@jay fine Married 30 years and I hate "happy wife, happy life", because women aren't stupid. They realize that the higher they set the bar on happiness, the more you will do for less. It is extremely hard for anyone to resist the temptation, to inflate the value of their happiness for their own gain. It is a certain recipe for disaster. The happy spouse, happy house is far better, because if you both focus on prioritizing the happiness of the other, and resisting the temptation to be the greediest in the relationship, that is an easy route to certain success.
The 58 years section's husband's face when his wife said "He was the love of my life. Still is" is priceless. That is most genuine and sweet smile I've ever seen! 😍💜
Selma Malik they couldve just been out of court... marriage doesnt mean a wedding... you usually register first (which legally marries you) THEN have a wedding.
It's really interesting how the younger couples are told "the woman is always right" and the older couples were told "the man is always right". I think it showcases how the world and views on marriage can change so rapidly.
The Worst advice came from my mother; "You HAVE to maintain your individuality and control over your own destiny, because marriages sometimes fail and then you will have to take care of yourself." She has been married 3 times. I killed the single, or "individual" me, A LONG time ago, can't remember where I buried the body, and have never missed it. My wife and I have been very happily married 21 years. To my mothers credit, after my wife and I had been married for 12 or 13 years, my mother said it was time for her to stop giving us advice and start taking it.
Chopperman - There's no sexism towards men. That's not accurate and the advice they gave to the younger couples actually reinforces sexist stereotypes about women. The stuff about how they should always agree with the wife and not make her unhappy is patronizing to the wife, and says that they should treat her like a stereotype and never actually respectfully engage with what she thinks. People, especially men, often say "always listen to her" or "she's always right" because of sexist stereotypes that women nag and have nothing valuable to say. That's not good. :-/
plumear yes there is sexism to men. That’s like saying white people don’t receive racism from other racial and ethnic groups. Even groups that seem to be “on top” struggle to
rissie for life - There is no institutional racism against white people. You're not making much of an argument here. White people aren't made to hate the color of their skin or the texture of their hair because societal standards position whiteness as ugly....rather, whiteness is held as the standard of beauty here and internationally. White people don't face systematic economic discrimination on the basis of race. White people aren't popularly stereotyped as lazy, violent, or dangerous. White people have an overwhelming representation and power in our systems of government, and also have overwhelming diverse and positive representation in media. White people are not subjected to the levels brutality that people of color have suffered for centuries. Tell me again how they "struggle too". Tell me: What do white people experience that compares to the racism that people of color face? Tell me what this "racism" against white people looks like. & then consider how trivial it actually is.
rissie for life - You said, "even groups that seem to be 'on top' struggle too." Struggle, sure. But not against institutional racism. White people have not had to struggle against disenfranchisement, or fight for their rights on the basis of race. If any white person has had to fight for their rights, it's on the basis of something other than whiteness: gender, sexuality, class, disability. Listen, everyone has a struggle, but white people do not struggle against systemic, institutional racism. You just don't face structural disadvantages in America for being white.
I bet they got married really young. My aunt and my late uncle were together around 65 years before he passed and they got married when she was 14 and he was 16.
I'm not married. But for me personally the worst advice I've gotten was from my best friend's mother. She said, "It's your responsibility as a wife to always please your man. You need to satisfy him at least three times a week. Even when I'm busy, I make sure to at least give him a hand." Although some of you may agree with this, the way she said it was sexist. Hell, it is sexist. Both partners should be sexually satisfied. You're not marrying someone just to please them. And I would hope having sex isn't the main priority or treated like a duty or chore.
This sounds cheesy, but i feel a lot of happy couples are more beautiful when they are together. Like: being with the person you love, and that loves you, makes you feel happy, and you smile more, and those things are what make you beautiful.
After I got married, my grandma basically tells me regularly to not tell my husband when I’m upset with him because he works hard and I shouldn’t make him feel bad. I lasted 4 months and exploded. I realized that when I do that I just suffer and then he eventually is suffering too because I’m visibly unhappy, and he has no idea why. That was the worst advice ever. I was very depressed because it was a pretty big thing that I was holding onto. He did feel bad when I finally told him I was upset with one of his decisions but better to share than let resentment grow which is what I was doing for 4 months....
