Yes rip to missed opportunities..Your comment made me think like how many opportunities I just missed just because of fear of speaking even after you know all the stuff.. Self esteem is very important
I kinda wanna make a club where everyone there has a public speaking fear and we speak in front of each other and we won't get scared or embarrassed cuz we're all facing the same issue :(
I know nobody is gonna see this comment because of the YT glitch, but whoever reads this. I hope you do very well in your speech tomorrow! You can do it bro! Believe in your self :)
The problem is that no one really gets it. Everyone thinks that you just have to talk and get over it, but it’s not like that. Every single time I have to go to class and I know I have to talk because my grade is on the line, or simply the thought of having to talk terrifies me. It has completely taken over my life, i am constantly shaking and my heart beats so fast it feels like it’s going to get out of my chest, I get so red and nobody understands it. Nobody gets how ashamed I feel because I can’t get myself to do something that seems so easy but it’s so difficult for me. Anyways, thanks for coming to my ted talk.
People do get it, they just cba to tell you everything like they are talking to a baby. You are not a baby, grow up, if you have a fear, start tackling it! Simple stuff. Stop making excuses, just act on it. You are the one disabling yourself, not others. Put the blame of everything on yourself and change yourself.
That was the first day of my college teacher suddenly told me to come forward and speak on any topic,. . I was blank at that time... my voice was choked.. teacher came towards me and said.. "You have nothing to loose here,.. dont think about others , they will laugh on you on your mistakes and appreciate on your success.. so ,dont worry, be frank and tell whatever you know, you feel,.. I am with you .. ", this changed my perspective and either my voice was shattered, I spoke fearlessly.. And since then I kept motivating myself about stage daring... If anyone is reading this..don't worry.. You can do this!!!
Thanks i just lose the opportunity to win a speech competition and i felt like a donkey and i started questioning my existence after the failure because i participated in the competition but didn't speak a word!!!!
I want to speak.. I'm not afraid of speaking in class presentations.. I have good material.. And i know what to do and how to conclude my presentations.. The problem is.. Just when my turn is coming..every second my heart beats fast and when my turn is almost there i feel like vomit. There is this bodily changes that happens.. I'm so tired of it.. I'm not afraid to speak but i'm so tired and angry with my own bodily changes.. And then i cannot give so better presentation that i've thought... I don't know how to control it...
Exactly the same happens in me. But my main problem is, my mind goes completely blank. I can't think anything or remember anything. It's so annoying and fraustrating....
I feel like I found my people in the comments. Its crazy how I just read the title of this video and my heart started beating so fast. I hate it, I can't even read a small paragraph in front of my class. even with zoom I still get the same symptoms. I am 20 and still struggles with this make me cry every time
I feel the same way, I am an undergraduate and just had my Speaking Skills today. They went real bad, makes me wanna cry too. But now I want to learn the art of public speaking even more. Let's not lose hope, we can get a lot of help from coaching institutes that specialise in public speaking and if unaffordable then online sources too might be effective. Just wanna let you know that you are not alone❤️
Hey, I hope you're doing better with this fear that haunts a lot of us. You watching this video is a good step to start a solution to your fear. U Clicking on this video shows that u want to change for the better.
Today I had a public speaking in front of 600 people and I failed miserably. When i came into that stage, my mind was covered blank instantly. And when I was having a hard time giving a speech, I paused constantly, lost my speech started to talk non - sense. Although, I knew today I wasn't prepared enough and that I have learned how the public speaking works in front of 100s of people. Even though I lost my speech, I turned this horrific experience to a large and best opportunity and lesson I could get in my life. I know it sounds crazy, I left my emotions flow for many hours then I ended up being positive with myself. I gained huge amount of confidence after my embarrassing experience of todays speaking in front of a crowd. I got an opportunity to understand how I must react, settle my self, emotions and how I must be very prepared for my public speech. I don't know why, but it was embarassing and weirdly I feel very happy about the fact that I failed and analysed my faults.
You aren’t alone. I see this sort of issue all the time in the military. We get thrown into situations where we have to teach an entire company of soldiers and when you are pulled to do it it’s without warning or early notice so you essentially aren’t prepared. But we learn from it and you seem to be on the right path of learning from your mistakes.
My dream is not to just get over this fear, my dream is to be as comfortable as talking with a friend when i speak to public, not having to memorize the words literally for the presentation
We are in the same boat , The way i talk also always made me feel ignored and ppl seem uninterested whenever i try to just converse normally like them 😅 I guess just gotta keep trying until we are also had fully comfortable with our ownself!❤
Your comment is exactly how I'm feeling right now. I have so many public speakings to do and I want to enjoy them but I can't. I just want to get over this fear so that I can enjoy my life and not spend everyday anticipating the day I'm going to speak to people and get nervous again.
I have the same problem, while giving presentation or smthg like that. I start to memorize things rather than understanding it and talk freely...Its sucks. I feel pressured and I forget everything. I forget how to speak... And as I am not good at speaking english, this always makes me anxious when I go infront. I feel like I am unable to create a sentence by myself...
I have overcome my fear of speaking to an audience. So can you! Don't hold back else it gets heavy each day as one tries to hide and avoid speaking to an audience.
I have to present in 1 hour, it’s worth a huge portion of my grade. wish me luck ;) Edit: it went well I was loud, and clear and went over all my important topics I’ll update when I see my grade Another update: got an A+
Same here. and its hard because your heart beat requires more oxygen and when you are speaking that also requires oxygen and the fast heartbeat and speaking at the same time makes breathing hard.
That’s natural bc litt us humans will always get nervous when speaking in front of hundreds of people. U only need to control that nervousness bc it won’t go away during ur entire presentation. Take a few deep breaths n just continue doing what u gotta do.
