Coming Out As Transgender To My Brother - Here's What Happened
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I love the part where Skylar realized that Shaye being herself gave Skylar permission to totally be himself.
Agreed 🎯
Pretty powerful.
What is Skylar ?
@@joangelaparker2845 her brother 🎈
I knew it!!!!
Raised in Eastern Idaho and feel all of this in the LDS community. You have a huge cheerleader in me on your journey. What a great brother.
Shaye, coming from me, a family member, I feel like I know you far more now than before you transitioned. And I’m so happy to see you happy and yourself! Love you
Wow this conversation was so beautiful, so honest and raw. I learned so much. Thank you for sharing. I know that you know that by talking about your journey so openly will help others. As for Skylar… what a great brother you have. Awesome. Much love from London England ❤️👏👏🥰
This is such a profound and weight-lifting conversation to witness. I am getting emotional watching you both share truths with one another and validate each other’s journeys. This is unconditional love. This is God’s love.
Beautiful! I'm a proud and fierce Moma Dragon to an incredible Trans Gender Son. I'm also living in Utah and now EX mormon. I cheer for you and send you the most genuine love. Knowing what it's like here in Utah, I'm so glad you're doing well. Please know you are giving so much more than you think to this community.
Hi! Fellow mama-of-trans-beans here! I also happen to be a religious Jew. I call myself a mama bear, but dragons are super badass, so 😃👍
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Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! Lots of love to both of you from a 73-year old woman who was brought up in the Mormon church! ❤ I left the church in my early teens because of the way the members treated non-complying members, and non-members. I understand that there have been changes, but their stance on LGBTQIA+ is not acceptable to me - a straight ally of LGBTQIA+
Shaye you go GRRRLLLL!!! So happy for you that you have been able to realize your true self and that you have a supportive partner to share the journey with. Good luck and all the blessings to you and your family!
Conversations like this are too rare. I loved everything about it. Thanks for sharing with so much vulnerability. The world needs more of that and of you both!
This is so amazing. Everyone wants the same thing at the core- to be happy, loved, seen, heard, recognized - im so grateful you’re able to have all of that in speaking out.
This video is all about love, courage,respect, and empathy ❤
I cannot imagine the internal struggle of feeling one way and seeing outwardly something else and having the two not make sense or not feel right, or feel wrong. Top that having to one day face family, friends and anyone and fear their possible rejection. That had to be so hard.
This was really beautiful to watch! As a formerly Catholic lesbian- this resonated on many levels, especially around shame. It gave me some hope for future improved relationships within my own family. And I will definitely be looking into the plant medicine. Super interesting discussion! Thank you for sharing.
This video made me feel happy and so filled with love and gratitude! I respect and admire both of you! Keep sharing your story as it gives me such hope:)
I am 65 years young, and you are helping me find myself. I am not transgender, BUT I have always been looking for the REAL ME. I have been controlled and manipulated for 45 years of marriage. These last few years I have been looking for my true self. I have not found her yet, BUT the journey is REAL. Thank you both for this incredible wonderful video 🤗 ❤️ Much love from Green 🌲Ohio 😊
What a wonderful, awe inspiring, raw, emotional, etc video. Shay - I know how hard it was for you to come out to your family and how much you struggled for all those years knowing that you were “different” and how unhappy you were during those years. My oldest (now 43 yrs) came out as Non-Binary last year and it was something I had to wrap my head around (not that he came out, but I had never heard of Non-Binary before). It was only then that they talked about their struggles of never feeling like they fit in as being “normal” in their own body. They have been so much happier since they have come out. When they decided to tell my side of the family, they received so many words of support and encouragement. Did some of my siblings have questions - absolutely (for the most part, their cousins understood), but they have all embraced them. Cade (was Chad and is changing their name to Cadence) has only seen a few of the family members since they came out to them last March because we are kind of all spread out distance wise), but I know that Cade will be embraced and is still loved and accepted by them all.
