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- Here are 10 things that no one told me about postpartum. I wish I had known these things before I gave birth so they wouldn't have been such a shock! :-)
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Hi, I know this is an old video, but I felt like I should add something to the "don't be worried if you bleed alot" tip. I was told that after my first was born, but no one told me how to measure how much blood I was losing.
IF YOU FILL MORE THAN ONE SANITARY NAPKIN AN HOUR, SEE A DOCTOR. I was filling 3 or 4 and thought it was normal. Turns out they left a piece of my placenta inside me and I was hemorrhaging for 6 weeks. I had no idea anything was wrong until I passed out for 2 hours and had to have an emergency procedure to save my life.
Also, the blood clots should not be as big as your palm. If it is, save it and take it in to be checked. It might not be blood!
Don't panic, but be smart.
Kaytie Buckhalt omg you past out for 2 hours l hope you got better all my love xxx
Wow. That is really a lot to go through. I hope you are much better now and thank you for the tip. Really appreciate it.
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Kaytie Buckhalt Thank you for the advice!!! This is definitely helpful, I'm glad you're ok!
Golly
Hello. i just wana comment about what you said: "i hope it wasnt too gross for you". no it wasnt gross and I actually with that more women would talk about these things. because it just makes all women feel normal. we need to talk more about those issues and i wanted to thank you actually for doing this. it is great! and we need more honest videos like this :). you are lovely, and your family is gorgeous btw
Thank you for sharing! Trying to support my wife as she prepares to give birth, and this is definitely helpful to know some of the challenges post-partum. Maybe there will be a future video talking about what dads can do to support the mom during this time :).
They made a video two years after this! Hope you got to see it
Thank you! I'm 22 weeks pregnant and even though some of these stories are scary (your poor tailbone!) I'd rather go in knowing what is possible and prepare myself mentally than go in blind. :)
I am so glad this is talked about. Seriously, no one let me know about anything other than bleeding. I was caught off guard by everything 😣
The first bowel movement after delivery! Whoa baby! Literally took my breath away.
Kathy Withak
😂 Truth
In a good way or a bad way? I'm terrified..
Yes, weak pelvic floor! Why does no one talk about this?! I was fine post-partum, initially, but then when my menstrual cycle resumed (7 months post-partum) my bladder prolapsed! 😱 The shear horror and fear and pain! And having a doctor minimize it and say no biggie, it's mild...me freaking out, like it is a big deal, my bladder is falling through my vaginal wall! 😞😕 I then became pregnant once again shortly after and the problem resolved itself, but at 24 weeks it has come back due to constipation and straining. People need to talk about these things and be more open, prior to birth, not letting women discover all these scary things after birth; when you're already full of strange hormones, fatigue, anxiety, etc.
Please see a physiotherapist and don't do kegels!
@@matthewleech7196 hello! What do you mean don't do kegals please?!
I know this old but the other thing no one told me was depression especially when u are first mom and don’t know anything in the world of motherhood
Hi there. Hope you got treated and overcame your depression. This is the one I'm very worried about, very probe to becoming extremely depressed and I don't think there's enough being said about it. Scary times! Thanks for your comment!
How you doin today love?
I am 34 weeks pregnant and recently have been very emotional because of the anxieties of giving birth and the postpartum recovery. This, has shed some light on what I needed to know. Awesome vids, keep it up! :D
How can you look so good just after 2 weeks of pregnancy?? Oh gosh I was so tired forget about filming a video... You rock gal...
I definitely didn't after my first baby but with thirds babies life goes on ha xx
Wow, would you say that it's either more experience after the first or that it just get's a bit easier?
Hahaha that’s the reality
You are such a gift for new mums to be. Thank you very much for you infos and also the way you make videos. Sometimes people talk so much and you are just straight to the point. Love that
“A bit emotional” omg understatement of the year🙈😂
I'd like to add to your list, if I may, and if this would help someone to be prepared.
1. major thing that every doctor warns patients, PPD, if you start feeling lost, feeling weird, do tell them before getting discharged. Breastfeeding helps to get attached to your baby, but hormones may still make you crazy for few weeks (lucky it only lasts a few weeks to a month).
