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WHEN SHOULD A WOMAN GIVE A MAN ANOTHER CHANCE? by RC Blakes

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  • WHEN SHOULD A WOMAN GIVE A MAN ANOTHER CHANCE? by RC Blakes
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ความคิดเห็น • 583

  • @tammye4677
    @tammye4677 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    1. He will always give you space without trying to manipulate your decision.
    2. When he does not have a history of the same behaviour.
    3. If he can own his error without excuse.
    4. When he is making himself accountable to a certain authority.
    5. When he is emotionally accomodating.
    6. When his words and actions line up.

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank You Sis ♥️

  • @sanjananair1702
    @sanjananair1702 ปีที่แล้ว +330

    - You can't make a sound relationship decision, until you're in a place where you can live without this relationship. No desperation.
    - You're not obligated to give a chance, if you don't want to.
    1. He gives u space without trying to manipulate your decision.
    2. He doesn't have a history of the same behaviour. It was a one-off lapse of judgement.
    3. Owns his mistake entirely without an excuse
    4. Makes himself accountable to an authority
    5. He is emotionally accomodating to your feelings/questions/needs
    6. His words and actions align. Patiently watch how they're now, before you go all in again.

    • @MzSweetzTalk
      @MzSweetzTalk ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Thank you for the recap! ❤️🙌

    • @CharityCaldwell
      @CharityCaldwell ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🥰

    • @cuzbabyjigga
      @cuzbabyjigga ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Perfectly said and sometimes you could do all that and they still see the old you... Who doesn't exist anymore but you move on no love lost

    • @moniquelampkin7212
      @moniquelampkin7212 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for scribing the summary (take a way)

    • @margaretmixon9812
      @margaretmixon9812 ปีที่แล้ว

      True 👍🏽 ✔

  • @CoachAbbey
    @CoachAbbey ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Ladies instead of praying to the Lord to change him pray that he changes you into the woman who has self-love, self-respect and doesn't tolerate any foolery!

  • @youmnaamir4152
    @youmnaamir4152 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    “There is nothing worse than being wounded , hurt , traumatized by a person and then have this person talk sharply to you or handle you sharply “ 😢😢 Very well said Bishop 🙏

    • @BtflG07
      @BtflG07 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That part!

    • @tru_kru_bahbee24
      @tru_kru_bahbee24 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes! Describe precisely what happens more times than not.

  • @nkeirukaanyadufu3607
    @nkeirukaanyadufu3607 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    "The worst position for a woman to be, is to be in a relationship with a man who is not accountable to any authority"......How can you be following somebody who's following nobody 🤷🤦....this video is so timely for me 🙏🏻
    ....WORD!!....GREAT WORD!!!...🔥🔥... YOU CAN SAY THAT AGAIN SIR 🙏🏻
    GOD BLESS YOU SIR 🙏 0:35

  • @ruthwells3990
    @ruthwells3990 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    Been there done that!!!Soul ties are real, and as a woman I don’t want to go from man to man, but I learned people change only when circumstances force them. And sometimes they get worst!!!! I’m giving myself the CHANCE and trying to LIVE MY BEST LIFE!!!! Pray for me Pastor, and I’ll listen to this message at another time as I have to get to bed for work tomorrow. Blessings to All

    • @jackiesmith-searcy8094
      @jackiesmith-searcy8094 ปีที่แล้ว

      Z zdx njkennjn us 0

    • @ms.angieb.1597
      @ms.angieb.1597 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Ruth.. I’ve experienced the same thing in my past. I’m not giving any men from my past any second chances. An ex is an ex for a reason. I’ve decided to work on myself and have drawn even closer to God! Living my best life. So much peace! Praise the Lord !

    • @heather7119
      @heather7119 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      "people change only when circumstances force them." 100% facts! I have seen this in my own life (Lord still kept me, amen) and in others life play out with a mixed bag of results . another EXCELLENT word1

    • @Victoria-tc5cm
      @Victoria-tc5cm ปีที่แล้ว +2

      FACTS 🙏💕

    • @user-el4dq2rp3t
      @user-el4dq2rp3t 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you pastor together with your wife thank you for
      Coming to South africa❤

  • @Copolia
    @Copolia 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Sir, out of all the videos you have made, this is the one that you spoke PERSONALLY to me! I am now 51 years old and been round the same mountain with my husband for 31 years. Yes, I know that is pathetic, but it is what it is. I have watched this video countless times, allowing the message to give me the slap in the face that I should have given myself all those years ago. Message received, point taken, my bags are packed and I am out of the door!