I am not afraid of public speaking at all in mind but I don't know why my body doesn't understand it. Whenever my turn comes my heart beat races uncontrollably, I try to stay calm but my body begin to shake.. but while I am half way with my presentation I feel so confident and calm and can do well, but I always have that initial terror that haunts me till now even if I am well prepared. I don't know why. I want to overcome this because I like public speaking so much and want to talk like them one day. But every time I get amazing opportunity my bad luck hits...😢
Fear of public speaking can be overcome by doing more practice in front of peoples . No matter what they are going to say . You have much power to show your ability in this world
This man deserves award. I have the extreme fear of public speaking, it haunts me still, it's been 9 years. School is making it even more worse. Because of all of that stresses, i got diagnosed with tachycardia. It can be very difficult, plus when nobody understands you, i start to shake, cry, loose my breathe and i'm shaking.
When i was in 4th grade ... I first time went on stage .... I was shivering and when i spoke .. Everyone laughed at me .. It was embatassing 😔😔😔 But now after 7 yrs when i m in class 11... I m BEST SPEAKER and MOST CONFIDENT GIRL of school .....😇.... Believe in yourself And dont let people opinion to define u👍👍👍
Spoke a few times to large group’s of people with out the debilitating anxiety and it was one of the most surreal feelings I’ve ever had. I was like wow this is how it feels not to get nervous during public speaking. No fear, it’s amazing. If someone can invent a pill to erase that crushing anxiety, they’d be beyond rich.
My take away.. "Go out and face your fears.. if you have a problem create a solution and if you don't find any solution create it.." " you can always get better in public speaking..there no finish line.. 😄👏"
Heartwarming knowing I'm not the only one suffering with a public speaking fear - that "over to you"/spotlight moment is horrific and kickstarts a whirlwind of physical and mental symptoms that I, at the moment, am unable to suppress/manage. Work have been great about it, but there's nothing that lifts the soul like reading and listening to likeminded individuals. You're all super brave. We've got this!
This is the same problem I face whenever I stand for giving a presentation. Firstly, everything seems good but then when my chance comes I feel very hesitant but I never stop myself from taking part in these kinds of confidence-boosting activities because the only solution to overcoming the fear is taking part in activities Thanks
I'm also facing the fear of public speaking. Specifically, I'm a junior at University ( my major is English department). But I am so nervous and tense when I want to raise my voice in my class. After watching this ted talk, i will try to raise my voice and catch everyone's attention. I wish everyone who is also experiencing this feeling could overcome. Thank you for reading❤
I remember watching this video 2 days before I did my speech for a Public Speaking Competition. I was extremely nervous and shaking to the point where I wouldn’t get in the car to go to the place. I ended up winning the competition. My advice for you is to know your speech. To know what you’re talking about. If you know your speech you can go places. But make sure to memorise those words!!
@@mohammednajeb3716 of course. So what you want to do is to use cue Cards. Make sure your speech has sub headings and practice each part, over and over again until you have a pretty good idea of what you’re talking about. Now after that you want to record yourself saying the full speech and then listen to the recording of your voice each night or whenever you want to practise. It helps so much. What I did was read parts of my lines and than listen to the recording to see if I was right.
Public speaking has been my problem since I was in kindergarten until now. I hope to overcome this before I reach 32 years old. I want to speak in front of other people with power and confidence. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I just got this job that includes speaking with a huge crowd but the same time it felt all over again like I was in school , but I overcame the “fear “ and I didn’t get nervous or feeling in me , but then it came back around and now I’m going to overcome it again !!! I know I will overcome it again , I’m a real big speaker and theres people that I can help with my knowledge with just me , I’m going become a legend
One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.
I can speak really good when i am alone. My English is fluent and my pronunciations are perfect but as soon as i am put on the spot in a room full of people my speaking skills go down drastically. I stutter my words get stuck and my vocab goes zero. So the main problem for me is confidence. I can't even look the other person in the eye. I hope to overcome this fear.
it was an amazing experience, Public Speaking is something which i have been avoided for years.But enough is enough, Currently i am working hard for public speaking and fortunately i am surrounded with suitable people for public speaking. " Go out and look for a solution if nothing exits create that situation" Was cherry on the cake.
I share the same struggle. So to cope up with this, I remind myself that I am talking to the person that I am fully comfortable talking to (which is my cousin) instead of the teacher or the public, and it will turn out better in some way. I hope this helps!
This is actually helping me. I am about to lead the first session of my club in an hour. A lot of people are attending, and I am prepared, but still nervous to my stomach. But this actually motivated me, and I think I am ready now. Thank you!
I also have the fear of public speaking. I from a country where our native language is not English. But in our colleges we are asked to give our presentation in English. And, I am not good at english so it makes me feel anxious to talk. I start to shiver, my heart starts pounding, then I get blank. However, I believe I can make it someday. So, I want to tell you all that its okay if you are not good at it, but do not stop there, keep trying...
i have been learning english for 2 years, and everytime when there is a presentation on public, i don't want to do it, i think that i'm very bad in english, and people will laugh at me, so after your impressive talk i'll try all my efforts to do it 🙏
I have a presentation next Tuesday to the whole school. Often, I feel like I can do it when I speak to myself, but then a nagging thought pops up in my mind the next moment and says, "No, you can't. You can't even speak confidently enough to your class, let alone to the whole school." I'm not... unprepared. Whenever I look at my teacher, she gives me a sense of relief and looking at everyone else with their gloomy faces jumbles up my mind. It's just that my mind goes blank and my words tangle like strings and the information that stores in my brain all disappear. I also want to do TED talks one day, you know, to share my experience with the people who want to hear. But, I aspire to be like this man. I'm only fourteen with so much else to do, often ostracising myself for every little thing but I journal a lot so yeah. Well, time to do my best.
