“I’m a FUN time but I’m not an easy time. I’m not an ‘on your time’. I’m not a guaranteed time. I’m not a timeline. I’m a woman with a heart and mind.” 👈🏽 THIS part‼️ 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks Tony. Every thing you said was so true. My now husband was a major player, with many women at his call when I met him. I asked what was it about me that made you propose in year one. He said, “You were different. You didn’t take my calls at 12:30am. You didn’t let me come over after a night out at the clubs. You let the phone ring more than five times. You didn’t cancel your night out with friends when I literally begged you to come over. You were DIFFERENT. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, 2017 was really tough, but we made it through and after 35 years of marriage, I thank God for a mother who said, “Know your worth.”
Your comment is quite thought provoking. You didn't state if he ceased his "player" behavior immediately after meeting and marrying you. I know some women and men who weren't able to turn off certain bad behaviors immediately after saying "I do".
Before you trust ANYONE, you have to KNOW them. Never put your trust in a man that you don’t know. You only know a person by asking questions, spending time, and watching their ACTIONS towards you and others.
Translation: Leave these clowns right where you found them, ALONE. Looks like Tony Gaskins might be getting more male followers begging for tips on how to get the women back that he helped to leave them 😂😂😂 Tony you're about to get paid brother! Hahaha .Singleness is looking great for women. Good job ladies on loving yourselves. Keep it up!🥰🥰🥰
He said “I’m over here kissin and done caught COVID, knowing I got high blood pressure. Now you finna die” 😂😂😩😭 I can’t with him. I love listening for the lessons and laughs ♥️🧘🏽
This is why guidance is so needed for young people. For me, sex was always a fun activity because I thought that’s what you are suppose to do when you like someone. Now that I am older, I see how sex doesn’t mean anything and definitely does not mean a guy will stay with you and take you serious. I needed this video, because I need to sit down and be alone for a long while.
I was celibate for over 5 years. It was so empowering. You'll be surprised how many people that do absolutely nothing for your spirit/soul when you remove physical intimacy. When I tell people(using Maslows Hierarchy Theory) that sex isn't one of my top 3, they look at me like I am crazy.
Tony ain't lying! I went on a date with a man earlier this year and he asked me a question that I felt was disrespectful so I grabbed my purse and left. When he reached out I told him to never disrespect me like that again. Later he told me that he was testing me and most women would've answered the question. Ladies stay on guard! Check the man the first time!
@@LA-wv7gf wow this is real.sad how dating life has changed so people doing test on people that really show how the world is fake and artificial . You have to do all these test to people to see if there is fake. I think it because it so many fake people with just bad intentions when they get into relationships. This is just truly sad
Did you continue going on dates with him or did you end it completely then and there? It seems like you still did since you said again, but just asking for clarification!
People be out there being deceitful about there relationships 🙄 and sexual health. Find out what's up with this person and take your time. You can't go back on forward once you jump in on this 💯 😒 wrong relationship. U can't trust what a person says. Most men just want a booty call trying u like trying on a pair of 👞 shoes. Most men know if you are what they looking for as soon as u open your mouth to 👄. Get to know them physically, Mentally, financially and sexual health wise. Know them well. If u r not wife material for them they know right away they are going to get in and get out and roll out on you. Don't get played. If u aren't for them they won't be around for very long 💯 rather u sleep with them or not.
Another great message!! Ladies, gotta stop letting these men play you like Atari 🎮. Sex is a game to 99% of them. You are worthy of so much more ❤️. My husband and other married men I know selected the lady who told them no. 😉 No man wants a loose booty. - TG
Thank you for acknowledging that these kids are not add/adhd and put on drugs. Kids need to be active and engaged. Classrooms are not the only places where kids can learn. They just want to control the kids and make them compliant.
If a man is touching on you like he said in the beginning of this video he is not even husband material! He wouldn't even get a chance with me touching on me like that. Respect must be served 1st
It’s so great you have this information. When I was in my early 20s, I was unaware of the information out there and went through a lot of unnecessary drama and stress
Thank you Mr. Gaskins. What I learned from this message is that if a person is of rare quality then they behave in ways that show they're not for the streets! 🛣🚦
It’s sad that this is true and we’ve arrived (a while ago) to a point of having to make sure that someone that we are hoping to be loved by isn’t looking to conquer us and thinking all of these twisted warfare tactics. I would want to give up if I didn’t have the strength and guidance of God to help me understand how to maneuver through life and not be a punching bag to the whim of man and waves of life.
In my past I've always felt like prey in hindsight ... and it was all on me from not knowing how to properly vett, and at times ignoring red flags. I am seriously praying that God just allows me to be a "spiritual eunuch", especially in this day and age (it's legit scary out here) lol. I do not have the energy to filter through the bs, to decipher the games, etc. Nor do I ever want to feel used again, it's one of thee worst feelings for me tbh.
