It’s crazy that being a baddie/ doing the baddie aesthetic doesn’t include natural hair. Only straight buss down booty cheek length hair. I’ve been natural all my life and I love it.
This irks me!! Ain't nothing I love more than wearing my lashes and having my big fro!! It's baddie asf 😍 but I had to see it for myself cuz I only saw natural hair with natural makeup. Like some of us wanna be glam with the hair that grows out of our scalp 🤦🏽♀️
I don't care about a baddie. I've been wearing my natural hair (no weaves, dyes, wigs) for 14 years. I've gotten better and more successful in every area of my life since.
Congratulations, but it doesn’t make you any better than a baddie and it doesn’t make the baddie better than you, I’m so sick and tired us BM claiming to embrace our natural selves at the expense of Downing others, and to the content creator of this video, why even compare yourself baddies or mention them at all, why can’t you stand and embrace yourself in your own existence.
natural hair will always make you stand out the most! it's a secret I've discovered that most haven't yet. a bw in her natural hair owns the room. especially if it's bigger or longer or at the very least, healthy. a small neat fro is absolutely stunning as well. natural hair just wins. unique beauty
I was thinking about that this morning. In a room full of carbon copies in white and brown with he same hair, your natural hair stands out and sparks interest.
@@Joyinthemornexactly what I was thinking I don’t knock others but I don’t want to look like everyone else with the lace fronts and baby hairs down to my eyebrows. The most I will do Is a drawstring ponytail and it’s a natural one to match my hair.
Also, Wearing your natural hair helps to weed out men who suffer from self - hate!! I have been struggling to wear my hair lately. I’m growing it out and it’s about as long as yours and very curly and something about wearing the Afro and being plus sized just made me feel like I look like someone’s Middle Aged mom! This video was on time for me
omg this is such a timely comment bc I was thinking about how fashion and style affect the aesthetic of me wearing my afro. I find myself screen grabbing inspo of outfits with short hair (twa, afro, pixie cuts, etc) so I can get inspo to look cute and fresh with my short hair.
@@LizNeptune I totally feel you… I’m trying to remember that everyone doesn’t need to look the same. It’s hard when you look like the exact opposite of what’s in style but being true to who we are never goes out of style ❤️❤️❤️
Can’t nobody tell me I’m not a baddie with my natural hair. I have micro locs down my back, a gym body and a pretty face. I may not have instagram but I definitely have the aesthetic 😂
I love microlocs but I do believe hair that hangs long like that still gets a pass over fros and hair that grows outward and kinky instead of straight down. Microlocs often get the same love as braids and extensions due to their length, especially when long. Nevertheless, congrats on your growth!
I have microlocs that's past my shoulders and 2 years old but have seen a woman exactly like this when I went to Publix and I was in awe. She was thin and toned with butt length microlocs , looked like she was in her 30s or 40s, and I was like "I need to be her when I grow up"
I love this video. I just wanted to point out that another reason it's important to see and interact with your natural hair is that the state of your natural hair can be an indication of underlying medical health. When we don't interact with our natural hair, we sometimes don't notice some signs of poor health that others that understand their hair in it's natural state may notice.
So true! I went and got some lab work done just because I noticed my hair was thinning. If I didn’t interact with my natural hair, I wouldn’t of found out some vitamin deficiencies.
I have literally never felt threatened by women who wear weaves. Ever. I don’t think that weaves truly flatter black women. The boring flat hair look with the greasy edges, has been over done so much all of them look exactly the same. Like robots. I actually enjoy the fact that I have a tapered fro. I always look amazing in pictures, and my tapered fro makes me look elegant, ethereal, natural, and sensual. The baddie look is so over manufactured that these women don’t even look real they look like artificial brat dolls. To some extent, I actually benefit from them all looking the same because it makes me stand out. I actually look forward to growing out my hair so in a world where everyone is fake, flat and boring, my hair will be home grown from my scalp and full of life.
To be fair with regards to the male gaze, men find a variety of things attractive. Many of them persue and marry the same women they swear to hate. They claim to love natural hair, features and bodies. Then when the natural queen walks by, he makes fun of her or ignore her altogether for the insta baddie he calls fake. How many times have we seen a man point to a woman who has a face full of make up and call her a natural beauty lol😂
That used to be my experience early on. I was never enough. At that time, men were all about Hispanic women and black women who emulated out looked like them. I eventually got married to a man who loves me for me and all my natural hair lol, twists and all. Now I can't even go grocery shopping without black men trying to pick me up. I didn't change 😂😂
i see more men growing out their hair more brent faiaz big sean to name a few and it's beautiful many men have made it clear that natural hair is a preference but they wouldn't stop dating women who aren't natural i've seen so many black women wear their natural hair on their wedding day so all men can't be lying ive seen men defend a girl who went to prom with a high puff after another black woman called her basic for not wearing weave not to mention men with locs often are with women with natural hair
@@joimonae4090 That's why I say men like a variety of things. Of course there are men who love natural. Then there are men who insist they love natural hair in public and will beg a woman to buy a lace front. Many women have been speaking out against the "we love natural hair" black men who are asking them to get wigs and relaxers. I've seen social experiments where a black woman will put a picture of herself with natural hair and one with a wig. The we hate wigs crowd will swipe right on her lace front and white men will love the natural hair most. Of course there are exceptions to the rule.
@@joimonae4090 Thinking that blk men growing out their hair is the same as them genuinely loving and accepting women wearing their natural hair, specifically Kinky hair and Short fros is so unintelligent
@@BlossomHigh you really sound like a negative Nancy it’s a beautiful thing to see both black men and women embrace their natural hair in real life not on the internet I see black men with all kinds of black women in Real life ,im not the one to get real life mixed up with social media thank you though
I was struggling so bad with insecurities, not realizing they were wig induced. I threw all my wigs out 6 months ago & I have never felt more free & beautiful. I mostly wear my hair in a top puff. It’s absolutely stunning. So much better than wigs.
@@Curlyhairgirl4Life same girlie, same! I’m more of a streetwear chic. It’s so freakin cute. Even when I do a twist out, step outside, get the most compliments ever. Like damn all I had to do was be me? 😭
Thank you for this video!! I want a world where Black women stop saying “Natural hair is not for everybody”. Also ladies understand that man would love to see you in your natural hair more often than not.
🙄🙄 it's so annoying when men comes to these videos and make it about them. Black women wearing our natural hair should be more about validating ourselves. Not seeking validation from men. Especially the men who degrade us the most. Black men love saying they like natural bodies and natural hair but the women you see them with or see them pursuing the most don't reflect that. Tbh, your opinion shouldn't even matter here.
I’m 17 years old, and I’ve finally realized that I must learn to accept my natural hair. For me, I’ve always been insecure about the fact that my hair isn’t super long and my curls aren’t super defined. I used to wish that I either had straight hair or defined curls. My hair is more of a puff on my head (and my hairs also pretty fine textured), and it always made me feel bad when I only saw girls with the most beautiful thick curls in the natural hair community (back when I first started looking into it on YT). It led me down this path of trying to manipulate my hair to be a different way constantly, but honestly, I’m just tired of it. You’ve encouraged me to wear my hair as is and to stop the over-manipulation, wigs, and paying for braids all the time, and I thank you for that.
I big part of becoming comfortable is finding styles that work for your length currently. I'm always getting compliments when I try out new styles with cute accessories every week or so.
And our hair is literally an extension of our nervous system. Our hair has life to it thats why it defies gravity. Our hair also has melanin in it just how our skin does. And melanin absorbs the sun. So the melanin in our hair is absorbing the sun which makes us more intelligent! Our hair is way more than just hair. They try to make us hate it cause theres alot of good benefits to it. Black hair is DIFFRENT. Im telling you, once you find out the science of yourself NOTHING can get to you! NOTHING can make you feel bad about yourself!
You are a baddie. A natural baddie. when your preview started playing and you came in the shot I had to express that you look gorgeous. 90s actress gorgeous.
Sorry the "plastic grids on forehead" description took me off guard 🤣🤣. In all seriousness tho, I wonder how many black girls have some sort of image dysmorphia because of the way we have to constantly shape-shift just to conform to a certain beauty standard. This year I've given myself the challenge to only wear my natural hair for the next 3 months. I made this decision because the way I would feel when I would remove my wig was just wrong- that wigless version of me wasn't complete in my head. So messed up. I'm really learning a new way to see myself, very different experience- some days I feel absolutely beautiful, other days it's slightly hard ngl. But I'm sticking to my word and confronting any issues that arise day-by-day. Thank you for this video beautiful☺
You’re so very welcome. I remember the plastic forehead days and I truly preferred that look over my real hair. So yes, I think I did have image dysmorphia and wouldn’t be surprised if other girlies felt the same. It got to a point when I had to face all my fears and realize that I was just brainwashed. That’s when the love for who I saw in the mirror grew in a healthy but gradual way. I’m rooting for you on this 3-month challenge! 👏🏾🫶🏾💕
So proud of you!! I know exactly what you mean. When I would take my wigs off in front of the mirror I would almost get like second hand embarrassment for myself. I looked like a completely different person almost scared me lol. You have to get use to seeing the real you and after you realize you are more beautiful without it. Don’t forget you have to talk your hair as well. Pour love into your hair daily affirmations. Everytime you walk by a mirror stroke it kind of like you would a super cute dog. And be like your so pretty today look how thick you are omggg I love my hair.
