My sister passed away earlier this year. She had an elderly cat that none of her friends or neighbours wanted to re-home. I was not a cat person but out of duty to my sister I took the cat on. I grew to love the cat very much and he showed his affection to me. He unfortunately passed away after only 8 months, it has made me so sad, I miss him so much. I will give a home to a rescue cat in the New Year, that’s the best I can do.
Sorry for missing your loved sister and her cat in a short time. I'm sure it's been a hard time for you and so much grief. But I'm so happy that you came out of the sadness with a humane decision. Good luck 🐈⬛🐈🌹🌹
What a nice thing to do.. this is really nice from you.. we get attached to them and they are giving back to us in so many ways .. May Your God protect and bless you. No worry you will meet the next special fluffy ball of love before the end of the year..you both will find each others. 🙏✨️
'Wishing you many blessings; you have shown much kindness. Don't make my mistake and send out too much grief, but if you can, try to send love for the all the wonderful moments our family and furry family friends have conferred on us. I truly believe they receive these love feelings and can return them. All the very best for the future ahead. ☺☺☺💖💖💖
My cat passed this year at 181/2. He had marked decrease in eating, and the last two days he stopped drinking. But what was really different, and tears me up thinking about it is he would lie on my chest and just look deeply into my eyes for long periods of time. I felt like he was letting me know he loved me and was saying goodbye. He was such a dear little guy. How each of our animals enrich us.
I named her Willow because she was a pale grey longhair, the color of pussywillows and just as silky to the touch. Years sped by until she became very elderly. I was sitting at my desk with my feet upon a footstool. Willow climbed onto the cushion and curled up against the soles of my feet. Somehow I understood this was her last day. I thought of rushing to the vet, but then I realized this was her choice, to slip away very quietly in her sleep and snuggled up against me. We remained as we were, peaceful and undisturbed. When I moved again the little darling remained forever still. I am very grateful that her passing was so kind and gentle.
My baby boy cat died 8 days ago. He was 19. He displayed all the symptoms you talked about except I didn’t notice any odors. However, my other cat did. He seemed fine one day except for some diarrhea. Took him to the vet and they found nothing wrong and then, in four days he went downhill fast. I loved my Boy Wilson so much. He was always with me! He died on the way back to the vet again. I’m brokenhearted. RIP my baby boy Wilson. You will never be forgotten!
Forgot about increased vocalization…. I had a 16 yr old cat whom I loved with every ounce of my being. She developed kidney disease and for 2 years was doing okay. Her weight was very low though (6 lbs) and in January this year I noticed she was vocalizing more often. One day she just stopped eating all together (and she always had healthy appetite). Then 24-hrs later she stopped drinking… after 24-hrs of not drinking she lost her ability to walk… I knew instantly she was going.. I took her to the vet and her bloodwork revealed her organs were shutting down… I sat with her and explained to her what was happening but she already knew her time was ending. For me, the greatest act of love was letter her go peacefully and with dignity…. It’s been 10 months now… and I still cry. No doubt, it’s the hardest thing to do but for them, it was the greatest act of pure love. I hope this helps others..
It’s been forty years for some of my furbabies and I still cry when I think of how much I miss them. I try to focus on my happy memories, but sometimes I miss them, and it’s ok to cry for those we love and have lost, it’s just a manifestation of our love.
Same thing happened to my Ragdoll - I have commented separately on that. the only difference was that because my cat had always been to the vet regularly for checkups, nothing came as a surprise or shock - everything actually happened precisely how the vet described it would happen.
I'm sorry to hear about your 16 yr old fur baby. I recently lost a kitty of 9 yrs and he went quick from lymphoma. It was the first I had to experience such and it was traumatic. I regret not taking him in the night before as he died on his own which was not peaceful. He took a piece of my heart and it was by far the hardest thing I had to witness. Our kitties are such beautiful souls that gave so much. I believe we will always be connected to their souls and will one day meet again.
I had to say goodbye to two senior cats this year. They were brothers and had been with me for 18 years . Deep down I know I made the right decision. Yet, I'm constantly second guessing. After watching your video I'm assured I made the right decision for them. I miss them terribly. They are in kitty heaven cuddling like they always did. I hope I get to join them when it's my time.
We have 2 senior brothers of 16 years & both with various health issues. I can smell that sickly sweet odour on my beautiful white boy and I know that distinct smell. I feel your pain as I know what I must do and it's breaking my heart. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to play with them again some day?
My 20 year old cat had stopped eating for several days (in addition to many of the signs you’ve mentioned here). I knew it was time to step in and take him to the vet for the last time. On the way there, he just melted into my arms and seemed almost grateful that his suffering would soon end. I strongly recommend that you have a trusted family member or friend with you during this process because you will need their support after being strong for your pet. Thank you for this video!
My cat bubba was the same his liver was failing. My other cat zoya she couldn’t really walk anymore. They come into my house with me in it I will always be there when there is over.
I agree about having someone. I had had three cats in my life living with or near to family - before moving to a rural area on my own with my Ragdoll cat. So when the time came (just after her 18th birthday, having been with me since the age of 12 weeks), it was the worst of the lot - and I think that was because I live on my own. I have never adopted another pet and never will - it is just too much of an emotional (and financial to be honest) toll.
Yes, moral support is good, but choose someone who won't be too distressed at your sorrow. Choose someone that will let you cry buckets if you need to. It is good to have a driver if you feel too distracted to pay attention to traffic.
I lost my 15 yo baby in August this year. It was a painful experience. The suffering was so hard to watch. I had a vet come to the house and had her pass in my loving arms. She is missed dearly.
Our 14 year old cat was healthy until very suddenly she wasn't. Behaved normally, arthritis well-controlled, clean checkup and bloodwork a month prior. Suddenly one day she struggled to eat, and vomited with a hint of pink. We immediately brought her to the vet who treated for gastritis but tested for pancreatitis just in case - inconclusive. She did not get better, so we brought her in a 2nd time and the vet ran the pancreatitis test a 2nd time - very clearly positive. With treatment and hospitalization for that, she *still* did not get better. Ultimately, the underlying illness was intestinal lymphoma, which had set off her pancreas. Palliative care bought her a few good months. I'm grateful that she didn't go while feeling as sick as she did before her final diagnosis, that she *did* get some good time, especially with my husband whom she adored. But her weight got so low and when it was time, it was time. She was an awesome, sweet little cat.
Thank you so much for this video. We had our beloved 19-year-old cat euthanized two months ago and I can't stop second-guessing myself if I did the right thing. You made it very clear that he was at the end of his life and we needed to release him from suffering. I can finally put my grief and anxiety over this to rest with my cat.
The guilt is real. We had to say goodbye to our 15 and 16 year old cats a couple of years ago, and it is so hard. But now when I look back at photos I took at the end of their lives, I can tell we made the right decision. If you kept your cat from suffering even a day more, you did the right thing.
I adopted my boy Lincoln in 2010 he was either 1 or 2 years old at the time. Recently the hubby and I noticed he had lost some weight and was drooling really bad. We were afraid it was nearing the end of his life and took him to the vet. Turns out he had a bad tooth and the second it was pulled out he went back to being completely normal. That tooth being gone perked him up and he has since started eating again as well as acting like a young kitty. I’m so grateful we have more time with him. I wasn’t ready to say goodbye.
That's encouraging. I think my older cat has a tooth out of place because he keeps turning his head, growling, and trying to chew. It must be uncomfortable for him, because he is losing weight. I want to take him to the vet, but being elderly myself, I have a limited income and difficulty driving long distances. I have heard tooth extractions can cost $1,000. Is there any way to make this easier?
@@victoryamartin9773Try calling local rescues and explain your situation. Sometimes even overcrowded shelters are willing to help with vet bills and might be able to get a discount as well. Also there is pet insurance now and pet care credit cards that are like a loan. Please see what you can do to help your poor kitty
@victoryamartin9773 talk to your vet and ask about potential charities that can help. You can also look into care credit which allows you to pay overtime with little to no interest. You need to address it immediately as tooth problems are literal torture to animals. This is not something that can be put off. You owe him proper care, I’m sorry to be harsh, but if you can’t provide the basic care he needs, you might need to consider rehiring him. Again, I am not trying to be cruel but we are our pets only voice.
@@Catmom-gl5nt I have thought of surrendering him, but he's so old I'm afraid they would just put him down. I will see what charities the vet can offer, thanks.
My beloved cat passed away over 20 years ago and it is still painful to think about it. I took him to the vet, because he had a weird swelling in his face. The vet explained that he was so old and frail that any intervention might actually kill him. She also made me aware that his kidneys were hard and swollen and that he was most certainly in considerable, unrelenting pain. I could not bear for him to suffer, so I decided to have him put to sleep. He died in my arms, but I cried so hard that his last act of love in his long life was to nuzzle close to me and reassure ME - the way he had often done over the years, when I was feeling sad or depressed. 😞
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty....It sounds like you absolutely made the right choice for him, as hard as that was....you clearly loved and adored him.....and he felt the same for you..that last nuzzle must have been so comforting for you both 🙏🏽❤🩹
Wow Jojo, 20 years ago and still your story hurts. It really is hard; something that is there all the time and then suddenly gone and the whole world becomes quiet. You did not say your cat's name.
My cat always knew when i was suffering and ill through the years And saved my life in 2013 I was in an isolated cabin extremely ill from a severe flu After three days without water and food i was getting delirious She sat on my chest staring at me inches from my face Then when i didn't respond she started pushing my head left and right with her head until finally i realized with the slight trace of reality'i had left i better try to crawl across the floor to get some water before its too late And after drinking water get hydrated and resting i realized if not for her i wouldn't be here today Now in October 2024 she is very ill with kidney failure I spent $ 3700 on her last week She saved my life now so im now trying to save hers 🙏
I pray that you will have more time with your furbaby, and I also pray that you will know when it’s time to let go. I’ve had to do that so many times throughout my life, I know how hard it is to do. We love our furry children so much! Again, I pray for as many days as possible with your baby!
@@digitalCaptiveThank you for Your thoughtfulness and prayers It meant alot to me After four days in the stressful hospital she was glad to be home again Her condition and weight have improved I have to be very creative with making her food have variety and be appetizing depending on how she is feeling day to day Water fountains for kidney care cats are very effective at keeping them interested in staying hydrated I don't know how long her condition will remain as good as it is I do my best to make every day a precious gift and cherish time spent with her
These processes can go on for years sometimes. I have a cat nearly 21 who has severe kidney failure (been “dying” for 2 years). Yet the good days still well outnumber the bad. She sleeps most of the time, doesn’t play, has lost weight (only 2.4kg now). And yet…. when she’s awake, she’s on my lap or near me, purring (very clingy now). She still yells excitedly at the prospect of new or novel food (has always been incredibly food focused), remains in control of bowels & bladder - but can’t wait if I’m cleaning the litter tray at the wrong moment (yay for puppy pads in litter tray location). On a sunny days, she’s outside dozing contentedly in the sun. No bad smell either (thanks for that tip). But 100% all the rest. Every day is an assessment of QoL. And though there are some worse days, they aren’t terrible. You didn’t mention claws - not stropping them and letting them become over-grown was pretty much the very first thing I noticed back then. She gets regular visits to vet, and her claws are taken care of then. I’ve taken her on her “last trip” 3 times only to find out she had developed something treatable (infections). I’m starting to think she’ll outlive me, lol! I think she just refuses to leave a world that has so many nice things to eat in it. What she wants, she gets. I’m constantly scouring shop shelves for new and tasty treats. I love her (of course), I admire her stubbornness. But I am ready. I can see it’s getting closer.
A beautiful tribute of love. I pray you will know without doubt when it’s time to say goodbye, and I pray that’s as far off as possible and with many many good days until then. God bless.
You made me smile when you said your cat "just refuses to leave a world that has so many nice things to eat in it." I don't know you or your cat, but I'll go out on a limb and say that your devotion to her is also boosting her will to live. When her last bit of energy peters out, I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you did what you could to make her final months as comfortable as possible.
