This helped so much. I just wanted my ex wife to hold me so I didn’t feel all alone. I did his exercise and imagined myself as a little boy needing a hug, and then the adult me came up and hugged the little me. I was able to soothe myself and the disappointment of my ex wife left.👍🏻
Noah, You can’t imagine how much you have helped me. I’ve healed more in one week that 3 yrs of therapy combined. I’m a big guy and played professional football, but this recent heartbreak took a toll. This is the first time I have ever had my heartbroken. I can’t believe how far that I’ve come in a week. Thanks again.
Hi Dustin, sending you all the spiritual blessings you need... we all have someone whom we want and can't have. Sometimes they vary at different points in time but yes, our inner child always gets affected and therefore needs our love.
@@carolebingham7262 you have to. The reason why you are feeling that way is that you are probably feeling alone. Feeling alone is just that, a feeling. Do things to help you not feel so lonely. What I like to do is, I say to myself, “Dustin, it’s just an emotion. You will be ok.” It’s kind of a self soothing mechanism for me. Then I actually grab the feeling in my hands and physically throw it over my shoulder. I go out with friends, or even by myself. A call people. You have to keep yourself occupied. I hope this helps. I promise, you will get through this.
This was one of the most helpful videos I’ve watched on this subject. After I did the exercise, I immediately felt a shift in my feeling towards them and was able to sleep that night. I then saw them face to face and did not feel any compulsive desire to initiate contact. I was at peace and no longer anxious. I am watching this video for a second time.
This was it. I'm in a new relationship after 6 years of being single. I'd have these highs where I'd be absolutely in love and then the moment it's not reciprocated I would spiral. I'm realizing this is just my own trauma. And I've been trying to figure out how to fix it. I've always seen myself as confident and "don't need anyone to make me happy" before this started. I stopped giving these thoughts all my energy and started putting it back into myself. And I feel so much better. I'm going to take a healthier approach to this and go slow.
Wow, thinking of my ex as my drug of choice and using them for my own benefit has seriously struck a chord within me. Thank you for making me accept some responsibilty for the downfall of the relationship, I've been ruminating and pushing away these feelings for so long. Currently in one of my darkest periods and your video has really helped.
Thank you for this. I didn't know my childhood trauma was the root of my obsessive love disorder. I will be comforting the inner child and embracing the pain of lonliness from now on.
Thank you so much for this video. It rescued me from another night of looping obsessive thoughts about my ex. You said a lot of what I’m afraid to admit to anyone. Thank you thank you
This was one of the most helpful videos on this subject that I’ve ever watched, it allowed to cry for the first time looking at my 4/5 year old inner child trying to deal with the sadness she felt when she was judged and rejected by some of the adults in my family. Thank ever so much for your gift!🙏🏼
Thank you! This helped me a lot. At my age, almost 60, I never thought I would be in this situation again, so I didn't know how to get beyond it. What you talked us through not only had me weeping, but I really think you hit on exactly what I needed to do. Wow!
I remember listening to this in the middle of a very painful relationship. I don’t remember if I made it through the whole exercise but today I was able to complete the whole thing and I had a release of sadness and a lightness that followed. I’m in a healthy relationship now but I still have moments of panicked abandonment thoughts and loneliness. I’m going to include this in my meditation exercises so I can continue to process through! At least as much as I can in this lifetime. 💖🙏💖
@@NoahElkrief Hey Noah can I overcome and forget my 3 year old one sided love ? I have never talked to that girl just saw her barely 10-12 times and obsessed since that day I saw her for first time
Omg!! I have never commented on any video ever!! This is my first time because I’ve watched so many videos on TH-cam regarding limerence which I have struggled with for years and this is life changing! It’s like an eye opener..
Thank you so much Noah for taking your time & making this video. Fantasising about people, and having desirable conversation in my head with them is the thing i have been struggling with my whole life. It's something i really want to get rid off. I will watch your video several times & practise those exercises. I will upgrade you in some weeks/months.
Thank you so very much!! That was amazing!! I didn’t know what I was lacking ……..I was unaware of the lack of warmth in my childhood…I went to boarding school a 5 and 3/4 year old…..and I’m 74 now……..so I’ve gone back and picked up that lonely little girl on the beach and given her really big cuddles and told her how much I love her….and that empty gap/ache in my belly that I have whenever I’m not with the guy that I obsess over….. is gone for now…if I feel it again….. going to watch this repeatedly until that feeling has gone for good ….you are truly amazing and again thank you so very much
I had a break up after 3 years of relationship. We're spent almost everyday talk to eachother, have some sweet moments like playing games or watching TH-cam videos together. It's almost a year and a half since she left but the hurt feeling still exists in my heart, it makes me feels empty, incomplete, desperate, and sometimes suicidal. I watched your "How to Deal with Break Up" playlist recently, and it definitely help me to change my perspective of what should make me happy. I feel so much better and feel peace inside my heart, feelings that I've never been feel since a year and a half ago. Thank you for your help, it really changed me and i hope we always feel peace like this and never experience such a pain ever again ❤️
@itsfudge You wrote this 2 years ago. If you're seeing this and care to share. how are you doing now? My situation, now on day 1 of 2025 is very similar. We were together 4 years and have been in no contact over 3 months now. I found this video. I think about her either constantly, or she's in the back of my mind. I'll feel like I'm healing, then get pulled back into the darkness. I don't want to use her to fill a giant hole in myself- a hole that's probably been there years before I ever met her. But she's the only woman who has been able to be a romantic partner and companion and friend. but also provide almost a Mother like nurturing - and that scares me because I don't know if I can heal from this one.
