This situation also gets that people pleaser in a trapped situation to cheat as well. Imagine if the next person were to ask you out while you were having a current fiance. You will end up getting stuck cheating on your fiance. What if you were currently married and someone else comes to you and ask you out? You will be stuck cheating on your spouse only to please someone else. So by not knowing how to reject, people can take advantage of you and put peer pressure on you to cheat on your current fiance. If you have a hard time saying no to 1 person, you may not be trained to say no to multiple people.
@@Nyxx0010 Once you say yes, you are classified as taken. So what happens if a next person asked you out. That example is more like you will be stuck with 2 difficult choices. Either reject that person to stay faithful to your current fiance or cheat on your current fiance to please a next person. That is why in order not to be stuck is to never commit to anything you are not ready for. Even people who is single can still use a white lie claiming to be married or taken. If a stranger were to ask you out, you can still claim to be taken. Makes no difference if you are married or single. You still don't want to lead them on giving them false hope of relationship. If you fall for a sad puppy face, this is exactly how they control you regardless if you are married or single. There is a reason why there is no need to have sex with that person if you aren't even attracted to that person. They will feel used.
@@Nyxx0010 Fr. I just rejected someone and it's a friend. Tried to say it in a nicest way as possible, no.. I don't even know if it's nice bc I hurt that person the moment I rejected 😭
My best friend of about three years just told me she likes me.. She’s trying to get me to come out.. I’m not ready to come out.. and I don’t like her in that way..
Csauhk sigcoscsa if u don’t have feelings for them you should tell them and whether they still wanna be your friend or not is their problem. you can’t lie about how you feel. that’s like lying about the truth❤️
True... cuz we are all probably socially awkward people that never thought that anyone would like them and now we have no idea to reject anyone but remain friends
Yeah a friend of mine asked me out and I was so flustered I was just like No and I tried to be nice but it was awkward, well he called me a bi*ch and was just being a jerk. I rejected him because he says really weird things about me to his friends. One of my friends who is also his friend told me all the things he said which made me uncomfortable. He got over it and we are still friends.
Everyone here never thought they would have to search this up. Undeniable proof that love is just chasing what you can’t have and being chased by what you don’t want.
@@sugamama305 You just have to agree to stay in a friendzone and expect nothing in return. At least like this, he should treat you like a decent person. Even if you don't win a date with him, it won't matter because what matters at the end of the day is he respects you.
I've had to reject 6 boys and 2 girls. I am aromantic, and asexual. I prefer to live and be by myself. I have tried so hard to not be rude, but some people get mad :'(
Calamity It’s a sexuality. At least sound a bit nice about it or sound okay about it. Some people just don’t really feel sexual enough to do sexual things normal people would do with their significant other.
Nice text rejection: "Hey, I really enjoy talking you, I enjoy the conversations we have but I want you to know that I only see this as a friendship I really value the friendship and I don't want to lose you as a friend but I want you to know that I don't really see this going to anything more."
To me tho, text rejecting is being an asshole cus ur not brave enough to do it face to face, if ur gonna. Real up online or something then at least on a call, texting is kinda a douche way to do it
@@Gnexz. i meant if you had a REAL relationship, texting to break up is a shit way to break things up, but if it was an online relationship its understandable cus well, its online
lol the person who confessed to me i barely talk with and he just told me and i have to sit next to him first lesson 💀 im also gay so it wouldnt work out haha
I’m only 15 years old, and I just learned that this lady friend of mine had a crush on me deep enough that she considered it love, but I didn’t feel the same way at all. I saw her as a friend, so I watched multiple videos about how to nicely let somebody down, but when I texted her (I can’t see her irl rn) my rejection letter, which I made as nicely as possible, she got hella pissed and just yelled and told me she was leaving and not coming back, and I’ve tried to talk and calm her down saying that she can talk to me, or maybe she should talk to her friends but she won’t reply, and idk wut the heck to do. I feel hella guilty and terrible rn and idk if wut I’m doing is right or wrong anymore.
You are amazing man really and you didn't do anything wrong you actually do it perfectly she's just a little girl she not grown up enough to deal with things right.... And OMG lady??? You are really amazing gentleman don't feel guilty at all
@@Izakokomarixyz sometimes its about personality. i’ve liked some people who’s appearance isnt the most attractive but their personality is and it makes them 1000000x more hot lol
@@lanasvoid - Not even, because I’m ugly and boring with zero personality (social anxiety doesn’t help) and even then, a few girls have had crushes on me before…
Never once in my life have I ever thought that I'd look this up because i need it. I thought that I'd be the one getting rejected but also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone.
@qqq??? the part where it said "I thought that I'd be the one getting rejected but also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone." meant that I thought that i would be the person getting rejected (not just now but pretty much since i was a kid). I said "also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone" because I'm really shy so i wouldn't even go and confess my feelings for the person in the first place so i wouldn't get rejected.
I hate rejecting people. It makes me feel super uncomfortable. If all I’ve done has been helping you with homework and whatnot, I‘ve never shown interest, please don’t ask me out. I hate seeing people crushed but I can’t be dishonest
People feeling crushed is beyond your control. All you can do is reject politely. If they don't take no for an answer, then you know it is not our job to please them. So a way for you to be honest is to tell them sorry not my type. At least that isn't lying. That person is not your type. Giving too many reasons will only sound like sugarcoating. So if these people looks for an excuse to be entitled, it means they were hoping you will give in to a sad puppy face. You can stick to what is your job which is help them with hw but all these personal issues, not your job. You can say sorry not your responsibility. If it is not your job, don't do that job.
