Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ส.ค. 2024
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When you feel drained or are experiencing burnout, it can be difficult to spot the signs of what exactly is draining your energy or making you feel stuck. Could it be work? Depression? Could it be an emotionally toxic relationship? If so, what are the signs you're in an emotionally toxic relationship?
Sometimes the sources is one you'd least expect. In order to regain better mental health and personal development, you need to find the root cause of your burnout or fatigue. In this interview, Dr. Ramani sheds light on the hidden signs that you're in an emotionally toxic relationship and how to identify them.
00:00 Intro
00:36 Relationship, or something else?
03:04 Full workshop on overcoming a toxic relationship
03:18 Questions to ask yourself
If you're feeling stressed, frustrated or overwhelmed with burnout, it may be time to take a step back and assess your relationship. In this video, we'll explore some of the most common signs that you're in an emotionally toxic relationship - or even a narcissistic relationship.
If you're feeling stuck in your relationship, watch this video and see if you can identify which aspects of your relationship are causing you the most pain - regardless of whether your partner is a narcissist. Once you know the problem, it'll be easier to find a solution!
#relationships #burnout #narcissism
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Toxic relationships can get comfortable. And ending them is a real tough step that shocks your life for the short term.
SO true!
Yup…
So true
A good partner recharges your battery, a toxic partner drains your battery.
Somatic symptoms were one of my clues that the last person I dated was not for me.
I was drained, and it would take days to recover, only to have to recover again. I had weird dreams, needed naps that didn’t always help, became prone to infections and frankly was constipated. I had already handled work so as to be less stressful. So yeah, now I’m doing a lot better this month, now that I’ve stopped seeing the person!
Wow “did I dread going home…” that’s spot on…😢
I love Dr Ramani. She's helping me recover from my stepfathers narcissistic abuse.
Thank you for sharing this, we appreciate hearing from you!
Just in time. I'm here because I'm drained 😪 of this crap and no growth 😒 in this 3 year relationship.Thank you
Same here, 31 m discovering like 3 close friends and 2 ex-girlfriends. My brain activates with dozens of memories as I hear every sentence in this video. Some people are toxic people magnets really!
Now, after realising how much I was hurting myself to tolerate people (especially close friends, not ex girlfriends), I'm now doing the advice "knock them outside the boat or jump out."
Now starting to restore myself and I literally feeling that the old me as being revived and restoring my abilities that gradually lost about 9 years ago and been wondering where that big amount of power to study 8 hours a day at year 1 college and get straight A and A+ s!
Cutting off now:
(2 friends have known them for 8 years
1 friend for 5 years)
Already cut off 2 years ago:
1 ex for 1 year
Already cut off 6 months ago:
1 ex for 1.5 years
I just liked to share my story/experience and send virtual hugs and advice so you might appreciate yourself, get healed, look forward and have good luck.
❤️ 🫂 🤗
I have kind of a reverse kind of problem. I was raised by a sadistic psychopath. Entering conversations with friends about my life can immediately drain them. I know that therapists that deal with people like me are very rare because we're difficult. In an effort not to overwhelm them I just rarely contribute to the conversations.
Yeah 💕 I feel you
I went as far as to quit the job (which wasn't not toxic in itself) to realise that the reason that work weighed on me so much and that extra tension I was feeling during wfh was because I couldn't relax at home for fear of committing another misdeed
And surprise! After you think you’ve got all the issues worked out to where you don’t trigger him but then bam! He comes up with a new excuse for why he has to always fight with you. The new issue can take you by surprise because you never ever saw this being a trigger for him. I started to dead going home.
I am 57 and I am checking off too many boxes… going to try DBT.
First foray into recovery. I just can’t accept the “aging narcissist”“ narrative. There’s no way I’m going down without trying. I still love my wife. She doesn’t deserve this shit.
I am so grateful for this content .
I am going to make the apologies genuine this time. I have to come clean about some things, I’m not sure how that’s goin to go. Therapist on Friday…first time. I am terrified and I deserve it
Early on, my relationship definitely drained me. Neither of us were at our best... Now I feel I may lean too heavy on my relationship for energy. Spending time with my partner is comforting and uplifting. :) I never want it to end. Something those with cptsd don't get to experience much. I feel spoiled. Lol but a healthy, safe relationship seriously gives me the energy I need to go do those important things in life.
