Trust me ladies, if there was a massive amount of good men, it wouldn’t be as many single women as it is now! Not every woman is single because she is doing something wrong.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 yes sister I literally know so many great amazing kind hearted women. Other than my daddy RIP and a few good men in our family and some has past on. It really isn’t a lot of good men out here at all. I wish we could be really honest in these types of conversation.
Exactly 💯% Facts The only thing Tony is saying in this video is manipulation and control… It’s so sad some women don’t have eyes to see and ears to hear and taking this advice.
I believe both men and women need positive verbal affirmation. Each individual plays a role in the relationship; therefore, both people need to hear kind words from their partner. I've been married for 7 1/2 years, and I always handwrite or make a postcard for my husband to let him know how much we appreciate him. Honestly, I can count how many times he wrote back to me. I don't complain because I love seeing his facial expressions each time he reads my notes. Proverbs 16:24 Kind words are like honey- sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
I don't think men understand that when they see a woman model certain behavior, they should use that info to figure out how to tend to her. Sometimes we find ourselves having to teach a man how to love us.
It depends on the caliber of the man/woman we are with. I loved affirming my husband (RIP) and he responded in a similar way - very loving and caring. We communicated this early to each other, and it made all the difference. We surprised each other with little notes/cards. Years later I met someone who said he felt that I should just know that he appreciated me. A totally different mind set. I felt like I needed a chrystal ball! Needless to say I ended it for other serious reasons. It was an early red flag! 🚩
Affirming your man should definitely be the standard! It doesn’t hurt to praise your man and simply be appreciative. A spirit of gratitude goes a looooong way!
Men and women need to communicate. Tell him what you want and need. Tell her what you want and need. If you cannot meet his/her needs, walk away. Do not stay and be miserable. If you want to play, do not get married.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I have a GREAT man. I have been cooking and cleaning and doing domestic things as this is all I really knew. I thought those things were how we show our love and appreciation. Us women need to be taught how to affirm our men and not just doing housework or raising children. I’m going to take this message and apply it to my relationship. It explains some of the issues we’ve had. He needs to HEAR the words. Thanks Tony💕
Tony I listen to all of your videos and I agree with them very much so. This one, however, I can’t say I do. It almost seems as if you’re saying men are doing women a favor by not cheating when in fact, they are doing themselves a favor.. just my thoughts 🤷🏾♀️ Not saying I have a problem with affirmation, I just feel it goes both ways
No he is saying there aren't a lot of good and responsible men out there. A lot of good men complain they get left out and grown boys get all the praise, attention etc. If you have got a good man don't just show him, good men need those affirmation words because they rarely get it.
Literally! Cheating could hurt his health. You are not doing me any favors. Also doing things you are supposed to do like provide. We don't get praise or thanks for not cheating and doing what we are supposed to do as an adult.
I think Tony was going through something personal in this video...I love his videos, I've watched many of them. In a past video he explained that women should wait until marriage for sex and if a man loves them he will wait. He said "sex is not that serious" and he should wait. Now he's saying that basically cheating for men is natural while comparing it to a lion who hunts... Contradiction. A lion hunting is for survival not the same as cheating at all. BTW if fake lashes bother a man he should simply tell his wife. Tell her she's beautiful without it. She'll stop wearing them. Simple.
•Don’t miss the message ladies! His message seems to be sending out a bat signal for the “pick mes” to flood the comment section hoping to subconsciously sooth insincerities and feelings of inadequacy through comparison. By stating how they aren’t like THOSE women who wear makeup, lashes or whatever else. 🤦🏾♀️ His message is to express the importance of affirming our men. Giving thanksgiving to their sacrifices, hard work and devotion. Natural or beauty enhancements, become intentional about showing gratitude towards a man’s efforts and actions. 💛
Thank you for the tip. I offered a laundry list of affirmations when my husband called (on the spot). I have to work at it too. We didn't experience affirmations growing up in our home. Plus, my husband and I had a hard last few years. I learned, I have to find the hero in my husband again. Through the power of prayer, the Word, and vessels GOD use like yourself. Thank you for being a vessel TG
I get what you're saying but wearing lashes isn't hurting anyone though. No feelings are involved. With cheating we all know that people get shattered emotionally by that. I feel it should be equated to if a woman is being faithful then her husband shoukd be also. They're both making the same sacrifice.
We have to unlearn some of the bad things from generations and make more positive decisions and train our minds to spread that to our families, spouses, children and in our friendships as well. Thank you Tony 🙏🏽
I’m sorry but I couldn’t receive this message. It came off as if men were doing us a favor by not cheating. I understand men and woman are different but I don’t want anyone to do me any favors. Very disappointing message.
Yup, he missed the mark here. Nobody thanks us for doing what we sre supposed to do. Cheating hurts the cheater too. Their health alone is a consequence
Thank God you are destined to set a more perfect example for Men and Women. I thank you for the insights you have shared. I was married in 1975 to my college sweetheart (41 year imperfectly loving relationship) until Andy died in 2014). I miss him so much. It helps to hear what men and women are thinking so I share your work with my single sons.Hope my sons saw me respecting their Dad and verbally saying thank you .
I get what he is saying. It can be a similar mentality like a lot of black men from back in the day who preferably dated white women had and some still have. A lot of black men and black women who date white people feel that the white people will be more passive and giving in every way than a black or other minority person wil. And I know plenty of black men and women who date and/or marry white people
@@trishmalone5639 what I’m saying is in my experience black women are not dating and actually marrying for the purpose Tony or you mentioned. It’s to actually have great relationships. If you look at the statistics of divorce rates of white men/black women vs black men/ white women that proves otherwise as well. Lots of black women simply want a happy healthy nuclear family structure that will actually last that doesn’t include the typical behavior we see from a significant portion of men who look like us. Zach Stacy the former NFL play proved exactly Tony and your point of dating out “to talk to someone any kind of way and hoping the partner is more passive”. I’m black and I don’t see a man who is at the top of society as “passive”, it’s just not true. The inflection in their voices may be different but to describe the men who on average hold more resources as “passive” just isn’t accurate. Only people who don’t understand economics would think such a thing lol. I think the reasons bm and bw date out are just different and there’s nothing wrong with telling the complete truth about it. Bw’s reasons are for security and better treatment where as bm’s reasons are normally for aesthetics and “preference”. Men lie women lie but numbers don’t. Nonetheless I still enjoys Tony’s content.
