A lack of friends indicates that a person has many...
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 เม.ย. 2023
- When a man who had no friends was asked why this happened, he responded, "Friendship is like a diamond. It's rare, expensive, and there are a lot of fakes. If you made one mistake, then a second and a third, at some point you would say, 'There are no real diamonds in the world. There are only fakes."
And another man added: "A friend is a person to be valued and treasured, but unfortunately there are rarely any friends in life you can really value."
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. (Source: Robin Williams)
Bro, check your source,
RIP robin williams
@@Chris-en1ym ....Bro, please feel free to correct my source if I am wrong.
No, I mean with respect to robin williams, he did commit suicide right, so probably not the best guy for wisdom on loneliness.
🤔 I acknowledge that Mr. Williams's contribution to our lives and his legacy far exceeds his closing act.
@@Chris-en1ymit wasn't loneliness, he was ill..
Solitude is golden and not to be confused with loneliness.
It's so bizarre the number of people who are concerned that I'm "lonely"
They're so concerned that they insist I'm lonely and just won't admit it, or I'm in denial.
They'll say they feel so sad for me, knowing I'm alone 🤔
This is due to the constant brainwashing of the general population that they have to be constantly socializing, around people etc.
There are even studies and "scientific documents" stating that humans are social by nature.
All to the point where those who prefer to be alone are viewed as odd, or someone to be suspicious or wary of... "What's their deal?"
It is labeled as a "social disorder"...
The reality behind this,
is that people who are a true introvert, or who aren't easily brainwashed, manipulated and controlled on a social level,
tend to think independently, and clearer than others who are drawn into the trap, and the fog of constant propaganda.
and propaganda isn't just about or related to only politics, it can be used to create a desired society for elitist types.
a society which is easily mass manipulated and controlled.
We're basically potentially dangerous to the overall program,
which is why we have to be placed.in and categorized in a certain way which makes others feel uneasy and untrusting of us.
If anyone reads all this, most will view it all as "crazy talk", because that's what they're programmed to think.
The entire subject is all about creating an easily manipulated and controllable general population... regardless of how long it takes, the goal is set, and those involved want to be a part of the group which succeeded in that accomplishment.
It is part of the driving force in their lives.
HALLELUYAH.AMEN. I KEEP TELLING THIS TO FOLK'S. NOT MY FAULT IF THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND ME😮🎉
living in solitude is my way of life how ever people think i am like this as a result of lacking soical skills which isnt truth its has more to do with the fact i dont crave other peoples company and been subjected to alot of abuse has made me value peace over people
@@opticalman6417 exactly, it's not a "social disorder"... it's a solution and a reaction to an ever degrading society.
I'm right there with you.
My solitude is the result of much time and thoughts about what I am, and am not willing to deal with from others around me.
General society is where the real disorders exist.
contentment is the goal.
Have learned many people have double lives.
To have one true friend is far more valuable then having a thousand false friends
True, and everyone who calls Jesus in their life can have that true friend who will absolutely never disappoint.
@@zboradenis9291Amen! ✝️
For certain. HAL'LELUYAH
Amen
I feel I have none my very best friend died 17 years ago…😢❤😢
Here’s what I heard not long ago. “The more people I get to know, the more I love my dog”. Truthful to me and my solitary life with my dog. Age 70.
Love that & very apt, thanks for sharing.
I too live alone with my pet dog... Age 31..and living peacefully
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I never, ever add comments for anything on the internet. But I'm compelled with knowing I am not alone! I love my dogs 🐕 more than most people!!
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Been hurt too many times by so called "friends"--it's best to be alone. My anxiety in life & betrayal from others has left me too exhausted to bother with "friends' anymore.
I sympathize with that
I used to be think having friends and being popular was fun in the past (I never had a lot of friends nor was ever popular)
I got over that within years and saw it's better to have few real friends over many fake ones
In social media having friends is a popularity contest 😢
@@LavaWave666 Agree.
If you are logical and you say the truth you won't be popular. I know.
Clown man
Truth! I too have very few friends.
Don't loose hope, everything has its ups n downs
The hardest lesson Ive learned in life is that there are people who get great joy out of hurting others.
Sadists...should look into the Dark Triad of Personality (narcissism, Machiavelism, psychopathy). Unfortunately it's frequent these days.
Yea I agree, that's probably the toughest one.
I had a best friend since I was about 7 yrs. old....like a brother to me (so I thought).
I went thru a divorce in my mid-30s and I used to call him almost everyday, often in the middle of the night for solace (he lived in another state).
He was always there for me getting out of bed at 2am to listen to my mental anguish.
He died at 43 yrs. old about 4 yrs. after my divorce and his death took me to my knees once again.
Time moved on and many years after I began to put complicated pieces of the puzzle together, piece by piece and I then saw it all.
He was a instrumental in "orchestrating circumstances" that resulted in the divorce --I never saw it or conceived of that possibility at the time.
He answered my distress calls because he was loving to hear the pain and sucking up the negative energy---he fed off it.
He was a Freemason which meant nothing to me at the time but opened the door to reality once I learned of the "brotherhood."
In retrospect he actually did me favors. His lies separated me from a narcissistic wife and his death liberated me from "medicated pain."
Bollox to those people, it's all just part of your own personal development you end up a more complete and contented person through hardship and disappointments
expect nothing but always be kind to people we all have our crosses to bare ; )
Because like their father, the devil, they do as he does. A murderer from the beginning. They seek to steal, kill, and destroy. "Cast not your pearls before swine, lest they trample them, and turn again and rend you."
Sometimes a person CHOOSES to be alone because they are done with gossips, rude, thoughtless and self serving people. 😊
It's sad, but people have betrayed me and disappointed me so much that I would also rather be alone
@@xdrazormon454 😔
I just realised also some people decide to be alone because it's not sweet feeling to realise that that you cannot blame your friends for what's happening in your life except yourself
@@cynthiahotieno146
Exactly!
@@xdrazormon454 Same. The people I thought were my friends ended up not being friends at all. I have acquaintances, but no real friends - and I'm okay with that. The more I'm around people in general, the less I like them (family included).
A true friend is someone who knows everything about you and still likes you.
Sharing everything about yourself with anyone is FOOLISH!
@@grayguy3619 That one comment tells me everything I need to know about you as a man.
