Become a Human LIE DETECTOR (How to Read Anyone!) | Top Facial Expression Expert Annie Särnblad
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Globally recognized speaker and strategic advisor to Fortune 500 companies Annie Särnblad is often referred to as a "human lie detector" due to her remarkable expertise in reading facial expressions. Today she's sharing her long-kept secrets with us to celebrate the release of her new book "Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies."
0:00 - Intro
2:05 - What should we be looking for in facial expressions?
4:00 - Do we have different facial and body expressions?
7:10 - Where do our facial expressions come from, where do we learn it?
10:09 - What are the 3 main benefits to master facial communication?
11:25 - Is it possible for you to lie and get away with facial expressions?
18:45 - How many people innately know this information about facial expressions?
30:27 - How do you know when someone is actually interested in you and not just trying to use you?
33:30 - How do you know if someone is a narcissist or has narcissist tendencies?
41:20 - What's the difference between spotting a narcissist and a genius?
44:23 - What are the questions you can ask a business partner to know that you're setting yourself up for success?
48:45 - How long have you been doing this work?
51:00 - What is the main thing that extremely powerful leaders want to learn from you?
57:09 - How many great leaders have you worked with?
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Are you engaged?!?! If so, congrats
Is your gf controlling?
@@nikkis8102 that was a question to see his reaction..
Thank you for having her on!!! Wow!!! She's such a beautiful person! I'm so grateful for both of you! ❤❤❤
I would always get these intuitive thoughts that nobody else saw and I would be told I'm too critical. I'm thinking I may have picked up on microexoeesions and not having been influenced by sheer words which many ppl use to evaluate ppl
« The one thing for those of us who have experienced trauma is that our pain was intentionnally (or not intentionnally) dismissed. So we learned not to listen or even feel our emotions. » This sentence was eye-opening for me. Well said.
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Very true ..😢n i know i need someone to hear me though i know no one would so ..i was finding some ways to understand myself n get out from these grief 💔
And why we sometimes end up in a cycle of abuse.
I was brought up in fear and severe trauma and I always have read facial expressions because it was the way to see if something bad was going to happen😢
But God....
Is close to the Brokenhearted and those of a contrite spirit God holds Us in His hand and He molds us into survivors so we have compassion and empathy for those who are going through the same things to give them hope & to let others know that God will never forsake them 💜
Exactly this for me.
“I really want people to learn the facial expressions so they can recognize truth”, love that!
Unless it’s used to manipulate people. @20:45
Thank you for highlighting that people with autism can have immense empathy. I talked with a professor about this and I feel a lot of people on the spectrum are misunderstood to have no feelings just because they may have a problem expressing them in a way that is expected by others 💛 some of the most awesome people I know may be on the spectrum 💛
This should be a highlighted comment. Autism has a multitude of issues that make neurotypicals skittish and frustrated when they’re around. Especially the Uncanny Valley effect
definitely ❤
Oh my god that's really true when i read your comment something happened in my mind like I'm reading myself 😢❤❤ thank's for because you understand what we are suffering
In the astral realm there are HIGHER dimensions where no facial expressions exists...communication is done using your intuition. This world is mirrored from this reality.. what people label as "on the spectrum" are highly gifted, empathic intuitive beings in this world. IF guided proper from childhood just as this women has said. This gift of "spectrum" offer the most compassionate, loving, highly clairvoyant vibrant beings to both worlds IF one does NOT try make them the world's definition of what's normal" ❤ 🌸
@@rainbow_flovery well said and true.
I asked myself how I had the patience to listen to an entire interview 🤔
Because its not an interview, but a passionate conversation between 2 extremely personable individuals, one eager to learn and the other eager to teach, on a subject that we can all resonate with. Absolutely loved this, well done Lewis👊
Yeah, and she’s probably doing something with her eyes to mesmerize us! 😂
@@BeyondSustainableLivingyes that's really true i thought just me noticed that thing😂😂 she's smart
Agreed
I also will continue to watch! ty
Whatever is... there is a lot to learn that may help us how to deal with people in this unsecure world 🌎. For that, I express to this lady a big THANKS !❤❤❤😊
Narcissists eye contact is usually so long it’s uncomfortable for the non-narcissist. They are sizing you up, like prey.
