When you're around people that like to test your peace, it's very difficult. What I truly need right now is to step back from all of the people I know, for a long time.
I believe this is a message from the universe, Spencer. You are surrounded by so many tests that are hoping to break your peace. If you practice in these environments and never allow your peace to be shaken, you will go so far in life. This period of your life where it isn't easy, is the universe training you for what lies ahead. Although, If you are in a toxic situation, I do hope you find safe ground to step away. Sending light, love and positivity.
@@shyamlalani6380 such kind and encouraging words. I recieve the positive energy you're sending to me. It can be very difficult to handle sometimes, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I do pray I stay strong enough to overcome this challenge. I am sending you positive high vibranting energy also, brother...
I agree, I always try to be present and when someone I view as a friend knows a subject is a sore one, I say it's in the past and that person doesn't have any effect on me anymore. This person will not accept my answer and continually bring it up to get an emotional reaction from me. No matter how many times I have shrugged it of. I dont want to be confrontational. So it's difficult, I try not to take it personally, but after a while it's disheartening. So I'm not sure if I have something to learn from being around this person
I know no one asked, but to put my two cents in; I think that you're right in that you might not learn anything from being around this person. The lesson might be setting clear boundaries and knowing when to pull away from someone who isn't adding to your life. Hope all's well.
I sat quietly on a polished rock by the riverbank, listening to the murmurs of the gently flowing stream. It was a lovely morning & my gaze was transfixed on one spot in the crystal clear river. Suddenly I heard a faint voice from within whispered: "It's never the same water every time, is it?". It was a powerful A-ha moment for me. I realized that the name, the word, River has become an image that blocks us to see the reality: the water that flows is never the same. From that day on, I let my mind be like that of the flowing water... always new. But I do feel for those whose minds are like stagnant waters; most people just don't get it - what flows is Life. What stagnates is already dead. Hugs & love, Nada. Keep on flowing, brother.
The biggest goal is to decipher who and what is even worthy of a response, no less a reaction. Anything that seeks a response or a reaction from you is an attempt at taking your power and attempting to control the narrative. Stay in your own movie and keep everything on your terms.
Everyone and everything is worthy and deserving of a response. And you will give a response no matter what. Doing nothing is still doing something. Not responding is your response to the situation.
Non dual spirituality, which is implied in AI:s videos, too, is the way to true liberation for you, ridding the "false self" that suffers and struggles. You are well on the way, keep being true. :)
Working on ourselves is truly the best way to understand others and to be understood. Working through the anger and frustration of not being heard or understood is difficult, because it's painful to not be understood. As another person on the spectrum, I know this feeling of being chronically misunderstood can build over time. It's important to give ourselves space to work through these feelings. Learning to control my breathing has been one of the most helpful tools I've come across, as simple and cliche as it sounds. If I don't have a calm body, there is no clarity of mind. Without clarity of mind, I'm almost guaranteed to communicate my thoughts, feelings, and desires ineffectively.
Taking sides is the problem. My “family” took sides and I stepped away. I no longer have a family. I have myself. People surrounding me and taking sides, most often against me, is not a family. I did not respond I walked away. I’m staying away because that is the action that keeps me true to myself.
You are not alone. You are the strong one. The one who has the gift of awareness. I can tell. The same thing happened to me. I am the one who walked away from my family. All took sides against each other and I was tired of the bickering and hate. I actually believed the narrative they'd set for me...for a while anyway. Then I became AWAKE. I really learned to love myself truly. Now I'm trying to show my family the love that I really have for them in my heart and I cant even believe it!!!!! Its working! I thought they hated me for the choices I've made along the way. But they still truly love you even though they may not show it. I hope for you that you all find pathways back to each others hearts.
Same here. Waiting to step away. You are the good person. Supporting unethical people is not good. You did the right thing. Your family or you aren't enemies against each other. But, the situations created some hostility. Only foolish person will support wrong people stay with people who hate that person. I am such a fool since I don't have a place to go. But, I have a suggestion. Don't blame your family or anyone else about anything. Any talking about others creates sadness in you. Be away from emotions that force you to blame others. Your energy depletes. Instead recognize the bad with kindness but be away from them by wishing them well. Once you stop mentioning people in your conversations you will see how liberated you feel. You will become free and can go ahead with your life goals. Your goals are important and worthy of conversations. Not negative people. Always remember that. Negative people are an illusion. Your goals aren't an illusion.
@@5668i6 it takes a great heart to forgive others. You are great. I don't feel I can go back to a place where I am not welcome or listed. I prefer to be with positive people.
The wrong people, yes. And what avoids us is maybe better than anything else. Toxic people can smell enlighten ones, and first try to ruin them, but if they are strong in spirit and mind... Toxic people will reveal themselves to the enlighten ones and that's the blessing.
Because we change for the better and many others aren't on that same timing, so their inner hater comes out as they want to remember your lower experiences and try to see you as that and not the growth. Some people are empathetic and have enough self esteem to recognize and appreciate the positive growth
I'm not really sure why TH-cam recommended me this, but I'm glad they did. I really like your calm attitude, you sort of remind me of my old art teacher, he was always my favorite.
I have come across many master manipulators in my time and i find this is their favorite weapon because if some one can not control their emotions they are easy to manipulate.
@@MakeDemocracyMagnificientAgain I never said to be anyone else. I said if we want change we must do so in ourselves instead of expecting the rest of the world to fix things while you hope instead of take action
This is something that I have realized is the next step in my growth. I need to speak out - but at the same time it is important to speak out with kindness.
My husband raped two of my children just like the church people did and are stil doing. That hurt will never go away I get sick inside every time I have to look at him. But I have to stay married to him and forgive him as my children hate me for doing that. But God said I wpuld be hated by my own children will turn against me. This is so hard. I cry for God to just take me off this year I can not take this hate anymore.
@@toniorta5371 I am soooo sorry for what happened to your children and to you. I don't think that God would want you to stay in this situation. I hope that you and your children can find a way to find peace.
@@toniorta5371 I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don’t personally know you or how long you were married for, but I hope god heals you and sends you positivity for the future to try and get away. As a rape victim myself all I can say is: if I had to live with that guilt AND still be surrounded by my attacker daily ....I would cut my family out my life bc that just shows that they truly dont care about my safety and my trauma. You have to understand that your children have experienced a very traumatic thing from someone who they were supposed to trust and having a mother who supports that is of course going to stir up anger for them. You have to do whats best for your family and pretending that this marriage will continue is not the way to go. God forgives and does not judge! You do not have to stay married to this evil man in order to stay a child of god! He will accept you and love you for all your courage and strength ! Please for the sake of your children I am asking you to rethink your forgiveness of this man because not everyone deserves to be forgiven. Especially those who harm innocent children who they are supposed to be protecting. I am praying for you and your family ❤️
@@toniorta5371 Toni, you cannot use our Lord as justification for your inaction and cowardice. you're still here because there is a debt that is owed. you owe your children a *mother.* your children will have to cope for the rest of their lives, they might never forgive you, and they might even hate themselves for that until they die. you are disappointing them every day that you aren't standing up for them. there is something you haven't done yet, deep down you know it, and God knows it. so get off your knees, the story does not end here.