For me, a true friend is much more than someone who likes me. I’ve had people who liked me for what I could do for them. When they no longer needed my help, they dumped me. Would you call such a person a true friend?
@@donaldmickunas8552< no, but sadly, that is how it often is, and with family too.
@@edie4321 indeed.
Betrayal from friends is a horrible feeling.
Tighten your shoe strings or slip on some slippers either or your boxing boots or your workbooks, slippers I say , for more than a day...and grief n loss may have their nature way... happy days are if we genuinely enjoy a goodnight sleep😊
Yes, but worse is betrayed by one's spouse. A friend's loyalty has boundaries unlike a spouse who has sworn his/her loyalty in sickness and in health.
Betrayal by a brother hitting on your wife is even worse.
Not when you realize they were never a friend to begin with.
It's their problem though, not yours. OK, you trusted them and got hurt but they've got to live with that meanness, nastiness, evilness even in my case. But I'm still gonna trust, still believe because the next person who comes along does not deserve me being negative, withdrawn, cynical. I'm nearly 60, and been hurt many times. But I've also been loved too, I am loved. And I love myself but I'm not going to change myself just because someone else isn't whole within their own self. That's not my problem. I'll move on, find new people, have fun and be me. Merry Christmas everyone. Xxx
Not having friends can also mean you are ok being on your own,it's more peaceful.
no offense but this sounds like cope, isnt it like a basic human instinct/desire to want to socialize?
Edit: y’all are disagreeing with me so I feel like ur not understanding. For those of u who have been outcast or put down by “friends” in the past, grow up, life throws shit at u, just get up and keep walking, if u have had bad experiences with trying to have friends that doesn’t mean u should give up on trying to make friends. Finding the right friend group that’s filled with quality friends is only a matter of how hard u try. Having real friends does not make your life less peaceful, and if that’s the case, they’re not your real friends, don’t be content on being a loner just because no one wants to be your friend. Having true friends is one of the most beautiful things in life, and yes it’s hard to achieve that, but don’t let the difficulty discourage you from trying to make friends, it is very possible to have perfect friends, just look in the right places, and in some cases, own up to the fact that maybe you are the reason your friends of the past dropped u, everyone has issues and if your issues caused u to lose friends, then you should work to solve your problems rather than just saying you’re okay with being alone, because no one likes loneliness, and whoever says that they are fine with being lonely clearly hasn’t experienced loneliness.
@@niqk8712t really but people forget that while we're built for social interaction we're not bound to it also as she mentioned it's not the quantity friends that matter but the quality... And I'm sorry to inform you but as stated in this video these people are very rare...
Facts
@@niqk8712 I was extremely social all my life until I got to my 30s. Then I began craving the peace of just being home alone. I really actually enjoy being by myself, and I believe quite a lot of other people do to. Once you go to work and are forced to interact with people, or go to appointments or meetings or whatever, it's a wonderful feeling to come home and just be peaceful and quiet. You're only your absolute true self when you're alone.
But, I do know people who need much more social interaction. Seems exhausting to me! 😂
@@niqk8712 you haven’t been burnt out by many. It takes a while to heal.
I am 58. with many acquaintances. The more I learn of humans, the more I love my Dog.
😂😂😂😂 facts
Mark Twain?
Me too
i agree!!!!!!!
The saddest thing is when you think you have a few good friends, and then they are not there when times are tough for you, and you need them the most.
yoU are never alone on this Earth, as All Life will help Life, regardless of Life!
@@johnnyblazey Huh?
Fact
@johnnyblazey I have never heard it put that way before. I think you just might be onto something. Thank you,!!
@@christinacastell-ott6811 ty for your kind words and yoU are welcome!
There is/are a vast amount of specie Life, outside of the hUman world but not All are disttacted. Those in concern, just need a hUg from the Understanding and trUe meaning (defaUlt - start point of a semi-coherent/ coherent Self via Awareness of Self, Awareness of surrounding, and Awareness of Self in surrounding) of what one's Life means to Self and what Life (in it's entirety) means itself.
We hUmans are very delicate to influences outside of Self but still completely precioUs, always.
When you have nothing to offer you’ll find out who your true friends are .
Pure facts
Nobody😊
You're definitely right!
Facts
Soooo very true
There was a time when I thought that I had lots of friends.
That was until I was diagnosed with a terminal illness and spent six months in hospital.
No visits, phone calls, not even a card.
Once I was out of hospital the common excuse was "I hate hospitals".
Yeah well try staying in one for a length of time.
It made me realise that these weren't true friends, just those who hang on for the benefits of someone who's always there for them.
No thanks.
Now my best friend is my German Shepherd. He has a terrible history of abuse and neglect. He never had a friend who cared for him.
Now he does and he appreciates me.
My only hope is that I outlive him. The thought of abandoning him is too much to bear.
I get it. Before the pandemic everyone wanted me to come to their events and take photos for the newspaper. I got sick from long covid and have become a hermit for 3 years and none of them have checked on me. I am finally able to get help and after my next surgery I should be able to walk better. And I know I will never go out of my way for most people and spend more time with my pets and at home. I pray for you.
I was in a mental institution for months and only got one call from my brother
However rare true love is, true friendship is rarer.
@@TheTruthFadeswithTime28 now that is sad. But that's ok whether you realized it or not God was right there with you every step of the way. HE SAYS; "I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU"!
"I AM"
SAID IT!
I hear you. I can relate 200%
The miracle is not to have a hundred friends but it is to have one friend that would stand with you when the hundred is against you.
His name is the Lord Jesus Christ. He will never leave me nor forsake me. He sticks closer than a brother. His faithfulness is my shield and rampart.
@@user-lf5oh7um7y amen my friend. Jesus christ our EVERTHING
@@user-lf5oh7um7yGlory HalleluYah!!!😊
Yep. I agree with the quote "True friends are like diamonds - precious and rare. False friends are like leaves, found everywhere."
@@user-lf5oh7um7y Unfortunately there's no proof Jesus is real. People need human friends, too.
i totally agree with this tale. Over the years I have helped many people, it's in my nature, but when I've needed help in return, "I am told, sorry, can't help" Of course, I do still help people who need help, but i am very careful now. In fact, counting your true friends doesn't take long. One finger should do it.
