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No matter your industry, you've experienced drama at work. In this funny and all-too-relatable talk, community leader Anastasia Penright outlines five steps you can follow to better coexist with your coworkers and focus on what's really important.
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The fact that these kinds of things happen every day despite of the work field only reinforces for me the idea that adults on work are exactly like little children on school. We didn't change a bit. No maturity, no kindness
Right. When i started working I expected everyone to be mature and professional. I stabbed myself with the back with that expectation.
@@HigherDarkness Learned many painful lessons I will never forget.
My current work is high school 2.0. It being slightly better because we get paid lol
Reminds me of the saying "The more things change, the more they stay the same."
you're adult too right?
1. Work from home
2. Work from home
3. Work from home
4. Work from home
5. Work from home
Right on!!!
this!!!
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
Not always the case
@@kennywise237 🤣
Or alone ❤️
Show up maximize your time and go home
Do not tell other co-workers secrets you overheard or your opinion of others
DO NOT bad mouth others period
Let friendships be something occurs overtime on its own
Nicky I was literally trying not to gossip badly about my future costume I may have to wear at work. Lol! That was my negativity today lol
PREACH 🙌🙌. We all honestly have to recognize when this is happening. We desperately need to check our own energy and intentions when speaking on and about others in the work space. That is the time when we need to self evaluate and self improve if or when we find ourselves doing these very same things that you've spoken of. Great comment 👏🏽
My Co-workers gossip so much about one another. They will smile in your face than 2 seconds later talk about you behind you back. I'm quiet and don't say much and just today I said right in front of my gossipy co-workers that I know I get talked about but guess what? I don't care what anyone thinks about me. 2 of them got quiet and started acting extra nice to me. It's laughable!!
They are pushing me out the door. Since I am quiet, they use this to the advantage to make up lies on me. The next thing I know I am being attacked by everyone based on something I did not even say.
Same for me. Now I can work well and better than them.😅
I outright tell them they are proving their ignorance by yammering about someone they know nothing about. It pisses them off, but who cares.
"Sometimes we create this unspoken bond with people that only exists in our head." Oh yeah. Will remember this. Great talk, good ideas which I reckon will be workable. Thanks.
This is true ‼️
This was quite a nugget for me! I Will remember this!
To be efficient, Ignore all the emotions, focus on yourself,avoid involving in any dramatic people,walk away from all the drama.
Please do not have a vent buddy at work. Don't scream and swear either at work. Work through the problem after you have cooled down afterwards at home. Try to put water on a work fire not gasoline. Lastly learn from your mistakes and play the game differently next time.
I'm going to need you to explain this to me further like I'm currently working around how to survive the workplace
Well said.. no vent buddy .. work is private. What you say and do can be held against you…
I stopped listening at vent buddy..🙄🙄Having a “vent buddy” actually creates more drama. And is not taking “high road” either. Ugh..
My vent buddy is my dad 🤣 we live in different states lol
My vent buddy is my dad 🤣 we live in different states lol
Am I the only one who really admired her voice?
She’s got a beautiful voice of a parent. You can tell children love her
NO, YOU ARE NOT. I LOVE HER VOICE.
I was too busy digging her golden eyeshadow
This is so very true. Being away from a dramatic work place keeps all of us very efficient and effective. Thanks for the inspiration.
I think if you're creating scenarios in your head of imaginary confrontations at work - you need to get a new job. That to me is a sign that you can no longer maintain the boundary between work & home/play/down time & that you're becoming jaded with your occupation. I'm currently job hunting for that reason.
Nah if ur creating scenarios and imaginary confrontations then that might mean u have an inferiority complex. Ur prob doing it in personal relationships too
Omg guys so at this point I think I’m crazy lol
That’s been about 99.9 percent of most of my jobs haha. I do sit and wonder what part I played in my jobs I’ve had in the past and am trying to change my behavior. What’s odd is that people here in Southern CA don’t know how to even have a personal conversation this is usually how the conversations goes,
Me: hi where are you working…
Future co worker: I’ll be working in this area…
Questions people ask me = 0.
