Trauma Expert: GENERATIONS of PAIN Lives In Your Body. Do THIS to Break Free! | Dr Mariel Buqué

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    Dr. Mariel Buqué, a psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert, takes us on a profound journey towards healing. Dr. Buqué's holistic clinical approach, which blends ancient healing practices with modern therapy, empowers listeners to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
    In this episode, you will learn how to heal trauma without medication, recognize trauma within your body, and calm your nervous system with practical techniques. Dr. Buqué also delves into the impact of unaddressed trauma on our relationships and how to navigate healing when one partner is ready, but the other isn't.
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    0:00 Intro
    1:06 Healing trauma without medication
    4:44 Working through generational trauma when it resurfaces
    5:53 How to recognize trauma in your body
    8:20 The greatest gift a parent can give their child
    11:30 The most harmful thing about trauma?
    18:33 Fitting your healing into a busy lifestyle
    20:15 How our inner wounds affect our loved ones
    22:58 Becoming a better parent
    25:24 Practical techniques to calm your nervous system
    27:19 Supporting a partner that doesn't want to heal
    30:32 The hardest trauma to overcome
    37:20 The risk of not healing your inner child
    42:18 Is trauma genetic?
    49:57 How medication can heal trauma
    54:52 The power of positive reinforcement
    1:07:32 The true danger of emotional baggage in new relationships
    1:09:54 What do you personally struggle with?
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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +281

    Thanks to Dr. Buqué for sharing her knowledge with the Greatness community! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share your biggest takeaway. Make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again th-cam.com/users/lewishowes

    • @ChristalAllen
      @ChristalAllen 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Love her suggestions for how to help our kids regulate without "therapy talk"

    • @john-michaelwilliamsjr.9408
      @john-michaelwilliamsjr.9408 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤ 🙏 💯

    • @hamassehdaneshzad9513
      @hamassehdaneshzad9513 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      This was so beautiful to listen to both you and Dr.Buqué were so insightful I learned so much and I think I will be listening to this program time and time again and put it in practice 🙏🏼

    • @VeronicaC57
      @VeronicaC57 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes ❤

    • @jangriffin-fi1yx
      @jangriffin-fi1yx 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ❤ YES ❤ Love & look after yourself then you can turn all around "rise above it all". Find what way makes you happy to have the peace, you seek in life. Stop worrying, nothing that bad that you can't live with, put it to mind answers come to you effortlessly "always seek & you will find". Live the life that makes you happy, don't let others pull you down ever no matter what. Do your best, if you do right things in life you can't go too far wrong. Appreciate your beautiful life, there's always someone in the world worse off than you. If someone has wronged you doesn't mean you have to do same back, just make sure you don't pull yourself down to their level - all is taken care of without doing a thing, remember no-one gets away with doing wrong. Smile even when hurting, help others. Life's too short. Trust all's well ❤

  • @consultmlcesqful
    @consultmlcesqful หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    I was horrified when I discovered that my middle school son had been sleeping with a knife underneath his mattress, because of his fear that I was in a 4th violent relationship. (Repetition Compulsion?)
    He had pledged to himself that he would not let it happen again. He had decided to protect & defend me - as a child.
    That’s when I knew that it was time to escape.
    For years now, my son & I together haven been “doing the work!” I am stronger & better! So is he.

    • @sydneysweat37
      @sydneysweat37 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Kids really make us grow for the better.

    • @margaret9973
      @margaret9973 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      May God be with you through your journey.

  • @yohanj627
    @yohanj627 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +561

    two years will fly by! Do the work friends! It will be worth it for you and your loved ones

    • @number1angel66
      @number1angel66 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I agree 100% and it will be well worth the effort!

    • @hermelybernardino3612
      @hermelybernardino3612 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      I'll begin the work now,hope to go back here 2 years later😌,successful

    • @sprooced345
      @sprooced345 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I'm totally in.

    • @rahwa138
      @rahwa138 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I don't know where to begin. I really want to work on myslef 😢

    • @yohanj627
      @yohanj627 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      @@rahwa138 hello. Sometimes the beginning is the hardest part. I’ve always been reminded to take baby steps at first to create momentum even if it’s headed towards the wrong direction the small baby steps will let you know to change your direction to a clearer direction. For me, because I had no idea how I felt how I reacted what I liked or what I disliked, I had to study and gain some knowledge about the conscious and the subconscious or triggers that caused me to emotionally spiral. you can do it. We are all fighting to become the best version of ourselves, so you are not alone my friend

  • @andreamarie1985
    @andreamarie1985 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +178

    This is so true! I talked with my grandmother about her upbringing, parents, and grandparents. All those generations of my family, and they're all broken and traumatized people. I’ve finally had enough of this cycle. I’m changing myself and setting a better example for my family. It's time to own all this bad behavior and heal.

