Hi good morning to you, to me the difficult to work with, is the recommended by the head director prof, Dean's, their sister or brothers the new staff act she /he know it all, conceited, it's inside the university government some many staff gossips too
With men I will tell you something...the jealous bitter males will try and undermine handsome Chad and will attempt character assassination because his looks are a threat
Yep. Thank goodness I control my comings and goings for the most part but would prefer to NEVER have to interact with people outside of my home office.
Yup, working with all of them .. I'm here for a paycheck, not for friendship. Keeping my nose down, and not getting intertwined in the drama/gossip keeps me sane.
the only good thing about the pandemic was bei g away from the office for a year and now that I got to go back. I am keeping my head down, working my 8hrs and leaving on time. Also trying to work on finding a new job. Its been 2yr and 6 mths since I started and still haven't gotten my review
Of course I worked with all of them because we are all human and flawed. I have probably even exhibited behavior of all of them from time to time. I try not to but I am human too. The difference is that I tend to focus on getting my work done well and not on ladder climbing. Ladder climbing has a tendency to get you to the top where you are the most likely to fall off when they shake the ladder. All this garbage started to happen at work when top management stopped looking at performance and good character and started to accept those who played the game of work well. Lets face it I am just tired of having to go to work because its just not the best way to earn a living but I am too old to start over. I still want more money and flexibility to do what I want when I am working but ...
The worst are the snitches, backstabbers, two facers, and the brownie noses. Every time I went to work I would lose faith in humanity. After retirement I gained my faith in humanity back. Some people are just plain evil and mentally deranged. At every job I had to deal with this bs.
I feel like I’m traumatized from the last job that I had. A person that I worked with that was on the same level as I was quit, I left a couple of years later…it took us years to get over the trauma of that place, we spoke to each other about it until we started to gradually get better. I have never seen such a shark-pit of evil in my life, and I hope to god I never do again.
I'm very introverted and didn't want to interact with my colleagues, due to my fragile mental health. As a result, I have been branded as odd, weird, antisocial and have even been called brusque or rude. All I wanted to do was do my work and FO home. I can identify with all of the personalities described, having being the brunt of their nefarious activities, having being subjected to the silent treatment and other mind games, I now work entirely on my own from home. No more workplace politics or gaslighting.
Me too! Ive been branded so many names. I just laugh at it now. As introverts, we’re quite powerful. We are excellent at reading people and seeing right through them. We dont react, we think. Were smart in all senses and wise. We pick our friends carefully. We dont need an audience, we are very secure and content to work on our own. With all this being said, is it any wonder that in a world full of insecure extroverts that we get attacked by these people? Nope. These toxic people are so consumed by jealousy that they dont even know this is why they dislike the introverts. I also now work 99% from home. Pure bliss and im loving it. I no longer have to entertain these ppl and give them they attention they crave.
Not all prisons are brick and mortar. There is the prison of a bad marriage, a bad relationship, and the prison of a toxic work environment. You must have felt like Andy Dufresne when he finished crawling out of the sewer and into freedom.
Been there and for the F sake due to trauma I just shut down and acted as strong as I could, nevertheless I would break down at home, a person of them even referred to me as toxic because "I didn't vibe with the team"
Patty is the worst! I worked with one who gossiped about EVERYONE. Even her own friends. When she got her chance to throw me under the bus, she gladly did. 🤣 these people are so insecure. You don’t need to make other people look bad to look good.
I have worked with a lot of Patty’s… I’ll call some of them Pete… I also currently work with a Rachel & a Nick… Hell if ppl look at themselves they may identify with some. If I ever told on anyone, it was to help because I was conditioned to believe we were a team & we were looking out for one another. That’s the bs I was fed. So that’s why I was telling. Cause I thought I had my coworkers back. Not throwing them under the bus…
Just got fired thanks to a Rachel who made up a bunch of stuff about me/made false reports. Sucks because I cried to her about how people were treating me at work. Turns out she was banding together with other coworkers to push me out of the company just because I didn’t fit in and didn’t want to sit around gossiping with them over lunch, etc.
I left this comment on another video and will share here so u know ur not alone: I got fired one time for not "fitting in". All because the "head bitch" ( the girl who had been there the longest, knew everything, and even used a coffee cup that said "queen bee" on it) didn't like me. Bad thing is she was suuuuper nice to me for like the first week or two and we laughed and everything was great. She flipped and did a 180 om me out of the blue and literally started making up stuff that I never said or did and I was attacked by her, the boss and another coworker (attacked meaning confronted randomly about these things I did not do). After about a month working there the boss took me aside and in an overly sweet and fake voice told me I just didn't fit in. I told her what a bitch that other girl was and they could have the shit show, I didn't want a part in it lol
@@divine6526 it is the same as school for many sadly. Idk how old you are but growing up my school peers never acted like this. Work was a real eye opener.
I hope you are at a better company now. Don't let this experience tear you down. Let it make you more empathic. Remember to never be like them! They just end up eating each other.
same I got fired once a month after I was hired by a woman who seemed to be all over the boss. I couldnt care less though. She told him I wasnt doing any work but there was no work! I was let to research and list things I find and id complete the task within 2/3 hours. I dont fit in with most companies and just got hired after going back to college ( not easy I cant find a much better job as there arent many jobs) I also intend to continue my studies. I realise I dont fit it because most have low IQ in some type of jobs and it motivates me to continue my studies. I am about to be fired but I did nothing really . I dont care as so far im getting paid and I have to wait. They thought I d fit in but I dont. I dont drink and they sure all do. I just dont want to work again I think. If I had money , I d have remained in the university full time and even. do a phd . Its totally ridiculous in fact to work and the people you are surrounded with are really the bottom of society. Thats the reality and there are videos about it from a PTPOP , he talked about call centers but any customer service job is similar and they are the easiest to get but a lot of other jobs have fancy titles and are more or less a customer service job. I dont even want to be around most of these people. Thank god fr the covid/remote working .
Chad is actually a spy to the boss, that’s how he is favoured by the boss. His Job there is not working for the organisation, he is there to be the boss’ s eyes and ears. He uses his charming and nice appearance to trap so many vulnerable people who are so naive to tell him everything. This is how he has all the privileges without having to work hard like others.
Thank goodness you said this because I was starting to wonder if they were sleeping together. Seriously. My Chad gives a little bit a of info to you but gets a lot out of you and runs with it.
@@The25Sister 💯 why I stopped looking for corporate jobs and left that part of the world. Corporate attracts these animals. Golden handcuffs. I've about had it. They are hell bent on destroying everyone in their quest for debt slavery.
Got these people too. Pray for them my friends. I had a horrible boss, and I prayed for him and a couple months later he disappeared to a new place 😀. Thank Lord Jesus Christ
At every job, I have always had one or two coworkers who try to act like they're my boss... every time I tell them off, they escalate. If I freeze them out, they get in their feelings.
Neither the boss nor our coworkers are our friends. The best is to mind our own business and talk about harmless things. A feather can easily grow into five hens in the workplace.
@@haroldfridkis9657 I agree. Every time I open my mouth or share anything personal, it comes back to bite me in the a$$. I just want to retire... I hate work.
The villain is always next in line for some sort of promotion for management! If you are kind, just and fair you will not last in any business model. Period.
That's all I have seen so far. It sucks your only 2 choices are to work for a bad company or work ONLY for yourself (i.e., start your own business which is a HUGE investment and a risk).
Thank you! This shift isn’t the easiest as far as sleep, but you can pretty much avoid the pettiness and being watched constantly, that supervisor just waiting for you to mess up, on nights. It’s been almost 20 years since I worked days & plan to keep it that way.
Ahhhh, when Rachel and Patty co-exist in the same office you will eventually see a day of reckoning and surprisingly, Rachel will win because she is very skilled at playing both sides. She will completely expose Patty for the manipulative liar that she is. While it may be a relief to be rid of Patty, you will eventually learn that Rachel is just as manipulative. Deal with her kindly and politely, but don’t ever trust her. Anything you say, no matter how innocent will get twisted if she sees you as the competition.
I worked with a dude who seemed all energetic and pleasant to be around but he was toxic. He constantly lied to cover up his mistakes, and goes around hiding colleague's personal belongings thinking that it was a 'joke'. I wasn't surprised that he got fired shortly after for harassment.
I had that his exact type of co worker and he was a nick as well I'm so happy I left I don't know why I didn't tell on him he even hit me once on the back of my head But I didn't want me telling on him and my other new job boss finding out I really wanted to be out of that workplace quick otherwise that would put more of a Mental toll on me than a simple slap which wasn't that hard anyways I'm happy I quit
I got fired from a toxic job because of a Rachel, and her name is Rachel. The stage was set by a Patty. I was actually relieved to be fired they require 30 days notice or a 5000 fee. My confidence is ruined though.