“If you’re hair is not a certain way then you’re not a baddie and I don’t like that” I agree with it- the great thing about the majority of black women wearing their hair will be seeing our own image and understanding it and seeing the truth in who we are not in an image that isn’t “really us”
I’ve been natural since 2009. But after I had my son in 2017 I literally threw allll my wigs away. Mind you, I’m a cosmetologist. Been doing braids and weaves since I was in middle school. Now after my daughter in 2022…. I will never put weave in her hair nor relax it. She can do that when she’s of age; if she wants. But I want my children to know what real beauty is. I set the standard!! ❤
I got THE MOST compliments and advances from women and men when I wore my natural hair back in Summer 2022! It was crazy! No other hairstyle has ever gotten me that much attention and love. But I think it was because we never see the girls wearing it as much!! ❤
I agree 100%. I think it's imperative that Black women wear their natural hair so we can normalize it and embrace our natural beauty/attract natural/kingly men (if thats what we want!). Black erasure is increasing. Mixed race actors are being called "Black this, Black that." 4C hair is literally non-existent in day to day life where I live (Boston). Everytime I go out, people stare, compliment, remark on my hair and I HATE IT lol like leave me alone. & we get to take back our time. We do not need to be twisted and braided out every day. A 3 day old twist out fresh out the bonnet and with a water spritz is a vibe! If I have last minute plans, I throw on some kinky clip ins and fluff those out too!
The part that touched me the most was when you said we are are the only group of people with this texture so why not show it off”… I started wearing my hair in a blow out and I let it go very naturally over time.. and the people stare like crazy lol I am sure 99% of the stares are of amazement and curiosity! I’ve been natural since 2010.
This video is so well-explained; it should be shared on all social media sites. Never remove this video. It's inspiring the community and giving black women confidence. Thank you.
Hi, Spot on commentary, sis! The IG baddies make a lot of people forget how natural women really look. When I first did my big chop 13 years ago, I received a lot of hate from men but a lot of love from women. It was such a freeing experience chopping my relaxed ends off and letting my hair naturally do what it wants! Men have called me masculine, and i felt the need to wear more makeup at first. Then, one day, i just stopped caring. I look younger when I wear my natural curls. I have never been big on weave, but I have done wigs/crochet. I have grown my hair out, silk pressed, and chopped it off twice more since. This isn't a phase or movement for me it's my life! The algorithm brought me to you. I loved this video so much that I was compelled to comment!
Oh wow thank you for sharing your story! It’s a very important realization that we all go through when we return natural. Glad you loved my content 🫶🏾💗 feel free to stick around!
The enhancements that we add to ourselves are not what makes us beautiful. It’s being *confident* in one’s own skin is what truly makes us attractive. The only time I ever been referred to as unattractive, ugly, and other derogatory names was by insecure individuals. Because they couldn’t buy what made me attractive in bundles or in a bottle. They didn’t know what it meant to be confident and they only knew how to conceal.
I absolutely loved this !!! God gave us our crowns for a reason! Our hair texture is so unique & versatile, I started embracing my natural hair when I started reading up on our history & how much has been stripped from the African American community and further more the black woman is the most imitated !! Our hair comes with so much power & pride, LADIES WEAR YOUR NATURAL HAIR!! Treat wigs & weaves as an accessory not a necessity!
I love this message. I think social media is helping to push Eurocentric standards of beauty and black women are adopting those styles and normalizing it as if it's natural for people of African heritage. Our standards of beauty should not mimic what is natural to white women. I like to tell black people that our hair is something so unique and it's special because we each have our own individual crown atop our heads. Our hair textures defy gravity and grow up toward the sky while people who aren't so lucky have to contend with hair that reaches for the dirt and hangs limp.
I needed this. As a natural hair creator I found myself hiding under wigs most of 2023. I gave myself alot of excuses- time, energy, texture etc. While some were valid I truly lost interest in dealing with my natural hair. Being a 4c girlie with thick full hair can be alot. I also had many bad natural hair experiences in 2023 so wigs became a “safe place”. When i dug deeper it was more than that- i liked the way I looked with straight long hair. Ive made a commitment to wear my hair out more this year and its so liberating. I love my wigs but I need a break!
Loving the vulnerability bc it’s so familiar! Happy to have encouraged you with this video. This natural hair journey is truly a journey but it’s a very rewarding one.
I'm so proud of you for actually admitting the real reason. So many people hide behind excuses and at least you acknowledge that. BTW I love your hair in your pic. Looks so beautiful!
Thank you for making this! In this era so many women feel the need to wear wigs because they don’t like their natural hair. I started wearing wigs when I did my big chop but let’s be real, I live on an island.. it’s too dang hot to wear wigs all the time! I wear my hair in mini twists, braids, twist/braid outs, and low buns and head wraps. I love my hair so much. We have to remember that God created us in His image and we are to love ourselves because of that 🩷
Well said. This topic is part of a larger issue. Do BW really like the way that they look? Are BW confident in their physical appearance as they go out in the world? When you look at the wig wearing 365 days of the year etc and the heavy makeup I think this answers these questions. You look lovely 🥰.
I loveeee wearing my natural shrunk hair. I think it’s important to mention disabilities when discussing natural hair and confidence because even though I love my hair, lupus has affected my hairline so i opt for afro twists to try to cover it.
I’ve learned to love my hair past the “ugly phase” of dreads. I thank his for that phase in my young adulthood years because I grew to love my natural beauty/hair, I learned how to care for and style my hair (even without a retwist, and I don’t do baby hairs) and my confidence shot up once I realized that I am enough.
Listen I’m glad you made this video. I don’t have a problem with my natural hair, I wear it 95% of the time but sadly I notice many Black women do. I’m glad this convo is still being had despite natural hair not being as popular as it was in the 2010s. I’ve been modeling for years, never had an issue attracting men that I also was attracted to (many men of all races love natural hair), I have always felt desired, confident, like a baddie and bold with my natural hair and I love looking exclusive with my afro! There’s something so special about natural hair and I’m glad it’s still being promoted despite wigs and weaves being more popular. Lastly, I love a wig here and there to switch it up, but natural hair is amazing, shrinkage, some annoyances and all lol. Also, I’m glad you mentioned club culture. A lot of this baddie culture ONLY exists in the urban entertainment industry and on social media and that’s it. Not to mention, the club is a terrible place to find quality men. Sure you might be able to get in a section because of pretty privilege, free drinks, but it doesn’t translate to real life the way people want. That’s the space and it is what it is. Women need to learn to get in where they fit in. Even in Miami, there is a desire for the baddie look at certain clubs in South Beach, but in more down to earth spots like Wynwood, natural women are more celebrated.
👏🏾 👏🏾 This conversation was needed! It’s beyond me how black women get shamed for wearing the hair THAT GROWS OUT OF THEIR SCALP😳- 😮💨 my hair story is long but I’ve been natural now and and just enjoying regrowing my hair ❤
I never realized until about a couple of months ago especially now that “being a baddie” is an aesthetic. As an older teenager close to adulthood it’s so easy to get hyper fixated on this aesthetic because it consumes you so much if you allow it too.
You are a real beauty!!! 😍 I have memories as early as 5yrs old get my hair washed, blow dried, occasionally hot comb (with stove top fire and an iron comb) but majority of the time braided. I always loved every step of the process of my Sunday pampering with my Auntie! 🤗 By that age my hair was nearly down to my bottom. I always known my own big poofy hair even now as an adult. Growing up I notice the changes in what was “the thing to do” or what was in. Before I graduated elementary school nearly all my class mates had relaxers and super thin hair. In middle school I saw too many girls my age with faces full of makeup and hair tracks glued in. High school more of the same and now as an adult in her mid 30s everyone looks the same to me with the bat wings dangling from eyelids, unnatural big butts, wigs glued onto heads EVERYDAY, same outfits from Shein and that other company. I always stand out when I’m in public because I have my own hair in it natural state, clean face no makeup, my natural body, my own style. I’m the one everyone is calling plain Jane, because I don’t have all that extra stuff on me. I get laughed at and made fun of for having my natural body, clean face , my own hair, and my own style, by other black people. What I would like other Black women who do wear their own hair and do not look like these man made women on social media to know is, there is no reason to allow the ugly comments to break you and give in to what others want to see you look like, because trust me, once you get behind the psychology of it all, you will understand what it is all about just like I did decade ago. Love and peace 💕🌷
We have to create our own definition of baddie! And that definition should always reflect yourself! We are beautiful with just our natural selves, despite everyone and everything telling you you need extras to be attractive. When you are self loving, self accepting, and not texturist, you live a happier and more peaceful life ❤️ ig baddies don’t reflect the normal African features most black women have. It reflects white Latina women (or how ppl THINK most Latina women look). So black women cosplay as white Latina women with the long straight thick wigs and weave and heavy make up. Personally, I think black beauty is more interesting and ground breaking. Proud to be a black woman.
So beautiful sister. I hope more black women can look at this video and see how regal we look. Can you say that straight hair looks like a bouquet of flowers? No, because it doesn’t, but natural hair does.
honestly, I needed to hear this, even just the title. I actually shaved my head in August and, at first, it was nice because I started getting called Amber Rose, but as my hair started to grow, I felt like I was looking more and more masculine…
ur glowing girl, love the neon green on you it makes your skin tone pop ✨🫶🏽🦋💕🧚🏽♂️. I’m a natural hair girly, I only wear braided protective hairstyles every other month and it helps with my hair growth. but I’ve never worn a wig a day in my life, I’m too scared too due to seeing other girls loose their edges because of the glue on their hairline. thank you for this video! 🫶🏽 we need to bring natural hair back and NATURAL BEAUTY! period
“This is not a Hotep channel” took me out 😂 I know you were being serious but it was the delivery. It’s true that even the subject of natural hair attract certain types.
