I think it is wonderful that you have shown us it is possible to change our lives for the better. You are a wonderful inspiration and keep us all moving in a positive way! Thank you! ☮️🌍🌲♥️
“Not everyone was built to work full time and also do all the other things around it”… man, I never heard anyone saying this before and this might be the sentence that will change my life for the better (after two proper burnouts)…
I'm glad that resonated with you Judit. I wanted to include it in the video, because of how much it helped me when someone else said that to me a while ago. It's so important to talk about these things, I feel. There's already way more than enough content out there about being 'productive'. We need to talk about our real experiences too, I think :) And I truly believe this to be true. Take good care!
I found it extremely gratifying to hear someone acknowledge this, too! I have never been able to maintain a full-time job for more than a year without sacrificing my health and mental wellbeing, either, but always assumed part-time work was only feasible for folk living with full-time-employed partners. Exploring jobs that can be worked part-time whilst maintaining a liveable single income has been a game changer for me, and I'm planning on retraining in the new year. Psychotherapists, physios, personal trainers, tutors, freelance editors, occupational therapists... there are so many job roles out there which don't rely on the typical 9-5. I hope you found something, J GRG!
Trust me,burnout is not fun. Been there a few times. If you’re tired, your mental state and focus are all over the place and your motivation is in the sewer… it’s time to stop.
Grazie per questo video! Credo tutto il pianeta stia soffrendo perché non siamo più capaci di prenderci cura di noi e stiamo un po' tutti calpestando i nostri veri bisogni, e i bisogni degli altri, allo stesso modo... Ci vuole coraggio per andare contro corrente. Una frase bella che ho sentito è che Il mainstream è forte e importante. Ma ci sono tanti altri stream, che insieme sono molto più importanti e più forti.
@@elizabethsydnor5247 true.. I always just felt pressured to work full time because it’s what everyone else does. When I realized I can just spend my money more carefully and give up certain things that weren’t really necessary or good for me anyway like living on my own, buying a house, going on out of town vacations etc. instead of working so hard to live up to everyone’s expectations of what a “normal” adult should be able to do I felt so much better. I do realize I have a lot of privilege other people don’t though and want to work to make the working world a healthier place for less privileged people.
I work in a high school kitchen preparing and serving breakfast and lunch. My best time is on the register and I get to talk and know the kids,and being older I treat them like my own kids. It’s amazing that the few short seconds or minutes help me make a difference. One student told me right before graduating, “Thanks for being a good friend to me the last four years!” That brought a tear to my eye! Now when my days are stressful and that’s a lot anymore, I look forward to seeing “my kids” at lunch and it helps me get through my day! I even get kids ask me to not retire until after they graduate, even a teacher asked me the same thing.
I’m also so burnt out when I worked as a nurse during COVID in the ICU. I suffered a miscarriage and still have ptsd to this day. I work as a cashier now until I can feel better emotionally, although those around me can’t fathom why. I hope I can take on your philosophy and just rest for now. Thank you for your advice and God bless. ❤
I'm so glad to hear that you are taking time to heal. I am working part-time (after leaving my job after 18 years), and this allows me to heal as well.
Here in the states they do not recognize "burn out" as a medical problem. Take a day and you will be better. I believe most people here in the states do have burn out trying to meet corporate demands. I do listen to my body and I do try to take steps to correct problems, but it is difficult to do sometimes with all of the expectations that are placed upon us. Thank you Vera for another wonderful video! ☮️🌍🌲🤗
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Jennie. Yes, unfortunately burnout isn't recognized properly everywhere.. I wish that was different. It's better here in the Netherlands, but even here there are a lot of misconceptions about it in my experience. This makes it all the more important that we do our best to take care of ourselves whenever we can, I think. Have a wonderful day!
I went through something very similar and was diagnosed by my psychiatrist as having a mental breakdown. I view it like a very big earthquake because I have had smaller “aftershocks “ since then. I experienced a tunnel of despair and am learning what I need to do to breach the tunnel. I don’t know if others have felt this way, just my experience. Love and prayers for everyone experiencing anything like these.
I haven't even started watching yet, and I wanted you to know how much I need to hear a success story re: burnout and overwhelm. I am in the middle of it and an struggling to see my way out. Thank you for letting me know that the light at the end of the tunnel is in fact the sun and not another train.
There is definitely light at the end of the tunnel :) Time is the most important thing, I think. Try to stay positive and to keep believing, even if it gets a little rocky. Take care my friend! Sending some healing vibes your way
I too have a fear of that train. When I mention it other people look at me like I’m crazy. You are the only other person I’ve ever encountered that hopes that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train?👍🕊
This is such an important video! Your last point about not having to make productivity a main feature of your life if you don't want to, gave me goosebumps because it is so true and not something that is heard often enough. I haven't had a burnout, but I do live with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder which adds a lot of stress and anxiety to life so it is really important for me to find a balance between productivity and rest. Your points about when and when not to push yourself are fantastic and something I'm still learning in large part thanks to all your videos. I'm much better now at accepting what a friend of mine calls 'nope days', those days when pushing yourself doesn't help and it is better to just let go and take it easier. I love that you pointed out that balance is rooted in listening and understanding your mind and body's responses to the changing situations life presents us with. It doesn't mean a constant and unchanging state of balance but more the ability to manoeuvre healthily between productivity and rest/self care in the same way that mindfulness doesn't mean a constant and unchanging awareness of the present moment but more the process of returning to that awareness each time the mind is inevitably distracted.
This resonates with me soooo much. Feeling more fragile, feeling that I might never recover and stay broken for a long time, or just feeling lost during the recovery period, feeling angry at those people who caused it. But recovery is happening, time is the ultimate healer, if we cooperate and don't deliberately sabotage the process.
from this vantage point, you don't sound "broken." you are articulate and you've identified all the things. please be kind to yourself. you may be exhausted, angered, and frustrated beyond anything you've experienced before, but those words you don't mean your broken. i wonder if it's helping you to think you're broken?
Thanks Vera for the video. Many years ago I went through something not sure if it was burn out or depression. But I was tired of everything. I didn't want to go to work. I finally quit my job after 20 years and moved back to my home state. Moving back home I met the love of my life.❤
Thanks so much for sharing Cathy. I think it's not always easy to tell if we're experiencing burnout or depression. In my case, I'm sure it was burnout. I'm happy that things worked out for you like that, and that you even met the love of your life!
Thank you for discussing this issue. A went through burn out and still slowing coming out the other side. I have chosen to only work 30 hours a week and rest on days off when I need to. Hard to get over that feeling of judgement of being "lazy" but I know I am doing what's best for me and that's the most important thing 🙏
I'm in the middle of a medical burnout. I've been told to use a walker when ever I need to move around. This comes on the heels of 11 falls in a month. During that time I couldn't mentally and physically clean my house. My mother refuses to come visit me. Or voluntary call me. I have no friends to come visit and I'm sitting here all alone. There are issues related to my moving around the apartment building that keep me stuck in myj apartment alone. I can't sit in the lobby and patio furniture. I can't get up and stand up because the furniture and the other tenants won't help if I get stuck. So for safety I have to stay alone in my apartment. I am getting angry and depressed. Nobody wants to at least come and spend any time with me. And I just get more upset so I just feel abandoned and cry. Nobody cares about me. I have been abandoned. That's my life.
