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The best part of the video: "There is no need to change yourself for people who are not interested in forming a relationship with you. Instead, it's better to redirect that energy into people who are actually interested and care for you."
Kind hearted and sincere people are ignored often. Edit: while running behind people to gain their attention i never realized i had people who actually wanted to be close to me and enjoyed my company. So i stopped and looked back and now i have two most amazing friends in the world and life is way more easy.
Yeah.. this world is so weird. Wtf. If we're kind hearted, were getting bullied, and if we are mean or hide who we really are, we're respected... 🙃😩 But personally, I don't care if I get bullied by jerks or bigots anymore. I just wanna be open and be myself. Especially after hiding and pretending for so many years.
You can be nice, but dont let yourself get walked all over either. There isnt such thing as too nice. Its just that people who are like that tend to get stomped on and dont know how to take it other than to stop being nice, which is sad.
@@jeffrenjr should learn to say " No ", this will boost your ego and gives strong impressions on others. However, don't over do it, because it may make people hate you. Only in a situation where you find yourself unusually uncomfortable or difficult to compromise yourself.
After seeing a therapist they're actually right. I have a narcissistic mom, and my dad was kind of neglectful. Everyone in my life talks about how nice I am, and for a long time I considered myself to simply be a nice and kind hearted person (which not to say I'm not). But there's a limit to how nice a normal person is. I was too nice just like you said, and I was doing this subconsciously so people would like me and give me attention/love-the things my parents failed to give me. Being "too nice" is often a result of trauma/neglect, and normal people think it's weird and desperate because even if we're not desperate, deep down the reason for it is desperate and they can see it while we can't. There is a limit to how nice a person can be. If you see someone that's sick and you ask them 1-2 times if they're alright/need something then youre a nice person. If you keep asking them the entire night then you're just annoying and I've been on both ends of this. People ignore you because they realize something is wrong with you, even if you don't realize it.
For those who don’t have time 🙂: 1. You do not listen to others 2. You criticize too much 3. You are full of negativity 4. Your presence doesn’t grab attention 5. You overthink what you’re going to say Bonus: They might not really be interested in talking with/to you. Edit: Here’s my advice to all of you, be kind to others but most importantly yourself. Whether you do any of these consciously or subconsciously, just work on becoming the best version of yourself. The people who are meant to be in your life will gravitate to you.
Dang. I can be successful if you change everything about myself. My issues have to do with anxiety and attention...so my social life is pretty much kneecapped.
"You overthink what you're going to say" It's hard not to overthink when you dont want to accidentally offend other people and makes yourself look like a total clown :(
Someone told me once that "I wasn't speaking my mind when talking" so I said to her "I don't think you know me" and that bitch now doesn't let me speak my mind otherwise she gets offended 😫😫 And now she is hanging out a lot with my bestie/soulsister cause I introduced her to her when I didn't know who she truly was. I can't with this anymore...
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Even when u care for everyone you are ignored When you want to give everyone a chance to speak you are ignored When you are always positive ,smiling and happy no one is interested in what you are trying to say Your friends are giving everyone else their attention and you are no longer their priority it hurts. It hurts even more when you are going through all of this and you are part of a trio ( but remember there is a always a duo in the trio ) I try to bring up the good in me but then i shut because I am always the problem .
Sounds like you need to get better friends or better yet ditch the ones you've got and just be by yourself and do your own thing. Ain't nothing wrong with being your own best friend. When they start seeing that you want nothing to do with them they'll come knocking at your door wondering why it is you don't want anything to do with them and just tell them, you people don't want me around so don't talk to me. Go ahead and free yourself. that'll really throw them off guard.
I feel that I think that sometimes constantly keeps happening to me and I was once in a group of five friend but the they mad duos and I was by myself at the end of the day except my one friend. I once got into an argument with one I usually do and all my other “friends” just went to comfort the other one and completely forgot about me and did not care about me except that one friend and one other person
I also think it’s important to remember sometimes you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong and it’s the other people that are the problem. Sometimes your just hanging with the wrong crowed and they don’t appreciate you.
I just really hate being the kind of guy that genuinely likes listening to people and how they feel but no one gives a wet shit about what I have to say. Cranks the loneliness to 11.
I had a friend in high school who was not only ignored but judged because he was awkward, quiet, and was always failing in school work, like people always thinks of him as a failure negative guy, ya know someone you should not be friends with, but he really wasnt a negative guy, he would always help me and he was really friendly, like really friendly, i really like him as a friend because we would always talk about life or even show our true self to each other with no worries.
I remember a year ago my social anxiety was so bad i wouldn’t even talk to a single person and i hated myself, Now i have a large group of friends but i sometimes just get ignored. I have made major progress and i will keep going and stay positive through this challenge. I got this! Update: 5 months after i posted this i would say by now the old me is fully obliterated.I am now focused on my goals without distractions.I realized that everything on the outside is a reflection of your own thoughts. I am now the one that is the most confident and uplifting in any situation. Once you can master your mind, habits, and emotions you are unstoppable. Remember that those uncomfortable moments are there for a reason. Stay strong fellas.💪
How do you do this. Pls I need advice. I don’t talk to people unless I have a close relationship with them but I can’t get a close relationship with anyone.
Yeah... No. My problem with that cursed phrase is it's an all out excuse not to contemplate and improve yourself. "Who cares what anyone says, I'm walking my own path teehee." A subtle way to say "I'm a Narcissist Egomaniac."
I always fee ignored by a friend of mine. She talks a lot and I always listen, no matter how tired I am. But whenever I try to speak, she jumps in and changes the subject. I tolerate it, but lately I've been feeling like nobody ever listens to me. Not just her. I feel like I make an effort to listen to people and get them to speak about their feelings and thoughts, but no one ever listens to me. I feel kinda lonely because of it. I mean I have a friend who seems to listen to me, but I always feel like I'm being a nuisance.
I think you should tell her. If she can't understands you, let her go. You deserve so much better than this. Lots of people out there you might like. And they'll like you back. Don't waste your soul with unkind people.
That’s tough, I can see how that’s uncomfortable. Maybe you feel like a nuisance cause your not used to being listened to and to that friend your not as annoying as you think. I think you could try sticking with that friend who does listen to you 💜💜
People are petty, and they don't really know how to have a conversation ... objectivity of a reality can be hard for others. They also use power tactics. So, "An ignor for an ignor"
Thank you, there is a lot of rudeness and crassness in the world today due to how people were raised growing up and not being taught certain things. Not everyone was raised this way but we must share this planet together! It can very difficult, though.
I got off social media and because of that, people who I considered friends don't interact with me outside of the platform. It's like they forgot I exist. Out of sight out of mind. There is the fact that I do miss being seen. But I fight that to not rely on social media validation addiction.
You can't discard social media entirely. You need to be realistic. However you and your friends can get an alternative platform which mostly only you use together. So you can interact outside of the crowded spaces, so to say.
A lot of times, you're not the reason that you're being ignored. It's just that you are in a wrong group. Stay with humble and mature people (rare to find) and you won't ever feel like being ignored
And what if you are president of a company or country? what if its not an option to allow yourself to be ignored? What if you're in a position of responsibility and this involves the safety of others? then your voice needs to be heard. At the same time, they might be "rare to find" because its rare to find people who can tolerate or like you. This may mean that you need to grow and change. Just cause you're confident in not needing others unless they like you as you are doesn't mean that there's no room for improvement and you don't have to change. It's arrogant to think this way. You can always work on yourself to become a better, more likable person.
Hey. One of my teachers in elementary school said to me something really important, she said: "everyone has periods when they behave badly and periods when they behave right, is just part of being a human, we all go through that" Hope this might help you.
I use to be a really negative person but then I started to surround myself with positive people and participate in new things, now I'm usually a really happy person, maybe you should try if you can?
I was like this most of my life - being ignored by others and I had a feeling that nobody cares about my opinions, even tho they were my friends. But after I moved to a different group of people, they were listening and cared about everyones opinions on the topic. So for me, it was a bad enviroment.
@@captainmingo6047you will bro dont lose hope, if you let depression or loneliness destroy all your motivation to work on yourself and get out there in the world to show yourself as you are, youll never find them, but if u dont u definitely will
it’s the greatest feeling ever. i was in terrible pain in class one time and a friend of mine passed a note to me asking if im alright. like, someone seriously just noticed my pain?!??
That’s plausible but I’ve seen people lie on the phone to others using these reasons. After that I started to distrust people when they say they’re depressed or busy.
-i always listen to people -i barely criticize people -if people being negative i will be the source of their positivity, but when people being positive sometimes i take turn on being negative -i hate drawing people attention, but i need attentions sometimes. That's why i'd rather not bother other people with my presence -Yes, i always overthink what i'm going to say cause i always say bad things if i don't overthink it. I'm afraid to hurt others, that's why i'd rather listen people talk than talking to others
Oh god this is me . Finally someone like me I also have to overthink otherwise i say something rude which i don't wanna say but its not in my control. I feel like a bad person who can't even say something good like others.
Rude like being an asshole or rude because people don't get directly what you mean (that's why you think of wording they understand without analysing?) If so, you are not implicitly rude but you are perceived rude. Maybe you are neurodiverse.
To the person who sees this comment. I hope one day you will find that group of homies who care and love listening to what you're talking and what the others talking and that you'll have a happy long lasting friendship/group 😊
One of the most infuriating things anyone can experience is when there's a group conversation, the person talking finishes their bit, so then you start to talk about something to the group, but then someone else starts talking a full 2-3 seconds after you started, and everyone somehow ignores you and listens to the other person instead. This happens to me more often than it feels like it should. Now I should point out I have ADHD and high-functioning autism to a major degree, but I still can't figure out why this still happens.
I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean. i usualy leave go home. im only 5"8 but aparently i intimidate alot of people. sorry about spelling i have brain injury. anyway ive sufferd mental illness maybe my whole life. start with fetal alcohol syndrome. hard to keep rage under control, n self harm seems gettin worse. used to hav bunch friends. hav none now. i would hav listend to you. you had somethin to say, i wud listen. guess i was talkin bout myself alot there. but anyway i think im hiting loss of reality
OMG so relatable, I finished to abandon and never talk in a group. Now everyone is like "pikachu faced" asking me "why u don't talk", because I can't...
That happens a lot. I'm better at one on one but even then I get shut down after saying 'I had a really interesting thing happen the other day' The other person just enthusiastically tells me about their day instead, which makes me feel like I must be really boring to listen to cos I hadn't even started.
Just be honest but considerate out loud I’m a really confident person and I wasn’t always like that but you have to accept yourself as a person and think that your just as important as everyone else and sometimes it’s ok to be selfish and sometimes is bad to do that you just have to learn timing which is really hard but extremely important and the best way to learn that is experience
@@Len4ki Idk about others but my way to do it was : Learning to know myself by staying alone a huge amount of time, working out (easiest way to gain confidence imo), be more selfish and caring less about what others people can think of me bc afterall im the only one really knowing myself. And the hardest but the most rewarding is to get out of your comfort zone, for example talking more in public, cracking jokes ect even if they are lames, talking to the girl that impressionate you ect. Thats just my own experience and it worked pretty well, still on my journey
These videos help people realize the cause of their problems and presents them a basic solution. Once you know what the path that leads to your goal is, it is up to you to find it and walk it. And what you find at the end of that path may not even be your goal. But do you know what the journey brings you closer to? Yourself.
I'm glad I had more extrovert friends than introvert ones in high school. They didn't last, but some of their personality traits rubbed off on me, so later I felt more confident to make the environment or conversation comfortable for other introverts like me. I pay attention to everyone and notice when someone's being ignored or talked over, and I have no problem asking them to repeat what they said, or react when no one else had been listening. It always feels rewarding when I see the relieved/grateful look in their eyes and their bright smile. :)
I always try to do the same too! Whenever someone talks but is interrupted, after the other person finishes speaking, I try to tell them to continue and show them that I’m interested in what they’re saying
Timestamps: 0:00- Introduction 1:12- You Do not Listen to Others 1:57- You Criticize Too Much 2:40- You are Full of Negativity 3:12- Your Presence Does not Grab Attention 3:55- You Overthink What You are Going to Say 4:30- Outro
I was often ignored by people for almost 1st 25 years of my life and it took a toll on my confidence.After I entered in the workplace, I suddenly understood,I've become surrounded by the right people.I am now very happy with my life.
How do you know they're the right ppl?the friend's i used to hang out with in middleschool made me feel really good,but now i hang out with these new friends they make me feel left out a lot i really wanna change my friendgroup
@@hanaloveshalox I rly appreciate all the help and yk i haven't rly cut ties with my old friends cuz then they'll think I'm dramatic or some sh*t but I made new friends so I don't have to stick to the toxic ones only,its good to expand the friend circle right, hanging out with two or three friends (especially toxic ones) is a not always great thanks btw really!
I basically listen to everyone carefully and I rarely criticise. I also may be negative but never spread negativity. However, if I don't have my really good friend by my side I would be left, unnoticed.
You might feel like you go unnoticed, but the people who really matter in your life will notice you. These people are your people. You matter. I promise.
that sounds like me. which totally made me chose to be alone and socially selective. it's hard to explain things to people who don't want to listen to, especially friends who doesn't understand.
this is so me,i have been complaining inside myself or dragging myself down for not getting attention when i need one,but i do not spread negativity too much for them to ignore me..
