Are You Navigating A Toxic Workplace? Here is what you can do.

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  • Today, I want to tackle a topic that many of us have unfortunately experienced: toxic work environments.
    In this video, I'll share my insights and strategies on how to navigate these challenging situations with resilience and take effective action. I'll delve into the signs of a toxic workplace, from the absence of trust and respect to the feeling of being undervalued and unsafe. We'll explore the detrimental impact it can have on your well-being and work performance.
    But it doesn't stop there. I'll guide you through four actionable steps to address toxic behavior. We'll start with standing your ground and modeling integrity, empowering you to confront bullying behaviors and attempts to intimidate. I'll provide practical tips on how to approach such conversations with confidence and professionalism.
    Next, I'll emphasize the importance of observing and gathering evidence, understanding the dynamics within your organization, and assessing if others have experienced similar mistreatment. Then, we'll discuss how to navigate the rules, involving HR and legal departments when necessary, while maintaining discretion and seeking appropriate guidance.
    Lastly, I'll share insights on when it might be time to consider voting with your feet, and making decisions that prioritize your well-being and growth. I'll provide guidance on finding teams and leaders who promote an equitable work environment where your contributions are valued.
    Join me on this journey as we learn to identify, confront, and overcome toxic work environments together. Let's create a workplace culture that thrives on trust, respect, and integrity. Remember, you have the power to shape your own career path and find fulfillment in your professional journey. Together, we can create a positive change and build a healthier work environment for all.
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  • @tommygamba170
    @tommygamba170 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    HR protects these managers

    • @kimkaragiannis848
      @kimkaragiannis848 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yes, they do!!! The "At Will" law allows a lot of this. And, management positions attract power-hungry people who are toxic. :(

    • @angelaemma5221
      @angelaemma5221 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kimkaragiannis848 Mine just got fired because she stood up to everyone and called them out. She packed up and went today. It's not always HR.

    • @joshuacohen234
      @joshuacohen234 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      People who still think hr is fair and equal lol

    • @capslapsmac
      @capslapsmac 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      HR protects the company first, employees second.

    • @GretchenLodaSoprano
      @GretchenLodaSoprano 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Not always I was an HR Director and I was a victim of this at many employers. Maybe some HR people like this, but please don’t judge every HR person for being like this. Not only was I mistreated by the CEO of the company, but many of the Union stewards and other employees and no one would do anything about it. I was a person who is able to support management and employees with empathy. One of the problems is if HR wants to do the right thing if they’re boss, doesn’t they could just fire the HR person for not following with the boss wants. The key crux of the issue is to keep narcissist out of the workplace. That’s what this is all stemming from…

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +326

    Workplace performance declines in toxic work environments. If an employee is performing fine and then it changes.....look at the management team. They have likely acted from a point of suspicion, hardness, or been overly critical of an employee. Playing mind games, collecting dirt, and flatout fear mongering is something poor leadership does!!!

    • @thirdgen377
      @thirdgen377 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Two days ago a coworker slandered another and when I called her out on it she turned into a really mean spirited megalomaniac. Screamed in my face and attacked my ego and my employer didn't even do anything about it. The manager just stood there and watched. It's the most toxic job I've ever had. There's a group of women who have banded together, brainwashed the boss and has him alienating myself and a couple other key workers. They're trying to take advantage of the boss by telling him that myself and the other guys are the ones taking advantage by blaming their bad behavior on us. They walk off the job, talk on the phones, slack off and dick around but it's us the ones who are actually working being treated like shit. My boss was spreading lies about one worker and tried to manipulate my opinion by giving me half truths about the person and I went against my boss and told the person what the boss told me. He quit and I'm not too far behind. Worked so hard to make this company work just to watch it get taken over by sycophants who kiss ass and don't really care about the company's future. It's so fucked up.

    • @theazrael4423
      @theazrael4423 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sadly that's probably leadership everywhere except Disney

    • @westernsellers9148
      @westernsellers9148 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Especially when woemen are in charge 😂😂

    • @mimis.8943
      @mimis.8943 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@westernsellers9148 It is a sad fact.

    • @christinamorales6887
      @christinamorales6887 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Gaslighting management with narcissistic tendencies

  • @Khadijah_respectfully
    @Khadijah_respectfully 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +172

    I just started a job two weeks ago and yesterday i decided it would be my last day. Managment doesnt know it yet😂. Ive gotta put me first.

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I wish I was this brave but I have my father who keeps saying things don’t let her win and don’t leave your job because they pay you so well. I’m also in a bind with my ankle as well. This needs to be fixed before I can move onto a new job

    • @Khadijah_respectfully
      @Khadijah_respectfully 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@cherrytraveller5915 l understand ! My job paid well too, but sometimes that pay cut will give you more peace of mind and save your health. Just down size your life and you'll be able to afford your Bill's and have extra money.