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I feel your pain, I went through the same. It was a relief to be fired, I felt like all my confidence was gone. Then I decided to start my own business and show them just how talented I am! In the end, I WIN.
1-My last coworker was a Chad. He would work less than everyone else. No one would say anything to him. 2-Rachel and her crocodile tears pretending to be your "friend" only to backstab you. 3-A manager who was a mix of Karen and Nick. He believed he was boss #2. He acted like the company was his and forced everyone to work more without pay. Of course, boss loved him. I can't understand how I dealt with him for 3 years. 4-A male Avery, who trained me and then tried to get me fired just because I didn't agree with him in a few things.
All of my co-workers are a combination of Chad,nick , patty and Rachel 😂....it seems like I don't need to watch any drama on TV because they already are doing a good job of creating one
I’m grateful these people have taught me to appreciate weekends & time off more. I used to be that super industrious person, I still kinda am just not putting all my eggs in one basket anymore.
I keep dirt on my fellow coworkers in case I need it. I've been screwed out of a job too many times. I learned the hard way how to play office politics. One co-worker tried to get me fired. Not only was able to defend myself, I read off a whole laundry list of stuff on her. They let her go that afternoon. I almost got my manager fired once, but she quit when she realized that I was on to her. I found out later that she was actually doing a worse job than I discovered she was.
I've worked with them all. Some were a combo of the personalities. Several of them have sabotaged me out of a job. The problem is the bosses would believe them because they were professional butt kissers. In hindsight I'm much happier not working at those places anymore so they did me a favor!
I had a friend like Rachel in my personal life. She was a great friend until we were going for similar goals and then I saw a completely different side of her. Tried to have honest conversations with her about how her behavior was hurtful to save our then 3/4-year friendship, but no dice. Had to end the friendship.
I have met Every (men and women), you are right, they are extremely insecure. Even though they are the boss, they also feel insecure when their subordinates are in the spot lights. They even got jealous with the receptionist who seems to be brighter, bubbly pleasant and loved by everyone. There is no way that the receptionist can challenge their power or take their job but hey, insecure people are always toxic and extremely competitive regardless of what position they are in. How’s sad .
The worst way to deal with one is to laugh in their face. She asked me a snarky question I answered and she snapped at me not to talk back. I couldn't stop myself and burst out laughing.
What about the one that feels like they’re in charge bc they’ve been there longer and you’re new.. they be acting like a supervisor and seem super fake 😅
Oh I've encountered this one before. When I was new I actually thought she was someone important. She was a person of color and when I got a bigger raise than her (she stole my check stub off of my desk) she stood up in front of the whole department and threatened to beat my "white" a$$. She eventually got herself fired.
Oh lord, I work with a Chadnick. He's 27 and is completely unaware of how much he pisses others off. Managers love him, everyone else rolls their eyes.
TBH I feel bad because I feel like some wonderful human named Chad is going to click into one of my videos and feel personally attacked. But now Patty, Rachel, Nick and Avery aren't safe either.
I have a close friends named Chad and Karen. Woes to them. For me the most difficult co-workers were the "Office Moms." A couple of them really got into my head.
I'm happy that the company I work for has no toxic people, because they're seen out. I think it's important to keep toxic people out and to be able to make friends at work because that makes team work better and more efficient. Before COVID I had a lot of fun staying up late at the office working with my friends as we solved problems together, and I also admire them because they're hella smart. I was told once about this guy who worked there before I was hired who was incredibly rude to workers, he yelled at someone for not being able to complete a nearly impossible deadline he had given and the toxic guy got fired the day after. The only time I had to deal with a toxic person in the company was a girl who, I have no idea under which type she falls into according to this video, but when she joined I started having problems with my co-workers whom I had gotten along with all the time. We would argue a little, they'd have a bad attitude towards me, etc. This girl even said on more than one occasion that she learnt to be a bully or else she would be the one to get bullied. Anyway once she was gone, everything went back to normal. It was really weird.
Oh boy, I had an Avery/Nick (actually Nicole) hybrid as a boss. She was overly ambitious and viewed me as a threat - to the point where she intentionally held back my career by the methods you mentioned. I endured it for 12 years and finally got out at the end of August. It did a number on my mental/emotional health and my confidence was at rock bottom. It's taken me some time, but I'm healing. I don't have a new job yet, I've started training in a new career and have achieved more in two months than I did in 12 years. Also, I've been burned repeatedly by numerous Rachel's - I told myself I will not repeat that mistake ever again!
Why the actual fuck would you endure a pyscho for 12 years you should have quit as soon as you reliazed your boss is toxic I don't know why you endured it for 12 years
People go out of their way to start crap,evil, I read these stories, and can't believe how I can relate.The insecure bosses, and the over ambitious one as well. Hope karma plays out in my situation. SOME kind of justice.
I have worked with a Rachel and an Avery. I’m currently in a situation with the Rachel personality. She’s very tricky and manipulative and always has been. She’ll talk your ear off and actually provide you with information you can use to your advantage at some point. She dislikes when I don’t give her information about myself or others🤣👍🏼 It’s like playing a game of chess…you have to be thinking a few steps ahead of this personality type, in order to make sure you’re not falling under her manipulative spell. I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to be around her anymore. For now though, I play the ‘game’! Hurry up with your next video…I need your help with the situation I’m in currently 😵💫😅🤣 One more thing to add…these personality types are MASTER manipulators!!! Beware🤪 Thank you for your videos!👏🏼
I have worked with all of them. I am retired now thank God! My big problem was with the women who were sleeping with the doctors that I worked for. Cannot compete with that. This is rampant in the Healthcare industry.
i like most need to work to pay my bills. but i can't stand those who live and breath for the company. the person who is gonna overpromise and tries to speak for others. im a 8h person. i don't work longer. but if my coworkers start hinting and raising the workload to make me stay longer, im not gonna play ball.
My opinion: to each their own. If someone wants to work 60 hours a week because it brings them joy or fulfillment that's their thing. I can't stand the projection though. There is no correct or incorrect way to live your life... the important thing is being clear on what YOU want and what's important to you - which you absolutely are!
@@JenniferBrick yeah but if they want to work longer, all the best for them. but i can't stand when a boss or senior coworker in an attempt to impress their client or boss, picks up extra work and then brings it to me to do the work. i will work and do the job but im in my car at the 8h mark.
So far I have only encountered a Patty, but I'll keep my eyes open for the other types ☺️ Thank you Jennifer, knowledge is power and I'm already less scared because you are so upbeat and cheerful!
This is so true, but people come with various permutations and combinations. I have bumped into all of them at some point, but as someone else in the comment section says...just do your work and ignore the noise.
Working with all of them currently. Fortunately I work remotely so not having to deal with any of them face to face. It helps to know who you're dealing with though and at least I know I can't trust any of them. Really wanna get to self-employment. I'd honestly take the financial insecurity over dealing with office politics for the rest of my life.
Holy ... watching this video just made me realize why my coworker despises me although I've never did anything to her. I even bring her bagels once in a while. She's excellent at the job much more than I am and I kind of just show up and depend on my positive energy and attitude to carry to whatever destination life is taking me. I'm exactly what she described as a Chad in my workplace environment and I'm Dealing with an Avery unfortunately. Thank for this video. I'm gonna do some heavy self introspection.
I guess it takes many different personalities to run a company. The key is to learn how to manage these people and use them to your advantage. I try to do just that, staying as neutral as possible. I've been called a "silent player" at work, due to that. However, I have no problem addressing bad behavior directed towards me. The Adult Voice, lowering my glasses and looking over them at the offender with heavy eye contact work well for me. I guess that's the former military officer coming out in me. LOL
I knew I was working with a male(Avery) when I had to present a code to my boss and he had purposely went in and removed a very important piece of the code. I’m sweating in front of my boss trying to figure out why it wasn’t working, and here comes Avery to save the day and perfectly tell me in front of everyone where the mistake was. We talked about it after and he played it off like they were trying to prank me, but after that day I knew who he was. Stay Focused!
Sergeant. I work with a lot of former military members whose modus operandi learned in the military, is to get someone else to do their work the tell the boss "I have Fred doing this, Julie is doing that, and Bob is doing this" and they do nothing while the coworkers do double and triple their normal workload.