I’m really grateful for this man’s teachings. It really bothers me that the men who operate in such a manner is what women are up against in this world. They’re users and abusers.
Who is teaching boys how to become good men? Most boys are raised by their mothers in black communities. Boys need a good male image to mirror. Mothers can empower their sons in many ways, but that doesn't negate the fact that a boy needs a good man (father) . A good boy will usually grow up to become a good man.
This is true. I am a substitute teacher and the teacher's rolling assignments bins holder was leaning. The girls put assignments in bin. Three boys saw me struggling and asked if they could fix it. And they did within minutes. 👏🏾 The boys felt so proud and the class was happy. Boys want to fix it! 😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Have lost many men for not putting out either on first day or soon after...when I say loss it was a win for me frfr. Thanks for confirming that it's OK to wait and ask for check ups. Because some of us know and practice this!
Grateful for men like Tony Gaskins educating us women on the games of men. Thank you for the insightful and entertaining message. Wish I'd known this years before. Can't believe how naive I was towards men till the disaster of my last relationship. Happy to stay single and work on myself till the time is right 😊
@@rrnn6472 Yes, I can't keep making the same mistakes. I didn't even realize I was doing anything wrong till I came across Pastor RC Blakes, then stumbled upon Tony Gaskins. Wow, they opened my eyes! Thank goodness. Have a blessed day 😊
This is so informative and entertaining. People tend to date from where they are in life, that's how we choose a certain type of partner. These days most men expect so much from women so fast.
Thank you Tony. My sister and cousins have been getting on my nerves lately with dating advice and today I had to curse them out (they’re bullying me about being modest, calling me naive and a user of men). Basically I have a serious issue / standard with a man I JUST MET touching me in sensual areas. I’m very quick to show I dislike that behavior or I assert myself. Ny sister and cousins were vexed about me doing this because it “puts men off” when the reality is that - I DO NOT WANT a man I DO NOT KNOW invading my privacy and feeling entitled to putting a FINGER on me. Idc how attractive he thinks he is, that is my RULE. I also have a serious issue with men kissing me on the first date WITHOUT my consent or showing that I’m INTERESTED. These men will have a great time with me on a date and assume I want an unsolicited kiss that ultimately gets them blocked. A man that invades my space on the first date is a man that’ll keep testing my boundaries. I was starting to really wonder if I even liked men because I also do not like hugging a man who I don’t know. I have a serious issue with men being too friendly, sexual, flirty or anything with me and I sometimes friendzone myself with the fact I’m not even flirtatious or showing direct interest. I thought I was actually realizing I might be a lesbian since I face none of the issues with women touching me as nearly to the degree of men. My sisters bullied me telling me I’ll keep running men off and that I need to go down on a man to keep his attention and my parents raised me to be MODEST and have respect for myself. My first and only ex did not earn a real two arm hug from me until nearly six months in. We held hands around the one year mark (he didn’t like touching hands) and our intimacy didn’t kick start until later. We broke up over other reasons but the thing is he respected how long it took me to warm up and trust him. It takes TIME for me. And this wards men off because I come off immature and off putting when I reject advances when the reality is that I need TIME to develop genuine feelings and see what you’re feeling for me. When a man becomes sexual too quick (with me it’s within hours or days) I’m quick to SNIP em. I let men know I’m not the one and I’m not missing out on letting them pass on by. Any man who can’t wait, isn’t worth it in my opinion..so good riddance to him anyway.
I'm JUST like you. I don't like men forcing men into my physical space when I barely know them. It's violating, and they know EXACTLY what they're doing when they do it as it's an ego stroke at your expense for the guys who do it prematurely i.e. first and second date. Honestly, you're not doing it wrong either. I'd let them know from the jump that you're not into physical touch with people that you don't know well.
@@sparklesp9304 I’m so glad to hear that I am not the only one! It’s reassuring because my sister and cousins really had me believing I was doing it wrong, telling me that “men don’t want to be friends with you, they want sex and you’re being a user of men for not allowing them to have sex with you or giving them signs that you want sex.” And I clapped back with “I want a man who can be my friend first and that comes with respect of me and knowing that I respect myself to not allow “lust” to overtake my judgement of discerning him. If a man can’t be my friend because he’s only expecting sex, then I’m good on him. That’s not how genuine relationships work nor last.” This ANGERED them. They’re vexed about my body count being 2 in my late 20s and that I have GENUINE men as friends! I was getting worried about how “off putting” I can be towards men, because one guy recently met me a single time in a parking lot, told me about himself and then I allowed us to meet about 2 weeks later, he immediately rubbed on my thigh when he sat down next to me. I looked at him, IRRITATED and I said boldly “do not touch me there again, please. I don’t know you, we’ve met a single time.” My sister got upset (she’s the one who introduced us) because she’s like “girl you have zero sex appeal and a grown man hates that.” AND? My sex appeal BUILDS AFTER I know him! She’s mad I can look at attractive men and not want to jump his bones, I need to know who he is first and that takes time, like being his friend and seeing what he’s about. My sister and cousins immediately jump in the bed with men and try to keep them doing acrobatics in the bedroom. Im going to start telling men on the first date about my no touching rule. I thought it would come off too forward, because it means he can pretend to respect my boundaries and I let down my guard and then im played. I’d rather they show me who they are, but the bad news is that I cut them off immediately because of it. I want to communicate it, I just don’t want it to backfire. I want a man to understand with the way I carry myself that he can read I am not the type of woman to accept that behavior from the jump. But if I need to start explaining it, I suppose I should do that..
