Not to have control of everything, I tent to burn myself and never really have truly happiness. Thank you Vera, will be using you advice as a weekly reminder 🙂
I am recovering from burn out. I feel better after 4 months and a half. I want to go back to work în August. I saw all your videos about this subject. They were very helpfull. Thank you for sharing.
@@sinzianapopa5732 im glad to hear that after 4 months you recovered and are in a position to go back to work. I worry that if i quit, i won't want to ever return to a corporate job but know that I will need to due to some students loans.
Thank you so much for your video! I related to each word you said, except I am still recovering and accepting all the proccess... The guilt part is the most difficult one for me 😔 Love from Portugal
When I quit my job because of my burnout I knew it was a life or death choice to me. I chose my health over money and thank God I did. Needless to say that the recovery was long. On the last day of work I came home and my body just shut down. I would sleep 16 hours a day but in sequences. I would wake up, eat something and then all of a sudden I would pass out on the couch for 5 hours with no recollection of falling asleep. This went on for a whole month. My body decided to take matters into its own hands because I wasn't able to make any decisions. That month of rest was like a rebirth. When it ended I felt like I was coming out of a coma that had lasted during the whole time I was at my job. Just a black hole I was leaving behind. Never choose your job over your well-being.
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences Kat. It sounds very intense.. Actually I can relate toa lot of it. Falling asleep pretty much on the floor or on the couch.. Strange how we can push ourselves to that limit. I'm happy to hear you're doing better. :) Take good care!
May I ask how you paid your bills while not working? I am struggling with severe burnout but cannot afford to take time off. I have considered ending my life because of this. How did you do it? I feel so trapped.
@@GS-cg3yn I had money on the side. This was money that was going to go towards home renovations hence why I had it saved up, unfortunately I had to use it to pay the bills... I would advise you to find someone you can rely on (depending on your age - parents, siblings, friends, husband/wife) and ask them if they could help (financially, or let you crash on the couch for free) until you find a different job. I find that rent is the most expensive thing on the list, so if you can save money on that, it would be great. It is difficult but not impossible, you just have to push through. Just please do not give up because of a life-sucking job. There were so many times I wanted to die just thinking of going to the office in the morning, but that was 6 years ago and now looking back at it I see how much I would've missed on in life. So you can do it as well I am sure of it, you've already come this far. Be well and stay strong.❤
@@GS-cg3yn there's always a way to escape ! We're living in real toxic world, So realize that , Focus on what you want ! Than you'll restore your balance,,,,
@@miao752 🙄 Ugh. Seriously? What a clueless things to say. No, there is not “always a way to escape” and “focusing on what you want” doesn’t do anything if you’re so burned out that brushing your teeth takes monumental effort. You don’t understand the level of burnout these people are talking about and I am genuinely glad you don’t.
I’ve never heard someone say recovering from burnout can take more than a few months. I thought there was something else wrong with me. Thank you for sharing your experience and encouraging others. I needed to hear this!
I can relate to thinking there's something wrong when recovery takes this long.. I frequently felt broken beyond repair. All I can say is, it does get better :) A burnout doesn't build up in a few months, so we don't have to expect to heal from it in a few months either :) Take good care my friend, enjoy your Sunday!!
no you're definitely not alone. Also get yourself checked out by a doctor because stress can deplete your body in so many ways - i was chronically low on a bunch of vitamins as a result and while i didn't feel emotionally better i was at least able to get through a day without needing to sleep for 18 hours
I'm currently 5 months into my recovery and the first thing my psychiatric nurse told me was that burnout takes 1 year on average to recover from. And every struggle in that time makes it take longer. Wish you the best!
@@anniegoomes8585 You're right. The problem with that though is that it is just a syndrome, a made up name that is almost useless as these symptoms are quite basic and can stem from many different things that might have better treatments. The problem with the entire medical system (and 1 reason why I'm against a forced national "free" healthcare system) is that it is almost entirely allopathic (patented drugs). These things sometimes work ok when you have a clear diagnosis, but when a system of Dr's label you with terms like chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, chronic pain syndrome, chronic migraines, etc., they have a very drug centered approach where many of these drugs can do more harm then good, in both the short and long term. I can safely say my life spiralled after being a human guinea pig for so many years. I wish I had never gone down that route. I just wish they were more honest about what they do and don't know. Some great Dr's out there, but most of them don't understand how little of a perspective they have on health. Many of their years studying are spent on repeated propaganda and dogmatic pseudoscience and they are too prideful to admit that maybe just maybe they didn't get the best health education. They teach a system that is profit/politically driven and they leave out information that is just outright dangerous for the health and happiness of all those who rely on "conventional medicine". Of course, if I got in a terrible accident or needed emergency surgery, conventional medicine can be invaluable.
I’ve been suffering from burnout for a while now, having cared for my father who had dementia, my marriage collapsed due too infidelity on his part, then my mother died of cancer all in a few years, the stress was unbearable, and now I’ve cut certain people out of my life, who were not supportive enough, I have left social media platforms like Facebook, just watch certain things that I’m interested in or are helpful to me, and left two jobs I was juggling that I wasn’t happy with, I’ve started just working part time and it’s all I can handle at the moment, I’ve been working & raising a family and caring for others all my life, it’s my time now and I’m going to put myself first now, it’s not being selfish it’s called self care.
I remember from long ago my boss telling me, "Everyone can be replaced." It sounded ominous then, but I learned that it can actually be a great relief.
I get that :) Although I might feel a bit weird about it too, if it came from my boss hahaha. Guess it really depends on the way they said it. But in the end, knowing that we aren't irreplaceable may hurt our ego a little bit, but it can be incredibly freeing. :)
I also felt relief when my boss told me the same. Actually he explained me that he feels happy when the reason the person is leaving is because s/he learnt and developed so much in his team that s/he feels empowered to do greater tasks which are important to them, because then he did everything right at the personnel development, even so he is sad losing a good employee.
When you are a over achiever, a controle freak, healing from burn out is a Challenge because we are not in control of anything anymore. We have to accept to rest and it feels horrible
I hate working so much. It kills my soul, my spirit. This is all of any job. I am just not cut out for working. I need to find a way out ♥️. I'm so forefilled when I'm just at home or spending my day, walking, cleaning, steam room, cooking, gym, yoga. Go for coffee, bike ride, self care. I don't know how anybody can say they would get bored if not working. I'm my own best friend. I would never tire of loving myself and hanging around with myself.
@@7Write4This9Heart7 it's not natural. We have only been like this for 200 years. Humans have never lived this unatural. Please tell me what is so forefilling about sitting infront of a pc all day in an office with people you wouldn't chill with in life. Or at a bank or in retail or custoner service - is this life is it? Ggrrr
@@kimhandley1523 RIGHT?? THANK YOU! I don't understand how my parents and other people don't understand! (Well, I do, kinda - they were indoctrinated into the capitalist bootlicker BS and just went with it, ew.) Preach! In the old days, people found smth they were good at and did it and they were happy and fulfilled! That's how it should be! IF I could, I'd just write my novels, but my parents won't let me 'cause 'it's not realistic'! (And I'm so exhausted in all ways - physically, mentally, emotionally - from my awful, dead end, uncaring (retail/customer service) job that I don't have the energy leftover to work on them! ;A;) It's the worst! Our society today is the worst! Makes no sense and is SO soul crushing for everyone! I can ABSOLUTELY see why depression and suicide rates are sky high! I've been unfortunately susceptible to such feelings lately! ;A;
If anyone else is stressed out and overloaded by cleaning, something that helped me is learning to clean with intention. I no longer clean just to get it out of the way. I actually take it slow, correct my posture, enjoy the process, and I feel more satisfied when it's done. I just had to learn to relax, stop using as many harsh chemicals, and do tasks one at a time.
I hate cleaning. But I enjoy living in a clean space. So I try to motivate myself by decomposing each task into simpler, smaller tasks that feel less tiring AND by thinking about how grateful with myself future will be when it's done. :)
Do you have suggestions of cleaners that aren’t harsh but clean bathrooms well? I mostly stick to vinegar and water in the house but tubs, shower doors, showers and sinks I use Clorox cleanup and zep mold and mildew they give me a headache. This makes me greatly dislike cleaning these areas.
@@lilarose9348 I know that this is a very late reply to your comment, but I like the Method and Grove brands. They have a nice fragrance selection and clean really well.
I burned out really bad in a toxic work culture for 3 years then went to another toxic work place. At that time, I didn't even know I was allowed to have fun in my life or to feel happy. I was in full on survival mode. That was 2 years ago and I still have such a hard time telling my body that I can rest and relax. I've got to admit I don't know what it means to relax. I've traveled a lot since and it's helped but the day to day hustle is definitely draining.
I am a 55 year old man and I have subscribed to your channel. I find you exceptionally wise and you really get me thinking. Thank you. My personal burn out situation came to a head about 3 years ago. For some 25 years I had been in the same technical trade and eventually owned my own company. Things got to the point where I hated getting up in the morning, could only manage to focus and work half days and found myself dependant on alcohol. 3 years ago I finally broke and could not do it anymore. It took about a year of doing nothing and then doing a complete career change, nothing even closely related, to finally feel half normal again. I now work full days and have a very mundane job, not the stress type of before and I feel things (mentally) are finally looking up. I am planning on retirement in 3 years. I stumbled upon your channel after this whole experience but listening to what you said of your situation, it seemed similar. I value your videos and your reasoning with inner problems and I will continue to watch them. Thank you again! Terry.
Thank so much Terry, for sharing your story!! I'm so happy for you that things are looking up :) And you have your retirement in 3 years to look forward to as well :) Thanks so much and have a wonderful day!
This resonates so much with me. Me and my husband have been running a business for the last 10 yrs and I find it increasingly harder to get out of bed. I have lost all motivation and even things I used to find enjoyment in are now in the "too hard basket" as I have no energy left for myself. Negative thoughts way on me constantly, but on the other hand I keep trying to push through everything as that's what I've heard/done my whole life. I feel like I'm too far in since we own the business, but I constantly wish for a different life
Hi Terry I'm a 52 year old male and have been a subscriber for ages. I have also just retrained and switched careers into a more mundane job but I prefer less stress and I'll just adapt to less money, I'd rather have my peace of mind and less anxiety. I think Vera is very wise like you said, ahead of her years in many ways! She just speaks to me and I value everything she says. She clearly spends a lot of time making such quality videos for us to enjoy. You can binge watch her whole back catalogue now!
@@amac1153 Hi there, I am empathetic to your situation. Sometimes being self-employed, owning a business can be very difficult to get out of positively. In my case my former employer purchased all of my inventory if I agreed to come back for a year, which I did. In the end I got rid of my biggest cost, inventory, but short of that I left the rest behind and moved on. I dont know your situation and I am not in a professional position to comment but I do know how mentally and physically taxing it can be. I truly hope things work out and you both find happiness.
I had a burnout 8 years ago. And I would say that it took me 6 years to recover completely from it. It has been a very long journey getting to know myself, learning to fix boundaries and allowing myself to let life flow. I still remember very well that sensation of being completely lost and feel useless, but now that I feel good again (without any doubt better than ever) I think it is probably the best it could have happened to me...It has been an opportunity to start over with a solid foundation and respect for myself.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I keep wondering how long it would take and what changes I need to make. I'm glad to know there's nothing wrong with me, I'm just recovering.
@@f1amesoffummm no. I've experienced depression. Burnout was a whole new thing. It isn't easily fixed with proper medication and simple lifestyle tweaks. It was a complete shutting down on every level and a checking out of everything and everyone. I couldn't engage with anything. I couldn't think about what to do next. It was just like she described, where after I quit my job, all I did was sleep for months. It was all the adrenaline I was summoning to do my job just went away after I quit and there was nothing left to help me function. There is a component of burnout that resembles depression, because how could you not feel depressed when you feel completely adrift with no motor to power you in any particular direction. But depression is not synonymous with burnout. Not even close.
I’ve been an OR nurse for 27 years and the stress, exhaustion, and burnout I feel is almost debilitating. I have 5 years to retirement so I’m trying to push through. I told my husband half jokingly that when I retire I’m going to sit and stare at a wall for a year, go into therapy for a year, and then begin the rest of my life.
I wonder how you are doing now. I have 4 yrs to go until early retirement, it feels much longer. Toxic workplace. But I will sacrifice my pension if I leave before early retirement and I just cannot do that.
I worked in health care in a medical center for 14.5 years and then transitioned to a local health department for 25 years in public health. My god…I gave my heart and soul and for what? Nothing! This institution post covid have recruited all younger professionals to replace us.
@@PrairieGirlioI’m in the same situation. I need to wait 6 more months to get the last cost of living increase to add to my pension and I’m in a toxic workplace post COVID (local health department ) and simply dread even doing one more day there. I have complete burn out from the dysfunctional mainstream workplace.
It's been over a year since I burned out. It was awful to know that a job I was good at and that once meant so much to me was terrible for my physical and mental health. I had to step back and after a year, I realized I had to step out for good. Covid helped me prioritize my life again. My hubby, my kids, my art, my writing are my focus and I'm 1000% happier now.
I'm so happy to hear you're doing better and feeling happier now. :) For me too, burnout as well as the pandemic helped me to prioritize and take a step back, focusing more on the things that are truly important. I can relate to the feeling that comes with the realization that our careers might not be the best thing for our health...
@@SimpleHappyZen i think this was one of my key takeaways, I have always been "relaxing" (doing nothing) but not "recharging" and always feeling guilty for doing nothing constructive and wondering why am I still feeling so sick and tired despite resting so much
I burned out from an incredibly stressful job in late 2016. I am physically unable to return to work even today. I have had to totally redefine my self worth and it’s been a journey and struggle. The anxiety and depression along the road to recovery can be so debilitating. I do not remember the first 6 months and the first two years were so hard. Each year gets better but with a different measuring stick. I will never be like I used to be and probably that is for the best. It’s not possible to keep working 70 hrs a week in high stress environments. I am actually forever changed. It’s ok. I was so so sick. It’s hard to explain to others. If I was in a wheelchair and learning to walk again it would be easier for others to understand. Burnout and mental health seems so much harder to grasp unless you meet someone who has been through it. This is an excellent video and very relatable.
I truly hope you are fully recovered now. Sound you had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I did as well for 4 years. Was extremly hard to recover but i did it. Raelan Agle youtube channel has dozen of fully recovery stories for inspiration
I am experiencing the 3rd burnout in the Last two years. They have been happening about every 6 to 8 months. I get better and do it all over again. Ive lost a lot of friends and pushed people away bc I didnt know myself what I was experiencing. I felt weak and too ashamed. My probation officer definitely doesnt understand. LOL. But I am so relieved. Ive asked the universe for understanding. I then somehow began to see these videos in my feed. I dont feel powerless anymore.