Thank you 🙏 I've been working so hard on this. It's not easy to NOT get triggered, but it's harder to pull myself together after being triggered.😔 I need to get a grip on my emotions no matter how ugly or cruel the words are that are being slung at me🙏 May all beings be blessed~ May all beings be healed~
I've found this hard too, when you're desperate to defend yourself in an 'argument' when another has attacked your character/intentions and such like. Very hard to remain cool and calm and defend your corner at the same time.
Great advice for life! It's also the best advice for dealing with toxic people who love to feed off other's extreme emotions, good or bad. Usually narcissists. Best to observe their behaviour, resist giving strong emotional reactions and give a considered response instead, just as you say. Assists with keeping these vampires at bay. Although the compassion and empathy needs to be reigned in for these types as they prey on empathetic people.
It takes courage to expose oneself publicly as you do through this channel. Being male and openly communicating love is rare and on social media you open yourself up to people who may use the opportunity to use you as an emotional punching bag. Thank you for sharing your experience and teaching from it. Your wisdom is appreciated and has assisted me on more than one occasion, including this video.
I find all of this true in my experience. We are all from one Source and if you open your heart and allow that emotion to fill you it enables a much better outcome. Sometimes however it is time to lovingly just let people continue on their own journey. Thanks again for what you do.
I'm sorry you were verbally attacked by someone with whom you called friend. My guess is you taught them something far deeper than you may ever know. Also love hearing the Blue Jays in the background. 💗
Oh, lots of value for sure...a few months ago, I happened to watch and listen to a video of a teacher talking to her kids telling them the right opposite conversation that you have here...hers is about re-acting instead of sitting a moment with ourselves and reflect, consider etc...Your video has definitely a lot of value, especially in a time like this one. If there were more people like you in this world heaven would be already here. Thank you dear
Thanks a lot for this Awakening. I´m going through hard times as others most probably do as well. I have to learn to love and understand myself. I always lived for others and let them broke me. I lost purpose for living. They were my purpose. As they went aways- they took my purpose with me. I have tried to get things alright between us, but it was never a long-term solution. The more it hurt. Now I´m taking my time to find myself and understand myself. It´s crazy how easy we neglect ourselves. I hope we all will get things alright and lead a happier life. We will do this together
Turn off the Tell-Lie Vision, disengage. Say daily to yourself and the world, "I'm sorry Please forgive me I thank you I love you." Do it 21 days and see your life change.
I haven't watched network or cable television in years. I recently clicked on a livestream of a news channel and it was so...depressing. Didn't even see the content I was looking for, just commercials advertising shows that pass for entertainment that were just gross. I couldn't believe I just joylessly watched stuff like that for years. I genuinely almost forgot how bad that content was. That being said, I've still been far too plugged into "the news" via various internet-based sources. At least I have far more choice in those and don't have to subject myself to constant background advertising. TH-cam has essentially replaced television for me.
@timberwolf powler why? do you think that apologizing to your self and the world and asking for forgiveness for 21 days specifically is a way to achieve some kind of shift in your consciousness? what are you apologizing and asking forgiveness for? what is the significance of 21 days? what changes in your self have you encountered after this practice?
This message is incredibly important to purposely conserving our energy; it describes the ability to willfully manage our energy without resistance but with intention to direct our energy where it serves others and ourselves. Thank you for your service and love.💕
I'm so grateful for this 🙏🏽 ii allow my emotions to control my thoughts and actions rather than allowing myself time to sit and feel the emotions first. It's a very difficult bad habit to stop but I'm working on it and I will get in control of my emotions
You sound already self-aware & willing. I would only add that you might consider not trying to get in control of your emotions but to be aware of them as they arise, pause, and not reactively act on them.Lastly realize most of us do not do this perfectly. Thank you for even caring about this!🙏
@@GratefulZen thank you and I have been practicing to be more aware rather than to try to control them and I must say that helps a whole lot more. It takes pressure off of me feeling like a bad person when I can't just go from mad to happy, instead I just realize that I'm upset and ask myself why and then it kind of just dissolved. Thanks!
@Awakened What is the implication of this? Found this article: blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/the-hippies-were-right-its-all-about-vibrations-man/
I was about to go cold turkey on TH-cam because more and more recommended content was designed to trigger, via an 'us and them' narrative, but then the algorithm recommended one of your videos and I'm glad it did. This is one of the best TH-cam channels I've watched if not the best, and I'm steadily going through all of your older content to help me continue my spiritual journey. Thank you.
I wish I saw this before the same happened to me with a couple of friends of over 10 years. I spoke with respect and they were insulting and name calling. One just looked at my words and never responded and the other continued to attack me until I had to block her phone number. This video did help me have more compassion for them rather than feeling raw about what happened. It simply happened and all I can do is learn from it.
Thank you for this. I struggle with feeling guilty when setting boundaries. I often allow others to harm me because I don't want to hurt anyone else by saying no. Thanks for touching on this.
I understand where you're coming from with the idea of not engaging with this hostile person, but you should feel proud of yourself for putting in the extra effort. To actually take the time and energy to ask them to explain themselves so you can better understand them and fix the situation. That you we're indeed patient and compassionate in the moment instead of just reacting. Most people would have either ignored them or retaliated, but you went the extra mile because you wanted to understand them and let them know that you heared what they were saying (even if you don't agree with them) in their agitated state. You can 110% say you walked away "Hands Clean" of the situation because you did everything you could to solve it. Which is a lot more then most people do now a days and just contributes to your level of kindness & compassion you have for others. Be proud & at peace :) xoxo
I’ve always been good at having a set tone & always speaking kindly to everyone. Recently I’ve been so off on my tone & I’ve been getting so overwhelmed so easily by the smallest things. Being mean, saying things without thinking. It’s caused so many problems in my relationship too. & I know it’s not even what I mean or it’s not how I really feel. It’s me being so overwhelmed my words don’t come out the way they should. This is what I needed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom
Thank you so much for sharing your insights. They give me an alternative to fear, anxiety and misery. I thrive when I allow the love that is there naturally to dissolve the negative low energy thoughts. 🙏🏻💕🌻 Much gratitude!
Thank you for the personalized gift of Insight brother Nada. A moment without internal conflict awakens in us a deeper response to a peace that needs not to be understood but just accepted. Less is more, silence speaks louder than passionate dialogues making some winners and others wrong. Winning an agruement loses the peace.
Yup I totally understand and have had the same issues. At the end of the day you don’t have control over anything except yourself and your actions. Observation without emotion is key. I see it with myself. Emotions good or bad cloud ones perception of reality.
A voice of profound reason, in, seemingly, turbulent times. What a world we would live in, if, all were receptive to such musings. Swords into plowshares. 🙏🏻
I found this to be very helpful and useful in my life. This type of wisdom is so beautiful. Thank you for taking the time out of your life to present this to us. I found so many details that you described helpful in my current situation with my family. I am so grateful for people like you.
