How To Message Girls On Instagram | Courtney Ryan
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ก.ค. 2024
- In this video, I go over the best ways to message girls on Instagram to have the highest chance of getting a response. Nothing is guaranteed, but knowing these things will definitely help you out. I also go over some things NOT to do and speak about my personal experience... trust me on this one guys. Let me know down below if you’ve messaged girls on Instagram and what has worked for you!
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NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
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"if she doesn't respond" you mean, "they" because all of them never respond
Yes a simp does that
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
Exactly
Girls have thousands of dm’s that they don’t even read while most guys have 0 dm’s and we’re just waiting for at least 1. Life ain’t fair
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
I think we all as a collective just want somone to love us and look at us the way we look at them
God i feel alone sometimes... i guess i'll keep play piano to cheere me up
Quality >> Quantity
At least that's what I keep telling myself
@@the12gage37 definitely but when you’re speaking to no one then it’s quantity over quality
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
basically you move on to being alone and talking to nobody, because that is how it happens
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88 Just chat to every girl and hope you hit one.
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88it’s a number game
Wise words
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
100% smesh rate
@@alnuedling1519 brother i was driving when I read your comment and almost crushed my car laughing. Hahahaha
Time to smash! Lol
@@Lucasllns tyramisu time
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If she doesn’t respond to your dm, you go for her friends. Stay toxic kings 👑👑👑
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Then unsend the message you sent to the previous girl, evidence erased 😈
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
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@@mharrtj6350 😂
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
I think a good general rule of thumb is to avoid messaging girls you haven’t met and interacted with in person. As always, great tips Courtney.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
@@GEORGIOARCADE Yeah I’m not a fan of online dating because your first interact is virtual through messaging. But I know it works for some people.
What about us dudes trapped in lockdown then?
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
I've been smiling while watching this knowing that Im doing it right. The Courtney style. Hahaha
Great video!
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
You have been posting like a champ! Congratulations on the channel’s growth and thanks for helping us knuckleheads.
Thank you so much! Happy to help 🥰
Don’t self-deprecate man, if you’re a knucklehead, we aren’t. Be confident and embrace learning.
@@y_p7 overconfidence
@@y_p7 bro a knucklehead isn’t a bad thing 😂😂 your just emotionally soft
@@y_p7 self depreciation is key
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
Me slides in her DM's: "Hi"
Her: "Sorry do I know you?"
You see the message notification and you get all happy only to read the message and be put down so hard 😂😂😂
@@jaysibiri yoooo😯☠️
She probably gets thousands of dms saying “hi“ be different
Just respond "Would u want to? I would"
Then I’d just reply with “ ofcourse not... but I’m tryna get to know you though “ see what happens then
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
you didint get it... Just dont talk to them
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages.
Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation.
And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
@Carlos The Boss don't resent anyone, it's not healthy
wwooo u sound wise!!!!
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc.
I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes...
So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa...
It's to bad really..
Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
I also noticed women who have their profile set to private tend to me more of a serious type of woman.
@@joaquin67 ↑This is 157% TRUE!
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
Great video Courtney...
I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply.
I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
watched this for the first time and i'm into it! love your style, way of talking and voice! I becomes your a huge big fan! from korea
You were honest throughout the video .. thats great. Very well made video, looking professional!
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me.
Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
Once again our friend Courtney is absolutely right. Even tho I don't care use social media.
thanks for not being a shittalker like many other “dating” channels out there
thank you courtney!!!!["oh lets try to be diffrent"]
boys,"iam bowing to courtney who is helps out us as an elder sister",iam greatfull to u.
Hey Courtney, I love your whole vibe & energy 😊🤞🏽
Good one! I’m always messaging women (not “girls”) I’m attracted to on IG. It’s hit & miss. Sometimes I get a response. Sometimes I don’t.
The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
Seems like a lot of effort for a low probability of reward. You're better off just cold approaching 100 women.
@@Jukeboxster what? It's like 3 seconds. You make a joke and wait. After she messages you it's the same as texting any other girl.
@@Teamshmo if it's working for you, more power to you
Seems cool , imma try it.
The rizzler
Your advice is very insightful, thank you for giving us your perspective. 💯
Courtney I guess I am slow or I missed something entirely here b/c I had no idea Instagram was being used as a side dating/meeting app, this explains a lot of other thoughts I had about Instagram but I usually just use mine from time to time to post pictures. Thanks for the helpful info, definitely appreciated!
You are so cool and honest, thanks for the video
- The guy who sent over 500 messages rn:
“Yeah I got finally noticed” 😂
Courtney your skin is glowing. In April I'm jealous
Your voice made my anxiety go down, and my game level up. Congratulations🎉 (and thanks)
Courtney with another banger vid 👍
Hey Courtney, great video. Could you please do a video about colour co-ordinating. How to match colours. Can I wear black denim with brown leather shoes, or why shouldn't we wear navy with black, or what colours are most versatile for summer?
Love your content courtney, so honest and helpful
Love to hear it. Thank you 😊
Thanks, Courtney, I've been watching your vids since December time last year and they've been very helpful. So thank you very much! :D
Yay! Glad to hear it ❤️
Wow! I really needed this.
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When I see these videos I always feel left out.
I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps.
I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions.
Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number.
She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Yeah that's a smart move. We call it the sniper method
I took this advice and got a date set up.. thank you Courtney
How you do it and is the women very attractive?
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
Thanks for the advice and the tips really appreciate it :)
Courtney is on a mission for the guys to make a gf online keep it going
Courtney your content is marvelous ❤️💯
cant believe im watching this
Most interesting video, thanks Courtney 😘
The message was direct and clear
Great topic. Keep up the great advice
This is a God-send! I don't like dating apps so this is very helpful. Thank you!
Love ur honesty
Thanks for this. Appreciate your content.
