YOUNGER men and OLDER women: why this is one of the best matchups
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- The younger man/older woman dynamic actually has a lot to speak for itself. Among other things, it generally occurs between two gendered classes that are roughly equivalent with respect to their normalized sexual marketplace values. What's more, both parties generally understand that the relationship is fairly short-term, making it one of the most sexually-charged matchups possible. Why this isn't done more often is beyond me. I discuss more in this episode.
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I was 60, he was 45. He took me by the hand and I lost 15 lbs, he improved my entire physical appearance. He was in excellent shape . We had the best time together, he was never happier, and so was I. We worked together and improved our lives. He passed away before me a few years ago. I miss my happy man.
He passed away before you? This is why you just never know what life brings.
@@tresjolieme81Exactly. My first husband passed at 26 from a brain tumor and I was 25.
My husband and I have the same age difference.
So sorry for your loss.
so sorry to hear this. Perfect example of why we shouldn't care what others think and why we should live each day to the fullest.
I was 29 and she was 48. To this day, she is the best woman I’ve ever had the pleasure of being in a relationship with. She truly made me feel loved, respected, and appreciated. Just an all around amazing woman. Things didn’t work out and it was ALL my fault. Nowadays, she’s involved with a man in her age range but we remain somewhat close. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t hoping for another chance with her one day. She changed me for the better.
🤧 beautiful yet sad
What was your mistake and your learning out of it?
What did you do to ruin it
@@adkldy8158 Unfortunately, I played the fence between her and a younger woman I was also dealing with. The younger woman found out and told the older woman about it. They both came to my house and confronted me. Not proud of my mistake but luckily, she wanted to remain friends.
@@josefhospital I learned that honesty is truly the best policy. I learned the value that a great woman can bring to your life and the pain and regret that loosing a good woman can bring. Hopefully, I meet another as good as she was.
When the attraction is mutual, age means nothing. It is not only the bodies that attract each other, but two souls.
This! 👏
@@nickyannajones feel good nonsense
@@annelouisemaclellan485 Whatever you say.🤷🏼♀️
Thank you Sonja. Very timely and thoughtful insight.
@@philipcollins408 I'm glad that the idea makes sense.😌
At 30, I married my wife who was a 53 y.o. hard-bodied fox. After 20 years, she's still a fox and we're just as happy if not happier with each other. I get her and she gets me. For a years I felt insecure in public and even avoided my family, but I no longer care what people may think, if they think anything at all. If older men can marry younger women, why not the reverse? I should also state for the record, I'm also the "breadwinner," so I didn't marry her for money.
More power to you two. It only matters what you two think; not what anyone else thinks.
@crazydmd amazing story, love this
@@autumnauston weights at the gym, good nutrition, avoid processed foods
@@autumnauston Got to hit the gym, I am a 57 year old one, I had a baby at 45 (naturally, a one shot wonder) with my now ex husband who is now 40 and have only been with younger men after him as well. It's all about eating correctly and working out.
I met my husband when he was 37 and I was 52, we are still together 15 years later. Best relationship of my life.
As a younger man I will tell you why I prefer older women and ill use bullet points.
-they are alot more respectful and easy going.
-They actually know what they want and aren't afraid to say it etc.
-They aren't after my money and I'm not after hers.
-They actually appreciate and respect traditional/chivalrous men
-Older women actually like sex and they actually know how to please and satisfy a man.
I just crushed the button here.
I am 14 years older than my husband. We started dating when he was 29 and I was 43. We’ve been together 10 years and married 7 years. Best decision of my life!❤
@@marianneporter26 I've been with my wife for 12 years married for 9 I'm 32 and she 49 was best decision I ever made and we have an 8 yr old son together
Ben Franklin agrees.
Benjamin Franklin, Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress (1745)
June 25, 1745
My dear Friend,
I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural Inclinations you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you are most likely to find solid Happiness. Your Reasons against entering into it at present, appear to me not well-founded. The circumstantial Advantages you have in View by postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with that of the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that make the compleat human Being. Separate, she wants his Force of Body and Strength of Reason; he, her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are more likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissars. If you get a prudent healthy Wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:
i. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.
2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.
3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.
4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.
6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.
7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.
8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly; being sincerely Your affectionate Friend.
I am 39 my new boyfriend 26 yes in 2023 🎉❤ passionate love making is the energy, respect and listening so far within a month,I am working on fear of losing him because of our age difference,we should fear nothing else it will attract,I know what you are talking about in this video your words and pallegram is true.we are awesome together my Ben 10 and I.
It was the closest, deepest, multidimensional relationship. He was 25. I was almost 40. We fell in love. I said I am older than you his reply was "numbers do not matter. I am in love with who you are." Together we did music,art,theater, animals, spiritual exploration. He married me on his birthday so he would never forget the anniversary.We were married for 13 yrs. He died in my arms on his birthday at age 38 from an aneurysm in his lungs. Ages, numbers, do not matter. It is who we are inside.
I’m sorry for your loss, may your Late husband, Rest In Peace.
❤️❤️❤️
So sorry for your loss
God bless his soul 🙏🏼❤️
So sorry
Younger women have dramatically unrealistic ideas about love, marriage, and responsibility. They're also immature. I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 30. I married her 6 years later and it was the smartest thing I ever did. That was 45 years ago. She still looks fabulous and the sex is still hot.
I feel super nosy, but I am definitely curious about yalls life 😅
Key point "45 years ago" may have worked back then, sure doesn't now. Easy to research the statistics on that.
you are 40 she is 50
you are 50 she is 60
you are 60 she is 70
you are 70 she is 80!!
@@jordy885 Stattistics my ass, statistics say that the average height for males is 5´9 yet i´m 6.1, statistics say that average, average, etc. I don´t give a F about statistics, it´s all about me and the women i choose, individuals.
@@jordy885statistics actually show that older woman and younger man relationships are one of the happiest types.
I had a mid life crisis at 40 with a 23 year old!!! 😆 We've been married for 22 years now. 😊
is this true? what about kids?
@@kerrycrandall6472 He's step-dad to my son, but more like a friend as my son has a good relationship with his dad. We've had the talk about him not having his own, but he's always said, he went into this with his eyes open, and can't imagine life without me. Yeah, I know on paper it's strange that it worked out in the long run, but we're very happy and honestly people just don't bat an eye. To be clear, I'm aware it's unconventional. I don't need this to become a thing. Lol! We're just a bit odd.
I think that is wonderful and congratulations for having the presence of mind and beauty to attract this younger man. I think the way you have both approached this is a wonderful lesson to all. I salute you from the bottom of my heart.
