MALE Dating Psychology: 20s vs 30s. [Korean🇰🇷🇺🇸 guys in NYC].👸🏻
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Jason: "English is my second language"
John: "Love is his first"
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I’ve been married for ten years and what I noticed about single people in their 30s is that they don’t trust their potential partner. They are also picky. They talk about the little pet peeves when marriage/committed relationships has much bigger problems. Of course, you should still have standards, but also give someone a chance too. You’ll never fully know a person. I’m still learning new things about my husband everyday. So if you don’t trust or want to compromise, than you’re either not ready or have not met the right person yet. Regardless, take your time and enjoy your life.
I think this was beautifully said
Well said👏🏽
You'll never fully know a person...I like that. Thank you.
This is so true and I'm not even in my 30s...
thank you for saying the most important word "Commitment" You are absolutely right
As a girl, it’s nice to hear honest dating advice from guys because there is a ton of content about dating from a girl’s perspective in social media
I'm impressed you guys are really thinking about this and willing to share your views. I'm 52 yrs old and was married for 33 yrs to a wonderful man, we were like fire and ice. The classic opposites attract, but he knew how to melt my ice and I knew when to chill his fire. There was a lot of passion in the relationship, not just meaning sexual (there was a lot of that...lol) but passion for living life, discussing recent news, deciding on a home, a movie, etc., we challenged each other in a lot of ways and that made it exciting to wake up the next day with him to find out what we would do or talk about next.
Unfortunately I lost him to cancer 2 yrs ago, but he was the best time I ever had.
I believe finding someone who sparks your passion and challenges you to be better is important for a relationship, and you as a person, to grow.
You guys are great! Thanks for letting me vent. ;)
There’s nothing wrong with wanting care from your loved one, Jason. In a relationship, it’s important that the girl pursues the guy and that the guy pursues the girl, also. Both should honor, respect, and care for one another. Once you are in a relationship, you are in one team. So both the girl and guy need to encourage and love each other. It’s draining being the only one doing the work.
When John said that he replied to his crush with “give me the address” I immediately thought that John is a kdrama boyfriend 🤣
John is korean bf in looks 🤣.. the rest, idk loll
@@moejobe lmao... total bros😂
@@moejobe hi1🤗😉
I’m with Jason on this one. Sometimes, it’s not about a fancy degree but how passionate, caring, and respectful they are. I’m here! Hahahahaha kidding. It was very humble of you to say those words Jason. It gives us women hope.
Oh man, John’s house party story could totally be in a Kdrama
a kdrama with no romance 🤣🤣
I’ll be down to help film!
@@JBRODUCTION but what if looks really matter to me..and to attract more and lots of people to have sex it really helps..how else do you
‘Someone who is passionate and working hard with humility.’ - Awesome answer, Jason!
All the girls in healthcare and dentistry sliding in JOHN's DMs after what he said 🏃♀️🏃♀️
🤣🤣🤣🤣 can I?
I work in the healthcare industry but as a marketer.. do I qualify? 😂
I think there’s a difference between someone who is like you (same values) and someone who has had the same experiences. One doesn’t necessarily equal the other. Two people could have grown up in two totally different up cultures/languages/countries but when they talk about their lives they find out they went through a lot of similar issues and life situations and can understand each other despite differences in the fact pattern. Or two people could grow up with the same cultural background and have similar life experiences, but they end up with completely different goals and personal values. I think it’s best to look for a partner who is “like you” on the inside, because the outside matters less than you might suppose :)
I feel like I’m watching bromance instead of an interview type of video lol.
Dating wise, I’m in my mid 20s and I’m already seeing things differently compared to my earlier 20s. I used to qualify dates primarily on how much merit they have (education, work, personality, looks, niceness, ambition, etc.) and how much I like them (and also how much people around might like them). Nowadays, those things are secondary to how respectful this man treats me and also himself (I’ve had some people treating me well at their own expense of well-being, that’s not very healthy). I’d say dating changes as we grow, for both men and women ;)
Anyway, thanks for sharing!
