the humble one they’re out there you just have to do it Gods way and keep your legs closed until marriage and God will send you your husband , that’s probably why you haven’t met one yet. Can’t get different results doing the same thing . Don’t expect God to come into a relationship if you’re living in fornication 🤷♀️
Alot of them come up to me acting like they don't have that ring on that finger. Wtf? I dont even give them a chance to ask my name if I see that ring. I just proudly ask, are you married. Of course they always say yes. Then I turn my head and walk away. I've been doing this for 25 years. Married males everywhere trying to get game......while hiding the wife. Smdh!
You said that "it's impossible for a woman who is willing to date a married man to be better than a married woman who is being faithful to her cheating man." That's powerful!!!
Now come to that realization and conduct yourself accordingly....I remind myself often, no men who indulge in porn, no weed smokers, not even those self medicating for PTSD, no gamblers... Low character, low morals, low value, likelyhood of cheating... HIGH! No thank you! I'm good and can do bad by myself sir!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
My dad left my mum for his mistress, cause she gave him all of the savings her husband and her had managed to get in 20 years of marriage. The guy got so mad, he had lost all of his savings because of that stupid woman! My dad thought my mum had a dead end job, that's why he left her. You're so right, Tony! Men leave because they can get more from the OTHER woman. For my dad, it was the MONEY. She caught him with money, she paid my dad's debts and they had enough left to travel and enjoy life. It was like hell at home, at that time. Fortunately, my mum got a permanent position and ended up filing for divorce. She has been blessed afterwards, and is really happy now.
Thanks for your time my husband left over a year ago and I am now filing for my divorce his mistress had the nerve to text my phone from his phone while he was sleep I can't wait to end this chapter in my life DIVORCE.
Thank you for making it clear that a woman can not prevent her husband from cheating. My uncle told me that a man makes a conscious decision whether or not to cheat in his marriage.
@@yolandajohnson8685 exactly. you cannot expect to create happiness off of someone else’s devastation. Why would you want a man who would cheat and leave his family anyways? You think there’s just something so special about you that he wouldn’t do it to you? It really baffles me when women try to excuse away them dating a married man. Even if it leads to his wife divorcing him, he will always know how much mess you’re willing to accept bc you dealt with him while he was married and unavailable.
I been divorced YEARS, my baby daddy & his wife whom he left me for, can’t stand me. All I see is 2 weak insecure ppl. They think what they did was so cute but it gave ME a brand new blessed life!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾...
Amen sister. Same happened to me. Trash bag let me after 20 years of marriage for a trash can 10years young than me. Hey They are perfect for each other. In the meantime, I’m living my blessed life. Glory be to God. Your blessings are on there way. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Girl they jealous, because they can see all the blessings you are receiving by yourself. They can't receive any good together. That's why they can't stand you.
I used to be a garbage can at a period in my life BUT God, I got delivered, cleansed, redeemed, saved by Christ Jesus. Praise God 🙌🙌🙌🙌. Thank You Jesus 🙌 for saving me.
I was feeling really bad tonight thinking my husband chose this woman over me. I started to get upset so I came to TH-cam looking for some up lifting. Tony I've had to stop this video to take in what you've said and stopped to cry for a minute. Finally I realized my heavenly father who is always faithful used you to let me know he sees my pain and he will always comfort me. THank you Tony and I pray God will bless all your efforts.
Don't feel bad, I found out my husband dose crack cocaine and I don't know nothing about the drug, so he discarded me and pushed me aside for women that dose crack cocaine with him and they can Have Him.. I definitely don't want a man like that and it's so much drama with these Drug Addict People. More crazy we have children together it's just a hot mess this man hid his Drug Addiction for over 15years. I don't feel bad now that I know the truth I was treated like trash for Drugs, this mf had me thinking something was wrong with me🤣🙌💫💪 Glory be to God Everything In The Dark Will Come To The Light....
I came here feeling the same way. I've been feeling like the old fat hag while he been texting all day and night with his younger coworker. The truth is I'm just fine and he is losing a Queen.
He didn't choose another woman over you.HE CHOSE HIMSELF OVER YOU .HE WANT TO DO WHAT HE WANT TO DO.AND YOU SHOULD BE 🙏 GRATEFUL.BECAUSE HE DOESNT DESERVE YOU. I KNOW IT MAY BE HURTING YOU ONLY BECAUSE OF YOUR PERCEPTION . CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION. YOULL CHANGE YOUR LIFE. BE BLESSED
Amen! I met my ex.., pregnant 1 1/2 yr into the relationship I found out he lied about being divorce, instead he was in the process of getting one, long story short I found out I was pregnant again by him, and so much toxicity was going on, and I was going crazy trying to figure out why is he treating me like this. I left. I pray to God for forgiveness, because I didn't know, I told him in the beginning that I don't entertain married men. He said he lied because he was selfish.... And he needed a friend.. smh.,..man I tell you, Tony spoke the truth
@@gymeni Same. Cheating is always a choice and a default in character. I have friends and family members I love that have cheated on their partners (both genders) and all of them displayed a huge lack of character when they did it, no excuses. It's the cheaters' full responsibility.
A cheating husband is a low character human being and dating one won't end well! The men cheating on their wife and the woman they're cheating with weren't raised, they just grew!! 💯
These men cheat because they don't want to do the work. They get married just to say they're a husband, but don't want the responsibilities of it at all. It's easier to "start over" with someone who doesn't know you. A lot of them are narcissists who prey on other women to get what they need out of them. Hell, if they can easily leave a child behind, what makes us think they'll commit to a relationship?
Amen Tony. Thank you 🙏🏾. I’m the wife that left a cheating husband. I needed to hear this. The amount of pain and destruction and trauma. Caused by a choice. Thank you for validating how WRONG it is.
Thank you... I was married for 16 years to who I thought I would be with till the end. He cheated with a woman for years before I found out. Long story short, he cheated, I found out, left him and he married his affair. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. He has since tried to come back and I almost folded.....BUT GOD!!! I refuse to be the other woman.... I will do things the right way. Be blessed... and thank you so much for taking the time for us.
I was married 22 years and he left me for the women if yo u can call her that I always wonder what she did so right and what I did so wrong being together 24 and married 22 and to leave your childern and one with special needs why did she want him to help destroyed my family
God will never send you someone else’s husband. Ever!! And God will never Bless that type of relationship between a married man and another woman. Period!! But unfortunately so many believe they are the exception to the rule and will do what they want to anyways.
married men are a turn off to me. not because of appearance but because they’re married & i respect that. i respect relationships, marriages, wives. how a woman can chase a married man i have no freaking idea. gross. no class.
I totally agree. You wanna lay up with a man that they know are having sex with someone else. Ppl need to have more respect for themselves. The moral code these days have totally destroyed
I fail to even respect such men , I wouldnt dare date a man I don't respect.. I mean, I already dont trust him,now I don't respect him....why would I be wasting my time?
@@truthisrael6649 God bless you! We need more women who think like this. When a married man approaches you, it's so simple, just tell him "I will not help you cheat on your wife" loool works like a charm. I respect wives and marriage so much and I would never let the devil use me to destroy one!
OMG. I have waited my entire life to hear someone tell the truth about a cheating husband. Women, heed to the true word. My ex-husbend of 35 years still tries to contact me. I went NO CONTACT that many years ago. Given I am a school administrator now, I've seen the trash can at work. I've seen the "come up" woman. Most of all I have seen the curse and the Fall Out. So sad because children are involved. Congratulations, Tony! You nailed it. I'm happily single until this day. Let the church say, AMEN.