I have been suffering through burnout for the past 3 years and I relate to you 100%. And yes, its extremely hard to make others understand! They think that we wantedly laze around and be a burden to them!!!
I read the book “Burnout” by the Nagoskis. It really hit home. What you are saying is what so many of us are feeling. I’m not in a financial position to take a couple of years off, but I am putting limits on the time I spend on my job. I matter. My health is important. Days off are important. Thank you for this video. 🙏
Thanks so much for sharing, I'll check out the book as well. You're absolutely right in what you said! Hope you'll feel better soon, sending a big hug your way
Baby steps if you can't leave your job. I'm in burnout recovery for a couple years now and I"m pursing other careers where I can work from home. I would recommend that, find other jobs online. There's a plethora of info all over for that, namaste.
I hope this will work for you. Clear boundaries at work, taking your breaks at work to recharge, and lots of self-care at home to refill that tank helped me bridge the gap until I had enough saved up to leave my 9-5.
I'm in burnout recovery and at first i was hard on myself for sleeping so much .. and feeling the need to "do" now i am finally not hard on myself and i feel like i am finally recovering
Thanks so much for sharing Sara and it's absolutely 100% okay to take it easy and sleep as long as you need to! Take good care, sending a big hug. Hope you'll feel better soon
I too am in burnout recovery but didn't really recognize it as such. I quit my toxic job 5 months ago. I have slept so much. I have invested in programs to start my own ecommerce laptop lifestyle but having real challenges to complete anything. Now I am getting concerned about income running out. Not feeling ready to apply for jobs. Thanks for being open and putting this out there. It helped me in a way I didn't know it would. Going to learn more about burnout. I appreciate this space to open up about what I am going through. Thank you!
It also took me over 2.5 years, but today I feel so good, better than years before the Burnout. I have had depression, anxiety and panic attacks and extreme sleep disorders and a lot more. Everything is gone! Greetings from Germany!
@Anna Anna Hello Anna, i dont know your life storry and my english is not so good, but i changed nearly all things in my life that where negative to my physical an mental health. Its not one thing, there are more then 15 things i changed. From food till meditation every day, job change, be daily in nature, learning a lot about health and more.
@Anna Anna Hey Anna! First thing to do is believe that you will get better.It takes time.Be patient with yourself.Don't criticize yourself or others.Expect nothing from anyone.Walk.You need to be outside getting exercise.You are connected to everything and everything is connected you.Be open.Don't cut yourself off from life.Observe the beauty of life.Your life is a gift given to you.Treat every moment as something precious.If you are depressed or down tell yourself that this time will pass and there are better things to come.Also I recommend listening to and watching positive things on television and your mobile phone or ipad or whatever you have.Lastly,I recommend listening to Eckhart Tolle.He has many videos.Just listen and see if you can get something from what he has to say.I wish you well .💚
u’re kidding! I’m around 2 years and a half past my burnout, depression and anxiety disorder diagnosis. Still recovering, but waaay better now. I also live in Germany. I read your comment and was like ‘wait but I didn’t say anything here yet’ 😅🤣 (Editing: now I saw your comment is from 2 years ago. still cool tho)
My college burnout lead to depression that took a full 5 years to finally see some level of recovery from. The stress of 2 high pressure healthcare programs and ignoring my needs for the demands of others really did me in. It has been almost 10 years since onset now, and i still deal with a lot of anxiety and panic when i think about school, work, and dealing with stressful situations.
I learned the hard way about burnout. I had heard about it but thought it only happened to medical students. I hit a brick wall. Severe depression, complete apathy and inability to focus, my OCD was off the charts, and I was extremely emotionally unstable. I am 4 months out and feeling better, but I still don't feel all that motivated. I'm focusing on self care.
My burn out happened last year...walked away from everything....working in a toxic company...where no matter how hard ya worked it wasnt enough...being salaried employee a 70-80 work week was the norm...i hated that i actually woke up in the morning...my health suffered, my hair falling out, auto immune illnesses...then one day when I was in my i really dont care anymore moods...I flat out walked into work quit...went home, through my stuff in storage and moved back to Florida ( my home state)... Got a simple job with Flamingos... For no other reason than these birds make me happy. Now i see i dont need or want all that stuff in storage and am planning a trip to clear it out....i have more time to spend with my 91 year old mom, family and friends...i feel i have deflated, im not in a pressure cooker anymore...my blood sugar under control... no im not making near the money i was...and my home is very small.my family thinks im nuts for walking away from the rat race...but im so much happier, calmer...even toying with the idea of living in a camper and go see and do the things ive read about in books, the giant redwoods, the grand canyon...eat a lobster in Maine....eat some gumbo in New Orleans....im 56...ive raised my children, now i think its time to make a million memories intead of buying a million things....
I’m so glad I found this. I’m burned out. This morning I said to my husband I’ve had a breakdown of sorts. In the last 3 years I’ve had 2 babies, lost my sister, adopted my niece, have an autoimmune disease all while being a highly sensitive person. I haven’t taken proper care of myself. I never really learned that skill
I feel you..I felt this almost 5 yrs ago and it was never easy specially when your friends and family don't understand what you're feeling. I quit my job and trying to take a break before taking on a new one. But most of my time was preoccupied by doing them favors, left&right, that would make you feel guilty if you say no. Most of them wouldn't take no for an answer. They think that I'm lazy and would just be a bum forever. They don't understand that I'm trying to recharge to do the things I planned before hopping to a new oppurtunity. It took me years, up until now and slowly taking steps to get back on track.
Thanks so much for sharing. It's okay to do what we need to do, and not always focus on being productive or starting a new job straight away if we have the opportunity to slow down for a while. Take care!
A very similar situation happened to me about 5 years ago. Everything after that period subsequently kept falling apart. It was a neverending nightmare. For these situations every person should have a so called peer support group. I did not have one at the time. Took me a very long time to recover.
The same factors: 1) toxic workplace, 2) being highly sensitive, 3) family problems, 4) being an over achiever/high sense of conscientiousness are what also led to my burnout. Unfortunately I developed CFS/M.E. as a result and 20 years later I still haven't recovered. I wished I hadn't underestimated the role these combined factors would play and the extent of the damage they would bring on me. I think there needs to be more awareness on this topic. Thank you for sharing.
The funniest thing to me is how we keep each other trapped in these loops. The manager that makes you miserable is miserable themselves, and expects you not to take time for yourself because they can't or won't take time for themselves. Coworkers who are resentful of your vacations and going home early are furious they are not doing the same. We all hate this system. We are all miserable. And we all perpetuate it for each other.
"I got permission from a professional to let everything go and now I like to be that person to myself" 💖 yes! I will carry this with me when I go to work.
I really relate. I experienced burnout recently and felt guilty for wanting to stay in bed or watch tv all day. But I realized that that's what I needed to get better. It takes as long as it takes. You can't rush yourself. Thank you for making this video. I really needed to hear this.
I'm happy to hear you found the video helpful Ira. I'm sorry to hear about your recent burnout experience, do what you need to do :) It'll get better. And there's no need for feeling guilty :) Take care!
How about when you have nothing to get better for? I am bullied and abused by some perverted people who constantly harass me and I also have been brutally raped when I was 15 by the same people. I am 44 now and I just realised a couple of years ago that everything bad that happened to me was organised( socially engineered) by the same people. There were really disgusting things that happened to me including fake funerals of people who supposedly died because I didn’t like them. My money were stolen from me literally and trough scams like fake courses, and if they were real than they would create situations that would upset me. How many actor were involved 😂 I have also been sexually abused by the same people. My harvest to this day due to depression associated with what happened to me and constant abuse (I am a scapegoat for them) I have no career or even job, no friends, no loving relationship and I will never have children and most likely will be alone and vulnerable (just like I was all my life really) in my old age if I live that long, if they won’t finish me or I do it myself. When I went to police they actually called somebody and I was turned away. I don’t feel any energy anymore, they drained me out. I only sustain on my anger. That’s what only keeping me alive(Apparently I have creating a drama because I question my childhood abuse and my rape when I was 15.) Abusers will do everything to keep you down and silent. And ow they promptly will delete this comment.
@@svetlanabarrow6026 look into Buddhist meditation. It is the only peace in this life. Most who do not understand suffering so cannot grasp or go into it. But as you have suffered a lot your mind is ready for Buddha's teaching. Search TH-cam for 'Ajahn Chah' as a starting point, also Ajahn Brahm.
@@rejectionistmanifesto8836 my mind ready for justice. And not for sieving trough my day, my life etc. I am a victim of sexual abuse, rape and exploitation and I want justice not looking for flows in my character.
@@svetlanabarrow6026 there is no justice in this cruel world even after infinite lives of the misery. Our only hope is to end the cycles of rebirth by following the Buddhist teachings.
I‘m recovering from burnout since 9 month... some days are good, on others I’m able to make food for myself. Sometimes not even that. The outside world like family members, friends and especially doctors don’t know how it feels. Since one month my doctor and therapist are pressuring me because they say I need to think about what I want to do for living and start searching a new job. This pressure is enough to make my system collapse again. Every wall is up and I’m not even strong enough to leave the house since my last appointment 4 days ago. Good luck to everybody who is struggling at the moment. I feel you 🍀
I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling and going through a tough time. Remember that time heals and things do get easier. Try to have faith in the process, even if you feel like you're not ready for a next step, sometimes it can surprise you. As long as you take a step back again when you need to. Take care my friend, wishing you continued healing
I'm also a candidate for burnout. In my late twenties I got very close to collapsing. To be honest, it was a miracle that I didn't. I had sleepless nights and I stared having Tinnitus. That's when I knew that I needed to take the signs of my body seriously. I learned from that experience that: - I'm not irreplaceable - I shouldn't never put my job over my own wellbeing - I should get away from toxic people as fast as possible - change can bring a lot of new opportunities - taking breaks is a must - underestimating the power of going out with friends and having fun is a big mistake - being brave and daring to try new things (even if you don't know how to control every step of the way) is a huge chance to grow and possibly find more satisfaction in life - things don't have to be perfect, good enough is often better Thanks for your video!
I had a burn out 8 years ago. It took me 2 months of crying... then 2 months of sleeping... then 2 months of tiny baby steps to slowly come back into life... but I really learned alot about myself and now I know the very first signes of overwhelming myself and I immediately stop and do anything necessary to calm down and find inner peace again ❤️
That is overwhelmed but not burn-out.......Burned out means ..............that you were completely burn out.........to the ashes, to the bottom .....And that is correct, it takes 2 years or more to get out of that place.....or never....not 2 months.......Your case were just stressed out and tired (because it is psychologically, mentally and physically you got burned and disappointed ......not stressed out.......stressed out = means you feel danger - but you still can be very productive. Now I have a method to know if I am stressed out and tired.....But not a method to get out of it......yes a few things that can help, but it is not a method...BURN OUT MEANS YOU ARE TOTALLY NUMB -LIKE A ROBOT. Then suddenly , fun is very important .......but that is actually , because you are sick....You sound tooo rational and balanced, this means you did not have a burn out......She did... th-cam.com/video/NK-rIVi4nLI/w-d-xo.html this is what a burn out person , will watch........If you hate this burn out video, when you are at home ....alone .....and you don t watch, if you have a burn out but you are not alone , but with people, still all the time ...that is not a burn out either......That is escaping...
Its been two years since i started my recovery. For a long time, i thought 'recovery' meant going back to be who i was and have the life i had. Now i know that i will never be the same, and my life wont ever be the same. And it shouldn't be anyway. It was a huge lesson to learn to be less demanding on myself and my path in life. There is so much beauty and success in living life one step at a time 🙏❤
Its been 5 years for me since my Burn out slash Dark night of the soul, I'm still learning to rest, I think the recovery depends on the damage/abuse you suffered, decades in my case, since I was born and not knowing I was autistic and an empath, what no one tells you is that recovering and healing is also painful, you have to purge all that hurt you didn't even knew you were accumulating, and the process is brutal.
Oh yes🙏, so relate. Sometimes even you reach rock bottom and you find rock bottom has a basment.. and you still keep going.. no one supporting you, no one standing up for your abuse.. no one believing or taking your voice seriously. Yet you still keep on because you have to... then one day, no matter how strong you think you are over the trauma,fear, panic attacts and flashbacks .. something comes and is the last straw that breaks the camels back.. and your body takes over.. crash, burn, full on burnout.. it feels like youre going crazy.. nobody understands.. you cant get out of bed, ill sick.. cant do the,' you have to pick yourself up 'just one more time', f*ck all the 'find new goals and passions' or 'gods gonna help me if I pray hard enough' or 'force yourself to be happy', 'forget and move on...' etc, etc, you feel like a wet towel no energy left, floppy, cant no more.., can't people understand I can't?! Shop sign turned to closed, crawl into bed and hybernate for god knows how long until time will supply some sort of energy again.. everything you sacrificed for everything seems for nothing.. and even at your worst, despite very good at hiding it, there is no one there for you, if there is nothing more of your empathetic and patients, loving energy to exert.. nobody is there. At this point you feel you dont have anything left.. like a wounded worrier and hero full of deep invisable severe scars from constantly fighting dragons for others and for your own justice... yet the people who you saved come around mocking while you are on the floor.. "youre no hero!", look at you... can you relate? Probably many can, but we rarely have the courage to talk about it... and the healing... gosh, how much more pain and willpower to survive that! People make it seem like once you get out its a piece of cake... but god the healing in itself afterwards is a huge monster waiting on the other side to overcome... just to sense abit of normality..and the healing can take years and years...! But anyways, the post has come out way longer than I expected, Ill stop now, aha
@@DivineLogos Personally I think when one goes through that much, nobody gets 100% fully healed. Humanity in general each individually will go through their own bumps and bruises and everyone heals differently. It will shape us. Sometimes healing will end up with a scab or scarring that will forever stay, other time it fades and 'heals' but it still in some way shapes us and bends us and or energy sapping. Its simply generally whos demons or enjoyable traits you as an individual in general can cope with and who can manage to cope with yours. Its first instance I guess is the question how well we can manage with ourselves as survivors day in day out living with the trauma and obviously finding some 'balms', techniques to heal, 'therapy', time, etc... some of us ending up healthier, some left with unhealthy ways to cope with whatever often cannot be processed.. and sometimes a mix of both. And sometimes the psycho somatic injury withers quickly and 'heals', and sometimes its unfortunately is a life sentance, no matter how much years of 'therapy' you get, and endless search of right ones, and sometimes we know its enough for us and resign to living and excepting what is, like a cancer that will never go. And as much as it would be helpful that others understand that, sometimes its the hardest for ourselves to stomach that, knowing sometimes we may never get justice, or looking to a future not knowing when the physical and emotional pain will ever stop, despite trying one's hardest, and coping too by being hit over the head by said healthy people with 'you just have to', 'get over it already, forget and move on' 'just be positive, do law of attraction and it will all work out' 'pray to god and fast and give ALL of yourself to him, because you haven't'... etc; it doesn't work that way. Somedays may be 'better' and some days worse, and other days hit mercilessly over and over again by your own mind with your own traumas and tormentors, panic generated from yourself you can't scream no to make it stop, youre like a genie in a bottle of horror. No there is no 100% heal, there is only doing the best day by day with what we've got. There are no two 100% healed people in a = perfect so called healthy relationship... nobody, and I mean nobody, gets out of this life unscathed, its the nature of the beast, just some are fortunate that it is less than others... but personally what irks me most is the ignorance of people who have lets just call it more 'lucky' or privileged life that mindlessly, relentlessly and firmly add insult to injury.. not just because they dont have the understanding because they haven't been through it, but simply lacking the empathy to even try to use their mind to understand. Enough said for now I guess. Peaceout.