Not even one finger is needed for me. I am the same as you - be it family or 'friends' or colleagues when they needed me I was there, when I needed someone - nobody wanted to. I now have the True Friend - My Creator God Almighty, All Knowing, The Provider. God has temporarily brought people into my life for short periods to help and teach me a lesson until they suddenly 'ghosted' me as is the normal way people leave me.
I have also been through this took me a long time to learn my lesson. Peace and blessings upon both of you.
Me too. Funny how time changes people. Anyway, I don’t have any true friends left except Jesus Christ.
WELL SAID!
It's called codependency. I'm codependent and have literally sacrificed myself for the happiness of others. I have helped enough people for a lifetime. But, now I only help me. Look up codependency.
I’m 31. Literally every friend I have made and become close to has disappointed me. It seems if you let your guard down enough people will always find a way to step on you.
I'm sure you have done the same thing?
The older you get, the less people you need in your life.
Yes 😔
I'm 69, expecting more from others than from yourself, is your first mistake. Maybe you should reflect on what you have done that may have disappointed those friends. People have a habit of looking outward instead of inside. Judge your own works first.
Almost every "friend" in my case too. Some were very surprising, never thought they'd drift away like that. However, on the other end, almost all of the few people who keep in contact with me are very annoying. They always run away with and dominate conversations before I get 5 words in. I don't even want to try to have conversations with them anymore.
Like mark twain said, if you die with only 1 best real friend, you were the luckiest person in the world.
I wonder what he experienced that made him say that?
Wasn't he the one who preferred the company of a dog to a person?
@@bento7963 If he hadn't any personality, and the Dog no teeth, then yes, that's the same Mark Twain.
But Mark Twain had personality, in spades and ALL Dogs, even the old ones, still have teeth, so maybe it's not Mark Twain
Maybe he got betrayed by his “friends “ before?
I don't have a lot of friends but I have 3 real friends! I rather that than 50 fake friends!
Loneliness is the price you pay for finding your inner self
Worth every penny then.
“It’s far better to be alone, than to be bad company.” George Washington
Being alone doesn't mean you're unwanted; it's a sign that you're patient enough to wait for the right relationships that truly value and understand you
Really🥺Because I've been feeling unwanted all this time
@@jeannemeiring30 I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. It's important to remember that feelings of being unwanted are often just feelings. This can be easily influenced by current circumstances and not necessarily an accurate reflection of reality or our worth. Everyone at some point will experience moments of self-doubt and feelings of not being valued.
But remember this: your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth!!!
We all have intrinsic value, and sometimes it takes time for the right people to come into our lives who can truly appreciate us.
Use this time to explore and understand your own worth, develop self-love and self-respect, pursue the things you are passionate about, surround yourself with positivity, and do what makes you feel happy.
And always remember, it's okay to ask for help if you're feeling particularly low. Reach out to someone you trust and let them know what you're going through, it could make a huge difference!
Good luck and stay strong!❤
Words of power and wisdom 💜 Beautifully written 😍
Interesting comment
Exactly!
Someone wrote in my autograph book at school many years ago....
'True friends are like diamonds,
Precious and rare;
False friends are like autumn leaves,
scattered everywhere.'
That's the truth. I hope you are still in touch with whoever wrote that beautiful piece of text
That's very beautiful.
How many people here are INFJs, by chance?
@@Shirar2000 what's that?
I absolutely agree with this.
I'm a 64 year old guy who decided more than 10 years ago that I was better off without friends.
If I happen to find anyone who has as much integrity and honorable loyalty etc as me, I will reconsider but I'm not holding my breath.
Most people take advantage of friends in a very dishonest and unfair way.
Yep. I agree with you.
I also agree, most ppl are more interested in their own needs🫣 Better to be alone than wishing you were...
Sounds like you think you’re perfect and better than anyone else. Anyone who says they have perfect integrity, loyalty and honor is clearly full of pride and probably extremely self absorbed. Now I don’t know you, and I can’t judge you but I’d encourage you, instead of judging people, to look at yourself. Are you being a good friend or are you just expecting others to kiss your boots?
You gotta befriend the old men in this comment section 50-70
You guys need to make a group online and become buddies til the end fr I mean you all share the same issue so it should be a good bonding start
Shame. Sad but REALITY. Bad ppl in world
Pets/ animals are the only true friends❤
Being alone is powerful. Most people can't be alone. It's better to be alone than to be with people who make you feel alone
that´s what I am saying too. :)
I love being alone. I enjoy my own company without ever being bored or lonely. If I want to be around people there is the library, senior center, etc. Or I can call any of my friends whom are always glad to hear from me.
Exactly! I'd much rather be alone (not lonely, BIG DIFFERENCE).
I can focus all my energy and time on the things I want, without having to play mind games with "friends".
The older I get, the more I realise most people deep down don't give a shit about you.
There will be some people who do, those people I absolutely keep in my life. But it's VERY RARE.
If you ever have a bad feeling in your stomach about your friends, it's probably true. Listen to that gut feeling people.
I should've done it sooner, so many times, with so many people.
Learn to enjoy life on your own, if you can pull that off, like I finally have, NOTHING can fucking stop you. 💙
Hate always feeling alone even when I'm surrounded by people
@@joshuatree1886lucky bastard. I have no one I can call friend and loathe myself more than those who consider me an enemy
My mother used to tell me that if a person had one true friend at the end of their life that they should consider themselves lucky. I used to think she was negative. But now having lived a good part of my life, I realize she was right. And wise.
it's funny how boomers are the only ones who even have true friends, my parents are boomers and they still talk with friends they had in college, even high school, me? HA, I can't even stand my one best friend from high school, boomers were just so much more normal.
There both wise women God bless us 🙏❤
Same here. This is so SO TRUE!!
If you have more than one friend count yourself blessed by God.
So very true .....
A lack of friends can be very beneficial for personal growth.
Like everything else friends have evolved...into frienemies
I will NEVER be "alone". I ALWAYS have Jesus with me. He will never deceive me, never LIE to me, NEVER forsake me, will ALWAYS LOVE ME and be with me!
Believers in any religion will always have God with them ie Allah swt has been my safety net, my shoulder to cry on etc he knows what we cannot express in words but flows through tears & causes pain.
Then your friend is imaginary. What you need to be is comfortable with yourself and who you are as a piece of life. You are joy. You contain the source of creation within you not outside of you.
Are you saying that God is "imaginary"?!