@@Esth3rthechosenone I agree with what you are saying. But we both probably would agree that there are multiple sides to a coin. We cannot pretend that things are just One Way. As I said, interracial dating is nothing new to me or many in my family or friends and associates. As for the "white men treat you better" mentality, I say men are men. A quality man black, white or any other race will treat you well. A black man of economic means is financially stable and will treat you well too. High earning and high value of any race will give a similar experience. What you are saying does very much apply to higher educated, higher earners who Value themselves. Having more resources does not make always mean a person has higher self esteem and self value. I find that in diverse affluent suburban areas, the interracial couples are more equally yoked. I find that in the less affluent areas, you do find a lot of the Zach Stacy mindset and behavior. You also have white men who are controlling and have infidelity and domestic violence issues too. That behavior is not limited to black men as it is portrayed to be. Some black women drink that Kool-Aid because of the black men that they have encountered. The type white woman that Zach Stacy had exist too. After they sentenced him, I saw her on television saying that she did not want him to go to jail. Yes, these type relationships Do exist! Yes, there are also some black women who feel that the "black girl magic" allows her to do whatever she wants with "the white boy". There are also black women who do prefer other race men for "aesthetic" reason too. Let's not be unrealistic and deny that "light bright and good hair" IS a thing in some black people. Interracial does produce biracial children which can be a preference for some of these black women. Remember, back in the day like the 80s, 90s and before, many black women were trying to marry and have babies with the "light skinned brother with the pretty hair" like Genuwine, Al B. Sure, Prince , the DeBarges and more. Colorism and featurism IS still a thing. In any relationship dynamic, interracial or monoracial, there are going to be people who come with an agenda. Not Every person of Any race has the right mindset about relationship. And no it's not all about economics. Anyone who thinks that just because a person is white really has little understanding of what other races of people are achieving in today's world. I am not just reading statistics, I am also observing situations that I have seen and know of personally. I like that you and I can both respectfully express our viewpoints. Neither one of us is right or wrong. And I, too, do enjoy Tony's content😊
When I listen to your description of what a man is, I pretend I’m reading an ad. When I see what is being presented in that ad, I don’t want it. Thank you for all the work you do to help others Tony.
As simple as this message appears, it's also dangerous. I am a person who affirms naturally so that's not the issue. It's the juxtaposition of affirming a man up against losing him. There is a discrepancy in the man's ability to personally hold himself accountable here. If that is not a possibility because of the difficulty then there is no need to proclaim leadership. Leadership is hard, maybe you're not there yet. Maybe there are too many husbands who haven't evolved to actual leadership verses manufactured leadership. You'd never say to soldiers, "understand that's it hard for your General to be disciplined." What do mean? Winning a war is on the line and I'm following you. If you're not capable maybe you're not ready. Find the path of your own Hero's Journey and follow it so you come out a made man who has mastered himself. If not, wives will continue to be held responsible for things God is only going to talk to his son about.
Definitely some marriage nuggets being dropped here! Alters are for sacrificing even WEDDING ALTERS. You have to be willing to kill “single” you for “married” us. ❤
That's why the apostle Paul said those who marry will face many troubles in this life and how he said this because he wanted to spare many of those troubles.
When is Jesus coming back🥴I want a man who will DELIGHT in doing so regardless & could care less what the MASSES are doing. We ALL have to give an account to God on JUDGEMENT DAY!! Sisters & brothers, we got this in Jesus name🙏🏾❤️
You are so real for this. Bc I’m a good woman who loves the Lord and is celibate. Not because it’s popular or unpopular, but because God requires that of me! And I’m scared of God tbh 😂 I’d rather be pure and go to Heaven than be popular on the way to hell Hoping more people do what’s RIGHT regardless of who approves. God’s approval matters way more
Mr. Tony I appreciate your messages. You were the only man to express a man in his natural form. Describing both good men and bad men (grown boys). Because of you I understand a man more. So happy you continue to make videos. Commitment for men and women can be challenging. I haven't met one woman to say "Yes I'm so excited to marry this good man and look forward to washing his dirty boxers all the time". Vice versa. I have yet to hear a man say "I'm happy to be marrying the woman of my dreams and look forward to seeing her dread monthly cycles". To each situation is their own. I'm saying commitment has its challenges at times but is achievable. Look at what we go through being committed to The Lord and He is Excellent. So human to human contact takes extra strides to be committed
9:00 another example too is as we do for our children even though we are supposed to provide for them we still want to instill gratitude in their hearts it’s the same. I was married to a complete narcissist but woman to woman you know when you have a good man. And if appreciation is not being shown I’d say resentment is in that woman’s heart and that needs to be tended to. Sometimes it’s a very specific need a woman has and feels is being neglected. But yeah nothing more important then a good man for it is from the head the oil flows. Thank you good men for being a MAN!
when you say "asking a man to be faithful is like asking a lion not to hunt" that's not Biblical. What you feed is what will grow, you feed your flesh it will get thirstier. it's called sustaining. Men don't resist, they don't curb their appetite. They feed that desire, that's why it's so strong. Men give themselves a lot of excuses when it comes to this area. I'm not saying it's easy, but men give themselves excuses in this area. they obey their pens. I'm not saying not to affirm, but we surely don't give women this same grace, we are hoes, sluts, lose for acting on this same nature, we are shamed. And Im not saying I want to hoe around, but could I give myself that same excuse, I could but society frowns on this for women. Lashes and cheating ant the same. Sorry Tony, love you bro, but no. Yes, to affirming your man, no pacifying cheating. It's hard for fat people not to want cake, but that's no excuse to indulge and society doesn't let us make excuses. It's indulging.
That’s my love language to a man I love. Affirming their efforts and speaking life into their future. I believe God even more after hearing this. Let’s me know never to change and the right man will be grateful for that attribute ❤ Ty Tony!
Thank u for your wise words. I’m getting remarried and I’m welcoming of advice that explains what a man needs to be happy. I’m fully invested in getting it right this time.