2. After delivery still feeling baby's kicks in the tummy, even though he/she is no longer there :),
3. Fear of #2 toilet action and fear of sex/orgasm (being prepared vs thinking it would hurt),
4. Having some consequences after the pregnancy; I ended up with gallstones.
Lilit Hovhannisyan wow thanks for all of those he's definitely xx
How are gallstones a consequence? 😬😨
Omg! You really experienced the rougher side of the spectrum in labor... with your coccyx and stomach muscles. Thank you so much for being open about everything! This was super informative. xo
Every single you mentioned is absolutely correct and true... I've experienced the same shockers in my 1st delivery. This will help a lot of people who watch this video.
God bless you all...
The fact that doctors have you birth on your back when it can literally break bones just because it’s easier for THEM to see is INSANE. gravity helps and the tailbone curves up so it is much better to give birth sitting on a stool upright or on hands and knees
Is there someone who gave birth like this and can share their experience? I've never heard about it and I'm really curious!
@@sophia3408 loads of people give birth standing up or on hands and knees just look up natural birth videos
I gave birth standing/squatting ... It just felt right
They had me do that, in a place that calls itself a natural birthing clinic, saying that in that way the baby will come out faster, of course it was because they had to do an episiotomy
I swear I watched this before giving birth, at least twice. And I just now understand the words at 3 weeks post-partum. Its truly a “go through it, then you’ll get it” experience. Wow. Thank you Emily, I feel more secure now. ❤️
i'm 18 weeks pregnant and this is my first pregnancy 😊
as much as i'm enjoying this beautiful journey i feel so worried on how to deal with the whole thing because i have no idea about anything
but your videos are extremly helpful so thank you very much and bless you and your sweet angels ❤❤
Some great info, although it is normal to bleed sometimes even after 6 weeks post partum. Also doing a number 1 can be painful too! I think these issues do need to be spoken about more often! Thank you for sharing xx
Yes I remember with my first pregnancy, peeing was sooOOOo painful for the first week, I constantly had a cold pad to help numb the pain but was terrified of going to the bathroom lol
Katy Sutton that's why they give u a Perri bottle if u use the perri bottle during and now just after it usually helps with stinging
Thanks for this. Although I have been having a tough time in my pregnancy, still being sick and I’m 24 weeks and can’t be active at all but I am grateful for the heads up so I can prepare and find even more strength for after the birth.
Truly, thanks
I’m watching this with my 3 day old baby in my arms. He’s number 4 & I get the worst stomach cramping when I’m nursing. Yes I have a 6 month pregnant belly still but I know this is normal so trying not to get hung up on it as I was back in my jeans after 3 days with my 3rd. My boobs hurt from feeding as well. The glamour of having babies lol thanks for the video it’s stuff every mum needs to know.
Always love your videos...especially because you edit them so well. You get straight to the point, no waffle, they are so easy to watch and ref back to.
This is great. Finally someone is putting out there what happens afterwards! I feel to know and prepare your mind for it is so much better than struggling or being stressed about it all especially since learning how to be a Mamma is hard enough for the first time!
Besides these, no one had told me the emotional trauma we had to go through..oh god.. 1st 3 months is the most difficult is wat I felt. Especially if it's ur 1st kid.
Best video for soon-to-be-mothers!! Really wish I had found your video before I gave birth to my first child 6 weeks ago. EVERYTHING that you said was spot on! I also wanted to give birth in knealing position but the nurse refused to allow it even though i didn't have an epidural and was able to move about, so I just laid on my back. I regret not doing it anyway. Something is definitely not right with my tailbone/pelvic area. I'm also on my 4th day of quitting breastfeeding/pumping and this is just as hard as in the beginning but even more painful. Thank you for doing this video.
Thank you so much for this information! We are trying to conceive our first child right now so I have a lot to learn. It's things like this I want to be prepared for and not have to call my doctor in a panic about every little thing.
7 weeks PP and I have some things to add
1. Scar tissue from tearing. I knew I could tear, and I had first degree tearing, but I didn't know that scar tissue could build from that. I had to have mine removed because it hurt to wipe and then probably would hurt during sex. They clipped it and used silver nitrate to chemically cauterize it...was not pleasant!
