"If you feel as though your spouse has done something that you disagree with, disagree with that particular thing. Don't say you always do this. I think that causes resentment, and the fact that you are being characterised is insulting." Wisdom!
My grandfather, deep into his 80's, gave my the best advice i've ever gotten. He said'' Have faith where you should. Have fun where you can. Have courage where you must. Have condoms.''
@@nyembsafric1 I saw a lot of cases of love with no respect - when you judge, critic, and put your own benefits above someone else's. you can love them but have lack of respect for them. of course this kind of "love" is not good nor healthy.
I might just be married for 7 years (& still counting), but here's my take : Befriend your spouse, and always.. always remember the reason why you wanna marry him/her in the first place.
This is the best advice. When I am mad at my husband, I always try and remember why I love this man for almost 15 years, why no one else will ever hold my heart...and then he knowingly says something to make me smile, and all is well with my world.
Does your partner still increase your heart rate when you see them and take your breath away? Or does the attraction shift to a different experience when you have been with sonone along time? 😎
Nothing to celebrate about marriage.. the man is eventually gonna get fed up of his stupid wife after a few years and then you wouldnt be too suprised to see a divorce followed by the man having to pay alimony for the rest of his life
I was thinking the same but I’m also conflicted cause I actually kinda liked that in literally every case one person speaks and the other wholeheartedly nods 😂 they probably discussed what to say beforehand.
I really like the second couple's advice. Not even just for marriage, but any meaningful relationship. Love is not one language. I'm an extremely affectionate person, almost annoyingly so. My boyfriend is much more laid back and independent, doesn't need as much as I do, and it took some time for me to learn that that's just how he is rather than taking it as a lack of love.
I know this was a year ago but my bf & I are going through that now. If you can help in anyway I’d appreciate some tips on how to do that. I hope you see this
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A 80 year old neighbor of mine gave me some of the best marriage advice ever. he said to understand that no one stays the same and that everyone changes. You must accept it.
Before I got married, a very wise woman said to me, don’t look at everything you like/love about the person. Rather, look at what you dislike about them and ask yourself, “can I live with this forever?” If the answer is no, run. Don’t expect to change that person when married. This words of wisdom stuck with me.
What’s best for the marriage ALWAYS comes first! What’s best for your partner, comes second, and what’s best for you always comes third. If both partners are operating on this principle, then it’s a marriage of giving and everyone’s needs are getting met.
So many wise words shared! I feel bad for the man who missed out on spending more time with his kids because he believed a man’s role is to work. That would really suck for me. I agree with the partner that mentioned that labelling the other partner’s mistake as “you always do this or that” can feel very disempowering and give the problem more weight. For me personally, having the freedom to remain an individual while remaining grounded in the comradery of the marriage is paramount. I resonate fully with enjoying time together to the fullest before the babies come. Those little beings come in and change everything! Thanks guys x
Though not married, a married woman did give me this advice: Enjoy your husband a while before having children. They require lots of attention and men can feel jealousy too
Been together for 31 years. Love him more every day. My advice would be to be tolerant of each other and we all have different perspectives of life. Understand this and all will be great. Also remember love is purely everything.
Marriage is never 50/50; it’s at best 60/40. Whenever it’s your time to carry the heavier load, BE GRATEFUL. His dirty socks in the floor may irritate you now, but one day if something bad happens, and he’s not there to leave those socks, you’re going to beg god to get them back!
I agree with this. As I am now.... (I am complaining about the socks , dishes, living room pillows ....I will STOP it and address the issue and not him.. I will think of how to present it to him at another time instead of saying "You always leave this a mess".."Why couldn't you just pick it up instead of leaving it there for me to get"). I honestly believe that because I'm home injured right now that he does this and knows that I will straighten up the house. Its not done AAAAALLLLL the time but it's enough to get a Lil tude..... I want to address things differently... with tact, ease, a level of understanding and consideration for both of us. I love my husband😍 And I want To stay "IN L💖VE" with him.
Yes David!! It's definitely a back and forth of carrying the load. By having that outlook, you also won't find yourself constantly judging the other person when your day seems stressful. Most importantly, I think it's best to acknowledge the roles and duties ahead of time, but also understand no human being can be expected to do it perfectly, or to never have off days. Mutual respect and acknowledgement of what each person does to contribute creates a very productive and loving atmosphere.
