For me, it's gotten to the point that I give off an aura that repels people. I can feel the disdain from many of them, as if I am this walking piece of toxic waste. I tried to be social, but people thought I was annoying, stupid, or weird. I stopped seeing any benefit to opening up to people because it never leads to friendship. People don't accept me, and I am the one who gets hurt.
By shutting down like this, all you're doing is ensuring you never make friendships or have people accept you. You can't expect anyone to accept you if you close yourself off and put up walls. I say this not to be a jerk, but to try and help.
I've screenshoted your comment! I can relate to each and every word.. a couple months ago I joined 11th grade and there were all new people in my class, I was not even the one who changed my school bt there are felt like an absolute outcast, I felt as if people do not even wish to interact with me.. 2 months later, here I'm who sits all alone, and sometimes doesn't speak A SINGLE word in the entire 9 hours spent there..
The depressing part, is that most people don't put on an act. Their superficiality is genuine. When they pretend to care, you know that it's not genuine. When they claim that they have empathy, they mean that they have sympathy. The real people are scattered in each country, feeling similar to the way you do.
Something I realized for socializing with people is that people really enjoy talking about themselves, seems so weird from the perspective of a socially anxious person right? I ask questions and follow up questions, often they don't reciprocate by asking me questions and that's fine by me. Also not forcing conversation/socializing when there's nothing I want to say, nothing wrong with that :)
Totally agree with your sentiments. I know how to interact but I just don't want to. Have a v stressful job and get worn out with social interaction. Total introvert. Why is it such a stigma to be a quiet introvert without people bitching cos of you being less social and quiet. Extroverts are the worst and hardest to be around. So much chatter non stop. Thank you for making this video. Glad for your honesty and sharing this sentiment.
Hey wing. Found your videos a long time ago and relate to a lot of what you say. Currently struggling with my co workers as well. I just want them to leave me alone and work by myself most of the time haha 😩 Just wanted to say you’re not alone. I think people like us are just harder to find out in there in the big bad world :( much love and try to keep your head up as much as possible:)
I think one of your co-workers probably turn other people against you. That's pure narcissistic and childish! Be careful! A lot of gossipers in the workplace. I've had bilingual co-workers who tried to destroy my character, so I decide to leave. That workplace is too toxic.
I literally work in the school system,I don't mind talking to students from time to time, but some of my co workers is no no. Like today is sports day but I didn't go, my supervisor called me and said I need to socialize more, who? Me? Not with those people am not. And I hate it when they try to force me to do it🙄 😑
I watched your videos because I can relate to them. I also chose hospitality even though I think I might have social anxiety because I think it could help me improve and maybe get to meet "nice" people. I could say that I'm starting to think I chose wrong but I still hope that I could get better. Subscribed because I was so down today, having spiraling thoughts that I'd stay the same no matter how hard I try, it's good to be understood and know that I'm not alone ❤️
I go through the same thing ,,, ive been in school for 1 year and i haven't made any relationship with my feiend ,as frustrating as it can be ,, we have to try and take it day by day
Your video is so refreshing, at least I don't feel so alone with this issue. I felt i had to keep up with current entertainment like it was a college class just to exist. It's ridiculously exhausting. I try to talk and I feel im constantly pushed out, I kinda gave up at this point tbh
firstly I wanna say that having the courage to post your discontent here, for everyone, is powerful and it's good to see real people dealing with problems that are most common than we can imagine, but we don't actually see cause the tendency of the internet is to show only the brightiest side of our existance. I can relate to your anxiety, I started recently to be more confindent to talk to people, especially girls and what I can say for my experience is that you can learn, the most you interact, the more fluid and natural you feel at social situations, even though you will certainly pass for some awkwardness, but the point is that in the future, maybe the next day, no one will remember a bad interaction you had with someone. and you can't click with everyone, each people is diferent, some will respond you with empathy and sincerity, some will freak out when interact with you, and some will be neutral, there's nothing logical about personal relationships, but we can improve as we face it, have a good one and thanks for sharing!
I feel anxious when my manager makes conversation with me too as I am usually waiting for her to tell me something I am doing wrong at work. I know though that she is just trying to be friendly but managers always make me nervous.
Same here. I'm always scared to talk to my managers and I get really frustrated when I see an 18 year old just casually chatting with the manager like they're friends or something. Teachers also made me really nervous in school.
I am the same way now. If someone is not a creative or someone that has something interesting going on, I want nothing to do with it at all. I am so sick and tired of the repetitive and monotonous nature of social conversations and small talk. It's just something that I am hardly ever in the mood to do. I completely and absolutely understand what you mean and why you are this way. Glad I found your channel and someone that understands and relates. Take care...SBN NataN 🌗
I’m very quite and introverted and I like to stay at home and play video games and watch anime. like dragon ball z and play games like pac man world I miss the 90s so much.
For me, it's gotten to the point that I give off an aura that repels people. I can feel the disdain from many of them, as if I am this walking piece of toxic waste.
I tried to be social, but people thought I was annoying, stupid, or weird. I stopped seeing any benefit to opening up to people because it never leads to friendship. People don't accept me, and I am the one who gets hurt.
By shutting down like this, all you're doing is ensuring you never make friendships or have people accept you. You can't expect anyone to accept you if you close yourself off and put up walls. I say this not to be a jerk, but to try and help.
@@Bonobo_JoJo I know. I'm trying to find that place, internally, that will make that possible.
@@bambooforrests I wish you the best of luck!