He the trash bag,: she's the trashcan.. They weren't raised: they just grew. He wanna be rich in lust: or rich in money. So many jewels you said! Love how you make us think on it in such a way!
"Your husband left you because you were too much of a woman for him!" WOW not to stroke my own ego but this is so true! The other woman's standards are ALWAYS very low. I can tell you this for free! My ex-husband did this to me and when I learned more about the other woman turned wife it all made sense! My ex even came back to tell me this with his own mouth LOL
Chile!!! You telling the truth! My ex husband did the same thing and actually told me he could get away with stuff with her that he didn’t get away with when we were together!
The fear of God alone is enough to make me stay far, far away from someone's husband. I fear God too much. No lightning or curse will come nigh my dwelling for laying with a man that made a covenant before God, his family and friends.
@@aliceoconner7781, you are so right about that ma'am! You have some women who is the other woman have the nerve enough to call themselves but boldly entertain and try to steal a married man from his wife and believes makes the man is cheating with her that he is in love with her and tell his wife that is the side chick and she the other woman is the main chick.
I appreciate you putting us up on game. My ex husband is narcissistic and keeps blaming me for his infidelity. He cheated for over 20 years. The moment I started holding him accountable he moved in a HUD apartment with the other woman. Talking about he’s trying to figure out how to get his life together. You definitely put this in a new perspective. My soul needed to hear this. A true message from God.💯
That's ole Skool Game, they said them types of Female's don't hold them Men Accountable he took the easy way out, what happens if she lose that Section 8 HUD Place, he probably found another source of supply in that Apartment Complex, they collect people, because if he mess up with her it's definitely another female let him move in a different HUD Place
Omg, going through this right now! An she don’t care she don’t even have a car. Driving our truck he wants a divorce. He feels she is the better option after 19 years spending his money he up set bc I applied for child support
We need to quit blaming women for everything. If a married woman who cheats, it’s her fault. If a married man cheats, it’s the other woman’s fault. We need to start holding men accountable and stop blaming women. A lot of men don’t have self control bc they are not really being held accountable for their actions.
I currently see the two (or three, maybe four) other women as victims. They were literally used. I’m still mad at them but also feel sorry for them. At least a whore gets paid. They got nothing.
Ladies! Keep your legs closed!! Period!! Women need to do better validating ourselves. Stealing, sleeping with someone one elses man, husband doesnt make you better, doesnt make you marriage material. You are being used and seen as easy. You are lessening your spirit by doing this. What rationale do you have for this behavior? Do you think he will leave his wife for you? If he does he wont be faithful. How you got him is how you'll lose him. Others will view you as a homewrecker....is that a badge of honor? Ladies love yourself enough to say no and keep your standards high
Yes indeed Tony! I was cheated on, when the woman found out about me she stayed and married him. But now he’s in my inbox apologizing and wanting to visit me!! This videos is confirmation! Yup, I’m finna SHINE!
@Krystle Laughter I thought the same thing. It is a shame Coach Tony has to talk about this, and a lot of things. But, I believe that comes from the lack of communication from our elder women and giving us the real truth, because they didn't know the truth men. They were never given. So, the cycle has continued.
Amen!! And as someone whose marriage was destroyed by adultery, may I give this caveat, if you’re involved with a married man, that’s not dating. Rather, it is participating in destroying another woman’s marriage, family and home. Thank you for this sir.
This explanation literally confirmed and validated EVERYTHING that I felt and knew all along. I was NEVER the issue, or the reason and I release the guilt and shame from my husband betraying me.
If he says he has a wife or he can’t be there for you when you need him, forget about him. Being a side piece is worse than being alone cause at least you don’t get taken advantage of and left to fend for yourself when it’s all said and done. They are driven by greed, and will sleep around just because most women are single and don’t wanna be. Men have it too easy already, let’s not add more notches to their belts. Isolation is dangerous, but women don’t seem to have a choice in the matter and these married men are taking full advantage.
how can i side piece claim a married man he will not leave his wife for you these women dont know their worth the wife is a WOMEN srong, clever ,courageous and a good man will claim that. Not a man that says he is of God because even pastors cheat he needs to be God fearing and believe in God.
*I pray For the women who are seeking a married man instead of seeking God big Mistake its going to be one problem after Another and destroying Families Abba Father help those who don't know*
Please don't do it Ladies. It's wrong. My Mama always told me that , the same way that you get a man, is the same way that you would loose him. Karma is the law of the Universe. Don't do it. Its wrong, wrong, wrong,wrong, wrong wrong, wrongggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg.
@@Ballerina_777 It’s unfortunate that you’re passing judgement on women, supporting other women when you don’t know their situation… Sounds like you are one of those trolling “other woman”, that is trying to project their shame onto others because you have poor morals. We’ll continue to be “righteous” and pray for you 🙏🏽
@@dragonflysu6189 y’all are fake righteous like I said- when things like negativity affect you you sit and blame other people. Then use GOD to make your self better. When God is letting us make choices ALL of us. You are NOT perfect nor are your fucking morals. We literally oppress other people and countries, we watch porn, eat animals, life on land that was of the backs of slaves or super impoverished. At the end of the day the world is unfair and we are humans/ animals. Men will be men and women will be women. Period. It’s a dog eat dog world.
Yep...my husband is a mama's boy and she is supposedly Christian but looks the other way and evens enables his cheating. He's the trash and mama and side piece the trashcans. Boy bye!
Never ever deal with a married man. Marriage can be easy ;but can become tough because you need to be faithful.Really inspired me to start my own TH-cam Channel.
This video really make me understand about a cheating husband and the other woman, now i understand that she is a trash can and can never stand in my shadow. So now am going to deal with this kind of situation differently. Thanks Toney keep educating us women and the men too.
I have been hurting for so long about this issue. Watching your video helped me tremendously I have been separated from my husband for a year now. He of course blames me. I honoured my husband always loved and cared for him. Never have I ever cheated on him why would I he is the love of my life. Till this day I am still honoring my marriage not to him but to God. NOW I understand what has happened to my husband. Thank you so much for this word. Deadra "saved and still untouched by any man other than my husband"
I was married 12 yrs and I'm divorced because he cheated on me the whole time and people don't respect being married anymore so I will not get married again
Unfortunately I’ve seen well known pastors divorce their wives and marry another woman then preach messages about “5 Steps To Know Your Soulmate”. The impression I got was “this man is trying to justify his divorce”. It’s sad a lot of people continue to attend these churches where men like this and their “new” wives pastor.
I know this is an older video, but it’s what I’m currently going through. This was a WHOLE WORD and hit close to home. Any relationship I have going forward, has to be Christ Centered and he DEFINITELY has to be a man of God! Not just in talk but in deed! Thank you for this!💖
I laughed hard watching this video but in all seriousness God just used you to warn people to come out of adultery and fornication. I pray the message is received 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you tears 🙏🏾 God lead me here, sincerely from a wife that went through this and 12 years was hurting with lies and truth a month ago, but ran across this video and it saved my mental and faith
This is probably the best video I have ever seen. This changed my story so significantly. Forever I have felt I wasn’t good enough that my ex would leave but it turns out he was just looking for a trash can. I will rise above. Thank you Tony 🙏.
Tony you was on today brother! My ex husband’s life hasn’t been right since he cheated and I left his tail I mean nothing has gone right for him “cursed” I call him can’t get right! I forgave him and moved on but I know he is suffering can’t keep a job, had another baby at 40, drinking to medicate himself, cannot hold a meaningful relationship, lost his license twice, broke busted and disgusted I use to wish for revenge but god has taken care of his tail for me he is miserable and it’s been over 15 years since I divorced him smh, you did your thing with this word may god bless you and your family have a gn.