Don’t ever ever ever try to get even for something they have done to hurt you! It is so much easier to forgive when the hurt is caused by accident or unintentionally. When you inflict pain on purpose it’s harder to get past it.
Communication and friendship! Your spouse should be your best friend and the first one to whom you want to share something with, whether it's a gossip or a concern. We fall in and out of love while married but it's hard to fall out of friendship. So we continue to talk, joke and communicate until we fall in love again😘 children makes it so much more enjoyable too(most of the time!lol)
And wasn't she single and cynical lol. People taking advice from the wrong person. You don't take advice from someone who doesn't have the life you want unless they're warning you how they got their.
I liked this vid! As a husband of 39 years, I wish someone would have told me the seriousness of the marriage covenant. That each needs to develop a Servanthood Heart where it was no longer “me” being married, but “us” to serve each other’s needs and those of our kids.
Pay attention, keep learning - relationships take work but are worth it in the end. Never take your person for granted, love and respect them, show compassion and forgiveness and remember to look at yourself before you start pointing your finger at them. Marriage can and should be fun, keep your sense of humor and playful side with your spouse even in old age.
I envy people who have a life, who actually live their life, who have friends, family, and a job that they like. Even having a hard time in life, people still have a life, and are getting through it. I am a loner who very desperately wants friends, but the thought of even getting close to someone, scares the hell out of me, I just keep to myself, and just ignore everything about life, because I'm too scared to do anything. I'm scared of rejection from someone, I'm afraid to do anything crazy because I don't want to get into any trouble, and I just do the same boring thing every day. I hate it, and I honestly don't know what to do.
josh quill The fear itself is way worse than the actual thing itself... maybe join a class or take up a hobby. Talking to a therapist might also help. And start slow. One day a simple hello to a stranger, down the road a small talk. Everyone craves a connection, other people want friends just as much as you do :). You could be the friend to someone else who is too afraid to make friends. Best of luck to you! Don’t let fear take over, you only have one life. You can do this and you can make somebody else’s life much better :)
I've had friends come into my life and go, relationships come and go, I've made some good memories and some not so good. Some people have brought amazing happiness and sharp pain and hurt to my life, but today is a new day and there's people I've never met things yet to do I won't let myself get jaded and not enjoy and share my life and gifts with others.
Start small. Smile at people who walk past. Be a regular somewhere even if it is the same register in the grocery store. I had this problem because my parents did not raise us as indivuduals. They raised us very militant and as a herd. I didnt even like looking at pictures of myself for a while because I did not exist on my own. You exist as a person. People recognize you even if you think they don't. Start small i grew out of it at about 26ish. I am now 29. I still go back to my bubble but i invite people inside occassionally.
The best advice I can think of that I wish i'd thought of when young is to take an accredited basic psychology course. It will help you to understand yourself and what YOU need first, and also help you pick out those who are putting on an act - which most men and women do at first, and some can keep it up until after marriage a couple of years along the line. Still, there will be tells and a basic psychology course will help you spot important things you might otherwise not notice or may dismiss. It will also help you in many other areas of your life.
This was awesome to watch! We've been married for almost 6 years - we would add that (1) You have to pick your battles (socks on the floor aren't worth World War 6) and (2) we are partners in everything (parenting, finances, etc.). We know that all couples cannot and do not want to work together, but we love each others company. This sometimes bring new challenges though. Great channel - great information. ❤️❤️❤️
My advice is for each side to be absolutely sure the one they're going to marry genuinely enjoys spending time with you loves you for all your weirdness, quirks and everything that makes you who you are. Strive to ignore those who only care about money and sex.
The best advice I have gotten was from my father" life is like a race. It is not about who gets there first and it is not about how long it takes you. The race has opsticles and turns. The main goals of the race is to reach the end together."
I got married about a month ago. Glad I encounter this video. I can use it as my guidance. But, I do believe that every couple is unique and has their own phase.
THANK YOU BRIDES. I really enjoyed this serie of marriage counselling videos. It give a lot of insights and perspective even tough every every relationship is unique.