    • @nkeirukaanyadufu3607
      @nkeirukaanyadufu3607 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Way to go Ma'am👍... Congratulations 🥳🎉

  • @NotHeranymore
    @NotHeranymore ปีที่แล้ว +106

    Bishop Blakes, I'm a 60yo white woman with a very broken past but God has never abandoned me. Your teachings have had a HUGE impact on me. You absolutely have the heart of a father, teaching me so many truths nobody ever did. My dad was there but emotionally unavailable. I never knew he loved me and therefore sought it out wherever I could. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for these truths. I can't get enough.

  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  ปีที่แล้ว +185

    HEY FAM! Share this and LIKE please. 🙏🏽

    • @pamgraham1751
      @pamgraham1751 ปีที่แล้ว

      HRU Bishop Blakes? I'm Grateful for this Ministry. Yourself & 1st Lady Lisa are a Blessing to so many lives. Covering You All in Prayers

    • @tidbitsofmotivation1403
      @tidbitsofmotivation1403 ปีที่แล้ว

      We appreciate you Bishop, praying for you, Bishop Samuel, your mom, your families & to all of my Father's beautiful children 🙏🏾💙😇👍🏾

    • @bschader4450
      @bschader4450 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you both Bishop & MS Lisa. Was my first time to watch live chat. Even better than you're videos I've already 👍, viewed & saved to my play list. I shared this one through & after your session, along with many of you're existing videos. Thank you & I hope to catch your next live presentation.

    • @anikeadegoke2112
      @anikeadegoke2112 ปีที่แล้ว

      Done and I always do.....

    • @TerraTalesofTestimonies
      @TerraTalesofTestimonies ปีที่แล้ว

      Is this you singing? If so niceeee or is it your brother? The voice sounds familiar loves the message

  • @robertacurrier2362
    @robertacurrier2362 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Why does there have to be a second chance? Why is it that he can't have a grown up relationship the first time,?

  • @cynthiatramil6579
    @cynthiatramil6579 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Sometimes if you take them back- it’s repeated cycle. It starts all over again 😢

  • @faithtaylor7404
    @faithtaylor7404 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    If they've cheated, NEVER take them back.

    • @carolyncherry6470
      @carolyncherry6470 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Nail it!!!

    • @CoachLove
      @CoachLove ปีที่แล้ว +27

      That's the dish they don't want served. If you catch them, think about the times they weren't caught. Nope.

    • @DollyMoss
      @DollyMoss ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Exactly!! And that’s their only sorrow that they got caught.

    • @DollyMoss
      @DollyMoss ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly!! And that’s their only sorrow that they got caught.

    • @sade_8637
      @sade_8637 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Facts!! They will do it again and again!

  • @MsCremant
    @MsCremant ปีที่แล้ว +391

    Once a man shows you his character, BELIEVE HIM. Second chances are futile. Men do not change. .. One more time for the ladies in the back. MEN DO NOT CHANGE!

    • @cuzbabyjigga
      @cuzbabyjigga ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Thats a lie 🤥🤥🤥
      I been waiting for my ex for 10 years but she then had two kids in those 10 years on top of the one we share... I gave her space and stepped back but now I question myself for waiting for so long now don't get me wrong I been dating and as the last two years I been single and enjoying life but she is the one I want to marry but it seems she will never forgive the young virgin of myself whom no longer exist. And learning from mistakes I've completely changed.. but now she has drama and pain she needs to heal from as I assist that I now question myself for being a good guy because women don't want good guys these days and loving her kids all my own standing by her side doing all her pregnancies but she wants to have fun. I was her first... And after me she's been having fun but two additional kids came out of it listening to friends of hers and not having the right support and thinking I'm just saying it because it's me and oh that's just you because you wanna be with me like naw I'm your friend first before anything else but what don't learn until we don't have....