2. Hemorrhoids! They come, go, and come again! Really bad after labor due to pushing hard.
3. How emotional you are due to hormones!
4. How weak you feel after due to your muscles being stretched out.
I just had my first baby and all of these are correct. These videos make feel like I'm not crazy. Thank You!
I remember that when I had my first baby (son) my period lasts more than 30 days. Now I'm due(3nd) May 2020 I just hope a safe delivery both me and my baby will be good.
Edit: I meant 2nd
Yes! The after pains are the worst. After my third I was miserable. I'm due to have baby #4 any day now and I'm more worried about after pains than I am about anything else to be honest.
Congrats and good luck with baby number 4!
Never even heard about afterpains. I feel overwhelmed like there is SO much to know!
Same case here Emily, Some people did not tell me what to expect after I bring the baby home. But I am thankful for Bio tex clinic they had already prepared me well for the journey. Your tips are so important, I literally was in your shoe too. But perhaps I can also share some other tips. Taking home a new baby is one of the happiest times in a woman's life. But it also presents both physical and emotional challenges. Get as much rest as possible. You may find that all you can do is eat, sleep, and care for your baby. And that is perfectly okay. You will have spotting or bleeding, like a menstrual period, off and on for up to six weeks. You might also have swelling in your legs and feet, feel constipated, have menstrual-like cramping. Even if you are not breastfeeding, you can have milk leaking from your nipples, and your breasts might feel full, tender, or uncomfortable. Follow your doctor's instructions on how much activity, like climbing stairs or walking, you can do for the next few weeks. Doctors usually recommend that you abstain from sexual intercourse for four to six weeks after birth.
Giving birth on your back is the WORST possible position! The best position is squatting. It opens up the pelvis and gravity helps bring the baby down and out.
AkashaOConnell how will the nurses help if you squat? Like, they need to look at the vagina and see if the baby comes out etc
AkashaOConnell just had a baby and I know for sure I could have squat to push that baby..I just wanted to lay down ugh
Really? Because I heard that causes vaginal prolapse
Yeah but if you have epidural you can’t do that
Juanita what position causes vaginal prolapse?
I just gave birth two weeks ago and am going through all of the above lol! Oh fun! First time I gave birth I went to a ‘new mummy step aerobic class’. We were all new mums jumping around and by the end of the class we were all 😳 clearly suffering with little leaks lol! Great video!
The after painsssss no. I'm pregnant with my third and think the recovery period is much worse than labor. Not looking forward to it! lol Great information! -- CANNOT believe you broke your coccyx!! You poor thing! Back pushing is definitely not the best position, but that's what OB's prefer! bah.
I know, don't worry at least the after pains are bringing our stomach muscles back in! That's what I kept thinking xx
Have you heard of placenta encapsulation? It's suppose to help with the after pains! But you're right, just like each contraction during labor brings us closer to our baby, each contraction after labor brings us closer to our pre-prego body! lol
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As far as #10, you can also give birth on your side. This is especially important if you're mobility is impaired (eg epidural, exhaustion, injury {my personal favourite giving birth within 48 hours of a partial hip dislocation}). Also, these vary for everyone. I had slight PF issues after baby #3 but not #4. I also didn't bleed like crazy. For those who are concerned, the adult sposies are apparently amazing.
I know this is an older video, but I feel that it is important to say something about the endless advice to do Kegels. Only do this if your doctor and/or physical therapist recommend them! I have suffered from pelvic pains, and my pt found out that my pelvic floor muscles are too tight. She told me not to do Kegels at all, as these might make the problem even worse! After giving birth, I have to give my body some rest, see how it all feels, and then check in with her for further evaluation.
Kegels are not the be all and end all of pelvic floor exercises. In some cases it is more important to try and relax the muscles instead! Get a proper assessment done by a pelvic floor physical therapist, before accidentally making any problems worse!