@@mikeferry3391you are imaginary too Mr perfect people choose to belive who they believe in. I can tell from you're response that you are the reason you dont have friends soo judgmental and not accepting of others.
@@bekita3386 i love others. We are a miracle. Consciousness is universal. Belief is divisive. Your response is proof. I seek what we all share not something I made up for myself.
It's painful to make friends in a narcissistic world.
They say misery loves company…”
Those who are miserable are afraid to keep pushing. They are tired of being strong.
a right! a feminist world!
@@joesmith9216This isn't a feminist world the feminist world is where both genders have equal rights
@@idk-zi3gw try telling that to some of the feminists. Some of them would prefer men be wiped of the face of the earth
@@user-nw2fp7nu5x feminist means equal rights since women in *MOST* AREAS in the world women had less rights. feminism fought for equal rights. But today In some parts of the world women have more rights then women.
Being alone doesn't mean you feel lonely. I love being alone.
I am there!
I love my own company over anyone else's for sure!
@@jennifermorton8332 yeah. Different strokes for different folks.
Yup, and I'm never bored or lonely. It's very peaceful.
Its great being able to enjoy your own company. However, there will come a time in life than a true and honest and available friend will be appreciated. So, enjoy it while you are young. It doesn't get easier.
Same! I need my alone time! I absolutely crave it
At one time I had a lot of friends. That's when I had a lot of money along with all the material things in life. When they all went away, so did the people I thought were my friends
My dad used to say "Money does not buy friends it only rents them" I have 100's of acquaintances but very few friends.
Same thing happened to me. Business took a hit and "Where was everybody?" It was
a moment of isolated depression, then I came across M.C.Hammer's tale. It provided
a spiritual buoy for a good while. He was betrayed by many from his community that he
employed as trends changed. I felt I wasn't the only one. Less friends now, but 100% better friends.
Friendship is expensive! It takes time, energy, and $$ to maintain friendships. When we get together with friends we don't always want to be sitting around on the porch talking, which can get boring & depressive (because we all end up sharing our woes). We want to go places and do things with each other. Even a simple lunch out can be costly considering the price of gas to drive there and the cost of the meal. Going anywhere together is going to cost some money and it adds up quickly. That is an issue for those without deep pockets.
It isn't so much that people love or want you only when you have $ but the difference in income causes a big gap. Take those you work with for instance .. you might hit it off with several of them to the point of becoming good friends. Even though you all make the same salary, one of them has no spouse or kids to support making it easier for them to spend & save more than the person with many legit financial responsibilities. Even though the two are good friends & want the companionship, just going to lunch or a ballgame or movie is pocket change to the first person but can be a burden for the 2nd person who is struggling just to pay rent. It's great OCCASIONALLY if person #1 can help out & pay for person #2's way but that can get old real fast. Person #1 starts to feel taken advantage of and person #2 feels quilty & embarrassed at not being able to reciprocate, and they eventually stop spending time together. They don't care for each other any less, it's just the $ gap becomes an issue. It isn't the $ that's an issue, it's the GAP, and unless they find a way to bridge the gap, they will eventually part ways.
That´s life a store giving everything away for free and then wondering why it went out of business. I had a lot of whores until I get paying for it.
Same here . THE DAY I STOP WORKING. NO MONEY NO LIFE NO FRIENDS
I have been a apple tree since childhood and now i am 61yrs old Unmarried and Fatherless, being the youngest of 8 children i am the poorest Relation with a loving heart and a open mind set. My Parents died 45yrs ago and i have no true friends, but my inner strength and resolve in dealing with disappointments has made me Content. I am a Sigma male with great knowing observing those around me who seem lost and unhappy with life.
Agreed. But it definitely takes a strong person to be alone. My decisions to put myself first will be felt this Christmas day when I spend it alone.
Maybe we expect too much from others? I remember what Dr. Phil said. Don't expect something from someone that they don't have! (Think about that)😊
I’m 69 and alone. Time makes the holidays less painful. When I drove truck, I made sure to drive at least five hours on the holiday. This made it just another work day.
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Then don't say you are a friend if you cannot be a friend.
Betrayal doesn't come from enemies but from friends and your inner circle. It hurts so much that the person you are willing to take the bullet for is the one behind the trigger.
it always seems those are ones who end up taking the shot, i remember somehwere in the book 48 laws of power they say that you are better off with an open enemy than you are with a friend, because one friend that turns on you, or secretly harbors resentment can do more damage than several enemies who are open, it even suggests your better off working with an enemy in some situations and i unfortunately have to say i can agree with that statement. ( that was a very rough paraphrase of what i vaguely remember from reading it probably 3 or 4 years ago , sad thats what stood out most).
BAMMM! UNDERATED COMMENT! I SO APPRECIATE YOU!❤🙏🏾
Sadly that is so true.
Or family
@@legionsarecoming4-u371 lmao my screen name for this used to be they call me legion for we are many lol ....unfortunately i lost the password and ya----
I'm an introvert so being alone is fine with me, and I learned at a very young age that most people cannot be depended on. I have very few friends but get along with most everyone. The ones that I can't, I avoid because I can't stand their negative energy. Being raised in an abusive family I'm very picky. I live out in the middle of nowhere with my animals and I love it
Whatever feels right for you and makes you comfortable and happy is right, why wouldn't it be there is no right and wrong way in one's own personal journey if it feels natural thats all that matters we are all our own people, sorry to hear you had a bad start but that's their fault, not yours.
Both of you are making me tear up. Dawn, you sound like me, and your comment caught my eye. My heart goes to you with understanding....Eric, that was a beautiful and heartwarming thing to say. You're souls are both amazing 🖤🥺
@@ericmcarthur1975 My comment before was for you too. Never forget your heart is amazing, pouring with empathy.
i hope to live in the middle of nowhere with animals some day too - people are awful
Can't fault you. Wishing you well from one introvert to another. 😊
Betrayal is the worst. Being betrayed doesn’t make you stupid. It means your trust in others was used against you. When you don’t trust in others anymore you won’t be betrayed.
My mother always. said , "if you have one good friend & true then you have more than your fair share " Life has shown me she was right .Most are but acquaintances .