Weak men with no option will accept what they get. Rich high value men have options and choose wisely like Leo...
@@rubyredjeans
Wrong!
Older women for most parts have tons of baggages and emotional out bursts. The whole older woman is mature is a myth.
Pretty much every Karen video is an older woman. I do not know a man who is successful and has options marry an older woman.
I got into this type of relationship while rebounding from a rotten and short marriage that ended in a very bitter divorce. The relationship was absolutely wonderful and only ended when death did us part. She was an amazing and highly gifted woman.. I am quite sure I will never find her equal. We were together for thirty five very happy years before she unfortunately passed.
Jesus Christ bro, that's an insane loss right there!!! I'm going through last phases of mine, you know, in a way I envy you because if it was absolute, then I wouldn't have the burden to see her out there or even know that she's around. We were like magnets, always finding excuses to be around
Sorry to hear that and for you loss.
How old are you now and how big was the age gap?
@@benthread 72 now and the gap was 14 years. But at age 70 she could both out ride all the young riders we knew and her figure always looked better than theirs too.
You are a very lucky man! Stay blessed!
I was 38 and she was 48 - we've been happily married for 30 years now.
10 years is not an age gap. You're both from the same generation.
@@romancox5386 The woman is older which is the point
@@romancox5386 10 years is usually a lot when you get older.
I'm 34 my wife's 51 she's 17 years older than me and I've never been happier
That’s cute 😊
I'm 48, and he's 30 happly married for five years 🎉
I am an older woman, and my husband is a young man. We are soul mates. It is not a relationship based on fun and sex, it is pure lov. We get along extremely well. We are very happy. He is not superficial and he cares about values and kindness. It is about who we both are as a person, regardless of our age. The physical appearance is not on the top of his list. I agree it is very rare...he is an old soul, a wonderful and wise man. We are lucky to have found each other.
That's awesome and congrats for you as a couple 💓
Do you guys have kids from this marriage?
I am 40 years old, and I am madly in love with a woman 22 years older than me. We've been good friends for five years now and I came out and told her how crazy it was about her. But the age difference seems to be an issue for her. Everywhere we go people assume we're married. Everyone we've talked to about the topic, agrees that is the right choice. And they urged her not to pass up this opportunity. But she's still hesitant. How can I get her to see that is a good idea??
@brokenbones1632 - She is reluctant to marry you because of the "age difference". This is very general. You have to address it with precision. What bothers her about the age difference: 1- poeple judging you, the eyes of poeple on you. When you dont fit into the box, people think they have the right and give themselves the power of making you unhappy by being judgmental.
2- She is afraid you will have an old appearance when she will still look young and having an husband looking old will ambarassed her.
3- She is afraid you will be too old to raise your children, have less energy, and less patience.
4- She is concerned about her family approval.
5- Maybe feels too young to make a life commitment.
4- or something else.
You have address the reason behind her decision.
It is amazing how some poeple think they are allow to take away someone's happiness by telling them this is the box where they have to stand. They think they have the right to take away your freedom and your happiness. Don't let them, this is your life.
@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 - No, we don't have children. It wouldn't be fair for the children. We have a cute little dog.
I was a single woman aged 46 and for 3 years I dated guys ages 26 to early 30’s . They were the nicest , most gentlemanly guys I ever met . Smart , respectful , had amazing sex and I felt like a real queen with all of them because of how special they all made me feel . Plus , they were vibrant , enthusiastic, had energy and drive in all areas of their life . I don’t regret a single moment with any of them . I’m now in a relationship with a man 12 years my junior and vert happy 😊
Waw Alisha great I also love nature women really I'm 33
So you dated SEVERAL younger guys in that age group, who you seem to think very highly of. That leads to the question: If they're so "great", how come you aren't with either of them now? Clearly something didn't work out, or you'd be with one of them now.
That said, glad you're happy in your relationship now. Hopefully it works out well.
I am with one of them now ! Been in a serious relationship for over 2.5 years and still going stroke ❤
She for the streets
@@peetgikeri5245free
I am 29 and she is 47. I found my love of my life in her. We are happy
I am 10 years older than my husband. I met him when he was 23 and I was 33. We have been together for 5 years and married for 4 years, and have a 3 year old daughter. 🥰
Mam tell me when you get married and tell me your age during your marriage ☺️
How do u deal with others' opinions of the relationship
Nice! 🥰
Beautiful 💖
Damn where can I find women like you???
I married a man seventeen years younger than me, we had a wonderful life....he passed away, he still makes me smile
God bless his soul ❤️
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My husband is 25 years younger than l am. We have been married for 25 years and still going strong ! 😊 So whatever anyone has to say is utterly irrelevant !!
Love and respect concers all !!
You dropped this👸
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I was married to a man who was 17 years my senior for 15 years and they were awful ones, now I am married to a young man who is 17 years my junior and oh, what a big difference! We're so happy together he always wants to bring me a star from the sky, so caring and loving, there's a great chemistry between us both sexually and mentally. I live my most peaceful years with him now.
That's amazing!!! Many more years of happiness to you. How did you both meet?
I had a long term relationship with a man 8 years older. Years later I was with a man eight years younger.
At times I would look at the younger one and think, fuck, now I can see what the older guy had to put up with. Eventually I got back with the first one.
A great uncle of mine married a woman 20 years older than him. They kept married all their lives.
He was probably low value and unwanted by women his age.
How long did they live?
I'm in my late 70s and my longtime lover is 30 years younger. We feel happier with each other than we ever have. When it works, it works.
It's as simple as that! Thank you for sharing
yeah, that's called gerontophilia
Woaaaaah
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@@erinues7._- don't be so envious just because nobody wants you
I am 8 years and 11 months and 2 weeks older than my husband. We had our two daughters when I was 38 and 40. We now have a 2 year old granddaughter and a 2 month old grandson. Life is blissful for us. It’s been a great partnership, friendship and marriage. We celebrate our 33rd anniversary tomorrow, Jan 20th. It’s a true love match. ❤
You are spot on with the age bracket! When I met my husband he was 24, and I was 42 - we will be married 14 years in Feb.!!!
Let me add that I had hoped to find a man in my own age bracket after a failed previous marriage.
The ones that were my age and single- let's just say there were many reasons they were still single, and it began to feel like all of the good guys in my age range were already taken.
When I met my husband he had just finished his second tour in Iraq, and I had no intentions of being more than friends.
It did not seem realistic to be more than friends, and I think this is where dynamics play a part with big age gaps.
He did not want biological kids- and I did not want to have more kids.