    • @Lucy11_11
      @Lucy11_11 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Bravo and same here ❤🙏🏾

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +360

    If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗🙏🏼

    • @SmilingFlowerBouquet-yo5id
      @SmilingFlowerBouquet-yo5id 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Amen

    • @irenaz3282
      @irenaz3282 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Amen and amen 🙏🏿

    • @estgo7382
      @estgo7382 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you, for you as well❤

    • @a_la_drinah
      @a_la_drinah 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thx same

    • @kimberlysmith7145
      @kimberlysmith7145 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Aww,Thank you very much and I wish the same to you!!! 😊

  • @Olwethu100
    @Olwethu100 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +238

    She has such a beautiful air about her. So admirable

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      🧡

    • @luzluna6808
      @luzluna6808 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yes she does.

    • @iamnotmyhandle
      @iamnotmyhandle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Healing does that! 🙏🏾💚

    • @davidm4525
      @davidm4525 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No she doesn't

    • @Slim474-nx6jo
      @Slim474-nx6jo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My thoughts exactly!!

  • @ShuntaDaGawd._._-
    @ShuntaDaGawd._._- 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +127

    literally took me 5yrs to release old learned dogmatic beliefs,forgiveness to many who disrespected me as a child,loving myself again & gaining more courage to leave anything n anyone alone not aligned with my peace also core values…. im 45 so how ever long it take you to start your self awareness journey willl be that much longer to heal your mind

    • @S.MULLINS
      @S.MULLINS หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Depends on the individual, there is no one size fits all in how long it takes to heal.

    • @bdecillis420
      @bdecillis420 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Love this

  • @brianhepke7182
    @brianhepke7182 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +184

    One of my mantras: "thank you for my health, thank you for my healing".

    • @v10letv1xen9
      @v10letv1xen9 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That's what I say too!!! ❤❤ Puts me in a better mind set for the day

    • @brianhepke7182
      @brianhepke7182 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @v10letv1xen9 It plays a part of my "prayer" ritual as soon as I open my eyes every morning. Giving thanks for everything dear to me in my life.
      Too numerous to mention here.
      Giving thanks brings on more of what you are grateful for.

    • @keerthynair5961
      @keerthynair5961 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Thank you God for everything 🙏

    • @jangriffin-fi1yx
      @jangriffin-fi1yx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@v10letv1xen9 Definitely does ❤ I will always give thanks to our Great Creator God, Jesus "Wholly Spirit", Guardian Angels, Spiritual Guides & all my loved ones who have passed ❤ for giving me my life & for all the things (& more) that they did for me, will never forget them ever ❤

  • @BobbyGreyEagle
    @BobbyGreyEagle 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +89

    45:20 - Tribal elders believe this too; trauma goes back seven generations, but they also believe if the individual heals themselves, they heal those past generations, the present and future generations. They say it's a powerful moment--I've been doing a lot of work on myself lately to ensure this powerful moment ripples to the past and future.

    • @kjbkjhkjhjk7775
      @kjbkjhkjhjk7775 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      so beautiful :)

    • @zina8562
      @zina8562 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      So happy for you, wishing you continued blessings ❤

  • @Dr.MarielBuque
    @Dr.MarielBuque 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +232

    Thank you so much for this beautiful conversation Lewis! And thank you everyone for your kind comments and feedback. May you heal abundantly!

    • @lr8504
      @lr8504 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Your voice and demeanor was so calming and enjoyable even with the subject matter! Thank you

    • @christhomas-asevado5212
      @christhomas-asevado5212 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Thank you for explaining so gently and eloquently Dr. Buque. We need more exposé about generational trauma. Thank you.

    • @Viijack
      @Viijack 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you Doc. for sharing this very important conversation with us. I've personally struggled with childhood traumas from possibly 2 generations up thus this discussion has really been helpful in me identifying the root causes and cutting them off. This ends with me. ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @susannas495
      @susannas495 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I love the way this is so kindly communicated. Such a genuine ✨️ person. Emotionally intelligent and also practical and highly intelligent. ❤

    • @Dr.MarielBuque
      @Dr.MarielBuque 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@susannas495 such kind words, thank you!