At 33 I burned out so bad I thought I'd passed away. 3 years later I begun to feel better. Now i'm 37, I have a full time job that I love and feel great. Do not dispaire ppl, you'll get over it ❤
Not everyone is built to work full-time or have side jobs/incomes. I have to admit that since the pandemic I have given up on cable but become way too into TH-cam. I find myself feeling less than because so many on here have multiple stream's of income and all I have is my one income from a non profit organization I've been working for since 2014. I have to remind myself that everyone is different and I have no one to impress but myself. I love having my weekends off doing nothing but seeping-in and trying to become more minimal in my 358sq foot studio. I have to remind myself of these things you say in your video's so I don't get distracted and fall apart trying to be so perfect.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Rosemary, I completely agree! Also, with the side hustle things, I feel like they can be wonderful if that's what you want, but no one should feel pressured to monetize their hobbies or interests or to create side hustles if that's not what feels right for you. Hustling is not how I want to live my life haha :)
You have immense privilege of loving on a country that actually supports your health. In the US we don't have the choice of just laying in bed for months... Whole I'm glad you could rest, a lot of us simply cannot.
Thank you. I needed this video to remind me of how far I have come. I think the thing I forget the most is that my capacity for stress is so much lower now. I used to thrive on the corporate energy. Even after taking time out to focus on my mental health, and consciously taking a step back in my job once I did get back to work; I find that stress at work drains me very quickly indeed. For a long time I have been judging myself by the standards old me was able to set and I find myself slipping back into the old mindsets but without the stamina. I’ve also just lost a very close friend and her very sudden passing (as well as losing my brother not that long ago) has reminded me that age is a gift not afforded to all of us. Time to reset and recharge ❤️
Yes, I've been in burnout for quite some time. I am now in a position to take time off and recuperate while I explore new options for meaningful work in the world. Thank you for shining a light on this common and under discussed condition.
Even thinking you need to spend your free time productively can make things worse. I've been spending most of mine resting and taking care of myself however I need in the moment. I needed this right now. Thank you. 😊
Thank you so much for this video, Vera! ♥️ Currently I‘m in Burnout recovery. It all started last summer. I can totally relate what you‘ve said about the „two steps forward and one step back“. Sometimes I also think that something in me is broken and will never be okay again, well it is a fear. Your story is very encouraging for me. Thank you! 🤗 Have a nice day! Greetings from Germany!
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Lina. So sorry to hear you've been going through a tough time as well. Yes, I recognize that feeling. I hope you'll continue to have faith in yourself and your recovert. Even though it was two steps forward, one step back for me, I got there in the end :) Take care!
Well done you for talking about your burn-out so openly - that is so important these days. Many countries still attach a massive negative stigma to being burnt-out and it's important to remove that so people can actually feel safe enough to admit that they're on the edge and can't no more. Thank you for this! One thing I wondered was in what way you feel more fragile now, and if you see the burn-out as a negative thing? To me personally it was like a 'wake up call' - amongst other things that happened (which led to it...), but it taught me a completely different way of seeing life, living life and taking care of myself. I don't feel 'broken' now but am mindful on when things get bad and try to stir against it then because I am aware of the consequences. In a way, I see the experience as a thing I really needed in order to make my life better - in the long run, hopefully. But maybe the awareness that you can get back into it is the feeling that makes you feel 'fragile' or broken, perhaps you're not but you're just aware of it more?
Well said, loved everything you shared! :) Yes, I definitely also see it as a wake up call. The only downside I still experience is the 'fear' (for a lack of a better word) to fall back into it, when I'm not feeling my best for a couple of weeks in a row.
This makes a lot of sense to me. I’ve been under a lot of chronic stress lately and just felt like I couldn’t do very much. I only did what I really needed to do. I felt like I was just being very lazy and wondered why I couldn’t be more productive.
I love your videos. I've been burned out for 4 years now and I've been going a little bit back and forth. I got some great cognitive behaviour therapy to change the way I think and feel because I suffer from depression and anxiety due to an eating disorder, as well as being a people pleaser and putting pressure on myself because of imaginary scenarios xD
I would love to see a follow-up video to this about *how* you check in with yourself and listen to yourself. It's easy to say, "listen to your body", but actually putting that into practice is more difficult (at least for me). I can tell when I'm tired or need to pee, of course, but a video that actually addresses *how* to listen to your body would be great.
Hi there! First of all, there was a weird reply from someone to your comment, which I deleted per my comment policy. :) Second, thanks for your question! I've been thinking about it, and it's hard for me to explain just exactly how to do it. How to listen to your body. It's just something I do haha. The first step is being able to tell how you're feeling, which is I think the most difficult one. But you said you already do that, so that's great. It takes being mindful enough to step out of your thinking mind and into the present reality. Then second, acting on it. If you need something that can be done now, try not to postpone it and instead acting on it as soon as possible. If it's not something that can be done now, I try to think of how and when I could act on it today, tomorrow or as soon as possible. Like if I feel like things are going too fast and I need a break to recharge, maybe I'll try and make some time for it this weekend. Hope that makes sense :)
Learning that I don't have to be perfect is an on-going challenge, especially as I have gotten older and don't have the energy or the physical ability to do what I could do at 18.
Thank you for speaking about your long recovery. My burn out happened 2 years ago and I also still feel way more fragile and like I often can‘t rely on myself. Though in the last months, I have been gaining strength again :)
That's wonderful Lea, that you feel like you've been gaining strength again. :) I think it's actually not uncommon at all, that burnout recovery takes around two years. It's just that it's not frequently talked about. But when doing research for this video, I came across the 'two years' period quite often. Wishing you all the best with your recovery!
The trusting myself again is the hardest part. It's like losing a part of your identity and having to redefine who you are. I am a year and a half into recovery from burnout and the anger isn't just at the people that caused it at my old work but at myself as well for letting it happen and to not have completely moved on and become successful again in the way I want.
My husband is going through this right now, I sent the link so he can watch this too... He's one who usually thrives on chaos but everyone has a limit & he's reaching his.
I was feeling desperated a couple of months ago, I started thinking about quit my job almost a year ago, a couple of weeks ago I decided when I'm going to do it, it's still more than half year for that to happen, but somehow making that decision brought me peace. I think I'm suffering a bit of boreout and burnout. I'm not going to wait for the day I quit to feel better, I'm working hard to feel and be healthier. Thanks for your advice Vera.
Take the time to laugh at the little things and be kind to yourself, whatever you do. do it so that you know it is the best it can be within reason and resources. It may seem a funny thing to day but if doubt and negative thoughts plague you when life is tough mentally tell them to bugger off and get on with the task at hand, sometimes you have to stamp on those thoughts and be tough on yourself to achieve the more tricky things in life. That enables you to achieve more than you realize and in doing so you grow as a person. Thankyou Vera for having the courage and conviction to share and help through your own experiences x
Love what you said about being able to laugh about the little things and be kind to yourself. Also, just to be able to laugh at yourself (in a compassionate way) is wonderful, I think.
Great video Vera! I really resonate with your thoughts on busyness - I used to think I "shouldn't" have burnt out, as others seem to do more than I do (used to). And even after quitting work, I got caught up thinking I "had" to be working in my garden, or doing housework etc ... but it's only since I've been resting more and making my focus nothing more than a daily walk and making nutritious food for myself, that I've started to feel healthier. I still have limited energy, and zero inclination in returning to work (I'm not sure if I'm taking a career break or early retirement!) ... and I might never get back to 100% ...but that's ok, because now I am able to enjoy simple things again (like watching the birds in my garden) and that is enough :)
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences Louise. I can relate to feeling like you 'shouldn't' have burnt out, or that you should be able to do more. It's not always easy :) I think it's great that you're focusing on resting, nutritious good, etc. That's where it all starts from, I think. Take good care and enjoy those lovely walks and the birds!
The feeling of burn out is real. People need to understand that. Most of the times, just cheer up and move forward is the advice given. But it is not as easy as it sounds. So people, Please stop giving such senseless advices and try to listen to what the other person is actually going through. I liked the entire video, but the most important point i needed is not to ignore the symptoms. I think i am in that phase now. I need to rest and reset asap. Thanks for talking about it and sharing your tips Vera.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm suffering from bore-out. It feels almost worse than burnout. Luckily, I'm changing industries at the moment and getting out of the corporate hamster wheel. This video gave me such comfort and validation. I've never heard the term 'bore-out'. I've been giving myself permission to just feel what I'm feeling and work at a pace that's comfortable for my mental health.
