, well spoken, grounded. The tic-toc girl, I don't think she's hot or pretty. She's way too made up and I don't know what she has done with her lips, but that can't be natural. She looks ridiculous. And on top of that, she's obnoxious. I prefer less loud, more natural and more grounded, which is who I married. I actually started watching these video because my kids are at that age where they might start encountering women looking for a "permanent situation", and I was curious what the dating world was like now, and some of these women are bloody nuts. I can only hope my kids will choose better. I can only guide them so much.
It’s challenging to keep viewing her with grace because of her constant snarling at each step of the way. I certainly have ideas in mind about things I find unattractive in women. However, I would never-in 1,000 years-get on the internet to shout those things to the world. Even when this woman approaches a valid point she sabotages it with her delivery and constant snarling.
Here’s a scenario between 2 guys: Guy A: looks like Henry Cavill and does EVERY one of those things she’s complaining about Guy B: is a 5-6 and doesn’t do any of those things she mentioned Who do YOU think she picks?
I disagree with almost all of these. I bet that TikTok lady would ignore all of those signs if the man is physically attractive enough. As they say in the manosphere, "women make rules for men they're not into and break them for men they're into," or something like that.
Actually, I think you have it backwards. She's describing what she wants in a beta husband -- but she'll likely lay down for any Chad with six pack abs, a chiseled jawline, and a bad boy attitude. If a guy is hot enough, then all her rules go out the window.
@@DDD11239 And more recently that manly guy who is on trial for driving over a woman and trying to end another. He's gotten hundreds of love letters from women he's never met who claim he's just misunderstood. Ha! What is there to understand about a psycho? There is definitely some faulty programming in the female mind.
@CourtneyRyan sorry, but this shows lack of awareness of your own catalog. Even you have put forward some pretty shallow vibes. Not as bad as the vid you're reacting to, but you certainly have suggested men should display certain cliche flags to attract a mate.
I’m going to play devil advocate with this one. You’re saying you don’t want a man with a curated Instagram or social media presence, but when women meet men in person the first thing they ask for is a man’s Instagram. Meaning the man with the most curated or interesting Instagram is going to win or grab the girl’s attention; and if you tell her you don’t have an Instagram 9 times out of 10 she’s going to think you’re some werdio or liar; so tell me how does this makes since about saying you don’t want a man with a curated or “interesting” Instagram 🤔? Hypocrisy, maybe?
@@CourtneyRyan I mean, you say "I prefer a man who eats meat [good reason why]... And also, you need protein - If you don't eat meat you need to look at how much protein you're eating a day" is pretty much knocking a vegan diet lol
Solid list except for being a vegan. People who choose a vegan diet and lifestyle are often deeply committed to animal rights and wish to minimize their carbon footprint on the planet.
You do realize that your digestive tract was not designed to efficiently extract nutrients through plant matter, right? You know, single chamber stomach, no extended cecum, you have a gallbladder….
As a woman, the messy room/home thing is a red flag beyond red flag for me. I have truly seen this as an indicator of something else going on in their life, who they are as a person, or who they will be as a partner/future parent And this goes for women, too. I had a couple female roommates who were some of the messiest people I’ve ever seen in my life (weeks of dirty dishes piling up) and they were chronically single. They’d bring guys over and those guys would comment on the mess of their room. They women would ask their moms to come clean their kitty litter box or do their dishes and laundry. It was frightening. Who wants to date that kind of person?
That's the obsession of the unaccomplished. Those of us with a passion for something higher in life than superficial appearances, who are dedicating our lives to making it happen, don't have time to waste making sure everything is tidy and neat like some empty-headed housewife. I've been a successful professional artist for 30 years; my work is in collections in 43 countries, and has been published numerous times. I read a lot, too; education for me did not stop when I finished my masters degree. My house is full of books, laying around everywhere. I own nearly 3000 books and at any given time I have two or three of them I am reading. I'm already nearly 50; my time in this world is limited, and I still have so much more I want to accomplish. If some woman doesn't like my messy house, she is someone who has done nothing significant with her life, and will only drag me down to her level.
@ while I understand what you’re getting at, I don’t think that a lot of books is the same as 3 weeks worth of dishes or rotting food in a fridge, animal hair piling up on the carpet or couch, etc. Untidy and dirty are two different things. Also, success and accomplishments are measured differently by different people. I’m very accomplished and successful, now at 36 more than ever, and I’m also the most cleanly I’ve ever been in my life. I don’t think that a person who cares about not living in a tornado is an indicator of superficial desires. When I had messy ass roommates years ago I can promise you they were just lazy, and not just busy doing things that made enriched their lives. 🤣
Something to mention about meat. There are so many ways to get protien outside of meat that are far healthier. Also if it's that big of a problem you make the meal and set a portion aside then dump in the meat. I do it all the time. It's not hard.
Us men are taught when we're young that providing is important. Society in the past, and today, makes us struggle with the thought of not providing. And if we happen to be in shoes where we can't provide, it's a crisis for us. We know all too well that women could make fun of us, or choose not to date us, because we may not make a lot of money or have the best status. It is absolutely disheartening to be thought of as less than, but it happens more frequently than I think a lot of women truly realize.
Well, I check off all of these. Don't have instagram or tiktok, no clue who those people are she mentioned. Though, the texting in lower case thing is not entirely clear. NOW IS THE TIME FOR ALL CAPS ALL THE TIME, I CAN ALREADY FEEL MY PROVIDER POWERS LEVELING UP!
This is one of my greatest frustrations with online dating right now: women are so much about "here are my requirements" and "here are my deal breakers" up front rather than giving reasons I would want to date them in the first place. I'm looking for dates, not job interviews. And if you want people to be interested, be interesting!
Veganism isn't a dietary restriction. It's an ethical philosophy. As a vegan I don't date nonvegans for at least _three_ (3) reasons: 1) It's a core ethical principal. (A bit like an atheist and an ultra-religious person trying to be a couple...not impossible, but the deck is stacked.) 2) The behavioral corollary of veganism is that I don't treat animals like commodities, which would entail a) her living my vegan lifestyle including food, and I don't want to put that on someone, or b) making two meals a lot of the time as Courtney mentioned. 3) I intend to be around (and healthy) for a very long time. I'm primarily whole-foods plant-based, meaning I keep to a very healthy dietary pattern. People who eat vegan junk food (e.g., meat alternatives, Oreos, etc.) or have diets rich in meat and dairy die sooner from the top 10 leading causes of death, and experience chronic health issues much, much sooner in life. I don't want to live the last 20+ years of my life as a caretaker. For me, not being vegan is a risk factor akin to smoking (the statistics are somewhat similar as well).
