1. Hyper Feminine Behavior - Act very girly, always smiling, usually a fake smile, laugh at your jokes, even the ones that aren’t funny. 2. Virginal Behavior - Promote that she is reserved, not the type to sleep around. 3. Simulating Competition - Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time. 4. Proximity Behavior - She will pop up at places you frequent. 5. Submissive Behavior - When she’s talking to you, position herself where her curves are highlighted (subconsciously) 6. Emotional Closeness Behavior - Trying to be your friend without actually Friend Zoning you.
Are you kidding me? Maybe you think that women you're attracted to are subconsciously projecting their "curves" to you, but you're really just staring.
@@cryptic2610 Cryptic had a point here. Because I had the opposite experienced for myself. And see many ladies do that too probably because of Asian cultures which are very reserved and was raised that way . The more they fell in love with a man, the more they will hide their themselves unconsciously ( slouching body posture and head facing low) which are the opposite of their womanly side.
Pretending to have other dudes after you is not a smart strategy. Bro code dictates that we must give up the chase immediately upon hearing that someone else got there first.
A woman mentions other guys, I would just tell her I hope it works out with one of them and see it as a bullet dodged. Games right from the off tells me my peace is going to be disturbed constantly. 😅
What I like about this woman is that she just shoots a video with little or no makeup in a regular t shirt or sweatshirt without an impeccable room in the backdrop-so unlike these other female dating coaches who I long-stopped watching.
One thing nobody talks about when it comes to signs that girls are interested is how they look at a guy when he speaks even if they aren't interacting with each other. I always notice this with girls I have a thing with. They might be on the other side of the room in another conversation but I'll see them look my way out of my peripheral vision every time I speak. They are basically communicating"Oooh, what's he saying?"
@@ezralikepie The O.P. is saying that it's not like a desert but like a mirage in the desert. Basically something that is an optical illusion typically associated with deserts.
"Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time. " No reasonable man will take that, relationship is very easy and you can feel it straight away the one that is yours they won't mess you about, the ones that makes it hard in the beginning should avoided as that's a taste of what to expect
OK, I’m 65. Seen a lot. Went from naive to content. Learned a lot after my divorce. Watched a lot of content, and learned a lot which turned my life around. This woman does the best intersexual dynamic videos on the web. She’s honest and seems spot on based my lived experience. You can trust her. Kudos on not being over-produced. It’s just great content delivered in the most efficient way thinkable. Great work. Thank you. 👍
This is some great advice. I finally had the courage to flirt and be assertive and grounded in my masculinity recently and was blown away by the beauty of the yin-yang energy dynamic at play. It felt very natural and rewarding for both of us and we both fell for each other; it's a life-affirming experience I'll never forget! In the past, I would play the "nice guy" role to an extreme and essentially had no confidence or direction other than to please them, but could feel that this was unattractive for both of us.
@@mynonleatherlife It was a long, slow, and painful process of self-discovery, insights, and letting go of beliefs and perspectives that no longer served me, such as "men are dangerous and predatory by nature" or "I intimidate and scare women" or "I am unworthy of love and acceptance." These beliefs were internalized at a young age, as my mother was the victim of sexual abuse and that was a message I was constantly receiving both from her and society. On top of that my Dad was misogynistic and emotionally abusive and embodied true "toxic masculinity." In addition, being a highly sensitive person / empath, I was avoidant of intense emotions and energy, especially anger and aggression. I had to go through hell to process my past and fortunately survived it to be able to rise from my ashes, so to speak. Now I trust my intuition and instincts, which allows me to be more confident and resilient, while still being compassionate and empathetic. I can now sense and trust the natural attraction and magnetism generated by being grounded in my authentic self and boy, does it feel good!
@@ChandlerSavage It's awesome that you've come so far and that you're able to articulate it so well! Have you thought about making videos on your experiences? You could definitely help guys who have similar backgrounds.
@@evanduquette Thanks, Evan for your positive feedback and also encouraging me to make videos, which I have given some thought to recently. It's amazing to be able to share our lived experience and knowledge to help others for essentially just the cost of our time. It gives me hope for a better future! =)
See games to me are supposed to be fun. But when girls do that it comes of immature and annoying. Because it could be a waste of time. Girls dont have to approach so how would we know from their subconscious mind
@@petroglyph79 It’s nature, bro ! Most women will NEVER be upfront or clear about it, rather you like it or not. So Ima talk for all my other brothers reading the comments : pay attention to the signs and go for it !
I appreciated the video, but from a male prospective I would say that some of these behaviours are just turn-offs and rejection signals for us: - men and women have different attraction criteria: the more women crave a man, the more that man rises in value and desirability to the female eyes, so I assume that girls think that it would be the same for guys, but it just isn't . Men don't want that tipe of competition. We really like girls who make us feel desirable, and talking about other men is really not going to bring you anywhere lol - Also pretend to be busy could work only if you are busy for real or if you can fake it really well, but if I know that a girl is 24h on her phone or that she has not really much going on and just pretends to be busy, the most basic and logical assumption is obviously that she is not into me - I understand the idea of taking it slow, but the point is how slow: 1-2 Weeks? It may be ok, but 1 Month or more? Hell no 😂 In that case a person would just assume that the girl is not sexually interested in him, and also men are not foolish, most of us knows that girls can fuck a guy the same day they met him and be ok with that, and then put men (who really wants to date those girls) on a line to give them sex only as some sort of "reward" as if they were pets? Just no. Not in man's brain. That was just a view from a man's prospective, hope it had make you clear some points that you maybe didn't really know about Also sorry for eventual grammatical errors, English is not my first language
Man, you just nailed it, as a guy I totally agree with you. I often see girls in real life behaving this way, and even in videos like this explaining female behavior, where they put up a fake show, just hoping that such lunacy attracts a man. I personally believe that such female behavior is not just toxic on so many levels, but it clearly shows that women live in a fairy dream land and they have no basic realistic clue about what men want or how men operate. Mind games to promote competition is not sexy; it is downright repulsive and offensive. I personally never consider a woman's social status, and I do not know of any other guy that do. We men only look for a woman whom we can have a nice conversation with and have a good time, not have a wild time guessing and second guessing what she means when she says something, or waiting for a super busy girl, when in reality that's all a show and she could have spent time with me but she would rather be pretentious. Playing hard to get does not get men interested; it just tells a man that a girl is not worth his time.
@@protorhinocerator142 I was very lucky to find a much older but very honest woman 50 years ago. I am not a member of any church but I believe in heaven, she was it. After a year of decline she passed away peacefully one night. I really miss that wonderful, wise woman. We were a perfect match. I encourage everyone to follow their heart. Love is a winner.
It's always about the Level of attraction The more highly attracted A woman is to a man the stronger the interest she will Show Constantly looking at you Smiling at you, walking by you, speaking to you, touching you if she's physically attracted to you And if she's shy she won't Be able hold eye contact with you. Only men that women are not Highly attracted to have deal With women mind games A woman isn't going to play Mind games with a man That she values, she won't Run the risk of losing him Point blank
It seems pretty accurate from what I experienced. Also here's another tidbit of advice, if a girl likes you and she wants to pursue you. Play a little hard to get. Most of the time it drives them wild. It's like reverse psychology they are not expecting that. I mean still flirt with them, but don't give in so easily. Don't be the dog you are, until you need to be.
Personally I feel it's not that u should assume they're interested, but whether they're interested or not is irrelevant because until you talk to them a bit and ask them out you'll never know. Many women become interested only after being asked out or perhaps your conversation will spark their interest. The mindset might be good, just there might be a danger in assuming someone is interested if they end up not being
The secret is to play games?? No gem there.. Only headache Good luck. Wish she would advise women to stop playing games, get to know themselves and practice clear communication of wants and desires.
@Vinny Mac I can count my wants and what I offer on one hand. Trust Honesty Communication Respect Patience Single has been the happiest I have ever been. Gonna take one hell of a authentic woman to convince me to be otherwise.
@Vinny Mac your adorable 😘 I tried the gay path to make sure that wasn't the right thing for me. It's not. I'm secure in my masculinity and who I am and you are bold judging based on a few TH-cam comments. Have fun following a woman in playing games vs finding true value.
Girls WANT the secrets given away!! If you have to TEACH a man to be dominant, that probably isn’t gonna work. This girl will probably be the ONLY chance you’ll have to read a woman’s mind. 🤷🏻♀️
The fact is I don’t approach women much anymore, because so many times I’ve been given the impression of that im bothering them, or I’m behaving creepy or out if context. I really do feel im being harshly judged by them. Therefore i only do so when im really motivated, which is pretty rare. I think the “creep” is a huge thing to overcome unless you’re a super stud chad type.
Sadly, women are just as superficial as men- probably more. So unless you are physically attractive, they will probably stop any advances from you. You may not be able to change your appearance, but you can improve your health and improve your hygiene and fashion. I can't believe how many times I have come across men who don't bother brushing their teeth, or are smelly, or just dress really sloppy, or they have long hair and unkempt beard. And they wonder why women don't act positively around them.
There are no shortcuts, sadly. Getting in shape, having a good haircut, getting well-fitting clothes, and developing that masculine "don't give a fuck" assertiveness is key. Women won't admit that the difference between "creepy" and "charming" can be "physical attractiveness".
I think you are very honest and authentic and what you say makes perfect sense. Whenever I watch some other dating advice video on youtube, it is mostly advice that comes from men because I didn't use to trust what women say. The reason why I didn't is because I thought that women would always lie about these kinds of things because it was for their own benefit to lie. For example they say things that imply that the guy should validate them in order for them to like him (this never works). So basically I always felt like these advice were just fake because they never put them in a vulnerable position. However, whenever I stumbled upon your videos, I felt that what you were saying was very genuine and actually very helpful because you are not saying these things with the intent of self-benefit. You are just trying to help guys out. I respect that. I have learned so much just from watching a couple of videos from you because I am getting real and genuine feminine perspective of dating. Thank you for what you are doing.
10:17 I have to disagree here Vicky. I think that most men could care less whether a woman they are very attracted to are being touted by other men. I think most men would probably prefer if there was LESS competition for her. That mindset is a very feminine one women feel about their male courtiers. They are more attracted to men whom are desired by many women for whatever reason.
