The #1 Thing Men Don't Understand About What Women Want
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My point in this video is that a lot of women want a certain kind of submissive sexual experience and they go looking for it in all the wrong places.
Some women cannot face the dark side of sexuality and get into tantra and sacred sexuality where they yearn to be "ravished" by the divine masculine who "holds space" for their experience of the divine feminine. They feel making it "sacred" makes it a valid desire since spirituality isn't dirty, shameful and wrong.
My only problem with this is it really overcomplicates the matter for men getting really convoluted advice from these spiritual teachers about how to "become consciousness" and "hold space" and "bring a woman into her feminine". This is really fancy words for the same old strong dominant male lead type that can be seen in every woman's romance novel.
It goes back to animal mating behavior: the woman wants the strongest possible guy she can get, whether that be in intelligence, physical strength or social skills so that she can pass on the strongest genes to her offspring. A lot of that psychology is at play during romance.
Even if a guy let's say uses a wheelchair due to a genetic disease, he could still have extremely strong social skills or "confidence". He would still be extremely attractive to women (Check out the youtube of squirmy and grubs).
A guy might be emotionally mature and this could be an attractive strength as well. Definitely is for me.
But yeah, many women crave this experience of being overpowered by masculine strength. Yet they don't know how to get it in a safe and controlled way. Like how they do it in the kink community with negotiation and consent. Or even straight up asking a guy for it.
Instead of speaking up about their desire, women try to bait a guy to instinctually do it by acting as "feminine" and passive as possible. This is the basis of a lot of dating advice for women.
A lot of women think they have to be submissive in their whole life to experience something they could have only in the bedroom. Conservative traditional anti feminist women come to mind. They could have both but they don't know that. (Some want it 24/7 but that is a small minority).
Anyway, guys should watch out for this in dating and take into account this may be an experience a woman is looking for but hasn't been able to see it clearly herself. Everyone is different, but as a guy you should start a discussion about it and you might be surprised to find she is more into it than you thought. Never assume, but awareness that this is something she is into could be key.
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As a 20 year old girl, you articulate my mind better than I could have, absolutely spot on.
Wow Olivia thank u so much!
you're not that unique
The name of the channel should be:
“Victoria’s Secret”
"Victoria Secret". Clever, yes. "MyNonLeatherLife". As unique as you, Victoria. By the way. Your name is You. Beautiful and perfect for you. Love you! Same as I admire you so much. I just do! I just do. Who doesn't? You're amazing! RW.
@@randywhite2154 🙏💛
haha thank you so much Randy!
@@mynonleatherlife my name is not Randyyyy, pleaseeeee 😂
@@xanty_3513 no Randy's name is Randy
What's so crazy is most men are capable of this if they were told it's okay. I spent so much of my adolescence and young adulthood uncomfortable with dominating a woman because I had been told forcing myself on people and especially a girl is bad. But then my tease of a girlfriend at the time absolutely just pulled it right out of me. She was so good at getting what she wanted by just orienting her behavior in a way that made you want to give it to her. Like a cat that moves its head so you'll scratch the right spots.
I gave women the 50 shades treatment before the movie and without a contract, completely spontaneous and what seemed natural.
The connection is what is important, many women never really experienced a man before, not at full power and passion.
Big primal forces are unleashed in you and the woman. I remember one Lady saying she felt healed, she had never felt as wanted and accepted, it blew that insecurity away.
You have to care about the lady and be in tune.
Signing their whole lives away for a bedroom experience. Nailed!
Lol no one said it had to be logical
Women want the Wedding, not the marriage.
the wedding is a big draw yea
yes. It’s basically a resume builder.
Ooh thank you for that one, I agree 1000%
😂
true
I remember back when I was dating an older woman and she told me this very thing. “I know I am feminist and all of that but really like to be dominated.” In her mind it almost felt counterintuitive to feel this way because she was a feminist but she was expressing a true need as a woman from man.
Being a feminist gives you the CHOICE to indulge in your sexual fantasies rather than having bdsm dynamics non consensually imposed on you throughout your entire work life and throughout culture and society, which unfortunately was the norm pre feminism
@@mynonleatherlife absolutely
@@mynonleatherlife modern/current feminism changed tho...