And this is how everyone is in Southern CA. No one can communicate with anyone it’s sad. People are so predictable in CA everyone’s the same and it’s sad.
Workplace drama can be exhausting. One of the many reasons why I don't get into politics and/ gossips 🤷♀️
Some people will drag you in the drama, they are the office devils/stirrers, every work place has toxic people like that
@@komphatak3395 dealing with one currently. God, the amount of rudeness and childlike behaviour I cop from this individual had me go grey. I've already similar toxic coworker at previous job, though am dying to leave, with the pattern I had, next job another weirdo awaits me and am tired off it.
@@komphatak3395 this is so true, some will want to drag you to thier mess...
I enjoy talking about politics because people opinion about Trump or Biden don’t really bother me. 🤷♀️ I try and respect people though so I don’t even mention politics why cause drama for mentioning it? Best to not talk about it though I agree because even though one person may be able to talk about politics someone else may not be able to talk about it in a mature manner
@@kichwthey are everywhere, cannot get avoid them, unfortunately.
When she said "It is safe to assume they typed it with their middle fingers," I started laughing and haven't stopped yet. I needed this talk.
it's hard because when i don't talk people assume i'm always angry about something
I can relate
Really good talk about an important topic. She has great charisma and perfect voice, got my full attention the whole time ☺
I just keep my mouth shut, work and go home! I only speak when spoken to, simple.
I did the same thing. But then, because you don't share and join in the drama you are labled a snob or anti-social. Which for me is fine, whatever kept them out of my face.
@@elizabeetle13 Exactly. That’s there problem, not mine. As long as your kind to people who gives a rats!
Might be the most beautiful smile to ever grace a TED stage. #Gorgeous
I removed my self from the drama at work. I quit.
I retired early
ditto
Same here 😀
That's step 6: When it's chronnically toxic, get the f*** out of there!
I really admired the message...and yes, the "high road" - I was thinking to myself that it does get easier and then you start to love it because of the stillness and peace that comes of it; and then she said that. I love it. I think this talk is sound.
When there’s too much drama at work, all you gotta do is: walk aWaYayAy.
When pride seems to get, in our wayyyyyy
Slash their tires
Get away is the easy way, not the simple way. If you’re in a situation where you really thinks you should share with the person you’re working with, despite if it is going to be hard for both, go for it. Not just walk away.
@@brdamaso, you're completely right and that is a more accurate summary of the talk, but pisoo is just making a reference to a popular vine. Here's a link: m.th-cam.com/video/fUDekRHZD3U/w-d-xo.html
jisoo* oops got the name wrong
She’s an incredible speaker, so engaging.
You are truly amazing and gracious. Such a beautiful young woman with a beautiful mind and knowledgeable message. This message hit home for me as I've experienced this upset and work drama a time or two. I've instantaneously internalized all of your advice driven steps, and subconsciously I can recognize when I too have implemented some of these steps of without even knowing that's what I was doing. Thank you, thank you, and thank you. May God be with you and continue to bless you on your journey and bless your endeavors.
I don't quit the job... I quit the horrible people that "work" there. It should be illegal to start drama at work and these companies should find out who starts it and prosecute them accordingly.
I agree it should be illegal yet if you come to work drunk or high you get fired? Why is drama not dealt with the same way? I just heard today that a customer complained about gossip and miserable workers. So yes customers will not go back if they aren’t respected, also co workers will quit if they see cliques and drama and gossip. I just think if one wants to creat drama then it’s time to get fired. I’m 37 so I let go of that crap a long time ago.
Need to remove the leech at the first instance
They promote it, plus every place has its own snitches.
I have found being up front, assertive, but professional is the best policy when dealing with work place drama.
@jessicaras4540 literally what does that have to do with this??
@@msay4596 She is a religious nut spamming the comments.
Thank you. This is a great listen, and you're a fabulous presenter. My work sent this out for all staff to learn from.
This talk was relatable as well as practically useful.
Thank you!
