I love it how... In the start the couples were talking big things like wanting personal space and knowing too much.. And as the years proceed... They talk about silly things like.. Bed and meals
That makes sense to me actually, i imagine when you first get married, you are still settling in and organizing your life with another person so you have to get the big issues out of the way. Once you've been with someone for more time the more things have been settled and talked about and then find other smaller things to talk/argue about lol
I actually don't think the meals issue is a 'silly thing'. That woman is talking about the way women are expected to carry two fulltime jobs--work all day in paid labour, & then come home & work another fulltime job doing unpaid labour of cooking, cleaning, childcare etc. That's a serious issue, that assumption that ordinary women carry a superhuman burden but also get no credit for it.
@@johnnydtractive If I got paid for all the jobs I do as a stay at home mother, I would be freakin rich! Daycare provider - $9.40 hr Teacher - $28.37 hr (I'm not homeschooling, but I'm making sure to jump-start his education) Cook - $15.19 hr (unlike the others where I'm using the average, for this one I pulled the lowest number of a head cook bc, let's be honest, I'm no gourmet chef, lol) Maid - $11.04 All unpaid and yet totally worth it to be able to spend as much time with my baby as possible!
Liz W thats why it’s so heartbreaking that working women feel complain to do it every day when men don’t. It should be discuss and arranged to a way that fits each one.
I’m going to guess that since the wife stated in another video that she proclaimed she knew she wanted to marry him when she was only 8th grade age (around 12-13 years old) that they may have gotten married shortly after high school. If they’ve been married for 22 years, that’d make them possibly in their early to mid-forties. People don’t look THAT old at that age yet, so they don’t look exceptionally young or good to me since most people at around that age don’t look overly aged yet.
Another way to look at it is that those in long marriages found the right person to marry which meant it lasted for such a long time. People should avoid staying in a bad marriage under the impression that it magically will become better with time. That being said you can of course work on problems in a relationship, married or not.
Skeppsvrak there is no “right person” to find. That right person has to be made and there has to be compromises and constant character building on both ends to keep up a marriage
I notice that most of them have minor issue like snoring, bed, fixing meals. I’m here struggling with my bf about trust issue. I need to break up with him.
You think working a fulltime job and coming home feeling obligated to cook a full meal for another able-bodied person who could cook for himself or for the family is a minor issue?!
I believe there was an article I read that mentions (being married) you tend to develop a lot of the same habits such as what you eat, how you act, how you live, what you do, Etc. Which tends to make you continue to age in a similar way. Because your environment is the same as well as your habits.
In the couples that have been married longer they actually develop the same facial expression over the years. We can tell the emotions of others by mimicking their facial expressions (so subtle you don’t even notice), so in couples that have been married for a really long time they actually they would be use to Mum king each other’s expressions they would slowly morph into one.
Well the more you hang out with someone, the more you start to look like them, develop the same habits, facial expressions, etc. plus, usually, people tend to be attracted to others that look like them.
Naturally (and I guess, subconsciously), we're attracted to people with the same features as us, to ensure that we pass our features onto our offspring. Now this isn't the case with each and every single couple here or in real life. You can be attracted to how someone speaks another language or has a crazy amount of common interests with you, their money, their shape, their ability to sing, dance, remain cool under pressure, pick you up and throw you around the room (in a loving manner, I would hope), literally anything you want and it doesn't have to follow this rule, it's just something that happens much more often than not. I only found this out a year and a half ago from a psych major friend and it was really eye opening to know that I wasn't actually making it up in my head that I have "a type." My first celebrity crush as a kid was on Liv Tyler. Surely enough, our faces are structured really similarly. I met my girlfriend shortly after this revelation too. She's half Polish-Jewish/half Australian, has a long thin face, high cheekbones and dramatic slanting eyebrows. I'm Chilean (of Spanish descent) so my skin is a bit more tanned and in comparison to her green eyes, mine are brown, but we're both a bit taller and long-limbed and have issues taking baths together or getting a good night's sleep together. I was mowing the lawn at her mom's place couple of months ago and a neighbour she was chatting with asked if I was her brother lmfao
I feel like I got so lucky in my marriage. It really has been an easy ride. There is not a single day when I would prefer to be by myself rather than with my husband. We rarely fight and our personalities bounce off of each other well. One in a million I know. I've heard it all, but I promise you, everyday feels like it's the first day of marriage for us. Love these videos. We've been married almost 20 years. Time flies. My best advice? Find someone you are 'compatible' with, whatever that means. Just find it.