I had a friend like this. Called him my best friend and so did he. I helped him through the death of his mom, an always lingering drug addiction, talked him out of psychosis more times then I care to remember, made him a bed, renovated his house, .... He never did anything for me, but I didn't mind, always thought it wasn't necessary. He needed peptalk after peptalk and I was there. Gave him good solid usable advice to get his life in order. He always went back to his old ways after promising he d follow the advice on his mom, dad, life,... After years I finally admitted to myself that he was completely self centered, bit crazy even. He lied all the time, believing his own lies. I cut him out of my life. He was using so much of my energy my own life fell apart.
If you want, take my advice: act sooner.
Your friend has a narcissistic personality disorder that is exactly what they do excel every bit of your energy until you die, and they won't batter an eye lid. NPD for short.
Wow, unfortunately it sounded like you had a narcissist there that cared only about himself. No one deserves that kind of abuse.
@@janicecrose376 --It's the norm not the exception given time and circumstances.
Exact same situation
same thing happened with me. I'm done letting ppl drain me. F* friends!!!
When my grandfather died at age 82, I was surprised to see so many young people at his funeral. Curious, I asked several young people how they knew my grandfather. They said they would often stop by to see him on their way to and from school. Even when they were young boys and girls at the time, they said he always treated them like adults and honestly listened to their concerns. He always gave them good advice from tips on playing baseball to explaining how to be and have good friends.
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What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing ⭐️🥲
Dammit ... I qualify except I haven't a clue about baseball. Or cricket. Or any so-called 'team' so called 'games'. The mis-named 'team spirit' is another word for unleashed but legal Nasty.
But I treat all people, young and/or old, as if they were me. It seems to work. No need to be nasty, even to the nasty; there's often a reason for their nastiness ... gently popping the bubble and letting the nasty out often reveals the nice behind the persona.
When I was younger I had so many friends that I think I took to many for granted. They all seemed to be genuine and Real. Looking back I think that I should have been a more caring and tolerant of them. Now that I'm in my early 60s I live alone with my 18 plus year old Cairns terrier.i have a handful of ( Friends) but when I think about it do. Any of them really care about me. I lost my very best friend on August 6th 2018. My Mom, I know she cared since she passed I haven't spoken to my younger brother, or sister. Tried to make amends with my younger brother a couple of years ago, I told him I'd like to let bygones be bygones and I love him couse he's my brother. He looked at me and walked away without saying a word. They reason he won't talk to me is , when we were at the funeral I got really drunk and said that I would pay for everything casket, plot, headstone etc. when she passed away, my little brother jumped on a plane and flew down to fla . While my older brother and I drove down. Gee I wonder why he wanted to get there so quickly. My mom left both him and I enough money to cover all the funeral costs. When we returned home I started thinking about how caniving he is . I know my mom gave him a conversation van. Well he turned around and sold it to me for 10,000. Dollars . When I asked him to at least pay for the headstone that I put on my credit card. He refused . So I told him I would cancel the Stone. Of course I wouldn't have. But he didn't know that. He had me meet him at a bank and fill out paperwork saying he payed the twenty five hundred dollars. Out of the money that she left for her final expenses. He wanted to pocket the whole amount. Unbelievable! He won't talk to me because of that. What a piece of work. The funniest part is that I love him because he's my brother , but I don't even like him as a person. He's an asshole. What a clown. Back to the friend thing. I have one friend, and two sorter friends. But like I said I lost my only real friend when I lost my mom . Dam I miss that woman. Well I guess that's all I can say about that.
Friends are just a dash away from being your enemy.
A friend to all is a friend to none
If a person can find ONE person that they can depend on to be a true friend, that person is extremely fortunate.
But then there's the question: do you need a friend on whom you can depend to be friendly and supportive in the emotional sense, but who can confer you no tangible benefit at all, no "apples", no "branches", no nothing - a friend who is poor themself but IS still a good friend? A friend like that could only hug you and offers words of sympathy when you need money, or house, or a boat - but nothing to help you with your woes. If you WANT to have such a friend still, that would mean that you YOURSELF may be a (potentially) good friend...
@@lorigulfnoldor2162 Yes, because a friend is not a bank, nor someone who is there to physically help you through your problems all the time. You might some times need it but considering someone a friend because of material belongings is shallow.
@@SilosNogatte can you stop yourself from beating yourself and blaming yourself for being unable to help a friend in a genuine need, when you have no resources to, though? i sometimes think that things like "friendship" evolved in human society when people were much more equal in their access to resources, so it was "either you can count on your friend, or you're in such a trouble that no one could help you anyway." If you are beaten by bandits, a friend can oil your wounds and help you get to place of healing. If a crocodile bit off both of your legs, your friend can hardly help you - but so hardly can anyone else. Nowadays it seems natural to either feel your own guilt, or anger at a society, when your friend is in need, buy you are empty-handed. Dealing with that sort of guilt, it's... not easy.
I had that with my husband and best friend that both are now gone. I miss them dearly they kept me grounded
@@kathydaubs7829 You have my sympathy.
Some people choose to have no friends because it's far more better to be alone than to be in bad company!
Good one and true!
THIS IS ME. Live for yourself and you only. People are people. To have friends youd have to buy with things.
You Are Better Off. No Drama
Friends are like diamonds, precious and rare....False friends are like Autumn Leaves... found everywhere.🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
I understand the apple tree. A few years back I had a wonderful friend after having been married to a man who never talked to me and was never fun to be with. He'd often say hurtful things to me. I had been so lonely, being married for 28 years to that man. We moved a lot, so by the time I'd make a new friend we were having to move again. One day he left, and I was glad he was no longer in my life. Several years after he left I met a guy who was so sweet, so kind, so thoughtful, so loving, and so much fun. I felt my prince charming had finally been sent to me. But after a few years he met some other women and he started to forget about me. Now he doesn't talk to me anymore... he's so busy with them. It broke my heart. I began to feel like the apple tree. Now as I go forward in life, I tell myself that God is watching over me and caring about me. I kinda would like to meet a new friend who would be wonderful in my life, but I'm a little jaded!
After all the dust has settled, and after all is said and done, I was the friend I always wanted to have.
Same, except my hand was the only one I wanted to date 🤣
@@Chris-en1ym well I don't want to shake hands with you to often! 😄🤗👎
@@jacksquat4140 yeah especially his hand.😫
@@jacksquat4140 😄😄😄😄
@@partheniat.9557
Imagine how many hands you do shake though, I don’t wanna shake hands with you either for all the secondary residue 🤣🤣
Now you have something to think about when meeting people haha, your welcome.