I REALLY liked your point that a constant balance is not possible because we and our life is in constant change - I LOVE THAT! This is a really important point for me as I have been chasing and wishing for finding a "balance" for years. I guess the most important thing is to every day find the best balance for the current situation and to be okay with the fact that a good balance is not always possible, but that you can focus on doing the best you can with what you have and to trust in that it is all changing :) Thanks Vera!!💖 PS: Congrats on your channel soon being 5 years old - your are doing a great and important work! Maybe you could make a 5-years anniversary video where you talk about the journey and what you have learned? 😀🤗
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts about balance, happy to hear that was helpful for you! I can relate to what you said about how you viewed balance before. :) Also, I did make a video like that when my channel had its fourth birthday last year :) I'll link it here, in case you're interested: th-cam.com/video/s1g8TKxMKCQ/w-d-xo.html
Thank you Vera i feel as though i need to rest and this video has come at the right time for me. I hit burn out too about 20 years ago and then an injury finished me off, but although i dont think i have recovered it did teach me alot, like learning about my limitations and no longer apologising for them, you cannot have it all, and less is more, i know gratitude has helped me its not a state of mind but some times a state of the heart. Learning about being a sensitive person and leaning more about being introvert has set my mind straight and i do love what you said RESPECT YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES AWESOME xxxxxxx
They tried to put me on antidepressants to resolve my crushing fatigue after all tests came back negative. Nope. Instead I took years to learn and work on exercising, diet, more sunshine, better sleep, naps and letting go of control aka less work. Today I'm fine, and now realize health is a choice and more I can keep myself healthy and happy but I had a lot to learn . Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for being my inspiration to cope with my burn out moment. Mine also happen 5 years ago and it took several years to recover. I thought i couldn't be better, but watching video like yours has contributed a lot
I've been in graduate school full time for four years. I'm getting close to finishing my doctorate and I'm definitely teetering around burnout. I really appreciate this video. Thank you!
I had a burnout at 14 or 15 years old and i cannot express myself correcty in english to explain a little bit more but now i'm 22 and i'm doing my best to live my life after surviving a lot of thing ❤
This video came out at the perfect timing for me! Thank you for always sharing your wisdom. I'm recovering from burnout and it has made me feel less alone and insecure by watching your videos these past few months. So thankful to have found you on TH-cam :)
I had a big burnout from career right before the pandemic, and isolation really helped me recover. However, I moved across the country in 2021, and then moved across the country again a few months ago to be with family members who are in need of help. I feel myself hanging on by a thread, and know that I'm close to another burnout due to both the business and emotional weight of it all. I feel nervous because I'm trying to prevent it, even though it feels impossible to do so. Thank you for this video, Vera. It helps to ground me when everything feels so out of control at the moment.
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all that Nicole. It really does sound like you have a lot on your plate. Maybe there's someone in your immediate environment you can talk to? You don't have to deal with it all by yourself. Take good care, sending you a hug
Congratulations on your 5 years, Vera! Please keep taking care of yourself so we will continue to have your channel to help us through our life journeys.
Thank you so much for this video. I'll be starting a new fulltime job in a couple of weeks after being out for almost 2years now. I stress a lot about if it wont be to much and how to take breaks and so much more. This video really helps me to take a part of the stress off. Also knowing it's totally normal that I feel more fragile now. Thank you
It's totally normal! Wishing you all the best with your new job. I can imagine it must feel overwhelming at times, if you've been out for a while. What I would advise is to try and take it one day at a time, and not worry too much about it. Getting used to a new job and a new routine takes time, it's like that for everyone. :) So just take it one day at a time, and go from there :) Good luck!
I suffer from depression. I can go a while without an episode. This time, I had been physically ill. I went back to work. I knew I was less patient than normal. After googling, self care ideas, I came across an article about burnout. I had most of the symptoms. Depression is part of it, but there was so much more. I took more time off from work. Finally, I am feeling healthy, unstuck, and at peace! Thank you for sharing your ideas about what worked for you. After going through the lock down and the covid related stress, I just needed to rest. I think that mental health is being discussed more with less of a stigma, but there is still a long ways to go.
I agree, it's important to talk about it more :) So I hope that I can do my part, with videos like this. I'm sorry to hear you were going through a tough time, but happy to hear you're feeling better now! Take care!
I didn’t know that was what it was called nd suffered through. I did find wonderful help eventually and I am still on the road to balance. I can’t thank you enough for talking about this.
Hi Vera 🌸 I often listen to you, when I can't calm down. Your voice and your topics are spot on 🙏 I have been stressed for about 14 years. For a year ago, I was diagnosed with "the silent" ADHD. I have not been able to work, since spring 2018. I hope that I recover some day. This year I'm finding quiet time, for sure: I have left my husband - we are still good friends. My husband has our youngest daughter from sunday to friday. And I have our daughter in the weekends. My oldest daughter, has just started her year, in 'efterskole' - a school where she sleeps with her classmates. It's some though decicions I have made for now. But I have to recover, so I can be that person and mom, I need to be, for my self and my daughters ❤🙏
Thank you for this advice and channel. I am currently burnt out and it is effecting me physically and mentally. I have learned so much through your videos and I appreciate your advice and the advice given.
Indeed after burn out it is a very thin line to get not drawn back in again. Indeed like you said you are not the same after it happens. But like you it did give me a lot back in return. I "see" life in general more clear now, have (still) the same job but focus on a very nice project (outside work) in the next coming 3-4 years. It sounds long but it also needs time to prepare things so no problem. Thanks Vera for a new interesting video!
This is my first time to come across the term bore out; I did not aware of this scenario before and had no idea to deal with it. thx for the great sharing and tips!
this was really great. as something who developed chronic fatigue syndrone due to health complications, I really hope others who have good health never take their health for granted in the pursuit of productivity. we must absolutely listen to the signs.
Hi Vera I am from SriLanka, and I am a true lover of your videos. I started watching your videos since 2020. Since then I am waiting for every week to hear from you. Thank you so much Vera because you could have healed my mind, and I am wishing you for a better future 💖💖💖💖💖🙏
This was excellent, Vera! Something that crossed my mind is that for many of us, we need to redefine or even define for the first time what productivity is for ourselves. What does is look like? Have I bought into someone else's definition of productivity, or even society's general definition of productivity? It's so hard for us to figure out what it even means for us. You are doing such a great job guiding us through this difficult process. Thank you! 🥰
Thank you very much Vera for your videos. You help many people I'm sure 💞 This video is very important for each one, because you talk about our relationship to productivity, the burnout, boreout, that issues are important for many of us. You said something that "not everyone is build to work full time" and it has particularly resonated within me❤ I never know what to do with myself, what kind of job fit to me, because I'm not very productive, I don't like pace workplaced with pressure. And if I like some things outside, like videogames, reading books of philosophy, also passionate by history, listen to metal music, I never been creative with an innate talent like a musicians or a drawer. Plus, I'm very shy and I lack of self-confidence, even if I sincerely would like change in ma life, at 38 yo. Sometimes I feel worthless, in a very demanding world. Sometimes, I envy people who have a passion from very young and who affirm "I always knew what to do in my life since very young and now I'm in the perfect place"...Those people are rare, and I'm very happy for them and always encourage each one to do what make them happy🙏 You know this video arrived timely. Many of your relevant advices sincerely inspired me, and I want to make them in practice. Vera, you're an angel, I wish you success for your channel and to continue living in harmony with yourself❤🙏💞
Thanks for the tips! I have a playlist of your videos. I always play that playlist whenever I'm decluttering or arranging stuff since your tips, voice, and calmness are very nice to hear when cleaning. Haha. More powers!