When Jason says "so long as she is working hard toward her passions with humility" I lost it. He just won major brownie points. Did Jason get so much hotter than John? #controverial #jokes #funandgames
I loved this part too! It's my first time watching one of their videos and this comment made me subscribe. Shows a deep individual with a good head on his shoulders that is worth watching.
I like Jason's thoughts in this video. Even if you have all these standards, if its meant to be, it will be. I also believe that love moves in mysterious ways like falling for someone opposite of what you really like, in the least possible way. lol "Love is his first" line was good. Love this! Great job guys! More to come. 😍😍
Women love men who use Grammarly...according to a poll. 🤝🏿
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I love this channel bc it normalizes the idea that no one really has their whole life figured out, we grow as we go. The way you think and your ideals change and grow along with you, what you want right now may not be what you want 5 years from now or even 6 months from now!
This turned from dating perspectives to wholesome bro moments and I’m here for it
Yeah I'm 29 in NYC, and I can have all these "standards" I want in someone, but I've gone on dates with people who on paper have all of those things, but the vibe is so wrong. It's exhausting lol. I think, annoyingly, it comes down to just luck of meeting someone who you can connect with on that "it just feels right" level, which may mean they don't fit some of those standards you originally "wanted". Which for me is what is hard to come to terms with, because frankly I don't wanna waste more time dating people who don't seem like the right fit, but then I think I'm being too stringent with what I'm looking for and potentially missing someone that would be good for me...sigh. And as for wanting to be chased--if someone is too aloof, it's such a turnoff. I don't need to be chased and fawned over, but just make it clear that you like me and want to see me, damn...*has war flashbacks*
Well said!
Agreed!!
100% how driven and passionate a person is, is so attractive! And you have to be happy on your own before you can have someone else come in your life and you can just add to eachother and grow together
I liked this video so much. I felt like "chill" and "simple" vibes. I think, this may be another dimension of Jbro. Wow!! Jbro grew up to new level !!
A girl, after 25, should not be expected to be pampered. At that age the girl should know that love oneself and being independent is the most important. Never to rely on someone else for love or money.
Yessss ❤️ it’s so great when you both have independent things you focus on on your careers and support each other. That’s the dream
How about embracing both? Having a partner that appreciates her independence and pampers her at the same time.
@@Jasg111 of course you can. Just not living off it though. I mean not get upset if you're not pampered. Hell, go out and pamper yourself! Don't rely on others especially men to make you happy. At that age you're financially stable to be able make yourself feel better. Money don't buy happiness but it does buy me cupcakes (coz i like cupcakes) 😄
@@Jasg111 Amen
Indeed ma'am so am I now
For a long term relationship, I would say that ,yes loyalty is important and compromise too. Don’t forget that nothing is taken for granted in life!! For example, a lamp need to be refilled every time if you want to keep the flame alive ,same in your relationship. Even if you got married, have children, busy , you have to remember why you have chosen this person.
I love how open and real you guys are with this topic. I honestly feel like dating gets harder as you get older. #singlelife.
i need this topic to be a podcast omg
Definitely need a podcast. I’m the same boat, just turned 30, and dating becomes a bit “harder”. There are still many things I want to accomplish in life but it is hard to find someone that understands and is supportive. At least in my case the other person expects me to make them my world or the other way around and it’s not healthy! I don’t want to be someone’s world, rather someone that appreciates and respects my individuality and helps me grow, and I will do the same. Someone that shares the same principals and values as I do regardless or their race, and is willing to create a world with me...There has to be a balance and unfortunately haven’t found that yet. I’m glad I found this channel, it is nice to hear the male perspective from people the same age as me. Anyways, keep on posting! definitely subscribing to this channel ☺️
well said ximena, and whats up to the 30 gang! def relatable points you've made and it seems like you're doing everything u can to find meaning and growth. and thx for subbing! ; )
True!! Once turning 30.. I felt like where can I meet quality and single status people other than dating apps!!!