You are the most honest. I'm not surprised that you have such a big following, without all the branding and coaching packages and editing cinematography that probably legitimizes other channels like yours, you arrived here by the raw material and wealth of insight you seem to have. You are like the sister so many guys need. I've often laughed after figuring something out with women that seemed so difficult or i labored over and suffered, going to depths with my time and still not getting results but when I figure it out it's as simple as what you were saying in the other video about the power men have of masculinity. It wasn't until I was 100 pounds overweight that I started hooking up with the most attractive girls of my adult life, into my late 30s and throughout my 40s. Not that they were unattractive in my 20s but I let so many lookers get away in my 20s cause I put myself in my own range and thought it was universal if that makes sense. It wasn't until a few hit on me that I realized my weight gain and age wasn't getting in my way, I was. The wildest part though is the age from 18 to 23 were wrecking years. I didn't know what I was doing but I wasconfident and in the best shape of my life and I hooked up with more girls in that time than I have in the 25 years since. I'm 48 now and my weight gain is definitely not healthy and I'm finally serious about losing it. I know I will always have that predator spirit in a sexy way, and I cannot wait to unleash my max potential. Your videos are gold. I wish you didn't have so many followers. I want to access you and maybe make a produced video. If you want I went to school for photography and video production. Could be fun. Thanks!
Well time has changed dear...now guys won't chase girls anymore...we are sick and tired of being framed as desperate jerks or Men will be Men memes. We are afraid of being framed in false cases. Only time we give a consideration when we actually get a hint...otherwise we don't like that so called friend zone.
The plan has worked. Now that the pups have all gone home. The self aware wolfs will go in for the kill. Like a King said, "If we can't kill the enemy we will breed them out."
This vid randomly appeared in my recommendations lol and I have something I can add from personal experience. If a woman really likes you (especially if she's already a friend) she'll slowly start to turn into you, she'll start to like what you like and adopt some of your hobbies to get your attention.
The "not answering texts and always busy" tip is tricky and i feel a lot of guys will misunderstand and it's easy to confuse playing hard to get with simply not interested.
I'm in love with your voice. I could listen to you all day long and not get tired of it. I hate girls that are too loud, skreaming and shouting like baboons...lol
The introduction before the categories was what I found most enlightening. I hadn't thought of it, but it makes sense that a man should actually do something before he can expect to see signs of attraction. Just because a woman doesn't have to do anything before she see's signs from men does not mean that it works the other way. So we have to be careful not to project. On the point of projection I feel that the points about playing hard to get and a woman showing high social value are to some degree projecting feminine pychology onto men. I know a woman can be put off if a guy seems too eager too soon because it makes him seem needy, but neediness does not have such a dramatically negative effect on men as it does women. It is fine for a woman to let a guy see early on that she likes him in my view. Also it is a waste of a womans time trying to project high value. eg. trying to make a guy jealous by appearing to be highly sought after by other guys. Most men this would go right over our heads. Attraction to high social value is more a feminine trait. However I get the point that a woman doing these things is demonstrating that she likes a guy, even if what she is doing does not work.
Not all “foreign women”. This is heavily influenced by culture. You might find more openness in Canada, Australia or some parts of Europe, but far less openness in parts of Asia.
Great video. It explains a lot. I could also see every single one of these having no effect or even backfiring on the woman. Growing up, I was hyper-aware that men were often perceived as creeps by women. So I would go out of my way to not be mistaken as one. To me, women were always just friendly unless they gave me unquestionable, in-my-face proof that they wanted more. High pitched voice? Overly friendly? Throwing a smile? She’s just being nice. Subtle hints will often get tossed to the side by considerate guys trying to avoid making the woman uncomfortable and being seen as a creep misinterpreting her signs. I’d rather be seen as oblivious than a creep. Another thing, if a man has had bad experiences with women being manipulative or deceitful in the past, if they catch on to any of the “phony signs” like the fake voice, pretending to not know something, wanting help when they really don’t, etc, they will see these as the woman being potentially dishonest rather than a flirtation, and end up being on higher guard with them than usual if not avoiding them altogether. That’s the story of my (non)dating life.
Thanks Jeff, I enjoyed reading your experiences with dating. So how would a woman have to let you know if she was interested? What would be the best way? and also why do you think being called a creep was so scary for you and so many other men, I want to make a video on this topic so I would love to hear a bit more
@@mynonleatherlife That's a good question! I think just as a man would I suppose. Depending on the situation and the relationship of the two people I'd say start small and become more increasingly obvious. Whatever feels right. For me personally, the signs would have to be glaring. And even if I noticed it, it'd need to break through all the layers of denial, doubt and restraint to reach an acceptance for me to reciprocate. For me, the very idea that someone could consider me offensive or uncomfortable to be around is horrifying. I don't want to make anyone ever feel negatively as a result of me. As with a lot of other people, regardless of gender, some folks simply don't want to be disruptive to others. Especially if they're friends or people you know. When I was a teenager in high school there was a girl I had a crush on. We were both super shy, never spoke directly to one another and just passed each other in the hallway. Mutual friends said I should consider asking her out as she would likely say yes. While I never would've done it without my friend's encouragement, I finally worked up the courage to ask her. Her response was the polar opposite of what I expected. Not only did she reject me, she went out of her way to avoid me in the hallway from then on. I'd never felt so uncomfortable in my life. It was at that moment I realized that everything I'd assumed about her was wrong. Just because a girl might act shy or even throw you a smirk on occasion doesn't mean she likes you that way. Now, living in the age of #metoo and cancel culture, with all kinds of sexual improprieties in the news and employers doubling down on sexual harassment education in the workplace, it's pushed lots of men like me even further into a mind bubble of making sure anything I'm saying or doing won't be mistaken as improper. So when I hear women say they like men to be the pursuer I immediately think, "yeah, not happening". There's just too much at stake to make the wrong assumption.
I'm married with kids but still enjoy your channel. I enjoy learning from someone as intellectually humble as you. Maybe I can swoon my wife again after all these years.
Personally I am only vulnerable to #6, numbers 1, 2, 3 & 5 are actually turn offs; serious red flags in fact. No surprises I spent most of my adult life single, eventually abandoning dating altogether due to finding so few emotionally healthy women. Having said that I think you are correct on all counts.
I will be patient for the woman that actually wants to be around me without the games. I am the catch 😂 I own a great home in the best area possible; I am financially secure. What does a woman have to bring to compliment MY LIFE? I have it all already. I don’t want a game. But I do appreciate the advice this lady gives. She’s dropping knowledge.
😅 You know I once finally asked a girl out and I bellyflopped-HARD. But while it hurt, I got over it and realized that I had nothing to be scared of; well, at least not SO scared of! As always, thanks for the great advice! This was all good to know!
#3 simulating competition is something seems to work on women, not on men. Or at least in my experience. I get turned off really fast if I think she is juggling multiple dudes' attention. Maybe it's the time we are growing up in that makes me feel that way. If she wants me then she will show her interest by giving me her time and we can proceed from there.
A few years ago I hung out with this girl a lot because we were in work study together. I felt real chemistry when I was around her, but at the time I thought there was no chance that she could really be interested in me. I thought she was way out of my league. However, there were times I really wondered if she was interested. There were times where we both made really strong eye contact and just smiled the biggest smiles at each other. Then she would do shit like talk about other guys when she talked to her friends around me. That confused me and it made me conclude she was just teasing me and playing games, but looking back I can see that she was clearly interested and my lack of confidence kept me from seeing it
i binged 80% of your videos now. respect for making this kind of content. i live in germany and the young women here are definitely like you describe them. its almost like a boot camp now since im living the d/s lifestyle (without the clothes, just the state of mind/behavior) and get every girl to build up their sexual confidence / teaching them the basics to look for (and appreciate) in a great relationship. im usually their first or second boyfriend so its kinda... altruistic to give them a good example (how a man should be in a relationship) so that they have a reference point in the future to compare their current situation to. im not arrogant enough to think a relationship will last forever so i at least give something positive no matter what happens. a female stalker teached me that lesson when she told me years later how impressed she was ( by my behavior towards her on our first date) that she got into actual fights with her next guys... because she compared their behavior to mine and wasnt happy with them. 90% of my girlfriends LOVED to act cute/younger/like a cat even... to tease me instead of showing me more directly what they wanted. they felt safe enough to let me do whatever i want and in turn i gave them both things they love most.... dominant sexual experiences + the absolute confidence that i wouldnt leave them. passion that goes beyond soft boundries & safety... like you talked about in some of your videos. sorry for rambling but i wanted to tell you that you are spot on & appreciated since you ask for our input. enjoy your weekend^^
Oh wow that is fantastic to hear from a guy who is experienced with this stuff. Like a cat.. I want to put that in my next vid about 3 more female fantasies. do u have any additional tips or advice for guys on how to do some of the things u do naturally or even video topic ideas. I am sure u have so much good advice to share from ur experiences
@@mynonleatherlife do you have some kind of "channel" email to send my answer to? not sure how long my text will be but i know youtube has bugs with long texts sometimes and a word limit too (i think i reached that once). otherwise i would need to cut my answer into little segments (and hope that youtube doesnt censor me).
Talking to women without having received any signs from them that they are interested is not only a question of confidence but also a question of productivity and a question of dominance. Most women who do not send out signs of interest are likely either genuinely not interested (enough) in an interaction with a male or they have other things on their mind and are just not mentally prepared/receptive (enough) for it, unless maybe the place (bar, disco, club, hotel for singles, cruise ship for singles etc.), her dress (showing much skin), her shoes (high-heels), her hair, her make up, the way she moves, carries her hair etc. etc. suggests otherwise. You can still try if u feel an urge for action and if there are no other interesting women in that very moment but in a setting with multiple/many options, your likelihood of success will be higher if u take your chance on those who are showing that they are in good/friendly/sexual mood, interested in what’s going on around them and open to interaction. Also, there are many women who are well capable of sending all sorts of clear signals but chose not to do so because they want to be the dominant part in the interactions with men. These women will deliberately make it harder for men to approach them because the one who is (or appears to be) less interested in the interaction usually has gets upper hand in that interaction. Another important aspect to consider is whether the situation in which you approach a woman is one that conveys her hints about who u r and what value u could provide to her. Talking to a woman who is passing by u, while u r sitting on your multi-million dollar yacht, smoking a cigar and having your stewardess serving you a cocktail and talking to a woman on the street is not the same thing. In the latter case, u don’t have a reason to expect her showing u immediate interest therefore u have to be persistent. In the first case however, if she doesn’t show immediate interest, then she likely genuinely isn’t interested.