Been a natural baddie for 20+ years with minimum makeup and a natural body all my life 😘. Transitioning to natural hair/locs was the best decision. You will meet a better men… trust me.
Yes, why not stand out and wear the hair that grows out of our scalp. Since I have stopped relaxing my hair, I have gotten so many compliments. Oddly enough, I have strangers ask if its actually my hair. "It is my hair, kinks and all". I have always shampooed my hair weekly, but twice weekly has proven to be beneficial. I finger coil my strands which takes about two hours; It takes about 30 minutes to dry. Afterwards, I wake up and lift my kinks and get on with the day. I absolutely feel the freedom, come rain, wind, or sunshine.
I’m not a big wig and weave wearing woman but when I first went natural I only wore my hair out in braids. Once I got past the awkward length stage which chin length I wear my hair out all the time.
There's nothing wrong with wearing box braids, cornrows or twist.... because they're Afrocentric hair styles. The problem is wearing waves and white/ Asian women hair that doesn't belong naturally belong to black women.
I always comment it but I just have to say again you're so so pretty like that 90s type of fine girl like I'd take that type of baddie over being a current day baddie for real
I thought this was a much needed video Thank you! What is your nighttime regime for your hair & what do you do to revitalize your hair in the morning? Thanks again!
I've been natural since I was 14 and that process was very liberating for me. I am Afro-Latina so the notion of "Good Hair v Bad Hair" was/is a very big thing. I used to think my hair was "bad" because it didn't do what my mother or my cousins hair did. I relaxed it a lot until I started to learn how to do my own hair. I did experiment with a sew in (first and LAST time) later on after I graduated high school and my hair broke off when I took it down so I big chopped then just kept my natural hair lol. I have locs now and I feel my most authentic self with them! I agree with every thing you said about the uniqueness and beauty of our natural hair...I just wish more of us did too :/
Thank you for making this much needed content! Weaves and wigs have unfortunately had a lot of black women in a chokehold to the point where for some it has created a distorted self image. Most do not recognise it as such when the status quo dictates that to wear anything else would appear "unpalatable" especially in the corporate world and in the dating pool. I really do believe in there being such a thing as a natural "baddie", where a woman's true beauty radiates her essence and is deeply rooted in self-care and self-preservation.
Gorgeous I love the message, when I met my man I would always wear wigs & I wouldnt let him touch my hair crazy!! Now we’ve together 3 years and he LOVES it when we go out and I have my Afro out. I feel confident and powerful asf
Agree with all of this. I do not want a man who doesn’t think I’m beautiful with my natural hair. Period. We are beautiful due to our variety and differences. These baddies are so homogenous. It’s boring. JMO
I love my natural hair but recently fragrances have been giving me headaches all hair products seem to have fragrances in it and I constantly have to wash it out and leave me hair dry. It makes me not even want to deal with my hair and just put braids in it.
I feel as though it’s protective it says she’s gorgeous and has the confidence to be her self.. a lot of men just aren’t ready!! You are gorgeous mama also feel like it attracts the men who are!
Thank you lovely, I have definitely felt invisible by making this choice. Whether it attracts men is none of my business at this point. I am freeeeee! I love it here and I am happy to inspire others to do the same if that’s what they choose.
@@EvieAswiti I feel the same 💕💕 I noticed a lot of people compliment perfer it straight but it’s about what I prefer which is working out, having an active life and being exactly how god made me! When we love ourselves we attract all the right ppl who love us for us!! 💕💕
@@EvieAswiti Take it from another natural woman, you are gorgeous with your natural hair. Men will compliment it don't worry. I wear a huge afro sometimes and I find that I get complimented the most from black men. I love that you are embracing and accepting every part of you.
I love this video!! I really started wearing my natural hair more throughout the year to the point wear if I do wear straight hair I actually feel I look weird 😅 Like it takes time for me to adjust to the way I look. But what you said about black people being the only people that have type 4 hair is something I also embrace as our unique feature. And it’s so true how much people really love natural hair in real life. I always get compliments from all races and they always gaze into my hair. It’s almost as if type 4 is magnetic… most likely because it’s so rare to see it be worn. Especially if you know how to style it too!
Yes!! We are the ONLY ones. That in itself is a blessing. Now, I feel so privileged to have such a unique features. I can’t believe I was so brainwashed for so long.
Thank you for this content! I love wigs BUT had to stop wearing them because I would get these awful headaches once I got home and removed them (lace and non lace). I’ve been natural for 13 ish years, 3 big chops lol and now sporting micro locs I did myself. I absolutely love them. I was at the mall on the wealthy side of town recently and noticed so many men (non bm mostly) breaking their necks to check me out. I honestly feel I look better without the wigs. You’re gorgeous btw ❤
Thank you for sharing this! I love this. I wish more black women would embrace this and realize in the words of Indie Arie, “I am not my hair.” It took me awhile. I never wore weave or wigs. It’s just not me but I did have a relaxer for many years as a younger woman. It’s work too and I got to a point of wanting to stop paying the money for damaging my hair. It’s definitely a journey but it’s worth it. It’s the hair God gave me 🙏🏽 My husband likes natural hair. He despises wigs and weaves. It’s my perception that too many black women look TOO MADE UP! It looks unreal and basically it is because it’s unnatural.
I think it’s mainly bc we are held to a higher standard of beauty than our non-black counterparts, and the data shows that we spend more $$$ on beauty products collectively as a race. It’s okay for us to not be looking absolutely perfect all the time! And for a lot of us, looking perfect ≠ wearing our natural hair.
Aswiti means it is sweet. I live in Suriname. We speak nederlands(dutch) and sranan tongo(a mix of english, african and dutch) and in sranan tongo your last name means It Is Sweet. Good topic. It will be a looooong strech of road though for us black women to finally get it. I have been natural all my life. Sometimes i do wigs, braids but often i wear my natural hair in a style that looks like micro locks/sister locks. I flippin' love it and i attract a different type of men. Not the stingy ones as many assume. I am a very expensive woman. Life in itself is expensive so there is no way around it. I always attract providers(though this is not the topic). I say this because there is a notion that you are cheap when you wear the hair god has given you and therefor will attract broke or stingy 50 50 men. I think that it would be nice if you made a video on that and the types of men you attract personally and how they treat you.
Wow, wow, wow that is so cool! Also very beautiful how your language from so many miles away can define my personality to a T. I absolutely resonate with your points and your question is a good one especially about who I attract (or not) with the hair textures I wear. I’ll keep that on the lineup love 💕 Appreciate you watching and cheers to being expensive bc yes we are. Perioso.
I'm 17, north african, and I've struggled with my hair alot, especially since i grew up in a country where most people who had straight hair were constantly praised for it in opposite of those who don't, and I have 3b hair, it's frizzy and hard to take care of, but reci've been tryning to embrace it in all it's states, instead of always straitening it, mind you, it used to take me 2 hours to straighten each time and it burned my hands by the end of it. so, yeah, great video! ❤
Thanks for the vid. I've been natural since 15. Glad I haven't put all that crap on my head. My hair always repels people with weird energy and attracts people with energy I enjoy .
I am very confident in my natural hair; it is my norm as I only had a relaxer for four years during high school, and I am early 40s now. I used to wear my hair flat ironed consistently for years, but for the past 6 or 7 years, unstraightened and completely natural in the way it grows from my scalp. In regards to men, one of my personal pet peeves is that men come up tome all the time and compliment me on my hair. Men are always saying how much they like my hair and how good it looks. Why is this a pet peeve? Because before, when I used to wear my hair flat ironed, men used to approach me and tell me I was beautiful and that I am so pretty, now it is just my hair. It has gone from me, as a whole woman, being deemed as beautiful, to now one single part of me being compartmentalized and noticed. For me, it is similar to a woman consistently being complimented on her fat @$$ in the sense of compartmentalization. I have sometimes questioned myself in thinking that perhaps I’m overthinking this, but women, also, of all ethnic backgrounds compliment my hair. And my hair IS gorgeous,beautiful, unique, and eye catching…but I would like to not feel like I am reduced to just disembodied hair walking around on legs. I am a collection of really beautiful features and characteristics.
Self-love is attractive. What we see on tv & social media doesn’t translate to the everyday world & real life. It’s nice to see us embracing our natural hair & beauty more❤
I absolutely love the way you’re presenting ❤ I’ve been ready to wear my natural hair out and after watching you, feel more encouraged and excited to do it. You’ve explained this so eloquently, I pray more of our sisters are enlightened. What you said about the type of men you attract now really resonates with me - I do want the type of man that natural hair attracts. That hit home 🙌
You are soooo kind - thank you so much! Very happy that my content provides some value to you. Natural hair is definitely gonna make dating more niche and quality in my experience
Loveeeed this video. I feel confident in my hair sometimes but not all the time, when I have shrinkage I do feel like I look like a child, so I want to always keep it stretched but the humidity never agrees with that. It is a struggle, but this year I've decided to at least stop hiding behind braids, twists, and faux locs. I want to get out of feeling like my hair has to be long to be beautiful. I've always had medium length and long hair but when it shrinks I don't feel my hair looks as good. Unleanring this, this year! I never considered a wig because the maintenance looks like sooo much work to only look good for a couple days.