Love the last step, #5. “We need to take a walk.” Release and protect your energy for yourself. 💖 This lady is so full of wisdom! Professionally walking down the high road is key with finding like-minded people. Workplace drama definitely feels like the worse thing going, but then we need to remember it is a blessing in disguise and that better opportunities are coming for us.
I so needed this video today, THANK YOU!
*The high road*
And as you're traveling down this amazing high road, you see billboards of things you shoulda said and things you shoulda did...💯
Step 1: Avoid getting involved with people in general.
That was easy.
So be antisocial?
I needed this solace right now. Thank you Stacy. I’m only 1/4 of the way through and the amount it’s resonating with me right now.
I so needed this. I shared so much of my personal life with people I created bonds with in my head who definitely did not hold my discretion. I became the topic of alot of conversations among those very same people. This video had helped me tremendously as I go through the painful realization that none of them are the Friends I told myself they were.
Such useful wisdom. Thank you!
Great advise and just what I needed to hear!
VERY GREAT AND BEAUTIFULLY EXPLAINED 👍
Really needed this video, thank you.
Also you can talk to others at work. I have been bullied when I keep my mouth shut. Sometimes peoples behavior needs to be talked about ! Listen to your NEW workers too since they’re not adapted to the culture they are the ones who can tell you where the problems lie since they see it from a fresh view ( not always but sometimes, also teach new workers how to address these situations because we are often brought into the drama !!! And if we don’t want to be we get turned on )
This was so good and much needed!
So right, protecting your energy is really important 👌 💯
Thank you for providing tips regarding co-existing with co-workers. We are able to live full out by creating a healthy work environment.
Wonderful talk Anastasia. I believe one of the most powerful things one can do is regarding your point #2 - 'It needs to stop.' Stop creating stories (usually negative ones) in your head, believing them and then acting accordingly. This alone has thrown a wet blanket on many success stories from starting. Thanks. BTW - if I got 4 yellow starbursts back to back, I probably would not be happy either... :)
Great talk. I will use it right away.
What if it's a decent job with good benefits.. but yet nearly your whole shift of coworkers including the supervisors all seem to be directing toxicity only to you and you never done anything wrong and mostly keep to yourself in an attempt to not add fuel to the fire?
I’m currently dealing with that. If I’ve done something wrong, no one has ever pulled me aside and said anything. I’ve tried to talk to leadership about it, and I feel it was turned around me. I’m going to try really hard to apply the advice given in this Ted Talk and hopefully things will improve.
@@Nurse_Shelly44 I recently started experiencing it, and what helped me was keep being good and keeping light on the situations and set boundaries by not making yourself too available. Show yourself when it's advantageous to you, your reputation, and puts you on a positive light. And hopefully by then, management will find your cause noteworthy and puts you on a positive light and in turn will make people like you better.
It's a lot like a dance, of being extremely low key and showing yourself just a little everytime it's advantages to you. Over time, those positive moments increments and becomes a big thumbs up to your reputation. But yeah, keep yourself out of it for the most part.
I'd be interested how your situation is going now, whether you've done anything to remediate it or learned something moving forward?
@@spiritualwarrior3033 Hi! Since my last post, I did try to speak to leadership ship again with dates, and times of incidents, but didn't receive any response. That was 2 weeks ago now. I've accepted that no response is a response. So I've been keeping to myself, reinforcing my boundaries, and trying to engage as little as possible. I do know that workplace bullying/ toxic work culture leads to burnout for me. But I'm feeling better after work with removing myself from the negativity as much as I can. I know I'll have to move on soon, but until I can make that move, protecting my peace while updating my resume and cover letter has done wonders!!!
You know what ??? You’re the odd one out. You’re the only one NOT being rude and you’re the one who they don’t like because you actually don’t care to be immature/ petty !
I have had that happen and I believe that it's because a dysfunctional company often needs a scapegoat. Someone to take there frustrations on because the really problem lies within the structure and culture of the organization. I had to leave because once I realized that I knew nothing would change.
So true. Let it out and change the situation!
Great talk Anastasia! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This was a really good one! Thank you
humorous and
truly insightful!
Very nice and realistic presentation. No sugar coated typical hypothetical stories.
Thank you Anastasia!