Check out Tiffany Buckner here on TH-cam. I’m think you’ll like her. She’s like the male Tony. She has a plethora of videos on dating, effects of fornication, so much!
1. I say stop telling your family about dating. 2. It appears you may overthink things from the fact you wrote such a long comment. 3. There's no need to be angry when men test your boundaries. THEY DON'T KNOW YOU! Simply tell them you don't touch early in the dating stage. Every woman they go out with is different boundaries and expectations. Also, they have to know what NOT to say to you (or any date ) without taking offense.
Yes Tony it takes time I was with my husband for over 20 years married for 7years we divorced because he was cheating! He killed the woman he was cheating with after a few months! Grateful God removed him from my life
I ain't getting excited unless we talk and have major energy with eachother. Wine. Food ..gifts... don't do shit for me. I need the mutual vibe you can't see .. chemistry.
Tony you got me hollering 🤣 the wife might be deployed! Everything you are saying is so true and relatable. It's horrible out here. We got to be on the lookout for everything. Thank you ❤️
The other day I was listening to a pod cast and the evolutionary psychologist was saying the prefrontal cortex of a male at ten years of age is the same as a female at twenty four. The prefrontal cortex plays a role in cognitive control function and impulse. That right there says a lot
It’s sad and true that we rush to sleep with one another but the pressure is real. Women run to sleep with a man thinking that will keep him but it doesn’t at all!! If that man truly cares and respect you as a woman, if you tell him no, he respects you and you wait for the intimacy then that’s the way to go but in 2022 we know men and women don’t wait. If you don’t give him what he wants, there are plenty that will and the same applies for women. This is why people are not getting married or getting married and divorced in record time!
Ok I have to say - WHERE HAS THIS MAN BEEN MY WHOLE LIFE?! The straight up VALUE he is providing is INCREDIBLE + i have NEVER EVER laughed so hard while learning in my life! Thank you so much! Brand new Sub right here!
Dang!🤔 The Jeffery Dahmer Test, The Buffet with a Mint and the Covid Protocol 🤦🏽♀️. Lord, Lord, Lord!!! Just kissing took me out. ( I'll wait then, I have to add some more stuff to the list) SMH!! Thank you, Tony. You Never Disappoint when your sister need info.❤️👍🏼🙏🏼
Thank you Tony! This video really explained a lot. I don’t and have never slept around. Only man I ever been with is my soon to be ex husband. He was emotionally unavailable and emotionally abusive (just like my parents). I realized that I was never comfortable around him. And reflecting on how I got in that situation has been the greatest life lesson of my life. Never again. Now I do exactly as you say and I’m vetting everybody even potential female friends. I am highly sensitive to energy, I always have been but people in my family would tell me I was trippin or crazy because I would tell them I don’t trust somebody or something lie that and I was always right. But because they doubted me and put me down I started to not trust myself. Now I’m trusting myself again. It’s taking time but I’m definitely putting stronger, healthier boundaries up with everyone and I’m feeling good. Thanks again!
When you started with emotionally unavailable parent/s it subconsciously trains you to pick emotionally unavailable men nd friends. I made the same mistake and when I realised I kicked myself. I wasted a lot of time but lesson learned we will never pick men like that again now we know the difference now we have learned the lesson I have turned a good few down since the last relationship because I can see the unavailable trait more clearly now and over enthusiastic men can not come into my life and hurry me to bed either. When I find out you are the same old type I block and ghost no explanation its not like they know where I live.
Thank you Tony. Being easily impressed will backfire every single time. Lol I just about fell out when your wife showed up and your facial expression changed Tony 😂😅
Me neither and I’m in my mid 60s. Been a widow for 14 years, and the first man I dated; I was so naive when I got totally fooled by a man who was 5 years older! 😞
I have been tuning in for a few weeks and have watched at least 20 videos! Thank you so much for these gems you keep dropping!! My life is truly being changed over here. I pray God continues to bless you and your family 🙏🏾
I love Tony for enlightening people that need a sound mind to bounce off of. Me myself I guess I have lived enough to know, I haven’t picked up anything that I didn’t know already. Women need to listen to this man. Women have an illusion of what a man should be versus what they really are.
