This is what summer filming is like 😅 Weird changes in the lighting, traffic noises from the open window. Anyway, which of these 5 resonated with you the most?
Definitely appreciated the complexity bias section. You suggested asking someone if we do this but I didn't have to because I KNOW I do it! I've been slowly backing off on that and overcommitting thanks to a very calm and steady husband and good friends and family who encourage me to not feel guilty about boundaries and simplifying things.
I really needed to hear “doing instead of overthinking.” I’ll really spend a whole day “planning” the best way to do something like cleaning the house or like exercising like your example… but really it’s just procrastinating 😭
All good suggestions Vera. What resonates the most with me is not over-committing. I LOVE having an open schedule with AT MOST one thing on each day's calendar. I also suggest doing things when you feel the need to do them... within reason. If you are hungry... eat. If you are sleepy... nap. Of course being retired makes these things easy for me. 😄
Thanks for sharing David! :) Yes, flexibility in one's schedule helps with things like that, but it's a great suggestion and something we can definitely try to do as much as possible. :) Have a great day!
i am not retired. I took decisions early on such as not be in debt, keep my family small and i am able to do things how i feel within reason. It’s the best to not over complicate our life 🤗 ❤
#5 is the most important & challenging for me. I used to say yes to every request & then end up feeling overwhelmed, exhausted & dreading every event. I've finally learned that I require alot of quiet time alone to feel good & just don't have the energy or desire to do as many things as some people do & that's OK! I have responsibilities of course but I *deserve* to enjoy my l life! 🙏😊🌿
Hi Vera. I love Saturdays with you! #3 really resonates with me. I stuffed my feelings for most of my life…from employers, from husbands, from parents, from friends. With good therapy, I began feeling my feelings and not worrying about whether they are “good” or “bad”. With #4, I had to realize that I am grateful for my life even though my husband died 7 years ago, my mom died just 7 months ago, and my “second mom” died three weeks later. Although I miss them all every single day, I am grateful for them being in my life and the love we shared. They were all sick, and I am grateful that they are no longer in pain. Your videos bring such calm and peace to my soul, and I appreciate you more than I can say.
Hi Karen I can relate to what you said. I recently started therapy to work through some things. I’m sorry about all the losses you’ve had. I watched my father battle and eventually succumb to an illness. Through the grief I remind myself to be grateful for the time I had with him and that his suffering is over.
Thank you so much for sharing Karen. Like Ronda said, I'm so sorry for all the losses you've had. I think what you said about being grateful for having them in your life and for the fact that they are no longer in pain is beautiful. Also what you shared about not worrying whether feelings are good or bad. Sending you a big hug.
@@ronda176 I'm sorry for your losses as well, Ronda. We have to learn such painful lessons sometimes, but somehow, with help, we can grow through it. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
All 5 resonated. I work with folks around simplifying their money life and never fail they end up making it complicated (#1) once again. Like you said, simple doesn't seem "right" to them. And the last one about commitments, I used to overcommit and a few years ago released myself from this habit. Such freedom exists on the other side! Your videos are always so rich, beautiful, and peaceful. Thank you.
" Such freedom exists on the other side!" I love that :) Also YES, money is one of those things we can make overly complicated again.. I think it's great you help people with that :)
Hi Vera! Your home, you, your videos... is all so Zen. I enjoy listening your voice. Makes me feel peace. Thank you for these wonderful tips. Xo from Mexico City.
Vera, I like how you keep coming up with new content often! This gives us a proof that whatever you are talking about in the videos is working in real life. 😃
Doing instead of overthinking has to be the one that resonated with me the most! It's such a simple yet powerful point and one that I know I still have to practice a lot. I really enjoyed these 5 tips, they get to the heart of minimalism I think and can help people avoid the pitfall of minimalism, or simple living or even self-care, becoming yet another complex burden instead of something that makes life easier and more enjoyable. Well done for filming in the heat! It's been very hot here too for the past couple of weeks (and set to get to record breaking levels in the next few days 😥) so you have my admiration for filming! I hope that some deliciously fresh breezes and cooler temps arrive with you soon. 😊
Exactly, well said!!! :) Also, yes the weather is similar over here. Monday and Tuesday are going to be the worst... Take care, use sunscreen and stay hydrated! Hopefully we'll get some nice cooling rain soon
Thanks for your work! 😊 I really loved the end of the 2nd point "focus on doing the most important things first and then just see how much time and energy you have left", greeting from France!
Usually I don't like video that tell me what not to do. I find them very negative and I was kind of surprised when I read the tittle. Of course I was so wrong and this video is one of your top 10! Thank you Vera, you are a special person and I'm glad that I found you some years ago Regards from Greece
Aw thank you!! I actually took care not to phrase things in a negative way, even though it's focused on 'things not to do'. So I'm glad it didn't come across as negative. :) Thank you so much for your support, I'm also happy you found my channel!! :) Have a nice weekend
Doing the most important thing first resonated with me the most, I actually used that mindset today at work and I managed to do the same things as last Friday but feeling much less stressed. Less stressed also added to a calmer start of the weekend. ☺️
Aside, you are the only Netherlands person I think of when we read/ hear News about the Dutch farmers & see their tractors. I hope that good, clean foods 🥦🥑🥒🥕 keep growing 🌱.
So glad I stumbled across your channel. It is hard seeing minimalist in a title, so many are unrealistic and too insane. You make it relatable. I love your use of simplicity, not shoving minimalist down someone's throat. It's hey this is what I do, here's a few suggestions that you can. Adapt to your needs with you. No judgements in your suggestions ect, just another human offering experience and encouragement. Thank you
Thank you for ur teaching. I learned a while ago the 80% rule. Sometimes I forget it but when I remember it, helps. Not to struggle to achieve 100% but 80% it’s good enough. This gives me courage to start and gives me satisfaction for a work even if it was 80% perfect. 😌hugs.
When I couldn’t think straight.. I simply ordered Lite n Easy for dinner every night (great ready cooked meals) and had half a glass of wine and a piece of dark chocolate every night for 4 years. This is simplicity!
I know exactly the same feeling of relief when something gets removed from my schedule; and these are often necessities, like appointments. I also appreciate the focus on simplicity and not having to make everything so complicated! It’s easy to put your way of living in a highly detailed box and make it more challenging than it needs to be. We all need room to just breathe and feel open to possibility. I wish you well in finding the housing you’re looking for and peace where you are in the now. Thanks, as always, for sharing such relevant and thought provoking content, Vera! ☺️🙌
This really resonated with me! I always overcomplicate everything and then it's too hard to keep up with! Everything from diet, to exercise, to routines! No wonder I always "fail!" Definitely time to simplify! It sounds refreshing.
Thank you Vera! I enjoy your videos so much, you are one of very few people on youtube you give real and truthful advice that WORKS. Very happy that I found your channel. Helps me to recover from my terrible burn out, and to stay sane through recovery. Cheers!
77 year old here, one year later. This was SO helpful. I have several overseas visitors arriving in the next two weeks. The to do list is huge and I was frozen thinking about it. Your video got me going and the ensuite is now deep down clean with the new loo seat in place! Result! You are a very wise young woman. Thank you so much.