Thank you doll! I been practicing wearing my wash and gos without stretching and it was hard the first couple weeks but I’m used to it now! I just lightly fluff and shape with my hands when it’s fully dry. Appreciate you sharing your story and watching. You got this!
I am currently on my journey of wearing my hair out now as I am tired of buying wigs. I had to literally unlearn all the backhanded compliments, etc when it comes to my hair. Just to name a few (this is your hair? or i thought your hair was fake or you really want to cut off all this good hair?). I have shaved my hair 4 times and last year was the last time. I just washed my hair to prep for dinner tomorrow and I never seen my hair grow this much now that I am cherishing my plant(hair). I never noticed how attractive I was until I looked at myself and then I would get random compliments from strangers more. It's such a beautiful journey and way of life to just be and love every aspect of you.
Wigs are def an investment over time but the hair underneath is always gonna be there. Good for you for loving your hair and learning it on this journey.
This is so powerful! I love that you are calling this out, as it relates to embracing our natural beauty. I've also been wearing my natural hair a lot more than additional hair and I'm loving it. You are sooo gorgeous btw!!! 🔥
Yes! Agreed! Our natural hair community is alive and thriving! Your video gave me new inspo to keep going in a "world full of instagram baddies"! ✨ @@EvieAswiti
Hey girl as a 25 yr old who has been natural most of her life (1 year post my 3rd big chop) this video was so refreshing to see! Thank you so much for the inspiration and representation! 🩷
I get keratin treatments and straighten my hair, partly because I was sick of the nasty or backhanded comments from people at school, whether they disliked me and were trying to laugh at me, or coming from my so called friends. But also because I didn't like my hair myself. I'm mixed race but it's around a 4a, and it's very hard to keep detangled, soft, moisturised and frizz free. I went natural for around 2 years and consumed lots of TH-cam content about caring for my hair type but I was miserable, especially with having to wet it every morning to detangle and get rid of frizz. Now I only straighten it every 1-2 weeks on wash day, and use a blow out brush to do my fringe in a morning and occasionally brush through for 5 mins if inbetween washes it gets a lil frizzy. So it is a lot easier for me however the difference in how I am viewed, or treated when my hair is a certain way is like night and day. Will I keep it straight atm, yes! I have a 70s shag which I love and would never work with my natural hair (too short and big), however you have made some really interesting points. I used to wonder what all the fuss was about in embracing your natural hair as most of the white women I Know dye, straighten/curl/blow out daily, get treatments etc on their hair but I realise that its not out of conformity and a fear of ill treatment like it is for us mixed and black women. Thanks for this video, you've really made me think broader about this topic.
your perspectives are extremely refreshing and are helping me out on this natural hair journey. It is important to get ride of this 'perfection mentality' especially towards our outward appearances.
I wear my natural hair sometimes (which is beautiful, I love it) YOU CAN DEFINITELY BE A BADDIE WITH NATURAL HAIR but I'm from miami and there is a clear difference of how I'm treated with other textures vs my natural hair. I'm in a very happy relationship and my man actually prefers my natural hair but for modeling jobs and going out in this city I get a lot more favoritism/bookings with weave, wigs, and extensions. that needs to change.
Crazy this just came up on my feed. My name is Eva as well! I wore a weave for the holidays I haven't wore one for 10 years. It was a rude awareness how much i dislike not feeling my real hair. Very very uncomfortable, but glad to see this content. Blessings 💜
I have natural curly hair I always used to wear my hair unapologetically in high school with my fro and as I grew older I got into the weaves but I had that exact same thought I don’t want to look like everyone else natural is better less is more , and my fro is a fashion statement for me , 🖤
chasing men is such a masculine energy. men are the ones who chase women. men are the ones who fight for women. men are the ones who do whatever to get women. not the other way around.
I came across this video when you first posted it and I think it sparked something in me. Im technically natural but would always wear silk presses or braids. Fast forward to now, I recently just said F it! Did a mini chop and been wearing natural styles (twist outs and wash and gos). I felt the need to push myself to feel confident in my natural hair. And Ive been getting a lot of compliments and I just feel good!
I've seen some natural baddies. Some natural women have mastered wearing their own hair and wear outfits & light make up that turn heads!! Chile, no wig, weave, bbl, or false face makeup needed. Beauty is from the inside out! ....Take care of yourself.👍🏾
I loved this. When you said we have to accept we are never going to wake up and grow straight hair out of our heads that hit. I think it’s a hard truth to look in the mirror and realize that I myself have been anti black and didn’t even realize it . Thank you for this video you’re GORGEOUS by the way
Been natural since age 34 and I'm 48 now. It's not always easy. I have struggled with confidence here and there, but I'm proud that I continued to wear it. As it grew (now mid backlength) I began to find other styles and not care as much about my frizzy texture. I've learned to embrace it more. I personally hate nightlife and dating so the male attention wasn't much of an issue for me. lol But you definitely attract a different kind of guy and the attention from CERTAIN men is less. Which isn't bad if you think about it.
Watch my VIDEO REACTION to ur comments here!
👀 reacting to ur comments about my natural hair...
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It’s crazy that being a baddie/ doing the baddie aesthetic doesn’t include natural hair. Only straight buss down booty cheek length hair. I’ve been natural all my life and I love it.
Let’s make it a thing! Make the baddie aesthetic with natural hair viral 🎉
Being a baddie implies being fake though. Bbls come to mind also
This irks me!! Ain't nothing I love more than wearing my lashes and having my big fro!! It's baddie asf 😍 but I had to see it for myself cuz I only saw natural hair with natural makeup. Like some of us wanna be glam with the hair that grows out of our scalp 🤦🏽♀️
@@BLANK-SLATE-ART Naw they can keep the "baddie" aesthetic. I'm more interested in being a graceful, charming woman.
It’s up to us to market it that way ❤
I don't care about a baddie. I've been wearing my natural hair (no weaves, dyes, wigs) for 14 years. I've gotten better and more successful in every area of my life since.
Now that’s a flex right there. Hallelu sistren. Hallelu.
no be lie
Congratulations, but it doesn’t make you any better than a baddie and it doesn’t make the baddie better than you, I’m so sick and tired us BM claiming to embrace our natural selves at the expense of Downing others, and to the content creator of this video, why even compare yourself baddies or mention them at all, why can’t you stand and embrace yourself in your own existence.
ya gotta watch the whole video Lou Lou
@@loulousworld92it actually does make natural girls better! It’s all about the mindset. 😊
natural hair will always make you stand out the most! it's a secret I've discovered that most haven't yet. a bw in her natural hair owns the room. especially if it's bigger or longer or at the very least, healthy. a small neat fro is absolutely stunning as well. natural hair just wins. unique beauty
Always wins! Your fro in your avi looks sooo cute! 🥰
@@EvieAswiti aww thank you!
I was thinking about that this morning. In a room full of carbon copies in white and brown with he same hair, your natural hair stands out and sparks interest.
@@Joyinthemornexactly what I was thinking I don’t knock others but I don’t want to look like everyone else with the lace fronts and baby hairs down to my eyebrows. The most I will do Is a drawstring ponytail and it’s a natural one to match my hair.
@@EvieAswiti The IG baddie gets pumped and dumped. Your loom gets husbands. Keep it
Also, Wearing your natural hair helps to weed out men who suffer from self - hate!!
I have been struggling to wear my hair lately. I’m growing it out and it’s about as long as yours and very curly and something about wearing the Afro and being plus sized just made me feel like I look like someone’s Middle Aged mom! This video was on time for me
omg this is such a timely comment bc I was thinking about how fashion and style affect the aesthetic of me wearing my afro. I find myself screen grabbing inspo of outfits with short hair (twa, afro, pixie cuts, etc) so I can get inspo to look cute and fresh with my short hair.
THE BEST MEN COME MY WAY NOW THAT IM NATURAL
I'm biracial but same.. I feel like a big ole mushroom when I wear my hair out natural.
@@LizNeptune I totally feel you… I’m trying to remember that everyone doesn’t need to look the same. It’s hard when you look like the exact opposite of what’s in style but being true to who we are never goes out of style ❤️❤️❤️
This is NOT about men!
Can’t nobody tell me I’m not a baddie with my natural hair. I have micro locs down my back, a gym body and a pretty face. I may not have instagram but I definitely have the aesthetic 😂
I just know youu are so pretty w/ this description youu just gave 🥰!
I love microlocs but I do believe hair that hangs long like that still gets a pass over fros and hair that grows outward and kinky instead of straight down. Microlocs often get the same love as braids and extensions due to their length, especially when long. Nevertheless, congrats on your growth!
Mam
Did you miss the point of this video lol
I have microlocs that's past my shoulders and 2 years old but have seen a woman exactly like this when I went to Publix and I was in awe. She was thin and toned with butt length microlocs , looked like she was in her 30s or 40s, and I was like "I need to be her when I grow up"
I love this video. I just wanted to point out that another reason it's important to see and interact with your natural hair is that the state of your natural hair can be an indication of underlying medical health. When we don't interact with our natural hair, we sometimes don't notice some signs of poor health that others that understand their hair in it's natural state may notice.
such a great point
oh wow I really really love this point because it goes further than vanity. Thank you so much for pointing this out!