So many people do not want this solution. People love staying in the problem because hatred and blame and rallying together to defeat a foe, are all so intoxicating. Hate and blame also do not require personal accountability. Please avoid group think and of course, don’t watch the “news”. The more one side can get you to hate the other side, the more control they have over your thought life. I strive to embrace what I LOVE, rather than fighting what I hate.
Yet you and another person agreeing in this solution are taking part in a group think that is in all ways except the name isnt news, a person talking about what he thinks to another person
@@plus__ on a micro level yes, to avoid mainstream MACRO level, polarized, bi-nary, mainstream divisiveness. That’s like comparing a grain of sand to all the sand on a beach 1000 miles long. Don’t worry, I don’t think we will ever hear the news media encouraging us to seek any positive, love based solutions requiring personal accountability and seeking to find a common ground through compassion.😂
I love and appreciate the mention of social media and compassion for oneself. I needed to hear this today, I was harboring hostility since the closure of my kid's schools and my office. I now view this time in life as a blessing. I've learned to pivot the energy I once used for other aspects in my busy everyday life, to my self care. I'm slowing down to hear my own voice.
I have been suffering with PTSD all my life from a violent upbringing. My blood pressure goes down when hearing your voice . My breathing becomes easier and I start to relax . The fear goes away For a few minutes which is heaven for me. I’m 64 years old and very thankful for your messages and the soft empathy, Thank You. 🙏🏼
Something you said resonated with me. That we're going through a period of social turmoil, hostility, division and conflict. Sometimes I think that humanity is building up to something, like a kettle starting to boil until it reaches it's peak. Anyhow, I just wanted to acknowledge this and say that I am grateful that I'm not alone in sensing this. Thank you ☺🙏
I have not yet reached that deep level of compassion where I can realize a mean abusive person is suffering. I feel that mean people target kind people because they take kindness as weakness. That is wrong. Getting angry is fine. Being cruel deliberately is not. I will however take your suggestion and try but I feel that will make me more of a target for malicious people to be abusive.
One of my coworkers likes to be cruel with animals and sees the ugliness in everything. One day I heard him say I'm cruel because people has been cruel with me. I think he does it because he feels he's not alone in his pain. Of course I don't like it and don't justify it, but inside he is also suffering.
Kindness can also be seen as a threat by traumatised people as it is a common manipulation tactic used in abuse and to control people. Also there are many people who are are afraid of vulnerability, kindness means to be vulnerable, it opens you to the possibility of being hurt. Hope that made sense.
Hurt people hurt people. People have probably hurt you in life because they themselves were hurt by others. It's best to learn to forgive them, they are shattered people that do not act as a whole person would. They are not in control of what they do, they are controlled by what others have done to them in the past. Do not however fall into the trap that forgiveness means you have to allow them to re-traumatize you.
Ive been saying for years.... That its important to respond, not react. I knew it was too simple and direct to be my idea. But I havent seen anyone use the phrase until now. But im grateful for the time and effort you have taken to explain what it means, in such a beautiful and well rounded way. Because I needed to hear it. And I hope others will feel the same. You nailed it. Thankyou...
I haven't yet come across any other teacher who freely and honestly shared their present day limitations and hurts with such clarity and honesty. It helps me feel strongly that we are not alone. So much courage in willing to be so honestly vulnerable. I so respect you Nada for your courage and wisdom, so helpful to us , thank you
Thank you for this video. Aug and sept have been TERRIBLE lots of massive arguments with lots of members of both families and attack from institutions that has caused us to be forced to emigrate.
I love your interpretation on compassion! My name means compassionate friend. So many people misinterpret compassion as a sign you are a bleeding heart for all to place their burdens on. This is not true compassion. Sometimes compassion is walking away while wishing the other person well. Compassion must also be reserved for oneself. Compassion could mean walking away and allowing the other person the freedom to be who they are.
So happy I found your channel. I am such a confused being and this gives me clarity on what we ourselves tend to do when while disconnecting from the desires of the society, our old beliefs and our old habits. The "I" in us rather needs the higher self to bring the much needed change which will serve our life's purpose but also Gods.
The way you just explained it is just so calm, nice, compassionate, caring and other positive values towards others. The title of this video is totally agreed respond rather than reactions or something similar in a way. I forgotten your video name in full but that is part of human nature such as mistakes, forgetful and confused. Instead of judging, comparing, complain and/or blame we should be open, acceptance, learning and improving.
Wow. Great words Sir. You have a wonderful way of explaining the guidance/wisdom. And YES, Humanity has almost forgotten that 'it's OK to agree to disagree' and still have respect and some level of integrity. Well Namaste and Ciao4Now, J
Its been over a year since I watched one of your videos, in that time ive spent most of it focusing on being in silence and solitude, thank you for inspiring the decision to do so. The space from which you speak, with the intent, is very powerful/effective. Much Love Brother Am.
This kind of content is rare. It is exactly what society needs but more than that it's what I need. Thank you for your kind words. Much love and gratitude and stay blessed brother
its hard to have the grace to realize where my frustrations with people come from, if they're actually to do with my own patterns, or i am truly being misunderstood by people. i found your channel this morning and i'm liking your perspective on this. its probably best to leave things alone when it comes to others. its so easy to have your own flaws reflected back at you. it can be hard when you think you can help someone but youre met with hostility, and the end of the day its not really my job. i often wonder if they'd ever think of doing the same for me, or if they get all overly self-reflective after getting into a minor spat like i tend to. it can also be hard to get an accurate read on your own intentions! it seems so strange, after 7 months of being stuck in the house i feel like i need to draw back even further from people. having honest conversations is tough.
It is difficult to understand what is happening in the world and the energies of fear and anger are not the only way to be...love and faith in the goodness of the universe in the mystery that is always available to us. Fear blocking the blessings and love for all of us in this time of upheaval and craziness. Diversity and compassion for all people is the way to be. Stay present and listen and learn from the experience and bless the situation in hopes that we will find the best way to be kind and caring. We are all together and we're all under alot of pressure. Love heals! Perpetual and everlasting peace in my heart is how I cope. Not losing the vibration of loving kindness. Stay present. I totally agree with your points in your comments on how to treat awkward and angry people who get in your life. Careful not to add to the problem but to be thoughtful and understanding and realize the situation is in fear and needs patience and understanding that takes a gentle touch with hope for respect for our differences. Relax and allow the energies to change. We can't fix other people, only by living with love, truth and integrity to your life path.
Omg thank you. Got tears. Bcs ive Been reactive and hostyle my Hole life. Due too very Long time with sexual abuse in the family and growing up with sadtistic narsisistic abuse. And i try too stay awere living with CPTSD and BPD. And most People fight with me back when all i want really is love. This video made me feel, seen, heard, felt, understood, welcomed and loved. And means alot since most People shame me then ignore me. Thank you..
My only regret and bothered me for years until I realized that everything had to happen exactly as it did I wouldn't be me. I've never feared death and never hesitated to defend myself and others and the one time I didn't was because my friend was the bully and that person was never the same and hung himself a few years later and a week later that ex friend broke into a girls house the day of her funeral and her family put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I blamed myself for not reacting when I should have. I believe one person actions could have prevented a school shooting from happening. The bullies that stopped talked to me later and told me it changed their life's for the better and apologized. I know the Buddha would protect others with right intention.