These tips are wonderful. Wishing too much and not being more grateful is the trap I fall into. It is a joy killer. I am practicing more gratefulness in my life. You never know what is around the corner. Just need to enjoy life and be happy and smile. Thanks Vera!!! 😊
Hi Vera! The one that resonated with me most was number 3, What my life looks like from the outside. I think that from the outside, I may look a lot happier and doing a lot better than I really am and so people don't tend to take my depression as seriously since it doesn't look that bad. I'm not saying I'm doing terrible, but maybe not as happy and bright as other people may think. One thing that crossed my mind is that I am a smoker, and I think the main reason that I want to quit is because of what other people think, not because of my own happiness and health. So I'm wondering how to just, care about myself enough that I want to quit for me and my reasons. Great video btw, always nice to see you. 😊
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I'm glad that part resonated with you. Definitely some food for thought here, I imagine. :) Hope your depression gets better soon. 🌼 Also, people might have told you similar stories many times already, but my mom got very sick from smoking. She spent ten years being very sick, and she was close to passing away when, after 4 years on the wait list, she got a double lung transplant that saved her life. Hope this story doesn't scare you, that's not my intention. :) She's doing very well now btw. But perhaps it could contribute to your reflections about valueing your health for your own reasons. Take good care and have a wonderful day!
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you for the reply! Oh goodness I'm sorry that she got sick from it, that's awful. I'm glad she is doing better! Yeah, I think that learning to care about and love myself is going to be the first step in quitting. It is a very powerful drug, but many many people do quit as I am told. I'm currently trying to use harm reduction as a method to quit, taking it one baby step at a time. TYSM for your kind words and advice, every time a TH-camr like yourself replies to me I feel a little more seen and heard hehe. ^^
Lots of wisdom in this video, as always with your channel. What resonated the most for me was "try finding simple solutions that work with your natural inclinations". I remember in another video you talked about not having a fixed exercise routine and instead just doing things when you feel like doing them. I like this. I used to have a very complex exercise schedule for each morning of the week, and although it did work very well while it lasted (I had never been fitter!), when I developed (unrelated) health issues I just couldn't keep up and I haven't been able to go back to it after a long interruption due to surgery. I should just try doing simple things based on activities I already like doing and be spontaneous about, like go for spontaneous walks, start dancing more often when I hear a song I like on the radio... Let's see how it goes. Thank you!
Very smart..unfortunately our media , marketing and government realize that simple solutions won’t sell or seem innovative enough. It’s like they train us to look for answers outside of ourselves. Your video was a nice relief!`
That's a very good point :) Writing a book with just one page of some simple truths about a certain topic won't make it sell hahaha. So we need something that looks and sounds complicated and therefore marketable. It's the same with making videos on youtube. So I'm really happy this point did seem to resonate with so many of you a lot :)
I decorate our dream home in my mind as well. It helps me drift off to sleep at night to just imagine a place we could have one day. I should mention decorating brings me joy so it's not about being materialistic but to have a "blank canvas" to be creative. ❤️
I identified with no. 4 the most: holding on to what you wish was different. Like you, I'd like to be elsewhere. I've already started to enjoy what I have here. I can relate to most, if not all, of the 5 things you mentioned. Many thanks.
I really needed to hear the last one again about overcommitting yourself... Thank you! I know that feeling of relief when something is gone from my to-do list. Just today I got into such a situation, where, in the end, I could only realise, that it works perfectly fine without my involvement, too... It's good to realise this, and your video now was the perfect reminder... Thank you Vera!!!
I love your videos because they always possess great reminders for the way I want to live my life. Even more so, I love to watch because they have helped me grieve for my grandparents whom I lost last summer. They were from Amsterdam and spoke English in the same cadence. Hearing you speak and seeing snippets into the life of the someone in the same country in which they grew up just makes me heart happy. Thank you.
Wow the complexity bias section where you talk about simplifying your thinking and plans around doing things. This was one of the most helpful and practical things ive seen in your videos because this could really be applied to every area of life. I am an overthinker and perfectionist. I havent been able to budget because it feels to complex. Im not sure where to start there but my i have a huge list of things to do right now and focusing on the most important thing is really helpful. Recently i have been able to train my mind to focus mentally and physically on one task at a time. It has brought order to the chaos in my mind and i picked it up after many years around the hubby being like that lol. If i could just remember to keep things simple in terms of plans would be so helpful.( my husband says K.I.S.S- keep it simple , stupid lol) I think you are naturally a practical minded person so you might undervalue what you have to say in certain areas, but us overthinkers could really use that practical wisdom! I would love to hear about your thinking around areas of life. Because i need help rewiring my brain to think in more simple practical ways. Your thinking on cleaning, do you just do most important? What do you do for a budget? I would love a video about more simple solutions to life tasks etc.I also like the idea to feel your way through life i feel very out of touch with the concept so yes i need that too. Thank you Vera 😊
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Amy!! Happy that part about the complexity bias was helpful for you. Such an eye-opener, right :) Also, yes the K.I.S.S. acronym, I've heard of that one before! :) Wishing you the best and sending you a hug 🤗💖
Hi Vera what most resonated with me is wishing things where different. My husband and I love our house and we have done a lot of renovations but it would be nice to have no neighbors. We are grateful that we have each other and a home. Thanks for the 5 tips. ❤
Thanks so much for this video and the time you put into it. I am a high stressed person with a lot on my plate. I also have a mental disability. I have realized I need to simplify my life to be peaceful and happy. Your videos are a big help. Thanks again 💖
Thank you so much Elise, happy to hear my videos have been helpful for you in living more simply! Take good care of yourself, sending you some happy vibes
I resonate with #4 because I wish a lot of things were different in my life right now so living in the present and being grateful for what I do have I sometimes forget. Taking small steps to achieve those things I want to change is what I feel I should concentrate on and I really need to start writing down the things I’m grateful for each day, this is something I was going to do but never did! Ty for a timely video for me Vera! 👌🌼
Yes it’s good to get off the pity potty. I don’t like where I’m living but for now it’s good enough and we all must be grateful for the good things we have such as family faith and friends
Thank you so much Vera. I have trouble in just about all these areas. I really enjoy your channel. I have health issues. And having OCD, anxiety and depression problems doesn’t help. But I can watch your channel and it comforts me a great deal. And I get alot of good ideas and advice from you. So, thank you again. God bless you. Please keep up the great job. 💕🙏🏻
I actually felt that sense of relief that comes when over scheduled and plans shift so that time is gained (I use these times to reset and take a moment to check in with myself, take care of my needs) this used to feel selfish,but I’m turning a new leaf - it’s a new thing for me to honor my limits and care for myself first- I’m 51- it’s about time!🙏🏻
Hi Vera all those meals you showed in the video is exactly how I eat, everything looked so delicious I am an over thinker, I am trying to work on this ❤️
Thanks Chrstine! :) I love cooking with lots of veggies because it always makes it look so pretty and delicious haha. Also, I thought of you last Tuesday, hope you're doing well after your surgery! Sending healing vibes your way
Hi Vera! Love your video, as always. I agree with others -- it's impressive that you are always able to come up with new (still helpful!) content. Number 2 was bang on. I feel like I am so focused on living intentionally, and being present/mindful, that I've tipped too far in that direction. Because before I begin even a simple task, like watching a TH-cam video, doing the dishes, or going for a walk, I find myself pausing and spending so much time asking myself questions like "is this *really* what I want to be doing right now", or, "does this feel like the right choice", or "does this *have* to be done right now". It's becoming counter-productive so I'm going to have to correct the balance. Not being on auto-pilot is important...but not to this extreme LOL. So thank you for the reminder 😀 ❤
Excellent video. The "wishing" part of this video spoke to me. I had spent a lot of time wishing for a different situation in my life. I finally was forced to drop the constant, background noise of wishing when the situation I wanted became an impossibility. It was then that one day, and more and more each day, I found a peaceful, content acceptance, which then turned into the gratitude you mentioned too. It was like my wishing was fighting the universe. Once I accepted the situation, I felt free, not bound... in fact, things in my life fell into place so much better and in a different way than I could have ever known or planned. Soooo much simpler too! Btw, I liked this video because it had fewer tips, but a more thorough, in-depth analysis of each... really delved into each point :-) Naomi😊
Thank you so much for sharing Naomi, love what you said about acceptance and gratitude!!! :) Also nice to hear you enjoyed the format of this video. I did try to include fewer tips, so that I could go more in-depth with each of them :)
Hi Vera, I am big fan of your videos. In this one I couldn’t agree more with the content! I don’t know why people like to complicate their life and try to do 10 things instead of one and get the results?! I WAS one of the these people for soooo long that I harmed myself and my family more than I was trying to perfected😏. Thankfully, ones I understood what “simple “ actually means, my life changed for better 👍☀️ Your videos help a lot as well, I can’t thank you enough for that. I never comment but after watching this one I had to, you are awesome! Thank you for your help😊🙏🏻🙏🏻
I like to more or less wing it for the most of my time, I like to spread appointments and go with the flow, very simple perhaps but every day is different as is a very week. So I don't have a complicated schedule, I only mealplan so I go shopping ones a week, so I know what I am going to make and need according to my agenda / appointments/ weather😉. No stress during the week or run to the shop for this or that item. If I have a couple of appointments I make quick salades or soup, if I have more time I might choose to make something more complicated as cooking is fun time for me. Have a good weekend!
