I'm here to say "I tried that, Tony, and still got cheated on" 😩😂🤣 I married little ugly and he cheated. He blamed it on me and I divorced him. It was the move of God, because the week before I found out, I asked God to remove anything standing in the way of me aligning with His will and the first to go was him. It devasted me, but I can tell you how faithful God is 🙌🏽
Right 😂 settling doesn’t always work. As a man, HE needs to settle. Women cannot settle for anything less than total attraction bc otherwise we will never be satisfied lol
I've always wondered about guys who pull the unpullable. And whether or not when he gets someone that he never thought he would get it might give him a big head. "Well if I can get her then surely let me try to see if I can get that one too", and then his sowing oats begins and he gets real cocky. 🙄
But he can be ugly and not have good character. That’s still focusing on his looks. Does he have good character, integrity, how does he treat people etc.
I did this once with a man that wasn't very attractive but treated me good...then...because he got me...he started getting arrogant and treating me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
I remember a family friend of ours telling me when I was a teenager to go for the good guy. It’ll be okay if he cant dress etc. Basically she told me to pay attention to character. This was so good. ❤ 29:20
What I think is ugly, beautiful, pretty, homely or sexy again varies from person to person… Screw Societal Standards. I am going to go after who I want & like who I want. Anyone of us can get or attain most anything in life.
Perfect message!! Learned a long time ago, character and morals over looks. Sadly a lot of people don't have good character, best thing to do is work on yourself.
TG, you're on your job. My father, born in the 1950s has been telling my brothers and I this for life. "Don't get one too pretty that you gotta fight over".
All facts Tony. You dropped gems on this one. No one has everything. Everyone is making concessions somewhere. Valid points. God help us all to see with our inner eyes.
Alright now Tony!!! You are saying that the who’re woman saw his heart??? How big was this white woman. The black woman most likely wanted him to take care of himself and he refused!!! He made her wait… he wasn’t attracted to her she just needed some to accept her!!! Her white men didn’t want her. She was going to do the most!!!
I’ve ALWAYS been into the background guy. The one doing his own thing and not worried about chasing the “baddest” woman and getting all this vapid attention.
Nothing but truth. I always focused on brain and brand but not body. So this year I've started a skincare routine, and working on weighloss and a maintenance routine. My hair as always been long but 9/10 it's in a librarian bun😂😂😂😂so getting my hair professionally done is on the task. Really bringing out my natural beauty and I think all people have something that is very beautiful about them. Really I can say I demonstrated laziness when it came to myself I take care of everybody but put my selfcare to the back. It's a mental adjustment to put me on the schedule or spend an hr or 2 in the bathroom doing my facials and body care routine. It's a hard truth
Right! Fellas speak, waive, smile, nod, start a conversation, compliment us, SHOW UP to events. At a minimum explain why we never seem to be in the same rooms together?
@@gapeach7814 he basically said go get someone no one else wants ...so basically someone unattractive - is that what he did with his wife??? he's talking a whole lot of codswallop - he's running out of things to say.
@@sarabelli 😂 he may be running out of things to say. Lol I was thinking the same thing re: his wife. I'm sure her looks had a lot to do with why he chose her.
its true, my friend said this guy on campus was good looking. he was interested in me, so i gave him a chance. ended up marrying him. i honestly didnt notice him before that
I LOVE when Tony says laying his eyes on a set of hams 🤣🤣🤣. Keep on preaching on brother. Many people walking around vain as if their stuff don’t stink. Judge not unless you be judged
Gems 💎 I love black men. I now date men of all races due to my experience and my past. I want a man that loves Jesus and my current prospective marriage partner has a beautiful heart and he respects my boundaries, and even though he’s not black he has been consistent. This is an answer to prayer and if one day I meet a black man that desires what I am bringing to the table. Amen
Humility is always in order no matter how beautiful or handsome you are. Today, with wigs, weaves, eye lashes. Plastic surgery, liposuction, fillers, etc. anyone can look better. The real value is the heart and mind. Are you a safe person? Ask God.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins🎉 You helped me to break out in a praise! After stating all the altercations that people are doing to their body, reminded me that God is so gracious and merciful!!! I have not done anything (nothing) to mine. Nor have I desired. I worked on me and still have plenty to do! God bless you and your family!!!
That social experiment would be some good entertainment! And you're absolutely right that our society is too vain. That's why most of these relationships don't work out bc they focus on looks instead of inner beauty.