Thank you. It's not society at large causing my disconnect, but my husband and family life. Your words have helped me to center and realize I haven't been helping anything by reacting. I appreciate that man.
Perfectly articulated. I truly admire your ability to stay calm and put that triggered feeling aside to be kind and open minded and hearted. That was such a beautiful contrary action to choose. Sadly, I had to disconnect from a close friend because she allowed her emotions around current events to change her from a compassionate person to a hateful, bullying and judgmental person and while I know her intentions were good, all she did was add fuel to a raging fire and perpetuated more of what she claimed to be against. I send her love and well wishes because I know she has suffered trauma and loss that has caused her to behave the way she does out of fear and understandable anger but I had to set a boundary and remove myself from the friendship for my own mental health. I felt great anxiety about it and this message was so helpful and comforting. And you nailed it by addressing the media manipulation that only foments so much conflict and anger. It’s so big of you to take that time to put your feelings aside and think for yourself, and it’s not easy to do, which is, I think, largely why we find ourselves here. This is just such beautiful insight.
This is my second video and both share a real-time personal story, with settings and details. I am in happy awe. You are the first and only spiritual person here (and a man!) to realize how the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents. All other apparent divisions are but masks covering the core wounding of early life trauma. I do not expect to find psychological analyses here and it isn't necessary, for there is wisdom. Again, thank you.
"the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents." I was about to acknowledge the truth of this when I noticed it was my own post! :-)
This gave me a new insight into some issues I have been noticing in others, as I figured out how to do this years ago, but was unaware that others likely hadn't gone through the experiences and applied the same thought processes I have to attain this awareness.
Great video....we are forever blessed by them. That bluejay in the background was calling all his friends to experience your calmness...most people making any other video would have stopped tape and thrown rocks at that loud crow cousin...glad to see you did not. A definite test of the subject of this video.
@@ruthjeffery2539 I think you're right because the sound of that Jay was driving me CRAZY, but it also made me realize just how much I really needed the content of the message.
There are some who refuse any option other than to destroy themselves. This is a necessary process for some, and it's similarly necessary to prevent them from doing damage to others in the process. There are no ideal options, but there is an ideal approach. By living harmoniously ourselves, we can demonstrate the value of harmony to others.
Wow your ability to hold a balanced educated conversation just blew my mind. Love your inner wisdom when you speak. Subscribed and look forward to seeing more as I feel we have a similar outlook on our beautiful lives....Thanks✨
Ohh, my things were face to face confrontation and I felt physically threatened in one case, in the other my energy started being very effected. I was not capable of not reacting. I aimed that reaction at communicating my needs and limits, that I would not accept that treatment basically. But my energy was a swirling tornado of fire for days to come. I know this is about my past so I'm trying to understand and transcend. When someone threatens me physically or energetically through, I definitely cannot stay calm. I would like to understand the source of that and transform or strengthen. For now, I just accept that I am not perfect and I also have limits of my own which make me reactive as well. And feel compassion in my heart for the person even though I do not accept their behavior.
I appreciate and acknowledge your truth and vulnerability in saying this. I have been working on controlling this in myself for awhile now. Maybe this can help you understand anger the way it has truly opened my eyes. "Show me someone who is angry, and I will show you someone who has been traumatized/terrorized." I used to wake up very angry every morning, and I now understand that it was my trauma body/brain working through it. I don't know if this helps you at all, it just really hit home for me. I hope you are able to find your understanding. :)
I really needed to see this this morning. I am in South Africa and happened upon your video. My relationship ended due to being swept up with the pandemic and I reacted terribly. I wish i saw this much earlier. Now I sit with the regret of reaction.
I was raised in a volatile home. It has caused great conflict in me and the person I want to be. I find myself reacting to things I know that I shouldn’t, and not responding in a way that reflects my ideals. It will be hard, but I will work on this. I struggle with being able to vocalize during moments it wasn’t needed and silencing myself in moments I need to convey something important. Thanks for this.
When you're around people that like to test your peace, it's very difficult. What I truly need right now is to step back from all of the people I know, for a long time.
I believe this is a message from the universe, Spencer. You are surrounded by so many tests that are hoping to break your peace. If you practice in these environments and never allow your peace to be shaken, you will go so far in life. This period of your life where it isn't easy, is the universe training you for what lies ahead.
Although, If you are in a toxic situation, I do hope you find safe ground to step away. Sending light, love and positivity.
@@shyamlalani6380 such kind and encouraging words. I recieve the positive energy you're sending to me. It can be very difficult to handle sometimes, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I do pray I stay strong enough to overcome this challenge.
I am sending you positive high vibranting energy also, brother...
I agree, I always try to be present and when someone I view as a friend knows a subject is a sore one, I say it's in the past and that person doesn't have any effect on me anymore. This person will not accept my answer and continually bring it up to get an emotional reaction from me. No matter how many times I have shrugged it of. I dont want to be confrontational. So it's difficult, I try not to take it personally, but after a while it's disheartening. So I'm not sure if I have something to learn from being around this person
I know no one asked, but to put my two cents in; I think that you're right in that you might not learn anything from being around this person. The lesson might be setting clear boundaries and knowing when to pull away from someone who isn't adding to your life. Hope all's well.
I stepped back from the world about a year ago. I intended to step back in but its much more peaceful here.
I sat quietly on a polished rock by the riverbank, listening to the murmurs of the gently flowing stream. It was a lovely morning & my gaze was transfixed on one spot in the crystal clear river. Suddenly I heard a faint voice from within whispered: "It's never the same water every time, is it?". It was a powerful A-ha moment for me. I realized that the name, the word, River has become an image that blocks us to see the reality: the water that flows is never the same. From that day on, I let my mind be like that of the flowing water... always new. But I do feel for those whose minds are like stagnant waters; most people just don't get it - what flows is Life. What stagnates is already dead. Hugs & love, Nada. Keep on flowing, brother.
Lea Rose that is so beautiful and true for me too. thank you
@@kiranshetty837 cosmic✨hugs 🧘
Thank you @Leia Rose
I will always remember this. Thank you for this revelation. " Its never the same water everytime, is it?" what flows is life. what is stagnate is dead
"Be water, my friend" - Bruce Lee.
The biggest goal is to decipher who and what is even worthy of a response, no less a reaction. Anything that seeks a response or a reaction from you is an attempt at taking your power and attempting to control the narrative. Stay in your own movie and keep everything on your terms.
Well said.. Thank you for that additional pearl of wisdom! Bless and be blessed!
Wow that's an awesome point. I will keep that in mind
Everyone and everything is worthy and deserving of a response. And you will give a response no matter what. Doing nothing is still doing something. Not responding is your response to the situation.
these words really clicked for me. Commenting in hopes that a notification will bring me back to read this again soon
@Ford Ford ah yes, thank you! I need to keep this mindset alive. I shall watch the video again too. Cheers!