  • @traveloasis8389
    @traveloasis8389 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    She has the energy of a gifted healer. She’s the featured guest but I admire the way she hangs back and listens to Lewis without once cutting him off. Her insights into human behavior and trauma is very enlightening.

  • @reneewallace8079
    @reneewallace8079 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    Teaching a child to vet people - set boundaries and hold their standards. I love advocacing for systematic change for your children in any community. Let's protect them.

    • @RemnantRevivalMinistries
      @RemnantRevivalMinistries 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow, this comment was so needed!!! What you just stated could actually save many from trauma induced ptsd, and other mental and emotional issues due to trauma and even narcissistic abuse. Boundaries are definitely key. Wish I would've been given the wisdom of setting boundaries.

    • @oaktreedialogues6318
      @oaktreedialogues6318 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes! This is very practical and needed advice that needs to be told. Thank you for this gold nuggett!

    • @Alkemiss
      @Alkemiss 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Vetting & learning how to set boundaries are things I wished I learned earlier on as child. Those 2 key components can boost trust & high self esteem in oneself

    • @user-wq9ys5ub9t
      @user-wq9ys5ub9t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Jesus Christ is the transformative healer of mental , emotional, physical and spiritual trauma and chronic pain that's rooted in sinful relations❤️

    • @Awaken218
      @Awaken218 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I love this. I’m 50 and when I was coming up I was forced to be around horrible people. No one listened to my feelings and how I didn’t want to be around them. “Children are to be seen and not heard” was the Boomer quote for adults. I love that things are getting so much healthier.

  • @artisticagi
    @artisticagi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

    5:55 how to do a trauma assessment
    6:10 a knot in the stomach is the nervous system turning on
    9:14 the first step is telling the story and seeing how our body responds
    9:32 step two is relaxation
    10:30 if not addressed it can be disease

    • @artisticagi
      @artisticagi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      19:50 takes 200 repetitions to reset nervous system

    • @excelant
      @excelant 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Easiest way is to recall an event and once you feel a body reaction you have to keep feeling that so that feeling will flow freely and clear from your body. Usually at the end the memory of the event will be recalled clearly as it is released.

    • @MsJiguur
      @MsJiguur 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙏🏻 thank you Happy new year ✨

    • @AwesomeMe47
      @AwesomeMe47 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you!

  • @KarimKarim-xy9py
    @KarimKarim-xy9py 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    She’s so calm and relaxed. Beautiful woman. She appears so compassionate and genuine.

  • @tnt01
    @tnt01 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +158

    Love her calming vibe.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      So calming

    • @staejaye1910
      @staejaye1910 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same

    • @TeaRose9
      @TeaRose9 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yes, yesss and her high emotional intelligence.

    • @opuerembee2684
      @opuerembee2684 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes..I love it

    • @nobodynothing2594
      @nobodynothing2594 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your Body Keeps the Score !
      The Body Scans is done in Vipassana Meditation technique

  • @HappyCat1111
    @HappyCat1111 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

    I entirely agree with her definition of greatness. Life can kick you down in so many ways, but it’s also n getting back up that we achieve greatness. Finding that courage deep within to keep going no matter how hard, no matter the odds. That is true greatness. And for anyone who has been kicked down in life, I see you, I believe in you, and never give up. Always bet on you!

    • @a-k9161
      @a-k9161 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Meow

  • @114Patty
    @114Patty 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    46:35 “A scent takes you back…” My father has been gone (passed away) for over 44 years but when I smell Old Spice, I recall his hugs and smiles. Yes scent is powerful.

    • @davidm4525
      @davidm4525 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sure he's looking up at you right now

    • @emmasarge4057
      @emmasarge4057 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too!

    • @vsandoval4900
      @vsandoval4900 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right, one day I walked and one lady passing by me and I smell cilantro 🌿 omg very strong she has a very big cilantro plant and I go back to my childhood and seconds and I remember my grandpa , at the moment I was very sad for something and the same moment I said you are here thank you ❤

    • @kareema2001
      @kareema2001 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢same here

  • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
    @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    My guru taught me..."Healing through helpfulness..." he said... "Doctors and medication aren't necessary..."🎉🎉

    • @mr_jmartin4774
      @mr_jmartin4774 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That’s stupid. Doctors & medicine are absolutely necessary. & have been thru the annals of time. There have always been shamed & doctors in our tribes. They are as much a gift and blessing as any other good thing on this planet. You all gain just a a smidge of awareness & take things too far. Look at Lewis’ team even supporting this ridiculous comment.

    • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
      @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mr_jmartin4774 In days of yore a medicine man/woman would be a herbalist and a shaman... etc. Hippocrates was a natural therapist himself...😇😇

    • @sydneysweat37
      @sydneysweat37 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Helpfulness? Like spreading kindness to others?

    • @buddhaneosiddhananda8499
      @buddhaneosiddhananda8499 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@sydneysweat37 Like... make yourself useful... contribute to the betterment of others and keep serving forever... service is love in action...

    • @sydneysweat37
      @sydneysweat37 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 for me, this attitude is part of what has given me trauma. It seems that people take this for granted and treat you unkind. That is traumatizing tbh.

  • @ShanteaSimone
    @ShanteaSimone 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Healing is definitely a continuous journey

  • @guerlinemacean3684
    @guerlinemacean3684 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    My cup of tea. Healing w/ no meds

  • @malindateal14
    @malindateal14 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    That is the first time I’ve ever heard somebody talk about when you go see a therapist you have to relive your story. I literally dropped out because I thought it was ridiculous and awful. I’m just glad to be validated through what you said in the beginning of this. Thank you.

  • @skywilliams323
    @skywilliams323 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I'm in my sixties and I've been through a lot as a young man emotionally but I started doing yoga in the nineties thanks to a friend who gave me a book.I have to say that it has been very helpful I still practice it and I just feel the inner peace within myself because I also have a younger wife and three children and I just tell them everyday that I love them because I believe true love helps with truma.

    • @christyford162
      @christyford162 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for this information

    • @FindYourFree
      @FindYourFree หลายเดือนก่อน

      beautiful...Yoga has been major in chikdhood trauma healing process

  • @daisyspicks
    @daisyspicks 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    Only 15 minutes in and I already got soooo much from it. Your questioning is incredible as always Lewis. ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Glad it resonated

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you! Appreciate you for watching!

  • @MifupaMikavu23
    @MifupaMikavu23 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    She's so gentle.

  • @f.schmid468
    @f.schmid468 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    The quality of her huming as a sign of listening and understanding is so authentic empathic and soothing❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🧡

  • @petraalt4006
    @petraalt4006 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Oh my God that is great I’ve been in therapy for 20+ years and I’ve gone to all kinds of therapy types of therapy and I used to be suicidal bulimic have anxiety and depression and I got rid of everything and my daughter has anxiety my son has depression so pass that onto them but I overcame it and I think that’s exactly what happened I’ve done so much intense work on myself and it was hell I had major panic attacks I had to take medication for panic attacks and I overcame everything I think I healed myself from the generational trauma but it didn’t take two years it took20 and by the grace of God I have gotten rid of these

    • @niabimkubwa3720
      @niabimkubwa3720 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I totally 7nderstans. It took me just as long. Being the only one to walk the path, showing up in family and friendship circles that presented resistance to my decision. That was so intense.

  • @jessenoelle262
    @jessenoelle262 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Loved this. I grew up in and out of therapy. Learning about trauma healing as an adult is what's changing my life. I like how Dr. Buque talked about having patience with family being one of her challenges. Kathleen Smith said in her book "Everything Isn't Terrible" that if you can learn how to manage anxiety around your family, then you can manage it anywhere. I felt that 😂❤

    • @susanlongworth1699
      @susanlongworth1699 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for telling me that! My sisters triggered me for years! I finally got a therapist to help me unpack the pain! New tools and finally peace inside!

    • @chriestinenpape
      @chriestinenpape 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is my issue, I am seeing a therapist now to heal my childhood wounds .I want to be a better person for myself and people around me also a better parent for my kids.Thank you for sharing.

  • @getreadywithmemamma6973
    @getreadywithmemamma6973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Look at Lewis go!! I also came from intense emotional abuse from a parent and it’s been twenty years of healing with abundant fruit. It is 1,00000000 percent work. There is no other way but through and that is the hero story. Good job man, you’re heavy hitting in the emotional growth world. And Namaste, this woman is a Goddess. Dear wow, you can feel the wisdom and breath and goodness flowing from her. What a great way to bring peace to the world at large. Loved this. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @kiawilliams753
    @kiawilliams753 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    As a parent of a 6 and 4 year old who has had the experience of toxic parental interactions in the presence of my children I am really grateful to you for asking this question Lewis. I've wondered hundreds of times on hundreds of days about what I can do to help my children heal and recover from the trauma of experiencing unhealthy relationship patterns and toxic communication that has been passed down through generational trauma. Thank you!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You are welcome