The best part is people who are always talking abt themselves, who just care abt their experience when you are telling yours and are always glorifying abt the experiences that they had and who are loud, cut off people talking are the ones that always somehow never get ignored. Me being respectful with everyones opinion not cutting them off but also not being pushover always do get ignored
If they're ignoring you .. when they are talking just walk off right in the middle of what they're saying .. give them a taste of what it's like. Then if they say something to you later just be blase and say 'oh I got bored sorry thought that's what you do when it's boring like what you do to me when I'm boring YOU. What can they say after that lol.
Yeah this video is an example. She starts by gaslighting all the video watchers and insulting them, 3 of the first 5 things are gas lighting. And somehow her video succeeds with 6.7 million views. Meanwhile 95% of my comments and all of my videos are ignored and get no views. Makes my blood boil really, especially hearing her innocuous sounding voice while she narrates the video insulting anybody who's watching.
@@MrChubba10a coworker did this to me two/three times I've always wanted to do the same to her but never got the chance. I'm glad I'm not at that job anymore .
its a bad cyrcle cause if things dont go well you start to hate interaction and then get proven next time it happens. try instead to work on it step by step. its a long process with an awful beginning but its worth it in the end.
Yeah i have the "talent" of seemingly disappearing right in front of people. I mean I've had housemates who were just talking to me not a minute ago come looking all over for me when i had not moved from the spot i was in. I've had stuff like that happen super often though i also sometimes let them keep at it just to see how long it takes them to realise they keep walking past me. So yeah i'm aware i don't have a large presence i also don't like drawing too much attention to myself.
all the comments and this video helped me a lot 🥲 knowing im not alone makes me feel at ease. i always felt like when me and my friends talking in a big group and i tried to talk they wouldnt just get their head on me. Even a person. I always thought maybe theres something wrong with me, or maybe the people i was with are just talking more loudly and in more interested way. 3 months ago my school had some camping outside the school and because people keep ignoring me meanwhile they have a lot of people to talk with makes me feel alone that i even starts crying atthe night, my whole friends knew and the teacher even asks me what happened, i said that i feel alone and ignored, but i said its because of my family problems too, now i realized its mainly because no one talks to me and i do this negative overthinking so much. I can go on with all problems i have since no one had ever their ears on me but this is the main reason im feeling and im happy to share this enough
People ignore people for a myriad of reasons. I was ignored a lot in high school, it definitely CAUSED me to get bitter and cynical, and critical of others. People ignored me, so I just stopped trying... Pretty happy with the outcome to be honest. The people I was trying to connect with, are shallow, pathetic and so obnoxiously self centered people, I totally dodged a bullet.
I tell jokes on my channel, at 9:00 every day. If people laugh, then they have a little bit of free joy. If not, at least I thought it was funny. No pretensions, no scams, no fake friendships. Just a joke, until tomorrow.
I had a similar situation. I was practically a mute throughout middle school and I already have a naturally “evil” atmosphere about me, so I became very careful and pessimistic on who I was friends with. Good news, I have honest friends in highschool now. Bad news is I’m constantly paranoid about losing them because my social skills suck and I don’t understand emotions in a relationship all that well.
For me it's always this: I'll be friends with two people who don't know each other. They will meet through me, become good friends n leave me out in everything they do. It's not just one or two but a whole bunch of people whom I regarded as good friends (not anymore). They'll cut me out in everything they did together. Or some will invite me n cancel in the last minute. The most common excuse being their grandparents or relatives died. And this is also the reason why I became an introvert.
That happened to me in middle school and high school. I made the mistake of introducing every friend I ever made to this one toxic girl who was the reason I got bullied in middle school. I was dumb and wanted her to like me so even when I found out she would spread rumors and get people to bully me I still forgave her. Anyways, every new person I'd meet I would bring them into our friend group. One by one they all became close friends and pretty much shunned me out of the group by the end of it all.
I have the same problem but at another level: I'm a cupid in spite of myself. When I am with 2 other people they always fall in love, whether or not I'm attracted to one of them... I'm the best candlestick of the History! It's kinda annoying...
In the future don’t introduce your friends to each other. Keep separate groups, so if one group closes you off, you have another to lean on. I learnt that the hard way, just like you. It is also good to build connections with different kinds of people, but once again makes sure they don’t overlap or they will become friends who will shut you out. People are selfish jerks so you gotta keep tabs on them.
“Youre presence doesnt grab attention, you need to boost your confidence” easier said than done when you have social fucking anxiety. The last two point are actually spot on for me.
Right... My anxiety and lack of self worth are a freaking nightmare combo. Let's just do our best to build our confidence, maybe we'll get there some day🤝🏾
@@userm180 this is nice of you to say even to mere strangers on the internet... As someone who's always the listening ear to others, I in turn don't have anyone to turn to, don't wanna overwhelm my younger sibling so I keep to myself. It really sucks not having anyone to talk to, at least truly listen with no other intent but to just be there for you... But you learn to live with it eventually
@@molamola721 i totally understand you tbh. im the same, by choice tho😭i feel like crap every time i try to explain my feelings so i just gave up lol. anyways, i really hope you can find people you can confide in in real life too, but until then, i'm all ears
If anything I'd want to be around the people full of negativity to help them or at least be there for them. Everyone experiences negativity. Ignoring those people doesn't fix or solve anything, it just makes them feel more alone.
@@jakeblitzcoffie4859 that's honorable but if you ever been around people for years and all they know is being negative, it will drain you too in the end. Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
@@doremireiko1087 what about people that became negative because of who they hung out and now they’ve changed to be better and you’re still stuck being negative :(
I actually saw a sign today that said: “Beautiful souls recognize beautiful souls. Keep being yourself and your people will find you!" If you’re an introvert, just try at least a tiny bit more to put yourself in a social situation, maybe one you feel more comfortable with. As someone who used to be 100% an introvert, I became an extrovert for a while in college during my time as an RA, and now I’d say I'm a healthy ambivert. I find farmers markets are great places for introverts to practice because vendors will literally be calling out to you to try something. I’d say MOST of them are super nice too! For all you people-pleasers (like me), it’s also a great way to practice setting boundaries because you learn how to kindly tell them "no" if you don’t want something. I usually just ask a question about the product and follow up by saying, "I might be back!" It works every time! :D Good luck out there, people! You got dis
@@stickanimatorlolb.cheekydr7321 damn thx for telling us the exact time you finished pooping I will use that for my pythagorean theorem studies to prove I can trade angles for the first time in a year and then I will be a little more confident in my ability to be able to play with my own
I'm someone whose lack of confidence, has social anxiety and overthinks what i should say so yeah, i have 2 close friends in my workplace , they're kind, full of sparks and easy going and i'm here feeling that it's just hard to catch up with them in our group convo especially so yeah sometimes i felt being left out and ignored:)
Just the same I feel like I'm a third wheel, they're too cheerful and energetic they live their life to the fullest. And here I'm watching in silence, I'm there with them but not really. They only remember my existence when they are troubled lol. Or if they want to solve any issue that requires more logic... Maybe I'm a solving machine 🤷♀️
There are other reasons too, and it’s not always about the speaker. A lot of people don’t listen to very intelligent or insightful people because they can’t keep up, or they don’t want to think that hard. Other people form conclusions early in conversations and assume they know what is going to be said, so they stop listening or jump in with their own views. A lot of people don’t know how to actually listen. The list goes on and on.
that reminds me of two friends of mine! they're intelligent. they often talk about math, physics and that kind of stuff, which I've got a harder time to manage! sometimes I feel super dumb around them, but...I still love them and I'm super interested to hear everything they say, although I wouldn't understand 99% of it!
I also feel it can be discouraging to tell someone "people ignore you because they talk too much about themselves" because alot of people with mental health issues can be quite lonely or sometimes isolated due to their condition (whether through their needs to be alone or just anxious about being around others) so that might be their only point of reference for any conversation. Sadly they can't talk about other people they know as they may not know many others or have other things to go on. It's finding people who are willing to keep those things in mind when talking with you that I think helps. Because then you can mediate the conversation. A little about them and alittle about yourself
Exactly...Many people are only skin deep in the conversation...They use a conversation to socially bond or at least pay lip service to the ritual...The deep thinkers (I am one) are off putting because they use conversations to probe ideas and thinking patterns...Most people are in fact unnerved by insight -- though they say otherwise...
And some people don't listen to you because they know your opinions are different to theirs and they are intolerant of opposing views. They stick with their fan club.
People don’t realize that if you choose to ignore someone, it may feed why they are someone you want to ignore. Some people are starving for attention and conversation because they get so little of it.
I'll be an honest soul and say that at times I do crave attention. It's something that's hard to change being how socially awkward I am and trying to socialize with people more is extremely tough. I know I'm going to look weird trying to converse with people but I step out of my comfort zone anyway in hopes of something great.
I used to be ignored a lot, but not as much anymore. Looking back, the people who ignored me were mostly self obsessed, rude people with little respect for others. As I got older I met plenty of people that gave me the space and time to talk, and than have actually listened to what I have to say.
Golden advice, hang around people who give you their ears just as how you give them yours, if you dont feel like they are sharing convo with you for solid 30 minutes then you gotta know these people are waste of time for you. also try to get busy with thi ga and focus less about how people feel and think of you it will give you anxiety trust me, have a good day
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Language barrier is interesting to me because I have some foreign co-wokers and trying to converse with them is often super exhausting. I don't have the mental capacity to guess what they are telling me and acousticly not understanding everything. Most of them are really nice but usually even though I'm not so much into talking with people, I prefer people that can understand me clearly (at least when we're talking about language and not the content of the message). I actually enjoy talking in English (my second language) more than talking in my native tongue because conversations get less personal this way even though I would talk about myself, I can distance myself a bit more. But also to me it applies to girls I consider pretty. Often I am to afraid to talk to them or get too nervous. Financial status also applies to me, I'm not talking high class. Even around the normal folks, there are those living the dream like having family, car, house, going on holidays, doing meaningful work, having interesting hobbies, and then there's me, not doing bad but not beeing able to use my full potential at all.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperorユウ a very interesting perspective. Also, I too am someone who is more comfortable with English rather than my native language. What is your native language?
@@madhumita3293 My natime language is German. 😊 What is yours? By the way: To make things even a bit more complicated, due to the place I live, I often switch between high German and the local dialect, depending on who I'm talking to.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperorユウ Oh I see. Didn’t know there were different dialects in German. My native language is Tamil but I barely speak it as English is far easier . I even ‘think’ in English. Does that happen to you?
@@madhumita3293 Yeah, it's a common misconception that the people of one country all speak in the same standard version of their language. It might be the case for America. If you're interest, you could look for a video of "different dialects in Germany or France", and you'll hear that they sound different. I am learning French and some regions are so hard to understand, even harder than normal French. At least since Martin Luther translated the bible 500 years ago or European countries became one country consisiting of several federal states, there is a standard version of the language. Before that, everybody was just talking in his dialect and that made communication super hard. Sometimes I think in English a bit, when reading or writing. I even can use words or phrases I remembered without really being able to translate them into German or knowing the exact meaning but often I'm sure that they are the right words. Weird. It might be difficult using two languages parallel. You can forget a lot of the words you learned when you don't use a language often.
Thank you so damn much for telling me that everything is my fault and completely ignoring the fact that most people ignore you because they find other people better than you,cooler than you and funnier than you (basically my case).
I am the quiet kid at school, not shy but I just don’t know what to say to people because I feel they have different things to talk about and I would feel weird, like I’m not supposed to like what I’m talking about just because others don’t have the same opinion. So most of the time I stay quiet and wait for the others to talk to me first. -EDIT- oh wow, a lot of people relate to this comment and liked it. I have never had this much likes. I just commented what I felt not really expecting to get likes but dang y’all proved me wrong. Thanks :D
I do the same. I don't talk much. I do almost all of the things on the list though... I stay quiet when others speak and never interrupt but I accidently talk about myself.. I care about how others feel though. I want to know how they feel, but in messages I often talk about me.
@@lesshuman00 I have tried talking so that I get more comfortable with other people. Hopefully when I’m older, I won’t be so quiet. Making TH-cam videos sometimes helps me get better at talking to people.
Same exept ppl at my school have intresting convos that I eeze drop on out of habit and I rly wanna join in and I end up daydreaming abt talking to them and it satisfied my social drive enough. Plus nobody likes it when I talk
Personally I feel like being ignored in a conversation is more embarrassing than anything When you say something and everyone just ignores you, its a feeling that's hard to shake off, like you said something stupid or awkward and yet its so hard to actually tell because having no response means you got no feedback which means you have no reaction to analyze I'm OCD So When it happens I feel a need to somehow "Dismiss" What I said when somebody ignores it with something like an "Actually never mind" Or 'Anyway" Etc Etc, and every time it happens I always feel so pathetic when I'm out of the situation It makes me feel like its not worth talking at all because nothing I say will be heard or acknowledged by anyone.