@@SimpleHappyZen I will, you too!!! , I have lots of watermelon, water with lemon and mint, "yogurt with seeds" and light meals, if you have any suggestions please let me know, I will be starting my mealplanning tonight. I will make a stirfry tomorrow and leftover on monday (Chinese cabbage, carrots, celery onion, noodles) a cooled cucumber parsley soup for lunch on Monday and Tuesday. I have iceberg lettuce and tomatoes that were supposed to become chili but will turn in a salade with a jar of olives and beans out of a can out of my pantry instead of fresh cooked. My kitchen "staff" goes on strike when it's hot down es yours too?😉) I have to go shopping on Monday morning, the less I need to buy the better with the upcoming heat🤔 am I lazy or winging it😂
Sounds yummy!!! We've stocked up on some lazy vegan meals in the freezer haha for the truly hot days. (lazy vegan is the brand btw, you can find them in AH and Jumbo in the freezer, my favorite is the 'chicken' massala) Cooking heats up the apartment too much so like you 'staff', I go on strike haha. But the lazy vegan ones are really tasty and quick to make, so that should work. Also Madeleine Olivia recently uploaded a video with some salad ideas for the warmer days, I really like the one with mango and black beans, and I'll add some tempe to that one.
I also love having a simple meal plan. I have been simplyfing it more and more. Right now it is Monday-meatless or Italian, Tues-mexican or chinese, wednesday- leftovers or easy dinner, Thursday- classic or comfort food, friday grill or fry night, sat- pizza or takeout, sunday- crockpot/instant pot(usually soup, stew or roast). I have seen people do every other night cooking and the next day is leftovers. I like the idea of that. Sometimes if i have leftovers i will freeze or move the dinner to another day.
Hi Vera . I really enjoy your videos. I’ve known for a while that I overthink just about everything but I didn’t realise that I also have complexity bias! These are the two that resonated with me the most.
Thank you soooo much for this video!! I have issues with overcomplication and sometimes overcommitting to things. It's challenging sometimes to just say no, but by the grace of God I am learning. Thanks again Vera for the tips and reminders!
Not over committing is something I know is important but I still keep doing from time to time. I have two days a week set aside that I don’t commit to anything so that I always know I will have those two days for downtime. Recently I have needed to use one of those days to reschedule something but most of the time, they stay free of commitments.
Great video Vera!! Point #2 resonated with me, not that I overthink things but that I like researching new things to the point I don't actually do the thing lol. For example a watercolour painting technique I've not seen before or a new crochet project or a new garden plant I would like to plant. Especially with trying to write I will hesitate and do more research instead of just doing the thing! I'm not afraid of doing these things I think it's just more that I do really enjoy constantly learning but I realize I have balance that out with doing. It's my goal for this year!
I feel like I'm getting red of negative feelings and negative energy when I'm watching your videos 👀 really love your ideas to simplify my life it's such a relief this part of (I wish I could, I wish I had) exhausting thoughts 😢 make me feel tired .. you are absolutely right about focus on what we already have 🙏 more fans from Egypt 🇪🇬 😊 Thank you 😊 Vera 👍 big like
Feeling gratitude is important to me and I'm always grateful when you post a new video, Thank you Vera 🌞 I especially enjoy when you add scenes of birds and beautiful skies. I'd like to move also and know I will get there eventually, but for now I also feel gratitude for the place that I have 💕
Wow. This was just what I neededhow do you continue to come up with such original and super helpful content? - your presentation is superb , including the length of your videos. Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️ Lisa
For me, definitely number four resonated the most. My younger brother and l are currently taking care of my dying mother at home and sometimes l get overwhelmed by the circumstances surrounding the whole process of being a care provider and having to watch her slowly waste away on what is essentially her deathbed. As selfish and heartless as this may sound, l can’t help wondering what our lives would be like if she wasn’t here anymore and that just makes me feel even worse. After watching your video, l realized that l should be thankful for the opportunity l’ve been given to be there for her and that l should appreciate every moment we get to spend with my mother as it may very well be the last. Although it can be hard sometimes to see things in a positive way -enough to show gratitude- l now know that wishing my life was any different is not doing any good to anyone and it robs me from any lesson or memorable experiences l may gain from it. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, and I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. You and your younger brother are amazing for doing this for her. I think it's very normal to get overwhelmed by something like this at times, and wonder about the things you mentioned. Nothing to feel badly about. I'm happy you got a new perspective from this video, and I hope that it'll make this difficult time for you and your family a little easier. Sending you strength and a big hug, remember to also take good care of yourself!
Hi Vera, number 2 for me: to start doing smth I want to do before I know everything about it! Thank You! That's exactly what I needed to hear! Rest are very helpful as well!
Aw that is so sweet, thank you :) She had her life-saving operation a year and a half ago, and it's been so wonderful. She (and my dad as well, of course) got her life back. We're all very grateful.
Thanks for your great insights Vera! I find myself overthinking about quitting my job but what I will try to do is changing the way I think about my current job to enjoy it more. Take care 🪴
Hi Marine, happy to hear you enjoyed the video :) When it comes to quitting a job, or changing careers, there are many (many) different factors to consider. Sometimes it makes more sense to make a change, and sometimes it makes more sense to stick around and try to change the way we approach things. I don't think anyone can tell you what your best option is, other than you yourself. :) Wishing you all the best with it!! Take care and have a wonderful day
I love your content. Many times you have reduced a complicated subject into simple solutions and simpler point of view. I do think we tend to over complicate life and in the process, don’t enjoy it as much. Thank you for your post.
You are right Vera i want to move to, so i can have a garden however, where i live is very noisy but just around the corner is a duck ppond and today i was sitting there calming myself down and noticed the wild life, the heron, squirrels and ducks and dragon flies and occasional kingfisher, this little oasis had been a God send for me over the last few years, and so many other things, i have my plants and this flat was a safe place for me leaving an abusive relationship and i know that once i leave it i will be very upset its been such a blessing, thank you for sharing i over think and i have missed so much because i will never get that time back again, if i could give once piece of advice, it would be, no one really is that bothered so don,t let fear of others opinions bother you.
Vera, these are so simple yet can be so hard. I really need to try harder at appreciating what I have instead of being stuck in what I think would be better.
Great concepts today. Am taking the complexity bias idea and reframing some things in my life. The other 4 were also good, but for some reason that complexity bias concept really turned on a light bulb. Thank you.
I was hoping for a SHZ video today. Lifted me up 🥰🌿 ✨ All great tips. The one that resonated with me the most was to take breaks as seriously as tasks and plan them as such. This, combined with the complexity bias was the tip of the day for me :) Off to have my tea!
