I am listening to this as I battle deep suicidal ideation, truely in a state of physical and mental shock and pain. I am weak, and my heart is broken. Tara, this is the most wonderful, comforting and enlightening talk that is so pertinent to help get through these moments of utter hell and resistance and depression and stagnation. 😭🙏💗
As we all know, life can get tough, just know that it also gets better. Hang in there. You've made it this far. Through tough times. You are strong and brave. Wait for good things. Think good things. Keep away from negatives. Find a good group that understands the issues you've had to deal with. If it makes you feel better, stick with it, if not then find yourself a different type of support. Just get out to a safe place and take a walk. Breathe deeply. Feel how good the sun feels, how good it feels to breathe, appreciate the beauty of the day and life, of the simple things. Start there. Remind yourself of this. Take life back to a simple place, a place that's easy to handle. Stay in that place until you feel better. Find new friends. Friends that will love you, because you are a thoughtful person that deserves love. Open your heart to nice people, nice people that also have open hearts. All love and hugs to you. You are in my thoughts.
Scarlett, you ARE the perfect person to work on a suicide hotline to help talk down others from committing suicide. No matter how weak you feel mentally, there is someone much weaker than you that needs your help. In life everything happens for a reason. You have what it takes to help others even if you think you can't help yourself. Remember that is the only reason we are on Earth. We are here as part of a whole. As long as we remember that and not focus on ourselves individually, we will serve. By serving others, you will cure your sorrows. We love you Scarlett. It's time to help others now. So don't delay any longer. Call or Google to see how you can start your mission in your city. Forget the past and the future. Live for now only..... always. We are with you and so are loved ones you may have lost because they are using me to communicate this message to you.
'Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to chose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.' Viktor Frankl-
stimulus and response is a unitary movement, only humans are dumb enough to think they are separate. no matter how you call it, response or reaction, the instrument we use is the same. Mechanically repeating empty words and phrases do not make it real.
@@s.muller8688 This might be true for those with a Fixed mindset, but though there is an undeniable connection in the Stimulus - Response circuit, there is so much evidence that this can be retrained. There are not only spiritual but also cientific techniques to re-educate our responses in a natural and authentic way. Whoever would want to understand the science behind this, could just start by checking the not-so-new concept of Neural Plasticity.
@@vivsgm7538 whatever you think you are retraining, is simply a modification of thought. Thought is what keeps us going round in circles. stimulus and response are not under any circumstances related to time Your claims are completely and utterly false. and you have no way to back any of this up.Neuroscience knows nothing about the human mind. and Neural plasticity is another new age mind trick.
1)please don't believe your thoughts 2) pause, back to presence 3) remember love.... mindfulness strengths our pre-frontal cortex . I can go to bed now
I’m less than 20 minutes into your talk and I want to comment. First, you are the answer to my asking source energy for assistance with my insecurities that have grown so strong over the past couple of years, but have also been with me for ever. I study psychology, spirituality, metaphysics, nap, you name it, and I work at a counseling center. I hear therapists say “they” and “people that,” etc., which makes me feel like “those people. I seriously began to think there was something really wrong with me. When you speak, you say “we,” which really lessens my feeling that I’m damaged. It’s more inpowering. And your message is simple and true. It’s a low period for me and you lift me up. Thank you! I may be back when I finish listening.
Hey thanks for pointing that out. That often times when we're criticizing society, duh, we're part if society. And that those types of words can be separating and alienating. When really we all have a lot of work to do.
This is really helpful to me as a therapist - I use this phrasing to generalize/describe patterns, not thinking that it could come across as othering. I'm going to think of how I can rephrase these types of remarks. Thank you!
@@witbrodt Thank you for your kind message, and for excusing my typos. It’s funny that when we point out individual’s short comings, we tend to make the whole person wrong, and mostly we/I do it to myself. So it’s somewhat comforting to know that others share my short comings.
This haunting diagnosis of BPD from my early 20's has been ruining my life since my earliest years and BPD seems to be more of a spiritual issue, and turning turning to this video in desperation to find how to respond and not react. I've been told I'm extremely reactive in the past and my current relationship of 4 years is suffering due to my instability, along with my job, my very few of what's left of my half friendships and family. Thank you for this video. It's helpful
I have listened to this several times over the course of years. As talks go, this one approaches perfection; inspiring, educational, emotional, funny and an acute pointer to Spirit. Thanks, Tara.
"Thoughts are never reality they are at best a representation that's useful..... And they're often misguided.." Every time I feel fear in my body I'm going to sit with it and say "this is a thought creating this fear in my body". I feel like if I can do that one thing, it will be a stepping stone to turning in the optimal direction. Thank you Tara Brach!
Quote : The thought becomes the word, the word manifests as the deed, the deed develops into the habit, habit hardens into character, character gives birth to destiny.
WOWOWOW I don't know how you told that story without crying; I;m sure everyone who heard it cried. Thank you for all your practices. You are making such a difference in the world and my life.
