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This was so beautiful to listen to both you and Dr.Buqué were so insightful I learned so much and I think I will be listening to this program time and time again and put it in practice 🙏🏼
❤ YES ❤ Love & look after yourself then you can turn all around "rise above it all". Find what way makes you happy to have the peace, you seek in life. Stop worrying, nothing that bad that you can't live with, put it to mind answers come to you effortlessly "always seek & you will find". Live the life that makes you happy, don't let others pull you down ever no matter what. Do your best, if you do right things in life you can't go too far wrong. Appreciate your beautiful life, there's always someone in the world worse off than you. If someone has wronged you doesn't mean you have to do same back, just make sure you don't pull yourself down to their level - all is taken care of without doing a thing, remember no-one gets away with doing wrong. Smile even when hurting, help others. Life's too short. Trust all's well ❤
I was horrified when I discovered that my middle school son had been sleeping with a knife underneath his mattress, because of his fear that I was in a 4th violent relationship. (Repetition Compulsion?) He had pledged to himself that he would not let it happen again. He had decided to protect & defend me - as a child. That’s when I knew that it was time to escape. For years now, my son & I together haven been “doing the work!” I am stronger & better! So is he.
Thank you Doc. for sharing this very important conversation with us. I've personally struggled with childhood traumas from possibly 2 generations up thus this discussion has really been helpful in me identifying the root causes and cutting them off. This ends with me. ❤❤❤❤❤
45:20 - Tribal elders believe this too; trauma goes back seven generations, but they also believe if the individual heals themselves, they heal those past generations, the present and future generations. They say it's a powerful moment--I've been doing a lot of work on myself lately to ensure this powerful moment ripples to the past and future.
@djwindagopatterson5164 For those relatives you’re describing, they are still called to be a good relative to all around them. First with the Creator, and then with his creation.
literally took me 5yrs to release old learned dogmatic beliefs,forgiveness to many who disrespected me as a child,loving myself again & gaining more courage to leave anything n anyone alone not aligned with my peace also core values…. im 45 so how ever long it take you to start your self awareness journey willl be that much longer to heal your mind
@v10letv1xen9 It plays a part of my "prayer" ritual as soon as I open my eyes every morning. Giving thanks for everything dear to me in my life. Too numerous to mention here. Giving thanks brings on more of what you are grateful for.
@@v10letv1xen9 Definitely does ❤ I will always give thanks to our Great Creator God, Jesus "Wholly Spirit", Guardian Angels, Spiritual Guides & all my loved ones who have passed ❤ for giving me my life & for all the things (& more) that they did for me, will never forget them ever ❤
She has the energy of a gifted healer. She’s the featured guest but I admire the way she hangs back and listens to Lewis without once cutting him off. Her insights into human behavior and trauma is very enlightening.
46:35 “A scent takes you back…” My father has been gone (passed away) for over 44 years but when I smell Old Spice, I recall his hugs and smiles. Yes scent is powerful.
Right, one day I walked and one lady passing by me and I smell cilantro 🌿 omg very strong she has a very big cilantro plant and I go back to my childhood and seconds and I remember my grandpa , at the moment I was very sad for something and the same moment I said you are here thank you ❤
5:55 how to do a trauma assessment 6:10 a knot in the stomach is the nervous system turning on 9:14 the first step is telling the story and seeing how our body responds 9:32 step two is relaxation 10:30 if not addressed it can be disease
Easiest way is to recall an event and once you feel a body reaction you have to keep feeling that so that feeling will flow freely and clear from your body. Usually at the end the memory of the event will be recalled clearly as it is released.
I dropped out of therapy after losing 3 counselors within one year. I can't keep traumatizing myself by telling my story and getting comfortable with a therapist only to lose them a few months later then have to start all over again with a new one. 😓 I felt better when i stopped going altogether, like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I've found that I am my best therapist.
Our health care system is ridiculous (I have no idea why these mental health therapists keep quitting and changing but it should be illegal), but I'm not so sure that losing 3 therapists was an entirely bad thing. I attended celebrate recovery and they kept telling us to "keep coming back" (emphasizing that people need to go for years to be healed) and most of the people running those groups weren't even professional. Many of us left far hurt and more traumatized than when we came in and it's such a shame to see people leaving a "recovery" group with even *more* work to do because they were traumatized by untrained people (and in some cases by people who deliberately struck out to hurt others). The best healing I have ever had is Prayer and going no contact from toxic people. Only until we get away from the toxicity or abuse can we begin to properly process what happened. I know a lot of us in the recovery group felt so triggered and hurt by the leaders that were untrained and uncaring, and malicious *sick* people in the groups. There was at least 1 person in our group that committed the ultimate self-harm. Professional therapy also has hurt so many people. I know of a lady who went to therapy and her abusive partner honed his way in. It soon turned into "couples therapy" and I'm not quite sure why that therapist would do that when the lady went to deal with abuse from that guy to begin with. He used the therapy as a platform to further hurt her and the therapist went right along with it. Sometimes, I think the best therapy ever is just getting alone away from all the abuse and talking to God. ❤
The reward is worth the pain of going through the fire! It can take years and decades and those that feel it’s too much need it the most ! Not possible a person to see their own blindspots ! Don’t give up on yourself , it’s like cooking for the first time , if it’s for your survival you’ll keep trying . Our brains literally NEED THE HEALING even if we don’t see if outwardly . Hope this helps and good luck 🧘🏾♀️
I am so sorry to hear that and that you had to go through this. I get so upset with colleagues doing this. I think it strides twords therapeutic ethics. Although I am trained in my home country Sweden, and this is not at all a useful way over here...
Teaching a child to vet people - set boundaries and hold their standards. I love advocacing for systematic change for your children in any community. Let's protect them.
Wow, this comment was so needed!!! What you just stated could actually save many from trauma induced ptsd, and other mental and emotional issues due to trauma and even narcissistic abuse. Boundaries are definitely key. Wish I would've been given the wisdom of setting boundaries.
Vetting & learning how to set boundaries are things I wished I learned earlier on as child. Those 2 key components can boost trust & high self esteem in oneself
I love this. I’m 50 and when I was coming up I was forced to be around horrible people. No one listened to my feelings and how I didn’t want to be around them. “Children are to be seen and not heard” was the Boomer quote for adults. I love that things are getting so much healthier.
That is the first time I’ve ever heard somebody talk about when you go see a therapist you have to relive your story. I literally dropped out because I thought it was ridiculous and awful. I’m just glad to be validated through what you said in the beginning of this. Thank you.