Spot on, as usual, Vera! 🤓👌 You're looking so lovely as well, could easily be on a magazine cover to illustrate natural glow and beauty 😇 Hope that you're feeling less overwhelmed since the previous videos. And also, that somehow you'll be able to cool yourself a bit, there's a crazy heatwave swiping over Europe (I'm sweating like a horse too 🤭 - but at least it's lovely and sunny for a change!!) There's one thing I've been meaning to mention, perhaps for you to consider when talking about decluttering/minimising/living space. Namely, about the fact that, at least some of us, don't even rent (never mind own) a property of any sort, but rent a room only, in a shared house, living with random people etc. In itself, it can already be quite challenging, and when you talk about different rooms and how to take good care of them.. Well, it's not always easy to listen and not feel somewhat envious - my room is my bedroom, living room, office all in one. Maybe this also gives you a little opportunity to be even more grateful for the tiny (but beautiful) flat, and in some way, privilege to be able to have your own space (not that you don't appreciate it). 🌷 Best of luck with the property search and surely the universe will make things happen for you in the best possible way in due time 🙏
Aw thanks so much!!! :) And yes, you're absolutely right. I don't ever want to forget how lucky I am to be able to live here and have my own space. It's been such a blessing in countless different ways. So important to practice gratitude, since I have so much to be grateful for. And I wish everyone could have a nice and safe place to live. When I look at some of my younger family members who are just starting with working and things, I feel for them because it's gotta be really hard to leave your parent's house during this time. Anyway, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and have a wonderful day!! Take care with the heatwave, remember to drink lots of water :)
i resonated with all of these points so much! i definitely feel the pressure to have a certain kind of lifestyle these days as a young professional, but ultimately i know that some things (like eating out multiple times a week, impulsive shopping, being around ppl 24/7) don't add much value to my life or don't fit with my long term goals. i may have very different goals, interests, and even responsibilities to several of my friends, and that is ok :) i think younger me would be so proud of how independent i am, and how my confidence has grown
@@joley8695 so much pressure! I mean, I enjoy the results of my cooking (usually 😂) and if I have the means and the time to cook, why not? I appreciate going out to try new dishes sometimes though
Hi Vera... I haven't watched youtube for a while and I'm so happy I watched this. I always learn so much from you. You are truly original in your content. So interesting and creative. Really a joy to watch your channel. Thanks
Really enjoyed this video. I can relate to most everything you talked about especially over complicating and over thinking everything. I’ve also been doing a lot of wishing my life was different. It’s difficult to find a balance between being grateful for what we have while still wanting more. Good luck with finding a new place to live. I’m sure you’ll find the right opportunity eventually. 🙂
Lovely video Vera as the most of yours❤ you are much younger than me but very wise to settle things as they should be. In my 57s I still cannot say NO to my beloved people, friends and family, and most of the times I feel exhausted, strained with my nerves in the sky. How can I say NO when they ask for time, coffees, walks when I feel really tired but dont want to disapoint them?
Hi Vera. All the things you mentioned were so useful, but the one that resonated the most was #2 do instead of overthink. I tend to try and make sure all is 'perfect' before I even start something, so it's really good for me to focus on the process and jump in the flow of things, instead of preparing myself for them. As always, such calm and inspiring video, keep it up as you do ❤ much love from Finland.
Thank you for this wonderful tips to simplifying life to enjoy it more. I have being simplifying my life , choices and commitments since the pendamic hits and I found it so rewording .❤
This is what summer filming is like 😅 Weird changes in the lighting, traffic noises from the open window. Anyway, which of these 5 resonated with you the most?
I can totally relate! It's especially hellish to film a video when you can't turn on a fan or the aircon hahahah
Let us encourage recycling for a healthier environment and sustainability...
I didn’t actually notice the lighting changes or traffic noises- so don’t worry Vera they weren’t distracting :)
Definitely appreciated the complexity bias section. You suggested asking someone if we do this but I didn't have to because I KNOW I do it! I've been slowly backing off on that and overcommitting thanks to a very calm and steady husband and good friends and family who encourage me to not feel guilty about boundaries and simplifying things.
Add to it pondering or getting inspired through peaceful constructive loving thoughts ...
I really needed to hear “doing instead of overthinking.” I’ll really spend a whole day “planning” the best way to do something like cleaning the house or like exercising like your example… but really it’s just procrastinating 😭
Haha yes, funnily enough planning and 'productivity stuff' can be a form of procrastination in itself :)
All good suggestions Vera. What resonates the most with me is not over-committing. I LOVE having an open schedule with AT MOST one thing on each day's calendar. I also suggest doing things when you feel the need to do them... within reason. If you are hungry... eat. If you are sleepy... nap. Of course being retired makes these things easy for me. 😄
Thanks for sharing David! :) Yes, flexibility in one's schedule helps with things like that, but it's a great suggestion and something we can definitely try to do as much as possible. :) Have a great day!
Yes, retirement makes things easier, I agree.
i am not retired. I took decisions early on such as not be in debt, keep my family small and i am able to do things how i feel within reason. It’s the best to not over complicate our life 🤗 ❤
One of the pleasures of growing older !
I love living in reality - minimizing thoughts - organizing thoughts - staying present. So important.
I agree! :) Thanks Sarah, have a great day
#5 is the most important & challenging for me. I used to say yes to every request & then end up feeling overwhelmed, exhausted & dreading every event. I've finally learned that I require alot of quiet time alone to feel good & just don't have the energy or desire to do as many things as some people do & that's OK! I have responsibilities of course but I *deserve* to enjoy my l life! 🙏😊🌿
Hi Vera. I love Saturdays with you! #3 really resonates with me. I stuffed my feelings for most of my life…from employers, from husbands, from parents, from friends. With good therapy, I began feeling my feelings and not worrying about whether they are “good” or “bad”. With #4, I had to realize that I am grateful for my life even though my husband died 7 years ago, my mom died just 7 months ago, and my “second mom” died three weeks later. Although I miss them all every single day, I am grateful for them being in my life and the love we shared. They were all sick, and I am grateful that they are no longer in pain. Your videos bring such calm and peace to my soul, and I appreciate you more than I can say.
Hi Karen I can relate to what you said. I recently started therapy to work through some things. I’m sorry about all the losses you’ve had. I watched my father battle and eventually succumb to an illness. Through the grief I remind myself to be grateful for the time I had with him and that his suffering is over.
Thank you so much for sharing Karen. Like Ronda said, I'm so sorry for all the losses you've had. I think what you said about being grateful for having them in your life and for the fact that they are no longer in pain is beautiful. Also what you shared about not worrying whether feelings are good or bad. Sending you a big hug.
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@@ronda176 I'm sorry for your losses as well, Ronda. We have to learn such painful lessons sometimes, but somehow, with help, we can grow through it. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you, Vera. I feel that you have helped me so much. ❤
All 5 resonated. I work with folks around simplifying their money life and never fail they end up making it complicated (#1) once again. Like you said, simple doesn't seem "right" to them. And the last one about commitments, I used to overcommit and a few years ago released myself from this habit. Such freedom exists on the other side!
Your videos are always so rich, beautiful, and peaceful. Thank you.
" Such freedom exists on the other side!" I love that :) Also YES, money is one of those things we can make overly complicated again.. I think it's great you help people with that :)
Hi Vera! Your home, you, your videos... is all so Zen. I enjoy listening your voice. Makes me feel peace. Thank you for these wonderful tips. Xo from Mexico City.
Aw thank you so much Lily 🤗💖😭 Have a wonderful day!!
@@SimpleHappyZen You too :)
Vera, I like how you keep coming up with new content often! This gives us a proof that whatever you are talking about in the videos is working in real life. 😃
Aw thank you so much for that 🤗💖 Have a wonderful day!
I had never heard of complexity bias before... what an eye opener! Thanks for a great video as always Vera!