Thank you for this extremely helpful video. If you are afraid of going to work or going home, your body is telling you it is high time to deal with it because it is toxic to you. We must face our fears and take steps to change our situation. Action helps us to get our mind working on finding solutions and it gives us the feeling that we are gaining control over our lives.
You both are awesome . I appreciate how you break issues down to be understood.
Blessings Dr. Ramani. Blessings to you all. You are helping me so much.
Thank you all for this channel!
Good video! Relevant, and specific. :)
For me, i can't emphasize enough, the whole idea being like 2 young kids on a "see-saw" or a "teeter-totter". (Do they still have those anymore?) One kid sits at one end, and one kid at the other and if they weigh about the same and there's good balance, they can enjoy it. With that in mind:
Dr. Ramani asks: How do we FEEL when . . .
and my response is:
Like putting it all on a see-saw....or weighing it all on 2 scales, a good relationship and even a decent friendship needs:
1. More smiles, than frowns
2. More looking-forward-to being with each other, than dreading it
3. More enthusiasm and warmth and kisses, than coldness and indifference
4. More common interests, than tolerating the other's "odd quirks" or "weird hobbies".
5. More open & unafraid communication and understanding what makes each other "tick", than silent resentment.
Have these 5, and you'll feel Tons happier!! Who makes you feel that way?
Thank you MedCircle!
Great video!
🌞🗣️REMEMBER: "WHATEVER YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, YOU GOT THIS 110%!!! KEEP GOING!!!🌞✨🌟 💜💙💜🙂
I am moving away from interacting with my family so much. Since my dad past away a few years ago, we get together every week. This became comfortable, since I dont work at the moment and struggle with structure. Also I am close with my niece and nephew, I love them to pieces and am happy I can show them more healthy interaction.
But its also quite toxic and draining. I am used to pay no attention to myself, to attune to others, accommodate, and just ignore or try to cope with the effect it has on me. Also I have a strong tendency to deform the experiences. It helps me to get weekly coaching, focused on my well being, to see what is supportive and what is draining. And to be questioned about it. Like I would say a party was “nice” and then looking closer, the only thing i liked was the kids and the cake, and there would be also a lot of little interactions that are frustrating and draining to me.
And Im talking about my family now, but we tend to repeat this tendencies in our adult relationships. And i surely do, so I have the same processes happening in my social network as well. And a healthy intimate relationship is even more so something that i long for, but also feels very challenging and even unsafe to find/ build/ feel that I am worthly of it.
It can be so familiair that you dont recognize it, you hardly know anything else… And its very painfull to acknowlegde, it can seem too painfull and even too dangerous to do so. The inner child feels it will die without the other, because when you were very young, you most likely would have. It helps me a lot to acknowledge that.
What also helps me is to focus on what I want for myself, and what supports me creating that. Its the only way i can move trough this. I think you need to be able to “go somewhere else”. Like I can only let go of this day together, if there is something else I can focus on that I would rather do. And to create the support I need, to learn to give myself what my upbringing lacked and becoming that adult for myself that I missed so much. So learning to be real, safe, loving, attuned, supportive, protective, regulated, etc. This is like my mission ❤🙏🏻✨🌟✨
Dr Ramani is so popular!
She's my favorite psychologist on TH-cam!
❤️ Dr. Romani
♥️ Medcircle
You can have every ounce of dread and idea of what's going on but if your circle of folks condone your partners behaviors, "view" them in a good light, think they know all the greatness you "have", guilt trip you, you gotta rid everyone around too. You feel insane.
I feel you there. Or the family members dismissing the partners possessive and controlling behavior as "he just cares about you and your well-being" .....
Such great content. Dr. Ramini is such a resource.❤️ She's encouraged me to create my own channel. Keep the videos coming 👏🏾
LOVE to hear this, thank you for sharing!!!
@@MedCircle you're welcome
Dr. Ramabi is awesome! Thank you Med Circle!
We love this hear this, she really is the best. Thank you for tuning in with us!
I enjoyed the question and answer format in this one
Thank you for sharing this, we'll keep this in mind for future content!