I've started going "excuse m - excuse m- EXCUSE ME. Let me finish my damn sentence." "You're rude, stop interrupting if you want to be heard." "Yeah, enjoy your circlejerking echo-chamber. I'm out. Do your research".
or when you say something, and someone else literally says the exact same thing you said earlier because they were ignoring you and didn't pay attention to what you said
SUMMARY OF HOW TO BE LESS IGNORABLE: 1) Let other people talk and share about themselves. Be humble and give as much as you take in a conversation. 2) Be helpful and constructive. Don’t overly criticize people when they share certain things with you. 3) Be positive. People like to hang around those who are positive rather than those who are always negative. 4) Be confident. Confidence (not cockiness) makes people more likely to approach you. 5) Say what’s on your mind. It may be appropriate to think about your words in certain situations, but not speaking at all may make them think you’re closed off and not interested. Above all else, love yourself! You can always grow as a better person, but you don’t need to change yourself entirely for others’ satisfaction. You are worth it and you deserve happiness! Surround yourself with those who love to be around you as much as you love to be around them. Keep your head high love ❤️
@@surrealty9240 I feel like sometimes, it isn't you who is the reason for them ignoring you, or it isn't your fault for them ignoring you. It's usually their personal life, or another reason like jealousy. I'm on the swim team and I've been best friends with a girl named Emma for around 6 ish years and now she's starting to ignore me, give me weird looks, and other things. She talks to everyone except for me. But, I'm also getting faster than her and I think that is part of the reason but idk
Awww, I remember watching this trying to figure out why I had no friends even though I knew the answer was that I kept rejecting myself before anyone else could.. I have friends now though! Someone helped me get the confidence to be with everyone else! I love him so much
No. 6 You're constantly around people you don't have much in common with so the majority if not all of what you say is misunderstood which could be triggering and ends up falling on deaf ears. It's important to find close connections with people you share a lot in common with, especially those things that are most important to you. An limit close and personal interactions with those you don't have a lot in common with because eventually it'll become problematic.
@@ankushraj9583 Same here.. Actually we are only 7 girls in my dept.. And literally all of them arr extremely extroverted made boyfriends in 1 2 days(I don't know how😅) and so not interested in studies.. And here I am a girl with social anxiety studious .. So what happens is I am ok while the classes are on but...💔
Sometimes it's not you. Your just on a whole other level of consciousness they are not on and either attracts jealousy because you have something they want.
Sometimes it’s best not to share too much about yourself , especially the deep stuff, get to know them first and it will come automatically. Start off with your hobbies or your favorite movies . Get a grasp on your values and stand up for what you believe in. Just because you’re views differ from others don’t mean a friendship can’t work.
Same for me. In 6th grade, I tried to be more open in front of my classmates. Judging by the looks of it, I think it just made them more annoyed of me. But it mostly depends on the people. Now I'm starting to feel like I am better off being a quiet student.
Same, and also a lot of time I just can't think of a way to get the words out. I'm known for saying things that people don't like or appreciate, being "too honest" or direct, and misunderstanding what people say or taking everything too seriously... So I overthink and try to find a way to say the things I wanna say in a way people will appreciate, but often can't find that one gold sentence option, so I just say nothing and feel bad and unsatisfied because I left people hanging.
I'm not over-thinking, I just can't relate to the conversation most of the time. It's why I get ignored at get-togethers, especially family ones. I feel like an outsider looking in.
Because they're talking bullshit!! Ignore what video said. What you need to do is find some friend with same interest with you. So you don't need to fake yourself interested with what you don't.
Don't worry, we share somehow similar experience. For instance, I'm someone who isn't interested in small talk and talking crap about other people to feel good about myself. That's the jam of my relatives but not mine. So most often than not, I'd rather be alone if the alternative is wearing a "mask."
i would say practice your confidence with people you dont like that way no matter what you say or how you act, you cant do any actual harm to any real friendships or relationships
why people are always ignoring me irl. it was like this since forever. when i was still in kindergarten or preschool, i always tried talking to everyone and i wanted to be friends with everyone, but everyone ignored me. i had only one friend. no one else wanted to play with me. maybe i was too annoying? i feel like i did something wrong, because there were some kids that disliked me. When i went to elementary school, half of my class were the same people i went to kindergarten and preschool with. they all were like 'wow we went to kindergarten together! that's cool let's be friends'. even those who weren't friends back then, become friends. but they are ignored me. everyone was making new friends, but no one wanted to be friends with me. Few times, when teachers were checking who's absent in class today, kids told my teacher i'm absent ....and they did it when i was in class. But one kid who did that actually apologized and said he actually didn't know that i was in class. uh kinda weird but i guess i'm happy to know someone realised that i exist... i'm so sorry for this being so long! i just felt like i needed to write about this, i could write about this for hours (and 90% of that time would be picking the right words and trying to make it have sense...) but i don't want to make long comment. If my comment seems confusing or i did mistakes, i'm sorry for it, please correct me. english isn't my native language.
@@jeffrenjr That's a very good question indeed. Well considering that the ambulance is Truck-kun, he could've been isekaid into our world. But seems like his harem is missing :/
I can relate to points four and five but that's because socializing with people is pretty hard. I try to avoid most people if I can. I don't like opening up to a lot of people because I've learned many hard lessons in the past that when I try to open up to people I get criticized or judged so I just keep my mouth shut. I do tend to think more negatively as a result of the way people treat me but that's not my fault. my motto is this, if people don't want me then don't talk to me. They can go ahead and free themselves.
There are so many things I can relate with what you just said. First yes don't over share especially if you are not that close to them and it's completely normal and in fact it's the right thing to do to take your time to get to know others but what is not the right thing is, "ignoring people as much as possible" no dear don't do that, I know you are scared to get hurt or be ignored but u get hurt only when you have high expectations, be happy to meet new people and old people, people are interesting and it's fun to listen to, instead of talking about your life ask them questions not like an interview but you can ask open ended questions like how was your day at school or college or work today, or if you know them mention something they had said before, keep thinks casual and don't over share or have over expectations from anyone, if you don't take initiative how do you expect others to. Wait for friendships and relationships to develop slowly over time don't force anything in your life, just let things happen naturally. Communication is not a commitment or a chain that someone needs to free themselves out of, it ought to happen naturally, what you need to remember is be happy to meet someone, spread your positivity to others, the light inside you is meant to be spread that doesn't mean you force someone to it, they will automatically be drawn to it, be happy with yourself and don't try to ignore other. God bless you and take care 😊❤
And also to be like a ghost that everyone is scare of? I mean, you're there, but they don't notice you and then when they realize you're there they say: my goodness, you were there? You scared me :'0
Same have such a weak presence in a social setting. That I can literally just leave and no one will notice. I’m basically invisibility
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Not for me. I am an introvert and also very very shy and insecure. I just hang out with the right people and do what I have to when I have to, and say what I have to say when I need to.
No one ever tells you how to be confident, that's the problem. I suffered bad with low confidence. I'm an introvert at heart but what I've learnt over the years is, say what's on your mind, if people don't like it it's their problem. And trust yourself more. We don't need help, if you achieve something on your own it gives you a sense of well being, and something to feel proud of. There's no right or wrong when trying to achieve something or better yourself, if you fail once, it's a lesson learned. Trust yourself is the best advice I can give. Good luck.
If you do things on your own and trust your instincts, how can you not feel more confident when something works out well. Promise you, trusting yourself and the decisions you make will change your world
To Merrie: Me too. I too, am an introvert. I too, have heard that statement far too often. Many ‘confident’ people are also rude, self-serving people, and I don’t want to be like that, that’s for sure. In fact, I don’t know how to be confident and still be kind and loving and humble with people. And I won’t throw those important qualities away - even to get confidence. I just need to figure out the fine line between humility, kindness, confidence and narcissism. I really do. I grew up with a narcissist, and I don’t ever want to be that way. I’ve been around confident people who maybe shouldn’t be as confident as they are; plus confidence is so fickle: all it takes are a few bad experiences and it could die in an instant leaving one to hike all the way back up a steep mountain to revive it again. I don’t know how to find balance with the other two. I desire to be a kind and humble person, with all my heart. And I have tried to be. I can’t help thinking that’s why I don’t have a lot to show for my life. I don’t have the life I really wanted, because I don’t know how to grasp it without grabbing for it amidst so many others that want it too. To me, the only thing worse then shoving others away from the ‘prize’, is discovering after you’ve taken it, that you’re not worthy of it, which is one of my greatest fears in life...also one of my biggest stumbling blocks. Because, truly, I’ve never felt worthy of anything.
@@johnwedgbury6817 you can't really teach someone how to be confident. It all comes from childhood experiences and how parents treated you. The root of insecurity lies there , and until you adress those issues all tactics on how to be trully confident will fail. You can fake it but obviously it will take a toll on your mental energy levels. You need to heal your traumas and confidence will be the result of that. That being said , it's a lot of work and it's very painful process , you will need to face your fears etc..
@@johnwedgbury6817 well thats true i dont have many friends but i have family that i can trust you can improved yourself one day to become a confident and humble person so people can appreciate you.
@@Li8aGun92 same, but they don't tell me that i'm rude, they think i'm funny by shouting lmao which is annoying since they won't take me seriously after that :)
The one you over thinking something that I have a hard time dealing with I try my best to just talk but always worried about after I saying it people just stare at me in silcence. Thank you for this information!
One skill I've learned is knowing when to END a conversation. If you're running out of things to say, be the one to move on _first,_ even if you want to talk to them more. Hold back instead of overextending, and they'll only remember that you had an interesting interaction and want to chat more next time - instead of knowing you as a person who rambled on forever. Also try to come back and say goodbye before you leave. I've noticed that people remember me better next time, and usually even know my name.
@@jaxon1670 by saying something positive. That way their last impression is a happy warm sensation. People do not remember what you said but how you made them feel
@mintz450 - THAT is most excellent advice for me , I find myself in that predicament when conversing, finding the right moment and way to end the conversation.
6. People who purposely ignores you might just be insensitive and rude. This is common for bullies. Stay away from them, do not give your energy to those kind of people. Stay safe.
It's true but what will you do in a place where you spend 9hours a day and people around you Just ignore you or bully you in the name of teasing for fun and teachers who consider the most ideal student is someone who doesn't talk or engage in small talks and would only open mouth to answer questions .Teachers idolize your lonely self and ask other to behave like you which inturn results in more loneliness and pity on one's self ,no one understands how much the person is suffering mentally when they are not even capable of sharing their hardships with their parents or siblings because they don't want to hurt them or feel no one would understand them . people don't understand there are students who live their lives from school to home and back ,they don't even have friends to play near home ,some don't have time due to burdon of homework ,studies and project that they rarely get time to have a proper conversation with their parents and they spent most of their childhood time in schools where they are treated like the unwanted , unnoticed person .They just lose hope in themselves and stop trusting other even if other person is approaching in a positive way ,they become scared of being hurt more by being betrayed or become so withdraw from social life by suspending any situation of being emotionally hurt.
Best advice i can give as a youngster is talk to old people who are just sitting on the bench they have lot to talk about but sadly no one to listen give them chance and build up your confidence 💪
When you just act so strange that other people always have a question to ask you. I can't really relatively weigh how much attention I get, comparing to others is what causes most unhappiness tbh. I get bored and ask weird questions, usually get a few weird looks but it does start conversations. Maybe try that :P lol
Yeah, ok I get why most people want to avoid negativity, but in some cases a person's negativity is merely the consequence of a bigger issue (like an abusive family or unhealed traumas...) it's really hard to fake a smile, pretend to be happy only to make others more comfortable around you... You may even feel worse then, you start to belive that you're not allowed to be sad or that you can't fit in if you decide to be true to yourself and your emotions.
Surprised i had to scroll so much to find a comment about this part tbh, fully agree, either you pretend everything is fine and put a fake smile so people actually want to be around you or you can be real and people just leave you, a lose lose situation either way...
Yeah, I agree. We should let people feel what they’re feeling, but we also shouldn’t let them or us wallow in negative emotions either. It’s pretty tricky to find the balance.
"The higher your vibe, the smaller your tribe" is something I read today. Don't try to please people who don't understand you anyway. Makes sense to me.🤷♀️
@@diablohcr2yt113 Sorry, I just came across your question today. "Vibe" means the level of energy that a person operates on, which can be raised by meditation and working through your issues. And "tribe" means the group of people who have been able to reach a certain level of energy. This is a subjective norm, though. There is a lot of literature available on these issues.
It means the smaller your group of close friends is. Not that people pay less attention to you. On the contrary, people with those "higher vibes" are very popular and they never feel ignored, they talk a lot to other people, but only few people are actually their friends.
I used to be a "slave" to others, even in my family as well. Many people around me tend to take advantages of me, But now, I don't care if I become a " shadow or unniticed". I felt empower by doing this, it is the real time that I don't have to bend myself around just to have people use me. Honestly, things turms out differently, those people tend to feel like I hold something towards them, but I don't. I just kept quite and just ignore it. Since then, I felt like I have been building my own sanctuary where I could live safe. Response when needed and if it benefits. Silence is golden.
@@fleur7891 it's hard if you're under the condition of hearing them talk dirty stuffs about you all time and everyday. i've experienced the same energy from both of my parents family sides. their toxicity is radiating; if only money and minority was not a problem, i would have walk away from them a long time ago. my parents is not even helping the situation. i'm for real tired, scared, and depress.
True friends are like gold, precious and rare. False or "temporary" friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere and latter blown away with the wind.