Really great speech. Well done
Great content. Helpful!!!
Having a great revelation that the root of my workplace stress is me. How freeing!!
This is very helpful, and does work.
This video really helped!
wonderful talk!
Definitely helpful information thank you
Her voice is so unique and special. Loved the content as well.
Brilliant, smart, witty and charismatic. I am sharing this with all my groups. Great action items.
THANK YOU 😊
I love it so much
While I am watching and listening to her,I'm like ,nodding, and saying aha,yeah...oh that's true and i smile..seems like she's talking to me..she's amazing speaker..
Coulda used this 7 years ago. Better late than never. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! 🍻❤😎
Thank you .
I LOVE her!!!
Story of my LIFE!
Thanks for posting this video! I attract so much workplace drama especially when i do thing the right way and all my older coworkers are doing things the "easy" way instead and they always make me look like i'm a bad person because i'm usually the youngest in the room! My usual solution is to go find work somewhere else! 😭
Don’t let them make you quit. Especially if you like what you do. I have to tell myself this often.
Thanks I needed this!❤️
Also applies to most interpersonal relationships as well!
Very good.
Woow...thank youu
My second time watching this video and I love it.
Amazing ❤️
Thank you! This is good career guidance and a learning opportunity. So applicable to work/social life balance. 🤔❤🇺🇸
Beautiful message, beautiful face, too!❤
Thanks Anastasia for the positive energy. 👍🏾
This was totally cool and informative 🙂👍
I just loved this video cause she is speaking nothing but pure facts!!!!
Great!
Needed this today! Thanks!
At my workplace, you might apply all these steps then your co-workers have one problem;being selfish /unhumaine!!
Then I would apply the"walking away strategy"
A very nice talk
Yes that last bit haha! Thanks 🙏 letting it go!” 😊
excellent
Very wise, I wish she was my co-worker
Interesting content. I'm gonna watch it over again.
That helped me a lot thanks! Right when I needed it the most
Thank you for your wisdom.
I like it a lot . 👍
I started dating a colleague and a select few others decided they didn’t like this.
For about 4 months all any of those people did was make drama about it and we’d hear about it from the rest who didn’t care.
Some people are just bored 🤷♀️
you guys still dating?
Omg so it’s a global problem 🤦🏻♀️
Albino Rhino
Yep
Right? It’s like no one cares get a life. Lol!
@@TheLovelymix it is for them who will they talk about now? Lol!
For real like i work in a thrift shop is stressful. Like sometimes my boss assumes im doing something wrong and im thinking this needs to stop and its stressful and my boss speaks Spanish so i do my best to ignore any negative drama. I shake my head and put my headphones in. But, really i have no idea what I'm doin sometimes and suffer with asthma and ADHD. I work hard to do what i can
I feel like, I've needed this video, my whole life.
Amen, and if I may, sister.
Yeah I messed up two times by doing this but thanks for the advice I needed this
This was great! Only part that I found mildly irritating was the characterization of the new generation of workers. It comes off as the overused stereotype that young people only exist online, and cannot function in a traditional setting, despite the fact that most have been in schools without extensive technological interference.
Is it because of coming from such schools they are over indulged in online presence? A thought.
Thank you, this was supportive, and it resonated with my spirit. Being accountable for the putcome, its very empowering.
I struggle with negativity sometimes though lord knows I try to smile in this crazy world
You’re beautiful and excellent speaker
Drama is one thing, toxic and sexist environment is another matter.
same motivaton also have mine
I've been watching TED for years. I liked their videos. That is why I decided to create my own sci-fi/futurist Channel. 👍🙂
something that continually fuels my social anxiety
I believe this talk's title it wrong, it's more like "How to walk away instead of talking about and establishing healthy bounties and behaviors at work". How are your co-workers supposed to know you didn't like something if you just walk away instead of discuss what happened that you didn't like & how to do it differently next time?
I believe she established that with the teacher reference. She said, "No more coming to Jesus talks. It's time to walk away."
Comes at the right time for me
God this is so true. There were so many gossipers back at school and so many people who feed on drama