  • @jenniferwootten3632
    @jenniferwootten3632 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I heard the greatest gift you could give a child is your happiness...As much as i loved my son i have to admit what I excuded from my inner core was my pain and bitterness about life. So sad he ran away as far as he could from me. I pray he finds compassion and forgiveness in his heart and know that it was never my intent to cause him harm in any way. 💔💕💞

  • @sonyaberkenpas5071
    @sonyaberkenpas5071 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    “We cannot heal what we cannot see.” 💥💥💥🙏🏽

    • @user-ko4ve6bu5o
      @user-ko4ve6bu5o หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      We can't heal if we can't feel

    • @goodxwolf
      @goodxwolf 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      … we can’t heal what we can’t - and more so if we aren’t willing - to see.

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    It’s not just that we ‘feel vulnerable’
    ..we ARE vulnerable - until we develop a life set up and personal empowerment that enables us to keep dangerous and manipulative people away from us.
    That takes a lot of learning and we need a lot expert support - we have so many blind spots and wounding that it’s so easy for predators to pick us out of a crowd while all those around us don’t know what we’re anxious about, because they are safe and don’t get preyed upon.

    • @number1angel66
      @number1angel66 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Very true. I have been doing a lot of internal work and am still learning how to not become a victim again. It is a struggle for sure. Blessings of love and light to all!

    • @DivineFeminineWombman
      @DivineFeminineWombman หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@number1angel66 agreed🤍

    • @kjbkjhkjhjk7775
      @kjbkjhkjhjk7775 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      yes

  • @sidney836
    @sidney836 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Just realized why you interrupted her so much because this topic hit home with you so much. I apologize for my earlier comment of saying to "let her talk, shes the expert". I hope you heal from your trauma just like Im determined to heal from mine❤❤❤

  • @Kt_bb
    @Kt_bb 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Not even 10 mins in and this woman has brought up so many valid points that deeply resonated with me,specifically to what she was speaking on with going to see a therapist.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for being here!

  • @melissajones8824
    @melissajones8824 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thanks for this. I once read a quote that the most beautiful gift a parent can give to a child, the absence of working through terrible childhood for the rest of their life. This quote stuck with me. It is the absolute truth. The gift of a normal loving childhood lays a foundation for a child to excel in life. I think the biggest thing people miss is that once your childhood is damaged, you will spend the rest of your life working through it and healing. And yes, it does get better, but the work and healing process is for a lifetime.

  • @zm5524
    @zm5524 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I'm currently living this journey as we breath....YOU CAN DO IT....

  • @apelilab5439
    @apelilab5439 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I was 16 yrs old when I was legally able to be emancipated from my parents. In my 50's now and continually learning and evolving in the healing journey.

  • @stevenkovler5133
    @stevenkovler5133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I was traumatized by an abusive 2nd marriage. I had a panic attack in Nov. 2021 after about a year of abuse. I was bankrupted by her and that plus work pressure and her emotional and physical abuse destroyed me. I have been suffering with anxiety, ptsd and depression since then. It is awful. Put the now ex wife is trying to get me and my family to rescue her from all her financial issues. I am Trauma Bonded and have a hard time walking away.
    My brain tells me that if I had $200k I would be able to get out of debt and get my life back. But , I also know I have to really heal myself.

    • @christyford162
      @christyford162 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I hope you’ve made some headway in getting out of this situation and with your own healing …

    • @UteNagel
      @UteNagel 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hard to understand, I had a Boyfriend who was like this to his ex! He hurt me big time running and helping a abuser! Now finely I understand! Hope you heal!

  • @danacubano6794
    @danacubano6794 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I started therapy this year and it's been an experience. I want to run but I want to heal more.

  • @joychambers1683
    @joychambers1683 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    This is an interesting conversation, it makes me confirm that salvation is the best choice and that’s what gives us the higher self and inner peace. Our maker knows what’s best for us. So awesome to know how the world is zeroing in on the aspects of the faith. Love it.

  • @carolyntuttle4731
    @carolyntuttle4731 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Aw, my grandmother used to always hum. ❤

  • @brendamitchell5030
    @brendamitchell5030 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Yes, I learned why a person who had the American dream still felt worthless and self destructive; I learned the importance and meaning of compassion, ❤

  • @robingodfreyphotography7115
    @robingodfreyphotography7115 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Lewis, In every exchange, your skill in asking the right questions sparks a deeper understanding, and I find myself learning and growing through your conversations with your guests. Your insightful inquiries not only illuminate the topics at hand but also create an engaging and enriching experience for those involved. Thank you for consistently bringing depth and clarity to your discussions. I truly value the knowledge and perspective you share.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much 😊

    • @Enchantress91
      @Enchantress91 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      AGREED!