Josh! Remember my crush i was talking to you about that said she liked me back? Well last night we pretty much just poured our hearts to each other and now we're officially dating! 😊
Today was rough, i have a rrally sweet friend he is so kind, but i only see him as a friend, i just lied, to not hurt his feelings, i really hope he finds a amazing girl...
One of my closest friends just confessed. Being honest I was shaking out of shock for a bit after lol. I never noticed or had an suspicions that they liked me that way either, it was really out of the blue. Right now it feels like I’m stuck in a tight situation. We’re really close, and I wouldn’t want to lose her as a good friend, but I don’t feel the same way :( I’m overall just nervous for how this is going to affect our future dynamic and relationship.
Same thing happened to me once, after that the friendship went downhill, old friend feels less than a stranger now and almost in the mortal enemy spectrum
Is it bad that I like the feeling of people thinking that I am "good enough to date" , but also rejects actually going for it because you're not ready ?
OMG THANK YOU, MY IRL BEST FRIEND WAS CONFESSING TO ME THROUGH TEXT AND I WAS SO NERVOUS BECAUSE I LOVE HER SO MUCH BUT ONLY AS A FRIEND Update- she got mad at me 😅
as a quiet, introverted person, I never thought I would be here again. I used to have quite a few friends a few years ago, and someone ended up saying they liked me, and I had to reject him, because from what I knew, I only liked girls; he went from a friend that day to straight up ignoring me when I’d try to talk to him. From then, I ended up back to my introverted ways, and I hardly ever talk, besides to some people I’d might consider friends, but even then, I’m still awkward and just in general don’t like talking very much, and just don’t know how to continue a conversation. Nearing the end of the school year, I’m still very introverted, but have been slowly opening up to a possible friend group, with 2 girls and a guy. We have only talked for a few months, and even then, only talked when we would play games in class, but have recently went out to a party where me and the guy spent the most amount of time together, since the 2 girls in the friend group were much more extroverted, and had other friends; where as I only had just the friend group. The guy in our kind of friend group, has just sent me a text saying he likes me, and that was the one thing that made me feel absolutely horrible. I have like a a feeling of emptiness in my stomach, and just don’t know how to tell him that I don’t feel the same at all. He’s funny and a good friend, yet this was the one thing I thought I would never have to come across again. Not only do I not know how to reject him, but from what I think I know, I don’t even like men in general, and am only attracted to women. I can’t even begin to explain the self-hatred I feel towards myself. I’ve been crying, and want to just undo all the progress I thought I made. I hate myself. TL;DR (too long; didn’t read): A guy friend as taken a likening to me, even though I only see him as a friend, and I’m only attracted to women. I don’t know how to reject him, as a very introverted person, who as long as I’ve known him had only began to be more open. Turns out, being the quiet person would’ve been better, as everyone ignored me and I didn’t have to worry about things like this ever happening. Update: I forgot about this comment, so thanks to the person who liked it, a few days after I posted this, I gained the courage to send a simple text saying I didn’t feel the same and just wanted to stay friends. Shortly after he said it was just a joke and laughed about it. I intentionally hurt myself and cried for hours after that. I’m convinced that no one I ever meet in life will understand my pain, struggles, and thoughts.
My bestfriend just confessed to me and I don't know how to respond to her, she said she loves me but the thing is I have a crush on her little sister and I never mentioned that to her and so I don't have any romantic feelings for her. I don't know what to say and I don't wanna ruin our friendship.
@@user-yv1cz3sz3m what do you mean by “arent you interested in that”? She told me that I shouldnt rush on giving her an answer so i haven’t told her about my feelings for her sister as im very worried
i remember when i was looking up on youtube , how to tell a girl you like her without being rejected and now i'm searching the full opposite , i feel so bad for doing this but it's the best for both of us instead me playing her
I'm so confused with everything and I can see so many ppl giving hints, it's so overwhelming, and I've never had to reject so many people before. Thanks for the vid.
Well, I've found that it really doesn't matter if I say it straight up, or I try to sugar coat it with a rehearsed dialogue, in the end rejection is always hurtful to an extent and people will react to it with different intensity but 99% of the times, the chick will simply stop talking to me, because people don't want to be "just friends" with someone they really like, and it sucks being around them when you know that person is off limits. Unless I have something to lose along with that friendship, I'm always ready for the bridge to burn and to be honest, cutting contact cold turkey is sometimes the best for both parties when such feelings get in the mix.
Here’s the thing, I did these, friend-zoned him as nice as possible saying “I’m sorry but I’m a lesbian and I’m not interested but I hope we can still be friends” Which I thought we were. One of my close guy friends told me that he said to him that he loved me and I don’t know what to do now.
This is super helpful information. Thank you so much! I want to do my best to maintain the friendships I have with those who, although I don't have romantic feelings for, still care greatly about. The part about it not being "normal" anymore is also very true and good to keep in the back of my head when expressing these thought. Thanks, again!
Thanks for the video. This recent situation is new to me, as it happened in person instead of online. Where they've been flirting with me physically, but nothing was being spoken, and where I hoped they'd catch on to me not flirting back would be enough, but she seems to just be getting more and more flirty. And being the first to speak up and say no is not my strong point atm. So the example you gave of what to say really helps. Now I just need to run it through my head and gather some courage.
This video is 4 minutes too long, so I'll answer it in two words: You don't. You just say no and move on. We especially hate it when you have a word salad and say, "You're good friend or a nice guy." That really just insults us even if we don't show it.