This was very meaningful, as my dad left my mom for another woman that he met at my Aunties Thanksgiving table. I wish my mom was alive to hear this because she cried for him until the day she died😢🥀 But I heard you. Thank you, sir, for bringing us the truth. I truly believe that you are part of my journey🙏🏼
"the trash bag and the garbage can- 2 lost, confused, ignorant people lacking proper dignity and respect. They weren't raised...they just grew! Parents train & imprint!" Tony is so down to earth, open & honest. Thank you for this video! Definitely a fan...subscribed! Love your ministry...Blessings!
Wow! This video was so incredibly enlightening and healing to listen to. Just wow! So many peices of my broken heart and life came together in clarity and comprehension listening to this man Tony tell it. Every word, just medicine! Thank you for what you are gifting to this world through what you share. Thank you so much!!!
I have been the wife who got cheated on and got left with our baby daughter because he went on with his life with the other woman. That relationship between them didnt last and he came back apologizing and changed behaviour.. gave him a second chance, got pregnant again aftef 6 months and he left again while i am pregnant. I wish i knew then what i know now from your videos. 🙏🏽💯
You say that when he came back he had "changed" behavior so what happened? Was he just acting like he changed? when you said he left you while you were pregnant my heart show your pain I am so sorry that happened to you.
He showed you who he was the first time and you didn't believe it. They always come back to see if you will take them back... it's a ego thing. Then they destroy you completely
Damn, you're a wizard! My brother was spoiled rotten but us four girls kept under lock and key. Guess what? My brother is lazy and never amounted to much. All of us girls graduated from universities and have been independent since we were 18. But I'm not jealous of my brother. I feel sorry for him because he can't handle a crisis.
No wonder, WOMEN are the one trying for decades to keep the community from completely fall apart properly because They been treat responsibility more than the boys & no wonder some black "MEN" dont mature for an very very long time. This is not good cycle in our community. If you raising girls to be adult, we must do the same for boys. Period .
Same true for my brother. He was given free range to do whatever with little consequence. I was held at a much higher standard and I'm so happy that I was! To this day, he struggles in his marriage and life.
My husband would not end the relationship with his mistress. As a result I divorced him. They stayed together, however within 18 months she was dead due to an illness.
Watched this 2 years after it was posted.... I know this is public but oh well. Currently going through this and I needed to hear this. Caught my husband cheating with a married woman. I asked him if he believed in God and he said No. I understand aside of God you cannot be faithful . I am using this time to lean into God. He is still with the woman and said he wants to be with her but as you mentioned it's his ego following through with his choice
Tony God bless you! You are so full of wisdom. I can’t stop listening to your videos. My ex-husband said all those same lame excuses for cheating on me. I took him for granted, I turned him down for intimacy all the time, I wasn’t listening to his needs, blah, blah, blah. But what was he doing for me???? You said the real TRUTH. They cheat by choice not by chance!!!! I pray that one day God will bless me with a man full of fear and love for the Lord. May God bless you and your family.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I just want to say thank you for making this video! I have been with my husband for 10 years and married six of those years. My husband has repeatedly abandoned our daughter on numerous occasions and me. My husband also suffers from alcoholism and PTSD, but has been functioning in his ways way before he met me. I didn't realize how bad of an actor he really was. I am still married to my husband while he lives with another woman and her children. I thought it was my fault he stayed gone when I asked him to leave after another one of his disappearing acts fueled with alcohol. My spirit had broke, my mind was weak, I began to manifest physical issues and emotional trauma. After watching this video I am now ok with myself, and now have the motivation to get myself together and move on. I know it was God that had me listen to this video! I will be listening to this over and over, coupled with the word of God to get on with the life God truly has for me. I can not believe I let the devil make me think and feel that I truly was the reason my alcoholic disrespectful habitually unfaithful husband let because I wouldn't continue to put up with foolery. I know I am the better woman. I can now really allow Psalm 37 resonate in my soul. I actually thought the other woman was better than me and was more of a woman than me, but now I see that being far from the truth. Thank you, Lord, for bringing this message to me and thank you, Tony Gaskins, for letting the Holy Spirit lead you to say all you said! It was needed, and I am thankful! God Bless you!
I'm already on board with the intro "you should never ever, ever ever ever, ever deal with a married man!!" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 if these desperate women don't take heed 👊🏽
Married men lie so much about having wives. It is crazy. It’s happened to me never knew he was married then found out. He cried a whole lot when I dumped him 😭. I feel bad for his wife. Know it’s your husband that is doing the most to get women stop blaming the other woman it’s a good chance she does not know you exist because your husband forgot to mention you. I wish they had to have tattoos on their foreheads. Only very few women actually want them. They lie to get the chance.
My sister was dealing with a married man and he used to live on the floor under her. She told me she would hear him beating his wife and the children screaming. Don’t you know my sister befriended this because she claim she felt sorry for this woman and started sleeping with this woman husband? She said the first time they had sex it was on the steps of their building? He left his wife and married my sister and did my sister 2x worse as he did his wife. My sister had two children with him and has had hell ever since. I used to really look up to my older sister but never looked at my sister the same after that smh
EnJoy Life And Smile I don’t even speak to my sister. I haven’t seen her in about 7 years she is a violent alcoholic. Last time I heard she was in rehab so I just pray for her and keep it moving.
You spoke nothing but facts and gems! I totally agree with your descriptions of everything! Many of these women nowadays should subscribe to this channel! As a married faithful woman , with a faithful loyal husband , I appreciate this video.👌🏽
I remember my ex had another woman when we were married. She knew he was married and when I tried to tell her how her really was, she thought I was jealous and bitter. By her being so much younger than both of us, she thought because he called her everyday he loved her, I had to leave him and took the kids with me I'm so glad I'm out that marriage. Now she want to know what I was going to tell her all along.
Left my husband 2 weeks ago.....he cheating with his PA who is married......they can have each other -liers,cheaters and cruel human beings...am out and trying to heal
I did this too! Lol 😆 shes like "all u think he does is lie to me" in my head im like (sweetie just wait 🤣🙆🏻♀️) me an my ex husband are same age Range. Im 26, hes 27, the lady he broke are marriage for is a 54 old lady thay he worked with. Which now isn't anything too him because she lost her job, and they worked together lol
At least you are honest and very real. My husband has cheated on me for 25 years. He is with her after cheating on me. My husband does not believe in God. He cheated on me and filed for a divorce and he has slept with so many people and he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is a horrible liar. He is a person that lied to me.
Thank you for this truth. My ex cheated on me and married he the woman he cheated on me with. This message was liberating! You have cleared up a lot things for me! Thank you!
“If the man is the trash bag then you the trash can and ya’ll are both a mess together.” “You didn’t lose a grown man you lost a boy” You dropped some gems in this one.
Preach it! 28 yrs together, 27 years married, 3 kids. He was an emotional adulterer from day 1 and a physical adulterer for at least the last 5 years, probably more. Walked out one night, filed for divorce and claimed I was guilty of gross neglect of duty! And yes, he continues to lie to this day. But he no longer has access to continue emotionally abusing me. He is a narcissist through and through! Just wish I knew it sooner than a year after he left.