    • @KiKi-mp8kd
      @KiKi-mp8kd 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I just did this today! Not worth the stress and headache ✌🏾

    • @Khadijah_respectfully
      @Khadijah_respectfully 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@KiKi-mp8kd right! I've learned that pay does not trump it peace of mind! I'll find better and even if it's for less, it really isnt because my peace is priority.

    • @miguels.b.2749
      @miguels.b.2749 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I've been 6 weeks into mine... I'm planning to present my two weeks notice this week...

  • @FrankieCarter579
    @FrankieCarter579 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    Most leaders put in a leadership position are not leaders. They are given a responsibility that they don't deserve. And they take that position by the reigns and run a bulldog fight with it. A leader motivates it's team. And pushes integrity in the business. The quality of the business thrives as well as the crew. It makes the employees want to come and do the job and the money becomes secondary.

    • @smoothiecutie2277
      @smoothiecutie2277 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you!!

    • @LadyJpraise2024unbound
      @LadyJpraise2024unbound 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Agree. An article said this about leaders. Leaders do not have to make you follow, people what to follow a leader

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is certainly true. My boss is one of those. And this is company that keeps pushing the people leaders narrative and then you look at my boss and all you think is that company line is just that. She isn’t a good people person at all. She gaslights and bullies. She bullied a girl off a building

  • @HolisticManifesting
    @HolisticManifesting 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    We need to stop using the word Boss, it is not a job title and I feel it fuels toxic leaders. Nobody is a boss of anyone, we are all showing up because we choose.

    • @imonym
      @imonym หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I agree. I am my own boss. My manager is my coworker.

  • @christinamorales6887
    @christinamorales6887 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Just resigned from toxic management and left the abusive gaslighting behind

  • @n.m.3760
    @n.m.3760 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Giant red flag: nepotism arrangements. When the boss' wife/husband works in the office. Especially if they're not qualified for the role. Run far, far away and don't ever accept the job. Nothing good ever comes out of that. Or any form of nepotism really (friends, family members, etc). You, as the employee, will always be "wrong". Not to mention, if you have a legitimate complaint about a spouse, you can't exactly bring that up to the boss. Nepotism harms morale in the office.

    • @Vandyvandyvandyvandy
      @Vandyvandyvandyvandy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is exactly why I just quit my job. The husband of the wife was a toxic, gaslighting, micromanager who was completely incompetent. He had the nerve to say that because I declined additional workload (his total workload on top of two other of the biggest company projects I was working on) that my position at the company needed to be reviewed, which meant he was threatening to fire me - so I just resigned straight up. GFY

  • @GetGwapThisYear
    @GetGwapThisYear 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    I started what I thought would be my dream job in my dream company in April 23. 6 months in and I just feel ostracised and ignored by the rest of the team. They’re not inclusive or welcoming, they stick in their little cliques and don’t deviate. The onboarding and training process has also been virtually non-existent. I’m stressed 😂

    • @thenewyorkcitizen
      @thenewyorkcitizen 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      That seems demoralizing.😢

    • @rerebrook5057
      @rerebrook5057 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @soapsinbloom
      @soapsinbloom 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      WOW, that sounds exactly like the place I just left..I did stand my ground for as long as I could. Manager was fired, new manager and same thing..

    • @mariamarshall2661
      @mariamarshall2661 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Wow! Same here.

    • @ich6636
      @ich6636 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Same here. I have been ignored, mocked, and laughed about behind my back. They make covert passive-agressive remarks, and although I have to share in doing my duties with another colleague, oftentimes the most difficult task I had to do it. I told my Manger but she sided with the other 2 colleagues , gaslighted me that actually the work we had to do in team and the fact that there was no team notion, it was because of me. For her, it was not important that important information weren't shared with me. I feel stressed, I can't sleep properly and have headaches. I made an agreement that I will leave the job if I wish so in March, but until then, I have to stay there and probably from today on be subject to retaliation.
      You are not alone ❤. But please consider to quit a toxic environment.

  • @MythicalFamilyYT
    @MythicalFamilyYT ปีที่แล้ว +124

    Sometimes the toxicity is driven by HR. And yes senior leadership is almost always a huge factor in the problem. In nursing much of the horizontal violence stems from role confusion and high stress,

    • @Clevelandsteamer324
      @Clevelandsteamer324 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Look at why narcissists pick nursing as a profession

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Absolutely right. In toxic and racist workplaces, HR is your worst nightmare but there is a way to fight back. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: th-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/w-d-xo.html

    • @Niki-mp8qe
      @Niki-mp8qe 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes I agree, we are having targets set but it's going to become a competition now, not good in a job where looking after others is the focus

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jacquieabramOkay, sis!!! Thank you for this comment because I ama BW dealing with this right now. I will have to make a move today because it has all come to an unavoidable head with the narcs mobbing me on my team (they hated me from day one) and my former manager's manager. My former manager quit suddenly, and they never hired someone to replace her. So now her manager is my manager, and he's even worse than she was. 😢

  • @borabora324
    @borabora324 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    You have just described my work environment and my boss and I now understand why I have been crying so much for the past 2 years!