The hardest part is when you know they love you sincerely with all their heart more than anything and you know they are so kind and deserve your love back, but yet there is nothing inside you, only an empty cruel desert for them.
dude i’m friends w this kid right? and when we were just friends it was a good friendship and the same was felt around the group. but when he started liking me i noticed a difference in his behavior and i started to speak to him less. my friends also picked up on him acting different after he started to like me and we have all kind of been trying to distance from him. the problem is we don’t think he’s getting any hint that we’d rather drift away. he’s a nice kid but i liked our friendship better when he didn’t like me. it was less awkward for me bc i didn’t suspect anything off bc there wasn’t anything off, but now it’s just weird and idk how to get him off my back. he asked me out and that’s why i went to this video. helped a bunch, thanks
i got into a relationship, i was the one to ask if we could be dating. i feel like absolute garbage now because ive just realized im not ready for a relationship 😀
I never thought i would be in this situation, i've known this girl liked me for years, since i was like 5, and now i'm 12, and just like 10 minutes ago, her "bff" slid into my DMs and asked me if i like her, but i don't. I honestly don't know how to do it. :C
Thank you for making this video. I needed help to get out of an awkward situation with this dude that I met YESTERDAY. The same day he said that he loved me. I don’t know how to say that I don’t really feel the same.
Ugh this happend to me today. So I ment this kid down the road and he liked me. he kissed me without my consent and I hated it. So that means I’ll do this. Thanks, Josh.
hey, i really enjoyed talking to you and the conversations we have and i would like that to keep going but i only see this as a friendship and value it so i don’t want to lose you as a friend but i wanted to be honest and i don’t really see it going into anything more. i hope we can move on from this, and still be friends🥺
I’m 12, I had the BIGGEST crush on this dude, last year. I was in fifth grade and head over heels for him, more than I ever did for any other dudes I kinda liked. I did everything for him, but he eventually dated my best friend about the end of the year… (Yikes) They dated until sixth grade. I was heart broken for the longest time. But, like most people, I slowly got over him. But of course, like most elementary relationships, they broke up. Well, my bestie dumped him after months of ignoring him. She said something along the lines of, “He’s kinda weird and always guilt tripping me.” I was kinda mad at her because me and my ex-crush became great friends during the time when she ignored him. I couldn’t understand why she was being such a bad girlfriend, because I saw that he was trying to make her happy. So yeah, they broke up. We became even closer and texted everyday. I remember still liking him when they were still dating. But after getting closer with him, I literally couldn’t see him anything more than just a friend. I matured and learned about myself more. (And I grew some mental problems and wouldn’t be able to handle dating anyway.) He grew feelings for me. He gave me hints, such as pickup lines, but always ends up with, “JK.” I would laugh at them and even call him “bro” or “dude” so he knows I only see him as those. I’ve always been insecure about myself so I didn’t actually think he liked me. I just wanted to make sure, though. WELP, he confessed to be through text a few days ago. I said, “I’ll think about it.” Even though I a,ready knew my answer… Like there’s layers to it, he’s my friends ex, he’s like a bro to me, and I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I was planning on telling him in person, but got frustrated because HE’D SEND ME 20 HEART EMOJIS EVERY 5 MINUTES AND SEND ME LOVE POEMS EVEN WHEN I KEPT SAYING, “Bro, Im thinking ‘bout it.” They were sweet but he was moving on way too fast. I felt uncomfortable and decided to just reject him right then and there. I wish I rejected him in person but I couldn’t handle anymore poems. But the thing is, he was guilt trip me. Every time I try to say, “I’m thinking ‘bout it,” he’d say stuff like, “I’m depressed again,” or, “Ima go kill myself now.” And I was scared, I truly cared for him HONESTLY! So I couldn’t handle having panic attacks and end up saying, “Don’t be! I’m thinking about it but we definitely have a chance.” I know I kept getting his hopes up but I was scared. And I finally understood why my friend dumped him and said that he was try to make her feel guilty. I finally rejected him along the lines of, “I’m sorry, but I’m not looking for a relationship and I truly hope we could stay amazing friends.” Afterwards I threw my phone and couldn’t help feeling AWFUL! I wanted to cry because I was scared, insecure, anxious, and overall felt like I was a bad person. I wondered if I made the right choice, and if I was the one is the wrong. I was terrified that he might actually harm himself because of me and I was just a mess. Sorry for this stupid long essay but I just needed to go on a rant. T^T
Fantasy Animates! i was literally in the EXACT SAME SITUATION omg!!! im 12, and i liked this guy a lot lot and then my bff started dating him and then me and him became friends after they broke up and i lost feelings but started to like him as a good friend and then he started to like me. i had to reject him when he asked me out and now it’s really awkward between us. glad to know someone else is going thru what i am lol
I think she’s by far the most beautiful girl in my class, I always look at her, but not really interested in! And she told that she loved me, perhaps I should whether or not reject her! 😑🤭
A girl I know really really really likes me and I don’t know what to do about it so this video is kind of helping me because she is one of my best friends and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
Okay okay I don’t know if this is just me, but I don’t like it when someone has a crush on me. Now that I think of it all of my ex-girlfriends didn’t have a crush on me first, I guess I like the chase. 😅😅😅
So my friend told me on Discord that someone in our friend group (it’s a guy friend) likes me. There are two boys and three girls in our group and I’ve never really had a relationship before so I have no idea what to do. Luckily he is completely fine if I say no as he understands and said ‘It’s fine as long as she’s happy’ so hopefully I’ll think about it and tell him if I like him or not.
Abhdhd same. I already friendzoned them like twice already.. And as you can see the date is feb 13 ✨ so pog💯💯 I feel so shitty :( It's probably their first time confessing to someone, I'm just madly in love with someone else asuchhevfdhs
Copyable version Hey, I really enjoy talking to you, I enjoy the conversations we have, but I want you to know that I only see this as a friendship, I really value the friendship and I don't want to lose you as a friend, but I want you to know that I don't really see it going into anything more.