Yea! I’m learning this
Ouuuu baby j love this
So true! I went and got some lab work done just because I noticed my hair was thinning. If I didn’t interact with my natural hair, I wouldn’t of found out some vitamin deficiencies.
I have literally never felt threatened by women who wear weaves. Ever. I don’t think that weaves truly flatter black women. The boring flat hair look with the greasy edges, has been over done so much all of them look exactly the same. Like robots. I actually enjoy the fact that I have a tapered fro. I always look amazing in pictures, and my tapered fro makes me look elegant, ethereal, natural, and sensual. The baddie look is so over manufactured that these women don’t even look real they look like artificial brat dolls. To some extent, I actually benefit from them all looking the same because it makes me stand out. I actually look forward to growing out my hair so in a world where everyone is fake, flat and boring, my hair will be home grown from my scalp and full of life.
So well saiddddddd💯!!!!!
You snapped queen
Same, you said it best.
No reason to put another group of people down… but I understand your viewpoint
@@irene4633 she’s not putting anyone “down” it’s the truth
To be fair with regards to the male gaze, men find a variety of things attractive. Many of them persue and marry the same women they swear to hate. They claim to love natural hair, features and bodies. Then when the natural queen walks by, he makes fun of her or ignore her altogether for the insta baddie he calls fake. How many times have we seen a man point to a woman who has a face full of make up and call her a natural beauty lol😂
That used to be my experience early on. I was never enough. At that time, men were all about Hispanic women and black women who emulated out looked like them. I eventually got married to a man who loves me for me and all my natural hair lol, twists and all. Now I can't even go grocery shopping without black men trying to pick me up. I didn't change 😂😂
i see more men growing out their hair more brent faiaz big sean to name a few and it's beautiful many men have made it clear that natural hair is a preference but they wouldn't stop dating women who aren't natural i've seen so many black women wear their natural hair on their wedding day so all men can't be lying ive seen men defend a girl who went to prom with a high puff after another black woman called her basic for not wearing weave not to mention men with locs often are with women with natural hair
@@joimonae4090 That's why I say men like a variety of things. Of course there are men who love natural. Then there are men who insist they love natural hair in public and will beg a woman to buy a lace front. Many women have been speaking out against the "we love natural hair" black men who are asking them to get wigs and relaxers. I've seen social experiments where a black woman will put a picture of herself with natural hair and one with a wig. The we hate wigs crowd will swipe right on her lace front and white men will love the natural hair most. Of course there are exceptions to the rule.
@@joimonae4090 Thinking that blk men growing out their hair is the same as them genuinely loving and accepting women wearing their natural hair, specifically Kinky hair and Short fros is so unintelligent
@@BlossomHigh you really sound like a negative Nancy it’s a beautiful thing to see both black men and women embrace their natural hair in real life not on the internet I see black men with all kinds of black women in Real life ,im not the one to get real life mixed up with social media thank you though
girl the yellow, the gold, the hair, the face😻💛
Thank you!
she's glowing.
I was struggling so bad with insecurities, not realizing they were wig induced. I threw all my wigs out 6 months ago & I have never felt more free & beautiful. I mostly wear my hair in a top puff. It’s absolutely stunning. So much better than wigs.
@@Curlyhairgirl4Life same girlie, same! I’m more of a streetwear chic. It’s so freakin cute. Even when I do a twist out, step outside, get the most compliments ever. Like damn all I had to do was be me? 😭
@@MrsGreennnPraise to Jah of the most high…Natural woman…Be you for you are magnificent and a descendant of the Queen of Sheba…
Thank you for this video!! I want a world where Black women stop saying “Natural hair is not for everybody”. Also ladies understand that man would love to see you in your natural hair more often than not.
Yes, yes and yes! This is the one. You’re so very welcome 🤗
🙄🙄 it's so annoying when men comes to these videos and make it about them. Black women wearing our natural hair should be more about validating ourselves. Not seeking validation from men. Especially the men who degrade us the most.
Black men love saying they like natural bodies and natural hair but the women you see them with or see them pursuing the most don't reflect that.
Tbh, your opinion shouldn't even matter here.
people say that??
@@nodrvgs I've heard people say that so many times it's crazy, particularly black women. It's heartbreaking
You mean the hair that grows out your scalp?? 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤯oh boy, deep rooted self hatred.
Afro textured hair is unique and so attractive! Other races recognise that, and so do healthy minded black men and women . Awesome video ❤❤❤
tysm doll 🫶🏾💕💋
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afro textured is political correctness term.
the proper name is ulotrichous hair
I’m 17 years old, and I’ve finally realized that I must learn to accept my natural hair. For me, I’ve always been insecure about the fact that my hair isn’t super long and my curls aren’t super defined. I used to wish that I either had straight hair or defined curls. My hair is more of a puff on my head (and my hairs also pretty fine textured), and it always made me feel bad when I only saw girls with the most beautiful thick curls in the natural hair community (back when I first started looking into it on YT). It led me down this path of trying to manipulate my hair to be a different way constantly, but honestly, I’m just tired of it. You’ve encouraged me to wear my hair as is and to stop the over-manipulation, wigs, and paying for braids all the time, and I thank you for that.
Aw, you’re so welcome love. I’m so happy that you’re having this revelation at such a young age! Warms up my heart ♥️
I big part of becoming comfortable is finding styles that work for your length currently. I'm always getting compliments when I try out new styles with cute accessories every week or so.
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And our hair is literally an extension of our nervous system. Our hair has life to it thats why it defies gravity. Our hair also has melanin in it just how our skin does. And melanin absorbs the sun. So the melanin in our hair is absorbing the sun which makes us more intelligent! Our hair is way more than just hair. They try to make us hate it cause theres alot of good benefits to it. Black hair is DIFFRENT. Im telling you, once you find out the science of yourself NOTHING can get to you! NOTHING can make you feel bad about yourself!
Good for you! 👏🏾
You are a baddie. A natural baddie. when your preview started playing and you came in the shot I had to express that you look gorgeous. 90s actress gorgeous.
Thank you so much. So very sweet of you and I appreciate the love! 🫶🏾💕💗
Facts !
I totally agree, she's gorgeous!
Yes, loved that!
Period where my natural baddies at ❤❤❤
🎉🎉🎉
Me!!
Hereeeee
Why must you be a baddie?
Sorry the "plastic grids on forehead" description took me off guard 🤣🤣. In all seriousness tho, I wonder how many black girls have some sort of image dysmorphia because of the way we have to constantly shape-shift just to conform to a certain beauty standard. This year I've given myself the challenge to only wear my natural hair for the next 3 months. I made this decision because the way I would feel when I would remove my wig was just wrong- that wigless version of me wasn't complete in my head. So messed up. I'm really learning a new way to see myself, very different experience- some days I feel absolutely beautiful, other days it's slightly hard ngl. But I'm sticking to my word and confronting any issues that arise day-by-day. Thank you for this video beautiful☺
You’re so very welcome. I remember the plastic forehead days and I truly preferred that look over my real hair. So yes, I think I did have image dysmorphia and wouldn’t be surprised if other girlies felt the same. It got to a point when I had to face all my fears and realize that I was just brainwashed. That’s when the love for who I saw in the mirror grew in a healthy but gradual way. I’m rooting for you on this 3-month challenge! 👏🏾🫶🏾💕
@@EvieAswiti🫶🏾🫶🏾
So proud of you!! I know exactly what you mean. When I would take my wigs off in front of the mirror I would almost get like second hand embarrassment for myself. I looked like a completely different person almost scared me lol. You have to get use to seeing the real you and after you realize you are more beautiful without it. Don’t forget you have to talk your hair as well. Pour love into your hair daily affirmations. Everytime you walk by a mirror stroke it kind of like you would a super cute dog. And be like your so pretty today look how thick you are omggg I love my hair.
“If you’re hair is not a certain way then you’re not a baddie and I don’t like that” I agree with it- the great thing about the majority of black women wearing their hair will be seeing our own image and understanding it and seeing the truth in who we are not in an image that isn’t “really us”
Hello! Points were made. It’s time to project our natural image and likeness. Perioso.
I’ve been natural since 2009. But after I had my son in 2017 I literally threw allll my wigs away. Mind you, I’m a cosmetologist. Been doing braids and weaves since I was in middle school. Now after my daughter in 2022…. I will never put weave in her hair nor relax it. She can do that when she’s of age; if she wants. But I want my children to know what real beauty is. I set the standard!! ❤
Good for you! 👏🏾 And congratulations!
I got THE MOST compliments and advances from women and men when I wore my natural hair back in Summer 2022! It was crazy! No other hairstyle has ever gotten me that much attention and love. But I think it was because we never see the girls wearing it as much!! ❤
Yep! We stand out
I agree 100%. I think it's imperative that Black women wear their natural hair so we can normalize it and embrace our natural beauty/attract natural/kingly men (if thats what we want!). Black erasure is increasing. Mixed race actors are being called "Black this, Black that." 4C hair is literally non-existent in day to day life where I live (Boston). Everytime I go out, people stare, compliment, remark on my hair and I HATE IT lol like leave me alone. & we get to take back our time. We do not need to be twisted and braided out every day. A 3 day old twist out fresh out the bonnet and with a water spritz is a vibe! If I have last minute plans, I throw on some kinky clip ins and fluff those out too!