Took the word right out of my mouth. True friends will stay through good and bad. Will uplift and encourage you to be the best you. Able to express the good and the bad they see in you. Not just the negative stuff. For that reason, it's rare to find a true friend.
I have found so many of these "false" friends that I'm literally unable to make friends. After being abandonned, betrayed several times, my parents still are surprised I can't socialize and even sometimes (especially when they're peeved) say it's because of my temperament ("If you're like that no wonder no one wants to stay with you").
I was ignored by the person I loved the most. Now am healing myself slowly. Last tip is truly helpful. There is no use in chasing people who hate us, a lot of people love us!
Whatever the reason, if you get ignored don't feel bad about it. Just know that you are not in the right place. Don't take things like these into your mind. Value yourself first. Learn to do things alone and be emotionally independent. That's the thing you can do. If you do these 2 things whenever or whoever ignored you doesn't even matter thereafter. Focus on yourself. Everything will come in place at the right time.
The thing with friendships are, you heard it all the time, “Be your own self” “be the best version of yourself”, but when you tried to be yourself, your friend will think weird of you and not consider you the same again because of your true self. So yeah, people will ignore you even if you didn’t do all the 5 things, because these people didn’t see your worth, at the end of the day, we’re all alone, and most people only care about themselves and will come and go.
Thats how you know they arent a good choice. While being yourself, you can attract the people who actually like you for who you are, and not just your persona.
@@Innominates Because negativity in this case is the truth. I have been myself and people shun me for being myself. That's just the way it is, because nobody likes me. Seriously, I could disappear and no one would care. I'm not writing it for pity, but I write it because it has been my experience. I don't mind not being liked and I refuse to be a fake to make people like me. I mind being treated differently because I'm not liked.
"Your presence doesn't grab attention" Definitely me i always feel being ignored well some part of me wants this, don't want attention And this "you overthink what you're going to say" that's definitely me I just think and never said 😥
I know!!! Is like... I am always wanting to be in the spotlight and people to hear me, but when people look at me, I freeze, I panic and just want to be invisible
My mind thinks it can operate like an A.I., going over every possible scenario that would result from a particular course of action and then choosing the action with the best outcome. The obvious result of this is that I spend literal hours contemplating what I should say but ultimately never get to say anything at all.
From personal experience, it's mostly body language... not looks. Secondary it's situational for me. I'm very open myself. I may look distant, but I've had a couple of weird people (I mean hobos with a christmas tree on the subway in mid summer) talk to me out of nowhere even though the national social norm is to have a large personal space. I remember those conversations (well, encounters) not because they were weird but because there were some refreshing and out of the ordinary and nice conversations. All it took was someone to be "unhinged" or step outside of the norms, in a well meaning way. However when people look down or away or look like they want to be elsewhere entirely, I leave them alone because I think that's best for both of us. Just an example
Yh same! I sometimes don’t think about what I am going to say and then I blurt out something awkward or stupid so then I start overthinking and I go quiet
I go through this all the time. I’m not antisocial per say, I just like to keep to myself is all. But if someone wants to hang out I’m always up for it. I’m very open to communication and interaction as long as it’s healthy. But there in lies the problem…the communication and interaction that most people want to engage in is almost aaallll about gossip and talking shit behind peoples back. And because I always opt out of that type of environment I get shunned for it. Ask me if I give a shit tho 😐. I’m perfectly happy on my own. I dont understand the mentality of people who are so quick to join the rest of the sheep.
Maybe they just want you to show you are able to sympathize with them. Then again, these people could be manipulators who are trying to get you to spread what they claim to be reality. Probably only possible to learn the difference through experience.
I feel the same. There are a few people I'm acquaintances with but if I try to get close to them I feel there isn't much to them except all the bitching bs and things you said . Maybe it's because of the whole lockdown thing that I had less interaction with people, but nowadays I feel if any convo I have isn't meaningful in any way , it's not worth having .
@@sigurdtheblue My experience has been that people that constantly talk crap about others behind their backs are doing it about you too, and are just not very happy with themselves. It gets tiring to have to deal with that, but if you don't go along with it they feel like you are judging them and start pushing you to the side. In the end it isn't worth having more then a superficial relationship with them. Even that can get tiring if it is necessary to keep up a good relationship in the office
The worst feeling is “I wonder how long I can be silent or leave the call before the notice..” I left a call with with friends, they’re really great friends, just not.. great listeners.. it took them 2 hours and 17 minutes until they noticed..
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The best part of the video: "There is no need to change yourself for people who are not interested in forming a relationship with you. Instead, it's better to redirect that energy into people who are actually interested and care for you."
But what if actually nobody interested and cares😭
@@helena_1193 My life in a nutshell.
People who are actually interested in me? Damned if there's one.
Spot on. You'll feel happier this way and your life will make way more sense.
@@kikujirofromkyoto what do you mean?
Kind hearted and sincere people are ignored often.
Edit: while running behind people to gain their attention i never realized i had people who actually wanted to be close to me and enjoyed my company. So i stopped and looked back and now i have two most amazing friends in the world and life is way more easy.
They are ignored by idiots and jerks. You don’t need attention from them anyway.
Or used.
Meanwhile being a jerk is a cool thing according to society huh? See how that goes for you when you reach adolescent
Yeah.. this world is so weird. Wtf. If we're kind hearted, were getting bullied, and if we are mean or hide who we really are, we're respected... 🙃😩
But personally, I don't care if I get bullied by jerks or bigots anymore. I just wanna be open and be myself. Especially after hiding and pretending for so many years.
I'm one of those ppl and it true :(
#6 You're too nice. People mistake it as thirst or desperation, when in fact some people are just good hearted without all the extra BS.
You can be nice, but dont let yourself get walked all over either. There isnt such thing as too nice. Its just that people who are like that tend to get stomped on and dont know how to take it other than to stop being nice, which is sad.
@@zonyae29047 Used to be like that growing up till I realized how much people took me for granted
@@jeffrenjr should learn to say " No ", this will boost your ego and gives strong impressions on others. However, don't over do it, because it may make people hate you. Only in a situation where you find yourself unusually uncomfortable or difficult to compromise yourself.
@@jeffrenjr same
After seeing a therapist they're actually right. I have a narcissistic mom, and my dad was kind of neglectful. Everyone in my life talks about how nice I am, and for a long time I considered myself to simply be a nice and kind hearted person (which not to say I'm not). But there's a limit to how nice a normal person is. I was too nice just like you said, and I was doing this subconsciously so people would like me and give me attention/love-the things my parents failed to give me. Being "too nice" is often a result of trauma/neglect, and normal people think it's weird and desperate because even if we're not desperate, deep down the reason for it is desperate and they can see it while we can't.
There is a limit to how nice a person can be. If you see someone that's sick and you ask them 1-2 times if they're alright/need something then youre a nice person. If you keep asking them the entire night then you're just annoying and I've been on both ends of this. People ignore you because they realize something is wrong with you, even if you don't realize it.
It's difficult to feel positive and confident when people are ignoring you, intentionally or not.
@azart61what a load of bollocks
@azart61 nah
I know
Sometimes I can muster some positivity, but it’s never long before some rejection comes to knock me back down
It’s true
For those who don’t have time 🙂:
1. You do not listen to others
2. You criticize too much
3. You are full of negativity
4. Your presence doesn’t grab attention
5. You overthink what you’re going to say
Bonus: They might not really be interested in talking with/to you.
Edit: Here’s my advice to all of you, be kind to others but most importantly yourself. Whether you do any of these consciously or subconsciously, just work on becoming the best version of yourself. The people who are meant to be in your life will gravitate to you.
Dang. I can be successful if you change everything about myself.
My issues have to do with anxiety and attention...so my social life is pretty much kneecapped.
Anyone can be a great person but the only thing stopping you is you your life it's yours only only you can make a change
Thanks girl!
Thank you😀
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"You overthink what you're going to say"
It's hard not to overthink when you dont want to accidentally offend other people and makes yourself look like a total clown :(
Fr! Especially nowadays since people are so sensitive🙄
@@jacky611 sometimes i get offended by people, so maybe that's why i keep overthink because I don't want to do the same thing to others ;-;
@@krustycrab8543 same here
Someone told me once that "I wasn't speaking my mind when talking" so I said to her "I don't think you know me" and that bitch now doesn't let me speak my mind otherwise she gets offended 😫😫 And now she is hanging out a lot with my bestie/soulsister cause I introduced her to her when I didn't know who she truly was. I can't with this anymore...
Yeah, I feel like I kept saying simple/obvious things that make the conversation meaningless. I feel like an idiot.
"Your presence doesn't grab attention"
Me: Oh that's just sad
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@@fernandatorga3554 My pride will, it is the most important
so idk how i commented here when i clicked on a post 2 comments up but ok youtube thanks, hi person getting this notif probably confused as hell
so every comment i comment on gets pushed down a comment, i tried to comment on the one above again and it pushed it back down here and i cant delete the message, youtube is so incredibly broken its insane
@@sunnywunny yeah u too
@@sunnywunny bro my brain
Even when u care for everyone you are ignored
When you want to give everyone a chance to speak you are ignored
When you are always positive ,smiling and happy no one is interested in what you are trying to say
Your friends are giving everyone else their attention and you are no longer their priority it hurts.
It hurts even more when you are going through all of this and you are part of a trio ( but remember there is a always a duo in the trio )
I try to bring up the good in me but then i shut because I am always the problem .
Ditto
They get up and leave when I say something...
😢
V.few people are my friends
Sounds like you need to get better friends or better yet ditch the ones you've got and just be by yourself and do your own thing. Ain't nothing wrong with being your own best friend. When they start seeing that you want nothing to do with them they'll come knocking at your door wondering why it is you don't want anything to do with them and just tell them, you people don't want me around so don't talk to me. Go ahead and free yourself. that'll really throw them off guard.
I feel that I think that sometimes constantly keeps happening to me and I was once in a group of five friend but the they mad duos and I was by myself at the end of the day except my one friend. I once got into an argument with one I usually do and all my other “friends” just went to comfort the other one and completely forgot about me and did not care about me except that one friend and one other person
Same
Yes true. I've been alone for almost two years then i found a new friends. Dunno if they'll be the same or not :v
I HATE how the good people always have a hard time with things
True :((
And because of this, they don't even try anymore after a certain period of time, meaning good people can't find each other
@@tavrosnitram1529 💯!!
I'm glad I got my few good people with me...but we are not a group? So they are just my individuals friends, it is tough
@@micaelaclifford2729 Introduce them all and form your group :)
I also think it’s important to remember sometimes you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong and it’s the other people that are the problem. Sometimes your just hanging with the wrong crowed and they don’t appreciate you.
I honestly needed to hear (or read) this
Yeah just SOMETIMES. That is important.
Sometimes is better then not at all.
This
no capp !
I just really hate being the kind of guy that genuinely likes listening to people and how they feel but no one gives a wet shit about what I have to say. Cranks the loneliness to 11.
Same with me😣
Same.
Same bro
Yea
The fact that you used the phrase “no one gives a wet shit” here has already grabbed MY attention and I only want to hear more!
I had a friend in high school who was not only ignored but judged because he was awkward, quiet, and was always failing in school work, like people always thinks of him as a failure negative guy, ya know someone you should not be friends with, but he really wasnt a negative guy, he would always help me and he was really friendly, like really friendly, i really like him as a friend because we would always talk about life or even show our true self to each other with no worries.
You still friends with him?
Keep him he sounds like a rare gem
Shit, that is soo me!
This is exactly me , except I’ve never failed before I always pass
Simply they are not interested so redirect your energy is fav one
I remember a year ago my social anxiety was so bad i wouldn’t even talk to a single person and i hated myself, Now i have a large group of friends but i sometimes just get ignored. I have made major progress and i will keep going and stay positive through this challenge. I got this!
Update: 5 months after i posted this i would say by now the old me is fully obliterated.I am now focused on my goals without distractions.I realized that everything on the outside is a reflection of your own thoughts. I am now the one that is the most confident and uplifting in any situation. Once you can master your mind, habits, and emotions you are unstoppable. Remember that those uncomfortable moments are there for a reason. Stay strong fellas.💪
I'm sooo proud of you and happy for you,but REALLY
I so happy for you! Unfortunately for me it’s still the same but I’m kinda just dealing with it.
Wow congratulations!! I’m the same I have a small group of friends but I’m trying to expand my group
How do you do this. Pls I need advice. I don’t talk to people unless I have a close relationship with them but I can’t get a close relationship with anyone.
@@Stary_Skies1 same. I only am extremely chatty with people I know but then if I’m only like that with people I know then I never meet new people.
People don't just ignore me, they outright forget I'm even present.
Felt that
Me too
so relatable
Ouch. That was so relatable it actually hurt.
AHH SAME MAN! 🤐
"Better to walk alone in your own path rather than getting lost in the crowd"
Definitely.
True
Facts.
yup
Yeah... No. My problem with that cursed phrase is it's an all out excuse not to contemplate and improve yourself.
"Who cares what anyone says, I'm walking my own path teehee." A subtle way to say "I'm a Narcissist Egomaniac."