Now it seems like a anti-men movement
@@ace9848Feminism is about women’s issues, not about men. That’s one thing you get wrong
Some of the most extreme feminist want to be completely dominated. I've seen it first hand
As an introverted, sensitive, Beta man I find it really hard to be dominant, assertive, risk-taking for the level women want me to be. I guess I'm more emotionally intelligent and empathic than an average guy and although those characteristics are very important and useful as well, when it comes to dating and relationships, it simply isn't enough. I've learned this the hard way. Women leave me and they all say that I have a ''good heart'' and I'll find the right person for me but again, having a ''good heart'' simply isn't enough. Growing up, I didn't have any father, male figure to look up to and my mother is a sensitive, overly caring person who always said: ''Be a good boy; don't do foolish things; act respectfully etc.'' Now, as an adult, in my 30s, I understand how toxic this natural, protective mother's love can be - it could subconsciously ''brainwash'' a child, who grows up with those ''good'' beliefs and becomes too scared to express him/herself fully, just because a parent said not to say or do certain things. The result is adults who find it hard to express themselves and always feel a bit lost.
Thank you Victoria, Your videos are great! Keep it up!! :)
Well I think we definitely need both sides, men and women. As a woman I also need to have and want to have the ability to not be too sensitive and overly caring, not care what people think, not be a people pleaser. It’s hard for me too to combat all the conditioning.
Coasta.....It sounds like you could do with reading "No.More Mr. Nice Guy!" by Dr. Robert GLover. Highly Recommended!
You don't always have to be as you are now.
Coastal, I could have written this. Relationships is like walking along a trapeze wire over a minefield.
You is gay brother. I’m surprised you weren’t used by some bipolar narcissistic chick. You is broke prolly
I've literally noticed how the matrix flipped the scripts for both men and women. I understand your point and know for a fact that women are starting to become more masculine while men are becoming more feminine, which is why men have trouble letting their masculine energy take over while women are undecisive due to the fact that feminism manipulated them that they should accomplish things or be more masculine "play hard to get" in order to attract the dominant male, in other words the Alpha Male.
you're right, the scripts have been flipped. Question for you, why would playing hard to get attract the most dominant or alpha male?
Just found your channel. Extremely interesting and I’ll definitely be watching more.
Now I don’t meant to answer for krypton. This is my take.... playing hard to get won’t get the alpha male. The reality is that “playing hard to get” is basically the man not being strong enough to evoke the want within the woman. Saying she’s playing hard to get is something I think causes a lot of confusion. If a woman resists you I believe it’s because you either have not demonstrated enough positive traits to make her feel comfortable, or have demonstrated enough negative traits to for her to keep her defenses up.
So “playing hard to get” the way I see it is just a woman not wanting to give in to men that they instinctively feel will fall short. Which in turn will help them weed out the less desirable men in order to find a more desirable man.
@@mynonleatherlife I think what he's saying is that a women has been taught that playing hard to get means that she must be a highly attractive prize to be won, and she believes that being this way is a good way to trigger attraction within the guy she's attracted to sexually. I could be wrong. As for reasons she might be playing hard to get, there's about a couple hundred of those, but that's ok. Why? Because there's another women elsewhere who does want us, but while she might send me a signal, I still have to make the first move. Something like that
Women want the security of knowing men are actually into them because they seek security, stability and offspring. A man, like myself, who isn’t into children, relationships or marriage, has only 2 things on his mind. Which are: fun and sex. That’s what women want too in the beginning but if a child is born and she doesn’t believe she had the understanding to raise that child, she will desire a man who wants more and will seek to get that man attached to her however she can. One of her methods is not givin you what you want. Immature people always obsess over what they don’t have.
@@mynonleatherlife women think playing hard to get will make them more desirable to men. Maybe it will, but probably not to the guy they actually desire. Some guys will pursue (which in reality is them ‘chasing’) and attempt to lock her down. Ultimately, guys with options will meet up with those girls who are open to our advances. Pretty simple.
"Just ask for what you want!" truer words were never spoken.
_What do women want?_
Something else.
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yep
lol
Some women try to get it by purposely angering you.
Which is exhausting.
Ah that makes a hell lot sense
I don’t really understand the female mindset, but these videos help. Thanks for the helpful information, girl. 👍
If happiness is difficult obtained,
Recall the reason humans are so strained:
As Darwin pointed out, we are evolved
To reproduce, no further problem solved.