Do you have any advice for me Ms. Christina? Ive dreamed and I'm working toward being the best person I can be and getting as close to God as I can Before im in a relationship But Ive dreamed all about marriage since i was a toddler. I don't want it to be too good to be true, but I want it be like yours, ik im just a random stranger but i really relate to your comment even being single, any advice would help :))
@@myagirl1997 Hello Mya Girl - I do! Despite the belief that opposites attract (which they can), I find common values (including religion), education levels (affects respect and communication), and goals (includng financial) helps to strengthen relationships. When you hear opposites attract, it could mean personality: one person is soft-spoken while the other is loud(er). Whatever is the case, in couples that I know and in my own, I can attest that having these common bonds helped make coming together much easier. Values for me were religious. It brought us closer as we could share more time together and certainly less fighting when bringing up children. Education - we were of two different but professions but equal in levels. It offered unconditional respect throughout our marriage as we valued each other as equals. Lastly, goals! There are so many variations of this. We both wanted children. We both wanted a house with a yard (and neither of us were driven by money). Here is my advice to you, therefore, taking into consideration all of the above. Here's how I did it. 1 - Write down a list of what you want in someone. 2 - Go out there and meet people. 3- Because you know what you want, you're more likely to be drawn to those people with traits you've mentioned, 4 - Be patient and realistic. The list is a guide of what you want, but it is not a creation of a perfect person. 4 - Don't settle, but absolutely be realisic, 5-This doesn't have to be a long process but it can be a long process for some. 6- Everyone has someone, e.g. "soulmate", in fact many in this lifetime. Earth is just to big to have one one. REMEMBER: Similar values, education levels, and goals. These will make your relationships feel smoother. Lastly, don't laugh: use the chinese zodiac to find the animals you are compatible with in love. I know it sounds crazy, but it works, not always, but many times. I hope this helps. Yes, anyone reading this would say I'm crazy. It's just one perspective :) Good luck to you. You deserve love! ;)
Cheesy but the accommodating thing is very true. But when you find your person, it’s not “I have to”, it’s a “I want to” situation because you care about the greater whole of the relationship, rather than just yourself.
This video shows to us that married life is not always about the happy moments, but there are also dark moments that a married couple would experience and they get through them all hand in hand.
LOL! The 57 year old couple is my fave. They are adorable. I also like the one that said "snoring" and the husband said "I'm trying" is the cutest thing ever
It's good to have a partner in life whom you can trust and lean when problems knock you hard. These are very inspiring stories shared by different couples that are all definitely useful and motivating to watch.
After watching this beautiful video, I honestly don't see anything terrible or bad about being married! Everyone was talking about being considerate and kind and taking time to yourself which is never a bad thing but rather an essential part of any successful relationship and marriage ❤ They're all so beautiful and I loved this video 😍
notice how their _body language_ changes the more the years they spend together. You become more connected, more reflecting to one another. More easy-going also!
We'd say - finding the balance between being DEPENDANT and INDEPENDANT. We both have strong personalities and sometimes we like to do our thing, but it's hard when one person is feeling "needy" while the other is trying to "spread their wing." It helps to plan time together - and then plan time apart. ❤️
This is why I am not sure if I ever want to get married I don't want to think of someone else or consider someone else with my life decisions. But sometimes I don't want to be alone I have to change I am 38 and I hope I will figure it out soon or I have been disappointed so much by men that I care less about being in a relationship.
One common trend is that they all stress on how difficult it is to adjust to having to consider someone all the time. I think that’s the hardest part about relationships. There’s always a difficult line to draw between compromise and losing yourself
I got confuse with couple 2:42 , how can they been married for 22 years when they look like 30 years old people. Did they get married when they were 10?
Maybe in their early twenties so now they're in their early to mid forties! She did say they got married young and she knew that she wanted to marry him when she was in the eight grade
The older couple with the husband in the blue suit jacket and the wife with the pink sweater jacket, remind me so so much of my grandparents. From the style to the way they sit. Mr grandpa even used to have a little mustach sometimes like the guy in the video.