Thank you for being a great man, Mr. Gaskins. This was a powerful message. 🔥 Update: As I was reading the Bible, I came across this verse and it made me think of your message. 😮🙌🔥 “Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to give recognition to those who labor among you and lead you in the Lord and admonish you,” 1 Thessalonians 5:12 CSB
Listen! Thank you! Because when i get my husband, u definitely giving some keys, keys God gave already but we need reminders and thats what the Bible is, a reminder of the Love, mercy, grace, will and Son of God
Good morning Mr. Gaskins, I just wanted to say Thank you so much for saving my life with the information you have been teaching for all these years. I started listening to you in 2018 and my life has never been the same! I believe God has transformed your life to help millions of women and I cannot thank you enough. Your generosity and the insight you share with the world will never be forgotton and I pray you go on to live a prosperous wealthy, healthy life for you and your family. Keep fighting the good fight of Faith, Many Blessings to you and God speed!!!
True, I can't tell you how many men praise me for not getting lashes, weave or eyebrows done. I take care of and make the best of what God gives me and keep it moving. I agree it's so important to affirm a man, especially when men are trashing women, talking down to women, and abusing them.
However, getting weave isn’t always a style thing or doing it because of self esteem. I wear it because I had an accident which tore off a lot of my scalp so I have irreversible patchy bald spots
@@j-tenn226 A lot of them don't understand that a lot of women have hair issues due to alopecia, medication, stress, etc. You don't have to explain anything to them, because it is a waste of time! These same men will complain about a BW wearing a wig, weave, or extensions; yet turn around and work 2 jobs to pay for the same thing for Becky, Maria, and Ling Ling. Do you.
Thank you Tony! You encourage me to keep trusting God and BBB. I appreciate you being an Example of a " good man" A godly Example! God bless you! Stay true!
Well said! 👏🏽I agree women should praise their men with a smile as well as paying their tithes. Be thankful you have a men (as Tony said that alone is rare these days) and you are able to give into the kingdom of God!😇🙌🏽😇Be blessed and thanks for sharing your wisdom.🥰
Take it back to the last live: "the Navy, the Navy" 🙃😆. Men have real temptations and struggles. If a man can become a soldier 🪖 up to the high caliber of special forces, a man's eyes can struggle with wondering eyes for pretty women. It is a real test to live for God, be set a part. There are men who will do what others won't do. Anything we need to do: weed out lust and temptation for other women, being honest, putting family first, being financially sound, showing empathy, listening, seeking God as to how to lead a family, planning dates, calling first, being a giver, not giving into peer pressure.
What Tony is saying makes sense. It seems foreign to me growing up in a toxic environment. And then into toxic relationships. I want that type of relationship where I can give words of affirmation, and it is appreciated, and not taken for granted.
This is why Christ instructs "husband's love your own wife as Christ loves the church, so much that he gave his own life for her. Wives respect your own husbands" When we follow biblical patterns and principles we will be honorable towards each other and edifying your husband will be appetizing for the wife as she will enjoy the double honor that comes with submission to Christ's Lordship and submission to her husband. As women we have to understand there is no way to please Christ while dishonoring the husband. Just as the husband is a liar if he says, he loves Christ, yet avoids the cross assigned to his life. God instituted marriage and it only works efficiently when governed by His words. Cling to the pattern!
Thanks for the explanation in a way that is understandable to women. Makes total sense now. It’s the opposite of how women move… we do what we have to do with or without acknowledgment. Got it.
I've heard plenty men say that if they have options, they'll cheat. I'd like to know the deep root reasons behind this (aside from their woman not being affirming). I don't hear enough people talk about being real and talking about the issues in their relationship BEFORE they make a decision, and at that point the decision should be to LEAVE the relationship, not cheat. This is why I cannot understand a person who cheats because I see that as someone who is a liar, and I do not like or understand liars (I myself am brutally honest). It must be something more than the fact that there are a lot of women available. Could it be that these people never saw two people trying to talk out their differences? Or they were raised by a single parent so therefore don't know what a healthy relationship between two people looks like? I feel like there is something deeper. Can you talk about this so that we can learn how to try and avoid cheating behaviors in our children? Thanks 🙏🏾
A man once told me that they have a hard time finding a woman who can be an every woman type of woman so, that is why they cheat. There aren’t too many every woman women out there. And to add to it, a lot of women get comfortable and stop putting effort into keeping up their appearance in which what first caused him to look her way. The sentence “relationships are a lot of work”, is more than just cliche. So much effort goes into keeping the relationship afloat all the while keeping yourself afloat individually with responsibilities outside of the relationship. Just like you have women who have multiple of men for different things.
Such an awesome & insight message! Everyone needs to know they are loved & appreciated. We have to go the extra mile sometimes if it's not your ordinary. We have to take time to pay specific attention to our loved one, never get too comfortable, take it for granted & feel like " oh, I don'thave to say it, or show it, they knowhowI feel", Its surprising that how you think is nothing, can really be something. to someone else. To whom it may concern remember....the clean up woman in this case, (or man in another) is always waiting 🥰
This topic is so important- you have to know yourself and be honest with your weaknesses/ being self-aware and willing to work on them in order to match with who complements you. Gain the capacity to love someone the way THEY receive love, not what’s comfortable for you; it’s not just about you. And love yourself. I’ve always loved my natural self - my body shape/ proportions. My skin/ complexion, my curls, my lips. I may wear makeup on special occasions but mostly I just love a bare face; takes less time😂 but investing in self love/ care is important. Wishing this for more women🫶🏽
I def start to understand men more when I started watching your videos both good and bad . I feel like you’re right just how the good women get overlooked so do the men and the toxic grown boys get praised for bad behavior we definitely gotta do better
Thanks @Tony Gaskins.. This is confirmation from my ex. He told me last week out of all the stuff we've been through the ONE THING that he had beef with me was from how I talked to him! My spirit got IMMEDIATELY GRIEVED! I'm COMMITTED TO DOING BETTER!!!😢 Months ago he told me, I WANT YOU TO DATE other men, so you can REALLY SEE how it is out hear!
Hello🥺 I’m 23. I also didn’t have good character and didn’t know how to treat/talk to a man or conduct myself in a healthy way. I also lacked intergrity and the skills needed to have a good relationship. I discovered this through self reflection and have been trying to get in contact with God and learn to love him so I can love myself, then others . I wish to meet women like you in real life so we can inspire/encourage each other to be better women and wives .
