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I would always get these intuitive thoughts that nobody else saw and I would be told I'm too critical. I'm thinking I may have picked up on microexoeesions and not having been influenced by sheer words which many ppl use to evaluate ppl
« The one thing for those of us who have experienced trauma is that our pain was intentionnally (or not intentionnally) dismissed. So we learned not to listen or even feel our emotions. » This sentence was eye-opening for me. Well said.
Very true ..😢n i know i need someone to hear me though i know no one would so ..i was finding some ways to understand myself n get out from these grief 💔
I was brought up in fear and severe trauma and I always have read facial expressions because it was the way to see if something bad was going to happen😢 But God.... Is close to the Brokenhearted and those of a contrite spirit God holds Us in His hand and He molds us into survivors so we have compassion and empathy for those who are going through the same things to give them hope & to let others know that God will never forsake them 💜
Thank you for highlighting that people with autism can have immense empathy. I talked with a professor about this and I feel a lot of people on the spectrum are misunderstood to have no feelings just because they may have a problem expressing them in a way that is expected by others 💛 some of the most awesome people I know may be on the spectrum 💛
This should be a highlighted comment. Autism has a multitude of issues that make neurotypicals skittish and frustrated when they’re around. Especially the Uncanny Valley effect
Oh my god that's really true when i read your comment something happened in my mind like I'm reading myself 😢❤❤ thank's for because you understand what we are suffering
In the astral realm there are HIGHER dimensions where no facial expressions exists...communication is done using your intuition. This world is mirrored from this reality.. what people label as "on the spectrum" are highly gifted, empathic intuitive beings in this world. IF guided proper from childhood just as this women has said. This gift of "spectrum" offer the most compassionate, loving, highly clairvoyant vibrant beings to both worlds IF one does NOT try make them the world's definition of what's normal" ❤ 🌸
I asked myself how I had the patience to listen to an entire interview 🤔 Because its not an interview, but a passionate conversation between 2 extremely personable individuals, one eager to learn and the other eager to teach, on a subject that we can all resonate with. Absolutely loved this, well done Lewis👊
Whatever is... there is a lot to learn that may help us how to deal with people in this unsecure world 🌎. For that, I express to this lady a big THANKS !❤❤❤😊
I wish everyone was as visually expressive and genuine as Annie. She must be so easy to engage with, she doesn't seem to use her knowledge to put up a front, but instead to act as a lubricant for communication. Thank you. Never knew about her before this interview💛🙏🏼
I was speaking to a romantic interest the other day, and I noticed that he started using the phrase "our gym" instead of "insert gyms actual name". I found it odd because i immediately felt closer to him and recognised it as a subtle kind of love bombing. Then I wondered if I was being hypervigilant. In regard to sociopath or narcissists, systematically using specific language that they know "works", this makes perfect sense now.
When you grow up in an emotionally unpredictable home, you become really good at reading people. So I don't know all the technicalities and whatnot, but I'm generally good at getting accurate readings on people.
Same but man do I get in trouble with my ADHD’s inability to keep my mouth shut… I’m waiting for the day when we are supportive of those of us that point the bad adult when children are being abused or neglected…everyone I e seen doing that will vilify the hell oout of you instead of saying damn thanks for saying something. Nah it becomes you’re not welcome in this circle anymore
Lewis, you’re such a stellar interviewer. Seriously, top shelf. You bring out the best in everyone you speak to and it’s such a delight to listen to and with you. Thank you for this excellent episode
“I don’t want to be loved for anybody other than who I am”, authenticity, loving a person and their soul. This whole video resonated. Thank you for sharing.
@@dissonantbrainz3556 That’s a great question. I’ll try my best to explain it… When making a decision, you know you’re using logic when you consider many things. You think about your past experiences, past and present emotions, warning signs, the possibility of good or bad things happening, etc., and base your decision off those things. You’re using your heart when you base your decision on how you feel in that very moment. Whether it’s a feeling of fear, or excitement, or anger, etc. it’s more impulsive, and you sort of feel it in your heart. You feel your intuition in your gut. Hence, a “gut feeling”. It’s kind of like a nagging whisper that encourages you to do what’s best for you, even when you can’t see how it’s the best thing for you in the moment. Even when you insist on doing the opposite. It’s not influenced by your emotions, past experiences, and there’s no making sense of it, or shutting it up. You can however, ignore it, but it’ll always be there in the background. And it gets quieter the more you ignore it, and louder the more you listen to you.
@@dissonantbrainz3556 I hope I helped. ☺️ I ignored my intuition for many years, and always regretted it. Once I started trusting myself and following my intuition, my life became easier, less problematic, and less stressful. ☺️
Knowing if someone’s facial expression matches their words is one of the biggest takeaways for me, really awesome info here! Thanks so much for what you do Lewis!
It's difficult with a grandson with Autism. He's non verbal , but getting there. Many things available to him. And hearing him say Mama!! I'm over excited to see these moments.
I’ve been fascinated by nonverbal communication for years and have studied with who I thought were the top 6, but Annie has a high level of emotional intelligence that levels it up tremendously. I love how she backs it up with science because it’s hard not to dismiss EQ as woo woo. Emotions are so easy to dismiss as immeasurable or subjective, finally science is catching up to one of the most fundamental pieces of human experience.