@@SCnative64 Hi! Thanks for asking, now my situation is much better because i finally made peace with myself. 5 stages of grief are no easy feat, sometimes took very long time, but believe me it will come to an end. Pushing and pulling between "feeling healed" and "feeling sad" is a normal phase for grieving process. All you need to do is focus on yourself and try to embrace the good things around you. Maybe you still have families, good friends, or others that truly care for you, or maybe you have some hobbies, passion, or dreams that you still have to fulfill, those are great medium to get through all of the struggle. No matter how dark the cave is, there's always a hint of light in the end of the road. Even if you only could crawl your way, eventually you'll get there soon. Good luck, all my best wishes for you 😊
@itsfudge_ So happy to hear you're feeling much better and that you have peace! Thank you for what you said. Even she wished me peace, in a text back in last May.
Grazie, sto combattendo contro l'insonnia e sono oltre i 50 anni. Mi hai aiutato tanto. Ho adesso uno strumento in più. Se solo sapessi quanto bene fai a tutti noi! ✨🤗
When all the pain was coming up during the exercise, I saw a vision of myself in Utero at the minute my soul entered the fetus and there was dark red and black energy swirling all around. The pain started before I was even born-- absorbing it from my mother. Now I'm feeling like I not only need to parent, but also "birth" myself if that makes sense. Welcome myself to the world. This is one of the best healings Ive ever done! I've been watching dozens of videos tonight on how to stop obsessing, but none of them seemed to get to the true root in a quick way like this did. I did feel an immediate neutralization, and the power of the fantasy dropped from 100% to a "meh" can live with them or without them, which is exactly where I wanted to get to. Thank you so so much!
man i love you very very very very very very much! i cant describe the amount of love i have for you right now. i wish you all best in your life, you made me find myself, i finally saw it, i finally i love u i love me
Thank you so much Mr.Noah. I will definitely heal myself from today and will never depend on others for my own happiness after this. Once again, thank you so much.
Just at the end when you said those instances are not ment to be feared and hided from but seen as opportunities to deal with all this, I finally felt better and the image if the person has less power. It doesn't feel like a damnation and hell anymore when the person disappeares. Also, when you said that the person is my drug - I already knew that but somehow it helped. Thank you, Noah, a million times!
Noah, I've been going through countless videos and podcasts regarding how to heal from a broken heart and obsessing over my ex. Today, I found your video. I've healed more in thirty minutes than I have in the last two months. You're a godsend. I appreciate you! Love, peace, and happiness to you brother.🙏
This is definitely helpful😊, the whole video is elaborate, not only allowing me to feel less worthless, lacking, and upset for girl that I spent a week with in summer from another city, but also guiding me to realize what has been negatively affecting me for years deep in my mind then to face it.
I first found you're work in 2017 after my wife left and after my latest breakup I kept trying to remember your name, glad it clicked and.glad you've done more content 😊
Thank you very much for not letting me being a “drug addict”😉..eventhough I do learn about psychology, still I need someone like you to remind me😁..keep up the good work and thank you again..what just happened before this, by now it make me stronger from within😁..with full of love from Malaysia🇲🇾
I have heard a lot of people talking about “connecting with your inner child” and I never understand that, I thought it was useless and I didn’t know how to connect with my inner child. But this video helped me so much. I always blamed how I feel today because of my past trauma, because my mama neglected me emotionally as a child or because my dad isn’t here now to give me hugs and comfort. I always had the same scenario in my head of kid me crying and I didn’t know what to do with it, this video helped me feel my inner child pain and hug it. I thought that I could never feel loved because my mama didn’t give it to me as much as I needed. But for the first time I could feel my inner child, I hugged my inner child and said “I see you” and “I love you”. It’s funny because that’s all I needed to hear as a kid, all I wanted was a hug and I feel so safe now, It’s like I helped my inner child to calm down and feel loved even though this happened years ago.Thank you so much.
You left nothing untouched and it felt like you're holding my hands when I was reaching out to my inner child..you've helped both (my child and adult self) healed today 🙏🌻 May this video reach out to millions and spread the light and support you've made feel today 🙏 Thankyou so much to the wisdom in you and the effort you put to make this video ❤❤ we love you and look upto you 🤗🤗
This video helped me a lot Noah. I really needed this... In the past I had already done the exercise of comforting my inner child, but i never did it with the image of the animals around me....and it helped me so much! From now on, I will keep these animals around me to heal my heart whenever i need it.
Having you guide me though that was exactly what I needed. I have only ever sat as my inner child and told her in her own mind all of these things but once I stepped in and went through a full days routine of being that picture perfect mom who just did everything right that day, all of the stuck pain and where it was hiding became clear. Just this morning I told my inner child that we needed to clean out the toy box and get rid of all the broken toys and ones we don't play with anymore. I thought that would be a process over time but this video did exactly that. Now I can see the toys I don't want and the ones that are broken. I have let the limiting beliefs of others make me feel small and worthless and that I cannot do things on my own. They were all wrong. I cannot thank you enough for this session.
This is such an answer to prayer! This came at a perfect time in my healing journey! I've been in a stuck place regarding a relationship and I really feel I got to break through with your video. I've been looking for the care and being seen by my parental figures and so I invited Mary and Joseph, the parents of Jesus, to come into my visualization. I'm going to continue to do that regularly thanks to you. God bless you and thank you!
This is really good advice and great techniques. I think another reason someone might obsesse is when they have an intuitive knowing there is a connection with a person which was unactualised. For me personally it's not about what the other person can give me, it's about what we could give each other. The beauty that exist in me and the beauty that exists in this person wants to merge and become beautiful. Its the desire to love that person and make them happy,
This is maybe your best video, thanks Noah. It's absolutely disempowering and bull**** to think like that. To overload your partner with it, and for yourself, making yourself dependant. Like they can give it to you or not (good example: your drug pusher). I don't want nothing, don't give me anything, I'm not going to expect anything anymore, because I've had it. It didn't work out. I was longing for it for 15-20 years.