You have a gift and I am now hooked on your channel. I have been watching a lot of videos from women who give dating tips and I have learned a lot from them. Your energy makes you stand out above the others. For me, you are like the sister that I never had who could tell me about girls that I could never know from my guy friends because they don't know either. Women don't realize the confusion that boys have toward girls from a very young age. For example, when I was in grade school there was a saying that plants a seed early that boys are less than girls. The poem was called, “What Are Little Boys Made of?” The lyrics were: What are little boys made of?” Snips and snails and puppy-dog tails, that's what little boys are made of. What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice and everything nice, that's what little girls are made of.” Growing up I heard women talk about all guys want is sex. I grew up thinking that women didn't like sex and looked down on guys like we were perverts. Of course, as an adult, I know that this is not true. My point is that girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence. How can we when we are growing up with mixed messages from society? Remember the ad from Gillette where boys were looked down upon for just behaving like boys? I think the reason why I like you is that I don't see an agenda on your part. Maybe it's because, in the two videos that I just watched, you didn't mention press the like button and subscribe. While it is ok to ask for that I felt that you were telling me secrets without wanting anything in return. I actually learned more in your two videos than the many videos from other channels. You are a natural at this. Keep smiling!
girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence--you are so right, most women project this hyper masculine fantasy on men...I'm actually going to try to make a video about that soon. The only way I figured this out was by having a social anxiety meetup called the rejection club and seeing how many guys were struggling talking to women and also talking to a friend I met in a social anxiety group online in depth about male female dynamics. I NEVER would have got it if not for that I think. I also lacked a LOT of sympathy for men. That snips and snails and puppy dog tails thing is so interesting because even as a young girl hearing that I was kinda jealous of the freedom, scrappiness and mischief that I thought that rhyme implied but you're right, it does make men seem less good than girls in a way. great point! And thank u for saying u appreciate my not asking for likes and subscribes I might start doing it idk but it never felt right cause if u do like it u will like it, and my goal truly is to help men who are struggling. So thank u very much Brian for your wonderful and interesting perspective.
Well said. I can add that if a girl likes you, she won’t turture and drag you over the coals and finally list a litany of reasons why she has to reject you. She will make the journey smooth and less bumpy. Great service you are doing. Keep it up.
@@mynonleatherlife If she is self conscious enough about the importance of communication and has a slight respect for her and his time, she will be stragiht forward with it : I don't want to give you false hope. I am not into you ! Go ahead with your life, be abundant and find someone that wants you in her life.
You dropping more knowledge than these “alpha male” channels lmaooo🤣 I jus got in a girl guts I met 2 days ago by being a “nice guy”🤷🏽♂️ as long as she dig you you gon be digging her in no time that’s just the bottom line.... there’s no secret.
My #1 sign of female interest is her body language, specially her look behavior. Don't miss her eyes but don't bother her, either, and you'll have a reading of her while you are conveying a statement about yourself. Also, attend her movements and her tone of voice. Listen to her as if you were deciphering and enjoying a polyphony and intervene when you must. Keep discrete and make her feel assured at being understood. Note: I'm a 61 y.o. university professor successful in making female friends since childhood.
If a woman is interested in you, they will call out your name when they see you. They will wave at you from across the room. They will give you a genuine smile. But most importantly, when a woman truly admires you, they will speak well of you to all their friends. They will also laugh at all your jokes. Women at work are more fearful of others finding out about them dating a coworker. So before they open up to you, they have to really trust you.
The go getter mentality and action is important but reading others is powerful side tool. You need both. You interact, but observe. Don’t go blurting your intentions. Get the number/socials after you spend a little time talking first.
Really deep topics. One thing my pop used to tell me when I was in my mid 20s was "son, if you ever have to ask yourself whether or not a woman is interested in you, 99% of the time she isn't ".
@@alvincook8970 I just think women do a lot of things which might seem like disinterest but they're actually playing hard to get or waiting for the man to step up and take the initiative and lead the course of the relationship
The way to tell someone likes you, is if they are interested in you. They will go out of their way to just talk to you. They will notice and remember alot of things about you. When I was crushing on my crush, I became friends with them first, and I just wanted to get to know them. The more I got to know them, the more I ended up liking them. They ended up liking me to, the more we hung out and talked. The biggest danger is the "friend zone." Just be confident, and be your best self, and whoever you find attractive will come naturally to you.
The friend zone is for guys she doesn't find attractive. It's just an excuse to keep them at a distance. There's no such thing as "i only see you as a friend". If you're both single, both attracted to each other and on top of that get along too, there's no way you'll just stay friends. I was in similar situations to the one you described. I was friends with my crush but I wasn't friendzoned because I didn't make a move just to get rejected. When we got close enough we got together. It has also happened that I got a crush on someone completely incompatible with me, since a crush is really just an addiction to someone's presence. Many time people will have a crush on someone that's totally bad for them. In many of those cases, it just falls flat and doesn't work out. Other times they get together just to turn into a disaster farther down the road.
Hello Dear, First of all i appreciate you for this video. Beside the video i want to add few points... If a girl is really interested into you she will not make an eye contact with you because she feel shy and start blushing if she look into your eyes... Second thing, make sure to be honest with her about your personality, do tell her about the bad/ negative side of your personality and something wrong that you did in past, after listening if girl didn't change her behavior with you, it means she love you... She will ask you if you are not busy... She will text you that she miss you... She will text you after call that she feel nice/ happy talking to you... She will ask you about how she look... Advice: Don't try to check if boy/ girl is interested in you or not, better is if you are interested in someone, make sure your words and gestures must be filled with feelings... Like i say, if you talk from heart, a heart will listen and if you talk from your mind, a mind will listen... Love is a domain of heart not mind. And i am confident to say that you can win heart of anyone, even of the person who hates you. Take your time to learn about her and make sure to sync yourself with her feelings if you want to win her heart. Just for Info: its easy to understand guys because their good and bad are clear but its very difficult to understand a girl because every girl is a mistery and every girl is different then every other girl.
The beginning was sufficient for me, ive been away from dating for sometime working on myself and that was more than enough information. You a real one!
Kinda paradoxically, all of the signs you have described in this video would make me run the hell away from that woman, I don't care that she likes me, I am not interested in her and completely not attracted to her
Sadly, I don't set off these positive vibes when I meet women. I have many friends that are women, but hardly ever GET a girlfriend. They all agree that I'm a nice guy, with a good sense of humor, and treat women like a lady. But that's as far as it goes. I am their friend - that's it. It's funny, because I've heard many nice things said about me, yet they wouldn't think about wanting to actually BE with me. The advice always is: Be Yourself. Well, I don't know how to be anyone else! I wish I could! If I did, I'd have girlfriends. Instead, I am alone, sad, depresssed, and very much alone. Have been for a very long time. Evidently, I dont have what it takes ... and I dont know what that is.
#3 has always been, and is, a signal for me that I'm either being played or that a woman is not interested. so I move on to another, who is more open. Then I get the "why did you stop talking to me?" text. Well, I don't talk to people that don't want to talk to me, duh.
Very good and amongst all those videos/speakers with answers, more or less smart, but always ready to be presented...for the ones that want a quick recipe what to do...she dares to actually think and choose her words deliberately while speaking. Touching the half- or subconscious (depending on the self awareness of each one). Useful and touching at the same time.
I like how you have this authentic vibe when saying this things. I have heard them over and over again. Some of them i deduced using evolutionary biology, other theories. It's rare for me to see woman explaining this with pure intention. However. Some of your biases restrict women into boxes. There aren't quite a many of them and most of things you say is i think true. Everyone has biases. They help us to predict the world. They are essantial for functioning in my opinion. Just be aware of that and don't change anything that you do.
@@mynonleatherlife I don't know which are specific. But i am sure that not all women think like you do. There are some general patterns on what women like. Yesterday i watched you and your boyfriend where you asked him questions. I sense that you LIKE him ofc and think that's only way that man has to be. It feels like everything he does is always right. That's awesome if you feel like that but in general terms it's not like that. For example stoicism. Some women like men who can persevere in negative emotions. While you said little anger is okay and maybe attractive.That's not a bias but an opinion. But i see that here are women who dislike angry men cause they seem like they lose control. I see both types of women liking different things. There are some universal truths probably. Your perspective is valuable due to being from women who thinks about this things. It's not pickup vibe which men will sell you for $. Also female fantasies suggest some women want to be controled phyisicaly. Also worst traumas are RAPE traumas. It's sexually experience but with wrong men. It's so so so much deeper. I can point out contradictions and bias towards 1 side. But anyway as i said keep doing what you are doing it has some truth value and for me perspective is much more valuable to my personal mind.
@@multicrogamer ur right meow...there are so many different ways for men to succeed in life, dating and relationships and it's not all this one way I am describing. I do see it as a much larger theme though than many guys realize which is why I try to get the message out there since a lot of guys are resisting the darker things women crave and don't like to admit. Also these things are subtle and have a lot of nuance to them and I tend to oversimplify them a bit cuz of time constraints. For example I also hate angry men! A lot of things relating to our sexuality are actually paradoxical so it can be pretty confusing.
@@mirinboy1745 yes absolutely (sorry TH-cam wouldn’t let my original comment post but) I have done all of these in some way or another except I never faked an ☄️✨✨✨⚡️
that part about pretending to be busy hit me, I was literally dating a girl who said she was busy all the time and took hours to answer my messages but not for a second did I think of her as the popular type among guys, I literally got concerned that she wasn't interested. she also mentioned other guys at times, I did not feel that competition vibe at all, I just thought: wow if she thinks about them while being around me, maybe i'm not enough
@@LegendaryMamba24 She eventually called me one night and told me that I "deserve someone better" and that she still had feelings for her ex. idk if this was a game or something but 16 year old me trusted her words and I moved on, haven't spoken to her ever since
@@LegendaryMamba24 my thought exactly, it did hurt to let her go but thinking back, even if I managed to win her over she would probably have cheated on me later on, today I'm 19 and living the single life, I'm not rushing things, just waiting for the right one
I don't know... the problem is that lately women do this with every guy (at the gym for example). And not only with you. I think times have changed and you can't trust those signs anymore. I mean... I think women no longer go after just one man, but they flirt (I think they actually date too) with as many men as possible, and when they flirt with you they are just inviting you to be part of their harem (which I reject not out of jealousy, but for purely hygienic reasons).
The advice for guys is : what's meant to be yours will be yours no matter what, when it is time she'll fall right into your arms, meanwhile work on yourself and develop yourself and don't even look their way.
That's a lie. What will be yours will not be yours if you don't step out and do the work. That advice is what has kept many idiots single for a long time.