Yup! Happened to me a few times at the front desk of a doctor’s office, for of all things disabilities. She was literally staring me down and sizing me up like I was prey. She shouldn’t be allowed to interact w people who have trauma and psychological disabilities. I don’t t even feel safe going there anymore.
I felt drained and can't continue with this one conversational narcissist. Like they didn't want me to look away but I had to for a rest it's like take a pause you Robot. Their voice almost got louder, mad when I looked away for a break or if I didn't keep nodding in understanding. Once I escaped I had to rest for a few days.
Exactly, I knew a narcissist. She was constantly reading me and sometimes I can see from the corner of her eyes her staring at me.
Idk this lady feels like an everflowing river of kindness and empathy. The crystal clear answer to the last question "What is Greatness?" says it all
Appreciate you for watching!
Thats it exactly@@lewishowes
I remember a great TV series ‘Lie to me’. Anyone?! I miss it!
😶no!
That was a great series!
That show was amazing!!!!
Twas a good show
yeah loved it
As an aging woman with hooded eyes in the time of social media and constant pics, I now know why I look crazed when smiling and lifting my eyebrows up 🤣🤪😳
I'm 50 years old with hooded eyes. I'm getting there!😂
Or face lift
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“I don’t want to be loved for anybody other than who I am”, authenticity, loving a person and their soul. This whole video resonated. Thank you for sharing.
I was speaking to a romantic interest the other day, and I noticed that he started using the phrase "our gym" instead of "insert gyms actual name". I found it odd because i immediately felt closer to him and recognised it as a subtle kind of love bombing. Then I wondered if I was being hypervigilant. In regard to sociopath or narcissists, systematically using specific language that they know "works", this makes perfect sense now.
Is it really that weird, if you both workout at this gym? Could it be that he's showing you the real affection and connection that he's feeling? 🤔
@@calista1280 exactly and maybe we have some projection happening with the op.
This should be a required class at all grade levels and college.
Unfortunately, some Learn this Firsthand w Experience… it’s the School of Life That’s why we need Jesus . The Holy Spirit & God Always warn from Harm and unsafe people.
They don't teach you the real necessary stuff in school.
Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
I wish everyone was as visually expressive and genuine as Annie. She must be so easy to engage with, she doesn't seem to use her knowledge to put up a front, but instead to act as a lubricant for communication.
Thank you. Never knew about her before this interview💛🙏🏼
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
Leadership is parenting is very accurate. As a teacher, I know this. I parent all day long.
Now I finally know why I spot people who are suicidal and violent people.. .. never knew it really was a thing. Thx.
my narcissistic ex-husband told me on the phone after destroying his marriage, (and we have a three year old), “you know, I’m actually really smart.”
I did not argue with him on the phone because I knew better, but the things that I could have said….. there is a difference between IQ and EQ, there’s a difference between knowledge and wisdom, you can have all the knowledge in the world, and if you don’t have love, it’s meaningless….
You are absolutely spot-on.
The gift of the Discernment.💯
It's difficult with a grandson with Autism. He's non verbal , but getting there.
Many things available to him.
And hearing him say Mama!! I'm over excited to see these moments.
I met someone who stares off into space all the time-I met his mother, and she does the same thing notoriously none of them(sisters included) ever know how to say goodbye or end a conversation. I am Always ending the conversations or leaving or encouraging everyone to leave at the end of dinner Party or gathering it is weird as hell and gets on my nerves they lack social cues
Only 9 minutes in and I am so hooked. Annie is fab.
Thank you for being here!
Lewis, you’re such a stellar interviewer. Seriously, top shelf. You bring out the best in everyone you speak to and it’s such a delight to listen to and with you. Thank you for this excellent episode
Thank you so much! Your comment made my day 😊
I have taught my daughter all her life to trust her intuition, and how to differentiate between persuasion, fear, logic, intuition, etc.
How do you differentiate between them?
@@dissonantbrainz3556 That’s a great question. I’ll try my best to explain it…
When making a decision, you know you’re using logic when you consider many things. You think about your past experiences, past and present emotions, warning signs, the possibility of good or bad things happening, etc., and base your decision off those things.
You’re using your heart when you base your decision on how you feel in that very moment. Whether it’s a feeling of fear, or excitement, or anger, etc. it’s more impulsive, and you sort of feel it in your heart.