Self-care for me is a habit that I need to do it every single day. It's more like vitamin rather than medicine. Thank you so much, Vera. Have a lovely day
Thank you Vera for this. I'm an occupational therapist in Sweden working with people with the most severe form of burnout. This type of content is so important for breaking down the stigma often associated with mental health issues. Burnout can be quite an isolating health situation so thank you 🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words Theresa, I agree it's so important to talk about burnout. Maybe I'll make more videos about it in the future :) Have a wonderful day!
After leaving an exhausting managerial job 3 years ago and recently losing a parent who needed care when I was not at work , I realized how automated and apathetic I had become just trying to cope. I have a whole new outlook on life now. It feels like a new beginning. Love your inspiration ! You are appreciated!
Thanks so much for sharing Kathleen. I'm so sorry for your loss with losing your parent. Sending happy and healing vibes your way! Take care my friend 🌺🤗 Wishing you lots of fun with your new beginning :)
"automated and apathetic...." I have been feeling the same way. I have known it was burnout for ages, but still feel tremendous guilt for having no appetite to work. Sorry for your loss, by the way.
I've had your level of burnout and know how difficult it is. It's so important to ignore what others may think about it and focus on getting well, no matter how long it takes. During that time, I found out how IMPORTANT your health truly is. Thank you for your commentary!
I spent years trying to live up to peoples' expectations, but after suffering burnout I've taken time-out to enjoy my retirement. It was easy to take on extra shifts, fill family and friends' obligations. But with health-problems, I had a wake-up call and realized peace of mind is far more important 🌼🕊️
It’s wonderful that you have learned all of this at your age! I’m 60 and have just realized a lot of these things. It goes to show that no matter your age you can learn new things about yourself and make your life more enjoyable!
Finally someone who said they find it hard to relax! Gosh, I can't even do meditation..it almost adds to my anxiety so I watch cartoon and it really helps
Thank you 🙏 it's never late to know these things. It took me 6 years to recover because at my time 25 years ago (I am 67 now) nobody talked about HSP. Such people did not exist. We were simply loosers... I “accidentaly“ found your videos and many things cleared up for me though I also found by myself many of the self-help things you are talking about. But by how many years I paid the price! Thank you for sharing and helping the others to get out from this quicker. Best wishes from Lithuania.❤
My life was so crazy busy and then I quit my job to move back in with my mom to take care of her. I watched her slowly die of cancer and she passed away in 2020. I'm taking the summer off this year and it feels like this internal exhaustion isn't ever going to go away. I just want to sit on the swing and listen to the birds like my mom used to.
Hi Amber! So sorry to hear you're going through a burnout. But happy to hear you're taking time to recover. When I was three months in, I stil couldn't get through a day without sleeping a couple of hours in the afternoon, so I know what it's like. Take your time, hope you'll feel a bit better soon. 💖
This couldnt have come at a better time. New subscriber and I am currently experiencing burnout. All I do is work and then numb myself with tv until bedtime. Im thankful for this video.
Hi Hilary, thanks so much for sharing. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. I hope there's someone you can talk to about it? Even if we can't make changes directly, it can be very nice to talk to someone about what we're experiencing. You don't have to go though it alone. Take care and sending you a big hug.
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you for the kind & caring words. What struck me the most from the video was the reminder for fun. I realized that I havent been partaking in any interests I have. So today I'm going on a picnic and hike with my mother. 😊 Thanks again.
Hi Hilary🙂 I am currently experiencing the same situation. Going to work and then numb myself on the couch until bedtime as I have low fever and fatique two months now. This is the 3rd time that happens to me. Previous times it lasted 6 months each. What are you feeling? Is this the first time you feel like that? Wishing u to get well really soon💓
I've just experienced a total burn out early this year. The company I worked for and the job I was doing took too much out of me. I've never experienced such a high level of stress and fatigue. I've had an anxiety disorder for many years but had it under control but the job I was doing brought it all back. For my health and sanity I had to leave with nothing else lined up. The worry of being out of work isn't great but its nothing compared to the time I was working at my last job. Now I'm trying to take some time to figure out what I can cope with and thrive in. I've been spending my days cleaning & organizing my home, seeing my mum a lot, cooking me and my husband lovely healthy food and some daily job searching. Some days I feel great and others I just get through. Its definitely consistent highs and lows. Your video has helped me realize this is okay and totally normal. So thank you Vera! I've been a long term subscriber and just love your outlook on life. I wish we were real life friends! x
Thanks so much for sharing your story Kelly and I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time with healing from such a stressful job. I think it's awesome you chose to prioritize your health and happiness. And I'm happy this video was helpful for you. It's definitely normal and okay to take your time. Wishing you all the best with job searching and sending you a big hug. :)
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you Vera 💜🙌🏼 your channel has been a huge help to me over the years. You are such a kind positive person and I really appreciate all the work you put into your content for all your subscribers. We are lucky to have you 🥰
"We are not robots".So true. People are indifferent when l need a break like I should just keep going.I have a condition that makes me feel constantly tired.Really needed to hear that.Thank you Vera.❤️
I don't know what your condition is, but I have endometriosis, which wipes me out for at least a week (and I get awful stomachaches before the period starts). I now see how far I have been pushing myself when my body is incapable of handling that pressure.
I didn't realize there were so many who experienced burnout for longer than a few weeks. Re- learning yourself through soulcare, establishing boundaries, just being aware of yourself has definitely been top priority but sometimes laden with pressure to get back to original productivity state. Thanks for this video
i have been in a constant burn out my whole life growing up in an abusive home. i am also highly sensitive. i could never hold a job because i would get burn out so quickly in need for a long rest. i couldnt understand what was wrong with me. al the abuse and pressure from my abuser at home took its tole on me. the one that got me to start and understand so many things is when i was in a very toxic relationship. the burnout was so severe that i was desperate for answers and thats how i found about toxic people, cluster B's, complex PTSDand me being a highly sensitive with a different way of approaching and handling the world. im in a better place now moved out from home but i still need to handle these types at work. working on my own business hopefully. thanks for the video and insights
I can totally relate to it. I worked at a company that no one really pressured me, but the actual nature of the work and the fact that I didn't connect with the values of the people around me and the corporate values. This brought me a lot of unhappiness, but it was very well paid. However, one day after 2 years, I was home and I got a panic attack. I could not take a deep breath and was just miserable. Looking back, I'm thinking like you - I should have quit sooner. Now I'm convinced that no money worth it! Thanks to a friend of mine, I got a job that it is relatively slow and sometimes boring, but for good! I'm enjoying it, although I'm going through another burnout simply because I don't enjoy life and I need a drastic change this time. I've accused myself for being lazy, but no more. Just giving myself time, something like putting myself to power safe mode. I used a lot of acupuncture and supplements to speed up my recovery and try to keep myself stable. I recommend it cause in just a month of acupuncture sessions once per week, I was able to start waking up with no brain fog, but completely awaken. If you are in Utah, I can recommend you the best one. Please people, be kind to yourself. Especially if you are sensitive in nature like I am. Now, I try to push myself into doing thinks that I like, although it is not always easy, but yes - find a hobby, cook for someone, do some volunteering, pray to God if you believe in Him and I promise things will get better. Lots of love!
I think acupuncture is helping me with my burnout, too. Just to hear the acupuncturist say that it seems that I’m depleted from my sympathetic nervous system being in overdrive was validating, and I felt relieved to hear him say that it’s okay to just rest if I feel the need to rest, even though I “knew” that. We need accurate reflection of our inner states as children, and sometimes as adults. The day after my second acupuncture session, I felt serene and calm as I can’t even recall feeling since I was so much younger. What a gift!
Thank you for this video. I had my burnout in 2016. 5 years later I'm better, but still struggling. It's all about changing your mindset along with your lifestyle which is so hard for personalities like ours. Wishing you continued healing. 💕
I never thought my life was difficult enough to have the privilege to say I may have burn out. After watching your video I've realized I have been pushing myself way too hard to "survive the day". Recently and intuitively, I felt I should not feel guilty for needing to sleep more than other people. I also feel like going back to activities that use to make me feel happy in my childhood like coloring and doing arts and crafts is helping me recover.
I so feel this, I have been off work for over a year and still get anxious when I think about going back. When you work 50 he's a week for years and still get told you're not doing enough you know it's time to walk. Health care is a toxic industry the world over
Love this. So relatable. I was experiencing the same thing. I was depressed and burnout to the point I can't do a very simple task at my job. I decided to quit my job because my mental health was deteriorating. I can no longer do my job and I had enough. My workplace is toxic. I did not bother to look for a job right after I quit. I need to rest and I need to heal. I was resting for 6 months because healing takes time and now I'm ready to get back to work. I learned a lot of things during my break, mostly about self-care and personal development. Job hunting is mental taxing, so I realized I need to learn how to manage my energy. That's how I came across your video. New subscriber here!
Thanks so much for sharing your story and I'm sorry to hear you had a tough time. So great you were able to take that time to heal! Wishing you all the best and sending happy vibes your way
A month into my burnout recovery, taking time off from work to refocus. Your situation resonated with me, overachiever and being a sensitive person. Thanks for the tips!
I experienced burnout 3 times. Nov 2021, March 2023, Aug 2023. Aug 2023 was the worst, it impacted my ability to drive. I also got diagnosed with ADHD & Autism. Life has changed so much.
I've had CFS/ME for 20 years, and I've become aware of a few thoughts that tend to creep into my mind when I'm doing too much: 1) I don't have time for fun/enjoyable things. 2) I don't have time to stop and eat 3 times a day... 3) self care is just another burden that takes up time in my day When I start thinking like this, I realise I've got too much in my plate, and need to get more balance! Just before I was diagnosed with CFS I was at a point when I genuinely resented everytime I had to make time to eat, I felt I just didn't have time for that! So many years later, I still find myself striving for balance at times since life and circumstances constantly change. Often we're not aware of how we are thinking in the moment - hindsight is a wonderful thing! It helps me to keep a checklist of things to keep an eye out for and check every so often if I'm falling into any of these unhelpful thought patterns.
Thank you. I have been feeling so out of tune with myself lately, and I just couldn't figure out what was the problem. I am also a highly sensitive person. Now I know that I am experiencing burnout. Thank you for all your words of encouragement.
Thank you for sharing Kelly and I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time.. Make sure you talk with someone about your feelings and the issues you're experiencing, and if you need it, get the extra help. :) Take care my friend!!
I needed to hear everything you had to say in the video! I'm a high achiever that likes to take on larger projects than I should. I realized I've been in burnout mode for years and choosing to ignore it. Over the past month, I've tried to slow down, but there are so many things I want to do. It is hard just to take time to recharge because I feel charged when completing things. Although, I'm starting to see the charged feeling I feel from completing things isn't the same as recharging your energy levels. Definitely going to use your tips to slow down - starting with a cup of tea in bed without screens. Thank you!
Thanks so much for sharing Erin and I'm so happy to hear you're going to give slowing down a chance! Feel free to check out my slow living videos if you need some more inspiration :) Take care and have a Happy Monday!!
I can relate very well to what you wrote. Im constantly working on projects and want to do them perfectly. Often larger than what I´m capable of - at least that large there´s constantly several unfinished projects around me bcs it is just too much workload. I also feel very charged when a project is finished and I can also enjoy it in the moment and shortly after. It just diminishes quickly bcs I think I got to take the next step-up and I´m still running behind what others have achieved… I did not rly find a conscious way out of this yet…
Such a wonderful video... Your sleep segment especially resonated with me. I'm a psychologist and I find over, and over again that my patients who judge themselves unfairly, or try to force what they perceive to be expected behaviors, thoughts, etc. are causing most, if not all of the intense anxiety they suffer with. Letting go of self- judgment, and instead finding acceptance of self in the here-and-now is a key part of reducing anxiety and panic attacks, as well as everyday anxiety. Thank you for your wonderful videos... and a good reminder for me practice these 10 tools myself!
Thank you so much for this video. It's been almost 2 years since my burnout, and I still get nightmares, but overall I don't feel triggered and I've grown more into being myself, rather than being someone for someone else.
I suffered this many years ago & it was such a hard time getting back to me again , I did make it but now many years later I learned to not have the perfect body the perfectionist in me nearly killed me & I learned to just be me & alone time is everything & to rely on myself & slowly approach life
I really needed to hear this! I have a very stressful job that I don’t particularly enjoy, I’m trying to buy a house and also trying to deal with all my roommate’s clutter (I hate clutter). Some days I feel like I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what to do. Thank you so much for your encouraging words!
I'm happy you found the video helpful Crystal and it sure does sound like you have lots on your plate. Remember to take care and tend to it :) Wishing you a lovely weekend!
Thank you for providing a virtual permission slip for me to really recover and just focus on which tea to drink next. It’s so helpful to hear your reflections ☕️
You have to 'honour the process'. My recovery took two years. 6 years on, I give myself permission for many things. I am delighted to have found your TH-cam channel. Everything you say, I have experienced...and I understand completely.