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been dealing with insomnia and I always thnk about my ex before I sleep. It’s a heavy feeling for 2 yrs. Glad I found your videos. It’s spot on! 🥰✨
Thank you Noah for yo help. From childhood, i used to fantasize about soccer players and later when I grew up, I started watching Korean dramas and K-Pop stars n i became a great fan which later turned into obsession n I normally find myself day dreaming about how it would feel to be with them and it's tiresome and frustrating. N it's time wasting
I thought my ex-husband was the only person that could give me the feeling I want, but I have a whole new perspective now. Thank you for being kind & understanding instead of judgmental like some of the other podcasts on limerence. You helped me step-by-step to figure out it's not my fault that my mom didn't make me feel loved. For the first time, I figured out what her real problem was. I always thought it was something else. Also, for the first time, I figured out that it's me and God who can give me the love I need. I've heard that before, but never "felt" it until going through this process with you. I'm aware now that I wasn't truly loving my ex-husband. I was trying to get from him what "I" needed, and treated him like a limerent object instead of a person & friend. We recently began communicating again, and I started feeling like I was on an emotional roller coaster, but I feel peaceful now after this video. I can't thank you enough for your help. God bless you! 🙏
Yes! I need 3 or 4 male lion guardians, an eagle guardian and maybe a loving dog. I can't even have the dog now, but I signed up to volunteer at the humane society. Hopefully they get back with me soon. I did some volunteering over the holidays for Thanksgiving and that felt good too. I feel like when I'm of service to others and with a group, my inner child is seen and acknowledged and I'm able to "forget" myself or thoughts of who I think I so need to come back to me.
Wow bro, i almost clicked off as soon as the video started but I'm glad i stayed until the end... I feel like i learned a lot about myself and current situations that made me look at the whole world in a new light. Powerful stuff brother, thank you!
She (along with a bunch other synchronicities) made me believe she was my twin flame. After a lifetime of being rejected by family, friends and society, despite my fierce independence I allowed myself to believe this time I'd have something that felt like home, that was truly meant for me. The TF concept spoke to my desire since childhood of being loyal and fiercely committed to ONE woman and was "meant" for me. And who is more "meant for you" in ths whole of the universe than your TF right? :) So she gives me the feeling 1)I'm doing the RIGHT thing, the right choice my soul intended for me all along 2) my above-average loyalty in relationships IS meant to me, is okay, I'm okay being this loyal (even though I get "stuck" in 1 or 2 people my whole life). And on top of that is the feeling of being wanted by someone AS I AM. I never had that anywhere. Thanks for the video Noah :)
I have love addiction or limerence. Today I discovered where I get it from. At around 6 years of age, I was separated from my grandma and maternal uncles I was living with and forcibly taken to live with my mother. She let me stay with my granny and uncles all these years and at 6 , she suddenly woke up from her slumber and decided I needed to live with her. I feel like it was just another battle for her to be won. She never loved me unconditionally. I was beaten up frequently. I was not allowed to express my sorrow. I now realise my missing my ex-es actually stems from that sorrow of separation. I have experienced this over and over in my life , after every break up. I was able to give myself the unconditional love that I needed in this session.
When i was in pain immediately after breakup, i listened to lyllaby, it soothed me.We Can soothe ourselves,Our inner child but.But.We cant be in romantic relationship with ourselves.I run From excistential emptyness, monotony of life, boredom.
Thank you so much, I really needed this right now. To feel seen, heard and held. To come back to myself, to the love inside me. It also really helped to be reminded of generational trauma that we carry and that we no longer need to carry this, we can let it go with love. Thank you! Love and light ❤️🙏🏼
I have to say this, u are indeed a savior Mr. Noah!! To us who ruminate and obsessed with the thought we were running in our minds..... ,a very difficullt habit of mine that I struggled to change, i saw many videos to change this version of mine but none except urs it gave me a way , a spark to handle this obssessive me and my thoughts! I'm so happy that I landed here, hope I will change with what you thought us, it was very logical human nature that I should understand and not be hard on myself, and change with time! Thank u once again!!!!
Physical abuse memories from childhood came up during this and it felt like a panic attack. But it also exposes more the direct correlation between what I am seeking in a person to my basic human needs for safety and love as a child being denied
I have been searching my Every relationship problems in youtube to Quora like no contact to how to get your ex back.. finally I have found the best channel to help me overcome my anxiety. Namaste🙏
I have crush on someone i have not met or know much abt also with whom i know its difficult to be with still tht obsessive thoughts abt it keep running in my mind ,hope this video helps me to get out of it
Daaaamnnn when u said how old do you see yourself as when you feel this certian feeling kinda hit. I thought I was over feeling jealous. Truth is I either dont care or care to much, and when I care too much I tend to be jelous as much as I admit I may not be. I feel the need of attention for all I've done for them, why do they go for someone else? Or if I think they may want someone else I feel betrayed as a little kid waiting for something pure as a genuine surprise and attention from them.
Your videos are the only ones that have gotten to the core of my pain. Thank you so much Noah. I didn’t even need to imagine the person I was obsessing over is gone - they are! They told me they have a new gf and are leaving the country. I was so heartbroken but slowly the pain is going away and I’m facing the feelings I’ve been avoiding. It could only be done this way. And as much as it hurts I’ll never see or hear his voice again or feel his touch… it’s out of my control. It is what it is. I gotta fill my own cup. I refuse to be an addicted junkie… boy bye. I get high on my own supply. Thank you 💔
I hope this works for people. I'm kind of stuck because the person I obsess over I have to see and I have to be civil and I have to deal with it. I figure I may as well keep trying different techniques to get her to like me since I have to see her. I guess the way I will stop obsessing is by meeting someone who gives me what I want or if this current person and I are separated from our current situation. Once she or I am gone I will probably be relieved.