I entirely agree with her definition of greatness. Life can kick you down in so many ways, but it’s also n getting back up that we achieve greatness. Finding that courage deep within to keep going no matter how hard, no matter the odds. That is true greatness. And for anyone who has been kicked down in life, I see you, I believe in you, and never give up. Always bet on you!
I'm in my sixties and I've been through a lot as a young man emotionally but I started doing yoga in the nineties thanks to a friend who gave me a book.I have to say that it has been very helpful I still practice it and I just feel the inner peace within myself because I also have a younger wife and three children and I just tell them everyday that I love them because I believe true love helps with truma.
Loved this. I grew up in and out of therapy. Learning about trauma healing as an adult is what's changing my life. I like how Dr. Buque talked about having patience with family being one of her challenges. Kathleen Smith said in her book "Everything Isn't Terrible" that if you can learn how to manage anxiety around your family, then you can manage it anywhere. I felt that 😂❤
Thank you for telling me that! My sisters triggered me for years! I finally got a therapist to help me unpack the pain! New tools and finally peace inside!
This is my issue, I am seeing a therapist now to heal my childhood wounds .I want to be a better person for myself and people around me also a better parent for my kids.Thank you for sharing.
It’s not just that we ‘feel vulnerable’ ..we ARE vulnerable - until we develop a life set up and personal empowerment that enables us to keep dangerous and manipulative people away from us. That takes a lot of learning and we need a lot expert support - we have so many blind spots and wounding that it’s so easy for predators to pick us out of a crowd while all those around us don’t know what we’re anxious about, because they are safe and don’t get preyed upon.
Very true. I have been doing a lot of internal work and am still learning how to not become a victim again. It is a struggle for sure. Blessings of love and light to all!
Look at Lewis go!! I also came from intense emotional abuse from a parent and it’s been twenty years of healing with abundant fruit. It is 1,00000000 percent work. There is no other way but through and that is the hero story. Good job man, you’re heavy hitting in the emotional growth world. And Namaste, this woman is a Goddess. Dear wow, you can feel the wisdom and breath and goodness flowing from her. What a great way to bring peace to the world at large. Loved this. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
This is an interesting conversation, it makes me confirm that salvation is the best choice and that’s what gives us the higher self and inner peace. Our maker knows what’s best for us. So awesome to know how the world is zeroing in on the aspects of the faith. Love it.
I was 16 yrs old when I was legally able to be emancipated from my parents. In my 50's now and continually learning and evolving in the healing journey.
Yes, I learned why a person who had the American dream still felt worthless and self destructive; I learned the importance and meaning of compassion, ❤
Its taken me 7 years of continuous healing. I mostly used meditation and reflection and time in nature. In the last years I did cold water wild swimming which helped a lot. Then I discovered breathwork which has catapulted my healing. Grounding ( barefoot on the grass) cold water swimming, and breathwork has worked so fast to heal me. Brought up so many realisations about why I felt certain things why I behaved certain ways etc. I definitely recommend these last 3 things will save you from many of suffering.
It took me until I was 62 yrs to start FULLY processing the emotional and psychological neglect and trauma that I experienced as a child, and then in my long marriage and subsequent longer term relationship. I am so surprised at what comes up and I need to heal somewhat more before I consider entering another relationship. As a consequence I currently suffer MDD & severe anxiety. Meds definitely help biologically, but they are a Band-Aid for the root cause. I am working very hard to do the work. I can see how my past and my ex-husband’s past (including our parents) 41:07 have significantly affected our adult children. Thank you, this is wonderful information!
Do this for two years and you will never want to stop as its so wonderful to fall in love with yourself. And evolving is so freaking fun and exciting!❤
Just realized why you interrupted her so much because this topic hit home with you so much. I apologize for my earlier comment of saying to "let her talk, shes the expert". I hope you heal from your trauma just like Im determined to heal from mine❤❤❤
This is so true! I talked with my grandmother about her upbringing, parents, and grandparents. All those generations of my family, and they're all broken and traumatized people. I’ve finally had enough of this cycle. I’m changing myself and setting a better example for my family. It's time to own all this bad behavior and heal.
Yes I do agree - you have to heal yourself - because no therapist can heal you from your trauma - most therapists make it worst - leave your hands by any medications or drugs - its not helpful at all - this is what I had to find out the hard way. Grieving, journaling and find a real honest friend, who can really listen to you every once in a while - going for walks out in nature -that´s really helpful - because healing from trauma is a personal and very private path - therapists can´t heal any trauma at all.
@@claudiaschneider5744 Yes! Anti-depressants and sleeping medication made me crazy. All I needed was someone to help me understand what I was experiencing and then give me guidance on how to heal. Those pills are nothing but poison, and the doctors who prescribe them have no idea how they’re going to affect their patients. All any of us need are healthy ways to overcome trauma. Not drugs.
@@claudiaschneider5744mine helped me. My therapist and I have a lot in common and I appreciate people who are direct and honest with me. She was willing to do that. Her help was priceless because she was willing to get on my level.
Practice of meditation and yoga helps me in my healing journey, yoga is more of work in than work out, innerwork! Keeps affirming that i am a work in progress! Solitude and doing solo travelling makes me strong and resilient. More inner peace and harmony with myself❤ love, peace, joy and healing everyone! Namaste✌️
At the hour mark of this video made me think about a relationship significant throughout my adult life......He told me "You alone are probably the one person who could actually 'fix me'...Follows it up (while chortling) "IF only I'd ever let you"....I haven't been with him for nearly 4 years now. I miss him everyday and so does he, as he worsens in isolation. And I find personal growth as a reclusive overly protective parent.
This is in line with what russel kennedy says about anxiety- that it is an alarm felt in our bodies- we need to speak safety, patience and kindness to our inner child in order to be able to sit with discomfort and to heal❤
Thanks, Dr. Buqué for saying that as parents we need to becareful how we speak to our kids about body size. My dad always called me fat and this year I learned that I developed a binge eating disorder. This was so eye-opening. 💔
My mom always had something to say about my weight. Shes never even been a healthy weight herself. She trained me to avoid big emotions and to never bother to adress things with other people. It was always she told me shed handle it. And then shed give me the mom look whenever i would reach for food at a family function because i wasn't allowed to confront the abuse I faced within the family. What options did i have but to become a binge eater who used food to pacify very difficult emotions without any support to figure out ways to deal with my feelings in a healthy way. Im in my late 40's and disabled with many chronic conditions
Self discipline Knowledge is for me listening to the pain acknowledging the triggers releasing Helps in whatever works to bring me to the Greatness within Amen ☘️
Not even 10 mins in and this woman has brought up so many valid points that deeply resonated with me,specifically to what she was speaking on with going to see a therapist.