IT'S THE CHILE.....I AIN'T GOT THE TIME FOR ME😂🤣😂🤣😂 TELL...IT TONY! PEOPLE GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK ABOUT THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET THINGS STARTED BUT THEY MOVE ON WITH OTHERS, NOT KNOWING THAT IT'S ALL IN THE WAITING SOMETIMES! MOVE ON... BE HAPPY, JUST LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING YOU NEVER WANTED, FINISH YOUR PLAN! BLESSINGS TONY!
Hey Tony and blessed tribe! Tony, your friend sounds amazing. I love men like him with a great heart and attitude. I have always been in relationships with men that society finds unattractive. I’m glad your friend got the love he deserves.😍🙏🏻🙌
I had a good laugh, then ooouh, it hit home. Dated the tall guys, short guys, very lean guys, chubby guys and thick guys. I look at your heart, how you treat me & do you respect me.
And what is wrong with wanting what you want ? I am generally curious of your response/reasons !!?? Just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I find them attractive or want them back & that is OK.
@@Iam1random1 I guess it's just human nature to really want something you can't have. It's like the forbidden fruit and what you can have is just not really desirable to you. I guess it kind of boils down to liking a challenge and the chase. Something that comes easy you really don't appreciate and what comes hard to you that's what you appreciate more. It just human nature.
So true.... this is why alot of the time fix ups don't work... when others choose your mate they choose what they like..... it's like they don't bother to figure out who you're attracted to
You’re one in a million, Tony Gaskins! These men in today’s Society want the FLAWLESS Instagram Models ONLY!!…I’m definitely NOT in that category, not ashamed to say.
Facts! Sidenote- i would love hair care tips, a hair care line, jamaican remedies, or regimens from your lovely wife one day. I have thick caribbean type hair but when flat ironed or relaxed its similar to her texture.
Tomy Gaskin's you're real and hilarious without trying at times. But that line "No such thing as a ugly billionaire, I'll be dog gone ....Oh yes it issssss .. 😂😂 LOL. Informative great video as always. Thank you 😊😊
People like what other people like… FR. The blind and lost are leading the blind and lost especially when it comes to relationships, dating and building. Say it again brother 🗣️💯
A lot of times when people grew up the under dog they don’t even know how to love because they were never shown love. The people who grew up in love, love the best.
Thank you. I thank God for this message. So timely. I'm going to continue to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even though some people get angry at me and insult me for spreading truth that steps on their toes. It is most unpleasant, but I must keep going.🙏🏾
I am looking your way big bro Tony even though I do not believe in god anymore but, you are the big brother i needed in my life and you speak life into my soul . Thank you for all your videos helping people.
Lol I love Tony! From I saw the picture he used and the subject I knew it be would be funny and informative, as per usual. But the photo was whimsical so I knew he was about to shift our perspective.
I am just a little confused because you also talk about the 3 B's. One being BODY. I like what you are saying but it's a little conflicting. I must say I truly love listening to you and I've been married for 35 years and I'm still learning. Thank you!!
there is no way a man will settle for someone he is not attracted to physically unless he has been rejected by EVERYONE he is attracted to and now is DESPERATE - Tony talking rubbish on this one.
Thank you Tony, this helps me take a good look at myself in the mirror and get real. Indeed the truth will set you free! (God specifically made us for the different purposes he intended us for, we’ve each got to know his purpose for us, and it’s all good)❤
Hey Brother, hope all is well. I know your really serious, when having conversations with us. Nonetheless, you be cracking me up in a good way. Lol! Thanks for being real. As-well-As having a sense of humor.😂
I had a guy chasing me but he had a biggg belly, I was like nahhh but he kept trying. I was bored one weekend and decided to go out with him. Ended up really liking him. That belly didn’t even matter lol. Found out later he was married 🤦🏽♀️
A very good video..touched on a lot..and to add my 2 cents lol..jay z is not ugly. He is notbaomeone you'd look at and be stuck. I think people just say this because its been said so much.
I'm here to say "I tried that, Tony, and still got cheated on" 😩😂🤣 I married little ugly and he cheated. He blamed it on me and I divorced him. It was the move of God, because the week before I found out, I asked God to remove anything standing in the way of me aligning with His will and the first to go was him. It devasted me, but I can tell you how faithful God is 🙌🏽
😂😂😂
Right 😂 settling doesn’t always work. As a man, HE needs to settle. Women cannot settle for anything less than total attraction bc otherwise we will never be satisfied lol
I've always wondered about guys who pull the unpullable. And whether or not when he gets someone that he never thought he would get it might give him a big head. "Well if I can get her then surely let me try to see if I can get that one too", and then his sowing oats begins and he gets real cocky. 🙄
But he can be ugly and not have good character. That’s still focusing on his looks. Does he have good character, integrity, how does he treat people etc.