@@Bonobo_JoJo Thank you. With my social anxiety and cognitive challenges, I am going to need it.
I've screenshoted your comment! I can relate to each and every word.. a couple months ago I joined 11th grade and there were all new people in my class, I was not even the one who changed my school bt there are felt like an absolute outcast, I felt as if people do not even wish to interact with me.. 2 months later, here I'm who sits all alone, and sometimes doesn't speak A SINGLE word in the entire 9 hours spent there..
The depressing part, is that most people don't put on an act. Their superficiality is genuine.
When they pretend to care, you know that it's not genuine.
When they claim that they have empathy, they mean that they have sympathy.
The real people are scattered in each country, feeling similar to the way you do.
Thanks Angelic, hopefully I can meet these real people someday.
For me, it is not that I can't, it is that i just deeply hate it.
Something I realized for socializing with people is that people really enjoy talking about themselves, seems so weird from the perspective of a socially anxious person right? I ask questions and follow up questions, often they don't reciprocate by asking me questions and that's fine by me. Also not forcing conversation/socializing when there's nothing I want to say, nothing wrong with that :)
Totally agree with your sentiments. I know how to interact but I just don't want to. Have a v stressful job and get worn out with social interaction. Total introvert. Why is it such a stigma to be a quiet introvert without people bitching cos of you being less social and quiet. Extroverts are the worst and hardest to be around. So much chatter non stop. Thank you for making this video. Glad for your honesty and sharing this sentiment.
Vent to ur family when f no one else cares
My hobbies as a socially anxious person are reading novels, watching eating videos 😅
My hobbies are singing and watching random youtube videos
Hey wing. Found your videos a long time ago and relate to a lot of what you say. Currently struggling with my co workers as well. I just want them to leave me alone and work by myself most of the time haha 😩
Just wanted to say you’re not alone. I think people like us are just harder to find out in there in the big bad world :( much love and try to keep your head up as much as possible:)
Thanks Taylor :) One good thing about my current job is that I get to work by myself on the weekends haha
I think one of your co-workers probably turn other people against you. That's pure narcissistic and childish! Be careful! A lot of gossipers in the workplace. I've had bilingual co-workers who tried to destroy my character, so I decide to leave. That workplace is too toxic.
1000th viewer :)
You have such a calming voice
One thing I have found out, is that not every extraverted person wants to talk to everyone and just specific people.
I really dont like talking to anyone. I dont like people. Over all the nonsense.
Its all pointless.
Like yall
I literally work in the school system,I don't mind talking to students from time to time, but some of my co workers is no no. Like today is sports day but I didn't go, my supervisor called me and said I need to socialize more, who? Me? Not with those people am not.
And I hate it when they try to force me to do it🙄 😑
Maybe you are an introvert. You could be a sigma female.
Anyone's decision to not socialize or have socializing issues..
I just cannot be bothered to socialize much to be frankly dead honest..
I watched your videos because I can relate to them. I also chose hospitality even though I think I might have social anxiety because I think it could help me improve and maybe get to meet "nice" people. I could say that I'm starting to think I chose wrong but I still hope that I could get better. Subscribed because I was so down today, having spiraling thoughts that I'd stay the same no matter how hard I try, it's good to be understood and know that I'm not alone ❤️
I go through the same thing ,,, ive been in school for 1 year and i haven't made any relationship with my feiend ,as frustrating as it can be ,, we have to try and take it day by day
Your video is so refreshing, at least I don't feel so alone with this issue. I felt i had to keep up with current entertainment like it was a college class just to exist. It's ridiculously exhausting. I try to talk and I feel im constantly pushed out, I kinda gave up at this point tbh
firstly I wanna say that having the courage to post your discontent here, for everyone, is powerful and it's good to see real people dealing with problems that are most common than we can imagine, but we don't actually see cause the tendency of the internet is to show only the brightiest side of our existance. I can relate to your anxiety, I started recently to be more confindent to talk to people, especially girls and what I can say for my experience is that you can learn, the most you interact, the more fluid and natural you feel at social situations, even though you will certainly pass for some awkwardness, but the point is that in the future, maybe the next day, no one will remember a bad interaction you had with someone. and you can't click with everyone, each people is diferent, some will respond you with empathy and sincerity, some will freak out when interact with you, and some will be neutral, there's nothing logical about personal relationships, but we can improve as we face it, have a good one and thanks for sharing!
Can somebody relate to str8 up leaving a club becouse there are people there?
I feel anxious when my manager makes conversation with me too as I am usually waiting for her to tell me something I am doing wrong at work. I know though that she is just trying to be friendly but managers always make me nervous.
Same here. I'm always scared to talk to my managers and I get really frustrated when I see an 18 year old just casually chatting with the manager like they're friends or something. Teachers also made me really nervous in school.
I am the same way now. If someone is not a creative or someone that has something interesting going on, I want nothing to do with it at all. I am so sick and tired of the repetitive and monotonous nature of social conversations and small talk. It's just something that I am hardly ever in the mood to do. I completely and absolutely understand what you mean and why you are this way. Glad I found your channel and someone that understands and relates. Take care...SBN NataN 🌗
I’m very quite and introverted and I like to stay at home and play video games and watch anime. like dragon ball z and play games like pac man world I miss the 90s so much.
Vedic astrology darling try?
Hey, good to see u after so long. We missed you 🥺
Thanks Nistha :)
Did you try therapy?
You seem like a cool person
I have better conversations with myself 😂🤣
Have you heard of a game called anodyne?
hi am awkward again ,, haha so meee