I hit burnout adrenals stress had panic attacks etc at 35 and it’s been a long process becoming a new happy me ! I changed pretty much everything including diet , sleep , boundaries, self talk , etc . I stopped the whole type A perfectionist attitude toward my life . I support myself now in all ways ! I’m able to help others now too that I love but I keep strong boundaries and I stopped watching tv , stopped TH-cam , etc started meditating, yoga , cooking exclusively at home delicious real food .
For anybody deeply suffering with Burnout or, even worst, developed on Chronic Fatigue Syndrom or ME, know that full recovery is possible. Was the hardest thing I ever did to recover. There are youtube channels full of only interviews with people that fully recovered. The main one is Raelan Agle. I hope you all that read this have hope that you will regain your life. Good luck! Health is the biggest wealth.
I am you. You are me. Every single thing you said is me. I am very grateful for your bravery in creating and posting this video. I am still taking years to find a new life actually living with burnout and it is not easy at all accepting that I can't do what I used to do. It's nice to hear validation that a slower life has brought you peace. I'm still struggling with my value vs accomplishment. Perhaps you've created a video on that?
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I'm happy this video was helpful for you! I can relate to struggling with value vs accomplishment :) Even though I don't really think like that anymore, it's hard to stop old habits like that haha. It can be difficult when you'd like to do more, or work more, etc, and your body is just letting you know it won't go there. But the difference is just acceptance, I think. And loving your body and your health for all that it's doing for you, supporting you in all your endeavors, even though it's being clear about what your limits are. Hope that makes sense :)
@@SimpleHappyZen I also wanted you to know that it means a lot to us that you responded to each comment. That's a chore in itself! It makes an otherwise lonely experience berating oneself for no longer being an overachiever realize that we are a community. Thank you for the reminder to respect and listen to this little body. That really is the way out of burnout. That and the hope of finding something in which to "flow"... that respectful activity that brings joy to where you don't realize time has passed.
Thank you for this video. I don't have burnout as such but have struggled with chronic fatigue for years and find it hard to get the balance right with how much work and exercise etc I can manage without feeling totally wiped out! I also discovered I was a HSP a couple years ago which makes a lot of sense. I also rarely make time to do something fun, I feel guilty when there's so many chores in front of me. But the other day I actually sat and did some painting with watercolours and I felt more rested afterwards than I have in a long time! So I'm totally realising that having some fun is an absolute necessity for health and wellbeing!
I am so happy you are feeling well again.... burn out can hit you in a blink of an eye My daughter after she gave birth to my granddaughter went into heart failure, it is a miracle she is still with us, it was very dangerous, and the cardiologist told us she was the first patient he ever had with the type of heart failure my daughter had to actually live thru it, so I was taking care of her and my new granddaughter, plus the stress of hoping my daughter would survive gave me burn out. One day I woke up with palpitations and a fast heart beat, I felt I was having a heart attack, I went to the ER and after testing the Doctors told me it was post traumatic stress, I needed to take time for myself, relax, and calm down, it took me about 6 months to feel like myself again, I have learned to rest, relax and not let that happen to me again. Stress can really take a toll on us, there is a happy ending my daughter was lucky her heart went back to normal, with no damage, although she was told no more children, because it would most likely happen again.
Thanks so much for sharing your story Christine! Wow.... that's a lot. I can totally get how stressful that must've been for everyone involved!! I'm so happy to hear you're doing better and your daughter and granddaughter are healthy :) Take care!
the palpitations etc sounds like a panic attack and those are terrifying especially when they hit you out of the blue! if they happen again my best advice (as someone who has started having them again after a decade thanks to this pandemic) is to talk yourself through it - 'you're having a panic attack. you are ok. breathe in 2 3 4 hold 2 3 4 out 2 3 4 5 6' just knowing what it is and knowing you will be ok and reinforcing that with your thoughts helps me so much and really shortens the duration of the attack. Glad your daughter is feeling better!
This June it will be 5 years since I burnt out big time. Burnout lead to major depression and for me it took at least 2 years, changing careers and moving to another city to relearn what healthy living means. Vera, I can relate to everything you said. So many things I experienced somewhat similarly. Yes life won’t ever be the same again - but that’s a good thing. And although a certain tenderness may linger, there’s also resilience that proves itself in new challenges that come our way. Last autumn my life changed in a drastic way (husband left out of the blue). Myself and everyone around me is still amazed at how well I’m coping and what kind of inner strength is carrying me through. In matter of months I rebuilt my life and am almost thriving now. I used to hesitate calling myself fully recovered because I‘m still taking antidepressants. But I think I‘m almost there.
Thanks so much for sharing your story and yes, you're absolutely right. While things didn't go back to being the same as before, they're different but that's good. We're building resilience :) Happy to hear you're doing better and I hope things will continue to improve and go well for you!! Take care
Through your videos, I have just discovered that I am a HSP and that I burn out very easily. (I kind of always knew but I didn't know there was an actual valid term for it) I feel so, so guilty whenever I have to take a day off, especially when it is a mental health day where I can't just look at the thermometer and KNOW I have a fever. I'm grateful that TH-cam recommended me your videos and I am hoping I can find some more tips on balancing my life in a way that feels both productive and relaxing.
I just came off three months leave for burnout, and started a new job, but I've realized I have jumped in way too hard too fast. In reality I am still very much recovering and need to approach things differently than I did before. So many of the things you said in this video resonated with me, thank you for sharing your experiences!
Thanks for the video. I am a proud HSP too!! It took me two years to recover from living and working overseas. And 6-12 months to recover from a toxic workplace. Loved the importance of of fun and doing self-care when you don't think you need it! Beautiful words!!! Normalising it all it so healthy and lessens the shame! :-)
I am sorry you had to suffer at a toxic workplace. I am going through something similar. Your story and that of others gives hope to those of us who are just starting on the recovery.
It's really helpful to hear that I'm not the only one still struggling to recover from burnout after months. Thanks for sharing your experience. Happy healing everyone!
During my breakdown I couldn't see any way out. I learnt so much from it for which I am grateful. I moved country (out of the city to a rural mountain, again I am grateful for being able to do that) I have episodes of severe stress & I'm still working on that (I cannot deal with not being in control). Many thanks for your video. 🙏💜
Thank you. As someone who is sleeping 16 hours a day, with very little energy when I am awake, this notion of "burn out" could well be the reason. I just hadn't realised. I'll now watch more of your vlogs. x
Is there anyone else here who feels burnt out from being a mom? Unfortunatly it's not a job I can leave... I love my kids to pieces but I'm running in survival mode. This is not living. I don't feel joy or love. I'm like an empty shell struggling hard to meet everyone's needs. Especially my needs get pushed off the edge every single day. My day just doesn't have enough hours to get me to recharge properly. I'm constantly tired. Anyone else here with similar expirence? And how did you deal with it? Feeling very lost in myself
@@Kath-Erina can you hire a nanny more often? or have your family members or friends take care of the kids for a while? I have a friend who did that to recoop some energy, she had 4 kids and "placed" them with different friends for a couple weeks to recharge. It helped. But even just a half a day there and there could help you
All along I thought I was just lazy and beat myself up for it.. I didn’t know that I was already burnt out and zapped of all life energy from my previous job. Thank you for sharing this, I feel like I’m not alone anymore and feel so heard.
Thanks for addressing this topic. I have dealt with burnout, too, and am still working on my recovery habits even though I’m working again. I think that burnout is sometimes not recognized enough because society always wants us to just keep going and going.
Thanks so much Amber. Yes I fully agree and I also experienced pressure from both my job as well as my doctor to go back to work when I wasn't even remotely ready. It's such a shame that things have to be like this sometimes.. Even more important for us to do what we can to take good care of ourselves :) Take good care and let me know if you ever want to talk recovery habits. You know where to find me :)
Due to hiring issues im now doing the job of 2.5 people and I've been working weekends, late nights, on my own birthday and even on leave and am so burnt out. This video helped put some important things into perspective...thanks for this
Good timing. I was just thinking about this last week feeling like I'm about to go into another one. This channel is such a cozy corner of the internet. 🙂
That's so sweet of you to say, thank you :) I agree, we have such a wonderful community here. Take care of yourself and I hope you'll feel better soon!
Totally with you on number 2. I remember when I burnt out and went to see a psychologist, and she asked me what I did for fun and I was literally stumped with that question! It hadn’t occurred to me that fun was something to prioritise or was even possible with all the hectic day to day stuff. Still working on this point so thank you for the reminder.
Amazing video, thank you for sharing your experience. Your story is so similar to mine. I suffered with severe burn-out and it has taken me about 5 years to recover (and I'm still not fully better). Like you I am a highly sensitive person (and was later diagnosed with autism), and I was struggling with juggling a number of stressful things in my life (toxic workplace, ovarian cancer, and my relationship ending). I developed very bad insomnia, and when I did sleep I would have night terrors and wake up screaming in the middle of the night. I was so burnt out that I lost a lot of my executive functioning because my brain just couldn't cope anymore, and I ended up needing to leave my job. I was just a zombie who wanted to sleep all day because I had nothing left to give. I went from being an extremely successful high achiever to disabled and unable to function in society anymore. It has been a difficult 5 years, but like you said, just gotta keep taking baby steps and understand that my timeline for healing may take longer than other people. Your advice to "redefine success" is valuable and true - what I saw as successful before the burn out is very different to what I see as success now. I now prioritise my health, and I understand my limits better, so I can avoid putting myself in stressful situations.
So grateful to find this video, almost 5 months of taking a career gap, avoiding people, not sleeping normally, too scared to meet my friends and family because I was worried it would drain my energy. I always ask myself every wake up when it is over. Thanks for sharing your experiences, I will take baby steps with no worries.
Actually I just realized that I think I have a burn out I can relate to all the things you said .. let alone it’s hard enough being a sensitive person living in toxic workplace & relationships & trying to be on top of the game trying to do everything right so not to feel guilty it’s exhausting.Thankyou for talking about this important topic.
I reached my complete burnout by end of 2014. I had worked too hard, had not taken care of myself, had abused my body for 14 long years. I am an HSP too and I didn't know about it!! I wanted to quit it all and take a break. I had nothing left in me to give to the world. But, had to wait till mid-2016 to actually start that break because of my financial obligations. I did nothing, literally nothing, for 14 months starting May'16. Five years since I took that break, today I feel I am still recovering mentally and physically. But I am in a much much better place today. I think I will never heal completely. And I am fine with that. I am happy to be just alive and gainfully employed. I thought that I was gonna die. Watching this video made me reflect on all these things. Everything you said resonated with me deeply. Thanks for the video, much love 😘
November 2019 was the month I burned out. Horrible timing because then we went into the pandemic and home schooling and working from home. I have really learned to take care of myself. Took yesterday off and took a nap and went shopping just for FUN! I really related to the part of this video where you talked about your relationship with FUN! I do things just for fun now, not to accomplish something! Good luck everyone who is in the thick of burn out. It can and will get better!
I'm so happy I've come across someone else who went thru the same thing as me, I'm an HSP/INFJ whatever you call it and I suffered a severe burnout 3 years ago and experienced some serious symptoms that has taken almost 3 years to recover from. I've changed my entire lifestyle that is my job and personal life and a bit of my personality as well. I really like how honest you are and so attentive to talk about such minute details that I never even thought of, glad to have found you.
Hey my friends, thanks for being here. 🍵🌷 What did you take away from this video that applies to your situation?
Not to have control of everything, I tent to burn myself and never really have truly happiness. Thank you Vera, will be using you advice as a weekly reminder 🙂
I am recovering from burn out. I feel better after 4 months and a half. I want to go back to work în August. I saw all your videos about this subject. They were very helpfull. Thank you for sharing.
Taking a daily nap can help renew your energy plus helping out
especially people you love is uplifting ...
@@sinzianapopa5732 im glad to hear that after 4 months you recovered and are in a position to go back to work. I worry that if i quit, i won't want to ever return to a corporate job but know that I will need to due to some students loans.
Thank you so much for your video! I related to each word you said, except I am still recovering and accepting all the proccess... The guilt part is the most difficult one for me 😔
Love from Portugal
When I quit my job because of my burnout I knew it was a life or death choice to me. I chose my health over money and thank God I did. Needless to say that the recovery was long. On the last day of work I came home and my body just shut down. I would sleep 16 hours a day but in sequences. I would wake up, eat something and then all of a sudden I would pass out on the couch for 5 hours with no recollection of falling asleep. This went on for a whole month. My body decided to take matters into its own hands because I wasn't able to make any decisions. That month of rest was like a rebirth. When it ended I felt like I was coming out of a coma that had lasted during the whole time I was at my job. Just a black hole I was leaving behind. Never choose your job over your well-being.
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences Kat. It sounds very intense.. Actually I can relate toa lot of it. Falling asleep pretty much on the floor or on the couch.. Strange how we can push ourselves to that limit. I'm happy to hear you're doing better. :) Take good care!
May I ask how you paid your bills while not working? I am struggling with severe burnout but cannot afford to take time off. I have considered ending my life because of this. How did you do it? I feel so trapped.
@@GS-cg3yn I had money on the side. This was money that was going to go towards home renovations hence why I had it saved up, unfortunately I had to use it to pay the bills... I would advise you to find someone you can rely on (depending on your age - parents, siblings, friends, husband/wife) and ask them if they could help (financially, or let you crash on the couch for free) until you find a different job. I find that rent is the most expensive thing on the list, so if you can save money on that, it would be great. It is difficult but not impossible, you just have to push through. Just please do not give up because of a life-sucking job. There were so many times I wanted to die just thinking of going to the office in the morning, but that was 6 years ago and now looking back at it I see how much I would've missed on in life. So you can do it as well I am sure of it, you've already come this far. Be well and stay strong.❤
@@GS-cg3yn there's always a way to escape !
We're living in real toxic world,
So realize that ,
Focus on what you want !
Than you'll restore your balance,,,,
@@miao752 🙄 Ugh. Seriously? What a clueless things to say. No, there is not “always a way to escape” and “focusing on what you want” doesn’t do anything if you’re so burned out that brushing your teeth takes monumental effort. You don’t understand the level of burnout these people are talking about and I am genuinely glad you don’t.
I’ve never heard someone say recovering from burnout can take more than a few months. I thought there was something else wrong with me. Thank you for sharing your experience and encouraging others. I needed to hear this!
I can relate to thinking there's something wrong when recovery takes this long.. I frequently felt broken beyond repair. All I can say is, it does get better :) A burnout doesn't build up in a few months, so we don't have to expect to heal from it in a few months either :) Take good care my friend, enjoy your Sunday!!