Wow so I basically fucked up my first relationship by siding with and misunderstanding feminism. this feels like a breath of fresh air thanks!!
I’m a feminist and so is my bf but most feminists take this for granted in my opinion and don’t feel the need to mention it cuz they feel men do it enough but what they don’t realize is they have a blind spot and only see cool guys who are naturals at this stuff who they would want to date and they don’t think twice usually about guys who are struggling to get a date
I think it is almost manipulative for women to say they want feminism and then trigger men to be dominant... but I guess being direct is something that women can do with ease. I wish women knew themselves what they wanted. Feminine mistic is based on their own not knowing what they want. I wish there were more people like Victoria in this channel saying the truth! :)
They are able to be direct because they dont suffer the consequences like men.
Women have dualistic nature what she is trying to say unintentionally is i want to get rayped by the alpha but i also want to be a man hating feminist thereby getting the beta males resources
That’s so real..I wish women would say what they want more! There’s nothing wrong with being direct
I sure wish that somebody would have told me this 40 years ago!
Date women u never see yourself getting tired of
Wow you are a gifted communicator. Your honesty & sincerity are unusual.
thank you Boris
I think the fear of coming across as a Pervert/ rapist to woman. As well as to come across as only wanting sex from her, stop's men in their tracks from filling this role. My mom was molested as a child by her uncle and having heard this in my youth, and having been raised in Christian values, totally turned me as a man into a complete passive wimp / nice guy. Scared to show my desire in fear she would want to run and hide and reject my passion. Trying to find the balance and be the guy she wants without coming across as a rapist is the hardest thing that puzzles me after years of living the former script. Knowing when the timing is right and how to be the dominant sexually as a man is something that I would love to hear you talk about!!
Why do women throw themselves at famous rapists like Ted Bundy?
You're completely accurate in my humble opinion. Yes, Women should ask for what they want in a positive way. No, there's nothing wrong with Women wanting to be dominated sexually. Yes, in fact , that is natural. Yes, Feminism (the current wave) has screwed things up for everyone.
Women must be brave enough to first admit all this to themselves, and then be brave enough to do the emotional work needed on their end to put themselves and their Men in better positions to experience healthy interactions (sexually and otherwise).
Sadly, many a modern Woman is not behaving bravely or honestly, which is why I admire you for producing this video. Salute.
As a man, I think this is great advice. I live in New York and the biggest issue I have is approaching women, not because I'm underconfident (I'm fit with a thriving career in Tech) but women are inherently rude in their rejection. Not to mention, a lot of women step out for free lunch on the pretext of a date - this has led to guys like me only picking tabs after third date, which makes us red flags. It's overcomplicated at this point.
As a woman, I really appreciate your content and think opening this discussion is particularly valuable right now. Certain toxic aspects of feminism definitely poisoned me and I felt guilty for my sexuality and desires for a long time. Feminism has been a generally positive force for most of it's history, but modern iterations of it have very twisted agendas that have honestly done a lot of psychological damage to both women and men.
what do you think the twisted agendas are that have done psychological damage? Right now on tiktok I am seeing a lot of posts about how any kinky fantasies are just a trauma response we have to unlearn. I find that damaging. I see a lot of girls being like oh no so it is bad??
@@mynonleatherlife women are a lot more hostile towards men with entitlement bossing them around, turning men off on dates.
Subscribed. Love this honesty and openess this gal is throwing out there
thank you Ricky
I see it like playing music ex pro drummer viewpoint. A song can fast and high pitch so you hit hard accents, cymbals etc. Or a song can soft and gentel..As a drummer i would just play for the music...women n man play, hard or soft...No formula just options..Love your content VICTORIA❤
Thanks. Insightful point of view. In 2021 there’s so many mixed signals on both sides that it helps when there’s a “You Are Here” sign to give some clarity. Lovin’ the videos keep them coming Vick!
Thanks uncle Shaun!
Mostly on the women's part IMO. Men mostly just want sex, who knows what a woman wants.
I am greatly enjoying this channel. The psychology of the sexes expressed in many different individuals is fascinating to ponder in the context of the truths being revealed.
Men forgot how to be dominant after the 70s.
Something went wrong.
The thing is to even get to that stage where u can be dominate with a woman physically, u need to develop an emotional connection with her, and that's where most guys are unable to do.