I just resigned a Toxic workplace after 8 months of daily walking through a Negativity Vortex. After I immediately resigned, I felt an 800 pound weight leave my psyche. I’m going to take this one-day as a pity party and move on starting tomorrow. I can do NOTHING about yesterday. Yes. Those people. Worked everyday with a psychopath. I’m not a doctor and I can’t diagnose, but THAT guy was a non-emotional user that had to torment me for his own gratification. So much NEGATIVE ENERGY, but constantly told me he was a Good Religious Person. Good People show Good Fruit. His “fruit” was rotten. My Boss was WEAK. He didn’t stop any of it and even participated in it everyday. It was Open-Season on me. I was super productive and customers called ME. My co-workers hated my success, so they daily tried to tear me down emotionally. They even called me Fat in front of customers. Whatever it took to kill me emotionally and ruin my sales. When I started out producing one of the salesmen, he got in my face and warned me there would be consequences if I “outsold” him. He proceeded to show me his Glock 40 and wave it around in my face. That made me even more determined to beat his ass in sales. Guns don’t scare me, as I keep mine hidden and legally out of the workplace. But, that was a decisive moment when I decided to ignore him and keep my distance. Tomorrow is a NEW DAY. I’m glad that I got to learn exactly what a Toxic Environment is and I can now more easily recognize it earlier on. Thanks to you ! I made the decision to leave. :)
I’ve worked with all 5. I work with a ton of Averys because managers liked that at my company. I’ve also felt the urge to be each of these personas but want to be something better.
Ms. Brick. Good analysis. Recently a Patty. Passive aggressive and running to the boss. Spot on in not reacting and planning into their hands. Keep up the good work.
I choked on my coffee... just from the opening. My problem is I never got past not reacting. Until I found your videos, I never thought about a UAQ (regardless of name). So things had already progressed to unmanageable relationships.
This brings clarity to a situation I faced years ago with someone I thought was a friend. Turns out he may have been a Rachel. I’ve been enjoying watching your videos and appreciate the contact.
I have probably worked with them all. I have complained about a difficult line manager constantly as a coping mechanism. I definitely need to be careful who I sound off to!
First is I think a mixture of Avery and Patty who was the product manager I had to take orders from who just kept gossiping about me with other colleagues. I just couldn't take it so I left the company (its just a part time contract job) apparently after I left, she told everybody I chouldn't do the job that's why I left. Second person is a Rachel .... who was an ex-college mate who worked with me for many years. I helped her alot and paid her alot during her difficult times, but when I was in difficulty she didn't offer the same level of help that I gave her in the past as if she's hoarding all the work. I'm just not good with all this socializing and working with other people, now I work alone at home doing my own thing.
Thank you, dear Jennifer, for teaching us all about the very complicated world of corporate office politics, how to to navigate it and succeed. You're doing a great service.
I hate dealing with Nicks. At my last job, I had to deal with two who became very passive aggressive due to having both asked me out on different occasions and my having rejected them. It was a drain as I couldn’t do anything without them hovering, trying to make awkward eye contact and look for any excuse to be 1 foot or less in my immediate space. It was so exhausting to avoid reacting as it was everyday every hour every second, I’m not even exaggerating. I became their whole mission. Interacting with them was awkward due to them leering and making it obvious they were not looking nor treating me like a professional. The worst part was, they would feign to be the victims when in reality they were trying everything in their power to be near me. I eventually experienced this at many jobs and it forced me to look to isolated or work from home jobs as the onslaught of harassment I kept getting from male colleagues was affecting my welfare. At first I thought I was maybe projecting something wrong but it’s often like walking on eggshells with these people. If I’m kind they become worse and don’t ever leave me alone and if I’m professionally cordial I’m a “b!tch”. Do you have any advice for this particular situation? Please. Because it’s distressing and the only time it doesn’t happen is when I’m working with an all woman staff which is rare.
It's both infuriating and disgusting that you are experiencing this, and that womxn continue to. deal with. Honestly, it's why I was stoked to age, it happens waaaaay less. Remember for them this is about power, and the only way they get your power is if you give it to them. First thing I would personally do (and have done) in your shoes: active a stealth job search and have a Plan B lining up and consult a lawyer. Next... figure out what feel right for you. Is it a quiet exit to a better workplace, is it filing a complaint (which I'm an advocate for but also not gonna pretend it doesn't bear risk for the person who puts the complaint in at certain companies), is it doing both. What I think you already know is you can't thrive in that environment and something has to be done. I know a lot of women fail to make complaints because they're afraid they'll be known as the person who files sexual harassment complaints - but like then you don't have to worry about a company that tolerates that shit hiring you, ya know? But I say that as a person who financially could withstand an extended employment gap so please take that for what it's worth.
@@JenniferBrick Filing complains only turns the HR against me and they proceed to gossip about me with fervor. Saying that I’m making work difficult as apparently work isn’t work unless they interact with me (I have literally been told this on more than one occasion). In most places colleagues get away with it and I often think it’s because I’m a minority visually speaking. I had quit working the job with the two Nicks when a female colleague reached back to me and told she it finally dawned on her what I was dealing with and she described it all as a “pack of vultures after live prey”. Most of the time HR gets nervous and try to bounce the issue to me, ad if it’s my fault. This led to a bout of anxiety and depression as it really took a toll on my confidence and led me to try to gain weight and even dress to obscure myself as it really was that bad. Right now I’m working at a job with much less pay and trying to see if I can come up with something to work for myself as the problem hasn’t quelled as I get older but I can’t allow this to damn my quality of life and income either. I have become afraid of working with men unless they’re gay. The sad part is, I’ve also had managers outright tell me that’s just men being men what reaction do I expect? Many even encourage it in “good faith” for the men thinking I really went in there to be a potential conquest. It’s put me in a weird bind career wise as eventually men do become a problem no matter how isolated the job. Sigh. Thank you for your advice. I will try to reassess how I can work with the hand I’m dealing with as it’s a tough one. I cannot afford a lawyer at the moment and I’m too distraught and lost to do anything besides try and try again but I’m exhausted and age cannot come fast enough.
I feel you so much on there being not a lot of good options. But the way they win is if you duck out. And you deserve to do the job you love (without their BS) and get paid top dollar for it. The trauma from what you experienced and what was permitted is going to amplify any sightly off existence you have going forward. Are you in LinkedIn? If you are and we're connected can you send me a DM? If we aren't add me with a note (reference your username here).
Many of them need that jacket that makes you hug yourself. I notice this channel was in my feed after talking to a difficult co worker on the phone. Makes me womder if they watched this channel. I sure hope so and they recognize their behavior 😂
I'm friends with just 1-2 people at my job in which we hang out outside of work, but we all agree not to let anyone else in, especially when it comes to other ideas to make money or add to additional friendships. Clock in, make the money, clock out, go home.
I have worked with all five of these people when I was in the military. Sadly, the military tries to pound honor and shame into people but never teaches them how to behave professionally. I like working remotely because there's no office politics.
Thank you very much for the free UAQ KIT & your examples of each co-worker with names helped me to identify each person at my job that plays these roles 💯😎🤗👌🏽🤣
You've missed the main ones that bug me the most. The small minded baby boomers, who don't embrace any sort of improvement or change. They judge you straight off the bat, usually negatively. They talk down to anyone less experienced or younger than them, and are just all around lazy and arrogant... by saying such things "that has nothing to do with them me." or classics like "stop asking questions." When you've worked there a week. Team work doesn't exist in these people, they'd rather not interact with anyone at all and ignore you if you break the work flow. These people are toxic to all work environments, if your an employer, look out for these sort and get rid of them!
While true you are missing one too - the green worker that comes in a new office and thinks they know everything after one week on the job and won't learn from anyone because they already think they know everything. (They are so green they don't even know what they don't know and they are resistant to learning) - Sadly small minds are not limited to a generation.
I had the pleasure of working with an Avery before. As someone usually more on the understatement side of things that experience taught me that modesty may be a virtue, but it really doesn't pay. I didn't find out until way later that the Avery's constant (and often obviously untrue, e.g. when claiming significant participation in translation work in a language they didn't even speak) overstatement and my general understatement lead our superiors to believe Avery was way more competent then me. It was a brutal lesson, but I'm glad to have learned it early.
All the difficult personas you mention in the workplace are manifested from the fact that they are there at work to earn bread and butter, hence the workplace becomes the battleground, those who win will survive, those who fail have to leave. This is simple like it. And when you jump ship, you will find the same personas in another workplace. This is the reality of life. At the end of the date, how big or small money they have earned, they can’t take it with them to the grave but they have destroyed so many souls in their lives. I wish they will receive their karma, what goes around will come around.
I disagree I believe these people are mentally stunted better known as narcissistic or just plain toxic because I eat money too but I avoid drama I once believed people were like me and could become friends and genuine well after years of being burned I’ve learned no definitely not true
Who would Nick be if he constantly sees others around not doing their jobs, sabotaging, cheating and nothing happens to them while you’re ridiculed for being ethical and honest?
Last year , my boss at the time made it very clear who his Presidential choice was .There could be no disagreement. He is probably still in denial over the result. I moved on to a better company with an assist from Jennifer 😃.
So glad you made an escape! I'm increasingly against talking politics at work. I wasn't before, it's just the environment has gotten to divisive and radicalized that it gets in the way of being able to work productively.