I left my child's father after I caught him repeadetly cheating emotionally with many different women. I asked him to leave my house and ended things. He keeps saying he did nothing psysical, I told him, i'm not gonna sit around and wait for you to start cheating psysically. I've set my standards high, and I have faith that if I obey God from now on, he will bless me with a wonderful man. And even if he doesn't i'm oke with that too. So long I have Jesus in my heart and my daughter by my side I lack absolutely nothing. Since he left things are getting tough for me financially, i also was in an accident and broke my knee, unable to walk and i'm finishing college. Monday i have another surgery.I don't know how i'm going to eat or survive these coming months, but I am completely at peace. I know God is preparing me for my purpose. God is too good
You just spoke my whole life! My husband ( Pastor) had affair with Secretary, I forgave him, he did it again, I divorced him after he tried to defile my good standing and character, we just found out he married her and devastated me and our children. But knowing God will fight for me has brought healing to our hurting family. I sleep well at night now. I have peace because I know now that he wasn’t a good person from the start. Thank you for sharing this. My youngest daughter saw this and sent this video to me. This message has definitely helped us.
Tony U 💯 RIGHT on this video I’ve been thinking about incorporating your videos into my sons ( 13 and 15) homeschool program!! I don’t care what any woman on here says u tell the truth!!! 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 I do believe there are exceptions to the rule but your talking about the norm ( whatever that is) and if any woman or man says differently, guilty consciences!!
CONFIRMATION, CONFIRMATION, CONFIRMATION- you better speak on it Honorary Pastor Gaskin!!!! As always, I truly enjoy watching your videos because you are always dropping gems in its rarest forms and trust and believe it’s being received! Blessings to you and your family!!!
Omg! I have never in my life have I ever heard such boldness such wisdom such truth OMG thank you thank you thank you... man this video needs to get out there!
Powerful !!!Thanks Tony. My husband left me for another women and married her, I already knew what you were saying is right, but it felt good to hear it from another Christian brother in Christ. I had to hold my peace and stand on the verses in the Bible vengeance is mine I will repay says the lord.
"People don't cheat by chance, people cheat by choice". - Tony Gaskins, Jr.
I agree
Nobody aint shit. Men or women. Cant trust neither one . make the rest of us look bad.stop cheating.
They cheat because they want to plain and simple.
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I love this
I dont know a faithful man, i only know a faithful God.
Period!!!! They all cheat haven’t met or seen one who doesn’t
the humble one they’re out there you just have to do it Gods way and keep your legs closed until marriage and God will send you your husband , that’s probably why you haven’t met one yet. Can’t get different results doing the same thing . Don’t expect God to come into a relationship if you’re living in fornication 🤷♀️
Amen !
Amen!!
Queen Helena definitely not fornicating but thank u for the wise words
How TRUE that is....as a single lady. I can honestly SAY married men are chasing WOMEN 10x MORE than the single men!!! It MAKES no sense!!!
True true
Right
I noticed this too. Super messy!
Such a sad reality.
Alot of them come up to me acting like they don't have that ring on that finger. Wtf? I dont even give them a chance to ask my name if I see that ring. I just proudly ask, are you married. Of course they always say yes. Then I turn my head and walk away. I've been doing this for 25 years. Married males everywhere trying to get game......while hiding the wife. Smdh!
For the people in the back...Tony said 🗣 “God will NOT send you somebody else husband” 👏🏾 that part
I wish I had seen this video a year ago, people are full of shit. You must be conscious in this evil world , keeping your demon radar in tact.
If only the other women could see that truth.
So who sent him??
Yeah that was 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🚀🏆
@@chattingwithkeyyyzzz2971 The devil!!!
You said that "it's impossible for a woman who is willing to date a married man to be better than a married woman who is being faithful to her cheating man." That's powerful!!!
Powerful!!
My Lord…yessssss
Woooww !
Very powerful message. Self esteem builder definitely
Amen
"...If he was Married when you Met him, that is NOT your husband!!..."
Amen 🙏
Amen!
Amen,, amen
Universe Universe However it’s put, he’s off limits
Kharisma K 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
“ There’s nothing you can do to keep that man faithful, other than himself “ Wow..Raw truth!!!💯✅👍🏽
Facts 💯💯💯
Truth
Newday 2c we are out here but you good girls keep looking over us. Good men that dont cheat.
Now come to that realization and conduct yourself accordingly....I remind myself often, no men who indulge in porn, no weed smokers, not even those self medicating for PTSD, no gamblers... Low character, low morals, low value, likelyhood of cheating... HIGH! No thank you! I'm good and can do bad by myself sir!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
My dad left my mum for his mistress, cause she gave him all of the savings her husband and her had managed to get in 20 years of marriage. The guy got so mad, he had lost all of his savings because of that stupid woman! My dad thought my mum had a dead end job, that's why he left her. You're so right, Tony! Men leave because they can get more from the OTHER woman. For my dad, it was the MONEY. She caught him with money, she paid my dad's debts and they had enough left to travel and enjoy life. It was like hell at home, at that time. Fortunately, my mum got a permanent position and ended up filing for divorce. She has been blessed afterwards, and is really happy now.
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I am here for her happy ending ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow...well I am glad your mom has a happy ending
I’m glad your Mom is happy and better off . That’s exactly what I’m going thru after 20 yrs I took this man w nothing
Thanks for your time my husband left over a year ago and I am now filing for my divorce his mistress had the nerve to text my phone from his phone while he was sleep I can't wait to end this chapter in my life DIVORCE.
Thank you for making it clear that a woman can not prevent her husband from cheating. My uncle told me that a man makes a conscious decision whether or not to cheat in his marriage.
Married man's and woman need to be truthful and tell people that they are married and stop playing games stop being manipulative
“ might take 5 years, 10 years... you’re going to reap what you sow” Amen! There’s no expiration on karma!
So so True
It does come back I'm seeing and hearing about it now
Amen
Amen
@@yolandajohnson8685 exactly. you cannot expect to create happiness off of someone else’s devastation. Why would you want a man who would cheat and leave his family anyways? You think there’s just something so special about you that he wouldn’t do it to you? It really baffles me when women try to excuse away them dating a married man. Even if it leads to his wife divorcing him, he will always know how much mess you’re willing to accept bc you dealt with him while he was married and unavailable.
I been divorced YEARS, my baby daddy & his wife whom he left me for, can’t stand me. All I see is 2 weak insecure ppl. They think what they did was so cute but it gave ME a brand new blessed life!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾...
Amen sister. Same happened to me. Trash bag let me after 20 years of marriage for a trash can 10years young than me. Hey They are perfect for each other. In the meantime, I’m living my blessed life. Glory be to God. Your blessings are on there way. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Your ex husband not baby daddy because you all were married
Girl they jealous, because they can see all the blessings you are receiving by yourself. They can't receive any good together. That's why they can't stand you.
She may be scared, cause deep down she dont know when the Karma gone come with that Bruce Lee kick to the thoat.
Praise God for you my sista🤗🤗🤗
I used to be a garbage can at a period in my life BUT God, I got delivered, cleansed, redeemed, saved by Christ Jesus. Praise God 🙌🙌🙌🙌. Thank You Jesus 🙌 for saving me.
Me too!! I thank God I was delivered from evil!! All praises to the most high for sparing my life!!
Me too. I thank God for delivering me.
Me too. No more!!
God is good
We learned from our mistakes!! What’s sad is a lot of women think that what they’re doing is ok. NO ITS ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I was feeling really bad tonight thinking my husband chose this woman over me. I started to get upset so I came to TH-cam looking for some up lifting. Tony I've had to stop this video to take in what you've said and stopped to cry for a minute. Finally I realized my heavenly father who is always faithful used you to let me know he sees my pain and he will always comfort me. THank you Tony and I pray God will bless all your efforts.
Amen!!!! You will be just fine.