Lewis, In every exchange, your skill in asking the right questions sparks a deeper understanding, and I find myself learning and growing through your conversations with your guests. Your insightful inquiries not only illuminate the topics at hand but also create an engaging and enriching experience for those involved. Thank you for consistently bringing depth and clarity to your discussions. I truly value the knowledge and perspective you share.
Yes, totally agree! I learn communication skills ... drawing out more information to conceptualize ... that's what makes the 'greatness' so good! Good variety and collection of knowledgeable guests as well♡
Thank you so much Lewis for brining this guest and enlighting us. This video trulty answers my prayer, I have gone through various trapped emotions that have started coming to the surface. I didn't know how to process them and this video came up today just in time. Also as a parent, feeling so much guilt and shame for passing on many unhealthy habits to my child. I have to frequently remind myself to be gentle and patience with myself and not beat myself up while going through this process.
I love the way Lewis has also opened up here. This doctor has so much calm and emotional intelligence. I really loved listening to this. Often when I listen to similar people, I end up feeling more anxious 😟 as they communicate in an almost aggressive manner😮 I will listen to this several times ❤
Beautiful!! My sober healing journey these last 2 1/2 yrs has lead me to want to face my past traumas as it’s showing up in my body!! Thank you for more ideas
That’s stupid. Doctors & medicine are absolutely necessary. & have been thru the annals of time. There have always been shamed & doctors in our tribes. They are as much a gift and blessing as any other good thing on this planet. You all gain just a a smidge of awareness & take things too far. Look at Lewis’ team even supporting this ridiculous comment.
@@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 for me, this attitude is part of what has given me trauma. It seems that people take this for granted and treat you unkind. That is traumatizing tbh.
WOW, WOW, WOWWWWWW!!! The nuggets imparted in this video are PRICELESS for every area of life. I'm at a lost for words to express how much this inspired me to continue the process of harmony & breaking my own generational cycles. This video would bring healing to countless families, marriages, children, & more. The information in this podcast was probably the most INCREDIBLE, INSIGHTFUL, & EDUCATIONAL video that I have ever seen regarding how we pass down toxic behaviors up to seven or more generations!!! And the things we can do to break those cycles, so we do not continue them into the next generation. Thank you Dr. Buque & Lewis for this life changing video! You are truly inspiring people. As a female business owner who is learning & practicing many of the tools that were mentioned in this video to help me cope with stress, better self-care, & more, this video was what I needed to go to the next level. I believe that the knowledge this video imparted would begin the catalyst for better harmony in every area of one's life. It is my hope that the message in this video will reach billions of people & begin the process for better marriages, children having more self-love, schools implementing more tools to help children, and more! Cheers, the U.S.
I literally healed the pain that was lingering for weeks during this session. This therapy session was for me, i was looking for answers.I immediately called my therapist for a massage and booked one for.my child so we can peacefully go through this journey.Thank you so much
Thank you Lewis for always bringing content to elevate consciousness and reduce human suffering. Thank you for such an insightful interview and helping us be more conscious as individuals. 7 generations of trauma that is boxed in us blew my mind. Many of us become products of our nervous system response and it becomes so hard for adult minds sometimes to release those nervous system reactions. This is a conscious way of showing up , doing the work - to heal your inner child which is way more powerful than just birthing a child because this way - It’s health that you bring in great abundance to this world. Thank you Lewis Howes for bringing individuals and their work in your channel for us to be more conscious
The work soooo worth it. I do it for 3 years now and i changed for the better and very grateful for all this knowledge out there and the teachers That are really skilled like Dispenza, Lipton and all the others less famous ones
I totally loved how transparent you were during the whole episode. Dr Mariel has a beautiful aura to her. Learned so much from this single podcast, thanks Lewis for doing the great work.
I am going through my healing process and everything she said truly helped me understand why I felt so isolated in my healing journey and why I feel so much anxiety around my family.
Thank you so much for sharing, this had me crying. I started doing the wok, it’s challenging but my future self and family deserves a heal, loving version of me.
1stly, what a beautiful woman. 2ndly, I have been trying to express this theory to my family; I have come to understand that I was carrying trauma from my ancestors. My healing has been for them and for myself.
What an incredible interviewee. Dr Buque's knowledge is so valuable; perfectly navigated by your mindful questions, Lewis. It's all about healing, and I pray that I can break my trauma cycle. Thank you so much Dr Buque and Lewis.🙏❤️
Great interview. Dr. Mariel Buqué suggests rocking can also reset the nervous system. I've been a chronic rocker since childhood and cannot sit for long without finding a rocking chair. Though normal amounts of rocking are usually a good thing, I wonder what's up for those of us who are maniacs about it. I remember a very few times in my life when a "healer" helped me get completely grounded in my body. I was able to comfortably sit still. I recall thinking, so this is what it's like to be normal! Hopefully rocking overdrive isn't doing harm, but I'm sure it's a sign of needing more nervous system regulation and grounding. Because even after doing it for hours, I'm still hypervigilant.
The part about asking ourselves as parents what we can tell ourselves after a decade of parenting from an unhealthy nervous system… thank you for asking her that question needed to hear that!
Thank you Lewis - I connect as I come from similar childhood experience. I have spent years on myself and keep learning more. You are what a school should be for people looking to develop themselves.
Thank you very much for this. I coach the first time moms and there has been something bothering me lately in the way we bring up our children from conception to their teenage stage. I knew that there was some trauma related work that needed to be revisited to change trajectory of parenting so that we can bring forth and nurture children that get to experience greatness in the world - a sense of ease, peace and safety, and advocate to carry on the legacy. Thanks, again, Lewis...❤
Parents and grandparents must also give gifts of healing to the new generation in the family. Grandparents typically have a better hold over the skipped generation and are ultimately responsible because they let it get through in the first place.
I was diagnosed an Occipital Neuralgia and this makes sense to me. I believed I got it from my childhood traumas and if there’s something triggers me, my body and muscles were tightening up and it causes my nervous systems damaged.
Truth is that nobody is perfect , the main thing is to avoide mistakes made by our parents and strive to be a better parent to our children . In short don't make the same mistakes that has been done before .
Your questions are so full, wholesome, and everything I would have wanted to ask, and usually want to ask and the interviewers never get to. Thank you!
You are taking over the conversation at times Lewis. You invite an expert, although you might be as well, but let them shine pls and share their knowledge to the top of their extent. That's why I tune into you account.