@@JenniferBrick I got a talking to at work for suggesting that our TH-cam channel should have a set of recommended channels instead of TH-cam's algorithm dictating it. I said, "I mean, why would we be endorsing Fox News?" It was perceived to be a political comment. No -- that was what the algorithm brought up, and we are a non-political (supposedly) organization and we have nothing to do with news sources of any kind.
The world's gone mad. It's really hard in post-brexit Britain as well. These days the best thing to do is to avoid mentioning any kind of news because the B word might come up and you're on a minefield.
I just got out of a toxic work environment, be it, by the sabatoge of a Patty, but this makes me feel better. But now I get to pursue the career I really want! I'm loving your videos.
I'm dealing with a female version of Nick AND Avery. The love-child of the two, I guess. It's been a challenge not to react so unfortunately, I have done so in a low-key manner. The only thing that keeps me sane are my other coworkers who see through this person's bs and can't stand her either. It's a kind of camaraderie. It's too bad that every workplace seems to have a bad apple in the bunch. I get along with 98% of the group but there always has to be at least one or two people who male life hard for everyone else. It's the equivalent of sitting down to your favorite meal and then finding a pube on it. (I don't think I need to say which coworker is the pube.) It's beyond disgusting and frustrating.
I have a Bill around me. Bill has no academic credentials, he is on the lower end of the food chain. Bill goes the extra mile or the extra 1000 miles should I say. This means well beyond the boss. Bill is constantly angry and secretly thinks he should be boss. Just as I am writing this, Bill is summing the tech guys from IT because his software isn't fast enough which disables him to work faster, better than everyone else to be exact. Bill is mad.
Every place I have worked and am 61 now still working, all the Manager's have favorities, they get more hours and they always know what's going on in the place and then they say oh did you not know, and loads of brown nosers.
Work with several of these. The worst for me has been the one that tries to even boss bosses around . This type of person has to be the best and thinks they know everything. I agree under neath most of these traits is insecurity. This one is a Avery and everything you said is spot on.
One coworker personality you didnt mention is Jim... Jim is much like Nick , HOWEVER ,when you try to tell him and gain his coworker sympathay about How HARD things are at home or why getting your job done at work is so hard because of family/kid problems,Jim replies "Well,I dont have any kids,dont have any personal issues , AND TRULY GET MY JOB DONE REGARDLESS OF WHATEVER ! Well, Jim is obviously not the person at work you should try and lean on.HE GETS HIS JOB DONE ON TIME,PUTS IN HOURS,AND ONLY WANTS MONETARY COMPENSATION THATS TO BE EXPECTED FOR SERVICES PROVIDED. You dont want Jim for a friend because he wont stick up for you when youre less than acceptable in performance. He greets everyone and replies when asked "how are you?" says " my life is perfect and its a wonderful day !" when thats truly impossible. You see, Jim gets things done,doesnt use excuses,too busy in his own world to gossip, and is far smart enough to NOT tell the truth to everyone about his personal life. Afterall, who wants to listen to negative bs anyway? right? Be Jim, Be smart,Be successful, and be on your way home after work everyday instead of happy hour. Be Jim and youll be happy throughout your work carreer .
Agree with this video. I still trying to find a video on how to "re-structure" supervisors and managements, as they seem to let the front line employees do a bad job. The owners of the company get one story from manager and the stats from front line employees tells a less flattery story.
My pseudo boss is an Avery … to a TEE!! My husband was her boss when we first started at our job (in healthcare) and within the first week she went over his head to file a complaint against me to upper management. It’s been the same ever since- now going on 2 years. I wish she was just my coworker- that would be so much easier.
Great video! I work for the government. We don't have Chads, but we have managers that are here because of their connections with politicians. They're not handsome, but know how to promote themselves, and usually have traits of the others coworkers you need to avoid.
Yup especially seen a Patty before & people like that claim to hate they job so much then claim they are the best worker and always minding other people business 🙄
I work with Someone like this, and She is not happy unless everyone else is in a bad mood! And she gets involved with everyone's work but can't do her own, without screwing it up!!!
Definitely Rachel. Pretended to be a friend but, like a jellyfish that seems innocent at first glance, she takes these little stabs and barbs at me. I have tried to shake her off, but cannot rid myself of her no matter how hard I try. I must be too easy a target.
Worked with all of them except Chad, but I think there is a Chadina at my current job. Highly educated (looks like family money) no experience in anything relevant or even in the office environment immediately made manager upon hire. As for me, definitely been a Rachel once. I need to do better. I liked the other coworker as a person but as a coworker she was awful. Only came in 60% of the time, 3/5 days a week, but got paid 100% for 5/5 days. Always had a dumb impossible excuse why she was 4 hours late for work. We had the same job title I had to do her work and mine and I deeply resented it because she wasn't carrying her load and I had no power to say no to her workload which I had to do in her place. However this video helped me see I didn't act professionally. I left that place quickly and I'm no longer a Rachel.
Which difficult coworkers have you worked with?
I left all of these.
I work with all of them 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Hi good morning to you, to me the difficult to work with, is the recommended by the head director prof, Dean's, their sister or brothers the new staff act she /he know it all, conceited, it's inside the university government some many staff gossips too
All unfortunately. And more unfortunate when HR is a combo of Rachel and Patty.
With men I will tell you something...the jealous bitter males will try and undermine handsome Chad and will attempt character assassination because his looks are a threat
All of these archetypes definitely exist, and ALL of these people are the reason why people want to work from home, FOREVER.
And glad I am.
I would prefer a hybrid myself.
I can only give one thumbs up but here are 100 more 👍
Yep. Thank goodness I control my comings and goings for the most part but would prefer to NEVER have to interact with people outside of my home office.
Yes thank you!
Yup, working with all of them .. I'm here for a paycheck, not for friendship. Keeping my nose down, and not getting intertwined in the drama/gossip keeps me sane.
the only good thing about the pandemic was bei g away from the office for a year and now that I got to go back. I am keeping my head down, working my 8hrs and leaving on time.
Also trying to work on finding a new job. Its been 2yr and 6 mths since I started and still haven't gotten my review
Of course I worked with all of them because we are all human and flawed. I have probably even exhibited behavior of all of them from time to time. I try not to but I am human too. The difference is that I tend to focus on getting my work done well and not on ladder climbing. Ladder climbing has a tendency to get you to the top where you are the most likely to fall off when they shake the ladder. All this garbage started to happen at work when top management stopped looking at performance and good character and started to accept those who played the game of work well. Lets face it I am just tired of having to go to work because its just not the best way to earn a living but I am too old to start over. I still want more money and flexibility to do what I want when I am working but ...
i've been trying to keep my nose down yet I was told I was being disrespectful for not engaging..
This is one of the many reasons I want to work remotely indefinitely
Agreed 👍. There's no such thing as friendship at work.
The worst are the snitches, backstabbers, two facers, and the brownie noses. Every time I went to work I would lose faith in humanity. After retirement I gained my faith in humanity back. Some people are just plain evil and mentally deranged. At every job I had to deal with this bs.
💯 % agree. I deal with each one of them like a bad medicine to swallow everyday
I want to retire so bad... but I'll probably have to work until I drop dead.
The snitches got so bad at work that I socialized with a separate crew and sometimes ate alone away from the others.
What line of work were you in?
I feel like I’m traumatized from the last job that I had. A person that I worked with that was on the same level as I was quit, I left a couple of years later…it took us years to get over the trauma of that place, we spoke to each other about it until we started to gradually get better. I have never seen such a shark-pit of evil in my life, and I hope to god I never do again.
I avoid all my co-workers and prefer it if they also avoid me 🤣
Sometimes I feel that way too
I'm very introverted and didn't want to interact with my colleagues, due to my fragile mental health. As a result, I have been branded as odd, weird, antisocial and have even been called brusque or rude. All I wanted to do was do my work and FO home. I can identify with all of the personalities described, having being the brunt of their nefarious activities, having being subjected to the silent treatment and other mind games, I now work entirely on my own from home. No more workplace politics or gaslighting.
Me too! Ive been branded so many names. I just laugh at it now. As introverts, we’re quite powerful. We are excellent at reading people and seeing right through them. We dont react, we think. Were smart in all senses and wise. We pick our friends carefully. We dont need an audience, we are very secure and content to work on our own. With all this being said, is it any wonder that in a world full of insecure extroverts that we get attacked by these people? Nope. These toxic people are so consumed by jealousy that they dont even know this is why they dislike the introverts. I also now work 99% from home. Pure bliss and im loving it. I no longer have to entertain these ppl and give them they attention they crave.
Not all prisons are brick and mortar. There is the prison of a bad marriage, a bad relationship, and the prison of a toxic work environment. You must have felt like Andy Dufresne when he finished crawling out of the sewer and into freedom.
