You are spilling the beans on what women want and why. It makes me feel a lot more comfortable with dating women knowing what they're looking for. Tons of positive energy your way!
@@mynonleatherlife no, keep on saying you're beautiful name Victoria, there is nothing better as to introduce yourself for those who know nothing about you. For us who know you allready, we love you, and we love every word that you say, every movement that you do, etc. Its the same prozess that you have explained in this video, we have to admire every small thing about the others if we are to be taken seriously... Thanks for all dearest...
I usually don’t trust women on type of advise, but I’ve been watching your videos and you’ve gaines my trust because you genuinely want to help us! So definitely gonna try these tips!! Thanks again for your great efforts!!
Thanks for the lovely insight. In some instances some ladies have very high level of insecurity or hate of their body to such a degree that you being genuine and honest with your appreciation has the opposite effect. They never believe you, dismis you or even get really angry with you. Any way I still consider being honest and true is still the way to go, even if they see it otherwise. Keep up the good work.
wow that's really sad :( but I 100% believe it. I agree with u u just gotta keep reassuring them like a abused animal who has to learn to trust again :(
"Mastering the Art of Sensual Intimacy: Top 10 Tips for an Exceptional Sexual Experience" **2. Concise summary of the video content:** In this video, Victoria shares her top 10 tips for creating a positive and uplifting sexual experience for women. The tips include the importance of going slow, touching non-erogenous zones first, the significance of foreplay, avoiding the premature use of lube, reassuring her about her body, discussing preferences openly, understanding the clitoris, giving the first experiences as a gift, maintaining a calm attitude, and staying engaged even after the act. **3. Key highlights or important points covered in the video:** - Going slow and savoring the moment is crucial. - Start by touching non-erogenous zones before moving to more sensitive areas. - Foreplay is emphasized, and the importance of building up slowly is highlighted. - Discourages the premature use of lube, suggesting it may indicate rushing the process. - The significance of reassuring and accepting her body unconditionally is stressed. - Openly discussing preferences and being considerate of her comfort level. - Understanding the clitoris and not expecting all women to have vaginal orgasms. - Giving the first sexual experiences as a gift to show generosity. - Maintaining a calm attitude and being non-reactive if she doesn't want to proceed further. - Aftercare is recommended to show respect and care even after the act. - A bonus tip: Text her the next day to stay friends and alleviate any post-experience doubts. **4. Conclusion or key takeaways:** The key takeaways from Victoria's tips are centered around patience, communication, and generosity. Going slow, understanding her body, discussing preferences openly, and showing ongoing care contribute to a positive and uplifting sexual experience. **5. Purport:** The video aims to provide valuable insights and guidance to individuals seeking to enhance their approach to intimacy, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect, communication, and a generous attitude for a positive and uplifting sexual encounter.
Hi Victoria, excellent tips, I have learned over the years to do every one of these tips that you recommend, and I can completely agree with them. There is no rush, it’s important for men to be aware of body language, pay attention to the body language, and the sounds that she is making, and there is nothing wrong with cuddling afterwards it’s actually very comforting for both men and women. Thank you for another excellent tips! 19:27
Thank you for this thoughtful, carefully worded and encouraging educational video (I feel I can speak for a lot of men who are eager to help women reach the most blissful spaces they possibly can, and maybe beyond)
Wow.. This is Gold for both men and women's sake 💯 It's the man's responsibility to make the woman feel comfortable being so open in accepting us in; both literally and figuratively speaking. Unfortunately, this is typically not passed down from parents (most are not even aware); so to have this information is a privilege and blessing. Thank you 🙏🏽
Great points, thanks for sharing them. This is validating to hear for me, honestly. When you think about it though, I think all these tips come naturally if the guy has the right priorities, i.e. he prioritizes the girls well-being over his own sexual gratification. The elephant in the room is that, by default, most guys don't. Because they don't prioritize her, they only do the bare minimum amount of foreplay etc. to get what they want. It's not because they're necessarily bad people. The problem is they don't have an understand and appreciation for affection. Doing something nice for someone else doesn't make them feel good the way that it should. If it did then doing all those things you listed would be a no-brainer. So why doesn't it make them feel good? Well, I think there's truth to the idea that you can only really give to others when you are whole yourself. These guys have needs, empty holes in their souls, that they're trying to fill up and they don't have the peace of mind to really see other people. They need personal growth. Myself I only really discovered the joys of being affectionate when I was in my mid-twenties. Also, it's cool how women's sexual arousal is directly tied to the man's interest in her well-being. I guess it makes sense in an evolutionary sense.
imo basic difference is you know yourself sexually and you dont hide it. You speak your truth confidentally. Its a balance because you help many men understand the deeper levels to a woman. The levels as you say many of them dont even know. Red Pill content cant go to your depths because its men providing it. They cant tell us what you’ve learned about yourself on any level, let a lone a sexual one. If you do more videos, follow ups, etc. you will take off further. Its like a genie has been let out a bottle.
Yes I think I agree, men expect dating to be equal but it really isn’t in many women’s minds. They still want the man to take the lead in the bedroom and many men are confused about this
Honestly this information is so invaluable. So much of what to do is a guessing game, I want to provide my woman with the best possible experience. So much of what you say validates what many guys probably already speculate, but never know for sure. I think this gives us a nudge to, at the very least, run with these ideas and find out rather than being passive and then always wonder ‘what if?’ 👏👏
This is pure gold thank you. Reminds me of the drunken holydays before covid, where girlfriends of my friend shared some tipsy tips. Even more precise. Love you
Omg I really love your way of explaining. Luckely for me..., I've always taken things slow and have never disrespected the woman. I have always looked at man and woman as a gift to eachother when it comes to sex. Always had the feeling and thought that "I'm here for you... and want to be a part of" your journey. If I can't respect and care for her, I can not have any self-respect either. Listening to you makes me warm and hopeful. Thank you!
Victoria: your tips are the best. I really, really appreciate them, and you. Thank you for creating all of this helpful content and putting all of it, and yourself, out there. You are greatly appreciated.
Id like to give a few tips........involve all senses.......put on deep music, music involved with a meditative beat, with actual instruments, use smell and incense,- jasmine, sandalwood, patchouli etc and lighting...make it a murky light to let the imagination flow, a soft light, almost dark. If you can, adorn the walls with eclectic taste......pictures of transcendental forms and figures.
Great stuff. As always. But helped to confirm that I've been doing the right things or had the right focus and perspective. I actually always am more satisfied by satisfying a woman.
Thank you for the insight, when it comes to women I’m the most uneducated guy out there, I think you brought up some outstanding points, your advice it think is priceless
Have experienced every SINGLE step described here. My girl still says that the part that I have accepted her body the way it is....just makes her fall for me all over again.
I've been thinking how I kind of underplayed that one in this video and should have given it even more emphasis. i love that u have had that experience and it's so important!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife The best part about this channel is , a female is talking to guys without judging them! And the nice guys/men can actually have a conversation with you without any fear of being judged.