Respect each other’s differences. I used to hate hearing, “maybe we are incompatible”. You have a kid and what if you are incompatible with him/her. You get a 🐕, what if you are incompatible. In business we can be incompatible with others but still get the work done. Marriage is a lot of work.
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You can really see the couples that are at harmony and those that are not.. when they explain the answer some are one and others are miles apart and uncomfortable
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Married 27 years. This month. Very proud. Very happy. Love each other no matter what. Be each others rock. And. Dont let family & friends meddle or know your business they are haters. And love laugh and live
"if you ever fight with your partner/spouse, remember it's you and your partner vs the problem not you vs your partner" I don't remember who said those but I think it's a family member...oh well, I don't know😅
My advice is : give each other freedom to express and grow , learn listening from a clean space and give each other space to share. Have boundaries and share your needs. Most importantly I treat marriage as spiritual practice. We always paying attentions to our own internal world and self awareness is the key for us. And take ownership of our own emotions , can share how you feel , but is important to own our emotions
My 11 year marriage advice is to regularly and realistically self evaluate. This really helps in times of conflict. Like one of the married couples in this video who were married for over 40 years, I wish I would have known that there would be many times through the marriage where adjustments must happen. Only 11 years in and have had SEVERAL adjustments already!!
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Being single is paradise I know it sounds stupid but it is you have more advantages , being married is being tied down that's if your partner treats you like you're worthless be sure to marry someone that respects you and Vise versa
"Am I ever gonna get married (and find someone whom I love and loves me back)?" I ask myself all the time, but then I think about how my ancestors somehow got laid so, if they were able to, then so can I!
Would’ve been cool to have had them both answer separately (so not letting them hear each other’s answers) and then have them come together & answer/discuss their answers, see if they were the same or different, were they surprised with the others answer, why did they choose that particular piece of advice to share... etc. would’ve been interesting (and been an opportunity for more content lol)
9 years married. Guarding space and solitude to preserve the pillars of your identity is fundamental to keeping a strong union. You do not become 1 person after marriage
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@@brendacampbell8438 Marriage council is expensive. But so is divorce. Trust yourself and make a step in the direction room you think serves you best. Good luck!
My advice would be that you should learn to relax when it comes to mother inlaws. Look for the good things your inlaws are doing for you and appreciate them genuinly. Check up on your parents and inlaws regularly. This is one of the ways to make your spouse happy if your spouse is close to their family.
Don't expect what you cannot give, exercise kindness, be considerate of each others feelings, respect your spouse, never take each other for granted, encourage each others dreams, your spouse is not an extension of yourself but an equal partner...choose each other everyday, never stop serving each other...🌺🌷🌸
Say “thank you” for little things. If he does the dishes, call it out. If she puts your laundry away, say thank you. The little thank you’s add up and help them feel noticed and appreciated.
I like how the last guy's only regret was that he didn't get to see his kids more. Goes to show you the things we end up regretting are the little things that matter.
My favorite ones: 1.Take a Real Honey moon. 2. Take into consideration it may not always be This easy, not all marvin gaye and lingerie. 3.Check selfishness at the door and compromise. 4.Forgiveness 5.Enjoy your current stage Now 6. It's okay to continue having your own individual pursuits, just don't forget about one another. 7. Spend some money travel 8.Be respectful regarding voicing your feelings. 9.Push through being angry 10.Communication , let emotions go as it happened. 11. Make progressive adjustments over time.- maybe have a yearly meeting about it. 12.Cherish the family and try to intentionally make efforts to understand and work with one another.
About the "communicate with your spouse, let your emotions flow" advice: If I'm a sensitive person and I tend to get emotional very frequently and talk to my husband about things that bother me, and if he gets annoyed by it, what is it that I can do? Or if it is vice versa? If the husband tends to express his emotions too often and I get irritated, is there something I can do? P.S- I've never been married, I don't know anything about it. I genuinely need some advice
Listening to your loved one is a huge gift for them. You will never be annoyed of someone you truly love and cherish. And one who truly loves you will never ever be tired of listening to you. You will find happiness in being there for them and vice versa. So don't worry about being annoyed, it can't happen with true love. Also, for sensitive people, never give advice unless they ask you, sometimes people just need to be heard and not told what to do. So be compassionate and respectful always as you never know what they've been through and how hard it is for them to open up.
