Six behaviors to increase your confidence | Emily Jaenson | TEDxReno
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- Research tells us that the way to get people to change is not to start with trying to change their attitudes alone, but to start with the behaviors associated with the attitudes. When people see themselves behaving differently, they can then think of themselves differently and the attitude change will follow. The six behaviors discussed that you could start today are derived from over 90 interviews with female executives in sports.
Emily Jaenson’s motto is “Be so good they won’t forget you!” and this motto has carried her through her career to land her former role as General Manager of the Triple-A Reno Aces. Upon accepting this role in 2018, Jaenson became the first female in Triple-A to hold the GM role in nearly 20 years. Jaenson leads a podcast, Leadership is Female, where she interviews executives in sport so that she and her guests can guide the next generation of female leadership forward and leads a team of sports front office veterans in their consulting business. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.” - Jay Shetty ✨
Thank you, i needed this
She did a good job of that when nobody congratulated her for being the FiRsT FeMaLe manager of a major baseball team
(for almost twenty yearshh), but she thanked them for their encouragement nevertheless.
Ahh, confidence. :]
Wow. I like this a lot
Which video did you get this from? I’d like to watch it 😀
Thank you, this helps me a lot
Taking risks and going out of comfort zone is the key to self-confidence
Totally!
Exactly!
I'm in tht right now...
@@shashidharhiremath5600keep that up (:
जोखिम लेना और कम्फर्ट जोन से बाहर निकलना ही आत्मविश्वास की कुंजी है
1. Count yourself in with “3,2,1 go” and ask yourself the question “Who Am I?” You are a person who is not too shy to back away from a challenge. Counting gets you started.
2. Give yourself 20 seconds of courage. That’s all it takes.
3. Take a seat at the table - literally. Don’t wait around, actually get started with this one simple action.
4. Cheer for other peoples success. Confident people celebrate the success of others rather than feeling threatened. Quote: “Good for her, not for me” by Amy Poller. Confident people support those around them.
5. Boost your confidence with an activity you are already great at. What is something that is easier today than one year ago? What is your most proud accomplishment? Think about these questions because confidence is born in what we have already achieved. “Use your prior success to propel yourself forward.”
6. Celebrate constantly. Celebrate all goals, past and present. Know and honour your proudest accomplishments. Do something nice for yourself when you reach your goals. It doesn’t matter HOW you celebrate it matters that you DO celebrate.
What could you do if you were 10x more confident?
Date: 26th June 2023
Thanks!
Thank you!
Thanks for your summary
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Thank you! This is so helpful:)
Stop judging other people is a great one. The way you think becomes a built in pattern. So if you're overly judgemental of others, you'll be overly judgemental of yourself too. For example people who really judge others for their looks are often the most insecure about how they look.
Great point! I like to look at people more like children that just grown up🤷🏾♂️ it makes them seem less intimidating to me and more human like myself (which they are!)
I totally agree with you. We must believe ourselves. This is the most important thing in this world
Great 👏🏻👏🏻
On point: exemplary comment.
Reminds me of my sister..
3:20 number one : count yourself in (3,2,1, do it).
4:56 number two : be brave just for 20 seconds.
5:47 number three : taking a seat at the table (literally).
6:27 number four : cheer for other people's success. (confident people celebrate the success of others rather than feeling threatened.
7:25 I think that is Emily's life story (congratulation Emily).
7:51 number five : bolster your confidence for a new activity through your already great performance in another. (confidence is born in all we've already done and already achieved).
Use your prior success to propel yourself forward.
8:49 number six : celebrate constantly.
goal : 10 times more confident.
Thank you Emily.
Thanks for time'stamps
Thanks man ❤️
My favorite it number six. I think the world is always moving fast that we don't stop and celebrate the present!
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing 🥰🥰❤❤
I attest of number 5.I wrote all my accomplishments before a job interview. I really wanted that role, so was already confident when I got to the interview. Didn’t just secure the role, they gave me a role that is higher than what I applied. Remember your accomplishments, remember your testimonies. They will keep you grateful and going😊
what if you dont have any
@@jenniferkenneally5386 you have accomplished something. Believe me. Just that we tend to downplay our accomplishments. Some of my accomplishments were to attend a conference that was accepting graduate students while I was still undergraduate. Did I produce outstanding work..nope. I was just chosen to attend. Solving problems, minor or big is still an accomplishment.