Thank you for this.........Over years I've been suffering from fear of facing the crowd and speaking.......I've not overcome it but I believe with this there will, be a change
Today was my first presentation at college when teacher called my name my leg was shaking and racing my heart and I couldn't speak loudly .i did it very badly Then I sat down and started to blame myself why I've been shy, i came to here and now I know the answer.Thanks a lot teacher 🤍
I think from what I've experienced, many times it's because we're afraid of being judged by the people listening to our speech, and we lose our confidence 💔 this also means we are giving those people our power and energy. I've done this countless times and still do it and I'm just thinking that if we can get past that part of putting those people above us and not care about their opinions then maybe presentations and public speaking would be easier.
Yeah I gave up on my grade because of the fear. I already have a crippling social anxiety, so when they told me to do a story telling ALONE in front of my class, i was trembling and almost faint. My whole class tries to hold their laughter out of respect but i feel like a clown and it hurts me until now. I know it’s my fault, i know i have to change, but its so so hard.
I have agoraphobia and social phobia. I suffer for about 6 years hiding being anxious that causes me me anxiety. But now I wanted get out from my own delusions.
I had the same problem In the past. But after some time I realised that focusing on the topic rather than the people is important. So too, preparation and practices are essential to set the context straight. Finally embrace the concept of fail forward by speaching many times in public.
Hearing your speech I have learnt a lot of motivation. Though cann't talk english fluently but still I believe in myself one day I will be successful in sha allah & my journey start at this moment & pray for me everyone
The biggest challenge of overcoming the fear of public speaking is people because they are so judgmental. People make it seem like there is something wrong with you, you're being defiant by not speaking up or that you'll just grow out of it. None of that is true. I've become convinced that it's just who I am and I'll never overcome it. Everyone is different, not everyone can become a great speaker (and you don't have to, it's okay)
I remember in 3rd grade, being the one who everyone turned to, to win a class debate. Fast forward to 7th grade, I started stuttering with all the anxiety of public speaking. And the ridicule got worse each year into high school and college. I'm doing my Ph.D. degree now and I have gotten a better hold of my anxiety. I have realized the way forward is to do things that make you happy, have a positive frame of mind and if possible, to take up leadership positions - to put myself in front of everyone else to build the person I want to be. The journey may be hard for you right now, but I trust you. You can do it. Just keep going! 💪🏻
today my teacher called my name during online class...... my heart was working on 70000rpm and my mind stopped working i didn't know what i had to say.
My remedy was that I started to take propanalol before speaking events to stop my heavy breathing, sweating and nervousness with presenting. Overtime as I become more and more confident and realisation that there is nothing to fear. I started to realise I no longer need the medicine. Give it a try, hopefully it will work for you too as it did for me. I know how you all feel. God bless. x
Hi friends! My name is Sanjay and I am from India. I have been learning English since 2015. Actually I have been a hindi medium student so It took me 2 years to make myself capable of understanding, writing, listening and speaking English. Now I have a good vocabulary. But sometimes when it comes to speaking I do not speak well. Some people say it's not your cup of tea but I keep on learning English. I write good English and I wish to be a good orator. What should I do to improve my spoken English ?
Great your'e good don't give up....just practice and push yourself..try to speak every single dail by 10 to 30 mint in yourself or other people around you.. listen english novels and take some vocabulary from the novels...wish u best in english
I have a presentation in class tommorow and I'm still up thinking nervously about it. I get sooo nervous and I hate speaking in front of others, however as hard as it is sometimes I choose to not run away from my fears. I suggest you do the same!
This was a great talk! I am so happy to hear that there is an app that you can use as your communication coach. After watching this, I immediately installed Orai.
Tbh I love interacting with my people, I love sharing my ideas thoughts opinions and getting validation for it. It's seriously a gift from God i believe in. The moment I enter the stage and face my audience as well. The pain the fear the ache the worry that I might mess up but after looking at the beautiful faces with precious minds. I truly believe that I have something to provide for them and not waste these geniuses times. I love it i feel it i enjoy what I do the stage is my home my people is my family. I truly love my audience. I truly love Public Speaking ❤
The worst thing about fear of public speaking imo isn't when you have nothing to say, it's when you have something to say but you just can't get it out
I think a hack to combat the fear for me is not in the focus towards practising the public speaking art in itself... it is when I fully to my core realise the shortness of life, that we will all go, that life can end any time... that your house will be occupied by another many generations that never knew your existence towards the house, 'belongings' that do not actually belong to you, everything goes and the only thing you really have is the present moment, experiences and your energy - which leads to a healthy level of disconnect to everything. Some call it 'not taking life too seriously'. I think that is what people should focus on and every area will change. Other fears may also fade and you will take on more opportunities with excitement because you don't take things too seriously and you want to really make the most of everything in life and try new things and embrace challenges with a new mindset, imperative to getting over fears. That deep insight is a journey and I would say my increase in confidence to speak (from a nervous wreck I once was) was a by-product of it. The issue is, this profound insight can only be learnt in time as you develop and undergo real life challenges and from ending up in the deep dark rock bottom of life mentally - as you get up, you will end up almost 'reborn' as a new person who can see the world from a different lens that life is so short, this time is all we have and life is one big fun game. In the grand scheme of things, nothing really matters. Not in a nihilistic way though. Anxiety only gets stronger and has a place in you if you give it the importance and attention it needs to thrive. Accept anxiety as a hardwired state in us that actually serves to protect us instead of fighting it. Anxiety is actually the bodies way of showing love to protect you from harmful things - of course we do not need anxiety now for things like public speaking but never fight it - instead acknowledge that the body loves you to do that and the anxiety TRUST ME will make peace and dissolve over time.