I know, right? 😄
Doing instead of overthinking has to be the one that resonated with me the most! It's such a simple yet powerful point and one that I know I still have to practice a lot. I really enjoyed these 5 tips, they get to the heart of minimalism I think and can help people avoid the pitfall of minimalism, or simple living or even self-care, becoming yet another complex burden instead of something that makes life easier and more enjoyable.
Well done for filming in the heat! It's been very hot here too for the past couple of weeks (and set to get to record breaking levels in the next few days 😥) so you have my admiration for filming! I hope that some deliciously fresh breezes and cooler temps arrive with you soon. 😊
Exactly, well said!!! :) Also, yes the weather is similar over here. Monday and Tuesday are going to be the worst... Take care, use sunscreen and stay hydrated! Hopefully we'll get some nice cooling rain soon
Thanks for your work! 😊 I really loved the end of the 2nd point "focus on doing the most important things first and then just see how much time and energy you have left", greeting from France!
Thank you so much!!! :) Greetings back from NL 🤗🌺🍵
I loved that same quote too. Instead of planning too far ahead you could plan as you go. That would be hard for me but it might be more practical lol
What a gift you are in my life!
Aw thank you so much for the super thanks!! 🤗🌷 I really appreciate it. Have a nice day today!
Usually I don't like video that tell me what not to do. I find them very negative and I was kind of surprised when I read the tittle.
Of course I was so wrong and this video is one of your top 10!
Thank you Vera, you are a special person and I'm glad that I found you some years ago
Regards from Greece
Aw thank you!! I actually took care not to phrase things in a negative way, even though it's focused on 'things not to do'. So I'm glad it didn't come across as negative. :) Thank you so much for your support, I'm also happy you found my channel!! :) Have a nice weekend
@@SimpleHappyZen you never are negative. Love the Vera sing too. I wanted to tell you several videos ago
Doing the most important thing first resonated with me the most, I actually used that mindset today at work and I managed to do the same things as last Friday but feeling much less stressed. Less stressed also added to a calmer start of the weekend. ☺️
I'm sooo happy to hear that Maria!!!! :)
Aside, you are the only Netherlands person I think of when we read/ hear News about the Dutch farmers & see their tractors.
I hope that good, clean foods 🥦🥑🥒🥕 keep growing 🌱.
Keeping it simple, like doing the most important thing first. I actually schedule a time to work on my to-do list lol!! Thank you for all the advice.
So glad I stumbled across your channel. It is hard seeing minimalist in a title, so many are unrealistic and too insane. You make it relatable. I love your use of simplicity, not shoving minimalist down someone's throat. It's hey this is what I do, here's a few suggestions that you can. Adapt to your needs with you. No judgements in your suggestions ect, just another human offering experience and encouragement. Thank you
Thank you so much Stephanie, that's so nice to hear :) It's exactly how I like to approach my videos. Have a wonderful year in 2023! 🤗
Thank you for ur teaching. I learned a while ago the 80% rule. Sometimes I forget it but when I remember it, helps. Not to struggle to achieve 100% but 80% it’s good enough. This gives me courage to start and gives me satisfaction for a work even if it was 80% perfect. 😌hugs.
Wonderful! :) glad it helps you too
Number 5 resonated the most. This is something I need to learn and focus on more in my life. ❤
When I couldn’t think straight.. I simply ordered Lite n Easy for dinner every night (great ready cooked meals) and had half a glass of wine and a piece of dark chocolate every night for 4 years. This is simplicity!
I know exactly the same feeling of relief when something gets removed from my schedule; and these are often necessities, like appointments.
I also appreciate the focus on simplicity and not having to make everything so complicated! It’s easy to put your way of living in a highly detailed box and make it more challenging than it needs to be.
We all need room to just breathe and feel open to possibility.
I wish you well in finding the housing you’re looking for and peace where you are in the now.
Thanks, as always, for sharing such relevant and thought provoking content, Vera! ☺️🙌
Loved your comment, thanks Dawn!! "We all need room to just breathe and feel open to possibility. " So true!
This really resonated with me! I always overcomplicate everything and then it's too hard to keep up with! Everything from diet, to exercise, to routines! No wonder I always "fail!"
Definitely time to simplify! It sounds refreshing.
Happy to hear this resonated with you!! :) I hope it can help you to get things done simply and quickly :)
Thank you Vera! I enjoy your videos so much, you are one of very few people on youtube you give real and truthful advice that WORKS. Very happy that I found your channel. Helps me to recover from my terrible burn out, and to stay sane through recovery. Cheers!
Aw thank you so much!!! :) Hope you'll continue to feel better and better.
77 year old here, one year later. This was SO helpful. I have several overseas visitors arriving in the next two weeks. The to do list is huge and I was frozen thinking about it. Your video got me going and the ensuite is now deep down clean with the new loo seat in place! Result! You are a very wise young woman. Thank you so much.
These tips are wonderful. Wishing too much and not being more grateful is the trap I fall into. It is a joy killer. I am practicing more gratefulness in my life. You never know what is around the corner. Just need to enjoy life and be happy and smile. Thanks Vera!!! 😊
Love that, well said Madelyn!! :)
Hi Vera! The one that resonated with me most was number 3, What my life looks like from the outside. I think that from the outside, I may look a lot happier and doing a lot better than I really am and so people don't tend to take my depression as seriously since it doesn't look that bad. I'm not saying I'm doing terrible, but maybe not as happy and bright as other people may think. One thing that crossed my mind is that I am a smoker, and I think the main reason that I want to quit is because of what other people think, not because of my own happiness and health. So I'm wondering how to just, care about myself enough that I want to quit for me and my reasons. Great video btw, always nice to see you. 😊
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I'm glad that part resonated with you. Definitely some food for thought here, I imagine. :) Hope your depression gets better soon. 🌼 Also, people might have told you similar stories many times already, but my mom got very sick from smoking. She spent ten years being very sick, and she was close to passing away when, after 4 years on the wait list, she got a double lung transplant that saved her life. Hope this story doesn't scare you, that's not my intention. :) She's doing very well now btw. But perhaps it could contribute to your reflections about valueing your health for your own reasons. Take good care and have a wonderful day!
Go for a walk outside in open spaces whenever you have a free time...Very refreshing ...
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you for the reply! Oh goodness I'm sorry that she got sick from it, that's awful. I'm glad she is doing better! Yeah, I think that learning to care about and love myself is going to be the first step in quitting. It is a very powerful drug, but many many people do quit as I am told. I'm currently trying to use harm reduction as a method to quit, taking it one baby step at a time. TYSM for your kind words and advice, every time a TH-camr like yourself replies to me I feel a little more seen and heard hehe. ^^
Lots of wisdom in this video, as always with your channel. What resonated the most for me was "try finding simple solutions that work with your natural inclinations". I remember in another video you talked about not having a fixed exercise routine and instead just doing things when you feel like doing them. I like this. I used to have a very complex exercise schedule for each morning of the week, and although it did work very well while it lasted (I had never been fitter!), when I developed (unrelated) health issues I just couldn't keep up and I haven't been able to go back to it after a long interruption due to surgery. I should just try doing simple things based on activities I already like doing and be spontaneous about, like go for spontaneous walks, start dancing more often when I hear a song I like on the radio... Let's see how it goes. Thank you!
Very smart..unfortunately our media , marketing and government realize that simple solutions won’t sell or seem innovative enough. It’s like they train us to look for answers outside of ourselves. Your video was a nice relief!`
That's a very good point :) Writing a book with just one page of some simple truths about a certain topic won't make it sell hahaha. So we need something that looks and sounds complicated and therefore marketable. It's the same with making videos on youtube. So I'm really happy this point did seem to resonate with so many of you a lot :)
I decorate our dream home in my mind as well. It helps me drift off to sleep at night to just imagine a place we could have one day. I should mention decorating brings me joy so it's not about being materialistic but to have a "blank canvas" to be creative. ❤️
I identified with no. 4 the most: holding on to what you wish was different. Like you, I'd like to be elsewhere. I've already started to enjoy what I have here. I can relate to most, if not all, of the 5 things you mentioned. Many thanks.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, happy the video resonated with you!! :)
So true. For me fancy and complicated never last. I keep it as simple as possible.