Whewwww Boston?! You’re setting an example there girlie
When you say 4c hair is non existent in Boston what do you mean by that? Just curious
afros & locs are rare. lots of presses, braids, wigs and weaves.@@FTYC2022
@@FTYC2022the black ppl here dont wear their hair out alot.
The part that touched me the most was when you said we are are the only group of people with this texture so why not show it off”… I started wearing my hair in a blow out and I let it go very naturally over time.. and the people stare like crazy lol I am sure 99% of the stares are of amazement and curiosity! I’ve been natural since 2010.
Yes girl, our hair is a miracle. Literally.
This video is so well-explained; it should be shared on all social media sites. Never remove this video. It's inspiring the community and giving black women confidence. Thank you.
This is so so sweet thank you so much. I will definitely keep the message alive.
Hi,
Spot on commentary, sis! The IG baddies make a lot of people forget how natural women really look. When I first did my big chop 13 years ago, I received a lot of hate from men but a lot of love from women. It was such a freeing experience chopping my relaxed ends off and letting my hair naturally do what it wants!
Men have called me masculine, and i felt the need to wear more makeup at first. Then, one day, i just stopped caring. I look younger when I wear my natural curls. I have never been big on weave, but I have done wigs/crochet. I have grown my hair out, silk pressed, and chopped it off twice more since. This isn't a phase or movement for me it's my life!
The algorithm brought me to you. I loved this video so much that I was compelled to comment!
Oh wow thank you for sharing your story! It’s a very important realization that we all go through when we return natural. Glad you loved my content 🫶🏾💗 feel free to stick around!
The enhancements that we add to ourselves are not what makes us beautiful. It’s being *confident* in one’s own skin is what truly makes us attractive. The only time I ever been referred to as unattractive, ugly, and other derogatory names was by insecure individuals. Because they couldn’t buy what made me attractive in bundles or in a bottle. They didn’t know what it meant to be confident and they only knew how to conceal.
I absolutely loved this !!! God gave us our crowns for a reason! Our hair texture is so unique & versatile, I started embracing my natural hair when I started reading up on our history & how much has been stripped from the African American community and further more the black woman is the most imitated !! Our hair comes with so much power & pride, LADIES WEAR YOUR NATURAL HAIR!! Treat wigs & weaves as an accessory not a necessity!
Keyword: “ACCESSORY” - very well said! 👏🏾
I love this message. I think social media is helping to push Eurocentric standards of beauty and black women are adopting those styles and normalizing it as if it's natural for people of African heritage. Our standards of beauty should not mimic what is natural to white women. I like to tell black people that our hair is something so unique and it's special because we each have our own individual crown atop our heads. Our hair textures defy gravity and grow up toward the sky while people who aren't so lucky have to contend with hair that reaches for the dirt and hangs limp.
I needed this. As a natural hair creator I found myself hiding under wigs most of 2023. I gave myself alot of excuses- time, energy, texture etc. While some were valid I truly lost interest in dealing with my natural hair. Being a 4c girlie with thick full hair can be alot. I also had many bad natural hair experiences in 2023 so wigs became a “safe place”. When i dug deeper it was more than that- i liked the way I looked with straight long hair. Ive made a commitment to wear my hair out more this year and its so liberating. I love my wigs but I need a break!
Loving the vulnerability bc it’s so familiar! Happy to have encouraged you with this video. This natural hair journey is truly a journey but it’s a very rewarding one.
I'm so proud of you for actually admitting the real reason. So many people hide behind excuses and at least you acknowledge that. BTW I love your hair in your pic. Looks so beautiful!
@@quickpstuts412 Thank you!
Thank you for making this! In this era so many women feel the need to wear wigs because they don’t like their natural hair. I started wearing wigs when I did my big chop but let’s be real, I live on an island.. it’s too dang hot to wear wigs all the time! I wear my hair in mini twists, braids, twist/braid outs, and low buns and head wraps. I love my hair so much. We have to remember that God created us in His image and we are to love ourselves because of that 🩷
Yes maaaaaaaam. You’re welcome doll, appreciate you so much.
Well said. This topic is part of a larger issue. Do BW really like the way that they look? Are BW confident in their physical appearance as they go out in the world? When you look at the wig wearing 365 days of the year etc and the heavy makeup I think this answers these questions.
You look lovely 🥰.
This!!!
I loveeee wearing my natural shrunk hair. I think it’s important to mention disabilities when discussing natural hair and confidence because even though I love my hair, lupus has affected my hairline so i opt for afro twists to try to cover it.
Good point! Health conditions affect hair confidence for sure. I also embraced my natural hair shrunken this year.
"I didn't make it up, baby Jesus did when he created me" GIRL WHEW 😂😂 Yass Evie! I feel this conversation so hard. Love your content! 😍
😂 tysm for watching!
I’ve learned to love my hair past the “ugly phase” of dreads. I thank his for that phase in my young adulthood years because I grew to love my natural beauty/hair, I learned how to care for and style my hair (even without a retwist, and I don’t do baby hairs) and my confidence shot up once I realized that I am enough.
yes YOU are enough
Listen I’m glad you made this video. I don’t have a problem with my natural hair, I wear it 95% of the time but sadly I notice many Black women do. I’m glad this convo is still being had despite natural hair not being as popular as it was in the 2010s. I’ve been modeling for years, never had an issue attracting men that I also was attracted to (many men of all races love natural hair), I have always felt desired, confident, like a baddie and bold with my natural hair and I love looking exclusive with my afro! There’s something so special about natural hair and I’m glad it’s still being promoted despite wigs and weaves being more popular. Lastly, I love a wig here and there to switch it up, but natural hair is amazing, shrinkage, some annoyances and all lol.
Also, I’m glad you mentioned club culture. A lot of this baddie culture ONLY exists in the urban entertainment industry and on social media and that’s it. Not to mention, the club is a terrible place to find quality men. Sure you might be able to get in a section because of pretty privilege, free drinks, but it doesn’t translate to real life the way people want. That’s the space and it is what it is. Women need to learn to get in where they fit in. Even in Miami, there is a desire for the baddie look at certain clubs in South Beach, but in more down to earth spots like Wynwood, natural women are more celebrated.
Yes ma’am! It may not be trendy anymore but we all still have our natural hair underneath whatever we put on top of it.
👏🏾 👏🏾 This conversation was needed! It’s beyond me how black women get shamed for wearing the hair THAT GROWS OUT OF THEIR SCALP😳- 😮💨 my hair story is long but I’ve been natural now and and just enjoying regrowing my hair ❤
I never realized until about a couple of months ago especially now that “being a baddie” is an aesthetic. As an older teenager close to adulthood it’s so easy to get hyper fixated on this aesthetic because it consumes you so much if you allow it too.
You are a real beauty!!! 😍
I have memories as early as 5yrs old get my hair washed, blow dried, occasionally hot comb (with stove top fire and an iron comb) but majority of the time braided. I always loved every step of the process of my Sunday pampering with my Auntie! 🤗 By that age my hair was nearly down to my bottom. I always known my own big poofy hair even now as an adult. Growing up I notice the changes in what was “the thing to do” or what was in. Before I graduated elementary school nearly all my class mates had relaxers and super thin hair. In middle school I saw too many girls my age with faces full of makeup and hair tracks glued in. High school more of the same and now as an adult in her mid 30s everyone looks the same to me with the bat wings dangling from eyelids, unnatural big butts, wigs glued onto heads EVERYDAY, same outfits from Shein and that other company. I always stand out when I’m in public because I have my own hair in it natural state, clean face no makeup, my natural body, my own style. I’m the one everyone is calling plain Jane, because I don’t have all that extra stuff on me. I get laughed at and made fun of for having my natural body, clean face , my own hair, and my own style, by other black people.
What I would like other Black women who do wear their own hair and do not look like these man made women on social media to know is, there is no reason to allow the ugly comments to break you and give in to what others want to see you look like, because trust me, once you get behind the psychology of it all, you will understand what it is all about just like I did decade ago. Love and peace 💕🌷
We have to create our own definition of baddie! And that definition should always reflect yourself! We are beautiful with just our natural selves, despite everyone and everything telling you you need extras to be attractive. When you are self loving, self accepting, and not texturist, you live a happier and more peaceful life ❤️
ig baddies don’t reflect the normal African features most black women have. It reflects white Latina women (or how ppl THINK most Latina women look). So black women cosplay as white Latina women with the long straight thick wigs and weave and heavy make up. Personally, I think black beauty is more interesting and ground breaking. Proud to be a black woman.
So beautiful sister. I hope more black women can look at this video and see how regal we look. Can you say that straight hair looks like a bouquet of flowers? No, because it doesn’t, but natural hair does.
omg I just thinking about how I am excited for it to grow out more so I can put flowers in my hair 🌼🌸
honestly, I needed to hear this, even just the title. I actually shaved my head in August and, at first, it was nice because I started getting called Amber Rose, but as my hair started to grow, I felt like I was looking more and more masculine…
Short hair is hard. some days are better than others but hair grows at the end of the day. Make it work for you.
True, people value authenticity in real life.
ur glowing girl, love the neon green on you it makes your skin tone pop ✨🫶🏽🦋💕🧚🏽♂️. I’m a natural hair girly, I only wear braided protective hairstyles every other month and it helps with my hair growth. but I’ve never worn a wig a day in my life, I’m too scared too due to seeing other girls loose their edges because of the glue on their hairline. thank you for this video! 🫶🏽 we need to bring natural hair back and NATURAL BEAUTY! period
Thank you so much!! FREE THE HAIRLINE 😂 Proud of you sis. Keep flourishing on this journey 🫶🏾🌸💗
My scalp is so sensitive i could nerver with the wigs and weave.