When you cut out the toxic relationships and lose the intertwined drama, life is much more peaceful. I quit chasing after unhealthy, disappointing connections (which was usually the end result) and chose to keep more to myself. I've been called anti-social or a hermit, but all I know is I'm happier as a hermit. 🤷♀️
#HappyHermits 😂
Let me guess... You're a Virgo
@@kristinloucks2084 Lol. No. Go fish. (And no, I'm not a Pisces. 😄)
@@kimbennett3014 Cancer then lol
@Raebrained Perfection. We need our own group... that we participate in mostly independently, with minimal interaction, of course... 😉😶🌫️
I was emotionally neglected from day one. I did not learn any kind of social skills and so became a pariah. As an adult I managed to find love and even marriage, but when a child was inside me, my spouse disappeared. I lived a decent life, making a good living from the skills I do have, and raised my child. Now he is grown and leaving soon, and I am alone again. And I am very, very sad.
I am sorry to hear that.... Don't be sad, for you are not alone. God is with you always... he is the best friend
Only The Lord Jesus Christ can fill that void
@@alfredvenegas972 Archangels Michael and Gabriel have guided me, as have other beings as well as Jesus, who is within us all.
Many of us didn't expect to be alone yet Solitude offers so much growth. God bless you.❣️
Reach out, it's hard to be connected nowadays...it's not you it's just the world now
People tend to like physically attractive, charismatic, confident people. They care less about good deeds. Sad, but true.
Physicall attractive, charismatic... people are used, too. Look at Johnny Depp, he is a well known example. I think people who have learned and know how to detect toxic people are the ones who win in the end.
@@vuhuongly3884 I don't believe Johnny was used. I think he used Amber Heard.
In other words people are shallow af. This is truth unfortunately.
@@brendaleverick3655 Whatever the case there was,they were both attractive and famous and rich
Good deeds make gud fortune this is karma phal siddhant =Deeds result principal.
Pets & plants are prettier than most people now a days.
So sad but TRUE 👍
Funny, but this statement is void of understanding, people are like plants and people are also like pets the real question is what kind of plants or pets are they. Friendship is all about complimentation and compact ability. How about this. Am making a proposal to becoming your friend. We could get to know ourselves better
I thought I had friends and family, until I started saying "no". Then the real people appeared.
I’m almost 64 and I have one real friend in this world for almost 51 years he’s been there for me thru thick and thin thank you John Goldstein for being a true friend
It’s very hard to trust anyone anymore, even family.
... especially family.
@@brandyjan14 you beat me to it.
Family is the worst because it hurts that much more.
The only way to know if a person is trustworthy, is to trust them.
Take people as they come
I ❤ this. I'm 60 years old no brothers or sisters no husband no kids or grandchildren no nieces or nephews my parents are gone. Had to set boundaries with the few friends I had. So just me and my dog 🐕. No drama or BS. It's good considering 🤔 people and their motives😊❤
That was why my late parents had so many of us. They were worried that once they are gone that if any of us were an only child then we would be all alone.
I agree with your wisdom and also put alot of thought into how and why life actually works. About 15 years ago I wrote a small book about what really drives life here in this world. My conclusion is that everything here is driven by the engine of Karma. Relationships included! If one doesn't have many friends or relationships, one should think of themselves as lucky because they also don't have too much Karma debt. Looked at closer, there is alot of stress, responsibility, loss of freedom, financial weight, etc in Relationships, especially marriages. Be happy you don't have to deal with all that stuff and enjoy aloneness. If one can do that, then "loneliness" will never show up. Two different birds!
It's like looking in mirror
Ya but what about when u get older and u have nobody?
That's a very sad story with alot of meaning to it. People should remember this when they do have a friend who is loyal to them and stands by them. Just because you make new friends and live a good life doesn't mean you should forget the ones who were there for you during sad times. That's called loyalty and is an integral part of a friendship.
A long, close friendship is as valuable and rare as a great love...
I live by this -- the less people in your life,the less drama!
ALMIGHTY God KABIR++🙏🙏🙏++
❤ u are so right
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"Better alone than in bad company"☺️🔶
You got that right!☺️
Yep and I enjoy
What if you’re both?
Amen 🙏
@@DeadInside-ew8qb explain!
Friendship is earned not just given.
The value of a “true” friend is immeasurable.
BOTH ARE IN HEAVEN!
Wouldn't know - never had one.
define truth as truth is only what we perceive it to be its only a lie if we dont believe it
@@patriciaclark7342Amen Brother
Find one and report back in 20 yrs.
A friend is someone who knows everything about you and still likes you.
Right.
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No one will ever know everything about me... until the day comes when we're all telepathic.
YES---they are nonexistent.
He likes your pain.
When you learn to be your own best friend you'll be a much more happy and content individual
This is all so true in life. The one and only true friends are your pets I've learnt they never desert you long you care for them whatever happens.
A lack of friends is a wonderful indication that a person is to real & genuine! # for me it is!
I prefer the solitude over fake people!😊
Same here. I really enjoy the peace and quiet of being alone. Don't have to deal with any b.s.
@@Freshadventures_
Well the self is found in the solitude but happiness in a mutual bond!
Well, I don't know that it's a *wonderful* indication, but it's absolutely true. I know, cuz I'm the one who's too real and genuine. People don't know how to take me, cuz there so few people who have the courage to be themselves anymore.
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Well one must learn to be all one needs which is found in the solitude!
My kids and I are the same, acquaintances...not many friends tho
There are hardly any people left in this society worth calling a friend.
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Absolutely unfortunately
There’s a thing about friendship…… I’m going to look at myself…… what kind of friend am I myself?
sounds like victim-speak@@froggylegspeople
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That’s how you see it, I don’t 😄
The comments are vert true, when people you called friend turn on you, it's vary hard to trust, when this happens many times in your life and even family can hurt you to the bone, you start to think what is wrong with me, what have I done that was so bad to make these people hate you so much, In life I look back and think I never ment to hurt anyone,I was always there if they needed help in any way. A friend woke me up many years ago and was desperate to visit her dads grave we went she a good cry, I lived in this town for 4yrs. On leaving the town I found out that her and my husband were having an affair. That does shatter a person faith in people. This experience and many more like this happen all the time, its not just me. So I understand how hard it is to trust again. stay safe, enjoy Chrissy and the New year
Thank you for sharing your experience and sorry that happened to you.