I love their witty jokes and banter to each other lmao. Subscribed.
I am truly loving this video guys! I love your videos because it allows us to think about relationship matters. Something we can all learn and gain from. Jason thanks for bringing up the importance "on being treated" in a relationship. I have seen relationships fail because of how some couples or one person in a relationship would negatively treat each other or the other partner. I myself can't and don't tolerate disrespect, toxicity, and any form of abuse and manipulation. And I also like how Dr. Yoo emphasized on how he possibly sees himself being in a relationship with someone who has the same passions and field (dentistry, medical)... And I agree with you on that too Dr. Yoo! Go for what truly matters to you because happiness is number one! But I also have come to the realization in life that it is okay to be open to meeting different people, even opposite of what he had hoped for because we just never know we might find potential in any of them and just maybe the perfect and/or right match. Have a great weekend guys!!!
Jason is my spirit animal ☺️
I understand and agree with Jason, its really important how someone treats you. It matters because you are going to spend the rest of your life with them.
You 2 are made for each other!😂 I’ve been married for 34 years now and I’ve found that....same interests and humor has done it for us. My husband is the professional and I’m a stay at home mom. Good Luck to you both...love is out there for you! 💕
Great conversation guys! Def a must watch for young adults who are navegating the dating world and can be mislead to focus on a lot of unimportant things and miss red flags!
I too tend to give a lot into a relationship and one thing that has changed for me over the years is that I put friendship before relationship.I won’t date someone I don’t already know well enough and call a friend.I find that this helps a lot with the issue of reciprocity.
👏🏽👏🏽!!
Don't let your past experiences taint your potential relationships. Start with blank start, if you come into meeting someone with no expectations than you are most likely wont be disappointed with the outcome.
i love how there is 소주 한 잔 in the background playing in the middle part
Thanks for the virtual tour guys! It’s like a scene from movies! Totally love it 😍
Excellent thoughts guys! The secret for a good relationship is always be respectful and honest to the other person and if that other person is really worth it, and as a couple you guys have then same goals, it is a win - win!
Yup totally agree. Someone driven by something and living her life to the fullest is attractive and how someone values your efforts and time is more important than how they look or how amazing their personality is.
Deep conversations are like magic ♥️
This was an insightful video. I like the content. As someone who's in your age group and has gone through some dating experiences, starting to value other things in a relationship or the beginning of a relationship is understandable. Also the nice guy chase as you mentioned it being too fawning, if there's no attraction or interest from the other side, it definitely comes off as creepy and annoying.
I like how Jason phrased his differences between dating in 20s and 30s, it's more specific and certainly shows the shift in perspectives as we grow... "older".
John's comment about his mom thinking he's looking for a perfect person hits home as well. Not just my mom, but almost everyone else think I'm just looking for a "perfect" person, when all I want is to find someone to connect to on the same page/compatibility/same values etc. etc.
Anyway, I can see where both of you are going with your video so I'm definitely interested in the other parts. Thanks for filming this.
i am pausing and screaming in every two minutes cause damn john is sooooo cute and perfectly perfecting the word perfection!!!!
🌟 I agree with Johns mom & the advice she gave. I’ve always gotten the vibe that he’s seeking “perfection” and that’s he’s closed minded regarding certain things and it shows. Compatibility is a term that’s overly used when discussing an ideal partner.
It’s cute to want someone that’s into everything that you enjoy, have the same beliefs, & in the same career field...that sh!t will get old quick! You will quickly feel as though work is overflowing into your personal life and that you do not have space or time to yourself because your partner is into every activity, work, & social circles that you’re in. They will become your friend not your lover.
Jason, I agree 💯% regarding your time and efforts being valued and respected! That’s very very important!
Literally every new J bro ep is so good!