    • @user-od5ki5km1i
      @user-od5ki5km1i 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, totally agree! I learn communication skills ... drawing out more information to conceptualize ... that's what makes the 'greatness' so good! Good variety and collection of knowledgeable guests as well♡

  • @leilanewman6224
    @leilanewman6224 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This is the most beautiful and heartwarming podcast I’ve ever seen! Dr Buquê has the gift of sharing her knowledge with great calmness and warmth! Easy to understand and practice! Thank you. ❤

  • @kajsaohlson2550
    @kajsaohlson2550 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Do this for two years and you will never want to stop as its so wonderful to fall in love with yourself. And evolving is so freaking fun and exciting!❤

  • @hikkikei
    @hikkikei 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This episode is therapeutic.

  • @alj2301
    @alj2301 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is so insightful and powerful. Breaking generational cycles and facing our own trauma is the THE work. We have to heal our Inner Child.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for being here!

  • @annedumornay95
    @annedumornay95 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Thanks, Dr. Buqué for saying that as parents we need to becareful how we speak to our kids about body size. My dad always called me fat and this year I learned that I developed a binge eating disorder. This was so eye-opening. 💔

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I am sorry you experienced that... I wish you the best in your healing ❤

    • @Sarah-with-an-H
      @Sarah-with-an-H 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My mom always had something to say about my weight. Shes never even been a healthy weight herself. She trained me to avoid big emotions and to never bother to adress things with other people. It was always she told me shed handle it. And then shed give me the mom look whenever i would reach for food at a family function because i wasn't allowed to confront the abuse I faced within the family. What options did i have but to become a binge eater who used food to pacify very difficult emotions without any support to figure out ways to deal with my feelings in a healthy way. Im in my late 40's and disabled with many chronic conditions

    • @annedumornay95
      @annedumornay95 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @Sarah-with-an-H thanks for sharing. I admire your vulnerability. I pray 🙏🏾 for you're healing 💛

  • @MamaCancer23
    @MamaCancer23 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Been doing the work over 3 years! Starting off it was brutal 😫😫 but now I live with more peace & trust for life. Start the work, it’ll be worth it!! ❤

  • @laurajones1211
    @laurajones1211 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love this!! Being healed is a myth, its a process, start the journey and use those tools to help yourself be better and at peace ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for watching🧡

  • @FT-empress
    @FT-empress 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Congratulations Lewis on your engagement Lewis! Thank you for your resilience in providing meaningful insightful content!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you

  • @susannas495
    @susannas495 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I love the way Lewis has also opened up here. This doctor has so much calm and emotional intelligence. I really loved listening to this. Often when I listen to similar people, I end up feeling more anxious 😟 as they communicate in an almost aggressive manner😮
    I will listen to this several times ❤

  • @monacaltabiano936
    @monacaltabiano936 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    You are so brave, Lewis. You're right, you can heal and definitely live a life of abundance ❤

  • @nicolehill7481
    @nicolehill7481 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Sheer devotion to healing and being at your best for especially your children was especially heightened after my abusive marriage..to not allow the chains of pain to continue generations after me. It is my “response ability” to do so. The work comes back to you ten fold ❤ you love better, connect better, and live so much more peacefully no matter the inevitable storms. It’s a beautiful harmony 🌈

  • @sidofemous8131
    @sidofemous8131 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Waiting for you to mention IBS related to Trauma , but you've mentioned Stomach issues. Thanks a million for this topic

  • @cbutlermk
    @cbutlermk 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    ❤ she’s a strong, grounded and insightful woman! Thank you

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @AliGa344
    @AliGa344 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I know this has nothing to do with the video, but as soon as I started listening to this amazing woman, I knew she was a fellow Dominican.