Exactly :) Thanks Rosemary, have a lovely day!
Vera, this was so on point❤Amazing, tx🎉
I really needed to hear the last one again about overcommitting yourself... Thank you! I know that feeling of relief when something is gone from my to-do list. Just today I got into such a situation, where, in the end, I could only realise, that it works perfectly fine without my involvement, too... It's good to realise this, and your video now was the perfect reminder... Thank you Vera!!!
I love your videos because they always possess great reminders for the way I want to live my life. Even more so, I love to watch because they have helped me grieve for my grandparents whom I lost last summer. They were from Amsterdam and spoke English in the same cadence. Hearing you speak and seeing snippets into the life of the someone in the same country in which they grew up just makes me heart happy. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing Melissa, I'm sorry for your loss 🌷 I'm so happy to hear that my videos have helped you with that 💖 Sending you a big hug
Wow the complexity bias section where you talk about simplifying your thinking and plans around doing things. This was one of the most helpful and practical things ive seen in your videos because this could really be applied to every area of life. I am an overthinker and perfectionist. I havent been able to budget because it feels to complex. Im not sure where to start there but my i have a huge list of things to do right now and focusing on the most important thing is really helpful. Recently i have been able to train my mind to focus mentally and physically on one task at a time. It has brought order to the chaos in my mind and i picked it up after many years around the hubby being like that lol. If i could just remember to keep things simple in terms of plans would be so helpful.( my husband says K.I.S.S- keep it simple , stupid lol) I think you are naturally a practical minded person so you might undervalue what you have to say in certain areas, but us overthinkers could really use that practical wisdom! I would love to hear about your thinking around areas of life. Because i need help rewiring my brain to think in more simple practical ways. Your thinking on cleaning, do you just do most important? What do you do for a budget? I would love a video about more simple solutions to life tasks etc.I also like the idea to feel your way through life i feel very out of touch with the concept so yes i need that too. Thank you Vera 😊
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Amy!! Happy that part about the complexity bias was helpful for you. Such an eye-opener, right :) Also, yes the K.I.S.S. acronym, I've heard of that one before! :) Wishing you the best and sending you a hug 🤗💖
So sweet 💐Hugs back to you. Have a wonderful day or night 😄
Hi Vera what most resonated with me is wishing things where different. My husband and I love our house and we have done a lot of renovations but it would be nice to have no neighbors. We are grateful that we have each other and a home. Thanks for the 5 tips. ❤
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Cathy, glad that point resonated with you :) Have a wonderful rest of your weekend!
I thought that #1 was huge... But then the "the most important step is the next one" really hit home! Thank you! I really needed that 💜
Oh, and hello from Brazil! 😃
Yay, glad to hear that was helpful for you :) Have a wonderful day!
Thanks so much for this video and the time you put into it. I am a high stressed person with a lot on my plate. I also have a mental disability. I have realized I need to simplify my life to be peaceful and happy. Your videos are a big help. Thanks again 💖
Thank you so much Elise, happy to hear my videos have been helpful for you in living more simply! Take good care of yourself, sending you some happy vibes
Oh man......that complexity bias sounds SO familiar, especially several years ago. Great suggestions!!
Thanks so much! :)
I resonate with #4 because I wish a lot of things were different in my life right now so living in the present and being grateful for what I do have I sometimes forget. Taking small steps to achieve those things I want to change is what I feel I should concentrate on and I really need to start writing down the things I’m grateful for each day, this is something I was going to do but never did! Ty for a timely video for me Vera! 👌🌼
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Happy the timing of the video worked out for you :) Sending you some happy vibes!!! Take care my friend
Thank you for sharing 💜 need to listen few time and will be listen a few times more… you are beautiful soul xx
Definitely #4. But all of them really. Have a nice day 😎
Thanks for sharing, happy they resonated with you! 🤗🌾 Wishing you a great day as well 🌼
I’m watching past Vera And present Vera got her new apartment! 🎉❤
Aw that's so sweet, thank you for the good vibes 🤗💕
Yes it’s good to get off the pity potty. I don’t like where I’m living but for now it’s good enough and we all must be grateful for the good things we have such as family faith and friends
Haha you're right :) I think 'get off the pity potty' was very funny :D
Thank you so much Vera. I have trouble in just about all these areas. I really enjoy your channel. I have health issues. And having OCD, anxiety and depression problems doesn’t help. But I can watch your channel and it comforts me a great deal. And I get alot of good ideas and advice from you. So, thank you again. God bless you. Please keep up the great job. 💕🙏🏻
I actually felt that sense of relief that comes when over scheduled and plans shift so that time is gained (I use these times to reset and take a moment to check in with myself, take care of my needs) this used to feel selfish,but I’m turning a new leaf - it’s a new thing for me to honor my limits and care for myself first- I’m 51- it’s about time!🙏🏻
Thank you so much for all of this ❤❤❤❤❤
Hi Vera all those meals you showed in the video is exactly how I eat, everything looked so delicious
I am an over thinker, I am trying to work on this ❤️
Thanks Chrstine! :) I love cooking with lots of veggies because it always makes it look so pretty and delicious haha. Also, I thought of you last Tuesday, hope you're doing well after your surgery! Sending healing vibes your way
@@SimpleHappyZen awww thank you Vera. It’s a slow recovery, but I’ll get there. I’m glad the surgery is over and now onto healing 🥰
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Hi Vera!
Love your video, as always. I agree with others -- it's impressive that you are always able to come up with new (still helpful!) content. Number 2 was bang on. I feel like I am so focused on living intentionally, and being present/mindful, that I've tipped too far in that direction. Because before I begin even a simple task, like watching a TH-cam video, doing the dishes, or going for a walk, I find myself pausing and spending so much time asking myself questions like "is this *really* what I want to be doing right now", or, "does this feel like the right choice", or "does this *have* to be done right now". It's becoming counter-productive so I'm going to have to correct the balance. Not being on auto-pilot is important...but not to this extreme LOL. So thank you for the reminder 😀 ❤
Haha yes! It's all about balance :) Thanks Ellie, so happy you enjoyed the video. Have a wonderful rest of your weekend!
#4 resonates a lot. Wishing things were different instead of appreciating present reality. Waking up and just breathing is a gift!
Love your videos!
That's a lovely way of looking at it :) Thanks Perez. Have a wonderful day
Thank you, Vera! ❤ I alwaya take away something from your content to apply to my life.
Love your talk about complexity bias.
Thanks!! Happy you enjoyed it :)
Excellent video. The "wishing" part of this video spoke to me. I had spent a lot of time wishing for a different situation in my life. I finally was forced to drop the constant, background noise of wishing when the situation I wanted became an impossibility. It was then that one day, and more and more each day, I found a peaceful, content acceptance, which then turned into the gratitude you mentioned too. It was like my wishing was fighting the universe. Once I accepted the situation, I felt free, not bound... in fact, things in my life fell into place so much better and in a different way than I could have ever known or planned. Soooo much simpler too!
Btw, I liked this video because it had fewer tips, but a more thorough, in-depth analysis of each... really delved into each point :-)
Naomi😊
Thank you so much for sharing Naomi, love what you said about acceptance and gratitude!!! :) Also nice to hear you enjoyed the format of this video. I did try to include fewer tips, so that I could go more in-depth with each of them :)
I need this video.....Vera you always help me be better. mil gracias 🙏 ❤️
Great video! Thank you…especially agree with the importance of gratitude. I truly believe it is the secret to contentment (not complacency) in life.