Its a mindset that needs to change, its not who you are. You need to able to get along with each other but at the same time marriage is only a component of your life and doesn't define who you are. However, love goes a long way and showing that but also acknowledging it is extremely important. You don't have to be the same but you should understand that people have different interests and are willing to make the sacrifices.
Tolerance and love are important about my story i loved a girl that i know she will never comeback but im not going to stop i decided to marry a girl i dont love but i can build with her a family
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"If you feel as though your spouse has done something that you disagree with, disagree with that particular thing. Don't say you always do this. I think that causes resentment, and the fact that you are being characterised is insulting."
Wisdom!
In psychology the specific term for that is generalization! It's a huge indicator for failing relationships. Great advice.
So much wisdom
That particular stament spoke volumes to me!
👐
Sooooo true
My grandfather, deep into his 80's, gave my the best advice i've ever gotten. He said'' Have faith where you should. Have fun where you can. Have courage where you must. Have condoms.''
Lol
He must have been a character 😁
@@intentionalliving7326 I've never met a man so alive as him, and i doubt i ever will. He enjoyed every moment of the day, and every day of his life.
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My parents always told me "Remember that your spouse is on your side. Give the benefit of the doubt."
Love this
Yes yes yes!! 👏👏
👍
Needed this thank you!
trust should be earned always
Love is NOT the most important component to a marriage, respect is.
and good communication
David Pietarila love is the only thing there is. With genuine unconditional love comes respect, great communication, etc etc ❤️👊🏽
How do you love but not respect
Nailed it !
@@nyembsafric1 I saw a lot of cases of love with no respect - when you judge, critic, and put your own benefits above someone else's. you can love them but have lack of respect for them. of course this kind of "love" is not good nor healthy.
I might just be married for 7 years (& still counting), but here's my take : Befriend your spouse, and always.. always remember the reason why you wanna marry him/her in the first place.
This is the best advice. When I am mad at my husband, I always try and remember why I love this man for almost 15 years, why no one else will ever hold my heart...and then he knowingly says something to make me smile, and all is well with my world.
Does your partner still increase your heart rate when you see them and take your breath away? Or does the attraction shift to a different experience when you have been with sonone along time? 😎
How are they married for 5.5 hours?! Shouldn't they be celeblating?😂
maybe they just went to the courthouse
@@monishasamells well i would still celebrate with my partner, even if i got married in a court house😂
in one video, they said they were going to celebrate later because the have a two-part wedding
Nothing to celebrate about marriage.. the man is eventually gonna get fed up of his stupid wife after a few years and then you wouldnt be too suprised to see a divorce followed by the man having to pay alimony for the rest of his life
@@ruehl3853 lol yeah if they are both dumb. No effort no succes.
You guys should let both partners answer instead of one, it would be really cool to see two perspectives.
or let them answer individually
Yeah, that works.
I was thinking the same but I’m also conflicted cause I actually kinda liked that in literally every case one person speaks and the other wholeheartedly nods 😂 they probably discussed what to say beforehand.
I'm sure they did...this video is spliced
And the two shall become one...
Make sure you have a solid friendship.
🙌🏻🤗☀️
Wrong
I really like the second couple's advice. Not even just for marriage, but any meaningful relationship. Love is not one language. I'm an extremely affectionate person, almost annoyingly so. My boyfriend is much more laid back and independent, doesn't need as much as I do, and it took some time for me to learn that that's just how he is rather than taking it as a lack of love.
exactly! It was a hump me and my boyfriend had to go over and once we did, we just appreciated each other so much more
I know this was a year ago but my bf & I are going through that now. If you can help in anyway I’d appreciate some tips on how to do that. I hope you see this
Well said! Im working on this too
Reminded me of the “5 live languages” book ☀️
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“No one is right, no one is wrong, you just work through and have a conversation” best advice ever
I once heard marriage is like running a small non profit. Find someone you work well with ❤️
Deborah L Everyone talk bad about marriage that’s scary
@@umar3298 Not everyone. Marriage is pretty legit. Marriage is ultimately good. I've seen a lot of happy marriages.