@@CrystalsEssence absolutely correct!
I did this once with a man that wasn't very attractive but treated me good...then...because he got me...he started getting arrogant and treating me like I was the ugly one 😂😂😂
I did the same 😅 treated me bad as well. My family clowns me till this day for dating him. Especially my dad.
Oh shooooot, thats funny 😂
Girl yes. They will turn on you now. 😂
Because when you get with them they become attractive to other women as well.
😂😂😂😂
Nothing but facts! “ people like what other people like” that’s a whole sermon
I remember a family friend of ours telling me when I was a teenager to go for the good guy. It’ll be okay if he cant dress etc. Basically she told me to pay attention to character. This was so good. ❤ 29:20
Very good advice. The world is out of wack right now with the standards.
What I think is ugly, beautiful, pretty, homely or sexy again varies from person to person… Screw Societal Standards. I am going to go after who I want & like who I want. Anyone of us can get or attain most anything in life.
Completely agree
True. I just said this the other day. Ppl only like you when other ppl like you
Perfect message!! Learned a long time ago, character and morals over looks. Sadly a lot of people don't have good character, best thing to do is work on yourself.
Agreed 💯
Good character is the hardest thing to find. Then looking for good character & some chemistry, whew may take a lifetime.
TG, you're on your job. My father, born in the 1950s has been telling my brothers and I this for life. "Don't get one too pretty that you gotta fight over".
Lol interesting 🤔
@@PeaceBeStill- 😆 my Dad off the chain ⛓️. He says all kinds of funny stuff that actually makes sense.
Your dad is hilarious 😂 but I see the truth in that
All facts Tony. You dropped gems on this one. No one has everything. Everyone is making concessions somewhere. Valid points. God help us all to see with our inner eyes.
Amen! This is the problem with the dating pool right now...
Bro only is going to be 💯
Alright now Tony!!! You are saying that the who’re woman saw his heart??? How big was this white woman. The black woman most likely wanted him to take care of himself and he refused!!! He made her wait… he wasn’t attracted to her she just needed some to accept her!!! Her white men didn’t want her. She was going to do the most!!!
So true Tony. Common sense. Go for the Diamond in the rough instead of the flashy person that everybody notices.
🎯
I’ve ALWAYS been into the background guy. The one doing his own thing and not worried about chasing the “baddest” woman and getting all this vapid attention.
Nothing but truth. I always focused on brain and brand but not body. So this year I've started a skincare routine, and working on weighloss and a maintenance routine. My hair as always been long but 9/10 it's in a librarian bun😂😂😂😂so getting my hair professionally done is on the task. Really bringing out my natural beauty and I think all people have something that is very beautiful about them. Really I can say I demonstrated laziness when it came to myself I take care of everybody but put my selfcare to the back. It's a mental adjustment to put me on the schedule or spend an hr or 2 in the bathroom doing my facials and body care routine. It's a hard truth
Confirmation... Many are picking who others like over whose best for them.Say this a lot.
Good message Tony. Humans judge by the outer appearance, but God looks at the heart.
The single and available men need to be more VISIBLE. It's as if they're hiding, hibernating, or sleeping smh.
All they do is go home and go to work and hide behind their phone screen.
Yup they won't speak up or make themselves available
Right! Fellas speak, waive, smile, nod, start a conversation, compliment us, SHOW UP to events. At a minimum explain why we never seem to be in the same rooms together?
I always loved the movie Shallow Hal. Superficial of a man who hypnotize to see the inner beauty.
Oh please. You know damn well you wouldn’t seriously date or marry someone you aren’t attracted to
He didn't say not attracted to. He said not in line with society's standards.
@@gapeach7814 he basically said go get someone no one else wants ...so basically someone unattractive - is that what he did with his wife??? he's talking a whole lot of codswallop - he's running out of things to say.
@@sarabelli 😂 he may be running out of things to say. Lol I was thinking the same thing re: his wife. I'm sure her looks had a lot to do with why he chose her.
@@gapeach7814 especially since she doesn’t wear weave because he hates weave
Y’all just missed the whole message 😭🤦🏽♀️ I can’t
its true, my friend said this guy on campus was good looking. he was interested in me, so i gave him a chance. ended up marrying him. i honestly didnt notice him before that
I LOVE when Tony says laying his eyes on a set of hams 🤣🤣🤣. Keep on preaching on brother. Many people walking around vain as if their stuff don’t stink. Judge not unless you be judged
Yassssssss Im seeing my brother on tv nahhh. Love to see it!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Tell the Queen I said “hey” ❤️
Gems 💎
I love black men. I now date men of all races due to my experience and my past. I want a man that loves Jesus and my current prospective marriage partner has a beautiful heart and he respects my boundaries, and even though he’s not black he has been consistent. This is an answer to prayer and if one day I meet a black man that desires what I am bringing to the table. Amen
Humility is always in order no matter how beautiful or handsome you are. Today, with wigs, weaves, eye lashes. Plastic surgery, liposuction, fillers, etc. anyone can look better.