Fighting combat in war makes you mature fast , so he did not act like most men do at 24.
Neither of us were financially secure when we met so there were no feelings of being used for money.
Like all couples we have had conflicts along the way, but none of them were caused or attributed by our age gap.
Thank you for offering an objective view on this, it is refreshing not to be judged unfavorably!
I’m 42 and have a 24 yr old hot and heavy after me. The age gap is a challenge for me but he is emotionally and intellectually mature for his age and owns his own business. Im nervous but seriously considering giving this a chance. Congratulations on the success of your relationship.
@@tamikascales888 Same ages we started !!!
Running his own business shows that he understands responsibility, that’s a good sign, and only the two of you can know how well the dynamics line up.
To have, or not have kids, is the larger consideration for age gap couples, in my opinion and if you are both on the same page with that, there is no reason this union cannot evolve into a long-term, happy relationship.
If you are young at heart, by a decade, and he is mature by a decade, there is no age gap at all anymore!
It’s nice to hear from others who are on the same journey and I wish you both continued happiness and all good things in your lives together.
I'm crushing hard on a woman who's probably 15-20 years older than me.. I never thought I would crush like this ever again, here goes nothing and wish me luck lol
I hope all is going well. I'm crushing on a young man 14 years younger than me lol. I'm 39.
You got it 🎉
Im crushing on 24 younger see saw me at our boys football field ❤❤❤ im liking it hopefully it goes well
W here who has always been exclusively into guys much younger than myself. Currently crushing on a guy possibly 30 yrs younger but he will think I’m 15 yrs older max. I look very, very young. It may be a freak out for him but I am a decent, gentle & honorable person ‘ think he is, too. I think he’s interested but we’ll see. Best of luck & love to you.
update?
Today, it's men in their 30's that are loving women in their 50's.
And as a single 51 year old - I'm loving this dynamic!!
Would you date a 26 years old guy? 😅
@aligenc659 I don't think that many in their 20's are mature enough for an older woman. Your 20's are all about exploring, learning about life and adulthood, it's a huge learning curve as you develop and start to learn who you are and what you want to do in life as you approach 30 and beyond.
Connection is paramount, when you are truly connected, age is just a number.
@@kgbintimacycoachso if 26 is young for you then what would feel about 23 haha? I turned 23 a bit over a month ago
I'm age 36, most of the time I'm dealing with women in there 50 definitely.
They communicate better, are more open minded & bring less drama or head ache.
Don't get me started on the secs 😅
Totally false. Statistics refute your comment completely.
Most men prefer younger women and women overall prefer older men. A society that encourages unnatural unions is bound to sterylity, decay and to its own disappearance.
In Germany we have a saying: "You learn sailing on old ships" This referrs to the same relationship dynamic 😅
In Belgium we say: the best soup is made with an old pan and a young carrot.
You are all blue pilled.
😂😂😂😂
That's nasty. Ever look inside a grilled cheese sandwich?😮😢
Lol
My husband is 7 years younger than me. We've been married for 22 years and have 4 children. We are from different nationalities. We are an orthodox religious family. It has worked out so far. We have many things in common too.
7 jears? Thats not a age gap.
Your story is truly inspiring, I want to know more about how you guys got together and when you started having kids.
@@romancox5386 It is one. Not every couple has to be 10 years or more apart. Stop trying to dictate people's relationships.
@@romancox5386 Certainly could be when you're in your teens and 20's but beyond that into the more mature adult years, it's barely a blip & not even noticeable.
When I was 24 I had a girlfriend who was 37. I'm now 56 pushing 57. It was one of the best things that ever happened to me. 💓
I’m 21 and she’s 29, we’re currently in a long distance relationship, I can’t wait to see her again. I miss her 😔.
i happened to be with a 38 year old lovely woman when i was 24, i was really desperate for a relationship, love, sex and learning experience.
She would never hesitate to correct me if i do a mistake and always was patient with everything, even though she was in tough time of her life. Though our relation only lasted few months, it taught me a lot of things which made me a better man.
That's what's up. That's definitely a blessing
an older woman did the same for me, i strongly value her to this day.
"She would never hesitate to correct me if i do a mistake"
That makes you a young sucker and kind of a simp. Can't believe you clowns are endorsing this shyt.
@@eQuariuz What? Isn't that a good thing? How is is simping
U were lucky. I only had some sparse and negligible dating episodes throughout my 20s, so I could never acquire the sexual experience a man must have by my age. Now, I'm in my early 30s, but without a single big lifetime achievement under my belt (when I was about to take off, the pandemic kicked my ass so hard that I'm still picking up the pieces to this day). In practical terms, it means that my sexual market value hasn't really changed since I was 18. But, unlike my 18 self, my sex drive has plummeted, my gray hair is starting to pop up and get noticeable from a short distance, and I'm far less optimistic about life, society, and relationships (especially romantic ones). Despite all that, I still refuse to lower my standards. I still refuse to date low-quality women. I still refuse to stick my jimmy in some old dry-ass pu$sy. I'm already fine driving a 1994 Toyota with faded body panels, bald tires, and 200k miles on it, which means that I don't need more old, depreciated crap in my life. Having that said, I'm seriously flirting with the idea of staying alone until the end if I fail to improve my current situation.
My Dad & Mum were 10 years apart& you're right! 55years married He was at her bedside even at death & still speaks of the treasure trove of wisdom she's left him because her patient manner in life
I’m 44 and my husband is 34. We met when I was 35, had our children when I was 37 and 40. It was unexpected, I did not initially seriously consider his advances, but I’m so grateful I have him a chance.
I think the dynamic works well for child-free couples especially. If age is literally the only major difference and otherwise the values and expectations are similar, why not go for it?
Agreed if he doesn’t want children and is ok if you already have some.
I was 23, she was 44. Classic she had me come over "to fix something" scenario, led me to a bedroom and threw herself at me. She was and remains the most talented woman I've ever been with.
Damn
Okay reverse the roles now
@@klopcodez this! Haha
@@milescivis1018 Shows you how corrupt men have been conditioned to be. Calling pevertic behavior good or evil good
@@klopcodez huh? What’s pervertic?