Sweet 🌸
🌈nice one
A 80 year old neighbor of mine gave me some of the best marriage advice ever. he said to understand that no one stays the same and that everyone changes. You must accept it.
01:57.. "it's not going to be Marvin Gaye and lingerie all the time".... Started singing Tamar Braxtons Love and War
I love that song!
Girl that my song
YES!🙌🏽Love and war
🗣Weeeeeee stay on the fronnnnnnt linesssss!
😁😂😍
When it comes to a spouse; choose WISELY, then treat kindly.
Pray about it!!!!!
Yesssss
Before I got married, a very wise woman said to me, don’t look at everything you like/love about the person. Rather, look at what you dislike about them and ask yourself, “can I live with this forever?” If the answer is no, run. Don’t expect to change that person when married. This words of wisdom stuck with me.
What’s best for the marriage ALWAYS comes first! What’s best for your partner, comes second, and what’s best for you always comes third. If both partners are operating on this principle, then it’s a marriage of giving and everyone’s needs are getting met.
I love this so much :)
She said "travel spend some money" 😂
They should've kept filming, I wanted to see his reaction.
It got me thinking hard😂😂😂
The rich maybe 😂😢
Create memories 🤩
So many wise words shared!
I feel bad for the man who missed out on spending more time with his kids because he believed a man’s role is to work. That would really suck for me.
I agree with the partner that mentioned that labelling the other partner’s mistake as “you always do this or that” can feel very disempowering and give the problem more weight.
For me personally, having the freedom to remain an individual while remaining grounded in the comradery of the marriage is paramount.
I resonate fully with enjoying time together to the fullest before the babies come. Those little beings come in and change everything!
Thanks guys x
Though not married, a married woman did give me this advice: Enjoy your husband a while before having children. They require lots of attention and men can feel jealousy too
So much wisdom and care shared ☀️🌸
@@krislatoya7556 my fear
“The winter is gonna come so prepare for it “
Been together for 31 years. Love him more every day. My advice would be to be tolerant of each other and we all have different perspectives of life. Understand this and all will be great. Also remember love is purely everything.
Are you still going strong three years later?
@@twomp5613 probably ...i mean what difference can it be beetween 31 and 34 ?
This whole series is so heartwarming... having been married for 1 month, these snippets of advice are really eye-opening
The 18 year married blonde has reinforced my decision to remain childfree lmao
Marcie oh my gosh, same
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Me too LOL I just kept thinking, thank god for the movies on a Sunday
i wanna stay childfree two ...but my future wife is already all the time talking about kids 🤧
because you can't sleep late anymore? 🤦♀ Did you notice how beautiful she was though? Must be the sleepless mornings 😅
Marriage is never 50/50; it’s at best 60/40. Whenever it’s your time to carry the heavier load, BE GRATEFUL. His dirty socks in the floor may irritate you now, but one day if something bad happens, and he’s not there to leave those socks, you’re going to beg god to get them back!
It's actually 100/100.
I agree with this. As I am now.... (I am complaining about the socks , dishes, living room pillows ....I will STOP it and address the issue and not him.. I will think of how to present it to him at another time instead of saying "You always leave this a mess".."Why couldn't you just pick it up instead of leaving it there for me to get"). I honestly believe that because I'm home injured right now that he does this and knows that I will straighten up the house. Its not done AAAAALLLLL the time but it's enough to get a Lil tude..... I want to address things differently... with tact, ease, a level of understanding and consideration for both of us.
I love my husband😍 And I want To stay "IN L💖VE" with him.
Yes David!! It's definitely a back and forth of carrying the load. By having that outlook, you also won't find yourself constantly judging the other person when your day seems stressful. Most importantly, I think it's best to acknowledge the roles and duties ahead of time, but also understand no human being can be expected to do it perfectly, or to never have off days. Mutual respect and acknowledgement of what each person does to contribute creates a very productive and loving atmosphere.
David Pietarila This was beautiful
@@kimberlyd9755 exactly
Husband: "Life's vicissitudes..."
Wife: "Life's what?" lol
😂😂😂
Don’t ever ever ever try to get even for something they have done to hurt you! It is so much easier to forgive when the hurt is caused by accident or unintentionally. When you inflict pain on purpose it’s harder to get past it.