Thank you so much for making this video! I feel like I hit a wall three years ago, but I've just kept going since then - moving, new studies, new people, new jobs etc. I feel like I'm heading straight towards a burnout. I already know I have all the signs and symptoms... I'm not sure what to do, cause my options feel very few. I can quit my studies, but then what? I can try to get a new job, but I know that will stress me out as well.... But this video I think will help me at least try to slow down and maybe not go full burnout
Thank you very much Vera for sharing your after burnout story. I am happy that i've found your channel. I am also in the recovery phase of my burnout syndrome. Your story give me insight how i should do to prevent burnout . I don't want to experience it again later in my life (nooo please...). What i feel is same as yours. I agree with you that we must strive a happy life 👍👍😄
I also got to a place feeling like I’ll never have the capacity to do what I used to, to work full time, to live a full life - like I just don’t have the stamina or energy to live a full life. But I’m FINALLY starting to think that maybe I can fully recover; maybe I can get back to working full time. I’m finally starting to feel like I’m coming out the other side of the burnout. (I still have days, and sometimes weeks, where I kinda fall back into it-2 steps forward 1 step back-but I’m getting there slowly)
Your videos are wonderful to me. They help me very much. Every time I watch them. I get so much encouragement, understanding and tips for self care. Thanks for being there Vera. Have a great weekend 😊
Hi Vera, looking for the signs is the best advice for sure. If we know ourselves and take care of ourselves when we need it we can prevent a burnout. This life requires us to be overly productive and yes we need to be productive to feel good about ourselves but we need to find a balance. Loved your closing comments and wow, a really great video for all of us. Ty and appreciate all your uplifting good vibes! 🤩💗😉🌷
Hi Vera, this is a video I really needed, so many helpful tips! I have a corporate job which is sometimes very stresfull and the stress doesn't stay in the office but goes home with me. I'm working on being mindfull and that helps. Congrats on your 5 year anniversary! I have been subscribed to your amazing chanel since your collaboration with Ria, but I don't remember how long ago that was
No need to do more and more :) The most important thing, I think, is to enjoy our days here as much as possible and to take care of ourselves, so that we can continue to show up for ourselves and others. take care!
After gaining some perspective with the help of my therapist, I can definitely see that stress, burnout and depression have been plaguing me a bit this month, and it stops now. Thank you for making this video and sharing these much needed insights, Vera 💗
I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling too great Amy. I think it's great you're talking about it and taking action. Take good care of yourself, sending you a hug!
Vera,thank you for the video, all the points you have made are true to post-Covid period, that I am going through, as you mentioned now I feel more fragile and learning to take care of myself and seeing symptoms is extremely important👍
Thanks for another lovely episode. I really appriciate your channel, it helps me and remind me to take care of my self. I am trying to find a good balance between work and life but its so hard and I feel like I am on the brink of a burn out… but we just bought a house and I need to work now.
Hi there, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling overwhelmed. Is there someone you can talk to about how you're feeling? Also, congratulations on buying a house!
Balance is in fact maintenance and just daily practice... Thank you for this video! I am struggling with handling ME/CFS and practicing pacing. What a challenge. Self love helps though. Best wishes to you! I love your channel!
The words was not enough to explain how I am fed up with my work. I work 9-10 hours a day, but they say it isn’t enough. inshaAllah Allah (c.c.) gives me a new work🤲🏻🤲🏻
So happy for you, Vera! 😊 Very grateful for your videos and information about HSP, it's really of great help as I feel very alone in this. I find it hard to be taken seriously by my GP when I talk about the symptoms, so finding your channel hve helped me realize this hypersensitivity is something real, and we're in it together. As for burnout, I've been close, but I still find this helpful in preventing 🍀🤗 Thanks again, lots of love 💖💖
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Susanne. I think it's such a shame that burnout and sensitivity aren't always taken seriously... Even more reason to take care of ourselves as best as we can :) Sending lots of love back!
Hi Vera I felt a bit emotional for you as well as myself watching this one as I totally understand everything you mentioned regarding burnout ! Finding your channel has helped me so much I can’t believe it will be 5 years next month well done ❤️ I know when I am heading towards a burnout again as it tends to show up in physical aches and pains mostly back pain? I have learnt to slow down more and be more mindful when it happens taking regular short breaks does definitely help 🤗
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Can you believe that the Simple Happy Zen channel will be 5 years old next month? That’s so cool! 😄
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I think it is wonderful that you have shown us it is possible to change our lives for the better. You are a wonderful inspiration and keep us all moving in a positive way! Thank you! ☮️🌍🌲♥️
That’s great! Congratulations! 😊👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 are you going to make a Special 5 years video?
Congratulations❣️
@Adriana Ines Bonaudi Thank you! I'm thinking about it, but I'm not sure yet :)
“Not everyone was built to work full time and also do all the other things around it”… man, I never heard anyone saying this before and this might be the sentence that will change my life for the better (after two proper burnouts)…
I'm glad that resonated with you Judit. I wanted to include it in the video, because of how much it helped me when someone else said that to me a while ago. It's so important to talk about these things, I feel. There's already way more than enough content out there about being 'productive'. We need to talk about our real experiences too, I think :) And I truly believe this to be true. Take good care!
I found it extremely gratifying to hear someone acknowledge this, too! I have never been able to maintain a full-time job for more than a year without sacrificing my health and mental wellbeing, either, but always assumed part-time work was only feasible for folk living with full-time-employed partners. Exploring jobs that can be worked part-time whilst maintaining a liveable single income has been a game changer for me, and I'm planning on retraining in the new year. Psychotherapists, physios, personal trainers, tutors, freelance editors, occupational therapists... there are so many job roles out there which don't rely on the typical 9-5. I hope you found something, J GRG!
End Capitalism
Trust me,burnout is not fun. Been there a few times. If you’re tired, your mental state and focus are all over the place and your motivation is in the sewer… it’s time to stop.
Grazie per questo video!
Credo tutto il pianeta stia soffrendo perché non siamo più capaci di prenderci cura di noi e stiamo un po' tutti calpestando i nostri veri bisogni, e i bisogni degli altri, allo stesso modo...
Ci vuole coraggio per andare contro corrente.
Una frase bella che ho sentito è che
Il mainstream è forte e importante. Ma ci sono tanti altri stream, che insieme sono molto più importanti e più forti.
“Not everyone is built to work full time and if that is you, then you are not a failure.” That made me cry 😭
Me too. I can't bear pace workplace with lot of pressure. I wish to be happy and find a job that makes you happy 🙏💞
Many have no other choice, with no one to help.
@@elizabethsydnor5247 true.. I always just felt pressured to work full time because it’s what everyone else does. When I realized I can just spend my money more carefully and give up certain things that weren’t really necessary or good for me anyway like living on my own, buying a house, going on out of town vacations etc. instead of working so hard to live up to everyone’s expectations of what a “normal” adult should be able to do I felt so much better. I do realize I have a lot of privilege other people don’t though and want to work to make the working world a healthier place for less privileged people.
Most people aren’t meant to work full time. Work should be 4 hours a day MAX
I work in a high school kitchen preparing and serving breakfast and lunch. My best time is on the register and I get to talk and know the kids,and being older I treat them like my own kids. It’s amazing that the few short seconds or minutes help me make a difference. One student told me right before graduating, “Thanks for being a good friend to me the last four years!” That brought a tear to my eye! Now when my days are stressful and that’s a lot anymore, I look forward to seeing “my kids” at lunch and it helps me get through my day! I even get kids ask me to not retire until after they graduate, even a teacher asked me the same thing.