“I’m a FUN time but I’m not an easy time. I’m not an ‘on your time’. I’m not a guaranteed time. I’m not a timeline. I’m a woman with a heart and mind.” 👈🏽 THIS part‼️ 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Bible & BARS 🔥
😁Words to live by!!!💓
That’s true
That booty is yours lol I just hollered
I felt that too!
My grandma said “men are made to ask, and women are made to turn them down “,lol
Thanks Tony. Every thing you said was so true. My now husband was a major player, with many women at his call when I met him. I asked what was it about me that made you propose in year one. He said, “You were different. You didn’t take my calls at 12:30am. You didn’t let me come over after a night out at the clubs. You let the phone ring more than five times. You didn’t cancel your night out with friends when I literally begged you to come over. You were DIFFERENT. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, 2017 was really tough, but we made it through and after 35 years of marriage, I thank God for a mother who said, “Know your worth.”
Translation:….
you know what i’m not even going there, you’ll see what I mean one day 💀 don’t ever think he don’t have another.
@Grace Mercy - Congratulations for knowing your worth and for listening to your Mother. Moreover, congratulations for 35 years of marriage. God Bless.
Idk... this sounds to me like you had to "train" him to be a decent human being to women.
Your comment is quite thought provoking. You didn't state if he ceased his "player" behavior immediately after meeting and marrying you. I know some women and men who weren't able to turn off certain bad behaviors immediately after saying "I do".
TRUE!!!! GOD BLESS.
It is literally impossible to watch Tony Gaskins videos and not leave better than you came. Loving, Laughing and Learning!!!
Yes ♥️
That is the honest to God's Truth!!! I loved my Tony!! Wisdom Truth love ❤️😘💜 and especially laughs..
Agreed!! ♥️
True 😂😂
Facts!!
Sex definitely clouds your judgement in a situationship
All the time!
Before you trust ANYONE, you have to KNOW them. Never put your trust in a man that you don’t know. You only know a person by asking questions, spending time, and watching their ACTIONS towards you and others.
Yes: ACTIONS NOT WORDS.
Tossing a salad, singing on the microphone, rodeo, riding a cowboy 🤠 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That part took me out 😂
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@@joiagenae lol yea girl I been noticing me using these phrases too as well as “what in the wurld ! “ and “Gooodneees Gracious !” 😂
And water boarding?!?! What dat? I’m scurred!🫣
I just started and Im crying at “lettin him cuff yo cheeks” 😩😩🤣🤣🤣
Translation: Leave these clowns right where you found them, ALONE. Looks like Tony Gaskins might be getting more male followers begging for tips on how to get the women back that he helped to leave them 😂😂😂 Tony you're about to get paid brother! Hahaha .Singleness is looking great for women. Good job ladies on loving yourselves. Keep it up!🥰🥰🥰
Thank you, so true. It hard but I'm worth it ❤️🙏🏼🙂
He said “I’m over here kissin and done caught COVID, knowing I got high blood pressure. Now you finna die” 😂😂😩😭 I can’t with him. I love listening for the lessons and laughs ♥️🧘🏽
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⚰️ ⚰️ ⚰️ 😂
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“Folding lips like Shenaynay..” he did not😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is why guidance is so needed for young people. For me, sex was always a fun activity because I thought that’s what you are suppose to do when you like someone. Now that I am older, I see how sex doesn’t mean anything and definitely does not mean a guy will stay with you and take you serious. I needed this video, because I need to sit down and be alone for a long while.
I was celibate for over 5 years. It was so empowering. You'll be surprised how many people that do absolutely nothing for your spirit/soul when you remove physical intimacy. When I tell people(using Maslows Hierarchy Theory) that sex isn't one of my top 3, they look at me like I am crazy.
Same!!
Amen sister! Preach!
Exactly. It doesn’t mean anything unless he wants to be kept.
@@greaterishe7197 Yeah… being celibate as well, I find it really weird that people place such high importance on sex
Too much goes into dating these days. I’ll take the lessons but happily be single lol
No doubt!!
Forreal tho lol it’s easier and safer to just be single.
@@simplyameeraj facts so much safer
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Absolutely
Tony ain't lying! I went on a date with a man earlier this year and he asked me a question that I felt was disrespectful so I grabbed my purse and left. When he reached out I told him to never disrespect me like that again. Later he told me that he was testing me and most women would've answered the question. Ladies stay on guard! Check the man the first time!
@@LA-wv7gf no I passed because I left lol. If I had answered the question I would've "failed"
@@LA-wv7gf it was a sexual question lol
@@LA-wv7gf wow this is real.sad how dating life has changed so people doing test on people that really show how the world is fake and artificial . You have to do all these test to people to see if there is fake. I think it because it so many fake people with just bad intentions when they get into relationships. This is just truly sad
Did you continue going on dates with him or did you end it completely then and there? It seems like you still did since you said again, but just asking for clarification!