    • @deshaabernathy482
      @deshaabernathy482 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You’re not alone ❤

    • @hmkpeace629
      @hmkpeace629 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Same here

    • @moodigirl
      @moodigirl 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Same with me. I have made the decision to leave

    • @Maris0L0L
      @Maris0L0L 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Girl same I cried today

  • @Kimosabe-
    @Kimosabe- 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    1 in 9 is drastically understated

    • @kimkaragiannis848
      @kimkaragiannis848 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly! 2 reasons for this. 1, management positions attract power-hungry people who are toxic. 2, the "At Will" laws allow this, and companies want bosses without integrity to be able to fire as needed.

  • @annmarie444
    @annmarie444 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    this is my current work situation right now- it is horrible. I have been a target, but I won’t simply give up even if they tried 🤞🏽

  • @anthonypope2106
    @anthonypope2106 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Just left a toxic hell environment. Tribal fear.

  • @UDubbb
    @UDubbb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I worked in the federal workforce and a hostile work environment was my entire career. When you are a single parent, and that good government job is the only thing allowing you to raise your child, in a good home and safe environment; you learn to deal with it. But man oh man, when you retire from that environment, the mental anguish, the hurt and harm you must learn to undo becomes your job to undo. This is what I’m dealing with two years in retirement. I didn’t realize how hurt mentally; dealing with the toxic environment has caused me. And waiting six years for my EEO case to go before a judge doesn’t help either.

    • @deshaabernathy482
      @deshaabernathy482 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Smh I know it’s hard but I pray God will bless you for your love and sacrifice for your child.

    • @Recruiterrowe
      @Recruiterrowe 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I’m here now. It’s hard.

    • @Homegrown_Values
      @Homegrown_Values 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel this! I work in a clique fuelled work environment. I need my job to pay bills, but the job makes me sick

  • @sherinevanbergen7783
    @sherinevanbergen7783 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    I'm mentally and physically exhausted because of work. I really can't deal with my boss anymore. I've been under pressure an working late hours for 3 years, mostly because I've been walking on eggshells for this place. They make me feel good about my achievements, but I had to destroy myself just to get to that point. I can't do this anymore. I need to look for another job.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Create a plan, take your time, think positively, use your resources, and stay consistent.
      I understand exactly how you feel.
      I’m on the same boat.

    • @AnthonyManzio
      @AnthonyManzio 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy bums ever win.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@AnthonyManzio keep doing what you’re doing even though I know it hurts. We all want to be included, accepted, valued and wanted.
      I’m in the same position as you. Good worker, nice to people, no drama, but manipulated and ignored - lots of passive aggressive comments.
      Stay true to you, love yourself, don’t give up. ♥️

    • @AnthonyManzio
      @AnthonyManzio 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Job.Well.Done_01 Thank you.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AnthonyManzio you’re gonna be alight. Sending you good vibes. 🤚☀️

  • @gjinkalla23
    @gjinkalla23 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Why cant we define toxicity as being lead by narcissistic or psychopathic management, leadership?! HR is the Ceo's codependent puppy, the tail of the head of the octopus

    • @loislois3526
      @loislois3526 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can use narcissistic- it’s not a diagnosis but personality trait. Saying someone has narcissistic personality disorder is but I think that’s why people get spooked. Saying something is narcissistic is the same as any other adjective.
      One video even suggested using narcissistic when it is - is a good thing for not minimizing it

  • @terrencemilton5088
    @terrencemilton5088 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Wow!? I see what she's saying. Sometimes you're dealing with low level people. Meaning some of your coworkers or supervisor might not have the intel or know how like you. They see your behavior but dont know exactly what you are doing.

  • @Conteuse9
    @Conteuse9 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have been stuck in a toxic environment for two years now; they gave me a high level of anxiety and other health problems, I have been applying for a year, and nothing is happening; praying I get out as soon as possible...

  • @Stacie0407
    @Stacie0407 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for this. Really helped me.
    I am working in an extremely toxic workplace right now. L’Oreal to be exact. I have been emotionally bullied and gaslighted by my boss for over 5 months now. Before L’Oréal I have worked for 7 years in another famous FMCG company in various teams and never have I been abused like that. Just the other day I overheard by accident how my boss and her boss were planning how they should treat me and humiliate me publicly to make me leave. I asked HR for help. But they seem to not give a shit…
    So I guess the only option for me is to actually leave. And hope that some day someone will be able to stop that.
    I am already on antidepressants and have been diagnosed with anxiety depressive disorder.