@@EvieAswiti anytime my love, god bless you and keep being you 🫶🏽💕🙏🏽
@@quelquun2018 I’m sorry it’s sensitive my love :(
YESSS ALLL THE COMPLIMENTS WITH NATURAL 4C HAIR.
purrrrrrr 🫶🏾💕
“This is not a Hotep channel” took me out 😂 I know you were being serious but it was the delivery. It’s true that even the subject of natural hair attract certain types.
I had to let it be known bc people love labels 🏷️ 😂
Been a natural baddie for 20+ years with minimum makeup and a natural body all my life 😘. Transitioning to natural hair/locs was the best decision. You will meet a better men… trust me.
I went back old school,Blue Magic and Carefree curl activator, for moisture
Yes, why not stand out and wear the hair that grows out of our scalp. Since I have stopped relaxing my hair, I have gotten so many compliments. Oddly enough, I have strangers ask if its actually my hair. "It is my hair, kinks and all". I have always shampooed my hair weekly, but twice weekly has proven to be beneficial. I finger coil my strands which takes about two hours; It takes about 30 minutes to dry. Afterwards, I wake up and lift my kinks and get on with the day. I absolutely feel the freedom, come rain, wind, or sunshine.
@@Smithl325749 cheers to freedommmmm!
I’m not a big wig and weave wearing woman but when I first went natural I only wore my hair out in braids. Once I got past the awkward length stage which chin length I wear my hair out all the time.
There's nothing wrong with wearing box braids, cornrows or twist.... because they're Afrocentric hair styles. The problem is wearing waves and white/ Asian women hair that doesn't belong naturally belong to black women.
I always comment it but I just have to say again you're so so pretty like that 90s type of fine girl like I'd take that type of baddie over being a current day baddie for real
Indie Biiiiiish! Thank you ☺️ idc if you say it a thousand times - I’m very appreciative, girly pop. The 90s was an iconic era so I’m humbled
I thought this was a much needed video
Thank you!
What is your nighttime regime for your hair & what do you do to revitalize your hair in the morning? Thanks again!
@phyllisclyburn7326 You’re welcome. I sleep on a silk satin pillowcase, then I wash my hair in the morning for a wash and go style.
Do you air dry your hair or sit under a dryer every day? I'm concerned about using the heat from a dryer on a daily basis.
@phyllisclyburn7326 I air dry and use a blow dryer w/ diffuser attachment daily.
I've been natural since I was 14 and that process was very liberating for me. I am Afro-Latina so the notion of "Good Hair v Bad Hair" was/is a very big thing. I used to think my hair was "bad" because it didn't do what my mother or my cousins hair did. I relaxed it a lot until I started to learn how to do my own hair. I did experiment with a sew in (first and LAST time) later on after I graduated high school and my hair broke off when I took it down so I big chopped then just kept my natural hair lol. I have locs now and I feel my most authentic self with them! I agree with every thing you said about the uniqueness and beauty of our natural hair...I just wish more of us did too :/
Love this message! I feel like my natural hair length is so awkward but I def will wear it out in the warmer months.
Get a graduated haircut when it’s straightened so the shape is right when it’s natural.
I haven't watched yet but I took my braids out today bcuz I miss my hair😆❤
LOL relatable!
Thank you for making this much needed content! Weaves and wigs have unfortunately had a lot of black women in a chokehold to the point where for some it has created a distorted self image. Most do not recognise it as such when the status quo dictates that to wear anything else would appear "unpalatable" especially in the corporate world and in the dating pool. I really do believe in there being such a thing as a natural "baddie", where a woman's true beauty radiates her essence and is deeply rooted in self-care and self-preservation.
Love how you think. You’re so very welcome. These are the comments that motivate me to keep it going so I appreciate it. ☺️
Gorgeous I love the message, when I met my man I would always wear wigs & I wouldnt let him touch my hair crazy!! Now we’ve together 3 years and he LOVES it when we go out and I have my Afro out. I feel confident and powerful asf
Yes, as you should! 👏🏾
Agree with all of this. I do not want a man who doesn’t think I’m beautiful with my natural hair. Period. We are beautiful due to our variety and differences. These baddies are so homogenous. It’s boring. JMO
Homogeneous is the word. Like we need individuality.
I love my natural hair but recently fragrances have been giving me headaches all hair products seem to have fragrances in it and I constantly have to wash it out and leave me hair dry. It makes me not even want to deal with my hair and just put braids in it.
well that’s no fun
I’m so glad I started rocking my natural hair. I get so many compliments, and my curls are popping.
I feel as though it’s protective it says she’s gorgeous and has the confidence to be her self.. a lot of men just aren’t ready!! You are gorgeous mama also feel like it attracts the men who are!
Thank you lovely, I have definitely felt invisible by making this choice. Whether it attracts men is none of my business at this point. I am freeeeee! I love it here and I am happy to inspire others to do the same if that’s what they choose.
@@EvieAswiti I feel the same 💕💕 I noticed a lot of people compliment perfer it straight but it’s about what I prefer which is working out, having an active life and being exactly how god made me! When we love ourselves we attract all the right ppl who love us for us!! 💕💕
@@EvieAswiti thanks for the content excited to see more!!
@@EvieAswiti Take it from another natural woman, you are gorgeous with your natural hair. Men will compliment it don't worry. I wear a huge afro sometimes and I find that I get complimented the most from black men. I love that you are embracing and accepting every part of you.
You’re welcome love! Uploaded a new vid already 😉
I love this video!! I really started wearing my natural hair more throughout the year to the point wear if I do wear straight hair I actually feel I look weird 😅 Like it takes time for me to adjust to the way I look. But what you said about black people being the only people that have type 4 hair is something I also embrace as our unique feature. And it’s so true how much people really love natural hair in real life. I always get compliments from all races and they always gaze into my hair. It’s almost as if type 4 is magnetic… most likely because it’s so rare to see it be worn. Especially if you know how to style it too!
Yes!! We are the ONLY ones. That in itself is a blessing. Now, I feel so privileged to have such a unique features. I can’t believe I was so brainwashed for so long.
Thank you for this content! I love wigs BUT had to stop wearing them because I would get these awful headaches once I got home and removed them (lace and non lace). I’ve been natural for 13 ish years, 3 big chops lol and now sporting micro locs I did myself. I absolutely love them. I was at the mall on the wealthy side of town recently and noticed so many men (non bm mostly) breaking their necks to check me out. I honestly feel I look better without the wigs. You’re gorgeous btw ❤
Thank you for sharing this!
I love this. I wish more black women would embrace this and realize in the words of Indie Arie, “I am not my hair.”
It took me awhile. I never wore weave or wigs. It’s just not me but I did have a relaxer for many years as a younger woman. It’s work too and I got to a point of wanting to stop paying the money for damaging my hair.
It’s definitely a journey but it’s worth it. It’s the hair God gave me 🙏🏽
My husband likes natural hair. He despises wigs and weaves.
It’s my perception that too many black women look TOO MADE UP! It looks unreal and basically it is because it’s unnatural.
I think it’s mainly bc we are held to a higher standard of beauty than our non-black counterparts, and the data shows that we spend more $$$ on beauty products collectively as a race. It’s okay for us to not be looking absolutely perfect all the time! And for a lot of us, looking perfect ≠ wearing our natural hair.
Also, you’re so welcome! Appreciate you for watching.
@@EvieAswiti I agree ☝️
Aswiti means it is sweet. I live in Suriname. We speak nederlands(dutch) and sranan tongo(a mix of english, african and dutch) and in sranan tongo your last name means It Is Sweet.
Good topic. It will be a looooong strech of road though for us black women to finally get it. I have been natural all my life. Sometimes i do wigs, braids but often i wear my natural hair in a style that looks like micro locks/sister locks. I flippin' love it and i attract a different type of men. Not the stingy ones as many assume. I am a very expensive woman. Life in itself is expensive so there is no way around it. I always attract providers(though this is not the topic). I say this because there is a notion that you are cheap when you wear the hair god has given you and therefor will attract broke or stingy 50 50 men. I think that it would be nice if you made a video on that and the types of men you attract personally and how they treat you.
Wow, wow, wow that is so cool! Also very beautiful how your language from so many miles away can define my personality to a T. I absolutely resonate with your points and your question is a good one especially about who I attract (or not) with the hair textures I wear. I’ll keep that on the lineup love 💕 Appreciate you watching and cheers to being expensive bc yes we are. Perioso.
I'm 17, north african, and I've struggled with my hair alot, especially since i grew up in a country where most people who had straight hair were constantly praised for it in opposite of those who don't, and I have 3b hair, it's frizzy and hard to take care of, but reci've been tryning to embrace it in all it's states, instead of always straitening it, mind you, it used to take me 2 hours to straighten each time and it burned my hands by the end of it. so, yeah, great video! ❤
thank you hun. keep embracing it
Thanks for the vid. I've been natural since 15. Glad I haven't put all that crap on my head. My hair always repels people with weird energy and attracts people with energy I enjoy .
Not a baddie or a black woman with natural hair, but i had to stop by and say you caught my eye your face is beautiful!