Any man that has to disrespect a woman to see if she passes his "test" would be gone from my life pronto. He would be an automatic fail for me lol.
Tony said "You got got high blood pressure you finna dye! 😂 😂 Message always good with humor
The way his face lights up when Sheri walks in 😂❤
Ladies be careful...always trust your intuition. Thank you, Shari Gaskins, for being so classy!!! Tony lights up when Shari is around.
I went on a date Sunday and I literally had that talk with that guy today about trying to touch me too much and I don’t even know him
Nice boundaries !!!
Man oh man
We need to get our stuff together fr
Men are playing with us , seek and concur
Yes ma’am 😅
Wisdom and discernment needs to be present at all times with all friendships!!
“Hit her with the 3 level mousse cake”!! 🤣🤣🤣 On a side note, low key wanna try this “Chilean Sea Bass” 🤣🤣🤣
Me, too! I thought TG was going to throw in a crème brûlée but went with the white chocolate bread pudding. 😂😂
If men want to conquer something conquer respect
People be out there being deceitful about there relationships 🙄 and sexual health. Find out what's up with this person and take your time. You can't go back on forward once you jump in on this 💯 😒 wrong relationship. U can't trust what a person says. Most men just want a booty call trying u like trying on a pair of 👞 shoes. Most men know if you are what they looking for as soon as u open your mouth to 👄. Get to know them physically, Mentally, financially and sexual health wise. Know them well. If u r not wife material for them they know right away they are going to get in and get out and roll out on you. Don't get played. If u aren't for them they won't be around for very long 💯 rather u sleep with them or not.
Tony's date description got me hollering! 🤣 but it is so true.
Another great message!! Ladies, gotta stop letting these men play you like Atari 🎮. Sex is a game to 99% of them. You are worthy of so much more ❤️. My husband and other married men I know selected the lady who told them no. 😉 No man wants a loose booty. - TG
Not a Caesar Salad too!! 🤣😂😆It’s sad how easy it is to get some women to let their guard down.
I can't even say what I enjoy more: Tony's wisdom or comedy skills 😍😆
yes!!!!! lol!!
Absolutely 💯
You mean I know I didn't look like chewed up spit out bubble gum other men look like bottom of her shoe!!!🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for acknowledging that these kids are not add/adhd and put on drugs.
Kids need to be active and engaged. Classrooms are not the only places where kids can learn.
They just want to control the kids and make them compliant.
This stung and made me laugh at the same time 🤕🤣
Same
😂😂😂 omg SAME!
If a man is touching on you like he said in the beginning of this video he is not even husband material! He wouldn't even get a chance with me touching on me like that. Respect must be served 1st
Not the Chilean sea bass 😭😭😭😭
The men need to check themselves before they try to check someone else💯👍.
Mrs. Sheri said “ain’t no month 6 !” Made me laugh so hard. 😅
I’m in my early 20s and it makes me scared to hear all this, but I’ll take the lesson!
It’s so great you have this information. When I was in my early 20s, I was unaware of the information out there and went through a lot of unnecessary drama and stress
Absorb the lessons early, chile! You’ll need ‘em.🤦🏽♀️
Wish I had this in my 20s.
Better believe it hunny
Here's a tool to help you prepare for marriage,please Google KEYS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE AMAZING FACTS.(This is a Bible Study)
😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀I’m dead. Brother Tony I can’t…. Ceasar salad and breathe mint!!!
Thank you Mr. Gaskins. What I learned from this message is that if a person is of rare quality then they behave in ways that show they're not for the streets! 🛣🚦
It's the way he says things that have me Cracking Up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It’s sad that this is true and we’ve arrived (a while ago) to a point of having to make sure that someone that we are hoping to be loved by isn’t looking to conquer us and thinking all of these twisted warfare tactics. I would want to give up if I didn’t have the strength and guidance of God to help me understand how to maneuver through life and not be a punching bag to the whim of man and waves of life.
It's never been complicated. The Bible clearly says no sex before marriage. "Christians" don't even TRY to abstain.
@@Liz-ic6jb if God thought that it were easy for us, He wouldn’t have sent Jesus.
You saved me once again please never stop keeping us aware of these men out here. Thank God for you and your wisdom GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
In my past I've always felt like prey in hindsight ... and it was all on me from not knowing how to properly vett, and at times ignoring red flags. I am seriously praying that God just allows me to be a "spiritual eunuch", especially in this day and age (it's legit scary out here) lol. I do not have the energy to filter through the bs, to decipher the games, etc. Nor do I ever want to feel used again, it's one of thee worst feelings for me tbh.
I’m really grateful for this man’s teachings.