Excellent message! Yes, last night was a great session. I'm so happy to be a part of the growth club. Listen! Beginning at point 33:37 made me shout praise. I'm so ready to stop playing and step out on what God has put on my heart. I know the investment I'm making into the Growth Club will help. Thanks Tony for having the vision!
So thankful to God that affirmation is one of my love languages to give and receive...I can't fathom how this is hard to do...but maybe I have to be in the situation to understand.
I do tell my Fiance' these things. I'm So Glad I don't have a Pride Issue. I Want him to know I Appreciate him for everything! Thanks 4 helping us Tony..Have a Blessed day in the Lord
Thanks for this information. Just makes sense. I thought I was the only woman being me (without all the extras). You say thank you to your man because “you” feel appreciated… that simple.
There is the real deal and there is the fake...you a real one and an example to the younger men coming up...be not conformed to this world, and also narrow is the way....true it is sad...Thank you for helping us to see better, and be aware.
Awesome message! Giving thanks has been demonstrated throughout the scriptures. Every epistle in the NT begins and ends with gratitude/verbal affirmations. Moreover, if men are the head of the wife AS Christ is the head of the church and the church is instructed to fervently give thanks to the Lord, then this "call to action" is directly aligned with scripture and what we're, as God-fearing women, are called to do. (Ephesians 5:22-23; Psalms 109:30) (For those who don't follow the faith, the requirement doesn't apply.)
I wish I could agree with the natural thing BUT I’ve always been natural, no lashes, wear my real hair and fit body. Not to mention I’m extremely friendly. I do not have good men knocking down my door, I never have and I’m 32. So if women want to do these things for themselves, I say go for it! I only attract creepy looking men especially at the gym. If I’m at the grocery store only men over 50 are looking my way! As far as the hair is concerned, in my opinion, black men loveeeee a good blowout/silk press. Technically yes, it’s my natural hair but that’s not it’s natural state🤦🏾♀️
So the moral of this store is get your baby out of him and move on. Ain't that what 72% of the black women been doing. This sounds like an argument for getting a white man. We tired of struggle love!
Tony I like you but,you’re tripping….Stopped watching at the 2:10 mark…Smh…You are not speaking from a God fearing stand point…Be careful…Your words are reaching the masses.
Tony I don’t think that at all about white men. I actually think that they are very powerful and possess resources and value the nuclear family dynamic which naturally promote submission and cooperation from women. I’ve never seen white men as weak at all. I think lots of women are realizing that some of them are actually great partners and marriage prospects. Not to exploit them or be predatory but to actually have great relationships with them. Great content by the way.
@@ecclairmayo4153 yeah because that was really confusing. The black women I know did not get with them to “talk to them any kind of way” they actually have functional relationships, marriages, well taken care of children, assets and trust funds. That alone is going to make a woman affirm on demand and talk to him nice 😂. Tony need to cut it out with that one.
I'm a rare woman then. I love my natural self. If I want to get jazzy for a special occasion, I'll get my hair done and/or makeup or lashes. It's not an everyday thing for me.
Imma praise my man. Sorry not sorry. God hasn’t Blessed me with a good man yet because I sure will not take him for granted. He will know how appreciated he is being a protector/ provider
I can't understand leaving black men to date white men but I know several black women that are doing it lol. God bless them but that's not for me 🤣 I believe one of these black men will do right one day 😭😩
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Trust me ladies, if there was a massive amount of good men, it wouldn’t be as many single women as it is now! Not every woman is single because she is doing something wrong.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 yes sister I literally know so many great amazing kind hearted women. Other than my daddy RIP and a few good men in our family and some has past on. It really isn’t a lot of good men out here at all. I wish we could be really honest in these types of conversation.
Agree
💯 Absolutely! Good men are not plentiful.
Exactly 💯% Facts
The only thing Tony is saying in this video is manipulation and control…
It’s so sad some women don’t have eyes to see and ears to hear and taking this advice.
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Some people don't know what they have till it's gone. Always be kind,grateful, and humble especially to people who are rare.
Yes, especially when they are rare.
Yes, specially when we the humble, good, kind people are rare
I believe both men and women need positive verbal affirmation. Each individual plays a role in the relationship; therefore, both people need to hear kind words from their partner. I've been married for 7 1/2 years, and I always handwrite or make a postcard for my husband to let him know how much we appreciate him. Honestly, I can count how many times he wrote back to me. I don't complain because I love seeing his facial expressions each time he reads my notes.
Proverbs 16:24
Kind words are like honey- sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
I don't think men understand that when they see a woman model certain behavior, they should use that info to figure out how to tend to her. Sometimes we find ourselves having to teach a man how to love us.
What’s interesting is men saying don’t talk to them like a child but then they want to be forgiven like a child for their child like ways.
It depends on the caliber of the man/woman we are with. I loved affirming my husband (RIP) and he responded in a similar way - very loving and caring. We communicated this early to each other, and it made all the difference. We surprised each other with little notes/cards. Years later I met someone who said he felt that I should just know that he appreciated me. A totally different mind set. I felt like I needed a chrystal ball! Needless to say I ended it for other serious reasons. It was an early red flag! 🚩
What men say vs who they pursue are different. Men don’t even know what’s natural
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A lot of them cant even tell a trannie different from a biological woman
Affirming your man should definitely be the standard! It doesn’t hurt to praise your man and simply be appreciative. A spirit of gratitude goes a looooong way!
Sounds like men have alot of healing to do ! Women need the patience of JOB out here!
Yup sounds like they need therapy
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Men and women need to communicate. Tell him what you want and need. Tell her what you want and need. If you cannot meet his/her needs, walk away. Do not stay and be miserable. If you want to play, do not get married.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I have a GREAT man. I have been cooking and cleaning and doing domestic things as this is all I really knew. I thought those things were how we show our love and appreciation. Us women need to be taught how to affirm our men and not just doing housework or raising children. I’m going to take this message and apply it to my relationship. It explains some of the issues we’ve had. He needs to HEAR the words. Thanks Tony💕
Tony I listen to all of your videos and I agree with them very much so. This one, however, I can’t say I do. It almost seems as if you’re saying men are doing women a favor by not cheating when in fact, they are doing themselves a favor.. just my thoughts 🤷🏾♀️ Not saying I have a problem with affirmation, I just feel it goes both ways
That’s exactly how I took it as well, that men are doing are doing us a favor by not cheating.