I really like your point about being generous. At least for me, it comes down to being happy about spending time with a girl while being close and connecting to each other. Which is also this "being in the moment". But I dont think that this "being a giver" can be assumed by some guys, if it still comes from a frame of "give some to get some", that consumer attitude, instead of them actually enjoying building a moment and a nice experience for them and a girl.
Knowing that there are guys out there who genuinely enjoy giving the way I do is good to hear. I feel like my current boyfriend is so fast with the build up and sometimes doesn’t even bother. I’ve brought it up twice to him & even tho he has been focusing on warming me up I get the feeling that it’s a chore to him… it makes me feel awful enough to want to end things, he’s a great guy it’s just this thing really gets to me.
@@Serah-pq1cw There are types of men, in a VERY big simplification, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. All of them have pros and cons. Your bf might be a cold warrior that will provide and protect, problem solve and be goal oriented, but he might not be much of a lover that enjoys the process of making love and doesn't count time when he's "in the moment" with a girl. But then if you got with a lover type of guy, he might make you irritated with how nonchalant, care free and relaxed he is about pushing life, material status and being a provider ;)
@@Serah-pq1cw "No man can be judge in his own cause", it's not for me to decide, but I always felt the call to be a warrior, turned out I'm probably more of a lover type ;) I think it's fair to add that there are also women that have this quicker, more "to the point" approach to sex, it's not only men that can rush things too much. Then as a man, I want this mentality that if I'm leading a woman, it's me that has the responsibility for the mood, for reading her needs and delivering. I think many women want to just relax into the experience that the man provides. But that's male perspective. If you are a woman, then you also can influence your boyfriend to relax more. He might feel the "pressure to preform". (Like when he has erection, he might feel he needs to act quickly, not to be judged for being soft while just cuddling. Not saying that's the case, just an example.) It might be good to show him that you also enjoy calm moments of just being together, by accenting those moments, praising him for being relaxed, improving communication and telling him these things openly. For example I had a gf that when it was winter and cold, she decorated her room in this "hygge" cozy style and when I was visiting her, she was just waiting in bed, completely naked under soft blanket, only her catsy eyes peeking out of it... It was an invitation to spend time together closely, not necessarily to immediately have sex. She needed it and she also created those cozy experiences for both of us, out of her own initiative :)
This is the best advice ever. Should be mandatory for every guy. And I know it seems obvious now, but I wish I had known this on some terrible dates I've been on when I had no clue what I was doing. One woman even told me after we had sex that 'This is not sex!' and I had no clue what she was talking about, I was SO ignorant and I fear most guys are too! Thanks Victoria.
Thank you very much Paul! In that situation what do you think she was referring to? You are so right that most guys are ignorant of what women want in bed. Women won't tell them though as they unconsciously expect men to lead there and know what they're doing due to the sex negative programming they have been raised with I believe.
@@mynonleatherlife Yes there is so much work to do to deprogram that sex negative reinforcement and I think it is up to the guy too. We need to worship the goddess in her! In the situation I was referring to, she did not tell me what she wanted and so when we made love, typical guy, I totally ignored your Tip #2: START WITH "NON SEXUAL" BODY PARTS AND BUILD UP, Tip # 3: FOREPLAY IS EVERYTHING and Tip # 6: KNOW THE MOST IMPORTANT AREA. I didn't know how to make her orgasm, rushed to third base straight away and she (I realize now) just gave up and said 'okay just do it.' Then I was stupid enough to ask her 'how was it for you?' and she said 'that's not sex!' It wasn't - it was just one way. Thanks again :)
@@paulwilliams3846 I love it Paul. So amazing that you have the self awareness and humility to recognize this. And i agree with u about worshipping the goddess in her...great point
I just wanted to say thank you very , very much for this (and all) your videos , this has helped me so much being married for over 10 years helping and understanding how to make the relationship better and stronger with more bonding. Also as a guy and generally speaking this information on sex is not known nor do I have the cues to self Realize but it all makes sense. Thank you for being honest and your delivery of content seems more raw and real than others and makes men feel empowered to do what their supposed to do!!
I love your comment so much 1sicsol. so u have been able to use some of the tips in your relationship? That is incredible to hear. And thanks so much for the kind words
@@mynonleatherlife no problem!! Yes from only watching the videos over 1 week? I used the tip of using my masculinity (when felt )to be honest and myself but in a respectful and playful way to escalate and build some sexual tension and small bouts of affection and word tease sort of before and throughout the week and of course kind words to make her feel loved and appreciated. Then I used the “put me up against the wall “ in playful manor after she was looking so sexy in yoga pants I could not help myself ...I did what my masculinity told me to do lol but in the past would not do that action I didn’t know women would like it somewhat aggressive or dominate playful approach . Later that night after a slow start I was very patient for her waiting over 1 hr to get in “the mood” then spending maybe another hour with fore play starting very slow and spending much more time to warm up slow.. well after like 30-40 mins “ warming up honestly .. unbelievable ... the intensity was like I never seen it before ..after I held her and kissed, etc and next day gave her lots of affection and she said it was like she had a new boyfriend lol anyway if this response is in appropriate or too much detail you can delete, but like you said we should have to feel shamed or embarrassed or inappropriate to express ourselves regarding sex relationships or love.
@@1sicsol this is incredible!!! Omg everything u did sounds amazing. Genius! I’m so happy for u and so amazed to have perhaps inspired you in some small way. Thank u so much for giving me some details, this really made my day. Carry on cuz all this sounds like a dream
Great advice! Women want and deserve to be celebrated. And there is no shortage of ways in which a man can celebrate every part, every aspect of her. Do this at every moment and both of you will continue to reap rewards in and out of the bedroom.
Just remember Gordan Ramsey. He treats his meats with the upmost respect and care. And the outcome is beautiful, juicy, savory, and tender- the best cut of meat, mwah.
Hi Victoria, excellent tips for men, in my long life I have learned many of your tips, and it’s important for a man to go slow and foreplay can last all day and build up. It is very important to respect a woman, and know always means no! Take care, have a happy holiday!
Great tips. But how do these fit into the fact that women also crave a man’s dominance at the same time (that you advocate in another video)? So be slow but dominate at the same time? Or be dominant only when she feels completely comfortable and relaxed, maybe not in the first time? Thanks!
Great information on a very very important subject. I do want to comment on why many men are rushers is because maybe, just maybe that elections 😂 don't always last that long.
@@mynonleatherlife You really covered all the vital stuff. I've had many heart-to-heart conversations with various partners over the years and what they told me very much concurs with all the points you make in your videos. Such important information for healthy relationships.
Good words. Favorites were the part about how going slow helps everything to be felt even more. And the tip about going from touching the least erogenous to the most erogenous body parts. As well as the tip about giving the first couple of sexual experiences as a gift to her, and being generous.
This is great. Please make a video on how to deal via words and actions with women who are insecure about their body image. Many women have shared with me how they had been body shamed by their father during childhood or by previous lovers. I feel like I need to say or do more to make them feel better because they pause for my response. Also please recommend any resources, books or programs that you know.