@@newfacenewyear I’ll check out Gavin De Becker. Have to disagree with your assumption that reading people doesn’t work. If you check your biases and ego and know yourself it’s fairly straightforward once you learn from good teachers. Most people don’t take the time to really understand the nuance and take a “rule” from a 30 second video and try to apply it. So yeah, in those cases they are projecting or often wrong. But micro expressions are real, the study of universal non verbal communication is legit. And having enough sense to know they’re experiencing an emotional but you don’t know why requires maturity. When you see it used effectively it’s awesome.
I have a type of high functioning autism (Asperger's). I found this interview fascinating. 😊. My life has been impacted greatly by my limited ability to read visual emotions on people's faces. Reading rather into the contents of what they say and pattern of behaviour over time. Still, I was not unable to avoid becoming emesh in a long painful relationship with a man I slowly realised was controlling and a covert narcissist. It broke my heart but had to leave to save my mental health. I would like to get this book. The tools would help me better read people's subtle emotions, specifically deceptiveness, gaslighting. I need to learn better to read genuiness and truthfulness quicker, not only in order to avoid wasting time and energy on poor relationships, but be able to trust in making new friendships or partnerships. Loved the video, thank you.
When you live with a toxic person you have to act 24/7 the way they want you too. When you’re planning on leaving for good you have to make believe everything is okay. If they think you’re leaving, then they will hurt you!
Unfortunately, some Learn this Firsthand w Experience… it’s the School of Life That’s why we need Jesus . The Holy Spirit & God Always warn from Harm and unsafe people.
@@Nyx96-sy7hgI wholeheartedly agree with that. They should be teaching how to be an awesome communicator (this training included) and how to build awesome relationships. That's how you build teams and make anything happen in the world.
I thought it was cool to learn from a 4yr old and to think she basically started all of this and Annie's thought concept of beginning her profession. That's too cool
Annie is one of the heroes I've learned so much from. Thank you for having her on Lewis. You asked her such amazing questions, which she provided such amazing detailed information for us to all learn. I really appreciate you both for your experience and expertise. Have a great day.😮
Your example from the movie - I never feel like I have to hide my distrust in anyone. If I don’t trust them I just let it show, and I don’t second guess my gut.
Yup! Happened to me a few times at the front desk of a doctor’s office, for of all things disabilities. She was literally staring me down and sizing me up like I was prey. She shouldn’t be allowed to interact w people who have trauma and psychological disabilities. I don’t t even feel safe going there anymore.
I felt drained and can't continue with this one conversational narcissist. Like they didn't want me to look away but I had to for a rest it's like take a pause you Robot. Their voice almost got louder, mad when I looked away for a break or if I didn't keep nodding in understanding. Once I escaped I had to rest for a few days.
@@davinajones5042yes, I had 2, lucky me. The staring out the corner of the eye, they both had it. Then, I started to watch. We all worked a the same place and those two didn't like each other. Now, I know why, they saw it in each other and were then rivals.
7:53 Micro expressions are the very deepest of listening skills 13:30 Football players put themselves in a Warrior state in their minds...W😮W 18:50 Gut Feelings I can tell a facial expression. I dont know the why.
How difficult it was to not get distracted by the peanut gallery in the background!! Good on you both for helping each other thru it. You both cracked me up!! You could tell you were dying to laugh and yet helping one another to just move past it every 3 seconds!!! How funny!!!
As an aging woman with hooded eyes in the time of social media and constant pics, I now know why I look crazed when smiling and lifting my eyebrows up 🤣🤪😳
I also have hooded eyes it’s an insecurity of mine people would always tell me I look like my eyes are closed so of course I started raising my eyebrows when I spoke to people and they thought I was being rude. Here in the video she’s taking more about the top of the eyelids going back more so like a wide eye look not the raised eyebrows hope this helps
This lady is sharing a very fascinating concept. Except I don’t agree that facial expressions are the only thing to look at. It’s also the tone of voice and body language. And if all of these fail, then trust and listen to what your gut feelings say! It’s everything combined. What I’m walking away from this talk is, it takes practice to develop this skill, to be fully present and aware to all the cues, and come up with your own conclusions.
What a great interview! Definitely buying her book. What beautiful knowledge to teach your children in this crazy world we live in, especially with all the trafficking.
40:41 To me it doesn't matter if they are good, have good intentions if they are traumatized. All of the ones I dealt with had deep trauma, and both the "good" ones and darker ones were bad to deal with. They're both disorganized and will gaslight will, no matter if they believe their own lies or if they make up some to control you. They all try to control, and this is damaging in any relationship. I'd just run away and go no contact, with no guilt. You can't fix a broken person and you'll end up broken as well. It'll take some years for you to recover from their madness.