    • @asiajohnson6191
      @asiajohnson6191 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@cuzbabyjigga she has to want healing and to forgive you. Other than that she'll hang what you did to her in the past over your head, which would cause problems in your relationship.

    • @cuzbabyjigga
      @cuzbabyjigga ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@asiajohnson6191 facts I agree 💯... I even try to support her with that and give her help with resources and point her in the right direction and I'm just getting to the point I'm going to have to let go wholeheartedly... Doesn't mean I don't love her because I do but I feel she's going to take it personally... Probably to the point of saying I don't care or even manipulating me basically I would say but I have to stand for something or fall for anything....

    • @janellamurphy4212
      @janellamurphy4212 ปีที่แล้ว +125

      ANYONE CAN CHANGE WHEN THEY GIVE GOD CONTROL OF THEIR LIFE AMEN!!!!!

    • @pearlsofwisdom2006
      @pearlsofwisdom2006 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Are you speaking about all the men in the world, if so, do you know allllllll the men in the world?
      You can only really speak about yourself, and not project on to others.

  • @Ddeath.Eaterr
    @Ddeath.Eaterr ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “I don’t want to start over”
    “You never started in the beginning” omg😂😂😂

  • @nisey7653
    @nisey7653 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    1. Admit wrongdoing
    2. Apologize
    3. Steps shown to improve

  • @nonhlanhlamalinga9147
    @nonhlanhlamalinga9147 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I went back , biggest mistake of my life but bcuz of your teachings I got up and got out after four months and I am so proud of myself for the courage. Divorce proceedings in progress for real this time around. I am worth being loved! Thank you R. C Blakes 🇿🇦

    • @SewSoUnique
      @SewSoUnique ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m right in the same place as you now! Hugs and love!!!

    • @Christine-jg3hf
      @Christine-jg3hf ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes You Do! Blessings To All Of Us!💞🌷💪🙏

    • @florencebowden3980
      @florencebowden3980 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Self experience the world's greatest teacher...❤

  • @cherieking2870
    @cherieking2870 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Yes, this is going to be interesting from the man's perspective because I have never believed in going back.

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Neither do I!

    • @MeMyself984
      @MeMyself984 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You are correct. Go back for what? My male cousin warned me on that. He said “Don’t back track” ❤

  • @iyeishaw1487
    @iyeishaw1487 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Take it from me, a woman who went back multiple times for 20 years and in doing so, invested my time in him at the expense of me. But I’m free today and working on self forgiveness.

  • @lisaperdue8033
    @lisaperdue8033 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What makes you think God will change a person for you when he won't insist change for Himself.

  • @lovephotography1966
    @lovephotography1966 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Sir, the analogy of signing the lease is spot on. I was a 14+ years Fiancé before I walked away. I lived liked a dedicated wife, ran a home liked a wife, while he implanted himself into my family who lived out of state. Interestly, his parents lived a 10 mins. drive and I've never went to there house or mingled with them. When I bring up the topic he make me feel as if I was asking too much. The worst part, he lied constantly, it was draining.

  • @godessunivers6941
    @godessunivers6941 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Maybe in years to come,I might wish to be with someone. But for now, I value my peace, and very much enjoy my own company, and it doesn't scare me, if I chose to be single all my life. Peace is more important 💜🙏

  • @carenlzarate8603
    @carenlzarate8603 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Never after they dry you up and. CHEATED , abused you and ruin your love for him. 💔

  • @SoleiltheSun
    @SoleiltheSun ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Never, never give a man another chance. Let him go and act foolish alone.

  • @MultiMichaelcarter
    @MultiMichaelcarter ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Pastor Blakes, you have sowed so much into my spirit and I’ve learned, been educated and going through a healing. I was in a toxic relationship with a narcissist for 4 years. I started sowing back into your ministry this past month every payday now and wow, God has placed someone in my path and it’s baby steps. Please keep me in your prayers as I go through this new relationship journey now.