“The axe never remembers, the tree never forgets”🌳
I heard last week that you should not tell anyone about your problems or how you are feeling because 80% of people don’t care and the other 20% are glad you have problems.
I agree.
True
I have found most don't care to know anything at all about me, neither my joy's or sorrows. Makes it difficult to talk to them as I abhor superficial conversation.
That's so true!
Actually it is the other way round 20 percent don't care 80 percent are glad that you have them.
"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." ~Maya Angelou
exactly
“I rather eat pasta and drink wine than to be a size zero.”
- Sophia Loren
Amen.
yes man
trust me let them go forever
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉
Been alone my whole life and it's my nature because of the way I was raised and the experiences I was subjected to in my early years.. 71 years old and still going just not as strong but that's life. Not everybody feels the necessity to let others get close..
Fair play to that 71yr old person. I thought l was the only one. I fully understand what you mean by the way you were raised and early experiences. I went through the same thing and by the age of 8yrs, it was all over for me and I didn't start school until I was 6yrs. Between the madness and the bullying at school I was just an outcast but I live away in my own world. I'm a woman and nothing rises me more than a click of women together, (all stories about everybody and whispering). I could never take that. Thank God I'm alone and you too Sir. Mind yourself. May God watch over the weak. The Holy Spirit is the even spirit of truth. That's what the Bible calls him in the book of John. So true, I've experienced it in my own life since I became a Born Again Christian. The Holy Spirit never lies and he speaks to my heart by thought.
A friend will forget about you if his/her significant other dislikes you out of jealousy and if he/she realizes you do not offer them anything more than moral support.
It may be even worse when a friend joins the hater side. Really hurts, but eh ... Everyone need to build their own lives, or ruin them. Not like i care about anyone, myself included.
i LOOOOOVE being alone!!!! People are untrustworthy, unreliable, have hidden agenda’s, and just flat out suck!!!!
Are you trustworthy, reliable, without hidden agendas......etc ?
lol
There should be no jealousy between real friends but that's how we loose them ..!
@@Kirkee7 YES!!!! THAT’S what pisses me the fuck off about people!!!! When i deduced that it appears most (90%) of the world 🌎 are the opposite, that’s when i became a recluse for the most part!!!!
So called friends cut your throat as soon as you turn your back! My husband is my only friend! I am good with that!
I'm 35 and have absolutely no friends. it's quite boggling, to be honest. i often find myself quite depressed due to my lack of satisfying relationships in life. i don't know if it's because of the changing times, or because im getting older, but I've found that finding and keeping friends around is not only extremely difficult but very exhausting as well. about 2 years ago, i noticed i was the only person keeping any of my meaningful (to me anyway) relationships in tact i.e. the only person to call, visit, etc., so i decided to stop reaching out and see who would actually reach out to me.... well i have no friends now, lmao. I've been trying to get on being alone, and find solitude in that. instead of investing in other people, i've invested in me. it still really sucks, and i would love nothing more than a loving family and a couple decent friends, but its not looking like its in the cards for your boy. ill be damned if i disappear into the shadows without being seen, though. the person i was 2 years ago to now is unrecognizable, so i suppose i can hold my head high with that fact.
I feel you. I’m a 37 year old guy here and this is pretty similar to my situation. When I do try to reach out to people they are toxic and use me. Even family and I’m over it. So I started just doing me. I tried meeting new people, but it’s like I’m a magnet for people to walk all over me. So now it’s pretty much just me. I have one friend I’m holding on to, but thinking about letting her go because she likes to get jealous and make snide comments.
I do feel deprived of intimacy and socializing and having a sense of community. Im an introvert even, but still miss the human interaction.
@@OceanLover805 What are you guys doing to fix that? Are there any changes of actions and habits to ensure you’re meeting new and likeminded people?
Perhaps you should go out and do community activities, enjoy people's company without expecting anything. Maybe something deeper will form, maybe it won't but you can still just enjoy the stimulation of interacting with folk. Be happy with yourself and in yourself and maybe don't expect others to make you so? A friend in need is a friend indeed...and also extremely rare. Sadly.
@@lucidevlin I’ve tried meeting up with family that I’ve never met before, making friends and even dating at one point. They all are crazy lol. They become jealous and controlling and all around toxic. Like I have 1 friend that I’m holding on to, but honestly need to let her go. She likes to make jabs like “my car isn’t as nice as yours” or “It must be nice that you get to go do that”. It’s always snooty and that’s how they all been. It really makes me sad because when a friend of family member tells me something exciting about them I’m really excited for them and happy. It’s like I can’t be happy about my achievements around people or happy about anything really without them getting jealous or ignorant to me. Sometimes I’m like was a cursed damn!
When you move through the world alone you experience it so much more intensely. You learn to be in a space with others of our species and feel how you are all connected, no need to cling to just one in which to reflect yourself. It can be quite beautiful to be alone.
Before you make friends with others - Make friends with yourself.
Thank you for posting this wise, kind story. It helps me hav more compassion for myself and others than I would otherwise have.
I've only ever had two true friends in my life. One of them passed away several years ago. One of them I'm still blessed to have. A true friend is very rare
U can say.that again!!!
Same story here, Nancy.
Me too Nancy . Quality over quantity every time.
Watch your back.
My bestie died of cancer in 2018.
Cutting ties with toxic so called friends was the biggest weight lifted off my shoulder. I’ve become a much clear thinking person. My confidence level went extremely high. Because I no longer associate with peers who feels the need to bring you down.
Agreed 👍
"Absolutely captivated by this video's unique perspective on having fewer friends. It's a deep dive into self-reliance and meaningful connections. Did this change anyone else's view on friendships?"
A person of faith is Never alone, Jeremiah " before you were conceived in the womb I knew YOU"may this comfort you as it did me.. AMEN
Amen🙏❤️🇦🇺
I am 83 and have had 2 friends for 60 years who are loyal. Another friend that I've had for 40 years is still close and loyal. Along the way, I have made and lost a number of friends who didn't turn out well, but I consider myself very lucky to have those 3.