YEAP. I avoid them. I don't know care if they are good or bad. I just don't want that sht anywhere near me anymore. Because they bring their crap to dump on YOU and suck YOUR life force out of you. They're broken and they do everything to break you, too. I just don't want that stuff. I am not anyone's saviour. Nobody been saving me lol It's because of these people and what they brought with them over and over I have had to do a TON of work to not end up messed up. Those in the circles that I cannot completely avoid get a lot of boundaries. The rest have all been outed and I watch for any new ones trying to latch onto me. I am like a damn magnet for these types. Because I have in me what they DON'T and will never get. Took me a while to realize that I'm highly empathetic and genuine...and it's like a freaking magnet to broken people, narcs, socios and psychos. I was married to a narc for 12 yrs. His family was full of these people. Even some of my own family is. All the men I've been around have been broken or narcy or psycho... even several female friends that I met over the years have been like that. Now I keep myself WELL PROTECTED from these type of people.
Not everyone who has trauma is like what you are describing. Some people work on things and get better. Or don't end up in states as bad as what you said. What you went through, with the people you describe, is trauma. Therefore, you are also traumatized. Are you exactly what you just described? Everyone has trauma. Even the kindest, most empathetic and giving person has trauma and could have an event or a few events that are deeply traumatic and still affect them. Everyone is different.
I like this comment, I think it’s a reference to deep emotional trauma which formed a narcissistic personality for example. Obviously there are many forms of trauma which may not shape a person into some easily labeled form of psychosis.
This was a great interview, I really enjoyed it. Especially the point that we need to listen to our internal response (regardless of how we choose to react) even if our brain can’t put words around it. Thanks Annie & Lewis! 🙏
This is by far the best informative videos I've ever listened to and learned from. Thank you ❤ I'll purchase your book as soon as I can ❤. What a precious gem you are. Annie
Ppl grew up glued to the phone lack facial expression and body language reading skill. It is important for human to socialize during formative years. Discerning facial and body cues is learned during the first 20 years of a person’s life.
I was trying so hard to not show any micro-expressions when I had to pretend to not be sad or uncomfortable about the man I like having a new girlfriend. We were all at the table together and I had to act happy and like I was ok with it. Man that was hard 😅
my narcissistic ex-husband told me on the phone after destroying his marriage, (and we have a three year old), “you know, I’m actually really smart.” I did not argue with him on the phone because I knew better, but the things that I could have said….. there is a difference between IQ and EQ, there’s a difference between knowledge and wisdom, you can have all the knowledge in the world, and if you don’t have love, it’s meaningless….
Great and highly informative interview! I must say that The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo is such a great example to use. The entire finale (both the Swedish and American version) is blood-chilling for the exact reasons you mentioned. (Still waiting for the remake of parts two and three.)
When I worked for a mental health facility, the state insurance company took photos of people for part of their insurance ID. This was always on the first page of info, and their insurance demographic (Severely Mentally Ill, Child Protection insurance, General Population, etc) on the last page. The deer in the headlights look was on the face of every single profile with SMI insurance. Most of these people are more a danger to themselves than others, and they are still good people. Just in need of compassion and healthcare.
I have tried to protect my kids, by teaching them from a young age, to trust their instincts. That it’s okay to not worry about being polite if your body and mind is telling you that a person is dangerous or disingenuous, and to run! Now I understand why we have those gut instincts.
Follow your gut instincts. They never lie. It is as if an Angel is clueing you in. Sometimes we want to ignore it because we desire a friendship with an individual but eventually, you will learn. Sometimes the hard way.
Thank you for pointing out that my husband, that I've been struggling with has gone through some childhood trauma that I have as well... I am disabled and feel like I am stuck but I am feeling stronger....
I love how Annie starts off by saying what I've been thinking for so long...That's a lot of questions at once! Love Ya Bro, i see myself in your enthusiasm
This is the best thing I’ve watched on TH-cam in months. Thank you for this great interview. I’ve just ordered a copy of Annie’s book and have subscribed to her channel ❤
I must admit since I was a young person I've felt like I was picking up macro / micro facial expressions naturally. When you grow up with many families/ people.. you are trained naturally. Then of course later on with training. 😘😇 I love ❤️ this 🙏.
One of the BEST and most eye-opening hours i have spent my life! Thank you Annie ❤ all the blessings in the world to you and your loved ones! I will buy the book to support
Two things I want to point out; this is why they tried to force face masks on us. Expression is our first form of communication as humans. Second, children who come from emotionally abusive homes, learned this at a really young age, so you know exactly when you will want to avoid the abusive parent & make yourself invisible.
Thank you, this is wonderful wisdom ❤ ...och plåster på sår vi får av opålitliga/kappvändare människor och av att inte få stöd i att lita på vår intuitiva magkänslor tidigt i livet. Tack Annie för att du visar vägen till inre tillit och love&compassion ❤
"Neurodiversity is a beautiful thing" My tears went rolling there... Now onto reading the book!😍🤩 Watched it, she answered🤩 I have only watched 4 minutes, but one question I hope to see, and if I don't, would've asked her; Would it be the body language of someone neurodivergent that makes others perceive them as odd, and not being able to read them. Or do we make other facial movements, which from what is said, we don't?? Which would mean that social expectation would be the reason, but would reading us (Neurodivergent people) be the same as reading someone Neurotypical??