No he is saying there aren't a lot of good and responsible men out there. A lot of good men complain they get left out and grown boys get all the praise, attention etc. If you have got a good man don't just show him, good men need those affirmation words because they rarely get it.
Literally! Cheating could hurt his health. You are not doing me any favors. Also doing things you are supposed to do like provide. We don't get praise or thanks for not cheating and doing what we are supposed to do as an adult.
I think Tony was going through something personal in this video...I love his videos, I've watched many of them. In a past video he explained that women should wait until marriage for sex and if a man loves them he will wait. He said "sex is not that serious" and he should wait. Now he's saying that basically cheating for men is natural while comparing it to a lion who hunts... Contradiction. A lion hunting is for survival not the same as cheating at all. BTW if fake lashes bother a man he should simply tell his wife. Tell her she's beautiful without it. She'll stop wearing them. Simple.
•Don’t miss the message ladies! His message seems to be sending out a bat signal for the “pick mes” to flood the comment section hoping to subconsciously sooth insincerities and feelings of inadequacy through comparison. By stating how they aren’t like THOSE women who wear makeup, lashes or whatever else. 🤦🏾♀️ His message is to express the importance of affirming our men. Giving thanksgiving to their sacrifices, hard work and devotion. Natural or beauty enhancements, become intentional about showing gratitude towards a man’s efforts and actions. 💛
Say it for the folks in the back!
Thank you for the tip. I offered a laundry list of affirmations when my husband called (on the spot). I have to work at it too. We didn't experience affirmations growing up in our home. Plus, my husband and I had a hard last few years. I learned, I have to find the hero in my husband again. Through the power of prayer, the Word, and vessels GOD use like yourself. Thank you for being a vessel TG
You got this! May God continue to bless your union
I get what you're saying but wearing lashes isn't hurting anyone though. No feelings are involved. With cheating we all know that people get shattered emotionally by that. I feel it should be equated to if a woman is being faithful then her husband shoukd be also. They're both making the same sacrifice.
Right. Idk how a woman’s beauty regimen compares to cheating.
Thank you! Simple!❤️
We have to unlearn some of the bad things from generations and make more positive decisions and train our minds to spread that to our families, spouses, children and in our friendships as well. Thank you Tony 🙏🏽
I’m sorry but I couldn’t receive this message. It came off as if men were doing us a favor by not cheating. I understand men and woman are different but I don’t want anyone to do me any favors. Very disappointing message.
Yup, he missed the mark here. Nobody thanks us for doing what we sre supposed to do. Cheating hurts the cheater too. Their health alone is a consequence
Thank God you are destined to set a more perfect example for Men and Women. I thank you for the insights you have shared. I was married in 1975 to my college sweetheart (41 year imperfectly loving relationship) until Andy died in 2014). I miss him so much. It helps to hear what men and women are thinking so I share your work with my single sons.Hope my sons saw me respecting their Dad and verbally saying thank you .
I've never heard a woman say I want a white guy because I can talk to him any kinda way. 🤦🏾♀️
He made that up. Black males will say whatever it takes to make themsleves feel better about not stacking up to other groups of men
Never in a million years heard this. That was just intellectually dishonesty on Mr. Gaskins end. 😂😂😂
I get what he is saying. It can be a similar mentality like a lot of black men from back in the day who preferably dated white women had and some still have. A lot of black men and black women who date white people feel that the white people will be more passive and giving in every way than a black or other minority person wil. And I know plenty of black men and women who date and/or marry white people
@@trishmalone5639 what I’m saying is in my experience black women are not dating and actually marrying for the purpose Tony or you mentioned. It’s to actually have great relationships. If you look at the statistics of divorce rates of white men/black women vs black men/ white women that proves otherwise as well. Lots of black women simply want a happy healthy nuclear family structure that will actually last that doesn’t include the typical behavior we see from a significant portion of men who look like us. Zach Stacy the former NFL play proved exactly Tony and your point of dating out “to talk to someone any kind of way and hoping the partner is more passive”. I’m black and I don’t see a man who is at the top of society as “passive”, it’s just not true. The inflection in their voices may be different but to describe the men who on average hold more resources as “passive” just isn’t accurate. Only people who don’t understand economics would think such a thing lol. I think the reasons bm and bw date out are just different and there’s nothing wrong with telling the complete truth about it. Bw’s reasons are for security and better treatment where as bm’s reasons are normally for aesthetics and “preference”. Men lie women lie but numbers don’t. Nonetheless I still enjoys Tony’s content.
@@Esth3rthechosenone I agree with what you are saying. But we both probably would agree that there are multiple sides to a coin. We cannot pretend that things are just One Way. As I said, interracial dating is nothing new to me or many in my family or friends and associates. As for the "white men treat you better" mentality, I say men are men. A quality man black, white or any other race will treat you well. A black man of economic means is financially stable and will treat you well too. High earning and high value of any race will give a similar experience. What you are saying does very much apply to higher educated, higher earners who Value themselves. Having more resources does not make always mean a person has higher self esteem and self value. I find that in diverse affluent suburban areas, the interracial couples are more equally yoked. I find that in the less affluent areas, you do find a lot of the Zach Stacy mindset and behavior. You also have white men who are controlling and have infidelity and domestic violence issues too. That behavior is not limited to black men as it is portrayed to be. Some black women drink that Kool-Aid because of the black men that they have encountered. The type white woman that Zach Stacy had exist too. After they sentenced him, I saw her on television saying that she did not want him to go to jail. Yes, these type relationships Do exist! Yes, there are also some black women who feel that the "black girl magic" allows her to do whatever she wants with "the white boy". There are also black women who do prefer other race men for "aesthetic" reason too. Let's not be unrealistic and deny that "light bright and good hair" IS a thing in some black people. Interracial does produce biracial children which can be a preference for some of these black women. Remember, back in the day like the 80s, 90s and before, many black women were trying to marry and have babies with the "light skinned brother with the pretty hair" like Genuwine, Al B. Sure, Prince , the DeBarges and more. Colorism and featurism IS still a thing. In any relationship dynamic, interracial or monoracial, there are going to be people who come with an agenda. Not Every person of Any race has the right mindset about relationship. And no it's not all about economics. Anyone who thinks that just because a person is white really has little understanding of what other races of people are achieving in today's world. I am not just reading statistics, I am also observing situations that I have seen and know of personally. I like that you and I can both respectfully express our viewpoints. Neither one of us is right or wrong. And I, too, do enjoy Tony's content😊
When I listen to your description of what a man is, I pretend I’m reading an ad. When I see what is being presented in that ad, I don’t want it. Thank you for all the work you do to help others Tony.