I agree! :) Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Jeanette, have a lovely day
Hi Vera, I am big fan of your videos. In this one I couldn’t agree more with the content! I don’t know why people like to complicate their life and try to do 10 things instead of one and get the results?! I WAS one of the these people for soooo long that I harmed myself and my family more than I was trying to perfected😏. Thankfully, ones I understood what “simple “ actually means, my life changed for better 👍☀️ Your videos help a lot as well, I can’t thank you enough for that. I never comment but after watching this one I had to, you are awesome! Thank you for your help😊🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you so much for leaving your comment Iva, so happy you enjoyed the video! :) Have a happy Monday!
I like to more or less wing it for the most of my time, I like to spread appointments and go with the flow, very simple perhaps but every day is different as is a very week.
So I don't have a complicated schedule, I only mealplan so I go shopping ones a week, so I know what I am going to make and need according to my agenda / appointments/ weather😉. No stress during the week or run to the shop for this or that item. If I have a couple of appointments I make quick salades or soup, if I have more time I might choose to make something more complicated as cooking is fun time for me. Have a good weekend!
All great!!! You have a nice weekend too, and stay safe and hydrated next week!
@@SimpleHappyZen I will, you too!!! , I have lots of watermelon, water with lemon and mint, "yogurt with seeds" and light meals, if you have any suggestions please let me know, I will be starting my mealplanning tonight. I will make a stirfry tomorrow and leftover on monday (Chinese cabbage, carrots, celery onion, noodles) a cooled cucumber parsley soup for lunch on Monday and Tuesday. I have iceberg lettuce and tomatoes that were supposed to become chili but will turn in a salade with a jar of olives and beans out of a can out of my pantry instead of fresh cooked. My kitchen "staff" goes on strike when it's hot down es yours too?😉) I have to go shopping on Monday morning, the less I need to buy the better with the upcoming heat🤔 am I lazy or winging it😂
Sounds yummy!!! We've stocked up on some lazy vegan meals in the freezer haha for the truly hot days. (lazy vegan is the brand btw, you can find them in AH and Jumbo in the freezer, my favorite is the 'chicken' massala) Cooking heats up the apartment too much so like you 'staff', I go on strike haha. But the lazy vegan ones are really tasty and quick to make, so that should work. Also Madeleine Olivia recently uploaded a video with some salad ideas for the warmer days, I really like the one with mango and black beans, and I'll add some tempe to that one.
I also love having a simple meal plan. I have been simplyfing it more and more. Right now it is Monday-meatless or Italian, Tues-mexican or chinese, wednesday- leftovers or easy dinner, Thursday- classic or comfort food, friday grill or fry night, sat- pizza or takeout, sunday- crockpot/instant pot(usually soup, stew or roast). I have seen people do every other night cooking and the next day is leftovers. I like the idea of that. Sometimes if i have leftovers i will freeze or move the dinner to another day.
Yes, I oftentimes will also cook every other night, and have leftovers next day. Or cook extra curry, and I'll only have to cook rice the next day. :)
Hi Vera . I really enjoy your videos. I’ve known for a while that I overthink just about everything but I didn’t realise that I also have complexity bias! These are the two that resonated with me the most.
Such an excellent video! Everyone should heed this sage advice. You put it in such a calming way that makes these 5 concepts very attainable.
Aw thank you so much Ruth, I appreciate it 🤗💖🌱
Thank you soooo much for this video!! I have issues with overcomplication and sometimes overcommitting to things. It's challenging sometimes to just say no, but by the grace of God I am learning. Thanks again Vera for the tips and reminders!
Thank you so much. Im going thru same. Super validating. Ty again
Not over committing is something I know is important but I still keep doing from time to time.
I have two days a week set aside that I don’t commit to anything so that I always know I will have those two days for downtime. Recently I have needed to use one of those days to reschedule something but most of the time, they stay free of commitments.
That's a really great strategy! :)
@@SimpleHappyZen thanks.
I loved this video Vera 😍. I've simplified so much over the past few years especially saying 'no' to things I don't want to do. 😀
Thanks Helen, yes saying no is such a big one :)
Such a valuable message, one of your best videos ever. Overcomplicating and overthinking everything leads to overwhelm
Wow thank you so much Lynby!! :) Have a great day
This is my first time tumbling on your channel,I love you and your editing style.Thank you for the tips
Thank you so much and welcome to the channel!
This concept of complexity bias has really hit me hard, I could solve most of my problems, thank you Vera💗
I'm glad you found something that resonates with you in the video :) Take care!
@@SimpleHappyZen 🥰🥰
Great video Vera!! Point #2 resonated with me, not that I overthink things but that I like researching new things to the point I don't actually do the thing lol. For example a watercolour painting technique I've not seen before or a new crochet project or a new garden plant I would like to plant. Especially with trying to write I will hesitate and do more research instead of just doing the thing! I'm not afraid of doing these things I think it's just more that I do really enjoy constantly learning but I realize I have balance that out with doing. It's my goal for this year!
Awesome!! :) Thanks Francine, wishing you all the best with all the 'doing' the rest of this year!
Vera, this video was sooo good. Not complicate things and just do it. This two resonante with me so much now.🙏
Nog nooit gehoord van de complexity bias! Super interessant, bedankt!
Graag gedaan, ja zeker erg interessant :) Fijn weekend!
I loved the advice to not think about how you look to others with what you have (or do not) but instead, how you feel! Great video Vera.
Thank you so much, so happy you liked it! :)
Great video Vera! The first and the fourth. You have given a new way of looking at things and life which is mind blowing! Thanks vera
So happy to hear that!! :) Have a wonderful day!
I feel like I'm getting red of negative feelings and negative energy when I'm watching your videos 👀 really love your ideas to simplify my life it's such a relief
this part of (I wish I could, I wish I had) exhausting thoughts 😢 make me feel tired .. you are absolutely right about focus on what we already have 🙏
more fans from Egypt 🇪🇬 😊
Thank you 😊 Vera 👍 big like
Thankn you so much for your kind words!! Glad you enjoyed the video and found it helpful :) Take care and have a lovely week!
@@SimpleHappyZen you deserve more than thousand like 👍 👌 💓 waiting for your next ideas 💡 😉 😀
Feeling gratitude is important to me and I'm always grateful when you post a new video, Thank you Vera 🌞 I especially enjoy when you add scenes of birds and beautiful skies. I'd like to move also and know I will get there eventually, but for now I also feel gratitude for the place that I have 💕
Aw thank you so much!! 🤗💕🦜🦚
Wow. This was just what I neededhow do you continue to come up with such original and super helpful content? - your presentation is superb , including the length of your videos. Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️
Lisa
Aw thank you so much, I really appreciate that! 🤗💕🌾
For me, definitely number four resonated the most. My younger brother and l are currently taking care of my dying mother at home and sometimes l get overwhelmed by the circumstances surrounding the whole process of being a care provider and having to watch her slowly waste away on what is essentially her deathbed. As selfish and heartless as this may sound, l can’t help wondering what our lives would be like if she wasn’t here anymore and that just makes me feel even worse. After watching your video, l realized that l should be thankful for the opportunity l’ve been given to be there for her and that l should appreciate every moment we get to spend with my mother as it may very well be the last. Although it can be hard sometimes to see things in a positive way -enough to show gratitude- l now know that wishing my life was any different is not doing any good to anyone and it robs me from any lesson or memorable experiences l may gain from it.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, and I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. You and your younger brother are amazing for doing this for her. I think it's very normal to get overwhelmed by something like this at times, and wonder about the things you mentioned. Nothing to feel badly about. I'm happy you got a new perspective from this video, and I hope that it'll make this difficult time for you and your family a little easier. Sending you strength and a big hug, remember to also take good care of yourself!