This is really sweet 😊
I’m also so burnt out when I worked as a nurse during COVID in the ICU. I suffered a miscarriage and still have ptsd to this day. I work as a cashier now until I can feel better emotionally, although those around me can’t fathom why. I hope I can take on your philosophy and just rest for now. Thank you for your advice and God bless. ❤
EMDR therapy for PTSD. Sending you ❤
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I'm so glad to hear that you are taking time to heal. I am working part-time (after leaving my job after 18 years), and this allows me to heal as well.
Here in the states they do not recognize "burn out" as a medical problem. Take a day and you will be better. I believe most people here in the states do have burn out trying to meet corporate demands. I do listen to my body and I do try to take steps to correct problems, but it is difficult to do sometimes with all of the expectations that are placed upon us. Thank you Vera for another wonderful video! ☮️🌍🌲🤗
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Jennie. Yes, unfortunately burnout isn't recognized properly everywhere.. I wish that was different. It's better here in the Netherlands, but even here there are a lot of misconceptions about it in my experience. This makes it all the more important that we do our best to take care of ourselves whenever we can, I think. Have a wonderful day!
I went through something very similar and was diagnosed by my psychiatrist as having a mental breakdown. I view it like a very big earthquake because I have had smaller “aftershocks “ since then. I experienced a tunnel of despair and am learning what I need to do to breach the tunnel. I don’t know if others have felt this way, just my experience.
Love and prayers for everyone experiencing anything like these.
You're not replaceable as a mother so take care of yourself to have at least energy for this lovely, best ever job!
I haven't even started watching yet, and I wanted you to know how much I need to hear a success story re: burnout and overwhelm. I am in the middle of it and an struggling to see my way out. Thank you for letting me know that the light at the end of the tunnel is in fact the sun and not another train.
There is definitely light at the end of the tunnel :) Time is the most important thing, I think. Try to stay positive and to keep believing, even if it gets a little rocky. Take care my friend! Sending some healing vibes your way
I too have a fear of that train. When I mention it other people look at me like I’m crazy. You are the only other person I’ve ever encountered that hopes that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train?👍🕊
This is such an important video! Your last point about not having to make productivity a main feature of your life if you don't want to, gave me goosebumps because it is so true and not something that is heard often enough. I haven't had a burnout, but I do live with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder which adds a lot of stress and anxiety to life so it is really important for me to find a balance between productivity and rest. Your points about when and when not to push yourself are fantastic and something I'm still learning in large part thanks to all your videos. I'm much better now at accepting what a friend of mine calls 'nope days', those days when pushing yourself doesn't help and it is better to just let go and take it easier.
I love that you pointed out that balance is rooted in listening and understanding your mind and body's responses to the changing situations life presents us with. It doesn't mean a constant and unchanging state of balance but more the ability to manoeuvre healthily between productivity and rest/self care in the same way that mindfulness doesn't mean a constant and unchanging awareness of the present moment but more the process of returning to that awareness each time the mind is inevitably distracted.
Wow, you phrased that so well!! Also, I reaaaally love the term 'nope days' :) I might steal that hahaha
This resonates with me soooo much. Feeling more fragile, feeling that I might never recover and stay broken for a long time, or just feeling lost during the recovery period, feeling angry at those people who caused it. But recovery is happening, time is the ultimate healer, if we cooperate and don't deliberately sabotage the process.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, happy to hear you found some things that resonated with you in the video. Take care!
from this vantage point, you don't sound "broken." you are articulate and you've identified all the things. please be kind to yourself. you may be exhausted, angered, and frustrated beyond anything you've experienced before, but those words you don't mean your broken.
i wonder if it's helping you to think you're broken?
I read somewhere, a while back… treat yourself like a house guest and ask yourself, “what do you need, what can I get for you” ☺️
Thanks Vera for the video. Many years ago I went through something not sure if it was burn out or depression. But I was tired of everything. I didn't want to go to work. I finally quit my job after 20 years and moved back to my home state. Moving back home I met the love of my life.❤
Same. Think I did mistake my burnout for depression
Thanks so much for sharing Cathy. I think it's not always easy to tell if we're experiencing burnout or depression. In my case, I'm sure it was burnout. I'm happy that things worked out for you like that, and that you even met the love of your life!
Thank you for discussing this issue. A went through burn out and still slowing coming out the other side. I have chosen to only work 30 hours a week and rest on days off when I need to. Hard to get over that feeling of judgement of being "lazy" but I know I am doing what's best for me and that's the most important thing 🙏
I'm in the middle of a medical burnout. I've been told to use a walker when ever I need to move around. This comes on the heels of 11 falls in a month. During that time I couldn't mentally and physically clean my house. My mother refuses to come visit me. Or voluntary call me. I have no friends to come visit and I'm sitting here all alone. There are issues related to my moving around the apartment building that keep me stuck in myj apartment alone. I can't sit in the lobby and patio furniture. I can't get up and stand up because the furniture and the other tenants won't help if I get stuck. So for safety I have to stay alone in my apartment. I am getting angry and depressed. Nobody wants to at least come and spend any time with me. And I just get more upset so I just feel abandoned and cry. Nobody cares about me. I have been abandoned. That's my life.
At 33 I burned out so bad I thought I'd passed away.
3 years later I begun to feel better. Now i'm 37, I have a full time job that I love and feel great.
Do not dispaire ppl, you'll get over it ❤
What a lovely video! Giving respect to our limits means loving ourselves unconditionally
Thank you so much! :) And yes, I agree :)
Not everyone is built to work full-time or have side jobs/incomes. I have to admit that since the pandemic I have given up on cable but become way too into TH-cam. I find myself feeling less than because so many on here have multiple stream's of income and all I have is my one income from a non profit organization I've been working for since 2014. I have to remind myself that everyone is different and I have no one to impress but myself. I love having my weekends off doing nothing but seeping-in and trying to become more minimal in my 358sq foot studio. I have to remind myself of these things you say in your video's so I don't get distracted and fall apart trying to be so perfect.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Rosemary, I completely agree! Also, with the side hustle things, I feel like they can be wonderful if that's what you want, but no one should feel pressured to monetize their hobbies or interests or to create side hustles if that's not what feels right for you. Hustling is not how I want to live my life haha :)
You have immense privilege of loving on a country that actually supports your health. In the US we don't have the choice of just laying in bed for months... Whole I'm glad you could rest, a lot of us simply cannot.
Thank you. I needed this video to remind me of how far I have come. I think the thing I forget the most is that my capacity for stress is so much lower now. I used to thrive on the corporate energy. Even after taking time out to focus on my mental health, and consciously taking a step back in my job once I did get back to work; I find that stress at work drains me very quickly indeed. For a long time I have been judging myself by the standards old me was able to set and I find myself slipping back into the old mindsets but without the stamina. I’ve also just lost a very close friend and her very sudden passing (as well as losing my brother not that long ago) has reminded me that age is a gift not afforded to all of us. Time to reset and recharge ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing Hilary, I think that's very profound! I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend and brother. My condolences 🌷
Yes, I've been in burnout for quite some time. I am now in a position to take time off and recuperate while I explore new options for meaningful work in the world. Thank you for shining a light on this common and under discussed condition.
Even thinking you need to spend your free time productively can make things worse. I've been spending most of mine resting and taking care of myself however I need in the moment. I needed this right now. Thank you. 😊
Love that!
Thank you so much for this video, Vera! ♥️
Currently I‘m in Burnout recovery. It all started last summer. I can totally relate what you‘ve said about the „two steps forward and one step back“. Sometimes I also think that something in me is broken and will never be okay again, well it is a fear. Your story is very encouraging for me. Thank you! 🤗
Have a nice day! Greetings from Germany!
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Lina. So sorry to hear you've been going through a tough time as well. Yes, I recognize that feeling. I hope you'll continue to have faith in yourself and your recovert. Even though it was two steps forward, one step back for me, I got there in the end :) Take care!