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣.
This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
You’re so detailed and well thought-out I’m surprised you haven’t written an ebook.
That was really helpfull! Keep it up
You are just amazing ❤️
Courtney I saved this video thanks Courtney I was having trouble messaging girls but with this advice I can improve 😎 thanks Courtney your the best 😎🔥
Hope this helps ☺️
Haha proper cringe, get a life. She’s too polite to say it but I’ll do it for her
She doesn’t miss!! 👏
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Though I'm not on Instagram nor will I ever be, I was definitely curious.
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
Unfortunately my women viewers is only 2.6% 😂
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta
Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
Love your advice!!!
Thank you!!!
this is great tips i got layed doing this :) change approch do not talk about sex ... dont send dp, Be real. be honst, communinate it will work out eventually
Thanks for the advice!
I do all the stuff you said to do and ya I do get responses from girls sometime but I struggle to lead the conversation from there. Do make video on that too.
It’s really rare that I message on social media, excited to hear your thoughts on this! ☺️
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@@CourtneyRyan 👏🏻👏🏻
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
@@selfconflicteddating6117 I am agree with you
@@selfconflicteddating6117 Bro wtf? What's that bad about Instagram, lol?
Thank you sooo much, feels like your my big sis Britney !
I really lov u❤❤ ur advices ar dope
Thanks! Also congratulations on them muscle weight gain!
I studied 4 years of Chemistry and Endocrinology at University and they were wayy easier than all.this dating and messaging instructions and rules to follow.
Appreciate the effort💜
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
It’s definitely easier with an in person connection lol
@@CourtneyRyan only if the guy is tall and white. If he is short and not white, he is better off not trying.
@@Mogamishu No.
@@Mogamishu A reasonable judgement...
Something I don't agree/sort of agree on!
"with females" immediate red flags
Me: DM’s Courtney ....
Haha jk jk she’s great & even tho she regularly posts videos to put me on blast 😝, they’re still the best!
Appreciate the effort in seeing it from a guys perspective & sharing the lady’s perspective as well
I gotta ask you something Courtney. When a random girl who doesn't follow a guy on Insta suddenly pops up in his notifications and likes 3 of his last posts, does he have to respond to that? And if yes, what does he have to do? Is there anything the girl is trying to say or imply with those 3 likes or it's just likes with no hint?
By the way, I did put some of what you said into practice and I got a reply! But of course, I was being genuine with my text and did not beat around the bush. I followed the girl, asked her a question that concerned something I saw in her bio and I got the most polite and respectful response! And please don't forget about the question I wrote above.
I didn’t watch because I have a wonderful wife, but always happy to see your face Courtney. SEIKO IS KING !!!
I N V I C T A ! ! !
Good morning from AZ Ms. Ryan. I have a question, I was asked to be a groomsmen in a wedding this summer. Could you do a video on tips on being a groomsmen? For this particular wedding, I have to wear a black suit, white shirt and I'm assuming black tie. Thank you for your time.
Your voice is soothing
Advice... yeaaah that’s why I messaged you ....
Thanks for the advice❤️
Happy to help!
This helped alot thx so much
I thing that was helpful somehow thank you so much beautiful
Will you make a dating tips video for people with social disabilities (like autism) or people who are naturally very awkward?
Another daily vido! Wow Ryan
Wooo!
Thank you queen 🫡
Courtney Ryan giving the secret sauce, I need some of that yhhhh
Courtney, just listen to your Advice Column/vlog for the first time. I thought it very sound. I was pleasantly surprised that I do the SE things that you do although I have hink idp need to tone it down at times on liking photos. I look forward toteying it out on "Real women" on Instagram instead of all the scammers on these dating sites. By the way, I have now turneddown/ walked away from 850 scam artists. I'd love to share some stories and commiserate w you if you decide to vlog on safe guarding yourself from love scammers. Lol. By the way, in what cit do you live?
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
Great video. Can you do a video on dating when you work 12 hour days. I'm a Mailman and find it hard to date.
Good list of tips 🌹
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
Happy Saturday Courtney! I don't have Instagram. I rather go meet women out there in real life
I don’t blame you! That’s the best way to do it!
@@CourtneyRyan I only have TH-cam and LinkedIn for social media related but I'm more old fashioned
Hi Courtney. Since watching this video based on girls on Instagram, how about making a video on which girls on Instagram are red flags 🚩 and which are the ones you take home to mom? I’m asking you because you could help filter out the good ones from the bad ones. There’s a lot of good looking women on Instagram but it’s hard to filter out the good ones from the bad ones. Pls help. Thanks.
Nice mind of yours... First time watching your video
Never had an Instagram, however I’m very curious about the long distance relationship situation. I can understand the issues with living in different states, but what about a situation when it comes to work? For example I served in the Army for 6 years, and now it’s a truck driver, I’m actually working in the oilfields in Oklahoma but I live in Texas, on my days off I go back home. Whenever you do make a video about the long distance situation, hopefully you don’t use your 1 bad experience to judge it. Most of the guys I work with have wife’s and kids and we are out several weeks at a time so it’s not impossible. I’m curious on what your take on the long distance situation.
Well on Instagram I have so many follow me then like every post I have made, always some young woman and majority are just trying to scam me, so beware if a pretty woman or someone who famous DMs you on IG. I do appreciate your information.
Just what I need
Hi Courtney great content!
Could you possibly make video on men dating outfits with women.
Thanks.
For everyone reading this comment, I wish you endless happiness and success. May all your wishes come true. GOD BLESS and Stay Strong 💪🏼 🙏🏼 ❤️
Messaging her story is a good idea. Is it weird to message their story if you not following her on instagram? Or follow, then message. May be discuss in a Part 2 or 3 of this topic.
Your voice is lovely 😌