Congrats
1. count yourself in
2. give yourself 20 second to be brave (you just need an start )
3. take a seat at the table
4. cheers other people's success
5. bost your confidence in a new activity
6. celebrate yourself consistently ( find ways to celebrate yourself)
Thank you 🥰🥰❤❤
🎉🎉
made it easy
Thanks 🥰
That was a really good Ted talk. She spoke very clearly and wasn’t to loud or to quiet. I loved her outfit as well.
Honestly
It's such a useful speech. It not only helps me study English but also teaches me how to gain confidence in life!!!
Can you please share with me your way in studying English? how do you do .. do you stop the video and write down the new words or how?
l've listened to this video but my understanding was only 50% .. there was no one or two new words for me, it was half of the video.
@@FatmaGasim1 Hey, I came across your comment and maybe some of my suggestions coulb be useful to you.
First, vocabulary is key. You couldn't understand what she is saying nor what I wrote in English if you don't know the meaning of the words or the context right? So expand your vocabulary, classify them into different topics and use them often.
One more thing, watch videos with bilingual subtitles. The video above only has English subtitle, find one has both Eng sub and translation. When watching, you can follow the content of the video and understand its meaning at once. By doing that, you will get used to listening in English and at the same time understanding what they are saying.
@@FatmaGasim1 yes you can definitely do this! someone else replied to your comment giving you very good advice. The way it looks your English is pretty good right now. You can also use language apps to help you gain more knowledge
@@giangchau1033 thank you so much.. very good advice ❤️
Always have the courage to be yourself!!! So many people these days want to put you down, make you average, or lead you to feeling your below them…Be yourself and you’ll always be successful. We are extraordinary people!!!
I love the “have 20 seconds of courage” tip. That’s a great one
The way she delivered the speech proves that what she said really works.
Thank you Emily! My wife Debi passed away a couple of months ago from cancer. Your confidence and charisma remind me of her. Debi would have liked your talk. She loved baseball so much too. Thanks for inspiring.
The best motivation talk I heard. 1. Count yourself in even makes me confidently write this comment over here. Thanks for the nice talk.
Her smile on face throughout the talk is what makes me more confident about what she's saying..
Loved that conversation
"Wins are so much better when celebrated together". Join in,cheer someone up ✨🙂
Nice words ❤
I really love her enthusiasm and vigorous speech. Most of all she has such a beautiful smile ...
I am also a shy person when I entered high school before. But I realized lots of things and practice my ways that helps to improve my skill and character. Now, I am a Senior in High School and I continue to face my fear and have confidence in front of my classmates, teachers, batch mates, especially in front of my fellow students when I do public speaking.
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The speech was really something I needed, I am exactly the same person, as she described herself at the beginning of the speech. I need the confidence, 3,2,1 go…
I am very confident at speaking to strangers on general topics. But, when it comes seeking help or asking for an opportunity I act like mute. Suddenly my super introverted nature kicks in. But, now I know how to act confidently at work. Thanks Emily ❤
I would like to comment on this video’s six behaviors to increase confidence coming from a medical student. Counting yourself in; this is a very good starting point, one of the first things you learn quickly in medical school is the amount of work and dedication one has to commit every week just to survive. Lessons on ethics talks about imposter syndrome and the phases many medical students face when arriving to medical school. It is very different than undergraduate school as you are now competing with your peers for residency spots and you look around and realize that everybody next to you is very intelligent. This causes the thoughts of “Maybe they made a mistake… I do not belong here… I am not smart enough…” For those students who got straight A’s, now getting a passing score feels just as great. Another phase of imposter syndrome is the “we are all in this together” feeling, when you have survived the first semester and think to yourself, “wow I am not the only one who feels this way.” You start to make new friends and we support each other, share notes, share strategies because we are all in this together. By counting yourself in, it is essentially acknowledging that you have put in tremendous work to get into medical school, believe that you belong and start learning!