AW YEAAAAAHHHHH
i love hearing a guys perspective on these topics!! omgg
lol your transition music killed me. but this was a very honest vid and I appreciated that
I think I feel a strong connection between Jason and John loll
oh hai linda
Jason is so right. Keep it up sharing the good news 😋
These bromance talks are on point
It was lovely seeing you two talking personal stuffs on cam. Nice nice! Hoping for more good contents! :)
can you also do a video on your guys' self development and personal growth over the years? I'd also be interested in seeing you discuss personality type: mbti, enneagram, astrology, or even big five (if you want to be scientifically backed). sometimes the camera only shows one side of you and I would love a more holistic view
John your hair looks bestttttt this way!!!!!
Wow I love it when John said that its very attractive for a girl to have her own awesome life. That's really important to remember, for anyone actually!
Don't be embarrassed John thanks for trusting youtube and sharing your story with us! You just gotta find the right fit for you- one that will see your efforts and match them, keep doing you guys (:
Jason: “oh, you’re perfect.”
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For sure seeing someone passionate and working hard to achieve their dreams is a major turn on. I think it's natural to be more cautious about expressing too much interest as we age but it also makes it harder to gauge how interested the other party is. I have always gone back and forth between whether dating someone in healthcare would be better as they have gone through similar career experience or if dating someone outside would provide a better work-life delineation.
It’s so fun to get to know from guy perspective , kudos John & Jason
I love you guys. These types of videos are always insightful with good perspectives mixed with great bromance humor. Keep it up!
Man, that was too short bros... wish there was a second channel that contained extended scenes and extras😭
It is okay, bro. Keep clam and continue do it!! Actually, it was interesting content too. thank you !!
Jasooooonn ... my lovely ahjusshi ... sarangs 💛💃
We created a 2nd channel just for you bro (link in the description)
You guys should ask girls for their opinions next video joint discussion 😜
@@tonymoy8808 I think the majority of Jbro viewers are women, and I think we need to hear men's perspectives on love, and not the other way around, because women's definitions and perspectives on love can vary and cannot be represented by just one person, or just a few, because women are full of emotions and like to use feelings in everything, because of that the opinion of one or several women cannot represent many other women, but it is different if we hear the definition of love from the perspective of men ... men are very rational so that their perspectives and opinions can represent many men in general.
The music cut is hilarious!
LOLOL omg the video was almost 15 minutes long and it didnt even feel that long!! 😭 PS the bromance is everything LOVE YOU GUYS!! sending my love all the way from calliiffornia on the opposite side of america 🥺♥️
Dr.John always The hardworking guy i don't think u were idiot. I see teens and 20's kids agreeing with Jason they are maturing fast. Perfect sponsor for my nephew tomorrow's English exam👍😊
"How she treats me" isn't a shelfish answer it can go both ways. I have seen couples who have it all and who are seemly perfect on the outside but dread going home to their spouses. They feel unappreciated and demeaned which causes resentment and makes the relationship more of a chore/contract than an actual relationship.
I agree, I actually think Jason's answer is so dead on at least from my perspective now being in my mid-30s. I was all about the looks and how my friends would perceive me and my partner, but now I think what's so much more important is how they treat you and how that makes you feel. How they respect you, support you and help you both grow together in a relationship is so much more valuable and important in my book. I very much appreciate him calling that out.
This comment is everything! This needs to be pinned!
Jen,
Jason is dead-on! In your 30’s, we value respect and reciprocity!
LoL 😆 your going deep there John with Jason ….started talking about why you guys like each other because of your work ethics etc and why you guys are great friends.
Learned a lot from guys perspective. Thank you for your honesty!
The good guy method may not work at first but trust you will get the girl in the end. She will realize after she goes through her bad boy stage and broken heart. The good guy may finish last but he still finishes and if the girl doesn’t reciprocate than she isn’t ready for a good catch when it’s right in front of her. Still have standards because you deserve the best. Always give your all and your heart because that’s a life of no regret. You guys mean well and the right person will come along who is ready and willing to appreciate all you have to give. Blessings!