I love that you did this video. My husband and I will start trying for a baby next year so I’ve been watching a lot of these videos and no one talks about it. They say “yeah, it’s hard but it’s worth it to have a healthy baby”... well, of course. But I want to know what I can expect for me. That’s also important. Or they don’t show/talk about the scary/hard moments and make it look like it was some glamorous experience. I’m also so surprised reading through the comments that not knowing these things is so common. I would think your doctors would tell you when you’re pregnant/after delivery. That baffles me. But I so appreciate you doing this. I never would have known about not lying on your back. That’s the main way it’s depicted. So, thank you!!!
Well... I’m 8 months pregnant and I’m like... ok how do I reverse this thing lol? Just kidding I’m sure it’s difficult but it’s doable
i know you've written this 2 yrs ago... but I just had to say that I'm now 5 months-pregnant, and I thought that exact thing :)
I know this is an old video, but it’s so real! I’m lucky to have had an amazing prenatal nurse who went over many of the things mentioned in the video.. still there’s always something we won’t know about until it happens. One of the things I wish I had known is how painful your first bathroom trips will be!
Gabrielle Twomey 7 days ago I had given birth and everything she said is so true... the caring for my vagina I’m still asking a lot of questions....
I was so scared to go number two! I had to have stitches and I was too scared to tear them. My mom actually snuck stool softener and lazurite in my food to make me go because I held it in for so long!!!
Hello! :)
I am 12 and my brother is 10 (turning 11 on February) and my mom is pergnant and she will deliver on July 24. I can't wait! Since I am more older I get to see a baby everyday and experience how to take care of one. :)
Love your videos btw!
Hamsters4 Life123 I am also getting a baby brother near the end of July! :) Although I am 22, I am very excited about it! :)
esenozbay Congrats🎉 that's awesome 😊
Hamsters4 Life123 July 24th is my birthday, too! Have fun with your new baby sibling!
24 weeks with my first and so grateful for the advice! A baby girl due at the end of May. Thank you Emily :)
Will nobody talk about the swelling in your nether regions after giving birth? THAT shocked me when I had my daughter because I'd never had anyone mention it and I never even though about it lol manoeuvring onto my tailbone to sit down was not fun at all and even with anti inflammatory tablets if you stood too long it would swell again lol
Omg I loved the fact that you spoke about the hair loss. I had my baby 3 months ago and I'm starting to notice hair loss. I was becoming a bit depressed but after u said this I'm doing my research and I feel so much better. I CANT WAIT TILL IT GETS BACK TO NORMAL!! 😓
Due in 8 weeks yay... 😅 just wanted to say this is really helpful & you presented the facts with a lot of dignity. Sure it scared the living sh*t outta me, but would rather be prepared. Thank you!
Catski Due in 7 weeks! 🙌 I'm hoping she comes a bit early!
1st pregnancy 3 weeks postpartum and what i thought was gonna be the hardest part (labor) was actually the easiest for me. I'm still taking stool softners and it still burns a bit when I pee and the first
time seeing the blood clots is scary! This was all new to me and I thought all would be back to normal after giving birth, oh how wrong was I 😣
Berenice Trejo how long did it take for your stitches to heal and to be able to pee with no burn?
the split muscle on the stomach isn't even treated in Germany. it's just left as it is and you're told to always get up sideways until it feels normal again
Totally agree, I prepared for l&d, but didn't think about post partum except that the baby would be there. How about if you need stitches there's a chance (and nothing can be done to prevent it) that you will overheal. I just had surgery for it and it has been awful. Our baby's worth it, but it's been rough
I just want it to say thank you for not giving tips to 1 pregnancy woman's that will help them but for sharing your own personal experiences and how really uncomfortable was...I was feeling the same and I learned that even though no one told me about I learned by myself. So thank you very much for telling us main points how truly pregnancy goes. ,
Wow brilliant video, I think it's great you made this! 👏🏼 I'm on my third pregnancy but I wish I'd known not to lie on my back with the first..all fours the next time & what a difference. Never again.
I know! Hurts so much and no help from gravity on your back xx
Amazing video!! Thank you darling..XX jus want know, do staff let us lie forward at the hospital?