@@SimpleHappyZen Once again, thank you Vera.
Hi Vera, number 2 for me: to start doing smth I want to do before I know everything about it! Thank You! That's exactly what I needed to hear! Rest are very helpful as well!
So happy that was hwat you needed to hear :) Take care and enjoy whatever it is you want to start doing!!
Thank you, Vera !
Thanks for another great video.
I remember when you mentioned that your Mum was ill,glad to hear that she is fine now.🙂
Aw that is so sweet, thank you :) She had her life-saving operation a year and a half ago, and it's been so wonderful. She (and my dad as well, of course) got her life back. We're all very grateful.
Thanks for your great insights Vera! I find myself overthinking about quitting my job but what I will try to do is changing the way I think about my current job to enjoy it more. Take care 🪴
Hi Marine, happy to hear you enjoyed the video :) When it comes to quitting a job, or changing careers, there are many (many) different factors to consider. Sometimes it makes more sense to make a change, and sometimes it makes more sense to stick around and try to change the way we approach things. I don't think anyone can tell you what your best option is, other than you yourself. :) Wishing you all the best with it!! Take care and have a wonderful day
Very helpful advice! I've watched so many of your videos and this one is my absolute favorite 😍 everything you said resonates with me! Thank you 💌
Aw thank you so much, that's so nice to hear :) Have a great day!
I love your content. Many times you have reduced a complicated subject into simple solutions and simpler point of view. I do think we tend to over complicate life and in the process, don’t enjoy it as much. Thank you for your post.
Thank you so much for your kind comment Susan!! :) Have a wonderful day!
You are right Vera
i want to move to, so i can have a garden however, where i live is very noisy but just around the corner is a duck ppond and today i was sitting there calming myself down and noticed the wild life, the heron, squirrels and ducks and dragon flies and occasional kingfisher, this little oasis had been a God send for me over the last few years, and so many other things, i have my plants and this flat was a safe place for me leaving an abusive relationship and i know that once i leave it i will be very upset its been such a blessing, thank you for sharing i over think and i have missed so much because i will never get that time back again, if i could give once piece of advice, it would be, no one really is that bothered so don,t let fear of others opinions bother you.
Vera, these are so simple yet can be so hard. I really need to try harder at appreciating what I have instead of being stuck in what I think would be better.
I loved the complexity idea. This is an issue for me, which I am happy to consider this week
Happy you gained something new to consider from this video :) Take care and have a great day!
Great concepts today. Am taking the complexity bias idea and reframing some things in my life. The other 4 were also good, but for some reason that complexity bias concept really turned on a light bulb. Thank you.
So happy it turned on a light bulb for you!! :) Have a great day
I was hoping for a SHZ video today. Lifted me up 🥰🌿 ✨ All great tips. The one that resonated with me the most was to take breaks as seriously as tasks and plan them as such. This, combined with the complexity bias was the tip of the day for me :) Off to have my tea!
Yay, so happy to hear that, thank you!!! :) Hope you enjoyed your tea :)
i definitively fell into the complexity bias trap, thanks for pointing it out!
You're very welcome :) Take care and have a nice day today!
Hi Vera.. very nice. You point out the correct information. No doubt about it.
Gratitude.... MUST 👍 We must say to you... THANK YOU. enjoy moments 🎉🎉
Aw thank you so much!! Take care and have a wonderful week
Spot on, as usual, Vera! 🤓👌 You're looking so lovely as well, could easily be on a magazine cover to illustrate natural glow and beauty 😇
Hope that you're feeling less overwhelmed since the previous videos. And also, that somehow you'll be able to cool yourself a bit, there's a crazy heatwave swiping over Europe (I'm sweating like a horse too 🤭 - but at least it's lovely and sunny for a change!!)
There's one thing I've been meaning to mention, perhaps for you to consider when talking about decluttering/minimising/living space. Namely, about the fact that, at least some of us, don't even rent (never mind own) a property of any sort, but rent a room only, in a shared house, living with random people etc. In itself, it can already be quite challenging, and when you talk about different rooms and how to take good care of them.. Well, it's not always easy to listen and not feel somewhat envious - my room is my bedroom, living room, office all in one.
Maybe this also gives you a little opportunity to be even more grateful for the tiny (but beautiful) flat, and in some way, privilege to be able to have your own space (not that you don't appreciate it). 🌷
Best of luck with the property search and surely the universe will make things happen for you in the best possible way in due time 🙏
Aw thanks so much!!! :) And yes, you're absolutely right. I don't ever want to forget how lucky I am to be able to live here and have my own space. It's been such a blessing in countless different ways. So important to practice gratitude, since I have so much to be grateful for. And I wish everyone could have a nice and safe place to live. When I look at some of my younger family members who are just starting with working and things, I feel for them because it's gotta be really hard to leave your parent's house during this time. Anyway, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and have a wonderful day!! Take care with the heatwave, remember to drink lots of water :)
i resonated with all of these points so much! i definitely feel the pressure to have a certain kind of lifestyle these days as a young professional, but ultimately i know that some things (like eating out multiple times a week, impulsive shopping, being around ppl 24/7) don't add much value to my life or don't fit with my long term goals. i may have very different goals, interests, and even responsibilities to several of my friends, and that is ok :) i think younger me would be so proud of how independent i am, and how my confidence has grown
That's wonderful Tina, you can be proud of yourself!! :)
I know what you mean about the eating out multiple times a week.I just don’t like it but there’s a lot of pressure isn’t there?☹️
@@joley8695 so much pressure! I mean, I enjoy the results of my cooking (usually 😂) and if I have the means and the time to cook, why not? I appreciate going out to try new dishes sometimes though
I always love your videos Vera ❤️ I do a spin class two times a week because I love it 😊
Thank you so much!! :) Wow I'm jealous hahaha, I could never get into spinning
Vera you are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing with us 🌺
Aw thank you Sanja!! 🤗🌺💖
Hi Vera... I haven't watched youtube for a while and I'm so happy I watched this. I always learn so much from you. You are truly original in your content. So interesting and creative. Really a joy to watch your channel. Thanks
Aw thank you so much Caroline, I appreciate that!! 🤗💕🌼
Absolutely love your channel. I try to apply your advices every now and then and they feel good ☺️. Keep the good vibes 👌
Thanks so much André, that's nice to hear! :) Have a great day!
I think this is my fav video of yours of all time.
Wow, thank you so much!! 💕💖
Really enjoyed this video. I can relate to most everything you talked about especially over complicating and over thinking everything. I’ve also been doing a lot of wishing my life was different. It’s difficult to find a balance between being grateful for what we have while still wanting more. Good luck with finding a new place to live. I’m sure you’ll find the right opportunity eventually. 🙂
Aw thank you Ronda, I appreciate that :) Have a wonderful rest of your weekend!
Lovely video Vera as the most of yours❤ you are much younger than me but very wise to settle things as they should be. In my 57s I still cannot say NO to my beloved people, friends and family, and most of the times I feel exhausted, strained with my nerves in the sky. How can I say NO when they ask for time, coffees, walks when I feel really tired but dont want to disapoint them?
The kind of content that makes me want to watch again..or read.
Wonderful :) Thank you!
Hi Vera. All the things you mentioned were so useful, but the one that resonated the most was #2 do instead of overthink.
I tend to try and make sure all is 'perfect' before I even start something, so it's really good for me to focus on the process and jump in the flow of things, instead of preparing myself for them. As always, such calm and inspiring video, keep it up as you do ❤ much love from Finland.
Thank you for this wonderful tips to simplifying life to enjoy it more. I have being simplifying my life , choices and commitments since the pendamic hits and I found it so rewording .❤
overcommitting myself this resonated as a great idea for me