1:42 - the couple that's married for 9 years... I feel like he would say just about anything in order to hear and see her "juicy laugh" ❤️ That's love right there!
I didn't feel like the newly eed couples got advice favoring the woman. I was getting more like "ahhh women, so capricious, better keep them satisfied or they'll drive you nuts!"
Taifuun yep, exactly. Dudes who say stuff like that don't actually think women have considerable power in a relationship. But apparently some people are convinced this means we live in a mysandric world now
Its interesting to see that some of the younger couples said the worst advice they received is that you must keep the woman happy and she's always right. "Happy wife, happy life." But the older couples bad advice was you have to listen to everything the man says and he's always right. Just puts time into perpective ya know?
Never go to bed angry sort out your issues because keeping it in just fosters resentment. Communicate that cannot be said enough, be flexible, cherish your spouse like a flower , never call each other names because people tend to remember the bad things said versus good , have hobbies to keep you content, don't involve family and friends on your marital problems seek professional counsel instead, because your close ones would be bias and they will low key start hating your spouse even after the issues are squashed, work as a team especially when you start having children so that one spouse doesn't feel like he pr she is doing all the work, having children can cause issues in a marriage believe it or not... Lessons learned from eight years of marriage
@Ally Jean Baptiste So that things don't go too far and you say something you regret. In other words to let both people calm down, sleep on it, and work it out the next day.
The old couples were advised that the man should assert dominance while the new couples are advised that the men should keep their wives happy. Times have changed so much, the power just moved to the other end of the spectrum, no in-between.
BTS John John cook. Exactly, men are supposed to trick their wives in the early years. By always saying that their wives are right and making sure their wives are happy and setting the traps for a certain number of years. Once the trap has been securely set, then the wives always have to listen and obey the husband and just fall to their knees in their husband's presence. Solid plan, very solid plan.
Nobody should control the other. You’re still your own person when you’re married, you shouldn’t have to listen to one another. Be your own people, love your own life. If someone says “do what the man/woman wants” then that’s just WRONG
My grandmother always told me” don t depend on t he man, never ask him money for your underwear, So first of all succeed on your career, everything will come after. My grandmother is 83 now, so i will say! The best advice ever! We are togheter but inrividually persons. We help eachother when needed, but never dependeng permamnently on the Other. Love this 🖤
Totally agree with keeping your finances separate though. Have a joint account for shared expenses but have your own account too. Same reason people get prenups. YOU work hard for your money, you should protect it.
Seeing older couples being married for a long time is an inspiration. Nowadays, divorce is so rampant right? I just hope my current relationship will last too.
A True Love Official divorce is now on a downward trend so that’s good. I think Millenials and gen z will have a higher success rate of marriage than older generations.
Wow so beautiful, my grandparents just celebrated their diamond wedding anniversary last year and my parents their silver last week. That beautiful couple married for 65 years - I can’t even begin to imagine, so amazing ❤️
My grandmother always cautioned against going to a movie theater with a guy (something about his fingers... don't ask lol) and that a woman should be with a man who has more love and affection for her than she does him. 🤔 I've had to modify her advice over the years though; to never lower my standards as its my life and my decisions. Be your best YOU and you will attract the best FOR you.
this was interesting to watch. i, personally, don't have a very high opinion of marriage, being a child of divorce and all. that being said, the way peoples' views surrounding marriage have changed throughout the years, as shown here, gives a fascinating view on how we have seen and see relationships today.
Frederika I feel like the guy is in this relationship alone. She seems irritated and annoyed with him considering her death stares and that hurt in her eyes is hard to ignore. She gives off a vibe of a vegetarian given a full stake meal after clearly spending time ordering what she wanted. They need counseling ASAP ‘cos someone is about to run ‘mad’.🤷♀️🤷♀️
I always got the whole... never go to bed angry. I agree that sometimes... just let me be mad. We'll hash it out in the morning and honestly, the results (for us) will be better. But every couple is different.
She's always right is actually a good advice. Worked for my forefathers. 😂 But for real though, two people can't be mad at the same time. Your wife is always right.