Been there and for the F sake due to trauma I just shut down and acted as strong as I could, nevertheless I would break down at home, a person of them even referred to me as toxic because "I didn't vibe with the team"
Same
I'm there to make money, not friends. That's it.
Patty is the worst! I worked with one who gossiped about EVERYONE. Even her own friends. When she got her chance to throw me under the bus, she gladly did. 🤣 these people are so insecure. You don’t need to make other people look bad to look good.
Exactly! The gotcha is you look better when you make others look good.
@@JenniferBrick yes!! 🙌🏽
What was management's view of Patty?
Well if other people throw you under the boss explain to your boss with evidence you aren't that type of guy
Problem solved
I have worked with a lot of Patty’s… I’ll call some of them Pete… I also currently work with a Rachel & a Nick… Hell if ppl look at themselves they may identify with some. If I ever told on anyone, it was to help because I was conditioned to believe we were a team & we were looking out for one another. That’s the bs I was fed. So that’s why I was telling. Cause I thought I had my coworkers back. Not throwing them under the bus…
Just got fired thanks to a Rachel who made up a bunch of stuff about me/made false reports. Sucks because I cried to her about how people were treating me at work. Turns out she was banding together with other coworkers to push me out of the company just because I didn’t fit in and didn’t want to sit around gossiping with them over lunch, etc.
I left this comment on another video and will share here so u know ur not alone: I got fired one time for not "fitting in". All because the "head bitch" ( the girl who had been there the longest, knew everything, and even used a coffee cup that said "queen bee" on it) didn't like me. Bad thing is she was suuuuper nice to me for like the first week or two and we laughed and everything was great. She flipped and did a 180 om me out of the blue and literally started making up stuff that I never said or did and I was attacked by her, the boss and another coworker (attacked meaning confronted randomly about these things I did not do). After about a month working there the boss took me aside and in an overly sweet and fake voice told me I just didn't fit in. I told her what a bitch that other girl was and they could have the shit show, I didn't want a part in it lol
Im so sorry people suck :/ im young and dont have experience at work but i'm worried that work is the same as school, similar dynamic.
@@divine6526 it is the same as school for many sadly. Idk how old you are but growing up my school peers never acted like this. Work was a real eye opener.
I hope you are at a better company now. Don't let this experience tear you down. Let it make you more empathic. Remember to never be like them! They just end up eating each other.
same I got fired once a month after I was hired by a woman who seemed to be all over the boss. I couldnt care less though. She told him I wasnt doing any work but there was no work! I was let to research and list things I find and id complete the task within 2/3 hours. I dont fit in with most companies and just got hired after going back to college ( not easy I cant find a much better job as there arent many jobs) I also intend to continue my studies. I realise I dont fit it because most have low IQ in some type of jobs and it motivates me to continue my studies. I am about to be fired but I did nothing really . I dont care as so far im getting paid and I have to wait. They thought I d fit in but I dont. I dont drink and they sure all do. I just dont want to work again I think. If I had money , I d have remained in the university full time and even. do a phd . Its totally ridiculous in fact to work and the people you are surrounded with are really the bottom of society. Thats the reality and there are videos about it from a PTPOP , he talked about call centers but any customer service job is similar and they are the easiest to get but a lot of other jobs have fancy titles and are more or less a customer service job. I dont even want to be around most of these people. Thank god fr the covid/remote working .
Chad is actually a spy to the boss, that’s how he is favoured by the boss. His Job there is not working for the organisation, he is there to be the boss’ s eyes and ears. He uses his charming and nice appearance to trap so many vulnerable people who are so naive to tell him everything. This is how he has all the privileges without having to work hard like others.
The boss only keeps him close because of the Intel he receives. The boss dislikes Chad but hides it well.
We may have to “deal” with Chad
Thank goodness you said this because I was starting to wonder if they were sleeping together. Seriously. My Chad gives a little bit a of info to you but gets a lot out of you and runs with it.
Woah
The narcissist. As soon as I identify one at the office, it's adios amigos. I will not waste effort trying to work with these animals.
Narcissists add so many unnecessary obstacles to suit their ego. That said, they're already really easy to manipulate in general.
Narcissistic managers are the worst, they abusing their position and destroy you!! Been there.
@@The25Sister 💯 why I stopped looking for corporate jobs and left that part of the world. Corporate attracts these animals. Golden handcuffs. I've about had it. They are hell bent on destroying everyone in their quest for debt slavery.
Animals are better than people!
@@JK20239 I want wwe
Got these people too.
Pray for them my friends.
I had a horrible boss, and I prayed for him and a couple months later he disappeared to a new place 😀. Thank Lord Jesus Christ
Wow😂
At every job, I have always had one or two coworkers who try to act like they're my boss... every time I tell them off, they escalate. If I freeze them out, they get in their feelings.
Neither the boss nor our coworkers are our friends. The best is to mind our own business and talk about harmless things. A feather can easily grow into five hens in the workplace.
I personally feel that talking is not appropriate in the workplace.
@@haroldfridkis9657 I agree. Every time I open my mouth or share anything personal, it comes back to bite me in the a$$. I just want to retire... I hate work.
what are the harmless things to talk about ?
The villain is always next in line for some sort of promotion for management! If you are kind, just and fair you will not last in any business model. Period.
Sad truth 😕
That's all I have seen so far. It sucks your only 2 choices are to work for a bad company or work ONLY for yourself (i.e., start your own business which is a HUGE investment and a risk).
It makes me thankful that I work graveyard shifts with only one person. I simply just want to work and not deal with any Junior High type drama.
I feel you. Be your own boss if possible.
Thank you! This shift isn’t the easiest as far as sleep, but you can pretty much avoid the pettiness and being watched constantly, that supervisor just waiting for you to mess up, on nights. It’s been almost 20 years since I worked days & plan to keep it that way.
I've been working the graveyard shift since 1998 and greatly prefer it to days. The peace, the quiet, the freedom, and the independence.
Ahhhh, when Rachel and Patty co-exist in the same office you will eventually see a day of reckoning and surprisingly, Rachel will win because she is very skilled at playing both sides. She will completely expose Patty for the manipulative liar that she is. While it may be a relief to be rid of Patty, you will eventually learn that Rachel is just as manipulative. Deal with her kindly and politely, but don’t ever trust her. Anything you say, no matter how innocent will get twisted if she sees you as the competition.
Had an accounting manager "Patty" & her side kick "Rachel" destroy every team member in the department. Both would take credit for everyone's work.
Right! What is it with these accounting people?! They’re always the worst people I’ve run into in the office.
Omg these comments i love them 😂
I love this straightforward talk. People just need to do their work and leave others alone. Either do it well or go find another job you like.
I worked with a dude who seemed all energetic and pleasant to be around but he was toxic. He constantly lied to cover up his mistakes, and goes around hiding colleague's personal belongings thinking that it was a 'joke'. I wasn't surprised that he got fired shortly after for harassment.
I had that his exact type of co worker and he was a nick as well I'm so happy I left
I don't know why I didn't tell on him he even hit me once on the back of my head
But I didn't want me telling on him and my other new job boss finding out I really wanted to be out of that workplace quick otherwise that would put more of a Mental toll on me than a simple slap which wasn't that hard anyways
I'm happy I quit
I know someone like that
I got fired from a toxic job because of a Rachel, and her name is Rachel. The stage was set by a Patty. I was actually relieved to be fired they require 30 days notice or a 5000 fee. My confidence is ruined though.
Dig into my Toxic Job Recovery videos, and get the UAQ starter kit. Rebuilding your confident begins with bringing awareness to your awesomeness 💜 And I know you have a ton of awesomeness.
I'm so sorry. I'm sure you'll get it back when you work at it slowly and consistently🙂
I feel your pain, I went through the same. It was a relief to be fired, I felt like all my confidence was gone. Then I decided to start my own business and show them just how talented I am! In the end, I WIN.
@Nicole Not Karen? I thought her name was Karen.
30 days notice or a $5000 fee?? Wtf 😂
1-My last coworker was a Chad. He would work less than everyone else. No one would say anything to him.
2-Rachel and her crocodile tears pretending to be your "friend" only to backstab you.
3-A manager who was a mix of Karen and Nick. He believed he was boss #2. He acted like the company was his and forced everyone to work more without pay. Of course, boss loved him. I can't understand how I dealt with him for 3 years.
4-A male Avery, who trained me and then tried to get me fired just because I didn't agree with him in a few things.
I'm sorry you've met them all.
No one saying anything to Chad is what makes working with him or Cindy (female version) so unbearable
All of my co-workers are a combination of Chad,nick , patty and Rachel 😂....it seems like I don't need to watch any drama on TV because they already are doing a good job of creating one
I’m grateful these people have taught me to appreciate weekends & time off more. I used to be that super industrious person, I still kinda am just not putting all my eggs in one basket anymore.