Communication and friendship! Your spouse should be your best friend and the first one to whom you want to share something with, whether it's a gossip or a concern. We fall in and out of love while married but it's hard to fall out of friendship. So we continue to talk, joke and communicate until we fall in love again😘 children makes it so much more enjoyable too(most of the time!lol)
3:15 this is a very helpful advice actually with any relationship you have and not just your s/o
"Compromise."
*Eartha Kitt laughing*
Robert Thompson 😂😂😂
And wasn't she single and cynical lol. People taking advice from the wrong person. You don't take advice from someone who doesn't have the life you want unless they're warning you how they got their.
I like the black couple of the two women in the beginning. They seem so mature and serious and so in love.
Figured I’d start watching stuff like this, because I’m ready to settle down and get married in the next 2-3 years.
Talia Oliver yessss!!!! Speak it into existence ❤️❤️❤️
No time line on finding the right person
Some advice that stuck with me was to not forget that even though we are married, we are also individuals.
I love being married (8 years now) - my husband was, is, and always will be my best friend.
I liked this vid! As a husband of 39 years, I wish someone would have told me the seriousness of the marriage covenant. That each needs to develop a Servanthood Heart where it was no longer “me” being married, but “us” to serve each other’s needs and those of our kids.
It’s not good communication that is more important... it’s respect. Because someone who disrespects you can communicate well with you too.
Amen
Pay attention, keep learning - relationships take work but are worth it in the end. Never take your person for granted, love and respect them, show compassion and forgiveness and remember to look at yourself before you start pointing your finger at them. Marriage can and should be fun, keep your sense of humor and playful side with your spouse even in old age.
☀️ “Progressive adjustments as the years go by...” love and appreciate that in every area of life. Imagine if we did that intentionally 🌸
If you don’t feel like you are getting enough, you should probably be giving more.
Makes sense to me.
"It's not gonna be marvin gaye and lingerie all the time"
I envy people who have a life, who actually live their life, who have friends, family, and a job that they like. Even having a hard time in life, people still have a life, and are getting through it. I am a loner who very desperately wants friends, but the thought of even getting close to someone, scares the hell out of me, I just keep to myself, and just ignore everything about life, because I'm too scared to do anything. I'm scared of rejection from someone, I'm afraid to do anything crazy because I don't want to get into any trouble, and I just do the same boring thing every day. I hate it, and I honestly don't know what to do.
josh quill The fear itself is way worse than the actual thing itself... maybe join a class or take up a hobby. Talking to a therapist might also help. And start slow. One day a simple hello to a stranger, down the road a small talk. Everyone craves a connection, other people want friends just as much as you do :). You could be the friend to someone else who is too afraid to make friends. Best of luck to you! Don’t let fear take over, you only have one life. You can do this and you can make somebody else’s life much better :)
Olga I agree completely. Also if there is anything you’re like to do maybe join a club for it.
I think you need to get better acquainted with yourself first.
I've had friends come into my life and go, relationships come and go, I've made some good memories and some not so good. Some people have brought amazing happiness and sharp pain and hurt to my life, but today is a new day and there's people I've never met things yet to do I won't let myself get jaded and not enjoy and share my life and gifts with others.
Start small. Smile at people who walk past. Be a regular somewhere even if it is the same register in the grocery store. I had this problem because my parents did not raise us as indivuduals. They raised us very militant and as a herd. I didnt even like looking at pictures of myself for a while because I did not exist on my own. You exist as a person. People recognize you even if you think they don't. Start small i grew out of it at about 26ish. I am now 29. I still go back to my bubble but i invite people inside occassionally.
The best advice I can think of that I wish i'd thought of when young is to take an accredited basic psychology course. It will help you to understand yourself and what YOU need first, and also help you pick out those who are putting on an act - which most men and women do at first, and some can keep it up until after marriage a couple of years along the line. Still, there will be tells and a basic psychology course will help you spot important things you might otherwise not notice or may dismiss.
It will also help you in many other areas of your life.
omg the 84 days lesbian couple? wowzers 😍
Absolutely obsessed with them
Not
Nah wayy too many black lesbians..its disturbing
Are you nigerian?