Thank you for this speech... I just realized how much can help this to overcome my fear in front of the public... I wish it will be back my confidence and trust in myself😌 I am a college student until now I didn't know how to deal with this social anxiety... And thank you I know how can I solve my situation 😊
Our new generations realized that they do anything. And face all problems if they don't find solutions so they create solution and make their journey good. It's very simple when we communicate all types people and we read their thought and mind and after we teach them, we understand them and we talk them that evey person needs to give their openion and speak everywhere by which fear is died inside. Thank you
I'm freshman in the university and the thing is that , my grades are directly connected to presentations , speaking , being active in discussions and so on. Even thinking about that makes me anxious. On the first day when i had to introduce myself (in google meet to be more clear) , i started trembling and i got nervous , even tho i only had to say my name and why i chose that major. My mind almost blew up and i just wanted it to end fast. i just wanted to cry like a little baby. I know that no one really will remember me , or maybe they wont even pay attention to me speaking but still , it's like someone is watching me with strict eyes and has the desire to catch me if i say something wrong. i always feel too much pressure on my shoulders and i dont rly know how to overcome this feeling. That's why i came here and i wanted to share my emotions about this fact. Internet , chatting , this kind of comments , are the only thing where i can freely say my ideas , my thoughts but i know that in the future i won't survive like this, because we are living in 21st century and the gen z is incredibly powerful. Speaking is our power to become succesful in the future , and im trying to look for the things which will help me to overcome the fear of public speaking.
I have tried to overcome stage fear and be better at public speaking since school days. And i have reached one conclusion, i do it better when i i have a good concept of what my speech is about.
Thanks. After listening this next day I gave seminar infront of 30 people for 1 hour. And I was so confident and I didn't scare at all. Thank you Danish dhamani
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this line gives me a lot of motivation:-
RIP to the opportunities we missed because of shyness and low self esteem
Yes rip to missed opportunities..Your comment made me think like how many opportunities I just missed just because of fear of speaking even after you know all the stuff.. Self esteem is very important
😥😥😥
Opportunities will not come to us we must find it and utilise it.
Dont be sad because of the past ,
@@bhavanigr6513 yes I came here after loosing an opportunity
I kinda wanna make a club where everyone there has a public speaking fear and we speak in front of each other and we won't get scared or embarrassed cuz we're all facing the same issue :(
I like that idea
@@mercy0305 I’d love to but the problem is that I don’t speak English :(((
Me too
Yes please!!
Heey thats a really great idea to practice 🥺🥺🥺
My heart races even when I have to speak in a zoom meeting without having my camera on!
Same
Same bro.......I barely do my attendance
Aaaa this is meeee, i really need to overcome but it happens every time
Same.
Same here, and even i cant speak properly and feeling the most dumbest in that meeting
He turned his weakness, into a BUSINESS. I like that!
Your name is also Danish
Can u hug me please
@@preet8644 how will he hug you lol
@@hasnain9654 by human emotions 😅😅....... mental emotions is very important don't you know buddy 😅😘💝
@@preet8644 haha ok 😂
@@hasnain9654 😰😰 my life 😰
I'm shaking just thinking about public speaking
You then need to do as much public speaking as possible
Omggg same
My heart beat reaches to 1000 BPM.Legs starts to shaking...I am very upset with my this habbit..
Maroof Khan on anything bruh same here..I had to do a 30 second presentation and my voice cracked, my legs were shaking, my eyes got watery🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
Michelle Spithoven same 😂
I know nobody is gonna see this comment because of the YT glitch, but whoever reads this. I hope you do very well in your speech tomorrow! You can do it bro! Believe in your self :)
Thank you ❤️
U 2 mate :)
ty u got this too
Much love bro
Thank youuu
The problem is that no one really gets it. Everyone thinks that you just have to talk and get over it, but it’s not like that. Every single time I have to go to class and I know I have to talk because my grade is on the line, or simply the thought of having to talk terrifies me. It has completely taken over my life, i am constantly shaking and my heart beats so fast it feels like it’s going to get out of my chest, I get so red and nobody understands it. Nobody gets how ashamed I feel because I can’t get myself to do something that seems so easy but it’s so difficult for me. Anyways, thanks for coming to my ted talk.
i have the same thing, i’m suspecting i have an anxiety disorder :(
People do get it, they just cba to tell you everything like they are talking to a baby. You are not a baby, grow up, if you have a fear, start tackling it! Simple stuff. Stop making excuses, just act on it. You are the one disabling yourself, not others. Put the blame of everything on yourself and change yourself.
Tf ^
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Great ending!
When I face people my heart is racing
Yeah me too i feel like I'm dying 😞
I hate that feeling. Because I can’t think properly.
I blanks out
You know
Mee too have the same problem
That was the first day of my college teacher suddenly told me to come forward and speak on any topic,. . I was blank at that time... my voice was choked.. teacher came towards me and said.. "You have nothing to loose here,.. dont think about others , they will laugh on you on your mistakes and appreciate on your success.. so ,dont worry, be frank and tell whatever you know, you feel,.. I am with you .. ", this changed my perspective and either my voice was shattered, I spoke fearlessly.. And since then I kept motivating myself about stage daring... If anyone is reading this..don't worry.. You can do this!!!
thank youu so much for the motivation and advice! I'm so glad I saw ur comment
Thanks i just lose the opportunity to win a speech competition and i felt like a donkey and i started questioning my existence after the failure because i participated in the competition but didn't speak a word!!!!
I pray, because tomorrow I have a class presentation but am so nervous that am even sleepless
@@christinenakazzi6732 just sleep. Just remember don't talk too slow or too fast, so people can understand you
Thanks buddy
Best line "If you have a problem look for a solution, if nothing exists create that solution"
And he certainly created a solution for his problem
Don't search solutions. You simply can.
If u have problem look for the solution if nothing exist create a solution....i luv thiz line
Thanks for sharing that thought abha!
abha chaubey thankuuu for sgareing😍
Me too abha chaubey
YeP!!
@@deadpanacea ys
When i face a group of even a small people i feel nervous , and my body shivers i want to overcome fear and anxiety and become bold.
You are not alone brother
Remember that Public speaking is a learnable skill and can be Mastered by anyone
@@mohamedayyub2361 p
I want to speak.. I'm not afraid of speaking in class presentations.. I have good material.. And i know what to do and how to conclude my presentations.. The problem is.. Just when my turn is coming..every second my heart beats fast and when my turn is almost there i feel like vomit. There is this bodily changes that happens.. I'm so tired of it.. I'm not afraid to speak but i'm so tired and angry with my own bodily changes.. And then i cannot give so better presentation that i've thought... I don't know how to control it...