It really bothers me that the men who operate in such a manner is what women are up against in this world. They’re users and abusers.
Who is teaching boys how to become good men? Most boys are raised by their mothers in black communities. Boys need a good male image to mirror. Mothers can empower their sons in many ways, but that doesn't negate the fact that a boy needs a good man (father) . A good boy will usually grow up to become a good man.
This is what us woman NEED to hear.a lot to learn in one video
This is true. I am a substitute teacher and the teacher's rolling assignments bins holder was leaning. The girls put assignments in bin. Three boys saw me struggling and asked if they could fix it. And they did within minutes. 👏🏾
The boys felt so proud and the class was happy.
Boys want to fix it!
😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Have lost many men for not putting out either on first day or soon after...when I say loss it was a win for me frfr.
Thanks for confirming that it's OK to wait and ask for check ups. Because some of us know and practice this!
Grateful for men like Tony Gaskins educating us women on the games of men. Thank you for the insightful and entertaining message.
Wish I'd known this years before. Can't believe how naive I was towards men till the disaster of my last relationship. Happy to stay single and work on myself till the time is right 😊
You're learning - we all are! As long as you don’t repeat the same actions!🙏👏
@@rrnn6472 Yes, I can't keep making the same mistakes. I didn't even realize I was doing anything wrong till I came across Pastor RC Blakes, then stumbled upon Tony Gaskins. Wow, they opened my eyes! Thank goodness. Have a blessed day 😊
@@lanis777 Thank you! Yes RC (and Redefined TV) are Awesom! Their platforms, much like Tony's put me in check. Blessings to you as well!🙏
This is so informative and entertaining. People tend to date from where they are in life, that's how we choose a certain type of partner. These days most men expect so much from women so fast.
It’s unbelievable. These men are inviting themselves over after one date. Sir, do you not have your own place to rest for the night?
@@j-tenn226 A man I just met is not coming to my place at all. Might not know where I live.
@@j-tenn226 Seriously! Even these supposed “guy friends” they want to come over and watch movies… uh no sir.. I watch them by myself!
Right most them want that happy ending uhhh nooo…
Tony look fed up on that thumbnail.. I know this bout to be good 😂
Thank you Tony. My sister and cousins have been getting on my nerves lately with dating advice and today I had to curse them out (they’re bullying me about being modest, calling me naive and a user of men). Basically I have a serious issue / standard with a man I JUST MET touching me in sensual areas. I’m very quick to show I dislike that behavior or I assert myself. Ny sister and cousins were vexed about me doing this because it “puts men off” when the reality is that - I DO NOT WANT a man I DO NOT KNOW invading my privacy and feeling entitled to putting a FINGER on me. Idc how attractive he thinks he is, that is my RULE. I also have a serious issue with men kissing me on the first date WITHOUT my consent or showing that I’m INTERESTED. These men will have a great time with me on a date and assume I want an unsolicited kiss that ultimately gets them blocked. A man that invades my space on the first date is a man that’ll keep testing my boundaries. I was starting to really wonder if I even liked men because I also do not like hugging a man who I don’t know. I have a serious issue with men being too friendly, sexual, flirty or anything with me and I sometimes friendzone myself with the fact I’m not even flirtatious or showing direct interest. I thought I was actually realizing I might be a lesbian since I face none of the issues with women touching me as nearly to the degree of men. My sisters bullied me telling me I’ll keep running men off and that I need to go down on a man to keep his attention and my parents raised me to be MODEST and have respect for myself. My first and only ex did not earn a real two arm hug from me until nearly six months in. We held hands around the one year mark (he didn’t like touching hands) and our intimacy didn’t kick start until later. We broke up over other reasons but the thing is he respected how long it took me to warm up and trust him. It takes TIME for me. And this wards men off because I come off immature and off putting when I reject advances when the reality is that I need TIME to develop genuine feelings and see what you’re feeling for me. When a man becomes sexual too quick (with me it’s within hours or days) I’m quick to SNIP em. I let men know I’m not the one and I’m not missing out on letting them pass on by. Any man who can’t wait, isn’t worth it in my opinion..so good riddance to him anyway.
Just be you! I am modest and I am the same like you. There will be a man that will truly accept you the way you are and vice versa.
I'm JUST like you. I don't like men forcing men into my physical space when I barely know them. It's violating, and they know EXACTLY what they're doing when they do it as it's an ego stroke at your expense for the guys who do it prematurely i.e. first and second date. Honestly, you're not doing it wrong either. I'd let them know from the jump that you're not into physical touch with people that you don't know well.