I thoroughly enjoyed this. Mariel was most enchanting, compelling and highly knowledgeable with the information. Lewis you too were delightful and an amazing host... as usual.
She looks and transmits a lot of serenity, peace, obviously a lot of knowledge and intuitive wisdom. Dr. Mariel Buqué clearly knows what she is talking about (a lot more than this preview).But to some point all this conversation unsettles me, even irritates me, because finally nervous system is getting out there but is being transmited and represented in such a romantized and meditation-like practice or marketing way. Nervous system Health should not be represented in the same way that most self help industry transmit amazing old and new knowledge and practices. Its not so much about peace and higher self, and all calm, most of the time. Its about anger as well, Healthy expressions of anger, its about shame, its first and foremost about recognizing your true emotions, sensations and impulses, not just pushing them until the idealized version of them we wish. Its about getting to knowing and accepting yourself, its about understanding your biology and even, as hard as it seems, appreciating your trauma response for the purpose they served in that time when our system felt under threath. Its most of all about education. Thats why Irene Lyon, for me, is the best person to learn from. she teachs us, She shows us, she educates us. The way she does what She does got into my body first, it felt the truth my relentless and ready mind couldnt catch so quickly. is truly sublime and very felt sense, while engaging with the rational mind and not leaving us in the dark or in the clouds of what it could be to “reach “ this “”divine “” state/place. And the truth is you need that sympathetic and you need that parassympathetic energy, you need that ebb and flow. You need to build capacity- you need regulation, and then that felt sense of safety Will grow and that peace will come up. But first the ugly must come out in not so much of a bigger/higher person self. This being said, I really apreciated Dr. Mariel Buqué, she seems and feels like a beautiful person and i feel she has done the work and she is truthful But the interview itself , was not enough, and plataforms like this have space for a little more of education, and less abstract concepts. My only sensation was that, for those who are getting to know this for the first time, and being this nervous system education such a/the missing piece for so many people out there, the discourse should sound and be different from that of mindfulness and meditation. In the end they might all converge, but those practices/ tools above are advanced, for this traumatized and survival stressed society, that sometimes just go to spiritual bypasses unknowingly. we need foundations, the a b c and 1 2 3s of this exquisite creature that is the human animal. And it needs to be more … less, less goal oriented and less inner peace (usual discourse) oriented. Just some unasked feedback. I must say that regardless of the tone of this comment, I truly feel respect for Dr. Buqué and Im glad this podcast got me to know her and her work, at end of interview i was feeling warm again
Maybe read her book, watch more of her videos. You’ll find the references that you’re looking for. I know and follow Irene as well. They have different tones and methods but when you fully immerse yourself in Dr Buquè’s work, you’ll get a nuanced view of her work. This is one interview. I’m happy you were able to feel warm at the end of the conversation.
She is truly lovely. I feel soothed just listening to her speak and you are very kind, authentic and your questions get straight to the heart of the matter. Thank you ✨
Thank you soooo much Lewis!!! Be blessed❤ Hopefully we'll be able to save and protect all newborns, Kids and youngsters from that hell-experiances and damage. 😘
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Love her suggestions for how to help our kids regulate without "therapy talk"
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This was so beautiful to listen to both you and Dr.Buqué were so insightful I learned so much and I think I will be listening to this program time and time again and put it in practice 🙏🏼
Yes ❤
❤ YES ❤ Love & look after yourself then you can turn all around "rise above it all". Find what way makes you happy to have the peace, you seek in life. Stop worrying, nothing that bad that you can't live with, put it to mind answers come to you effortlessly "always seek & you will find". Live the life that makes you happy, don't let others pull you down ever no matter what. Do your best, if you do right things in life you can't go too far wrong. Appreciate your beautiful life, there's always someone in the world worse off than you. If someone has wronged you doesn't mean you have to do same back, just make sure you don't pull yourself down to their level - all is taken care of without doing a thing, remember no-one gets away with doing wrong. Smile even when hurting, help others. Life's too short. Trust all's well ❤
I was horrified when I discovered that my middle school son had been sleeping with a knife underneath his mattress, because of his fear that I was in a 4th violent relationship. (Repetition Compulsion?)
He had pledged to himself that he would not let it happen again. He had decided to protect & defend me - as a child.
That’s when I knew that it was time to escape.
For years now, my son & I together haven been “doing the work!” I am stronger & better! So is he.
Kids really make us grow for the better.
May God be with you through your journey.
poor kid
Praying for both of you to heal completely & fully in this lifetime!! ❤
@@margaret9973 : ´just asking where all these god have been while people have to go through trauma day by day - in past - present - and future?
Thank you so much for this beautiful conversation Lewis! And thank you everyone for your kind comments and feedback. May you heal abundantly!
Your voice and demeanor was so calming and enjoyable even with the subject matter! Thank you
Thank you for explaining so gently and eloquently Dr. Buque. We need more exposé about generational trauma. Thank you.
Thank you Doc. for sharing this very important conversation with us. I've personally struggled with childhood traumas from possibly 2 generations up thus this discussion has really been helpful in me identifying the root causes and cutting them off. This ends with me. ❤❤❤❤❤
I love the way this is so kindly communicated. Such a genuine ✨️ person. Emotionally intelligent and also practical and highly intelligent. ❤
@@susannas495 such kind words, thank you!
If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗🙏🏼
Amen
Amen and amen 🙏🏿
Thank you, for you as well❤
Thx same
Aww,Thank you very much and I wish the same to you!!! 😊
45:20 - Tribal elders believe this too; trauma goes back seven generations, but they also believe if the individual heals themselves, they heal those past generations, the present and future generations. They say it's a powerful moment--I've been doing a lot of work on myself lately to ensure this powerful moment ripples to the past and future.
so beautiful :)
So happy for you, wishing you continued blessings ❤
@djwindagopatterson5164 For those relatives you’re describing, they are still called to be a good relative to all around them. First with the Creator, and then with his creation.
@djwindagopatterson5164 I respect your perspective. Good health to you.
@@BobbyGreyEagleThe experience is God..
literally took me 5yrs to release old learned dogmatic beliefs,forgiveness to many who disrespected me as a child,loving myself again & gaining more courage to leave anything n anyone alone not aligned with my peace also core values…. im 45 so how ever long it take you to start your self awareness journey willl be that much longer to heal your mind
Depends on the individual, there is no one size fits all in how long it takes to heal.
Love this
One of my mantras: "thank you for my health, thank you for my healing".
That's what I say too!!! ❤❤ Puts me in a better mind set for the day
@v10letv1xen9 It plays a part of my "prayer" ritual as soon as I open my eyes every morning. Giving thanks for everything dear to me in my life.