@@emilyx8377 That was lovely, thank you. We’re off to the vet this morning. I’m hoping it’s just a urinary tract infection. But …she’s not good. 😢But your post turned up at a perfect time to give me a moment of weepy comfort. ❤
I feel like this is so important. As pet parents, we need to be prepared. Yes it's unpleasant and very painful, but ignoring it will not help your kitty if they are struggling. They need you to step up and help them at the end, the same way they've always needed you for food and cuddles and vet visits. End of life care and euthanasia are part of the entire package.
My companion will be 20 years old in November he has slept next to me since he was 8 weeks old now he chooses to sleep under my kitchen cabinet,I have made a comfortable space for him,I think it’s been difficult for me to except he doesn’t want to sleep next to me😢but he is under a veterinarian care for intervention including monthly injections to manage his arthritis,I spoke to his doctor and I decided that once he stops eating,or appears to be extreme pain ,I have to let him go peacefully ,Thank you for sharing and giving me confirmation.
Maybe he has problems to reach the bed? I had to make steps and ramps for my 18 year old cat, because she has problems with jumping. It's now easier for her to reach places like her favourite chair or the bed. Before she avoided the bed because jumping on the bed caused her pain. You could try and put a long plank on the bed, so he don't need to jump and can walk there.
I grew up with a cat that was a year older than me. I always called him my big brother. I was 17 when he passed away with lung cancer, struggling to breathe. On his last day, as I saw him suffocating, I called the vet and the only option they gave was euthanasia. I couldn't do it. At the time I thought it was a cruel thing to do to him. He died under my bed in the middle of the night, with myself and my mother lying on the bedroom floor next to him. It was so painful to watch him die. I still cry for him and it has been 15 years since it happened. I wish I had done things differently and just taken him to the vet to end his suffering. I miss him terribly after all those years.
My best cat ever was a year older than my son. Unfortunately, at the age of seven, our sweet cat got deadly hit by a car. He was my son's first family member to lose. It was hard. Sometimes, even a year later, I heard my boy cry after I brought him to bed and when I asked what was happening, he said "It's because of Mausi". So heartbreaking 😢😢😢💔 This is 20 years ago and still hurts
Don’t blame yourself, I’ve found it so hard to put all of my cats to sleep. I have found now to give a half Diazepam from the vet a couple of hours before and have a vet come to your house to help them to sleep, expensive but totally worth it. I have also looked into animal communicators, some are really good and can give an indication if your fur baby is ready to go. I totally know your pain and I’ve cried for cats that I’ve said goodbye to even 30 years ago. Big hugs x
Losing your cat is difficult. I have lost so many over the years(1st cat was 64 years ago). Very hard-I miss them all. Now have a 5 yrs old rescue-he may last longer than me but have already made arrangements for that. Cats are wonderful little pets- enjoy them while you can.
When I adopted my first cat from a shelter. I ended up having two. They say allow any adoptee to come to you, which i did for Betty, but while I was walking and talking to one of the volunteers. I noticed a black cat, with matted fur. Sleeping or at least trying too. I instantly knew this poor feline probably didn’t have very long left. I couldn’t let hime pass in a shelter. So I adopted him Gem, and Betty together. As soon as I got them both home. I gave them 48 hours to recover from their journey and the shock of a new environment. I made a veterinary appointment for both of them. Betty was a tiny black 5 year old DSH. Gem was a DLH cat, he had matted fur. And was very quiet. After a general assessment. Flea, wormer etc. they both had blood test. Betty was given a clean bill of health. Gem had stage three kidney failure. Gem was put on some medication (forticur it increases the blood flow) Gem still had a good appetite once he had settled into his new environment with lots of warmth, love and cuddles he seemed to perk up a lot. We had regular check ups with the Vet, but I knew deep down he wouldn’t have years ahead. I groomed him made him feel loved and wanted. After 14 months Gem started to deteriorate. I knew his time had come. He had gone off his food. Spent all day sleeping and no longer wanted to be groomed. Even though I found it very hard to make the decision to end Gems suffering. I knew in my heart that his last few months had been made better by being out of the rescue shelter. Where I believe he would have died far sooner. I took comfort in the knowledge Gems last 14 months where spent in a home, with good food, warmth love and care, even to this day I feel I did the right thing. Betty lived on to the ripe old age of 19. She was quite honestly the grumpiest cat I have ever had. Yet she she chose me…… she was spoiled. Like all my pets have been.
I have lost 3 cats in the last 2 1/2 years. Two of them seniors. Watching them deteriorate is heartbreaking. We spoiled them with love for the end of their days. It’s always hard to make that final decision.
Our 18yo cat was only eating treats at the end. The last day she sat on the couch with her head facing inside the couch. We knew exactly what she was telling us. We said goodbye to her that day. She was the best cat we ever had. We still miss you Smudge 😢
Our rule has been that we don’t want our kitties to say goodbye on their worst day. We’ve had to make the choice to give them the gift of peace many times now and each time has been sad but beautiful in its special way. We’ve always been with them and held and petted them so that can be their last memory. The ultimate gift of love for our babies.
I have lost two cats suddenly to illness, and it broke my heart both times. I had to make the hard decision for one cat, and I still am affected by it. I know it was the right thing to do, but it really wrenched me. RIP, Handsome Fella. You were the best kitteh ever.
One of my older cats developed pneumonia and the vet told me it was worth treatment. She.spent several weeks in the vets on oxygen and it was soo painful to watch. Then she came home to us with oxygen she struggled soo much and died shortly after bringing her home. We were devastated. It was over a 1000 to treat her, but it wasn’t about the money. We will never ever watch one of our cats going through this ever again. We were broken that we let her suffer in the misguided belief that she could be saved.
Try not to beat yourself up about it. Sometimes we think we're doing the right thing but the outcome we envisioned doesn't work out. For decades I felt guilty about euthanasing one of my pets because I didn't want her to suffer endless medical interventions & vet visits. Subsequent pet deaths have been super painful for all other kinds of reasons because of the decisions I made. I just know I was there for all of them. I loved them unconditionally and I did what I felt was best for each individual. It doesn't get any easier it's just how it is.
The hardest thing. But I've chosen to help three of my babies move on in the past. I had doubts at the time if I was doing the right thing for them but looking back and also after listening to the good doc explain things, I know I made the right decision. Still the hardest thing.
All of this sadly is so familiar to me. I've lost 2 cats very recently. I have sat on the floor in the vet office and wept. I will always do what is right for my animals. Grief is the price we pay for love
Life got painful for Cubby in his old age and this really helped me feel better about putting my beloved kitty to sleep. He was the most loving & wonderful cat. I miss him so much and I think he really felt loved. Our Veterinarian took such good and loving care of Cubby and (and me) I am forever grateful.
The most loving thing you can do for your friend is share a peaceful loving passing. I had to do that with my dear friend and it was like cutting my heart out. That night the dachshund and I were in bed, and still waiting for him to come & join us. We have motion sensor night lights, they would come on in sequence when he was coming in. My heart whispered to him to please turn the lights on again.. and a few seconds later they came on. They still come on every night- no matter what time we go to bed. It's been 7 years now. Your baby isn't the little meat suit it wears, their spirit & love are eternal and always with you.
My sweet Bettie was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism 2 years ago. She was losing weight, being very vocal, increased appetite. This year her vet saw signs of kidney failure and we tried adjusting meds in the summer but August 5th she after a normal morning , around 11am she had a stroke. The ER vet said she was now super diabetic and I had to make the heartbreaking decision to let her go. Afterwards I realized on top of her medical issues she did have many of the signs you discussed. It's tough to make the call and I did doubt myself after at first but her little body couldn't fight anymore. She lived 17 and 10 months and was with me since she was cutest kitten, black with big green eyes and extra toes.
@@maryjones6926 Yes, hypothyroidism is curable in alot of cats. But alot of cats also can get hypothyroidism from underline issues/ illnesses/ diseases. Some of which is hard to catch. If not caught they can die suddenly.
I appreciated your comment about trusting your gut/intuition about your cat. I knew my beloved Pishe was at the end of her life as she exhibited most, if not all the signs you described. The Vet wanted her to stay for 5 days of testing and I felt pressured to make that decision. I said that Pishe would think I had abandoned her at the end of her life. I made that very difficult decision to have her put down. I still shed tears about this decision but I know Pishe would appreciate that I ended her suffering and had the time to say goodbye. And when I reflect on this decision, I know it was the right decision for her. 😭❤
This entire comment section is making me cry so much. 😢 We euthanized our 18-year-old girl 13 months ago, and we still talk about her daily. I think we had the right reasons for our decision, and we picked the right time, but it still hurts. I really want to be with her in heaven someday.
Thank you. Our beloved 19yo Spartacus got so skinny and then started urinating outside the litter box. Heartbreaking. He was the best, most carefree cat in the world. We have him resting eternally in our backyard now and he is in our thoughts every day. So nice we can sit by his resting place and ‘be with him’.
Thankfully my kitties are still young, but I still cried. It's such a difficult thing for anyone to go through, and it's impossible to not be moved by it. Veterinarians see this nearly every day unfortunately, both the pets who are suffering and in people who are understandably upset and grieving. Hugs to everyone who had lost a pet.
Have you seen vids with an animal (usually a dog or horse) running excitedly towards the person filming? I imagine that’s what heaven’s like; all the animals you loved in life running towards you to great you again in the afterlife.
@@IamaDanish oh I can’t wait for my menagerie to assail me! There are times I think I’m more excited at the thought of seeing my furbabies (and scaly babies) than my family! Not really, but sometimes it feels that way. 😄 But so far I’ve got a host of dogs, bunnies, Guinea pigs, bearded dragons and a whole bunch of cats that I can’t wait to see again! What a beautiful reunion that will be!
I lost my 16 year old boy cat only 3 weeks ago. He had lost weight over the last 18 months but blood tests didn’t show anything abnormal and he had stopped being a voracious eater, he also was struggling to climb the stairs some days. He died curled up on his favourite sofa one day totally breaking my heart. My only consolation is that his twin sister is still healthy and going strong.
My rescued cat is over 17 years old. I’ve had him for 14 years; in recent months, he has had physical changes. He lost weight, stopped eating like before, and has on and off diarrhea. I took him to several vets, and none has found what’s wrong with him. They’ve all done pretty much the same thing, but he’s the same. Surprisingly, according to bloodwork from different doctors, he’s okay, thin but okay. He’s also a happy cat and seeks human attention and love. As long as he’s happy, I’ll keep fighting for him. When the time comes, I’ll do whatever to keep him comfortable and pain free.
I once came across some very wise words in relation to this subject which helped me - and hopefully is what I did when it felt time to say goodbye to our beloved cat a few weeks ago. "It's better to let them go a week too soon than a day too late" The life of our elderly cat, who had lived with treated CKD for 10 years, shrank to just one chair in his last few days. When he developed an infection on top of everything else (mentioned in the video) treatment for that felt inappropriate. There was insufficient quality for him on his calendar. No-one wants their last memories to be the regret of having left the decision too late. My cat was the best in the world. And so are/were yours! Bless them all.
In late July, I helped my lovely 18+ year old furry family member cross the Rainbow Bridge-sadly, on my 75th birthday. She had always been with me, since I rescued her as a feral kitten. The last week she was alive she “told” me it was time to let her go. I listened. I did what she asked. I mourn her daily. So does her 15+ year old “brother”.
#8 took my 18 year old soul cat from me this summer. She fought kidney disease and diabetes (from pred) for 10 years … but it was her lungs that took her in the end. Bless. Thank you for posting this video for folks who need this sort of information. ❤
You have comforted me so much, thank you. I have a 14 y.o. cat in decline from CKD and I know the day is coming soon that I will need to help him pass on comfortably, but it breaks my heart to think of life without him. In the meantime I'm giving him all the best things I can think of and watching him closely.