I keep dirt on my fellow coworkers in case I need it. I've been screwed out of a job too many times. I learned the hard way how to play office politics. One co-worker tried to get me fired. Not only was able to defend myself, I read off a whole laundry list of stuff on her. They let her go that afternoon.
I almost got my manager fired once, but she quit when she realized that I was on to her. I found out later that she was actually doing a worse job than I discovered she was.
I've worked with them all. Some were a combo of the personalities. Several of them have sabotaged me out of a job. The problem is the bosses would believe them because they were professional butt kissers. In hindsight I'm much happier not working at those places anymore so they did me a favor!
That silver lining is quite shiny once you're out of it and in a normal job, isn't it?
Same here @gloria
Going through this now. I got demoted last month because a toxic coworker lied to my boss about me.
I liked this comment coz at least someone didn't normalize working with such cowards.
I know what you mean.There very manipulative,sneakie.But this bosses can't see Thur them..There not old school smart, and accountable.
I had a friend like Rachel in my personal life. She was a great friend until we were going for similar goals and then I saw a completely different side of her. Tried to have honest conversations with her about how her behavior was hurtful to save our then 3/4-year friendship, but no dice. Had to end the friendship.
I have met Every (men and women), you are right, they are extremely insecure. Even though they are the boss, they also feel insecure when their subordinates are in the spot lights. They even got jealous with the receptionist who seems to be brighter, bubbly pleasant and loved by everyone. There is no way that the receptionist can challenge their power or take their job but hey, insecure people are always toxic and extremely competitive regardless of what position they are in. How’s sad .
I had a Chad/Avery/Nick hybrid. Cost me the job after just two months. I am more relieved to be out of a toxic environment than anything else.
The worst way to deal with one is to laugh in their face. She asked me a snarky question I answered and she snapped at me not to talk back. I couldn't stop myself and burst out laughing.
What about the one that feels like they’re in charge bc they’ve been there longer and you’re new.. they be acting like a supervisor and seem super fake 😅
Could be anytime because most people are power hungry, but most typically a Patty or a Nick.
Oh I've encountered this one before. When I was new I actually thought she was someone important. She was a person of color and when I got a bigger raise than her (she stole my check stub off of my desk) she stood up in front of the whole department and threatened to beat my "white" a$$. She eventually got herself fired.
Oh lord, I work with a Chadnick. He's 27 and is completely unaware of how much he pisses others off. Managers love him, everyone else rolls their eyes.
Not audible: my deep sigh when I read this.
Everyone company has at least one.
Im a woman but im pretty sure I am a chad… I dont know if I should try change, Im just being myself..!
Your ongoing disdain for Chad cracks me up. 😂 I’d say I worked with them all but currently work with a Patty and she drives me nuts.
TBH I feel bad because I feel like some wonderful human named Chad is going to click into one of my videos and feel personally attacked. But now Patty, Rachel, Nick and Avery aren't safe either.
I have a close friends named Chad and Karen. Woes to them. For me the most difficult co-workers were the "Office Moms." A couple of them really got into my head.
I always feel bad picking names but these archetypes have really become characters in my head.
And ughhhhh the office moms. Totally missed them.
Hurricane Katrina destroyed that name. Sad how bad things destroy good names
@@stelladallasAlabama At the time, I had a pain in the butt co-worker named Katrina. A lot of people around the office called her Hurricane Katrina.
Office moms: don't you dare not complimenting her kids, because she has pics her desk. God help you if you say anything critical.
@@roberttackett7000 lmao 😂
I'm happy that the company I work for has no toxic people, because they're seen out. I think it's important to keep toxic people out and to be able to make friends at work because that makes team work better and more efficient. Before COVID I had a lot of fun staying up late at the office working with my friends as we solved problems together, and I also admire them because they're hella smart. I was told once about this guy who worked there before I was hired who was incredibly rude to workers, he yelled at someone for not being able to complete a nearly impossible deadline he had given and the toxic guy got fired the day after. The only time I had to deal with a toxic person in the company was a girl who, I have no idea under which type she falls into according to this video, but when she joined I started having problems with my co-workers whom I had gotten along with all the time. We would argue a little, they'd have a bad attitude towards me, etc. This girl even said on more than one occasion that she learnt to be a bully or else she would be the one to get bullied. Anyway once she was gone, everything went back to normal. It was really weird.
Oh boy, I had an Avery/Nick (actually Nicole) hybrid as a boss. She was overly ambitious and viewed me as a threat - to the point where she intentionally held back my career by the methods you mentioned. I endured it for 12 years and finally got out at the end of August. It did a number on my mental/emotional health and my confidence was at rock bottom. It's taken me some time, but I'm healing. I don't have a new job yet, I've started training in a new career and have achieved more in two months than I did in 12 years. Also, I've been burned repeatedly by numerous Rachel's - I told myself I will not repeat that mistake ever again!
Hang around here. Now we know who the players are, we're going to be talking more about dealing with them 💥
Why the actual fuck would you endure a pyscho for 12 years you should have quit as soon as you reliazed your boss is toxic
I don't know why you endured it for 12 years
You’re the idiot here - 12 years ??? Comon
People go out of their way to start crap,evil, I read these stories, and can't believe how I can relate.The insecure bosses, and the over ambitious one as well. Hope karma plays out in my situation. SOME kind of justice.
@@timzeringue2649 karma isn’t real unfortunately
I have worked with a Rachel and an Avery.
I’m currently in a situation with the Rachel personality.
She’s very tricky and manipulative and always has been.
She’ll talk your ear off and actually provide you with information you can use to your advantage at some point. She dislikes when I don’t give her information about myself or others🤣👍🏼
It’s like playing a game of chess…you have to be thinking a few steps ahead of this personality type, in order to make sure you’re not falling under her manipulative spell.
I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to be around her anymore. For now though, I play the ‘game’!
Hurry up with your next video…I need your help with the situation I’m in currently 😵💫😅🤣
One more thing to add…these personality types are MASTER manipulators!!!
Beware🤪
Thank you for your videos!👏🏼
Imagine having ALL of these people at your workplace.... because I do
I have worked with all of them. I am retired now thank God! My big problem was with the women who were sleeping with the doctors that I worked for. Cannot compete with that. This is rampant in the Healthcare industry.
Working from home makes me get rid of most of them😊
i like most need to work to pay my bills. but i can't stand those who live and breath for the company. the person who is gonna overpromise and tries to speak for others. im a 8h person. i don't work longer. but if my coworkers start hinting and raising the workload to make me stay longer, im not gonna play ball.
My opinion: to each their own. If someone wants to work 60 hours a week because it brings them joy or fulfillment that's their thing. I can't stand the projection though. There is no correct or incorrect way to live your life... the important thing is being clear on what YOU want and what's important to you - which you absolutely are!
@@JenniferBrick yeah but if they want to work longer, all the best for them. but i can't stand when a boss or senior coworker in an attempt to impress their client or boss, picks up extra work and then brings it to me to do the work. i will work and do the job but im in my car at the 8h mark.
Yep they shouldn't be committing your time without prior consent in an effort to make themselves look good.
So far I have only encountered a Patty, but I'll keep my eyes open for the other types ☺️ Thank you Jennifer, knowledge is power and I'm already less scared because you are so upbeat and cheerful!
This is so true, but people come with various permutations and combinations. I have bumped into all of them at some point, but as someone else in the comment section says...just do your work and ignore the noise.
Working with all of them currently. Fortunately I work remotely so not having to deal with any of them face to face. It helps to know who you're dealing with though and at least I know I can't trust any of them. Really wanna get to self-employment. I'd honestly take the financial insecurity over dealing with office politics for the rest of my life.
Holy ... watching this video just made me realize why my coworker despises me although I've never did anything to her. I even bring her bagels once in a while. She's excellent at the job much more than I am and I kind of just show up and depend on my positive energy and attitude to carry to whatever destination life is taking me. I'm exactly what she described as a Chad in my workplace environment and I'm Dealing with an Avery unfortunately. Thank for this video. I'm gonna do some heavy self introspection.
There is no I in team.
I am a teacher with a classroom in between a Chad and Patty. This makes so much sense!
Lord Jesus!
I guess it takes many different personalities to run a company. The key is to learn how to manage these people and use them to your advantage. I try to do just that, staying as neutral as possible. I've been called a "silent player" at work, due to that.
However, I have no problem addressing bad behavior directed towards me. The Adult Voice, lowering my glasses and looking over them at the offender with heavy eye contact work well for me.
I guess that's the former military officer coming out in me. LOL
Now, after hearing about Avery, my Rachel was a combo with Avery.
Bad combo!
@@JenniferBrick no doubt. One of the major reasons I don’t work there anymore.