You feel your intuition in your gut. Hence, a “gut feeling”. It’s kind of like a nagging whisper that encourages you to do what’s best for you, even when you can’t see how it’s the best thing for you in the moment. Even when you insist on doing the opposite. It’s not influenced by your emotions, past experiences, and there’s no making sense of it, or shutting it up. You can however, ignore it, but it’ll always be there in the background. And it gets quieter the more you ignore it, and louder the more you listen to you.
@@TheeAntiChris that was great explanation.
Thank you 😊
@@dissonantbrainz3556 I hope I helped. ☺️
I ignored my intuition for many years, and always regretted it. Once I started trusting myself and following my intuition, my life became easier, less problematic, and less stressful. ☺️
Knowing if someone’s facial expression matches their words is one of the biggest takeaways for me, really awesome info here! Thanks so much for what you do Lewis!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
@@lewishowes it’s truly my pleasure
I did a college presentation for my 6th semester on micro expressions and it rocked.
I thought it was cool to learn from a 4yr old and to think she basically started all of this and Annie's thought concept of beginning her profession. That's too cool
Agree! So pure coming from kids.
"To love well, and to be loved well" made me tear up. I'm definitely buying her book! Thank you!
When I get the "crazy eyes," the psychopathic stare, my gut tells me to run.
😂 I know that one
I’ve been fascinated by nonverbal communication for years and have studied with who I thought were the top 6, but Annie has a high level of emotional intelligence that levels it up tremendously.
I love how she backs it up with science because it’s hard not to dismiss EQ as woo woo. Emotions are so easy to dismiss as immeasurable or subjective, finally science is catching up to one of the most fundamental pieces of human experience.
@@infinite10045 I’ll check out Gavin De Becker. Have to disagree with your assumption that reading people doesn’t work. If you check your biases and ego and know yourself it’s fairly straightforward once you learn from good teachers.
Most people don’t take the time to really understand the nuance and take a “rule” from a 30 second video and try to apply it. So yeah, in those cases they are projecting or often wrong.
But micro expressions are real, the study of universal non verbal communication is legit. And having enough sense to know they’re experiencing an emotional but you don’t know why requires maturity. When you see it used effectively it’s awesome.
Would love to know your recommendations? :)
@@JennaFW Vanessa Van Edward’s and the four guys on the Behavior Panel are great teachers. They all have books and videos online.
@@pnwladyIt works if you have a good baseline on that person. You must know first if they always act a certain way that is different from usual signs. So, it takes hoyrs and days of observation before concluding that it means something they might be really conveying...
"Pattern recognition" is a huge factor
Annie is such a loving person. I loved her, she is so refreshing. Thank you Lewis for introducing such amazing guests to us.
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
I want to follow this woman on everything!!! Gemstones!!
Annie you are so authentic and natural! An intuitive teacher - I really enjoyed this discussion.
Ppl grew up glued to the phone lack facial expression and body language reading skill. It is important for human to socialize during formative years. Discerning facial and body cues is learned during the first 20 years of a person’s life.
Two things I want to point out; this is why they tried to force face masks on us. Expression is our first form of communication as humans. Second, children who come from emotionally abusive homes, learned this at a really young age, so you know exactly when you will want to avoid the abusive parent & make yourself invisible.
Thank you for bringing these up- Profoundly important points!
Those who forced masks on toddlers! Children! Forcing on 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 yr olds- truly narcissistic, horrific.
@@hcmangs3634making them ok with pae**ph**ia
Indeed. I never wore it. Got abused a lot. But stood my ground.
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Annie is a beautiful person. 😍 Thanks. 😊
Your example from the movie - I never feel like I have to hide my distrust in anyone. If I don’t trust them I just let it show, and I don’t second guess my gut.
40:41 To me it doesn't matter if they are good, have good intentions if they are traumatized. All of the ones I dealt with had deep trauma, and both the "good" ones and darker ones were bad to deal with. They're both disorganized and will gaslight will, no matter if they believe their own lies or if they make up some to control you. They all try to control, and this is damaging in any relationship. I'd just run away and go no contact, with no guilt. You can't fix a broken person and you'll end up broken as well. It'll take some years for you to recover from their madness.