I was like; "knows you more than you know yourself"?! then I looked up at the screen: OH! 84 days married, okay that makes sense, hadn't had the contemplating divorce fight yet
Too often we go to single, bitter relationship experts for advice about how to snag and keep a husband or wife..... God knows TH-cam is full of them. I'm now going to look for advice coming from people in healthy, loving marriages.
I love it how... In the start the couples were talking big things like wanting personal space and knowing too much.. And as the years proceed... They talk about silly things like.. Bed and meals
That makes sense to me actually, i imagine when you first get married, you are still settling in and organizing your life with another person so you have to get the big issues out of the way. Once you've been with someone for more time the more things have been settled and talked about and then find other smaller things to talk/argue about lol
That's my favorite part too
I actually don't think the meals issue is a 'silly thing'. That woman is talking about the way women are expected to carry two fulltime jobs--work all day in paid labour, & then come home & work another fulltime job doing unpaid labour of cooking, cleaning, childcare etc. That's a serious issue, that assumption that ordinary women carry a superhuman burden but also get no credit for it.
@@johnnydtractive
If I got paid for all the jobs I do as a stay at home mother, I would be freakin rich!
Daycare provider - $9.40 hr
Teacher - $28.37 hr (I'm not homeschooling, but I'm making sure to jump-start his education)
Cook - $15.19 hr (unlike the others where I'm using the average, for this one I pulled the lowest number of a head cook bc, let's be honest, I'm no gourmet chef, lol)
Maid - $11.04
All unpaid and yet totally worth it to be able to spend as much time with my baby as possible!
Liz W thats why it’s so heartbreaking that working women feel complain to do it every day when men don’t. It should be discuss and arranged to a way that fits each one.
"I can't think of anything" OKAY RIP MY HEART OFF ALREADY
Rabia - ikr I’m bobbing bruh
I TEARED UP
Who goes and films a video 5 hours after getting married 😂
And they look miserable
Jasmine Stockman right
😂😂
kt sstromie they looked quite happy tbh, just sat upright
they need money for their honeymoon
The Asian couple married for 22 years... gorgeous 😍
The time shocked me. They look so well for their age.
I’m going to guess that since the wife stated in another video that she proclaimed she knew she wanted to marry him when she was only 8th grade age (around 12-13 years old) that they may have gotten married shortly after high school. If they’ve been married for 22 years, that’d make them possibly in their early to mid-forties. People don’t look THAT old at that age yet, so they don’t look exceptionally young or good to me since most people at around that age don’t look overly aged yet.
Riiight
I need to know their story. They look stunning. And the way they look at each other is everything 💝💝💝💝💝
Ellie Green probably the wife got married at 21 and is now 43. You can still look young at your early 40s
“If I fell off a cliff before we got married I’d be like... eh I fell off a cliff” 😂
liked that haha
Me too😂😂😂
iconic
🤷♀️ Me
The elders seemed the happiest. That must mean marriage gets better.
Best comment by far!
It does. Seen it with my own eyes with my own with my parents
Another way to look at it is that those in long marriages found the right person to marry which meant it lasted for such a long time. People should avoid staying in a bad marriage under the impression that it magically will become better with time. That being said you can of course work on problems in a relationship, married or not.
Skeppsvrak there is no “right person” to find. That right person has to be made and there has to be compromises and constant character building on both ends to keep up a marriage
probably means they stuck together too.
I love seeing couples who aren't toxic. Gives me hope
“SHe gets my money now” .....😛😛😛😛😛 LOL best moment
MGTOW’s everywhere......can’t relate
Stingy guy 😅😅
I dont like that
No one said "mother in law" 😂
Viki Luki I’ll say it.. my mother in-law
They know their mother-in-laws will watch this lol. But jokes aside, I actually love my mother-in-law
monkiram You’re very lucky! Enjoy that.
YOU ARE ABOUT TO START SOMETHING....
I'll say it too. Mother-in-law.
I notice that most of them have minor issue like snoring, bed, fixing meals. I’m here struggling with my bf about trust issue. I need to break up with him.
LOADING... whatever happens I wish you the best of luck hun ❤️👍👍👍
Best of luck! I'm sure you'll do what's best for you!