@Niveditha Rajendran i think i have to rehearse more and more..
Here's your twinnie 🙋💔
sana khan
Exactly the same happens in me. But my main problem is, my mind goes completely blank. I can't think anything or remember anything. It's so annoying and fraustrating....
I am also facing the same problem
I feel like I found my people in the comments. Its crazy how I just read the title of this video and my heart started beating
so fast. I hate it, I can't even read a small paragraph in front of my class. even with zoom I still get the same symptoms. I am 20 and still struggles with this make me cry every time
I feel the same way, I am an undergraduate and just had my Speaking Skills today. They went real bad, makes me wanna cry too. But now I want to learn the art of public speaking even more. Let's not lose hope, we can get a lot of help from coaching institutes that specialise in public speaking and if unaffordable then online sources too might be effective. Just wanna let you know that you are not alone❤️
@@m.nishi.m well said 👏
Same with me man but I started reading book in front of mirror and I can see difference in me please try it best of luck
Hey, I hope you're doing better with this fear that haunts a lot of us. You watching this video is a good step to start a solution to your fear. U Clicking on this video shows that u want to change for the better.
I'm 30 and I still can't speak in public 🤧
Today I had a public speaking in front of 600 people and I failed miserably. When i came into that stage, my mind was covered blank instantly. And when I was having a hard time giving a speech, I paused constantly, lost my speech started to talk non - sense. Although, I knew today I wasn't prepared enough and that I have learned how the public speaking works in front of 100s of people. Even though I lost my speech, I turned this horrific experience to a large and best opportunity and lesson I could get in my life. I know it sounds crazy, I left my emotions flow for many hours then I ended up being positive with myself. I gained huge amount of confidence after my embarrassing experience of todays speaking in front of a crowd. I got an opportunity to understand how I must react, settle my self, emotions and how I must be very prepared for my public speech. I don't know why, but it was embarassing and weirdly I feel very happy about the fact that I failed and analysed my faults.
HHHH
That mean that we need to just jump in things and we will release that the thing is deserve
Get a beta blocker from your doctor. Propranol or something similar. Stops you from getting flustered when you public speak.
This thing happend to u r mostly skip to talking zone
You aren’t alone. I see this sort of issue all the time in the military. We get thrown into situations where we have to teach an entire company of soldiers and when you are pulled to do it it’s without warning or early notice so you essentially aren’t prepared. But we learn from it and you seem to be on the right path of learning from your mistakes.
My dream is not to just get over this fear, my dream is to be as comfortable as talking with a friend when i speak to public, not having to memorize the words literally for the presentation
Learn something called "facial expressions". Study it.
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We are in the same boat , The way i talk also always made me feel ignored and ppl seem uninterested whenever i try to just converse normally like them 😅 I guess just gotta keep trying until we are also had fully comfortable with our ownself!❤
Your comment is exactly how I'm feeling right now. I have so many public speakings to do and I want to enjoy them but I can't. I just want to get over this fear so that I can enjoy my life and not spend everyday anticipating the day I'm going to speak to people and get nervous again.
I have the same problem, while giving presentation or smthg like that. I start to memorize things rather than understanding it and talk freely...Its sucks. I feel pressured and I forget everything. I forget how to speak... And as I am not good at speaking english, this always makes me anxious when I go infront. I feel like I am unable to create a sentence by myself...
I am terrified of public speaking
It’s holding me back
I have overcome my fear of speaking to an audience. So can you!
Don't hold back else it gets heavy each day as one tries to hide and avoid speaking to an audience.
It’s held me back in my career and more
I share the same thing, keep going and let’s face it!
Its totally holding me back...smh
Same
I have to present in 1 hour, it’s worth a huge portion of my grade. wish me luck ;)
Edit: it went well I was loud, and clear and went over all my important topics I’ll update when I see my grade
Another update: got an A+
good luck. Tell us how did it go
@@elarchivodealessia just did
Keep it up)
Congrats
I have a my presentation in 7 days,any tips i haven’t done this before im very nervous
All guys in the comments thank you for letting me know that I’m not alone in this🙃 may god help us in passing this stress
Yes bestie💕
Amém
I have an extempore in 2 days......to say I'm terrified is an understatement 😫 I'm so scared
What's really annoying is that your heart starts beating fast and you have trouble speaking.
Same here. and its hard because your heart beat requires more oxygen and when you are speaking that also requires oxygen and the fast heartbeat and speaking at the same time makes breathing hard.
Yesss
Yes and then it makes you sound like your gonna cry because you can’t breathe
@@plugsbunny7296 exactly
That’s natural bc litt us humans will always get nervous when speaking in front of hundreds of people. U only need to control that nervousness bc it won’t go away during ur entire presentation. Take a few deep breaths n just continue doing what u gotta do.
I am not afraid of public speaking at all in mind but I don't know why my body doesn't understand it. Whenever my turn comes my heart beat races uncontrollably, I try to stay calm but my body begin to shake.. but while I am half way with my presentation I feel so confident and calm and can do well, but I always have that initial terror that haunts me till now even if I am well prepared. I don't know why. I want to overcome this because I like public speaking so much and want to talk like them one day. But every time I get amazing opportunity my bad luck hits...😢
Exactly me
Try stretching beforehand and doing power poses
@@sauronthecutie I will try🤗🤗
Me
practice so that your speech feels like second nature
here's a tip for those people who has poor eyesight, just remove your glasses or contacts, it feels like no one's even looking.
😂😂😂
Bruh u think we blind without our glasses??
@@poopfart65 no, what I'm saying is WE cant see peoples eyes (where they're looking)
Thats good....but i want to speak with my eyeglasses😔😳😳
LIFE HACK
Fear of public speaking can be overcome by doing more practice in front of peoples . No matter what they are going to say . You have much power to show your ability in this world
This man deserves award.