Don't feel bad, I found out my husband dose crack cocaine and I don't know nothing about the drug, so he discarded me and pushed me aside for women that dose crack cocaine with him and they can Have Him.. I definitely don't want a man like that and it's so much drama with these Drug Addict People. More crazy we have children together it's just a hot mess this man hid his Drug Addiction for over 15years. I don't feel bad now that I know the truth I was treated like trash for Drugs, this mf had me thinking something was wrong with me🤣🙌💫💪 Glory be to God Everything In The Dark Will Come To The Light....
I came here feeling the same way. I've been feeling like the old fat hag while he been texting all day and night with his younger coworker. The truth is I'm just fine and he is losing a Queen.
You aren't the only one sis Im just waiting on God
He didn't choose another woman over you.HE CHOSE HIMSELF OVER YOU .HE WANT TO DO WHAT HE WANT TO DO.AND YOU SHOULD BE 🙏 GRATEFUL.BECAUSE HE DOESNT DESERVE YOU.
I KNOW IT MAY BE HURTING YOU ONLY BECAUSE OF YOUR PERCEPTION .
CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION. YOULL CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
BE BLESSED
Tony is right! Ladies we need to stop praying for just a man but start praying for a man that has surrendered their life to God!!
So true!
Amen
THIS‼️
That part 💯
I never understand why men and women do not understand that, what's done in the dark.. ALWAYS comes to light. 💡
Amen sis.
Amen! I met my ex.., pregnant 1 1/2 yr into the relationship I found out he lied about being divorce, instead he was in the process of getting one, long story short I found out I was pregnant again by him, and so much toxicity was going on, and I was going crazy trying to figure out why is he treating me like this. I left. I pray to God for forgiveness, because I didn't know, I told him in the beginning that I don't entertain married men. He said he lied because he was selfish.... And he needed a friend.. smh.,..man I tell you, Tony spoke the truth
🗣🗣🗣Hello!
Sure does.
True indeed
Come on Tony.., he’s cheating because he is a low character man! Point blank period!!!!
Exactly! That’s why it’s important to look at the character more than the physical attributes
I’m so tired of people trying to justify men’s bad behaviors.
Amen Coach Erica
@@gymeni Same. Cheating is always a choice and a default in character. I have friends and family members I love that have cheated on their partners (both genders) and all of them displayed a huge lack of character when they did it, no excuses. It's the cheaters' full responsibility.
@@ericabostwick4033 yes
"If you're a cheating man...you're a trash bag." 😂 So glad I took out the trash!
Me too I threw the trash out
Amen Queen "say it again"
@Pinnie Miles Leave and take everything
Yes I heard that n the other woman the trash can 🤣
Same here .
Absolutely! Once a man is faithful to God, his faithfulness will transcend his relationship with his wife
other woman: YOU GONNA PAY A PRICE FOR INTERFERING.
I’ll never understand how a woman can knowingly mess with a married man. Like I love God too much and Karma is real!
She’s not a faithful believer and don’t respect herself nor God.
She’s just sleep!!
Try it being a so called friend.
Cause they don’t know nor realize the ramifications of their choices 🧎🏽♀️☺️
Christi Smith one of my biggest fears honestly. Only way to avoid it is to make sure he’s faithful.
A cheating husband is a low character human being and dating one won't end well! The men cheating on their wife and the woman they're cheating with weren't raised, they just grew!! 💯
Say it loud for the ppl in the back 🗣. 💯
I agree
Demetria Calvin In islam a man can marry 4 wives therefore, it is not seen as « cheating »
Amen
So true
Alottttttt of married men at my work place is cheating heavyyyyyyyy. Honey it’s a Mess.
That's a shame!
Yepppp!!!! But they aren't cheating with themselves!!!!!
Paychecks going to several sources, huh
Yes sis! Yes! Trueeeee
Is it because their wife ain't happy they know it & refuse to do anything about it or because they want best of both worlds?
These men cheat because they don't want to do the work. They get married just to say they're a husband, but don't want the responsibilities of it at all. It's easier to "start over" with someone who doesn't know you. A lot of them are narcissists who prey on other women to get what they need out of them. Hell, if they can easily leave a child behind, what makes us think they'll commit to a relationship?
THIS!!!
Preach.
Amen Tony. Thank you 🙏🏾. I’m the wife that left a cheating husband. I needed to hear this. The amount of pain and destruction and trauma. Caused by a choice. Thank you for validating how WRONG it is.
Thank you... I was married for 16 years to who I thought I would be with till the end. He cheated with a woman for years before I found out. Long story short, he cheated, I found out, left him and he married his affair. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. He has since tried to come back and I almost folded.....BUT GOD!!! I refuse to be the other woman.... I will do things the right way. Be blessed... and thank you so much for taking the time for us.
How did you find out ?
Deep sister u got me jumping in sooo happy. U stronger NOW. Yes!!!! I feel ya 1000
I was married 22 years and he left me for the women if yo u can call her that I always wonder what she did so right and what I did so wrong being together 24 and married 22 and to leave your childern and one with special needs why did she want him to help destroyed my family
They will always regret losing in a good woman. He knows what he with can always step out at any time. That’s always in the back of their heads
@Chelle Belle.... & u will ALWAYS B the Woman that GOT AWAY! Stay Strong...
God will never send you someone else’s husband. Ever!! And God will never Bless that type of relationship between a married man and another woman. Period!! But unfortunately so many believe they are the exception to the rule and will do what they want to anyways.
What if the married man deliver food to you?
@Natasha I agree sis!👑💃💪💙🙌
NEVER...Key word is GOD...The devil will send another womens husband for sure.
Not sure how to answer your question Kurtis. And since it’s Tony’s channel he would be the one to ask.
You are correct God will not send you another Woman's Husband. If a Husband cheats he belongs to the Streets he belongs to the WORLD he for Everybody⚫
married men are a turn off to me. not because of appearance but because they’re married & i respect that. i respect relationships, marriages, wives. how a woman can chase a married man i have no freaking idea. gross. no class.
I totally agree. You wanna lay up with a man that they know are having sex with someone else. Ppl need to have more respect for themselves. The moral code these days have totally destroyed
Some women are usually bitter that they have no one and will gladly mess up what another woman have. They get a thrill from messing people over.
It's crazy I wouldn't dare deal with a married man it's let u know if these mens is quick to cheat on there wives they are no good
I fail to even respect such men , I wouldnt dare date a man I don't respect.. I mean, I already dont trust him,now I don't respect him....why would I be wasting my time?
@@truthisrael6649 God bless you! We need more women who think like this. When a married man approaches you, it's so simple, just tell him "I will not help you cheat on your wife" loool works like a charm. I respect wives and marriage so much and I would never let the devil use me to destroy one!
OMG. I have waited my entire life to hear someone tell the truth about a cheating husband. Women, heed to the true word. My ex-husbend of 35 years still tries to contact me. I went NO CONTACT that many years ago. Given I am a school administrator now, I've seen the trash can at work. I've seen the "come up" woman. Most of all I have seen the curse and the Fall Out. So sad because children are involved. Congratulations, Tony! You nailed it. I'm happily single until this day. Let the church say, AMEN.
He the trash bag,: she's the trashcan.. They weren't raised: they just grew. He wanna be rich in lust: or rich in money. So many jewels you said! Love how you make us think on it in such a way!
The wife should never go after the other women. Never dirty your hands, she could never stand in the same ground your feet is on.,..PERIOD
Thank you
"Your husband left you because you were too much of a woman for him!" WOW not to stroke my own ego but this is so true! The other woman's standards are ALWAYS very low. I can tell you this for free! My ex-husband did this to me and when I learned more about the other woman turned wife it all made sense! My ex even came back to tell me this with his own mouth LOL
AMEN!!! HALLELUJAH
Chile!!! You telling the truth! My ex husband did the same thing and actually told me he could get away with stuff with her that he didn’t get away with when we were together!