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      🙏 May you have peace, happiness, kindness, nurturing, love and and above all GOD In your new relationship ❤️. Many blessing 🙏

    • @daedreamer1584
      @daedreamer1584 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I’m with u in this you’re not alone, for I’m going through a very similar situation ❤️‍🩹🤞🏼

    • @kw3036
      @kw3036 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is beautiful! Also a survivor of narcissitic abuse! I pray to meet someone in the future I have been single 3 years patiently, I am just waiting on Gods BEST for me 🙏🏽❤️ May God bless you through your journey

    • @tru_kru_bahbee24
      @tru_kru_bahbee24 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congrats on your relationship! May your new union be full of love, compassion, and prosperity ❤.

  • @kidchocolate9253
    @kidchocolate9253 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    When words and actions line up. Absolutely!

    • @janellamurphy4212
      @janellamurphy4212 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      YUPPA!!!!!! AMEN👐🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @fashionforwarddd
    @fashionforwarddd ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video was so refreshing. The forgive and forget and accept all abuse in the name of looking like a good person is harmful rhetoric. People need to be held accountable for their actions and no one is owed space in our lives when they bring harm.

  • @marissachapman1022
    @marissachapman1022 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I really dislike when people say “forgive and forget” because that sounds more like “pretend like it didn’t happen and let’s resume.” Or not taking accountability. You are correct Pastor. People make you feel as though you are bitter or not forgiving because you don’t want to have a person in your life anymore. I really dislike that because it’s not true. You can wholeheartedly forgive a person but not be interested in a relationship and that goes for all types of relationships….not just romantic/significant others.

    • @sade_8637
      @sade_8637 ปีที่แล้ว

      I wholeheartedly agree with you!!! 💯

  • @shamiraalston2705
    @shamiraalston2705 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "You ain't started nothing in the beginning,but lies and deceit" Love the message

  • @stacysmith9269
    @stacysmith9269 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Well Done Pastor
    I’m a men, I’m learning so much from you
    Keep up the great work

    • @janellamurphy4212
      @janellamurphy4212 ปีที่แล้ว

      WHAT A BLESSING HEARING FROM A BROTHER WHO LISTENS TO BISHOP BLAKES TEACHINGS!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU SIR!!!!!

  • @kenitab1673
    @kenitab1673 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I wish I would've stood my ground and not given that second chance 14yrs ago! Thank you Bishop for another remarkable message 🙏🏼. Helping me find strength .

  • @staceyarey7904
    @staceyarey7904 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Mr. RC!! I literally broke down in tears at minute 35.30!! So many times I was told I'm sorry I cheated - again- but you were always tired from work, sorry I cheated again but you were not emotionally available, sorry I cheated again but that one time when my feelings were hurt from a joke, you pushed me away and made me cheat.. every time a new affair was discovered, it was always a reason it was my fault..
    I didn't know what it was I needed to hear, until I heard those words at minute 35.30 - I'm sorry I hurt you, and you did not DESERVE IT..
    Me and the narcissist ex have been separated 3 months, and I now have one week with no contact.. I was afraid I would get weak, but I have now vowed to come back to this video and listen to it each time I consider giving another chance to someone who could NEVER once say, "I'm sorry I hurt you and you did NOT DESERVE it.".
    Thank you for allowing GOD to speak to me this evening, through your words.. I did not know how to process all these fake apologies, and you have helped to make it evident none of them were indicative of true repentance or regret..

    • @staceyarey7904
      @staceyarey7904 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Please pray for me Mr. And Mrs. Blake! And anyone else in the community

  • @shanihl1129
    @shanihl1129 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I can honestly say I need to listen to this three more times 🙏🏾

  • @spicydragonroll88-wd2jl
    @spicydragonroll88-wd2jl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The grandmother example really hit home 😢 I miss that woman every day I have also never met a person in my life whos unconditional love was felt besides God. I miss her everyday and it felt like a message was sent today from her thru you. I appreciate the long talks they are much needed and very therapeutic. Thank you sir. 😊

  • @Evowoman1
    @Evowoman1 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    As a woman in her 50’s your message resonates with me profoundly. If only…
    Now that I’m older and wiser, you are helping me move thru this season of my life with God as His Queen. Thank you!