I’m caring for my elderly mother and this advice is so helpful for me. Thank you for sharing.
I'm glad to hear the video was helpful for you Mary. I know how tough caring for a family member can be. Take good care of yourself as well!
Well done you for talking about your burn-out so openly - that is so important these days. Many countries still attach a massive negative stigma to being burnt-out and it's important to remove that so people can actually feel safe enough to admit that they're on the edge and can't no more. Thank you for this!
One thing I wondered was in what way you feel more fragile now, and if you see the burn-out as a negative thing? To me personally it was like a 'wake up call' - amongst other things that happened (which led to it...), but it taught me a completely different way of seeing life, living life and taking care of myself. I don't feel 'broken' now but am mindful on when things get bad and try to stir against it then because I am aware of the consequences. In a way, I see the experience as a thing I really needed in order to make my life better - in the long run, hopefully. But maybe the awareness that you can get back into it is the feeling that makes you feel 'fragile' or broken, perhaps you're not but you're just aware of it more?
Well said, loved everything you shared! :) Yes, I definitely also see it as a wake up call. The only downside I still experience is the 'fear' (for a lack of a better word) to fall back into it, when I'm not feeling my best for a couple of weeks in a row.
This makes a lot of sense to me. I’ve been under a lot of chronic stress lately and just felt like I couldn’t do very much. I only did what I really needed to do. I felt like I was just being very lazy and wondered why I couldn’t be more productive.
I love your videos. I've been burned out for 4 years now and I've been going a little bit back and forth. I got some great cognitive behaviour therapy to change the way I think and feel because I suffer from depression and anxiety due to an eating disorder, as well as being a people pleaser and putting pressure on myself because of imaginary scenarios xD
I would love to see a follow-up video to this about *how* you check in with yourself and listen to yourself. It's easy to say, "listen to your body", but actually putting that into practice is more difficult (at least for me). I can tell when I'm tired or need to pee, of course, but a video that actually addresses *how* to listen to your body would be great.
@@leighsimpkins2523 You have a sick mind.
Hi there! First of all, there was a weird reply from someone to your comment, which I deleted per my comment policy. :) Second, thanks for your question! I've been thinking about it, and it's hard for me to explain just exactly how to do it. How to listen to your body. It's just something I do haha. The first step is being able to tell how you're feeling, which is I think the most difficult one. But you said you already do that, so that's great. It takes being mindful enough to step out of your thinking mind and into the present reality. Then second, acting on it. If you need something that can be done now, try not to postpone it and instead acting on it as soon as possible. If it's not something that can be done now, I try to think of how and when I could act on it today, tomorrow or as soon as possible. Like if I feel like things are going too fast and I need a break to recharge, maybe I'll try and make some time for it this weekend. Hope that makes sense :)
Learning that I don't have to be perfect is an on-going challenge, especially as I have gotten older and don't have the energy or the physical ability to do what I could do at 18.
No need to be perfect in life, in any way :) We're human, we're trying, and we're all awesome in our own way!
Thank you for speaking about your long recovery. My burn out happened 2 years ago and I also still feel way more fragile and like I often can‘t rely on myself. Though in the last months, I have been gaining strength again :)
That's wonderful Lea, that you feel like you've been gaining strength again. :) I think it's actually not uncommon at all, that burnout recovery takes around two years. It's just that it's not frequently talked about. But when doing research for this video, I came across the 'two years' period quite often. Wishing you all the best with your recovery!
The trusting myself again is the hardest part. It's like losing a part of your identity and having to redefine who you are. I am a year and a half into recovery from burnout and the anger isn't just at the people that caused it at my old work but at myself as well for letting it happen and to not have completely moved on and become successful again in the way I want.
Thank you, Vera, for this content, so practical & applicable for so many of us-me included! ❤
My husband is going through this right now, I sent the link so he can watch this too... He's one who usually thrives on chaos but everyone has a limit & he's reaching his.
I was feeling desperated a couple of months ago, I started thinking about quit my job almost a year ago, a couple of weeks ago I decided when I'm going to do it, it's still more than half year for that to happen, but somehow making that decision brought me peace. I think I'm suffering a bit of boreout and burnout. I'm not going to wait for the day I quit to feel better, I'm working hard to feel and be healthier. Thanks for your advice Vera.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, I'm very excited for you about your decision! Take good care, sending you a hug
Take the time to laugh at the little things and be kind to yourself, whatever you do. do it so that you know
it is the best it can be within reason and resources. It may seem a funny thing to day but if doubt and negative thoughts plague you when life is tough mentally tell them to bugger off and get on with the task at hand, sometimes you have to stamp on those thoughts and be tough on yourself to achieve the more tricky things in life. That enables you to achieve more than you realize and in doing so you grow as a person.
Thankyou Vera for having the courage and conviction to share and help through your own experiences x
Love what you said about being able to laugh about the little things and be kind to yourself. Also, just to be able to laugh at yourself (in a compassionate way) is wonderful, I think.
Great video Vera! I really resonate with your thoughts on busyness - I used to think I "shouldn't" have burnt out, as others seem to do more than I do (used to). And even after quitting work, I got caught up thinking I "had" to be working in my garden, or doing housework etc ... but it's only since I've been resting more and making my focus nothing more than a daily walk and making nutritious food for myself, that I've started to feel healthier. I still have limited energy, and zero inclination in returning to work (I'm not sure if I'm taking a career break or early retirement!) ... and I might never get back to 100% ...but that's ok, because now I am able to enjoy simple things again (like watching the birds in my garden) and that is enough :)
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences Louise. I can relate to feeling like you 'shouldn't' have burnt out, or that you should be able to do more. It's not always easy :) I think it's great that you're focusing on resting, nutritious good, etc. That's where it all starts from, I think. Take good care and enjoy those lovely walks and the birds!
The feeling of burn out is real. People need to understand that. Most of the times, just cheer up and move forward is the advice given. But it is not as easy as it sounds. So people, Please stop giving such senseless advices and try to listen to what the other person is actually going through.
I liked the entire video, but the most important point i needed is not to ignore the symptoms. I think i am in that phase now. I need to rest and reset asap. Thanks for talking about it and sharing your tips Vera.
I agree, I wish burnout was taken more seriously in all the places in the world. Take good care of yourself!
14:21-15:45 Spoke to me so deeply. Thank you Vera for your honesty and encouragement. Sending love from Portland Oregon 💚
Listening to the signs is soooooo important. I had two burnouts and I’m now in my mid 50s and I still have trouble listening to the signs.
Yes, you're right :) And it's definitely not always easy
This video really touched my heart. I’m a HSP who also has ME/CFS and I struggle to stay within my limits because of life’s demands ❤
Thank you so much for this video. I'm suffering from bore-out. It feels almost worse than burnout. Luckily, I'm changing industries at the moment and getting out of the corporate hamster wheel. This video gave me such comfort and validation. I've never heard the term 'bore-out'. I've been giving myself permission to just feel what I'm feeling and work at a pace that's comfortable for my mental health.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, wishing you all the best with your job change!!