20 seconds of courage: I have not tried this, but I would love to incorporate it in my life to see if it works for me. In medical school, you quickly get thrown in to practice talking to real patients, even if they are actors (they are grading you) during the first two years. You have to learn to give presentations to your peers, and a lot of extracurricular activities such as volunteering for that amount of “free time” that you do have.
Take a seat at the table: This can be very helpful because there are many positions students take during medical school. For example, there are student government positions, peer mentor/tutoring that one does to learn leadership skills. Attending conferences in those specialties we are interested in, networking and meeting new people with hopes of building relationships for your future.
Cheer for other peoples success: You learn to cheer for your peers successes very quickly. Medical school takes a mental toll on people. Talking to your peers and seeing that they passed the course they struggled with on the first exam and seeing how happy they are after passing is a great feeling. Getting that support feels just as great.
Bolster your already confidence: Practice makes perfect. With time, talking to patients comes easier and easier. Learning your strengths at test taking and improving in anyway you can.
Celebrate constantly: Every medical student knows this. Every day can be celebrated as long as you get through your lectures! Passing an exam, having time to work out, talk with family, and staying on top of things are things I celebrate every day. When I don’t complete lectures, that’s okay too, some lectures take longer to learn than others, we adapt and we give it our best shot.
Great video, I wanted to add a little perspective from a medical student’s point of view.
Where r u from!?
Wonderful speech mam
Great...✨
Being a medical student, I can relate it. You explained very well
I'm a nursing student and have difficulty going to clinical because I have to talk to patients. This is a great video and your post crowned it. Thank you!
Great meeting Emily 😊 What a wonderful light in our community.
I worked in a science agency for years. Many attention-shy technical professionals hated speaking to others. I learned once you tapped into their passion for their work, buckle up, because they will command a stage with more enthusiasm and light than you might think. It’s a beautiful thing.
Pls if you are reading this, know that a few years of grinding can produce a lifetime of freedom.. So be patient.. The lord is by your side. Amen.
First part: totally in. Second part of your comment: not so much
what god you talk about? you jesus or allah or zious or budhaa ?
@@ibrahimibrahim-jn3dw god has no religion we humans divided everyone
Thank you. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.
@@DivyanshuChauhan-fs9zzJesus breathed life into every cell of your body.
As a fitness enthusiast, I appreciate the emphasis on overall well-being. Confidence isn't just about appearance; it's about feeling good inside and out. Great video!
Thank you Emily for sharing six behavior to increase our confidence 😊. When I found this interesting talk I am overjoyed. Thank you again.
It's always worth it to conquer the insecurities within and to rise and be the person who you want to be regardless of the opinions of others and so true confidence shines
Underrated comment! It all lies within.
I totally agree with you. Thanks for sharing this beautiful message
I agree with you guys
An amazing ted talk yet again 🎊 short and sweet and to the point!!! Loved it ❤️
This gave me chills, thank you! This was right on time!
I agree that behavior matters more than attitude to gain self confidence. The way we behave gradually increases the level of confidence. And consistently maintain the same as it would keep you reaching great heights. Let your eyes speak to the level of confidence you have!
Love her so much. Confident people support those around them. Bolster your confidence for a new activity through your already great performance in another. Love, love, LOVE these. Confidence is born through all that we’ve already done and achieved. 💗
Celebrating a success and not just moving on to the next really hit hard with me. I grew up with the "well what are you doing next" attitudes around me...
I'm Japanese and feeling the same. I hadn't realize the magnitude of taking a moment to reflect back what I've done until I finished watching it
"Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you will find success."
-- Thomas J. Watson..
Your confidence is shining through, your speech is really beautiful!
Thank you, Emily! 🫂🫂🫂 And thank you for sharing your past with us. That openness was brave.
I just finished watching this video and what a great message to build my confidence. I've experienced this low confidence in myself and tried to compare myself to others and feel bad. This is so inspiring! Confidence is the key and it starts today.
Oh that's great and good to know. Listening for the first time
Thanks for sharing! I use to be so shy I would often mumble. Curious, what confidence goals do you have?