This is helpful and I'm definitely going to use this advise. I think a friend of mine has had a crush on me for a while now and they keep getting really close to me and putting their hands on me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I've been trying to subtly show him I'm not interested, but I don't think he noticed, so I'll try texting him about it. Thanks for the advise!
Ok, a girl told me she liked me but said it in a way where I thought she just wanted to be friends, I said I like you too. Now she thinks 100% thatI like her and idk how to get out of it
One of my friends was on google hangouts on a giant chat group and they were telling everybody that they liked me. I wasn't there when all of that was happening but I got really scared because they are a good friend to me. I guess they forgot that they were saying all those things on a chat group I was apart of and could easily read the messages. Soo yeah. That's kinda why I'm here. XD
Okay, so um- Three boys confessed to my friend in the same day in messenger. And I'm helpin' her out, so thanks you! ^^ *its a tight situation i know-*
people always says it sucks to be rejected, but rejecting someone when you're a people pleaser is so hard.
This situation also gets that people pleaser in a trapped situation to cheat as well. Imagine if the next person were to ask you out while you were having a current fiance. You will end up getting stuck cheating on your fiance. What if you were currently married and someone else comes to you and ask you out? You will be stuck cheating on your spouse only to please someone else. So by not knowing how to reject, people can take advantage of you and put peer pressure on you to cheat on your current fiance. If you have a hard time saying no to 1 person, you may not be trained to say no to multiple people.
@@hp2546 I agree, but in a situation where youre single but not interested it sucks when you don't want to hurt their feelings
@@Nyxx0010 Once you say yes, you are classified as taken. So what happens if a next person asked you out. That example is more like you will be stuck with 2 difficult choices. Either reject that person to stay faithful to your current fiance or cheat on your current fiance to please a next person. That is why in order not to be stuck is to never commit to anything you are not ready for. Even people who is single can still use a white lie claiming to be married or taken. If a stranger were to ask you out, you can still claim to be taken. Makes no difference if you are married or single. You still don't want to lead them on giving them false hope of relationship. If you fall for a sad puppy face, this is exactly how they control you regardless if you are married or single. There is a reason why there is no need to have sex with that person if you aren't even attracted to that person. They will feel used.
IKR
@@Nyxx0010 Fr. I just rejected someone and it's a friend. Tried to say it in a nicest way as possible, no.. I don't even know if it's nice bc I hurt that person the moment I rejected 😭
I thought that I'd never have to look this up
same..
me too
Lol same
Lol same
same
I never thought this would ever be something I would have to consider but I guess life can be unexpected
TeddyGod ikr. i feel like a jerk 😭😭😭😭
Same
Fr tho. I feel terrible
My best friend of about three years just told me she likes me.. She’s trying to get me to come out.. I’m not ready to come out.. and I don’t like her in that way..
IKR like who tf am I😭 I’m always the one falling for people but here we are
It really sucks when they're your best friend
•Alissa Kaye• I cant bring myself to do it 😔
Csauhk sigcoscsa if u don’t have feelings for them you should tell them and whether they still wanna be your friend or not is their problem. you can’t lie about how you feel. that’s like lying about the truth❤️
bruh this is legit what I’m dealing with rn and it’s so hard
Kira Weaver yea i get that. i was there too, but it gets better i promise
I'm dealing with a girl that acts like she hates me but actually has a big crush on me and I really wanna tell her that I dont like her
I feel like everybody here never thought they would be here...
Indeed
Ikr
True... cuz we are all probably socially awkward people that never thought that anyone would like them and now we have no idea to reject anyone but remain friends
Yeah a friend of mine asked me out and I was so flustered I was just like No and I tried to be nice but it was awkward, well he called me a bi*ch and was just being a jerk. I rejected him because he says really weird things about me to his friends. One of my friends who is also his friend told me all the things he said which made me uncomfortable. He got over it and we are still friends.
Yeah
Being able to reject people nicely is a critical skill in dating 🔥
Absolutely, no one deserves to be hurt during a rejection even though it may happen. The important thing is to know how to talk to them about it.
There is no nice way to reject someone.
@Yann cedric Totsingan who's ryan gosling? is he hot
Yes
Ikr
I never thought I would end up here 😭-
Same
samee
Dude I’m screwed
@@akagrimreaper6702 you got this 😤!!
stay hydrated thx I have another friend and hes gonna help me lmao
Everyone here never thought they would have to search this up. Undeniable proof that love is just chasing what you can’t have and being chased by what you don’t want.
i do like him i just don’t think it’s a good time for a relationship with him 😭 idk what to do cuz i don’t want him to stop talking to me
Damn you got it right. That's my story for so many years now
@@sugamama305 You just have to agree to stay in a friendzone and expect nothing in return. At least like this, he should treat you like a decent person. Even if you don't win a date with him, it won't matter because what matters at the end of the day is he respects you.
POV: ur watching this because u know someone who has a crush on you (they haven't confessed yet)
Well my ex crush now likes me but I don't think I feel the same way anymore. He could've done that 2 years ago when I still liked him but nope. NOPE.
Whoa really
lol
@@wheresdarice3988 same omg except that she's a girl
My crush sent me this link- I literally asked her to be my gf sO mAnY tImEs
Ahhh. This one. This is a tough situation to be in
It really is but it's important to know how to reject someone as well as how to deal with rejection.