To her point about fashion. I think both men and women should dress to impress the type of partner they want to attract and not put up false pretenses. For my personal situation, I really didn't have any interest in attracting a "priss". I was more after a tomboy, someone active, a gym-goer, outdoorsy type. Dressing in a business suit was not going to attract the type of girl I wanted.
Women exert enormous social power in our culture. They dictate the terms under which they will entertain you as a prospect for a boyfriend. To an extent, we've given them this power by collectively becoming simps. Just saying no to simping would go a long way in restoring the power balance.
It seems to me that women like this have nothing to bring to a relationship. A relationship to them are things they can demand of a man and then when they get bored or finds a higher status guy, they move on with no repercussions and actually can make/ take money on the exit. Although, she isn’t completely wrong about what is/looks manly or attractive to a woman. More importantly a guy should focus on himself, his hobbies and interests. He shouldn’t waste time on the social sites.
Doordash bit needs some more nuance. If you doordash everything because you don't know how to cook and have no financial sense and don't see that you can't really afford it this isn't good at all. However, if someone has a high-paying intense job (think surgeon, wall street banker etc) and makes calculated choice to pay for food and spend their free time on their hobbies or friends or family - that's different.
Courtney, I must chide you and the other woman lightly over suggesting that vegan or vegetarian men can't be strong. I do eat meat. But, biologically, we don't need meat. We do need protein. Easy to do with a vegetarian or vegan diet. A vegan diet can be done; but requires some supplements. There are groundbreaking athletes who are vegan and or vegetarian. Iron Mike Tyson is vegan. Here's an interview of Iron Mike with Oprah and he explains about being vegan. Ref 1. Here are tremendous athletes with plant based diets as recognized by Guinness World Records including Nate Diaz who beat Conor MacGregor in UFC. Ref 2. But, a plant only diet cannot be complete without either some animal products (can be non-meat like dairy, eggs) or supplements. Such an example is vitamin B12. See the Harvard School of Nutrition Ref 3. A plant based diet is far more efficient at feeding people and at providing protein per acre of agricultural land. But, I do agree, meat sure does taste good. I do like a mesquite or juniper grilled steak. Ref 1. th-cam.com/video/Vc-DeGEXAmM/w-d-xo.html. Ref 2. www.guinnessworldrecords.com/news/2019/11/the-game-changers-11-record-breaking-plant-based-athletes-601566/ Ref 3. nutritionsource.hsph.harvard.edu/vitamin-b12/
@user-rv9lg5gf6w Not quite sure how to send a private message on TH-cam. But, feel free to ask whatever you wanted to regarding the vegetarian/vegan. Cheers!
These young women don't understand what an old fashion family meant, nor they ever witnessed it. Relying on someone else's income means you are completely dependent on them, which opens to unloyalty, treating you like garbage, and so on. What are you gonna do in case? Move out? With what resources/money or even professional skills? Internet gave too much attention to literal children speaking about anything and giving the impression it's a real topic. As a man myself I have no intention to provide to anyone, I want a strong woman not a parasite.
@4:30, is the meal boxes like hello fresh or Factor count as door-dashing? Another benefit with going to get things is meeting more people, making friends, and maybe meeting a lady who just might be interested in going to get a coffee or a meal together.
I had Hello Fresh for a while; it was nice being able to get the exact quantities you needed to make a recipe (and you DO make the entrees with HF; they send you ingredients and a recipe card)
She's a benign/covert feminist. What's all of the benefits of a traditional man but will not give up her indepence nor follow the provider's lead as that's misogynitic.
I agree with most of the things she Mention but I have feeling she makes her boyfriend or her husband live miserable from complaining about small things
Just so your aware, plants do have plenty of protein. There is no such thing as a protein deficiency for someone that eats enough calories. I know a lot of women that appreciate a man that will stand up for innocent animals.
I love cooking and used to cook every meal when I worked a different job, but now I work 60-70 hour weeks and haven't cooked in over a year. I almost always order take out or premade meals. Frankly it is exhausting to have to cook after work, and it ends up being 9 o block when I eat and I value some off time before I go back to work. So I think there are exceptions to that take.
Gods honest truth, it’s nice to not have the pressure of providing for one of these ingrates, now that I’m 41 and know I’m not ever having kids or finding a young enough woman to worry about getting pregnant.
Because they waste their time with such bull💩 because they are being a chuck to the wrong women. Inevitably wasting time that could be used on better pursuits, enabling feminist women's bad behaviour.
Something I've learned in highschool. Women love to make crazy long and detailed lists on either standards or red flags. I think that is a major red flag thats indicative of the kind of woman that made that video. Seemingly herself does or is guilty of the things she wrote down, I know about this sort of thing but my husband can't otherwise thats a negative trait. Personally, I can't vibe with that. True humility is an extremely desirable and somewhat rare trait imo. On another note, seeing that list was pretty funny given the amount of people that end up very successful often have to sacrifice on many of these. I suppose that's not exactly a provider but there's some correlation there
I was watching one of your earlier videos today on mixed signals or red flags i think and its pretty interesting how they equates to both guys and women even in this video Btw am loving ur recent videos and topics...keep it up Court💯💯
9:37 For meat, it very much depends on the type of meat. Pork is high in fat and has less protein than many other types of meat. Chicken is an optimal source. And also, there are plant based foods that have plenty of protein. The main thing is that plant based foods do not give you vitamin B-12 unlike meat. For vegans, the only way around it is to either take supplements or to eat mushrooms. Many vegans have a defficiency in B-12 for this reason.
I had a girl I went on a few dates with but we texted all the time. Said we were exclusive and serious. Then at the end I found out she was seeing her ex on the side with the possibility of others. When I called her out on lying she said “idk why you’re upset it wasn’t serious. You’re just a guy I had a thing with.” Then she said I was also cheap. So she wanted serious type relationship money while calling it casual. Stuff like this makes men check out and not wanna provide for anyone other than ourselves.
the messy room is a big one and it flows both ways. our internal world manifests itself in the world around us and a clean/ messy room is a reflection of that-hygiene follows the same line of thought
If we pause to consider the meaning of 'being a provider,' we find it cannot be captured by a list of traits. Provision is not a fixed concept but shaped by shifting social expectations and context. Can external actions-an Instagram account, a taste for aesthetics or gambling-truly define a person? To say these signs 'mean' something reduces the complexity of human life to rigid symbols. Perhaps a shared life is built on truly understanding one another, not on interpreting isolated and superficial signs.
As a 72 year old man, the message I am getting is everything in moderation. Be on social media, bet, play video games, eat meat, but not all the time. Don't let the really important things suffer. Thank you.
I don't about you all, but in my country, renting somewhere costs an arm and a leg. First time buyers of homes are screwed over, because no-one can afford to pay the mortgage anymore. Owning your own car has become more and more expensive to do, what the rising repair costs and fuel costs. Even though I have a decent job, I still have to live with my parents because I can't afford to pay the cost of renting somewhere else.