Same here...VERY LOW STANDARDS... he pretty much married his mirror when he left me...All GOD!
Agreed
Wow...I am learning so much🥺😥😯..self love and self worth are important
The fear of God alone is enough to make me stay far, far away from someone's husband. I fear God too much. No lightning or curse will come nigh my dwelling for laying with a man that made a covenant before God, his family and friends.
Amen sister.
Yeeeeeeeeeeeees!!! I agree! I’m scared of what may happen to me. I haven’t always been that way but RIGHT NOW, God saved me and I fear him.
A side dish is never a main course .and a dessert can never replace a meal.
@@aliceoconner7781, you are so right about that ma'am! You have some women who is the other woman have the nerve enough to call themselves but boldly entertain and try to steal a married man from his wife and believes makes the man is cheating with her that he is in love with her and tell his wife that is the side chick and she the other woman is the main chick.
AMEN!
I appreciate you putting us up on game. My ex husband is narcissistic and keeps blaming me for his infidelity. He cheated for over 20 years. The moment I started holding him accountable he moved in a HUD apartment with the other woman. Talking about he’s trying to figure out how to get his life together. You definitely put this in a new perspective. My soul needed to hear this. A true message from God.💯
That's ole Skool Game, they said them types of Female's don't hold them Men Accountable he took the easy way out, what happens if she lose that Section 8 HUD Place, he probably found another source of supply in that Apartment Complex, they collect people, because if he mess up with her it's definitely another female let him move in a different HUD Place
Truth!
Omg, going through this right now! An she don’t care she don’t even have a car. Driving our truck he wants a divorce. He feels she is the better option after 19 years spending his money he up set bc I applied for child support
Im happy yu move on and don’t take him back yu live and make you happy
We need to quit blaming women for everything. If a married woman who cheats, it’s her fault. If a married man cheats, it’s the other woman’s fault.
We need to start holding men accountable and stop blaming women. A lot of men don’t have self control bc they are not really being held accountable for their actions.
I currently see the two (or three, maybe four) other women as victims. They were literally used. I’m still mad at them but also feel sorry for them. At least a whore gets paid. They got nothing.
I agree 💯
They should both be blamed.
both to blame especially if she knew you and your husband’s love story from the get.
He spoke on men and women
Ladies! Keep your legs closed!! Period!! Women need to do better validating ourselves. Stealing, sleeping with someone one elses man, husband doesnt make you better, doesnt make you marriage material. You are being used and seen as easy. You are lessening your spirit by doing this. What rationale do you have for this behavior? Do you think he will leave his wife for you? If he does he wont be faithful. How you got him is how you'll lose him. Others will view you as a homewrecker....is that a badge of honor? Ladies love yourself enough to say no and keep your standards high
Stop having the loose booty in the words of Tony Gaskins 🤣🤣
Preachhhh
God Bless You Sister.😊
Amen and Amen again! For real.
Unfortunately we're all exes, nexts, next ex,... Almost every time a man chooses one woman there's another that's salty...
Yes indeed Tony! I was cheated on, when the woman found out about me she stayed and married him. But now he’s in my inbox apologizing and wanting to visit me!! This videos is confirmation! Yup, I’m finna SHINE!
That makes 2 of us sis 💅
@@christinewarren8134 me third 😂😂😂 now they got to deal with he's cheating ass.
morgan kay Yes indeed!!! She ain’t got herself nothing😂😂
@@morgankay7552 girl yep like Tony said just transferred a cheater. Point blank periodtt
Why he calling now, you busy. He need to leave a message 🤣🤣😂
It's so sad that you even have to make this video. You reap what you sow. 💯
@Krystle Laughter I thought the same thing. It is a shame Coach Tony has to talk about this, and a lot of things. But, I believe that comes from the lack of communication from our elder women and giving us the real truth, because they didn't know the truth men. They were never given. So, the cycle has continued.
@@Newladyn09 So true.
Teaching is never shameful. We were born in sin so we must be taught.
Amen!! And as someone whose marriage was destroyed by adultery, may I give this caveat, if you’re involved with a married man, that’s not dating. Rather, it is participating in destroying another woman’s marriage, family and home. Thank you for this sir.
This explanation literally confirmed and validated EVERYTHING that I felt and knew all along. I was NEVER the issue, or the reason and I release the guilt and shame from my husband betraying me.
If he says he has a wife or he can’t be there for you when you need him, forget about him. Being a side piece is worse than being alone cause at least you don’t get taken advantage of and left to fend for yourself when it’s all said and done. They are driven by greed, and will sleep around just because most women are single and don’t wanna be. Men have it too easy already, let’s not add more notches to their belts. Isolation is dangerous, but women don’t seem to have a choice in the matter and these married men are taking full advantage.
how can i side piece claim a married man he will not leave his wife for you these women dont know their worth the wife is a WOMEN srong, clever ,courageous and a good man will claim that. Not a man that says he is of God because even pastors cheat he needs to be God fearing and believe in God.
@@simmysguidancemedley7049 amen
@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 💯
Sometimes the the TRUTH is UGLY!!! DON'T sugar coat anything Tony!!! SUGAR COATING is the problem!!! KEEP TELLING THE TRUTH EVEN THE UGLY TRUTH!!!
*I pray For the women who are seeking a married man instead of seeking God big Mistake its going to be one problem after Another and destroying Families Abba Father help those who don't know*
My husband.left me so now I'm suing her 😂
True
@@johnnydestid2078 What state are you living in? I know there are 7 states where you can legally sue affair partner for alienation of affection.
@@organicita602 I live in Mississippi. And yes i am, goin that way
She so fucking disturbed my spirit
Girl please! These women aren't seeking married men. These married men are seeking us.
Please don't do it Ladies. It's wrong. My Mama always told me that , the same way that you get a man, is the same way that you would loose him. Karma is the law of the Universe. Don't do it. Its wrong, wrong, wrong,wrong, wrong wrong, wrongggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg.
So true!!!!!
All of that part! 💯💯💯💯💯💯
I know some old school men that were faithful to their mistress.
I learned young to stay out of other people’s relationships, married or not. I don’t want to be the reason another woman cries.
@@YanasJourney bless you, I wish more people had integrity and moral standards like yourself 🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️
Man yall fake righteous people are funny 😂😂😂
@@Ballerina_777 It’s unfortunate that you’re passing judgement on women, supporting other women when you don’t know their situation…
Sounds like you are one of those trolling “other woman”, that is trying to project their shame onto others because you have poor morals.
We’ll continue to be “righteous” and pray for you 🙏🏽
@@dragonflysu6189 y’all are fake righteous like I said- when things like negativity affect you you sit and blame other people. Then use GOD to make your self better. When God is letting us make choices ALL of us. You are NOT perfect nor are your fucking morals. We literally oppress other people and countries, we watch porn, eat animals, life on land that was of the backs of slaves or super impoverished. At the end of the day the world is unfair and we are humans/ animals. Men will be men and women will be women. Period. It’s a dog eat dog world.
It is such a sad state of affairs.
I've heard it said that we LOVE our sons and RAISE our daughters.
Interesting!
True
and that's why we are all in this mess.
Yep...my husband is a mama's boy and she is supposedly Christian but looks the other way and evens enables his cheating. He's the trash and mama and side piece the trashcans. Boy bye!
I agree. My brother got away with everything!! I was held to a much higher standard. Years later, I see the difference in how we were raised.
Never ever deal with a married man.
Marriage can be easy ;but can become tough because you need to be faithful.Really inspired me to start my own TH-cam Channel.