Thank you very much for this very informative video! I have lost many beloved cats in my 50+ years of being alive, and it never gets easier, but it's always good to recognize the signs when it's time to let go. 😿💔
I wish I had seen your video 10 months ago. My kitty was 16 and I thought he just wanted me to brush him more and he wanted to be on my lap more. He also wanted to sit behind me on my chair when I was working at my laptop... I would hold his head in my one hand and pet him with my other hand...he purred and seemed so happy. Then he started to vomit his food and it wasn't a hair ball. Sometimes he would vomit several times in the night and I would get up and find vomited liquid and undigested kibble. Even soft/wet food was coming back up. The bowl filling didn't register so much with me but I realized he wasn't emptying the bowl as before. I was picking up food from my veterinarian office one day and I said...if something happens to me... because of my kitty's age and he would sometimes aggressively bite me (he was a rescued kitty and I always thought he might have been abused in his former life), I worried that he would not be a good choice to re-home. I asked that, if I died, the vet would euthanize my boy. I thought he would not be happy since he was already 16. Little did I know that his health was already deteriorating. One month after that, I I took him to the vet and the vet said he had lost 2 pounds. I was shocked...he had gained weight at his last appointment in September. He previously weighed over 18 pounds... but with his vomiting I could understand his weight loss. The vet did some tests and nothing showed up. The vet said that a mass in the digestive tract might not show up on an X-ray. When he was sleeping on the chair one day...he was in a very deep sleep and he looked sick. He didn't have much of an appetite either since he threw it all up. I had to make the decision... I couldn't let him starve... I had to say goodbye with my own heart breaking.
@@DellikkilleD. Been through human loved ones in pain…they get morphine and die fairly quickly. The others died without morphine but their bodies shut down and they are in a coma and died within a few weeks. I don’t believe in Euthanasia for humans, but they don't need to suffer.
My two indoor cats are 12 years old and I know that a lot of cats die when they start hitting 12 years and on some live to be 20 or more but I dont think my cats will be that lucky....I know I will be a mess when they die...I have never owned any pets for that long. They are like my family I love them and I will cry uncontrollably when they pass. I am 70 so I know my emotions will get the better of me. The price of love is death.
They are our furbabies. They are companions in life, just in a bit different form than humans. It is right to love them and grieve for them just as we do our human companions. I pray you have peace and will know what is right at the right time. May your memories be full of joy as you let go of the sorrow.
My 15 year old tom cat Flynn was diagnosed with Pancreas Cancer more than 2 years ago. His medication since then is a Prednisolon Tablet a day and he is still fine. By now he's also developed a bit of Arthritis in his left shoulder and get's also Treatment for that. I still can't believe it, but I'm so happy about it, that he is still OK. My vet said just last time: It's almost a little wonder that he looks still so good ❤❤ I see just 2 Signs in him, more sleeping and a bit of a weight loss, but that's it, at least for now. I love this little Guy so much 😻 ThaX for this vid! Greetings from Germany 🙋
I just had to make that tough call this weekend for my 13 year old cat. She was having litterbox accidents and developed a bloody diarrhea. She was affectionate, had a good appetite and drank lots of water. Other than the bloody stool you'd never know she had any issues. The vet did an exray and it showed constipation and a grayish mass at her rectum. They gave her an enema and she was finally able to relieve herself but the mass exposed itself. Rather than prolonging her suffering, I decided to let her go. 😢
Mine left 10 months ago. He hid for 2 weeks (I thought he had escaped his very nice prison). Then one morning I found his remains roughly 3 days afterwards. He passed warm, dry, comfortable, and on his own terms.
Thank You for putting out this Video,,, I struggled with putting down my Cat,,, I did not know if I did the right thing at the time and it bothered me for Years... But after watching this Video I now know all the sighns were there... You have me peace by putting out this Video,,,, Thank You so much...
Our 13 yr old cat had the RAI for weightloss, then a year or so after, the CKD appeared and freq trips to the vet for vomiting to get fluids. She eventually really slowed down and you could see it in her face and she had that smell Dr Wooten was talking about. She still ate and used the litter box even though her back legs were beginning to not cooperate very well. She was such a good cat. The day we decided to take her on the one way car ride, she managed to walk into the kitchen to lay in the sun at the back door that morning and that surprised me because she was really having trouble walking. Made me tear up seeing her there. My older son came to spend cuddle time with her before we went for that car ride. Our calico, Angel.
Thanks for this. I watched this video two days before I had to say goodbye to my 18 yr old cat and one day before our last trip to a vet. I had her for about a year and a half. This video encouraged me to tell the vet everything I noticed in my cat in the last few weeks and months, and because of that and a physical examination, the vet said it was clear my cat had cancer. It was in a late stage. One big sign was she stopped grooming, but besides that the cancer clearly damaged her eye and jaw and that made eating very difficult. I'm grateful I could say goodbye to her and let her go peacefully in her favorite spot in our home. But I miss her a lot.
The question, "Are you doing it for the cat, or are you doing it for *you*?" is the most important one you can ask. Many cats live long lives these days, but it's not the length but the quality that matters. I have some regrets about decisions made at the end of some of our cats' lives, however we did the very best we could, under the circumstances. And not all Vets are as concerned as Dr. Wooten about the animal. A couple we have dealt with, in emergency situations, were far more focused on milking the very last cent out of us, while our cat was in agony. On the other hand, we've had some Vets step in and save our precious cats for very little. We have two (cats not vets) now and I dread the day we lose them, as they will be our last due to our ages - 80/85.
The second one is so true! I take of rescue horses, and we had a large pony in his mid-twenties who was happily eating and acting normal during the day and passed over night. During the night, he walked to the corner of his paddock between the fencing and a tree and peacefully went to sleep. It was sad to walk into the barn in the morning to see that, but we were happy he had a good last 7 years with us, and he got to choose when it was time.
I miss my Pip so much. She disappeared one morning and never came back… I knew after she never returned that she wasn’t coming home. Most of these signs showed up during her last year of life. This video hurts but is very informative and now makes sense even a year after she left. Thank you for this information. I wish I could give her a hug and let her know how much is missed. 😭💔❤
I feed homeless cats. There was a male cat. He had left ear with birth defect (it was small and looked funny). I named him _Holyfield_ He was older, slow. He was very nice cat. There was time, he was limping. Because he was stray and I couldn't come close to him and there is no vet would want to treat homeless/stray cat. It's been several months now that he stopped come to eat. I think he passed away. I'm sad and I miss him 😥 but I'm sure he was so nice cat, he would go to heaven.
I lost my cat 13 days ago after 12 years suddenly and it was soo heartbreaking. She stopped eating and drinking and I could not get her to the vet til the next week and the day before her vet visit she got worse, so with no ER vet near by she went an hour away and it was decided to put her to sleep. I had her for 12 years live alone, and was going through a lot losing my dad 14 months eariler then job loss eariler this year. Hardest time of my life. I have my cats ashes & paw prints, but cant display them.... Please Hug and take care of your cats as mine was here one day then gone the next. Its the worst pain ever and she hid it well. She never cried in pain, or howled just slept a lot, stopped eating, then by the time she got to the ER vet she was turning cold.... Love you Whitney miss you!!!
I have 7 of 10. He have 14 years. He breathed today sooo hard with open mouth and was so hard to breath. We went to vet he have fluid in lungs. Hearth problem. Vet said Treatment can't not help and he will be suffer more. We say today goodbye. I still cry. So painful...😭
It is very difficult to lose a cat to illness/ old age. I’ve lost 2 cats. Everyone grieves differently. Hopefully, happy memories with your cat will outnumber the sad ones in time. 🌸
I keep having to say goodbye to my kitty friends. They have all been good friends for many years but they get old and leave this world. One was only 10 years old and she had kidney failure which would have been ok if she had a second as a backup but x-rays showed that she was born with only one. I miss her so much :( We have a 16 yo ginger boy who is the sweetest but he just keeps losing weight no matter how much he eats. After 800 bucks in vet bills the vet said he is just spoiled. Well he is 16 and we will spoil him while we can. I'm so tired of saying goodbye to kitties but I cannot bare to be without them. I will keep rescuing them and I hope some day to meet them all again on the other side.
I have had cats all my life. Some have disappeared (a day or two before their scheduled euthanasia), others that let me take that final step with them. NGL, it always hurts and it never gets easier, but I've always wanted my face to be the last thing they see, my voice to comfort them and my touch to hold them. They gave me all of themselves while they lived with me. The very least I can do is be there at the end.
In 2017, our 21 year old cat was starting to get more unable to do anything. She had arthritis, she was deaf and also stricken with kidney disease and, we suspect, a bit of dementia. One evening, she showed an interest in me and I put a big heavy blanket on the floor and sat on it. She came over and laid down next to me with her forehead resting against my thigh. After about half an hour, she crept away to the floor vent that was blowing out warm air. In the morning I came downstairs and she was still lying there unmoved. I patted her and she made a little chattering meow-like sound but didn't move. I knew it was time to go. I took her to the vet that morning. No running from the carrier and hiding. No fighting being placed inside. She was ready and it was time.
What a beautiful person! I see your empathy coming out in this video, and it moves me. I could never be a vet because I would be triggered all the time. And yet, here you are. You are much stronger than I am. Thank you for being the person that you are and the vet that you've become. Great video about things that need to be said. God bless.
My 14 year old cat was fine and then one day I noticed her breathing was wrong. Took her in to the vet immediately and within 2 days I had to put her down due to all of the internal fluid making it impossible to breathe. The decision was easy to make because she couldn't get oxygen but it broke my heart. I didn't expect to lose her so suddenly. The sweetest cat. Thank you for this video.
This was very helpful. I had to make the hard decsision yesterday. My sweet Mimi was 17 years old. Mimi displayed all of these symptoms and I just could not allow her to suffer. Arthritis, fatigue, hding, chronic kidney etc. Miss my girl so much😢😢
Thank so much for this video. I have had cats throughout my lifetime and have seen most of the 10 observations you discussed so well. Using a calendar is a wonderful tool. Outside of losing a child , spouse or parent making the decision to peacefully euthanize allows them to go without pain and the fear I know they must feel inside. It is one of the most painful decisions I’ve ever made. And I still (on occasion) shed tears when I remember the many moments we’d had together. But I do realize it was the best decision for him. Your love you had for him or her doesn’t stop. The memories become so precious. ❤️ to all.
This was a very difficult video to watch but an important one. Hugs♡ to those watching this and going through the painful decision of saying goodbye. I've had to say goodbye to 3 furbabies over the years: Sam, Penny, and Misha❤ I will always love you! It doesn't get easier. I currently have a senior cat, Bella. I'm so grateful 🙏 ❤ for every moment that I have with her and that she's still happy and healthy. Thank you so much for this video.
I had this experience earlier this year with my elderly cat Teazer. It was so terribly sad and difficult to say goodbye, but she was experiencing many of the causes of concern mentioned here, and the only possible treatments available were very likely to see her back at the vets in a month's time, and were unlikely to make her comfortable. It was a shock to realise the severity of the situation, we thought we might have longer with her and would be taking her home, but after hearing the situation, I couldn't let her and didn’t want her to suffer. Some relatives of mine had a cat, Holly, who was undergoing treatment, but it was quite a sudden thing where she became very unwell in the night and they weren't awake to see the situation and call the vets. They feel that she had clearly had a lot of trouble with toileting during her passing. Poor thing. Sorry if that's upsetting to read, but I mention it because it was somewhere in the back of my mind when we had to say goodbye to Teazer, and we took what we felt was the kindest option.
Bless you for making this video. It is a heart wrenching subject. Your advice is all good. As a cat man for years, I have seen many get to the end of their days. Putting them down while cradling them in your arms is the best way as they go to sleep. Let their pain go as they pass the rainbow bridge. One of our cats passed away with a heart attack or series of them. As he lay dying in my son's arms he was comforted. It was bewildering for us as to what was happening, as he would fall over with pained miaows, pant, and they stagger to his feet again, only to repeat until he could do no more but have the final cuddle. It was quick no more than 10 minutes or so. He was very ill with one kidney failed, and a liver that was failing as well. The next day he was going to the vets for the final injection.
I can hear the emotion in your voice. I’ve always watched and listened to my cats and they have had their ways of letting me know when it’s time, along with my wonderful vet. Only once was that decision sudden; when my big orange guy had a heart attack in front of me. The ER vet was incredibly kind in the middle of the night, and very caring. It is not an easy thing. Veterinarians aren’t appreciated enough. Thank you.
I had dear old Rueben for 17 years and he developed a kind of cat influenza (can't remember the name!). We tried our best to nurse him and follow instructions, but you could see the poor thing wasn't getting better. When you see your little friend, obviously not improving and you know how uncomfortable they are, you get to a point where you don't want your little friend to be in pain and discomfort when it isn't just going to be a couple of days and they'll be better. It took me many years to get my next kitty and I hope it's many more years before I have to seriously think of such things again!