Oh wow this is a really good question. So many women have been body shamed. I mean I get body shamed on here without even showing my body multiple times a day. So like how exactly should a guy respond in that moment? I’m gonna screenshot ur question and think about this more and hopefully make a vid on my opinion. ThaNks so much for the genius idea. And this is so so common and big for women
@@mynonleatherlife I appreciate you as I’m sure many others do on your channel. I feel bad that you have to read rude comments from some ungrateful leeches. You pour your heart out with complete honesty on every video. Thank you for taking interest in my question and I hope to watch that video soon 😎
May GOD Blesses your truthful and sincer words. I appreciate especially the point of what after. because we're seeing those coachs who speak about be a ( ) beast in attraction and sex but what next ? even if neither he nor she are interested in serious relationship but still what's the best sexual path for us ? is it marriage or is there another thing than marriage that can be wise balanced way for bodies and hearts ?
The none reactive part is hard for me as a man. I said "it's OK" but she felt that I was disappointed and that totally cost me the relationship years ago. I still have struggle with that, because of my past and now struggle to even get into a relationship, because of my trust issues.
It’s very hard to be non reactive... id imagine it takes a lot of self acceptance and calm and patience and self mastery. Keep putting “irons in the fire”... meaning keep practicing, talking to girls in little ways however u can, and u cannot help but improve your skills.
Still married almost 40 years now. None of what your saying ever goes out of date. As our relationship grows so do desires for "new" experiences evolve. There is no need to wander outside of our marriage bed. We just "start over " . When you fulfill her desires with your God given focus and attention, her built in need to please her man will kick in and she will demand to know what you want! And then proceed to blow your mind!
@mynonleatherlife lol , I'm sure my phone listens to conversations, my wife and I were talking about our most recent "Renaissance " and your channel popped up the next day!
@mynonleatherlife lol , I'm sure my phone listens to conversations, my wife and I were talking about our most recent "Renaissance " and your channel popped up the next day!
Hey I love your videos! I have a question and would hope to hear your opinion about it. A lot of my one night stands don’t really want to take it slow and just want to get straight to the sex. I had a girl the other day that told me she was uncomfortable receiving oral sex but thanks me that i offered. This had happened to me before which I haven’t quite understand. Is it because I’ve not made her feel comfortable enough, if not how do I approach this?
sorry I am seeing this so late Robert but a lot of girls have a lot of shame about receiving oral...women are made to feel the area is dirty and may be worried because there are jokes in popular culture about the smell and it can also be hard for them to relax and receive since they are fixated on performing and appearing sexy to men and to truly receive u have to stop caring what u look like or sound like and truly enjoy. Since they can't stop performing and worrying about their body and what the man is getting from it, they would rather just skip it altogether since they won't allow themselves to relax and selfishly enjoy
@@mynonleatherlife yea....discussing what exactly made it fun. Im still trying to understand why women want a man to "figure ut out", also why is domination so important. I am going to make a video on this from a different perspective and different angle. Subscriber to me and stay tuned
I am the slow sensual kind of guy. The kind who is either not interested in the girl at all or interested to the point that id relish every bit of the experience. But it frustrated almost all the girls I dated. They got impatient to the point that they had to direct me about what to do. Except one girl. But in her case I think thats because she wasnt very vocal about asserting her needs. Do you think ive been dating the wrong girls
@@mynonleatherlife for starter, guiding my hand, when really what i wanted was to kiss and then slowly build up to touching. And if we were touching, wanting to go straight to s*x. Whereas i wanted to take my time, enjoy where we were currently at. Build anticipation
@@Onceadreamer maybe you were doing it so well they couldn’t wait. Like you drove them Wild and they’re like now I need it!!? That’s prob how I would feel to. Forget the journey! Lol. But that would be a testament to how great ur doing it
@@Onceadreamer She's right my girl does this and ex's. She is quite literally begging for you. Don't over analyze. If you want to drag it out a little longer you can say something like "Nope, I don't think so YET" and getting her a little more wild
If we're speaking the truth y'all gotta know too. Sometimes guys be rushing because they don't wanna risk going soft by the time y'all ready. For us, blood has to constantly keep pumping to keep it "en garde" so sometimes it takes a break. Also, some guys rush cause they've experienced this angst in front of a girl that has no idea what to do once he gets soft. Just lie there and wait for himself to get ready again. So I'mma tell you what I've told to all the females in my entourage that have brought up this issue of their partner rushing. If you want your guy to do all of that, which is totally understandable, make sure you do something too during or/and after you yourself are ready. ESPECIALLY if condoms are involved, cause in addition to the wait, the feeling of that cold plastic on our instrument can kill it. To all the ladies reading it, y'all have a lovely day ✌🏽
we also need to get past calling cunnilingus and male pleasure as foreplay..that is part of the actual sex act or can be..especially for a woman with her being pleasured..
Wish I can show this to my boyfried (and more video from you) because I am saying again and again, and seems like I am not heard. Maybe when he would hear it from somebody else, he (and I) would profit of it. But he can't speak english... I am thinking of a breakup, 'coz I reaaly need to explain rvery time all of thoose things.... Uhhh
U can have a “balls to the wall” talk with him and let him know that it’s so important to u ur considering breaking up and if u mean it he may take it seriously and commit to changing. Then u guys can work on it together thru books, courses, sex therapy even but if he doesn’t care to change I’d break up. Or at bare minimum open the relationships. Sex is important and many women r taught to believe they should live with bad sex and they shouldn’t
@@mynonleatherlife discussion has been already a loooot of time about it... (Not just about the how to do it part, but about how often part as well...), because otherwise it is the best relationship. It is just not getting better and seems less and less, so.... I think breakup is the next thing....
Hey so I have a very important question. How can I comunícate with a woman on what she likes during sex/sexual fantasies/etc. without making it seem too objective or awkward? Kinda like if you'd ask after if she liked the sex, alot of women can get turned off by that. How can I smoothly get her to open up without ruining the moment of foreplay? Lmk please and thank you!
That would be the most useful vid of all time. I’ve actually been collecting a few examples like one my bf did to me that really wowed me. I must definitely make this vid, thank u for the great idea. Do u have any examples by chance from ur life where u felt a woman sh$& tested you
@@mynonleatherlife I do, one night my gf & I rented a decent hotel. She was upset left the bed to sleep on the couch. I went out & picked her up against her will brought her back to the bed & tucked her in. Soon after she told me she was surprised & liked it
14:11 OMG!!! Aren't we (men) giving something? Are women make us a favour? Is this a mentality that ok for men or women to have? Doesn't she enjoys sex?
Sadly the timeline thing is a necessity when you have a toddler that can’t sleep alone for longer than 30 minutes. Also the fact that my girl feels completely touched out at the end of the day negates a lot of these things. Pre kids all of this is spot on though. Really hard to navigate our sex life since our baby.