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This video really make me understand about a cheating husband and the other woman, now i understand that she is a trash can and can never stand in my shadow. So now am going to deal with this kind of situation differently. Thanks Toney keep educating us women and the men too.
I have been hurting for so long about this issue. Watching your video helped me tremendously I have been separated from my husband for a year now. He of course blames me. I honoured my husband always loved and cared for him. Never have I ever cheated on him why would I he is the love of my life. Till this day I am still honoring my marriage not to him but to God. NOW I understand what has happened to my husband. Thank you so much for this word. Deadra "saved and still untouched by any man other than my husband"
« Her insides are floating and he in there like nemo » lmbo 🤣🤣🤣
Man, that was hilarious 🤣🤣😂
Cracked me up 🤣🤣
I'm weak..hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Keeping on telling the truth because many of us really need to hear it
I was married 12 yrs and I'm divorced because he cheated on me the whole time and people don't respect being married anymore so I will not get married again
@Pamela Moore 😵
Pamela Moore why we you still there?! That's blatant disrespect😳😳😳
@Pamela Moore 😢😢
I feel ya on that
@Pamela Moore Dang... that's a whole reality show😑
Unfortunately I’ve seen well known pastors divorce their wives and marry another woman then preach messages about “5 Steps To Know Your Soulmate”. The impression I got was “this man is trying to justify his divorce”. It’s sad a lot of people continue to attend these churches where men like this and their “new” wives pastor.
I know this is an older video, but it’s what I’m currently going through. This was a WHOLE WORD and hit close to home. Any relationship I have going forward, has to be Christ Centered and he DEFINITELY has to be a man of God! Not just in talk but in deed! Thank you for this!💖
I laughed hard watching this video but in all seriousness God just used you to warn people to come out of adultery and fornication. I pray the message is received 🙏🏾❤️
Yes he is a trash bag my ex husband got caught cheating on me last year I left him and Divorced him point blank period Amen.
Good for you! May God Bless you in your next step in life!
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“I ain’t never met a faithful man who didn’t have the power of God; he leaning on and calling out to.” TG
Thank you tears 🙏🏾 God lead me here, sincerely from a wife that went through this and 12 years was hurting with lies and truth a month ago, but ran across this video and it saved my mental and faith
This is probably the best video I have ever seen. This changed my story so significantly. Forever I have felt I wasn’t good enough that my ex would leave but it turns out he was just looking for a trash can. I will rise above. Thank you Tony 🙏.
The trash can and trash bag analogy took me out 😂🤣😅🤣😂
Girl and they a mess together lol I died 😆 🤣
Me too 😂 I love your channel, too, Deb ☺️ Be blessed ✨
Tony you was on today brother! My ex husband’s life hasn’t been right since he cheated and I left his tail I mean nothing has gone right for him “cursed” I call him can’t get right! I forgave him and moved on but I know he is suffering can’t keep a job, had another baby at 40, drinking to medicate himself, cannot hold a meaningful relationship, lost his license twice, broke busted and disgusted I use to wish for revenge but god has taken care of his tail for me he is miserable and it’s been over 15 years since I divorced him smh, you did your thing with this word may god bless you and your family have a gn.
She probably used witchcraft to break yall up, now he cursed
I needed to hear that. Thank you for sharing your testimony!
@@saetae9208 That’s exactly what I was thinking. Both of them WILL pay.
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This was very meaningful, as my dad left my mom for another woman that he met at my Aunties Thanksgiving table. I wish my mom was alive to hear this because she cried for him until the day she died😢🥀
But I heard you. Thank you, sir, for bringing us the truth. I truly believe that you are part of my journey🙏🏼
Wow God rest her soul
I am so sorry to hear that!
Wow
Peace to your mommas heart and soul... And to yours. 💗
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"the trash bag and the garbage can- 2 lost, confused, ignorant people lacking proper dignity and respect. They weren't raised...they just grew! Parents train & imprint!" Tony is so down to earth, open & honest. Thank you for this video! Definitely a fan...subscribed! Love your ministry...Blessings!
Wow! This video was so incredibly enlightening and healing to listen to.
Just wow! So many peices of my broken heart and life came together in clarity and comprehension listening to this man Tony tell it. Every word, just medicine! Thank you for what you are gifting to this world through what you share. Thank you so much!!!
Same ☀🌹
In order to cheat, you have to choose. -TG
Be blessed ☺. That was the best 56 minutes I ever spent.
Thank you. No such thing as a faithful man without GOD.
Amen, TRUTH!!!
Amen 💯
Facts 💯
He left you for a trash can! I seen this video three times! Can never get enough of this video! ,😂😂
“ You did not lose a man you lost a grown boy.” Facts. He is cheating because he is a dog.🐶
You are right, there is no such thing as a faithful man without God.
Too bad that’s the truth. We need more men of GOD!
I have been the wife who got cheated on and got left with our baby daughter because he went on with his life with the other woman. That relationship between them didnt last and he came back apologizing and changed behaviour.. gave him a second chance, got pregnant again aftef 6 months and he left again while i am pregnant. I wish i knew then what i know now from your videos.
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You say that when he came back he had "changed" behavior so what happened? Was he just acting like he changed?
when you said he left you while you were pregnant my heart show your pain I am so sorry that happened to you.
Better late than never ....
I'm sorry for what you're going through I hope you stay strong always blessings to you and your babies
Damn. I’m sorry that happened to you
He showed you who he was the first time and you didn't believe it.
They always come back to see if you will take them back... it's a ego thing.
Then they destroy you completely
Damn, you're a wizard! My brother was spoiled rotten but us four girls kept under lock and key. Guess what? My brother is lazy and never amounted to much. All of us girls graduated from universities and have been independent since we were 18. But I'm not jealous of my brother. I feel sorry for him because he can't handle a crisis.
@Lisa BigBro Is Indeed "A True Man Of The Most High God"
Same story for me my sisters & brother
COACH Natisha Momma Tish1 Thank you!!!
No wonder, WOMEN are the one trying for decades to keep the community from completely fall apart properly because They been treat responsibility more than the boys & no wonder some black "MEN" dont mature for an very very long time.
This is not good cycle in our community.
If you raising girls to be adult, we must do the same for boys. Period .
Same true for my brother. He was given free range to do whatever with little consequence. I was held at a much higher standard and I'm so happy that I was! To this day, he struggles in his marriage and life.
My husband would not end the relationship with his mistress. As a result I divorced him. They stayed together, however within 18 months she was dead due to an illness.
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Watched this 2 years after it was posted.... I know this is public but oh well. Currently going through this and I needed to hear this. Caught my husband cheating with a married woman. I asked him if he believed in God and he said No. I understand aside of God you cannot be faithful .
I am using this time to lean into God. He is still with the woman and said he wants to be with her but as you mentioned it's his ego following through with his choice
This is the word - A man with low character cheats not because of his woman. He is a trash bag that leaves you for a trash can. Exactly Tony 👏🏽
I disagree Tony all me. Are not cheaters
I dont believe that all men are cheaters because all women are not whores
@@pamelamallory6142he never said all men are cheaters
Tony God bless you! You are so full of wisdom. I can’t stop listening to your videos. My ex-husband said all those same lame excuses for cheating on me. I took him for granted, I turned him down for intimacy all the time, I wasn’t listening to his needs, blah, blah, blah. But what was he doing for me???? You said the real TRUTH. They cheat by choice not by chance!!!! I pray that one day God will bless me with a man full of fear and love for the Lord. May God bless you and your family.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I am so proud of you and your commitment to Christ!