Right! I've always wondered for myself... being ADHD, growing up in a harsh household, and gay & didn't come out until 36. I've always been very openly me as much as possible, actually, but in the face of authority I'm uncomfortable just period - of being judged or misunderstood... & so, if being grilled I feel like I appear dishonest no matter what. It's insecurity & also, trauma from not being able to be real, ever growing up. Not allowed emotion or thought. Also, just the ADHD in even social typical situations where I'm fully enjoying & engaged... I can hear all what the person is saying & have multiple thought trains started relating, & I can't help it & do my best, but I dislike knowing this may be making the other person feel not heard... or perhaps, they are saying something distressing I could have a microexpression thinking of a great possible helpful solution that might bring comfort. Always trying. ❤
This is hands down the best TH-cam video it is virtual for the third person watching .you should bottle this cause I like to have a case of this interview
One of the things that strikes me about learning this skill, is remembering that i had to teach myself to look people in the eye as a young adult. It was really difficult. This is what i default to when stressed. It's at those precise moments when i need to calm down and pay attention to what i am seeing and respond appropriately!
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Grateful to share Annie's expertise with you! Thanks for watching. If you enjoyed our conversation please hit the 👍on the video and subscribe to the channel for more great content. Appreciate you
Are you engaged?!?! If so, congrats
Is your gf controlling?
@@nikkis8102 that was a question to see his reaction..
Thank you for having her on!!! Wow!!! She's such a beautiful person! I'm so grateful for both of you! ❤❤❤
I would always get these intuitive thoughts that nobody else saw and I would be told I'm too critical. I'm thinking I may have picked up on microexoeesions and not having been influenced by sheer words which many ppl use to evaluate ppl
“I really want people to learn the facial expressions so they can recognize truth”, love that!
Unless it’s used to manipulate people. @20:45
« The one thing for those of us who have experienced trauma is that our pain was intentionnally (or not intentionnally) dismissed. So we learned not to listen or even feel our emotions. » This sentence was eye-opening for me. Well said.
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Very true ..😢n i know i need someone to hear me though i know no one would so ..i was finding some ways to understand myself n get out from these grief 💔
And why we sometimes end up in a cycle of abuse.
I was brought up in fear and severe trauma and I always have read facial expressions because it was the way to see if something bad was going to happen😢
But God....
Is close to the Brokenhearted and those of a contrite spirit God holds Us in His hand and He molds us into survivors so we have compassion and empathy for those who are going through the same things to give them hope & to let others know that God will never forsake them 💜
Exactly this for me.
Thank you for highlighting that people with autism can have immense empathy. I talked with a professor about this and I feel a lot of people on the spectrum are misunderstood to have no feelings just because they may have a problem expressing them in a way that is expected by others 💛 some of the most awesome people I know may be on the spectrum 💛
This should be a highlighted comment. Autism has a multitude of issues that make neurotypicals skittish and frustrated when they’re around. Especially the Uncanny Valley effect
definitely ❤
Oh my god that's really true when i read your comment something happened in my mind like I'm reading myself 😢❤❤ thank's for because you understand what we are suffering
In the astral realm there are HIGHER dimensions where no facial expressions exists...communication is done using your intuition. This world is mirrored from this reality.. what people label as "on the spectrum" are highly gifted, empathic intuitive beings in this world. IF guided proper from childhood just as this women has said. This gift of "spectrum" offer the most compassionate, loving, highly clairvoyant vibrant beings to both worlds IF one does NOT try make them the world's definition of what's normal" ❤ 🌸
@@rainbow_flovery well said and true.
Idk this lady feels like an everflowing river of kindness and empathy. The crystal clear answer to the last question "What is Greatness?" says it all
Appreciate you for watching!
Thats it exactly@@lewishowes
I asked myself how I had the patience to listen to an entire interview 🤔
Because its not an interview, but a passionate conversation between 2 extremely personable individuals, one eager to learn and the other eager to teach, on a subject that we can all resonate with. Absolutely loved this, well done Lewis👊
Yeah, and she’s probably doing something with her eyes to mesmerize us! 😂
@@BeyondSustainableLivingyes that's really true i thought just me noticed that thing😂😂 she's smart
Agreed
I also will continue to watch! ty
Whatever is... there is a lot to learn that may help us how to deal with people in this unsecure world 🌎. For that, I express to this lady a big THANKS !❤❤❤😊
I wish everyone was as visually expressive and genuine as Annie. She must be so easy to engage with, she doesn't seem to use her knowledge to put up a front, but instead to act as a lubricant for communication.
Thank you. Never knew about her before this interview💛🙏🏼
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
Leadership is parenting is very accurate. As a teacher, I know this. I parent all day long.
I was speaking to a romantic interest the other day, and I noticed that he started using the phrase "our gym" instead of "insert gyms actual name". I found it odd because i immediately felt closer to him and recognised it as a subtle kind of love bombing. Then I wondered if I was being hypervigilant. In regard to sociopath or narcissists, systematically using specific language that they know "works", this makes perfect sense now.
@@calista1280 exactly and maybe we have some projection happening with the op.
Yes, he's testing to see what works on you. Get away - you can't out-con a con. If you try, you pay a high price.