Love your personality, kindness is what we all should be grateful for what we get in the future no matter in what situation we are facing because all of us are struggling in some other way no matter what we do we always feel like we are low level but we aren’t until we realize we live under a roof and love with respect for all.
I agree with most of her points , although I don’t really like the way she talks about each point, she don’t elaborate on what she means in alot of them, and it just mostly seems like mocking rather than trying to give constructive criticism.
You've got a good head on your shoulders Courtney. I think your take on signs he is/isn't husband material is a great idea. Might give us a few pointers as to where we can do some work on ourselves (we all need it, even the married ones haha)
@@DDD11239 Does it require a comma there? I don't pause when I say it to myself. May be my east coast accent playing tricks on me. Either way, I AM an IT guy, so I am, by no means, perfect. 🤣
1. On Instagram Scrolling - I scroll for a little bit to see how friends are other than that I go on it to post my Photography cause that’s what it’s for nothing else and filmmaking photography photos for BTS, Landscape Wide-Shot Photography, No Selfies, Photos Of Other People, I am doing my best to break into the Photography Business, and to make money doing it eventually I am going to save money to do so by next year in 2025. 2. Lower Case - Seriously asking this… this shouldn’t be a problem or a question, just saying and moving on from this one. Okay I heard proper grammar I use proper grammar most of the time and no corrects me for misspelled because I end up catching it first and correct my own grammar if I screw up when texting. By anyhow moving on. 3. She is absolutely correct there is no reason to slack off so much that a space or a even a room turns into mess and it never gets cleaned I know people that are like that and thank god I am not that way I make sure to clean up as much as possible. No Excuses. 4.
Gotta say I agree with all of the things she said. Notice how none of her list is materialistic. That has to be a good sign for all the guys out there who are conditioned to believe that women only want money. It. Is. Not. True.
Refreshing content! I like your humor regarding peoples reactions to your content. Appreciated the info. Its helping me during a rough patch in my relationship.
Thanks for the video Courtney! One thing I never really understood is the "getting jumped" thing. Like, if someone's gonna jump me, they're going to have a gun. It does not matter if I eat meat or not, we're screwed either way 😂 Am I just eating the wrong meat or something?
Definition of a man keep it simple, be a good provider, give back, love your children and support them, taking care of the environment around you and thanking God for everyday you are here
Some of these are true, some are so stupid to even judge a persons entire character off of. I wish I had a social media following based off of bashing women in all the stupid shit they do. Fuck this world. Take me back to the 90's
I appreciate your content, not that I've been actively searching but you're the only female role model I can agree with on most things. Your videos are relaxing and funny. 😄
The only thing i disagree with is the obscure online way of making money. Those things could be growing skills that may become main sources of income some day. Everything else was spot on.
Interesting to hear these from women's point of view. I never thought that these small signs like hobbies, jewelry, punctuation have such big significance
Thank you both for helping me, I picked up a grammar book and will work on these things. Both of these ladies are really cool. Peace, love and happiness.
honestly as a man I can completely agree with the first half of the things she mentioned. beyond just gender, to become a better person you have to take accountability and be strong enough to change when you understand you messed up. I will say this, the second half of the video is absolutely deranged and comes across passive aggressive, not necessarily saying she should talk in a calm and reassuring voice however if her goal is to make men change coming at them aggressively will push many away from hearing her advice. Love the helpful commentary btw coming from a 18 y/o trying to grow from a boy to a man mentally and emotionally.
Video summary: the type of emotional maturity you would want in a spouse causes that person to not be chronically online. Basically do you act like an adult or a child in an adult body?
Having overcome both gambling and video game addictions... and working on keeping my living space more tidy, I can confirm that it’s worth it to do those things for yourself not just to attract a spouse. PS these are the only emojis I use: ☺️😉😜👍🏼🤷🏻♂️👀🤔😬
This is void of reality. As a child we had cleaning women, I have had cleaning women since I moved out. I will have cleaning women that are paid or a gf/wife that does it. It is more cost effective for me to work, and hire someone to clean. Having a cleaning woman saves me time, and makes me money. The signs a woman will always be a drain. - texts all the time. - has broken stuff at her place, but does not have any tools, or glue, or ..... She wants that guy to be rich, etc. If she wants to stay home she should get comfortable with cleaning. The red flag is, are there dishes in the bedroom, or throughout the house. Putting clothes in the hamper is easy. Bringing dishes up or down stairs is work. If people bring dishes up stairs then have a dish station. Bring the stuff to go up or down stairs to a place beside the stairs at the top of the bottom. This can just be a table with a tray on it, and maybe a cloth to wipe it.
I'd calm down with the texting requirement. A lot of apps and smartphones have horrible auto correction. The one I agree with the most is a clean house. I do think there is a correlation between a messy house and mental illness. Something isn't right if someone is living in a dump. They either have mental issues or a drug problem. That's just been my personal experience with that.
internet really has become a place where people just whine and complain about everything 🙄
@@kc270352 truly
While offering nothing in return.
@@GoatlikeitornotYeah I agree with basically everything she said, but what is she like? She doesn’t give off the personality or energy I’d want to be around.
@@Butyistherumgon Exactly my thoughts. She has a masculine attitude and comes off as rude, which is off-putting.
@@ButyistherumgonShe isn’t trying to date you, so who cares. It’s information, that’s it. It’s not a tinder app.
You are not a provider if you breathe from your left nostril.
Hahahaha
So my allergies mean sometimes I am and sometimes I'm not? Damn, I didn't realize I was that flakey 🤣
Everyone knows only beta males use their left nostril. Right nostril supremacy!
@@CourtneyRyan do u find anything on her list attractive unnatractive
do u prefer a provider is tht attractive to u
This is why I never got married. Women just want an easy ride literally. I didnt bust my ass to hand it over to some entitled woman. Just because her features all fell in the right place. I keep them at arms length. No man with any sense should be marrying in this day and age. They are marrying a court system. Not the woman. But common sense aint that common....
Making an arbitrary list of things that make people unattractive, makes women unattractive ;-)
If men did it the way women do they would be viewed as monsters.
"Arbitrary" is an odd word choice here since
1) pretty much all things anyone finds attractive are "arbitrary", and
2) there is a reasonable explanation for pretty much every point here
So idk, this seems like a childish clap back over nothing
oh no! My potential partner isn't texting with properly capitalized letters! They'll never be a good father!!!!
@@123SuperBeast also fair
Totally disagree dude. Making a list is the first step in learning how to prioritize and make rational decisions. If it offends you then you probably lack self discipline.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.