I REALLY liked your point that a constant balance is not possible because we and our life is in constant change - I LOVE THAT! This is a really important point for me as I have been chasing and wishing for finding a "balance" for years. I guess the most important thing is to every day find the best balance for the current situation and to be okay with the fact that a good balance is not always possible, but that you can focus on doing the best you can with what you have and to trust in that it is all changing :) Thanks Vera!!💖 PS: Congrats on your channel soon being 5 years old - your are doing a great and important work! Maybe you could make a 5-years anniversary video where you talk about the journey and what you have learned? 😀🤗
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts about balance, happy to hear that was helpful for you! I can relate to what you said about how you viewed balance before. :) Also, I did make a video like that when my channel had its fourth birthday last year :) I'll link it here, in case you're interested: th-cam.com/video/s1g8TKxMKCQ/w-d-xo.html
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you! I will check it out😊
Thank you Vera i feel as though i need to rest and this video has come at the right time for me. I hit burn out too about 20 years ago and then an injury finished me off, but although i dont think i have recovered it did teach me alot, like learning about my limitations and no longer apologising for them, you cannot have it all, and less is more, i know gratitude has helped me its not a state of mind but some times a state of the heart. Learning about being a sensitive person and leaning more about being introvert has set my mind straight and i do love what you said
RESPECT YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES
AWESOME xxxxxxx
Love what you shared Jacqueline, especially about gratitude being a state of the heart. Sending happy vibes your way
They tried to put me on antidepressants to resolve my crushing fatigue after all tests came back negative. Nope. Instead I took years to learn and work on exercising, diet, more sunshine, better sleep, naps and letting go of control aka less work. Today I'm fine, and now realize health is a choice and more I can keep myself healthy and happy but I had a lot to learn . Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for being my inspiration to cope with my burn out moment. Mine also happen 5 years ago and it took several years to recover. I thought i couldn't be better, but watching video like yours has contributed a lot
I've been in graduate school full time for four years. I'm getting close to finishing my doctorate and I'm definitely teetering around burnout. I really appreciate this video. Thank you!
I had a burnout at 14 or 15 years old and i cannot express myself correcty in english to explain a little bit more but now i'm 22 and i'm doing my best to live my life after surviving a lot of thing ❤
Bore-Out....love it! The idea of going to a job just for a paycheck (or health insurance here in the States) is so numbing.
This video came out at the perfect timing for me! Thank you for always sharing your wisdom. I'm recovering from burnout and it has made me feel less alone and insecure by watching your videos these past few months. So thankful to have found you on TH-cam :)
🤗🌺 Sending you a big hug Yui. Hope you'll continue to feel better in your recovery
Your advise on balance and productivity is very similar for people who have chronic disease and are elderly. Great tips.
Thank you so much Chris! Have a happy Monday!
I had a big burnout from career right before the pandemic, and isolation really helped me recover. However, I moved across the country in 2021, and then moved across the country again a few months ago to be with family members who are in need of help. I feel myself hanging on by a thread, and know that I'm close to another burnout due to both the business and emotional weight of it all. I feel nervous because I'm trying to prevent it, even though it feels impossible to do so. Thank you for this video, Vera. It helps to ground me when everything feels so out of control at the moment.
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all that Nicole. It really does sound like you have a lot on your plate. Maybe there's someone in your immediate environment you can talk to? You don't have to deal with it all by yourself. Take good care, sending you a hug
@@SimpleHappyZen thanks so much. I do have a support system for which I'm incredibly grateful.
Hi, listening this video came to my mind the book 4 thousands weeks, I think you'll love it! Fully recommended 😘
Ah I've been hearing about that one everywhere! :) Thanks!
'365 days' is a good film,its on Netflix
Congratulations on your 5 years, Vera! Please keep taking care of yourself so we will continue to have your channel to help us through our life journeys.
Thank you so much Ruth! :) I will :)
Thank you so much for this video. I'll be starting a new fulltime job in a couple of weeks after being out for almost 2years now. I stress a lot about if it wont be to much and how to take breaks and so much more. This video really helps me to take a part of the stress off.
Also knowing it's totally normal that I feel more fragile now.
Thank you
It's totally normal! Wishing you all the best with your new job. I can imagine it must feel overwhelming at times, if you've been out for a while. What I would advise is to try and take it one day at a time, and not worry too much about it. Getting used to a new job and a new routine takes time, it's like that for everyone. :) So just take it one day at a time, and go from there :) Good luck!
I suffer from depression. I can go a while without an episode. This time, I had been physically ill. I went back to work. I knew I was less patient than normal. After googling, self care ideas, I came across an article about burnout. I had most of the symptoms. Depression is part of it, but there was so much more. I took more time off from work. Finally, I am feeling healthy, unstuck, and at peace! Thank you for sharing your ideas about what worked for you. After going through the lock down and the covid related stress, I just needed to rest. I think that mental health is being discussed more with less of a stigma, but there is still a long ways to go.
I agree, it's important to talk about it more :) So I hope that I can do my part, with videos like this. I'm sorry to hear you were going through a tough time, but happy to hear you're feeling better now! Take care!
I didn’t know that was what it was called nd suffered through. I did find wonderful help eventually and I am still on the road to balance. I can’t thank you enough for talking about this.
Hi Vera 🌸 I often listen to you, when I can't calm down. Your voice and your topics are spot on 🙏
I have been stressed for about 14 years.
For a year ago, I was diagnosed with "the silent" ADHD.
I have not been able to work, since spring 2018.
I hope that I recover some day.
This year I'm finding quiet time, for sure: I have left my husband - we are still good friends. My husband has our youngest daughter from sunday to friday. And I have our daughter in the weekends.
My oldest daughter, has just started her year, in 'efterskole' - a school where she sleeps with her classmates.
It's some though decicions I have made for now. But I have to recover, so I can be that person and mom, I need to be, for my self and my daughters
❤🙏
Thank you for this advice and channel. I am currently burnt out and it is effecting me physically and mentally. I have learned so much through your videos and I appreciate your advice and the advice given.
Indeed after burn out it is a very thin line to get not drawn back in again. Indeed like you said you are not the same after it happens. But like you it did give me a lot back in return. I "see" life in general more clear now, have (still) the same job but focus on a very nice project (outside work) in the next coming 3-4 years. It sounds long but it also needs time to prepare things so no problem. Thanks Vera for a new interesting video!
Thank you so much Simone! I think it's wonderful you're focusing on that nice project outside of your work :) Take care and enjoy!
This is my first time to come across the term bore out; I did not aware of this scenario before and had no idea to deal with it.
thx for the great sharing and tips!
You're very welcome Brian, take care!
Thank you Vera, I needed this today.
You're very welcome Victoria, take care!
Thank you. this is the video I needed!
this was really great. as something who developed chronic fatigue syndrone due to health complications, I really hope others who have good health never take their health for granted in the pursuit of productivity. we must absolutely listen to the signs.
Hi Vera
I am from SriLanka, and I am a true lover of your videos. I started watching your videos since 2020. Since then I am waiting for every week to hear from you. Thank you so much Vera because you could have healed my mind, and I am wishing you for a better future 💖💖💖💖💖🙏
Aw wow, thank you so much Yuresha 💕🌺🌷 I really appreciate that. Have a wonderful day and take care!
This was excellent, Vera! Something that crossed my mind is that for many of us, we need to redefine or even define for the first time what productivity is for ourselves. What does is look like? Have I bought into someone else's definition of productivity, or even society's general definition of productivity? It's so hard for us to figure out what it even means for us. You are doing such a great job guiding us through this difficult process. Thank you! 🥰
Great point Bonnie! Thanks, have a lovely day
Hi Vera,
I started my business in January 2017. This January 2022 turned 5 years as well. Im so happy you have started this channel. Im loving it 😍
Thank you so much, and congrats to you as well!! 🤗🎂
the more in life that sparks joy the better you feel. Thanks again Vera for another informative and helpful video for us. Take care 💗
Very true! Thanks so much :)
Thank you very much Vera for your videos. You help many people I'm sure 💞
This video is very important for each one, because you talk about our relationship to productivity, the burnout, boreout, that issues are important for many of us. You said something that "not everyone is build to work full time" and it has particularly resonated within me❤
I never know what to do with myself, what kind of job fit to me, because I'm not very productive, I don't like pace workplaced with pressure. And if I like some things outside, like videogames, reading books of philosophy, also passionate by history, listen to metal music, I never been creative with an innate talent like a musicians or a drawer. Plus, I'm very shy and I lack of self-confidence, even if I sincerely would like change in ma life, at 38 yo. Sometimes I feel worthless, in a very demanding world.