When I amplified the feeling to the max, I felt like a tennis ball size hole in my heart. When you ask the age, I felt about two or three. When you told me to be the child or the adult comforting the child, I wanted to be the child that felt that feeling. Then I hugged my pillow and first thought it was my dad who left when I was around 2 or 3, and he later died. But what comforted me more was my adult self hugging my childhood self. I've always ran from me. But I feel like I need me! I've been so lost looking to other people.
Thank you so much, I no longer feel the need right now to need anything from someone who I find attractive, I felt it, I also felt the other side to it in terms of what feeling am I avoiding, even if this is temporary I feel so free, I cannot describe how thankful I am even for this temporary state that I am in 💜💜
Wow . U really hit the mail on the head . Seek and ye shall find . What an amazing, insightful and wonderful video u made to identify and release my pain from deep in my heart . I have been saving I had a knot in my heart I didn’t know how to get out. Thank you!! 🙏🏼
awesome video. Thanks so much it really helped. I felt lack and being abandoned and no one to back me up, i Imagined the older me gving me and showing me abundance of options and resources in life whilst also giving me security back up and being reliable and invested in boosting my confidence and being there for me. Thanks again.
I can't descride how this video changed my whole mindset, finaly I feel relieved and free. Thank you so much noah there's definitely no words to descride my feelings now❤❤
WOW thank you sir you are like angel 👼 on here on earth I have been non stop crying because a close friend doesn’t want to talk me anymore and I was knew it was deeper feeling from all the men in my left leaving me feeling alone or abandoned and then the mom Pain bonding part I had thought about that yesterday asking myself did she program me to think I need someone but WOW i feel so much better I felt like I was in a therapy session, I am now and be after better and strong and loving to know no matter what I’ll be fine ❤❤❤ thanks to you ….. honestly I love your channel your a blessing to people and TH-cam I know I don’t even know u like I really have been struggling this for a while& I just happened to click and listen ….SENDING love abundance and success 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I just stumbled upon your channel and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed to hear what you shared. As i listened to you, i went to places that I've resisted for years. I cried from places that I didn't even know existed in my body. As painful as all of this is, your words have helped me to start my journey to finally love and embrace myself and not depend on other people to provide that for me. Although beginning to explore these dark places hurt like hell, I believe that it's a good beginning... Thank you again Noah. 💙
I needed this Noah! First time listening and will definitely do it repeatedly. Been obsessing about this person since last year, tried different methods to get him out of my head and hopefully your video will help ❤️
Thank you for the video! My issue has always been the same, for reasons too long to explain in a comment, me and the love of my life where not allowed to be together and that feeling of incompleteness, the feeling of not having the opportunity to either succeed or fail has robbed me of the ability to move forward. It’s like being taken out of a theater half way through a movie and never knowing the ending. Could it have gone good? Could it have gone bad? I’ll never know….
I hear you Dan. The freedom comes from discovering she couldn't have possibly made you happy. And from allowing the fullness of grief. Check out my relationship playlist.
Lmao Ive been knew Im longing for gentleness and feeling safe. But this video just confirmed it. That poor person Ive been obsessing with being an object of projection for my own wounds. Very depressing situation but that's just life I suppose. Thanks for the video!
This helped so much. I just wanted my ex wife to hold me so I didn’t feel all alone.
I did his exercise and imagined myself as a little boy needing a hug, and then the adult me came up and hugged the little me. I was able to soothe myself and the disappointment of my ex wife left.👍🏻
Noah,
You can’t imagine how much you have helped me. I’ve healed more in one week that 3 yrs of therapy combined.
I’m a big guy and played professional football, but this recent heartbreak took a toll. This is the first time I have ever had my heartbroken. I can’t believe how far that I’ve come in a week.
Thanks again.
Hi Dustin, sending you all the spiritual blessings you need... we all have someone whom we want and can't have. Sometimes they vary at different points in time but yes, our inner child always gets affected and therefore needs our love.
I can't let go
@@carolebingham7262 you have to.
The reason why you are feeling that way is that you are probably feeling alone. Feeling alone is just that, a feeling. Do things to help you not feel so lonely. What I like to do is, I say to myself, “Dustin, it’s just an emotion. You will be ok.” It’s kind of a self soothing mechanism for me. Then I actually grab the feeling in my hands and physically throw it over my shoulder. I go out with friends, or even by myself. A call people. You have to keep yourself occupied. I hope this helps.
I promise, you will get through this.
This was one of the most helpful videos I’ve watched on this subject. After I did the exercise, I immediately felt a shift in my feeling towards them and was able to sleep that night. I then saw them face to face and did not feel any compulsive desire to initiate contact. I was at peace and no longer anxious. I am watching this video for a second time.
This was it. I'm in a new relationship after 6 years of being single. I'd have these highs where I'd be absolutely in love and then the moment it's not reciprocated I would spiral. I'm realizing this is just my own trauma. And I've been trying to figure out how to fix it. I've always seen myself as confident and "don't need anyone to make me happy" before this started. I stopped giving these thoughts all my energy and started putting it back into myself. And I feel so much better. I'm going to take a healthier approach to this and go slow.
Wow, thinking of my ex as my drug of choice and using them for my own benefit has seriously struck a chord within me. Thank you for making me accept some responsibilty for the downfall of the relationship, I've been ruminating and pushing away these feelings for so long. Currently in one of my darkest periods and your video has really helped.