The fact that the viewers feel they're being ignored gives me positivity cause all of them are like me. 😊
Yea!! I hope your doing Okay now, this happened to me today 😢it's just an awful feeling honestly
@@Nini-vj8swI'm so sorry it happened to you 🤍 these people, me, and you deserve better
I get ignored by my friends everyday 😢 someone finally gets the feeling I always have :
I've been ignored my entire life. I'm learning to embrace it and become a loner.
@@AfroPrincessDiaries aww :( don't worry I believe that people who have been alone are strong ones! Your strong I like that :)
It feels like the new animator has been watching the channel since the beginning...it goes deep.
HAIII
I luv your pfp
@@iamrosalindabb7408 Pupupupupu ;)
mm o n okuma
@@ShortHax lol
I always fee ignored by a friend of mine. She talks a lot and I always listen, no matter how tired I am. But whenever I try to speak, she jumps in and changes the subject. I tolerate it, but lately I've been feeling like nobody ever listens to me. Not just her. I feel like I make an effort to listen to people and get them to speak about their feelings and thoughts, but no one ever listens to me. I feel kinda lonely because of it. I mean I have a friend who seems to listen to me, but I always feel like I'm being a nuisance.
Same, im always queit, i listen to them. Im petty and v v ugly LMFAOAOAOAOAOAO
If this happened with you all the time then you aren't alone sis :(
@@mk.chellie if that’s your face in the pfp you’re lying to yourself.
I think you should tell her. If she can't understands you, let her go. You deserve so much better than this. Lots of people out there you might like. And they'll like you back. Don't waste your soul with unkind people.
That’s tough, I can see how that’s uncomfortable. Maybe you feel like a nuisance cause your not used to being listened to and to that friend your not as annoying as you think. I think you could try sticking with that friend who does listen to you 💜💜
Some people ignore you because basically they are just rude and the problem is not you !!
Yes, but some people ignore you becuase your talk arent funny or your to negative
People are petty, and they don't really know how to have a conversation ... objectivity of a reality can be hard for others. They also use power tactics. So, "An ignor for an ignor"
there are tons of reasons why! dw guys
Thank you, there is a lot of rudeness and crassness in the world today due to how people were raised growing up and not being taught certain things. Not everyone was raised this way but we must share this planet together! It can very difficult, though.
The topic is when everyone seems to ignore you. Literally, everyone.
I got off social media and because of that, people who I considered friends don't interact with me outside of the platform. It's like they forgot I exist. Out of sight out of mind. There is the fact that I do miss being seen. But I fight that to not rely on social media validation addiction.
Like I said to someone else, to some people a dollar is worth not much at all. Only if they NEED it. To others, it’s the whole world.
You can't discard social media entirely. You need to be realistic. However you and your friends can get an alternative platform which mostly only you use together. So you can interact outside of the crowded spaces, so to say.
A lot of times, you're not the reason that you're being ignored. It's just that you are in a wrong group. Stay with humble and mature people (rare to find) and you won't ever feel like being ignored
How to gain people’s attention and be liked by everyone in the room: th-cam.com/video/xbT9fyTc4Io/w-d-xo.html
Sometimes not humble people, who need help from negativity (if possible)
wwell in my school theyre impossible to find
Not rare, but really hard to find
And what if you are president of a company or country? what if its not an option to allow yourself to be ignored? What if you're in a position of responsibility and this involves the safety of others? then your voice needs to be heard. At the same time, they might be "rare to find" because its rare to find people who can tolerate or like you. This may mean that you need to grow and change. Just cause you're confident in not needing others unless they like you as you are doesn't mean that there's no room for improvement and you don't have to change. It's arrogant to think this way. You can always work on yourself to become a better, more likable person.
It's better to be alone than to fit with the people who don't see your worth.
I will try doing so 😌
Well spoken :D
Not when being alone hurts so much...
Any time I see the words people don’t know my worth I automatically assume they have none and are entitled because those are the words of a THOT!
@@Lapachu being alone is way better than being with people who don’t see your worth
"You are full of negativity"
Oh everything is making sense now
Hey. One of my teachers in elementary school said to me something really important, she said: "everyone has periods when they behave badly and periods when they behave right, is just part of being a human, we all go through that" Hope this might help you.
Momento mori
Yer being depressed is a double edge sword.
lmao its pain.
I use to be a really negative person but then I started to surround myself with positive people and participate in new things, now I'm usually a really happy person, maybe you should try if you can?
I was like this most of my life - being ignored by others and I had a feeling that nobody cares about my opinions, even tho they were my friends. But after I moved to a different group of people, they were listening and cared about everyones opinions on the topic. So for me, it was a bad enviroment.
Oh i feel so good for you that you found your people who actually value you.. i hope i find mine too
@@captainmingo6047you will bro dont lose hope, if you let depression or loneliness destroy all your motivation to work on yourself and get out there in the world to show yourself as you are, youll never find them, but if u dont u definitely will
I just wanna know what its like to actually have someone who cares and wanna do things with you.
Hah same I have no friends 😀
For me it’s nice at times but if they begin to want to spend more and more time with me I normally begin to feel suffocated and push them away.
it’s the greatest feeling ever. i was in terrible pain in class one time and a friend of mine passed a note to me asking if im alright. like, someone seriously just noticed my pain?!??
Fr me to..
Feels...
Another reason: someone who’s “ignoring you” could be struggling with themselves. They could be depressed and not have the energy to reply to a text.
That’s plausible but I’ve seen people lie on the phone to others using these reasons.
After that I started to distrust people when they say they’re depressed or busy.
ain’t no excuse when it’s in real life and they’re talking to everyone else but you.
Or just busy in general.
@@mizzymsp yeah that’s true.
@@TT-xz5sy yeah. Idk tho I’ve never lied about that. Sorry that happened to you
-i always listen to people
-i barely criticize people
-if people being negative i will be the source of their positivity, but when people being positive sometimes i take turn on being negative
-i hate drawing people attention, but i need attentions sometimes. That's why i'd rather not bother other people with my presence
-Yes, i always overthink what i'm going to say cause i always say bad things if i don't overthink it. I'm afraid to hurt others, that's why i'd rather listen people talk than talking to others
Oh god this is me . Finally someone like me
I also have to overthink otherwise i say something rude which i don't wanna say but its not in my control. I feel like a bad person who can't even say something good like others.
Yep, This is so me
Same
And I barely have friends
Rude like being an asshole or rude because people don't get directly what you mean (that's why you think of wording they understand without analysing?) If so, you are not implicitly rude but you are perceived rude. Maybe you are neurodiverse.
The third one is so me
To the person who sees this comment. I hope one day you will find that group of homies who care and love listening to what you're talking and what the others talking and that you'll have a happy long lasting friendship/group 😊
One of the most infuriating things anyone can experience is when there's a group conversation, the person talking finishes their bit, so then you start to talk about something to the group, but then someone else starts talking a full 2-3 seconds after you started, and everyone somehow ignores you and listens to the other person instead.
This happens to me more often than it feels like it should.
Now I should point out I have ADHD and high-functioning autism to a major degree, but I still can't figure out why this still happens.
I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean. i usualy leave go home. im only 5"8 but aparently i intimidate alot of people. sorry about spelling i have brain injury. anyway ive sufferd mental illness maybe my whole life. start with fetal alcohol syndrome. hard to keep rage under control, n self harm seems gettin worse. used to hav bunch friends. hav none now. i would hav listend to you. you had somethin to say, i wud listen. guess i was talkin bout myself alot there. but anyway i think im hiting loss of reality
@@rustynail1020 We can be friends if you want, and I could help you out in anyway possible.
@@rayvaul3539 thanx man. i"ll talk to you again sometime on here
OMG so relatable, I finished to abandon and never talk in a group. Now everyone is like "pikachu faced" asking me "why u don't talk", because I can't...
That happens a lot. I'm better at one on one but even then I get shut down after saying 'I had a really interesting thing happen the other day' The other person just enthusiastically tells me about their day instead, which makes me feel like I must be really boring to listen to cos I hadn't even started.
“Improve your levels of confidence” is such an easy thing to say, but such a hard thing to do
not that tough
And, naturally, no one ever tells you HOW to fking do it
Just be honest but considerate out loud I’m a really confident person and I wasn’t always like that but you have to accept yourself as a person and think that your just as important as everyone else and sometimes it’s ok to be selfish and sometimes is bad to do that you just have to learn timing which is really hard but extremely important and the best way to learn that is experience
@@Len4ki Idk about others but my way to do it was : Learning to know myself by staying alone a huge amount of time, working out (easiest way to gain confidence imo), be more selfish and caring less about what others people can think of me bc afterall im the only one really knowing myself.
And the hardest but the most rewarding is to get out of your comfort zone, for example talking more in public, cracking jokes ect even if they are lames, talking to the girl that impressionate you ect.
Thats just my own experience and it worked pretty well, still on my journey
These videos help people realize the cause of their problems and presents them a basic solution.
Once you know what the path that leads to your goal is, it is up to you to find it and walk it.
And what you find at the end of that path may not even be your goal. But do you know what the journey brings you closer to? Yourself.
I'm glad I had more extrovert friends than introvert ones in high school. They didn't last, but some of their personality traits rubbed off on me, so later I felt more confident to make the environment or conversation comfortable for other introverts like me. I pay attention to everyone and notice when someone's being ignored or talked over, and I have no problem asking them to repeat what they said, or react when no one else had been listening. It always feels rewarding when I see the relieved/grateful look in their eyes and their bright smile. :)
Awww You're a Sent Angel ♥️❣
changkyun!!!! ang ❤️
i try to do this as much as possible too. i know how much it hurts… i wouldn’t want anyone else to feel that way.
I always try to do the same too! Whenever someone talks but is interrupted, after the other person finishes speaking, I try to tell them to continue and show them that I’m interested in what they’re saying
Facts yo
same
Timestamps:
0:00- Introduction
1:12- You Do not Listen to Others
1:57- You Criticize Too Much
2:40- You are Full of Negativity
3:12- Your Presence Does not Grab Attention
3:55- You Overthink What You are Going to Say
4:30- Outro
So does that means that the problem is me ?
Yeah, i do this all the time.. And I've just realized now. How do i not do this???
My presence does not grab attention.... I really must be ugly then. 😥
@@angrykrabs9968I know 😭
I was often ignored by people for almost 1st 25 years of my life and it took a toll on my confidence.After I entered in the workplace, I suddenly understood,I've become surrounded by the right people.I am now very happy with my life.
How do you know they're the right ppl?the friend's i used to hang out with in middleschool made me feel really good,but now i hang out with these new friends they make me feel left out a lot i really wanna change my friendgroup
@@hanaloveshalox I rly appreciate all the help and yk i haven't rly cut ties with my old friends cuz then they'll think I'm dramatic or some sh*t but I made new friends so I don't have to stick to the toxic ones only,its good to expand the friend circle right, hanging out with two or three friends (especially toxic ones) is a not always great thanks btw really!
lucky you, im almost 40 and still looking
Happy for you!!
nice
I basically listen to everyone carefully and I rarely criticise. I also may be negative but never spread negativity. However, if I don't have my really good friend by my side I would be left, unnoticed.
How did you just describe me exactly?!
Those two first sentences sound like me
You might feel like you go unnoticed, but the people who really matter in your life will notice you. These people are your people. You matter. I promise.
that sounds like me. which totally made me chose to be alone and socially selective. it's hard to explain things to people who don't want to listen to, especially friends who doesn't understand.
this is so me,i have been complaining inside myself or dragging myself down for not getting attention when i need one,but i do not spread negativity too much for them to ignore me..
The best part is people who are always talking abt themselves, who just care abt their experience when you are telling yours and are always glorifying abt the experiences that they had and who are loud, cut off people talking are the ones that always somehow never get ignored. Me being respectful with everyones opinion not cutting them off but also not being pushover always do get ignored
The hardest part is when you confront someone ignoring you, they'll make you feel like it's your fault
same 😢
If they're ignoring you .. when they are talking just walk off right in the middle of what they're saying .. give them a taste of what it's like. Then if they say something to you later just be blase and say 'oh I got bored sorry thought that's what you do when it's boring like what you do to me when I'm boring YOU. What can they say after that lol.
Yeah that's one way to know if they are just a shitty person in my opinion
Yeah this video is an example. She starts by gaslighting all the video watchers and insulting them, 3 of the first 5 things are gas lighting. And somehow her video succeeds with 6.7 million views. Meanwhile 95% of my comments and all of my videos are ignored and get no views. Makes my blood boil really, especially hearing her innocuous sounding voice while she narrates the video insulting anybody who's watching.
@@MrChubba10a coworker did this to me two/three times I've always wanted to do the same to her but never got the chance. I'm glad I'm not at that job anymore .
this video is showing people why introverts like me hate human interaction
its a bad cyrcle cause if things dont go well you start to hate interaction and then get proven next time it happens. try instead to work on it step by step. its a long process with an awful beginning but its worth it in the end.
People are cunts and want to cause pain. I hate people!
@@YOYO-ew8mp lol you sound like my brother. He says everyone is a MF
Nah, being an introvert is much better
More free time for me yay!
@@LisaLisaCJ lol, he speaks the truth!
“Your presence doesn’t grab their attention” well yeah… obviously :(
Sew a button on your cheek and all eyes will be on you 😀
BC what
;-;
It's such a cursed feeling goddamn
Yeah i have the "talent" of seemingly disappearing right in front of people.