Hearing about how much the both of you have struggled with your own individual identities through the years brought tears to my eyes. Hearing about your individual journey’s helped me more to realize the journey my son has been on (both emotionally due to trauma from their past and with coming out). Thank you for being open and honest with us - I know that it couldn’t have been easy. Much love to both of you and your families
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First. That was a beautiful conversation.
Second. Thank you for being respectful about how you talk about the church even though you have left the church.
Third. God loves you both so much. Mo matter what.
Fourth. I love how you mentioned Ketamine. After my attempted suicide, Ketamine helped me heal in so many ways.
Thank you for sharing your stories. I wish I was as close to my siblings as the two of you are. That is a beautiful gift
Merry Christmas!
You are both beautiful individuals. Go forth and let your light shine!
I love that you shared that your religion gave u good things!!! I’ve been locked in by my religion & questioned so many things. I struggle with severe anxiety & depression & I truly believe it’s because I’ve tried to conform to others views. I want to be my true self too. Thank u both for sharing this. ❤
You are so blessed to have such a compassionate and empathetic brother. 💞And Shaye, I am so proud of you for having the strength and courage to be your authentic self and that you are able to live life to its fullest with your incredible wife Amanda and your amazing children. 💞
I just love seeing people who live their lives in authenticity of who they really are!
This is so emotional. What a fantastic relationship. It's great that you support each other and you've been through a lot. Also, I love both names of Skylar and Shaye. I gave my child my middle name.
Great video.
This was so enlightening. Your honesty and relationship is eye opening. I have wondered a lot about how one lives through these changes. So many horrible fearful people that condemn without trying to understand, hurt someone like Shaye and her family. God loves us all.
The love that just radiates from every single person I’ve seen on this channel is truly palpable. I just found your channel last night and I’ve watched 4-5 vids already. I too was raised LDS in Utah. I’m a straight cis woman in my 60’s who left the religion over 40 yrs ago, and I’ve struggled with the judgement from extended family because of it. You all are a breath of fresh air. You do the hard work and then share it, I’ll bet there are thousands of people who gain from your willingness to share
'If this is who I am, send me to hell.'
This made me break down. 😭 Shaye, you should be so incredibly proud of yourself. You took the pivotal, profound leap into truth. It's a privilege to have been able to see it. ❤
Also, love hearing about your positive experience with plant medicine. 🪴🍄❤
Thank you both for sharing such an amazing, open, honest conversation. I really appreciate it more than you know. Proud of you both.
As someone who grew up in the church, but also grew up in a household and culture who also had lgbtq+ family and friends - I remember being horrified at the thought that someone in my life would think that bc that was my religion I could hate or condemn them for being their true authentic self.
I love that you have a brother who validates and continues to love you!! ❤ this was such a great conversation and video ✨
Shay did a very long broadcast on TH-cams Mormon Stories while he was just at the start of his transition. Shay and her wife were great guests and Shay went deeper and it was emotional and the wife was brilliant. It’s still available to watch and it will give an even deeper insight into her story which at times was heartbreaking.
Shay you are beautiful inside and out! Skyler, I'm so glad you're a supportive big brother!!
Sending you both so much love!
As a christian mom of four, I just have to say how amazing I think Amanda and Skylar are. Your love for Shaye is a beautiful example of Gods love. We are called to love others, not judge, not fix, not shame. Shaye is so incredibly blessed to have you. ❤
Thank you for this video! Seeing your pain, when you remember the hard parts and seeing the joy and happiness you have now, it touches my heart ❤
Thank you for speaking about your life and experience, as i sit here in tears, you are helping me to be my more authentic self. Much of your story is my story too, Shaye. Thank you so much for being you!
You two are the best! Thank for sharing I know it was not easy. Now that you have that hard part out of the way I hope to have more vlogs of you together. You have a great relationship and can put a smile on a lot of people’s faces.
God is so much more than any religion. The relationship you have with HIM is the most important. No leader, no person, or relationship is more important than the one you have between you, yourself, and God. Loved this!