I told myself I would never be in this situation but guess what? I'm in this goddam situation
i’m in a tough situation :(
@???Q ...if I'm married then my friends would know... so they wouldn't ask me out...
Nadia :3 same here! Here I was like “PFT no one’s gonna like me..” and now here I am...
I've had to reject 6 boys and 2 girls. I am aromantic, and asexual. I prefer to live and be by myself. I have tried so hard to not be rude, but some people get mad :'(
noт ѕo lιттle pιggy - dating ain’t for everyone.. u good
this but i still have sexual urges... you get the problem
Same sexuality’s but no rejections yet. But I do think a girl likes me (I’m a girl btw).
Calamity It’s a sexuality. At least sound a bit nice about it or sound okay about it. Some people just don’t really feel sexual enough to do sexual things normal people would do with their significant other.
Oh my God, me too. One of my male friends got a bit...rapey.
Imagine saying this and then the person who likes you just says
"Ok."
😂
Ok
this happened to me LMAO
@@idiot6893 llamao*
Get it?
I never thought I would be rejecting a guy ,I thought they would always be rejecting me 😂🤭💀
A MOOD
same
same 😅
SAMEEEE
Haha,same
Wow. Can't believe i searched this.
Hey stayyy
Same, it sucks
Update: I don't remember who I rejected lol
I just love how we are all just a community of people who just don’t know what to do after someone confessed their feelings to u
Nice text rejection: "Hey, I really enjoy talking you, I enjoy the conversations we have but I want you to know that I only see this as a friendship I really value the friendship and I don't want to lose you as a friend but I want you to know that I don't really see this going to anything more."
To me tho, text rejecting is being an asshole cus ur not brave enough to do it face to face, if ur gonna. Real up online or something then at least on a call, texting is kinda a douche way to do it
@@sharklord4918 ye but wut if someone online likes u and u don’t like them
@@Gnexz. i meant if you had a REAL relationship, texting to break up is a shit way to break things up, but if it was an online relationship its understandable cus well, its online
lol the person who confessed to me i barely talk with and he just told me and i have to sit next to him first lesson 💀 im also gay so it wouldnt work out haha
Nice text rejection : I'm gay
So basically being the opposite end of being rejected
Change profile PlZ it's so dangoures 😂😂😂
Mabye I should just send this to him. 🙃
nice idea
Thats a good idea 👍✌
I dont think thats how its supposed to work 😶
Please don't. If I were the guy, I would feel so bad. I'd say just talk with them. I believe it's more respectful and kind.
@@omg....5240 lol 😂😂😂
Him: "Put yourself in their shoes...how would you like them to respond"
Me: I would want them to have a mutual feeling....duh
Same 😥😭
He is pissed though :(
I’m only 15 years old, and I just learned that this lady friend of mine had a crush on me deep enough that she considered it love, but I didn’t feel the same way at all. I saw her as a friend, so
I watched multiple videos about how to nicely let somebody down, but when I texted her (I can’t see her irl rn) my rejection letter, which I made as nicely as possible, she got hella pissed and just yelled and told me she was leaving and not coming back, and I’ve tried to talk and calm her down saying that she can talk to me, or maybe she should talk to her friends but she won’t reply, and idk wut the heck to do. I feel hella guilty and terrible rn and idk if wut I’m doing is right or wrong anymore.
Leave? She's 15 where the hell she wanna go?
Tay Theng Zhe back to her room 😂
You are amazing man really and you didn't do anything wrong you actually do it perfectly she's just a little girl she not grown up enough to deal with things right.... And OMG lady??? You are really amazing gentleman don't feel guilty at all
@@pfizhe 😂😂😂
@@pfizhe holy shit hahahahahhah right
And here I thought none would ever be able to have a crush on me-
Samee
Happens to almost everyone at least a few times in their lives. i’ve seen some relatively unattractive dudes have a girl crushing over them.
@@Izakokomarixyz sometimes its about personality. i’ve liked some people who’s appearance isnt the most attractive but their personality is and it makes them 1000000x more hot lol
@@lanasvoid - Not even, because I’m ugly and boring with zero personality (social anxiety doesn’t help) and even then, a few girls have had crushes on me before…
@@Izakokomarixyz maybe they dont think you’re ugly and boring :)
Never once in my life have I ever thought that I'd look this up because i need it. I thought that I'd be the one getting rejected but also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone.
@qqq??? No, an online friend said he liked me and i didn't like him back so i rejected him. My comment was just what I thought would happen to me.
@qqq??? the part where it said "I thought that I'd be the one getting rejected but also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone." meant that I thought that i would be the person getting rejected (not just now but pretty much since i was a kid). I said "also not because I'm way too shy to confess my feelings for someone" because I'm really shy so i wouldn't even go and confess my feelings for the person in the first place so i wouldn't get rejected.
The same thing, It's too hard for me express my feelings and sometimes,It's also difficult to handle them😢.
I never thought that I would actually search for this, I usually just click on these kinds of videos for fun but now I actually need it
I hate rejecting people. It makes me feel super uncomfortable. If all I’ve done has been helping you with homework and whatnot, I‘ve never shown interest, please don’t ask me out. I hate seeing people crushed but I can’t be dishonest
People feeling crushed is beyond your control. All you can do is reject politely. If they don't take no for an answer, then you know it is not our job to please them. So a way for you to be honest is to tell them sorry not my type. At least that isn't lying. That person is not your type. Giving too many reasons will only sound like sugarcoating. So if these people looks for an excuse to be entitled, it means they were hoping you will give in to a sad puppy face. You can stick to what is your job which is help them with hw but all these personal issues, not your job. You can say sorry not your responsibility. If it is not your job, don't do that job.