I just want to say thank you for making this video! I have been with my husband for 10 years and married six of those years. My husband has repeatedly abandoned our daughter on numerous occasions and me. My husband also suffers from alcoholism and PTSD, but has been functioning in his ways way before he met me. I didn't realize how bad of an actor he really was. I am still married to my husband while he lives with another woman and her children. I thought it was my fault he stayed gone when I asked him to leave after another one of his disappearing acts fueled with alcohol. My spirit had broke, my mind was weak, I began to manifest physical issues and emotional trauma. After watching this video I am now ok with myself, and now have the motivation to get myself together and move on. I know it was God that had me listen to this video!
I will be listening to this over and over, coupled with the word of God to get on with the life God truly has for me. I can not believe I let the devil make me think and feel that I truly was the reason my alcoholic disrespectful habitually unfaithful husband let because I wouldn't continue to put up with foolery. I know I am the better woman. I can now really allow Psalm 37 resonate in my soul. I actually thought the other woman was better than me and was more of a woman than me, but now I see that being far from the truth. Thank you, Lord, for bringing this message to me and thank you, Tony Gaskins, for letting the Holy Spirit lead you to say all you said! It was needed, and I am thankful! God Bless you!
God I thank you for this message. Ty Tony. May God continue to bless you.
I’m single but more married men and men in relationships approach me.
Say No!
Don’t fall for it. That’s of satan on them.
And they do it with so much energy, God forgive them.
This is so true. I have so many married men approach me and it’s just sad. All they are is horny. THATS IT
Neekie I do
I'm already on board with the intro "you should never ever, ever ever ever, ever deal with a married man!!" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 if these desperate women don't take heed 👊🏽
Exactly!
🧚♀️Amen sis!! "Happy Thursday"
Married men lie so much about having wives. It is crazy. It’s happened to me never knew he was married then found out. He cried a whole lot when I dumped him 😭. I feel bad for his wife. Know it’s your husband that is doing the most to get women stop blaming the other woman it’s a good chance she does not know you exist because your husband forgot to mention you. I wish they had to have tattoos on their foreheads. Only very few women actually want them. They lie to get the chance.
My sister was dealing with a married man and he used to live on the floor under her. She told me she would hear him beating his wife and the children screaming. Don’t you know my sister befriended this because she claim she felt sorry for this woman and started sleeping with this woman husband? She said the first time they had sex it was on the steps of their building? He left his wife and married my sister and did my sister 2x worse as he did his wife. My sister had two children with him and has had hell ever since. I used to really look up to my older sister but never looked at my sister the same after that smh
EnJoy Life And Smile I don’t even speak to my sister. I haven’t seen her in about 7 years she is a violent alcoholic. Last time I heard she was in rehab so I just pray for her and keep it moving.
I am sorry to say but your sister got her karma. Pray for her.😊
Lovely Roses 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Wow omg
Men are like this "if she accept this low than there no point me going high"
You spoke nothing but facts and gems! I totally agree with your descriptions of everything! Many of these women nowadays should subscribe to this channel! As a married faithful woman , with a faithful loyal husband , I appreciate this video.👌🏽
I can tell you from Florida! 😂 talking bout “if he blike” 😂😂
I remember my ex had another woman when we were married. She knew he was married and when I tried to tell her how her really was, she thought I was jealous and bitter. By her being so much younger than both of us, she thought because he called her everyday he loved her, I had to leave him and took the kids with me I'm so glad I'm out that marriage. Now she want to know what I was going to tell her all along.
Left my husband 2 weeks ago.....he cheating with his PA who is married......they can have each other -liers,cheaters and cruel human beings...am out and trying to heal
Don't tell her
I’m sure she’ll figure it out for herself. 🤣
I did this too! Lol 😆 shes like "all u think he does is lie to me" in my head im like (sweetie just wait 🤣🙆🏻♀️) me an my ex husband are same age Range. Im 26, hes 27, the lady he broke are marriage for is a 54 old lady thay he worked with. Which now isn't anything too him because she lost her job, and they worked together lol
@@nolwandledlamini8027 i just caught my husband her clown told my husband lol this dangerous him lol and multiple other women
I needed to watch this video. I am currently the wife in this same situation. Lesson has been learned from this.
You not by yourself. I have the same problem.
Thank you Tony Gaskins for this message I was cheated on it didn't have any thing to do with me arguing or fussing.
At least you are honest and very real. My husband has cheated on me for 25 years. He is with her after cheating on me. My husband does not believe in God. He cheated on me and filed for a divorce and he has slept with so many people and he thinks he did nothing wrong. He is a horrible liar. He is a person that lied to me.
Thank you for this truth. My ex cheated on me and married he the woman he cheated on me with. This message was liberating! You have cleared up a lot things for me! Thank you!
“If the man is the trash bag then you the trash can and ya’ll are both a mess together.”
“You didn’t lose a grown man you lost a boy”
You dropped some gems in this one.
Yep
Preach it! 28 yrs together, 27 years married, 3 kids. He was an emotional adulterer from day 1 and a physical adulterer for at least the last 5 years, probably more. Walked out one night, filed for divorce and claimed I was guilty of gross neglect of duty! And yes, he continues to lie to this day. But he no longer has access to continue emotionally abusing me. He is a narcissist through and through! Just wish I knew it sooner than a year after he left.
I left my child's father after I caught him repeadetly cheating emotionally with many different women. I asked him to leave my house and ended things. He keeps saying he did nothing psysical, I told him, i'm not gonna sit around and wait for you to start cheating psysically. I've set my standards high, and I have faith that if I obey God from now on, he will bless me with a wonderful man. And even if he doesn't i'm oke with that too. So long I have Jesus in my heart and my daughter by my side I lack absolutely nothing. Since he left things are getting tough for me financially, i also was in an accident and broke my knee, unable to walk and i'm finishing college. Monday i have another surgery.I don't know how i'm going to eat or survive these coming months, but I am completely at peace. I know God is preparing me for my purpose. God is too good
You just spoke my whole life!
My husband ( Pastor) had affair with Secretary, I forgave him, he did it again, I divorced him after he tried to defile my good standing and character, we just found out he married her and devastated me and our children.
But knowing God will fight for me has brought healing to our hurting family.
I sleep well at night now.
I have peace because I know now that he wasn’t a good person from the start.
Thank you for sharing this.
My youngest daughter saw this and sent this video to me.
This message has definitely helped us.
I’m so sorry you had to go through so much. Hope things are better today.
A pastor! They're trifling! Straight to hell door
“You don’t even know ya daddy” Tony is pure gold!!!
Tony U 💯 RIGHT on this video
I’ve been thinking about incorporating your videos into my sons ( 13 and 15) homeschool program!! I don’t care what any woman on here says u tell the truth!!! 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
I do believe there are exceptions to the rule but your talking about the norm ( whatever that is) and if any woman or man says differently, guilty consciences!!
CONFIRMATION, CONFIRMATION, CONFIRMATION- you better speak on it Honorary Pastor Gaskin!!!! As always, I truly enjoy watching your videos because you are always dropping gems in its rarest forms and trust and believe it’s being received! Blessings to you and your family!!!
I would never in my life deal with a married man that’s adultery and I don’t play with God
Right
This happened to me after 20yrs, unwanted divorce but God's reaping and sowing is quicker in these latter days, to God be all the Glory.
Amen!
Amen
Omg! I have never in my life have I ever heard such boldness such wisdom such truth OMG thank you thank you thank you... man this video needs to get out there!
Trisha Taylor,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🥀🌺,hope you are with a good man!!
Powerful !!!Thanks Tony. My husband left me for another women and married her, I already knew what you were saying is right, but it felt good to hear it from another Christian brother in Christ. I had to hold my peace and stand on the verses in the Bible vengeance is mine I will repay says the lord.
Amen