This video just helped me clear my head on how i felt about following skylar's journeh still, i didnt know where he stood on things and i didnt know that Shaye had come out as trans and now i can confidently say, im a huge supporter of Skylar and now Shaye. I loved hearing your journey and being so open and honest. Shaye i have only ever seen one video of yours before this and it was before your transition so i had no idea, but i am so happy for you and proud of you for being your genuine self. I look forward to more content from the both of you.
I loved both of your channels for a long time, but I love them even more now 🤍 seeing you both chase authenticity and the joy in it, is beautiful
What a pleasant surprise to find this video on my home page! Hello Shaye, I just met you on Skylars channel, I especially loved the outtakes at the end because we got to see the real you. This is a beautiful video of you two talking about finding yourselves as you both step into the next chapter of this life's journey, and I'm impressed especially because of your Mormon background. I am so looking forward to more about how you have learned to embrace life by being true to you. Thank you for sharing!
Your dialog is beautiful and truthful beyond words. Just LOVE. Thank you sooooooo much for sharing and by that lightening up our world 💫🌈💚
Whoa, the psilocybin came outta left field. So interesting, when I’ve taken large doses I have a two spirit that plays between masculine and feminine themes and it always brings me back to God.
I could add so much- but there’s so much personal reflection that wouldn’t be taking place for me & others had you both not been so vulnerable and transparent. You stayed alive for a bigger purpose than you could possibly imagine. You are changing lives nust because you’re being you and being supported.
You two guys are actually killing me beyond belief. I’m 70 years old and I remember so much when my youngest brother who we all absolutely adored came out as gay. I am the oldest seven children in Roman Catholic family. I was 13 when he was born and I simply adored him..
My mom was diagnosed with colon cancer, football size tumor when he was 18 months old so therefore I became his surrogate mother. He and I became inseparable since my mom was in the hospital from very long time. As a young teenager I took him everywhere I could go football games, baseball games Teenage outings, etc.. he and I both called each other Doll and it he has remained to this day. He is my doll and I was his doll..
Fast-forward, I was married and I had four children and accidentally I found out my brother Chris was gay. Simply could not fathom it was happening in my life, keep in mind we are talking back to late 1980s. it totally broke my heart, and I sought it out help to try and cope with it, and figure out how I could change it so it wouldn’t happen. Unfortunately, I heard that this was not something that I could change. My heart was absolutely broken. How could this be happening to our family?
I finally had sit down with my brother Chris, and told him I had discovered he was gay. Not a happy conversation, but he told me he always knew since he was a little little boy that he was gay. He also explained that he knew both my mom and dad would disown if they knew. Unfortunately my Dad passed away in 1987 of a brain tumor at the age of 54 without ever knowing his son was gay.. Don’t know if he could have handled it 😢😢😢. Chris told me in confidence he just wanted to go and isolate himself and commit suicide. 💔💔💔 He truly didn’t want to let us down 💔💔
As the oldest of 7 I knew I had to help him….2 of my younger brothers totally disowned him very vocally at that time which 💔 broke me apart. Such a close knit family in such turmoil 😢😢
As time went on my 2 younger brothers had young families…one has a daughter who is gay and the other is Transgender…
We have all come to terms with our families and who we are now. 💔💔💔 Heartbreaking to go through during this time but know your messages are true to my ❤.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us! Love you Skylar and Shaye.
Thanks so much for setting this down. I can relate. My brother is ten years younger than my sister and I. My parents both worked full-time so my sister and I looked after him. Mum used to say he had three mothers. He was our doll, our mascot, and he tagged along whenever we hung out with our friends, at home, down at the park, at the movies.
He was 22 when he came out as gay - to me. It took him ten years to get up the courage. He picked me because I'd had a girlfriend through my teens. Her parents were supportive but mine were not and we just couldn't weather the storm. But it wasn't in vain because when my brother eventually came out to all, my parents were far more understanding. In fact Dad was a beer-swilling, rugby-tough tradesman but his view by then was that my brother is simply hard-wired that way. Mum secretly thinks my brother just hasn't met the right girl yet but that's another story.