Robots at it again. Nice robot convo
Modern Provider=Walking ATM
Funny sound like she looking for a dad not husband but if a man says he wants a wife who cleans and cook than someone how he looking for a mom
I bat she doesn’t even follow her own list
She says get off your ass while she on TikTok
This just reminds me of the dumb red flag of females list meme
Revolting woman. Has a horrible masculine vibe. I pity the guy that hooks up with Miss Bitchy Whine Face!
@devilslayer3548 @s$ to mouth have nothing to do with this vid
Yes, what she describes is a man her Dad's age
The first one alone is a bad take. Someone posting photos a certain way on IG does not at all tell you if they’re marriage material. Judging people on such a superficial level will continue to leave them single.
Especially when women do it.
Yeah, definitely an L take. Most of my content on Instagram is cooking related; looks like she ain't getting any of my recipes 🤣
Totally, Like hey look - My life is so cool with all these filters. This means I am a great guy. But for us guys, if your single, have an account attracting the girls. Once you got the girl, leave the internet and focus on building the life of your dreams, not looking at others.
@@Jeffelangelo yup it’s the typical rules for thee but not for me. It’s a toxic woman thing to do and be preoccupied with
my husband uses lowercase in text, has a Roth IRA, and yet somehow he manages to keep the bills paid on time AND he's also a wonderful man.
👏🏼
I don't think she said that having a Roth was a bad thing. I think that part about an IRA was an order not a suggestion. hehe..
@@darrenskjoelsvold It's good to have a secondary, more-aggressive investment sytem as well.
@DDD11239 I am a financial professional. I really shouldn't be getting too into this conversation so what I say doesn't sound like financial advice. That said I merely wanted to point out that she seemed to be recommending having one not saying not to have one as the commenter seemed to be interpreting this.
Liar
While a lot of these make sense, she frames them in a way that seems to make one statement: Provider type men should be ignorant, success driven, overachievers while women can do the complete opposite and waste time on useless apps (it's fine if THEY know stupid TikTok trends) because they are merely the recipient of her mans success. But again, some of her points are valid - I think both men AND women should follow those points because they show maturity.
Solid reply. She was definitely ’Do as I say, not as I do… ‘ 😅 age is going to crush this lady unless she starts taking her own advice.
very good take. this type of modern woman is overzealous about demanding this ideal type of man, and sadly it's a common trope with women right now as they're overcorrecting for decades of putting up with effeminate wimps and losers. i get it, and men do need to lock it in in some of the ways she describes, but it's still kinda goofy, hypocritical, overly dramatic, honestly annoying
I genuinely feel bad for any guy that ever dated that woman.
women think having to drag them through every conversation/dating milestone is a pleasant experience for the other person
i wouldn't even mess with them unless they're gaga for you and willing to put in 120% effort, even then there are ulterior motives
She's a good fuck and dump.
Ah, but a man providing for a woman, is subjecting her to the patriarchy 🤣?
21st Century feminism = why have consistancy and respect for others when you can just play victim no matter what you get?
@@redroversk totally!
@@redroversk💯
This chick Marin came across as very feminine, sweet, and friendly! Just kidding! 🤦♂️
Exactly!!!! While I don't disagree with her points with exception of the lower case thing that's just weird & has no bearing on anything.
Her attitude & the vitriol with which she spat it out was unnecessary. It tells me these are the guys she's choosing & wants to do better but why, she'll still chase them despite everything. Also tells me she most likely doesn't hold herself to same standards.
She’s an ick of a woman
😂😂😂
Her voice is even deep
@@bhart3321 She hates lowercase texting, but ended a sentence with a preposition ("That"). She's a hypocritical person.
Women are strong and independent. Women should not need men for support. Men would be wise to live a life of solitude and avoid the financial pitfalls of divorce.
Don’t get married?
Typing in only lowercase is wild. My keyboard auto-capitalizes words. Having to go back and deliberately making them lowercase is a ton of pointless effort. 😂
Same 😂 if someone isn’t doing it deliberately though it’s not as bad lol
Imagine how difficult it is for the young kids who have to go back and deliberately change word spellings to sound more street.
They probably don’t use periods, thus no automatic capitalization occurs.
There’s a setting to not auto capitalize.
I just don't understand how this relates to being a provider
5 things I think make a guy unable to provide:
1) He has no career ambition, direction, or plan for growing wealth.
2) Living paycheck to paycheck (uncontrolled spending or debt).
3) He avoids social interactions with people.
4) He has no interest in learning new skills or hobbies.
5) He does not proactively consider the cost of future expenses (e.g. a house down payment, car emergency, medical emergency, maintenance, etc).
I think this is a pretty solid list.
Good list, I would add just one more. He's worked through any family of origin (past relationship) trauma/issues.
No 5) also applies to including a woman into one's life = future expense (e.g. dates, entertainment, excursions, vacations, engagement ring, wedding ring, wedding, a house down payment, children, car emergency, medical emergency, maintenance, etc) all of which a women, seeking a provider, will expect said provider, to provide.
Those are very good points. Luckily Points, 1, 4 and 5 I got solved out. Points 2 and 3 is going to be changing very soon.
Point 2 is currently paycheck to paycheck due to my current wage rate and throwing as much money as possible into my 401K, but that will be changing come December and within the next several months (next wage increase will be $32 come December and then finally $64 an hour by April or May, the joy of being an electrician).
Point 3. I do not mind socializing whenever it happens either at work or at the gym or a family occasion. But honestly, I have nobody to hang out with or go out during the evening, why even bother going out? That and my job sometimes will cut in to that social period, especially if Overtime hits.
I'm all of these
Doesn’t have a Tik Tok but clearly posting a video on Tik Tok. Oh the double standards. Oh barely post on IG! I hope that goes both ways because we all know how many individuals use IG as a dating app. I can agree with some of her points but that list on signs he will provide is pure childish. No mention of understanding of the importance of balancing time with family and work, sacrifice, has future goals, or anything of that sort. But hey who we live in an era where we value meaningless things.
If she can't provide the lifestyle she wants for herself, she's not on my level. It isn't on me to sponsor a lifestyle she thinks she's entitled to, but can't afford
Agreed. I don't want to provide for a woman, due to the increase of her liability. If a woman truly loves you, she will spread 'em for free.
vegans are much more likely to have conviction that stands outside and above social norms. that conviction directed towards you, ladies, is what you want. trust me. secondly, vegans don't have protein problems. the protein thing is just a thing people say because they don't want to actually contend with the ideas. thirdly, my girlfriend used to love to make me vegan versions of her favorite puerto rican dishes. she loved the challenge and now she's vegan herself.
Agreed - the Vegan bashing on this video was uncool and honestly ignorant.
That woman is describing me! I check off over 90% of those boxes. But I find her attitude repulsive. Imagine if men started posting on TikTok lists of twenty different things that we demand in a woman. The internet would meltdown.