YEAP. I avoid them. I don't know care if they are good or bad. I just don't want that sht anywhere near me anymore. Because they bring their crap to dump on YOU and suck YOUR life force out of you. They're broken and they do everything to break you, too. I just don't want that stuff. I am not anyone's saviour. Nobody been saving me lol It's because of these people and what they brought with them over and over I have had to do a TON of work to not end up messed up. Those in the circles that I cannot completely avoid get a lot of boundaries. The rest have all been outed and I watch for any new ones trying to latch onto me. I am like a damn magnet for these types. Because I have in me what they DON'T and will never get. Took me a while to realize that I'm highly empathetic and genuine...and it's like a freaking magnet to broken people, narcs, socios and psychos.
I was married to a narc for 12 yrs. His family was full of these people. Even some of my own family is. All the men I've been around have been broken or narcy or psycho... even several female friends that I met over the years have been like that. Now I keep myself WELL PROTECTED from these type of people.
A person who’s been traumatized by a psychopath is not the same as the mentally ill psychopath.
Not everyone who has trauma is like what you are describing. Some people work on things and get better. Or don't end up in states as bad as what you said. What you went through, with the people you describe, is trauma. Therefore, you are also traumatized. Are you exactly what you just described? Everyone has trauma. Even the kindest, most empathetic and giving person has trauma and could have an event or a few events that are deeply traumatic and still affect them. Everyone is different.
I like this comment, I think it’s a reference to deep emotional trauma which formed a narcissistic personality for example. Obviously there are many forms of trauma which may not shape a person into some easily labeled form of psychosis.
This joy in the horror, pinged a memory for me, it absolutely bought this home for me the rage in a narc
7:53
Micro expressions are the very deepest of listening skills
13:30 Football players put themselves in a Warrior state in their minds...W😮W
18:50 Gut Feelings
I can tell a facial expression. I dont know the why.
In the conflict you learn from each other… best to observe how others manage conflict … it will be very very revealing.. give people time.
Lewis, of you want to learn Spanish, move to a Spanish-speaking country and live there for a year. Immersion is the natural way to learn a language. ❤
This lady is sharing a very fascinating concept. Except I don’t agree that facial expressions are the only thing to look at. It’s also the tone of voice and body language. And if all of these fail, then trust and listen to what your gut feelings say! It’s everything combined. What I’m walking away from this talk is, it takes practice to develop this skill, to be fully present and aware to all the cues, and come up with your own conclusions.
2 human beings, conversing face to face. This is really good stuff❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
The FACS (Facial Action Coding System) was developed by Paul Ekman.
This is a gift given to a chosen few. Somethings cannot be taught and could lead to misjudgements☝️
How difficult it was to not get distracted by the peanut gallery in the background!! Good on you both for helping each other thru it. You both cracked me up!! You could tell you were dying to laugh and yet helping one another to just move past it every 3 seconds!!! How funny!!!
I’d like to hear her take on personality types like empaths and InfJ’s etc.
They're bs sorry
My Daughter is High functioning Autistic and she has always been good at reading people. Knowing when someone was a good or bad person.
I have tried to protect my kids, by teaching them from a young age, to trust their instincts. That it’s okay to not worry about being polite if your body and mind is telling you that a person is dangerous or disingenuous, and to run! Now I understand why we have those gut instincts.
This was a great interview, I really enjoyed it. Especially the point that we need to listen to our internal response (regardless of how we choose to react) even if our brain can’t put words around it. Thanks Annie & Lewis! 🙏
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
@@lewishowes❤
I was trying so hard to not show any micro-expressions when I had to pretend to not be sad or uncomfortable about the man I like having a new girlfriend. We were all at the table together and I had to act happy and like I was ok with it. Man that was hard 😅
Omg! My body and facial expressions won’t lie😂😂😂
Love, just love!! 🥰 She is definitely a part of Greatness!
I needed this great big hug. Love love 💕😘 love the enlightened energy. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Omg so gwapo. Thanks a lot for sharing this. I am an empathetic person. I could feel the energy of the person. This video is a big plus.
Exactly, be yourself, love well and be loved... nobody is perfect♡ Thank you, this interview was the best of greatness♡
Annie is an absolute gem
I really need to contact this brilliant woman! She should be training all of the court's and law enforcement etc...
This is an amazing episode and refreshing one! I love it!
Many blessings to you❤💞
Thanks for being here!
So excited she’s on your show! 🤗🧡
She's selling it for sure. How great I am. She's a genius in her own hazy little mind. Why is he buying it is the question?