Hi Victoria, as always wonderful tips, I will make one comment about lube, yes, fork play is important, but you have to consider the age of the woman as well. Even after foreplay, they may not always get wet or as wet as they need to, so, lube helps. That’s just my thought. As always, thank you for your presentations they’re very helpful! 19:27
Tip number 9 sounds almost impossible, like after ALL this work, the effort, trying to do everything right, getting this far you’re suddenly not interested? I can respect the decision, but jeez, what an awful thing to do to a person.
Hi Victoria. I'm not sure if you'll see this lol, do you know what happened to that 1hour+ long video of a collab between you and this guy I belive was called Stirling? I tried to look it up but it seems to be gone. This is the guy who had a course you were talking about which included levels of escalating sexual tension. Thank you so much for what you do. I feel so much overhwelming gratitude towards you and your work.
yes i took it down...i started worrying due to comments i received on it that people did not understand the message and were getting the wrong message from it. maybe I will put it back up soon. tbh it is difficult as some people understand the assumed consent in my videos and some people don't have the basic understanding and freak me out with their comments and i feel very conflicted about leaving them up when the message they take from it is oversimplified and dangerous
What are your thoughts, if you have an knowledge on this topic, about how women may, may not, or don’t care about being in relations with men from different races and/or cultures. I know, even during the 2020’s currently, this can still be a taboo subject. This is quite the topic so it would be great to see you do a video about it in the future to hear your opinions. If not then I totally understand.
@@mynonleatherlife Thanks for responding and answering honestly. My thoughts about it is that it varies with the individuals based on what turns them on. For example I’ve heard from some women, there words when they were being 100% honest, that they found black men in particular to be attractive due to how dominant they can be, how chill they can be, how honest they can be without the BS, and their physical presence.
I'm a bit confused. You said I should ask her what's she's into. But wouldn't that kill the vibe or wouldn't they expect you to know it?? Thanks for what you do.
Well I would like it but a book I read recently by sex therapists suggests not doing it since she says most women don’t know what they’re into. I definitely know but I guess it is controversial advice and according to this book many might not like it, so u don’t have to do that if u don’t want
@@bojack2740 this is from sex talks by Vanessa and Xander. They suggest giving more of a menu style thing. I’ve heard u can also ask do u want chefs choice, ur pick or a menu of options. Thats kenneth plays idea but this is a quote from Vanessa and xanders book: “Give your partner options to choose from, instead of asking them to come up with an answer out of thin air to “What do you want?” For example, “Do you want me to massage your back or your shoulders?” or “Does it feel good when I touch you like this or like this?” or “Do you like it better when I use this pressure or this pressure?” The Eye Exam Test also helps your partner feel like you’re genuinely invested in bringing them pleasure, because you’ve taken the time to think of a few specific options. Honestly, “What do you want?” is a lazy question. It’s not that hard to come up with a few specific options instead.”
Something out of the box, can you please let men know the importance of letting go of the ego, and not choosing to feed it everytime by overcompensating. And how women see right through us when we overcompensate, and how easy it makes us men more liable to be manipulated by women. OUR EGO IS NOT OUR AMIGO ❌
Absolutely, very important point and I do see this a lot. Which situations are u referring to that u see it happening the most? Like bragging about themselves on dates?
You are spilling the beans on what women want and why. It makes me feel a lot more comfortable with dating women knowing what they're looking for. Tons of positive energy your way!
I’m so happy hearing that Dan!! Thank u. Anything else u have wondered about or were curious about ever in regards to women?
Just subscribed to your channel .You have good advice beautiful! Looking forward to other videos
@@victtor2627 thanks so much Victtor
Tbh your little intro "It's me, Victoria" has become iconic
ur hilarious, thank u
@@mynonleatherlife no, keep on saying you're beautiful name Victoria, there is nothing better as to introduce yourself for those who know nothing about you.
For us who know you allready, we love you, and we love every word that you say, every movement that you do, etc.
Its the same prozess that you have explained in this video, we have to admire every small thing about the others if we are to be taken seriously...
Thanks for all dearest...
Its'a me, Victooriaaa
I'm glad she says it... sometimes I forget which video I'm watching 😜
She's the wing girl we all men need. Not just to impress girls but discover the masculinity within us.
i've been waiting for the past 40yrs for a woman to dish this out honestly, now that a woman is giving this advice, i'm listening.
I feel lucky to hear this in my late 20s then
@@martinpaul3383 Deninitely,lol.Try getting hold of Mode one,by Alan Roger Currie,or any of his vids.Opened my eyes
@@darrenjoness2397 thank you
@@martinpaul3383 me feeling lucky at 19
@@tbys1416ayo same bro. I can feel the power 💪 💪
Absolute life saver. You are bringing the gentleman out of me! You’re making me realise how to respect women!
so glad to hear that!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife pull your weiner out and slap her in the face several times with it!..right?.....RIGHT?!!!
I usually don’t trust women on type of advise, but I’ve been watching your videos and you’ve gaines my trust because you genuinely want to help us! So definitely gonna try these tips!! Thanks again for your great efforts!!
Thanks for the lovely insight. In some instances some ladies have very high level of insecurity or hate of their body to such a degree that you being genuine and honest with your appreciation has the opposite effect. They never believe you, dismis you or even get really angry with you. Any way I still consider being honest and true is still the way to go, even if they see it otherwise. Keep up the good work.
wow that's really sad :( but I 100% believe it. I agree with u u just gotta keep reassuring them like a abused animal who has to learn to trust again :(
"Mastering the Art of Sensual Intimacy: Top 10 Tips for an Exceptional Sexual Experience"
**2. Concise summary of the video content:**
In this video, Victoria shares her top 10 tips for creating a positive and uplifting sexual experience for women. The tips include the importance of going slow, touching non-erogenous zones first, the significance of foreplay, avoiding the premature use of lube, reassuring her about her body, discussing preferences openly, understanding the clitoris, giving the first experiences as a gift, maintaining a calm attitude, and staying engaged even after the act.
**3. Key highlights or important points covered in the video:**
- Going slow and savoring the moment is crucial.
- Start by touching non-erogenous zones before moving to more sensitive areas.
- Foreplay is emphasized, and the importance of building up slowly is highlighted.
- Discourages the premature use of lube, suggesting it may indicate rushing the process.
- The significance of reassuring and accepting her body unconditionally is stressed.
- Openly discussing preferences and being considerate of her comfort level.
- Understanding the clitoris and not expecting all women to have vaginal orgasms.
- Giving the first sexual experiences as a gift to show generosity.
- Maintaining a calm attitude and being non-reactive if she doesn't want to proceed further.
- Aftercare is recommended to show respect and care even after the act.
- A bonus tip: Text her the next day to stay friends and alleviate any post-experience doubts.
**4. Conclusion or key takeaways:**
The key takeaways from Victoria's tips are centered around patience, communication, and generosity. Going slow, understanding her body, discussing preferences openly, and showing ongoing care contribute to a positive and uplifting sexual experience.