Hi! I am very happy for you that you have become more confident after applying these tips. I recognise myself very much in what you quote. Number six was one of the most special ones for me! It sounded crazy to me at first when I heard that you have to celebrate yourself consistently. When I was listening to the examples that were given, and thinking for a moment what this means for myself, I was sure I am definitely going to be able to work with it! It becomes more and more clear how you can boost your confidence. The message Emily Jaenson is trying to get across, has definitely come across. I hope I will be able to handle these six behaviours in the future, but I have no doubt about that! Which tip is most important to you and why? I really enjoy reading that this speech inspired you, because it did the same for me. I hope you are already feeling much better and more confident! Greetings and have a nice day!
love when she waited and expected an applause yet nobody was clapping until she basically prompted them to lol
It was awkward 😂
I set mind free to hear this great speech after a long time! Thq for inspiring words!🙏
Excellent speech!! Have confidence. It shows in our body language.
Great Video!
Confidence is developed by learning to step out of your comfort zone on a daily basis.. As stated in the video acting confident will eventually create confidence from the inside out. One successful experience builds on the previous one. Trust the PROCESS, it will develop as one intentionally faces their fears head on. One of most important confidence building in my life was joining Toast Masters and overcoming the fear of public speaking. Learning to overcome the fear of what others think about us is a game changer. Building confidence is not a quick fix, although can definitely be developed for those willing to do the hard work.
This speech motivated me to achieve my goals without hesitation I mean without thinking about whether am I deserve this or not thank you so much this speech is incredible
Exactly what I needed to remind myself. Thanks TEdTalks.
Loved her energy. Loved this one.
This was excellent! I really enjoyed this! Great job Emily!!
Such a great video on improving one's confidence! These six behaviours that I learnt would be a great contributor in increasing my confidence.
Thank You Emily. Loved your TED Talk. Keep on inspiring us.
She did great
Feel the fear and do it anyway
Be brave for 20 seconds
Being up people with you
Celebrate your success
I love how she presents with so much enthusiasm!
6 Kegiatan untuk membuat lebih percaya diri
1. Berhitung (1, 2 & 3) berhitung memberi kesan yang membedakan waktu (waktu malu) dan (waktu percaya diri)
2. Cobalah untuk berani 20 detik
3. Duduk di meja, ini bukan metaphora tapi bener-bener duduk di meja
4. Rayakan kehebatan orang lain, orang yang percaya diri itu tidak minder terhadap pencapaian orang lain
5. Buat kepercayaan diri anda lebih kuat dengan hal - hal yang sudah sukses atau pernah kita lakukan.
6. Rayakan segera kesuksesan atau pencapaian, tidak penting anda merayakannya seperti apa yang paling penting anda merayakannnya
semoga bermanfaat bagi pembaca dari Indonesia
Counting will get you started and momentum will keep you going
Give yourself 20 seconds of courage
Take a seat at the table
Cheer for others
Boost your confidence by your proud moments and doing those tasks again
Celebrate for your mini wins too
I actually really like this talk, Emily is such aspirational human being, even though this is the first time I listen to her
These are all great notes will def. apply this more often in my life! Thanks for making this!
I love this talk so much. Thank you.
That pause before people clapped, when she said she was the became the first female GM of a AAA baseball team in 20years was very telling . She should and many others be a GM of a MLB team.
Well yes, but something about her tone made it seem like she was expecting applause. She sounded kind of arrogant in announcing it, and it would have been overly proud even if it was a man saying it.
@@iiromutanen5719 and why wouldn't she expect a applause? Her job is still VERY much a "man's world"
such confidence even in speaking publicly really inspiring.
I'm blessed to have come across this just when I needed it the most. Thanks for such an inspiring talk, Emily.
A beautiful speech, Emily! ❤
I love this so much! Sharing with co-workers and friends.
Confident people celebrate success of others rather than feeling threatened💯
such great and practical tips. I am grateful for these. Thank you.
I def need confidence booster. This came handy. Thanks for sharing.
listening to this speech is the first step to really boosts your confidence
That yes at the LAST!!! Brilliant!
Very good talk 🤗 love her personality and way of talking.