  • @Imogene_Joyce
    @Imogene_Joyce หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’ve got two weeks left in a very toxic work environment. The Lord is my shepherd. Imagine being bullied by a 50 year old while you’re just 25- hectic 😅

    • @patriciagerbeau4689
      @patriciagerbeau4689 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Good luck to you! I've got a tyrant as a boss, she shouldn't be in a power position at all she says a lot of inappropriate things and she is 75 and I cannot imagine how awful she was when she had more energy, she calls everyone evil or narcissistic.. It seems like she's describing herself :/ So I'm finishing my season and I am leaving as well!! 😅

  • @spiritualqueen3423
    @spiritualqueen3423 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I’m in one right now and I’m considering quitting working shouldn’t be this stressful just snakes 🐍 in the grass

    • @rapdesmidt1690
      @rapdesmidt1690 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I hear you, me too! A lot of my co-workers are great at talking out both sides of their mouths, my boss is really great at it too! I'm so sorry you are going thru this and are being for Ed to contemplate, leave or stay!!! I pray it's an easy transition, or their is some accountability and something changes! Crazy how 1 in 9 work places have a toxic work environment 😡 good luck and God bless you!!!

    • @SiGa-i1r
      @SiGa-i1r 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@rapdesmidt1690I exposed two of my managers yesterday. I don't accept bullying. A homosexual co-worker entered the room I was at alone, and quickly turned his proud, disgusting face away. Monsters and snakes. 90% of people.

    • @Amdecreations.
      @Amdecreations. หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You said it perfectly. Snakes in the grass definitely sums it up.

  • @licksnkicks1166
    @licksnkicks1166 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    My boss was insane the other day. I wasn’t allowed a break for a 7 hour shift this week. I started throwing at up work because of the stress level. I am losing weight, my hair is falling out. My boss talks about staff behind their backs. She should never have been a manager! I am suffering from seizures now and this could be from the horrible stress I feel. I passed out at work the other. My boss is a stupid unqualified BULLY!

    • @djlemonbalm
      @djlemonbalm หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Report the harassment.

    • @licksnkicks1166
      @licksnkicks1166 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@djlemonbalmUPDATE: it’s going to court. I am done with this company. My health is my priority NOT the corporation. My health suffered immensely! I am slowly starting to rebound now that I am no longer there.

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@licksnkicks1166What happened?

    • @licksnkicks1166
      @licksnkicks1166 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@NovaPrincess in a nutshell they fired me after 14 years. I was in senior management and they made up some BS to get rid of me and get a new crop of youngsters in place. I am talking with the Labour board of Ontario too. I worked for free 100 plus hours during Covid. HO hasn’t a clue has how my boss royally screwed up. Making me work for free is such a serious offence that she will probably end up losing her job as well. Everything is documented signed and sealed. I have witnesses too. She is screwed royally. I don’t care about her because she never cared about me.

  • @monicasweer7253
    @monicasweer7253 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Everything you got right. Though sometimes HR does nothing.

    • @thenewyorkcitizen
      @thenewyorkcitizen 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      HR usually does nothing because they are there to protect the company not the employee.

  • @LadyJpraise2024unbound
    @LadyJpraise2024unbound 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Finally, someone really knowing what she is tslking aboutt regarding toxic workplaces. Alot of the time it starts with the leadership, period. Plus most people dont stand up for themselves bc of retaliation in the workplace, forget what she said that u dont think u will b heard. It is called retaliation from management

  • @twosix13
    @twosix13 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    All the HR I’ve ever worked with have made me feel disposable.
    I have learned not to trust HR. But I appreciate everything you are saying! Wish you could be the fly on the wall at work.

    • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
      @hxhdfjifzirstc894 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A good work place does not have an HR person. HR is an unnecessary drag, that prevents a good business from being the best business.

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m using the Union

    • @user-ur2ps6tg1w
      @user-ur2ps6tg1w 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hr is always low key on their side!

    • @Classicbeauty857
      @Classicbeauty857 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I work in HR and trust me we're not to be trusted, our hands are tied, looking out for the best interest of the company.

  • @vimalneha
    @vimalneha 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Ginny, I faced this toxic twice. But your points were like a video flashing exactly what happened to me. I left the company! Thanks for saying it so well.

  • @Astral_Dusk
    @Astral_Dusk 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Tolerating a toxic situation for years assumes life is not finite.

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      True. 😢 Time is our most precious resource, and 40 hrs per week in a toxic work environment is a third of one's time awake being around toxic people (So not worth it!!!), not to mention time lost preparing for, and unwinding from, a toxic environment. One thing about a toxic environment is that it will make you ruminate so much, thus causing the toxic work situation to take up far more than 35% of your hours awake. When I realize I'm ruminating about work consistently for at least a month, the writing is on the wall, and I apply for new jobs.

  • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
    @hxhdfjifzirstc894 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    In my experience, it's the entire modern culture that's toxic, not one specific workplace -- and by logical necessity, most workplaces will have at least a bit of toxicity in them, because this toxicity is so pervasive. The only way around that is to have a CEO who is not toxic, and who specifically screens employees in a way that keeps the workplace healthy (which is a nearly impossible task, and the difficulty grows exponentially as the number of employees increases).
    In other words, the best a person can hope for is a boss that is trying their best... you should be able to get a feel for the team they've put together, within a few weeks of working there.

  • @birthinfluenceembrace
    @birthinfluenceembrace 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Feeling seen with this. I work in a small company and I was recently let go based on an emotional decision by my manager. It was based on gossip and triangulation by my teammates and it was terrible because I was a producer in the team.

  • @Moxiemo8
    @Moxiemo8 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    HR is a joke. Instead, I just resigned from the company with no backup plan.

  • @JustMe-ob3nw
    @JustMe-ob3nw 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    In my workplace I am on my own - my manager and her gang are on their own, getting away with murder.

  • @PLOttawa
    @PLOttawa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Great analysis. At the same time no one should have to be on their own to figure out what to do in situations like this. Unions are key.

  • @anonymous135
    @anonymous135 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I've seen this. At my company they actually PROMOTED the bad actor to HEAD OF HR, so now it's a continual sinking ship. Sad, because it's a great company that serves the public.

    • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
      @hxhdfjifzirstc894 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      HR is always the center of toxicity -- a good business has no need of HR, for anything. I suggest finding a job that doesn't have HR of any kind.

  • @kristin2491
    @kristin2491 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I had my boss joke yesterday and say “I can fire you “ - never in my life have I had a joke like that.

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Inappropriate comment by your boss.

  • @thesolitarywitch4908
    @thesolitarywitch4908 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First off, you're a beautiful woman. Second, thank you for this helpful information and I'm ready to make a change within myself because I realize I'm making a mistake first in responding wrong. I am afraid to speak up for myself.

  • @hajoura1990
    @hajoura1990 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I work in an absolute toxic company, the boss and his family run the business, and many people are not feeling well in this atmosphere. Can't wait to leave this hell 😢

  • @mari-zp9ed
    @mari-zp9ed 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You touched a great point. How does a company allow these kind a of manager foster this toxic environment which does not increase productivity? It’s more common than it should be.

  • @jeromeprimo2731
    @jeromeprimo2731 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sometimes you gotta be in it to understand it. Some case we don't try to understand both sides

  • @AngellaFerguson-b5p
    @AngellaFerguson-b5p ปีที่แล้ว +22

    You are amazing. I would love to have a mentor like you. All I can say is WOW

  • @Anarchyfae1
    @Anarchyfae1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    It's sad because I used to love my job, but after 3 years of a CEO that calls our department a "necessary evil" and "shareholders are more important than employee happiness" points where the entire department was my responsibility alone even as an entry level employee while being told that there was no intention to resolve the issue, and multiple problems, being harassed and retaliated against by HR (who falsified information on documents about me), I even ended up in a hospital. There's no upward mobility if you're already with the company and in fact they demote their employees that are ever able to, by chance, get promoted. I'm depressed and frustrated, even becoming bitter, but this isn't me. I'm somebody I don't even know right now and the company still continues to harass and retaliate against me.

  • @gavinelliot3564
    @gavinelliot3564 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Ya gotta move on/your allowed to save yourself.

  • @carrieanderson132
    @carrieanderson132 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Great advice because this current job I have makes me question a whole lot. It's a small company that only constant of an owner & a manager. So that means no HR department. The owner at times can be temperamental and the manager can be very lay back, which has confused me often times, of what's important. And there are times they lack transparency. Admittedly I made mistakes because I have a LD (learning disability) however that doesn't mean I should be targeted or short changed either. 🤔

  • @sarahkrupa9017
    @sarahkrupa9017 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I am dealing with a situation right now and this is excellent advice. And exactly what's happening in my organization.

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's heartbreaking to know that you are experiencing the devastation to your life and career that so many of us endured. There is a way to fight back. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: th-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/w-d-xo.html

  • @Still-Learning
    @Still-Learning 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    MOST people are not trained, toddler through PHD, to question or express disagreement with, the presumed "authority."
    Yet are trained to please the authority to stave off corporal, capital, or administrative punishment/reprisal.
    That is fear based behavior, not respect.