**5. Purport:**
The video aims to provide valuable insights and guidance to individuals seeking to enhance their approach to intimacy, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect, communication, and a generous attitude for a positive and uplifting sexual encounter.
Hi Victoria, excellent tips, I have learned over the years to do every one of these tips that you recommend, and I can completely agree with them. There is no rush, it’s important for men to be aware of body language, pay attention to the body language, and the sounds that she is making, and there is nothing wrong with cuddling afterwards it’s actually very comforting for both men and women. Thank you for another excellent tips! 19:27
Thank you for this thoughtful, carefully worded and encouraging educational video
(I feel I can speak for a lot of men who are eager to help women reach the most blissful spaces they possibly can, and maybe beyond)
Wow.. This is Gold for both men and women's sake 💯 It's the man's responsibility to make the woman feel comfortable being so open in accepting us in; both literally and figuratively speaking. Unfortunately, this is typically not passed down from parents (most are not even aware); so to have this information is a privilege and blessing. Thank you 🙏🏽
Oh wow thanks so much Andre, so were u thinking it should be more equal in that scenario or what were u thinking before?
Great points, thanks for sharing them. This is validating to hear for me, honestly. When you think about it though, I think all these tips come naturally if the guy has the right priorities, i.e. he prioritizes the girls well-being over his own sexual gratification. The elephant in the room is that, by default, most guys don't. Because they don't prioritize her, they only do the bare minimum amount of foreplay etc. to get what they want. It's not because they're necessarily bad people. The problem is they don't have an understand and appreciation for affection. Doing something nice for someone else doesn't make them feel good the way that it should. If it did then doing all those things you listed would be a no-brainer. So why doesn't it make them feel good? Well, I think there's truth to the idea that you can only really give to others when you are whole yourself. These guys have needs, empty holes in their souls, that they're trying to fill up and they don't have the peace of mind to really see other people. They need personal growth. Myself I only really discovered the joys of being affectionate when I was in my mid-twenties.
Also, it's cool how women's sexual arousal is directly tied to the man's interest in her well-being. I guess it makes sense in an evolutionary sense.
Your amazing. Thanks for the sharing. I follow a lot of red pill content and I find your channel a very refreshing balance. Keep going and growing
can i ask you what do u think the difference is between the red pill content and this cause some people are telling my my videos seem red pill
imo basic difference is you know yourself sexually and you dont hide it. You speak your truth confidentally. Its a balance because you help many men understand the deeper levels to a woman. The levels as you say many of them dont even know. Red Pill content cant go to your depths because its men providing it. They cant tell us what you’ve learned about yourself on any level, let a lone a sexual one. If you do more videos, follow ups, etc. you will take off further. Its like a genie has been let out a bottle.
This channel is a gem 💎 👑
Thanks Adem
Our society need so much those type of information, unfortunatly feminism makes us see women equal to men about sexual behavior.
Yes I think I agree, men expect dating to be equal but it really isn’t in many women’s minds. They still want the man to take the lead in the bedroom and many men are confused about this
@William Scott yeah
Modern feminism is subversion to overturn and take down societies
@William Scott ..indeed!
Like women want us to be a certain touch to them so much so I can't even 🥜 just knowing women get child support and can ruin my life
I swear she is dropping some serious info damn!!!!
Honestly this information is so invaluable. So much of what to do is a guessing game, I want to provide my woman with the best possible experience. So much of what you say validates what many guys probably already speculate, but never know for sure. I think this gives us a nudge to, at the very least, run with these ideas and find out rather than being passive and then always wonder ‘what if?’ 👏👏
100% and thanks jim jamm
This is pure gold thank you. Reminds me of the drunken holydays before covid, where girlfriends of my friend shared some tipsy tips. Even more precise. Love you
This is really good,you're helping men build their confidence with women.Thankyou for sharing.
Appreciate it the tips. I’m an inexperienced guy 22 only done the deed with one woman so I’m glad I’m learning this for the next one
Thank you. I like it that you are so genuine and down to earth
Omg I really love your way of explaining. Luckely for me..., I've always taken things slow and have never disrespected the woman. I have always looked at man and woman as a gift to eachother when it comes to sex. Always had the feeling and thought that "I'm here for you... and want to be a part of" your journey. If I can't respect and care for her, I can not have any self-respect either. Listening to you makes me warm and hopeful. Thank you!
i love ur attitude
Great video, thanks, i’ll for sure be applying these tips going forward 🙏
Wow thank you so much eggybaby!!! That is so kind and I really appreciate it. Keep me updated on how it goes if u use any of the tips!
Victoria: your tips are the best. I really, really appreciate them, and you. Thank you for creating all of this helpful content and putting all of it, and yourself, out there. You are greatly appreciated.
thank you Bak Mir!!!
Id like to give a few tips........involve all senses.......put on deep music, music involved with a meditative beat, with actual instruments, use smell and incense,- jasmine, sandalwood, patchouli etc and lighting...make it a murky light to let the imagination flow, a soft light, almost dark. If you can, adorn the walls with eclectic taste......pictures of transcendental forms and figures.
Great stuff. As always. But helped to confirm that I've been doing the right things or had the right focus and perspective. I actually always am more satisfied by satisfying a woman.
At 18:00 this advice apply for women too, men get ghosted all the time too. A quick message after the fact even if thing don't continue is great.
Thank you for the insight, when it comes to women I’m the most uneducated guy out there, I think you brought up some outstanding points, your advice it think is priceless
Thank you Michael!
I call this the slow cooker. You gotta learn to slow cook that steak if u want it to taste perfect when u take a bite into it.
I love that metaphor... and that’s saying a lot cause I’m a hardcore vegan. That’s exactly it. Thank u for sharing.
Victoria your the first to provide such deep intimate insight into the female mind. Thanks for all the work your doing and do keep it up.
Thank u so much Anthony. so glad ur liking it. Anything else u have ever wondered about from a female perspective?
Weird feeling, kinda knew all that but it kinda hits different now 🤔 thank you for sharing, great help for young fellas these days 🙂
This is one of my favorite videos thus far. SO HELPFUL. Thank you
Awesome I’m glad u like it Michael
Have experienced every SINGLE step described here. My girl still says that the part that I have accepted her body the way it is....just makes her fall for me all over again.
I've been thinking how I kind of underplayed that one in this video and should have given it even more emphasis. i love that u have had that experience and it's so important!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife The best part about this channel is , a female is talking to guys without judging them! And the nice guys/men can actually have a conversation with you without any fear of being judged.
This woman is doing gods work
I really like your point about being generous. At least for me, it comes down to being happy about spending time with a girl while being close and connecting to each other. Which is also this "being in the moment". But I dont think that this "being a giver" can be assumed by some guys, if it still comes from a frame of "give some to get some", that consumer attitude, instead of them actually enjoying building a moment and a nice experience for them and a girl.