I have the extreme fear of public speaking, it haunts me still, it's been 9 years. School is making it even more worse. Because of all of that stresses, i got diagnosed with tachycardia. It can be very difficult, plus when nobody understands you, i start to shake, cry, loose my breathe and i'm shaking.
I have a speech today. Wish me luck 😉
Edit: Oh yesss I won the 3rd prize in the English Eloquence Contestttt
Great job
Good job
Congrats
wtf r u doing here?
good job, I am 9 I have no idea what that is supposed to be
When i was in 4th grade ... I first time went on stage .... I was shivering and when i spoke .. Everyone laughed at me .. It was embatassing 😔😔😔
But now after 7 yrs when i m in class 11... I m BEST SPEAKER and MOST CONFIDENT GIRL of school .....😇.... Believe in yourself
And dont let people opinion to define u👍👍👍
Zabrdast
:)
Great
So could you help to overcome my fear I'm only 12 and I don't wanna live the rest of my life holding with me
Spoke a few times to large group’s of people with out the debilitating anxiety and it was one of the most surreal feelings I’ve ever had. I was like wow this is how it feels not to get nervous during public speaking. No fear, it’s amazing. If someone can invent a pill to erase that crushing anxiety, they’d be beyond rich.
My take away.. "Go out and face your fears.. if you have a problem create a solution and if you don't find any solution create it.." " you can always get better in public speaking..there no finish line.. 😄👏"
Mine 2
I had tis worst type of stage fright but i prayed to Jesus fr strength n confidence, and lo n behold, im good to go😊
If you have a problem, look for a solution. If nothing exits create a solution. I’m inspired by these lines today and forever.
Heartwarming knowing I'm not the only one suffering with a public speaking fear - that "over to you"/spotlight moment is horrific and kickstarts a whirlwind of physical and mental symptoms that I, at the moment, am unable to suppress/manage. Work have been great about it, but there's nothing that lifts the soul like reading and listening to likeminded individuals. You're all super brave. We've got this!
This is the same problem I face whenever I stand for giving a presentation. Firstly, everything seems good but then when my chance comes I feel very hesitant but I never stop myself from taking part in these kinds of confidence-boosting activities because the only solution to overcoming the fear is taking part in activities
Thanks
I know how it feels to speak in front of even 10-12 people. He turned his fear into a profession, thank you for sharing this, needed this the most.
I'm also facing the fear of public speaking. Specifically, I'm a junior at University ( my major is English department). But I am so nervous and tense when I want to raise my voice in my class. After watching this ted talk, i will try to raise my voice and catch everyone's attention.
I wish everyone who is also experiencing this feeling could overcome.
Thank you for reading❤
I remember watching this video 2 days before I did my speech for a Public Speaking Competition. I was extremely nervous and shaking to the point where I wouldn’t get in the car to go to the place. I ended up winning the competition. My advice for you is to know your speech. To know what you’re talking about. If you know your speech you can go places. But make sure to memorise those words!!
Can u help me with that? I have public speaking competition and I wanna win but the worst problem that I still face is I forget what I prepare ..
@@mohammednajeb3716 of course. So what you want to do is to use cue Cards. Make sure your speech has sub headings and practice each part, over and over again until you have a pretty good idea of what you’re talking about. Now after that you want to record yourself saying the full speech and then listen to the recording of your voice each night or whenever you want to practise. It helps so much. What I did was read parts of my lines and than listen to the recording to see if I was right.
@@acidicpurple8559 thanks bro
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@@mohammednajeb3716 did u succeed?
Public speaking has been my problem since I was in kindergarten until now. I hope to overcome this before I reach 32 years old. I want to speak in front of other people with power and confidence. Thank you for sharing your experience.
He came to my marking class at Drexel University, as our professor knew him. He was so comfortable and calm up there.
I just got this job that includes speaking with a huge crowd but the same time it felt all over again like I was in school , but I overcame the “fear “ and I didn’t get nervous or feeling in me , but then it came back around and now I’m going to overcome it again !!! I know I will overcome it again , I’m a real big speaker and theres people that I can help with my knowledge with just me , I’m going become a legend
My heart races even hearing this story
One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support.
Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable.
Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others?
We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings.
A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other.
If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.
Apparently it's not just his speaking skills that are good , his marketing skills are on point too 😉✨
I can speak really good when i am alone. My English is fluent and my pronunciations are perfect but as soon as i am put on the spot in a room full of people my speaking skills go down drastically. I stutter my words get stuck and my vocab goes zero. So the main problem for me is confidence. I can't even look the other person in the eye. I hope to overcome this fear.
I relate to this a lot, but hey you got this
it was an amazing experience, Public Speaking is something which i have been avoided for years.But enough is enough, Currently i am working hard for public speaking and fortunately i am surrounded with suitable people for public speaking.
" Go out and look for a solution if nothing exits create that situation"
Was cherry on the cake.
I share the same struggle. So to cope up with this, I remind myself that I am talking to the person that I am fully comfortable talking to (which is my cousin) instead of the teacher or the public, and it will turn out better in some way. I hope this helps!
Me too!! It makes me feel so much better imagining myself talking to someone I’m comfortable with
I'll imagine my crush in front of me n sure try to speak properly
This is actually helping me. I am about to lead the first session of my club in an hour. A lot of people are attending, and I am prepared, but still nervous to my stomach. But this actually motivated me, and I think I am ready now. Thank you!
Public speaking is really nerve cracking. This talk is really helpful. So happy I went here. Gonna do my best to overcome this fear.
I also have the fear of public speaking. I from a country where our native language is not English. But in our colleges we are asked to give our presentation in English. And, I am not good at english so it makes me feel anxious to talk. I start to shiver, my heart starts pounding, then I get blank. However, I believe I can make it someday. So, I want to tell you all that its okay if you are not good at it, but do not stop there, keep trying...