True. Whatever Podcast proves it.
@@gordongekko2781 Thank you. I'm pretty sure most of us agree with some of these but the vitriolic attitude with which she delivered it all tells me she probably doesn't hold herself to those same which is pretty ironic given we kinda expect an adult woman to have these same traits too. We want partners not dependents.
Men SHOULD be listing their demands and putting people trying to keep us down in their place. We are people and deserve actual wives, not jokers who don't know how to (very easily) keep house.
Respectfully, the woman in this tiktok comes off as someone who cares way too much about her appearance and clout and just herself in general (from an ego/vanity standpoint). I did go check her link, btw. She isn't wrong about a handful of things but she really doesn't seem like the kind of woman I'd take any advice from. I respect you Courtney, and value a lot of your takes, so I understand you want to display as many viewpoints as possible. She doesn't want a man chronically online, but she IS chronically online.
I don't get it. 🤨 How does this video help anyone? A short, poor, out of shape man who does every item on this list will still not get a date from a woman like this. A woman who adds this list on top of her own is alienating any other men who might not check off one of these items.
I think most everyone knows a blue collar guy who is a responsible adult, likes sports over social media, and checks every box on this list. That guy is probably not getting a date this weekend because he is invisible to women.
Yes, the emoji was necessary. :)
No excuse to be fat as a guy this day and age. Planet fitness is like $15-20 a month lol. This list is helpful because if you are ever wondering why you can’t get girls that look like that, boom here is a baseline list you can have in your head to know how girls like her think..
Lucky for that girl she’s in shape and very attractive and prob mid to lower 20’s so she can have a laundry list guys need to meet FOR NOW she can find her guy that comes close.
Most girls can’t have a list like that because they’re not as young and attractive like this girl.
While she makes some good points about certain antisocial behaviors, what about her red flags? ...posting videos on instagram, too much makeup, too much attitude and what kind of guy does she think is going find that is THAT unaware of emojis and memes. She'd have to be dating older guys or someone born under a rock. Anyone under 30 with have grown up with that stuff and are just ubiquitous things in today's culture.
I know nothing of memes. I prefer obtaining literature through book-reading.
@@DDD11239 Yes, but while you may not be aware of specific memes, you know "what" memes are. I'm not a big meme follower either, but even at 51 I do know what they are.
You can’t be like that but she is hot and can do what she wants… lol. Courtney is so cute trying to make these tiktok wacks look like they are worth anything more than a pretty face… better to focus on yourself and let these women get multiple divorces. You attract what you put out there.
@@wildmildew1 I agree, Courtney is quite pretty, very classy, well spoken, grounded. The tic-toc girl, I don't think she's hot or pretty. She's way too made up and I don't know what she has done with her lips, but that can't be natural. She looks ridiculous. And on top of that, she's obnoxious. I prefer less loud, more natural and more grounded, which is who I married. I actually started watching these video because my kids are at that age where they might start encountering women looking for a "permanent situation", and I was curious what the dating world was like now, and some of these women are bloody nuts. I can only hope my kids will choose better. I can only guide them so much.
@@leamas5971 A meme is a picture with captions. This is all I know.
It’s challenging to keep viewing her with grace because of her constant snarling at each step of the way.
I certainly have ideas in mind about things I find unattractive in women. However, I would never-in 1,000 years-get on the internet to shout those things to the world.
Even when this woman approaches a valid point she sabotages it with her delivery and constant snarling.
Yea because your a male males don't do thus shit at all unless your gay, that simple
I would never date a woman who looks like a Doberman.
Here’s a scenario between 2 guys:
Guy A: looks like Henry Cavill and does EVERY one of those things she’s complaining about
Guy B: is a 5-6 and doesn’t do any of those things she mentioned
Who do YOU think she picks?
Yeah exactly, judge them by their actions not their words
As far as I understand, Henry Cavill is actually closer to the ideal husband than the other way (nerdy, quiet, pleasant and unassuming, etc)
still on cavil bs huh? when will you grow up.....
@@wkciayes, because you know.... (-_-)
I disagree with almost all of these. I bet that TikTok lady would ignore all of those signs if the man is physically attractive enough. As they say in the manosphere, "women make rules for men they're not into and break them for men they're into," or something like that.
It's called "signs he's not a provider"
not "signs of men I won't have sex with"
She's probably describing men who she regrets having sex with lmao
true, women will 100% bend and break rules with men they really like
@@123SuperBeast You could have a point as she is specific on what/who she does not want
@@123SuperBeast 😂
They make rules for betas and break rules for alphas is the saying
The girl in the TikTok is describing the kind of guy she sleeps with. Be that guy, not her retirement plan guy.
Amen🙌
Agreed. That’s what missed in these videos are still great by the way. Women constantly don’t do what they say or practice what they preach Lol.
Actually, I think you have it backwards. She's describing what she wants in a beta husband -- but she'll likely lay down for any Chad with six pack abs, a chiseled jawline, and a bad boy attitude. If a guy is hot enough, then all her rules go out the window.
@@gordongekko2781 Agreed. Ted Bundy's courtroom footage proves that looks DO matter.
@@DDD11239 And more recently that manly guy who is on trial for driving over a woman and trying to end another. He's gotten hundreds of love letters from women he's never met who claim he's just misunderstood. Ha! What is there to understand about a psycho? There is definitely some faulty programming in the female mind.
Most of these come down to: A man's money should only be going to me and my botox
I don’t think that’s true at all
@@CourtneyRyan Not true for most women.
@CourtneyRyan sorry, but this shows lack of awareness of your own catalog. Even you have put forward some pretty shallow vibes. Not as bad as the vid you're reacting to, but you certainly have suggested men should display certain cliche flags to attract a mate.
😂😂
Bingo! Basically, anything that doesn't include making her happy or making money is a turn-off.
Marin lol 😂 she's the definition of LADY OF THE NIGHT
"Creatures of the Night."
I’m going to play devil advocate with this one. You’re saying you don’t want a man with a curated Instagram or social media presence, but when women meet men in person the first thing they ask for is a man’s Instagram. Meaning the man with the most curated or interesting Instagram is going to win or grab the girl’s attention; and if you tell her you don’t have an Instagram 9 times out of 10 she’s going to think you’re some werdio or liar; so tell me how does this makes since about saying you don’t want a man with a curated or “interesting” Instagram 🤔? Hypocrisy, maybe?
Classic woman, if a man is doing something that is not for her it is a waste of his time.
Lots of vegan food contains plenty of protein e.g. lentils, beans, nuts, tofu, so stop knocking the vegan diet and go cruelty free.