Knowing that there are guys out there who genuinely enjoy giving the way I do is good to hear. I feel like my current boyfriend is so fast with the build up and sometimes doesn’t even bother. I’ve brought it up twice to him & even tho he has been focusing on warming me up I get the feeling that it’s a chore to him… it makes me feel awful enough to want to end things, he’s a great guy it’s just this thing really gets to me.
@@Serah-pq1cw There are types of men, in a VERY big simplification, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. All of them have pros and cons. Your bf might be a cold warrior that will provide and protect, problem solve and be goal oriented, but he might not be much of a lover that enjoys the process of making love and doesn't count time when he's "in the moment" with a girl. But then if you got with a lover type of guy, he might make you irritated with how nonchalant, care free and relaxed he is about pushing life, material status and being a provider ;)
@@JohannDaart can’t have a warrior and a lover out here 👀 what would u say you are in these categories
@@Serah-pq1cw "No man can be judge in his own cause", it's not for me to decide, but I always felt the call to be a warrior, turned out I'm probably more of a lover type ;) I think it's fair to add that there are also women that have this quicker, more "to the point" approach to sex, it's not only men that can rush things too much. Then as a man, I want this mentality that if I'm leading a woman, it's me that has the responsibility for the mood, for reading her needs and delivering. I think many women want to just relax into the experience that the man provides. But that's male perspective.
If you are a woman, then you also can influence your boyfriend to relax more. He might feel the "pressure to preform". (Like when he has erection, he might feel he needs to act quickly, not to be judged for being soft while just cuddling. Not saying that's the case, just an example.)
It might be good to show him that you also enjoy calm moments of just being together, by accenting those moments, praising him for being relaxed, improving communication and telling him these things openly.
For example I had a gf that when it was winter and cold, she decorated her room in this "hygge" cozy style and when I was visiting her, she was just waiting in bed, completely naked under soft blanket, only her catsy eyes peeking out of it... It was an invitation to spend time together closely, not necessarily to immediately have sex. She needed it and she also created those cozy experiences for both of us, out of her own initiative :)
Thank you for all the good tips. You're really smart and your ability to share with everyone is much appreciated by everyone. 👍👍
This is the best advice ever. Should be mandatory for every guy. And I know it seems obvious now, but I wish I had known this on some terrible dates I've been on when I had no clue what I was doing. One woman even told me after we had sex that 'This is not sex!' and I had no clue what she was talking about, I was SO ignorant and I fear most guys are too! Thanks Victoria.
Thank you very much Paul! In that situation what do you think she was referring to? You are so right that most guys are ignorant of what women want in bed. Women won't tell them though as they unconsciously expect men to lead there and know what they're doing due to the sex negative programming they have been raised with I believe.
@@mynonleatherlife Yes there is so much work to do to deprogram that sex negative reinforcement and I think it is up to the guy too. We need to worship the goddess in her! In the situation I was referring to, she did not tell me what she wanted and so when we made love, typical guy, I totally ignored your Tip #2: START WITH "NON SEXUAL" BODY PARTS AND BUILD UP, Tip # 3: FOREPLAY IS EVERYTHING and Tip # 6: KNOW THE MOST IMPORTANT AREA. I didn't know how to make her orgasm, rushed to third base straight away and she (I realize now) just gave up and said 'okay just do it.' Then I was stupid enough to ask her 'how was it for you?' and she said 'that's not sex!' It wasn't - it was just one way.
Thanks again :)
@@paulwilliams3846 I love it Paul. So amazing that you have the self awareness and humility to recognize this. And i agree with u about worshipping the goddess in her...great point
Thank you, Victoria. Your insight and ability to articulate it to us men is invaluable. Keep 'em coming girl.
Thank you!!
I just wanted to say thank you very , very much for this (and all) your videos , this has helped me so much being married for over 10 years helping and understanding how to make the relationship better and stronger with more bonding. Also as a guy and generally speaking this information on sex is not known nor do I have the cues to self
Realize but it all makes sense. Thank you for being honest and your delivery of content seems more raw and real than others and makes men feel empowered to do what their supposed to do!!
I love your comment so much 1sicsol. so u have been able to use some of the tips in your relationship? That is incredible to hear. And thanks so much for the kind words
@@mynonleatherlife no problem!! Yes from only watching the videos over 1 week? I used the tip of using my masculinity (when felt )to be honest and myself but in a respectful and playful way to escalate and build some sexual tension and small bouts of affection and word tease sort of before and throughout the week and of course kind words to make her feel loved and appreciated. Then I used the “put me up against the wall “ in playful manor after she was looking so sexy in yoga pants I could not help myself ...I did what my masculinity told me to do lol but in the past would not do that action I didn’t know women would like it somewhat aggressive or dominate playful approach . Later that night after a slow start I was very patient for her waiting over 1 hr to get in “the mood” then spending maybe another hour with fore play starting very slow and spending much more time to warm up slow.. well after like 30-40 mins “ warming up honestly .. unbelievable ... the intensity was like I never seen it before ..after I held her and kissed, etc and next day gave her lots of affection and she said it was like she had a new boyfriend lol anyway if this response is in appropriate or too much detail you can delete, but like you said we should have to feel shamed or embarrassed or inappropriate to express ourselves regarding sex relationships or love.
@@1sicsol this is incredible!!! Omg everything u did sounds amazing. Genius! I’m so happy for u and so amazed to have perhaps inspired you in some small way. Thank u so much for giving me some details, this really made my day. Carry on cuz all this sounds like a dream
Another amazing video. Thank you.
I appreciate you putting this out.
Thanks Odd Ball
Great advice! Women want and deserve to be celebrated. And there is no shortage of ways in which a man can celebrate every part, every aspect of her. Do this at every moment and both of you will continue to reap rewards in and out of the bedroom.
so true
Great content. Love and respect 🙂
Lol, your videos are addictive. So interesting seeing inside the mind of a woman...
You gotta preheat the oven before you put the meat in.
Just remember Gordan Ramsey. He treats his meats with the upmost respect and care. And the outcome is beautiful, juicy, savory, and tender- the best cut of meat, mwah.
Hi Victoria, excellent tips for men, in my long life I have learned many of your tips, and it’s important for a man to go slow and foreplay can last all day and build up. It is very important to respect a woman, and know always means no! Take care, have a happy holiday!
Thank u ken for ur great comment! I certainly agree! Happy holidays to u too
@@mynonleatherlife ☺️
Thanks Viktoriya. Its the most helpful advice on sex I ever listened.
This woman is an angel!!!
Great tips. But how do these fit into the fact that women also crave a man’s dominance at the same time (that you advocate in another video)? So be slow but dominate at the same time? Or be dominant only when she feels completely comfortable and relaxed, maybe not in the first time? Thanks!
This stuff is the base and dominance is a spice u can throw in to make it extra spicy if she likes spicy
Perfect advice. 3 HOURS minimum. Thanks
Great information on a very very important subject. I do want to comment on why many men are rushers is because maybe, just maybe that elections 😂 don't always last that long.