I'm expecting and came across your videos. I just wanted to let you know that they've been so helpful. Very straightforward, well said, and great information. Thank you for putting the content out. :)
Thank you for making this. I am currently 32 weeks pregnant with my third son and I totally forgot about the after pain contractions that you experience when breast feeding. They really hurt with my second child and now realizing with my third I will have them again but probably stronger. Just to add to your list, something that people don't tell you after you give birth is that the dark line that forms on your belly down to the pubic bone does fade away , your belly button will go back in if it has popped out and areolas don't stay darkened and enlarged forever they do go back to normal-ish size and shade, well mine did anyway after I was done breastfeeding.
Also another thing no one ever told me or noticed is that my second son has a lip tie on the top of his inner lip. I only noticed it a few weeks ago after researching breast feeding issues. I breastfed him for about 1t6 months and he wouldn't gain very much weight and I never understood why. He also developed a small callous on his top lip and he still has it. I realize now that this is the reason why and that he had been latching wrong and sucking too hard with his top lip and all because of a lip tie. He's perfectly healthy otherwise I don't see a need to correct the lip tie as he is now almost 2 years old and eats, drinks plenty of homo milk with a bottle and has been gaining a proper amount of weight for his age.
I have never been pregnant before but hope to be one day soon and I feel more educated and prepared for what could come. Thanks so much for sharing x
So true top 10! I gave birth recently and had to pass thru all in ur list.. OMG someone really should've tell me all of them before pregnancy 😑
First 5 days were the worst. Next 7 days I had to deal morally and it was test period of my physical abilities. Afterwards I realized how blessed I'm to feel healthy without pain in my body.🤗
And my beautiful girl is my recovery power😄
No one talks about the after pain it’s like it doesn’t exist I realize that after having my second child it hurts more than Labor did 😞.
Due in 9 weeks and now even more terrified 😩
Olivia Henderson at least you know now and you'll have a gorgeous newborn to make you feel better xx
Olivia Henderson I'd do it all again tomorrow!!! Xx
Olivia Henderson sameeee😭😭😭😭
Don't be scared.. Giving birth is wonderful.. It makes pain but it's awesomely wonderful.. *fighting!! :) :)
Same here ! 21 weeks pregnant and already terrified
I'm 21 weeks today with my first (little boy) and can't wait to meet him, I know these things pail in comparison to our little beauties but it's still very helpful to know and don't see these topics being discussed very much, I didn't know many of these things so I'm glad I watched! Thank you
In like half of your video I started to feel like tiny after pain down there... 😂 even it's already three years, we all still remember... Incredible... x
you forgot to mention piles (hemoroids).!!! probably the worst nightmare of many new mums especially if it starts before they give birth and went on labour while having piles😡
OMG totally forgot about that lovely part of birth xx
sun shine ,,, I m suffering from piles,, tell me any stool softener
Eat one dried date a day and drink some coffee
I am 4 weeks post partum and wish I had seen this before. Motherhood is the best but its also very hard.
Emily, that was really informative. My children are 16 and 12, both of which were born with me on my back, I was in so much pain with my tail bone during labour and birth with my second born. I am so with you, with the toilet thing - ouch! Omg I was so scared to pee and the hospital said I couldn't go home until I'd had a poo, not that they physically check, so I told them I had. I often think being in the comfort and privacy of your own bathroom at home helps 😂 sorry tmi. xx
It hurt so much for me too! eek, thank goodness they're worth it xx
Thank you so so much! You have been a life saver my entire pregnancy through and definitely one of the reasons I am approaching my birth calmly and confidently. Thank you ❤
After giving birth naturally.. You can get a tummy band. Post giving birth.. Wear it 6 weeks . Your tummy will contract back with breastfeeding. But this helps your uterus to go back.
Okay, TMI alert. My first #2 took 40 mins! It was huge and scary also I had an episiotomy as baby was B2B and I was scared my stitches would burst, they didn't but I pushed as hard as I did in labour. Also no one really tells you what a commitment breastfeeding is. It took me 2 to 3 weeks to really get to grips with it and that was after some very sore nipples but i persevered and happy to report all is good 1 month on. Also how hot you are because your body is producing milk. I feel like a furnace mostly. Also cluster feeding was a huge and probably the biggest shock especially as I'm breastfeeding. Literally can be sitting for hrs swapping baby between breasts and it is exhausting, baby has what seems like constant growth spurts. However all of these are hugely paid off when they start interacting with you as a result of improved eye sight and their personalities develop, just magical. Also nothing is permanent so know the challenging parts are not forever but savour the good. Trust your instincts and baby is very smart, they learn very quickly. The world is a shock to them, new smells, experiences so they're adapting just like you.