You think working a fulltime job and coming home feeling obligated to cook a full meal for another able-bodied person who could cook for himself or for the family is a minor issue?!
@@chiaraippoliti thats minor than not trusting someone, if there's no trust, everything else is in shambles.
Yes u do
most of the couples look really, really, REALLY similar to their other half its insane!! the facial features & shapes, hair color, race...
true that's quite interesting actually!! I would say just the couple at 0:57 doesn't look too similar though
I believe there was an article I read that mentions (being married) you tend to develop a lot of the same habits such as what you eat, how you act, how you live, what you do, Etc. Which tends to make you continue to age in a similar way. Because your environment is the same as well as your habits.
In the couples that have been married longer they actually develop the same facial expression over the years. We can tell the emotions of others by mimicking their facial expressions (so subtle you don’t even notice), so in couples that have been married for a really long time they actually they would be use to Mum king each other’s expressions they would slowly morph into one.
Well the more you hang out with someone, the more you start to look like them, develop the same habits, facial expressions, etc. plus, usually, people tend to be attracted to others that look like them.
Naturally (and I guess, subconsciously), we're attracted to people with the same features as us, to ensure that we pass our features onto our offspring. Now this isn't the case with each and every single couple here or in real life. You can be attracted to how someone speaks another language or has a crazy amount of common interests with you, their money, their shape, their ability to sing, dance, remain cool under pressure, pick you up and throw you around the room (in a loving manner, I would hope), literally anything you want and it doesn't have to follow this rule, it's just something that happens much more often than not. I only found this out a year and a half ago from a psych major friend and it was really eye opening to know that I wasn't actually making it up in my head that I have "a type." My first celebrity crush as a kid was on Liv Tyler. Surely enough, our faces are structured really similarly. I met my girlfriend shortly after this revelation too. She's half Polish-Jewish/half Australian, has a long thin face, high cheekbones and dramatic slanting eyebrows. I'm Chilean (of Spanish descent) so my skin is a bit more tanned and in comparison to her green eyes, mine are brown, but we're both a bit taller and long-limbed and have issues taking baths together or getting a good night's sleep together. I was mowing the lawn at her mom's place couple of months ago and a neighbour she was chatting with asked if I was her brother lmfao
I feel like I got so lucky in my marriage. It really has been an easy ride. There is not a single day when I would prefer to be by myself rather than with my husband. We rarely fight and our personalities bounce off of each other well. One in a million I know. I've heard it all, but I promise you, everyday feels like it's the first day of marriage for us. Love these videos. We've been married almost 20 years. Time flies. My best advice? Find someone you are 'compatible' with, whatever that means. Just find it.
Do you have any advice for me Ms. Christina? Ive dreamed and I'm working toward being the best person I can be and getting as close to God as I can Before im in a relationship But Ive dreamed all about marriage since i was a toddler. I don't want it to be too good to be true, but I want it be like yours, ik im just a random stranger but i really relate to your comment even being single, any advice would help :))
@@myagirl1997 Hello Mya Girl - I do! Despite the belief that opposites attract (which they can), I find common values (including religion), education levels (affects respect and communication), and goals (includng financial) helps to strengthen relationships. When you hear opposites attract, it could mean personality: one person is soft-spoken while the other is loud(er). Whatever is the case, in couples that I know and in my own, I can attest that having these common bonds helped make coming together much easier. Values for me were religious. It brought us closer as we could share more time together and certainly less fighting when bringing up children. Education - we were of two different but professions but equal in levels. It offered unconditional respect throughout our marriage as we valued each other as equals. Lastly, goals! There are so many variations of this. We both wanted children. We both wanted a house with a yard (and neither of us were driven by money). Here is my advice to you, therefore, taking into consideration all of the above. Here's how I did it. 1 - Write down a list of what you want in someone. 2 - Go out there and meet people. 3- Because you know what you want, you're more likely to be drawn to those people with traits you've mentioned, 4 - Be patient and realistic. The list is a guide of what you want, but it is not a creation of a perfect person. 4 - Don't settle, but absolutely be realisic, 5-This doesn't have to be a long process but it can be a long process for some. 6- Everyone has someone, e.g. "soulmate", in fact many in this lifetime. Earth is just to big to have one one. REMEMBER: Similar values, education levels, and goals. These will make your relationships feel smoother. Lastly, don't laugh: use the chinese zodiac to find the animals you are compatible with in love. I know it sounds crazy, but it works, not always, but many times. I hope this helps. Yes, anyone reading this would say I'm crazy. It's just one perspective :) Good luck to you. You deserve love! ;)
@@peachyshortchuts I know the advice wasn’t directed at me, ma’am, but thank you so so much! I hope to find a love as beautiful as yours one day! ❤
This couple that is married for nine years, in a previous video said that they never fight and now the worst thing is to fight 😂😂
Haha they probably hate it so much that they never do it
If you fight often then it’s not the right fit. A little fighting is expected but if it’s too much it will make life miserable and who wants that
I laughed when I saw the married 5.5 hours lmfao
Cheesy but the accommodating thing is very true. But when you find your person, it’s not “I have to”, it’s a “I want to” situation because you care about the greater whole of the relationship, rather than just yourself.