Gold dust advice, Victoria. Those are important insights every guy should know. Thank you.
thank you Eddie, I am glad u agree! Anything u would add
@@mynonleatherlife You really covered all the vital stuff. I've had many heart-to-heart conversations with various partners over the years and what they told me very much concurs with all the points you make in your videos. Such important information for healthy relationships.
@@eddied1695 oh wow so glad to hear that Eddie that your various partners say similar things. Thanks again
lol the song "all of me" does apply because the lyrics are "all of me loves all of YOU"
Good words.
Favorites were the part about how going slow helps everything to be felt even more. And the tip about going from touching the least erogenous to the most erogenous body parts. As well as the tip about giving the first couple of sexual experiences as a gift to her, and being generous.
My god..... this woman must be protected at all costs.
Goodday, I hope you are well. Thanks for the enlightening message and it was really to the point. Do enjoy your day and stay safe and fab. 🌹
This is great. Please make a video on how to deal via words and actions with women who are insecure about their body image. Many women have shared with me how they had been body shamed by their father during childhood or by previous lovers. I feel like I need to say or do more to make them feel better because they pause for my response. Also please recommend any resources, books or programs that you know.
Oh wow this is a really good question. So many women have been body shamed. I mean I get body shamed on here without even showing my body multiple times a day. So like how exactly should a guy respond in that moment? I’m gonna screenshot ur question and think about this more and hopefully make a vid on my opinion. ThaNks so much for the genius idea. And this is so so common and big for women
@@mynonleatherlife I appreciate you as I’m sure many others do on your channel. I feel bad that you have to read rude comments from some ungrateful leeches. You pour your heart out with complete honesty on every video. Thank you for taking interest in my question and I hope to watch that video soon 😎
@@soaringeagle5227 aww thanks a lot soaring eagle tho I’m reading it very late it means a lot
Thanks for the advice I'm going to gobble it up
You Bodys a wonderland..You Mind is the experience
You are THE BEST, Victoria ❤
May GOD Blesses your truthful and sincer words.
I appreciate especially the point of what after. because we're seeing those coachs who speak about be a ( ) beast in attraction and sex but what next ?
even if neither he nor she are interested in serious relationship but still what's the best sexual path for us ? is it marriage or is there another thing than marriage that can be wise balanced way for bodies and hearts ?
The none reactive part is hard for me as a man. I said "it's OK" but she felt that I was disappointed and that totally cost me the relationship years ago. I still have struggle with that, because of my past and now struggle to even get into a relationship, because of my trust issues.
It’s very hard to be non reactive... id imagine it takes a lot of self acceptance and calm and patience and self mastery. Keep putting “irons in the fire”... meaning keep practicing, talking to girls in little ways however u can, and u cannot help but improve your skills.
Great tips, girl! Keep up the great work.
thanks steve
Still married almost 40 years now. None of what your saying ever goes out of date. As our relationship grows so do desires for "new" experiences evolve.
There is no need to wander outside of our marriage bed. We just "start over " .
When you fulfill her desires with your God given focus and attention, her built in need to please her man will kick in and she will demand to know what you want! And then proceed to blow your mind!
@@RichardSmith-g5f true
@mynonleatherlife lol , I'm sure my phone listens to conversations, my wife and I were talking about our most recent "Renaissance " and your channel popped up the next day!
@mynonleatherlife lol , I'm sure my phone listens to conversations, my wife and I were talking about our most recent "Renaissance " and your channel popped up the next day!
Muito obrigado por todas essas dicas precisas.
Damn I love your videos..
Thank you so much Jacob. What aspect do u enjoy so I can keep it in mind to try to recreate this in future videos
What was the name of that site?You recommended that men watch
Hey I love your videos! I have a question and would hope to hear your opinion about it. A lot of my one night stands don’t really want to take it slow and just want to get straight to the sex. I had a girl the other day that told me she was uncomfortable receiving oral sex but thanks me that i offered. This had happened to me before which I haven’t quite understand. Is it because I’ve not made her feel comfortable enough, if not how do I approach this?
sorry I am seeing this so late Robert but a lot of girls have a lot of shame about receiving oral...women are made to feel the area is dirty and may be worried because there are jokes in popular culture about the smell and it can also be hard for them to relax and receive since they are fixated on performing and appearing sexy to men and to truly receive u have to stop caring what u look like or sound like and truly enjoy. Since they can't stop performing and worrying about their body and what the man is getting from it, they would rather just skip it altogether since they won't allow themselves to relax and selfishly enjoy
Can you quantify time? “Slow down” is how many minutes?
Aftercare....good word for cuddlling& caressing
and don't forget the talking too :)
@@mynonleatherlife yea....discussing what exactly made it fun. Im still trying to understand why women want a man to "figure ut out", also why is domination so important. I am going to make a video on this from a different perspective and different angle. Subscriber to me and stay tuned
Thank you for the truth. You are a wonderful woman. Keep going.
Is this approach the same if it is the first time with a new partner?
I juzt found about your channel, you’re the real deal a wonderful woman.
Gemstone of advice
I am the slow sensual kind of guy. The kind who is either not interested in the girl at all or interested to the point that id relish every bit of the experience. But it frustrated almost all the girls I dated. They got impatient to the point that they had to direct me about what to do. Except one girl. But in her case I think thats because she wasnt very vocal about asserting her needs. Do you think ive been dating the wrong girls
Hmm what more were they directing u to do?
@@mynonleatherlife for starter, guiding my hand, when really what i wanted was to kiss and then slowly build up to touching. And if we were touching, wanting to go straight to s*x. Whereas i wanted to take my time, enjoy where we were currently at. Build anticipation
@@mynonleatherlife in other words, I wanted us to enjoy the journey but they wanted to get to the destination
@@Onceadreamer maybe you were doing it so well they couldn’t wait. Like you drove them
Wild and they’re like now I need it!!? That’s prob how I would feel to. Forget the journey! Lol. But that would be a testament to how great ur doing it
@@Onceadreamer She's right my girl does this and ex's. She is quite literally begging for you. Don't over analyze.
If you want to drag it out a little longer you can say something like "Nope, I don't think so YET" and getting her a little more wild
If we're speaking the truth y'all gotta know too. Sometimes guys be rushing because they don't wanna risk going soft by the time y'all ready. For us, blood has to constantly keep pumping to keep it "en garde" so sometimes it takes a break. Also, some guys rush cause they've experienced this angst in front of a girl that has no idea what to do once he gets soft. Just lie there and wait for himself to get ready again.
So I'mma tell you what I've told to all the females in my entourage that have brought up this issue of their partner rushing. If you want your guy to do all of that, which is totally understandable, make sure you do something too during or/and after you yourself are ready. ESPECIALLY if condoms are involved, cause in addition to the wait, the feeling of that cold plastic on our instrument can kill it. To all the ladies reading it, y'all have a lovely day ✌🏽
When is your book coming out?
I very much appreciate your videos. Thank you so much
Thank you!! So glad u like them🙏
we also need to get past calling cunnilingus and male pleasure as foreplay..that is part
of the actual sex act or can be..especially for a woman with her being pleasured..