I think it's fantastic to learn what women really want. After years of not having a clue what women want, because they never told the truth to us men. Now men will be happy to give them what they want. It's just that a man's brain is so different to a woman's brain, although we can understand Quasars and Neutron Stars, we can't understand the way women think if nobody tells us !!!! I wish you well Victoria ! Super Channel !
Thank you Victoria. You're obviously really intelligent and also giving, which is the best thing any person can be.
Thank you Daniel!
My issue is that I whole heartedly enjoy pampering and being sweet to my girlfriend.. as you said women have the hypnotic ability to move a mans emotional center.
The sweeter I treat her the less sexual we become.. I’ve come to understand she doesn’t NEED nice, it disrupts the balance of masculine and feminine energy.. men need to be firm, direct, and decisive.
May I suggest to you Victoria.. when you are making these videos you should have the microphone setting on your laptop capturing your every word. You would have a book in no time.
Thanks Kenneth, have ordered the mic so that prob should be fixed soon. That’s really interesting about how the more nice you are the less sexual u noticed you both become. do u notice anything specifically that u do u could give an example of that increases sexual energy between u, I’m very interested in what U would say there
Kenneth I am 54 years old. Everything Victoria says is true.
So true lol I had a dominatrix for a girlfriend 2 years.. I learned a lot and I’ve mentioned it to girls before that I was dating. This one girl... Rose... fantasized about it for 5 years lol.. the poor thing.. we were alone at her place when she sat in a different chair and with a horny look on her face she said come here and tell me what you do if I was to submit to you. Well about five hours later wow... we just held each other as her legs couldn’t stop shaking but it took five years for her to finally come around and have the seeds to try... your so right Princess.. you seem to mail it every time and thanks again.
*nail it ?
You should of mention that the first need to show compassion and sensitivity for the woman. They shouldn't just ravage her right from the get go hahah ;P Spank ya later.
very true... i should have emphasized it more
@5:08 -- Whoa- that just blew my mind and connected a lot of dots, in terms of past experiences for me. The overly passive behavior has always come off super boring to me. Never considered this might be a way women are trying to pull the dominant out of me. Interesting!
Very interesting point you made, regarding conservative women trading personal agency for a certain sexual experience, will think on this. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for commenting and watching. It is interesting to me as well. I was just hearing about the NXIUM cult where they preyed on this same latent desire of women to have a submissive experience and gave them that first experience of kink and domination drawing them into a huge cult and ruining their lives- so fascinating!!!!!!
Imagine a feminist saying I’m taking a vacation in her head but no one knows it. Poor kitty
What u mean bruh
You bring up interesting points but a woman submitting to her husband and putting effort to raise strong/healthy children is not at all passive.
"submitting herself to her husband" is very wrong to me. It sounds very religious and 50 shades of grey. I am all for consensual exploration of this in the bedroom but a woman should consent to live this lifestyle 24/7 and many women feel pressured by religion or societal norms and never get the chance to make a fully informed decision considering the pros and cons from both sides.
@@mynonleatherlife I'm guessing you're a gen x. Many people in your demographic have a warped view of religion & faith and it's role in a healthy family unit. I'm not particularly religious but there is nothing wrong with a woman submitting to her husband. You probably view submission from a point of weakness, powerlessness, and vulnerability. Which doesn't characterize happy, loving, compatible long term partnerships.
@@mynonleatherlife "Submissive" means feminine, soft, listens to constructive directions (for the greater good of the family unit), sexually give the Man Reign ova you(Too A Man who is worth it) so you can experience glory. Not what alot feminist groups push(independent woman) and its exactly why you hv a problem "accepting" the word submissive and ur perception on "what it actually is" is warped. I am not looking for a response I simply wanted to comment on what I just read. Recently found You. Ur videos R helpful keep going sweetie.
@Edrick Powell what would u like instead out of curiosity
@Edrick Powell i used to do that but my viewership is 98% male so when i started making videos that men could implement it worked a lot better
I always love Victoria's insights. Wish she was doing more recent posts.
You really really are amazing, your intuition to voice this must e a tremendous relief for many 🙏
Generally useful
I think the marriage failure rate is related to this sort of ambivalence...those discusdions and realizations do not happen early enough.