  • @mariloucruz6238
    @mariloucruz6238 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Practice of meditation and yoga helps me in my healing journey, yoga is more of work in than work out, innerwork! Keeps affirming that i am a work in progress! Solitude and doing solo travelling makes me strong and resilient. More inner peace and harmony with myself❤ love, peace, joy and healing everyone! Namaste✌️

  • @rosesinhouston
    @rosesinhouston 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Thank you so much Lewis for brining this guest and enlighting us. This video trulty answers my prayer, I have gone through various trapped emotions that have started coming to the surface. I didn't know how to process them and this video came up today just in time. Also as a parent, feeling so much guilt and shame for passing on many unhealthy habits to my child. I have to frequently remind myself to be gentle and patience with myself and not beat myself up while going through this process.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @hazelthompson6563
      @hazelthompson6563 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Doctor: I am 69 years old and all my life I have been afraid of birds of every kind and Don't know why

  • @cloudsofwonder7004
    @cloudsofwonder7004 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Self discipline Knowledge is for me listening to the pain acknowledging the triggers releasing Helps in whatever works to bring me to the Greatness within Amen ☘️

  • @shaprinash7327
    @shaprinash7327 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This was such a powerful podcast. I must say to even listen to understand what is actually going on with the majority of us in this world I myself experienced so much trauma, and even when I think I have gotten over that trauma I’m triggered by something or someone and then I have new traumas, that just sets me off all over again to where I feel like it’s a roller coaster and a repeat cycle of some form of trauma. It is definitely mentally a challenge to the point where you become suicidal in engulfed in rage not knowing which way to turn. Thankfully I work in healthcare, so I know what I’m feeling and try to take a deep breath and avoid dealing with the emotions at the time because they’re so overbearing, the pain that I feel is unreal. My last crying episode sent me into a panic attack where I was crying uncontrollably and my face went numb. I felt like I couldn’t breathe so this message in this podcast is so real and much needed. Thank you. 🙏🏽

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts🧡

  • @elizabethabbruzzese
    @elizabethabbruzzese 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for being brave enough to share your story so you can help others. You truly have a heart of gold.

  • @meditacionesguiadasparaceo1790
    @meditacionesguiadasparaceo1790 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What an episode! LOVE when you share practícal tools for everyday challenges!! Thanks both Lewis and Dr Buqué 🧘🏻🙏🏻

  • @efraingaribay4731
    @efraingaribay4731 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for reinforcing something I already had a hunch for. In peace is the way to live.

  • @muslimaismael1900
    @muslimaismael1900 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    @lewishowes I absolutely love all the questions you ask your guests to get such a clarity on the questions we as your audience have. Thank you!!!

  • @emilywilliams9177
    @emilywilliams9177 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Such a great episode! I’ll be listening to this one twice! Thank you Dr. Buqué and Lewis!

  • @sherliannquinn7753
    @sherliannquinn7753 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for sharing, this had me crying. I started doing the wok, it’s challenging but my future self and family deserves a heal, loving version of me.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Appreciate you for watching!

  • @yolandagray-rozier6912
    @yolandagray-rozier6912 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This conversation was so peaceful. I went on Amazon to order the book in hopes that it will help my son. Thank you.

  • @ifeomaagbogun
    @ifeomaagbogun 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for also helping me know it's very OK to relax and just keep radiating the light from inside -out

  • @MrVvvo
    @MrVvvo หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are taking over the conversation at times Lewis. You invite an expert, although you might be as well, but let them shine pls and share their knowledge to the top of their extent. That's why I tune into you account.

    • @pamakinyi285
      @pamakinyi285 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I agree. Let the expert speak please, the disruptions are so distracting. Great convo.

    • @pamelardz07
      @pamelardz07 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      He asks great questions though

  • @julissarivas6992
    @julissarivas6992 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for this one!! ❤ it has taken my entire life to realize the cycles that I was repeating time and time again and it has been a struggle trying to figure out how to heal. It can feel so overwhelming at times. Lewis, thank you for always asking the best questions. ❤

  • @oaktreedialogues6318
    @oaktreedialogues6318 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I didn't know humming is a nervous system regulation practice. Great to know!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🧡

  • @albatjay6841
    @albatjay6841 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Also for my children. Amen and Amen.

  • @zodwaphindile4601
    @zodwaphindile4601 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for shedding light on such an important topic. Childhood trauma may shape us, but it doesn't define us🥺. Let's spread love, understanding, and support to all those healing from their past. Together, we can create brighter tomorrows 😍❤️🤌🏽

  • @onegreenenvy
    @onegreenenvy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Tapping is great for release

  • @MATGO
    @MATGO 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another great one Lewis...I think the greatest introduction to peace and calm is speaking to her!! Omg what a gem.