I didn’t knock the vegan diet and I’m aware many other things have protein! All I’m saying is make sure you get enough protein - vegan or not lol
@@CourtneyRyan I mean, you say "I prefer a man who eats meat [good reason why]... And also, you need protein - If you don't eat meat you need to look at how much protein you're eating a day" is pretty much knocking a vegan diet lol
@@thrill.h0use Thank you. Point made. 👍
I’m not funding some women’s luxury lifestyle and I’m not going to be her retirement plan
I don't want to provide for a woman, due to the increase of her liability. If a woman truly loves you, she will spread 'em for free.
Solid list except for being a vegan. People who choose a vegan diet and lifestyle are often deeply committed to animal rights and wish to minimize their carbon footprint on the planet.
You do realize that your digestive tract was not designed to efficiently extract nutrients through plant matter, right? You know, single chamber stomach, no extended cecum, you have a gallbladder….
As a woman, the messy room/home thing is a red flag beyond red flag for me. I have truly seen this as an indicator of something else going on in their life, who they are as a person, or who they will be as a partner/future parent
And this goes for women, too. I had a couple female roommates who were some of the messiest people I’ve ever seen in my life (weeks of dirty dishes piling up) and they were chronically single. They’d bring guys over and those guys would comment on the mess of their room. They women would ask their moms to come clean their kitty litter box or do their dishes and laundry. It was frightening. Who wants to date that kind of person?
Couldn’t agree more. Thanks for sharing this!!
That's the obsession of the unaccomplished. Those of us with a passion for something higher in life than superficial appearances, who are dedicating our lives to making it happen, don't have time to waste making sure everything is tidy and neat like some empty-headed housewife. I've been a successful professional artist for 30 years; my work is in collections in 43 countries, and has been published numerous times. I read a lot, too; education for me did not stop when I finished my masters degree. My house is full of books, laying around everywhere. I own nearly 3000 books and at any given time I have two or three of them I am reading. I'm already nearly 50; my time in this world is limited, and I still have so much more I want to accomplish. If some woman doesn't like my messy house, she is someone who has done nothing significant with her life, and will only drag me down to her level.
@ while I understand what you’re getting at, I don’t think that a lot of books is the same as 3 weeks worth of dishes or rotting food in a fridge, animal hair piling up on the carpet or couch, etc.
Untidy and dirty are two different things.
Also, success and accomplishments are measured differently by different people. I’m very accomplished and successful, now at 36 more than ever, and I’m also the most cleanly I’ve ever been in my life. I don’t think that a person who cares about not living in a tornado is an indicator of superficial desires. When I had messy ass roommates years ago I can promise you they were just lazy, and not just busy doing things that made enriched their lives. 🤣
Yes. In my 20 years of marriage, I have gone nuts over my wife's messes than ANY SINGLE THING.
Biased perspective....oh but what can u even expect from wahmen these days
If you have TikTok I won't let you use my WiFi.
Something to mention about meat. There are so many ways to get protien outside of meat that are far healthier. Also if it's that big of a problem you make the meal and set a portion aside then dump in the meat. I do it all the time. It's not hard.
Us men are taught when we're young that providing is important. Society in the past, and today, makes us struggle with the thought of not providing. And if we happen to be in shoes where we can't provide, it's a crisis for us.
We know all too well that women could make fun of us, or choose not to date us, because we may not make a lot of money or have the best status. It is absolutely disheartening to be thought of as less than, but it happens more frequently than I think a lot of women truly realize.
Well, I check off all of these. Don't have instagram or tiktok, no clue who those people are she mentioned. Though, the texting in lower case thing is not entirely clear. NOW IS THE TIME FOR ALL CAPS ALL THE TIME, I CAN ALREADY FEEL MY PROVIDER POWERS LEVELING UP!
There are vegans who have better physiques than meat eaters.
This is one of my greatest frustrations with online dating right now: women are so much about "here are my requirements" and "here are my deal breakers" up front rather than giving reasons I would want to date them in the first place. I'm looking for dates, not job interviews. And if you want people to be interested, be interesting!
Completely agree with most of these. Totally fine to have these's expectations as long as the woman lives the same values.
Veganism isn't a dietary restriction. It's an ethical philosophy. As a vegan I don't date nonvegans for at least _three_ (3) reasons:
1) It's a core ethical principal. (A bit like an atheist and an ultra-religious person trying to be a couple...not impossible, but the deck is stacked.)
2) The behavioral corollary of veganism is that I don't treat animals like commodities, which would entail a) her living my vegan lifestyle including food, and I don't want to put that on someone, or b) making two meals a lot of the time as Courtney mentioned.
3) I intend to be around (and healthy) for a very long time. I'm primarily whole-foods plant-based, meaning I keep to a very healthy dietary pattern. People who eat vegan junk food (e.g., meat alternatives, Oreos, etc.) or have diets rich in meat and dairy die sooner from the top 10 leading causes of death, and experience chronic health issues much, much sooner in life. I don't want to live the last 20+ years of my life as a caretaker. For me, not being vegan is a risk factor akin to smoking (the statistics are somewhat similar as well).
Bacon is said to be worst then cigarettes for you
@@PhantomMagician1846 Yep - processed meats in general are known carcinogens.
The lack of education and intelligence on this comment and the replies is proof enough that vegans don't use their brains.
To her point about fashion. I think both men and women should dress to impress the type of partner they want to attract and not put up false pretenses. For my personal situation, I really didn't have any interest in attracting a "priss". I was more after a tomboy, someone active, a gym-goer, outdoorsy type. Dressing in a business suit was not going to attract the type of girl I wanted.
Women exert enormous social power in our culture. They dictate the terms under which they will entertain you as a prospect for a boyfriend. To an extent, we've given them this power by collectively becoming simps. Just saying no to simping would go a long way in restoring the power balance.
She reminds me of the ex who tried to put my dog to sleep
Chickpeas and/or falafel have a high amount of protein for not being animal based...
Yes! Plenty of other things that have high protein besides meat
The only Van Cleef I know is Lee Van Cleef. That's Angel Eyes, trying to find that gold.
It seems to me that women like this have nothing to bring to a relationship. A relationship to them are things they can demand of a man and then when they get bored or finds a higher status guy, they move on with no repercussions and actually can make/ take money on the exit.
Although, she isn’t completely wrong about what is/looks manly or attractive to a woman. More importantly a guy should focus on himself, his hobbies and interests. He shouldn’t waste time on the social sites.
I don't want to provide for a woman, due to the increase of her liability. If a woman truly loves you, she will spread 'em for free.
Doordash bit needs some more nuance.
If you doordash everything because you don't know how to cook and have no financial sense and don't see that you can't really afford it this isn't good at all.
However, if someone has a high-paying intense job (think surgeon, wall street banker etc) and makes calculated choice to pay for food and spend their free time on their hobbies or friends or family - that's different.
Well not capitalizing seems strange but depends on what is being texted.