It sounds like chronic fatigue syndrome
no you're definitely not alone. Also get yourself checked out by a doctor because stress can deplete your body in so many ways - i was chronically low on a bunch of vitamins as a result and while i didn't feel emotionally better i was at least able to get through a day without needing to sleep for 18 hours
I'm currently 5 months into my recovery and the first thing my psychiatric nurse told me was that burnout takes 1 year on average to recover from. And every struggle in that time makes it take longer. Wish you the best!
@@anniegoomes8585 You're right. The problem with that though is that it is just a syndrome, a made up name that is almost useless as these symptoms are quite basic and can stem from many different things that might have better treatments. The problem with the entire medical system (and 1 reason why I'm against a forced national "free" healthcare system) is that it is almost entirely allopathic (patented drugs). These things sometimes work ok when you have a clear diagnosis, but when a system of Dr's label you with terms like chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, chronic pain syndrome, chronic migraines, etc., they have a very drug centered approach where many of these drugs can do more harm then good, in both the short and long term. I can safely say my life spiralled after being a human guinea pig for so many years. I wish I had never gone down that route. I just wish they were more honest about what they do and don't know. Some great Dr's out there, but most of them don't understand how little of a perspective they have on health. Many of their years studying are spent on repeated propaganda and dogmatic pseudoscience and they are too prideful to admit that maybe just maybe they didn't get the best health education. They teach a system that is profit/politically driven and they leave out information that is just outright dangerous for the health and happiness of all those who rely on "conventional medicine".
Of course, if I got in a terrible accident or needed emergency surgery, conventional medicine can be invaluable.
I’ve been suffering from burnout for a while now, having cared for my father who had dementia, my marriage collapsed due too infidelity on his part, then my mother died of cancer all in a few years, the stress was unbearable, and now I’ve cut certain people out of my life, who were not supportive enough, I have left social media platforms like Facebook, just watch certain things that I’m interested in or are helpful to me, and left two jobs I was juggling that I wasn’t happy with, I’ve started just working part time and it’s all I can handle at the moment, I’ve been working & raising a family and caring for others all my life, it’s my time now and I’m going to put myself first now, it’s not being selfish it’s called self care.
I remember from long ago my boss telling me, "Everyone can be replaced." It sounded ominous then, but I learned that it can actually be a great relief.
I get that :) Although I might feel a bit weird about it too, if it came from my boss hahaha. Guess it really depends on the way they said it. But in the end, knowing that we aren't irreplaceable may hurt our ego a little bit, but it can be incredibly freeing. :)
There is a certain freedom in knowing you can leave.
Its so true
Our boss says exactly this as a threat to try to get unbending compliance, but I think he forgets that this sentiment must also includes himself! ;)
I also felt relief when my boss told me the same. Actually he explained me that he feels happy when the reason the person is leaving is because s/he learnt and developed so much in his team that s/he feels empowered to do greater tasks which are important to them, because then he did everything right at the personnel development, even so he is sad losing a good employee.
"Life is a party but you have to bring your own decorations." That alone is worth watching.
I agree
Thank you so much!!! :) Take care and let's start decorating :)
Omg...you sound so much like me! Especially about relaxing...
Zeker weten!
Het leven is een feestje maar je moet [alleen|wel] zelf de slingers ophangen! (It's nobody else's job to make your life fun for you!)
When you are a over achiever, a controle freak, healing from burn out is a Challenge because we are not in control of anything anymore. We have to accept to rest and it feels horrible
I hate working so much. It kills my soul, my spirit. This is all of any job. I am just not cut out for working. I need to find a way out ♥️. I'm so forefilled when I'm just at home or spending my day, walking, cleaning, steam room, cooking, gym, yoga. Go for coffee, bike ride, self care. I don't know how anybody can say they would get bored if not working. I'm my own best friend. I would never tire of loving myself and hanging around with myself.
Me too!!
Mooooood! I've tried to tell my (Boomer) parents this, but they just think there's something wrong with me! I hate it so much! ;A;
@@7Write4This9Heart7 it's not natural. We have only been like this for 200 years. Humans have never lived this unatural. Please tell me what is so forefilling about sitting infront of a pc all day in an office with people you wouldn't chill with in life. Or at a bank or in retail or custoner service - is this life is it? Ggrrr
@@kimhandley1523 RIGHT?? THANK YOU! I don't understand how my parents and other people don't understand! (Well, I do, kinda - they were indoctrinated into the capitalist bootlicker BS and just went with it, ew.) Preach! In the old days, people found smth they were good at and did it and they were happy and fulfilled! That's how it should be! IF I could, I'd just write my novels, but my parents won't let me 'cause 'it's not realistic'! (And I'm so exhausted in all ways - physically, mentally, emotionally - from my awful, dead end, uncaring (retail/customer service) job that I don't have the energy leftover to work on them! ;A;) It's the worst! Our society today is the worst! Makes no sense and is SO soul crushing for everyone! I can ABSOLUTELY see why depression and suicide rates are sky high! I've been unfortunately susceptible to such feelings lately! ;A;
@@7Write4This9Heart7 exactly sweetheart 🥰
If anyone else is stressed out and overloaded by cleaning, something that helped me is learning to clean with intention. I no longer clean just to get it out of the way. I actually take it slow, correct my posture, enjoy the process, and I feel more satisfied when it's done.
I just had to learn to relax, stop using as many harsh chemicals, and do tasks one at a time.
I've been doing this but STILL felt guilty. Your comment makes the guilty feeling be lifted! Thank you. 💯🙏🏽💕🥰👑
Such a great way to look at it!! I will implement this as well! :D
I hate cleaning. But I enjoy living in a clean space.
So I try to motivate myself by decomposing each task into simpler, smaller tasks that feel less tiring AND by thinking about how grateful with myself future will be when it's done. :)
Do you have suggestions of cleaners that aren’t harsh but clean bathrooms well? I mostly stick to vinegar and water in the house but tubs, shower doors, showers and sinks I use Clorox cleanup and zep mold and mildew they give me a headache. This makes me greatly dislike cleaning these areas.
@@lilarose9348 I know that this is a very late reply to your comment, but I like the Method and Grove brands. They have a nice fragrance selection and clean really well.
I burned out really bad in a toxic work culture for 3 years then went to another toxic work place. At that time, I didn't even know I was allowed to have fun in my life or to feel happy. I was in full on survival mode. That was 2 years ago and I still have such a hard time telling my body that I can rest and relax. I've got to admit I don't know what it means to relax. I've traveled a lot since and it's helped but the day to day hustle is definitely draining.
I am a 55 year old man and I have subscribed to your channel. I find you exceptionally wise and you really get me thinking. Thank you. My personal burn out situation came to a head about 3 years ago. For some 25 years I had been in the same technical trade and eventually owned my own company. Things got to the point where I hated getting up in the morning, could only manage to focus and work half days and found myself dependant on alcohol. 3 years ago I finally broke and could not do it anymore. It took about a year of doing nothing and then doing a complete career change, nothing even closely related, to finally feel half normal again. I now work full days and have a very mundane job, not the stress type of before and I feel things (mentally) are finally looking up. I am planning on retirement in 3 years. I stumbled upon your channel after this whole experience but listening to what you said of your situation, it seemed similar. I value your videos and your reasoning with inner problems and I will continue to watch them. Thank you again! Terry.
Thank so much Terry, for sharing your story!! I'm so happy for you that things are looking up :) And you have your retirement in 3 years to look forward to as well :) Thanks so much and have a wonderful day!
This resonates so much with me. Me and my husband have been running a business for the last 10 yrs and I find it increasingly harder to get out of bed. I have lost all motivation and even things I used to find enjoyment in are now in the "too hard basket" as I have no energy left for myself. Negative thoughts way on me constantly, but on the other hand I keep trying to push through everything as that's what I've heard/done my whole life. I feel like I'm too far in since we own the business, but I constantly wish for a different life
Hi Terry I'm a 52 year old male and have been a subscriber for ages. I have also just retrained and switched careers into a more mundane job but I prefer less stress and I'll just adapt to less money, I'd rather have my peace of mind and less anxiety. I think Vera is very wise like you said, ahead of her years in many ways! She just speaks to me and I value everything she says. She clearly spends a lot of time making such quality videos for us to enjoy. You can binge watch her whole back catalogue now!
@@amac1153 Hi there, I am empathetic to your situation. Sometimes being self-employed, owning a business can be very difficult to get out of positively. In my case my former employer purchased all of my inventory if I agreed to come back for a year, which I did. In the end I got rid of my biggest cost, inventory, but short of that I left the rest behind and moved on. I dont know your situation and I am not in a professional position to comment but I do know how mentally and physically taxing it can be. I truly hope things work out and you both find happiness.
@@TimelordUK Yes she is great! I appreciate the reply.
I had a burnout 8 years ago. And I would say that it took me 6 years to recover completely from it. It has been a very long journey getting to know myself, learning to fix boundaries and allowing myself to let life flow. I still remember very well that sensation of being completely lost and feel useless, but now that I feel good again (without any doubt better than ever) I think it is probably the best it could have happened to me...It has been an opportunity to start over with a solid foundation and respect for myself.
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful story Charlotte 😊⚘ Take care!
@charlotte what did you do to recover?
Thank you so much for sharing this. I keep wondering how long it would take and what changes I need to make. I'm glad to know there's nothing wrong with me, I'm just recovering.
It is a depression, not “burnout”.
@@f1amesoffummm no. I've experienced depression. Burnout was a whole new thing. It isn't easily fixed with proper medication and simple lifestyle tweaks. It was a complete shutting down on every level and a checking out of everything and everyone. I couldn't engage with anything. I couldn't think about what to do next. It was just like she described, where after I quit my job, all I did was sleep for months. It was all the adrenaline I was summoning to do my job just went away after I quit and there was nothing left to help me function. There is a component of burnout that resembles depression, because how could you not feel depressed when you feel completely adrift with no motor to power you in any particular direction. But depression is not synonymous with burnout. Not even close.
I’ve been an OR nurse for 27 years and the stress, exhaustion, and burnout I feel is almost debilitating. I have 5 years to retirement so I’m trying to push through. I told my husband half jokingly that when I retire I’m going to sit and stare at a wall for a year, go into therapy for a year, and then begin the rest of my life.
If your husband is working look at what early retirement would look at. I did it and the dollar impact wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
I wonder how you are doing now. I have 4 yrs to go until early retirement, it feels much longer. Toxic workplace. But I will sacrifice my pension if I leave before early retirement and I just cannot do that.
I worked in health care in a medical center for 14.5 years and then transitioned to a local health department for 25 years in public health. My god…I gave my heart and soul and for what? Nothing! This institution post covid have recruited all younger professionals to replace us.
@@PrairieGirlioI’m in the same situation. I need to wait 6 more months to get the last cost of living increase to add to my pension and I’m in a toxic workplace post COVID (local health department ) and simply dread even doing one more day there. I have complete burn out from the dysfunctional mainstream workplace.
Work 50%.
It's been over a year since I burned out. It was awful to know that a job I was good at and that once meant so much to me was terrible for my physical and mental health. I had to step back and after a year, I realized I had to step out for good. Covid helped me prioritize my life again. My hubby, my kids, my art, my writing are my focus and I'm 1000% happier now.
I'm so happy to hear you're doing better and feeling happier now. :) For me too, burnout as well as the pandemic helped me to prioritize and take a step back, focusing more on the things that are truly important. I can relate to the feeling that comes with the realization that our careers might not be the best thing for our health...
I am in same page like you. I left my teaching job 1 year back. Now my priority is my family life and my paintings.
@@tasniaahmed9597 hi! Do you make a living from your paintings?
@@belmapalaciosgonzalez6396 Not yet. Its my hobby.
Relaxing is not the same thing as recharging....🤯 WOW!
Glad that resonated with you :) Take care and have a lovely day!
nnnnnnnooooo,,,,it is not, that is true...
That shook me up as well.
@@SimpleHappyZen i think this was one of my key takeaways, I have always been "relaxing" (doing nothing) but not "recharging" and always feeling guilty for doing nothing constructive and wondering why am I still feeling so sick and tired despite resting so much
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I burned out from an incredibly stressful job in late 2016. I am physically unable to return to work even today. I have had to totally redefine my self worth and it’s been a journey and struggle. The anxiety and depression along the road to recovery can be so debilitating. I do not remember the first 6 months and the first two years were so hard. Each year gets better but with a different measuring stick. I will never be like I used to be and probably that is for the best. It’s not possible to keep working 70 hrs a week in high stress environments. I am actually forever changed. It’s ok. I was so so sick. It’s hard to explain to others. If I was in a wheelchair and learning to walk again it would be easier for others to understand. Burnout and mental health seems so much harder to grasp unless you meet someone who has been through it. This is an excellent video and very relatable.
Would you say you are fully 100% healed by now?
Oh thank you for your comment! I relate SO much. 💓
I truly hope you are fully recovered now. Sound you had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I did as well for 4 years. Was extremly hard to recover but i did it. Raelan Agle youtube channel has dozen of fully recovery stories for inspiration
I am experiencing the 3rd burnout in the Last two years. They have been happening about every 6 to 8 months. I get better and do it all over again. Ive lost a lot of friends and pushed people away bc I didnt know myself what I was experiencing. I felt weak and too ashamed. My probation officer definitely doesnt understand. LOL. But I am so relieved. Ive asked the universe for understanding. I then somehow began to see these videos in my feed. I dont feel powerless anymore.
I have been suffering through burnout for the past 3 years and I relate to you 100%. And yes, its extremely hard to make others understand! They think that we wantedly laze around and be a burden to them!!!
I read the book “Burnout” by the Nagoskis. It really hit home. What you are saying is what so many of us are feeling. I’m not in a financial position to take a couple of years off, but I am putting limits on the time I spend on my job. I matter. My health is important. Days off are important. Thank you for this video. 🙏
I will try the book you mentioned, thanks for that 👍
Thanks so much for sharing, I'll check out the book as well. You're absolutely right in what you said! Hope you'll feel better soon, sending a big hug your way
Baby steps if you can't leave your job. I'm in burnout recovery for a couple years now and I"m pursing other careers where I can work from home. I would recommend that, find other jobs online. There's a plethora of info all over for that, namaste.
I hope this will work for you. Clear boundaries at work, taking your breaks at work to recharge, and lots of self-care at home to refill that tank helped me bridge the gap until I had enough saved up to leave my 9-5.