  • @Matoaka365
    @Matoaka365 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    If I had this information years ago, I wouldn't have given so many second and third and fourth chances. 🤦🏾‍♀️ Thank God I've grown! 🙌🏾 And I continue to grow with messages like yours Bishop Blakes. ☺️🙏🏾

  • @unitrarenee1406
    @unitrarenee1406 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    WOW… “What makes you think He will change someone for your love interest when He doesn’t change anyone for HIS OWN INTEREST!” OMG!! PASTOR… YOU DROPPED THE MIC ON THAT ONE!!! 🎤 🔥 💥 👏🏽 ✨

  • @j_bubblez279
    @j_bubblez279 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Exactly. My mom used to guilt trip me for not accepting my step father back into the father role in my eyes. I used to feel bad but I could not give him another chance with no apology.

  • @chiccomwakamo4267
    @chiccomwakamo4267 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Definitely loved this message and I needed to hear it. My ex husband always apologizing while finger pointing and expecting me to get back with him. It's unending toxic cycle that's exhausting with heavy manipulation too. Now stuck with coparenting our 3 year old but now I feel more comfortable to raise my child enjoying motherhood for who I truly am while single.

  • @Amorantasia1
    @Amorantasia1 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’m ready for a word tonight Bishop! I’ve got my snacks ready too 🙌🏾

  • @tracylondon844
    @tracylondon844 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    YES LORD!!! SEE ACTION BEFORE THE WORDS ARE SPOKEN

  • @avasears2516
    @avasears2516 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My husband left me with intentions of leading a double life but I’m grateful to God for revealing his true self to me,, God opened doors that lead me to a life in paradise,, I left and never looked back,,I believe God sent me here to heal and I am forever grateful ,, once the trust has been betrayed,, I can not go back 😢

  • @chrisparker6249
    @chrisparker6249 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great message, even for the men. A lot of times we as men mess up big with a good woman and don't know how to make atonement. It is very important for both parties to know and understand what and who is best. Thanks Pastor for more insight. 🔥👑💪🙏

  • @valarieford2259
    @valarieford2259 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Watch people show you who they are. My ex accused me if cheating. I told him the cheater accuses the non cheater because he is guilty. Then a year later he wanted me back mo way.

  • @aarioneabrahoodletsgetitmi3950
    @aarioneabrahoodletsgetitmi3950 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This man is such a huge blessing I pray that we all appreciate him while he's here

  • @kaleema1987
    @kaleema1987 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It’s such a relief to leave people alone. 😂 once I go my way I don’t speak to that person again… and I mean that. I’ve always done this though its my way of letting people go and wishing them well. ❤

  • @daedreamer1584
    @daedreamer1584 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I’m so ready, let me grab my blanket and snacks 🥰

    • @iyeishaw1487
      @iyeishaw1487 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m doing the same thing now watching the video.

  • @reallifetopicsrevealed7295
    @reallifetopicsrevealed7295 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    *I am so grateful for this message. I learned to let sleeping dogs lie. I got EFFECTIVE COUNSELING, Strengthened my relationship with God universe and started doing the inner work. My Life is great and getting better everyday. Thank you.💰🙏💍*

    • @2j597
      @2j597 ปีที่แล้ว

      Effective Counseling for me much needed I have been with one man all my life 37 Years From 14 - 50 now!! Him cheating devastated me at this point in my life having a relationship with God is more important pray for me and I pray for you 🙏

  • @marianlandsberg3775
    @marianlandsberg3775 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Good Morning RC, I'm Marian from SOUTH AFRICA!!!! cant tell you how exciting it is to hear you say you are considering coming this end with something special for all your daughters this side...TRUST...you are definitely reaching the 4CORNERS OF THIS WORLD! WE LOVE YOU and thank God for your gift.