MY BOY BEST FRIEND SED HE LIKED ME AND I DONT KNOW WHA TO DO😭
What happened??
ME TOO SOMEONE ACC HELP US 😭😭😭
Me to help me 😿😿😿😿
Mxox SAME! My friend asked me on text..
Um give him a shot? Lol. You act like opportunity always comes. Why not be with someone who really cares about you and won't hurt you?
Josh! Remember my crush i was talking to you about that said she liked me back? Well last night we pretty much just poured our hearts to each other and now we're officially dating! 😊
That's so awesome! I'm super happy for you man!
The Josh Speaks thanks man!
U ever heard of dm ?
No u **this was 11 months ago**
@@DuckBwos95437 F
Never thought I'd be the one rejecting people
Today was rough, i have a rrally sweet friend he is so kind, but i only see him as a friend, i just lied, to not hurt his feelings, i really hope he finds a amazing girl...
I never thought I'd be here after the situation I'm in
One of my closest friends just confessed. Being honest I was shaking out of shock for a bit after lol. I never noticed or had an suspicions that they liked me that way either, it was really out of the blue. Right now it feels like I’m stuck in a tight situation. We’re really close, and I wouldn’t want to lose her as a good friend, but I don’t feel the same way :( I’m overall just nervous for how this is going to affect our future dynamic and relationship.
Same thing happened to me once, after that the friendship went downhill, old friend feels less than a stranger now and almost in the mortal enemy spectrum
just got asked out and im not ready to be in one yet still healing 🤧
was really hard to say no so i had to say no because im not ready yet
Good job mate
Life is really unexpected huh, i never thought ill search this up
Is it bad that I like the feeling of people thinking that I am "good enough to date" , but also rejects actually going for it because you're not ready ?
Me too or maybe it's just we haven't found the right one?
OMG THANK YOU, MY IRL BEST FRIEND WAS CONFESSING TO ME THROUGH TEXT AND I WAS SO NERVOUS BECAUSE I LOVE HER SO MUCH BUT ONLY AS A FRIEND
Update- she got mad at me 😅
@qqq??? haha, she got over it, thanks for the advice though (we’re still friends) 😊
Feel ya 😞
@@itri-u8jhow are you now? did she try again, it's impossible to get over these kind of feelings you know
as a quiet, introverted person, I never thought I would be here again. I used to have quite a few friends a few years ago, and someone ended up saying they liked me, and I had to reject him, because from what I knew, I only liked girls; he went from a friend that day to straight up ignoring me when I’d try to talk to him. From then, I ended up back to my introverted ways, and I hardly ever talk, besides to some people I’d might consider friends, but even then, I’m still awkward and just in general don’t like talking very much, and just don’t know how to continue a conversation. Nearing the end of the school year, I’m still very introverted, but have been slowly opening up to a possible friend group, with 2 girls and a guy. We have only talked for a few months, and even then, only talked when we would play games in class, but have recently went out to a party where me and the guy spent the most amount of time together, since the 2 girls in the friend group were much more extroverted, and had other friends; where as I only had just the friend group. The guy in our kind of friend group, has just sent me a text saying he likes me, and that was the one thing that made me feel absolutely horrible. I have like a a feeling of emptiness in my stomach, and just don’t know how to tell him that I don’t feel the same at all. He’s funny and a good friend, yet this was the one thing I thought I would never have to come across again. Not only do I not know how to reject him, but from what I think I know, I don’t even like men in general, and am only attracted to women.
I can’t even begin to explain the self-hatred I feel towards myself. I’ve been crying, and want to just undo all the progress I thought I made. I hate myself.
TL;DR (too long; didn’t read):
A guy friend as taken a likening to me, even though I only see him as a friend, and I’m only attracted to women. I don’t know how to reject him, as a very introverted person, who as long as I’ve known him had only began to be more open. Turns out, being the quiet person would’ve been better, as everyone ignored me and I didn’t have to worry about things like this ever happening.
Update: I forgot about this comment, so thanks to the person who liked it, a few days after I posted this, I gained the courage to send a simple text saying I didn’t feel the same and just wanted to stay friends. Shortly after he said it was just a joke and laughed about it. I intentionally hurt myself and cried for hours after that. I’m convinced that no one I ever meet in life will understand my pain, struggles, and thoughts.
My bestfriend just confessed to me and I don't know how to respond to her, she said she loves me but the thing is I have a crush on her little sister and I never mentioned that to her and so I don't have any romantic feelings for her. I don't know what to say and I don't wanna ruin our friendship.
Say it to her and look what face she would look like. Cry? Angry? Jealous? I'm interested, i mean aren't you interested on that?/ well me yes
@@user-yv1cz3sz3m what do you mean by “arent you interested in that”? She told me that I shouldnt rush on giving her an answer so i haven’t told her about my feelings for her sister as im very worried
@@Lumiere20 so do you have an update?
@@Lumiere20you probably have kids by now but come on 😂 we deserve to know what happened
i remember when i was looking up on youtube , how to tell a girl you like her without being rejected and now i'm searching the full opposite , i feel so bad for doing this but it's the best for both of us instead me playing her
Never thought I'd ever look this up
This was actually so helpful, and the guy took the rejection nicely which is good
I'm so confused with everything and I can see so many ppl giving hints, it's so overwhelming, and I've never had to reject so many people before. Thanks for the vid.
This is happening to me now and idk what to do this vid helped a lot
I'm just watching this in case if something happened
Well, I've found that it really doesn't matter if I say it straight up, or I try to sugar coat it with a rehearsed dialogue, in the end rejection is always hurtful to an extent and people will react to it with different intensity but 99% of the times, the chick will simply stop talking to me, because people don't want to be "just friends" with someone they really like, and it sucks being around them when you know that person is off limits.