I mean I've had housemates who were just talking to me not a minute ago come looking all over for me when i had not moved from the spot i was in.
I've had stuff like that happen super often though i also sometimes let them keep at it just to see how long it takes them to realise they keep walking past me.
So yeah i'm aware i don't have a large presence i also don't like drawing too much attention to myself.
all the comments and this video helped me a lot 🥲 knowing im not alone makes me feel at ease. i always felt like when me and my friends talking in a big group and i tried to talk they wouldnt just get their head on me. Even a person. I always thought maybe theres something wrong with me, or maybe the people i was with are just talking more loudly and in more interested way. 3 months ago my school had some camping outside the school and because people keep ignoring me meanwhile they have a lot of people to talk with makes me feel alone that i even starts crying atthe night, my whole friends knew and the teacher even asks me what happened, i said that i feel alone and ignored, but i said its because of my family problems too, now i realized its mainly because no one talks to me and i do this negative overthinking so much. I can go on with all problems i have since no one had ever their ears on me but this is the main reason im feeling and im happy to share this enough
its like that sometimes but don’t worry, you’ll find a friend that cares at some point 🥰
People ignore people for a myriad of reasons. I was ignored a lot in high school, it definitely CAUSED me to get bitter and cynical, and critical of others. People ignored me, so I just stopped trying... Pretty happy with the outcome to be honest. The people I was trying to connect with, are shallow, pathetic and so obnoxiously self centered people, I totally dodged a bullet.
Felt this
Definitely, being a hermit can be lonely, but the loneliness is tolerable considering the alternative. Never assimilate with fake people.
I tell jokes on my channel, at 9:00 every day. If people laugh, then they have a little bit of free joy. If not, at least I thought it was funny. No pretensions, no scams, no fake friendships. Just a joke, until tomorrow.
I had a similar situation. I was practically a mute throughout middle school and I already have a naturally “evil” atmosphere about me, so I became very careful and pessimistic on who I was friends with. Good news, I have honest friends in highschool now. Bad news is I’m constantly paranoid about losing them because my social skills suck and I don’t understand emotions in a relationship all that well.
@@seraphywang4638 eh no one does . Emotions are vague and abstract, thus unreliable.
For me it's always this: I'll be friends with two people who don't know each other. They will meet through me, become good friends n leave me out in everything they do. It's not just one or two but a whole bunch of people whom I regarded as good friends (not anymore). They'll cut me out in everything they did together. Or some will invite me n cancel in the last minute. The most common excuse being their grandparents or relatives died. And this is also the reason why I became an introvert.
That happened to me in middle school and high school. I made the mistake of introducing every friend I ever made to this one toxic girl who was the reason I got bullied in middle school. I was dumb and wanted her to like me so even when I found out she would spread rumors and get people to bully me I still forgave her. Anyways, every new person I'd meet I would bring them into our friend group. One by one they all became close friends and pretty much shunned me out of the group by the end of it all.
I have the same problem but at another level: I'm a cupid in spite of myself. When I am with 2 other people they always fall in love, whether or not I'm attracted to one of them... I'm the best candlestick of the History! It's kinda annoying...
In the future don’t introduce your friends to each other. Keep separate groups, so if one group closes you off, you have another to lean on. I learnt that the hard way, just like you.
It is also good to build connections with different kinds of people, but once again makes sure they don’t overlap or they will become friends who will shut you out. People are selfish jerks so you gotta keep tabs on them.
@@Lumosnight Sage insight
@@Lumosnight agree on this. But yeah, every person are a selfish so no problem.
“Youre presence doesnt grab attention, you need to boost your confidence” easier said than done when you have social fucking anxiety.
The last two point are actually spot on for me.
Right... My anxiety and lack of self worth are a freaking nightmare combo.
Let's just do our best to build our confidence, maybe we'll get there some day🤝🏾
Agree. We really need a big effort to change that attitude and JUST go for it. this is the only solution.
im sorry for yall. if u need to talk im here
@@userm180 this is nice of you to say even to mere strangers on the internet... As someone who's always the listening ear to others, I in turn don't have anyone to turn to, don't wanna overwhelm my younger sibling so I keep to myself. It really sucks not having anyone to talk to, at least truly listen with no other intent but to just be there for you... But you learn to live with it eventually
@@molamola721 i totally understand you tbh. im the same, by choice tho😭i feel like crap every time i try to explain my feelings so i just gave up lol. anyways, i really hope you can find people you can confide in in real life too, but until then, i'm all ears
“Your presence doesn’t attract attention”
Me: “And I took that personally”
“You’re overthinking.”
Got it! I’ll just say what I’m thinking!
*backfires so hard I go flying*
haha..
💀💀💀
I don't talk much because when i do i say stupid things
Listen how ppl talk and say
U know what is allowed to be said
😂😂
This is why you need better friends. Everybody has flaws.
Exacly, everyone has flaws, which is why you should aim to improve them
If anything I'd want to be around the people full of negativity to help them or at least be there for them. Everyone experiences negativity. Ignoring those people doesn't fix or solve anything, it just makes them feel more alone.
@@jakeblitzcoffie4859 Love you!!! Thank you!! Need more like you!!!
@@jakeblitzcoffie4859 that's honorable but if you ever been around people for years and all they know is being negative, it will drain you too in the end. Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
@@doremireiko1087 what about people that became negative because of who they hung out and now they’ve changed to be better and you’re still stuck being negative :(
A lot of kind and introverted people fall victim to toxic relationships because they are ignored or bullied. It's so sad! 🥺
True 😢😭😢😭
True 😭😭😭
I can tell that i am pretty much introvert but i am happily married, 9 years together, i dont have friends but my husband does
@@sellanovia959 So glad to read this! 😁
I felt that 😡😤😩😣😞
I actually saw a sign today that said: “Beautiful souls recognize beautiful souls. Keep being yourself and your people will find you!"
If you’re an introvert, just try at least a tiny bit more to put yourself in a social situation, maybe one you feel more comfortable with. As someone who used to be 100% an introvert, I became an extrovert for a while in college during my time as an RA, and now I’d say I'm a healthy ambivert. I find farmers markets are great places for introverts to practice because vendors will literally be calling out to you to try something. I’d say MOST of them are super nice too! For all you people-pleasers (like me), it’s also a great way to practice setting boundaries because you learn how to kindly tell them "no" if you don’t want something. I usually just ask a question about the product and follow up by saying, "I might be back!" It works every time! :D
Good luck out there, people! You got dis
That's awesome remember to spread positivity and maybe you can ask them how is their life casually
"You overthink what you're going to say."
Yeah uhuh. Definitely. Yeah. Heck.
So... How long did it take you to post this comment? :)
@@banana6963 when I pooped (2.12 nanoseconds)
@@banana6963 That's exactly what I was thinking
@@stickanimatorlolb.cheekydr7321 damn thx for telling us the exact time you finished pooping I will use that for my pythagorean theorem studies to prove I can trade angles for the first time in a year and then I will be a little more confident in my ability to be able to play with my own
Your response doesn't sound like it's overthinking, you sound very certain instead of thinking about it.
I'm someone whose lack of confidence, has social anxiety and overthinks what i should say so yeah, i have 2 close friends in my workplace , they're kind, full of sparks and easy going and i'm here feeling that it's just hard to catch up with them in our group convo especially so yeah sometimes i felt being left out and ignored:)
Same :(
Just the same
I feel like I'm a third wheel, they're too cheerful and energetic they live their life to the fullest. And here I'm watching in silence, I'm there with them but not really. They only remember my existence when they are troubled lol. Or if they want to solve any issue that requires more logic...
Maybe I'm a solving machine 🤷♀️
@@ayafarag3125 after reading your comment i was thinking are you talking about me 😳
@@sameeraamir8016 FR! we're in this together
It's good to only have a couple people in your life keep a close circle
There are other reasons too, and it’s not always about the speaker. A lot of people don’t listen to very intelligent or insightful people because they can’t keep up, or they don’t want to think that hard. Other people form conclusions early in conversations and assume they know what is going to be said, so they stop listening or jump in with their own views. A lot of people don’t know how to actually listen. The list goes on and on.
What you are saying is very insightful and intelligent. I guess the cure is to find friends who are interested in that.
that reminds me of two friends of mine! they're intelligent. they often talk about math, physics and that kind of stuff, which I've got a harder time to manage! sometimes I feel super dumb around them, but...I still love them and I'm super interested to hear everything they say, although I wouldn't understand 99% of it!
I also feel it can be discouraging to tell someone "people ignore you because they talk too much about themselves" because alot of people with mental health issues can be quite lonely or sometimes isolated due to their condition (whether through their needs to be alone or just anxious about being around others) so that might be their only point of reference for any conversation. Sadly they can't talk about other people they know as they may not know many others or have other things to go on. It's finding people who are willing to keep those things in mind when talking with you that I think helps. Because then you can mediate the conversation. A little about them and alittle about yourself
Exactly...Many people are only skin deep in the conversation...They use a conversation to socially bond or at least pay lip service to the ritual...The deep thinkers (I am one) are off putting because they use conversations to probe ideas and thinking patterns...Most people are in fact unnerved by insight -- though they say otherwise...
And some people don't listen to you because they know your opinions are different to theirs and they are intolerant of opposing views. They stick with their fan club.
Getting ignored?
Problem: less confidence
Solution: increase confidence ☕
Bro if I increase my confidence i become goofy and sometimes make very weird and non funny jokes
@@untoldpossibilities2443same
@@untoldpossibilities2443I can relate to this. Just try to be authentic bro, that way you can improve your charisma
@@untoldpossibilities2443 exactlyyyy...same goes for me lol
@@untoldpossibilities2443 i used to do that too but i learned to stop myself when im about to say something weird or cringy 😭
for me, i think, lack of self confidence is the result of being ignored, the same with overthinking
Me too, lack of self confidence:( it sucks
Yea same, a bit tho lol I used to overthink of what I wanted to comment so it took a long ass time :/ but now I still do only a little bit. 🙃
The same too😔
To be in the centre of attention is ho hard, indeed :(
Lack of confidence means someone are bragging about their confidence. Which makes you inferior lol.
People don’t realize that if you choose to ignore someone, it may feed why they are someone you want to ignore. Some people are starving for attention and conversation because they get so little of it.
I'll be an honest soul and say that at times I do crave attention. It's something that's hard to change being how socially awkward I am and trying to socialize with people more is extremely tough. I know I'm going to look weird trying to converse with people but I step out of my comfort zone anyway in hopes of something great.
@@sobervision1049 that’s the truth
This is so true
Tru
Yes! It takes a special soul to connect with these people!
I used to be ignored a lot, but not as much anymore. Looking back, the people who ignored me were mostly self obsessed, rude people with little respect for others. As I got older I met plenty of people that gave me the space and time to talk, and than have actually listened to what I have to say.
Golden advice, hang around people who give you their ears just as how you give them yours, if you dont feel like they are sharing convo with you for solid 30 minutes then you gotta know these people are waste of time for you. also try to get busy with thi ga and focus less about how people feel and think of you it will give you anxiety trust me, have a good day
1:11 You don't listen to others
1:56 You criticize too much
2:40 You are full of negativity
3:11 Your presence doesn't grab attention
3:55 You overthink what you're going to say
Hope y'all are doing great, stay safe people. Take care. 💜🎋☘️✨🦋💙🍁
Thank you 💖
Bruh, I listen like a radar receiver
2nd and fifth got me
Stay safe too
@@ragdoll0999 my pleasure ☺️
❤️
These are some other reasons why people ignore each other:
Physical appearance
Financial status
Language barrier
Language barrier is interesting to me because I have some foreign co-wokers and trying to converse with them is often super exhausting. I don't have the mental capacity to guess what they are telling me and acousticly not understanding everything. Most of them are really nice but usually even though I'm not so much into talking with people, I prefer people that can understand me clearly (at least when we're talking about language and not the content of the message). I actually enjoy talking in English (my second language) more than talking in my native tongue because conversations get less personal this way even though I would talk about myself, I can distance myself a bit more.
But also to me it applies to girls I consider pretty. Often I am to afraid to talk to them or get too nervous.
Financial status also applies to me, I'm not talking high class. Even around the normal folks, there are those living the dream like having family, car, house, going on holidays, doing meaningful work, having interesting hobbies, and then there's me, not doing bad but not beeing able to use my full potential at all.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperorユウ a very interesting perspective. Also, I too am someone who is more comfortable with English rather than my native language. What is your native language?
@@madhumita3293 My natime language is German. 😊 What is yours? By the way: To make things even a bit more complicated, due to the place I live, I often switch between high German and the local dialect, depending on who I'm talking to.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperorユウ Oh I see. Didn’t know there were different dialects in German. My native language is Tamil but I barely speak it as English is far easier . I even ‘think’ in English. Does that happen to you?
@@madhumita3293 Yeah, it's a common misconception that the people of one country all speak in the same standard version of their language. It might be the case for America. If you're interest, you could look for a video of "different dialects in Germany or France", and you'll hear that they sound different. I am learning French and some regions are so hard to understand, even harder than normal French.
At least since Martin Luther translated the bible 500 years ago or European countries became one country consisiting of several federal states, there is a standard version of the language. Before that, everybody was just talking in his dialect and that made communication super hard.