I think this is more of a movie trope than a thing that really happens that commonly irl. Movies written by men where a woman is a prize you win by completing your quest and saving her from her poor partner choices lol. Most women ime generally like someone who's kind to them plus other individual standards they have, even at a younger age. I think this whole nice guy/good guy and bad boy dichotomy needs to die because it breeds a lot of toxicity and in reality I guess most men are a bit of both, as are humans in general. I hope I don't sound like I'm picking a fight, it's just sharing a different viewpoint.
You guys are real legends. Thank you for being awesome and respecting women. Do a live stream on dating, love and all things Korean - I'll be right there folks! Anyeong!!
I want more content like this! Relationship / dating talk from a guys perspective! :)
The part where john was crossing the road, and the caption about him navigating through life should be made into a GIF 😂
Lol everyone needs to checkout @j_broccolies and @jbroandfriends for some hilarious memes. The most underrated meme pages on the internet. Haha
@@JBRODUCTION I've checked them out and its time for J bros to react to these memes too 🙃
Agree. Chemistry and compatibility are the most important thing to look out for. One should also look out for how she respects you and the people around her.
"gimme the address" 😂
Does that ever work? Lol
J Bro 제이브로 if she sorta likes you back/has a some level of interest...then yes 😄
@@JBRODUCTION ha. the opposite happened to me in my twenties! I was fast asleep warm in my bed. a cute girl i know called me from a party drunk and said she needed to leave and that she was outside the house and lost and thought she was gonna get attacked. I was pissed but still went to pick her ass up because i was a gentleman (i was basically just like John then. the uber nice guy). Then instead of dropping her off at her house, she wanted to just come over and sleep because my place was closer or something. so she came to my house and plopped on my bed and fell asleep! i went back to sleep on the far side of the bed and in the middle of the night she grabbed me and said "
넌 내 꺼야!" and tried to kiss me!... I was like. WTH? anyway. I didn't sleep well and she woke up guilty in the morning (nothing happened by the way). I dropped her off at the her office (some venture capital firm in silicon valley) and went on my way.
The story isn't over. I found her lipstick at my place, so I called her and left her a voicemail asking her to pick up her lipstick. Well, this is where things get serious. Some dude calls me out of the blue from michigan. Says he was her BF and is wondering why her lipstick is at my place!! holy sheeet! Apparently he has access to her voicemail. Anyway, I explain the whole thing, except the part where she tried to drunk jump me. I lied and said I slept on the floor (i'm not sleeping on the floor in my own gd place). In the end he said I sounded like a nice guy and that he didn't have any hard feelings. I called her up and was like "WTF! I didn't know you had a BF! What were you thinking!" The apologies flowed like a river. needless to say, i never saw or heard from her again. puhahaha.
The most important thing to look for in a long term partner for me, is similar values..whether you are building a family, how u treat your family and friends, raising a child, dealing with work, loving life etc. Moving forward on common ground. Yet sparks with surprises in the relationship to keep the fire burnin.. But I always remember: that we're Same Same, but Different.
Hi. You two are just too happy together -- and let's be real, that doesn't leave space for any girl. Thanks for the video!
I have to admit ,I found myself agreeing to most of the points they were making as I've found my self transitioning to a similar mind set.
As I've grown older, I've realised intellectual compatibility, strong values ,along with a person's ambitions are far more attractive than just physical attributes.
Yayayay the duo is back !! 😈❤️
aaayyyyyyyy welcomebackkkkkkk to anotha episode
So relatable...when you think you're set on what kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, it constantly changes. And you just confuse yourself
I thought Jason said it’s coffee season. I do like what Jason said, how she treats me is more important. Lots of brownie points for that answer.
This popped up randomly on my feed. I clicked and instead of listening to what they said, I kept looking at all the sites and sounds 😑... made me feel like I went on a journey and saw those places. It was fun, haha.
it was quite fun and enjoyable to watch, great!