Our oldest cat is 23 years old. We keep her in the kitchen in her bed with disposable wee pads. She is still feisty and bossy even though she is thinning. She eats wet food and treats. We know she is nearing the end of her time with us. There are things you touched on that we see. She doesn’t seem to want to go yet and we know she will tell us. 😢
Something that wasn't mentioned is that when a sick (elderly) cat is imminently about to pass away they can suddenly perk up and seem to appear to be just fine like they used to be and want to go outside or go hide somewhere. This happened to my beloved first cat Domino. She had been enduring CKD for several years and had starting losing weight because she'd lost interest in eating. Not knowing what to do I started syringe feeding her in the mornings to try and help her gain back some weight. A couple of hours after I first syringe-fed her one morning, she perked up and seemed just like her normal self (that I hadn't seen for several months) and wanted to go outside (she was an indoor/outdoor cat). I mistakenly saw this as her feeling much better and that the syringe-feeding was actually working so I went out for the afternoon, denying her the option to go outside and came back later only to find her hiding in her favourite sunshine spot having difficulty breathing and giving this awful 'pain meow' whenever I tried to touch her to comfort her. She died several hours later as we were driving to the vet (which was a 3 hour drive away!). Domino was 16.5 years old.
I'm sorry you lost your cat that way. It must have been awful for both her and you. My cat also had one day at the end when he perked up, asked to go out, and took a walk to the other end of the block. Two neighbors were so surprised to see him that they let me know about it. He came home after a short while, but had to be euthanized the next day. I've read that some people also rally shortly before they die.
What you said about the cat perking up before they passed away people that are in the hospital that happens to them as being a nurse I've seen this so many times when the person is very ill the one day just perk up and seem like everything's great and then they end up passing it's strange and I don't have an answer for it but I believe the best thing that you can do for your cat or your dog would ever pet you may have which I have cats and believe me I love them so much I've already lost two and the second one he happened to die in my arms at home I had an appointment for him that day to have him put down because I knew that the day before the way he was acting and thank you to the vet for giving us those 10 signs I have a cat now that is 15 and I constantly see if she's breathing when she's sleeping and I come out at night that type of thing but she's just healthy and normal so as long as she keeps going and I keep going and my other one then we're just happy😊
I had to make the decision to euthanize my kitty cat, Susie. She was old, had lost a lot of weight and struggled to breathe. It was awful to watch. I've wondered about my decision for three years because I loved her so much and I miss her a lot. This video answered my questions about my decision and I feel peaceful about it for really the first time. Thank you so much for your help!
My cat is 11 now. And I am getting very scared. I think watching these content while my cat is not that close to the end yet is better in preparation for that time. It made me teary. It is gonna be hard. I have to remember what you said that they have done so much for me, so it is time that I do the right thing for them. My only wish is I am there when they pass. I wanna be able to hug and kiss them before they leave me.
For my senior cat with CKD, the sign was when I woke up and he was sleeping at my feet, and not on my pillow. I would have missed it if I had to rush out of bed. He was himself the day before, so this turned out to be pancreatitis. It was his second attack in the year so it was time to say goodbye. Changes of behaviour are not always obvious like hiding on a closet. There is hiding in plain sight.
Thank you so much for making this video. I went through this 3 weeks ago. My cat exhibited all of the symptoms you described although not all were drastic. We never knew how old she was when she joined our family because she had been a stray. Our vet said she was a senior cat but without any chronic conditions. Over the last few months my cat slept more and had less energy but still loved to cuddle and even play a little bit. She napped more in a dark corner of our closet or in boxes instead of her cat tree but she still took interest in looking outside from her perch, or even hanging out on the deck, and exploring the yard. At some point I noticed the breath coming from her nose smelled “off” as you described but not consistently so I wasn’t sure if it was my imagination. When she stopped eating and drinking for almost 2 days we took her to the vet but blood tests, x-rays, and ultrasound did not reveal an underlying cause. My cat was impacted which I thought might have been the reason she did not eat or drink and became dehydrated. I asked for IV fluids to rehydrate followed by steps to remove the impaction under sedation. (I saw that approach work for grandma!) After almost a day it was clear my baby had given up and we euthanized her. Except for the Xray I was with her the entire time so she wasn’t alone. From this video I realize my cat was at the end of her life. I miss her 💔
My 17 year old cat of my childhood died in her sleep on her favorite chair for sleeping. We saw no signs of suffering so sometimes you get lucky with a pain free and peaceful passing. 😻🙏
I have a 22 yr old cat in stage 2 kidney disease. He's not showing all of these signs, but he's showing about half of them. I didn't understand what I was seeing. Thank you for this post. I feel better prepared.
Yikes, that tuxedo cat looks just like my 17 year old girl, Fog, how chilling that you would show a cat with the black stripe down the nose and a white line up the side of her face, though Fog's white stripe is on the opposite side! I'll take that as a sign. Yes this video did give me a teary.
They bring us so much joy that I feel it outweighs the sorrow when we have to let them go. My last 2 cats 16 yrs and 18 yrs old died after long illnesses. I had them euthanized at home by a vet. I was able to hold them and they passed peacefully. I also had discussions with my vet before and she understood when the time came I didn't want to prolong their lives for me. I think keeping track with a calender is an excellent idea.
I had a family dog named Patches live until she was 17. She had a lot of health issues and at the time she was at the end of her life. My parents were caring for her when she died, and I had already moved out of their house. She suffered from seizures and memory loss. To the point where she didn’t recognize anyone anymore. She suffered a tremendous amount and no matter what the veterinarian told my parents about how it was time to think about euthanasia they wouldn’t hear it. She died suffering, and I truly wish I could go back in time and advocate for her. RIP Patches ❤ I will do better for my pets when their time comes in her honor.
My 12 year old male tabby is sleepier than usual but otherwise none of the symptoms apply. He seems happy, smiles, interacts with me, and is quite active when he is awake.
My sweet little kitty cat Poppy 2 and 1/2 days in a row she wasn't eating so we brought her to the doctor and they said her temperature was 97 and they put her on IV and some type of antibiotic a few hours later she died I'm so devastated we don't even know what is wrong and I brought her to a place to get her autopsy I have been boiling my eyeballs out and crying so much I love that little girl so much I found her as a little baby I heard her crying from far away she was under a porch We were so bonded I have many other cats but you know they're all different and she was just so bonded to her mommy and I feel so lost without her 😭💔 She was only one and a half years old
Your video fills a huge gap in what pet owners don't know, but really do need to know; so thank you so much! I'm saving this for when the next time comes. ☺💗💗💗
Thanks for this video. My cat is 12 and still in great health, but I'm becoming increasingly aware the clock is ticking. I haven't had to deal with a pet passing away before, and it will hopefully still be a long time before I need to, but having some structure on how to approach it when needed is already helpful to my peace of mind right now.
Sometimes your older cat is having tooth pain and is not eating because of that. Kitty just needs her teeth removed so that she can eat again. This is a common procedure. Issues with urinating and defecating can be arthritis in back legs. Also, if kitty is on a pain med, make sure she gets a laxative.
i have had cats for years now since a young child always been cats in my life i am now retired rescuer that's where most of mine came from have lost so many through old age illness and killed its never easy to see them when ill or dying i have a great vet she is so helpful and tells me how it is i once said please dont sugar coat it tell me truthfully what i need to know and so on i haven't found a better vet then her when i had to put some of mine to sleep through illness or old age problems she was so compassionate and kind when doing it let me hold them till passed then helped me put back into carrier she gave them so much dignity she made it so much easer for me to say bye its never easy when we have to say by to them i have had cats who died at home in my arms peacefully ad to put some out of their pain with vets and through kidney disease or thyroid problems turned to kidney problems liver problems but i always said i would never let any of my cats suffer its great if you can get a vet that is good with you and the animals some are just in it for the money some not just find the right vet for you and your animals and then it be better when the time comes
I was very traumatized by one time that I decided to euthanize my cat with cancer. He was very weak, but he seemed to function OK. I made the choice take him to my equine vet who also treated small animals to have him put "to sleep" as it used to be called, I just know that something wasn't done correctly. I still get nightmares when I think of it. He started crying and mewling the minute we got there. I tried comforting him, but he wouldn't stop. When the vet started to inject him, he started crying louder and plaintiffly as though begging me NOT to let him do this. The vet called in the technician to hold him while it was being done. He was sill crying once the injection was over, so I held him close and rocked him while I cuddled him and talked soothingly to him until after a good minute or two, I realized that he had finally stopped crying. Then I started bawling 😢. I always felt that he must have been nervous about doing it, was not doing it corectly. I was so traumatized that I just couldn't bring myself to go through that again. When my Golden Retriever was at the end, it was obvious. I still hesitated until the next day. My mother and I made a blanket stretcher to get him in the car, and when we got to my vet ( a different one at this point)I went to tell them and the vet and tech came out with a stretcher. Just a little background here:My big boy was used to going for a weekly arthritis injection and they always made a fus over him.....he liked going there. Now I always remember this part as though it was yesterday. They put the stretcher down in the exam room, and I sat on the floor and stroked his head saying "It's OK, Champ. they will help you". He lifted his head, looked around, recognized where he was and thumped his tail twice, putting his head down with a sigh, as if he knew that I had finally understood what he needed and took him to his friends who would help him end his suffering. The vet cane in a moment later and gave him the injection like he had been giving him his arthritis one for ages. It was over in a few seconds, and he looked peacefully asleep. He had helped me get over my trauma. A few days later a condolences card came through the mail from my vet telling me how sorry he was that Champs' time had come, and that he would miss seeing him as he had been, and always would be his "Best Boy". 🐕 I knew that I had made the right decision, just like I knew that when it came to my Skooter 🐈.....something was wrong. This was a wonderful video, even it difficult and sad to watch. All I can say is: Find a Vet you trust, that your animals trust (you can tell) and establish a relationship with them. It will bring you peace of mind during the the tough/sad times.
We said goodbye to sweet 14 year old lady, Baby 😢 Three months ago. I made the mistake of letting her go peacefully at home. Turns out to be not such a peaceful ending. I know this because I've done it the other way with 2 other fur-babies in the past. We just didn't want Baby to suffer the car ride experience. Since then, I've learned that there are in home services who will come to aid and help with a gentle transition.
Always opt for sedation before the final shot. I was advised as my boy was older the veins may be harder to get to if they’re sedated. It was the wrong advice. Next time I’ll go for sedation first.
My sister passed away earlier this year. She had an elderly cat that none of her friends or neighbours wanted to re-home. I was not a cat person but out of duty to my sister I took the cat on. I grew to love the cat very much and he showed his affection to me. He unfortunately passed away after only 8 months, it has made me so sad, I miss him so much. I will give a home to a rescue cat in the New Year, that’s the best I can do.
That would be a lovely thing to do. For both of you.
I'm sorry that you miss the dear cat.If you give a home to a rescue cat that is a wonderfull kind thing to do thankyou
Sorry for missing your loved sister and her cat in a short time. I'm sure it's been a hard time for you and so much grief. But I'm so happy that you came out of the sadness with a humane decision. Good luck 🐈⬛🐈🌹🌹
What a nice thing to do.. this is really nice from you.. we get attached to them and they are giving back to us in so many ways .. May Your God protect and bless you. No worry you will meet the next special fluffy ball of love before the end of the year..you both will find each others. 🙏✨️
'Wishing you many blessings; you have shown much kindness. Don't make my mistake and send out too much grief, but if you can, try to send love for the all the wonderful moments our family and furry family friends have conferred on us. I truly believe they receive these love feelings and can return them. All the very best for the future ahead. ☺☺☺💖💖💖
My cat passed this year at 181/2. He had marked decrease in eating, and the last two days he stopped drinking. But what was really different, and tears me up thinking about it is he would lie on my chest and just look deeply into my eyes for long periods of time. I felt like he was letting me know he loved me and was saying goodbye. He was such a dear little guy. How each of our animals enrich us.
How incredibly sweet. ❤
He was spending his last days with the person he truly loved
My beloved Artie did the same with me. Lying down on me, facing me, and purring. He passed about a month later.