My partner is 23 years younger than me. We originally got together when he was 24 and I was 47. Now I am 67 and he is 44. We were apart for 15 years and got back together a few years ago . Always an amazing partnership. We accomplish a lot together. And 20 years of partnership and friendship we really do know each other …
Our relationship has always been very sexual and is better now than ever …best sex in my whole life ☺️
Great to hear. Me and my wife been together literally 8 years now and we have 4 kids as well. Even our relationship has always been sexual from day 1 but we fell for each other as well. I'll be turning 35 soon and she wll be turning 46. It's great to hear other people are happy with being in relationships with young men like us because I've always preferred older women even back when I was in school. I lost my virginity to a older woman that's why I loved being with them from day 1. Sexual or romantic either way I still enjoyed being with older women than women my age
So glad to learn of your happiness. My age gap is 27, and I was mystified how it could be… it is inexplicably the most spiritual, harmonious, and mature relationship I’ve known!
Sex at 67?! Where do they provide health services this great?
@@aushshsushshsh5224What do you mean?
This is such a nice story, wishing you a lot more happiness to come :)
I have been reading all the comments. Delightful
I’m 78 my boyfriend is 55. He and I both had previous marriages. Neither one was a good marriage. He treats me like a queen. He loves me, more than my previous husband. We agree on so many things. He’s a Christian, and my previous husband was not. That means a lot to me.
poor guy. i feel sorry for him.
@@UrsaBella Don't worry! You don't need to feel sorry for anyone in this situation!
God that's rude @@UrsaBella
@@CosmicHarmonyUnveiled i was pretty mild actually. At 55 a man is still pretty young. He might be waiting on some inheritance. Not much else to do with a 78 yo.
@@UrsaBella you don't know that. It's just how you think about it and so is a reflection of you. someone at 55 could be very in love with someone who is 78. I've seen bigger age gaps. You don't believe it because you could not Yourself and would only have selfish motives yourself if you were in the same position. That's why you carry that opinion
The woman who would eventually become my wife was 14 years older than me. We were EMT/Paramedic partners working EMS together for decades.
I knew Penny for 43 great years. We lived together for 30 years, married 15 of them (I was her second husband).
Unfortunately, she passed away suddenly in 2020. I can tell you they don't women like her anymore.
But life goes on.
I want a young one☝️
The reason for this type of relationship is that men on the emotional side seek stability and trust. We suffer trauma and damage from our mothers' wombs. Only maturity and experience can make us resolve or learn to deal with it. Many will not make it. Many will. The young, romantic man is looking for a more mature woman who has achieved this. It's not just a matter of age. It's his innermost yearning, as women have an easier time with emotional intelligence, especially when they're truly mature.
Bingo. I want someone I can trust and rest with. I know I still have a role to play, but I was shocked at how calming this lady made me feel. 8 year age gap. I'm actually hopeful. lol
It boils down to:if it works FOR BOTH of you, then nothing else MATTERS 😂❤
June you look so charming :) Are you maybe single?
My husband was 40 and I was 56 when we met.
We had a fabulous marriage until he died aged 52.
We never wanted children - I had 3 adult children - he didn’t want any.
Most of the men who want to date me now are younger than I am.
I'm a 28 year man and is about to start dating a 40 year woman. I been single for a while so I am a bit nervous but she makes me so happy!!
@@rulingstone123 lol! Is that right?
@@twoleftfeet4089 don’t listen to him 😊
@@silverlining6259 oh I aint lol
@@rulingstone123 if it doesn't so what nothing lasts forever
@@rulingstone123 I’ve been with my younger man for 20 years now, your just jealous he sounds so happy
I am 72 and my partner will be 40 this month. We have been together for three yrs.
super
Is was 23, my wife 32. I‘m 40 now and we‘ve a son (16) and a daughter (14). I couldn't be happier. This constellation can also lead to stable, long-lasting relationships
I'm 35 and my husband is 25. He is an amazing man and we have a great relationship/friendship.
❤perfect
So this is basically just a nice, professional way to say older women should come to terms with being fun and practice for younger men until the younger man increases his sexual market value enough to get the more desirable, younger woman. Sounds like short term gratification that can lead to long term issues (for the woman mainly).
LOL That’s what I was going to say. I’d never date younger because it won’t last. I’ll stick with an older guy. 😆
There are psychological, financial, and social dangers for men which is why this is dangerous for men. Older women with kids are even more dangerous for men, so, it is not short-term gratification but long-term enslavement and social stigma.
@@thecarnivorefix No, but they are more stable, generally, than a younger guy with an older woman. Unfortunately, nature has been cruel to women as far as how long they are found to be physically attractive to men, then there is also the fact that they stop ovulating around their 40s or 50s, or at the very least have significantly increased chances of having a child with issues if they still can ovulate, while men can stay fertile well into old age, though with diminished "seed" quality.
Most guys probably don't think consciously about having kids with the women they sleep with, but their instincts will always take that into consideration, and our instincts have more control over what we do or don't like than most people seem to realize.
I'll have to disagree based on my personal situation. I was 20 and my wife was 26. We've been deeply in love and together for 14.5 years. I think for a relationship to last there's really only two variables that count. 1. do you truly love each other and it's not just lust. 2. putting in the effort to communicate and work through your issues together.
well yes
Currently, I am seeing a man who is 30 yrs younger. It is not all about sex. We enjoy each other’s company. We have fun together. We have great communication. We never argue and allow each other to be ourselves, as well as, give each other space. He is the kindest and most thoughtful & respectful man I have dated. Will it last? We don’t know…we take it one day at a time.
I have been in a relationship for three years with a significantly younger man. He was 22 and I was 45 when we met. At first it started out as a casual FWB situation, but it turns out that we have so much chemistry beyond amazing sex. I’m pretty much expecting this to run it’s course as he matures into wanting a family phase of his life; however, he insists that something like that won’t happen with him. He’s deeply in love with me and keeps insisting that there’s a real forever future with me. Right now, we’re in a very happy place, so I want to just enjoy it as is for however long it is. If it’s a bridge to nowhere, so be it 😅
@Stefan / Educated Tyrone Lately it has been exclusive.
@Stefan / Educated Tyrone We’re satisfying each other. Beyond amazing sex, we legit have real chemistry together.
@Stefan / Educated Tyrone she’s crazy man look other different comments this account made
Gotta love nuttin' in a talented cougar.
Keep in mind that he will change his mind when he gets older. So don't do something foolish like marry him, otherwise he's going to feel trapped when he's older.
I had a 15-year age gap in both directions and the relationship with a younger guy felt much easier and more fun. It depends on what each person is looking for. I wouldn't seek marriage with a younger guy, but dating and enjoying each other's company, mind blowing intimacy (both physical and emotional) are totally worth it. It's the older guy who pointed out my age (thirties) and the younger guy only complimented me.
We think that The young girls are funier.. The fact is that People bring traumas with them. But sometimes different ages bring different values...