When you grow up in an emotionally unpredictable home, you become really good at reading people. So I don't know all the technicalities and whatnot, but I'm generally good at getting accurate readings on people.
Same but man do I get in trouble with my ADHD’s inability to keep my mouth shut… I’m waiting for the day when we are supportive of those of us that point the bad adult when children are being abused or neglected…everyone I e seen doing that will vilify the hell oout of you instead of saying damn thanks for saying something. Nah it becomes you’re not welcome in this circle anymore
Exactly and it's part of learning to protect ourselves too.
Lewis, you’re such a stellar interviewer. Seriously, top shelf. You bring out the best in everyone you speak to and it’s such a delight to listen to and with you. Thank you for this excellent episode
Thank you so much! Your comment made my day 😊
"To love well, and to be loved well" made me tear up. I'm definitely buying her book! Thank you!
Fastest hour of a podcast I have ever listened to. 👁👁 I need to read all her stuff!! Thank you for this PHENOMENAL guest. 👏👏👏
You're welcome, appreciate you for being here 🧡
“I don’t want to be loved for anybody other than who I am”, authenticity, loving a person and their soul. This whole video resonated. Thank you for sharing.
Only 9 minutes in and I am so hooked. Annie is fab.
Thank you for being here!
I have taught my daughter all her life to trust her intuition, and how to differentiate between persuasion, fear, logic, intuition, etc.
How do you differentiate between them?
@@dissonantbrainz3556 That’s a great question. I’ll try my best to explain it…
When making a decision, you know you’re using logic when you consider many things. You think about your past experiences, past and present emotions, warning signs, the possibility of good or bad things happening, etc., and base your decision off those things.
You’re using your heart when you base your decision on how you feel in that very moment. Whether it’s a feeling of fear, or excitement, or anger, etc. it’s more impulsive, and you sort of feel it in your heart.
You feel your intuition in your gut. Hence, a “gut feeling”. It’s kind of like a nagging whisper that encourages you to do what’s best for you, even when you can’t see how it’s the best thing for you in the moment. Even when you insist on doing the opposite. It’s not influenced by your emotions, past experiences, and there’s no making sense of it, or shutting it up. You can however, ignore it, but it’ll always be there in the background. And it gets quieter the more you ignore it, and louder the more you listen to you.
@@TheeAntiChris that was great explanation.
Thank you 😊
@@dissonantbrainz3556 I hope I helped. ☺️
I ignored my intuition for many years, and always regretted it. Once I started trusting myself and following my intuition, my life became easier, less problematic, and less stressful. ☺️
I have taught all of my children to ALWAYS go with their first mind (intuition)
Knowing if someone’s facial expression matches their words is one of the biggest takeaways for me, really awesome info here! Thanks so much for what you do Lewis!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
@@lewishowes it’s truly my pleasure
I did a college presentation for my 6th semester on micro expressions and it rocked.
The gift of the Discernment.💯
Now I finally know why I spot people who are suicidal and violent people.. .. never knew it really was a thing. Thx.
Annie is such a loving person. I loved her, she is so refreshing. Thank you Lewis for introducing such amazing guests to us.
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
It's difficult with a grandson with Autism. He's non verbal , but getting there.
Many things available to him.
And hearing him say Mama!! I'm over excited to see these moments.
Annie you are so authentic and natural! An intuitive teacher - I really enjoyed this discussion.
I’ve been fascinated by nonverbal communication for years and have studied with who I thought were the top 6, but Annie has a high level of emotional intelligence that levels it up tremendously.
I love how she backs it up with science because it’s hard not to dismiss EQ as woo woo. Emotions are so easy to dismiss as immeasurable or subjective, finally science is catching up to one of the most fundamental pieces of human experience.
@@newfacenewyear I’ll check out Gavin De Becker. Have to disagree with your assumption that reading people doesn’t work. If you check your biases and ego and know yourself it’s fairly straightforward once you learn from good teachers.
Most people don’t take the time to really understand the nuance and take a “rule” from a 30 second video and try to apply it. So yeah, in those cases they are projecting or often wrong.
But micro expressions are real, the study of universal non verbal communication is legit. And having enough sense to know they’re experiencing an emotional but you don’t know why requires maturity. When you see it used effectively it’s awesome.
Would love to know your recommendations? :)
@@JennaFW Vanessa Van Edward’s and the four guys on the Behavior Panel are great teachers. They all have books and videos online.
My Daughter is High functioning Autistic and she has always been good at reading people. Knowing when someone was a good or bad person.
I have a type of high functioning autism (Asperger's). I found this interview fascinating. 😊. My life has been impacted greatly by my limited ability to read visual emotions on people's faces. Reading rather into the contents of what they say and pattern of behaviour over time. Still, I was not unable to avoid becoming emesh in a long painful relationship with a man I slowly realised was controlling and a covert narcissist. It broke my heart but had to leave to save my mental health. I would like to get this book. The tools would help me better read people's subtle emotions, specifically deceptiveness, gaslighting. I need to learn better to read genuiness and truthfulness quicker, not only in order to avoid wasting time and energy on poor relationships, but be able to trust in making new friendships or partnerships. Loved the video, thank you.