Everyone needs to touch grass. Both men and women. People that have no hobbies outside of a screen are boring.
The sad part is that the guy she described is what most modern woman fall for.
Courtney, I must chide you and the other woman lightly over suggesting that vegan or vegetarian men can't be strong. I do eat meat. But, biologically, we don't need meat. We do need protein. Easy to do with a vegetarian or vegan diet. A vegan diet can be done; but requires some supplements. There are groundbreaking athletes who are vegan and or vegetarian. Iron Mike Tyson is vegan. Here's an interview of Iron Mike with Oprah and he explains about being vegan. Ref 1. Here are tremendous athletes with plant based diets as recognized by Guinness World Records including Nate Diaz who beat Conor MacGregor in UFC. Ref 2. But, a plant only diet cannot be complete without either some animal products (can be non-meat like dairy, eggs) or supplements. Such an example is vitamin B12. See the Harvard School of Nutrition Ref 3. A plant based diet is far more efficient at feeding people and at providing protein per acre of agricultural land. But, I do agree, meat sure does taste good. I do like a mesquite or juniper grilled steak. Ref 1. th-cam.com/video/Vc-DeGEXAmM/w-d-xo.html. Ref 2. www.guinnessworldrecords.com/news/2019/11/the-game-changers-11-record-breaking-plant-based-athletes-601566/ Ref 3. nutritionsource.hsph.harvard.edu/vitamin-b12/
@user-rv9lg5gf6w Okay
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@user-rv9lg5gf6w Not quite sure how to send a private message on TH-cam. But, feel free to ask whatever you wanted to regarding the vegetarian/vegan. Cheers!
@user-rv9lg5gf6w Feel free to ask whatever was on your mind regarding vegetarians and vegans. Cheers!
These young women don't understand what an old fashion family meant, nor they ever witnessed it. Relying on someone else's income means you are completely dependent on them, which opens to unloyalty, treating you like garbage, and so on. What are you gonna do in case? Move out? With what resources/money or even professional skills? Internet gave too much attention to literal children speaking about anything and giving the impression it's a real topic. As a man myself I have no intention to provide to anyone, I want a strong woman not a parasite.
@4:30, is the meal boxes like hello fresh or Factor count as door-dashing?
Another benefit with going to get things is meeting more people, making friends, and maybe meeting a lady who just might be interested in going to get a coffee or a meal together.
I don’t think that’s the same as door dashing every meal! I wouldn’t recommend eating that for every meal but it’s fine from time to time 👏🏼
I had Hello Fresh for a while; it was nice being able to get the exact quantities you needed to make a recipe (and you DO make the entrees with HF; they send you ingredients and a recipe card)
Thanks for sharing. She is way to into herself.
She's a benign/covert feminist. What's all of the benefits of a traditional man but will not give up her indepence nor follow the provider's lead as that's misogynitic.
Yes please! Make the video re: husband material/not husband material.
Love to hear your list and input. Thanks Courtney
I agree with most of the things she Mention but I have feeling she makes her boyfriend or her husband live miserable from complaining about small things
Just so your aware, plants do have plenty of protein. There is no such thing as a protein deficiency for someone that eats enough calories. I know a lot of women that appreciate a man that will stand up for innocent animals.
I love cooking and used to cook every meal when I worked a different job, but now I work 60-70 hour weeks and haven't cooked in over a year. I almost always order take out or premade meals. Frankly it is exhausting to have to cook after work, and it ends up being 9 o block when I eat and I value some off time before I go back to work. So I think there are exceptions to that take.
Gods honest truth, it’s nice to not have the pressure of providing for one of these ingrates, now that I’m 41 and know I’m not ever having kids or finding a young enough woman to worry about getting pregnant.
Why should men care?
Certain lifestyles = Toxic behavior, emotionally immature, narcissistic behavior etc.
Because they waste their time with such bull💩 because they are being a chuck to the wrong women. Inevitably wasting time that could be used on better pursuits, enabling feminist women's bad behaviour.
Amen!
Something I've learned in highschool. Women love to make crazy long and detailed lists on either standards or red flags. I think that is a major red flag thats indicative of the kind of woman that made that video. Seemingly herself does or is guilty of the things she wrote down, I know about this sort of thing but my husband can't otherwise thats a negative trait. Personally, I can't vibe with that. True humility is an extremely desirable and somewhat rare trait imo.
On another note, seeing that list was pretty funny given the amount of people that end up very successful often have to sacrifice on many of these. I suppose that's not exactly a provider but there's some correlation there
I completely agree with the list she presented. No complaints or disagreements.
I was watching one of your earlier videos today on mixed signals or red flags i think and its pretty interesting how they equates to both guys and women even in this video
Btw am loving ur recent videos and topics...keep it up Court💯💯
Thank you so much! 🥰
9:37 For meat, it very much depends on the type of meat. Pork is high in fat and has less protein than many other types of meat. Chicken is an optimal source. And also, there are plant based foods that have plenty of protein. The main thing is that plant based foods do not give you vitamin B-12 unlike meat. For vegans, the only way around it is to either take supplements or to eat mushrooms. Many vegans have a defficiency in B-12 for this reason.
I had a girl I went on a few dates with but we texted all the time. Said we were exclusive and serious. Then at the end I found out she was seeing her ex on the side with the possibility of others. When I called her out on lying she said “idk why you’re upset it wasn’t serious. You’re just a guy I had a thing with.” Then she said I was also cheap. So she wanted serious type relationship money while calling it casual. Stuff like this makes men check out and not wanna provide for anyone other than ourselves.
the messy room is a big one and it flows both ways.
our internal world manifests itself in the world around us and a clean/ messy room is a reflection of that-hygiene follows the same line of thought
If we pause to consider the meaning of 'being a provider,' we find it cannot be captured by a list of traits.
Provision is not a fixed concept but shaped by shifting social expectations and context. Can external actions-an Instagram account, a taste for aesthetics or gambling-truly define a person?
To say these signs 'mean' something reduces the complexity of human life to rigid symbols. Perhaps a shared life is built on truly understanding one another, not on interpreting isolated and superficial signs.
I prefer not to provide for a woman. She would be a liability. If she has intimacy with you for free, then you know she truly likes you.
As a 72 year old man, the message I am getting is everything in moderation. Be on social media, bet, play video games, eat meat, but not all the time. Don't let the really important things suffer. Thank you.
can we exchange emails?
I don't about you all, but in my country, renting somewhere costs an arm and a leg. First time buyers of homes are screwed over, because no-one can afford to pay the mortgage anymore. Owning your own car has become more and more expensive to do, what the rising repair costs and fuel costs. Even though I have a decent job, I still have to live with my parents because I can't afford to pay the cost of renting somewhere else.
Sounds like Australia.