Yet both didn't work out 🤔
Unfortunately women don't have the ability to have intamacy, or empathy, compassion, loyalty, respect, kindness. It's just biological, you can't expect those things from women.
Why not marriage? Don't sell yourself short
Older men do not seem to be much fun for the most part. Usually negative and bringing one's happiness down. I see it as a oxytocin and cortisol experience. I try to stay away from the older man cortisol experience.
I hate the dynamic with younger women. They expect you to lead but if you don't do it exactly how they want if you're the had person. It almost seems like an way to avoid accountability on their part.
This
@@animelvr99 ??
@@carlosdixan112 i was just agreeing with emphasis bc you summed it up perfectly
@@animelvr99 Thanks. Wish you a great day !
@@carlosdixan112 thanks! Same to you. Keep ya head up for the rest of the year.
I mean, I'm pretty sure a lot of men in their 20s can agree.
Its the lack of Mind games, emotional maturity and confidence that makes Older Women much more attractive.
Good luck seeking that with younger women
I have a 26 yo cousin that since his early 20s has been consistently dating women in their 40s (hot women, tho). I used to think it was weird, given that, aside from Mariah Carey and Toni Braxton, I've never been attracted to older women at all. But after this video, his strategy begins to make sense to me.
Let's not forget the soul connection ... and soul does not care about age . Thank you for this great video in praise of older women . Every single woman is heading that way nothing to be scared about ! Behind Every older women ... there is a younger women hiding behind the cover !!!.
TBF, the law does though...
thank you I feel that way....I cant identify with my age..and this podcast/video has been illuminating..I cant find a man my age that I can love and admire and have fun
My 2 sisters and one of my cousins are all older than their partners. 10, 16 and 18 years difference. They’ve all been together for well over 10 years and 2 of them are married. It works for them, they’re all very happy.
As a 46 yr old woman I co-sign this message. Y’all I been out here living my BEST life with these 28-32 yr olds 😂
😂😂😂
I met a guy at the gym he’s 32 I’m 41 I’m so nervous about the age difference
True, but I have to say when you hit menopause, they will disappear.
These are "for now" men. Most of them will abandon older women once that woman goes into menopause or has her looks start to fade. Men always trade in for younger models. The only one that I know who didn't died recently at the age of 47 while his 62 year old female partner lives on. It also helped that neither one wanted children. But most young men in their 30's will watch their older women lose their looks while they age and look distinguished. They are mostly just "for now" men. They aren't really keepers. But I say, have some fun with them! Just don't fall in love.
that's perfectly fine with me lol. @@MeMeVoyageOf
I have read a bunch on these types of relationships. Usually, the reason for separation is the 'children' issue. But usually, these relationships work out. And I'm not talking about young men in their 20s who just want a sex partner so they can 'learn'. I'm referring to adults who are both financially secure, emotionally intelligent, mature. It's like any relationship; if it satisfies emotional, physical, sexual needs, then why not?
Ss long as the female isn't 40 yet she can have kids with a younger dude. It's possible for a female to get pregnant over 40 though I don't recommend it. Not everyone wants crib midgets.
Agreed
Statistically they don't last. In the US roughly 78% of those relationships don't last more than 5 years and are 3 times more likely to end in divorce than couples of the same age or ones where the man is 3-7 years older. 60-90% of men would date an older woman but only 14% would actually consider marrying them. In the words it may be fun and exciting for both but won't last for a healthy and have kids together or simply just die old together happy ending.
@@jordy885 not everyone is looking to get married or have kids plus there's always adoption
"men in their 20s who just want a sex partner so they can 'learn'" That is a really stupid assumption. Most men in 20's look for love and marriage more than men in their 30's. But probably not with 40 year old women.
Im 26, had a relationship with a 36 year old woman for 6 months and it was a very good experience. We had a matching sexual drive and generally i had a better time than with younger girls.
Also they are more open not gonne lie 100 times hotter …
@@anmazool725 and they got a schedule to keep, so they'll give it you earlier and not lead you on until 2am
@@MarvelousSeven true true men and also the best thing good body look you ger woman they all fat and high body count bcs they have the new generation life style..
Lol you probably got rejected by younger women and older was your only option. Disparaging younger women is a cope.
@@thedieseldietyou're so negative. It seems you can't accept people enjoying themselves
I must be weird. I’d like an older or younger woman who is a nice person, willing to give and take, and isn’t critical and judgmental. Drama is exhausting.
We accumulate trauma and damages since our birth. Only maturity and experience can somehow resolve this or at least deal with it. Many people will not make it. Others will. You are looking for a lady who achieved this.
100% same here. I'd add trust to the list.
When I was 30 I had a two year relationship with a 41 year old. The sex was mind blowing and she did teach me a lot. But she was also a narcissist and was capable of being incredibly cruel. I'm now around the age she was then and I would never treat anyone like that or allow myself to be treated like that. But back then, I was love sick.
Sounds like my ex lmao
Well that had nothing to do with her age. Plenty of young people are awful people.
I met my man 7 years ago he was 47 & i was 74..we're still together im now80 & he 53. He loves being in my company & i love his company..
Just came across this video which really caught my eyes. Very interesting indeed. I'm almost 14 years older than my husband we've been married for almost 17 years and we have a 16 year old daughter. We have a loving and great relationship and I have no regrets 😊😊
I’m 39 and dated a guy who was 28 who just wanted to use me for short term gratification- idk I think it works out for some people but I also feel like a lot of younger guys are mostly in it for the short term
Im 35 an my Girlfriend is 62, we are a couple since almost 10 Years. And never ever could have happen anything better to me
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An older woman, here, with a younger man, we had a child together, and we're still together after 30 years. We are not competitive with each other and support each other in everything. Before meeting my young guy, I was in a relationship for a few years with an older man and I felt like I was always in a competition and never quite measuring up. I highly recommend older woman/younger man relationships. They are a lot of fun.
Well….I’m 44 and my guy is 37….it’s a GREAT dynamic! We are actually the best for each other sexually,spiritually and mentally.
I bet the sex is fire,
7 years may be technically older, but it's not even slightly unusual. It would have to be more than 10 years to be worth discussing and greater than 20 to even raise eyebrows these days. 7 years is barely an age difference or lifestyle difference, if both of you are out of college!
Thats basically same age
@@joleokach Noooo, I am GenX he is a Millennial. 78 vs 85 and trust me, we both see the difference in some situations. But it works.