“ i can’t think of anything.” . Tears
The woman at 2:22 is so pretty! 😊
SARA thank you!!! 😭❤️
She’s way past her prime ... maybe when she was in her 20s
@@MrNketu she is pretty right now. As is.
Damn that's neat.. the oldest couples are honestly the cutes😍
0:16 omg they are both STUNNING and their smiles are perfect UGH
I knowww
Yes!
and her voice i soooo smoothing
But gay
This video shows to us that married life is not always about the happy moments, but there are also dark moments that a married couple would experience and they get through them all hand in hand.
i love this series a lot i never want it to end hahaha
Asian couples together 22 years...they look in their 20s
california cation I was thinking the same thing. 😄
Asian don’t raisin
LOL! The 57 year old couple is my fave. They are adorable. I also like the one that said "snoring" and the husband said "I'm trying" is the cutest thing ever
2:22 couple, damn, I want to make them a photoshoot.
What about 0:00!?!
It's good to have a partner in life whom you can trust and lean when problems knock you hard. These are very inspiring stories shared by different couples that are all definitely useful and motivating to watch.
Never an individual decision is definitely the worst part of being married.
After watching this beautiful video, I honestly don't see anything terrible or bad about being married! Everyone was talking about being considerate and kind and taking time to yourself which is never a bad thing but rather an essential part of any successful relationship and marriage ❤ They're all so beautiful and I loved this video 😍
The guy at 3:15 looks exactly like the grandpa from "Up" :)
The ones married for longer have gotten over the space thing n are just like "snoring" "beds" "food" 😂😂
notice how their _body language_ changes the more the years they spend together. You become more connected, more reflecting to one another. More easy-going also!
We'd say - finding the balance between being DEPENDANT and INDEPENDANT. We both have strong personalities and sometimes we like to do our thing, but it's hard when one person is feeling "needy" while the other is trying to "spread their wing." It helps to plan time together - and then plan time apart. ❤️
Married 22 years? What were they 3 when they got married! Looking goood!
Third couple, girl to the left, her voice is AMAZING??? So calming.
She sounds like Candace Owens.
"I can't think of anything" I'm not crying, you are...OMG sooo cute
I feel like when people are truly in love they start to look like each other. Look are each couple eyes that’s been together more than a year.
I think I’m too selfish to be in a relationship 😂
That's okay, I don't think everyone can (or should) be in a long-term relationship.
@misanthropic nihilist True! Emotional intelligence is also a factor. Emotional Maturity.
I know!😂like I want my money and sometimes I think I would want the bed to myself
@@karinagomez4257 hopefully after this pyscology class I will have matured more in that aspect
The last couple just summed up the whole video. So cuteeeeee
The couple married 84 days honestly make me happy. They're both so beautiful and it's obvious they are head over heels for each other
I love how diverse this is.
This is why I am not sure if I ever want to get married I don't want to think of someone else or consider someone else with my life decisions. But sometimes I don't want to be alone I have to change I am 38 and I hope I will figure it out soon or I have been disappointed so much by men that I care less about being in a relationship.
"Fixing meals", I soooo feel you on that one! I love to cook but just knowing I have to so many times a day, geeze 😫
Been married for 8 months and I gotta agree that meal planning is the most difficult!!!