Why thank you! Welcome to my channel and hope you stick around 😉
I am very confident in my natural hair; it is my norm as I only had a relaxer for four years during high school, and I am early 40s now.
I used to wear my hair flat ironed consistently for years, but for the past 6 or 7 years, unstraightened and completely natural in the way it grows from my scalp.
In regards to men, one of my personal pet peeves is that men come up tome all the time and compliment me on my hair. Men are always saying how much they like my hair and how good it looks. Why is this a pet peeve? Because before, when I used to wear my hair flat ironed, men used to approach me and tell me I was beautiful and that I am so pretty, now it is just my hair. It has gone from me, as a whole woman, being deemed as beautiful, to now one single part of me being compartmentalized and noticed. For me, it is similar to a woman consistently being complimented on her fat @$$ in the sense of compartmentalization. I have sometimes questioned myself in thinking that perhaps I’m overthinking this, but women, also, of all ethnic backgrounds compliment my hair. And my hair IS gorgeous,beautiful, unique, and eye catching…but I would like to not feel like I am reduced to just disembodied hair walking around on legs. I am a collection of really beautiful features and characteristics.
yeah hair shouldn’t be a personality trait - sometimes we can be fetishized bc of it, unfortunately.
Self-love is attractive. What we see on tv & social media doesn’t translate to the everyday world & real life. It’s nice to see us embracing our natural hair & beauty more❤
Omg you look radiant!
Thank you!!!
I absolutely love the way you’re presenting ❤ I’ve been ready to wear my natural hair out and after watching you, feel more encouraged and excited to do it. You’ve explained this so eloquently, I pray more of our sisters are enlightened. What you said about the type of men you attract now really resonates with me - I do want the type of man that natural hair attracts. That hit home 🙌
You are soooo kind - thank you so much! Very happy that my content provides some value to you. Natural hair is definitely gonna make dating more niche and quality in my experience
Loveeeed this video. I feel confident in my hair sometimes but not all the time, when I have shrinkage I do feel like I look like a child, so I want to always keep it stretched but the humidity never agrees with that. It is a struggle, but this year I've decided to at least stop hiding behind braids, twists, and faux locs. I want to get out of feeling like my hair has to be long to be beautiful. I've always had medium length and long hair but when it shrinks I don't feel my hair looks as good. Unleanring this, this year! I never considered a wig because the maintenance looks like sooo much work to only look good for a couple days.
Thank you doll! I been practicing wearing my wash and gos without stretching and it was hard the first couple weeks but I’m used to it now! I just lightly fluff and shape with my hands when it’s fully dry. Appreciate you sharing your story and watching. You got this!
I am currently on my journey of wearing my hair out now as I am tired of buying wigs. I had to literally unlearn all the backhanded compliments, etc when it comes to my hair. Just to name a few (this is your hair? or i thought your hair was fake or you really want to cut off all this good hair?). I have shaved my hair 4 times and last year was the last time. I just washed my hair to prep for dinner tomorrow and I never seen my hair grow this much now that I am cherishing my plant(hair). I never noticed how attractive I was until I looked at myself and then I would get random compliments from strangers more. It's such a beautiful journey and way of life to just be and love every aspect of you.
Wigs are def an investment over time but the hair underneath is always gonna be there. Good for you for loving your hair and learning it on this journey.
I love a natural woman.
REAL body
Them women who look fine fine with out any make up
An pretty natural hair.
love it.
This is so powerful! I love that you are calling this out, as it relates to embracing our natural beauty. I've also been wearing my natural hair a lot more than additional hair and I'm loving it. You are sooo gorgeous btw!!! 🔥
Thank you so so much! Happy to create this community on my channel bc it's so impactful as a collective. I'm so happy 🥰
Yes! Agreed! Our natural hair community is alive and thriving! Your video gave me new inspo to keep going in a "world full of instagram baddies"! ✨ @@EvieAswiti
Yes girlie keep going and don’t give up.
You look beautiful💛
Thank you so much doll! ❤
Hey girl as a 25 yr old who has been natural most of her life (1 year post my 3rd big chop) this video was so refreshing to see! Thank you so much for the inspiration and representation! 🩷
You’re so welcome, love! ❤️ 💕
I get keratin treatments and straighten my hair, partly because I was sick of the nasty or backhanded comments from people at school, whether they disliked me and were trying to laugh at me, or coming from my so called friends. But also because I didn't like my hair myself. I'm mixed race but it's around a 4a, and it's very hard to keep detangled, soft, moisturised and frizz free. I went natural for around 2 years and consumed lots of TH-cam content about caring for my hair type but I was miserable, especially with having to wet it every morning to detangle and get rid of frizz. Now I only straighten it every 1-2 weeks on wash day, and use a blow out brush to do my fringe in a morning and occasionally brush through for 5 mins if inbetween washes it gets a lil frizzy. So it is a lot easier for me however the difference in how I am viewed, or treated when my hair is a certain way is like night and day. Will I keep it straight atm, yes! I have a 70s shag which I love and would never work with my natural hair (too short and big), however you have made some really interesting points. I used to wonder what all the fuss was about in embracing your natural hair as most of the white women I Know dye, straighten/curl/blow out daily, get treatments etc on their hair but I realise that its not out of conformity and a fear of ill treatment like it is for us mixed and black women. Thanks for this video, you've really made me think broader about this topic.
your perspectives are extremely refreshing and are helping me out on this natural hair journey. It is important to get ride of this 'perfection mentality' especially towards our outward appearances.
yep perfectionism can be more harm than good. thanks for watching!
Natural hair and Glowing skin is the sexiest look to me! Mix that with a fit body a BOOM, baddest is ANY room❤
The yellow top and yellow nails looks soooo good
Thank you! 💅🏾
You are lovely ❤ Thanks for spreading the self love. I enjoy wigs but I love my own hair too and wear it out often
We love the BALANCE! Thanks for watching and showing love 💕 appreciate you
You're absolutely beautiful and the message you're preaching is very very necessary! Keep it up 🥰
Thank you so much!! I sure will
I wear my natural hair sometimes (which is beautiful, I love it) YOU CAN DEFINITELY BE A BADDIE WITH NATURAL HAIR but I'm from miami and there is a clear difference of how I'm treated with other textures vs my natural hair. I'm in a very happy relationship and my man actually prefers my natural hair but for modeling jobs and going out in this city I get a lot more favoritism/bookings with weave, wigs, and extensions. that needs to change.
Beautiful hair,especially the edges!❤
thank you 😊
Crazy this just came up on my feed. My name is Eva as well! I wore a weave for the holidays I haven't wore one for 10 years. It was a rude awareness how much i dislike not feeling my real hair. Very very uncomfortable, but glad to see this content. Blessings 💜
It was meant to be Eva! Thank you ❤️
Love you girl. ! You’re right! We have the only type of hair that is different
I’ve been natural since even before I became a teenager back in the early 2010s. Haven’t looked back since. My Afro is here to stay.
here to stay!
You mentioning your tea made me realize that I also had tea that was going cold lol
hahahahaha i had to drink it bc the china i was using cannot be microwaved
You and your hair are gorgeous! Agree with everything you've said!
Thank you so much Liz!
I have natural curly hair I always used to wear my hair unapologetically in high school with my fro and as I grew older I got into the weaves but I had that exact same thought I don’t want to look like everyone else natural is better less is more , and my fro is a fashion statement for me , 🖤
You ever feel like your fro goes with certain outfits?
I love this conversation and agree 100%. Why miss the opportunity to look like yourself + be beautiful and unique!
chasing men is such a masculine energy.
men are the ones who chase women. men are the ones who fight for women. men are the ones who do whatever to get women.
not the other way around.
I love this, so encouraging Thank You!
you’re welcome!
I love your aura and beauty!
I came across this video when you first posted it and I think it sparked something in me. Im technically natural but would always wear silk presses or braids. Fast forward to now, I recently just said F it! Did a mini chop and been wearing natural styles (twist outs and wash and gos). I felt the need to push myself to feel confident in my natural hair. And Ive been getting a lot of compliments and I just feel good!
Yesssss sistren!!! Proud of you. Sometimes we can surprise ourselves by trying something new 😉
I've seen some natural baddies. Some natural women have mastered wearing their own hair and wear outfits & light make up that turn heads!! Chile, no wig, weave, bbl, or false face makeup needed. Beauty is from the inside out! ....Take care of yourself.👍🏾
Your voice is so soothing, I love it 🥰
I loved this. When you said we have to accept we are never going to wake up and grow straight hair out of our heads that hit. I think it’s a hard truth to look in the mirror and realize that I myself have been anti black and didn’t even realize it . Thank you for this video you’re GORGEOUS by the way
Thank you so so much! Yep it’s a lot of insights in this video. Some harder to accept than others. Appreciate you for watching 💕
You touched on some real things when it comes to natural hair and society. I could definitely relate 🙌🏾 reclaiming my natural 🤍
as u should ♥️
i’ve been waiting for this video!!!
It’s here baby boo!!!
Been natural since age 34 and I'm 48 now. It's not always easy. I have struggled with confidence here and there, but I'm proud that I continued to wear it. As it grew (now mid backlength) I began to find other styles and not care as much about my frizzy texture. I've learned to embrace it more.
I personally hate nightlife and dating so the male attention wasn't much of an issue for me. lol But you definitely attract a different kind of guy and the attention from CERTAIN men is less. Which isn't bad if you think about it.