2:54 this is correct. Although it’s good to communicate and find common ground in a marriage, truth is that if you just do what your husband wants. He will be happy ❤️ I have a successful marriage following this advice
A piece of advice I got from my High School art teacher is to never have two different bank accounts. Every person he knew that did that got divorced. I think it’s a good piece advice, maybe? Idk Ah, 2:25 thank you for clarifying
So interesting that the older couples were told that the man should be pleased while younger couples are told to keep the wives happy. Values really change
I've always hated that "happy wife, happy life"/"listen to your husband" bullcrap. Both should listen to and consult one another.
Edgy
- A Totally! :D I agree completely.
Happy spouse, happy house is the one I like better lol
I always liked, "Happy spouse happy house," instead.
@jay fine Married 30 years and I hate "happy wife, happy life", because women aren't stupid. They realize that the higher they set the bar on happiness, the more you will do for less. It is extremely hard for anyone to resist the temptation, to inflate the value of their happiness for their own gain. It is a certain recipe for disaster.
The happy spouse, happy house is far better, because if you both focus on prioritizing the happiness of the other, and resisting the temptation to be the greediest in the relationship, that is an easy route to certain success.
The 58 years section's husband's face when his wife said "He was the love of my life. Still is" is priceless. That is most genuine and sweet smile I've ever seen! 😍💜
We should and can say more nice things to and about our partners💕
So precious 🥰
How did they find this many beautiful couples?????????
wow 65 years. god blessed
right i’m here drowning in 3yrs of my marriage
Yeah i don’t even have a boyfriend yet
Question what were you doing on the streets after being married five hours ago?
Selma Malik 55*
Shes referring to the first couple
ok lol no. its 5.5. five and a half.
why are they on the streets and not IN THE SHEETS? :D Yep that's enough internet. I'll leave while I'm ahead
Selma Malik they couldve just been out of court... marriage doesnt mean a wedding... you usually register first (which legally marries you) THEN have a wedding.
“Okay boo that’s for you, not for me.. we have a different husband” LOOOOOOL
😂😂 so true
Married 5 hours? And y'all in public?! Oh ok lol
trust me
bleeka325 my vag 🌺🍷
bleeka325 55*
lmao!!
bleeka325 They had probably just got married and were going somewhere??? Lmao
"What kind of secrets dO YoU hAvE sIr?!"
I thought that was good advice lol. You can't tell EVERYTHING to your partner!
😂🤣😂
I loved that 🤣
That was funny!!
3:30 his face lights up 😍
The background makes it seems they are sitting in a cloud.
Centennial cloud nine
Centennial
b
Because they're all dead?
are you high?
Someone probably had connections and went to the wedding and perhaps asked them prior to the wedding if they'd be in the video
It's really interesting how the younger couples are told "the woman is always right" and the older couples were told "the man is always right". I think it showcases how the world and views on marriage can change so rapidly.
👀 so true!! 🤔
The Worst advice came from my mother; "You HAVE to maintain your individuality and control over your own destiny, because marriages sometimes fail and then you will have to take care of yourself." She has been married 3 times. I killed the single, or "individual" me, A LONG time ago, can't remember where I buried the body, and have never missed it.
My wife and I have been very happily married 21 years.
To my mothers credit, after my wife and I had been married for 12 or 13 years, my mother said it was time for her to stop giving us advice and start taking it.
The younger couples seemed to get advice sexist towards men, while the older couples got sexist advice towards the women. Neither is good.
Chopperman - There's no sexism towards men. That's not accurate and the advice they gave to the younger couples actually reinforces sexist stereotypes about women.
The stuff about how they should always agree with the wife and not make her unhappy is patronizing to the wife, and says that they should treat her like a stereotype and never actually respectfully engage with what she thinks.
People, especially men, often say "always listen to her" or "she's always right" because of sexist stereotypes that women nag and have nothing valuable to say. That's not good. :-/
plumear yes there is sexism to men. That’s like saying white people don’t receive racism from other racial and ethnic groups. Even groups that seem to be “on top” struggle to
rissie for life - There is no institutional racism against white people. You're not making much of an argument here.
White people aren't made to hate the color of their skin or the texture of their hair because societal standards position whiteness as ugly....rather, whiteness is held as the standard of beauty here and internationally. White people don't face systematic economic discrimination on the basis of race. White people aren't popularly stereotyped as lazy, violent, or dangerous. White people have an overwhelming representation and power in our systems of government, and also have overwhelming diverse and positive representation in media. White people are not subjected to the levels brutality that people of color have suffered for centuries.