  • @DivaClariceWilliams
    @DivaClariceWilliams ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Pastor RC Blakes,I came across your videos during the start of the pandemic in 2020.I was with a narcisstic partner for 4 years who kept coming back up to 2019.Even when I broke the soul ties. But I am fully free of him for 3 years. I shared your videos with my sister who was married to a narcississt for 25 years and bore him 2 daughters. He cheated on her and the divorce settlement is only now in the final stage after tying her up for over 4 years.Seeing your videos with
    biblical validation has helped me see clearly what I allowed to happen and missed in the initial stages of the relationship. Never Again! You speak with wisdom,clarity and knowledge. Thank you for your great ministry and have a wonderful 2023

  • @Cheree_Wright
    @Cheree_Wright ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This was good 👍🏾. Just confirmed my decision NOT to re-engage with my ex

  • @Noelleelle
    @Noelleelle ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Pastor! Your words have been absolutely life changing. I’m separated now from my narcissistic husband and I can’t believe how deeply I was set in the fog. I had relationships all wrong growing up, and now I can see things in a completely different light with the help of all of your content. Being with a man that grieves you, yet tried to treat you like a queen in the beginning, is one of the most exhausting and devastating experiences one can go through. But I’m going to come out on top!

  • @kimberlysanaa25
    @kimberlysanaa25 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    This message was on point and exactly what I needed. I’ve been “waiting” on a message like this. Thank you Pastor Blakes

  • @roslynkelley-world8692
    @roslynkelley-world8692 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank You, Jesus and thank you, Bishop you have really been a blessing in my life helping to make a big to decision a year ago to divorce my ex-husband of 20 years together and a total of 15 years married and l feel so,free today and l will never return back to bandage again so, the Bible say who son set free is free indeed Glory to God!!

  • @denisemyers733
    @denisemyers733 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It depends on what was done if giving another chance is coming from a toxic dark back and forth place Then no keep it moving. work on self and heal. Or else the cycle of toxic won’t heal it self.

  • @urainaheyward190
    @urainaheyward190 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This video is SO powerful. My goodness. WOW. I felt like I just got a free therapy session. I'm really glad I let go a relationship going now where... OUTSTANDING!!❤️❤️👋👋

  • @adoralee8374
    @adoralee8374 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank Pastor RC, these steps are so clear and logical. Sad part is for many of us, these standards were never met getting into the relationship to begin with so it’s better to walk away, heal and start afresh the right way. There is hope! YES YES to Queenology Africa🙌🏿🇿🇼

  • @SheThriveswithGod
    @SheThriveswithGod ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You are talking right!!!! Speak the truth!!! Saved me from making one of the worse decisions of my life! I'm so grateful for your videos and ministry!! Thank you and your beautiful wife Lisa.

  • @kaprisenecole8423
    @kaprisenecole8423 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This song goes soooo HARD!!

    • @kenitab1673
      @kenitab1673 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I love this song sooooo much! My God, it always brings me to tears 😢!

    • @natashabenson2694
      @natashabenson2694 ปีที่แล้ว

      What’s the name of the song and artist?

    • @kaprisenecole8423
      @kaprisenecole8423 ปีที่แล้ว

      I believe the song is "she". Uncertain of the artist

  • @lisaposey2909
    @lisaposey2909 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's a blessing to have you Pastor an your wife Mrs.Lisa Blake's 🙏 love ❤️ you both.

    • @janellamurphy4212
      @janellamurphy4212 ปีที่แล้ว

      SAME HERE SIS!!! I AM LEARNING SO MUCH FROM BISHOP & LISA BLAKES

  • @cnk1980ck
    @cnk1980ck ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I listen to you all day everyday while I am cleaning at work. Your words always help me. I know I speak for everyone when I say we appreciate everything you do❣️

  • @naturallove4real464
    @naturallove4real464 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Need a love message button ❤️ Biblical teaching 🙏🏾 thank you 🙏🏾

  • @andreaswanson1596
    @andreaswanson1596 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I told him I needed time to myself! He tried to hurt me by saying well I won't call you anymore! My rejection means God's Protection!

  • @ItsMeHello555
    @ItsMeHello555 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where I’ve found the most peace? I give children and pets that are still learning multiple chances at certain things. Adults? Especially my age, I do not. A very sage person told me, “By your accepting poor behavior, they will never learn and think another chance might be had. Nothing states the lesson more than being left alone to dwell upon one’s transgressions.” I finally put this to use.. with everyone. You will never go to bed questioning your value. They won’t question it either.

  • @Livetoinspire4
    @Livetoinspire4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Emotionally accommodating like that!