"Such a dear little guy." Thanks for the smile.
God's blessings to you! It is so difficult to lose them.
I named her Willow because she was a pale grey longhair, the color of pussywillows and just as silky to the touch. Years sped by until she became very elderly. I was sitting at my desk with my feet upon a footstool. Willow climbed onto the cushion and curled up against the soles of my feet. Somehow I understood this was her last day. I thought of rushing to the vet, but then I realized this was her choice, to slip away very quietly in her sleep and snuggled up against me. We remained as we were, peaceful and undisturbed. When I moved again the little darling remained forever still. I am very grateful that her passing was so kind and gentle.
Wow. You made that a nice story. I can picture Willow and she is very pretty. Yes, nice story Valkyrie.
My baby boy cat died 8 days ago. He was 19. He displayed all the symptoms you talked about except I didn’t notice any odors. However, my other cat did. He seemed fine one day except for some diarrhea. Took him to the vet and they found nothing wrong and then, in four days he went downhill fast. I loved my Boy Wilson so much. He was always with me! He died on the way back to the vet again. I’m brokenhearted. RIP my baby boy Wilson. You will never be forgotten!
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Rest in peace Wilson.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 🕊️
So sorry for your loss. 😢
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Forgot about increased vocalization…. I had a 16 yr old cat whom I loved with every ounce of my being. She developed kidney disease and for 2 years was doing okay. Her weight was very low though (6 lbs) and in January this year I noticed she was vocalizing more often. One day she just stopped eating all together (and she always had healthy appetite). Then 24-hrs later she stopped drinking… after 24-hrs of not drinking she lost her ability to walk… I knew instantly she was going.. I took her to the vet and her bloodwork revealed her organs were shutting down… I sat with her and explained to her what was happening but she already knew her time was ending. For me, the greatest act of love was letter her go peacefully and with dignity…. It’s been 10 months now… and I still cry. No doubt, it’s the hardest thing to do but for them, it was the greatest act of pure love. I hope this helps others..
I’m so sorry. I lost my cat 3 months ago and it’s taking a big toll on me
It’s been forty years for some of my furbabies and I still cry when I think of how much I miss them. I try to focus on my happy memories, but sometimes I miss them, and it’s ok to cry for those we love and have lost, it’s just a manifestation of our love.
Same thing happened to my Ragdoll - I have commented separately on that. the only difference was that because my cat had always been to the vet regularly for checkups, nothing came as a surprise or shock - everything actually happened precisely how the vet described it would happen.
I'm sorry to hear about your 16 yr old fur baby. I recently lost a kitty of 9 yrs and he went quick from lymphoma. It was the first I had to experience such and it was traumatic. I regret not taking him in the night before as he died on his own which was not peaceful. He took a piece of my heart and it was by far the hardest thing I had to witness. Our kitties are such beautiful souls that gave so much. I believe we will always be connected to their souls and will one day meet again.
thank you for sharing,im a new catowner was never a cat person until this year a friend gave it as a gift, its gutwrenching just to think of it.
I had to say goodbye to two senior cats this year. They were brothers and had been with me for 18 years . Deep down I know I made the right decision. Yet, I'm constantly second guessing. After watching your video I'm assured I made the right decision for them. I miss them terribly. They are in kitty heaven cuddling like they always did. I hope I get to join them when it's my time.
I lost my two senior cats who were brother. and Sister, they passed away within 6 months of each other.
We have 2 senior brothers of 16 years & both with various health issues. I can smell that sickly sweet odour on my beautiful white boy and I know that distinct smell. I feel your pain as I know what I must do and it's breaking my heart. Wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to play with them again some day?
Yes, you’ll have that reunion with both your boys ❤
My 20 year old cat had stopped eating for several days (in addition to many of the signs you’ve mentioned here). I knew it was time to step in and take him to the vet for the last time. On the way there, he just melted into my arms and seemed almost grateful that his suffering would soon end. I strongly recommend that you have a trusted family member or friend with you during this process because you will need their support after being strong for your pet. Thank you for this video!
My cat bubba was the same his liver was failing. My other cat zoya she couldn’t really walk anymore. They come into my house with me in it I will always be there when there is over.
I agree about having someone. I had had three cats in my life living with or near to family - before moving to a rural area on my own with my Ragdoll cat. So when the time came (just after her 18th birthday, having been with me since the age of 12 weeks), it was the worst of the lot - and I think that was because I live on my own. I have never adopted another pet and never will - it is just too much of an emotional (and financial to be honest) toll.
@jonathanparle8429 I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there. 😢
Yes, moral support is good, but choose someone who won't be too distressed at your sorrow. Choose someone that will let you cry buckets if you need to. It is good to have a driver if you feel too distracted to pay attention to traffic.
I lost my 15 yo baby in August this year. It was a painful experience. The suffering was so hard to watch. I had a vet come to the house and had her pass in my loving arms. She is missed dearly.
Our 14 year old cat was healthy until very suddenly she wasn't. Behaved normally, arthritis well-controlled, clean checkup and bloodwork a month prior. Suddenly one day she struggled to eat, and vomited with a hint of pink. We immediately brought her to the vet who treated for gastritis but tested for pancreatitis just in case - inconclusive. She did not get better, so we brought her in a 2nd time and the vet ran the pancreatitis test a 2nd time - very clearly positive. With treatment and hospitalization for that, she *still* did not get better. Ultimately, the underlying illness was intestinal lymphoma, which had set off her pancreas. Palliative care bought her a few good months. I'm grateful that she didn't go while feeling as sick as she did before her final diagnosis, that she *did* get some good time, especially with my husband whom she adored. But her weight got so low and when it was time, it was time. She was an awesome, sweet little cat.
Thank you so much for this video. We had our beloved 19-year-old cat euthanized two months ago and I can't stop second-guessing myself if I did the right thing. You made it very clear that he was at the end of his life and we needed to release him from suffering. I can finally put my grief and anxiety over this to rest with my cat.
The guilt is real. We had to say goodbye to our 15 and 16 year old cats a couple of years ago, and it is so hard. But now when I look back at photos I took at the end of their lives, I can tell we made the right decision. If you kept your cat from suffering even a day more, you did the right thing.
I adopted my boy Lincoln in 2010 he was either 1 or 2 years old at the time. Recently the hubby and I noticed he had lost some weight and was drooling really bad. We were afraid it was nearing the end of his life and took him to the vet. Turns out he had a bad tooth and the second it was pulled out he went back to being completely normal. That tooth being gone perked him up and he has since started eating again as well as acting like a young kitty. I’m so grateful we have more time with him. I wasn’t ready to say goodbye.
That's encouraging. I think my older cat has a tooth out of place because he keeps turning his head, growling, and trying to chew. It must be uncomfortable for him, because he is losing weight. I want to take him to the vet, but being elderly myself, I have a limited income and difficulty driving long distances. I have heard tooth extractions can cost $1,000. Is there any way to make this easier?
@@victoryamartin9773Try calling local rescues and explain your situation. Sometimes even overcrowded shelters are willing to help with vet bills and might be able to get a discount as well. Also there is pet insurance now and pet care credit cards that are like a loan. Please see what you can do to help your poor kitty
@victoryamartin9773 talk to your vet and ask about potential charities that can help. You can also look into care credit which allows you to pay overtime with little to no interest. You need to address it immediately as tooth problems are literal torture to animals. This is not something that can be put off. You owe him proper care, I’m sorry to be harsh, but if you can’t provide the basic care he needs, you might need to consider rehiring him. Again, I am not trying to be cruel but we are our pets only voice.
@@Catmom-gl5nt I have thought of surrendering him, but he's so old I'm afraid they would just put him down. I will see what charities the vet can offer, thanks.
Sadly lost our cat Lucky. She indeed had many of those signs. Very happy to have her for 18 years.
Same here .
Thank you. I have a senior cat. I hope we have many happy years left.
My beloved cat passed away over 20 years ago and it is still painful to think about it. I took him to the vet, because he had a weird swelling in his face. The vet explained that he was so old and frail that any intervention might actually kill him. She also made me aware that his kidneys were hard and swollen and that he was most certainly in considerable, unrelenting pain. I could not bear for him to suffer, so I decided to have him put to sleep. He died in my arms, but I cried so hard that his last act of love in his long life was to nuzzle close to me and reassure ME - the way he had often done over the years, when I was feeling sad or depressed. 😞
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty....It sounds like you absolutely made the right choice for him, as hard as that was....you clearly loved and adored him.....and he felt the same for you..that last nuzzle must have been so comforting for you both 🙏🏽❤🩹
This literally touched me to tears. The bond you had with each other was very strong.
Wow Jojo, 20 years ago and still your story hurts. It really is hard; something that is there all the time and then suddenly gone and the whole world becomes quiet. You did not say your cat's name.
This made me cry for you! I hope we meet our babies in heaven
My cat always knew when i was suffering and ill through the years And saved my life in 2013 I was in an isolated cabin extremely ill from a severe flu After three days without water and food i was getting delirious She sat on my chest staring at me inches from my face Then when i didn't respond she started pushing my head left and right with her head until finally i realized with the slight trace of reality'i had left i better try to crawl across the floor to get some water before its too late And after drinking water get hydrated and resting i realized if not for her i wouldn't be here today Now in October 2024 she is very ill with kidney failure I spent $ 3700 on her last week She saved my life now so im now trying to save hers 🙏
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I pray that you will have more time with your furbaby, and I also pray that you will know when it’s time to let go. I’ve had to do that so many times throughout my life, I know how hard it is to do. We love our furry children so much! Again, I pray for as many days as possible with your baby!
@@digitalCaptiveThank you for Your thoughtfulness and prayers It meant alot to me After four days in the stressful hospital she was glad to be home again Her condition and weight have improved I have to be very creative with making her food have variety and be appetizing depending on how she is feeling day to day Water fountains for kidney care cats are very effective at keeping them interested in staying hydrated I don't know how long her condition will remain as good as it is I do my best to make every day a precious gift and cherish time spent with her
So glad your baby is home!!!! @bluewave7120
These processes can go on for years sometimes. I have a cat nearly 21 who has severe kidney failure (been “dying” for 2 years). Yet the good days still well outnumber the bad. She sleeps most of the time, doesn’t play, has lost weight (only 2.4kg now). And yet…. when she’s awake, she’s on my lap or near me, purring (very clingy now). She still yells excitedly at the prospect of new or novel food (has always been incredibly food focused), remains in control of bowels & bladder - but can’t wait if I’m cleaning the litter tray at the wrong moment (yay for puppy pads in litter tray location). On a sunny days, she’s outside dozing contentedly in the sun. No bad smell either (thanks for that tip). But 100% all the rest. Every day is an assessment of QoL. And though there are some worse days, they aren’t terrible. You didn’t mention claws - not stropping them and letting them become over-grown was pretty much the very first thing I noticed back then. She gets regular visits to vet, and her claws are taken care of then. I’ve taken her on her “last trip” 3 times only to find out she had developed something treatable (infections). I’m starting to think she’ll outlive me, lol! I think she just refuses to leave a world that has so many nice things to eat in it. What she wants, she gets. I’m constantly scouring shop shelves for new and tasty treats. I love her (of course), I admire her stubbornness. But I am ready. I can see it’s getting closer.
Similar for my 2 over 20 cats. Bloodwork normal, eating, one active the other not. A hungry cat is a healthy cat. We just watch them carefully.
Желаю вам много лет вместе в любви и здоровьи. 💕
A beautiful tribute of love. I pray you will know without doubt when it’s time to say goodbye, and I pray that’s as far off as possible and with many many good days until then. God bless.
You made me smile when you said your cat "just refuses to leave a world that has so many nice things to eat in it." I don't know you or your cat, but I'll go out on a limb and say that your devotion to her is also boosting her will to live. When her last bit of energy peters out, I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you did what you could to make her final months as comfortable as possible.
@@emilyx8377 That was lovely, thank you. We’re off to the vet this morning. I’m hoping it’s just a urinary tract infection. But …she’s not good. 😢But your post turned up at a perfect time to give me a moment of weepy comfort. ❤
I feel like this is so important. As pet parents, we need to be prepared. Yes it's unpleasant and very painful, but ignoring it will not help your kitty if they are struggling. They need you to step up and help them at the end, the same way they've always needed you for food and cuddles and vet visits. End of life care and euthanasia are part of the entire package.