I was very supportive and encouraging to my little brother but privately I was gutted because I knew his lot in life was destined to be that much harder than the other nine-out-of-ten hetero guys in our community. My brother's coming out ushered in depression and despair for me for a while there.
Homosexuality was still criminalised in New Zealand in the 1980s when my girlfriend and I were trying to find our way. A decade later, my brother was able to live openly with the same man, and eventually marry him - in New Zealand Parliament Buildings of all places (where they have respective careers).
I love that two very smart, eloquent women such as Amanda and Shaye are telling their story. They are paving the way for innumerable people to forge their own path.
You are both wonderful siblings to each other. 💜💜
I couldn’t love or admire you both more right now and I thank you for this beautiful, raw and honest vlog. Much love from Australia. 💐💕
“My religion is LOVE” ❤ I stay with this. Thanks 🙏
I cried my eyes out watching this. Trans or not this is extremely relatable for any and everyone, the path to authenticity is often painful but so worth it. We’re born with all these “expectations” ….from society, our parents…
Absolutely love the “Great Scotts” the unconditional love is beautiful!! Skylar is amazing!! I totally wish there were more men like Skylar and women like Shaye & Amanda!! Love you guys!!
This is so beautiful. I’m also raised LDS. I’m lesbian. I’m single and childless. I’m at the point where I go to church for the social aspect because I literally have no life or friends outside of it. I’m also a recovering alcoholic and addict. Go figure with all of the self-hate I experienced growing up. I’ve been in denial for so long. Thank you for having this conversation. This is going to help so many others like you, and like me. The church is supposed to be so good and accepting and loving yet I feel like a total outsider. I’m just so grateful to you both for sharing this.
God bless both of you and your families.
Your stories are amazing. I've been watching you both and I'm amazed at your strengths and love. Please keep growing! We stopped going to church after our trans daughter came out to us.
23:20 "Connecting with ourselves is connecting with the Divine". So true !!!
Shaye, i have to say I am incredibly proud of you. I’ve followed skyler for awhile and had no idea your channel existed until the video you guys made where you helped him shop for clothes. I hate to admit that I judged you before I watched any of your videos, but now I can see how beautiful of a person you really are and it’s taught me to not judge people just because they are different from you. Please continue to spread your light.
P.s. we share the same name and I can’t think of anyone cooler to share my name with!
What a beautiful conversation with two divine & genuinely loving people. The world needs more of this. ❤❤❤
You both are amazing finding your true selves and finding your own connection with God is so important!❤
The gentleness and compassion that pour out from their souls. So pure ❤❤❤
Such a powerful video!! Thank you so much for sharing your hearts with us!! ❤
Beautiful video, and I applaude both of you for your courage to create it and share it. There are so many great points and truths in it that will surely help everyone learn about their own journey to live their own true life.
Thank you, Shaye and Skyler! Truly beautiful inside and out.
This is a beautiful family . Not all families are this way ! They are first of all able to communicate , they are calm and dignified . This is Love ❤ . The world and all of us should take example !
You two are awesome. As an only child, I am really envious of the sibling love and support you show here. 😊
WOW, what a great vlog. Fellas just be happy. We can't conform to what people think we should be. Finally you are being yourself . The Lord is with you. Blessings
Amazing so beautiful. Thank you so much for this ministry. You are really awakening minds and hearts, and such a comfort and inspiration.
Thank you so much for being out. I can't imagine how difficult it is, but being out is directly helping my family and so many other people who are navigating gender dysphoria. My grandson came out as trans at 8, having absolutely no idea that trans was a thing, and he wasn't the only one. He didn't know what was happening to him, or why, and thankfully he's in a family that is so accepting, loving, inclusive and supportive, much like yours. Older (than him) trans people who are out pave the way for him to live his truest, authentic self in a safer, more inclusive world. I know you take so, so many hits for this, but please don't forget that you literally are creating inroads for the next generations coming up behind you! Normalizing this is incredibly important and it's families like yours that make gender dysphoria and trans a normal human experience that families can navigate together. Again, thank you.