I agree with most of what is being said, however when it comes to adult behavior, I believe a wise man can bypass a woman’s ambiguousness by displaying purpose driven character & then he will notice the “signals” for the opportunities for him to approach. Otherwise he’s just “shooting from the hip”
I agree with that jealousy thing that women do. I don’t know if how react is a good thing or a bad thing. My reaction is more like no reaction tbh. I don’t know if that attracts women more or make them feel like I’m not that interested. I compartmentalise my feelings a lot. Love your content too, I’ve just subscribed. Its always good to hear and see a woman’s perspective on things
@@mynonleatherlife cheers thank you. Another thing, like for you how do you figure out if a man is either confident or arrogant due to like his body language? It seem more like woman are more attentive to details towards men where from a guys perspective we don’t pay as much attention to detail towards woman we just assume. Not all men though
I'm 21 and I've never dated anyone before but I have been binge watching your videos and they are just so insightful. Have you done a video on what a guy should and/or shouldn't do on a first date? I'd love to see that. Also I hope you plan on getting some better equipment, I feel like this channel is going to really blow up soon!
th-cam.com/play/PLcQ7GtdzCs3dEFJVJg3a8o1j54epnOtpl.html This is the playlist I made...there are some that are relevant on there but I should make 1 specifically about what u said. thanks for the idea!
09:55 - I'm so glad you addressed this, literally every dating advice video I've seen out there and friends I have say the exact opposite, that if a woman is very interested in you she'll respond immediately all the time. It's funny how this is so far from the truth as all the women who've been the most interested in me have always played very hard to get and would not text back and forth immediately and make me wait until some time. Eventually however the conversation would stabilize but always when I was getting to know them initially, it'd follow this trend 90% of the time.
Have you ever heard of H.O.T A.P.E? It stands for humor, openness, touch, area, proximity, eye contact. Watching for some/most of these signs can give a man good confirmation if a woman is interested, but the most powerful imo is eye contact. Attraction isn't a choice and a woman can give this away easily with holding eye contact, but a man must know what to look for in those 2 seconds.
Hey so I'm a 19 yr old virgin and alot of this stuff I had knew thru a gut feeling but kept getting confused😂 thx for helping me connect the gap, looking forward to more vids
One advice, don't be like me being a virgin for too long. If a proper relationship/marriage is your thing, talk to girls, find the right one and formalise your relationship and enjoy intimacy. Being a virgin at 30, etc, is nonsensical and stupid. I'm sorry if I come across as harsh. But in the real world ladies will judge you if you are that age and don't know nada about sex and sexuality. I wish you the best of luck in everything in life. Cheers.
MyNonLeatherLife I have a few more for you: 1): If she keeps talking to you longer then it is socially accepted she has to she likes you. 2): if she plays with her hair a lot or try to look pretty for you and maybe show off her neck she likes you. 3): if she asks you lots of quistions then she deff likes you because thats not normal behavior for a women. 4): she keep touching you for no good reason or she holds your hand longer then she has too when you first shake hands with her. 5): if she leaves her girlsfriends to be with you. girls never do anything by chance they are just so good at pretending it was a accident. Last one is longer eyecontact then 5 secounds if you got them all she is in love with you.
The girl I used to talk to would like always tell me randomly shit going on in her life and personal things. She would always tell me when she rejected guys and what not. She even was like “I’m rejecting everyone” once she also told me a friend of hers told her I liked her. And she asked if its true.
02:18 🚀 Confidence is key: Don't wait for clear signals before asking a girl out; be confident, proactive, and have a go-getter mentality. 03:16 💃 Hyper-feminine behaviors: Exaggerated feminine traits like fake smiling, bubbly voice, acting weaker or dumber, and laughing at jokes are indicators of a girl's interest. 07:16 🌺 Virginal behaviors: Some girls may portray themselves as virginal, classy, and less interested in sex to appeal as a "prize" worth pursuing. 09:34 🎭 Simulating competition: Behaviors like playing hard to get, pretending to be busy, and mentioning other guys are tactics to create an impression of desirability. 10:40 🔄 Proximity behaviors: Girls interested in you may orchestrate "coincidental" encounters to be near you, showing a strategic interest.
So if she likes me she will proceed to misrepresent herself in every way? Why the mating dance? What is she hiding? How long until the facade breaks down? A year maybe? Before I start to find out who she really is and behaves? What is she trying to get me hooked on before I find out who she really is? Just thinking out loud Good video
Not to mention women will do all of this things just to get simps to do stuff for them without being even remotely interested in them. I'm thinking maybe this is why guys don't even pick up on these signs anymore. When you've seen these signs over and over but it often turned out the girl wasn't interested you draw the conclusion it doesn't mean anything. Your brain doesn't associate it with anything in particular.
@@mrkiky So true. For the longest time I thought maybe it was just me. Was I trying to swoop in too fast? Was I overly aggressive? So there was this one hot girl I was interested in and purely for science I decided to be the perfect gentleman. We hung out and I became her emotional sponge too. She'd call me at night with her problems and I'd talk her down from the ledge. Before I knew it a year had gone by. Still nothing. Time to end the experiment. I told her I wanted a kiss. She said No way and gave me that "you're some kind of rapist" look. I told her to get out and not come back. Buh-bye. The problem wasn't that I was being too aggressive, but that girls like to use me for a simp. That all stopped right then and there. Never again.
Thank you Victoria. Even if I get these signals, in the back of my head I know she’ll go give them to someone else as well. I shouldn’t be this attached or possessive but I cant help feel uncontrollable jealousy and pain when I see this play out in real life or imagine it as it is most likely an accurate scenario.
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1. Hyper Feminine Behavior - Act very girly, always smiling, usually a fake smile, laugh at your jokes, even the ones that aren’t funny.
2. Virginal Behavior - Promote that she is reserved, not the type to sleep around.
3. Simulating Competition - Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time.
4. Proximity Behavior - She will pop up at places you frequent.
5. Submissive Behavior - When she’s talking to you, position herself where her curves are highlighted (subconsciously)
6. Emotional Closeness Behavior - Trying to be your friend without actually Friend Zoning you.
Im going to write this on my hand, so i have guidance when it happens in real life
Are you kidding me? Maybe you think that women you're attracted to are subconsciously projecting their "curves" to you, but you're really just staring.
Give this man a medal, or something lol
Thanks bro!
@@cryptic2610 no bro they do it for real
@@cryptic2610
Cryptic had a point here.
Because I had the opposite experienced for myself.
And see many ladies do that too probably because of Asian cultures which are very reserved and was raised that way .
The more they fell in love with a man, the more they will hide their themselves unconsciously ( slouching body posture and head facing low) which are the opposite of their womanly side.
This the 3rd video I’m watching since the raw power video
thank u for watching
That makes two of us!
Same.
What the hell, I'm in the same boat lmao
Werd lol
This women is helping people tap into a primal nature we are being forced to abandon.
Exactly what I was thinking ... WTF. happened
@@dynasticlight1073 Feminism happened. They pretty much made it illegal for men to be men.
Cuz of feminism we were forced top
@@protorhinocerator142 No, even before that, being a man was discouraged
@@liberator101 when?
Pretending to have other dudes after you is not a smart strategy. Bro code dictates that we must give up the chase immediately upon hearing that someone else got there first.
bro code is not real, be a dog
Women think we are the same as them so they act like whats attractive to them.
Virgin is the only real prize for a Man
A woman mentions other guys, I would just tell her I hope it works out with one of them and see it as a bullet dodged. Games right from the off tells me my peace is going to be disturbed constantly. 😅
@@stevencorscadden5767 Wise words. 🎖️
What I like about this woman is that she just shoots a video with little or no makeup in a regular t shirt or sweatshirt without an impeccable room in the backdrop-so unlike these other female dating coaches who I long-stopped watching.
Thank you Chris...I really appreciate that u think this
@@mynonleatherlife you're very welcome
Indeed
We as men want real not fake
She on here snitching the game away
Haha
We got to protect her at all cost!
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One thing nobody talks about when it comes to signs that girls are interested is how they look at a guy when he speaks even if they aren't interacting with each other. I always notice this with girls I have a thing with. They might be on the other side of the room in another conversation but I'll see them look my way out of my peripheral vision every time I speak. They are basically communicating"Oooh, what's he saying?"
This kind of honesty is like an oasis in the desert.
👏👏👏
mirage*
@@1tokeover ??
@@ezralikepie The O.P. is saying that it's not like a desert but like a mirage in the desert. Basically something that is an optical illusion typically associated with deserts.
@@1tokeover Care to elaborate?
*Picking up on these signals saves so much second-guessing and makes dating a lot more straightforward!*
"Making it seem she doesn’t have time, always busy, project the feeling other Men are vying for her time. " No reasonable man will take that, relationship is very easy and you can feel it straight away the one that is yours they won't mess you about, the ones that makes it hard in the beginning should avoided as that's a taste of what to expect
OK, I’m 65. Seen a lot. Went from naive to content. Learned a lot after my divorce. Watched a lot of content, and learned a lot which turned my life around.
This woman does the best intersexual dynamic videos on the web.
She’s honest and seems spot on based my lived experience. You can trust her.
Kudos on not being over-produced. It’s just great content delivered in the most efficient way thinkable.
Great work. Thank you. 👍
thank you charles!!!
This is some great advice. I finally had the courage to flirt and be assertive and grounded in my masculinity recently and was blown away by the beauty of the yin-yang energy dynamic at play. It felt very natural and rewarding for both of us and we both fell for each other; it's a life-affirming experience I'll never forget! In the past, I would play the "nice guy" role to an extreme and essentially had no confidence or direction other than to please them, but could feel that this was unattractive for both of us.
damn this sounds steamy...how did u make the shift to the new way of doing it
Good comment bro!
What shifted your mindset and frame?
@@mynonleatherlife It was a long, slow, and painful process of self-discovery, insights, and letting go of beliefs and perspectives that no longer served me, such as "men are dangerous and predatory by nature" or "I intimidate and scare women" or "I am unworthy of love and acceptance." These beliefs were internalized at a young age, as my mother was the victim of sexual abuse and that was a message I was constantly receiving both from her and society. On top of that my Dad was misogynistic and emotionally abusive and embodied true "toxic masculinity." In addition, being a highly sensitive person / empath, I was avoidant of intense emotions and energy, especially anger and aggression. I had to go through hell to process my past and fortunately survived it to be able to rise from my ashes, so to speak. Now I trust my intuition and instincts, which allows me to be more confident and resilient, while still being compassionate and empathetic. I can now sense and trust the natural attraction and magnetism generated by being grounded in my authentic self and boy, does it feel good!