I am working on this, it has been challenging to be in this world and be autistic, I still would never give it up
Non dual spirituality, which is implied in AI:s videos, too, is the way to true liberation for you, ridding the "false self" that suffers and struggles. You are well on the way, keep being true. :)
Please remember autistic People are needed and very Special People.....as much as any ONE else.....Your needed and loved friend.....its true.....
@@darinjames3313 Yes, many of them are brilliant, and even if they are not, unique are worthy. The aut:s I've met are amazing
Working on ourselves is truly the best way to understand others and to be understood. Working through the anger and frustration of not being heard or understood is difficult, because it's painful to not be understood. As another person on the spectrum, I know this feeling of being chronically misunderstood can build over time. It's important to give ourselves space to work through these feelings. Learning to control my breathing has been one of the most helpful tools I've come across, as simple and cliche as it sounds. If I don't have a calm body, there is no clarity of mind. Without clarity of mind, I'm almost guaranteed to communicate my thoughts, feelings, and desires ineffectively.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 YES!
Taking sides is the problem. My “family” took sides and I stepped away. I no longer have a family. I have myself. People surrounding me and taking sides, most often against me, is not a family. I did not respond I walked away. I’m staying away because that is the action that keeps me true to myself.
similar experience , you rock!
You are not alone. You are the strong one. The one who has the gift of awareness. I can tell. The same thing happened to me. I am the one who walked away from my family. All took sides against each other and I was tired of the bickering and hate. I actually believed the narrative they'd set for me...for a while anyway. Then I became AWAKE. I really learned to love myself truly. Now I'm trying to show my family the love that I really have for them in my heart and I cant even believe it!!!!! Its working! I thought they hated me for the choices I've made along the way. But they still truly love you even though they may not show it. I hope for you that you all find pathways back to each others hearts.
Same here. Waiting to step away. You are the good person. Supporting unethical people is not good. You did the right thing. Your family or you aren't enemies against each other. But, the situations created some hostility. Only foolish person will support wrong people stay with people who hate that person. I am such a fool since I don't have a place to go. But, I have a suggestion. Don't blame your family or anyone else about anything. Any talking about others creates sadness in you. Be away from emotions that force you to blame others. Your energy depletes. Instead recognize the bad with kindness but be away from them by wishing them well. Once you stop mentioning people in your conversations you will see how liberated you feel. You will become free and can go ahead with your life goals. Your goals are important and worthy of conversations. Not negative people. Always remember that. Negative people are an illusion. Your goals aren't an illusion.
@@5668i6 it takes a great heart to forgive others. You are great. I don't feel I can go back to a place where I am not welcome or listed. I prefer to be with positive people.
I thought I was being mean and selfish choosing me now instead of the family thanks I am not alone.
🌱🌱 I need to listen to this over and over and let the words marinate.
I love it when people use marinate in that context! I use it all the time. "I'm gonna let that marinate a minute"
That is awesome and it brings me so much joy to use it as well as I finish marinating from meditation.
@lovleelucee I agree 100% 🙏
Same..love to listen to this to ease my mind. I make mp3's from messages like this..☮
Me too
Anyone who would lose you as a friend is the one at loss. It’s crazy how positivity and spiritually and love gets certain people against you
The wrong people, yes.
And what avoids us is maybe better than anything else.
Toxic people can smell enlighten ones, and first try to ruin them, but if they are strong in spirit and mind... Toxic people will reveal themselves to the enlighten ones and that's the blessing.
Because we change for the better and many others aren't on that same timing, so their inner hater comes out as they want to remember your lower experiences and try to see you as that and not the growth.
Some people are empathetic and have enough self esteem to recognize and appreciate the positive growth
Yes, I think this is also known as emotional intelligence, being able to step back, recognize fear in oneself, and not react foolishly.
I'm not really sure why TH-cam recommended me this, but I'm glad they did. I really like your calm attitude, you sort of remind me of my old art teacher, he was always my favorite.
I have come across many master manipulators in my time and i find this is their favorite weapon because if some one can not control their emotions they are easy to manipulate.
His voice is soothing and he makes sense. Reason, logic, and certainly compassion is getting hard to find today. I will give this yet another listen.
We need more people like this guy in the world, nice video, realy helped
We need you. We can all do our part by embodying the principles and virtues we wish to see in the world. Bless and Be Blessed!
@@AwakenInsight you to, thanks for the reply
We don't need more people like this. We need to BE more like these people
@@ThatMoonShroom we need to be like ourselves and not like somebody else!
@@MakeDemocracyMagnificientAgain I never said to be anyone else. I said if we want change we must do so in ourselves instead of expecting the rest of the world to fix things while you hope instead of take action
This is something that I have realized is the next step in my growth. I need to speak out - but at the same time it is important to speak out with kindness.
My husband raped two of my children just like the church people did and are stil doing. That hurt will never go away I get sick inside every time I have to look at him. But I have to stay married to him and forgive him as my children hate me for doing that. But God said I wpuld be hated by my own children will turn against me. This is so hard. I cry for God to just take me off this year I can not take this hate anymore.
@@toniorta5371 I am soooo sorry for what happened to your children and to you. I don't think that God would want you to stay in this situation. I hope that you and your children can find a way to find peace.
@@toniorta5371 my mother would have murdered that man with her own two hands if that ever happened to us. Just saying...
@@toniorta5371 I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don’t personally know you or how long you were married for, but I hope god heals you and sends you positivity for the future to try and get away. As a rape victim myself all I can say is: if I had to live with that guilt AND still be surrounded by my attacker daily ....I would cut my family out my life bc that just shows that they truly dont care about my safety and my trauma. You have to understand that your children have experienced a very traumatic thing from someone who they were supposed to trust and having a mother who supports that is of course going to stir up anger for them. You have to do whats best for your family and pretending that this marriage will continue is not the way to go. God forgives and does not judge! You do not have to stay married to this evil man in order to stay a child of god! He will accept you and love you for all your courage and strength ! Please for the sake of your children I am asking you to rethink your forgiveness of this man because not everyone deserves to be forgiven. Especially those who harm innocent children who they are supposed to be protecting. I am praying for you and your family ❤️
@@toniorta5371 Toni, you cannot use our Lord as justification for your inaction and cowardice. you're still here because there is a debt that is owed. you owe your children a *mother.* your children will have to cope for the rest of their lives, they might never forgive you, and they might even hate themselves for that until they die. you are disappointing them every day that you aren't standing up for them. there is something you haven't done yet, deep down you know it, and God knows it. so get off your knees, the story does not end here.
Thank you. Revenge is like a poison you intend for others, but end up giving to yourself instead.
Thank you 🙏 I've been working so hard on this. It's not easy to NOT get triggered, but it's harder to pull myself together after being triggered.😔 I need to get a grip on my emotions no matter how ugly or cruel the words are that are being slung at me🙏
May all beings be blessed~
May all beings be healed~
I've found this hard too, when you're desperate to defend yourself in an 'argument' when another has attacked your character/intentions and such like. Very hard to remain cool and calm and defend your corner at the same time.
Keep going...it will pass.
I closed my eyes and pretend you're beside me giving advice. This is the channel I need.
"what is in my power to resolve" also, quite frankly is it worth the time.