As simple as this message appears, it's also dangerous. I am a person who affirms naturally so that's not the issue. It's the juxtaposition of affirming a man up against losing him. There is a discrepancy in the man's ability to personally hold himself accountable here. If that is not a possibility because of the difficulty then there is no need to proclaim leadership. Leadership is hard, maybe you're not there yet. Maybe there are too many husbands who haven't evolved to actual leadership verses manufactured leadership. You'd never say to soldiers, "understand that's it hard for your General to be disciplined." What do mean? Winning a war is on the line and I'm following you. If you're not capable maybe you're not ready. Find the path of your own Hero's Journey and follow it so you come out a made man who has mastered himself. If not, wives will continue to be held responsible for things God is only going to talk to his son about.
Bingo!!! Sorry, Tony is off on this one
Bro preaching to his wife 😂
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Amen 🙏🙌🏽 Tony I been applying your wisdom and I have seen such a change in my husband 💖 God bless your work tenfold
Definitely some marriage nuggets being dropped here! Alters are for sacrificing even WEDDING ALTERS. You have to be willing to kill “single” you for “married” us. ❤
EVERYBODY deserves PRAISE, but men need that extra You are doing a Great job.
Bless You Tony q great talk. ☺️
Hearing this IS SIMPLY PITIFUL!!!!!! QUESTION IS HOW MUCH LOVE AND FOLLOWING THE WORD OF THE BIBLE DID THEY REALLY Posses IS THE QUESTION!!!
That's why the apostle Paul said those who marry will face many troubles in this life and how he said this because he wanted to spare many of those troubles.
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When is Jesus coming back🥴I want a man who will DELIGHT in doing so regardless & could care less what the MASSES are doing. We ALL have to give an account to God on JUDGEMENT DAY!! Sisters & brothers, we got this in Jesus name🙏🏾❤️
You are so real for this. Bc I’m a good woman who loves the Lord and is celibate. Not because it’s popular or unpopular, but because God requires that of me! And I’m scared of God tbh 😂 I’d rather be pure and go to Heaven than be popular on the way to hell
Hoping more people do what’s RIGHT regardless of who approves. God’s approval matters way more
@@ninagrace-lee8323 EXACTLY!
Mr. Tony I appreciate your messages. You were the only man to express a man in his natural form. Describing both good men and bad men (grown boys). Because of you I understand a man more. So happy you continue to make videos. Commitment for men and women can be challenging. I haven't met one woman to say "Yes I'm so excited to marry this good man and look forward to washing his dirty boxers all the time". Vice versa. I have yet to hear a man say "I'm happy to be marrying the woman of my dreams and look forward to seeing her dread monthly cycles". To each situation is their own. I'm saying commitment has its challenges at times but is achievable. Look at what we go through being committed to The Lord and He is Excellent. So human to human contact takes extra strides to be committed
Amen
9:00 another example too is as we do for our children even though we are supposed to provide for them we still want to instill gratitude in their hearts it’s the same. I was married to a complete narcissist but woman to woman you know when you have a good man. And if appreciation is not being shown I’d say resentment is in that woman’s heart and that needs to be tended to. Sometimes it’s a very specific need a woman has and feels is being neglected. But yeah nothing more important then a good man for it is from the head the oil flows. Thank you good men for being a MAN!
when you say "asking a man to be faithful is like asking a lion not to hunt" that's not Biblical. What you feed is what will grow, you feed your flesh it will get thirstier. it's called sustaining. Men don't resist, they don't curb their appetite. They feed that desire, that's why it's so strong. Men give themselves a lot of excuses when it comes to this area. I'm not saying it's easy, but men give themselves excuses in this area. they obey their pens. I'm not saying not to affirm, but we surely don't give women this same grace, we are hoes, sluts, lose for acting on this same nature, we are shamed. And Im not saying I want to hoe around, but could I give myself that same excuse, I could but society frowns on this for women. Lashes and cheating ant the same. Sorry Tony, love you bro, but no. Yes, to affirming your man, no pacifying cheating. It's hard for fat people not to want cake, but that's no excuse to indulge and society doesn't let us make excuses. It's indulging.
He missed the mark here
He spoke what comes from his heart and spirit!
You give a man confirmation and then he takes his puffed up ego and goes looking for someone else. Done with them.
Exactly. He missed the mark here
Dont think we as woman don’t get tempted to cheat too
That’s my love language to a man I love. Affirming their efforts and speaking life into their future. I believe God even more after hearing this. Let’s me know never to change and the right man will be grateful for that attribute ❤ Ty Tony!
I AGREE.....its hard for men out here.....women throwing themselves at thm all the time....."MEN CANNOT BE FAITHFUL IN THIER OWN STRENGTH" TG👈
Thank u for your wise words. I’m getting remarried and I’m welcoming of advice that explains what a man needs to be happy. I’m fully invested in getting it right this time.
A person is in death if they have not the love of God period
Thank you for being a great man, Mr. Gaskins. This was a powerful message. 🔥
Update:
As I was reading the Bible, I came across this verse and it made me think of your message. 😮🙌🔥
“Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to give recognition to those who labor among you and lead you in the Lord and admonish you,” 1 Thessalonians 5:12 CSB
Very truthful honest video not many men doing it all plz ladies praise and thank y’all good men
Listen! Thank you! Because when i get my husband, u definitely giving some keys, keys God gave already but we need reminders and thats what the Bible is, a reminder of the Love, mercy, grace, will and Son of God
Thanks for being a true man of God and I love how you value your marriage and speak highly of your wife ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Good morning Mr. Gaskins, I just wanted to say Thank you so much for saving my life with the information you have been teaching for all these years. I started listening to you in 2018 and my life has never been the same! I believe God has transformed your life to help millions of women and I cannot thank you enough. Your generosity and the insight you share with the world will never be forgotton and I pray you go on to live a prosperous wealthy, healthy life for you and your family. Keep fighting the good fight of Faith, Many Blessings to you and God speed!!!