It’s Apalling how the manager at my place allows the witch hunt
I knew I was working with a male(Avery) when I had to present a code to my boss and he had purposely went in and removed a very important piece of the code. I’m sweating in front of my boss trying to figure out why it wasn’t working, and here comes Avery to save the day and perfectly tell me in front of everyone where the mistake was. We talked about it after and he played it off like they were trying to prank me, but after that day I knew who he was. Stay Focused!
Sergeant. I work with a lot of former military members whose modus operandi learned in the military, is to get someone else to do their work the tell the boss "I have Fred doing this, Julie is doing that, and Bob is doing this" and they do nothing while the coworkers do double and triple their normal workload.
I just resigned a Toxic workplace after 8 months of daily walking through a Negativity Vortex.
After I immediately resigned, I felt an 800 pound weight leave my psyche.
I’m going to take this one-day as a pity party and move on starting tomorrow. I can do NOTHING about yesterday.
Yes. Those people.
Worked everyday with a psychopath. I’m not a doctor and I can’t diagnose, but THAT guy was a non-emotional user that had to torment me for his own gratification. So much NEGATIVE ENERGY, but constantly told me he was a Good Religious Person. Good People show Good Fruit. His “fruit” was rotten.
My Boss was WEAK. He didn’t stop any of it and even participated in it everyday.
It was Open-Season on me.
I was super productive and customers called ME. My co-workers hated my success, so they daily tried to tear me down emotionally. They even called me Fat in front of customers. Whatever it took to kill me emotionally and ruin my sales.
When I started out producing one of the salesmen, he got in my face and warned me there would be consequences if I “outsold” him. He proceeded to show me his Glock 40 and wave it around in my face.
That made me even more determined to beat his ass in sales. Guns don’t scare me, as I keep mine hidden and legally out of the workplace. But, that was a decisive moment when I decided to ignore him and keep my distance.
Tomorrow is a NEW DAY. I’m glad that I got to learn exactly what a Toxic Environment is and I can now more easily recognize it earlier on.
Thanks to you ! I made the decision to leave. :)
If you don’t look at everyone as a villain your going to lose.
I’ve worked with all 5. I work with a ton of Averys because managers liked that at my company. I’ve also felt the urge to be each of these personas but want to be something better.
Omg I love how these names are actual names of people I’ve worked with 😆
Ms. Brick. Good analysis. Recently a Patty. Passive aggressive and running to the boss. Spot on in not reacting and planning into their hands. Keep up the good work.
Exactly! Play your game, not theirs 💥
I choked on my coffee... just from the opening. My problem is I never got past not reacting. Until I found your videos, I never thought about a UAQ (regardless of name). So things had already progressed to unmanageable relationships.
I'm glad you keep UAQ in mind. You're the main character in your career story now my friend!
Oh mine, definitely Chad, he literally named “Chad “, who said “I am smart” at times. 😂 this is hilarious!
This brings clarity to a situation I faced years ago with someone I thought was a friend. Turns out he may have been a Rachel. I’ve been enjoying watching your videos and appreciate the contact.
I have probably worked with them all. I have complained about a difficult line manager constantly as a coping mechanism. I definitely need to be careful who I sound off to!
You know how I deal with them? With the lord’s help.
Very nice dissection of jobmob psychology- You presented it wel Madam- made me realise they are there subtly- faced them all. ☺️
First is I think a mixture of Avery and Patty who was the product manager I had to take orders from who just kept gossiping about me with other colleagues. I just couldn't take it so I left the company (its just a part time contract job) apparently after I left, she told everybody I chouldn't do the job that's why I left. Second person is a Rachel .... who was an ex-college mate who worked with me for many years. I helped her alot and paid her alot during her difficult times, but when I was in difficulty she didn't offer the same level of help that I gave her in the past as if she's hoarding all the work. I'm just not good with all this socializing and working with other people, now I work alone at home doing my own thing.
I always wonder if bosses can’t see through these people.
I think bosses do, but don't care as long as these people do their jobs.
@@ComoPz bosses are the biggest snakes 😂 reason they made it to being a boss
Thank you, dear Jennifer, for teaching us all about the very complicated world of corporate office politics, how to to navigate it and succeed. You're doing a great service.
Worst case was the Rachael's, acts as a work friend, then becoming a shape shifting snake, strikes when not looking!
I hate dealing with Nicks. At my last job, I had to deal with two who became very passive aggressive due to having both asked me out on different occasions and my having rejected them. It was a drain as I couldn’t do anything without them hovering, trying to make awkward eye contact and look for any excuse to be 1 foot or less in my immediate space. It was so exhausting to avoid reacting as it was everyday every hour every second, I’m not even exaggerating. I became their whole mission. Interacting with them was awkward due to them leering and making it obvious they were not looking nor treating me like a professional. The worst part was, they would feign to be the victims when in reality they were trying everything in their power to be near me. I eventually experienced this at many jobs and it forced me to look to isolated or work from home jobs as the onslaught of harassment I kept getting from male colleagues was affecting my welfare. At first I thought I was maybe projecting something wrong but it’s often like walking on eggshells with these people. If I’m kind they become worse and don’t ever leave me alone and if I’m professionally cordial I’m a “b!tch”. Do you have any advice for this particular situation? Please. Because it’s distressing and the only time it doesn’t happen is when I’m working with an all woman staff which is rare.
It's both infuriating and disgusting that you are experiencing this, and that womxn continue to. deal with. Honestly, it's why I was stoked to age, it happens waaaaay less. Remember for them this is about power, and the only way they get your power is if you give it to them.
First thing I would personally do (and have done) in your shoes: active a stealth job search and have a Plan B lining up and consult a lawyer. Next... figure out what feel right for you. Is it a quiet exit to a better workplace, is it filing a complaint (which I'm an advocate for but also not gonna pretend it doesn't bear risk for the person who puts the complaint in at certain companies), is it doing both. What I think you already know is you can't thrive in that environment and something has to be done. I know a lot of women fail to make complaints because they're afraid they'll be known as the person who files sexual harassment complaints - but like then you don't have to worry about a company that tolerates that shit hiring you, ya know? But I say that as a person who financially could withstand an extended employment gap so please take that for what it's worth.
@@JenniferBrick Filing complains only turns the HR against me and they proceed to gossip about me with fervor. Saying that I’m making work difficult as apparently work isn’t work unless they interact with me (I have literally been told this on more than one occasion). In most places colleagues get away with it and I often think it’s because I’m a minority visually speaking. I had quit working the job with the two Nicks when a female colleague reached back to me and told she it finally dawned on her what I was dealing with and she described it all as a “pack of vultures after live prey”. Most of the time HR gets nervous and try to bounce the issue to me, ad if it’s my fault. This led to a bout of anxiety and depression as it really took a toll on my confidence and led me to try to gain weight and even dress to obscure myself as it really was that bad. Right now I’m working at a job with much less pay and trying to see if I can come up with something to work for myself as the problem hasn’t quelled as I get older but I can’t allow this to damn my quality of life and income either. I have become afraid of working with men unless they’re gay. The sad part is, I’ve also had managers outright tell me that’s just men being men what reaction do I expect? Many even encourage it in “good faith” for the men thinking I really went in there to be a potential conquest. It’s put me in a weird bind career wise as eventually men do become a problem no matter how isolated the job. Sigh. Thank you for your advice. I will try to reassess how I can work with the hand I’m dealing with as it’s a tough one. I cannot afford a lawyer at the moment and I’m too distraught and lost to do anything besides try and try again but I’m exhausted and age cannot come fast enough.
I feel you so much on there being not a lot of good options. But the way they win is if you duck out. And you deserve to do the job you love (without their BS) and get paid top dollar for it. The trauma from what you experienced and what was permitted is going to amplify any sightly off existence you have going forward.
Are you in LinkedIn? If you are and we're connected can you send me a DM? If we aren't add me with a note (reference your username here).
Many of them need that jacket that makes you hug yourself. I notice this channel was in my feed after talking to a difficult co worker on the phone. Makes me womder if they watched this channel. I sure hope so and they recognize their behavior 😂
I'm friends with just 1-2 people at my job in which we hang out outside of work, but we all agree not to let anyone else in, especially when it comes to other ideas to make money or add to additional friendships. Clock in, make the money, clock out, go home.
I have worked with all five of these people when I was in the military. Sadly, the military tries to pound honor and shame into people but never teaches them how to behave professionally. I like working remotely because there's no office politics.
Thank you very much for the free UAQ KIT & your examples of each co-worker with names helped me to identify each person at my job that plays these roles 💯😎🤗👌🏽🤣
I'm so glad this helped you identify who you're working with 💜
You've missed the main ones that bug me the most. The small minded baby boomers, who don't embrace any sort of improvement or change. They judge you straight off the bat, usually negatively. They talk down to anyone less experienced or younger than them, and are just all around lazy and arrogant... by saying such things "that has nothing to do with them me." or classics like "stop asking questions." When you've worked there a week.