  • @julietondera3147
    @julietondera3147 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh wow. This message is helping me sort out the crazy ride I've been on for the past four years. Listening to you makes me realize Im not as crazy or worthless as someone else has made me out to be. This tough to year but kind message has resonated so profoundly in my mind and soul, it made me cry, but also gives me strength to dig deep and rebuild my soul in order to live my truth and be at peace. Thank you for your guidance 🙏💯

  • @deborahsteele7427
    @deborahsteele7427 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Excellent, Excellent!!!" ... " Everyone, please listen carefully, and richly! " ... " It will truly set you free, indeed!" ... " RC, you're definitely, a " Great Blessing", to us all, in so many wonderful ways, indeed! " ... Blessings always, your heart friend & Sister in Christ, Ms. Deborah J. Steele - 11/24/22

  • @remember_To_be_kind
    @remember_To_be_kind ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I saw who he was and immediately left!!!! I spoke about the issue twice and when I realized it goes nowhere through the door I went. Now he's trying to make me know he is in regret and guess what, I love him but I don't care. Fix yourself for the next woman

  • @marciaallen6408
    @marciaallen6408 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Soooo very inspiring to see a man who truly understands the hearts of women! Please keep the casts coming with these words that speak as for for a woman’s soul!! I pray nothing but success for you R.C. Blakes!! Thank you for feeding my spirit I day!! God Bless you and your family!!🙏💯❤️

  • @lillychimfwembe3442
    @lillychimfwembe3442 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Things I wish I learnt way earlier, then I could have made better decisions, but we learn every day. Thanks Pastor Blakes

  • @shegotstandards
    @shegotstandards ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Pastor Blake for this message. This message was so FREEING! You are not obligated to bring back people into your life or that same position when they have wronged you. You can forgive them and love them but you don't have to put them back in that same position. Thank you so freeing.🤗🙌👏

  • @sharleneowens902
    @sharleneowens902 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hello Bishop RC Blake's Jr. and First Lady Blakes. I really enjoy your messages and teaching am new here.

  • @valarieford2259
    @valarieford2259 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I don't go back to ex boyfriends .When its over accept it and move on

  • @onlybygrace250
    @onlybygrace250 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It depends on why we parted if I would give him another chance

  • @JackieSimmons-db4bp
    @JackieSimmons-db4bp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You have helped me tremendously & I know it is God that led me to your channel..thank u Lord

    • @4hisglory365
      @4hisglory365 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes me too

  • @zephaniahfrancois4548
    @zephaniahfrancois4548 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’ve been following for a month or so now. So grateful for your ministry.

  • @sherrellwilliams1190
    @sherrellwilliams1190 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thankyou Pastor Blake’s for all your lessons on relationship for us women. I’m 56 and been married 2x and have learned to wait patiently for God to send me my Real Boas . I apply your teachings to my life now and will Not Settle !! So Thankyou 😊

  • @dollfacedeja
    @dollfacedeja ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m going through a complicated relationship myself I don’t even know if I should call it a relationship anymore.. so I “feel” like I lost a person that makes sure I’m comfortable & safe, makes me laugh, calls me all the time & considerate of the things I like to now nothing .. he’s older I’m younger I did something childish he would say & he doesn’t even look up at me no more when talking to me & pay no attention when I walk past & definitely don’t call & txt me anymore.. I’m learning how to move on but that one hurt

  • @ladonyniamaeadams9911
    @ladonyniamaeadams9911 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Pastor RC Blakes. It is refreshing to know that I am not obligated to give anyone a second chance. Thanks for this message.

  • @Cellia836
    @Cellia836 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 41 years and have dated men around my age or older who still behave like little teenage boys still. It's sad as hell and I have since just gave up on dating for a while. It seems like men never grow up at all from my past experiences.

  • @cloyettegrant3889
    @cloyettegrant3889 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Glad I caught this live!!

  • @michellejohn7470
    @michellejohn7470 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bishop RC Blakes you are such a God send. God is speaking so loudly through you and Lisa. Thank you so much. I'm a regular Listener from Trinidad WI. In the C'bbean.