For sure I was in the same mindset in my early 20's, imagining that "perfect" korean drama guy that sweeps you off your feet with all the grand gestures. Now, the little things like cooking for you after a long day of work or taking the trash out every other day because you hate it. That's love right there. "Love isn't finding someone you can live with, it's someone you can't live without" that kind of feeling?
Having a relationship is such a personal experience that it is difficult to even compare it from person to person. I believe in opposites attract and I value someone who views life differently. I tend to like someone who is more idealistic and romantic. Yet that person would need to be open to my realism and straightforward answers.
I am the realistic and straightforward person,too,my husband is a romantic...so I have to be patient with him.
Oh wow that was really insightful. Im 33 and sometimes there are moments wherein I feel insecure that Im not at a level of success that people expect me to be even though Im actually happy. With what Jason said about pursuing passions with humility,made me feel refreshed to hear that.
And also by human nature I think initially we do get attracted by looks but real attraction happens when you start to see the person as you get to know them. Sadly though in today's culture people dont even try to get pass just the physical looks to give themselves a chance to actually build connection.
Looking forward to more videos!
Life is precious. Just go with the flow. Really enjoy seeing both of you opening your thoughts. God Bless
You guys are back again! I like your views John and totally agree with it. Compatibility is the first thing came to my mind as well. Exactly you have to spend the rest of your life with this person and being compatible is not you both have the same views and interests. Two people can be compatible even they have totally different personalities. Need more content like this guys. You guys are so funny but at the same time you both can have deep conversations while being funny. 😊
the last sentence especially makes us both happy. we are glad you found our talk to have both components 😊
@@JBRODUCTION yeah keep it up coz its so natural to you guys and that's why it seems effortless to us viewers.
Speaking of Grammarly, I do use it every day. I love it! I always use it for work and also school.
Loved the vid. Sending love and support from Sydney💕
I’m so glad I found this channel. Advice and videos are so relatable! I feel like I’m chilling with my guy friends listening to them talk about their girl problems 😂
Johns sunglasses thooo
Funny and insightful guys, thanks for always cracking me up. I think it's important to be able to laugh in a relationship.
Are y’all tryna make us fall in love with you two, the answers were right on point, farr my hearts about jump outta me
Man I feel the love you guys have for each other haha.
These guys seem so cool. Love the video :)
I feel in love with J BRO😎❤
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I think your friend is right. Treatment is the best answer because it's not guaranteed that people will respect you. Mostly when you are in a relationship. you think it's a given but it's how they deal with it differences and growth together.
Ole & Steen is such a good cafe! they're known for their danish pastries like their cinnamon social (so good)
This is so informative. This is actually very helpful 🙂
Thanks for sharing Jbros! It’s nice to hear your perspective from the early 20’s vs now. I was wondering if you had any comments on online dating and how men approach talking online especially now as this may be a popular options for many.
Your perspective will probably continue to change as you age. Your views on your future partner will be different in your 40’s (if you’re still single, that is) than what it is now. IMHO, the two most important things to look for in a partner is compatibility and values. 😊 Thanks for a fun video!
Nice guy talk 👏 👌
Would really love to hear you guys do a podcast soon 🙏🏻
Love you both. Wish I could meet you both. Video spot on with honesty. Wrong...it was too choppy. Keep going!!
Very honest video, I liked it. It’s the same for Women in their thirties too. I started my thirties this year so I connect with all of what you guys talk about, how now I know what I’m looking in a relationship and stuff like that. Well I guess with the pandemic going on is even more harder to date (at least to me) and it’s gonna take more time for us people who are single to find a boyfriend (or girlfriend). I agree completely with how you find it easier to talk to people who work in healthcare (when you work in healthcare) I can literally talk to other people in healthcare for hours 😅
겸손하고 멋진인생을 살고계신 두분 보며 많이 배워요~감사해요^^