I was able to heal so much through plant medicines! Peyote, mushrooms and cannabis allowed me to heal the traumas of being raised in the church by abusive parents. Plant medicines are just so incredibly beautiful and I'm glad you're normalizing this as well!
Thank you all for making this video. It’s easy to see the love you share between you. Very interesting about the “ plant medicine “ . Seems that it can be very very helpful for people. Following you both for years now,and will continue. Cheers from Canada 🇨🇦
Beautifully said...I am a deeply spiritual person that prescribes to no organised religion. The divine is within all of us, I am so glad you are both finding love and peace.
Kids do come into the world with love, its the same with skin color. My niece made a brown skin avatar in animal crossing and her mom asked "Your'e not that tan" and she replies with "but shes beautiful mom!".
I’m having such a moment lol. I had no idea you two were siblings! I used to watch Skylar and the kids all the time back in the day! Much love from Wisconsin
Thank you for speaking to all of this. There's so much political and cultural fighting and battling (some of which is necessary to maintain safety and dignity)z it's refreshing to just see people being people, being family.
My heart rejoiced when she spoke of going to mushrooms to get rid of being trans and they instead opened her up to authenticity and self love. I still can feel it in me when I experienced a moment like that!
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As a straight man and being chirstan your family and other families that are gay lesbian or are in heterosexual relationships this shows what it means to love one another and also have faith in God and Jesus because he created everybody and we are all different and unique. And those relationships and in your video here that shows this is what love is. Period.
You two are wonderful! Thanks for sharing ❤️
I just want to give her such a big hug seeing all those emotions surface.
❤️It's your honesty, and this love, that will heal those raw wounds.
Thankyou both, for counselling thousands with this video❤️
thank you so much for this Shaye and Skyler, for your openness. I know that this video is going to help so many people. :)
The positive affirming ripples from this video you two beautiful people have created will reach far and wide ❤
Your brother is AMAZING!! Y’all really are the Great Scotts! 💕
Shaye I'm really happy for you. You are so fortunate to have such great supporters. 💚💙💜💚💙💜
Awakening ❤️👏👏this is so beautiful. Thank you Shay for helping us understand more about what transgender people go through. 🙏☀️
Thank you for sharing. My daughter is transgender and I love her for who she is. Transgender is not bad it just is. I subscribed tonight and I really want to say thank you again for sharing.
Love listening to you both talk about your experiences and the way you view life. You will inspire others. So much of what is in our internal talk doesn't need to exist when it's causing so much pain. We do no one including our selves any service continuing that narrative. People will always find ways to hate what they don't understand and haven't allowed themselves the opportunity to evaluate why those thoughts even exist to begin with. Beautiful ❣️
Thanks for sharing, i think being ones genuine self, no matter how that looks, is so refreshing. The amount of hate in this world is just sad, and its true children are pure, its how there raised that creates the divide, being yourself, is the best gift you can give yourself. ❤
It’s so interesting listening to both sides of your experience. We should all be allowed to live the life we want to and be accepted for who we are. Shaye is really beautiful. Skylar you are an amazing brother and obviously an amazing father too x
I don't know what to say. Just commenting for the algorithm.
Also, on a more selfish note, anyone who sees this and is a praying kind of person, please put in a good word for my trans daughter. She's going through a rough time. Thank you.
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just prayed! praying things get better soon, hoping for the best for her + for you. glad she has you to support her; i hope you have support as well. 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
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“just commenting for the algorithm” - Love this! All the best to you and your daughter. She is fortunate to have you. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🦄💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🤎🖤
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What a great video! These two seems so natural answering each other's questions and are so supportive of each other! I would also love to hear them create a podcast to just to hear them talk about other stuff in their lives too. P.S. Shaye's plaid pants look so chic and stylish! ❤ Great looking sleveless top too! ❤
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Thank you for sharing.