This was a great Ted Talk with 6 great tips. Thx for sharing your story and tips, much appreciated. Numbers 1 & 2 reign supreme for us.
A video about living life, saving life. Great woman 💞
I am now trying to follow what she said. All six things are hard but especially cheering for other people's success was difficult. I think that it's natural for human being jealousy to other people's success and not celebrate them. However trying to cheer it, I was proud of myself overcome jealousy, one of the most powerful feelings. I felt I become a more confident person and I recommend this method!
i really agree with the celebration part together, it's a very good feeling to see people are being happy and nice to you, Nice speach
This is a true eye opener that we all need to see. Put an end to limiting possibilities with these wrong perceptions of what we can or cannot do.
This is a very useful talk, thank you for deliver it.
Take a sit at the table...How nice n inspiring...very true..thankyou mme .
Cheer for the success of others. Be happy for them! Thanks so much.❤️
Yo confidence is really built. We build confidence and I thought the techniques she presented are tools you can keep in your back pocket. GG my dude
Awesome storytelling. I love it!👏
Don't be confident, be yourself and you will have the most confidence being yourself because that's what you do best.
I've actually been using this technics without even knowing that they exist,Glad to know that it was not only me who needs to turn into a whole new person to achieve what they wanted.
I thing that's what I need!
Thank you, Emily
I struggled with cheering for other peoples success the most. I tend to get very jealous/envious of those I’m closest to. Partially because I feel like I’ll always miss out.
I SO NEEDED THIS TALK
1 behavior to increase happiness in your life: When you're watching a TEDx video at 3am, and the voice of the speaker sounds like nails on a chalkboard, STOP the video! OMG! Instant pleasure! Amazing! I feel sorry for whoever has to listen to her talk about her day in the evenings.
in order to became one, you must begin to act like on it.
6 behaviors to increase confidence:
1. count yourself in
--> Counting will get you started, and the momentum will keep you going
2. be brave for 20 seconds
3. take a seat at the table,
--> go in sit down and get the deal done
4. cheer for other people success.
--> confident people cheer for other people. "Good for her, not for me" (Amy Poehler)
5. Bolster your confidence in activity you're already good with
6. celebrate constantly
Love this talk, very inspiring. 👍
Excellent words of encouragement 👏, I am a public spkg.instructor...great tips, I always motivate our student with these two words..ie the 2Cs, be Confident & Competant. Thx.for sharing!
Thank you so much Emily. Powerful Nuggets shared.
I personally loved the content. It felt very energetic and I'm sure to incorporate these things in my life.
Great tips. As a an ambitious technically savvy female business professional with multiple advanced degrees I lack confidence to move into management. Im Happily single / self sufficient and my career is everything to me. Thanks Emily you re a great role model!!
Thanks! Sharing with co-workers and friends.
I feel like it's easier for a beautiful person to tell us how easy it is to be more confident
i feel like me to
Beauty can be on the inside as well.
Great talk, lots of energy n encouragement 🙏
I am cheering for the sports exec' success...Inspiring to be in so many professions outside of medicine too..!
😍 Found one such video by Prince EA many years back, that changed my life - Now, today suddenly this will be the 2nd one that's gonna change my life again - 6 Behaviours to Increase your Confidence 😍
This is really all want in life, like this kind of confidence
Kudos Emily! Keep On inspiring ! Thank You! 🍀🌸🎀🦋🦅
Very helpful thank you Emily ❤
This was a fantastic ted talk. Thank you so much for sharing!!
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You do an open interview with yourself whenever possible. It is the best way to see you as another person. ❤️
Confidence is what makes you who you are
You are really great person Emily. I am so happy to watch your video. Thank you for all 🥰🥰❤❤
I think it's a good message to start behaving more confidence than earlier because it's my the weakest side. I feel my life and career are ruining because of my insecurity. I don't know how but recently I got a really good position in cool company and now have an opportunity to prod myself into career path but it's so scary even think of what will happen forward not to mention about conversation with others. I agree with the staytment that the confidence is key but I still have to get this confidance somehow
The #1 trait I look for in someone is transparency and integrity which none of you have so kick rox.