Thank you for this. I didn't know my childhood trauma was the root of my obsessive love disorder. I will be comforting the inner child and embracing the pain of lonliness from now on.
Thank you so much for this video. It rescued me from another night of looping obsessive thoughts about my ex. You said a lot of what I’m afraid to admit to anyone. Thank you thank you
Your video is amazing and really touched me. I’m sure you know this, but you are helping so many people with this message. Thank you again.😢
This was one of the most helpful videos on this subject that I’ve ever watched, it allowed to cry for the first time looking at my 4/5 year old inner child trying to deal with the sadness she felt when she was judged and rejected by some of the adults in my family. Thank ever so much for your gift!🙏🏼
Thank you! This helped me a lot. At my age, almost 60, I never thought I would be in this situation again, so I didn't know how to get beyond it. What you talked us through not only had me weeping, but I really think you hit on exactly what I needed to do. Wow!
You are so welcome Tony!
I remember listening to this in the middle of a very painful relationship. I don’t remember if I made it through the whole exercise but today I was able to complete the whole thing and I had a release of sadness and a lightness that followed. I’m in a healthy relationship now but I still have moments of panicked abandonment thoughts and loneliness. I’m going to include this in my meditation exercises so I can continue to process through! At least as much as I can in this lifetime. 💖🙏💖
I didn't expect to find something so powerful on TH-cam - thank you.
This was therapy. Unbelievable what this half hour brought about. Thank you so much. 😍
How did you know I needed this today?
:) I'm here for you Vania
@@NoahElkrief Thank you 💕
@@NoahElkrief Hey Noah can I overcome and forget my 3 year old one sided love ? I have never talked to that girl just saw her barely 10-12 times and obsessed since that day I saw her for first time
When he said where’s daddy and mommy it just made all the sense it needed to make.
"Sammy was low... Just watching the show, over and over again. Knew it was time, he made up his mind, to leave his dead life behind..."
- Queen
Omg!! I have never commented on any video ever!! This is my first time because I’ve watched so many videos on TH-cam regarding limerence which I have struggled with for years and this is life changing! It’s like an eye opener..
Thank you so much Noah for taking your time & making this video. Fantasising about people, and having desirable conversation in my head with them is the thing i have been struggling with my whole life. It's something i really want to get rid off. I will watch your video several times & practise those exercises. I will upgrade you in some weeks/months.
Thank you so very much!! That was amazing!!
I didn’t know what I was lacking ……..I was unaware of the lack of warmth in my childhood…I went to boarding school a 5 and 3/4 year old…..and I’m 74 now……..so I’ve gone back and picked up that lonely little girl on the beach and given her really big cuddles and told her how much I love her….and that empty gap/ache in my belly that I have whenever I’m not with the guy that I obsess over….. is gone for now…if I feel it again….. going to watch this repeatedly until that feeling has gone for good ….you are truly amazing and again thank you so very much
I had a break up after 3 years of relationship. We're spent almost everyday talk to eachother, have some sweet moments like playing games or watching TH-cam videos together. It's almost a year and a half since she left but the hurt feeling still exists in my heart, it makes me feels empty, incomplete, desperate, and sometimes suicidal.
I watched your "How to Deal with Break Up" playlist recently, and it definitely help me to change my perspective of what should make me happy. I feel so much better and feel peace inside my heart, feelings that I've never been feel since a year and a half ago.
Thank you for your help, it really changed me and i hope we always feel peace like this and never experience such a pain ever again ❤️
@itsfudge You wrote this 2 years ago. If you're seeing this and care to share. how are you doing now?
My situation, now on day 1 of 2025 is very similar. We were together 4 years and have been in no contact over 3 months now. I found this video. I think about her either constantly, or she's in the back of my mind. I'll feel like I'm healing, then get pulled back into the darkness. I don't want to use her to fill a giant hole in myself- a hole that's probably been there years before I ever met her. But she's the only woman who has been able to be a romantic partner and companion and friend. but also provide almost a Mother like nurturing - and that scares me because I don't know if I can heal from this one.
@@SCnative64 Hi! Thanks for asking, now my situation is much better because i finally made peace with myself. 5 stages of grief are no easy feat, sometimes took very long time, but believe me it will come to an end.
Pushing and pulling between "feeling healed" and "feeling sad" is a normal phase for grieving process. All you need to do is focus on yourself and try to embrace the good things around you. Maybe you still have families, good friends, or others that truly care for you, or maybe you have some hobbies, passion, or dreams that you still have to fulfill, those are great medium to get through all of the struggle.
No matter how dark the cave is, there's always a hint of light in the end of the road. Even if you only could crawl your way, eventually you'll get there soon.
Good luck, all my best wishes for you 😊
@itsfudge_ So happy to hear you're feeling much better and that you have peace! Thank you for what you said. Even she wished me peace, in a text back in last May.
Grazie, sto combattendo contro l'insonnia e sono oltre i 50 anni. Mi hai aiutato tanto. Ho adesso uno strumento in più. Se solo sapessi quanto bene fai a tutti noi! ✨🤗
This video. Oh my goodness. Im a grown 29 year old man and this..wow.
When all the pain was coming up during the exercise, I saw a vision of myself in Utero at the minute my soul entered the fetus and there was dark red and black energy swirling all around.
The pain started before I was even born-- absorbing it from my mother. Now I'm feeling like I not only need to parent, but also "birth" myself if that makes sense. Welcome myself to the world.
This is one of the best healings Ive ever done! I've been watching dozens of videos tonight on how to stop obsessing, but none of them seemed to get to the true root in a quick way like this did. I did feel an immediate neutralization, and the power of the fantasy dropped from 100% to a "meh" can live with them or without them, which is exactly where I wanted to get to.
Thank you so so much!