I think youre gorgeous and i like what u are transmiting
Thanks a lot
When we first started dating my bf joked that we are both “Alphas” and it would be interesting, what he didn’t realize was that I tend to be on the submissive side in a relationship lol. (I don’t consider myself “a submissive” rather a trait like you mention). All joking aside our traits or tendencies (as I call them) complement each other well though
Its gonna be awesome when AI sex dolls disrupt the very fabric of all of this. The pareto principle is overrated. Cyberpunk is here, the old ways will be obsolete within another decade.
lol exactly! porn and video games have already filled 40% of our sexual appetite, and that is an underestimate i feel. A third of people under 24 have not had sex in more than a year. And we can see this in the birth rate decline...it was already in severe decline in the U.S. and thus why the govt attempts to incentivize families with tax breaks and blah blah...Covid will make the shortfall even greater...and with less men in the workforce, and less opportunities available due to automation, companies restructuring, and less jobs altogether....the chances of finding a suitable mate for a women are waaayyy less. Sex dolls are a necessity to keep simps calm fromharming anyone including themselves....lol most women have no idea how much composure men have in order to abstain from aggressive behaviors...like its not even remotely appreciated and It would be a gnarly experiment if we could develop a way for a women to feel like to be a man for a day...same how we have beer goggles...but just down there if ya know what i mean.
@@solarman6648 I've read the statistics and its just depressing what happened with the dating market since smart phones and social media took over. I'm old enough to have caught the tail end of things before it collapsed into what it is today. My heart goes out to all the young men out there who have been lost in the blue pill culture, its a cold world out there.
I think AI sex dolls will be beneficial for both men and women alike, the human condition these days is a mess and they could be great tools to heal from the trauma created from these dark times were living in. I like the idea of some kind of goggles for women to experience that. It would have to be a VR program which traps them in a situation for years. Empathy in women is at an all time low, they really don't give a shit about men in general.
@@thisnameinvolved either sex dolls, or arranged marriages, or polygamy. India practices traditional arranged marriages and polygamy and thus why they have lowest divorce rate. However, Western women are waaayy too indoctrinated via academia, their parents, the Hollywood machine to see what's good for them even if it was staring at them in the face and in favor of their very survival. I mean did you see the Steve Harvey show the other day on 'why i'm still single'? She wants a strong man, tough, but not a regular at the gym, sensitive, submissive, but also a leader? Outdoorsy but also a homebody. She wants him tall, but not so tall that he appears menacing. lol its insane. Similar list by Dr.Erica Morin in her stomach churning Tedx talk about why shes single in spite of her having a PhD..like lady get real, men don't primarily prize a women's material possessions. And don't forget the power of social media creating an enormous demographic of women who do not even know the oven temperature setting to bake a meatloaf, and turn them into these ravishing hard-to-get beauty queens with a Marilyn Monroe quote in the background. The ocean of contradictions that women are taught since childhood and all the way into university level is worth a case study, and is far removed from nature. I'll be writing a article on this called 'Man: A New Beginning'. and do not be surprised that since 2.5 million women are now out the work force with many of their jobs now permanently obsolete, that they decide to turn feminine all of a sudden since pandemic has made the opportunity of independence a far greater struggle. Cheers
VR strip club,,,
Burn the sex dolls and then the people who made them
Thank you Victoria, Your amazing!!!
Keep making videos please.
Thank you so much Mathew Barnes...I will be making more very soon. Forgive me if I already asked u this, but do u have any topics ur interested in from a female perspective?
If a woman asked for this to me for 10 -15 years ago, I would not have known what to do.
"Hi everyone, this is Victoria. I just woke up and thought of a video!"❤💗💞 you and your "advice"😎
Woman just need a man that plays no games, thats not so serious, fun and happy with a confident demeanor so they can really trust and love again also to lead and be open and just and not judge them.
This is an awesome analysis.
How people teach dating and relationships nowadays is really "Seek out the kind of relationship you want in the bedroom" I.E Dominant man x Submissive Female, etc.
However, the sex life and bedroom is like you said can be a whole different fantasy world. You can explore both sides of your life; they don't have to line up perfectly all the time.
Some women and men for sure throw their life away in a sense to get those sexual fantasies explored when they don't have to; They should just communicate it to each other.
(Tinder for kinks anyone? haha)
Of course I'm not talking about marriage; Iono about any of that but for normal relationships for sure the above can apply.