@@lr5221 7 years is still big age gap
when I was around 35 I was dating mid 20's for not particular reason. It just so happened that I clicked with that age. I look and get guessed at least 10years younger than I am anyway. My husband is 6 years younger than I, which isn't all that much of an age gap. He was 29 and I was 35 when we met. It is absolutely the best relationship I have ever had. On all levels. We've realized that we do not want kids, so me being almost 45 now and him closing up on 39 is really not an issue. In his own words, he is still absolutely smitten with me. I sometimes catch him staring at me with that lost in thoughts face and then just goes "how am I so lucky"
I am 65 year old woman dating a 49 year old man. I tried warning him off, but he said he thought I am beautiful and wanted to date me. We are both past childbearing! And since I want a sexual relationship, he is happy with me.
My first OFFICIAL relationship was with a 24yr old woman, and I was 16. She was the most kind, caring, emotionally nurturing woman I’ve ever met. She also never took any bullshit and ALWAYS called me out when I was wrong; and she always made me feel better whenever I got into my emotional rage episodes about the way other people are in general. She literally changed who I am and made me better. I’m 28 today, and I still think of her. Brenda, I’ll probably never find another woman like you again..
was the age of consent 16 where you lived
@@mitchellmartinsky2299 No; But in the end it doesn’t matter. I have friends today who are well into their 20’s who dated girls who are 15. Age gaps like that are much more common than most are aware. I only wish I was as strong and mature back then as I am now, I’d be in a happy and stable relationship and not trying to date the cesspool of girls we have now. The older truly can make younger ones grow a conscience and be better, just as Brenda did for me. It’s thanks to her that I’ve never truly fell into a dark place. I always think of how disappointed she’d be in me if I did.
Do not catch the feels. There are many Brendas bro, dont you fucking sweat it.
@@samuelmontenegroserniotti7146 No she truly was one of a kind. I’m the one who messed the relationship up. I messed around with another girl and just generally started treating Brenda like shit. I began not caring how she felt. We made up a couple years later but haven’t heard from her since. I Haven’t ran into a woman like her yet, but I will keep trying. She always told me for every 100 bad people there’s always that 1 good person. Being the asshole kid I was, I thought that statement was stupid, but quickly realized what she meant.
@@AceKite00 If you treated her like shit is because you didnt love her anymore. And you are just sad that she knew better. If she didnt left you wouldnt realize this, and you would have treated her like shit to this day.
This means: this was the best outcome for yourself, because it makes you grow as a man.
Remember: You cant replicate old happyness. You will never be happy the same exact way. But there are many, different ways to be happy. The time will come when you will look in the mirror and see a happy man, in a different world.
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I Agree!
It’s a natural match up in bigger cities or with a a particular lifestyle. Men really need to be admired and strangely enough an older woman will admire a younger man more than a younger woman will. Men feel competitive with younger women, but less so with older women. She also puts younger guys down less. But this dynamic really happens with an emotionally advanced younger guy.
I'm 25. I'm starting it's best to give up on women my age and embrace the older women around me. It could be worst, after all.
Older women have less value, can't pull what they use to this is why they are easier.
@@jetsetradio7715 Older women have more value than older men. Men value sex more than marriage😂 Older women are generally more attractive and ostracized less. Most old men do not make enough money to attract anyone
@@aubreyjames8795 once the eggs are all gone from the carton they are less valued why do you think people like Leonardo Dicarpio only go after women under 25? Sure poor men are less valuable at any age but lot of men get a bigger networth over time throughout their careers.
@@jetsetradio7715 Weak statement. Notice that Leo isn’t impregnating anyone. He’s not looking for eggs. He’s looking for a vibe. Young models with zero experience. He gets to play their first real BF over and over. Majority of men will not earn (in their lifetime) enough to be of value to a woman.
This is hilarious , this is still such a taboo subject, people can handle the fact that some younger men love older women and some older women attract younger men, yes the sex is great and the love and friendship can be too , if it’s not for you , that’s all good but why have a negative opinion , cos it’s not your life and it’s works for plenty of people alot do no matter what you all think , it’s happening a lot more than you realise
What's even crazier is society has been so conditioned to accept the older man younger woman dynamic that the younger man older woman dynamic is ALWAYS met with negative commentary....I hate it!
Well said ❤️❤️❤️🥰🌹
A younger man with older woman= can't get someone their age which =low value.
@@thedieseldietas a woman in my twenties I think it's cool that men my age date older women. In my experience I've seen they are the best quality guys as well 😂 I want older women to teach me their ways
@@durpnurp9693
I don't understand!?
Why would you want to lose potential mate to competition?
What do you get out of this?
My husband is 20 yrs younger we just get along well. We've been married 8 years, and there have been bumps along the road, but he really makes me happy. I did think we were going to have a short-term relationship, but we stayed together.
I totally agree with you. But I'm a man of 73 who discovered a woman of 91! She dresses, acts and looks like a movie star the way she appears to the world! She and I have experienced amazing sex and have the wonderful temporary relationship that is mentioned on this episode. But, I have recently found my future partner who is 62 and my older lover wishes me all the best. She is actively dating other men. Having met her for the past four years has shown me how to best live life.
This is the most fascinating TH-cam comment I’ve ever read..!
@@enarjey9894 Amazing things happen when you aren't a jealous person who believes dating entails ownership over other human beings.
Good sir, I’m happy for you and your new love, but this comment perfectly describes the issue with these arrangements. You had some fun with a fabulous older woman but found someone younger than you who you have described as your “future partner”.
That’s the woman you want to truly be with, and she will have the benefit of being with one man- you. While the older woman is “dating other men”.
As I was saying in another comment, older women can find love if they continue to focus on dating men older than them. Being the older woman rarely leads to something permanent.
Much luck to you and your new lady!! I wish you all the best. ❤
@@shin-ishikiri-no Thanks for the affirmation.
Best to you
@@shin-ishikiri-no That’s right! I’m interested in learning more about this 91 year old woman, though!
My wife is 12 years older than me, 27+ years married, one son from the marriage. A Jack and Queen can be a lot of fun; no King needed.
Same here going on 8 years and she got me to move to Japan while still learning Japanese.
Goodness dude. You never got her best years and only got one child. Waste.
Wow Natty Patty you are shallow, some women improve with age (myself included) and cant help it when we all of the sudden find that younger men are interested. Just have to say, my younger years were not my best. Congrats Don Franklin!
@@nattypatty3667 no it isn't, one kid is more than enough
@@nattypatty3667what a idiotic comment
Back in college, I would occasionally go salsa dancing. I was a complete beginner (which is awful if you're a man) and I can say with certainty that the older ladies were BY FAR more pleasant learn and practice with than the younger ones. They had such a sweet and fun-loving attitude and were so much more willing help me learn the moves.. as opposed to the younger women who typically develop an insanely cold and stuck-up attitude the moment they realize you aren't a professional dancer lol.