Too numerous to mention here.
Giving thanks brings on more of what you are grateful for.
Thank you God for everything 🙏
@@v10letv1xen9 Definitely does ❤ I will always give thanks to our Great Creator God, Jesus "Wholly Spirit", Guardian Angels, Spiritual Guides & all my loved ones who have passed ❤ for giving me my life & for all the things (& more) that they did for me, will never forget them ever ❤
She has the energy of a gifted healer. She’s the featured guest but I admire the way she hangs back and listens to Lewis without once cutting him off. Her insights into human behavior and trauma is very enlightening.
Absolutely agree, her voice alone is soothing, she speaks from a place of understanding and patience. Easy to digest. Very good dialogue.
46:35 “A scent takes you back…” My father has been gone (passed away) for over 44 years but when I smell Old Spice, I recall his hugs and smiles. Yes scent is powerful.
I'm sure he's looking up at you right now
Me too!
Right, one day I walked and one lady passing by me and I smell cilantro 🌿 omg very strong she has a very big cilantro plant and I go back to my childhood and seconds and I remember my grandpa , at the moment I was very sad for something and the same moment I said you are here thank you ❤
😢same here
5:55 how to do a trauma assessment
6:10 a knot in the stomach is the nervous system turning on
9:14 the first step is telling the story and seeing how our body responds
9:32 step two is relaxation
10:30 if not addressed it can be disease
19:50 takes 200 repetitions to reset nervous system
Easiest way is to recall an event and once you feel a body reaction you have to keep feeling that so that feeling will flow freely and clear from your body. Usually at the end the memory of the event will be recalled clearly as it is released.
🙏🏻 thank you Happy new year ✨
Thank you!
I dropped out of therapy after losing 3 counselors within one year. I can't keep traumatizing myself by telling my story and getting comfortable with a therapist only to lose them a few months later then have to start all over again with a new one. 😓 I felt better when i stopped going altogether, like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I've found that I am my best therapist.
Our health care system is ridiculous (I have no idea why these mental health therapists keep quitting and changing but it should be illegal), but I'm not so sure that losing 3 therapists was an entirely bad thing. I attended celebrate recovery and they kept telling us to "keep coming back" (emphasizing that people need to go for years to be healed) and most of the people running those groups weren't even professional. Many of us left far hurt and more traumatized than when we came in and it's such a shame to see people leaving a "recovery" group with even *more* work to do because they were traumatized by untrained people (and in some cases by people who deliberately struck out to hurt others). The best healing I have ever had is Prayer and going no contact from toxic people. Only until we get away from the toxicity or abuse can we begin to properly process what happened. I know a lot of us in the recovery group felt so triggered and hurt by the leaders that were untrained and uncaring, and malicious *sick* people in the groups. There was at least 1 person in our group that committed the ultimate self-harm. Professional therapy also has hurt so many people. I know of a lady who went to therapy and her abusive partner honed his way in. It soon turned into "couples therapy" and I'm not quite sure why that therapist would do that when the lady went to deal with abuse from that guy to begin with. He used the therapy as a platform to further hurt her and the therapist went right along with it. Sometimes, I think the best therapy ever is just getting alone away from all the abuse and talking to God. ❤
The reward is worth the pain of going through the fire! It can take years and decades and those that feel it’s too much need it the most ! Not possible a person to see their own blindspots ! Don’t give up on yourself , it’s like cooking for the first time , if it’s for your survival you’ll keep trying . Our brains literally NEED THE HEALING even if we don’t see if outwardly . Hope this helps and good luck 🧘🏾♀️
I am so sorry to hear that and that you had to go through this. I get so upset with colleagues doing this. I think it strides twords therapeutic ethics. Although I am trained in my home country Sweden, and this is not at all a useful way over here...
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Hey there you can be healed through deliverance.
My cup of tea. Healing w/ no meds
Most therapists are on strange meds and drugs - you better watch out!
Love that she said “it’s all about the growing journey” when Lewis said “I’m impatient”. So true.
Teaching a child to vet people - set boundaries and hold their standards. I love advocacing for systematic change for your children in any community. Let's protect them.
Wow, this comment was so needed!!! What you just stated could actually save many from trauma induced ptsd, and other mental and emotional issues due to trauma and even narcissistic abuse. Boundaries are definitely key. Wish I would've been given the wisdom of setting boundaries.
Yes! This is very practical and needed advice that needs to be told. Thank you for this gold nuggett!
Vetting & learning how to set boundaries are things I wished I learned earlier on as child. Those 2 key components can boost trust & high self esteem in oneself
Jesus Christ is the transformative healer of mental , emotional, physical and spiritual trauma and chronic pain that's rooted in sinful relations❤️
I love this. I’m 50 and when I was coming up I was forced to be around horrible people. No one listened to my feelings and how I didn’t want to be around them. “Children are to be seen and not heard” was the Boomer quote for adults. I love that things are getting so much healthier.
That is the first time I’ve ever heard somebody talk about when you go see a therapist you have to relive your story. I literally dropped out because I thought it was ridiculous and awful. I’m just glad to be validated through what you said in the beginning of this. Thank you.
I entirely agree with her definition of greatness. Life can kick you down in so many ways, but it’s also n getting back up that we achieve greatness. Finding that courage deep within to keep going no matter how hard, no matter the odds. That is true greatness. And for anyone who has been kicked down in life, I see you, I believe in you, and never give up. Always bet on you!
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I'm in my sixties and I've been through a lot as a young man emotionally but I started doing yoga in the nineties thanks to a friend who gave me a book.I have to say that it has been very helpful I still practice it and I just feel the inner peace within myself because I also have a younger wife and three children and I just tell them everyday that I love them because I believe true love helps with truma.
Thank you for this information
beautiful...Yoga has been major in chikdhood trauma healing process
Loved this. I grew up in and out of therapy. Learning about trauma healing as an adult is what's changing my life. I like how Dr. Buque talked about having patience with family being one of her challenges. Kathleen Smith said in her book "Everything Isn't Terrible" that if you can learn how to manage anxiety around your family, then you can manage it anywhere. I felt that 😂❤
Thank you for telling me that! My sisters triggered me for years! I finally got a therapist to help me unpack the pain! New tools and finally peace inside!
This is my issue, I am seeing a therapist now to heal my childhood wounds .I want to be a better person for myself and people around me also a better parent for my kids.Thank you for sharing.
It’s not just that we ‘feel vulnerable’
..we ARE vulnerable - until we develop a life set up and personal empowerment that enables us to keep dangerous and manipulative people away from us.