@@ChandlerSavage It's awesome that you've come so far and that you're able to articulate it so well! Have you thought about making videos on your experiences? You could definitely help guys who have similar backgrounds.
@@evanduquette Thanks, Evan for your positive feedback and also encouraging me to make videos, which I have given some thought to recently. It's amazing to be able to share our lived experience and knowledge to help others for essentially just the cost of our time. It gives me hope for a better future! =)
I'd prefer to stay my own authentical self. And if they don't accept that, then so be it.
same
Fuckin A
Totes! NO RaGrEts bRuh! 👌🤣 Authentical!! is that from an olive garden commercial? Thank God chicks don't give a rats ass about spelling and grammar 🙁
Super great comment!
Alpha shit
this is all gold but the warning not to wait for any of these is easily the most valuable part
@@ElGalloUltimo 💯
Most times, if a girl is into a man, they will make it kind of obvious. Don’t waste your time looking for signs. It’s just games.
I agree! don’t look for these signs. Just ask out whoever you want to but politely and respectfully accept her response or rejection if it happens
See games to me are supposed to be fun. But when girls do that it comes of immature and annoying. Because it could be a waste of time. Girls dont have to approach so how would we know from their subconscious mind
@@petroglyph79 It’s nature, bro ! Most women will NEVER be upfront or clear about it, rather you like it or not. So Ima talk for all my other brothers reading the comments : pay attention to the signs and go for it !
True. I offered this girl a chewing gum and she said ''I want you to shove it down my throat as far as it will go''
@@renaldsunset 👍😎
I appreciated the video, but from a male prospective I would say that some of these behaviours are just turn-offs and rejection signals for us:
- men and women have different attraction criteria: the more women crave a man, the more that man rises in value and desirability to the female eyes, so I assume that girls think that it would be the same for guys, but it just isn't .
Men don't want that tipe of competition.
We really like girls who make us feel desirable, and talking about other men is really not going to bring you anywhere lol
- Also pretend to be busy could work only if you are busy for real or if you can fake it really well, but if I know that a girl is 24h on her phone or that she has not really much going on and just pretends to be busy, the most basic and logical assumption is obviously that she is not into me
- I understand the idea of taking it slow, but the point is how slow:
1-2 Weeks? It may be ok, but 1 Month or more? Hell no 😂
In that case a person would just assume that the girl is not sexually interested in him, and also men are not foolish, most of us knows that girls can fuck a guy the same day they met him and be ok with that, and then put men (who really wants to date those girls) on a line to give them sex only as some sort of "reward" as if they were pets? Just no. Not in man's brain.
That was just a view from a man's prospective, hope it had make you clear some points that you maybe didn't really know about
Also sorry for eventual grammatical errors, English is not my first language
Man, you just nailed it, as a guy I totally agree with you. I often see girls in real life behaving this way, and even in videos like this explaining female behavior, where they put up a fake show, just hoping that such lunacy attracts a man. I personally believe that such female behavior is not just toxic on so many levels, but it clearly shows that women live in a fairy dream land and they have no basic realistic clue about what men want or how men operate. Mind games to promote competition is not sexy; it is downright repulsive and offensive. I personally never consider a woman's social status, and I do not know of any other guy that do. We men only look for a woman whom we can have a nice conversation with and have a good time, not have a wild time guessing and second guessing what she means when she says something, or waiting for a super busy girl, when in reality that's all a show and she could have spent time with me but she would rather be pretentious. Playing hard to get does not get men interested; it just tells a man that a girl is not worth his time.
1. Hyper feminine behaviour 3:19
2. Virginal Behaviour 7:16
3. Simulating competition behaviour 9:30
4. Proximity Behaviour 10:39
5. Submissive Behavior 11:29
6. Emotional Closeness Behaviour 14:08
Salute Soldier
ay...@@FullSugarBrah
@@FullSugarBrahit’s in a males nature to be competitive, there’s a way woman can set this behavior off in yall without being distasteful
Love how she effortlessly simplifies things and makes them relatable.
Love you Victoria! 81yrs old here, love your wisdom and your info. Thank you for the counsel we’re not getting anywhere else! Hugs and kisses ❤.
The majority of comments seem to be expressing amazement at your apparent honesty, and I cannot disagree with them.
An honest woman is very hard to find, and is like catnip for men.
@@protorhinocerator142 I was very lucky to find a much older but very honest woman 50 years ago. I am not a member of any church but I believe in heaven, she was it. After a year of decline she passed away peacefully one night. I really miss that wonderful, wise woman. We were a perfect match. I encourage everyone to follow their heart. Love is a winner.
It's always about the
Level of attraction
The more highly attracted
A woman is to a man the stronger the interest she will
Show
Constantly looking at you
Smiling at you, walking by you, speaking to you, touching you if she's physically attracted to you
And if she's shy she won't
Be able hold eye contact with you.
Only men that women are not
Highly attracted to have deal
With women mind games
A woman isn't going to play
Mind games with a man
That she values, she won't
Run the risk of losing him
Point blank
I think it's if the girl is highly attracted but also has money
It seems pretty accurate from what I experienced. Also here's another tidbit of advice, if a girl likes you and she wants to pursue you. Play a little hard to get. Most of the time it drives them wild. It's like reverse psychology they are not expecting that. I mean still flirt with them, but don't give in so easily. Don't be the dog you are, until you need to be.
All women are interested until proven guilty.That’s the mindset we all need
Thanks
Very good mindset
I used to think this as well , looks like it doesn't apply to the Married women
😅😂😂🔥🔥
how is that true ?
Personally I feel it's not that u should assume they're interested, but whether they're interested or not is irrelevant because until you talk to them a bit and ask them out you'll never know. Many women become interested only after being asked out or perhaps your conversation will spark their interest. The mindset might be good, just there might be a danger in assuming someone is interested if they end up not being
Females watching probably saying “Hey, girl you’re giving all the secrets away!” 🤣
The secret is to play games?? No gem there.. Only headache
Good luck. Wish she would advise women to stop playing games, get to know themselves and practice clear communication of wants and desires.
@Vinny Mac I can count my wants and what I offer on one hand.
Trust
Honesty
Communication
Respect
Patience
Single has been the happiest I have ever been. Gonna take one hell of a authentic woman to convince me to be otherwise.
@Vinny Mac your adorable 😘
I tried the gay path to make sure that wasn't the right thing for me.
It's not.
I'm secure in my masculinity and who I am and you are bold judging based on a few TH-cam comments.
Have fun following a woman in playing games vs finding true value.
😂
Girls WANT the secrets given away!! If you have to TEACH a man to be dominant, that probably isn’t gonna work. This girl will probably be the ONLY chance you’ll have to read a woman’s mind. 🤷🏻♀️
Don't wait for a sign before you ask a girl out... I like that... I feel braver already! lol
awesome!! go for no
The fact is I don’t approach women much anymore, because so many times I’ve been given the impression of that im bothering them, or I’m behaving creepy or out if context.
I really do feel im being harshly judged by them.
Therefore i only do so when im really motivated, which is pretty rare.
I think the “creep” is a huge thing to overcome unless you’re a super stud chad type.
Sadly, women are just as superficial as men- probably more. So unless you are physically attractive, they will probably stop any advances from you. You may not be able to change your appearance, but you can improve your health and improve your hygiene and fashion. I can't believe how many times I have come across men who don't bother brushing their teeth, or are smelly, or just dress really sloppy, or they have long hair and unkempt beard. And they wonder why women don't act positively around them.
There are no shortcuts, sadly. Getting in shape, having a good haircut, getting well-fitting clothes, and developing that masculine "don't give a fuck" assertiveness is key. Women won't admit that the difference between "creepy" and "charming" can be "physical attractiveness".
I think you are very honest and authentic and what you say makes perfect sense. Whenever I watch some other dating advice video on youtube, it is mostly advice that comes from men because I didn't use to trust what women say. The reason why I didn't is because I thought that women would always lie about these kinds of things because it was for their own benefit to lie. For example they say things that imply that the guy should validate them in order for them to like him (this never works). So basically I always felt like these advice were just fake because they never put them in a vulnerable position. However, whenever I stumbled upon your videos, I felt that what you were saying was very genuine and actually very helpful because you are not saying these things with the intent of self-benefit. You are just trying to help guys out. I respect that. I have learned so much just from watching a couple of videos from you because I am getting real and genuine feminine perspective of dating. Thank you for what you are doing.
The pretending to be weak to make you feel strong thing is soo adorable, I love that. Had no idea girls do this.
You know what’s even more adorable? Chicks would Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo a three legged dog if it had money, status and power.
10:17 I have to disagree here Vicky. I think that most men could care less whether a woman they are very attracted to are being touted by other men. I think most men would probably prefer if there was LESS competition for her. That mindset is a very feminine one women feel about their male courtiers. They are more attracted to men whom are desired by many women for whatever reason.
I really love this woman she is actually talking the truth
speaking*
You are the most honest. I'm not surprised that you have such a big following, without all the branding and coaching packages and editing cinematography that probably legitimizes other channels like yours, you arrived here by the raw material and wealth of insight you seem to have. You are like the sister so many guys need. I've often laughed after figuring something out with women that seemed so difficult or i labored over and suffered, going to depths with my time and still not getting results but when I figure it out it's as simple as what you were saying in the other video about the power men have of masculinity. It wasn't until I was 100 pounds overweight that I started hooking up with the most attractive girls of my adult life, into my late 30s and throughout my 40s. Not that they were unattractive in my 20s but I let so many lookers get away in my 20s cause I put myself in my own range and thought it was universal if that makes sense. It wasn't until a few hit on me that I realized my weight gain and age wasn't getting in my way, I was. The wildest part though is the age from 18 to 23 were wrecking years. I didn't know what I was doing but I wasconfident and in the best shape of my life and I hooked up with more girls in that time than I have in the 25 years since. I'm 48 now and my weight gain is definitely not healthy and I'm finally serious about losing it. I know I will always have that predator spirit in a sexy way, and I cannot wait to unleash my max potential. Your videos are gold. I wish you didn't have so many followers. I want to access you and maybe make a produced video. If you want I went to school for photography and video production. Could be fun. Thanks!
Women: “ Men, stop approaching, that’s creepy “
Also women: “For God’s sakes, men have to approach “
I think a handful of creepy men spoiled the fun for everyone.
Creepy men AND neurotic women.
@@Bubbles-od2tv I think women's insanity spoiled the fun for everyone.