The real value is the heart and mind. Are you a safe person? Ask God.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins🎉 You helped me to break out in a praise! After stating all the altercations that people are doing to their body, reminded me that God is so gracious and merciful!!! I have not done anything (nothing) to mine. Nor have I desired. I worked on me and still have plenty to do! God bless you and your family!!!
The friend example is your average brotha! See the heart...total package. 🙏🏾🙋🏾♂️👍🏾
When you are watching VH1 Couples Retreat and see Tony Gaskins on it! 👏🏾✊🏾
That social experiment would be some good entertainment! And you're absolutely right that our society is too vain. That's why most of these relationships don't work out bc they focus on looks instead of inner beauty.
Holy Spirit spoke through you boss
Congratulations 🎉🎊🎈on being part of Couple Retreat Show.
IT'S THE CHILE.....I AIN'T GOT THE TIME FOR ME😂🤣😂🤣😂 TELL...IT TONY! PEOPLE GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK ABOUT THE TIME IT TAKES TO GET THINGS STARTED BUT THEY MOVE ON WITH OTHERS, NOT KNOWING THAT IT'S ALL IN THE WAITING SOMETIMES! MOVE ON... BE HAPPY, JUST LET GO AND STOP HOLDING ON TO SOMETHING YOU NEVER WANTED, FINISH YOUR PLAN! BLESSINGS TONY!
I would love to be in a healthy relationship but I Don’t TRUST anyone with my heart anymore….in other words…I have TRUST ISSUES !!!😮
Hey Tony and blessed tribe! Tony, your friend sounds amazing. I love men like him with a great heart and attitude. I have always been in relationships with men that society finds unattractive. I’m glad your friend got the love he deserves.😍🙏🏻🙌
This is really a message for men. They tend to like women that a bunch of other men like.
I had a good laugh, then ooouh, it hit home. Dated the tall guys, short guys, very lean guys, chubby guys and thick guys. I look at your heart, how you treat me & do you respect me.
Most people want what they can't have and what they can have they don't want. Go figure 🤔
And what is wrong with wanting what you want ? I am generally curious of your response/reasons !!?? Just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I find them attractive or want them back & that is OK.
@@Iam1random1 I guess it's just human nature to really want something you can't have. It's like the forbidden fruit and what you can have is just not really desirable to you. I guess it kind of boils down to liking a challenge and the chase. Something that comes easy you really don't appreciate and what comes hard to you that's what you appreciate more. It just human nature.
So true.... this is why alot of the time fix ups don't work... when others choose your mate they choose what they like..... it's like they don't bother to figure out who you're attracted to
Prepare yourself to Receive and Wait on Diving Timing. ✅💯💜🥰
“We need to make sure we are a looker now” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Mr. Gaskins! I just saw the preview for the ext episode of couples retreat and saw you. Can’t wait to tune in!
The heart and core matters. Amen.
I knew you was a real one ! With a Jamaican Queen we love to see it!
You’re one in a million, Tony Gaskins! These men in today’s Society want the FLAWLESS Instagram Models ONLY!!…I’m definitely NOT in that category, not ashamed to say.
10:30 I’m a hairstylists my clients have gotten one or more of these procedures and they come to their appointment post op
Tell them T!! So true, because am Jamaican!! We are golden one of a kind!!!
Societal Beauty Standards vary from individual to individual or race to race or ethnicity to ethnicity… I don’t live by “Societal Standards”
Very true & nither do I.
Facts , I laugh so hard, man tony is funny naturally😂😂😂. He's spitting facts
Facts! Sidenote- i would love hair care tips, a hair care line, jamaican remedies, or regimens from your lovely wife one day. I have thick caribbean type hair but when flat ironed or relaxed its similar to her texture.
Tomy Gaskin's you're real and hilarious without trying at times. But that line "No such thing as a ugly billionaire, I'll be dog gone ....Oh yes it issssss .. 😂😂 LOL. Informative great video as always. Thank you 😊😊
Loved the message, love the love you always exude toward your boys and wife!! btw GOD Bless you have a lovely looking RV?!