I use Pscylaciben & Amanita (separately) for my C-PTSD from DV & abuse.
I've also studied Emotions and Metaphysical Kinesiology.
Do you have any Emotions and Metaphysical Kinesiologist therapists in America? This modality supports on going this spring board with plant medicines as well.
I'm so proud of you both.
You're both so worthy, valued, loved and appreciated
yes these kinds of substances can really help some trans people both with transition and also with healing from other things. in the medicine space it makes complete sense for a trans person to be authentic, and also see how mental/cultural conditioning gets in the way of that.
Thank you two for your great service in this discussion! Do you offer a “Siblings Consulting” counseling program? 🙃 Kind of wish you had the time for that. 😊 🌈s are for everyone ❤❤
Absolutely amazing and so important and I am so proud of you both. My heart is overflowing with care and love. Thank you both, so very much.
Could you talk more about that clinic and plant based med you took? PTSD is something that seems very hard to conquer in talk therapy or EMDR. I’d be very interested in a video on that - perhaps with your physician friend who runs the clinic to answer questions?
Thanks again for this brave and important video.
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I’m so proud that you are finally you❤️ I’ve watched you and your family from day one.
What a powerful and honest conversation. Eureka moment. 🙌🏽 best from Cancun 🌊
go forth and slay 🙌🏻 beautiful video
I am curious to know how your transition has (not) affected your professional career as a videographer. Do you still do work for clients in that field (I remember videos of a piano group)? And if yes, how is it to show up in that world as a female/ trans professional, compared to showing up as a male professional. Besides that I would like to say that the rhythm and volume of your voice and your choice of words are soothing to me.
Shaye has an amazing brother, he is so lucky.
Aww, what a lovely brother to have. And so glad that both of you have found your path to be true to yourselves. I was raised to be an atheist, and found my way to paganism, so I can't imagine what it's like to be raised mormon. But you both seem great people. Big love :)
You two are so dang beautiful. Seriously wonderful humans. Keep being your badass selves 🥰🥰😎😎
i love that your bond is the same no matter what. that is true and pure love for a sibling.
I truly feel like everyone should live how they want to. Stay in your lane and be happy. And let others be happy.
Thank you for this video, I have been following Five Two Love since the beginning. And I just came across this video and it helped me understand a little bit better what my brothers child is going through he was adopted as a girl at birth and now and the last year and a half or so, we’ve been calling by the name he asked to be called I know wants to be known as a male. There are a lot of questions I have and would like to ask him some day to help me understand more. As Skylar said he didn’t know, he never saw it. As our family didn’t see any signs at all. Although he lived as a female there were problems growing up the cutting and some other things of self harm. He is of legal age now and my family has always accepted him as he is now but still hard to understand and have questions.
Thanks for your video.
What a beautiful family and sibling relationship. Huge love to Shaye and Skyler.
I hear the Utah community of “Mormons” can be pretty rough. Growing up in Arizona it seems to me that Mormon culture wasn’t quite as stifling. I bucked against what bit of it I came up against and seem to have survived it intact. I do find joy in my activity in the church but do see how one could feel stifled by the cultural behavior based inaccurately upon personal interpretation of the principles. I do appreciate you sharing your feelings and experiences as it helps me know how I can avoid such toxic behavior and become a better follower of Christ.
Oh, I'm so glad you have a big brother like this! Shaye, why are you giving Guinevere Turner vibes?? LOL You really look like her here. It's crazy!
My trans wife and i are ex-Mormon too. Both sides of our families are still very active. Luckily my wife has had support from both families.
Beautiful video. Thank you for being vulnerable and authentic. You are beautiful! Thank you for sharing
"This is who I am. Send me to Hell." THIS BROKE ME. Jesus Absolutely still loves you. I don't think ANYONE can say for a fact, how God will "judge" us when the time comes. No one is perfect. No one. I am sending you Thee Biggest Hug ❤