Women don't want sub8 men to approach, because ugly men approaching is always creepy. They want Chad to approach, and Chad only.
approach in the right way, in the right time
Well time has changed dear...now guys won't chase girls anymore...we are sick and tired of being framed as desperate jerks or Men will be Men memes. We are afraid of being framed in false cases. Only time we give a consideration when we actually get a hint...otherwise we don't like that so called friend zone.
I wish it really was this way.
Well said, sir. I say let the women have the men who look down on them. They deserve each other.
The plan has worked. Now that the pups have all gone home. The self aware wolfs will go in for the kill. Like a King said, "If we can't kill the enemy we will breed them out."
That's a defeatist mentality and why you ain't getting anywhere, more for me.
better pay an escort nowadays, less problems, less care, save time, no drama .....
This vid randomly appeared in my recommendations lol and I have something I can add from personal experience. If a woman really likes you (especially if she's already a friend) she'll slowly start to turn into you, she'll start to like what you like and adopt some of your hobbies to get your attention.
great point Jay, I know I've done it
The "not answering texts and always busy" tip is tricky and i feel a lot of guys will misunderstand and it's easy to confuse playing hard to get with simply not interested.
Very true
From a guy. Yes. Don’t play hard to get. We will assume you’re not interested and walk away if we value ourselves. The guy that chases is a weak man.
I rarely find a chick on youtube that seem like she projects the truth and is honest
I'm in love with your voice. I could listen to you all day long and not get tired of it. I hate girls that are too loud, skreaming and shouting like baboons...lol
The introduction before the categories was what I found most enlightening.
I hadn't thought of it, but it makes sense that a man should actually do something before he can expect to see signs of attraction.
Just because a woman doesn't have to do anything before she see's signs from men does not mean that it works the other way.
So we have to be careful not to project.
On the point of projection I feel that the points about playing hard to get and a woman showing high social value are to some degree projecting feminine pychology onto men.
I know a woman can be put off if a guy seems too eager too soon because it makes him seem needy, but neediness does not have such a dramatically negative effect on men as it does women. It is fine for a woman to let a guy see early on that she likes him in my view.
Also it is a waste of a womans time trying to project high value. eg. trying to make a guy jealous by appearing to be highly sought after by other guys. Most men this would go right over our heads.
Attraction to high social value is more a feminine trait.
However I get the point that a woman doing these things is demonstrating that she likes a guy, even if what she is doing does not work.
"Competition spurs the heart of every man". Genius!!
She’s talking about stuck up American women.
Foreign women have no qualms showing interest without all this passive aggressiveness.
Thats true. Even in Canada woman are more open.
Not all “foreign women”. This is heavily influenced by culture. You might find more openness in Canada, Australia or some parts of Europe, but far less openness in parts of Asia.
Haha I don't know man, there's a bunch of that going on here.
Where are these foreign women from?
I’m from Europe and I completely resonate to what she’s saying
Great video. It explains a lot.
I could also see every single one of these having no effect or even backfiring on the woman. Growing up, I was hyper-aware that men were often perceived as creeps by women. So I would go out of my way to not be mistaken as one. To me, women were always just friendly unless they gave me unquestionable, in-my-face proof that they wanted more. High pitched voice? Overly friendly? Throwing a smile? She’s just being nice. Subtle hints will often get tossed to the side by considerate guys trying to avoid making the woman uncomfortable and being seen as a creep misinterpreting her signs. I’d rather be seen as oblivious than a creep.
Another thing, if a man has had bad experiences with women being manipulative or deceitful in the past, if they catch on to any of the “phony signs” like the fake voice, pretending to not know something, wanting help when they really don’t, etc, they will see these as the woman being potentially dishonest rather than a flirtation, and end up being on higher guard with them than usual if not avoiding them altogether. That’s the story of my (non)dating life.
Thanks Jeff, I enjoyed reading your experiences with dating. So how would a woman have to let you know if she was interested? What would be the best way? and also why do you think being called a creep was so scary for you and so many other men, I want to make a video on this topic so I would love to hear a bit more
@@mynonleatherlife That's a good question! I think just as a man would I suppose. Depending on the situation and the relationship of the two people I'd say start small and become more increasingly obvious. Whatever feels right. For me personally, the signs would have to be glaring. And even if I noticed it, it'd need to break through all the layers of denial, doubt and restraint to reach an acceptance for me to reciprocate.
For me, the very idea that someone could consider me offensive or uncomfortable to be around is horrifying. I don't want to make anyone ever feel negatively as a result of me. As with a lot of other people, regardless of gender, some folks simply don't want to be disruptive to others. Especially if they're friends or people you know.
When I was a teenager in high school there was a girl I had a crush on. We were both super shy, never spoke directly to one another and just passed each other in the hallway. Mutual friends said I should consider asking her out as she would likely say yes. While I never would've done it without my friend's encouragement, I finally worked up the courage to ask her. Her response was the polar opposite of what I expected. Not only did she reject me, she went out of her way to avoid me in the hallway from then on. I'd never felt so uncomfortable in my life. It was at that moment I realized that everything I'd assumed about her was wrong. Just because a girl might act shy or even throw you a smirk on occasion doesn't mean she likes you that way.
Now, living in the age of #metoo and cancel culture, with all kinds of sexual improprieties in the news and employers doubling down on sexual harassment education in the workplace, it's pushed lots of men like me even further into a mind bubble of making sure anything I'm saying or doing won't be mistaken as improper. So when I hear women say they like men to be the pursuer I immediately think, "yeah, not happening". There's just too much at stake to make the wrong assumption.
I'm married with kids but still enjoy your channel. I enjoy learning from someone as intellectually humble as you. Maybe I can swoon my wife again after all these years.
that would be a lifetime achievement if any info on my channel could help u swoon ur wife just 1 small time. Omg! I'm so honored ur watching.
Personally I am only vulnerable to #6, numbers 1, 2, 3 & 5 are actually turn offs; serious red flags in fact. No surprises I spent most of my adult life single, eventually abandoning dating altogether due to finding so few emotionally healthy women. Having said that I think you are correct on all counts.
healthy women are mostly taken, so us single guys have 2 choices. Date low quality women that will lie, manipulate and cheat or just stay single.
I will be patient for the woman that actually wants to be around me without the games. I am the catch 😂 I own a great home in the best area possible; I am financially secure. What does a woman have to bring to compliment MY LIFE? I have it all already. I don’t want a game. But I do appreciate the advice this lady gives. She’s dropping knowledge.
Unfortunately u need to be schooled as owning a great home and being financially secure does not make u a catch
😅 You know I once finally asked a girl out and I bellyflopped-HARD. But while it hurt, I got over it and realized that I had nothing to be scared of; well, at least not SO scared of!
As always, thanks for the great advice! This was all good to know!
fr lmao
#3 simulating competition is something seems to work on women, not on men. Or at least in my experience. I get turned off really fast if I think she is juggling multiple dudes' attention. Maybe it's the time we are growing up in that makes me feel that way.
If she wants me then she will show her interest by giving me her time and we can proceed from there.
A few years ago I hung out with this girl a lot because we were in work study together. I felt real chemistry when I was around her, but at the time I thought there was no chance that she could really be interested in me. I thought she was way out of my league. However, there were times I really wondered if she was interested. There were times where we both made really strong eye contact and just smiled the biggest smiles at each other. Then she would do shit like talk about other guys when she talked to her friends around me. That confused me and it made me conclude she was just teasing me and playing games, but looking back I can see that she was clearly interested and my lack of confidence kept me from seeing it
I had similar experiences. Honestly, it's a crap shoot.
i binged 80% of your videos now. respect for making this kind of content. i live in germany and the young women here are definitely like you describe them. its almost like a boot camp now since im living the d/s lifestyle (without the clothes, just the state of mind/behavior) and get every girl to build up their sexual confidence / teaching them the basics to look for (and appreciate) in a great relationship. im usually their first or second boyfriend so its kinda... altruistic to give them a good example (how a man should be in a relationship) so that they have a reference point in the future to compare their current situation to. im not arrogant enough to think a relationship will last forever so i at least give something positive no matter what happens. a female stalker teached me that lesson when she told me years later how impressed she was ( by my behavior towards her on our first date) that she got into actual fights with her next guys... because she compared their behavior to mine and wasnt happy with them. 90% of my girlfriends LOVED to act cute/younger/like a cat even... to tease me instead of showing me more directly what they wanted. they felt safe enough to let me do whatever i want and in turn i gave them both things they love most.... dominant sexual experiences + the absolute confidence that i wouldnt leave them. passion that goes beyond soft boundries & safety... like you talked about in some of your videos. sorry for rambling but i wanted to tell you that you are spot on & appreciated since you ask for our input. enjoy your weekend^^
Oh wow that is fantastic to hear from a guy who is experienced with this stuff. Like a cat.. I want to put that in my next vid about 3 more female fantasies. do u have any additional tips or advice for guys on how to do some of the things u do naturally or even video topic ideas. I am sure u have so much good advice to share from ur experiences
@@mynonleatherlife do you have some kind of "channel" email to send my answer to? not sure how long my text will be but i know youtube has bugs with long texts sometimes and a word limit too (i think i reached that once). otherwise i would need to cut my answer into little segments (and hope that youtube doesnt censor me).
@@yellowdevil8396 mynonleatherlife at gmail
what does acting like a cat mean?
@@mynonleatherlife whats the vid where u talk about cat fantasies lol
Oooh so that's why all the girls around me are super strong, with a tone of voice lower than my self-esteem and never smiling
Talking to women without having received any signs from them that they are interested is not only a question of confidence but also a question of productivity and a question of dominance. Most women who do not send out signs of interest are likely either genuinely not interested (enough) in an interaction with a male or they have other things on their mind and are just not mentally prepared/receptive (enough) for it, unless maybe the place (bar, disco, club, hotel for singles, cruise ship for singles etc.), her dress (showing much skin), her shoes (high-heels), her hair, her make up, the way she moves, carries her hair etc. etc. suggests otherwise.
You can still try if u feel an urge for action and if there are no other interesting women in that very moment but in a setting with multiple/many options, your likelihood of success will be higher if u take your chance on those who are showing that they are in good/friendly/sexual mood, interested in what’s going on around them and open to interaction.
Also, there are many women who are well capable of sending all sorts of clear signals but chose not to do so because they want to be the dominant part in the interactions with men. These women will deliberately make it harder for men to approach them because the one who is (or appears to be) less interested in the interaction usually has gets upper hand in that interaction.