Amazing! You're so welcome. Thanks for sharing with me. I'm happy I could help.
man i love you very very very very very very much! i cant describe the amount of love i have for you right now. i wish you all best in your life, you made me find myself, i finally saw it, i finally i love u i love me
Thank you so much Mr.Noah. I will definitely heal myself from today and will never depend on others for my own happiness after this. Once again, thank you so much.
Just at the end when you said those instances are not ment to be feared and hided from but seen as opportunities to deal with all this, I finally felt better and the image if the person has less power. It doesn't feel like a damnation and hell anymore when the person disappeares. Also, when you said that the person is my drug - I already knew that but somehow it helped. Thank you, Noah, a million times!
You're very welcome Veroniqueme! Thanks for sharing with me.
For me it's always comforting to listen to what you have to say.
Noah, I've been going through countless videos and podcasts regarding how to heal from a broken heart and obsessing over my ex. Today, I found your video. I've healed more in thirty minutes than I have in the last two months. You're a godsend. I appreciate you! Love, peace, and happiness to you brother.🙏
I'm really happy I could help you David!
Same, David! His content has helped so deeply with my heartbreak, too! I hope you’re healing & feeling a lot better 🙏🏽
This is definitely helpful😊, the whole video is elaborate, not only allowing me to feel less worthless, lacking, and upset for girl that I spent a week with in summer from another city, but also guiding me to realize what has been negatively affecting me for years deep in my mind then to face it.
I first found you're work in 2017 after my wife left and after my latest breakup I kept trying to remember your name, glad it clicked and.glad you've done more content 😊
Welcome back. I hope it helped.
Thank you very much for not letting me being a “drug addict”😉..eventhough I do learn about psychology, still I need someone like you to remind me😁..keep up the good work and thank you again..what just happened before this, by now it make me stronger from within😁..with full of love from Malaysia🇲🇾
I have heard a lot of people talking about “connecting with your inner child” and I never understand that, I thought it was useless and I didn’t know how to connect with my inner child. But this video helped me so much. I always blamed how I feel today because of my past trauma, because my mama neglected me emotionally as a child or because my dad isn’t here now to give me hugs and comfort. I always had the same scenario in my head of kid me crying and I didn’t know what to do with it, this video helped me feel my inner child pain and hug it. I thought that I could never feel loved because my mama didn’t give it to me as much as I needed. But for the first time I could feel my inner child, I hugged my inner child and said “I see you” and “I love you”. It’s funny because that’s all I needed to hear as a kid, all I wanted was a hug and I feel so safe now, It’s like I helped my inner child to calm down and feel loved even though this happened years ago.Thank you so much.
You have done a beautiful job carring us through this delicate journey to our inner child. I am so impressed! Bravo!
You left nothing untouched and it felt like you're holding my hands when I was reaching out to my inner child..you've helped both (my child and adult self) healed today 🙏🌻 May this video reach out to millions and spread the light and support you've made feel today 🙏 Thankyou so much to the wisdom in you and the effort you put to make this video ❤❤ we love you and look upto you 🤗🤗
:) You're so welcome Manisha. I'm really happy to have helped you today!
This video helped me a lot Noah. I really needed this... In the past I had already done the exercise of comforting my inner child, but i never did it with the image of the animals around me....and it helped me so much! From now on, I will keep these animals around me to heal my heart whenever i need it.
Having you guide me though that was exactly what I needed. I have only ever sat as my inner child and told her in her own mind all of these things but once I stepped in and went through a full days routine of being that picture perfect mom who just did everything right that day, all of the stuck pain and where it was hiding became clear. Just this morning I told my inner child that we needed to clean out the toy box and get rid of all the broken toys and ones we don't play with anymore. I thought that would be a process over time but this video did exactly that. Now I can see the toys I don't want and the ones that are broken. I have let the limiting beliefs of others make me feel small and worthless and that I cannot do things on my own. They were all wrong. I cannot thank you enough for this session.
This is such an answer to prayer! This came at a perfect time in my healing journey! I've been in a stuck place regarding a relationship and I really feel I got to break through with your video. I've been looking for the care and being seen by my parental figures and so I invited Mary and Joseph, the parents of Jesus, to come into my visualization. I'm going to continue to do that regularly thanks to you. God bless you and thank you!
This is really good advice and great techniques.
I think another reason someone might obsesse is when they have an intuitive knowing there is a connection with a person which was unactualised. For me personally it's not about what the other person can give me, it's about what we could give each other. The beauty that exist in me and the beauty that exists in this person wants to merge and become beautiful.
Its the desire to love that person and make them happy,
This is maybe your best video, thanks Noah. It's absolutely disempowering and bull**** to think like that. To overload your partner with it, and for yourself, making yourself dependant. Like they can give it to you or not (good example: your drug pusher). I don't want nothing, don't give me anything, I'm not going to expect anything anymore, because I've had it. It didn't work out. I was longing for it for 15-20 years.
I’m 29, and sobbed for the first time in almost three years. Thank you for your gentle approach and love ❤
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been dealing with insomnia and I always thnk about my ex before I sleep. It’s a heavy feeling for 2 yrs. Glad I found your videos. It’s spot on! 🥰✨
Thank you Noah for yo help. From childhood, i used to fantasize about soccer players and later when I grew up, I started watching Korean dramas and K-Pop stars n i became a great fan which later turned into obsession n I normally find myself day dreaming about how it would feel to be with them and it's tiresome and frustrating. N it's time wasting
I did lose it and i felt my heart was ripped out. You made me cry like a baby.,.you got through...
THANK YOU!