One common trend is that they all stress on how difficult it is to adjust to having to consider someone all the time. I think that’s the hardest part about relationships. There’s always a difficult line to draw between compromise and losing yourself
The couple talking about getting a new bed seems like they have very high ups and do their best to avoid those low lows.
Gosh these two girls married for 84 are drop dead GORGEOUS.
It's fascinating how they all tell different things. All the relationships have their own way
*i can’t think of anything*
I’m not crying you are😭😭🥺
"snoring"... I feel you, sis!
2:33 why i believe in soulmates.
I was wondering why they was so lil comments and they like 9 hours ago then I realize this vid was posted only today lol.
Me too
Watching these couples makes me want to be married 😭
2:21 She is gorgeous✨✨
2:24 her HAIR, jesus. They're amazing
I got confuse with couple 2:42 , how can they been married for 22 years when they look like 30 years old people. Did they get married when they were 10?
Maybe in their early twenties so now they're in their early to mid forties! She did say they got married young and she knew that she wanted to marry him when she was in the eight grade
asians age great! she is very beautiful too so that helps
*says vows* 5 hours later... “lets do a video about being married!” 😂
I feel sad for myself as im watching this ... And im single... Oh my😂😂😂😂
when he said "she gets my money now.."i felt that😂
nothing but happiness 😩
It's crazy how the first couple is coming from their wedding and answer all these questions they ask.
The older couple with the husband in the blue suit jacket and the wife with the pink sweater jacket, remind me so so much of my grandparents. From the style to the way they sit. Mr grandpa even used to have a little mustach sometimes like the guy in the video.
the guy: she gets my money now
the lady:😜
The people that have been together forever seem so much more at peace 🥰❤️
“She gets my money now.” I hope he was joking but I don’t think he is
2:25
they are the prettiest couple a life OH MY GOD
I agree with the 2 couples that said they cant think of anything :)
The second couple that married for 18 years looks older than the couple that married for 65 years
I love these - thanks so much for this series!!
3:24 goals
that couple married for 5 1/2 hours seems really strict
The longer they are married the happier they are. The face says it all 😀
All these people have such beautiful eyes.
very true, now it's about 2 people and not just you...but it does teach you some good things in the process
The 2nd girl's response. LOL.
The guys answer is perfect.
"She gets my money now."
0:50 lol walking on eggshells 😂
jeez I'm never getting married.. wha the guy in the 4 year couple said just hit me hard, im too independent for that
Lady's hair at 2:28 is stunning.
3:19 he kind of looks like Carl from Up oml
"Eh I fell off a cliff" and I died laughing
Trying to find answers on why one should get married, after this still not convinced.
Man that black dude married 4 years is awesome, cant remember his name or what vid seen him in
When we're separated for more than a week because or work travel. Been married 35 years.
I was like; "knows you more than you know yourself"?!
then I looked up at the screen: OH! 84 days married, okay that makes sense, hadn't had the contemplating divorce fight yet
I’m engaged &this is awesome 😁
This series is so awesome
The couple of 18 years (Blonde woman and brunette guy) Are so pretty, I wonder what their kids look like.
I loooove the couple that has been together for 84 days
23 and single good lord... I’m starting to think I’ll never get married 🥺
Emma Novita There’s really no rush! You’re 23! Enjoy your twenties discovery yourself and all that.
Too often we go to single, bitter relationship experts for advice about how to snag and keep a husband or wife..... God knows TH-cam is full of them. I'm now going to look for advice coming from people in healthy, loving marriages.
Great content♥️💯
The guy who has been married for 9 months looks exactly like Niall from One direction just with brown hair!!
1:09 OMG HE'S BEAUTIFUL
1:08 Donald Glover, is that you?
The 58year couple Is so amazing .. and the 9year couple. 😍
The couples that have been married for 6 years, 18 years and 44 years are gorgeous
Good advice from everyone
Sharing shows, honestly. I’ll start watching a show and my husband will want to join, lol it sucks to have similar interests.
Am I the only one who skips the Young couples because they dont know what theyre talking about?
Yes.
The married 57 years is how I see my parents
I'm surprised no one said: Parents in laws !
the guy that was in the 4yr marriage sounds just like andre 3000 from outkast it’s insane