Love your personality, kindness is what we all should be grateful for what we get in the future no matter in what situation we are facing because all of us are struggling in some other way no matter what we do we always feel like we are low level but we aren’t until we realize we live under a roof and love with respect for all.
I agree with most of her points , although I don’t really like the way she talks about each point, she don’t elaborate on what she means in alot of them, and it just mostly seems like mocking rather than trying to give constructive criticism.
How about Chad?
Is he a provider?
Of course not: what a silly question.
Love this trend of chronically online women telling men that being chronically online is unattractive without a hint of irony
You've got a good head on your shoulders Courtney. I think your take on signs he is/isn't husband material is a great idea. Might give us a few pointers as to where we can do some work on ourselves (we all need it, even the married ones haha)
If a guy texts in all lowercase, that just means he works in I.T. If a guy texts in camel case, that means he's working way too much in I.T.
Yup, us old IT guys actually use proper grammar and, *GASP*, punctuation. It's like no one knows what a comma is these days.😅
@@leamas5971 You missed a comma before "...these days."
@@DDD11239 Does it require a comma there? I don't pause when I say it to myself. May be my east coast accent playing tricks on me. Either way, I AM an IT guy, so I am, by no means, perfect. 🤣
And - very rarely - a 'do the needful' might sneak in.
1. On Instagram Scrolling - I scroll for a little bit to see how friends are other than that I go on it to post my Photography cause that’s what it’s for nothing else and filmmaking photography photos for BTS, Landscape Wide-Shot Photography, No Selfies, Photos Of Other People, I am doing my best to break into the Photography Business, and to make money doing it eventually I am going to save money to do so by next year in 2025.
2. Lower Case - Seriously asking this… this shouldn’t be a problem or a question, just saying and moving on from this one. Okay I heard proper grammar I use proper grammar most of the time and no corrects me for misspelled because I end up catching it first and correct my own grammar if I screw up when texting. By anyhow moving on.
3. She is absolutely correct there is no reason to slack off so much that a space or a even a room turns into mess and it never gets cleaned I know people that are like that and thank god I am not that way I make sure to clean up as much as possible. No Excuses.
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I’ve never heard a woman talk about providers and not be referring to finances.
Choosing the watch guy, FTW!
I love how complimentary you are toward Teddy. Very classy, Courtney!
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This woman is hilarious. She's spot on, too.
Gotta say I agree with all of the things she said. Notice how none of her list is materialistic. That has to be a good sign for all the guys out there who are conditioned to believe that women only want money. It. Is. Not. True.
Refreshing content! I like your humor regarding peoples reactions to your content. Appreciated the info. Its helping me during a rough patch in my relationship.
As a 18 old im really glad to found ur channel ur advices helped me sm
Son you do not need this toxic advice. Go out in to real world kid. This kind of content is toxic for kids
@ 18 yo is not a kid and nothing is toxic about her content
@@redamageff3262 not all women are like the ones you see on social media. The internet portraits women in a negative light son
Thanks for the video Courtney! One thing I never really understood is the "getting jumped" thing. Like, if someone's gonna jump me, they're going to have a gun. It does not matter if I eat meat or not, we're screwed either way 😂 Am I just eating the wrong meat or something?
😂😂😂 “can’t jump that guy, he had steak for lunch”
@@CourtneyRyan LOL
True. A weapon evens odds, no matter how tough you think you are.
Regarding #4 I have multiple disabilities and I am TOTALLY willing to prepare and cook meals for my woman.
This women is not traditional shes complaining about guys not being a provider
Definition of a man keep it simple, be a good provider, give back, love your children and support them, taking care of the environment around you and thanking God for everyday you are here
Another great video, and personally, I would not provide unless I really loved and cared for the other person
Some of these are true, some are so stupid to even judge a persons entire character off of.
I wish I had a social media following based off of bashing women in all the stupid shit they do.
Fuck this world. Take me back to the 90's
I will provide for my family and my hobbies will change when I have a reason for them to
I appreciate your content, not that I've been actively searching but you're the only female role model I can agree with on most things. Your videos are relaxing and funny. 😄
The only thing i disagree with is the obscure online way of making money. Those things could be growing skills that may become main sources of income some day.
Everything else was spot on.
Her video actually made sense. This was way better than 90% of the reactions.
Interesting to hear these from women's point of view. I never thought that these small signs like hobbies, jewelry, punctuation have such big significance
Thank you both for helping me, I picked up a grammar book and will work on these things. Both of these ladies are really cool. Peace, love and happiness.
honestly as a man I can completely agree with the first half of the things she mentioned. beyond just gender, to become a better person you have to take accountability and be strong enough to change when you understand you messed up. I will say this, the second half of the video is absolutely deranged and comes across passive aggressive, not necessarily saying she should talk in a calm and reassuring voice however if her goal is to make men change coming at them aggressively will push many away from hearing her advice. Love the helpful commentary btw coming from a 18 y/o trying to grow from a boy to a man mentally and emotionally.
Video summary: the type of emotional maturity you would want in a spouse causes that person to not be chronically online. Basically do you act like an adult or a child in an adult body?
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Having overcome both gambling and video game addictions... and working on keeping my living space more tidy, I can confirm that it’s worth it to do those things for yourself not just to attract a spouse.
PS these are the only emojis I use: ☺️😉😜👍🏼🤷🏻♂️👀🤔😬
the best emoji’s! 😂
Last time I told a girl I'm poor, but have tremendous qualities to offer...
She said,
"Well, that's not much is it."😡
This is void of reality. As a child we had cleaning women, I have had cleaning women since I moved out. I will have cleaning women that are paid or a gf/wife that does it. It is more cost effective for me to work, and hire someone to clean. Having a cleaning woman saves me time, and makes me money.
The signs a woman will always be a drain.
- texts all the time.
- has broken stuff at her place, but does not have any tools, or glue, or .....
She wants that guy to be rich, etc. If she wants to stay home she should get comfortable with cleaning.
The red flag is, are there dishes in the bedroom, or throughout the house. Putting clothes in the hamper is easy. Bringing dishes up or down stairs is work. If people bring dishes up stairs then have a dish station. Bring the stuff to go up or down stairs to a place beside the stairs at the top of the bottom. This can just be a table with a tray on it, and maybe a cloth to wipe it.
Mens gambling addiction is like womens shopping addiction. You're right about crime. I saw it first hand as someone that worked at a casino.
I'd calm down with the texting requirement. A lot of apps and smartphones have horrible auto correction.
The one I agree with the most is a clean house. I do think there is a correlation between a messy house and mental illness. Something isn't right if someone is living in a dump. They either have mental issues or a drug problem. That's just been my personal experience with that.
Or, just lazy. I knew someone who was very active, yet hated a clean house. I abandoned them from my life.