Why did it take me so long to find this channel. You’re such a being of light I really appreciate this content
Great advice for life! It's also the best advice for dealing with toxic people who love to feed off other's extreme emotions, good or bad. Usually narcissists. Best to observe their behaviour, resist giving strong emotional reactions and give a considered response instead, just as you say. Assists with keeping these vampires at bay. Although the compassion and empathy needs to be reigned in for these types as they prey on empathetic people.
I couldn’t agree more. Showing compassion for and engaging a narcissist actually feeds their need for supply.
Namaste Nada, Your messages are a user friendly spirituality and authentic. I see you brother, keep flowing beautifully: love n light blessings
It takes courage to expose oneself publicly as you do through this channel. Being male and openly communicating love is rare and on social media you open yourself up to people who may use the opportunity to use you as an emotional punching bag. Thank you for sharing your experience and teaching from it. Your wisdom is appreciated and has assisted me on more than one occasion, including this video.
This is
exactly what I need to help me process overwhelming emotions with the current tumultuous world affairs.
I find all of this true in my experience. We are all from one Source and if you open your heart and allow that emotion to fill you it enables a much better outcome. Sometimes however it is time to lovingly just let people continue on their own journey. Thanks again for what you do.
This was exactly my message sent to me yesterday. Now this shows up. Im so thankful. Thank you for your help.
Yeah same here, I was just thinking about how I will not react to anything just assess the situation and this video shows up on my feed today.
💜💜💜
I'm sorry you were verbally attacked by someone with whom you called friend. My guess is you taught them something far deeper than you may ever know. Also love hearing the Blue Jays in the background. 💗
Oh, lots of value for sure...a few months ago, I happened to watch and listen to a video of a teacher talking to her kids telling them the right opposite conversation that you have here...hers is about re-acting instead of sitting a moment with ourselves and reflect, consider etc...Your video has definitely a lot of value, especially in a time like this one. If there were more people like you in this world heaven would be already here. Thank you dear
Thanks a lot for this Awakening. I´m going through hard times as others most probably do as well. I have to learn to love and understand myself. I always lived for others and let them broke me. I lost purpose for living. They were my purpose. As they went aways- they took my purpose with me. I have tried to get things alright between us, but it was never a long-term solution. The more it hurt. Now I´m taking my time to find myself and understand myself. It´s crazy how easy we neglect ourselves. I hope we all will get things alright and lead a happier life. We will do this together
Turn off the Tell-Lie Vision, disengage.
Say daily to yourself and the world,
"I'm sorry
Please forgive me
I thank you
I love you."
Do it 21 days and see your life change.
I haven't watched network or cable television in years. I recently clicked on a livestream of a news channel and it was so...depressing. Didn't even see the content I was looking for, just commercials advertising shows that pass for entertainment that were just gross. I couldn't believe I just joylessly watched stuff like that for years. I genuinely almost forgot how bad that content was. That being said, I've still been far too plugged into "the news" via various internet-based sources. At least I have far more choice in those and don't have to subject myself to constant background advertising. TH-cam has essentially replaced television for me.
@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 I stay here and use an AD Block.
@timberwolf powler why? do you think that apologizing to your self and the world and asking for forgiveness for 21 days specifically is a way to achieve some kind of shift in your consciousness? what are you apologizing and asking forgiveness for? what is the significance of 21 days? what changes in your self have you encountered after this practice?
@@prismwashere Because it works.
The goddess of deceit in Greek is Medea
This message is incredibly important to purposely conserving our energy; it describes the ability to willfully manage our energy without resistance but with intention to direct our energy where it serves others and ourselves. Thank you for your service and love.💕
I realize the purpose of this moment in my life now. I'm very happy i found this video. Thank you
Yay! I'm very happy for you!
I'm so grateful for this 🙏🏽 ii allow my emotions to control my thoughts and actions rather than allowing myself time to sit and feel the emotions first. It's a very difficult bad habit to stop but I'm working on it and I will get in control of my emotions
You sound already self-aware & willing. I would only add that you might consider not trying to get in control of your emotions but to be aware of them as they arise, pause, and not reactively act on them.Lastly realize most of us do not do this perfectly. Thank you for even caring about this!🙏
@@GratefulZen thank you and I have been practicing to be more aware rather than to try to control them and I must say that helps a whole lot more. It takes pressure off of me feeling like a bad person when I can't just go from mad to happy, instead I just realize that I'm upset and ask myself why and then it kind of just dissolved. Thanks!
@@goddessk4610 Sure! As Yusuf/ Cat Stevens said “I’m on the road to find out.”☮️
@Awakened What is the implication of this? Found this article: blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/the-hippies-were-right-its-all-about-vibrations-man/
good luck!
I was about to go cold turkey on TH-cam because more and more recommended content was designed to trigger, via an 'us and them' narrative, but then the algorithm recommended one of your videos and I'm glad it did.
This is one of the best TH-cam channels I've watched if not the best, and I'm steadily going through all of your older content to help me continue my spiritual journey. Thank you.
So much wisdom in this. Thank you. ❤️
Observe without indulging. Find a solution. Ease people’s minds by being understanding and loving 📝
I really needed to hear this!!!! You are like an angel sent to me on this day.... thank you :)
I wish I saw this before the same happened to me with a couple of friends of over 10 years. I spoke with respect and they were insulting and name calling. One just looked at my words and never responded and the other continued to attack me until I had to block her phone number. This video did help me have more compassion for them rather than feeling raw about what happened. It simply happened and all I can do is learn from it.
I love your energy and calming voice.
you all are beautiful 😍
Thank you for this. I struggle with feeling guilty when setting boundaries. I often allow others to harm me because I don't want to hurt anyone else by saying no. Thanks for touching on this.
I understand where you're coming from with the idea of not engaging with this hostile person, but you should feel proud of yourself for putting in the extra effort. To actually take the time and energy to ask them to explain themselves so you can better understand them and fix the situation. That you we're indeed patient and compassionate in the moment instead of just reacting.
Most people would have either ignored them or retaliated, but you went the extra mile because you wanted to understand them and let them know that you heared what they were saying (even if you don't agree with them) in their agitated state. You can 110% say you walked away "Hands Clean" of the situation because you did everything you could to solve it. Which is a lot more then most people do now a days and just contributes to your level of kindness & compassion you have for others. Be proud & at peace :) xoxo
Soothing and calming wisdom.
Think of what you want to achieve with your response, dont respond blindly, respond kindly.
True words. Zeldris would know
I’ve always been good at having a set tone & always speaking kindly to everyone. Recently I’ve been so off on my tone & I’ve been getting so overwhelmed so easily by the smallest things. Being mean, saying things without thinking. It’s caused so many problems in my relationship too. & I know it’s not even what I mean or it’s not how I really feel. It’s me being so overwhelmed my words don’t come out the way they should. This is what I needed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom
This video arrived at the perfect moment 🙌🏻
Thank you so much for sharing your insights. They give me an alternative to fear, anxiety and misery. I thrive when I allow the love that is there naturally to dissolve the negative low energy thoughts. 🙏🏻💕🌻
Much gratitude!