  • @FreetobeMoi
    @FreetobeMoi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This video
    popped up in my at the right time!
    It’s just what I needed.
    Thank you!❤️

  • @MrTwinkieeater
    @MrTwinkieeater 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    My foreman was coming to work drunk. It was overt and known by all. I alerted HR twice. The second time I was offered a "contract complete" by HR which meant I could leave early and still get my bonus while he stayed. BTW- We were a heavy equipment repair shop... at The South Pole. 🙄

  • @DerrickHikes
    @DerrickHikes 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    When I envision the word “ people person” you are exactly what comes to mind. You are such a well spoken person. I’m really glad I can across your channel. I have some inner turmoil at work that has gone unsettled after many attempts and it’s causing me a lot of stress. I’m glad I found your channel to help me better navigate these issues. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

  • @patriciairving8046
    @patriciairving8046 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Been working for a large well known healthcare company for 25 years in the same department under 3 different managers. The stereotype that I’ve seen is horrible I got passed up for the lead position three times, worked 14 years as a backup rep for a different job and when that job became available I applied only to not receive it, they chose a rep with zero experience versus my 14yrs. I know exactly what it is and it’s sad, I chose to stay for personal reasons now I just pray I could last until I’m able to retire or something comes along better. Toxic people that hates you because of who you are

  • @mariroxx007
    @mariroxx007 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Literally what I'm working in right now... hence how I came across your video 😂 searching for answers to the questions I ask myself day in and day out "is it me?" "What am I missing?"

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Please read 'It's Not You' by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. See if anything resonates. She is also on YT.

  • @BleakeACE15
    @BleakeACE15 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s exhausting to even think about these steps. I’ve seen how bullies are even created by weak management and bossses.

  • @ashleychemise
    @ashleychemise ปีที่แล้ว +15

    So true! Thanks for sharing. I too have had my fair share of workplace toxicity. I use TH-cam to help others avoid the pitfalls I've encountered.

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's nice to meet you Ashley. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: th-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/w-d-xo.html

  • @mimis.8943
    @mimis.8943 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for your eloquent wordto describe the most insidious behavior at the workplace that is so difficult to talk about and “easily bleached” from day to day. Your words gave me strength.

  • @dakine4238
    @dakine4238 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    What about role confusion, poor communication, and gossip. I also had a colleague raise her voice at me,

  • @RobbieOusley
    @RobbieOusley 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's good you have good information on this subject. By the time I left the toxic environment my bosses boss had underhandedly reduced my pay and removed two of my promotions without me knowing about any of it. She used her subordinates to destroy several good people's career paths and long-term goals that had been built on for a decade and more. The shock of it all caused several to walk out and are still dealing with PTSD almost five years later. There are no employee protections regarding anything that was done in Indiana, like many other "right to work" states. After several tries, it is just impossible to have a career path and age has caught up. It's sad how horribly so many employees are suffering the consequences of those who retire with honors and huges bonuses for their time after destroying many lives of those under them. All of the "protected" statuses don't see to matter when they do things that aren't based on the protected statuses but on their wish to protect and promote some and not others regardless of status.

  • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
    @JimmyJaxJellyStax 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'll be honest, life is very short and I'd frankly be beyond already dead tolerating much too many year depersonalized and traumatized at a toxic soul crushing workplace than engaged the real life work of finding the better fit with psychological flow and purpose and energy... and of course, undisrupted sleep.

  • @cece-bt7eo
    @cece-bt7eo 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Im a nurse and am currently experiencing this, and it's toxic where i work and you're absolutely right, no accountability and poor leadership. I am stressed when i have to go in i dont feel safe or supported by the leaders there. Im contemplating quitting.

    • @janicemaguire8551
      @janicemaguire8551 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Lots of Bull in nursing, dont let them push you out, by a managers abusive of power. Stand up for yourself, keep your own counsel.
      No trust walk with your feet

  • @jgoobix
    @jgoobix 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You can not train leadership or character. You have to identify leadership and character and promote it. Additionally, employers are afraid to admit that they hired a poor leader or, worse, that poor leader is just like the person that hired them, so they prefer that.

  • @racyo8755
    @racyo8755 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for acknowledging this issue .

  • @joeyjojo84
    @joeyjojo84 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I recently gone from successfully leading a small team, to being a member of a larger toxic team. Very passive leadership that prefer to bury their heads in the sand. I’m very junior in this role and I miss being able to influence a team and build moral and a culture of high performance. This resonates.

  • @lynnwynn4931
    @lynnwynn4931 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I sent a email to my supervisor about the bad behavior and passive aggression coming from my coordinator and one of her lackeys and they brought up my tardiness

  • @generationalcursebreaker5397
    @generationalcursebreaker5397 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You remind me of Whitley from a different world. Your energy reminds me of hers on that show. Classy and professional.