Hopefully in the home setting not the trauma of going to the vet.
My companion will be 20 years old in November he has slept next to me since he was 8 weeks old now he chooses to sleep under my kitchen cabinet,I have made a comfortable space for him,I think it’s been difficult for me to except he doesn’t want to sleep next to me😢but he is under a veterinarian care for intervention including monthly injections to manage his arthritis,I spoke to his doctor and I decided that once he stops eating,or appears to be extreme pain ,I have to let him go peacefully ,Thank you for sharing and giving me confirmation.
Maybe he has problems to reach the bed? I had to make steps and ramps for my 18 year old cat, because she has problems with jumping. It's now easier for her to reach places like her favourite chair or the bed. Before she avoided the bed because jumping on the bed caused her pain. You could try and put a long plank on the bed, so he don't need to jump and can walk there.
I grew up with a cat that was a year older than me. I always called him my big brother. I was 17 when he passed away with lung cancer, struggling to breathe. On his last day, as I saw him suffocating, I called the vet and the only option they gave was euthanasia. I couldn't do it. At the time I thought it was a cruel thing to do to him. He died under my bed in the middle of the night, with myself and my mother lying on the bedroom floor next to him. It was so painful to watch him die. I still cry for him and it has been 15 years since it happened. I wish I had done things differently and just taken him to the vet to end his suffering. I miss him terribly after all those years.
My best cat ever was a year older than my son. Unfortunately, at the age of seven, our sweet cat got deadly hit by a car. He was my son's first family member to lose. It was hard. Sometimes, even a year later, I heard my boy cry after I brought him to bed and when I asked what was happening, he said "It's because of Mausi". So heartbreaking 😢😢😢💔
This is 20 years ago and still hurts
Don’t blame yourself, I’ve found it so hard to put all of my cats to sleep. I have found now to give a half Diazepam from the vet a couple of hours before and have a vet come to your house to help them to sleep, expensive but totally worth it. I have also looked into animal communicators, some are really good and can give an indication if your fur baby is ready to go. I totally know your pain and I’ve cried for cats that I’ve said goodbye to even 30 years ago. Big hugs x
Losing your cat is difficult. I have lost so many over the years(1st cat was 64 years ago). Very hard-I miss them all. Now have a 5 yrs old rescue-he may last longer than me but have already made arrangements for that. Cats are wonderful little pets- enjoy them while you can.
When I adopted my first cat from a shelter. I ended up having two. They say allow any adoptee to come to you, which i did for Betty, but while I was walking and talking to one of the volunteers. I noticed a black cat, with matted fur. Sleeping or at least trying too. I instantly knew this poor feline probably didn’t have very long left. I couldn’t let hime pass in a shelter. So I adopted him Gem, and Betty together. As soon as I got them both home. I gave them 48 hours to recover from their journey and the shock of a new environment.
I made a veterinary appointment for both of them. Betty was a tiny black 5 year old DSH. Gem was a DLH cat, he had matted fur. And was very quiet. After a general assessment. Flea, wormer etc. they both had blood test. Betty was given a clean bill of health. Gem had stage three kidney failure. Gem was put on some medication (forticur it increases the blood flow) Gem still had a good appetite once he had settled into his new environment with lots of warmth, love and cuddles he seemed to perk up a lot. We had regular check ups with the Vet, but I knew deep down he wouldn’t have years ahead. I groomed him made him feel loved and wanted. After 14 months Gem started to deteriorate. I knew his time had come. He had gone off his food. Spent all day sleeping and no longer wanted to be groomed. Even though I found it very hard to make the decision to end Gems suffering. I knew in my heart that his last few months had been made better by being out of the rescue shelter. Where I believe he would have died far sooner. I took comfort in the knowledge Gems last 14 months where spent in a home, with good food, warmth love and care, even to this day I feel I did the right thing. Betty lived on to the ripe old age of 19. She was quite honestly the grumpiest cat I have ever had. Yet she she chose me…… she was spoiled. Like all my pets have been.
What a wonderful story!
Thank you for loving Gem in the beautiful way that you did ❤
I have lost 3 cats in the last 2 1/2 years. Two of them seniors. Watching them deteriorate is heartbreaking. We spoiled them with love for the end of their days. It’s always hard to make that final decision.
Our 18yo cat was only eating treats at the end. The last day she sat on the couch with her head facing inside the couch. We knew exactly what she was telling us. We said goodbye to her that day. She was the best cat we ever had. We still miss you Smudge 😢
…I have a Smudge and he is 7 years old and just the most adorable little guy…I’m so sorry that your little Smudge had to go ❤
Our rule has been that we don’t want our kitties to say goodbye on their worst day. We’ve had to make the choice to give them the gift of peace many times now and each time has been sad but beautiful in its special way. We’ve always been with them and held and petted them so that can be their last memory. The ultimate gift of love for our babies.
I have lost two cats suddenly to illness, and it broke my heart both times. I had to make the hard decision for one cat, and I still am affected by it. I know it was the right thing to do, but it really wrenched me. RIP, Handsome Fella. You were the best kitteh ever.
One of my older cats developed pneumonia and the vet told me it was worth treatment. She.spent several weeks in the vets on oxygen and it was soo painful to watch. Then she came home to us with oxygen she struggled soo much and died shortly after bringing her home. We were devastated. It was over a 1000 to treat her, but it wasn’t about the money. We will never ever watch one of our cats going through this ever again. We were broken that we let her suffer in the misguided belief that she could be saved.
Try not to beat yourself up about it. Sometimes we think we're doing the right thing but the outcome we envisioned doesn't work out. For decades I felt guilty about euthanasing one of my pets because I didn't want her to suffer endless medical interventions & vet visits. Subsequent pet deaths have been super painful for all other kinds of reasons because of the decisions I made. I just know I was there for all of them. I loved them unconditionally and I did what I felt was best for each individual. It doesn't get any easier it's just how it is.
The hardest thing. But I've chosen to help three of my babies move on in the past. I had doubts at the time if I was doing the right thing for them but looking back and also after listening to the good doc explain things, I know I made the right decision. Still the hardest thing.
The Rainbow Bridge poem, if you will, helped me out greatly when I had to let go of my fur babies.
All of this sadly is so familiar to me. I've lost 2 cats very recently. I have sat on the floor in the vet office and wept. I will always do what is right for my animals. Grief is the price we pay for love
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Grief is the price we pay for love. Profound and true. Beautiful sentiment.
Life got painful for Cubby in his old age and this really helped me feel better about putting my beloved kitty to sleep. He was the most loving & wonderful cat. I miss him so much and I think he really felt loved. Our Veterinarian took such good and loving care of Cubby and (and me) I am forever grateful.
The most loving thing you can do for your friend is share a peaceful loving passing. I had to do that with my dear friend and it was like cutting my heart out. That night the dachshund and I were in bed, and still waiting for him to come & join us. We have motion sensor night lights, they would come on in sequence when he was coming in. My heart whispered to him to please turn the lights on again.. and a few seconds later they came on. They still come on every night- no matter what time we go to bed. It's been 7 years now. Your baby isn't the little meat suit it wears, their spirit & love are eternal and always with you.
My sweet Bettie was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism 2 years ago. She was losing weight, being very vocal, increased appetite. This year her vet saw signs of kidney failure and we tried adjusting meds in the summer but August 5th she after a normal morning , around 11am she had a stroke. The ER vet said she was now super diabetic and I had to make the heartbreaking decision to let her go. Afterwards I realized on top of her medical issues she did have many of the signs you discussed. It's tough to make the call and I did doubt myself after at first but her little body couldn't fight anymore. She lived 17 and 10 months and was with me since she was cutest kitten, black with big green eyes and extra toes.
Hyperthyroidism is curable in cats
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Yes, hypothyroidism is curable in alot of cats. But alot of cats also can get hypothyroidism from underline issues/
illnesses/ diseases.
Some of which is hard to catch. If not caught they can die suddenly.
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I mean hyperthyroidism
@@maryjones6926 not always.
I appreciated your comment about trusting your gut/intuition about your cat. I knew my beloved Pishe was at the end of her life as she exhibited most, if not all the signs you described. The Vet wanted her to stay for 5 days of testing and I felt pressured to make that decision. I said that Pishe would think I had abandoned her at the end of her life. I made that very difficult decision to have her put down. I still shed tears about this decision but I know Pishe would appreciate that I ended her suffering and had the time to say goodbye. And when I reflect on this decision, I know it was the right decision for her. 😭❤
This entire comment section is making me cry so much. 😢
We euthanized our 18-year-old girl 13 months ago, and we still talk about her daily. I think we had the right reasons for our decision, and we picked the right time, but it still hurts. I really want to be with her in heaven someday.
And yes, you will be in Heaven with her one day ❤
@@MarchOosthuizen Thank you. 🥰
Thank you. Our beloved 19yo Spartacus got so skinny and then started urinating outside the litter box. Heartbreaking. He was the best, most carefree cat in the world. We have him resting eternally in our backyard now and he is in our thoughts every day. So nice we can sit by his resting place and ‘be with him’.
Thankfully my kitties are still young, but I still cried. It's such a difficult thing for anyone to go through, and it's impossible to not be moved by it. Veterinarians see this nearly every day unfortunately, both the pets who are suffering and in people who are understandably upset and grieving. Hugs to everyone who had lost a pet.
Excellent video, as someone who has seen so many furry family members cross the Rainbow Bridge in my 70+ years, you nailed it. Thank you.
Thank you for reminding us that our elderly cat will go to heaven. Just the mention of it is a blessing. ❤
Have you seen vids with an animal (usually a dog or horse) running excitedly towards the person filming? I imagine that’s what heaven’s like; all the animals you loved in life running towards you to great you again in the afterlife.
@@IamaDanish oh I can’t wait for my menagerie to assail me! There are times I think I’m more excited at the thought of seeing my furbabies (and scaly babies) than my family! Not really, but sometimes it feels that way. 😄 But so far I’ve got a host of dogs, bunnies, Guinea pigs, bearded dragons and a whole bunch of cats that I can’t wait to see again! What a beautiful reunion that will be!
I lost my 16 year old boy cat only 3 weeks ago. He had lost weight over the last 18 months but blood tests didn’t show anything abnormal and he had stopped being a voracious eater, he also was struggling to climb the stairs some days. He died curled up on his favourite sofa one day totally breaking my heart. My only consolation is that his twin sister is still healthy and going strong.
My rescued cat is over 17 years old. I’ve had him for 14 years; in recent months, he has had physical changes. He lost weight, stopped eating like before, and has on and off diarrhea. I took him to several vets, and none has found what’s wrong with him. They’ve all done pretty much the same thing, but he’s the same. Surprisingly, according to bloodwork from different doctors, he’s okay, thin but okay. He’s also a happy cat and seeks human attention and love. As long as he’s happy, I’ll keep fighting for him. When the time comes, I’ll do whatever to keep him comfortable and pain free.
I once came across some very wise words in relation to this subject which helped me - and hopefully is what I did when it felt time to say goodbye to our beloved cat a few weeks ago. "It's better to let them go a week too soon than a day too late" The life of our elderly cat, who had lived with treated CKD for 10 years, shrank to just one chair in his last few days. When he developed an infection on top of everything else (mentioned in the video) treatment for that felt inappropriate. There was insufficient quality for him on his calendar. No-one wants their last memories to be the regret of having left the decision too late. My cat was the best in the world. And so are/were yours! Bless them all.
In late July, I helped my lovely 18+ year old furry family member cross the Rainbow Bridge-sadly, on my 75th birthday. She had always been with me, since I rescued her as a feral kitten. The last week she was alive she “told” me it was time to let her go. I listened. I did what she asked. I mourn her daily. So does her 15+ year old “brother”.
#8 took my 18 year old soul cat from me this summer. She fought kidney disease and diabetes (from pred) for 10 years … but it was her lungs that took her in the end.
Bless. Thank you for posting this video for folks who need this sort of information. ❤
You have comforted me so much, thank you. I have a 14 y.o. cat in decline from CKD and I know the day is coming soon that I will need to help him pass on comfortably, but it breaks my heart to think of life without him. In the meantime I'm giving him all the best things I can think of and watching him closely.