Thank you for the personalized gift of Insight brother Nada. A moment without internal conflict awakens in us a deeper response to a peace that needs not to be understood but just accepted.
Less is more, silence speaks louder than passionate dialogues making some winners and others wrong. Winning an agruement loses the peace.
your calm voice...explaining and passing to us your thoughts and knowledge turns all more easier....thank you
Yup I totally understand and have had the same issues.
At the end of the day you don’t have control over anything except yourself and your actions. Observation without emotion is key. I see it with myself. Emotions good or bad cloud ones perception of reality.
A voice of profound reason, in, seemingly, turbulent times. What a world we would live in, if, all were receptive to such musings. Swords into plowshares. 🙏🏻
The underlying realization behind this talk. A great insight shared. Thank you Nada. Much love & blessings to all🙏
I found this to be very helpful and useful in my life. This type of wisdom is so beautiful. Thank you for taking the time out of your life to present this to us. I found so many details that you described helpful in my current situation with my family. I am so grateful for people like you.
So many people do not want this solution. People love staying in the problem because hatred and blame and rallying together to defeat a foe, are all so intoxicating. Hate and blame also do not require personal accountability. Please avoid group think and of course, don’t watch the “news”. The more one side can get you to hate the other side, the more control they have over your thought life. I strive to embrace what I LOVE, rather than fighting what I hate.
Very well said. I cannot agree more. Thank you for this much needed additional perspective. Wishing you well, always and in all ways!
Agreed well said my friend
I wish i could like this comment more than once. Hit the nail right on the head!
Yet you and another person agreeing in this solution are taking part in a group think that is in all ways except the name isnt news, a person talking about what he thinks to another person
@@plus__ on a micro level yes, to avoid mainstream MACRO level, polarized, bi-nary, mainstream divisiveness. That’s like comparing a grain of sand to all the sand on a beach 1000 miles long. Don’t worry, I don’t think we will ever hear the news media encouraging us to seek any positive, love based solutions requiring personal accountability and seeking to find a common ground through compassion.😂
I love and appreciate the mention of social media and compassion for oneself. I needed to hear this today, I was harboring hostility since the closure of my kid's schools and my office. I now view this time in life as a blessing. I've learned to pivot the energy I once used for other aspects in my busy everyday life, to my self care. I'm slowing down to hear my own voice.
I am so glad I found your page 🔆 thank you for your messages
I have been suffering with PTSD all my life from a violent upbringing. My blood pressure goes down when hearing your voice . My breathing becomes easier and I start to relax . The fear goes away For a few minutes which is heaven for me. I’m 64 years old and very thankful for your messages and the soft empathy, Thank You. 🙏🏼
When I feel myself becoming enraged, I walk away until I can speak calmly and freely. I'm a working progress.
As am I. As a highly anxious person I often react, yet I wish to learn to how to respond instead. As long as I have the will I hope to achieve this
Something you said resonated with me. That we're going through a period of social turmoil, hostility, division and conflict. Sometimes I think that humanity is building up to something, like a kettle starting to boil until it reaches it's peak. Anyhow, I just wanted to acknowledge this and say that I am grateful that I'm not alone in sensing this. Thank you ☺🙏
I have not yet reached that deep level of compassion where I can realize a mean abusive person is suffering. I feel that mean people target kind people because they take kindness as weakness. That is wrong. Getting angry is fine. Being cruel deliberately is not. I will however take your suggestion and try but I feel that will make me more of a target for malicious people to be abusive.
One of my coworkers likes to be cruel with animals and sees the ugliness in everything. One day I heard him say I'm cruel because people has been cruel with me. I think he does it because he feels he's not alone in his pain. Of course I don't like it and don't justify it, but inside he is also suffering.
Kindness can also be seen as a threat by traumatised people as it is a common manipulation tactic used in abuse and to control people. Also there are many people who are are afraid of vulnerability, kindness means to be vulnerable, it opens you to the possibility of being hurt. Hope that made sense.
Hurt people hurt people. People have probably hurt you in life because they themselves were hurt by others. It's best to learn to forgive them, they are shattered people that do not act as a whole person would. They are not in control of what they do, they are controlled by what others have done to them in the past. Do not however fall into the trap that forgiveness means you have to allow them to re-traumatize you.
Yes, sometimes there is the need to respond, but mostly not.
Ive been saying for years.... That its important to respond, not react.
I knew it was too simple and direct to be my idea. But I havent seen anyone use the phrase until now.
But im grateful for the time and effort you have taken to explain what it means, in such a beautiful and well rounded way. Because I needed to hear it. And I hope others will feel the same.
You nailed it. Thankyou...
Thank you I needed this I’ve been reacting my whole life.
I haven't yet come across any other teacher who freely and honestly shared their present day limitations and hurts with such clarity and honesty. It helps me feel strongly that we are not alone. So much courage in willing to be so honestly vulnerable. I so respect you Nada for your courage and wisdom, so helpful to us , thank you
Thank you for this video. Aug and sept have been TERRIBLE lots of massive arguments with lots of members of both families and attack from institutions that has caused us to be forced to emigrate.
I love your interpretation on compassion! My name means compassionate friend. So many people misinterpret compassion as a sign you are a bleeding heart for all to place their burdens on. This is not true compassion. Sometimes compassion is walking away while wishing the other person well. Compassion must also be reserved for oneself. Compassion could mean walking away and allowing the other person the freedom to be who they are.
We can all have peace and love when we take the time to go to our inner selves. Love and compassion towards others begin in self
So happy I found your channel. I am such a confused being and this gives me clarity on what we ourselves tend to do when while disconnecting from the desires of the society, our old beliefs and our old habits. The "I" in us rather needs the higher self to bring the much needed change which will serve our life's purpose but also Gods.
Brilliant! I'm glad I found this channel. Definitely subscribing. Thank you!
Sending you love from Botswana. Thanks for your message ❤️
This video came to me at just the right time :) Thank you so much for making!
I needed this man. You're truly a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
I'm so thankful...I prayed and this was my response. Thank you for taking the time to do this and share it with the rest of us.
Wow, thank you so much. The way you formulate this is really understandable
I needed to hear this. Amazing message!! Thank you.
The way you just explained it is just so calm, nice, compassionate, caring and other positive values towards others. The title of this video is totally agreed respond rather than reactions or something similar in a way. I forgotten your video name in full but that is part of human nature such as mistakes, forgetful and confused. Instead of judging, comparing, complain and/or blame we should be open, acceptance, learning and improving.
Wow. Great words Sir. You have a wonderful way of explaining the guidance/wisdom. And YES, Humanity has almost forgotten that 'it's OK to agree to disagree' and still have respect and some level of integrity. Well Namaste and Ciao4Now, J
Its been over a year since I watched one of your videos, in that time ive spent most of it focusing on being in silence and solitude, thank you for inspiring the decision to do so. The space from which you speak, with the intent, is very powerful/effective. Much Love Brother Am.
Received this exact message from Spirit on Tuesday. Thank you.