Welcome to the human world :)
When you live with a toxic person you have to act 24/7 the way they want you too. When you’re planning on leaving for good you have to make believe everything is okay. If they think you’re leaving, then they will hurt you!
you must make an exit plan. Keep that plan a secret no matter what.
I hope you have someone you can trust.
@@leagarner3675 I “thought “ I did. When you’re in hell you are really there!
@@hannnn5048 I told my supporter and nothing from me.
Realizing trauma can look like narcissism makes so much sense.
This should be a required class at all grade levels and college.
Unfortunately, some Learn this Firsthand w Experience… it’s the School of Life That’s why we need Jesus . The Holy Spirit & God Always warn from Harm and unsafe people.
They don't teach you the real necessary stuff in school.
Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
@@Nyx96-sy7hgI wholeheartedly agree with that. They should be teaching how to be an awesome communicator (this training included) and how to build awesome relationships. That's how you build teams and make anything happen in the world.
I agree with your comment, we all need Jesus@@Seraphim7
Jack Nicholson in the Shining did the psychopath eyelid thing
I thought it was cool to learn from a 4yr old and to think she basically started all of this and Annie's thought concept of beginning her profession. That's too cool
Agree! So pure coming from kids.
This joy in the horror, pinged a memory for me, it absolutely bought this home for me the rage in a narc
Annie is one of the heroes I've learned so much from.
Thank you for having her on Lewis.
You asked her such amazing questions, which she provided such amazing detailed information for us to all learn.
I really appreciate you both for your experience and expertise.
Have a great day.😮
Your example from the movie - I never feel like I have to hide my distrust in anyone. If I don’t trust them I just let it show, and I don’t second guess my gut.
Narcissists eye contact is usually so long it’s uncomfortable for the non-narcissist. They are sizing you up, like prey.
Yup! Happened to me a few times at the front desk of a doctor’s office, for of all things disabilities. She was literally staring me down and sizing me up like I was prey. She shouldn’t be allowed to interact w people who have trauma and psychological disabilities. I don’t t even feel safe going there anymore.
I felt drained and can't continue with this one conversational narcissist. Like they didn't want me to look away but I had to for a rest it's like take a pause you Robot. Their voice almost got louder, mad when I looked away for a break or if I didn't keep nodding in understanding. Once I escaped I had to rest for a few days.
Exactly, I knew a narcissist. She was constantly reading me and sometimes I can see from the corner of her eyes her staring at me.
I make prolonged eyed contact with my bf, oh no I'm narc
@@davinajones5042yes, I had 2, lucky me. The staring out the corner of the eye, they both had it. Then, I started to watch. We all worked a the same place and those two didn't like each other. Now, I know why, they saw it in each other and were then rivals.
I remember a great TV series ‘Lie to me’. Anyone?! I miss it!
😶no!
That was a great series!
That show was amazing!!!!
Twas a good show
yeah loved it
This is a gift given to a chosen few. Somethings cannot be taught and could lead to misjudgements☝️
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Micro expressions are the very deepest of listening skills
13:30 Football players put themselves in a Warrior state in their minds...W😮W
18:50 Gut Feelings
I can tell a facial expression. I dont know the why.
How difficult it was to not get distracted by the peanut gallery in the background!! Good on you both for helping each other thru it. You both cracked me up!! You could tell you were dying to laugh and yet helping one another to just move past it every 3 seconds!!! How funny!!!
As an aging woman with hooded eyes in the time of social media and constant pics, I now know why I look crazed when smiling and lifting my eyebrows up 🤣🤪😳
I'm 50 years old with hooded eyes. I'm getting there!😂
Or face lift
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I also have hooded eyes it’s an insecurity of mine people would always tell me I look like my eyes are closed so of course I started raising my eyebrows when I spoke to people and they thought I was being rude. Here in the video she’s taking more about the top of the eyelids going back more so like a wide eye look not the raised eyebrows hope this helps
Same! 😂
This lady is sharing a very fascinating concept. Except I don’t agree that facial expressions are the only thing to look at. It’s also the tone of voice and body language. And if all of these fail, then trust and listen to what your gut feelings say! It’s everything combined. What I’m walking away from this talk is, it takes practice to develop this skill, to be fully present and aware to all the cues, and come up with your own conclusions.
What a great interview! Definitely buying her book. What beautiful knowledge to teach your children in this crazy world we live in, especially with all the trafficking.
I want her book too wow this is so awesome.
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40:41 To me it doesn't matter if they are good, have good intentions if they are traumatized. All of the ones I dealt with had deep trauma, and both the "good" ones and darker ones were bad to deal with. They're both disorganized and will gaslight will, no matter if they believe their own lies or if they make up some to control you. They all try to control, and this is damaging in any relationship. I'd just run away and go no contact, with no guilt. You can't fix a broken person and you'll end up broken as well. It'll take some years for you to recover from their madness.