Forever Cold Entertainment lol wtf. They can’t help it lol
This was awesome to watch! We've been married for almost 6 years - we would add that (1) You have to pick your battles (socks on the floor aren't worth World War 6) and (2) we are partners in everything (parenting, finances, etc.). We know that all couples cannot and do not want to work together, but we love each others company. This sometimes bring new challenges though. Great channel - great information. ❤️❤️❤️
My advice is for each side to be absolutely sure the one they're going to marry genuinely enjoys spending time with you loves you for all your weirdness, quirks and everything that makes you who you are. Strive to ignore those who only care about money and sex.
3:09 This guy has some real insight.
The best advice I have gotten was from my father" life is like a race. It is not about who gets there first and it is not about how long it takes you. The race has opsticles and turns. The main goals of the race is to reach the end together."
I got married about a month ago. Glad I encounter this video. I can use it as my guidance. But, I do believe that every couple is unique and has their own phase.
THANK YOU BRIDES. I really enjoyed this serie of marriage counselling videos. It give a lot of insights and perspective even tough every every relationship is unique.
Respect each other’s differences. I used to hate hearing, “maybe we are incompatible”. You have a kid and what if you are incompatible with him/her. You get a 🐕, what if you are incompatible. In business we can be incompatible with others but still get the work done. Marriage is a lot of work.
3:20 hit me hard
Many of my arguments are because of this
I’ve been happily married for 20 years with no end in sight.
I think be more tolerant, respect each other and never stop dating it’s what works for us
65 years married couple, wow
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Communication is the key in the marriage and always respect your spouse and listen
Never go to sleep angry!!
In a relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend and I don’t know what to do because we’re scared of taking the next level. This video has helped !!
0:19 that's not real marriage
That wisdom about people loving in different ways! Mannnnnn that was some deep words
You can really see the couples that are at harmony and those that are not.. when they explain the answer some are one and others are miles apart and uncomfortable
Peace is better than always being right
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Married 27 years. This month. Very proud. Very happy. Love each other no matter what. Be each others rock. And. Dont let family & friends meddle or know your business they are haters. And love laugh and live
0:30 Her partner seems so awkward and she looks like she doesn't agree with the statement...
"if you ever fight with your partner/spouse, remember it's you and your partner vs the problem not you vs your partner"
I don't remember who said those but I think it's a family member...oh well, I don't know😅
My advice is : give each other freedom to express and grow , learn listening from a clean space and give each other space to share. Have boundaries and share your needs. Most importantly I treat marriage as spiritual practice. We always paying attentions to our own internal world and self awareness is the key for us. And take ownership of our own emotions , can share how you feel , but is important to own our emotions
That was beautiful I've been married 7 years so all their advice was accurate.
My 11 year marriage advice is to regularly and realistically self evaluate. This really helps in times of conflict. Like one of the married couples in this video who were married for over 40 years, I wish I would have known that there would be many times through the marriage where adjustments must happen. Only 11 years in and have had SEVERAL adjustments already!!
It'd be so great to watch the space between the people get bigger and bigger as the video went on
When I seen 18 + years i started crying. To last that long is the ULTIMATE GOAL so beautiful!!
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This couple looks so young. WOW 22 years of marriage. Amen to them 3:52
Being single is paradise I know it sounds stupid but it is you have more advantages , being married is being tied down that's if your partner treats you like you're worthless be sure to marry someone that respects you and Vise versa
Note to self: dont be the guy at 4:25 😂😂
"Am I ever gonna get married (and find someone whom I love and loves me back)?" I ask myself all the time, but then I think about how my ancestors somehow got laid so, if they were able to, then so can I!
Hahaha... Nice line of thought
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You can find anyone with that humour!
@shakhir r yea
Would’ve been cool to have had them both answer separately (so not letting them hear each other’s answers) and then have them come together & answer/discuss their answers, see if they were the same or different, were they surprised with the others answer, why did they choose that particular piece of advice to share... etc. would’ve been interesting (and been an opportunity for more content lol)
"Its not going to be Marvin Gaye and lingerie all the time" was gold
9 years married.
Guarding space and solitude to preserve the pillars of your identity is fundamental to keeping a strong union.