@@sparklesp9304 I’m so glad to hear that I am not the only one! It’s reassuring because my sister and cousins really had me believing I was doing it wrong, telling me that “men don’t want to be friends with you, they want sex and you’re being a user of men for not allowing them to have sex with you or giving them signs that you want sex.” And I clapped back with “I want a man who can be my friend first and that comes with respect of me and knowing that I respect myself to not allow “lust” to overtake my judgement of discerning him. If a man can’t be my friend because he’s only expecting sex, then I’m good on him. That’s not how genuine relationships work nor last.” This ANGERED them. They’re vexed about my body count being 2 in my late 20s and that I have GENUINE men as friends! I was getting worried about how “off putting” I can be towards men, because one guy recently met me a single time in a parking lot, told me about himself and then I allowed us to meet about 2 weeks later, he immediately rubbed on my thigh when he sat down next to me. I looked at him, IRRITATED and I said boldly “do not touch me there again, please. I don’t know you, we’ve met a single time.” My sister got upset (she’s the one who introduced us) because she’s like “girl you have zero sex appeal and a grown man hates that.” AND? My sex appeal BUILDS AFTER I know him! She’s mad I can look at attractive men and not want to jump his bones, I need to know who he is first and that takes time, like being his friend and seeing what he’s about. My sister and cousins immediately jump in the bed with men and try to keep them doing acrobatics in the bedroom.
Im going to start telling men on the first date about my no touching rule. I thought it would come off too forward, because it means he can pretend to respect my boundaries and I let down my guard and then im played. I’d rather they show me who they are, but the bad news is that I cut them off immediately because of it. I want to communicate it, I just don’t want it to backfire. I want a man to understand with the way I carry myself that he can read I am not the type of woman to accept that behavior from the jump. But if I need to start explaining it, I suppose I should do that..
Check out Tiffany Buckner here on TH-cam. I’m think you’ll like her. She’s like the male Tony. She has a plethora of videos on dating, effects of fornication, so much!
1. I say stop telling your family about dating.
2. It appears you may overthink things from the fact you wrote such a long comment.
3. There's no need to be angry when men test your boundaries. THEY DON'T KNOW YOU! Simply tell them you don't touch early in the dating stage.
Every woman they go out with is different boundaries and expectations. Also, they have to know what NOT to say to you (or any date ) without taking offense.
"Singing on the microphone!!!" I am crying!!! But such a great topic! Thanks for the humor brother!!
Seems easier to be by yourself these days. 💯
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 man i bout died when you stuck your tongue out 😂😂😂 deadddd
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😂😂😂he’s so funny!!!
Yes Tony it takes time I was with my husband for over 20 years married for 7years we divorced because he was cheating! He killed the woman he was cheating with after a few months! Grateful God removed him from my life
Wow God really saved you from a. Wicked man🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Whew! You are covered and protected in The Mighty Name of Jesus! God Bless you!
I love how his demeanour is much lighter when his wife is around ❤
This one hurt but needed to hear it… thank you for the wisdom Tony !
I ain't getting excited unless we talk and have major energy with eachother. Wine. Food ..gifts... don't do shit for me.
I need the mutual vibe you can't see .. chemistry.
Tony you got me hollering 🤣 the wife might be deployed! Everything you are saying is so true and relatable. It's horrible out here. We got to be on the lookout for everything. Thank you ❤️
The other day I was listening to a pod cast and the evolutionary psychologist was saying the prefrontal cortex of a male at ten years of age is the same as a female at twenty four. The prefrontal cortex plays a role in cognitive control function and impulse. That right there says a lot
Can i ask which podcast and episode this was? This is very interesting
@@juneelle370 thanks !
It’s sad and true that we rush to sleep with one another but the pressure is real. Women run to sleep with a man thinking that will keep him but it doesn’t at all!! If that man truly cares and respect you as a woman, if you tell him no, he respects you and you wait for the intimacy then that’s the way to go but in 2022 we know men and women don’t wait. If you don’t give him what he wants, there are plenty that will and the same applies for women. This is why people are not getting married or getting married and divorced in record time!
Ok I have to say - WHERE HAS THIS MAN BEEN MY WHOLE LIFE?! The straight up VALUE he is providing is INCREDIBLE + i have NEVER EVER laughed so hard while learning in my life! Thank you so much! Brand new Sub right here!
😂😂😂😂 Tony is hilarious and telling the truth at the same time! Thank you 🙏🏾
why God always lead me right back to Tony videos 😂 i can run but I can't hide! Not the "Jeffrey Dahmer vibes" 😩😅🙏🏽
lol that made me laugh. I was like what is he doing here 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dang!🤔 The Jeffery Dahmer Test, The Buffet with a Mint and the Covid Protocol 🤦🏽♀️. Lord, Lord, Lord!!! Just kissing took me out. ( I'll wait then, I have to add some more stuff to the list) SMH!! Thank you, Tony. You Never Disappoint when your sister need info.❤️👍🏼🙏🏼
Thank you Tony! This video really explained a lot. I don’t and have never slept around. Only man I ever been with is my soon to be ex husband. He was emotionally unavailable and emotionally abusive (just like my parents). I realized that I was never comfortable around him. And reflecting on how I got in that situation has been the greatest life lesson of my life. Never again. Now I do exactly as you say and I’m vetting everybody even potential female friends. I am highly sensitive to energy, I always have been but people in my family would tell me I was trippin or crazy because I would tell them I don’t trust somebody or something lie that and I was always right. But because they doubted me and put me down I started to not trust myself. Now I’m trusting myself again. It’s taking time but I’m definitely putting stronger, healthier boundaries up with everyone and I’m feeling good. Thanks again!