That takes a lot of learning and we need a lot expert support - we have so many blind spots and wounding that it’s so easy for predators to pick us out of a crowd while all those around us don’t know what we’re anxious about, because they are safe and don’t get preyed upon.
Very true. I have been doing a lot of internal work and am still learning how to not become a victim again. It is a struggle for sure. Blessings of love and light to all!
@@number1angel66 agreed🤍
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Look at Lewis go!! I also came from intense emotional abuse from a parent and it’s been twenty years of healing with abundant fruit. It is 1,00000000 percent work. There is no other way but through and that is the hero story. Good job man, you’re heavy hitting in the emotional growth world. And Namaste, this woman is a Goddess. Dear wow, you can feel the wisdom and breath and goodness flowing from her. What a great way to bring peace to the world at large. Loved this. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Healing is definitely a continuous journey
This is an interesting conversation, it makes me confirm that salvation is the best choice and that’s what gives us the higher self and inner peace. Our maker knows what’s best for us. So awesome to know how the world is zeroing in on the aspects of the faith. Love it.
I was 16 yrs old when I was legally able to be emancipated from my parents. In my 50's now and continually learning and evolving in the healing journey.
healing with you
Same
Yes, I learned why a person who had the American dream still felt worthless and self destructive; I learned the importance and meaning of compassion, ❤
Its taken me 7 years of continuous healing. I mostly used meditation and reflection and time in nature.
In the last years I did cold water wild swimming which helped a lot.
Then I discovered breathwork which has catapulted my healing.
Grounding ( barefoot on the grass) cold water swimming, and breathwork has worked so fast to heal me. Brought up so many realisations about why I felt certain things why I behaved certain ways etc.
I definitely recommend these last 3 things will save you from many of suffering.
What kind of breath work ?
It took me until I was 62 yrs to start FULLY processing the emotional and psychological neglect and trauma that I experienced as a child, and then in my long marriage and subsequent longer term relationship. I am so surprised at what comes up and I need to heal somewhat more before I consider entering another relationship. As a consequence I currently suffer MDD & severe anxiety. Meds definitely help biologically, but they are a Band-Aid for the root cause. I am working very hard to do the work. I can see how my past and my ex-husband’s past (including our parents) 41:07 have significantly affected our adult children.
Thank you, this is wonderful information!
Do this for two years and you will never want to stop as its so wonderful to fall in love with yourself. And evolving is so freaking fun and exciting!❤
Just realized why you interrupted her so much because this topic hit home with you so much. I apologize for my earlier comment of saying to "let her talk, shes the expert". I hope you heal from your trauma just like Im determined to heal from mine❤❤❤
The quality of her huming as a sign of listening and understanding is so authentic empathic and soothing❤
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Only 15 minutes in and I already got soooo much from it. Your questioning is incredible as always Lewis. ❤
Glad it resonated
Thank you! Appreciate you for watching!
Love this!! Being healed is a myth, its a process, start the journey and use those tools to help yourself be better and at peace ❤
Thank you for watching🧡
This is so true! I talked with my grandmother about her upbringing, parents, and grandparents. All those generations of my family, and they're all broken and traumatized people. I’ve finally had enough of this cycle. I’m changing myself and setting a better example for my family. It's time to own all this bad behavior and heal.
Bravo and same here ❤🙏🏾
Yes I do agree - you have to heal yourself - because no therapist can heal you from your trauma - most therapists make it worst - leave your hands by any medications or drugs - its not helpful at all - this is what I had to find out the hard way. Grieving, journaling and find a real honest friend, who can really listen to you every once in a while - going for walks out in nature -that´s really helpful - because healing from trauma is a personal and very private path - therapists can´t heal any trauma at all.
@@claudiaschneider5744 Yes! Anti-depressants and sleeping medication made me crazy. All I needed was someone to help me understand what I was experiencing and then give me guidance on how to heal. Those pills are nothing but poison, and the doctors who prescribe them have no idea how they’re going to affect their patients. All any of us need are healthy ways to overcome trauma. Not drugs.
How????
@@claudiaschneider5744mine helped me. My therapist and I have a lot in common and I appreciate people who are direct and honest with me. She was willing to do that. Her help was priceless because she was willing to get on my level.
Practice of meditation and yoga helps me in my healing journey, yoga is more of work in than work out, innerwork! Keeps affirming that i am a work in progress! Solitude and doing solo travelling makes me strong and resilient. More inner peace and harmony with myself❤ love, peace, joy and healing everyone! Namaste✌️
At the hour mark of this video made me think about a relationship significant throughout my adult life......He told me "You alone are probably the one person who could actually 'fix me'...Follows it up (while chortling) "IF only I'd ever let you"....I haven't been with him for nearly 4 years now. I miss him everyday and so does he, as he worsens in isolation. And I find personal growth as a reclusive overly protective parent.
Aw, my grandmother used to always hum. ❤
This is in line with what russel kennedy says about anxiety- that it is an alarm felt in our bodies- we need to speak safety, patience and kindness to our inner child in order to be able to sit with discomfort and to heal❤
Thanks, Dr. Buqué for saying that as parents we need to becareful how we speak to our kids about body size. My dad always called me fat and this year I learned that I developed a binge eating disorder. This was so eye-opening. 💔
I am sorry you experienced that... I wish you the best in your healing ❤
My mom always had something to say about my weight. Shes never even been a healthy weight herself. She trained me to avoid big emotions and to never bother to adress things with other people. It was always she told me shed handle it. And then shed give me the mom look whenever i would reach for food at a family function because i wasn't allowed to confront the abuse I faced within the family. What options did i have but to become a binge eater who used food to pacify very difficult emotions without any support to figure out ways to deal with my feelings in a healthy way. Im in my late 40's and disabled with many chronic conditions
@Sarah-with-an-H thanks for sharing. I admire your vulnerability. I pray 🙏🏾 for you're healing 💛
Self discipline Knowledge is for me listening to the pain acknowledging the triggers releasing Helps in whatever works to bring me to the Greatness within Amen ☘️
Not even 10 mins in and this woman has brought up so many valid points that deeply resonated with me,specifically to what she was speaking on with going to see a therapist.
Thanks for being here!
Lewis, In every exchange, your skill in asking the right questions sparks a deeper understanding, and I find myself learning and growing through your conversations with your guests. Your insightful inquiries not only illuminate the topics at hand but also create an engaging and enriching experience for those involved. Thank you for consistently bringing depth and clarity to your discussions. I truly value the knowledge and perspective you share.