I'm in burnout recovery and at first i was hard on myself for sleeping so much .. and feeling the need to "do" now i am finally not hard on myself and i feel like i am finally recovering
Thanks so much for sharing Sara and it's absolutely 100% okay to take it easy and sleep as long as you need to! Take good care, sending a big hug. Hope you'll feel better soon
I too am in burnout recovery but didn't really recognize it as such. I quit my toxic job 5 months ago. I have slept so much. I have invested in programs to start my own ecommerce laptop lifestyle but having real challenges to complete anything. Now I am getting concerned about income running out. Not feeling ready to apply for jobs. Thanks for being open and putting this out there. It helped me in a way I didn't know it would. Going to learn more about burnout. I appreciate this space to open up about what I am going through. Thank you!
It also took me over 2.5 years, but today I feel so good, better than years before the Burnout. I have had depression, anxiety and panic attacks and extreme sleep disorders and a lot more. Everything is gone! Greetings from Germany!
Thank you so much for sharing Marco and I'm so happy to hear you're doing so much better!
@Anna Anna Hello Anna, i dont know your life storry and my english is not so good, but i changed nearly all things in my life that where negative to my physical an mental health. Its not one thing, there are more then 15 things i changed. From food till meditation every day, job change, be daily in nature, learning a lot about health and more.
@Anna Anna Hey Anna! First thing to do is believe that you will get better.It takes time.Be patient with yourself.Don't criticize yourself or others.Expect nothing from anyone.Walk.You need to be outside getting exercise.You are connected to everything and everything is connected you.Be open.Don't cut yourself off from life.Observe the beauty of life.Your life is a gift given to you.Treat every moment as something precious.If you are depressed or down tell yourself that this time will pass and there are better things to come.Also I recommend listening to and watching positive things on television and your mobile phone or ipad or whatever you have.Lastly,I recommend listening to Eckhart Tolle.He has many videos.Just listen and see if you can get something from what he has to say.I wish you well .💚
Hey please did you take medication ?
u’re kidding! I’m around 2 years and a half past my burnout, depression and anxiety disorder diagnosis. Still recovering, but waaay better now. I also live in Germany. I read your comment and was like ‘wait but I didn’t say anything here yet’ 😅🤣 (Editing: now I saw your comment is from 2 years ago. still cool tho)
My college burnout lead to depression that took a full 5 years to finally see some level of recovery from. The stress of 2 high pressure healthcare programs and ignoring my needs for the demands of others really did me in. It has been almost 10 years since onset now, and i still deal with a lot of anxiety and panic when i think about school, work, and dealing with stressful situations.
I learned the hard way about burnout. I had heard about it but thought it only happened to medical students. I hit a brick wall. Severe depression, complete apathy and inability to focus, my OCD was off the charts, and I was extremely emotionally unstable. I am 4 months out and feeling better, but I still don't feel all that motivated. I'm focusing on self care.
My burn out happened last year...walked away from everything....working in a toxic company...where no matter how hard ya worked it wasnt enough...being salaried employee a 70-80 work week was the norm...i hated that i actually woke up in the morning...my health suffered, my hair falling out, auto immune illnesses...then one day when I was in my i really dont care anymore moods...I flat out walked into work quit...went home, through my stuff in storage and moved back to Florida ( my home state)... Got a simple job with Flamingos... For no other reason than these birds make me happy. Now i see i dont need or want all that stuff in storage and am planning a trip to clear it out....i have more time to spend with my 91 year old mom, family and friends...i feel i have deflated, im not in a pressure cooker anymore...my blood sugar under control... no im not making near the money i was...and my home is very small.my family thinks im nuts for walking away from the rat race...but im so much happier, calmer...even toying with the idea of living in a camper and go see and do the things ive read about in books, the giant redwoods, the grand canyon...eat a lobster in Maine....eat some gumbo in New Orleans....im 56...ive raised my children, now i think its time to make a million memories intead of buying a million things....
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I’m so glad I found this. I’m burned out. This morning I said to my husband I’ve had a breakdown of sorts. In the last 3 years I’ve had 2 babies, lost my sister, adopted my niece, have an autoimmune disease all while being a highly sensitive person. I haven’t taken proper care of myself. I never really learned that skill
I feel you..I felt this almost 5 yrs ago and it was never easy specially when your friends and family don't understand what you're feeling. I quit my job and trying to take a break before taking on a new one. But most of my time was preoccupied by doing them favors, left&right, that would make you feel guilty if you say no. Most of them wouldn't take no for an answer. They think that I'm lazy and would just be a bum forever. They don't understand that I'm trying to recharge to do the things I planned before hopping to a new oppurtunity. It took me years, up until now and slowly taking steps to get back on track.
Thanks so much for sharing. It's okay to do what we need to do, and not always focus on being productive or starting a new job straight away if we have the opportunity to slow down for a while. Take care!
@@SimpleHappyZen Thanks!🙂
A very similar situation happened to me about 5 years ago. Everything after that period subsequently kept falling apart. It was a neverending nightmare.
For these situations every person should have a so called peer support group. I did not have one at the time. Took me a very long time to recover.
The same factors: 1) toxic workplace, 2) being highly sensitive, 3) family problems, 4) being an over achiever/high sense of conscientiousness are what also led to my burnout. Unfortunately I developed CFS/M.E. as a result and 20 years later I still haven't recovered. I wished I hadn't underestimated the role these combined factors would play and the extent of the damage they would bring on me. I think there needs to be more awareness on this topic. Thank you for sharing.
The funniest thing to me is how we keep each other trapped in these loops. The manager that makes you miserable is miserable themselves, and expects you not to take time for yourself because they can't or won't take time for themselves. Coworkers who are resentful of your vacations and going home early are furious they are not doing the same. We all hate this system. We are all miserable. And we all perpetuate it for each other.
excellent point
You are describing my last work place to a T.
"I got permission from a professional to let everything go and now I like to be that person to myself" 💖 yes! I will carry this with me when I go to work.
I really relate. I experienced burnout recently and felt guilty for wanting to stay in bed or watch tv all day. But I realized that that's what I needed to get better. It takes as long as it takes. You can't rush yourself.
Thank you for making this video. I really needed to hear this.
I'm happy to hear you found the video helpful Ira. I'm sorry to hear about your recent burnout experience, do what you need to do :) It'll get better. And there's no need for feeling guilty :) Take care!
How about when you have nothing to get better for? I am bullied and abused by some perverted people who constantly harass me and I also have been brutally raped when I was 15 by the same people. I am 44 now and I just realised a couple of years ago that everything bad that happened to me was organised( socially engineered) by the same people. There were really disgusting things that happened to me including fake funerals of people who supposedly died because I didn’t like them. My money were stolen from me literally and trough scams like fake courses, and if they were real than they would create situations that would upset me. How many actor were involved 😂 I have also been sexually abused by the same people. My harvest to this day due to depression associated with what happened to me and constant abuse (I am a scapegoat for them) I have no career or even job, no friends, no loving relationship and I will never have children and most likely will be alone and vulnerable (just like I was all my life really) in my old age if I live that long, if they won’t finish me or I do it myself. When I went to police they actually called somebody and I was turned away. I don’t feel any energy anymore, they drained me out. I only sustain on my anger. That’s what only keeping me alive(Apparently I have creating a drama because I question my childhood abuse and my rape when I was 15.) Abusers will do everything to keep you down and silent. And ow they promptly will delete this comment.
@@svetlanabarrow6026 look into Buddhist meditation. It is the only peace in this life. Most who do not understand suffering so cannot grasp or go into it. But as you have suffered a lot your mind is ready for Buddha's teaching. Search TH-cam for 'Ajahn Chah' as a starting point, also Ajahn Brahm.
@@rejectionistmanifesto8836 my mind ready for justice. And not for sieving trough my day, my life etc. I am a victim of sexual abuse, rape and exploitation and I want justice not looking for flows in my character.
@@svetlanabarrow6026 there is no justice in this cruel world even after infinite lives of the misery. Our only hope is to end the cycles of rebirth by following the Buddhist teachings.
After 911, years ago, I sold over half of my accounting practice, and started working out of my home. I just wanted more time to enjoy life.
Wow that's amazing, very inspirational :)
I‘m recovering from burnout since 9 month... some days are good, on others I’m able to make food for myself. Sometimes not even that. The outside world like family members, friends and especially doctors don’t know how it feels. Since one month my doctor and therapist are pressuring me because they say I need to think about what I want to do for living and start searching a new job.
This pressure is enough to make my system collapse again. Every wall is up and I’m not even strong enough to leave the house since my last appointment 4 days ago.
Good luck to everybody who is struggling at the moment. I feel you 🍀
I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling and going through a tough time. Remember that time heals and things do get easier. Try to have faith in the process, even if you feel like you're not ready for a next step, sometimes it can surprise you. As long as you take a step back again when you need to. Take care my friend, wishing you continued healing
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you 💕
I'm also a candidate for burnout. In my late twenties I got very close to collapsing. To be honest, it was a miracle that I didn't. I had sleepless nights and I stared having Tinnitus. That's when I knew that I needed to take the signs of my body seriously.
I learned from that experience that:
- I'm not irreplaceable
- I shouldn't never put my job over my own wellbeing
- I should get away from toxic people as fast as possible
- change can bring a lot of new opportunities
- taking breaks is a must
- underestimating the power of going out with friends and having fun is a big mistake
- being brave and daring to try new things (even if you don't know how to control every step of the way) is a huge chance to grow and possibly find more satisfaction in life
- things don't have to be perfect, good enough is often better
Thanks for your video!
I couldn't have said it better myself :) Thanks so much for sharing these valuable lessons. Hope you're doing well!
This is very timely. You make a good point: We don't need others' permission to take care of ourselves in the way we want or need to.
Exactly! :) Thanks Joan, have a lovely day!
I had a burn out 8 years ago. It took me 2 months of crying... then 2 months of sleeping... then 2 months of tiny baby steps to slowly come back into life... but I really learned alot about myself and now I know the very first signes of overwhelming myself and I immediately stop and do anything necessary to calm down and find inner peace again ❤️
That is overwhelmed but not burn-out.......Burned out means ..............that you were completely burn out.........to the ashes, to the bottom .....And that is correct, it takes 2 years or more to get out of that place.....or never....not 2 months.......Your case were just stressed out and tired (because it is psychologically, mentally and physically you got burned and disappointed ......not stressed out.......stressed out = means you feel danger - but you still can be very productive. Now I have a method to know if I am stressed out and tired.....But not a method to get out of it......yes a few things that can help, but it is not a method...BURN OUT MEANS YOU ARE TOTALLY NUMB -LIKE A ROBOT. Then suddenly , fun is very important .......but that is actually , because you are sick....You sound tooo rational and balanced, this means you did not have a burn out......She did... th-cam.com/video/NK-rIVi4nLI/w-d-xo.html this is what a burn out person , will watch........If you hate this burn out video, when you are at home ....alone .....and you don t watch, if you have a burn out but you are not alone , but with people, still all the time ...that is not a burn out either......That is escaping...
Its been two years since i started my recovery. For a long time, i thought 'recovery' meant going back to be who i was and have the life i had. Now i know that i will never be the same, and my life wont ever be the same. And it shouldn't be anyway. It was a huge lesson to learn to be less demanding on myself and my path in life. There is so much beauty and success in living life one step at a time 🙏❤
Its been 5 years for me since my Burn out slash Dark night of the soul, I'm still learning to rest, I think the recovery depends on the damage/abuse you suffered, decades in my case, since I was born and not knowing I was autistic and an empath, what no one tells you is that recovering and healing is also painful, you have to purge all that hurt you didn't even knew you were accumulating, and the process is brutal.
Amen 🙏
Oh yes🙏, so relate. Sometimes even you reach rock bottom and you find rock bottom has a basment.. and you still keep going.. no one supporting you, no one standing up for your abuse.. no one believing or taking your voice seriously. Yet you still keep on because you have to... then one day, no matter how strong you think you are over the trauma,fear, panic attacts and flashbacks .. something comes and is the last straw that breaks the camels back.. and your body takes over.. crash, burn, full on burnout.. it feels like youre going crazy.. nobody understands.. you cant get out of bed, ill sick.. cant do the,' you have to pick yourself up 'just one more time', f*ck all the 'find new goals and passions' or 'gods gonna help me if I pray hard enough' or 'force yourself to be happy', 'forget and move on...' etc, etc, you feel like a wet towel no energy left, floppy, cant no more.., can't people understand I can't?! Shop sign turned to closed, crawl into bed and hybernate for god knows how long until time will supply some sort of energy again.. everything you sacrificed for everything seems for nothing.. and even at your worst, despite very good at hiding it, there is no one there for you, if there is nothing more of your empathetic and patients, loving energy to exert.. nobody is there. At this point you feel you dont have anything left.. like a wounded worrier and hero full of deep invisable severe scars from constantly fighting dragons for others and for your own justice... yet the people who you saved come around mocking while you are on the floor.. "youre no hero!", look at you... can you relate? Probably many can, but we rarely have the courage to talk about it... and the healing... gosh, how much more pain and willpower to survive that! People make it seem like once you get out its a piece of cake... but god the healing in itself afterwards is a huge monster waiting on the other side to overcome... just to sense abit of normality..and the healing can take years and years...! But anyways, the post has come out way longer than I expected, Ill stop now, aha
Would you say you are fully 100% healed by now?
@@DivineLogos Personally I think when one goes through that much, nobody gets 100% fully healed. Humanity in general each individually will go through their own bumps and bruises and everyone heals differently. It will shape us. Sometimes healing will end up with a scab or scarring that will forever stay, other time it fades and 'heals' but it still in some way shapes us and bends us and or energy sapping.
Its simply generally whos demons or enjoyable traits you as an individual in general can cope with and who can manage to cope with yours.