Tell me again how they "struggle too".
Tell me: What do white people experience that compares to the racism that people of color face? Tell me what this "racism" against white people looks like. & then consider how trivial it actually is.
rissie for life - You said, "even groups that seem to be 'on top' struggle too." Struggle, sure. But not against institutional racism.
White people have not had to struggle against disenfranchisement, or fight for their rights on the basis of race. If any white person has had to fight for their rights, it's on the basis of something other than whiteness: gender, sexuality, class, disability.
Listen, everyone has a struggle, but white people do not struggle against systemic, institutional racism. You just don't face structural disadvantages in America for being white.
plumear let me guess you’re a white 1st world feminist and sjw??
65 years! They look awesome.
ElegantCoretta G they are probably burners 😉
I bet they got married really young. My aunt and my late uncle were together around 65 years before he passed and they got married when she was 14 and he was 16.
I'm not married. But for me personally the worst advice I've gotten was from my best friend's mother. She said, "It's your responsibility as a wife to always please your man. You need to satisfy him at least three times a week. Even when I'm busy, I make sure to at least give him a hand."
Although some of you may agree with this, the way she said it was sexist. Hell, it is sexist. Both partners should be sexually satisfied. You're not marrying someone just to please them. And I would hope having sex isn't the main priority or treated like a duty or chore.
I definitely see a huge benefit in having separate, personal bank accounts, and one for shared money for shared finances.
Noelle Irina . . .
You just blew my mind.
I don't see how that's a bad advice
Noelle Irina It all depends on the couple and their financial habits and goals.
Afia Griffith How could it possibly hurt them?
Noelle Irina resentment over sharing costs and who has more, for one
3:30 awww so cute ❤️❤️
Smh.... Why all of them are beautiful.... Are we even the same specie?! 😂
KiraLup probably not😂😂😂😌💔
Right time to put my paper bag back on 😂😅
This sounds cheesy, but i feel a lot of happy couples are more beautiful when they are together. Like: being with the person you love, and that loves you, makes you feel happy, and you smile more, and those things are what make you beautiful.
Ilse omg this is so cute it reminds me of wedding pictures, ppl look like goddesses and models!!
I can only pray that me and my baby (aka my future husband) are together forever
Same with me and my gf!
Peplar aww
Skrooge Lantay sorry for your past negative experiences but that only happens if youre with the person purely for how they look
Skrooge Lantay you obviously have women issues. That's not how it works.
Skrooge Lantay love doesn't revolve around looks
The 58 year couple made me wanna cry. They were the sweetest!
Zia Rose Yes!
After I got married, my grandma basically tells me regularly to not tell my husband when I’m upset with him because he works hard and I shouldn’t make him feel bad. I lasted 4 months and exploded. I realized that when I do that I just suffer and then he eventually is suffering too because I’m visibly unhappy, and he has no idea why. That was the worst advice ever. I was very depressed because it was a pretty big thing that I was holding onto. He did feel bad when I finally told him I was upset with one of his decisions but better to share than let resentment grow which is what I was doing for 4 months....
"He was the love of my life, still is"❤️ I'm crying 😂
1:42 - the couple that's married for 9 years...
I feel like he would say just about anything in order to hear and see her "juicy laugh" ❤️
That's love right there!
I didn't feel like the newly eed couples got advice favoring the woman. I was getting more like "ahhh women, so capricious, better keep them satisfied or they'll drive you nuts!"
Taifuun yep, exactly. Dudes who say stuff like that don't actually think women have considerable power in a relationship. But apparently some people are convinced this means we live in a mysandric world now
Its interesting to see that some of the younger couples said the worst advice they received is that you must keep the woman happy and she's always right. "Happy wife, happy life." But the older couples bad advice was you have to listen to everything the man says and he's always right. Just puts time into perpective ya know?
XOXOangelsfly exactly
The lighting in this video is spot on. Everybody looks beautiful!
Never go to bed angry sort out your issues because keeping it in just fosters resentment. Communicate that cannot be said enough, be flexible, cherish your spouse like a flower , never call each other names because people tend to remember the bad things said versus good , have hobbies to keep you content, don't involve family and friends on your marital problems seek professional counsel instead, because your close ones would be bias and they will low key start hating your spouse even after the issues are squashed, work as a team especially when you start having children so that one spouse doesn't feel like he pr she is doing all the work, having children can cause issues in a marriage believe it or not... Lessons learned from eight years of marriage
@Ally Jean Baptiste So that things don't go too far and you say something you regret. In other words to let both people calm down, sleep on it, and work it out the next day.