Thank you so much 😊
AGREED!
Yes, totally agree! I learn communication skills ... drawing out more information to conceptualize ... that's what makes the 'greatness' so good! Good variety and collection of knowledgeable guests as well♡
Thank you so much Lewis for brining this guest and enlighting us. This video trulty answers my prayer, I have gone through various trapped emotions that have started coming to the surface. I didn't know how to process them and this video came up today just in time. Also as a parent, feeling so much guilt and shame for passing on many unhealthy habits to my child. I have to frequently remind myself to be gentle and patience with myself and not beat myself up while going through this process.
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Doctor: I am 69 years old and all my life I have been afraid of birds of every kind and Don't know why
I love the way Lewis has also opened up here. This doctor has so much calm and emotional intelligence. I really loved listening to this. Often when I listen to similar people, I end up feeling more anxious 😟 as they communicate in an almost aggressive manner😮
I will listen to this several times ❤
Beautiful!! My sober healing journey these last 2 1/2 yrs has lead me to want to face my past traumas as it’s showing up in my body!! Thank you for more ideas
This conversation was so peaceful. I went on Amazon to order the book in hopes that it will help my son. Thank you.
My guru taught me..."Healing through helpfulness..." he said... "Doctors and medication aren't necessary..."🎉🎉
That’s stupid. Doctors & medicine are absolutely necessary. & have been thru the annals of time. There have always been shamed & doctors in our tribes. They are as much a gift and blessing as any other good thing on this planet. You all gain just a a smidge of awareness & take things too far. Look at Lewis’ team even supporting this ridiculous comment.
@@mr_jmartin4774 In days of yore a medicine man/woman would be a herbalist and a shaman... etc. Hippocrates was a natural therapist himself...😇😇
Helpfulness? Like spreading kindness to others?
@@MaroonRose3216 Like... make yourself useful... contribute to the betterment of others and keep serving forever... service is love in action...
@@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 for me, this attitude is part of what has given me trauma. It seems that people take this for granted and treat you unkind. That is traumatizing tbh.
WOW, WOW, WOWWWWWW!!! The nuggets imparted in this video are PRICELESS for every area of life. I'm at a lost for words to express how much this inspired me to continue the process of harmony & breaking my own generational cycles. This video would bring healing to countless families, marriages, children, & more.
The information in this podcast was probably the most INCREDIBLE, INSIGHTFUL, & EDUCATIONAL video that I have ever seen regarding how we pass down toxic behaviors up to seven or more generations!!! And the things we can do to break those cycles, so we do not continue them into the next generation.
Thank you Dr. Buque & Lewis for this life changing video! You are truly inspiring people. As a female business owner who is learning & practicing many of the tools that were mentioned in this video to help me cope with stress, better self-care, & more, this video was what I needed to go to the next level.
I believe that the knowledge this video imparted would begin the catalyst for better harmony in every area of one's life. It is my hope that the message in this video will reach billions of people & begin the process for better marriages, children having more self-love, schools implementing more tools to help children, and more! Cheers, the U.S.
YES. I did not realize that retelling a trauma , allows to feel that it happens, again .
Thank you for reinforcing something I already had a hunch for. In peace is the way to live.
I literally healed the pain that was lingering for weeks during this session. This therapy session was for me, i was looking for answers.I immediately called my therapist for a massage and booked one for.my child so we can peacefully go through this journey.Thank you so much
I have known this since childhood, it’s completely true. This is incredibly well spoken. Thank you for sharing the facts.
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Waiting for you to mention IBS related to Trauma , but you've mentioned Stomach issues. Thanks a million for this topic
Yes! So much of my own experiences have been put into perspective while watching this video. I am appreciative of this extremely helpful information.
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡
I run the same lines in my healing process, no meds!!
Renewal Restore Rewire it's working 🙌✨️
Any hints?
@excelant Depends on what your dealing with, if you don't mind?
Been doing the work over 3 years! Starting off it was brutal 😫😫 but now I live with more peace & trust for life. Start the work, it’ll be worth it!! ❤
How did you start?💜 Do I say what I feel then hum?
I'm watching this video and I am in tears. It feels like it won't get better.
Tapping is great for release
It truly is
She´s so wise and Lewis always asks the most pertinent questions. Thanks. 🙏
Thank you Lewis for always bringing content to elevate consciousness and reduce human suffering. Thank you for such an insightful interview and helping us be more conscious as individuals. 7 generations of trauma that is boxed in us blew my mind. Many of us become products of our nervous system response and it becomes so hard for adult minds sometimes to release those nervous system reactions. This is a conscious way of showing up , doing the work - to heal your inner child which is way more powerful than just birthing a child because this way - It’s health that you bring in great abundance to this world. Thank you Lewis Howes for bringing individuals and their work in your channel for us to be more conscious
So welcome
This was a FREE therapy session plus!!!
The work soooo worth it. I do it for 3 years now and i changed for the better and very grateful for all this knowledge out there and the teachers
That are really skilled like Dispenza, Lipton and all the others less famous ones
❤ she’s a strong, grounded and insightful woman! Thank you
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Yes! even if one's life has been in shambles, being able to get back up with one's internal strengths give way to greatness!!!
I mean this came at the perfect timing... I was looking for this exactly in the afternoon, and here it is... Thank you so much for this episode... ☺
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Yes, for sure. Would really like to hear her talking more, this women should have 2 shows!
I know this has nothing to do with the video, but as soon as I started listening to this amazing woman, I knew she was a fellow Dominican.
I totally loved how transparent you were during the whole episode. Dr Mariel has a beautiful aura to her. Learned so much from this single podcast, thanks Lewis for doing the great work.
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
I am going through my healing process and everything she said truly helped me understand why I felt so isolated in my healing journey and why I feel so much anxiety around my family.
Thank you so much for sharing, this had me crying. I started doing the wok, it’s challenging but my future self and family deserves a heal, loving version of me.
Appreciate you for watching!
Humming - - - yes YES I had forgotten this fabulous technique
One of the best interviews and they are amazing together ..so helpful and the book could be my GIFT TO ME at this moment in time , Thank you .
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I love dr. Buquè. I love her voice is very calming and inviting.
This is very refreshing and valuable .
Something should be taught in schools as well.
for SUREEEE ❤
1stly, what a beautiful woman. 2ndly, I have been trying to express this theory to my family; I have come to understand that I was carrying trauma from my ancestors. My healing has been for them and for myself.
What an incredible interviewee. Dr Buque's knowledge is so valuable; perfectly navigated by your mindful questions, Lewis.