Its first instance I guess is the question how well we can manage with ourselves as survivors day in day out living with the trauma and obviously finding some 'balms', techniques to heal, 'therapy', time, etc... some of us ending up healthier, some left with unhealthy ways to cope with whatever often cannot be processed.. and sometimes a mix of both. And sometimes the psycho somatic injury withers quickly and 'heals', and sometimes its unfortunately is a life sentance, no matter how much years of 'therapy' you get, and endless search of right ones, and sometimes we know its enough for us and resign to living and excepting what is, like a cancer that will never go. And as much as it would be helpful that others understand that, sometimes its the hardest for ourselves to stomach that, knowing sometimes we may never get justice, or looking to a future not knowing when the physical and emotional pain will ever stop, despite trying one's hardest, and coping too by being hit over the head by said healthy people with 'you just have to', 'get over it already, forget and move on' 'just be positive, do law of attraction and it will all work out' 'pray to god and fast and give ALL of yourself to him, because you haven't'... etc; it doesn't work that way. Somedays may be 'better' and some days worse, and other days hit mercilessly over and over again by your own mind with your own traumas and tormentors, panic generated from yourself you can't scream no to make it stop, youre like a genie in a bottle of horror. No there is no 100% heal, there is only doing the best day by day with what we've got. There are no two 100% healed people in a = perfect so called healthy relationship... nobody, and I mean nobody, gets out of this life unscathed, its the nature of the beast, just some are fortunate that it is less than others... but personally what irks me most is the ignorance of people who have lets just call it more 'lucky' or privileged life that mindlessly, relentlessly and firmly add insult to injury.. not just because they dont have the understanding because they haven't been through it, but simply lacking the empathy to even try to use their mind to understand. Enough said for now I guess. Peaceout.
@@leahc8347 lol. Short summary please?
Self-care for me is a habit that I need to do it every single day. It's more like vitamin rather than medicine. Thank you so much, Vera. Have a lovely day
I like that :) Thanks for sharing Verena. 🤗🍵💕
Thank you Vera for this. I'm an occupational therapist in Sweden working with people with the most severe form of burnout. This type of content is so important for breaking down the stigma often associated with mental health issues. Burnout can be quite an isolating health situation so thank you 🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words Theresa, I agree it's so important to talk about burnout. Maybe I'll make more videos about it in the future :) Have a wonderful day!
After leaving an exhausting managerial job 3 years ago and recently losing a parent who needed care when I was not at work , I realized how automated and apathetic I had become just trying to cope. I have a whole new outlook on life now. It feels like a new beginning. Love your inspiration ! You are appreciated!
Thanks so much for sharing Kathleen. I'm so sorry for your loss with losing your parent. Sending happy and healing vibes your way! Take care my friend 🌺🤗 Wishing you lots of fun with your new beginning :)
Good luck on your new journey xx
"automated and apathetic...." I have been feeling the same way. I have known it was burnout for ages, but still feel tremendous guilt for having no appetite to work. Sorry for your loss, by the way.
Thank you for sharing, Kathleen. Really helpful
I've had your level of burnout and know how difficult it is. It's so important to ignore what others may think about it and focus on getting well, no matter how long it takes. During that time, I found out how IMPORTANT your health truly is. Thank you for your commentary!
I spent years trying to live up to peoples' expectations, but after suffering burnout I've taken time-out to enjoy my retirement. It was easy to take on extra shifts, fill family and friends' obligations. But with health-problems, I had a wake-up call and realized peace of mind is far more important 🌼🕊️
Love what you shared, thank you so much :) Take care and have a lovely rest of your weekend!
It’s wonderful that you have learned all of this at your age! I’m 60 and have just realized a lot of these things. It goes to show that no matter your age you can learn new things about yourself and make your life more enjoyable!
Thank you so much Sandra and I agree, it's not about age at all :) Have a wonderful day!
I was 60 when burnout hit. You think it's just age catching up with you!
Finally someone who said they find it hard to relax! Gosh, I can't even do meditation..it almost adds to my anxiety so I watch cartoon and it really helps
Thank you 🙏 it's never late to know these things. It took me 6 years to recover because at my time 25 years ago (I am 67 now) nobody talked about HSP. Such people did not exist. We were simply loosers... I “accidentaly“ found your videos and many things cleared up for me though I also found by myself many of the self-help things you are talking about. But by how many years I paid the price! Thank you for sharing and helping the others to get out from this quicker. Best wishes from Lithuania.❤
My life was so crazy busy and then I quit my job to move back in with my mom to take care of her. I watched her slowly die of cancer and she passed away in 2020. I'm taking the summer off this year and it feels like this internal exhaustion isn't ever going to go away. I just want to sit on the swing and listen to the birds like my mom used to.
I'm so sorry for your loss.. Please take good care. Sending positive vibes your way
I am three months into recovering from burnout. I cannot express how tired I am.
Hi Amber! So sorry to hear you're going through a burnout. But happy to hear you're taking time to recover. When I was three months in, I stil couldn't get through a day without sleeping a couple of hours in the afternoon, so I know what it's like. Take your time, hope you'll feel a bit better soon. 💖
This couldnt have come at a better time. New subscriber and I am currently experiencing burnout. All I do is work and then numb myself with tv until bedtime.
Im thankful for this video.
Hi Hilary, thanks so much for sharing. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. I hope there's someone you can talk to about it? Even if we can't make changes directly, it can be very nice to talk to someone about what we're experiencing. You don't have to go though it alone. Take care and sending you a big hug.
@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you for the kind & caring words. What struck me the most from the video was the reminder for fun. I realized that I havent been partaking in any interests I have. So today I'm going on a picnic and hike with my mother. 😊 Thanks again.
Hi Hilary🙂
I am currently experiencing the same situation. Going to work and then numb myself on the couch until bedtime as I have low fever and fatique two months now. This is the 3rd time that happens to me. Previous times it lasted 6 months each. What are you feeling? Is this the first time you feel like that? Wishing u to get well really soon💓
I've just experienced a total burn out early this year. The company I worked for and the job I was doing took too much out of me. I've never experienced such a high level of stress and fatigue. I've had an anxiety disorder for many years but had it under control but the job I was doing brought it all back.
For my health and sanity I had to leave with nothing else lined up. The worry of being out of work isn't great but its nothing compared to the time I was working at my last job. Now I'm trying to take some time to figure out what I can cope with and thrive in. I've been spending my days cleaning & organizing my home, seeing my mum a lot, cooking me and my husband lovely healthy food and some daily job searching.
Some days I feel great and others I just get through. Its definitely consistent highs and lows. Your video has helped me realize this is okay and totally normal. So thank you Vera! I've been a long term subscriber and just love your outlook on life. I wish we were real life friends! x
Thanks so much for sharing your story Kelly and I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time with healing from such a stressful job. I think it's awesome you chose to prioritize your health and happiness. And I'm happy this video was helpful for you. It's definitely normal and okay to take your time. Wishing you all the best with job searching and sending you a big hug. :)
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you Vera 💜🙌🏼 your channel has been a huge help to me over the years. You are such a kind positive person and I really appreciate all the work you put into your content for all your subscribers. We are lucky to have you 🥰
"We are not robots".So true. People are indifferent when l need a break like I should just keep going.I have a condition that makes me feel constantly tired.Really needed to hear that.Thank you Vera.❤️
It's totally okay to find what feels good for you and tend to your needs, so you can keep your cup filled :) Have a lovely day
I don't know what your condition is, but I have endometriosis, which wipes me out for at least a week (and I get awful stomachaches before the period starts). I now see how far I have been pushing myself when my body is incapable of handling that pressure.
I didn't realize there were so many who experienced burnout for longer than a few weeks. Re- learning yourself through soulcare, establishing boundaries, just being aware of yourself has definitely been top priority but sometimes laden with pressure to get back to original productivity state. Thanks for this video
“Everything you've ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.” Sharing some positivity with all of you. Keep smiling you are amazing.
i have been in a constant burn out my whole life growing up in an abusive home. i am also highly sensitive. i could never hold a job because i would get burn out so quickly in need for a long rest. i couldnt understand what was wrong with me. al the abuse and pressure from my abuser at home took its tole on me. the one that got me to start and understand so many things is when i was in a very toxic relationship. the burnout was so severe that i was desperate for answers and thats how i found about toxic people, cluster B's, complex PTSDand me being a highly sensitive with a different way of approaching and handling the world.
im in a better place now moved out from home but i still need to handle these types at work. working on my own business hopefully.
thanks for the video and insights
I can totally relate to it. I worked at a company that no one really pressured me, but the actual nature of the work and the fact that I didn't connect with the values of the people around me and the corporate values. This brought me a lot of unhappiness, but it was very well paid. However, one day after 2 years, I was home and I got a panic attack. I could not take a deep breath and was just miserable. Looking back, I'm thinking like you - I should have quit sooner. Now I'm convinced that no money worth it! Thanks to a friend of mine, I got a job that it is relatively slow and sometimes boring, but for good! I'm enjoying it, although I'm going through another burnout simply because I don't enjoy life and I need a drastic change this time. I've accused myself for being lazy, but no more. Just giving myself time, something like putting myself to power safe mode. I used a lot of acupuncture and supplements to speed up my recovery and try to keep myself stable. I recommend it cause in just a month of acupuncture sessions once per week, I was able to start waking up with no brain fog, but completely awaken. If you are in Utah, I can recommend you the best one. Please people, be kind to yourself. Especially if you are sensitive in nature like I am. Now, I try to push myself into doing thinks that I like, although it is not always easy, but yes - find a hobby, cook for someone, do some volunteering, pray to God if you believe in Him and I promise things will get better. Lots of love!
I think acupuncture is helping me with my burnout, too. Just to hear the acupuncturist say that it seems that I’m depleted from my sympathetic nervous system being in overdrive was validating, and I felt relieved to hear him say that it’s okay to just rest if I feel the need to rest, even though I “knew” that. We need accurate reflection of our inner states as children, and sometimes as adults. The day after my second acupuncture session, I felt serene and calm as I can’t even recall feeling since I was so much younger. What a gift!
Thank you for this video. I had my burnout in 2016. 5 years later I'm better, but still struggling. It's all about changing your mindset along with your lifestyle which is so hard for personalities like ours. Wishing you continued healing. 💕
Thank you so much Melanie, wishing you the same! 🤗🌱🍵
I love the distinction between relaxing and recharging!
Thanks Marina :) It's an important difference, and they're both important in their own way.
I never thought my life was difficult enough to have the privilege to say I may have burn out. After watching your video I've realized I have been pushing myself way too hard to "survive the day". Recently and intuitively, I felt I should not feel guilty for needing to sleep more than other people. I also feel like going back to activities that use to make me feel happy in my childhood like coloring and doing arts and crafts is helping me recover.
Wise words indeed. Thanks for articulating this.
I reached the point of burnout 2 years ago and I am still recovering. It’s so relieving to know that I am not the only one taking so long to heal ❤️
You're certainly not the only one :) Take care, sending you a big hug!
I was 60 when burnout hit and two years down the line I'm still suffering the physical effects - yes, it takes as long as it takes.
I so feel this, I have been off work for over a year and still get anxious when I think about going back. When you work 50 he's a week for years and still get told you're not doing enough you know it's time to walk. Health care is a toxic industry the world over
Love this. So relatable. I was experiencing the same thing. I was depressed and burnout to the point I can't do a very simple task at my job. I decided to quit my job because my mental health was deteriorating. I can no longer do my job and I had enough. My workplace is toxic.
I did not bother to look for a job right after I quit. I need to rest and I need to heal. I was resting for 6 months because healing takes time and now I'm ready to get back to work. I learned a lot of things during my break, mostly about self-care and personal development. Job hunting is mental taxing, so I realized I need to learn how to manage my energy. That's how I came across your video. New subscriber here!
Thanks so much for sharing your story and I'm sorry to hear you had a tough time. So great you were able to take that time to heal! Wishing you all the best and sending happy vibes your way
'Sometimes there's power in letting go'
A month into my burnout recovery, taking time off from work to refocus. Your situation resonated with me, overachiever and being a sensitive person. Thanks for the tips!
You're very welcome Samantha and I'm happy the video resonated with you. Wishing you all the best with your recovery!! Take care
I experienced burnout 3 times. Nov 2021, March 2023, Aug 2023. Aug 2023 was the worst, it impacted my ability to drive. I also got diagnosed with ADHD & Autism. Life has changed so much.
Similar experience. Love this. Taken years to recover. Permission from ourselves is everything!
I agree :) Thanks so much for sharing Eli, take care and have a lovely day!
I've had CFS/ME for 20 years, and I've become aware of a few thoughts that tend to creep into my mind when I'm doing too much:
1) I don't have time for fun/enjoyable things.
2) I don't have time to stop and eat 3 times a day...
3) self care is just another burden that takes up time in my day
When I start thinking like this, I realise I've got too much in my plate, and need to get more balance!
Just before I was diagnosed with CFS I was at a point when I genuinely resented everytime I had to make time to eat, I felt I just didn't have time for that!
So many years later, I still find myself striving for balance at times since life and circumstances constantly change. Often we're not aware of how we are thinking in the moment - hindsight is a wonderful thing! It helps me to keep a checklist of things to keep an eye out for and check every so often if I'm falling into any of these unhelpful thought patterns.
Thank you. I have been feeling so out of tune with myself lately, and I just couldn't figure out what was the problem. I am also a highly sensitive person. Now I know that I am experiencing burnout. Thank you for all your words of encouragement.
Thank you for sharing Kelly and I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time.. Make sure you talk with someone about your feelings and the issues you're experiencing, and if you need it, get the extra help. :) Take care my friend!!
I needed to hear everything you had to say in the video! I'm a high achiever that likes to take on larger projects than I should. I realized I've been in burnout mode for years and choosing to ignore it. Over the past month, I've tried to slow down, but there are so many things I want to do. It is hard just to take time to recharge because I feel charged when completing things. Although, I'm starting to see the charged feeling I feel from completing things isn't the same as recharging your energy levels. Definitely going to use your tips to slow down - starting with a cup of tea in bed without screens. Thank you!
Thanks so much for sharing Erin and I'm so happy to hear you're going to give slowing down a chance! Feel free to check out my slow living videos if you need some more inspiration :) Take care and have a Happy Monday!!
I can definitely relate to being "in burnout mode for years and choosing to ignore it".
I can relate very well to what you wrote. Im constantly working on projects and want to do them perfectly. Often larger than what I´m capable of - at least that large there´s constantly several unfinished projects around me bcs it is just too much workload.
I also feel very charged when a project is finished and I can also enjoy it in the moment and shortly after. It just diminishes quickly bcs I think I got to take the next step-up and I´m still running behind what others have achieved…
I did not rly find a conscious way out of this yet…
Such a wonderful video... Your sleep segment especially resonated with me. I'm a psychologist and I find over, and over again that my patients who judge themselves unfairly, or try to force what they perceive to be expected behaviors, thoughts, etc. are causing most, if not all of the intense anxiety they suffer with. Letting go of self- judgment, and instead finding acceptance of self in the here-and-now is a key part of reducing anxiety and panic attacks, as well as everyday anxiety. Thank you for your wonderful videos... and a good reminder for me practice these 10 tools myself!
I totally relate to what you said. Thanks Gayle :) Happy you enjoyed the video!