This kind of content is rare. It is exactly what society needs but more than that it's what I need. Thank you for your kind words. Much love and gratitude and stay blessed brother
I appreciate your content. Thank you!
its hard to have the grace to realize where my frustrations with people come from, if they're actually to do with my own patterns, or i am truly being misunderstood by people. i found your channel this morning and i'm liking your perspective on this. its probably best to leave things alone when it comes to others. its so easy to have your own flaws reflected back at you. it can be hard when you think you can help someone but youre met with hostility, and the end of the day its not really my job. i often wonder if they'd ever think of doing the same for me, or if they get all overly self-reflective after getting into a minor spat like i tend to. it can also be hard to get an accurate read on your own intentions! it seems so strange, after 7 months of being stuck in the house i feel like i need to draw back even further from people. having honest conversations is tough.
It is difficult to understand what is happening in the world and the energies of fear and anger are not the only way to be...love and faith in the goodness of the universe in the mystery that is always available to us. Fear blocking the blessings and love for all of us in this time of upheaval and craziness. Diversity and compassion for all people is the way to be. Stay present and listen and learn from the experience and bless the situation in hopes that we will find the best way to be kind and caring. We are all together and we're all under alot of pressure. Love heals! Perpetual and everlasting peace in my heart is how I cope. Not losing the vibration of loving kindness. Stay present. I totally agree with your points in your comments on how to treat awkward and angry people who get in your life. Careful not to add to the problem but to be thoughtful and understanding and realize the situation is in fear and needs patience and understanding that takes a gentle touch with hope for respect for our differences. Relax and allow the energies to change. We can't fix other people, only by living with love, truth and integrity to your life path.
Omg thank you. Got tears. Bcs ive Been reactive and hostyle my Hole life. Due too very Long time with sexual abuse in the family and growing up with sadtistic narsisistic abuse. And i try too stay awere living with CPTSD and BPD. And most People fight with me back when all i want really is love. This video made me feel, seen, heard, felt, understood, welcomed and loved. And means alot since most People shame me then ignore me. Thank you..
My only regret and bothered me for years until I realized that everything had to happen exactly as it did I wouldn't be me. I've never feared death and never hesitated to defend myself and others and the one time I didn't was because my friend was the bully and that person was never the same and hung himself a few years later and a week later that ex friend broke into a girls house the day of her funeral and her family put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I blamed myself for not reacting when I should have. I believe one person actions could have prevented a school shooting from happening. The bullies that stopped talked to me later and told me it changed their life's for the better and apologized. I know the Buddha would protect others with right intention.
Thank you. It's not society at large causing my disconnect, but my husband and family life. Your words have helped me to center and realize I haven't been helping anything by reacting. I appreciate that man.
thankyou so much for the wisdom. it was a big help. love and blessings..
Perfectly articulated. I truly admire your ability to stay calm and put that triggered feeling aside to be kind and open minded and hearted. That was such a beautiful contrary action to choose.
Sadly, I had to disconnect from a close friend because she allowed her emotions around current events to change her from a compassionate person to a hateful, bullying and judgmental person and while I know her intentions were good, all she did was add fuel to a raging fire and perpetuated more of what she claimed to be against. I send her love and well wishes because I know she has suffered trauma and loss that has caused her to behave the way she does out of fear and understandable anger but I had to set a boundary and remove myself from the friendship for my own mental health. I felt great anxiety about it and this message was so helpful and comforting.
And you nailed it by addressing the media manipulation that only foments so much conflict and anger. It’s so big of you to take that time to put your feelings aside and think for yourself, and it’s not easy to do, which is, I think, largely why we find ourselves here. This is just such beautiful insight.
This is my second video and both share a real-time personal story, with settings and details. I am in happy awe. You are the first and only spiritual person here (and a man!) to realize how the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents. All other apparent divisions are but masks covering the core wounding of early life trauma. I do not expect to find psychological analyses here and it isn't necessary, for there is wisdom. Again, thank you.
"the heart of upsets is neither politics nor religion nor race nor anything but personal relationships and their incidents." I was about to acknowledge the truth of this when I noticed it was my own post! :-)
This gave me a new insight into some issues I have been noticing in others, as I figured out how to do this years ago, but was unaware that others likely hadn't gone through the experiences and applied the same thought processes I have to attain this awareness.
Great video....we are forever blessed by them. That bluejay in the background was calling all his friends to experience your calmness...most people making any other video would have stopped tape and thrown rocks at that loud crow cousin...glad to see you did not. A definite test of the subject of this video.
I was thinking the same thing. I think the jay was there as an example of the distractions we're trying to overcome.
@@ruthjeffery2539 I think you're right because the sound of that Jay was driving me CRAZY, but it also made me realize just how much I really needed the content of the message.
This video appeared in my recommended when I needed it the most. Words cannot express how grateful I am for your work ❤️
There are some who refuse any option other than to destroy themselves. This is a necessary process for some, and it's similarly necessary to prevent them from doing damage to others in the process.
There are no ideal options, but there is an ideal approach. By living harmoniously ourselves, we can demonstrate the value of harmony to others.
Wow your ability to hold a balanced educated conversation just blew my mind. Love your inner wisdom when you speak. Subscribed and look forward to seeing more as I feel we have a similar outlook on our beautiful lives....Thanks✨
Ohh, my things were face to face confrontation and I felt physically threatened in one case, in the other my energy started being very effected. I was not capable of not reacting. I aimed that reaction at communicating my needs and limits, that I would not accept that treatment basically. But my energy was a swirling tornado of fire for days to come. I know this is about my past so I'm trying to understand and transcend. When someone threatens me physically or energetically through, I definitely cannot stay calm. I would like to understand the source of that and transform or strengthen. For now, I just accept that I am not perfect and I also have limits of my own which make me reactive as well. And feel compassion in my heart for the person even though I do not accept their behavior.
I appreciate and acknowledge your truth and vulnerability in saying this. I have been working on controlling this in myself for awhile now. Maybe this can help you understand anger the way it has truly opened my eyes. "Show me someone who is angry, and I will show you someone who has been traumatized/terrorized." I used to wake up very angry every morning, and I now understand that it was my trauma body/brain working through it. I don't know if this helps you at all, it just really hit home for me. I hope you are able to find your understanding. :)
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It's so nice to hear you speak and hear the truth you talk of. So often I hear one sided opinions. Rarely I hear such wisdom for both sides.
Thank you my teacher .
I have never needed these reminders as much as i do now at this point in my life. Thank you kindly for your wisdom
I really needed this today, as will so many others. Thank you
Double TRUE. I will practice this mantra. Thanks Awaken Insight. It is quite a battle not wanting to put someone through a wall, daily. Namaste 😌
I really appreciate this.
I really needed to see this this morning. I am in South Africa and happened upon your video. My relationship ended due to being swept up with the pandemic and I reacted terribly. I wish i saw this much earlier. Now I sit with the regret of reaction.
Thanks I needed this after the debate last night.
I was raised in a volatile home. It has caused great conflict in me and the person I want to be. I find myself reacting to things I know that I shouldn’t, and not responding in a way that reflects my ideals. It will be hard, but I will work on this. I struggle with being able to vocalize during moments it wasn’t needed and silencing myself in moments I need to convey something important. Thanks for this.