"If you have a problem look for a solution if nothing exists create that solution"- deep understanding
i have been learning english for 2 years, and everytime when there is a presentation on public, i don't want to do it, i think that i'm very bad in english, and people will laugh at me, so after your impressive talk i'll try all my efforts to do it 🙏
Both of you typed great English!
i have confidence and speak wrong english confidently in public...😅😅😅
i want to be like that
😅😄
@@neilngig me too 🤪
Confidence is the key.✌😁
You are blessed
I have a presentation next Tuesday to the whole school. Often, I feel like I can do it when I speak to myself, but then a nagging thought pops up in my mind the next moment and says, "No, you can't. You can't even speak confidently enough to your class, let alone to the whole school." I'm not... unprepared. Whenever I look at my teacher, she gives me a sense of relief and looking at everyone else with their gloomy faces jumbles up my mind. It's just that my mind goes blank and my words tangle like strings and the information that stores in my brain all disappear. I also want to do TED talks one day, you know, to share my experience with the people who want to hear. But, I aspire to be like this man. I'm only fourteen with so much else to do, often ostracising myself for every little thing but I journal a lot so yeah. Well, time to do my best.
Today I messed up the speech in front of 500 people
Feeling embarrassed 😔
Hey bro don't worry
Dis embarrassment will drive u to give a better speech later
Keep trying
@@prameelchebrolu3745 yes..it's really helping me..I have now started reading books on public speaking
@@EvrimKanbur On which site is the online course? Please share the details
@Quyen Nguyen That's true!
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new , not me pal it’s albert einstein.
Thank you for this.........Over years I've been suffering from fear of facing the crowd and speaking.......I've not overcome it but I believe with this there will, be a change
I am learning english and undestand almost all, your speech was impressive, thanks for we help us.
Today was my first presentation at college when teacher called my name my leg was shaking and racing my heart and I couldn't speak loudly .i did it very badly Then I sat down and started to blame myself why I've been shy, i came to here and now I know the answer.Thanks a lot teacher 🤍
You can bro
Aww very difficult for a stutterer to present before the mass or class fellows i have gone through..but now i am a teacher
I think from what I've experienced, many times it's because we're afraid of being judged by the people listening to our speech, and we lose our confidence 💔 this also means we are giving those people our power and energy. I've done this countless times and still do it and I'm just thinking that if we can get past that part of putting those people above us and not care about their opinions then maybe presentations and public speaking would be easier.
Yeah I gave up on my grade because of the fear. I already have a crippling social anxiety, so when they told me to do a story telling ALONE in front of my class, i was trembling and almost faint. My whole class tries to hold their laughter out of respect but i feel like a clown and it hurts me until now. I know it’s my fault, i know i have to change, but its so so hard.
I have agoraphobia and social phobia. I suffer for about 6 years hiding being anxious that causes me me anxiety. But now I wanted get out from my own delusions.
You help me so much. I will not be afraid any more. Thanks very much. I am crying when I remember my fear.
I had the same problem In the past. But after some time I realised that focusing on the topic rather than the people is important. So too, preparation and practices are essential to set the context straight. Finally embrace the concept of fail forward by speaching many times in public.
I'm saying to go out and face ur fears and don't burry them deep inside 😍
I have also this problem but i dont know how to overcome but u are faboulous
Practice, do courses, train, watch videos. Especially, learn how to pause and breath. Breathing is very important!. You can do it!
Oh really i also have this problem i am from india
Hearing your speech I have learnt a lot of motivation. Though cann't talk english fluently but still I believe in myself one day I will be successful in sha allah & my journey start at this moment & pray for me everyone
Insaha Allah
The biggest challenge of overcoming the fear of public speaking is people because they are so judgmental. People make it seem like there is something wrong with you, you're being defiant by not speaking up or that you'll just grow out of it. None of that is true. I've become convinced that it's just who I am and I'll never overcome it. Everyone is different, not everyone can become a great speaker (and you don't have to, it's okay)
"You can always become a better speaker, you only stop if you tell yourself you're good enough"👍 👍 👍
I remember in 3rd grade, being the one who everyone turned to, to win a class debate.
Fast forward to 7th grade, I started stuttering with all the anxiety of public speaking.
And the ridicule got worse each year into high school and college.
I'm doing my Ph.D. degree now and I have gotten a better hold of my anxiety. I have realized the way forward is to do things that make you happy, have a positive frame of mind and if possible, to take up leadership positions - to put myself in front of everyone else to build the person I want to be. The journey may be hard for you right now, but I trust you. You can do it. Just keep going! 💪🏻
At 29 years old, this is the only thing in life I hope to overcome one day.
today my teacher called my name during online class...... my heart was working on 70000rpm and my mind stopped working i didn't know what i had to say.
totally me in every online class
@@eylulstoessel7360 and me too
It so relatable.I still fear speech on public .When I get on public I forgot all of my thinks,words.When I look of public straight I lose my mind .
My remedy was that I started to take propanalol before speaking events to stop my heavy breathing, sweating and nervousness with presenting. Overtime as I become more and more confident and realisation that there is nothing to fear. I started to realise I no longer need the medicine. Give it a try, hopefully it will work for you too as it did for me. I know how you all feel. God bless. x
Thank you. This gives me strength 💪 to overcome my public speaking fear.
the most sensational thing is that he could transfer his fears to useful app!
Wow! that's unbelievable
Hi friends! My name is Sanjay and I am from India. I have been learning English since 2015. Actually I have been a hindi medium student so It took me 2 years to make myself capable of understanding, writing, listening and speaking English.
Now I have a good vocabulary. But sometimes when it comes to speaking I do not speak well. Some people say it's not your cup of tea but I keep on learning English. I write good English and I wish to be a good orator. What should I do to improve my spoken English ?
Great your'e good don't give up....just practice and push yourself..try to speak every single dail by 10 to 30 mint in yourself or other people around you.. listen english novels and take some vocabulary from the novels...wish u best in english
Jamaal yare thank u!