“I’d be doggone‼️”😆🤣 👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
Mane when I made it to this point and could understand the reference of your comment 😂
I mean I was chuckling 🤭
I did arm lipo and it’s very painful and not that successful
I would love to be a part of the experiment Tony if you do that... Sounds very interesting and a good idea
People like what other people like… FR. The blind and lost are leading the blind and lost especially when it comes to relationships, dating and building. Say it again brother 🗣️💯
A lot of times when people grew up the under dog they don’t even know how to love because they were never shown love. The people who grew up in love, love the best.
Dropping gems
Always dropping 💎💎💎💎 Thank You
Thank you. I thank God for this message. So timely. I'm going to continue to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even though some people get angry at me and insult me for spreading truth that steps on their toes. It is most unpleasant, but I must keep going.🙏🏾
I am looking your way big bro Tony even though I do not believe in god anymore but, you are the big brother i needed in my life and you speak life into my soul . Thank you for all your videos helping people.
Yesssss let’s do it
Lol I love Tony!
From I saw the picture he used and the subject I knew it be would be funny and informative, as per usual. But the photo was whimsical so I knew he was about to shift our perspective.
Very well said and I really enjoy your videos thank you for this message ❤
Great Video but its still too many clowns 🤡 & I don’t do the circus 🎪 😂
So happy to see Tony gastus on couple's retreat Check it out Tuesdays at 9
Truth and wisdom!💯
Built like a Big Mac 😂😂😂😂....Tony strikes again
“Jiggalo Fabio” 😂
We need the honesty! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
I am just a little confused because you also talk about the 3 B's. One being BODY. I like what you are saying but it's a little conflicting. I must say I truly love listening to you and I've been married for 35 years and I'm still learning. Thank you!!
there is no way a man will settle for someone he is not attracted to physically unless he has been rejected by EVERYONE he is attracted to and now is DESPERATE - Tony talking rubbish on this one.
I'd love to see that experiment Mr Gaskins 😄💯
Go ahead Tony speak those facts
You are so right. As usual.
Tony, thank you so much for this video. You're talking straight facts!!!👏🏽👏🏽
This message was so spot on, Thank you Bro Tony ❤️🙏🏾
Thank you Tony, this helps me take a good look at myself in the mirror and get real. Indeed the truth will set you free! (God specifically made us for the different purposes he intended us for, we’ve each got to know his purpose for us, and it’s all good)❤
Hey Brother, hope all is well. I know your really serious, when having conversations with us. Nonetheless, you be cracking me up in a good way. Lol! Thanks for being real. As-well-As having a sense of humor.😂
Thank you for giving us one more time the game real and raw we really appreciate it
That part!!!!! That's my strategy.
This is beautiful, thank you sir
TG, your speaking truth; most women are looking for a man that enery other woman wants. My advice, find a man that u can fix up!
No you can’t fix nobody only God can do that
I understand what your saying but Im 5’8 and Im not going to settle for a man 5’4 just to not be single what God has for me is for me! Period😊
I had a guy chasing me but he had a biggg belly, I was like nahhh but he kept trying. I was bored one weekend and decided to go out with him. Ended up really liking him. That belly didn’t even matter lol. Found out later he was married 🤦🏽♀️
ON POINT!
Sign me up for the experiment Tony! Now if I’m delusional just let me know and imma take that L 😅
Great message thanks 😊
Love this message.
Makes sense..good message 💪🏾
I think more men do that than women, they are quick to go for what's popular or trendy then show it off like they joined the club lol
A very good video..touched on a lot..and to add my 2 cents lol..jay z is not ugly. He is notbaomeone you'd look at and be stuck. I think people just say this because its been said so much.
I appreciate this, I’ll no longer look over or underestimate a short man. Lol
Whats considered short to you?
Short men are actually very refreshing.
Short men are picky and want IG baddies too.
Hilarious i have a blind date this Sunday 🤣 😂 😆
Lol 😂I plan on getting lipo and I think the boost in self confidence will help me tremendously in my dating experience!
The beginning don't apply to me 😄 but I'mma stick around because Tony start dropping gems!
Im bout to set up a “sosha expirrment!!” 🤣😭😭😭😂😂😂
Men like that would not approach me. They are afraid, even when I approach them. I want the underdog
I think God for your videos, God bless your channel/business🙂🤩🙏
Good word!! Thanks
Another one. Another great and informative video.💯👍🏽👍🏽. Thanks again brother. Be blessed.
😂😂😂 a lot of men still abuse it still.
Geesh you put out so many videos
Great info you always speak the truth 😊
Child um next for my jump start beauty make over
Analyze that thing…😂 That’s for always breaking it down.