Unless I have something to lose along with that friendship, I'm always ready for the bridge to burn and to be honest, cutting contact cold turkey is sometimes the best for both parties when such feelings get in the mix.
Still would love to see a video about having a strong crush on someone while you are currently in a relationship sometime :)
That's a really good topic to cover, I'll definitely add it to my list
bruh.. wouldn't that be close to cheating-
@@drdonday5505 was boutta say that shit too
Ok wtf man... Don't cheat on partners peoplleeeeee
You might not be the most viewed or subbed TH-camr, but you're actually really helpful and that's what matters
You just saved me
I never thought I would have to search this up
Me to
Theres this girl in my bus who has a crush on me, but I honestly dont wanna be in a relationship with anyone not just her. So this is great thaks!!
I always thought I was going to be to one who got rejected but oh boy... life sure is unexpected
This girl is literally obsessed with me and this video really helped thank you
Here’s the thing, I did these, friend-zoned him as nice as possible saying “I’m sorry but I’m a lesbian and I’m not interested but I hope we can still be friends” Which I thought we were. One of my close guy friends told me that he said to him that he loved me and I don’t know what to do now.
Just start texting dry as hell gradually
This is super helpful information. Thank you so much! I want to do my best to maintain the friendships I have with those who, although I don't have romantic feelings for, still care greatly about. The part about it not being "normal" anymore is also very true and good to keep in the back of my head when expressing these thought. Thanks, again!
Thanks for the video. This recent situation is new to me, as it happened in person instead of online. Where they've been flirting with me physically, but nothing was being spoken, and where I hoped they'd catch on to me not flirting back would be enough, but she seems to just be getting more and more flirty. And being the first to speak up and say no is not my strong point atm. So the example you gave of what to say really helps. Now I just need to run it through my head and gather some courage.
This video is 4 minutes too long, so I'll answer it in two words: You don't. You just say no and move on. We especially hate it when you have a word salad and say, "You're good friend or a nice guy." That really just insults us even if we don't show it.
I never thought I'd be looking this video up at an age 16
Salvador Lucero hah, I’m 11...
Ha....try that but a few years younger....
It’s the worst is when their friends come up to ask you and you really don’t know what to say.
Gosh, i never thought i have ever needed this video 😭 one of my friends confessed, and im so scared bc its been so akward
bro. it’s still hard. i’m posing myself because i told her that i did like her. worst thing to do? yes, yes it is.
The hardest part is when you know they love you sincerely with all their heart more than anything and you know they are so kind and deserve your love back, but yet there is nothing inside you, only an empty cruel desert for them.
okay I needed this. thank you so much 😭😭😭
dude i’m friends w this kid right? and when we were just friends it was a good friendship and the same was felt around the group. but when he started liking me i noticed a difference in his behavior and i started to speak to him less. my friends also picked up on him acting different after he started to like me and we have all kind of been trying to distance from him. the problem is we don’t think he’s getting any hint that we’d rather drift away. he’s a nice kid but i liked our friendship better when he didn’t like me. it was less awkward for me bc i didn’t suspect anything off bc there wasn’t anything off, but now it’s just weird and idk how to get him off my back. he asked me out and that’s why i went to this video. helped a bunch, thanks
i got into a relationship, i was the one to ask if we could be dating. i feel like absolute garbage now because ive just realized im not ready for a relationship 😀
Thank you. This is exactly what I’ve been looking for and your words really comforted me.
I never thought i would be in this situation, i've known this girl liked me for years, since i was like 5, and now i'm 12, and just like 10 minutes ago, her "bff" slid into my DMs and asked me if i like her, but i don't. I honestly don't know how to do it. :C
I never thought I'd search this up
Thank you for making this video. I needed help to get out of an awkward situation with this dude that I met YESTERDAY. The same day he said that he loved me. I don’t know how to say that I don’t really feel the same.
I found out that my guy best friend likes me and I love him as a bsf but I don’t have feelings for him so thank you for this :)
I never thought that this would happen to me life's strange I feel mean 😭
i never thought i have to search this up , but here i am
I never thought I would loom this up. It really is easier said than doe
Ugh this happend to me today. So I ment this kid down the road and he liked me. he kissed me without my consent and I hated it. So that means I’ll do this. Thanks, Josh.
hey, i really enjoyed talking to you and the conversations we have and i would like that to keep going but i only see this as a friendship and value it so i don’t want to lose you as a friend but i wanted to be honest and i don’t really see it going into anything more. i hope we can move on from this, and still be friends🥺
hope you see this, just so you know i’m going to use your comment to help me 😭 you chose the best way to describe it thank you
@@TheMilounadid it work...im in the same situation now
I never tought i needed to look up this video but here i am
I’m 12, I had the BIGGEST crush on this dude, last year. I was in fifth grade and head over heels for him, more than I ever did for any other dudes I kinda liked. I did everything for him, but he eventually dated my best friend about the end of the year… (Yikes)
They dated until sixth grade. I was heart broken for the longest time. But, like most people, I slowly got over him.
But of course, like most elementary relationships, they broke up. Well, my bestie dumped him after months of ignoring him. She said something along the lines of, “He’s kinda weird and always guilt tripping me.”
I was kinda mad at her because me and my ex-crush became great friends during the time when she ignored him. I couldn’t understand why she was being such a bad girlfriend, because I saw that he was trying to make her happy.