Put yourself in a life that requires you to only speak English.
Thanks
@Harjeet Singh Dear! I don't use those words which have no meanings. Tell me where I have mistaken and Used meaningless words.
I have a presentation in class tommorow and I'm still up thinking nervously about it. I get sooo nervous and I hate speaking in front of others, however as hard as it is sometimes I choose to not run away from my fears. I suggest you do the same!
Great i also have this fear but I'm overcoming this because my situation changed my good version
This was a great talk! I am so happy to hear that there is an app that you can use as your communication coach. After watching this, I immediately installed Orai.
Kuncinya dua : Don’t stop learning and Trying our best as we can.
Tbh I love interacting with my people, I love sharing my ideas thoughts opinions and getting validation for it. It's seriously a gift from God i believe in. The moment I enter the stage and face my audience as well. The pain the fear the ache the worry that I might mess up but after looking at the beautiful faces with precious minds. I truly believe that I have something to provide for them and not waste these geniuses times. I love it i feel it i enjoy what I do the stage is my home my people is my family. I truly love my audience. I truly love Public Speaking ❤
Wow...he is a gem! Great talent...
Love and respect from BD💜
When I face people my heart beats faster and my face becomes blushing.
i have spoken publically many times, bt i think now i,ll be more confident next timw.. Thanks pal
The worst thing about fear of public speaking imo isn't when you have nothing to say, it's when you have something to say but you just can't get it out
For me its the sweating and voice breaking and shivering.. the visible aspects of it.. that seems completely uncontrollable
I think a hack to combat the fear for me is not in the focus towards practising the public speaking art in itself... it is when I fully to my core realise the shortness of life, that we will all go, that life can end any time... that your house will be occupied by another many generations that never knew your existence towards the house, 'belongings' that do not actually belong to you, everything goes and the only thing you really have is the present moment, experiences and your energy - which leads to a healthy level of disconnect to everything. Some call it 'not taking life too seriously'. I think that is what people should focus on and every area will change. Other fears may also fade and you will take on more opportunities with excitement because you don't take things too seriously and you want to really make the most of everything in life and try new things and embrace challenges with a new mindset, imperative to getting over fears. That deep insight is a journey and I would say my increase in confidence to speak (from a nervous wreck I once was) was a by-product of it. The issue is, this profound insight can only be learnt in time as you develop and undergo real life challenges and from ending up in the deep dark rock bottom of life mentally - as you get up, you will end up almost 'reborn' as a new person who can see the world from a different lens that life is so short, this time is all we have and life is one big fun game. In the grand scheme of things, nothing really matters. Not in a nihilistic way though. Anxiety only gets stronger and has a place in you if you give it the importance and attention it needs to thrive. Accept anxiety as a hardwired state in us that actually serves to protect us instead of fighting it. Anxiety is actually the bodies way of showing love to protect you from harmful things - of course we do not need anxiety now for things like public speaking but never fight it - instead acknowledge that the body loves you to do that and the anxiety TRUST ME will make peace and dissolve over time.
I love this... I am embarking on a journey to overcome fear of public speaking and i came across this channel am so thankfull...
Thank you for this speech... I just realized how much can help this to overcome my fear in front of the public... I wish it will be back my confidence and trust in myself😌 I am a college student until now I didn't know how to deal with this social anxiety... And thank you I know how can I solve my situation 😊
Great...First Pakistani on the floor of Tedx talks...Feeling proud...
is there r classes in islamabad or rawalpindi
Our new generations realized that they do anything.
And face all problems if they don't find solutions so they create solution and make their journey good.
It's very simple when we communicate all types people and we read their thought and mind and after we teach them, we understand them and we talk them that evey person needs to give their openion and speak everywhere by which fear is died inside.
Thank you
I'm freshman in the university and the thing is that , my grades are directly connected to presentations , speaking , being active in discussions and so on. Even thinking about that makes me anxious. On the first day when i had to introduce myself (in google meet to be more clear) , i started trembling and i got nervous , even tho i only had to say my name and why i chose that major. My mind almost blew up and i just wanted it to end fast. i just wanted to cry like a little baby. I know that no one really will remember me , or maybe they wont even pay attention to me speaking but still , it's like someone is watching me with strict eyes and has the desire to catch me if i say something wrong. i always feel too much pressure on my shoulders and i dont rly know how to overcome this feeling. That's why i came here and i wanted to share my emotions about this fact. Internet , chatting , this kind of comments , are the only thing where i can freely say my ideas , my thoughts but i know that in the future i won't survive like this, because we are living in 21st century and the gen z is incredibly powerful. Speaking is our power to become succesful in the future , and im trying to look for the things which will help me to overcome the fear of public speaking.
I can’t even think of public speaking, every time I do, my palms get sweaty, knees weaken, arms get heavy.
There's vomit on his sweater already, mom's spaghetti
From today I'll try my best to speak in public. I'm going to overcome my fear . All the best
It's my first inspiring speech it was amazing that I couldn't even take my eyes out of it
Hi Danish, I am Swedish!
Great TED talk!
I have tried to overcome stage fear and be better at public speaking since school days. And i have reached one conclusion, i do it better when i i have a good concept of what my speech is about.
watching this 1 day before my public speech
Mate! I thought this guy will brief on public speaking ..But the 'app' work, came to me as a surprise. Great thinking..Best wishes from India!
What is the name of the app
"you only stop, if you tell yourself you're good enough"
damn, that's kinda deep...
I’m here cause my presentation is in an hour 😭
I hope it went amaaaazing ❤
Same😢
@@abirettahri5078 it went amazing!!!
This definitely just inspired me to start practicing public speaking. Thank you
Thanks. After listening this next day I gave seminar infront of 30 people for 1 hour. And I was so confident and I didn't scare at all. Thank you Danish dhamani
You really spoke well thanks for encouraging!
Shivani Kurulkar
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