It's basically fear.
You do gods work for men and woman
I get that women don’t know how to convey some kind of clarification to distinguish between treatment outside the bedroom and inside the bedroom. What I don’t like is when they choose an incorrect toxic stance and fortify it to the detriment of everybody including themselves. And then they dismiss helpful advice such as yours, leading to more bad decisions.
You gotta know how to "COMMUNICATE" as women say. Once the stance kicks in, it's off with their heads 💯
Thanks for this vid
Yes, i absolutely agree that women are today extremely passive. They never ask for anything want nothing. I am naturaly more submissive and passive kind of man and i feel i am forced into very very active and dominant role no matter if i want to or not beacause if i dont there is absolutely no chance to get any results. It really annoys me a lot cause if feel like sexuality is only my thing and she pretends disinterest.
so the #1 thing women don't understand about themselves.
Yes, I understand you completely here! Within the middle of watching this video, I realized that I want to make it much easier for women I deal with to let me know their fantasies. I feel it would be AWESOME if more men would play their part to make it easier for women to tell them their hidden fantasies.
I personally have been focused on getting outside of my social programming. Sexuality and romance are one of the areas. I plan to have A LOT of fun and unique sexual and romantic experiences with women this year lol!
Thank you for sharing this video Victoria! It makes PERFECT sense to me! The deep primal urges that both men and women have are forbidden by our society and that SUCKS lol! I want women to be SEXUALLY OPEN with me!
Thank you Brotha Neo, I enjoyed reading your comment...once I started getting into understanding my fantasies a whole new world opened up to me and nothing was ever the same again. i agree it would be awesome if more men took the fantasies of the girl they're with very seriously and helped them open up about it...very cool u will be exploring this more this year
As inspiration from this video and some others, I created my own video talking about the primal aspect of women. With added information from my own point of view. Just in case someone wants to view that.
@@BrothaNeo will check it out
very mind expanding, thank u
Victoria. Thank you babe ❤️🙏
Freud said that the female libido is much more masochistic then men's
Do u agree?
@@mynonleatherlife Some women, but not all.
It seems
I’ve always viewed feminism as a very domineering force. It would really make sense why so many modern women identify strongly with it since it tends to be very assertive with its messaging while being still “protective” of the feminine. If you’re a girl who can’t find a good man that you respect and are attracted to, I can see why some may turn to feminism to fulfill/manifest that energy into their life.
Feminism talks about issues concerning women that men are blind to. That’s why women like it.
I thought you made an interesting point as feminism isn’t really meant to be a dating strategy, but it seems to be influencing how women communicate what they really want in their relationships. My original comment was confusing the idea that a woman may adopt the beliefs as a way to attract a man who is both supportive of women’s issues but still knows how to lead.
You got me with that look at 6:30. Like WTF are theses chicks really talking about. Funny!
lmao thanks
@@mynonleatherlife You channeled the thought process of a guy with that one:)
Good Evening Victoria,
You are one in a million!
Love your channel and videos which is/are so enlightening!
Love hearing your strippers journey which I found inspirational.
Bless you, George from Leicester, England UK.
Thank you George!!
A woman only needs to be permanently in her feminine if she wants to remain in a relationship with her man.
I guess she don’t really need it for a fling.
But absolutely a relationship between two dominants will not work.
it works just fine. one person doesn't have to submit to the other. People can listen, validate, work out conflict and equitably share responsibilities.
@@mynonleatherlife I disagree. Women are very primal when it comes to what they see in men. With enough perceived weakness or dishonesty or lack or reliability
A woman will be unhappy, not turned on, or leave…🤷🏾♂️
I think men should be the same way. With a woman’s femininity, and submission in relationship 🤷🏾♂️
A woman is not going to make man’s job easier. I don’t see why we should make hers easier
Hi Victoria... Enjoying your content 🙂💗
Thanks Shaikh
@@mynonleatherlife love you
I think as a man it's best to be yourself because women love sex as much as men
I like Victoria . . . she's so damn awesome.
Thanks Loco
What women want? Women want what everyone wants. Comfort shelter, good food, good dresses, financial freedom, good holiday trips, respect, attention, not needing to work, have a lot of privacy time, and have the freedom to love anyone she likes and sleep with them without feeling guilty and remorse.