Great and highly informative interview! I must say that The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo is such a great example to use. The entire finale (both the Swedish and American version) is blood-chilling for the exact reasons you mentioned. (Still waiting for the remake of parts two and three.)
Loved this interview
With Narcissists, they mirror very well. So I haven't tried but I think recognizing micro expressions on someone who convinces himself that he is a character, isn't going to help you.
Do not forget your gut feeling. Your body feels different, warning you.
A good book is>
The Gift of Fear> Gavin de Becker.
So when we act crazy we end up crazy if we dont realease that energy. That is facinating.
Wow ,I'm loving and feeling so plugged in to this conversation
Sooo very enlightening!
Thank you both ❤
This was the most important skill I have consistently and constantly been teaching my kids from the beginning...💞💯💞💯💞💖💞💯💞💯💞
Thank you for pointing out that my husband, that I've been struggling with has gone through some childhood trauma that I have as well... I am disabled and feel like I am stuck but I am feeling stronger....
I love your show!!! Been a fan for 2 years and have helped make many more fans playing you on TH-cam driving rideshare
Great Information. One to study a second time through.
This is the best thing I’ve watched on TH-cam in months. Thank you for this great interview. I’ve just ordered a copy of Annie’s book and have subscribed to her channel ❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
This is excellent. Thank you
Beautiful episode ❤
I love her ❤ and love you ❤ love what u are doing for the collective. This will save lives. Thank you for what u both do.🎉
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
I must admit since I was a young person I've felt like I was picking up macro / micro facial expressions naturally.
When you grow up with many families/ people.. you are trained naturally. Then of course later on with training.
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I love ❤️ this 🙏.
Wow. This is very important information that needed indeed to be shared to the world. Thank you for knowledge 😀.
So good to know this information especially with crazy things that happen on dating apps today! 💯
12:16 this issue is definitely difficult for an entertainer - I use my emotions for a living. It’s really hard when people around me are having issues. I need to use my emotions for my work, but sometimes they can get turned my emotion can get turned on its head by sub conversation and then it’s hard for me to work later
When you grow up in an emotionally unpredictable home, you become really good at reading people. So I don't know all the technicalities and whatnot, but I'm generally good at getting accurate readings on people.
Loved watching you guys interact was really fun. This was just such great information. Thank you so much.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Essentially: If something SHOCKS you, you will see that in a micro expression. If you don't feel an emotional reaction to something you wouldn't give anything away.
Adhd, autists, psycopaths etc will know this emotional regulation. I have literally by accident laughed at a story of a dead dog because I was thinking of something else during.
You have no clue what the other person is thinking. You just see their expressions.
That's a one off, sounds like you we're deflecting
I'm ADHD, & on the lighter note, I'm hyper aware, or try to be, of my facial expressions simply because I can be listening, but for me every 3 words might inspire 5 trains of thinking, so I get what you are saying.
This interview was so informative. Love the vibe!
Appreciate you for watching. 🧡
Would love to see you both again together! Very informative ❤
This is such a great and enlightening talk. Thank you to you both!
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
One of the BEST and most eye-opening hours i have spent my life! Thank you Annie ❤ all the blessings in the world to you and your loved ones! I will buy the book to support
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
This is so fascinating!! I love her energy too :)
You both are amazing❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this episode! I just want to squeeze you Annie! You are such a beautiful soul and you sparkle magnificent light! I am so grateful to have learned about your work. This resonates with me and I really want to learn more. Thank you both for sharing this with the world! 🙏
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
To love well and be well loved, amen. Thank you both, simplicity is my new roadmap. Be who I would want another to be to me.
Thank you, Annie & Lewis. Really eye opening
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
This information brings about so much self-awareness. Thank you ever so much ❤
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
And you to Lewis, you conduct some great interviews and I love your questions! Your such a great interviewer!!!!
Thank you! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡
This was great! Annie was awwwwwwwwwesome!
Great video. I love this guest she's so spot on
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Wow wow wow! Thank you Lewis and Annie! This is what I have always done. Feels like the puzzle just scrambled together in an instant 🙏🦋🇸🇪
Thank you for watching🧡
Bless both of them. This is such a cool chat. I appreciate this so much
Appreciate you for watching!
I just skipped over from the podcast to the TH-cam channel for this interview, so i could see the facial expressions 😂
I had no idea that body language was an theory of Darwin! That is absolutely fascinating!!