YEAP. I avoid them. I don't know care if they are good or bad. I just don't want that sht anywhere near me anymore. Because they bring their crap to dump on YOU and suck YOUR life force out of you. They're broken and they do everything to break you, too. I just don't want that stuff. I am not anyone's saviour. Nobody been saving me lol It's because of these people and what they brought with them over and over I have had to do a TON of work to not end up messed up. Those in the circles that I cannot completely avoid get a lot of boundaries. The rest have all been outed and I watch for any new ones trying to latch onto me. I am like a damn magnet for these types. Because I have in me what they DON'T and will never get. Took me a while to realize that I'm highly empathetic and genuine...and it's like a freaking magnet to broken people, narcs, socios and psychos.
I was married to a narc for 12 yrs. His family was full of these people. Even some of my own family is. All the men I've been around have been broken or narcy or psycho... even several female friends that I met over the years have been like that. Now I keep myself WELL PROTECTED from these type of people.
A person who’s been traumatized by a psychopath is not the same as the mentally ill psychopath.
Not everyone who has trauma is like what you are describing. Some people work on things and get better. Or don't end up in states as bad as what you said. What you went through, with the people you describe, is trauma. Therefore, you are also traumatized. Are you exactly what you just described? Everyone has trauma. Even the kindest, most empathetic and giving person has trauma and could have an event or a few events that are deeply traumatic and still affect them. Everyone is different.
I like this comment, I think it’s a reference to deep emotional trauma which formed a narcissistic personality for example. Obviously there are many forms of trauma which may not shape a person into some easily labeled form of psychosis.
Thank you. That was healing.
Annie is an absolute gem
This was a great interview, I really enjoyed it. Especially the point that we need to listen to our internal response (regardless of how we choose to react) even if our brain can’t put words around it. Thanks Annie & Lewis! 🙏
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This is by far the best informative videos I've ever listened to and learned from. Thank you ❤ I'll purchase your book as soon as I can ❤. What a precious gem you are. Annie
In the conflict you learn from each other… best to observe how others manage conflict … it will be very very revealing.. give people time.
Ppl grew up glued to the phone lack facial expression and body language reading skill. It is important for human to socialize during formative years. Discerning facial and body cues is learned during the first 20 years of a person’s life.
I was trying so hard to not show any micro-expressions when I had to pretend to not be sad or uncomfortable about the man I like having a new girlfriend. We were all at the table together and I had to act happy and like I was ok with it. Man that was hard 😅
She’s amazing! I’ve enjoyed watching this . What an intelligent, incredible woman! I’m buying her book!.
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2 human beings, conversing face to face. This is really good stuff❤
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my narcissistic ex-husband told me on the phone after destroying his marriage, (and we have a three year old), “you know, I’m actually really smart.”
I did not argue with him on the phone because I knew better, but the things that I could have said….. there is a difference between IQ and EQ, there’s a difference between knowledge and wisdom, you can have all the knowledge in the world, and if you don’t have love, it’s meaningless….
You are absolutely spot-on.
Great and highly informative interview! I must say that The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo is such a great example to use. The entire finale (both the Swedish and American version) is blood-chilling for the exact reasons you mentioned. (Still waiting for the remake of parts two and three.)
When I worked for a mental health facility, the state insurance company took photos of people for part of their insurance ID. This was always on the first page of info, and their insurance demographic (Severely Mentally Ill, Child Protection insurance, General Population, etc) on the last page. The deer in the headlights look was on the face of every single profile with SMI insurance. Most of these people are more a danger to themselves than others, and they are still good people. Just in need of compassion and healthcare.
I have tried to protect my kids, by teaching them from a young age, to trust their instincts. That it’s okay to not worry about being polite if your body and mind is telling you that a person is dangerous or disingenuous, and to run! Now I understand why we have those gut instincts.
56:47 Leadership is parenting. Wow. This is so helpful to me.
Follow your gut instincts. They never lie. It is as if an Angel is clueing you in.
Sometimes we want to ignore it because we desire a friendship with an individual but eventually, you will learn. Sometimes the hard way.
This was the most important skill I have consistently and constantly been teaching my kids from the beginning...💞💯💞💯💞💖💞💯💞💯💞
Thank you for pointing out that my husband, that I've been struggling with has gone through some childhood trauma that I have as well... I am disabled and feel like I am stuck but I am feeling stronger....
I love how Annie starts off by saying what I've been thinking for so long...That's a lot of questions at once! Love Ya Bro, i see myself in your enthusiasm
Yes. The man is definitely doing a service to the world. GOOD COMMENT AND MUCH LOVE FROM NEW ORLEANS EVERYONE
This is the best thing I’ve watched on TH-cam in months. Thank you for this great interview. I’ve just ordered a copy of Annie’s book and have subscribed to her channel ❤
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Omg so gwapo. Thanks a lot for sharing this. I am an empathetic person. I could feel the energy of the person. This video is a big plus.
Body language is what relied on when I was travelling through the world. ❤😊
What a fascinating human this interview sent me down a deep rabbit hole of human nature and emotions also muscle development
Fascinating woman & interview. Thank you...I was glued to the screen.
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This episode is So much more than just lie detecting. Great conversation!!! ❤
Thank you!
Good to know more people are experienced in universal body language but my favorite is Vanessa Vanedwards she's so personable and so interesting.