Your video highlights some really important things that I too wish I knew before having my daughter. Love this video, full of great information.
love how real and down to earth this video is xx
Thanks Sarah xx
Thank you so very much for this video. These things should really be more common place and spoken openly about than they are. Yes it perhaps a bit scary but I feel like I now have an excellent chance to be better prepared for these changes...therefore alleviating unnecessary stress. Thank you.
My due day is in one month n I really appreciate ur honesty. I know it won't be easy but it won't take me by surprise! Thank you
+a8888121 atleast your prepared I'd do it again tomorrow xx
Great info! Thank you! I'm about to have my first baby, and while a lot of what you said my mother has told me, there were a couple things I hadn't thought about or thought about in the way you said it, so really helpful!
Hi Emily,
I'm a mom from the States and I've enjoyed your videos. One thing I didn't know was that it would be hard to make it to the bathroom on time. It took awhile for everything to work right again, but it did. Love the information in your videos...some great ideas!
I knew it. I knew it! I have been saying to my doctors that I want gravity to help me in labor and I don't want to "flat back " it. The birthing bar wasn't enough and I wonder if a birthing chair is what's needed. I am so sad this happened but so happy to confirm that it's possible.
I'm a first time mommy to be and I find your videos the most helpful and refreshing to watch . I love your energy
Great video! Am 26 weeks pregnant with my own baby Jackson.
Aw Amie amazing name :-) xx
And share any tips you may have xx
Amie Wilson We are calling our son Jackson too! I'm due on the 20th of January. I'd say you must be due about the same time? Congratulations!
just had my baby 6 weeks ago .. your videos are most helpful .. thanks a lot.
Thank you for the honest and helpful video, Emily :) I'm heading into my 2nd trimester (as a first time Mama!) and I have been absolutely devouring any information/advice I can find. Your channel is fantastic. xox from California!
Heaven's, l am 70 now and l now know a lot more than l did when l was 20. The two things l hated was the pull on my uterus when baby suckled in breastfeeding. The second, was how to REALLY do this breastfeeding thing. I wanted to do it but my baby just, what l call "mucked around" but that had to cease i.e. breastfeeding, as my mental space wasn't right on account of everything l'd endured. It was thought my milk might turn sour. I still think about a lot of these things to this day. I was in such a state that l vowed l'd never have another baby. I made sure l didn't and so l only had the one great baby.
Thank you for telling us about your tail bone. Iv had surgery on mine and expecting our first in Aug. It's been a concern of mine... so its nice to know the regardless of history it can effect that spot. I'll be able to plan around it now...
God bless you! This is the most helpful and informative of these videos I’ve seen yet. God bless you and your family 💕
hi.. i'll deliver the baby soon.. i am so grateful that i saw this vid before deliver my baby..!
Oh my Emily you're soo right on these points. Thanks for sharing.
My baby is three weeks old.. and shes exactly perfect and right in wat she told
Thanks! I don't have a baby, but I am sure we'll get there in two years or so, and I ask my friends a alot, but that gives a lot of information nobody told me by now. You are horgeous by the way! I love your positive and calm spirit.
Aw wow thank you so much Anna! I hope I didn't scare you xx
Not at all. I know giving birth is hard work, but I think it is worth it!
Hey Emily
I’m 8 months pregnant and have so much anxiety... any advice on how I can reduce my anxiety?