  • @LynnMarie-qb8tj
    @LynnMarie-qb8tj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ian now reading Me My Mine.This book is a masterpiece

  • @lwats6436
    @lwats6436 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Pastor. I needed this message a decade ago but I'm listening now and moving forward in grace and with God. Still healing and praying

  • @xStefaniexx
    @xStefaniexx ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh no, It is too late for me to join live (due to different time zone it will be 3 a.m.). But I am looking forward and excited to watch the video tomorrow. ❤

  • @diannaparker5833
    @diannaparker5833 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good Evening Pastor Blakes! Dianna Parker - Tampa, FL

  • @nandiphanonkwelo6523
    @nandiphanonkwelo6523 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen! South Africans would be immensely blessed by your visit Pastor Blakes.

  • @Cyan_Cap
    @Cyan_Cap ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This here is so right on time! Under my son's page name... but listening very carefully.

  • @LolitaStClair
    @LolitaStClair ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Powerful and Outstanding Message on tonight! Be Blessed!

  • @christianlife429
    @christianlife429 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a befitting topic in these times that can go for single or married couples. But should be shared in churches also especially during the times that we are in. Face those accountabilities.

  • @Chan_Shae
    @Chan_Shae ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ohh…most definitely a needed message!

  • @danyellmariewhitford2392
    @danyellmariewhitford2392 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Chances are Choices!!! Supreme Gratitude for your Guidance Dear Sir!! 🙏🏽🕊✨

  • @jazzyone1011
    @jazzyone1011 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you so much Bishop and Mrs. Blakes! I've watched you for quite a while, so I should be an expert on matters of the heart and God's Word, yet for some reason I have a hard head which has made for a soft bottom. And yet by the grace of God he's not done with me yet! Blessings and growth to your ministry and family 💛💛

  • @reginatabb4068
    @reginatabb4068 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Bishop Blakes I need to hear this message. You ministry an teachings have strengthened me in a great way. I am now mentally emotionally and spiritually stronger because of your Daddy daughter talks. Thank you

  • @lisadeangelo244
    @lisadeangelo244 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is so solid! Great advice regarding men but really for ANY and ALL relationships. Thank you Pastor Blakes.

  • @Erin-pk3ff
    @Erin-pk3ff ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pastor Blakes, thank you for your guidance and love for others, you are a blessing, you n God saved me. I’m still going through a divorce n I have my days that I miss “the good “of my ex husband, but I’m aware I’m woke. God did want to protect me, should have never had a conversation with my soon to be ex, I’m thankful for my children and I pray to God to lift my spirit, to increase my faith and for our relationship to be first and foremost. You have strengthened me you have no idea. I love you with all of my heart, ❤ Erin

  • @jennlopez7396
    @jennlopez7396 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you 🙏🏻 I needed to hear this & needed the prayer ❤️

  • @rhondazstylepage
    @rhondazstylepage ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m excited for this discussion!!!😇

  • @antoinettenichols5728
    @antoinettenichols5728 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m not even sure if he will see or read this! But I have been going through this very thing for 30 years, as a matter of fact I’ve been away from my home for nearly 4 months but the familiar has happened yet again! I didn’t prepare myself so I’m out and about with no clue how or where to start! So been contemplating going back home, even though things keep happening to keep me from returning home! Thank you for this word sir
    Counseling is definitely needed

  • @tanyarowan9666
    @tanyarowan9666 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    RC Blake every time I watch you I learn something new about men

  • @namastewellness
    @namastewellness ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just ended a long-term substitute teaching at a school that is very dysfunctional. I found myself constantly being disrespected by the parents and the principal who repeatedly brushed it off with the response," parents disrespected me when I was a teacher." I kept dismissing my need for standards and boundaries with immature/irresponsible/misinformed parents and unprofessionalism of several people on his staff until I realized and had to accept that not only is he I experienced but the standards and expectations he has for how adults, educators (including teachers) does not align with who I am as a person or professional. The longer I stayed the list more and more HE started to devalue me. It was very strange to experience it happening. Just by being physically present sent a (subliminal)message to people that I was OK with being mistreated. Leaving was the ONLY way to preserve the respect I had for myself.