Sometimes, I envy people who have a passion from very young and who affirm "I always knew what to do in my life since very young and now I'm in the perfect place"...Those people are rare, and I'm very happy for them and always encourage each one to do what make them happy🙏
You know this video arrived timely. Many of your relevant advices sincerely inspired me, and I want to make them in practice. Vera, you're an angel, I wish you success for your channel and to continue living in harmony with yourself❤🙏💞
Thanks for the tips! I have a playlist of your videos. I always play that playlist whenever I'm decluttering or arranging stuff since your tips, voice, and calmness are very nice to hear when cleaning. Haha. More powers!
That's so nice :) Happy decluttering!!!
Thank you for sharing Vera. Perfect timing of your content.
I sure do appreciate you.
Aw thank you Audrey 🤗💕
Thank you so much for making this video! I feel like I hit a wall three years ago, but I've just kept going since then - moving, new studies, new people, new jobs etc. I feel like I'm heading straight towards a burnout. I already know I have all the signs and symptoms... I'm not sure what to do, cause my options feel very few. I can quit my studies, but then what? I can try to get a new job, but I know that will stress me out as well.... But this video I think will help me at least try to slow down and maybe not go full burnout
Thanks dear this was just what I needed
You're very welcome Susy, take care and have a happy Monday!
Thank you very much Vera for sharing your after burnout story. I am happy that i've found your channel. I am also in the recovery phase of my burnout syndrome. Your story give me insight how i should do to prevent burnout . I don't want to experience it again later in my life (nooo please...). What i feel is same as yours. I agree with you that we must strive a happy life 👍👍😄
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, hope you'll continue to feel better in your recovery phase! Take good care
♥️♥️♥️ Beautiful share! Glad you are doing fantastically well now!
Aw thanks Nena :)
I also got to a place feeling like I’ll never have the capacity to do what I used to, to work full time, to live a full life - like I just don’t have the stamina or energy to live a full life. But I’m FINALLY starting to think that maybe I can fully recover; maybe I can get back to working full time. I’m finally starting to feel like I’m coming out the other side of the burnout. (I still have days, and sometimes weeks, where I kinda fall back into it-2 steps forward 1 step back-but I’m getting there slowly)
Your videos are wonderful to me. They help me very much. Every time I watch them. I get so much encouragement, understanding and tips for self care. Thanks for being there Vera. Have a great weekend 😊
That is so sweet of you to say, thank you so much Julia! :) Have a great day and take care
Excellent advice. Thank you, Vera 🌼
Hi Vera, looking for the signs is the best advice for sure. If we know ourselves and take care of ourselves when we need it we can prevent a burnout. This life requires us to be overly productive and yes we need to be productive to feel good about ourselves but we need to find a balance. Loved your closing comments and wow, a really great video for all of us. Ty and appreciate all your uplifting good vibes! 🤩💗😉🌷
Aw thank you so much Joan!!! Have a happy Monday 🤗🌼🍃🌿
Hi Vera, this is a video I really needed, so many helpful tips! I have a corporate job which is sometimes very stresfull and the stress doesn't stay in the office but goes home with me. I'm working on being mindfull and that helps.
Congrats on your 5 year anniversary! I have been subscribed to your amazing chanel since your collaboration with Ria, but I don't remember how long ago that was
Thank you so much!!! :) I can relate to the stress of the office coming back home with us. Take care!
Great reminders. I have a tendency to think I need to do more and more.
No need to do more and more :) The most important thing, I think, is to enjoy our days here as much as possible and to take care of ourselves, so that we can continue to show up for ourselves and others. take care!
After gaining some perspective with the help of my therapist, I can definitely see that stress, burnout and depression have been plaguing me a bit this month, and it stops now. Thank you for making this video and sharing these much needed insights, Vera 💗
I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling too great Amy. I think it's great you're talking about it and taking action. Take good care of yourself, sending you a hug!
I am endlessly thankful for your wonderful work here!
Vera,thank you for the video, all the points you have made are true to post-Covid period, that I am going through, as you mentioned now I feel more fragile and learning to take care of myself and seeing symptoms is extremely important👍
You're very welcome Anel, glad you found some things that resonated with you as well. Take good care!
Thanks for another lovely episode. I really appriciate your channel, it helps me and remind me to take care of my self. I am trying to find a good balance between work and life but its so hard and I feel like I am on the brink of a burn out… but we just bought a house and I need to work now.
Hi there, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling overwhelmed. Is there someone you can talk to about how you're feeling? Also, congratulations on buying a house!
Yout channel is a blessing Vera !! God bless you 😘
Balance is in fact maintenance and just daily practice... Thank you for this video! I am struggling with handling ME/CFS and practicing pacing. What a challenge. Self love helps though.
Best wishes to you! I love your channel!
Your make up and hair look so lovely in this video. And of course, the video was great too!
Aw thank you Lesley :) Have a great day!
The words was not enough to explain how I am fed up with my work. I work 9-10 hours a day, but they say it isn’t enough. inshaAllah Allah (c.c.) gives me a new work🤲🏻🤲🏻
I really appreciate your video. Feels authentic, true and reflective. Thank you :-)
So happy for you, Vera! 😊 Very grateful for your videos and information about HSP, it's really of great help as I feel very alone in this. I find it hard to be taken seriously by my GP when I talk about the symptoms, so finding your channel hve helped me realize this hypersensitivity is something real, and we're in it together. As for burnout, I've been close, but I still find this helpful in preventing 🍀🤗 Thanks again, lots of love 💖💖
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Susanne. I think it's such a shame that burnout and sensitivity aren't always taken seriously... Even more reason to take care of ourselves as best as we can :) Sending lots of love back!
I loved the time-lapse!
Thanks!! :)
Thanks for your video Vera, it was very helpful! Take care 🪴🍵
Thanks so much Marine 🤗🌺
Hi Vera I felt a bit emotional for you as well as myself watching this one as I totally understand everything you mentioned regarding burnout ! Finding your channel has helped me so much I can’t believe it will be 5 years next month well done ❤️ I know when I am heading towards a burnout again as it tends to show up in physical aches and pains mostly back pain? I have learnt to slow down more and be more mindful when it happens taking regular short breaks does definitely help 🤗
Thank you so much for all of your support and encouragement Therese!! I really appreciate you being here all this time 🌺💕
@@SimpleHappyZen no problem I appreciate everything you do 🤗
Thank you for a well done and personal presentation. You are doing an amazing job providing such relevant information.
Aw thank you Michele 🤗💕
Heel herkenbare video! Dank je voor het delen van je ervaringen en tips. :)
Dankjewel Mariska!! :) Geef je konijntjes aan knuffel van me
@@SimpleHappyZen Dat zal ik zeker doen. 🐇 Ze geven ook een knuffel terug.
Heey Vera, Ik heb je kanaal net ontdekt en vindt het heel intressant! Al veel van geleerd.
Ah superleuk om te horen, welkom Francisca!
Thank you for a great video Vera. It was very necessary for me to hear these tips.
I'm glad to hear you found the video helpful Anna :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
I love this Vera!
I truly think I resonated with this video more than many others ♡
Happy to hear the video resonated with you Molly :) Take care and have a happy Monday!
Love this thank you would you do a hair routine/beauty routine as a minimalist
Thanks Jaci, and also for the video suggestion!
the most difficult thing to me is to know what I need in the moment . I made some progress but there is a long way to go yet
I think that ís actually the trickiest part about it :) It's already great that you've made progress! Just keep going one step at a time :)
@@SimpleHappyZen tks Vera ✨
So young and wise. Congrats ❤
Thank you for sharing Vera. I want so much to recover, and it helps to feel into life beyond it like in this video 🙏💖