It’s like a lot of the straight couples got bad advice based on gender roles.
Lionhearted626 some couples and people just have different beliefs
Jasmin C / But gender roles are not okay.
Alice Cuddles depending on the couple
Kufre Akpan / No, not depending on the couple. No matter what, gender roles are not okay.
Alice Cuddles I think it’s pretty reasonable when these beliefs or preferences aren’t being pushed on others who don’t quite retain that view.
“That’s not true because we have crisis everyday” 😂😂😂
The old couples were advised that the man should assert dominance while the new couples are advised that the men should keep their wives happy.
Times have changed so much, the power just moved to the other end of the spectrum, no in-between.
BTS John John cook. Exactly, men are supposed to trick their wives in the early years. By always saying that their wives are right and making sure their wives are happy and setting the traps for a certain number of years. Once the trap has been securely set, then the wives always have to listen and obey the husband and just fall to their knees in their husband's presence. Solid plan, very solid plan.
i don't think that's what they're saying...(unless I'm missing your sarcasm)...
Tango Blast Yeah, it's totally sarcasm. It just seemed to fit, you know.
And all of them chose that as the worst advice, at least that is something to note down :)
Nobody should control the other. You’re still your own person when you’re married, you shouldn’t have to listen to one another. Be your own people, love your own life. If someone says “do what the man/woman wants” then that’s just WRONG
Married 57years... "She was a smart woman, very smart" 😂😂 ❤❤
My husband and I go to bed angry and we wake up the next day sooooo over it and ready to move on
"He was the love of my life." I want to be able to say that one day.
My grandmother always told me” don t depend on t he man, never ask him money for your underwear, So first of all succeed on your career, everything will come after. My grandmother is 83 now, so i will say! The best advice ever! We are togheter but inrividually persons. We help eachother when needed, but never dependeng permamnently on the Other. Love this 🖤
3:31 that hand rub was worth a thousand words of love
Totally agree with keeping your finances separate though. Have a joint account for shared expenses but have your own account too. Same reason people get prenups. YOU work hard for your money, you should protect it.
The couple at 2:21 has been married for 22 years. How old was she, 12?
Amara O facts
thats what happens when you take care of yourself
She could easily be 40-50 years old :) A lot of Asian people age gracefully
if she is 44 and got married at 22 it would be 22 years. Remember Asian don't Raisin
she was probably 18-20 she looks young alike . takes good care of her skin /maybe genetics or plastic surgery 🤷♀️
Seeing older couples being married for a long time is an inspiration. Nowadays, divorce is so rampant right? I just hope my current relationship will last too.
A True Love Official divorce is now on a downward trend so that’s good. I think Millenials and gen z will have a higher success rate of marriage than older generations.
Wow so beautiful, my grandparents just celebrated their diamond wedding anniversary last year and my parents their silver last week. That beautiful couple married for 65 years - I can’t even begin to imagine, so amazing ❤️
My great grandparents were married for nearly 65 years, but my great grandma died the year they would have their 65th anniversary. She was 94
yo b where u from
AWw.. 😀❤👏👍
How refreshing to hear from people that are living in real life instead of social media
03:20 😍
‘and that’s not true. we have a crisis everyday’ 😂😂😂
“ok boo that’s for you that’s not for me, we have a different husband ...” lmaooo
We have a crisis every day. Finally an honest answer here 😂😂😂
OMG the woman in the 4 years married was my old history teacher!!
My grandmother always cautioned against going to a movie theater with a guy (something about his fingers... don't ask lol) and that a woman should be with a man who has more love and affection for her than she does him. 🤔 I've had to modify her advice over the years though; to never lower my standards as its my life and my decisions. Be your best YOU and you will attract the best FOR you.
This is what the world needs more of, not the constant shootings and war, beautiful relationships 😊xxxx
I love how these couples look older and haven't been married long. Getting married young & early isn't for everyone. Each couple was beautiful!