True, I can't tell you how many men praise me for not getting lashes, weave or eyebrows done. I take care of and make the best of what God gives me and keep it moving. I agree it's so important to affirm a man, especially when men are trashing women, talking down to women, and abusing them.
However, getting weave isn’t always a style thing or doing it because of self esteem. I wear it because I had an accident which tore off a lot of my scalp so I have irreversible patchy bald spots
@@j-tenn226 A lot of them don't understand that a lot of women have hair issues due to alopecia, medication, stress, etc. You don't have to explain anything to them, because it is a waste of time! These same men will complain about a BW wearing a wig, weave, or extensions; yet turn around and work 2 jobs to pay for the same thing for Becky, Maria, and Ling Ling. Do you.
@@j-tenn226 Women out here really be pick me's to these men and don't even know . Glad you recovered from the accident.
Thank you Tony! You encourage me to keep trusting God and BBB. I appreciate you being an Example of a " good man"
A godly Example! God bless you! Stay true!
Well said! 👏🏽I agree women should praise their men with a smile as well as paying their tithes. Be thankful you have a men (as Tony said that alone is rare these days) and you are able to give into the kingdom of God!😇🙌🏽😇Be blessed and thanks for sharing your wisdom.🥰
Take it back to the last live: "the Navy, the Navy" 🙃😆.
Men have real temptations and struggles. If a man can become a soldier 🪖 up to the high caliber of special forces, a man's eyes can struggle with wondering eyes for pretty women.
It is a real test to live for God, be set a part. There are men who will do what others won't do. Anything we need to do: weed out lust and temptation for other women, being honest, putting family first, being financially sound, showing empathy, listening, seeking God as to how to lead a family, planning dates, calling first, being a giver, not giving into peer pressure.
What Tony is saying makes sense. It seems foreign to me growing up in a toxic environment. And then into toxic relationships. I want that type of relationship where I can give words of affirmation, and it is appreciated, and not taken for granted.
Yes such a man deserves to be praised, for that is what really matters
This is how I feel in my heart!! Thank you for the phrases on how to say thank you to my husband 🙏🙏
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This is why Christ instructs "husband's love your own wife as Christ loves the church, so much that he gave his own life for her. Wives respect your own husbands" When we follow biblical patterns and principles we will be honorable towards each other and edifying your husband will be appetizing for the wife as she will enjoy the double honor that comes with submission to Christ's Lordship and submission to her husband. As women we have to understand there is no way to please Christ while dishonoring the husband. Just as the husband is a liar if he says, he loves Christ, yet avoids the cross assigned to his life. God instituted marriage and it only works efficiently when governed by His words. Cling to the pattern!
Thanks for the explanation in a way that is understandable to women. Makes total sense now. It’s the opposite of how women move… we do what we have to do with or without acknowledgment. Got it.
I've heard plenty men say that if they have options, they'll cheat. I'd like to know the deep root reasons behind this (aside from their woman not being affirming). I don't hear enough people talk about being real and talking about the issues in their relationship BEFORE they make a decision, and at that point the decision should be to LEAVE the relationship, not cheat. This is why I cannot understand a person who cheats because I see that as someone who is a liar, and I do not like or understand liars (I myself am brutally honest). It must be something more than the fact that there are a lot of women available. Could it be that these people never saw two people trying to talk out their differences? Or they were raised by a single parent so therefore don't know what a healthy relationship between two people looks like? I feel like there is something deeper. Can you talk about this so that we can learn how to try and avoid cheating behaviors in our children? Thanks 🙏🏾
Short answer: A boy does what he can, a man does what he WANTS.
A man once told me that they have a hard time finding a woman who can be an every woman type of woman so, that is why they cheat. There aren’t too many every woman women out there. And to add to it, a lot of women get comfortable and stop putting effort into keeping up their appearance in which what first caused him to look her way. The sentence “relationships are a lot of work”, is more than just cliche. So much effort goes into keeping the relationship afloat all the while keeping yourself afloat individually with responsibilities outside of the relationship.
Just like you have women who have multiple of men for different things.
Such an awesome & insight message! Everyone needs to know they are loved & appreciated. We have to go the extra mile sometimes if it's not your ordinary. We have to take time to pay specific attention to our loved one, never get too comfortable, take it for granted & feel like " oh, I don'thave to say it, or show it, they knowhowI feel", Its surprising that how you think is nothing, can really be something. to someone else. To whom it may concern remember....the clean up woman in this case, (or man in another) is always waiting 🥰
When this man come into my life talking about he taking care of me lawd knows I'm thanking him
I agree!!! And will continue to affirm the men in my life (Family)as well as my future husband! I’m listening bro 🙏🏾💪🏾
This topic is so important- you have to know yourself and be honest with your weaknesses/ being self-aware and willing to work on them in order to match with who complements you. Gain the capacity to love someone the way THEY receive love, not what’s comfortable for you; it’s not just about you.
And love yourself. I’ve always loved my natural self - my body shape/ proportions. My skin/ complexion, my curls, my lips. I may wear makeup on special occasions but mostly I just love a bare face; takes less time😂 but investing in self love/ care is important.
Wishing this for more women🫶🏽
Affirmations are powerful. Great video Tony. Thanks for the insight 👌🏾✨
🙋🏾♀️All natural here!!!
Same here yes natural women🧡
Same here 😊
Same ❤
I def start to understand men more when I started watching your videos both good and bad . I feel like you’re right just how the good women get overlooked so do the men and the toxic grown boys get praised for bad behavior we definitely gotta do better
Thanks @Tony Gaskins.. This is confirmation from my ex. He told me last week out of all the stuff we've been through the ONE THING that he had beef with me was from how I talked to him! My spirit got IMMEDIATELY GRIEVED! I'm COMMITTED TO DOING BETTER!!!😢 Months ago he told me, I WANT YOU TO DATE other men, so you can REALLY SEE how it is out hear!