Wish I can show this to my boyfried (and more video from you) because I am saying again and again, and seems like I am not heard. Maybe when he would hear it from somebody else, he (and I) would profit of it.
But he can't speak english... I am thinking of a breakup, 'coz I reaaly need to explain rvery time all of thoose things.... Uhhh
U can have a “balls to the wall” talk with him and let him know that it’s so important to u ur considering breaking up and if u mean it he may take it seriously and commit to changing. Then u guys can work on it together thru books, courses, sex therapy even but if he doesn’t care to change I’d break up. Or at bare minimum open the relationships. Sex is important and many women r taught to believe they should live with bad sex and they shouldn’t
@@mynonleatherlife discussion has been already a loooot of time about it... (Not just about the how to do it part, but about how often part as well...), because otherwise it is the best relationship. It is just not getting better and seems less and less, so.... I think breakup is the next thing....
I wish could find that site - omg yet. is it a youtube channel?
omg yes-- just google that. you will find it.
Thanks for your insight!
You have some really amazing content.Thank you!!
I appreciate that Darren, thank you
Hey so I have a very important question. How can I comunícate with a woman on what she likes during sex/sexual fantasies/etc. without making it seem too objective or awkward? Kinda like if you'd ask after if she liked the sex, alot of women can get turned off by that. How can I smoothly get her to open up without ruining the moment of foreplay? Lmk please and thank you!
Thank you for this deep knowledge.
Very good advice!
Victoria, may you please do a video on the different types of sh*t testing & passing them like a stud ? Thanks for all your insight
That would be the most useful vid of all time. I’ve actually been collecting a few examples like one my bf did to me that really wowed me. I must definitely make this vid, thank u for the great idea. Do u have any examples by chance from ur life where u felt a woman sh$& tested you
@@mynonleatherlife I do, one night my gf & I rented a decent hotel. She was upset left the bed to sleep on the couch. I went out & picked her up against her will brought her back to the bed & tucked her in. Soon after she told me she was surprised & liked it
14:11 OMG!!!
Aren't we (men) giving something?
Are women make us a favour?
Is this a mentality that ok for men or women to have?
Doesn't she enjoys sex?
cool ,,,,straight to the point no bs points
thank you
@@mynonleatherlife boss your welcome
Sadly the timeline thing is a necessity when you have a toddler that can’t sleep alone for longer than 30 minutes. Also the fact that my girl feels completely touched out at the end of the day negates a lot of these things. Pre kids all of this is spot on though. Really hard to navigate our sex life since our baby.
Hi Victoria, as always wonderful tips, I will make one comment about lube, yes, fork play is important, but you have to consider the age of the woman as well. Even after foreplay, they may not always get wet or as wet as they need to, so, lube helps. That’s just my thought. As always, thank you for your presentations they’re very helpful! 19:27
you are right, great points. I think I was wrong to be too definitive on that one! for some it may be really important and good
@@mynonleatherlife hi Victoria, thank you, it is always good to look at things from a different perspective. Keep up the good work! Enjoy your day!
Fork play? Good grief. Is that a thing.
Tip number 9 sounds almost impossible, like after ALL this work, the effort, trying to do everything right, getting this far you’re suddenly not interested? I can respect the decision, but jeez, what an awful thing to do to a person.
Thank you
Hi Victoria. I'm not sure if you'll see this lol, do you know what happened to that 1hour+ long video of a collab between you and this guy I belive was called Stirling? I tried to look it up but it seems to be gone. This is the guy who had a course you were talking about which included levels of escalating sexual tension. Thank you so much for what you do. I feel so much overhwelming gratitude towards you and your work.
yes i took it down...i started worrying due to comments i received on it that people did not understand the message and were getting the wrong message from it. maybe I will put it back up soon. tbh it is difficult as some people understand the assumed consent in my videos and some people don't have the basic understanding and freak me out with their comments and i feel very conflicted about leaving them up when the message they take from it is oversimplified and dangerous
@@mynonleatherlife ohh I see lol. Sorry you had to deal with that :/ It was such a good video! You're the best.
What are your thoughts, if you have an knowledge on this topic, about how women may, may not, or don’t care about being in relations with men from different races and/or cultures. I know, even during the 2020’s currently, this can still be a taboo subject. This is quite the topic so it would be great to see you do a video about it in the future to hear your opinions. If not then I totally understand.
wow, that is a great topic but one that I don't know if I am qualified to address. What are your thoughts about it?
@@mynonleatherlife Thanks for responding and answering honestly. My thoughts about it is that it varies with the individuals based on what turns them on. For example I’ve heard from some women, there words when they were being 100% honest, that they found black men in particular to be attractive due to how dominant they can be, how chill they can be, how honest they can be without the BS, and their physical presence.
Is there a way to... shorten the ordeal? Like she plays with herself until she's ready. and I play video games in the meantime?
pay for someone to fake that they're into it your way
@@mynonleatherlife Yeah, but that's not a true love tho 😁
neither is calling what your true love needs sexually "an ordeal"
@@mynonleatherlife Fair enough 🤷♂😁
Ik this is a lot for TH-cam but
a video on how to stimulate G spot during foreplay/intercourse would be helpful!!
I commend you for looking into this and I know there are some great vids about it online. Loving this pursuit of excellence
I'm a bit confused. You said I should ask her what's she's into. But wouldn't that kill the vibe or wouldn't they expect you to know it??
Thanks for what you do.
Well I would like it but a book I read recently by sex therapists suggests not doing it since she says most women don’t know what they’re into. I definitely know but I guess it is controversial advice and according to this book many might not like it, so u don’t have to do that if u don’t want
@@mynonleatherlife a video on that would be great. But I guess I'll have to judge the situation.
@@bojack2740 this is from sex talks by Vanessa and Xander. They suggest giving more of a menu style thing. I’ve heard u can also ask do u want chefs choice, ur pick or a menu of options. Thats kenneth plays idea but this is a quote from Vanessa and xanders book: “Give your partner options to choose from, instead of asking them to come up with an answer out of thin air to “What do you want?” For example, “Do you want me to massage your back or your shoulders?” or “Does it feel good when I touch you like this or like this?” or “Do you like it better when I use this pressure or this pressure?” The Eye Exam Test also helps your partner feel like you’re genuinely invested in bringing them pleasure, because you’ve taken the time to think of a few specific options. Honestly, “What do you want?” is a lazy question. It’s not that hard to come up with a few specific options instead.”
@@mynonleatherlife thank you very much.
Not only is you body beautiful, but your mind is beautiful. This is really really really lacking in our world
Thank you AT Rufus, I really appreciate that
Something out of the box, can you please let men know the importance of letting go of the ego, and not choosing to feed it everytime by overcompensating. And how women see right through us when we overcompensate, and how easy it makes us men more liable to be manipulated by women. OUR EGO IS NOT OUR AMIGO ❌
Absolutely, very important point and I do see this a lot. Which situations are u referring to that u see it happening the most? Like bragging about themselves on dates?