Old couples are so cute I can’t 😩💕✨
☀️ Such a joy to witness these couples particularly the ones that have been together for so long! The care and the admiration is so sweet 🌸
The one married 58 years is cute. I love how he was beaming.
"And that's not true... we have crisis everyday" hahah love them
All these couples are beautful. Really warmed my heart❤
All these couples are so attractive...jeez
the olds couple🧡
this was interesting to watch. i, personally, don't have a very high opinion of marriage, being a child of divorce and all. that being said, the way peoples' views surrounding marriage have changed throughout the years, as shown here, gives a fascinating view on how we have seen and see relationships today.
3:20 made my heart melt
The reoccurring theme is that marriage is a partnership
The couples at 0:17 and 0:40 are absolutely beautiful
THE 58 YEARS COUPLE IS SO FLIPPING CUTE,,, THAT IS WHAT I STRIVE FOR
I only wish the best for all these couples, may they have a wonderful life with their loved ones, theyare all so so cute i love them
The Asian couple married 22 years,the woman looks like she could be only 22 years old
I like to imagine what these couples were like when they were freshly married (for the 30+ years married couples)
At 0:55 she was like no we're not😂😂
YES!, sad . 🤤
Frederika I feel like the guy is in this relationship alone. She seems irritated and annoyed with him considering her death stares and that hurt in her eyes is hard to ignore. She gives off a vibe of a vegetarian given a full stake meal after clearly spending time ordering what she wanted. They need counseling ASAP ‘cos someone is about to run ‘mad’.🤷♀️🤷♀️
I always got the whole... never go to bed angry. I agree that sometimes... just let me be mad. We'll hash it out in the morning and honestly, the results (for us) will be better. But every couple is different.
crazy how the younger generation had issues having equality in marriage but elderly people had a bias of having it be very one sided 💔
03:29 i started crying this is too cute hope I find something like that one day
*Sips tea while sitting comfortable in my seat. Hmm I gotto hear this!
2:27 she's so pretty
the couple married for 65 years looks so young holy crap
It’s interesting that the older couples got advice about the man being dominant, and the younger generally got advice about the woman being dominant.
Such an awkward wow at 1:25
so much black love ✊🏽✊🏽💖
1:44 ooooh someone sleeping on the couch tonight.
Sosmcs See BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA😂😂😂😂😂💛
Awwwwwww Charlie and that adorable smile 😊😊😊😊😊
2:18 DAMN HOW OLD ARE Y'ALL?!
Roshi Jinx she looks good but 40s. Asian doesn’t raisin!
Charlie started blushing aww
Charlie just sittin there smirking lmao
She's always right is actually a good advice. Worked for my forefathers. 😂
But for real though, two people can't be mad at the same time. Your wife is always right.
“she was very smart..smart woman”😭😂😂
“And Renee I assure you wouldn’t” 😅😂
You usually get your marriage license a few weeks before the wedding. so technically you’re married but your wedding isn’t happening yet
2:54 this is correct. Although it’s good to communicate and find common ground in a marriage, truth is that if you just do what your husband wants. He will be happy ❤️ I have a successful marriage following this advice
married for 4 years literally has my sass 😂😂😂😂
He was the loml....still is😍😍😍😍😩
A piece of advice I got from my High School art teacher is to never have two different bank accounts. Every person he knew that did that got divorced. I think it’s a good piece advice, maybe? Idk
Ah, 2:25 thank you for clarifying
married for 65 years grandpa is high key hot
I love the 5 years couple, all vids I've watched. The man is hilarious.
So interesting that the older couples were told that the man should be pleased while younger couples are told to keep the wives happy. Values really change
With some exceptions of course
1:08
Is that Ice Cube? 😂
no
What’s so bad about keeping your finances separate?
65 years! Wow!
Omg. They're all so beautiful! God bless.
the way they look at eachother oh my god
-My mom said Always do what a man wants.
-A smart woman
😂😂😂
In the future we are not going to see more than 1 years togetherness, my thoughts though
The youger couples always got "Listen to your wife" but the older ones got "Listen to your husband" that's pretty interesting how opposite they are.
Ok but at the end you only put old couples I'd like to hear the opinion of a young couple that has been married for many years, good vid😊
But that would be impossible. A young couple can't be married for 50 years lol
If any of these couples want to have kids they will be BEAUTIFUL
Love @1:04 So true!!! 🙌🏻