Yes your right i watch a lot of interviews for her and she's really amazing
The FACS (Facial Action Coding System) was developed by Paul Ekman.
Lewis, of you want to learn Spanish, move to a Spanish-speaking country and live there for a year. Immersion is the natural way to learn a language. ❤
Yep, he learned English well :)
I must admit since I was a young person I've felt like I was picking up macro / micro facial expressions naturally.
When you grow up with many families/ people.. you are trained naturally. Then of course later on with training.
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I love ❤️ this 🙏.
One of the BEST and most eye-opening hours i have spent my life! Thank you Annie ❤ all the blessings in the world to you and your loved ones! I will buy the book to support
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Two things I want to point out; this is why they tried to force face masks on us. Expression is our first form of communication as humans. Second, children who come from emotionally abusive homes, learned this at a really young age, so you know exactly when you will want to avoid the abusive parent & make yourself invisible.
Thank you for bringing these up- Profoundly important points!
Those who forced masks on toddlers! Children! Forcing on 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 yr olds- truly narcissistic, horrific.
@@hcmangs3634making them ok with pae**ph**ia
Indeed. I never wore it. Got abused a lot. But stood my ground.
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Omg! My body and facial expressions won’t lie😂😂😂
Thank you, this is wonderful wisdom ❤
...och plåster på sår vi får av opålitliga/kappvändare människor och av att inte få stöd i att lita på vår intuitiva magkänslor tidigt i livet.
Tack Annie för att du visar vägen till inre tillit och love&compassion ❤
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Exactly, be yourself, love well and be loved... nobody is perfect♡ Thank you, this interview was the best of greatness♡
So good to know this information especially with crazy things that happen on dating apps today! 💯
"Neurodiversity is a beautiful thing" My tears went rolling there... Now onto reading the book!😍🤩
Watched it, she answered🤩
I have only watched 4 minutes, but one question I hope to see, and if I don't, would've asked her; Would it be the body language of someone neurodivergent that makes others perceive them as odd, and not being able to read them. Or do we make other facial movements, which from what is said, we don't?? Which would mean that social expectation would be the reason, but would reading us (Neurodivergent people) be the same as reading someone Neurotypical??
Right! I've always wondered for myself... being ADHD, growing up in a harsh household, and gay & didn't come out until 36.
I've always been very openly me as much as possible, actually, but in the face of authority I'm uncomfortable just period - of being judged or misunderstood... & so, if being grilled I feel like I appear dishonest no matter what. It's insecurity & also, trauma from not being able to be real, ever growing up. Not allowed emotion or thought.
Also, just the ADHD in even social typical situations where I'm fully enjoying & engaged... I can hear all what the person is saying & have multiple thought trains started relating, & I can't help it & do my best, but I dislike knowing this may be making the other person feel not heard... or perhaps, they are saying something distressing I could have a microexpression thinking of a great possible helpful solution that might bring comfort.
Always trying. ❤
I love your show!!! Been a fan for 2 years and have helped make many more fans playing you on TH-cam driving rideshare
When I get the "crazy eyes," the psychopathic stare, my gut tells me to run.
😂 I know that one
This is an interesting video on her findings on human expression. Failure to devalg does not mean dishonesty.
I love her ❤ and love you ❤ love what u are doing for the collective. This will save lives. Thank you for what u both do.🎉
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Wow wow wow! Thank you Lewis and Annie! This is what I have always done. Feels like the puzzle just scrambled together in an instant 🙏🦋🇸🇪
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Loved watching you guys interact was really fun. This was just such great information. Thank you so much.
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And you to Lewis, you conduct some great interviews and I love your questions! Your such a great interviewer!!!!
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This is hands down the best TH-cam video it is virtual for the third person watching .you should bottle this cause I like to have a case of this interview
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Bless both of them. This is such a cool chat. I appreciate this so much
Appreciate you for watching!
Coming from the theater, we used phonomimics... the words can say one thing but the subtext is another... The important thing is the tone...
Many blessings to you❤💞
Thanks for being here!
I want to follow this woman on everything!!! Gemstones!!
Love you, Annie💖 Thank you for sharing your knowledge!
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Wow, amazing information! Thanks for introducing us to Annie 🙌
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I’m buying the book!
Great video. I love this guest she's so spot on
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Thank you, Annie & Lewis. Really eye opening
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Life purpose : « to love well and to be well loved. » ❤❤❤❤
Love, just love!! 🥰 She is definitely a part of Greatness!
Thanks Lewis and Annie! This was amazing, and I wished I learned it decades ago. I am going to buy her book.
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One of the things that strikes me about learning this skill, is remembering that i had to teach myself to look people in the eye as a young adult. It was really difficult. This is what i default to when stressed. It's at those precise moments when i need to calm down and pay attention to what i am seeing and respond appropriately!
You grew up with a narcissist, I’m the same way, not looking them in the eye is a defence manoeuvre
What a beautiful human and great interview
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I just skipped over from the podcast to the TH-cam channel for this interview, so i could see the facial expressions 😂
I really need to contact this brilliant woman! She should be training all of the court's and law enforcement etc...