Last night I just had a proof that those mystical experiences religion so values are indeed response to severe trauma! I remembered many episodes in my life where my teenage brain tried to make sense of the physical or moral abuse by having a astral body… that sensation of not having control over your body, knowing you’re facing dangerous conditions, I was mentally aware of the environment but my body didn’t respond making me feel unsafe because I couldn’t help myself from the risks I’m surrounded by people who sees me as dangerous to their beliefs! I’m still afraid of religion and mystical thoughts that surround us!
Can you do a talk on the victim mentality , people that always blame the world for everything around them… is it always a sign of narcissism , when not true victim, or are thee are other complex reasons around this tendency? Denialism, insecurity, …
Can you guys do a video on generalized anxiety disorder?
this is all very nice, but what do you do when you are drained from all finances, any strength, and recovering from cancer, WHILST in a pathologically toxic house with punishing people who are going out of their way to destroy your any chance or hope or effort for you to get out, let alone recover...
It would be awesome (and I'll be very thankful) if you include Spanish subtitles (because the autotranslate function is not always correct)
Madam, would you please do a series on parental alienation, Dr. Childress speaks on it, and I believe my narcissistic exhusband has been doing it. It would be incredibly helpful as it is a neglected topic and needs more light shone on it. It also creates more narcissistic people.
Thanks for your great information. my boss is manipulating and very toxic, so I will leave. is it smart to warn him to to spread gossip or wrong information relating to my leaving or should I better be quite and wait ?
Get enough sleep, I sleep in 45 mins at time!! I scrubbed in surgery and and call ALL THE TIME to make the bills, fishing was my thing when I wasn't call.. I loved my J.O.B. HATED GOING HOME.
After Coming out of Psychosis 80% after 10 long yrs, all I am left with is 20% of Substance Induced Mental Disorders.
So as on Present Date because of the 20% Substance Induced Mental Disorders and because of the REMORSE that I have in mind for my Behaviour during PTSD, I Dread of Professional Relationships, that will leave me Drained out Again.
I also Dread looking in Mirror, because I feel very Low and Disheartened the Way there are changes in my overall Personality which is not so Pleasant...I mean the way I used to be 10 yrs Ago or before I was Diagnosed with Psychosis (Diagnosed in 2012).
I also carry a Dreadful Feeling that My Substance Induced Mental Disorders will be Embarrassing for Others, which will end up in Toxic Relationship Again.
Can this also happen with friendships? But instead of avoiding going home, avoiding situations where u have to interact with or be in the presence of that person?
Hello! It absolutely can happen with friendships. Sometimes friends can drain you too!
Why are we moving away from work-life balance? Isn't work-life balance a good thing?
Always
I am hoping someone will give me a mental health answer! Why do I feel I need to explain to my adult son all the horrible mean things he has said to me or done to find peace? I am a runinatior and really want to just let it all go... It is soooo distressing. This is my issue I know this.... Also, if I even say one word about a nasty remark he makes to me out of the blue... he stops me in my tracks and says " your not a victim" and to get over it. I am then not allowed to speak again. Grandkids are isolated then. So heartbreaking...
Highly recommend finding a local provider to help answer this specifically. Email support@medcircle if you need guidance on finding more videos or a resources we can share with you!
We basically have 3 options with these narcs: 1. Endure their emotional and psychological abuse and become their doormat and trash can 2. Hold them accountable and draw boundaries while they punish us further by escalating the vile behavior or 3. Get away from them permanently. No matter what you do with these sub human creatures, if you happen to be related or married to them, it's going to be painful. But at least the 3rd option will allow you to have peace.
Kyle looks like he's been doing some work. Your smile is handsome and i like your attitude
Work? What kind?
The unspecific generalization generally positive, sort of work.
I don't dread going home after work, because I work at home #winning
...but I am emotionally mentally sapped after work 😵💫
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0:00 "We all experience being emotionally drained"
They drain your energy so that's why toxic people are called "energy vampires."
Ur soo.o 🔥
When you can't join Med Circle because you are wasting MY money lying online
every time a youtube video plays a bell sound... i hit unsubscribe :P
If you’re wanting to leave, you are strong enough. Choose to save your energy for YOU 🫶🏾