I’ve been looking for just 1 of the women you’re talking about here in LA. Seems like they are all stuck up and not satisfied
I agree, women should be themselves that is more attractive to a man than anything then really it is up to the guy to naturally read into what the girl wants and just develop an understanding of what is attractive to women in general. It sucks when a girl (or guy) is being really inauthentic and it isn't good for anyone
I guess it is good as well though for women to be vocal and honest about what they want too though because it may be harder for some people to figure out. Like from my perspective these videos don't completely deviate from what I know or believe but are still helpful and nice to watch and it can be good to hear things different ways and from different points of views for it to click in your mind in a different way
Thanks.
How is it possible that all women want that 3% of man like in the 50 shades of grey?....that logic makes no sense...😂😂
The guy in 50 shades of grey is good looking an alpha male billionaire, with 10/10 confidence. What woman wouldnt want that? If she marries a good looking confident billionaire her life is sorted forever and her kids life is sorted forever and her kids will grow up confident and have good genetics and be successful. That’s the dream for women
@@markdelej yeah but that's not happening in reality tho. Other things are happening...
@@CashCowz962 what’s happening in reality? Like obviously a normal girl cant get with and marry a billionaire cos billionaires are so rare. So normal women have to compromise and get with a guy with other good features, has a solid career, confidence, tall, strong, will make a good dad, etc etc. Everyone has to settle for someone who isnt 10/10 looking with a billion dollars. Every man wants a 10/10 looking girl who is funny and great fun yet they are so so so rare, so most guys settle for a 6 to 8 out of 10 girl who dresses well and has similar sense of humour to them. But that doesnt mean a mans ideal woman is not still a 10/10 super model
@@markdelej I do not find that character attractive in anyway shape or form.
@@iamwhole8910 i’m just talking generally. Like obviously some men dont find supermodel women hot, some men are gay and only are attracted to men. Some women dont find strong muscly rich guys hot. Some women find small skinny guys hot. There are tonnes of different preferences and fetishes but generally and on average men go for a certain type of woman and women go for a certain type of man.
So as a woman, how would you like a man to approach this topic with you, Victoria? How can a guy find out if his woman is one who has one of these secret desires?
well personally I'd like it if we were in the bedroom together and he asked me what are u into and then he went first and volunteered some things he was into. It could also be discussed over a date after you feel pretty comfortable with the person and have a good sense she might be open to discussing it. Most girls are not used to discussing their secret desires so they might be hesitant to open up about them that's why you going first and being vulnerable can break the ice a bit.
That was a GREAT presentation, Victoria! Congrats! You do not even image how many important topics you have touched and addressed! in fact you reached down to the core of todays culture wars -
thanks riccardo!
At work I have noticed when I work with a very feminine women, I automatically become more dominant without trying. I also enjoy working with them.
Right on the spot, its nature, opposite poles, ying yang, feminine will attract masculine and viceversa
Just don’t sexualize the women you’re working with. They didn’t ask for that.
@@Yourenotsmart1999 Women sexualise men all the time at work. Like when they see a tall fit, handsome man, they stare and even talk about them, sometimes even flirt with them. So women are allowed to do it, but men aren't?
I think the whole concept of feminism is inherently unbalanced. Women are already incredible beings that can be extremely tough and powerful. Feminism seems to suggest that they're weaker and somehow need to redress the balance. Another problem I have is that all your videos hammer home this same point about women always wanting a submissive experience and for men to take the lead. This goes against so much of my own personal experience. What about men who like to have a submissive experience and women who like to be dominant?
Thing is sex is the gate way to pleasure.
Which he hold open or closed for eachother.
This gateway and what lies there is clouded and obscured by shame judgment fear and what ever else you can come up with.
People invariably get in the way of what they are trying to achieve.
It occurred to me recently women dress up in order to achieve and receive peek experience from the right male.They want to be honored and valued protected but they want this from someone they think deserves it.
It is very complex.
The complexity of deep ritch sex is something that is felt but rarely articulated.
It is desired but the conditions for it to arise are rarely understood.
Title correction: “the #1 thing modern feminism confused men about women and women about women”? :9
Why insist on fantasy when reality is so wonderful?
Fantasy is important so people don't feel locked into one narrow definition of reality. There is freedom in fantasy.