Sometimes I think in English a bit, when reading or writing. I even can use words or phrases I remembered without really being able to translate them into German or knowing the exact meaning but often I'm sure that they are the right words. Weird. It might be difficult using two languages parallel. You can forget a lot of the words you learned when you don't use a language often.
" your presence doesn't grab attention "
*Everything goes according to plan*
That song is burned into my brain but i forgot the title
@@ivythealiencat I believe it’s “There's a Good Reason These Tables Are Numbered Honey, You Just Haven't Thought of It Yet” by Panic! at the Disco
@@deborahakran2633 oh thx i thought it sounded familiar 😂
I like being ignored
@@oO0yuu0Oo My introverted self can relate. 😌
Thank you so damn much for telling me that everything is my fault and completely ignoring the fact that most people ignore you because they find other people better than you,cooler than you and funnier than you (basically my case).
I’m a good listener,i’m supportive,kind,and still i’m ignored.
I am the quiet kid at school, not shy but I just don’t know what to say to people because I feel they have different things to talk about and I would feel weird, like I’m not supposed to like what I’m talking about just because others don’t have the same opinion. So most of the time I stay quiet and wait for the others to talk to me first.
-EDIT- oh wow, a lot of people relate to this comment and liked it. I have never had this much likes. I just commented what I felt not really expecting to get likes but dang y’all proved me wrong. Thanks :D
honestly same! it's frustrating and i feel so guilty for being different
I do the same. I don't talk much. I do almost all of the things on the list though... I stay quiet when others speak and never interrupt but I accidently talk about myself.. I care about how others feel though. I want to know how they feel, but in messages I often talk about me.
@@caitlynruffin5413 yeah same same
@@lesshuman00 I have tried talking so that I get more comfortable with other people. Hopefully when I’m older, I won’t be so quiet. Making TH-cam videos sometimes helps me get better at talking to people.
Same exept ppl at my school have intresting convos that I eeze drop on out of habit and I rly wanna join in and I end up daydreaming abt talking to them and it satisfied my social drive enough. Plus nobody likes it when I talk
Personally I feel like being ignored in a conversation is more embarrassing than anything
When you say something and everyone just ignores you, its a feeling that's hard to shake off, like you said something stupid or awkward and yet its so hard to actually tell because having no response means you got no feedback which means you have no reaction to analyze
I'm OCD So When it happens I feel a need to somehow "Dismiss" What I said when somebody ignores it with something like an "Actually never mind" Or 'Anyway" Etc Etc, and every time it happens I always feel so pathetic when I'm out of the situation
It makes me feel like its not worth talking at all because nothing I say will be heard or acknowledged by anyone.
i know, it's like, you think that your friends doesn't are interesed on you anymore
I have 3 true friends not friends but true friends and thats enough then a lot of friends
I've started going "excuse m - excuse m- EXCUSE ME. Let me finish my damn sentence."
"You're rude, stop interrupting if you want to be heard."
"Yeah, enjoy your circlejerking echo-chamber. I'm out. Do your research".
@@pseudophp hahaha
or when you say something, and someone else literally says the exact same thing you said earlier because they were ignoring you and didn't pay attention to what you said
SUMMARY OF HOW TO BE LESS IGNORABLE:
1) Let other people talk and share about themselves. Be humble and give as much as you take in a conversation.
2) Be helpful and constructive. Don’t overly criticize people when they share certain things with you.
3) Be positive. People like to hang around those who are positive rather than those who are always negative.
4) Be confident. Confidence (not cockiness) makes people more likely to approach you.
5) Say what’s on your mind. It may be appropriate to think about your words in certain situations, but not speaking at all may make them think you’re closed off and not interested.
Above all else, love yourself! You can always grow as a better person, but you don’t need to change yourself entirely for others’ satisfaction. You are worth it and you deserve happiness! Surround yourself with those who love to be around you as much as you love to be around them. Keep your head high love ❤️
Thanks!
I'm all of these above except the last one but I still get ignored
@@tanja23811 Same here buddy.
somehow i do most of of these but especially 2 and still get ignored
@@surrealty9240 I feel like sometimes, it isn't you who is the reason for them ignoring you, or it isn't your fault for them ignoring you. It's usually their personal life, or another reason like jealousy. I'm on the swim team and I've been best friends with a girl named Emma for around 6 ish years and now she's starting to ignore me, give me weird looks, and other things. She talks to everyone except for me. But, I'm also getting faster than her and I think that is part of the reason but idk
Awww, I remember watching this trying to figure out why I had no friends even though I knew the answer was that I kept rejecting myself before anyone else could.. I have friends now though! Someone helped me get the confidence to be with everyone else! I love him so much
No. 6 You're constantly around people you don't have much in common with so the majority if not all of what you say is misunderstood which could be triggering and ends up falling on deaf ears. It's important to find close connections with people you share a lot in common with, especially those things that are most important to you. An limit close and personal interactions with those you don't have a lot in common with because eventually it'll become problematic.
Happening with me in my college.😞
🙌🙌🙌😔
@@ankushraj9583 Same here.. Actually we are only 7 girls in my dept.. And literally all of them arr extremely extroverted made boyfriends in 1 2 days(I don't know how😅) and so not interested in studies.. And here I am a girl with social anxiety studious .. So what happens is I am ok while the classes are on but...💔
Me
@@sharmisthabiswas7468 did it got any better?? Mine is same it's just that I've got habitual.
Sometimes it's not you. Your just on a whole other level of consciousness they are not on and either attracts jealousy because you have something they want.
Very wise words!
Respect 🙏
Of course!!
Louder sir!👏👏👏👏
Yesss 🙌
Thank u
sometime i feel like the more i open myself people will start treating me rudely and bad
true do u want to be friends lol i am like so idk anymore
True and then they'll be like "Are you alright?" "Why aren't you saying anything?"
Sometimes it’s best not to share too much about yourself , especially the deep stuff, get to know them first and it will come automatically. Start off with your hobbies or your favorite movies . Get a grasp on your values and stand up for what you believe in. Just because you’re views differ from others don’t mean a friendship can’t work.
People will always judge for what u say, so be always conscious for what u said expecially negative experience, they will start to think less of u.
Same for me. In 6th grade, I tried to be more open in front of my classmates. Judging by the looks of it, I think it just made them more annoyed of me. But it mostly depends on the people. Now I'm starting to feel like I am better off being a quiet student.
Its the lack of confidence and overthinking for me. Thanks! I'll work on that.
I'm definitely a massive overthinker to the point of not speaking a lot of times.
Same, and also a lot of time I just can't think of a way to get the words out. I'm known for saying things that people don't like or appreciate, being "too honest" or direct, and misunderstanding what people say or taking everything too seriously... So I overthink and try to find a way to say the things I wanna say in a way people will appreciate, but often can't find that one gold sentence option, so I just say nothing and feel bad and unsatisfied because I left people hanging.
@@corruptedteka I feel you on that too
Totally me, too.
We are in the same boat, I wonder if there are some solutions to this problem?
I can understand
I'm not over-thinking, I just can't relate to the conversation most of the time. It's why I get ignored at get-togethers, especially family ones. I feel like an outsider looking in.
Because they're talking bullshit!! Ignore what video said. What you need to do is find some friend with same interest with you. So you don't need to fake yourself interested with what you don't.
Gossip about others, yeah. Mostly about people I don't know. But also about tv shows I don't watch, or games I don't play
Don't worry, we share somehow similar experience. For instance, I'm someone who isn't interested in small talk and talking crap about other people to feel good about myself. That's the jam of my relatives but not mine. So most often than not, I'd rather be alone if the alternative is wearing a "mask."
yeah its hard to carry a convo about something you dont know about or arent as passionate about as the other person
@@possibleproblem479 or even, in a lot of cases, that doesn’t objectively matter.
"Raise your confidence"
Me: haha, well i'm screwed then
just believe in the me, who believes in you. just act like Obi-wan. he has so much swagger.
@@mrwhatcanido4942 lol
@@mrwhatcanido4942 hello There
@@tronpool4666 Good evening general.
i would say practice your confidence with people you dont like that way no matter what you say or how you act, you cant do any actual harm to any real friendships or relationships
Amanda has a really soothing voice. Enjoy listening to her.
why people are always ignoring me irl. it was like this since forever. when i was still in kindergarten or preschool, i always tried talking to everyone and i wanted to be friends with everyone, but everyone ignored me. i had only one friend. no one else wanted to play with me. maybe i was too annoying? i feel like i did something wrong, because there were some kids that disliked me.
When i went to elementary school, half of my class were the same people i went to kindergarten and preschool with. they all were like 'wow we went to kindergarten together! that's cool let's be friends'. even those who weren't friends back then, become friends. but they are ignored me. everyone was making new friends, but no one wanted to be friends with me.
Few times, when teachers were checking who's absent in class today, kids told my teacher i'm absent ....and they did it when i was in class. But one kid who did that actually apologized and said he actually didn't know that i was in class. uh kinda weird but i guess i'm happy to know someone realised that i exist...
i'm so sorry for this being so long! i just felt like i needed to write about this, i could write about this for hours (and 90% of that time would be picking the right words and trying to make it have sense...) but i don't want to make long comment. If my comment seems confusing or i did mistakes, i'm sorry for it, please correct me. english isn't my native language.
That's tough and all but...that's still no excuse for why you're murdering women and keep their hands Mr. Kira
@@RL-DarkSpark I was wondering how he's still alive
@@jeffrenjr That's a very good question indeed.
Well considering that the ambulance is Truck-kun, he could've been isekaid into our world. But seems like his harem is missing :/
@Kira
Me and 35 other people did not ignore your words my friend!
Welcome to reality brother
Most people are simply too much into themselves and ignore others.
Oh, I know plenty of those types.
True words, please stay safe and well my regards from Australia.
God yes! All the time.
1. negativity
2. Not grabbing attention of my presence.
3. Over thinking of what i am going to say.
These are my reasons to get me ignored
Same, I hope your'e better now :)
I can relate to points four and five but that's because socializing with people is pretty hard. I try to avoid most people if I can. I don't like opening up to a lot of people because I've learned many hard lessons in the past that when I try to open up to people I get criticized or judged so I just keep my mouth shut. I do tend to think more negatively as a result of the way people treat me but that's not my fault. my motto is this, if people don't want me then don't talk to me. They can go ahead and free themselves.
There are so many things I can relate with what you just said. First yes don't over share especially if you are not that close to them and it's completely normal and in fact it's the right thing to do to take your time to get to know others but what is not the right thing is, "ignoring people as much as possible" no dear don't do that, I know you are scared to get hurt or be ignored but u get hurt only when you have high expectations, be happy to meet new people and old people, people are interesting and it's fun to listen to, instead of talking about your life ask them questions not like an interview but you can ask open ended questions like how was your day at school or college or work today, or if you know them mention something they had said before, keep thinks casual and don't over share or have over expectations from anyone, if you don't take initiative how do you expect others to. Wait for friendships and relationships to develop slowly over time don't force anything in your life, just let things happen naturally. Communication is not a commitment or a chain that someone needs to free themselves out of, it ought to happen naturally, what you need to remember is be happy to meet someone, spread your positivity to others, the light inside you is meant to be spread that doesn't mean you force someone to it, they will automatically be drawn to it, be happy with yourself and don't try to ignore other. God bless you and take care 😊❤
Being ignored is not that new to an introvert, or it's just me...
Its almost every introvert
And also to be like a ghost that everyone is scare of? I mean, you're there, but they don't notice you and then when they realize you're there they say: my goodness, you were there? You scared me :'0
@@unnie_anna854 😂😂
Same have such a weak presence in a social setting. That I can literally just leave and no one will notice. I’m basically invisibility
Not for me. I am an introvert and also very very shy and insecure. I just hang out with the right people and do what I have to when I have to, and say what I have to say when I need to.
Lack of confidence and over-thinking, that's me. Being told to be confident has never helped me.
No one ever tells you how to be confident, that's the problem. I suffered bad with low confidence. I'm an introvert at heart but what I've learnt over the years is, say what's on your mind, if people don't like it it's their problem. And trust yourself more. We don't need help, if you achieve something on your own it gives you a sense of well being, and something to feel proud of. There's no right or wrong when trying to achieve something or better yourself, if you fail once, it's a lesson learned. Trust yourself is the best advice I can give. Good luck.
If you do things on your own and trust your instincts, how can you not feel more confident when something works out well. Promise you, trusting yourself and the decisions you make will change your world
To Merrie: Me too. I too, am an introvert. I too, have heard that statement far too often. Many ‘confident’ people are also rude, self-serving people, and I don’t want to be like that, that’s for sure. In fact, I don’t know how to be confident and still be kind and loving and humble with people. And I won’t throw those important qualities away - even to get confidence. I just need to figure out the fine line between humility, kindness, confidence and narcissism. I really do. I grew up with a narcissist, and I don’t ever want to be that way. I’ve been around confident people who maybe shouldn’t be as confident as they are; plus confidence is so fickle: all it takes are a few bad experiences and it could die in an instant leaving one to hike all the way back up a steep mountain to revive it again.