I’m learning this as well. I never gave my ex enough compliments either
@@brittanyb5942 Thanks for sharing! It will get better. God can reverse the curse!
Hello🥺 I’m 23. I also didn’t have good character and didn’t know how to treat/talk to a man or conduct myself in a healthy way. I also lacked intergrity and the skills needed to have a good relationship. I discovered this through self reflection and have been trying to get in contact with God and learn to love him so I can love myself, then others . I wish to meet women like you in real life so we can inspire/encourage each other to be better women and wives .
Yes, it's WILD out here. APPRECIATE that man!
This is an awesome message. Appreciate ya Tony G.!
Excellent message! Yes, last night was a great session. I'm so happy to be a part of the growth club. Listen! Beginning at point 33:37 made me shout praise. I'm so ready to stop playing and step out on what God has put on my heart. I know the investment I'm making into the Growth Club will help. Thanks Tony for having the vision!
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A Big Thank you Bro Tony this message was well received, thanks for theses Gems 💎 🙏🏾♥️
I can feel you are speaking this from the heart. Thank you for your honesty and integrity.
So thankful to God that affirmation is one of my love languages to give and receive...I can't fathom how this is hard to do...but maybe I have to be in the situation to understand.
I do tell my Fiance' these things. I'm So Glad I don't have a Pride Issue. I Want him to know I Appreciate him for everything! Thanks 4 helping us Tony..Have a Blessed day in the Lord
yup i agree real men need to be appreciated ❤
Thanks for this information. Just makes sense. I thought I was the only woman being me (without all the extras). You say thank you to your man because “you” feel appreciated… that simple.
There is the real deal and there is the fake...you a real one and an example to the younger men coming up...be not conformed to this world, and also narrow is the way....true it is sad...Thank you for helping us to see better, and be aware.
Awesome message!
Giving thanks has been demonstrated throughout the scriptures. Every epistle in the NT begins and ends with gratitude/verbal affirmations.
Moreover, if men are the head of the wife AS Christ is the head of the church and the church is instructed to fervently give thanks to the Lord, then this "call to action" is directly aligned with scripture and what we're, as God-fearing women, are called to do. (Ephesians 5:22-23; Psalms 109:30)
(For those who don't follow the faith, the requirement doesn't apply.)
Thank you for bringing up the " broad road" vs. the " narrow road" . That right there is correct!
Nah sir I saw your wife and she's stunning natural beauty. You two are a beautiful couple and the Lord put you both together.
Thank you Tony Gaskins I needed to hear this today to tell these beautiful affirmations to my future Husband Thank you for the wonderful Insights
Thank you God for placing me on the narrow road. 🙏🏽💯 Blessings to you and your family.
Hell yeah imma say thank you for providing. I don’t even have anyone to accompany me to the doctor office let alone providing
Thank you for this powerful message 👏🏽
This is such a great video Brother Tony . Thanks for always breaking things down 🙌🏾🙏🏾
He is the best at doing this!
I wish I could agree with the natural thing BUT
I’ve always been natural, no lashes, wear my real hair and fit body. Not to mention I’m extremely friendly.
I do not have good men knocking down my door, I never have and I’m 32.
So if women want to do these things for themselves, I say go for it! I only attract creepy looking men especially at the gym. If I’m at the grocery store only men over 50 are looking my way!
As far as the hair is concerned, in my opinion, black men loveeeee a good blowout/silk press. Technically yes, it’s my natural hair but that’s not it’s natural state🤦🏾♀️
Tony this makes perfect sense, thank you for this message.
He has such a beautiful cry.
This video is a vice versa situation honestly Mr Tony
heeded. Thank you for the real and the transparency. Happy Birthday as well! May God continue to grant you grace and peace to you and your family.
So the moral of this store is get your baby out of him and move on. Ain't that what 72% of the black women been doing. This sounds like an argument for getting a white man. We tired of struggle love!
Real talk. 🙏🏾🔥
Tony I like you but,you’re tripping….Stopped watching at the 2:10 mark…Smh…You are not speaking from a God fearing stand point…Be careful…Your words are reaching the masses.
💯 he missed the mark here!
Tony spoke from his lustful heart
Most women HAVE to work even with a husband Tony let's be real.
Tony I don’t think that at all about white men. I actually think that they are very powerful and possess resources and value the nuclear family dynamic which naturally promote submission and cooperation from women. I’ve never seen white men as weak at all. I think lots of women are realizing that some of them are actually great partners and marriage prospects. Not to exploit them or be predatory but to actually have great relationships with them. Great content by the way.
Right. He made all of that other stuff up to make him and other black males feel better
@@ecclairmayo4153 yeah because that was really confusing. The black women I know did not get with them to “talk to them any kind of way” they actually have functional relationships, marriages, well taken care of children, assets and trust funds. That alone is going to make a woman affirm on demand and talk to him nice 😂. Tony need to cut it out with that one.
This is a great lesson because I did not see it that way. I pray that God send me a good husband that I can pour into.
Sudden thought: Even if he is cheating and you don't know it, but that affirmation could make him rethink his actions 🤔
Yes🙋🏻♀️ the point is to seek to understand🫂 so you can be understood💯✍️🏾👩🏻💻
I'm a rare woman then. I love my natural self. If I want to get jazzy for a special occasion, I'll get my hair done and/or makeup or lashes. It's not an everyday thing for me.
I hear you Mr.Gaskins. Ill keep this in mind.🙏🏾
Imma praise my man. Sorry not sorry. God hasn’t Blessed me with a good man yet because I sure will not take him for granted. He will know how appreciated he is being a protector/ provider
They dont say because they dont want to held accountable for their choice to leave for no valid reason.
About to listen to this...thank you in advance for the enlightenment
9:18
Gratitude is a lost art.
Another good one Tony👍🏽
I can't understand leaving black men to date white men but I know several black women that are doing it lol. God bless them but that's not for me 🤣 I believe one of these black men will do right one day 😭😩
oooo you’re going to be waiting and suffering a looooong time! Bless your soul!
@@smithaquarius1 lol I'm 26. I'll be fine but thanks
@@joiagenae I remember being 26 and thinking the same thing 🤦🏽♀️; but good luck to you 🙂
I have always dated whoever I had a connection with. I have never had a racial preference. I believe that the man for you can show up as any race.
Always on point 💯