This is actually true. I'm 36 now, just started salsadancing. But I realize that a lot of men feel insecure doing so, so I am patient. I actually danced with some younger men and it was fun.
Keep going Dante! I can certainly relate.. remember this: “salsa is hard to start but easy to change, and bachata is just the opposite - easy to start but hard to change.”
Think of it as flying a plane. The takeoff part can be intimidating, but once you’re in the air you can get very creative (turns, spins etc…)
I don’t see myself doing this when I’m older. I get seriously attached to the one I pair-bond with.. I don’t get how people just have casual relationships and sex. To just be used and thrown away for a younger piece.. no thanks.
As young man, I am not selfish to leave someone for someone younger. Those men are losers.
It depends on the young man's past. I didn't have my 'f boy' phase so to speak, until I was hurt in the first relationship I made myself emotionally vulnerable in. If the man is younger and has been hurt before then he's less likely to make another deep attachment, especially to an older woman.
"Pair bond" is not a thing. This is a men's rights talking point to make it seem like women are encoded to a man. Don't buy into that nonsense.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet If a woman knows herself & her own particular emotional & physical responses in a romantic r’ship, WhoTF has the right to say otherwise? This isn’t about politics; it’s the natural thing for a woman’s biological makeup to be designed for loyalty & nurturing for obvious reasons. Now after those yrs. pass, other interests may take hold, and that can be natural, too.
You are. 💯. Right no messing
Whew, this really helps. Maybe my friends and I can relax, realizing our boyfriends just haven't been born yet! Lol
Hilarious 🍪
I think Epstein probably thought something along those lines. X'D
*Jokes aside* , I don't know if you should wait tho. In this argument, he was saying that dating older women is good for MEN because it allows them to get some decently hot women and play with them for a while as practice. Practice that will come in handy when they're successful and can dick down a young girl.
I'm a 25yo male rn but I'm personally feeling a ton of urgency to find someone. I embrace the complete opposite of the modern transactional dating culture. I want to find a deep and innocent relationship and grow with my girl. I think it would really be a shame to only find a partner once I've lost a lot of my innocence, naivety, excitement and energy. It seems so sad to be beaten down and lose some of the spark of life.
Next stop.
Netflix. Cat. Ice cream. Alone
Why any women wouldn’t wife up in their 20’s is beyond me. It’s literally engrained in you to seek an older man to wife you up. Somehow feminism told you to go be a guy. Sleep around. You have time. Get tattoos. Go work 60 hours a week. Babies, what’s that I don’t need no baby. Husband, no I don’t want to be a slave ( yet you’re a slave to your boss 😂 )
Oh well. Try again for the next generation.
disgusting vile human
May those men never cross ways with you. Disgusting.
When I was 24 there was this 49 y/o Chinese women who swooned over me, I honest to God thought she wasn't that old because she had a super youthful demeanor and appearance, smooth skin and was giggly whenever around me. We went on some dates and at one point ending up jumping in a swimming pool together, I guess for whatever reason when we were about to get intimate, she got self conscious for whatever reason. I had good times with her regardless
Yes my husband is 32 im 60 lol but we are already 10 years married still strong
Not me being 39 having at least 50 young men wanting to have a good time💃🏼 This is so true and it’s wonderful and amazing. Enjoy ladies.
Im 40 and my man is 34 and it is a match made in heaven. I usually would be approached by older men but it was love at first sight and I cherish how much he loves me
As long as my boyfriend doesn’t care about the age difference and both sets of parents fully support us. 😊 This has been the best relationship I’ve had. He wasn’t looking 👀 for anyone at the time till he met me. Wasn’t dating anyone for a few years. I’m 48, he will be 26 next month. We met at work btw! He has a great job and doesn’t want children. My children are grown. That is the awkward part though.. Yes, the sexual compatibility is off the chain!
Parents shouldn't be a factor. You're both adults.
Are you still together?
Met love of my life at 55, he was (a very old soul) 30. Never had anything like that, probably never will again. He broke it off, his desire to have kids stronger than this unbelievable connection. I went down a dark night of the soul and spiritual journey which both destroyed me and forced me to re-emerge as my best version yet. I learned what unconditional love really meant and felt like, and for that I say Thanks. For comparing every potential guy to him and failing each one, maybe not...
If the big issue was an inability to have his babies, then that’s not “unconditional love”. There *was* a condition placed on you. Otherwise, there is no doubt that mutually intense love bonds are possible & as one can see in these wonderful, hopeful comments, unconditional love commitments also can occur x
So you guys still married?
I just turned 40 and honestly feel I'm at the perfect time in my life where I just want to enjoy myself , alot of younger men have been hitting on me and I decided to give it a try.. and u hit the nail on the head. We both know what we want out of this. No kids just physical pleasure..
Hi I agree
And the younger guys will do alot more and Try newer things
I love older women. Everything experience wise is just better because of maturity. Sexually, communication, support, care etc etc. I need one right now to hold on to. 💯❤️👌
How old are you?
At 35 I met my wife 47. Beautiful woman inside and out with a PhD. We were both looking for a life partner. We are best friends and still have a lot of fun in and out of the bedroom 21 years later.
wow, i am jealous of you
As someone married to a man 8 years younger than myself (for quite some time now), this was really insightful & interesting. Thanks for sharing.
Once upon a time I was 23 and she was divorced and 32. It lasted about a year. Until I found another woman my own age. It was a pretty good relationship. But it was not primarily sexual. We enjoyed each other's company and had a lot of very similar interests. I found her very easy to talk to. She wasn't overly emotional and was not a whiner and complainer. She did really want to get married again but understood we were not a match for that. She was a good woman and I hope everything worked out well for her. That was twenty five years ago!
Your age difference was not that much. Why not just admit you did not love her.
@@dlandrews1 Or she didn't love him.
You could have build a family had you wanted, stop blaming it on the age difference
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The younger man/older woman dynamic actually has a lot to speak for itself. Among other things, it generally occurs between two gendered classes that are roughly equivalent with respect to their normalized sexual marketplace values. What's more, both parties generally understand that the relationship is fairly short-term, making it one of the most sexually-charged matchups possible. Why this isn't done more often is beyond me. I discuss more in this episode.
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You nailed it.
@@darrenturner3534 Maybe because woman of any age do not like so much free sex.
Women are programmed to receive something in exchange for sex and a younger man do not want to give so much to an older woman.