Thank you, I have 15 year old boy tabby, I needed to see this to be more aware. I love my old guy , he's doing well most the time thankfully.
Thank you very much for this very informative video! I have lost many beloved cats in my 50+ years of being alive, and it never gets easier, but it's always good to recognize the signs when it's time to let go. 😿💔
I wish I had seen your video 10 months ago.
My kitty was 16 and I thought he just wanted me to brush him more and he wanted to be on my lap more. He also wanted to sit behind me on my chair when I was working at my laptop... I would hold his head in my one hand and pet him with my other hand...he purred and seemed so happy. Then he started to vomit his food and it wasn't a hair ball. Sometimes he would vomit several times in the night and I would get up and find vomited liquid and undigested kibble. Even soft/wet food was coming back up. The bowl filling didn't register so much with me but I realized he wasn't emptying the bowl as before.
I was picking up food from my veterinarian office one day and I said...if something happens to me... because of my kitty's age and he would sometimes aggressively bite me (he was a rescued kitty and I always thought he might have been abused in his former life), I worried that he would not be a good choice to re-home. I asked that, if I died, the vet would euthanize my boy. I thought he would not be happy since he was already 16. Little did I know that his health was already deteriorating. One month after that, I I took him to the vet and the vet said he had lost 2 pounds. I was shocked...he had gained weight at his last appointment in September. He previously weighed over 18 pounds... but with his vomiting I could understand his weight loss. The vet did some tests and nothing showed up. The vet said that a mass in the digestive tract might not show up on an X-ray. When he was sleeping on the chair one day...he was in a very deep sleep and he looked sick. He didn't have much of an appetite either since he threw it all up.
I had to make the decision... I couldn't let him starve... I had to say goodbye with my own heart breaking.
Thank you so much for addressing the "die naturally" idea. I've always thought people who think they want this know very little about nature.
I wish this attitude was the norm for everything, forcing people to suffer for a few extra weeks is so depressing.
@@DellikkilleD. Been through human loved ones in pain…they get morphine and die fairly quickly. The others died without morphine but their bodies shut down and they are in a coma and died within a few weeks. I don’t believe in Euthanasia for humans, but they don't need to suffer.
My two indoor cats are 12 years old and I know that a lot of cats die when they start hitting 12 years and on some live to be 20 or more but I dont think my cats will be that lucky....I know I will be a mess when they die...I have never owned any pets for that long. They are like my family I love them and I will cry uncontrollably when they pass. I am 70 so I know my emotions will get the better of me. The price of love is death.
Thank you for this video. My cat was recently diagnosed with cancer and renal disease. I'm terrible torn. It's like losing a child .
They are our furbabies. They are companions in life, just in a bit different form than humans. It is right to love them and grieve for them just as we do our human companions. I pray you have peace and will know what is right at the right time. May your memories be full of joy as you let go of the sorrow.
My 15 year old tom cat Flynn was diagnosed with Pancreas Cancer more than 2 years ago.
His medication since then is a Prednisolon Tablet a day and he is still fine.
By now he's also developed a bit of Arthritis in his left shoulder and get's also Treatment for that.
I still can't believe it, but I'm so happy about it, that he is still OK.
My vet said just last time: It's almost a little wonder that he looks still so good ❤❤
I see just 2 Signs in him, more sleeping and a bit of a weight loss, but that's it, at least for now.
I love this little Guy so much 😻
ThaX for this vid!
Greetings from Germany 🙋
I just had to make that tough call this weekend for my 13 year old cat. She was having litterbox accidents and developed a bloody diarrhea. She was affectionate, had a good appetite and drank lots of water. Other than the bloody stool you'd never know she had any issues. The vet did an exray and it showed constipation and a grayish mass at her rectum. They gave her an enema and she was finally able to relieve herself but the mass exposed itself. Rather than prolonging her suffering, I decided to let her go. 😢
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Mine left 10 months ago. He hid for 2 weeks (I thought he had escaped his very nice prison). Then one morning I found his remains roughly 3 days afterwards. He passed warm, dry, comfortable, and on his own terms.
Thank You for putting out this Video,,, I struggled with putting down my Cat,,, I did not know if I did the right thing at the time and it bothered me for Years... But after watching this Video I now know all the sighns were there... You have me peace by putting out this Video,,,, Thank You so much...
Of course it's a hard decision to make but It's the final act of love making sure your beloved cat or dog doesn't suffer anymore than they have too.
Our 13 yr old cat had the RAI for weightloss, then a year or so after, the CKD appeared and freq trips to the vet for vomiting to get fluids. She eventually really slowed down and you could see it in her face and she had that smell Dr Wooten was talking about. She still ate and used the litter box even though her back legs were beginning to not cooperate very well. She was such a good cat. The day we decided to take her on the one way car ride, she managed to walk into the kitchen to lay in the sun at the back door that morning and that surprised me because she was really having trouble walking. Made me tear up seeing her there. My older son came to spend cuddle time with her before we went for that car ride.
Our calico, Angel.
Thanks for this. I watched this video two days before I had to say goodbye to my 18 yr old cat and one day before our last trip to a vet. I had her for about a year and a half. This video encouraged me to tell the vet everything I noticed in my cat in the last few weeks and months, and because of that and a physical examination, the vet said it was clear my cat had cancer. It was in a late stage. One big sign was she stopped grooming, but besides that the cancer clearly damaged her eye and jaw and that made eating very difficult. I'm grateful I could say goodbye to her and let her go peacefully in her favorite spot in our home. But I miss her a lot.
The question, "Are you doing it for the cat, or are you doing it for *you*?" is the most important one you can ask. Many cats live long lives these days, but it's not the length but the quality that matters. I have some regrets about decisions made at the end of some of our cats' lives, however we did the very best we could, under the circumstances. And not all Vets are as concerned as Dr. Wooten about the animal. A couple we have dealt with, in emergency situations, were far more focused on milking the very last cent out of us, while our cat was in agony. On the other hand, we've had some Vets step in and save our precious cats for very little. We have two (cats not vets) now and I dread the day we lose them, as they will be our last due to our ages - 80/85.
The second one is so true! I take of rescue horses, and we had a large pony in his mid-twenties who was happily eating and acting normal during the day and passed over night. During the night, he walked to the corner of his paddock between the fencing and a tree and peacefully went to sleep. It was sad to walk into the barn in the morning to see that, but we were happy he had a good last 7 years with us, and he got to choose when it was time.
I miss my Pip so much. She disappeared one morning and never came back… I knew after she never returned that she wasn’t coming home. Most of these signs showed up during her last year of life. This video hurts but is very informative and now makes sense even a year after she left. Thank you for this information.
I wish I could give her a hug and let her know how much is missed. 😭💔❤
I feed homeless cats. There was a male cat. He had left ear with birth defect (it was small and looked funny). I named him _Holyfield_
He was older, slow. He was very nice cat.
There was time, he was limping.
Because he was stray and I couldn't come close to him and there is no vet would want to treat homeless/stray cat.
It's been several months now that he stopped come to eat. I think he passed away.
I'm sad and I miss him 😥 but I'm sure he was so nice cat, he would go to heaven.
Your video on “end of life” reassured me that my recent decision was the best for my cat
I lost my cat 13 days ago after 12 years suddenly and it was soo heartbreaking. She stopped eating and drinking and I could not get her to the vet til the next week and the day before her vet visit she got worse, so with no ER vet near by she went an hour away and it was decided to put her to sleep. I had her for 12 years live alone, and was going through a lot losing my dad 14 months eariler then job loss eariler this year. Hardest time of my life. I have my cats ashes & paw prints, but cant display them.... Please Hug and take care of your cats as mine was here one day then gone the next. Its the worst pain ever and she hid it well. She never cried in pain, or howled just slept a lot, stopped eating, then by the time she got to the ER vet she was turning cold.... Love you Whitney miss you!!!
I have 7 of 10. He have 14 years. He breathed today sooo hard with open mouth and was so hard to breath. We went to vet he have fluid in lungs. Hearth problem. Vet said Treatment can't not help and he will be suffer more. We say today goodbye. I still cry. So painful...😭
It is very difficult to lose a cat to illness/ old age. I’ve lost 2 cats. Everyone grieves differently. Hopefully, happy memories with your cat will outnumber the sad ones in time. 🌸
I keep having to say goodbye to my kitty friends. They have all been good friends for many years but they get old and leave this world. One was only 10 years old and she had kidney failure which would have been ok if she had a second as a backup but x-rays showed that she was born with only one. I miss her so much :( We have a 16 yo ginger boy who is the sweetest but he just keeps losing weight no matter how much he eats. After 800 bucks in vet bills the vet said he is just spoiled. Well he is 16 and we will spoil him while we can. I'm so tired of saying goodbye to kitties but I cannot bare to be without them. I will keep rescuing them and I hope some day to meet them all again on the other side.
I have had cats all my life. Some have disappeared (a day or two before their scheduled euthanasia), others that let me take that final step with them. NGL, it always hurts and it never gets easier, but I've always wanted my face to be the last thing they see, my voice to comfort them and my touch to hold them. They gave me all of themselves while they lived with me. The very least I can do is be there at the end.
In 2017, our 21 year old cat was starting to get more unable to do anything. She had arthritis, she was deaf and also stricken with kidney disease and, we suspect, a bit of dementia. One evening, she showed an interest in me and I put a big heavy blanket on the floor and sat on it. She came over and laid down next to me with her forehead resting against my thigh. After about half an hour, she crept away to the floor vent that was blowing out warm air. In the morning I came downstairs and she was still lying there unmoved. I patted her and she made a little chattering meow-like sound but didn't move. I knew it was time to go. I took her to the vet that morning. No running from the carrier and hiding. No fighting being placed inside. She was ready and it was time.
What a beautiful person! I see your empathy coming out in this video, and it moves me. I could never be a vet because I would be triggered all the time. And yet, here you are. You are much stronger than I am. Thank you for being the person that you are and the vet that you've become. Great video about things that need to be said. God bless.
Saying farewell to my senior Benji was heartbreaking. I still ache but am so grateful he was a part of my life.
My 14 year old cat was fine and then one day I noticed her breathing was wrong. Took her in to the vet immediately and within 2 days I had to put her down due to all of the internal fluid making it impossible to breathe. The decision was easy to make because she couldn't get oxygen but it broke my heart. I didn't expect to lose her so suddenly. The sweetest cat. Thank you for this video.
This was very helpful. I had to make the hard decsision yesterday. My sweet Mimi was 17 years old. Mimi displayed all of these symptoms and I just could not allow her to suffer. Arthritis, fatigue, hding, chronic kidney etc. Miss my girl so much😢😢
Thank so much for this video. I have had cats throughout my lifetime and have seen most of the 10 observations you discussed so well. Using a calendar is a wonderful tool.
Outside of losing a child , spouse or parent making the decision to peacefully euthanize allows them to go without pain and the fear I know they must feel inside. It is one of the most painful decisions I’ve ever made. And I still (on occasion) shed tears when I remember the many moments we’d had together. But I do realize it was the best decision for him. Your love you had for him or her doesn’t stop. The memories become so precious. ❤️ to all.
This was a very difficult video to watch but an important one.
Hugs♡ to those watching this and going through the painful decision of saying goodbye. I've had to say goodbye to 3 furbabies over the years: Sam, Penny, and Misha❤ I will always love you! It doesn't get easier. I currently have a senior cat, Bella. I'm so grateful 🙏 ❤ for every moment that I have with her and that she's still happy and healthy.
Thank you so much for this video.
I had this experience earlier this year with my elderly cat Teazer. It was so terribly sad and difficult to say goodbye, but she was experiencing many of the causes of concern mentioned here, and the only possible treatments available were very likely to see her back at the vets in a month's time, and were unlikely to make her comfortable. It was a shock to realise the severity of the situation, we thought we might have longer with her and would be taking her home, but after hearing the situation, I couldn't let her and didn’t want her to suffer.
Some relatives of mine had a cat, Holly, who was undergoing treatment, but it was quite a sudden thing where she became very unwell in the night and they weren't awake to see the situation and call the vets. They feel that she had clearly had a lot of trouble with toileting during her passing. Poor thing.