It's all about healing, and I pray that I can break my trauma cycle.
Thank you so much Dr Buque and Lewis.🙏❤️
Great interview. Dr. Mariel Buqué suggests rocking can also reset the nervous system. I've been a chronic rocker since childhood and cannot sit for long without finding a rocking chair. Though normal amounts of rocking are usually a good thing, I wonder what's up for those of us who are maniacs about it. I remember a very few times in my life when a "healer" helped me get completely grounded in my body. I was able to comfortably sit still. I recall thinking, so this is what it's like to be normal! Hopefully rocking overdrive isn't doing harm, but I'm sure it's a sign of needing more nervous system regulation and grounding. Because even after doing it for hours, I'm still hypervigilant.
Healing/ peace first, yes! Thank you! This is soo valuable and beautiful!
You're welcome, thank you for watching.
The part about asking ourselves as parents what we can tell ourselves after a decade of parenting from an unhealthy nervous system… thank you for asking her that question needed to hear that!
Thank you Lewis - I connect as I come from similar childhood experience. I have spent years on myself and keep learning more. You are what a school should be for people looking to develop themselves.
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What an episode! LOVE when you share practícal tools for everyday challenges!! Thanks both Lewis and Dr Buqué 🧘🏻🙏🏻
I took 8 years. Worth it
Thank you very much for this. I coach the first time moms and there has been something bothering me lately in the way we bring up our children from conception to their teenage stage. I knew that there was some trauma related work that needed to be revisited to change trajectory of parenting so that we can bring forth and nurture children that get to experience greatness in the world - a sense of ease, peace and safety, and advocate to carry on the legacy. Thanks, again, Lewis...❤
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
She’s amazing. This was so helpful. Thank you both
Parents and grandparents must also give gifts of healing to the new generation in the family. Grandparents typically have a better hold over the skipped generation and are ultimately responsible because they let it get through in the first place.
Your work is beautiful.
I got chills… thank you both 🫶🙏
I was diagnosed an Occipital Neuralgia and this makes sense to me. I believed I got it from my childhood traumas and if there’s something triggers me, my body and muscles were tightening up and it causes my nervous systems damaged.
Made me cry. Mixed with feeling guilty and ashamed for my kids and sad that i as a child had to go through it and now my kids.
Truth is that nobody is perfect ,
the main thing is to avoide mistakes made by our parents
and strive to be a better parent
to our children .
In short don't make the same mistakes that has been done before .
that's a good way to live by ❤
Your questions are so full, wholesome, and everything I would have wanted to ask, and usually want to ask and the interviewers never get to. Thank you!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Thank you Lewis Howes for sgaring your personal traumas and for interviewing Dr. Mariel Buqué
You are taking over the conversation at times Lewis. You invite an expert, although you might be as well, but let them shine pls and share their knowledge to the top of their extent. That's why I tune into you account.
I agree. Let the expert speak please, the disruptions are so distracting. Great convo.
He asks great questions though
I thoroughly enjoyed this. Mariel was most enchanting, compelling and highly knowledgeable with the information. Lewis you too were delightful and an amazing host... as usual.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
Lewis of yesterday, and Lewis of today miles apart. You raised your game so much like Larry King Live...bought your books. Thanks!
You're welcome, thank you for being here! 🧡
It took me three years to heal the death of my mother. I’m grateful and thankful for the journey and process that I have been through.
It’s not only can you can heal yourself but ONly you can do it .
She looks and transmits a lot of serenity, peace, obviously a lot of knowledge and intuitive wisdom.
Dr. Mariel Buqué clearly knows what she is talking about (a lot more than this preview).But to some point all this conversation unsettles me, even irritates me, because finally nervous system is getting out there but is being transmited and represented in such a romantized and meditation-like practice or marketing way.
Nervous system Health should not be represented in the same way that most self help industry transmit amazing old and new knowledge and practices. Its not so much about peace and higher self, and all calm, most of the time.
Its about anger as well, Healthy expressions of anger, its about shame, its first and foremost about recognizing your true emotions, sensations and impulses, not just pushing them until the idealized version of them we wish. Its about getting to knowing and accepting yourself, its about understanding your biology and even, as hard as it seems, appreciating your trauma response for the purpose they served in that time when our system felt under threath. Its most of all about education.
Thats why Irene Lyon, for me, is the best person to learn from. she teachs us, She shows us, she educates us. The way she does what She does got into my body first, it felt the truth my relentless and ready mind couldnt catch so quickly. is truly sublime and very felt sense, while engaging with the rational mind and not leaving us in the dark or in the clouds of what it could be to “reach “ this “”divine “” state/place.
And the truth is you need that sympathetic and you need that parassympathetic energy, you need that ebb and flow. You need to build capacity- you need regulation, and then that felt sense of safety Will grow and that peace will come up. But first the ugly must come out in not so much of a bigger/higher person self.
This being said,
I really apreciated Dr. Mariel Buqué, she seems and feels like a beautiful person and i feel she has done the work and she is truthful
But the interview itself , was not enough, and plataforms like this have space for a little more of education, and less abstract concepts. My only sensation was that, for those who are getting to know this for the first time, and being this nervous system education such a/the missing piece for so many people out there, the discourse should sound and be different from that of mindfulness and meditation.
In the end they might all converge, but those practices/ tools above are advanced, for this traumatized and survival stressed society, that sometimes just go to spiritual bypasses unknowingly. we need foundations, the a b c and 1 2 3s of this exquisite creature that is the human animal. And it needs to be more … less, less goal oriented and less inner peace (usual discourse) oriented.
Just some unasked feedback.
I must say that regardless of the tone of this comment, I truly feel respect for Dr. Buqué and Im glad this podcast got me to know her and her work, at end of interview i was feeling warm again
Maybe read her book, watch more of her videos. You’ll find the references that you’re looking for. I know and follow Irene as well. They have different tones and methods but when you fully immerse yourself in Dr Buquè’s work, you’ll get a nuanced view of her work. This is one interview. I’m happy you were able to feel warm at the end of the conversation.
@lewishowes I absolutely love all the questions you ask your guests to get such a clarity on the questions we as your audience have. Thank you!!!
She is truly lovely. I feel soothed just listening to her speak and you are very kind, authentic and your questions get straight to the heart of the matter.
Thank you ✨
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Thank you soooo much Lewis!!! Be blessed❤ Hopefully we'll be able to save and protect all newborns, Kids and youngsters from that hell-experiances and damage. 😘
I clicked on because of hair but I guess I need to hear this😂😂😂
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This makes so much sense and explains a lot to why people behave the way they do