Team work doesn't exist in these people, they'd rather not interact with anyone at all and ignore you if you break the work flow. These people are toxic to all work environments, if your an employer, look out for these sort and get rid of them!
Maybe they don’t want to interact or team work because you’re one of the villains 😀
Those are the exact things my zoomer coworkers said to me, a boomer. Maybe it's best to not label people based on the year they are born...?
While true you are missing one too - the green worker that comes in a new office and thinks they know everything after one week on the job and won't learn from anyone because they already think they know everything. (They are so green they don't even know what they don't know and they are resistant to learning) - Sadly small minds are not limited to a generation.
I’ve worked with a lot of Patti’s . They are the most annoying.
But the ones who bother me the most are the Avery’s
I had the pleasure of working with an Avery before. As someone usually more on the understatement side of things that experience taught me that modesty may be a virtue, but it really doesn't pay. I didn't find out until way later that the Avery's constant (and often obviously untrue, e.g. when claiming significant participation in translation work in a language they didn't even speak) overstatement and my general understatement lead our superiors to believe Avery was way more competent then me. It was a brutal lesson, but I'm glad to have learned it early.
All the difficult personas you mention in the workplace are manifested from the fact that they are there at work to earn bread and butter, hence the workplace becomes the battleground, those who win will survive, those who fail have to leave. This is simple like it. And when you jump ship, you will find the same personas in another workplace. This is the reality of life. At the end of the date, how big or small money they have earned, they can’t take it with them to the grave but they have destroyed so many souls in their lives. I wish they will receive their karma, what goes around will come around.
I disagree I believe these people are mentally stunted better known as narcissistic or just plain toxic because I eat money too but I avoid drama I once believed people were like me and could become friends and genuine well after years of being burned I’ve learned no definitely not true
Who would Nick be if he constantly sees others around not doing their jobs, sabotaging, cheating and nothing happens to them while you’re ridiculed for being ethical and honest?
Imagine the toxicity of a coworker who is a complete Nick & Petty both.
My former manager is a Rachel, literally. 🤭
OMG just made me LOL
Last year , my boss at the time made it very clear who his Presidential choice was .There could be no disagreement. He is probably still in denial over the result. I moved on to a better company with an assist from Jennifer 😃.
So glad you made an escape!
I'm increasingly against talking politics at work. I wasn't before, it's just the environment has gotten to divisive and radicalized that it gets in the way of being able to work productively.
@@JenniferBrick I got a talking to at work for suggesting that our TH-cam channel should have a set of recommended channels instead of TH-cam's algorithm dictating it. I said, "I mean, why would we be endorsing Fox News?" It was perceived to be a political comment. No -- that was what the algorithm brought up, and we are a non-political (supposedly) organization and we have nothing to do with news sources of any kind.
The world's gone mad. It's really hard in post-brexit Britain as well. These days the best thing to do is to avoid mentioning any kind of news because the B word might come up and you're on a minefield.
@@JenniferBrick I am against it too. People have no respect for opposing political views.
I work with teachers. A few of them are bullies. Some are these characters. Some are even a combination of these types!
I just got out of a toxic work environment, be it, by the sabatoge of a Patty, but this makes me feel better. But now I get to pursue the career I really want! I'm loving your videos.
I'm dealing with a female version of Nick AND Avery. The love-child of the two, I guess. It's been a challenge not to react so unfortunately, I have done so in a low-key manner. The only thing that keeps me sane are my other coworkers who see through this person's bs and can't stand her either. It's a kind of camaraderie. It's too bad that every workplace seems to have a bad apple in the bunch. I get along with 98% of the group but there always has to be at least one or two people who male life hard for everyone else. It's the equivalent of sitting down to your favorite meal and then finding a pube on it. (I don't think I need to say which coworker is the pube.) It's beyond disgusting and frustrating.
I have a Bill around me. Bill has no academic credentials, he is on the lower end of the food chain. Bill goes the extra mile or the extra 1000 miles should I say. This means well beyond the boss. Bill is constantly angry and secretly thinks he should be boss. Just as I am writing this, Bill is summing the tech guys from IT because his software isn't fast enough which disables him to work faster, better than everyone else to be exact. Bill is mad.
Every place I have worked and am 61 now still working, all the Manager's have favorities, they get more hours and they always know what's going on in the place and then they say oh did you not know, and loads of brown nosers.
Work with several of these. The worst for me has been the one that tries to even boss bosses around . This type of person has to be the best and thinks they know everything. I agree under neath most of these traits is insecurity. This one is a Avery and everything you said is spot on.
I've worked with coworkers with some of these characteristics but not all of them. They were the types you never could entirely trust or depend on.
Yes I have work with coworkers like that.. very difficult when you first meet people like that ..it catch you off guard.😞
As usual Jennifer, GREAT ADVICE!! I've worked with all of them. Here's how I solved this problem once and for all. WORK REMOTELY.... Problem solved...
One coworker personality you didnt mention is Jim... Jim is much like Nick , HOWEVER ,when you try to tell him and gain his coworker sympathay about How HARD things are at home or why getting your job done at work is so hard because of family/kid problems,Jim replies "Well,I dont have any kids,dont have any personal issues , AND TRULY GET MY JOB DONE REGARDLESS OF WHATEVER ! Well, Jim is obviously not the person at work you should try and lean on.HE GETS HIS JOB DONE ON TIME,PUTS IN HOURS,AND ONLY WANTS MONETARY COMPENSATION THATS TO BE EXPECTED FOR SERVICES PROVIDED. You dont want Jim for a friend because he wont stick up for you when youre less than acceptable in performance. He greets everyone and replies when asked "how are you?" says " my life is perfect and its a wonderful day !" when thats truly impossible. You see, Jim gets things done,doesnt use excuses,too busy in his own world to gossip, and is far smart enough to NOT tell the truth to everyone about his personal life. Afterall, who wants to listen to negative bs anyway? right? Be Jim, Be smart,Be successful, and be on your way home after work everyday instead of happy hour. Be Jim and youll be happy throughout your work carreer .
Agree with this video. I still trying to find a video on how to "re-structure" supervisors and managements, as they seem to let the front line employees do a bad job. The owners of the company get one story from manager and the stats from front line employees tells a less flattery story.
And somehow they get labeled as a great place to work
The reason companies suck and are not safe is because people are afraid to speak out.
All of them.. 25 years of corporate BS… have my own studio now 😆🙌🏼🙏🏼💛New Sub ❤️
OMG, we also had a Nick. 😆🤣
You had them all!
My pseudo boss is an Avery … to a TEE!! My husband was her boss when we first started at our job (in healthcare) and within the first week she went over his head to file a complaint against me to upper management. It’s been the same ever since- now going on 2 years. I wish she was just my coworker- that would be so much easier.
The hard part about Averys as bosses is they are really insecure and feel threatened by talented team members.
The management will just fire her if she keeps doing that
Great video!
I work for the government. We don't have Chads, but we have managers that are here because of their connections with politicians. They're not handsome, but know how to promote themselves, and usually have traits of the others coworkers you need to avoid.
Worked with all of them and suffered through a department of Averys.......
Yikes that does NOT sounds fun!
@@JenniferBrick It was miserable
Yes. As you described Chad I had a specific name in mind of a person Ive worked with in my company. Lets call him Golden child.
Yup especially seen a Patty before & people like that claim to hate they job so much then claim they are the best worker and always minding other people business 🙄
Hi Jennifer, is it possible that one person can have all 6 toxic personalities?
Behaviors can overlap but the 5 types have different underlying motivations.
I work with Someone like this, and She is not happy unless everyone else is in a bad mood! And she gets involved with everyone's work but can't do her own, without screwing it up!!!
Definitely Rachel. Pretended to be a friend but, like a jellyfish that seems innocent at first glance, she takes these little stabs and barbs at me. I have tried to shake her off, but cannot rid myself of her no matter how hard I try. I must be too easy a target.
Worked with all of them except Chad, but I think there is a Chadina at my current job. Highly educated (looks like family money) no experience in anything relevant or even in the office environment immediately made manager upon hire. As for me, definitely been a Rachel once. I need to do better. I liked the other coworker as a person but as a coworker she was awful. Only came in 60% of the time, 3/5 days a week, but got paid 100% for 5/5 days. Always had a dumb impossible excuse why she was 4 hours late for work. We had the same job title I had to do her work and mine and I deeply resented it because she wasn't carrying her load and I had no power to say no to her workload which I had to do in her place. However this video helped me see I didn't act professionally. I left that place quickly and I'm no longer a Rachel.
It’s really nasty when you find out you worked with a Pavery. Yep, a combo of Patty and Avery. Truly wicked.
OM Goodness !!! You are great at this. Those are the perfect descriptions 😂😂 totally recognized all of them , even myself 😮