Another important aspect to consider is whether the situation in which you approach a woman is one that conveys her hints about who u r and what value u could provide to her. Talking to a woman who is passing by u, while u r sitting on your multi-million dollar yacht, smoking a cigar and having your stewardess serving you a cocktail and talking to a woman on the street is not the same thing. In the latter case, u don’t have a reason to expect her showing u immediate interest therefore u have to be persistent. In the first case however, if she doesn’t show immediate interest, then she likely genuinely isn’t interested.
You have a gift and I am now hooked on your channel. I have been watching a lot of videos from women who give dating tips and I have learned a lot from them. Your energy makes you stand out above the others. For me, you are like the sister that I never had who could tell me about girls that I could never know from my guy friends because they don't know either. Women don't realize the confusion that boys have toward girls from a very young age. For example, when I was in grade school there was a saying that plants a seed early that boys are less than girls. The poem was called, “What Are Little Boys Made of?” The lyrics were: What are little boys made of?” Snips and snails and puppy-dog tails, that's what little boys are made of. What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice and everything nice, that's what little girls are made of.” Growing up I heard women talk about all guys want is sex. I grew up thinking that women didn't like sex and looked down on guys like we were perverts. Of course, as an adult, I know that this is not true. My point is that girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence. How can we when we are growing up with mixed messages from society? Remember the ad from Gillette where boys were looked down upon for just behaving like boys? I think the reason why I like you is that I don't see an agenda on your part. Maybe it's because, in the two videos that I just watched, you didn't mention press the like button and subscribe. While it is ok to ask for that I felt that you were telling me secrets without wanting anything in return. I actually learned more in your two videos than the many videos from other channels. You are a natural at this. Keep smiling!
girls don't understand why guys are confused and lack confidence--you are so right, most women project this hyper masculine fantasy on men...I'm actually going to try to make a video about that soon. The only way I figured this out was by having a social anxiety meetup called the rejection club and seeing how many guys were struggling talking to women and also talking to a friend I met in a social anxiety group online in depth about male female dynamics. I NEVER would have got it if not for that I think. I also lacked a LOT of sympathy for men. That snips and snails and puppy dog tails thing is so interesting because even as a young girl hearing that I was kinda jealous of the freedom, scrappiness and mischief that I thought that rhyme implied but you're right, it does make men seem less good than girls in a way. great point! And thank u for saying u appreciate my not asking for likes and subscribes I might start doing it idk but it never felt right cause if u do like it u will like it, and my goal truly is to help men who are struggling. So thank u very much Brian for your wonderful and interesting perspective.
I’ve been thinking about this dynamic for years and you’re putting it into words
Which dynamic were u thinking about
Thank you, for helping me getting a small gaze of the female perspective in another informative video... As always.
✌🏼
yay thank u
Well said. I can add that if a girl likes you, she won’t turture and drag you over the coals and finally list a litany of reasons why she has to reject you. She will make the journey smooth and less bumpy. Great service you are doing. Keep it up.
How will she make it smooth and less bumpy
@@mynonleatherlife If she is self conscious enough about the importance of communication and has a slight respect for her and his time, she will be stragiht forward with it : I don't want to give you false hope. I am not into you ! Go ahead with your life, be abundant and find someone that wants you in her life.
@@mynonleatherlife Lol you being a woman asking this question shows your dedication... You seem like a very good listener...
Hey good on you for coming out and saying all that. And fk production values!
You dropping more knowledge than these “alpha male” channels lmaooo🤣 I jus got in a girl guts I met 2 days ago by being a “nice guy”🤷🏽♂️ as long as she dig you you gon be digging her in no time that’s just the bottom line.... there’s no secret.
My #1 sign of female interest is her body language, specially her look behavior. Don't miss her eyes but don't bother her, either, and you'll have a reading of her while you are conveying a statement about yourself. Also, attend her movements and her tone of voice. Listen to her as if you were deciphering and enjoying a polyphony and intervene when you must. Keep discrete and make her feel assured at being understood.
Note: I'm a 61 y.o. university professor successful in making female friends since childhood.
If a woman is interested in you, they will call out your name when they see you. They will wave at you from across the room. They will give you a genuine smile. But most importantly, when a woman truly admires you, they will speak well of you to all their friends. They will also laugh at all your jokes. Women at work are more fearful of others finding out about them dating a coworker. So before they open up to you, they have to really trust you.
I can care less tbh 🤷♂️ I’m to focused on myself.
then y u watch
@Bobs Slong then u do care...
The correct way to say that is "you COULDN'T care less". What you said implies that you do care.
Great mindset!
Of course us men cannot do two things at the same time. Being succesful and having relationships? Impossible.
The go getter mentality and action is important but reading others is powerful side tool. You need both. You interact, but observe. Don’t go blurting your intentions. Get the number/socials after you spend a little time talking first.
Just found this and so far it is the deepest breakdown I have found. Well done.
Really deep topics. One thing my pop used to tell me when I was in my mid 20s was "son, if you ever have to ask yourself whether or not a woman is interested in you, 99% of the time she isn't ".
thanks a lot although I kind of disagree with his advice personally
@@mynonleatherlife what do you disagree with? Let's talk about it. Lol!
@@alvincook8970 I just think women do a lot of things which might seem like disinterest but they're actually playing hard to get or waiting for the man to step up and take the initiative and lead the course of the relationship
The way to tell someone likes you, is if they are interested in you. They will go out of their way to just talk to you. They will notice and remember alot of things about you.
When I was crushing on my crush, I became friends with them first, and I just wanted to get to know them. The more I got to know them, the more I ended up liking them. They ended up liking me to, the more we hung out and talked.
The biggest danger is the "friend zone." Just be confident, and be your best self, and whoever you find attractive will come naturally to you.
The friend zone is for guys she doesn't find attractive. It's just an excuse to keep them at a distance. There's no such thing as "i only see you as a friend". If you're both single, both attracted to each other and on top of that get along too, there's no way you'll just stay friends. I was in similar situations to the one you described. I was friends with my crush but I wasn't friendzoned because I didn't make a move just to get rejected. When we got close enough we got together. It has also happened that I got a crush on someone completely incompatible with me, since a crush is really just an addiction to someone's presence. Many time people will have a crush on someone that's totally bad for them. In many of those cases, it just falls flat and doesn't work out. Other times they get together just to turn into a disaster farther down the road.
This information that you share feels genuine. This is really appreciated.
Hello Dear,
First of all i appreciate you for this video.
Beside the video i want to add few points... If a girl is really interested into you she will not make an eye contact with you because she feel shy and start blushing if she look into your eyes... Second thing, make sure to be honest with her about your personality, do tell her about the bad/ negative side of your personality and something wrong that you did in past, after listening if girl didn't change her behavior with you, it means she love you... She will ask you if you are not busy... She will text you that she miss you... She will text you after call that she feel nice/ happy talking to you... She will ask you about how she look...
Advice: Don't try to check if boy/ girl is interested in you or not, better is if you are interested in someone, make sure your words and gestures must be filled with feelings... Like i say, if you talk from heart, a heart will listen and if you talk from your mind, a mind will listen... Love is a domain of heart not mind. And i am confident to say that you can win heart of anyone, even of the person who hates you. Take your time to learn about her and make sure to sync yourself with her feelings if you want to win her heart.
Just for Info: its easy to understand guys because their good and bad are clear but its very difficult to understand a girl because every girl is a mistery and every girl is different then every other girl.
I love your advice, thank you
The beginning was sufficient for me, ive been away from dating for sometime working on myself and that was more than enough information. You a real one!
Kinda paradoxically, all of the signs you have described in this video would make me run the hell away from that woman, I don't care that she likes me, I am not interested in her and completely not attracted to her
Sadly, I don't set off these positive vibes when I meet women. I have many friends that are women, but hardly ever GET a girlfriend. They all agree that I'm a nice guy, with a good sense of humor, and treat women like a lady. But that's as far as it goes. I am their friend - that's it. It's funny, because I've heard many nice things said about me, yet they wouldn't think about wanting to actually BE with me. The advice always is: Be Yourself. Well, I don't know how to be anyone else! I wish I could! If I did, I'd have girlfriends. Instead, I am alone, sad, depresssed, and very much alone. Have been for a very long time. Evidently, I dont have what it takes ... and I dont know what that is.
Hit the nail on the head around 10:00 (and the entire video too), good lord. THANK YOU
haha yes! Thanks John
#3 has always been, and is, a signal for me that I'm either being played or that a woman is not interested. so I move on to another, who is more open. Then I get the "why did you stop talking to me?" text. Well, I don't talk to people that don't want to talk to me, duh.
Very good and amongst all those videos/speakers with answers, more or less smart, but always ready to be presented...for the ones that want a quick recipe what to do...she dares to actually think and choose her words deliberately while speaking. Touching the half- or subconscious (depending on the self awareness of each one). Useful and touching at the same time.
One of the best 2021 channels , I’m telling you right now .
thank you :)
Damn I like this channel just found it and the rawness of knowledge you give out is a amazing
thank u very very much
I like how you have this authentic vibe when saying this things. I have heard them over and over again. Some of them i deduced using evolutionary biology, other theories.
It's rare for me to see woman explaining this with pure intention.
However. Some of your biases restrict women into boxes. There aren't quite a many of them and most of things you say is i think true.
Everyone has biases. They help us to predict the world. They are essantial for functioning in my opinion. Just be aware of that and don't change anything that you do.
which are the biases you see...i am sure you are right...it could help me out
@@mynonleatherlife
I don't know which are specific. But i am sure that not all women think like you do.
There are some general patterns on what women like. Yesterday i watched you and your boyfriend where you asked him questions. I sense that you LIKE him ofc and think that's only way that man has to be.
It feels like everything he does is always right. That's awesome if you feel like that but in general terms it's not like that.
For example stoicism. Some women like men who can persevere in negative emotions. While you said little anger is okay and maybe attractive.That's not a bias but an opinion. But i see that here are women who dislike angry men cause they seem like they lose control. I see both types of women liking different things.
There are some universal truths probably. Your perspective is valuable due to being from women who thinks about this things. It's not pickup vibe which men will sell you for $. Also female fantasies suggest some women want to be controled phyisicaly.
Also worst traumas are RAPE traumas. It's sexually experience but with wrong men. It's so so so much deeper. I can point out contradictions and bias towards 1 side. But anyway as i said keep doing what you are doing it has some truth value and for me perspective is much more valuable to my personal mind.