@@mynonleatherlife reality is so broad and deep. How could it possibly feel narrow? The imagination is always free but why confuse the libido with ones personal lack of fulfillment and an abstract desire for more "freedom"?
@@bashisobsolete.pythonismyn6321 I'm not sure what you're referring to specifically. Would you mind being specific about what you mean about confusing the libido with one's lack of personal freedom and desire for more freedom?
@@mynonleatherlife i suppose i meant that feeling hormonally needy is not the same as being genuinely needy. and the solution to being unfulfilled is to go forth into the world and deal with people. making a private sex ritual won't solve anyone's angst. a fetish can compensate in the short term (early sex life for example), but cannot work as a lifestyle. phrases like "BDSM lifestyle community" just means "all the dysfunctional people gathered together" which explains why they are a niche the rest of the world can happily disregard.
Listen Victoria what you and women dont understand about men is that we DO understand this atleast I do but i dont have the possibility to give you this beacause i didnt learn confidence from my father
#1: they're the same as children
Confirmed guys
How did u confirm it
I'm guessing the answer is not goin to be meaningless sex
In your experience, have you met a lot of multi-millionaires in the kink community?
Yea I have
Hey dear really love your videos, please make videos on how to handle situations when alpha males and males who are good with women try to disrespect you or try to pull your girl from you… how to handle situations with men who have a upper hand with women since we are just young chaps we sometimes have some males who are better with women how to handle this situation please make videos on how not to loose control or emotions and how to handle situations
She is adorable
Money helps
Too much hard work these days..its an emotional mindfeild these days..😅
Communication from woman let them tell what you want and give them choice of there sexuality and once they you have to communication this then understand it and take control cause most women would love acting submissive in bedroom but some women like the control and be the masculine type in the kink world and all covered in the bdsm world like you said!! And some men like the masculinity role to be in women and man be submissive!! It’s all defined in the kink world!!! And it’s must honest sexual experience cause trust becomes a big factor !!!!
Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color 9. that’s why we men shouldn’t use our brains but our heart to get into her lovely secrets :-)
defintely happened
The problem is picking apart human nature and choosing what you want from it. You can't just choose masculine sex and have a regular male partner. You cant choose what my male instincts are because you and culture feel that's how it should be.
The women that I go out with like for me to make thoughtful decisions for them. They like to be feminine. Its refreshing for both of us. Be a good man and the women will take notice.
Be feminine - he will step up
lol
Woman strong and powerful.........on Netflix!
I am really not sure how to put it because one side of me feels super innocent and lost. But then the other side is like what was with that experience and taht experience and that experience, why are you say they aren't count if intercourse wasn't the result. I feel like I failed on many stages, because I switch between two doubts the whole time:
Do I violate her boundaries? She is so vulnarable, shy and passive. I cannot know.
and
Is she going to expose me? I show my needs and desire. I am very vulnarable right now. Hard to feel confident without trust and experience.
It is really hard... what do u mean “is she going to expose you” expose u how
@@mynonleatherlife Maybe it is silly and I don't undersatand why I have the fear. I hope I can explain it. Maybe it is reverse slutshaming.
I fear that she is waiting for the right moment to say something like: "Hahaha. You really think a woman like me want a guy like me. You are disgusting."
And the next moment to avoid it, I hear myself say: "Wait. I'm sorry. I cannot do that to my girlfriend." or "Wait. This is the wrong wy to deal with it. I am gay and I should accept it. Please leave me now." or "Okay, I hugged you as a friend and to comfort you. I don't know why it leads to a kiss, but I am not aroused by women like you. That couldn't work. Sorry. But please let us stop here."
And then one or two hours later I regret to destroy an other opportunity. And what would be so different if she rejected me. But next time I think again that I couldn't stand it and do the same.
guys it's a website.....
So you want to be submissive as long as you remain in control 🤔
feeling safe while you feel submissive is almost always essential to letting go and enjoying it
@@mynonleatherlife I'm responding to your comment about the "controlled scene" and how it follows on from you discouraging women from being submissive in life generally and speaking negatively about femininity.
For me, if a woman isn't submissive in her life generally then her wanting to behave submissive in a limited controlled context is not that meaningful. I want a submissive woman, not a woman who just wants to play at being submissive for a night or a weekend. You seem to have a negative view of these things and equate femininity with passivity.
Culture will tell you who you are and how to feel.
examples please