Sorry if that's upsetting to read, but I mention it because it was somewhere in the back of my mind when we had to say goodbye to Teazer, and we took what we felt was the kindest option.
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Bless you for making this video. It is a heart wrenching subject. Your advice is all good. As a cat man for years, I have seen many get to the end of their days. Putting them down while cradling them in your arms is the best way as they go to sleep. Let their pain go as they pass the rainbow bridge. One of our cats passed away with a heart attack or series of them. As he lay dying in my son's arms he was comforted. It was bewildering for us as to what was happening, as he would fall over with pained miaows, pant, and they stagger to his feet again, only to repeat until he could do no more but have the final cuddle. It was quick no more than 10 minutes or so. He was very ill with one kidney failed, and a liver that was failing as well. The next day he was going to the vets for the final injection.
I can hear the emotion in your voice. I’ve always watched and listened to my cats and they have had their ways of letting me know when it’s time, along with my wonderful vet. Only once was that decision sudden; when my big orange guy had a heart attack in front of me. The ER vet was incredibly kind in the middle of the night, and very caring. It is not an easy thing. Veterinarians aren’t appreciated enough. Thank you.
Thank you for validating our decision.
I had dear old Rueben for 17 years and he developed a kind of cat influenza (can't remember the name!). We tried our best to nurse him and follow instructions, but you could see the poor thing wasn't getting better. When you see your little friend, obviously not improving and you know how uncomfortable they are, you get to a point where you don't want your little friend to be in pain and discomfort when it isn't just going to be a couple of days and they'll be better. It took me many years to get my next kitty and I hope it's many more years before I have to seriously think of such things again!
Our oldest cat is 23 years old. We keep her in the kitchen in her bed with disposable wee pads. She is still feisty and bossy even though she is thinning. She eats wet food and treats. We know she is nearing the end of her time with us. There are things you touched on that we see. She doesn’t seem to want to go yet and we know she will tell us. 😢
Something that wasn't mentioned is that when a sick (elderly) cat is imminently about to pass away they can suddenly perk up and seem to appear to be just fine like they used to be and want to go outside or go hide somewhere. This happened to my beloved first cat Domino. She had been enduring CKD for several years and had starting losing weight because she'd lost interest in eating. Not knowing what to do I started syringe feeding her in the mornings to try and help her gain back some weight. A couple of hours after I first syringe-fed her one morning, she perked up and seemed just like her normal self (that I hadn't seen for several months) and wanted to go outside (she was an indoor/outdoor cat). I mistakenly saw this as her feeling much better and that the syringe-feeding was actually working so I went out for the afternoon, denying her the option to go outside and came back later only to find her hiding in her favourite sunshine spot having difficulty breathing and giving this awful 'pain meow' whenever I tried to touch her to comfort her. She died several hours later as we were driving to the vet (which was a 3 hour drive away!). Domino was 16.5 years old.
I'm sorry you lost your cat that way. It must have been awful for both her and you. My cat also had one day at the end when he perked up, asked to go out, and took a walk to the other end of the block. Two neighbors were so surprised to see him that they let me know about it. He came home after a short while, but had to be euthanized the next day. I've read that some people also rally shortly before they die.
What you said about the cat perking up before they passed away people that are in the hospital that happens to them as being a nurse I've seen this so many times when the person is very ill the one day just perk up and seem like everything's great and then they end up passing it's strange and I don't have an answer for it but I believe the best thing that you can do for your cat or your dog would ever pet you may have which I have cats and believe me I love them so much I've already lost two and the second one he happened to die in my arms at home I had an appointment for him that day to have him put down because I knew that the day before the way he was acting and thank you to the vet for giving us those 10 signs I have a cat now that is 15 and I constantly see if she's breathing when she's sleeping and I come out at night that type of thing but she's just healthy and normal so as long as she keeps going and I keep going and my other one then we're just happy😊
Excellent mind set. So hard to let go. But it is a best last gift to your beloved cat.❤
I had to make the decision to euthanize my kitty cat, Susie. She was old, had lost a lot of weight and struggled to breathe. It was awful to watch. I've wondered about my decision for three years because I loved her so much and I miss her a lot. This video answered my questions about my decision and I feel peaceful about it for really the first time. Thank you so much for your help!
My cat is 11 now. And I am getting very scared. I think watching these content while my cat is not that close to the end yet is better in preparation for that time. It made me teary. It is gonna be hard. I have to remember what you said that they have done so much for me, so it is time that I do the right thing for them. My only wish is I am there when they pass. I wanna be able to hug and kiss them before they leave me.
For my senior cat with CKD, the sign was when I woke up and he was sleeping at my feet, and not on my pillow.
I would have missed it if I had to rush out of bed. He was himself the day before, so this turned out to be pancreatitis. It was his second attack in the year so it was time to say goodbye.
Changes of behaviour are not always obvious like hiding on a closet.
There is hiding in plain sight.
Thank you. Holding back tears, but better to be aware than clueless.
Thank you so much for making this video. I went through this 3 weeks ago. My cat exhibited all of the symptoms you described although not all were drastic. We never knew how old she was when she joined our family because she had been a stray. Our vet said she was a senior cat but without any chronic conditions. Over the last few months my cat slept more and had less energy but still loved to cuddle and even play a little bit. She napped more in a dark corner of our closet or in boxes instead of her cat tree but she still took interest in looking outside from her perch, or even hanging out on the deck, and exploring the yard. At some point I noticed the breath coming from her nose smelled “off” as you described but not consistently so I wasn’t sure if it was my imagination. When she stopped eating and drinking for almost 2 days we took her to the vet but blood tests, x-rays, and ultrasound did not reveal an underlying cause. My cat was impacted which I thought might have been the reason she did not eat or drink and became dehydrated. I asked for IV fluids to rehydrate followed by steps to remove the impaction under sedation. (I saw that approach work for grandma!) After almost a day it was clear my baby had given up and we euthanized her. Except for the Xray I was with her the entire time so she wasn’t alone. From this video I realize my cat was at the end of her life. I miss her 💔
My 17 year old cat of my childhood died in her sleep on her favorite chair for sleeping. We saw no signs of suffering so sometimes you get lucky with a pain free and peaceful passing. 😻🙏
I have a 22 yr old cat in stage 2 kidney disease. He's not showing all of these signs, but he's showing about half of them. I didn't understand what I was seeing. Thank you for this post. I feel better prepared.
Thank you for this compassionate and much needed video. ❤️
Yikes, that tuxedo cat looks just like my 17 year old girl, Fog, how chilling that you would show a cat with the black stripe down the nose and a white line up the side of her face, though Fog's white stripe is on the opposite side! I'll take that as a sign. Yes this video did give me a teary.
They bring us so much joy that I feel it outweighs the sorrow when we have to let them go. My last 2 cats 16 yrs and 18 yrs old died after long illnesses. I had them euthanized at home by a vet. I was able to hold them and they passed peacefully. I also had discussions with my vet before and she understood when the time came I didn't want to prolong their lives for me. I think keeping track with a calender is an excellent idea.
I had a family dog named Patches live until she was 17.
She had a lot of health issues and at the time she was at the end of her life. My parents were caring for her when she died, and I had already moved out of their house. She suffered from seizures and memory loss. To the point where she didn’t recognize anyone anymore. She suffered a tremendous amount and no matter what the veterinarian told my parents about how it was time to think about euthanasia they wouldn’t hear it. She died suffering, and I truly wish I could go back in time and advocate for her. RIP Patches ❤ I will do better for my pets when their time comes in her honor.
My 12 year old male tabby is sleepier than usual but otherwise none of the symptoms apply. He seems happy, smiles, interacts with me, and is quite active when he is awake.
My sweet little kitty cat Poppy 2 and 1/2 days in a row she wasn't eating so we brought her to the doctor and they said her temperature was 97 and they put her on IV and some type of antibiotic a few hours later she died I'm so devastated we don't even know what is wrong and I brought her to a place to get her autopsy I have been boiling my eyeballs out and crying so much I love that little girl so much I found her as a little baby I heard her crying from far away she was under a porch We were so bonded I have many other cats but you know they're all different and she was just so bonded to her mommy and I feel so lost without her 😭💔 She was only one and a half years old
Your video fills a huge gap in what pet owners don't know, but really do need to know; so thank you so much! I'm saving this for when the next time comes. ☺💗💗💗
Thanks for this video. My cat is 12 and still in great health, but I'm becoming increasingly aware the clock is ticking. I haven't had to deal with a pet passing away before, and it will hopefully still be a long time before I need to, but having some structure on how to approach it when needed is already helpful to my peace of mind right now.
Sometimes your older cat is having tooth pain and is not eating because of that. Kitty just needs her teeth removed so that she can eat again. This is a common procedure.
Issues with urinating and defecating can be arthritis in back legs. Also, if kitty is on a pain med, make sure she gets a laxative.
i have had cats for years now since a young child always been cats in my life i am now retired rescuer that's where most of mine came from have lost so many through old age illness and killed its never easy to see them when ill or dying i have a great vet she is so helpful and tells me how it is i once said please dont sugar coat it tell me truthfully what i need to know and so on i haven't found a better vet then her when i had to put some of mine to sleep through illness or old age problems she was so compassionate and kind when doing it let me hold them till passed then helped me put back into carrier she gave them so much dignity she made it so much easer for me to say bye its never easy when we have to say by to them i have had cats who died at home in my arms peacefully ad to put some out of their pain with vets and through kidney disease or thyroid problems turned to kidney problems liver problems but i always said i would never let any of my cats suffer its great if you can get a vet that is good with you and the animals some are just in it for the money some not just find the right vet for you and your animals and then it be better when the time comes
I was very traumatized by one time that I decided to euthanize my cat with cancer. He was very weak, but he seemed to function OK. I made the choice take him to my equine vet who also treated small animals to have him put "to sleep" as it used to be called, I just know that something wasn't done correctly. I still get nightmares when I think of it. He started crying and mewling the minute we got there. I tried comforting him, but he wouldn't stop. When the vet started to inject him, he started crying louder and plaintiffly as though begging me NOT to let him do this. The vet called in the technician to hold him while it was being done. He was sill crying once the injection was over, so I held him close and rocked him while I cuddled him and talked soothingly to him until after a good minute or two, I realized that he had finally stopped crying. Then I started bawling 😢. I always felt that he must have been nervous about doing it, was not doing it corectly. I was so traumatized that I just couldn't bring myself to go through that again. When my Golden Retriever was at the end, it was obvious. I still hesitated until the next day. My mother and I made a blanket stretcher to get him in the car, and when we got to my vet ( a different one at this point)I went to tell them and the vet and tech came out with a stretcher. Just a little background here:My big boy was used to going for a weekly arthritis injection and they always made a fus over him.....he liked going there. Now I always remember this part as though it was yesterday. They put the stretcher down in the exam room, and I sat on the floor and stroked his head saying "It's OK, Champ. they will help you". He lifted his head, looked around, recognized where he was and thumped his tail twice, putting his head down with a sigh, as if he knew that I had finally understood what he needed and took him to his friends who would help him end his suffering. The vet cane in a moment later and gave him the injection like he had been giving him his arthritis one for ages. It was over in a few seconds, and he looked peacefully asleep.
He had helped me get over my trauma.
A few days later a condolences card came through the mail from my vet telling me how sorry he was that Champs' time had come, and that he would miss seeing him as he had been, and always would be his "Best Boy". 🐕 I knew that I had made the right decision, just like I knew that when it came to my Skooter 🐈.....something was wrong.
This was a wonderful video, even it difficult and sad to watch. All I can say is: Find a Vet you trust, that your animals trust (you can tell) and establish a relationship with them. It will bring you peace of mind during the the tough/sad times.
We said goodbye to sweet 14 year old lady, Baby 😢 Three months ago. I made the mistake of letting her go peacefully at home. Turns out to be not such a peaceful ending. I know this because I've done it the other way with 2 other fur-babies in the past. We just didn't want Baby to suffer the car ride experience. Since then, I've learned that there are in home services who will come to aid and help with a gentle transition.
Always opt for sedation before the final shot. I was advised as my boy was older the veins may be harder to get to if they’re sedated. It was the wrong advice. Next time I’ll go for sedation first.