  • @zakruma-allah986
    @zakruma-allah986 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This makes so much sense and explains a lot to why people behave the way they do

  • @utubeJunkie3
    @utubeJunkie3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your questions are so full, wholesome, and everything I would have wanted to ask, and usually want to ask and the interviewers never get to. Thank you!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @arneliashort4647
    @arneliashort4647 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    She’s amazing. This was so helpful. Thank you both

  • @sweethorizons
    @sweethorizons 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I truly appreciate the transparency and supportive suggestions offered in this discussion. Thank you for changing lives one step at a time!!! Amazing ✨️

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @-gordon3817
    @-gordon3817 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    WOW, WOW, WOWWWWWW!!! The nuggets imparted in this video are PRICELESS for every area of life. I'm at a lost for words to express how much this inspired me to continue the process of harmony & breaking my own generational cycles. This video would bring healing to countless families, marriages, children, & more.
    The information in this podcast was probably the most INCREDIBLE, INSIGHTFUL, & EDUCATIONAL video that I have ever seen regarding how we pass down toxic behaviors up to seven or more generations!!! And the things we can do to break those cycles, so we do not continue them into the next generation.
    Thank you Dr. Buque & Lewis for this life changing video! You are truly inspiring people. As a female business owner who is learning & practicing many of the tools that were mentioned in this video to help me cope with stress, better self-care, & more, this video was what I needed to go to the next level.
    I believe that the knowledge this video imparted would begin the catalyst for better harmony in every area of one's life. It is my hope that the message in this video will reach billions of people & begin the process for better marriages, children having more self-love, schools implementing more tools to help children, and more! Cheers, the U.S.

  • @VibrationalWealth
    @VibrationalWealth 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dr. Buque, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with all of us in the community. I am so grateful! 🙂

  • @ikkarus87
    @ikkarus87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I took 8 years. Worth it

  • @bajkezadecu-veselamastaoni8298
    @bajkezadecu-veselamastaoni8298 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lewis perfectly prepared for this episode and his observstions,conclusions are amazing!Well done!

  • @frenchriviera2431
    @frenchriviera2431 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    She is amazing. Great job Lewis, thank you.🙏

  • @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197
    @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I run the same lines in my healing process, no meds!!
    Renewal Restore Rewire it's working 🙌✨️

    • @excelant
      @excelant 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Any hints?

    • @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197
      @mcflonomcfloonyloo4197 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @excelant Depends on what your dealing with, if you don't mind?

  • @marinedream9481
    @marinedream9481 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She is truly lovely. I feel soothed just listening to her speak and you are very kind, authentic and your questions get straight to the heart of the matter.
    Thank you ✨

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @bonnielindsay8989
    @bonnielindsay8989 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you for talking about trauma.

  • @yolandah3483
    @yolandah3483 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Two beautiful souls unveiling the wisdom within the nervous system and the body respond. Big thank you to Mariel and Lewis.❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @JayMFrequency
    @JayMFrequency 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is amazing! I like the part about how retelling of ones past history can cause re-trauma, that's intelligent, she's the first Dr. I have seen that actually recognizes this, bravo! Thank you for this. :)

  • @najjee2
    @najjee2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I literally healed the pain that was lingering for weeks during this session. This therapy session was for me, i was looking for answers.I immediately called my therapist for a massage and booked one for.my child so we can peacefully go through this journey.Thank you so much

  • @suramyasingh4529
    @suramyasingh4529 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I totally loved how transparent you were during the whole episode. Dr Mariel has a beautiful aura to her. Learned so much from this single podcast, thanks Lewis for doing the great work.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡

  • @carlalowe3387
    @carlalowe3387 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The part about asking ourselves as parents what we can tell ourselves after a decade of parenting from an unhealthy nervous system… thank you for asking her that question needed to hear that!

  • @jamiehuff9783
    @jamiehuff9783 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a beautiful conversation with the most incredibly valuable information. Thank you for sharing. The world needs more of this.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  หลายเดือนก่อน

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @limmingming4022
    @limmingming4022 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dr Mariel is so graceful n stylish.❤❤❤

  • @anoukzuvin
    @anoukzuvin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This channel is saving lives ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🧡

  • @alwayzjewels7449
    @alwayzjewels7449 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This is such an invaluable conversation! And your questions were excellent! Thank you both for such insightful information!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🙏🙏

  • @elliebunbun4325
    @elliebunbun4325 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I got chills… thank you both 🫶🙏

  • @jolenemcclean3351
    @jolenemcclean3351 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    YES. I did not realize that retelling a trauma , allows to feel that it happens, again .

  • @deepali3227
    @deepali3227 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    U r doing an amazing work. I love the various contents u bring here. Trust me u r helping so many people.