I thought my ex-husband was the only person that could give me the feeling I want, but I have a whole new perspective now. Thank you for being kind & understanding instead of judgmental like some of the other podcasts on limerence. You helped me step-by-step to figure out it's not my fault that my mom didn't make me feel loved. For the first time, I figured out what her real problem was. I always thought it was something else. Also, for the first time, I figured out that it's me and God who can give me the love I need. I've heard that before, but never "felt" it until going through this process with you. I'm aware now that I wasn't truly loving my ex-husband. I was trying to get from him what "I" needed, and treated him like a limerent object instead of a person & friend. We recently began communicating again, and I started feeling like I was on an emotional roller coaster, but I feel peaceful now after this video. I can't thank you enough for your help. God bless you! 🙏
Yes! I need 3 or 4 male lion guardians, an eagle guardian and maybe a loving dog. I can't even have the dog now, but I signed up to volunteer at the humane society. Hopefully they get back with me soon.
I did some volunteering over the holidays for Thanksgiving and that felt good too. I feel like when I'm of service to others and with a group, my inner child is seen and acknowledged and I'm able to "forget" myself or thoughts of who I think I so need to come back to me.
Thanks for giving me the comfort he can't give
You're welcome Sha
Wow bro, i almost clicked off as soon as the video started but I'm glad i stayed until the end... I feel like i learned a lot about myself and current situations that made me look at the whole world in a new light. Powerful stuff brother, thank you!
Wow this is eye opening, thank you ❤️🙏
She (along with a bunch other synchronicities) made me believe she was my twin flame. After a lifetime of being rejected by family, friends and society, despite my fierce independence I allowed myself to believe this time I'd have something that felt like home, that was truly meant for me. The TF concept spoke to my desire since childhood of being loyal and fiercely committed to ONE woman and was "meant" for me. And who is more "meant for you" in ths whole of the universe than your TF right? :)
So she gives me the feeling 1)I'm doing the RIGHT thing, the right choice my soul intended for me all along 2) my above-average loyalty in relationships IS meant to me, is okay, I'm okay being this loyal (even though I get "stuck" in 1 or 2 people my whole life). And on top of that is the feeling of being wanted by someone AS I AM. I never had that anywhere.
Thanks for the video Noah :)
I hear you Jean. I get it. The TF concept is very alluring to our wounded parts.
I have love addiction or limerence. Today I discovered where I get it from. At around 6 years of age, I was separated from my grandma and maternal uncles I was living with and forcibly taken to live with my mother. She let me stay with my granny and uncles all these years and at 6 , she suddenly woke up from her slumber and decided I needed to live with her. I feel like it was just another battle for her to be won. She never loved me unconditionally. I was beaten up frequently. I was not allowed to express my sorrow. I now realise my missing my ex-es actually stems from that sorrow of separation. I have experienced this over and over in my life , after every break up. I was able to give myself the unconditional love that I needed in this session.
When i was in pain immediately after breakup, i listened to lyllaby, it soothed me.We Can soothe ourselves,Our inner child but.But.We cant be in romantic relationship with ourselves.I run From excistential emptyness, monotony of life, boredom.
Thank you so much, I really needed this right now. To feel seen, heard and held. To come back to myself, to the love inside me. It also really helped to be reminded of generational trauma that we carry and that we no longer need to carry this, we can let it go with love. Thank you! Love and light ❤️🙏🏼
You're so welcome Rashmi!
That’s actually the best video I’ve watched so far about this topic.
Very useful…. Thank you 🙏
hey man thanks i found out that what i felt was worthlessnes and loneliness. stay safe and strong.
This is excellent !!!!! I need to watch this every single day for maybe a whole month !!! I LOVE THIS ! I'm subscribed ❤🎉🎉🎉😊
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you Noah.
Wonderful. You're welcome Nihara
I have to say this, u are indeed a savior Mr. Noah!! To us who ruminate and obsessed with the thought we were running in our minds..... ,a very difficullt habit of mine that I struggled to change, i saw many videos to change this version of mine but none except urs it gave me a way , a spark to handle this obssessive me and my thoughts!
I'm so happy that I landed here, hope I will change with what you thought us, it was very logical human nature that I should understand and not be hard on myself, and change with time! Thank u once again!!!!
Free Counciling season. Great thank you for the good job
Physical abuse memories from childhood came up during this and it felt like a panic attack. But it also exposes more the direct correlation between what I am seeking in a person to my basic human needs for safety and love as a child being denied
I have been searching my Every relationship problems in youtube to Quora like no contact to how to get your ex back.. finally I have found the best channel to help me overcome my anxiety. Namaste🙏
I have crush on someone i have not met or know much abt also with whom i know its difficult to be with still tht obsessive thoughts abt it keep running in my mind ,hope this video helps me to get out of it
Daaaamnnn when u said how old do you see yourself as when you feel this certian feeling kinda hit. I thought I was over feeling jealous. Truth is I either dont care or care to much, and when I care too much I tend to be jelous as much as I admit I may not be. I feel the need of attention for all I've done for them, why do they go for someone else? Or if I think they may want someone else I feel betrayed as a little kid waiting for something pure as a genuine surprise and attention from them.
Your videos are the only ones that have gotten to the core of my pain. Thank you so much Noah. I didn’t even need to imagine the person I was obsessing over is gone - they are! They told me they have a new gf and are leaving the country. I was so heartbroken but slowly the pain is going away and I’m facing the feelings I’ve been avoiding. It could only be done this way. And as much as it hurts I’ll never see or hear his voice again or feel his touch… it’s out of my control. It is what it is. I gotta fill my own cup. I refuse to be an addicted junkie… boy bye. I get high on my own supply. Thank you 💔
You're so welcome plantmama. I'm happy I could support you!