Thanks! I'm due in january with my first. And even though it's scary, it makes me feel a bit better that you have had 3 babies so far knowing what it's like 😅😅 👍🏻👍🏻
I think it is importent to say that every womans body is and reacts different. So new mommys to be dont be scared. I gave birth to 2boys and didn't have any after pain. My stomach looked as if I was never pragenent just gained wait. Both where born in laing position and nothing broke for me . My Brest swall to the double size after 1Week and where hard (verry painful) I was liking 24/7. When my son was 3Weeks old it stopped. For my second son nothing happend when ever it swall a bit he would drink and that's it. My stomach split too, for my first boy I did physio for my second I didnt do nothing and it all shrunk back. Non of my hair fell out.
I bled for 6 weeks after I had my son, but didn't suffer any afterpain.
Found your channel yesterday and been binge watching your videos ! We’re expecting our first one later this year and finding your tips very helpful - thank you !
I will share this with my friends that are having babies for first time because it is all sooooo true !!! Now I know , but before nobody tells you 😳🙄 thanks a lot !!!
Thank you for sharing these 👍 I gave birth 3 weeks ago and I've since been noticing alot of tenderness and like a dull feeling at the bottom of my tailbone esp when I sit down or get up, makes me wonder if I damaged mine while delivering as I was laying completely flat at that point
Pelvic floor weakness is COMMON but NOT NORMAL. We shouldn't really have the need of a pad for leaks. You should look for a pelvic floor physiotherapeut. It's not enough to do the Kegels on your own coz you might be doing them wrong (I was, for 7 years). You can buy an Epi-no or other medical tools to monitor you're doing your pelvic contractions right, but the first times it's best to do them with a professional. Also, to prevent diastasis recti (splitting of stomach muscles in postpartum) you should do pré natal physiotherapy and pilates to reinforce your core. I'm doing all these treatments in a remote Brazilian capital, I guess they must be available in the UK too! These should be done both in prenatal and postnatal. For sure you can get the Epi-no online much cheaper than I got it down here.
you are very cute emily and the way you explain things in a such a simple way is the best thing i like , keep posting more stuff plssss
Thank you so much xx
I really appreciate this video. I really wanted to breast feed but I had a really traumatic birth ending in a c section but as soon as I was out of theater a new midwife came in and started grabbing my breasts and trying to force them in to my baby. I panicked because he couldn't latch on and ended up bottle feeding and never got any advice at the hospital. The whole thing was really scaring. I wish I'd been told about how hard it could be before and that it's okay for it to take some time.
Poor you Rachel - I totally understand. After my first birth I was a bit shell shocked and then 20 minutes later the midwife was like 'ready to breastfeed?' and I remember thinking - what after all that??? xx
I cant agree with you more. There isnt enough information available on breastfeeding out there... and not enough support. I only know so much through reading reading and more reading and even then i don't think i was fully prepared. My baby wouldn't latch either. I persevered but went through breast thrush a few times(yes its a thing)!
i dont even have children and i knew all of that apart from number 10 which made me squirm so bad! will defo make a mental note haha
OMG atlas you'll be ready xx
Honestly we were never taught about important stuff like this in Biologie
2 Months ago I just knew about Labour and delivery and thought everything would be as usual after birth
1. Pelvic floor weakness
2. Afterpain
3. Bleeding (can last 3 weeks)
4. Engorged breast + hormonal
5. Your bellu still looks like 6m pregnant
6. Postpartum hairloss
7. Fear to go to toilet
8. Your stomach split
9. Breastfeeding is hard
10. Don't givebirth on your back
I had periurethral tear (tear where you pee) so peeing hurt more than pooping. I was taking stool softeners so that helped it fall out lol but peeing burned and still sometimes burns almost 5 weeks pp. No one told me you can tear up and not just down.
Kaleigh King thanks for sharing that. How are you doing now?
OMG I'm pregnant and now scared to death. I love how she smiles while she says her bone broke
I've had no real help during my pregnancy and hearing about the things no one talks about has opened my eyes. I have no idea what to do or what to expect and I'm 8 months along.
Tara Cardle make sure you increase yout fibre intake in the last month. Add fibre supplement to your drink. Constipation can be easily avoided, but no one prepared me for it!
Thank you so much for uploading this video! All the pointers you mentioned are really helpful for a first time to-be-mom like myself!
I'm due in September with my first and I'm so scared of labour but I think I'm more afraid of the aftermath now 🙈