I enjoy the nature scenes you add to your videos. 🌿
Thanks!! :) I always love editing them in. It's a soothing process haha
Thank you so much for this video. It's been almost 2 years since my burnout, and I still get nightmares, but overall I don't feel triggered and I've grown more into being myself, rather than being someone for someone else.
Thank you for sharing Gabriela, love how you phrased that. Wishing you continued healing 🤗🍵
I suffered this many years ago & it was such a hard time getting back to me again , I did make it but now many years later I learned to not have the perfect body the perfectionist in me nearly killed me & I learned to just be me & alone time is everything & to rely on myself & slowly approach life
I really needed to hear this! I have a very stressful job that I don’t particularly enjoy, I’m trying to buy a house and also trying to deal with all my roommate’s clutter (I hate clutter). Some days I feel like I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what to do. Thank you so much for your encouraging words!
I'm happy you found the video helpful Crystal and it sure does sound like you have lots on your plate. Remember to take care and tend to it :) Wishing you a lovely weekend!
Your body is saying you need your own smaller space, maybe?
Thank you for providing a virtual permission slip for me to really recover and just focus on which tea to drink next. It’s so helpful to hear your reflections ☕️
You're very welcome Mia, you deserve it. Enjoy your tea!
You have to 'honour the process'. My recovery took two years. 6 years on, I give myself permission for many things. I am delighted to have found your TH-cam channel. Everything you say, I have experienced...and I understand completely.
Thank you so much for sharing, take care my friend!
I hit burnout adrenals stress had panic attacks etc at 35 and it’s been a long process becoming a new happy me ! I changed pretty much everything including diet , sleep , boundaries, self talk , etc . I stopped the whole type A perfectionist attitude toward my life . I support myself now in all ways ! I’m able to help others now too that I love but I keep strong boundaries and I stopped watching tv , stopped TH-cam , etc started meditating, yoga , cooking exclusively at home delicious real food .
Hi. Can we chat regarding this topic. I need someone who going through the same condition to advice
For anybody deeply suffering with Burnout or, even worst, developed on Chronic Fatigue Syndrom or ME, know that full recovery is possible. Was the hardest thing I ever did to recover. There are youtube channels full of only interviews with people that fully recovered. The main one is Raelan Agle. I hope you all that read this have hope that you will regain your life. Good luck! Health is the biggest wealth.
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I am you. You are me.
Every single thing you said is me.
I am very grateful for your bravery in creating and posting this video. I am still taking years to find a new life actually living with burnout and it is not easy at all accepting that I can't do what I used to do. It's nice to hear validation that a slower life has brought you peace. I'm still struggling with my value vs accomplishment. Perhaps you've created a video on that?
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I'm happy this video was helpful for you! I can relate to struggling with value vs accomplishment :) Even though I don't really think like that anymore, it's hard to stop old habits like that haha. It can be difficult when you'd like to do more, or work more, etc, and your body is just letting you know it won't go there. But the difference is just acceptance, I think. And loving your body and your health for all that it's doing for you, supporting you in all your endeavors, even though it's being clear about what your limits are. Hope that makes sense :)
@@SimpleHappyZen I also wanted you to know that it means a lot to us that you responded to each comment. That's a chore in itself! It makes an otherwise lonely experience berating oneself for no longer being an overachiever realize that we are a community. Thank you for the reminder to respect and listen to this little body. That really is the way out of burnout. That and the hope of finding something in which to "flow"... that respectful activity that brings joy to where you don't realize time has passed.
Thank you for this video. I don't have burnout as such but have struggled with chronic fatigue for years and find it hard to get the balance right with how much work and exercise etc I can manage without feeling totally wiped out! I also discovered I was a HSP a couple years ago which makes a lot of sense. I also rarely make time to do something fun, I feel guilty when there's so many chores in front of me. But the other day I actually sat and did some painting with watercolours and I felt more rested afterwards than I have in a long time! So I'm totally realising that having some fun is an absolute necessity for health and wellbeing!
So happy to hear you had that experience with painting! :) Having fun is so important :)
A great point.
Whew this one hit home…it’s been 18+ months I feel like I’m just starting the pull out of exactly what you described in the first 3 min
I am so happy you are feeling well again.... burn out can hit you in a blink of an eye
My daughter after she gave birth to my granddaughter went into heart failure, it is a miracle she is still with us, it was very dangerous, and the cardiologist told us she was the first patient he ever had with the type of heart failure my daughter had to actually live thru it, so I was taking care of her and my new granddaughter, plus the stress of hoping my daughter would survive gave me burn out. One day I woke up with palpitations and a fast heart beat, I felt I was having a heart attack, I went to the ER and after testing the Doctors told me it was post traumatic stress, I needed to take time for myself, relax, and calm down, it took me about 6 months to feel like myself again, I have learned to rest, relax and not let that happen to me again. Stress can really take a toll on us, there is a happy ending my daughter was lucky her heart went back to normal, with no damage, although she was told no more children, because it would most likely happen again.
Thanks so much for sharing your story Christine! Wow.... that's a lot. I can totally get how stressful that must've been for everyone involved!! I'm so happy to hear you're doing better and your daughter and granddaughter are healthy :) Take care!
the palpitations etc sounds like a panic attack and those are terrifying especially when they hit you out of the blue! if they happen again my best advice (as someone who has started having them again after a decade thanks to this pandemic) is to talk yourself through it - 'you're having a panic attack. you are ok. breathe in 2 3 4 hold 2 3 4 out 2 3 4 5 6' just knowing what it is and knowing you will be ok and reinforcing that with your thoughts helps me so much and really shortens the duration of the attack. Glad your daughter is feeling better!
What a rollercoster ride. Glad you and your daughter have recovered.
This June it will be 5 years since I burnt out big time. Burnout lead to major depression and for me it took at least 2 years, changing careers and moving to another city to relearn what healthy living means. Vera, I can relate to everything you said. So many things I experienced somewhat similarly. Yes life won’t ever be the same again - but that’s a good thing. And although a certain tenderness may linger, there’s also resilience that proves itself in new challenges that come our way.
Last autumn my life changed in a drastic way (husband left out of the blue). Myself and everyone around me is still amazed at how well I’m coping and what kind of inner strength is carrying me through. In matter of months I rebuilt my life and am almost thriving now. I used to hesitate calling myself fully recovered because I‘m still taking antidepressants. But I think I‘m almost there.
Thanks so much for sharing your story and yes, you're absolutely right. While things didn't go back to being the same as before, they're different but that's good. We're building resilience :) Happy to hear you're doing better and I hope things will continue to improve and go well for you!! Take care
I think I need to relocate.
Great story ❤
Through your videos, I have just discovered that I am a HSP and that I burn out very easily. (I kind of always knew but I didn't know there was an actual valid term for it) I feel so, so guilty whenever I have to take a day off, especially when it is a mental health day where I can't just look at the thermometer and KNOW I have a fever. I'm grateful that TH-cam recommended me your videos and I am hoping I can find some more tips on balancing my life in a way that feels both productive and relaxing.
I feel like you're speaking right to my soul. Thank you.
Aw thank you, I'm so glad the video resonated with you. Thank you so much for the superthanks, I really appreciate that ❤️🌷 Take good care!!!
I just came off three months leave for burnout, and started a new job, but I've realized I have jumped in way too hard too fast. In reality I am still very much recovering and need to approach things differently than I did before. So many of the things you said in this video resonated with me, thank you for sharing your experiences!
Thanks for the video. I am a proud HSP too!! It took me two years to recover from living and working overseas. And 6-12 months to recover from a toxic workplace. Loved the importance of of fun and doing self-care when you don't think you need it! Beautiful words!!! Normalising it all it so healthy and lessens the shame! :-)
Thank you so much Kate :) I love your comment. Take care!
I am sorry you had to suffer at a toxic workplace. I am going through something similar. Your story and that of others gives hope to those of us who are just starting on the recovery.
It's really helpful to hear that I'm not the only one still struggling to recover from burnout after months. Thanks for sharing your experience. Happy healing everyone!
"You are not just your output, you are so much more than what you are producing."
During my breakdown I couldn't see any way out. I learnt so much from it for which I am grateful. I moved country (out of the city to a rural mountain, again I am grateful for being able to do that) I have episodes of severe stress & I'm still working on that (I cannot deal with not being in control). Many thanks for your video. 🙏💜
Sending healthy and happy vibes your way, take care!
Thank you. As someone who is sleeping 16 hours a day, with very little energy when I am awake, this notion of "burn out" could well be the reason. I just hadn't realised. I'll now watch more of your vlogs. x
Is there anyone else here who feels burnt out from being a mom? Unfortunatly it's not a job I can leave... I love my kids to pieces but I'm running in survival mode. This is not living. I don't feel joy or love. I'm like an empty shell struggling hard to meet everyone's needs. Especially my needs get pushed off the edge every single day. My day just doesn't have enough hours to get me to recharge properly. I'm constantly tired. Anyone else here with similar expirence? And how did you deal with it? Feeling very lost in myself
You are not alone........still working hard to deal with it...
You have to put yourself 1st at times. It's the only way you'll be able to take care of others. And remember there is no perfect mother out there :)
@@alliecravulz I know but it's so much easier said then done unfortunately. Especially if you have very little kids
@@Kath-Erina can you hire a nanny more often? or have your family members or friends take care of the kids for a while? I have a friend who did that to recoop some energy, she had 4 kids and "placed" them with different friends for a couple weeks to recharge. It helped. But even just a half a day there and there could help you
From the way you write, you make it sound as though you are doing all the parenting. Is that true? If so, that may be why you are burned out.
All along I thought I was just lazy and beat myself up for it.. I didn’t know that I was already burnt out and zapped of all life energy from my previous job.
Thank you for sharing this, I feel like I’m not alone anymore and feel so heard.
Thanks for addressing this topic. I have dealt with burnout, too, and am still working on my recovery habits even though I’m working again. I think that burnout is sometimes not recognized enough because society always wants us to just keep going and going.
Thanks so much Amber. Yes I fully agree and I also experienced pressure from both my job as well as my doctor to go back to work when I wasn't even remotely ready. It's such a shame that things have to be like this sometimes.. Even more important for us to do what we can to take good care of ourselves :) Take good care and let me know if you ever want to talk recovery habits. You know where to find me :)
@@SimpleHappyZen thanks, Vera! Perhaps we could talk about recovery habits on the Patreon sometime.
Due to hiring issues im now doing the job of 2.5 people and I've been working weekends, late nights, on my own birthday and even on leave and am so burnt out.
This video helped put some important things into perspective...thanks for this
Good timing. I was just thinking about this last week feeling like I'm about to go into another one. This channel is such a cozy corner of the internet. 🙂
That's so sweet of you to say, thank you :) I agree, we have such a wonderful community here. Take care of yourself and I hope you'll feel better soon!
Totally with you on number 2. I remember when I burnt out and went to see a psychologist, and she asked me what I did for fun and I was literally stumped with that question! It hadn’t occurred to me that fun was something to prioritise or was even possible with all the hectic day to day stuff. Still working on this point so thank you for the reminder.
Amazing video, thank you for sharing your experience.
Your story is so similar to mine. I suffered with severe burn-out and it has taken me about 5 years to recover (and I'm still not fully better). Like you I am a highly sensitive person (and was later diagnosed with autism), and I was struggling with juggling a number of stressful things in my life (toxic workplace, ovarian cancer, and my relationship ending). I developed very bad insomnia, and when I did sleep I would have night terrors and wake up screaming in the middle of the night. I was so burnt out that I lost a lot of my executive functioning because my brain just couldn't cope anymore, and I ended up needing to leave my job. I was just a zombie who wanted to sleep all day because I had nothing left to give.
I went from being an extremely successful high achiever to disabled and unable to function in society anymore. It has been a difficult 5 years, but like you said, just gotta keep taking baby steps and understand that my timeline for healing may take longer than other people. Your advice to "redefine success" is valuable and true - what I saw as successful before the burn out is very different to what I see as success now. I now prioritise my health, and I understand my limits better, so I can avoid putting myself in stressful situations.
Congratulations on being a survivor of ovarian cancer!!!
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By the grace of God, I have been healed of ovarian cancer, too!!!☺️💞💞💞
So grateful to find this video, almost 5 months of taking a career gap, avoiding people, not sleeping normally, too scared to meet my friends and family because I was worried it would drain my energy. I always ask myself every wake up when it is over.
Thanks for sharing your experiences, I will take baby steps with no worries.
OMG, love every point. I heard you & feel you on every words you said here. this video makes me not alone & couldn’t agree more. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for saying that Sophia 🙂 So happy the points in this video spoke to you. Wishing you a lovely weekend!
Actually I just realized that I think I have a burn out I can relate to all the things you said .. let alone it’s hard enough being a sensitive person living in toxic workplace & relationships & trying to be on top of the game trying to do everything right so not to feel guilty it’s exhausting.Thankyou for talking about this important topic.
I reached my complete burnout by end of 2014. I had worked too hard, had not taken care of myself, had abused my body for 14 long years. I am an HSP too and I didn't know about it!!
I wanted to quit it all and take a break. I had nothing left in me to give to the world. But, had to wait till mid-2016 to actually start that break because of my financial obligations.
I did nothing, literally nothing, for 14 months starting May'16.
Five years since I took that break, today I feel I am still recovering mentally and physically. But I am in a much much better place today. I think I will never heal completely. And I am fine with that. I am happy to be just alive and gainfully employed. I thought that I was gonna die.
Watching this video made me reflect on all these things. Everything you said resonated with me deeply. Thanks for the video, much love 😘
Thanks so much for sharing your story and I'm happy to hear my video resonated with you. :) Happy to hear you're doing better! Take care my friend
November 2019 was the month I burned out. Horrible timing because then we went into the pandemic and home schooling and working from home. I have really learned to take care of myself. Took yesterday off and took a nap and went shopping just for FUN! I really related to the part of this video where you talked about your relationship with FUN! I do things just for fun now, not to accomplish something! Good luck everyone who is in the thick of burn out. It can and will get better!
I'm so happy I've come across someone else who went thru the same thing as me, I'm an HSP/INFJ whatever you call it and I suffered a severe burnout 3 years ago and experienced some serious symptoms that has taken almost 3 years to recover from. I've changed my entire lifestyle that is my job and personal life and a bit of my personality as well.
I really like how honest you are and so attentive to talk about such minute details that I never even thought of, glad to have found you.
Thanks so much for your kind words Michelle! :) I think it's awesome you were able to make changes and recover :) Glad you found this video too