I don’t know how to find balance with the other two. I desire to be a kind and humble person, with all my heart. And I have tried to be. I can’t help thinking that’s why I don’t have a lot to show for my life. I don’t have the life I really wanted, because I don’t know how to grasp it without grabbing for it amidst so many others that want it too. To me, the only thing worse then shoving others away from the ‘prize’, is discovering after you’ve taken it, that you’re not worthy of it, which is one of my greatest fears in life...also one of my biggest stumbling blocks. Because, truly, I’ve never felt worthy of anything.
@@johnwedgbury6817 you can't really teach someone how to be confident. It all comes from childhood experiences and how parents treated you. The root of insecurity lies there , and until you adress those issues all tactics on how to be trully confident will fail. You can fake it but obviously it will take a toll on your mental energy levels. You need to heal your traumas and confidence will be the result of that. That being said , it's a lot of work and it's very painful process , you will need to face your fears etc..
@@johnwedgbury6817 well thats true i dont have many friends but i have family that i can trust you can improved yourself one day to become a confident and humble person so people can appreciate you.
A lot of people think I’m an introvert, no I’m just talked over. It became a point where I just quit talking in groups
Especially when your voice it's quiet, i cant talk loud like other people so my voice a lot of times gets "buried" by the yelling voices of others.
and then when you shout because you HAVE to to be heard, they tell you you're beeing "rude"
@@Li8aGun92 same, but they don't tell me that i'm rude, they think i'm funny by shouting lmao which is annoying since they won't take me seriously after that :)
Yes, doesn't it annoy you when people keep calling you introvert, but whenever you try to speak, they just don't care to listen?
@@sandippaul468 ikr, most of my friends are like that so I just became the quiet person to them since they would never let me speak
The one you over thinking something that I have a hard time dealing with I try my best to just talk but always worried about after I saying it people just stare at me in silcence. Thank you for this information!
One skill I've learned is knowing when to END a conversation. If you're running out of things to say, be the one to move on _first,_ even if you want to talk to them more. Hold back instead of overextending, and they'll only remember that you had an interesting interaction and want to chat more next time - instead of knowing you as a person who rambled on forever. Also try to come back and say goodbye before you leave. I've noticed that people remember me better next time, and usually even know my name.
thanks for the tip.
how do i end it?
@@jaxon1670 by saying something positive. That way their last impression is a happy warm sensation. People do not remember what you said but how you made them feel
@mintz450 - THAT is most excellent advice for me , I find myself in that predicament when conversing, finding the right moment and way to end the conversation.
Or you just have adhd and should seek some treatment 👌🏻 (srsly this could be part of that)
6. People who purposely ignores you might just be insensitive and rude. This is common for bullies.
Stay away from them, do not give your energy to those kind of people. Stay safe.
It's true but what will you do in a place where you spend 9hours a day and people around you Just ignore you or bully you in the name of teasing for fun and teachers who consider the most ideal student is someone who doesn't talk or engage in small talks and would only open mouth to answer questions .Teachers idolize your lonely self and ask other to behave like you which inturn results in more loneliness and pity on one's self ,no one understands how much the person is suffering mentally when they are not even capable of sharing their hardships with their parents or siblings because they don't want to hurt them or feel no one would understand them . people don't understand there are students who live their lives from school to home and back ,they don't even have friends to play near home ,some don't have time due to burdon of homework ,studies and project that they rarely get time to have a proper conversation with their parents and they spent most of their childhood time in schools where they are treated like the unwanted , unnoticed person .They just lose hope in themselves and stop trusting other even if other person is approaching in a positive way ,they become scared of being hurt more by being betrayed or become so withdraw from social life by suspending any situation of being emotionally hurt.
Sucks when those people are mainly your own family, even though you were always willing to listen to them..
Exaáaactly!!!!!
Sadly yes, I can let them go on and on about their personal problems meanwhile there's me trying to wait for my turn but never managed to speak up.
Fuck yes. Then when you talk even less than you usually do they ask why you have never anything to say
I get ignored until they want something
Relatable
Best advice i can give as a youngster is talk to old people who are just sitting on the bench they have lot to talk about but sadly no one to listen give them chance and build up your confidence 💪
When you don´t talk too much to let others express themselves, and try not to criticize but still have no presence and get ignored...
INFP?
Same
When you just act so strange that other people always have a question to ask you.
I can't really relatively weigh how much attention I get, comparing to others is what causes most unhappiness tbh.
I get bored and ask weird questions, usually get a few weird looks but it does start conversations.
Maybe try that :P lol
INFJ
Mood. If you're socially anxious, people tend to hate you bc they think you don't like them.
Yeah, ok I get why most people want to avoid negativity, but in some cases a person's negativity is merely the consequence of a bigger issue (like an abusive family or unhealed traumas...) it's really hard to fake a smile, pretend to be happy only to make others more comfortable around you...
You may even feel worse then, you start to belive that you're not allowed to be sad or that you can't fit in if you decide to be true to yourself and your emotions.
Thats what im getting from this lol seems like a lot of internalizing
Surprised i had to scroll so much to find a comment about this part tbh, fully agree, either you pretend everything is fine and put a fake smile so people actually want to be around you or you can be real and people just leave you, a lose lose situation either way...
Yeah, I agree. We should let people feel what they’re feeling, but we also shouldn’t let them or us wallow in negative emotions either. It’s pretty tricky to find the balance.
That's what therapy is for
wouldn't even the said person who is negative be happier if they had dealt with their past trauma?
These are the most relatable comments ive read in a video
"The higher your vibe, the smaller your tribe" is something I read today. Don't try to please people who don't understand you anyway. Makes sense to me.🤷♀️
Well said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I can't understand, can anyone elaborate vibe and tribe's context here?
Yes a alooooooot of people operate on very veryyyy low vibrations. Almost about 75 percent of people. Very two dimensional people.
@@diablohcr2yt113 Sorry, I just came across your question today. "Vibe" means the level of energy that a person operates on, which can be raised by meditation and working through your issues. And "tribe" means the group of people who have been able to reach a certain level of energy. This is a subjective norm, though. There is a lot of literature available on these issues.
It means the smaller your group of close friends is. Not that people pay less attention to you. On the contrary, people with those "higher vibes" are very popular and they never feel ignored, they talk a lot to other people, but only few people are actually their friends.
Thank you! Spot on!
Please make a video about how to keep yourself from committing to something without thinking it through first! Thanks!
"Redirect that energy to people who ARE interested in you." Sure, right, all of those people. Definitely. Yup.
yea for sure I can do this aha with all the people who are interested in me !
😂you're funny
I like when they said that the character disappeared
Lol. Yeah, that grabbed me too. So there actually ARE people like that?! &where do we find them??
I never understood that advice. The problem already is that NO ONE is interested in me
I used to be a "slave" to others, even in my family as well. Many people around me tend to take advantages of me, But now, I don't care if I become a " shadow or unniticed". I felt empower by doing this, it is the real time that I don't have to bend myself around just to have people use me. Honestly, things turms out differently, those people tend to feel like I hold something towards them, but I don't. I just kept quite and just ignore it. Since then, I felt like I have been building my own sanctuary where I could live safe. Response when needed and if it benefits. Silence is golden.
What other people think of you is not as important as what you think of yourself. If people ignore you...fuk 'em, in my own way I agree with you.
My sentiments exactly. Great confirmation to encourage us all the more. Thank you.😊
Yes, I absolutely agree with you 💯💯💯
@@fleur7891 it's hard if you're under the condition of hearing them talk dirty stuffs about you all time and everyday. i've experienced the same energy from both of my parents family sides. their toxicity is radiating; if only money and minority was not a problem, i would have walk away from them a long time ago. my parents is not even helping the situation. i'm for real tired, scared, and depress.
@@fleur7891 no matter where i am, where i go people will always think of me as an ugly loser.
True friends are like gold, precious and rare. False or "temporary" friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere and latter blown away with the wind.
:( Finding true freinds is hard
@@yaminobia7159 it rlly is
Took the word right out of my mouth. True friends will stay through good and bad. Will uplift and encourage you to be the best you. Able to express the good and the bad they see in you. Not just the negative stuff. For that reason, it's rare to find a true friend.
I have found so many of these "false" friends that I'm literally unable to make friends.
After being abandonned, betrayed several times, my parents still are surprised I can't socialize and even sometimes (especially when they're peeved) say it's because of my temperament ("If you're like that no wonder no one wants to stay with you").
@ sarazel don't worry, God will help you and I can be your freind :)
I was ignored by the person I loved the most. Now am healing myself slowly. Last tip is truly helpful. There is no use in chasing people who hate us, a lot of people love us!
Whatever the reason, if you get ignored don't feel bad about it. Just know that you are not in the right place. Don't take things like these into your mind. Value yourself first.
Learn to do things alone and be emotionally independent. That's the thing you can do. If you do these 2 things whenever or whoever ignored you doesn't even matter thereafter.
Focus on yourself. Everything will come in place at the right time.
Ignore them back
While some people get attention every place. What a world
It's hard for me to have this in school because you need to have good interactions most of the time.
LOL, not in the right place, that would be planet earth for me!!
The thing with friendships are, you heard it all the time, “Be your own self” “be the best version of yourself”, but when you tried to be yourself, your friend will think weird of you and not consider you the same again because of your true self.
So yeah, people will ignore you even if you didn’t do all the 5 things, because these people didn’t see your worth, at the end of the day, we’re all alone, and most people only care about themselves and will come and go.
Thats how you know they arent a good choice. While being yourself, you can attract the people who actually like you for who you are, and not just your persona.
@@ParakeetWorld And what if no one is attracted to you?
@@Innominates Because negativity in this case is the truth. I have been myself and people shun me for being myself. That's just the way it is, because nobody likes me. Seriously, I could disappear and no one would care.
I'm not writing it for pity, but I write it because it has been my experience. I don't mind not being liked and I refuse to be a fake to make people like me. I mind being treated differently because I'm not liked.
Bro stop capping 🧢 my bestie loves me for me ❤️
Nothing here is a cap...most people do only care about themselves - a lot of you all are just lucky enough to find some of the rare ones that don't
"Your presence doesn't grab attention"
Definitely me i always feel being ignored well some part of me wants this, don't want attention
And this "you overthink what you're going to say" that's definitely me
I just think and never said 😥
'Think and never say'😓 story of my life
😞same
This is meeee 😭😭
I know!!! Is like... I am always wanting to be in the spotlight and people to hear me, but when people look at me, I freeze, I panic and just want to be invisible
My mind thinks it can operate like an A.I., going over every possible scenario that would result from a particular course of action and then choosing the action with the best outcome. The obvious result of this is that I spend literal hours contemplating what I should say but ultimately never get to say anything at all.
When people actually talk to me, I'm all puzzled and flabbergasted . I think it's my looks and voice .
From personal experience, it's mostly body language... not looks. Secondary it's situational for me.
I'm very open myself.
I may look distant, but I've had a couple of weird people (I mean hobos with a christmas tree on the subway in mid summer) talk to me out of nowhere even though the national social norm is to have a large personal space. I remember those conversations (well, encounters) not because they were weird but because there were some refreshing and out of the ordinary and nice conversations. All it took was someone to be "unhinged" or step outside of the norms, in a well meaning way.
However when people look down or away or look like they want to be elsewhere entirely, I leave them alone because I think that's best for both of us. Just an example
The narrator has a magnificent and captivating voice!
Really - interesting - to me it sounds like a robot
couldnt agree more
Nasal, drilling into my ears in the most painful of ways... Sure. Captivating, like Guantanamo.
@@LongandWeirdName Same.. ngl. The voice was making me feel frustrated haha.
Me who is totally not good with socializing and everyone just thinks I'm rude to them but Im just awkward: uh 😶
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@@alenamedic8812 same, even my mom constantly says that about me :*(
@@alenamedic8812 same ;-;
I understand, been there.
Yh same! I sometimes don’t think about what I am going to say and then I blurt out something awkward or stupid so then I start overthinking and I go quiet
I go through this all the time. I’m not antisocial per say, I just like to keep to myself is all. But if someone wants to hang out I’m always up for it. I’m very open to communication and interaction as long as it’s healthy. But there in lies the problem…the communication and interaction that most people want to engage in is almost aaallll about gossip and talking shit behind peoples back. And because I always opt out of that type of environment I get shunned for it. Ask me if I give a shit tho 😐. I’m perfectly happy on my own. I dont understand the mentality of people who are so quick to join the rest of the sheep.
Maybe they just want you to show you are able to sympathize with them. Then again, these people could be manipulators who are trying to get you to spread what they claim to be reality. Probably only possible to learn the difference through experience.
I feel the same. There are a few people I'm acquaintances with but if I try to get close to them I feel there isn't much to them except all the bitching bs and things you said . Maybe it's because of the whole lockdown thing that I had less interaction with people, but nowadays I feel if any convo I have isn't meaningful in any way , it's not worth having .
You sound like a good friend no one deserves but needs.
@@sigurdtheblue My experience has been that people that constantly talk crap about others behind their backs are doing it about you too, and are just not very happy with themselves. It gets tiring to have to deal with that, but if you don't go along with it they feel like you are judging them and start pushing you to the side. In the end it isn't worth having more then a superficial relationship with them. Even that can get tiring if it is necessary to keep up a good relationship in the office
The worst feeling is “I wonder how long I can be silent or leave the call before the notice..” I left a call with with friends, they’re really great friends, just not.. great listeners.. it took them 2 hours and 17 minutes until they noticed..