You are lucky. I still have 1-2 close friends now. I had a best friend that passed away and lost 2 close friends along the way. But having 1-2 close friends is good enough for me.
U R!
You're blessed on many levels.. Best to you and your friends
Bless you sir you are a wealthy man to of had 3 friends for 60 year's 🤔❤
You are blessed 🙌 😇
I can relate to this. I would have given the world for people I thought would be my friend. Now, I discriminate very discerningly who might be worthy.
My whole twenties has taught me this.
People who have had bad relationships tend to be careful about trusting others. Another reason could also be a personal family background, abuse, etc.
Trusting people never fails to bring disappointment.
Yup.
Your are expecting not trusting. If you trust then the results doesnt matter
Never!!
Instead of putting trust in others, be wiser to put that trust in yourself .. Period..
That is not true. You need to learn how to determine trustworthy people, and how to be one yourself. It's a two-way street, a relationship built over time.
I find people always let me down or betray me or never put any effort, but I acknowledge that I need to have social connections because I am healthier and happier, so instead of friends I started volunteering in our community, it’s a great group of like minded people enjoying a common goal. Then I go home feel happy and get on with my hobbies and no need for fake friends. It’s a win, win for everyone.
Thank You... One of the things I tell people suffering from loneliness & depression is to volunteer to help those less fortunate. One day a week helping the homeless & those without food to eat changes your perspective on life. & You're socializing with no expectation of a relationship.
Great idea!
That's awesome! Build your treasures in Heaven!!
Great idea
Great idea🎉
Being an empath, yet a sarcastic “loner” who is apparently allergic and an allergen to humans…not having “friends,” is the best thing. Nothing hurts.
Solitude is bliss.
So many are missing out on the awesomeness that is me. Sorry.
Thanks You tube. 😂
People are fake and am teaching my kids this too. People are becoming nastier and nastier even in relationships. Am at peace with myself and being alone and more happy. I was more lonely in my past relationships because i foolishly depended on them for companionship not only was it the biggest mistake ill never ever repeat. Ive learnt to never trust people only myself and my two beautiful kids are the only best friends i have
If a person has two REAL friends in life, that is a true blessing.
Two, who has that many 🧐 ?
@@user-pp7jn7gy3nAMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
Outside my family, the only people I know mostly involve money, both men and women.
I am alone, but I am not lonely. I've never felt so much peace.
You have no idea how much value this video has in my heart and soul I have been alone for so many years but I can't go out and meet people because I don't trust them anymore I had a friend for a great many years who decided to call me family even though I wasn't blood family and then just disappeared for no reason it broke me and it has still to this day
I relate with the appletree..I had experienced such "friendships" where I was used for my resources and abilities. When I realised this after some time, I reduced my contact list.
Never expect too much from people and you'll never be disappointed.
True but dont associate with people like that in the first place. Its like getting a bad exchange rate on your dollar bill
That is so true !
It still hurts either way. Trust me.
why do u have expectations of others? who are you to make such demands?
There is no need for friendship for me personally
It really sucks when you think you know someone but realize you never even met them
I hear you.
Imagine if you were married to that same person for 16 years.
It sucked...
Damn that just hited hard..i was seeing a girl and we had something but we didnt know each other at all..we rain into things ways toi fast and yet again im alone.
I miss her
And i hope she misses me too.
Dang bro 16 years, what did you walk in on?
@@maxpower92 The realisation you've spent 16 years with someone who was faking it all along!
Thanks for describing me more favourably than i do myself 💚
True friends are a blessing, people that hang around you trying to use you or get something out of you are a hassle.
It's safer to be
Alone and not to have friends. No one can hurt You. The world has turned into a dark space.
But then no one can share their light with you either!
Share some apples but don't give away your branches .
it's not so much that, sheeple today are just blind followers, ALSO, many people today are drug addicts, drugs have really gripped humanity with all the big pharma being injected into newborns, don't stand a chance.
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So sad to say but. Peace and quiet is wonderful❤
Reaching the threshold of old age I learned that the least attached you are to anyone or anything the least pain you will suffer in your life.
That is so very true
so true. I'm definatelly agree
Buddha teaches that half of human unhappiness comes from too much attachment to the things that we like. The other half comes from too much aversion to the things that we don't like.
Loneliness does hurt, but yes, attachments can hurt even more!
That is like saying I am never going to get a dog to avoid the pain when they die. Meanwhile you missed years of experience, enjoyment and memories. Does not sound like much of a life. I would rather just not place expectations of others and let myself just be surprised by decent people. I find good people around all the time.
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” Let things simmer and cook. 🔥 Thank you for your work. 🙏
The best thing I ever learned in my life . I was sad cz I m alone in this world. I have a dog . But i think I can never trust any human in my life again. There was a time when I trusted every human. I still meet n talk to people but i am afraid of humans. Humans can only give me pain. Wish the world of humans was different. But I have learnt to live this way. N after this video , I think I won't be sad again. I will sprout again like the apple tree and become a new being . But I have never offended anyone and still people take advantage of me being good to them. Thanks to the creator of this video . May God bless you .
I have been an apple tree to many people already and the only thing that I get out of it is betrayals, disappointments, insincerity, etc. I can totally understand how the apple tree in this story feels.
Me too
Our creator is a jealous God and we truly should only seek satisfaction in His provision.
It’s funny how everybody only worries about who they were an apple tree to, but never think about who was an apple tree to them
I have always been the tree and have never had a tree to pull from 😢 this hits home on so many levels
@@rebekahhamilton6146 😢
Get betrayed or taken advantage of….just walk away and if you fall onto the path of never wanting friends again, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I believe you’ll live.
I agree. I stoped looking or wanting friends. Some would say it's moping. No I disagree. When you find yourself like the apple tree you just don't want it anymore. Animals however have proven to be true friends.
Very true and true to you and your day is good ⚖️
I was friends with a band mate for 25 years, we toured the world in several bands. During his divorce I helped coach him through it. I even invited him to the Philippines to tour with me with my growing music career there. My friend got there, got jealous of my success, and quietly started planning his own career with other bands there. During this time , he talked bad about me behind my back. I warned him about prostitutes there also . In the end, he betrayed me for a prostitute. Lesson learned. She ended up cheating on him, getting pregnant, and using him for money. My mom once told me that everyone you think is your friend isn't. Real fact.
- Chicago Blues musician/ Nurse