  • @pri22965
    @pri22965 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I have been working for 5 yrs in same company. I was fired by my manager for feeling hungry as he ordered me to say back and complete the work. As it was 9.30 pm I told him I will go home and clear the work after my dinner.
    He took it as an insult I did to him and fired me.

    • @SongofaBeach2012
      @SongofaBeach2012 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's outrageous! I'm so sorry that happened to you

    • @hungviet8333
      @hungviet8333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      curse him

    • @margaretdoliet1630
      @margaretdoliet1630 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry that happens to you..

  • @khmerindies
    @khmerindies ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Your video,especially this one came at time when I'm having such hard time at work. It like you just knew to speak to me at this time. I really enjoyed this video and you just make sense.
    Hope to see more videos or see you at speaking tour sometime in near future?
    But really keep up the Great work that you do!!

  • @joannevans9629
    @joannevans9629 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    FYI-, absolutely, do NOT do an employee survey if it's called a 360 degreee review if anyone is a current target.

    • @laurawelliver4023
      @laurawelliver4023 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      can't do this anonymously

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yup. My company implemented a survey where we have to rate our direct team members on a team of about 8 people total! When I heard about it the first time, I immediately knew it was absolutely not anonymous, even though the company lies and claims it was, and that it would be used for mobbing and bullying. The manager literally assigns people to review each other . So if manager assigns person 1 to be reviewed by colleagues A, B, and C, just off diction alone (if one leaves comments, as it's both numeric ratings and 'additional comments') they can easily identify who wrote what. Also, what if someone wrote something blatantly abusive in their 'peer review', I bet management would miraculously find a way to exactly identify who wrote what and on what device, OS, and time of day they did it. 😒

    • @joannevans9629
      @joannevans9629 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@NovaPrincess - I was a manager of a department who didn't have a manager previously. A new CEO (knowing there we're issues) did a 360. Everyone on my team did just about 100 percent negative review of me. It was obvious they used the system to destroy me and my reputation. At that company I wasn't just bullied - I was mobbed. It was so bad that I wrote an entire book about it. 360's are NOT good.

  • @aldum14
    @aldum14 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am currently working in a hospital, focusing on patient care. However, recent changes in leadership have resulted in a culture of reporting minor activities. This has devalued my contributions and led to unwarranted reports, jeopardizing my well-being and occupational continuity. The director's conduct, including psychological manipulation and gathering personal information, has been distressing. This has affected my well-being and productivity, prompting me to consider a considerable remuneration reduction in exchange for leaving the current professional environment.

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Just say hi and by DO NOT ENGAGE WITH COWORKERS THEY R CLICKS JUST HORRIBLE NASTY PPL I LEARNED OVER THE YRS WERE WITH OUR COWORKERS MORE THAN OUR FAMILY 🙏💜

  • @ms.teaversation8072
    @ms.teaversation8072 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Thank you... THANK YOU!!❤

  • @FamkeMichel
    @FamkeMichel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hello Ginny, I relate deeply to this matter and I would love to check out the article you mentioned but was not able to find the link in the description box. Thanks!

  • @Chahlie
    @Chahlie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Oh God, I recently started a job which came with quite a detailed formal offer... but the schedule has since changed twice and I'm only 4 days in. Changed without asking. If it was take it as it goes then fine but it was them who set the details. There are other red flags and I can't see it being long term but I feel like such a nitwit to quit so soon :(

    • @Vandyvandyvandyvandy
      @Vandyvandyvandyvandy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mate get out it’s not worth it seriously just don’t put them on your resume.

  • @Wisdomseeker5
    @Wisdomseeker5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was working at school as assistent. I got bully for a year and isolated, and then I stand up for myself..and it got worst..
    My children became a target at school, and in the village.
    We most moved out faraway

  • @Icecoldbob
    @Icecoldbob หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for making this video and sharing your own personal experience. I appreciate your lessons and tips along with encouragement of what to do and careful professional processes to take in overcoming toxic work environments or negative basised bosses.

  • @Thornhill220
    @Thornhill220 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    INCREDIBLE wisdom here. Does Ginny offer time for mentorship? Is their a price scale?

    • @NS-yc7qx
      @NS-yc7qx ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have wondered the same.

    • @D6.1313
      @D6.1313 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I've also wondered the same and would really like to participate if so.

  • @janesummer4433
    @janesummer4433 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am dealing with a toxic manager and supervisor (gossiping, jokes, bullying and preferences) very stressful place to be but I have been working in that place for 2 months so far😢

  • @SoultyBoiBeats
    @SoultyBoiBeats 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Ive been in this environment as an engineer,

  • @athomas9661
    @athomas9661 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amen, Ginny! Amen! You are refreshing to this venue and arena but especially the HR/Career landscape.