So yeah, they broke up. We became even closer and texted everyday. I remember still liking him when they were still dating. But after getting closer with him, I literally couldn’t see him anything more than just a friend. I matured and learned about myself more. (And I grew some mental problems and wouldn’t be able to handle dating anyway.)
He grew feelings for me. He gave me hints, such as pickup lines, but always ends up with, “JK.”
I would laugh at them and even call him “bro” or “dude” so he knows I only see him as those. I’ve always been insecure about myself so I didn’t actually think he liked me. I just wanted to make sure, though.
WELP, he confessed to be through text a few days ago. I said, “I’ll think about it.” Even though I a,ready knew my answer… Like there’s layers to it, he’s my friends ex, he’s like a bro to me, and I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I was planning on telling him in person, but got frustrated because HE’D SEND ME 20 HEART EMOJIS EVERY 5 MINUTES AND SEND ME LOVE POEMS EVEN WHEN I KEPT SAYING, “Bro, Im thinking ‘bout it.”
They were sweet but he was moving on way too fast. I felt uncomfortable and decided to just reject him right then and there. I wish I rejected him in person but I couldn’t handle anymore poems. But the thing is, he was guilt trip me. Every time I try to say, “I’m thinking ‘bout it,” he’d say stuff like, “I’m depressed again,” or, “Ima go kill myself now.”
And I was scared, I truly cared for him HONESTLY! So I couldn’t handle having panic attacks and end up saying, “Don’t be! I’m thinking about it but we definitely have a chance.”
I know I kept getting his hopes up but I was scared. And I finally understood why my friend dumped him and said that he was try to make her feel guilty.
I finally rejected him along the lines of, “I’m sorry, but I’m not looking for a relationship and I truly hope we could stay amazing friends.”
Afterwards I threw my phone and couldn’t help feeling AWFUL!
I wanted to cry because I was scared, insecure, anxious, and overall felt like I was a bad person. I wondered if I made the right choice, and if I was the one is the wrong. I was terrified that he might actually harm himself because of me and I was just a mess.
Sorry for this stupid long essay but I just needed to go on a rant. T^T
Fantasy Animates! i was literally in the EXACT SAME SITUATION omg!!! im 12, and i liked this guy a lot lot and then my bff started dating him and then me and him became friends after they broke up and i lost feelings but started to like him as a good friend and then he started to like me. i had to reject him when he asked me out and now it’s really awkward between us. glad to know someone else is going thru what i am lol
and he literally harmed himself after i rejected him! wow. small world
Pov: your watching this because your already in a relationship and you don't know how to let someone down slowly about said partner you are with
I think she’s by far the most beautiful girl in my class, I always look at her, but not really interested in! And she told that she loved me, perhaps I should whether or not reject her! 😑🤭
I love this comment section..... Everyone is relatable😂😂
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Bless you
A girl I know really really really likes me and I don’t know what to do about it so this video is kind of helping me because she is one of my best friends and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
Seriously, life is unexpected.
Never thought I'd be in a situation where I needed to look this up so badly-
Okay okay I don’t know if this is just me, but I don’t like it when someone has a crush on me. Now that I think of it all of my ex-girlfriends didn’t have a crush on me first, I guess I like the chase. 😅😅😅
I went from negative rizz to the rizzler
this has so helpful! im autistic so i really struggle in the area and this video was so clear i think i can do it now.
b l :D
I never thought I’d have to watch this to reject my friend
So my friend told me on Discord that someone in our friend group (it’s a guy friend) likes me. There are two boys and three girls in our group and I’ve never really had a relationship before so I have no idea what to do. Luckily he is completely fine if I say no as he understands and said ‘It’s fine as long as she’s happy’ so hopefully I’ll think about it and tell him if I like him or not.
I actually never thought I would look this up but we'll here I am
thanks josh I been wanting to know this.
Awesome I hope its helpful
@@TheJoshSpeaks you made my day!
*crying during the intro*
I hate myself :'(( i feel like a monster for searching this
Abhdhd same. I already friendzoned them like twice already.. And as you can see the date is feb 13 ✨ so pog💯💯
I feel so shitty :(
It's probably their first time confessing to someone, I'm just madly in love with someone else asuchhevfdhs
i feel like an idiot for searching this up
@@tracy.4712 same i feel so bad
cheers for the help, me and my sister now have a healthy friendship!
Copyable version Hey, I really enjoy talking to you, I enjoy the conversations we have, but I want you to know that I only see this as a friendship, I really value the friendship and I don't want to lose you as a friend, but I want you to know that I don't really see it going into anything more.
Dank 🅱️oii ahhh I saw this right after I typed it out😂
This is helpful and I'm definitely going to use this advise. I think a friend of mine has had a crush on me for a while now and they keep getting really close to me and putting their hands on me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I've been trying to subtly show him I'm not interested, but I don't think he noticed, so I'll try texting him about it. Thanks for the advise!
Ok, a girl told me she liked me but said it in a way where I thought she just wanted to be friends, I said I like you too. Now she thinks 100% thatI like her and idk how to get out of it
I thought I wouldn’t get a confession in my entire life, and here I am..
One of my friends was on google hangouts on a giant chat group and they were telling everybody that they liked me. I wasn't there when all of that was happening but I got really scared because they are a good friend to me. I guess they forgot that they were saying all those things on a chat group I was apart of and could easily read the messages. Soo yeah. That's kinda why I'm here. XD
i honestly never once thought that i would need a video like this...
Same..
Same
Okay, so um-
Three boys confessed to my friend in the same day in messenger. And I'm helpin' her out, so thanks you! ^^
*its a tight situation i know-*
FEELING PROUD I HAVE TO SEARCH THIS UP!!!
Thx man I needed this