@@nowhereman7413 Women love sex. You just have to be attractive .
@@darrenturner3534 Yes, but only 5%-10% of men are attractive and those top 5% prefer younger women.
Your video is promoting younger men to use older women as “target practice” without regard for the impact on the older woman’s mental health being used like that.
I would not expect this kind of toxic advice from a mental health professional.
When I was in my mid 20s I smashed cougars all over the northern part of my state. They were always so nurturing and grateful. Such a beautiful thing to think back on. I think it was my mother issues though. Oh that’s gross lol. Is what it is
Yup, you amassed a vast majority of second moms over there, and the best part is you didn't have to actually kill your father to sex your mother up
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This video shifted my mind.
Initially I was thinking men who date older women have mommy issues and are dating a metaphorical representation of their mother but...after seeing the SMV graph, I gained a whole new perspective.
49 male 81 woman. After my two marriages he's teaching me and the sparks fly. He's added so much to my life.
Uhh is this real?
Umm i think maybe mid 60s would be cut off for this dynamic, and that is with a genetically gifted woman taking care of herself. Once we're talking the senior citizen realm - I just don't see how it still works.
@@Scheherazad100 can I ask, and forgive me-- do you still have sex? I'm really curious.
@DuncanL7979 Take half your age then add 7 yrs. That's the youngest age recommended. 81 ÷ 2 = 40.5 years. Add 7 = 47.5 yrs.
And I have plenty of younger 40s something standing in line. I don't want them. Too young.
It does work with a 22 yr.old in the body of an 81 yrs. young seenager and its fantastic. When together age doesn't even exist and we feel great together for however long it lasts.
He's keeping me safe from the stable of guys out there begging me. I'm not ready to really date and happy with what we have.
You don't know what you can have until you put yourself out there.
I choose the man and we either connect or we don't. We connect regardless of age, intellectually, emotionally and sexually.
Part of the secret is enforcing the good in the other person and recognizing the small things they do. Saying thank you every time we meet and how much I appreciate what he does for me.
Still insists on opening the doors for me. Our dates are inexpensive, which I prefer. Sometimes, movies and documentaries on Netflix. The rest you'll never know.
Life doesn't end just because you are 70+. I stay in shape, well groomed, red nails , red lipstick. blonde hair, green eyes, fair skin.
Dressed up to kill to be sexy every day whether I see him or not. Most men I meet call me sexy. A blessing and a curse.
Living my best life ever! Don't knock it till you get the guts to do it.
Older woman know what they want. Don't play games. Uninhibited in the bedroom or wherever. 🙃
@Dare Artes Yes and it's amazing. Don't know what your missing.🙃
When I was young, I only went for older men. Since I've gotten old (much older) I'm only attracted to young men. Most were very attractive to hot, and I am extremely picky. They would treat me like I was super special. They don't have the hang-ups about money, having children, or are needy. Makes things so much more pleasant. Men keep dogging older women as unwanted. Men make things so much about sex. Let me tell you men are also unwanted when they are old. We don't want to deal with someone that may not be functional in the male way. Not wanting to wait and see when or if that blue pill is going to work. Just saying there's always 2 sides to a story.
@@mrparsons9081 What I like is a complex issue. I see men dog other men out as much as women do other women. I notice other men saying they must be a mama's boy or they are just in it for the sex. It's just not the case I have seen. I will say I enjoy a man that can take a deep dive into what they believe and why and try to understand myself as well. I pretty much think a man can never go wrong with making a woman laugh. Not looking for a comedian but just generally is able to make me laugh. Don't really hear many talk about this but laughter has to be something so healing to the soul and the benefits are unmeasurable. Ppl aren't laughing much these days. So sorry you lost your friend. I've been fortunate not to have lost a good friend yet. Hope I don't have to.
You were doing so well until you started with the cope.
No lady, being in my 40s is FUCKING AMAZING. Im lifting every day and i have access to all the hot 20something ass I can tolerate.
You're the reason the blue pill was invented. Young women are nature's blue pill.
Tell us you are a childless and husbandless cat lady without telling us🤣
Nah. You are just a woman that hasn't learned to relate to a man in a healthy mature way. It's just about sex and attraction.
It's crazy because I'm 22 and I always find myself drawn to older women
Because you lack masculinity. You need a mother figure to fill that void.
@Natty Patty you ever thought oh maybe I like mature women lol? Of course not all older women aren't mature, but the ones I do find attractive are mature.
and my mom is very mature so I look for the maturity in other women
@Gio Let me give you some game young buck. When you have looks, status, and social competency, you'll exude masculinity. This will make 90% of all women fall in line with you even the immature ones and those supposedly not ready to settle. Older women quite frankly have less options and time so they fall in line more out of necessity and are willing to compromise on things they can no longer attract. This is why they appear more "mature" because they're forced to adapt to dating market place. I'm an in shape multimillionaire, and I've had young women that would be classified as "immature" tell me they'd stop their ways to be with me. Women don't miss opportunities to be with high caliber men. Older women don't provide, protect, and have a smaller window of beauty and fertility. It's low ROI other than convenience. Keep working on yourself bro and get yourself a young woman that'll ride with you when you're ready.
Same but just for sex
I sent this interesting perspective to my son who is 23, and is seeing a 43 year old woman. Some good things to think about.
How incredibly kind & loving of you to consider this! I wish for happiness & contentment- for all of you to come 🥰
To be honest in the world were living in . If two people find happiness. Let them enjoy it all. Were in a very unstable world now. Be happy u lovers out there .😁
Excellent presentation on the subject. Thank you 🙏
You are amazing, thank you for all your great content! Expanding and challenging my thoughts, I appreciate :)
I'm female, and I don't understand why guys old enough to be my dad or sometimes older would ask me out on a date, it's not like I was giving them hints that I'm interested. I think society has programmed us too much that it's okay for a guy 20 yrs plus older to approach a much younger woman. And to frown upon women 5 yrs and above to have a younger partner. This has to change.
Agree, it's socially acceptable for men to go after much younger women. It's seen as a win for them. How can you be attracted physically attracted to someone who looks like your mother or father? I married a guy 6yrs younger. Was never an issue until menopause........
I've had younger unmarried men knocking but I never wanted to 'ruin' them. I couldn't give them a family. In some cultures, there's concerns from family and it can get complicated
A relationdhip based on just libido can be so hurtful and damaging on an emotional level, especially for a mature woman. Better look for soul connection+erotic chemistry.
Exactly what happened to me.
You look so charming :) Are you single maybe?@@KmNry