  • @Niki-mp8qe
    @Niki-mp8qe 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    There is alot of manipulation by management in my job that is pitting co workers against eachother, last job was the same and some not earnt their promotions, i think all workplaces are like this, too many leaders without the qualities required just good smooth talkers

  • @IntuitiveJessicaLee
    @IntuitiveJessicaLee หลายเดือนก่อน

    So elegant and well spoken. My first impressions!
    Loved this video!

  • @Eddemnity
    @Eddemnity 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks so much for this video. You think sometime you are going crazy in my case or it's you. Neither are correct. There are just so many toxic people in the world and many of them don't realize just how toxic they are. I had two incidents with a male co-worker 6'4" tall, I' 4'11" tall. Image we are not even in the same sport. This guy is bullying me. I told our supervisor, (his friend) nothing happened. So I had to go over her head. Stay tuned. I think now the best thing for me is to protect my energy. Other parts or my life are going very well.

  • @doubleO16
    @doubleO16 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mrs Ginny is the GOAT

  • @taurahelms3068
    @taurahelms3068 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Yea, but HR cannot be trusted most of the time.

    • @liamtheurchin5569
      @liamtheurchin5569 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      HR, are just management goons. It's a department that only exists to do management's dirty work.

  • @EatTheFrogii
    @EatTheFrogii 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a Team leader I found this really helpful. I myself realize about being passive for everything and that I did not set boundaries turns out I created bunch of 💩 in the work place I feel sorry for myself

  • @Mary-io1mb
    @Mary-io1mb หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is so profound. Very, very helpful. Thank you. New Subbie. 🙏🏿 ❤

  • @sanne5412
    @sanne5412 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I like your hair(do)! The bun with the earrings, very classy

  • @pm8725
    @pm8725 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good example of a person you really don't want to hire.

  • @moniquejerry1624
    @moniquejerry1624 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are an Amazing person. Would love for you to be my mentor. For now, I’ll watch all your videos.

  • @kamboa1
    @kamboa1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much you open my eyes - the best one

  • @aldum14
    @aldum14 หลายเดือนก่อน

    HR reported to my department head that I was looking for other positions in the organization. That to me is dangerous.

  • @santa-marinafriederich5135
    @santa-marinafriederich5135 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What do I do when working at place the bosses don't do anything nor HR?

  • @jamesharry8504
    @jamesharry8504 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My name is Jamie, I work in a car wash in Toronto with people from India and Pakastan . The people our very rude towards people like me who our white. I feel like I am walking own egg shells.

    • @PraveenSrJ01
      @PraveenSrJ01 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m sorry 😢

    • @vovanminh999
      @vovanminh999 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are dealing with low class people, especially people come from that cultures.

  • @jessicagerou4132
    @jessicagerou4132 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ty!❤

  • @TRANSPORTKING1988
    @TRANSPORTKING1988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm working for a new trucking company and I am clashing so bad with the dispatchers, they are very egotistical and could care less if you work or not, multiple times I have heard them say if you don't like your job there will be somebody to replace you on our next orientation, they have orientation 2 times a month, you definitely don't feel appreciated for your hard work, and that shows a lot of disrespect... I have screenshotted every piece of our conversation through text, I'm hoping to go to the higher-ups and make a dent in the problem or else I'm going to walk out and part ways and find an employment attorney and sue the company... I'm hoping the department of Labor is helpful when filing my complaint with them as well

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ginny u rock very classy smart articulate love ur style ❤

  • @jimmyjack7141
    @jimmyjack7141 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I worked at place where I had 12 managers in just under 8 years, and they also had 5 different H.R. managers, i assume I was a threat to the last manager I had, I was let go, it's a shame, they lost a talented person.

  • @nishikanta200
    @nishikanta200 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nothing of these work. I have experience severe bullying in 2011 in an indian it organisation. The department head started bullying me and screwed up my apprisal. I was scolded called names but they did not have consequences even it happened right in front of hr. I stood up and repored things but theywere brushed aside and the top management (ceo, head of hr ,)the just passed the batton to someoneelse to passufy inquiry and not to choose any action.

  • @infoshop539
    @infoshop539 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am from India, here there are no strong labour laws that can punish an employer and even if you file a case it will take forever to get justice. I feel if you are in a toxic work enviornment, the only option is quit and find a lesser toxic environment and hope you can manage one or two years before you switch again

  • @lifeexamined1776
    @lifeexamined1776 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for making this video ❤

  • @karenshahwan6612
    @karenshahwan6612 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! Great video❤

  • @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he
    @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never been in one i was in toxique home as à child or in toxique marriage all my jobs are enriching they were important for my growth🎉

  • @shamesehinton8789
    @shamesehinton8789 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im dealing with this right now i work for TSA

  • @beverleyreid7572
    @beverleyreid7572 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Where is all this toxicity coming from? It’s a shame!!!