You do not become 1 person after marriage
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Marriage council is expensive. But so is divorce. Trust yourself and make a step in the direction room you think serves you best.
Good luck!
cool :)
This is so wonderful.. I love how in-depth the advice gets as the years go on
My advice would be that you should learn to relax when it comes to mother inlaws. Look for the good things your inlaws are doing for you and appreciate them genuinly. Check up on your parents and inlaws regularly. This is one of the ways to make your spouse happy if your spouse is close to their family.
The couple of 44 years...she says something about being heard and he instantly interrupts. UGH!!!
chinouyamale yet but she interrupted him at the start and whilst he may have interrupted at the same time he looked at her for consolidation
Don't expect what you cannot give, exercise kindness, be considerate of each others feelings, respect your spouse, never take each other for granted, encourage each others dreams, your spouse is not an extension of yourself but an equal partner...choose each other everyday, never stop serving each other...🌺🌷🌸
1:50-2:00 dude alluded to GoT and Tamar Braxton. Love. 😍😍
I don't know why I'm watching these series of married couples when I'm single, I don't have any prospects. I'm not even in love with anybody
Say “thank you” for little things. If he does the dishes, call it out. If she puts your laundry away, say thank you. The little thank you’s add up and help them feel noticed and appreciated.
I like how the last guy's only regret was that he didn't get to see his kids more. Goes to show you the things we end up regretting are the little things that matter.
2:31 is some really good advice as well 💯
Im glad to hear that :)
There's some solid advice here. Fascinating how people's relationships work, I love it.
My favorite ones:
1.Take a Real Honey moon.
2. Take into consideration it may not always be This easy, not all marvin gaye and lingerie.
3.Check selfishness at the door and compromise.
4.Forgiveness
5.Enjoy your current stage Now
6. It's okay to continue having your own individual pursuits, just don't forget about one another.
7. Spend some money travel
8.Be respectful regarding voicing your feelings.
9.Push through being angry
10.Communication , let emotions go as it happened.
11. Make progressive adjustments over time.- maybe have a yearly meeting about it.
12.Cherish the family and try to intentionally make efforts to understand and work with one another.
The thing about being able to do things separately is good for everyone. You are an individual, no matter how long you are with someone.
So, Im going into a serious relationship, I had just had a divorce. So, this video really sought to open my eyes!
1:51 Love the hairline
About the "communicate with your spouse, let your emotions flow" advice:
If I'm a sensitive person and I tend to get emotional very frequently and talk to my husband about things that bother me, and if he gets annoyed by it, what is it that I can do?
Or if it is vice versa? If the husband tends to express his emotions too often and I get irritated, is there something I can do?
P.S- I've never been married, I don't know anything about it. I genuinely need some advice
Listening to your loved one is a huge gift for them. You will never be annoyed of someone you truly love and cherish. And one who truly loves you will never ever be tired of listening to you. You will find happiness in being there for them and vice versa. So don't worry about being annoyed, it can't happen with true love. Also, for sensitive people, never give advice unless they ask you, sometimes people just need to be heard and not told what to do. So be compassionate and respectful always as you never know what they've been through and how hard it is for them to open up.
I have been married for 46 years. It is easy. Just do what you are told!
Sounds like slavery. Ill pass.
Happy wife happy life
Its a mindset that needs to change, its not who you are. You need to able to get along with each other but at the same time marriage is only a component of your life and doesn't define who you are. However, love goes a long way and showing that but also acknowledging it is extremely important. You don't have to be the same but you should understand that people have different interests and are willing to make the sacrifices.
Watching this video gives a heads-up and an idea of what life would be after marriage.
Thank you so much. I really needed this😭
Time stamp 5:04 best advice. That couple gave the best advice.
My parents just hit 28 years yesterday. I’ll be with mine 2 years in February! Hopefully I can make is far as them :)
5:15... So sweet 😍
Tolerance and love are important about my story i loved a girl that i know she will never comeback but im not going to stop i decided to marry a girl i dont love but i can build with her a family
I've seen different marriage advice on youtube... This stands out for me.
Great advice.
Send this to me through a time machine back 15 years before I was married.
Omg all these ladies are so sooo beautiful
That last one broke my heart a little :(
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