I imagined little me about 4 years old and I huged little myself so strongly and safely 😢😢 it was amazing experience... thanks so much for this ...❤
I hope this works for people. I'm kind of stuck because the person I obsess over I have to see and I have to be civil and I have to deal with it. I figure I may as well keep trying different techniques to get her to like me since I have to see her. I guess the way I will stop obsessing is by meeting someone who gives me what I want or if this current person and I are separated from our current situation. Once she or I am gone I will probably be relieved.
I cried a lot. Hope it helped. Thank you for doing this for us 🙏🏽🌸
Jesus… Murphy. This is gold. And it makes me so sad…
So glad you are still making videos. I followed you a lot in 2014
When I amplified the feeling to the max, I felt like a tennis ball size hole in my heart. When you ask the age, I felt about two or three. When you told me to be the child or the adult comforting the child, I wanted to be the child that felt that feeling. Then I hugged my pillow and first thought it was my dad who left when I was around 2 or 3, and he later died. But what comforted me more was my adult self hugging my childhood self. I've always ran from me. But I feel like I need me! I've been so lost looking to other people.
Thank you so much for this video! The universe recommended your video at the right moment when I desperately needed clarity.
Thank you so much, I no longer feel the need right now to need anything from someone who I find attractive, I felt it, I also felt the other side to it in terms of what feeling am I avoiding, even if this is temporary I feel so free, I cannot describe how thankful I am even for this temporary state that I am in 💜💜
Wow . U really hit the mail on the head . Seek and ye shall find . What an amazing, insightful and wonderful video u made to identify and release my pain from deep in my heart . I have been saving I had a knot in my heart I didn’t know how to get out. Thank you!! 🙏🏼
The helped me so much. I literally had to take a break and come back to it. But it helped me to break free.
awesome video. Thanks so much it really helped. I felt lack and being abandoned and no one to back me up, i Imagined the older me gving me and showing me abundance of options and resources in life whilst also giving me security back up and being reliable and invested in boosting my confidence and being there for me. Thanks again.
Thank you Noah ❤ I have been running away for so long. This video gave me the tools to stop running. Lots of gratitude 🙏🏽
This video was immeasurably helpful. Thank you for your insight and wisdom, sir.
OH DUDE, LOVE THIS VIDEO! 🤩It really has helped me to go through a *stuck-in-situation* with fantasying about one guy. Thaaanks.
I can't descride how this video changed my whole mindset, finaly I feel relieved and free.
Thank you so much noah there's definitely no words to descride my feelings now❤❤
WOW thank you sir you are like angel 👼 on here on earth I have been non stop crying because a close friend doesn’t want to talk me anymore and I was knew it was deeper feeling from all the men in my left leaving me feeling alone or abandoned and then the mom Pain bonding part I had thought about that yesterday asking myself did she program me to think I need someone but WOW i feel so much better I felt like I was in a therapy session, I am now and be after better and strong and loving to know no matter what I’ll be fine ❤❤❤ thanks to you ….. honestly I love your channel your a blessing to people and TH-cam I know I don’t even know u like I really have been struggling this for a while& I just happened to click and listen ….SENDING love abundance and success 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I just stumbled upon your channel and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed to hear what you shared. As i listened to you, i went to places that I've resisted for years. I cried from places that I didn't even know existed in my body. As painful as all of this is, your words have helped me to start my journey to finally love and embrace myself and not depend on other people to provide that for me. Although beginning to explore these dark places hurt like hell, I believe that it's a good beginning... Thank you again Noah. 💙
You're so welcome Janice. I'm really happy to contribute to your journey in this way! Good luck!
Wow. This is powerful information. Noah you have helped me so much. Thank you. I feel so blessed by coming across this.
I never commented on anything before, but you’re amazing. Thanks for this, it has help me incredibly.
I needed this Noah! First time listening and will definitely do it repeatedly. Been obsessing about this person since last year, tried different methods to get him out of my head and hopefully your video will help ❤️
Thank you for the video! My issue has always been the same, for reasons too long to explain in a comment, me and the love of my life where not allowed to be together and that feeling of incompleteness, the feeling of not having the opportunity to either succeed or fail has robbed me of the ability to move forward. It’s like being taken out of a theater half way through a movie and never knowing the ending. Could it have gone good? Could it have gone bad? I’ll never know….
I hear you Dan. The freedom comes from discovering she couldn't have possibly made you happy. And from allowing the fullness of grief. Check out my relationship playlist.
Lmao Ive been knew Im longing for gentleness and feeling safe. But this video just confirmed it. That poor person Ive been obsessing with being an object of projection for my own wounds. Very depressing situation but that's just life I suppose. Thanks for the video!
Thank you for sharing THIS!! HELPFUL and very much Appreciated , GREATLY
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This is so powerful this give me back my power my self worth my time my love I'm free now I'm freeeeeeeeeeeee
Amazing!
That really made me cry. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome
I have never cried so much in my life. Yet I feel so relieved
Exactly what I needed. Gracias♡
oh my god this video is transformative. I will continuously listen
Literally just woke up thinking about this, then bam here it is🤯! Either YT algorithm is reading my mind or I was meant to find this 😅
The exercise is very hard and painful. Each word you say so right
this video was very helpful. I just had to turn it off because of the swallowing noise... lol it's a personal problem.
It was really helpful
Thank you , it is really one of the best healing meditation i did before , it shows you the root of your pain
Can I like just hug you cause…like deeep respect …I did not know how much I needed this…I feel like so much better now.
It was amazing i watched it twice now and cried I really love you noah you have been always with me 💗
:) That touches me. I'm really happy I have been supportive for you Sundus.
Thank you so so much, you irradiate a lot of love and brought me right where I needed to be to understand my pain ❤
Its a very powerful inner child healing. Thank you soooo much❤
Thank you so much! My tears dropped watching your videos
Danke!