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When you started with emotionally unavailable parent/s it subconsciously trains you to pick emotionally unavailable men nd friends. I made the same mistake and when I realised I kicked myself. I wasted a lot of time but lesson learned we will never pick men like that again now we know the difference now we have learned the lesson I have turned a good few down since the last relationship because I can see the unavailable trait more clearly now and over enthusiastic men can not come into my life and hurry me to bed either. When I find out you are the same old type I block and ghost no explanation its not like they know where I live.
“Destiny fix that headshot , come on now, you wasting ya money on here ain’t nobody finna hire you with that sideways headshot” 😭😭😭
Hilarious 😂
Thank you Tony. Being easily impressed will backfire every single time. Lol I just about fell out when your wife showed up and your facial expression changed Tony 😂😅
This video was awesome. It’s so crazy to think how naive I was to the ways of a man. Didn’t know he was reading me the whole time.
Me neither and I’m in my mid 60s. Been a widow for 14 years, and the first man I dated; I was so naive when I got totally fooled by a man who was 5 years older! 😞
Men are hunters by nature! Conquer, score and release if you allow it!
I hunt for food, not women!
That might be true for you.
Thanks for this video, Tony!! ✨🙏🏽
Thank you for speaking the truth 🙌 🙏🏾
Wow!! Awesome Message!! God bless you and your family!!🙏🙏❤️❤️
That’s great advice to look at your situation as if you are your mom or sister. I needed to hear that. Thank you and God bless!
PREACH TONY!!! All of this! All of this!
That cholesterol and blood pressure ain’t where it’s suppose to be 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Sad truth indeed thank you Tony🙏🏾🙏🏾
The calendar is on point and hilarious. Thanks Tony!
Bro you spit the truth on this one‼️🙌🏾
“Truth is I’m tireeee”😂😂once again great advice TG!
“The rest of these gremlins” “ chewed up spit out bubblegum” 🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣
😂Soo True Tony.. Make It Plain, Like You Do.
Today my 4 yo son said, "mommy your nails beautiful, your hair is beautiful, your cheeks is beautiful 😅❤️❤️
You are preaching today 🗣👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Uncle Tony dropping the wisdom bombs 💣 📚
Blessings to you and the Gaskins Family and your ministry !
13:20 Tony is so funny but listen that Delta will mess you UP!!! That mug had my eyes glitching with heart palpitations afterwards for weeks! 😩😂
Thank you, I enjoyed the video and the reminders, very helpful. God blessings 🙏🏾😊
Amen, I Thank you Jesus, I Thank you Tony, God bless you Sir!
Wow another powerful lesson learnt 🙏 God bless you Tony & your family
I have been tuning in for a few weeks and have watched at least 20 videos! Thank you so much for these gems you keep dropping!! My life is truly being changed over here. I pray God continues to bless you and your family 🙏🏾
You keep it Real and Raw TG! 👍🏼👍🏼 Peace and Love and Blessings to you and your family in Christ Jesus 🙏🏽🕊🤍
Best video by far! Awesome, awesome, the truth served on a gold platter! Thank you my brother!
Bro Tony you on point with so much truth and lots of humor 😂😂😂 thanks for this message. Blessings to you always
This was so powerful. It needs to be watched again and again.
Tony always got me dying in laughter 😅😂. Great advice 🌟👏🏽🙌🏽
😂😂😂 OMG!! I should not have watched this at work!! TONY!!! LOL
I thank you… sometimes I be naive cause of a man’s charming nature but u done woke me up
This video is Saved! I always save all the gems because I like to go back and listen to them again. Thank you Tony!
I love Tony for enlightening people that need a sound mind to bounce off of. Me myself I guess I have lived enough to know, I haven’t picked up anything that I didn’t know already. Women need to listen to this man. Women have an illusion of what a man should be versus what they really are.
This yes exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks Mr Gaskins. Listening all the way from Sweden😀
Yesss Congrats to all Coaches..
I saw Myself ..Motivation
Love the real talk brother Tony.
I just saw my coach up there ! ❤ Thanks for sharing some examples of the minimum of $25 an hour. Tamu is awesome and I see her every two weeks
I Have LEARNED SO MUCH FROM THIS MAN OF GOD 🙏🏽💕