@@multicrogamer ur right meow...there are so many different ways for men to succeed in life, dating and relationships and it's not all this one way I am describing. I do see it as a much larger theme though than many guys realize which is why I try to get the message out there since a lot of guys are resisting the darker things women crave and don't like to admit. Also these things are subtle and have a lot of nuance to them and I tend to oversimplify them a bit cuz of time constraints. For example I also hate angry men! A lot of things relating to our sexuality are actually paradoxical so it can be pretty confusing.
So glad TH-cam recommended your channel. Your videos are eye-opening 🙌🏻
Vicky, you are on target 100%. And you are beautiful. Keep posting sweetheart. I just subscribed.😘😘
Thanks a lot James, I appreciate that and thx for subscribing
Lol you're such a good women. Be honest does this listen reflect back on you? It's not a bad thing. You're helping men!
do u mean, have I done or do I relate to any of the behaviors I mentioned?
@@mynonleatherlife yeah
@@mirinboy1745 yes absolutely (sorry TH-cam wouldn’t let my original comment post but) I have done all of these in some way or another except I never faked an ☄️✨✨✨⚡️
Good for you,you went from 2000+ subs to over 5k.Keep up with the great videos thank you.
when the vid started getting shared by youtube i had under 1000...thank you!!
that part about pretending to be busy hit me, I was literally dating a girl who said she was busy all the time and took hours to answer my messages but not for a second did I think of her as the popular type among guys, I literally got concerned that she wasn't interested. she also mentioned other guys at times, I did not feel that competition vibe at all, I just thought: wow if she thinks about them while being around me, maybe i'm not enough
How did that situation end for you? I’m dealing with a girl like that rn and I don’t really know what to do
@@LegendaryMamba24 She eventually called me one night and told me that I "deserve someone better" and that she still had feelings for her ex. idk if this was a game or something but 16 year old me trusted her words and I moved on, haven't spoken to her ever since
@@silfver8744 I'm 17 rn, and I'm not dealing with ex problems. I can deal with some games, but if a girl tells me something like that, I'm outta there
@@LegendaryMamba24 my thought exactly, it did hurt to let her go but thinking back, even if I managed to win her over she would probably have cheated on me later on, today I'm 19 and living the single life, I'm not rushing things, just waiting for the right one
I accidentally ran into this channel, I dont regret it
I don't know... the problem is that lately women do this with every guy (at the gym for example). And not only with you. I think times have changed and you can't trust those signs anymore. I mean... I think women no longer go after just one man, but they flirt (I think they actually date too) with as many men as possible, and when they flirt with you they are just inviting you to be part of their harem (which I reject not out of jealousy, but for purely hygienic reasons).
The advice for guys is : what's meant to be yours will be yours no matter what, when it is time she'll fall right into your arms, meanwhile work on yourself and develop yourself and don't even look their way.
Oracle 1
Exactly as expected from a sufi monk, yeah that's true underlining the things. But outside it's all game and that's all it's all about. ;)
That's a lie. What will be yours will not be yours if you don't step out and do the work. That advice is what has kept many idiots single for a long time.
I agree with most of what is being said, however when it comes to adult behavior, I believe a wise man can bypass a woman’s ambiguousness by displaying purpose driven character & then he will notice the “signals” for the opportunities for him to approach. Otherwise he’s just “shooting from the hip”
I agree with that jealousy thing that women do. I don’t know if how react is a good thing or a bad thing. My reaction is more like no reaction tbh. I don’t know if that attracts women more or make them feel like I’m not that interested. I compartmentalise my feelings a lot. Love your content too, I’ve just subscribed. Its always good to hear and see a woman’s perspective on things
hmm it could be both at the same time (your third sentence). Thank you for subscribing and your feedback! I love it.
@@mynonleatherlife cheers thank you. Another thing, like for you how do you figure out if a man is either confident or arrogant due to like his body language? It seem more like woman are more attentive to details towards men where from a guys perspective we don’t pay as much attention to detail towards woman we just assume. Not all men though
I'm 21 and I've never dated anyone before but I have been binge watching your videos and they are just so insightful. Have you done a video on what a guy should and/or shouldn't do on a first date? I'd love to see that. Also I hope you plan on getting some better equipment, I feel like this channel is going to really blow up soon!
Thank you Kodlaken...hmm I've kind of made some relevant but....I'm going to make a playlist of all those videos right now brb
th-cam.com/play/PLcQ7GtdzCs3dEFJVJg3a8o1j54epnOtpl.html This is the playlist I made...there are some that are relevant on there but I should make 1 specifically about what u said. thanks for the idea!
don't feel bad im 32 and haven't been in a relationship yet I'm still working on it lol
09:55 - I'm so glad you addressed this, literally every dating advice video I've seen out there and friends I have say the exact opposite, that if a woman is very interested in you she'll respond immediately all the time. It's funny how this is so far from the truth as all the women who've been the most interested in me have always played very hard to get and would not text back and forth immediately and make me wait until some time. Eventually however the conversation would stabilize but always when I was getting to know them initially, it'd follow this trend 90% of the time.
Great commentary.
Keep on keepin on. I'm sure all us guys appreciate it.
All guys definitely do not appreciate it. The majority in the comments are highly triggered but I block them
I learnt so much from this vid. It helps so much with the ppl im talking to atm. Keep up the great work.
omg really? LIke what is happening with the ppl ur talking to that relates
Have you ever heard of H.O.T A.P.E? It stands for humor, openness, touch, area, proximity, eye contact. Watching for some/most of these signs can give a man good confirmation if a woman is interested, but the most powerful imo is eye contact. Attraction isn't a choice and a woman can give this away easily with holding eye contact, but a man must know what to look for in those 2 seconds.
hot ape is pretty funny
@@mynonleatherlife I read that as Ho Tape lol
Hey so I'm a 19 yr old virgin and alot of this stuff I had knew thru a gut feeling but kept getting confused😂 thx for helping me connect the gap, looking forward to more vids
One advice, don't be like me being a virgin for too long. If a proper relationship/marriage is your thing, talk to girls, find the right one and formalise your relationship and enjoy intimacy. Being a virgin at 30, etc, is nonsensical and stupid. I'm sorry if I come across as harsh. But in the real world ladies will judge you if you are that age and don't know nada about sex and sexuality.
I wish you the best of luck in everything in life. Cheers.
Love your videos! You have a awesome vibe and style! I really enjoy listening to you. Thanks
Wow! you're the real deal ! You're advice is the best advice i've ever been given on women !
Can’t believe I’m just now finding your channel. Thanks for the info & your insight, please keep doing what you’re doing!
I'm gonna try, it is harder now that i have more subscribers😂😂getting stage fright!
@@mynonleatherlife - that just means you’re doing it right. Cheers & best wishes!
Brilliant! Refreshingly real, honest and informative. I'm already hooked! :)
Thanks a lot Ghost Fat Productions!
Somebody tell girls that “pretending “ to be busy and all that bullsht makes guys go-
“Good luck with that” faker
so true, im dealing with that kind of shitty behaviour atm
yeah fuck dat shit
@@HastaLaTomorrow dump her
streets
MyNonLeatherLife I have a few more for you: 1): If she keeps talking to you longer then it is socially accepted she has to she likes you. 2): if she plays with her hair a lot or try to look pretty for you and maybe show off her neck she likes you. 3): if she asks you lots of quistions then she deff likes you because thats not normal behavior for a women. 4): she keep touching you for no good reason or she holds your hand longer then she has too when you first shake hands with her. 5): if she leaves her girlsfriends to be with you. girls never do anything by chance they are just so good at pretending it was a accident. Last one is longer eyecontact then 5 secounds if you got them all she is in love with you.
Fascinating video Victoria, thank you for the regular uploads!
Doing Coaching Calls seems like a great fit for you - Go for it!
Thanks a lot Dire_Venom!
The girl I used to talk to would like always tell me randomly shit going on in her life and personal things. She would always tell me when she rejected guys and what not. She even was like “I’m rejecting everyone” once she also told me a friend of hers told her I liked her. And she asked if its true.
hahah nice. so do u think she was interested
@@mynonleatherlife Honestly yes what do u think
@@benziz2009 bro...now you're reaching my levels of blindness lol
Did you want her to wear a sign! It was on for sure
Haha.. She is in to you lol. Go make that move
02:18 🚀 Confidence is key: Don't wait for clear signals before asking a girl out; be confident, proactive, and have a go-getter mentality.
03:16 💃 Hyper-feminine behaviors: Exaggerated feminine traits like fake smiling, bubbly voice, acting weaker or dumber, and laughing at jokes are indicators of a girl's interest.
07:16 🌺 Virginal behaviors: Some girls may portray themselves as virginal, classy, and less interested in sex to appeal as a "prize" worth pursuing.
09:34 🎭 Simulating competition: Behaviors like playing hard to get, pretending to be busy, and mentioning other guys are tactics to create an impression of desirability.
10:40 🔄 Proximity behaviors: Girls interested in you may orchestrate "coincidental" encounters to be near you, showing a strategic interest.
So if she likes me she will proceed to misrepresent herself in every way?
Why the mating dance?
What is she hiding?
How long until the facade breaks down? A year maybe? Before I start to find out who she really is and behaves?
What is she trying to get me hooked on before I find out who she really is?
Just thinking out loud
Good video
Not to mention women will do all of this things just to get simps to do stuff for them without being even remotely interested in them. I'm thinking maybe this is why guys don't even pick up on these signs anymore. When you've seen these signs over and over but it often turned out the girl wasn't interested you draw the conclusion it doesn't mean anything. Your brain doesn't associate it with anything in particular.
@@mrkiky So true. For the longest time I thought maybe it was just me. Was I trying to swoop in too fast? Was I overly aggressive?
So there was this one hot girl I was interested in and purely for science I decided to be the perfect gentleman. We hung out and I became her emotional sponge too. She'd call me at night with her problems and I'd talk her down from the ledge.
Before I knew it a year had gone by. Still nothing. Time to end the experiment. I told her I wanted a kiss. She said No way and gave me that "you're some kind of rapist" look.
I told her to get out and not come back. Buh-bye.
The problem wasn't that I was being too aggressive, but that girls like to use me for a simp. That all stopped right then and there. Never again.
Thank you Victoria. Even if I get these signals, in the back of my head I know she’ll go give them to someone else as well. I shouldn’t be this attached or possessive but I cant help feel uncontrollable jealousy and pain when I see this play out in real life or imagine it as it is most likely an accurate scenario.
Thanks for taking the time to post your thoughts in the description area. I appreciate that. You are really doing well. Thank you
Thank you P Poe...I like to post the description there in case people don't want to watch the vid lol.