This was incredibly healing. As I write this, Covid-19 rages through our country and our planet. Minneapolis is burning, and violent hatred is overtaking sanity. I can feel it in my heart. I understand why people want to burn. Last night, I wanted to burn. But, then, I found this. Thank you so much for helping me to center by disbelieving thoughts, being here now and remembering love. In this way, I can move forward and be strong for what is to come.
Around minute 18 she actually mentions police killings, particularly of African Americans. She said, "we can see the fear and the fear meeting each other."
Not sure why anybody would give this video a dislike? Perhaps they just don't understand the messages being conveyed? This woman appears to be totally committed to simply helping people with all the negativity of modern life.
My heart was hurting when I found this video. I’m grateful for the teaching. I was believing my thoughts that I hurt my friend deliberately, rather than sharing a delight I have in words. My sharing triggered her and she accused me of DELIBERATELY hurting her. I took in her words and believed the thought that I was hurtful, not loving. My heart and stomach have been aching from that thought. This meditation brought me great relief. My thoughts were much like a child’s, believing that I wasn’t a good person. I got to hear them, to recognize that they are REAL, but NOT the truth. That “child-me” now knows that her love is REAL and she/I is safe and not “awful” or “wrong”. Blessings!
I used to totally believe my thoughts and act on them right away...most times I regretted it and things didn't get better.Im learning slowly to just observe my thoughts but still get trapped in them.Love this talk and so glad I came upon this video now🌻🍃🦋
Like many people, I grew up with a deeply stressed mother who used me as a scapegoat for her anxieties and disappointments. She put a huge amount of fear into me; she was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive every day, saying horrible things about me and inculcating me with fear. This was all secretive; she did not abuse me in front of others, including my father, who was away at work. So this secret abuse stayed with me most of my life. I was saved by being loved and appreciated by my father and everyone else around me, but I still have to fight insecurity and self-denigration. Meditation and discussions like this have changed everything. I love Tara’s guidance about self-acceptance and self-compassion. It puts me in a place of peace I needed so badly. ❤❤❤❤❤ I particularly love the message that the good thoughts accrue, so life can become better and better. PS Tara you’re a riot! I love your funny side.
I have just gotten away from a malignant narcissist. I’m ready to put all the negativity behind me and focus on positives. Your talk teaches me how to do that. Thanks
I am currently in the process, after several long years of dark night of the soul, of learning how to dream and believe and manifest again. I keep beating myself and thinking myself hopeless and feeling in despair that my life will never change, whilst also knowing that manifestation comes from vibration and that miracles can change things in the blink of an eye. So how amusing, on yet another day when my autistic, ADD brain was rattling round in circles, to appreciate that I am manifesting exactly what I need to help move me forward, every single day. Thank you Tara, for creating this talk, with all its beautiful humour, so that it could show up in my feed in Divine Timing. This is not a new practice to me, but the way you present it reached parts that other teachers did not reach! Sending peace and love. Big hugs everyone - if we can get through 2020/21, we will cope with anything 2022 throws our way.
Thank you Tara, I found you through Psychology Today. I want to share this with the world! This talk was truly a life saver for me. I had a nightmare of a childhood and it's continued my whole life. Your talks and meditations were instrumental in helping me put the pieces together. I was misdiagnosed with depression all my life, in and out of psychosis, prescribed anti depressants, cocktails of prescriptions. obsessive behaviors that made me literally brush the enamel off my teeth. Drugs and Alcohol trying to self medicate. At 57 I was diagnosed with bipolar. I started DBT Therapy, even though I knew it was helping some I was still in a fog. I came to realize l couldn't pay attention and realized I had a learning disorder. I changed Dr.s again and it was determined that I've also been living with attention deficit, another new medication! Finally it all started to make sense.. I've come to accept that this was my path. I'm feeling like I'm awakening for the 1st time in my life at 58. I'm not hating myself anymore and I have found the love and light that was always there. I'm on the path with so much gratitude. I can't thank you enough .
All the best on your awakening journey Marisa. I too am learning so much from these videos. Tra is just an amazing person to share her teachings with us all. Peace to you.
I just want to love this a thousand times lol! The space between your thoughts and the reaction can save so much turmoil in our lives! Also where the sacred is!! Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🥰💓
There is a lot of wisdom and healing in this. Hard part is doing it over and over during tough times when brain is flipped. It beautifully captures the spirit and essence of traditional religions while not being religious at all.
This was a profound listen for me. I've been stuck for a year and a half, unable to perform any of what are all manageable tasks. Anxiety and depression over everything surrounding my mom's passing, the onslaught of a physically and emotionally painful mystery affliction that resulted in me isolating myself from all my friends and family, spending most nights in the bathtub alone with my thoughts that vacilated between suicide, questioning my sanity, and anger/playing the victim. Then came a person that even still, I have to fight making excuses for, but is clearly a narcissist. I'm grateful to finally have the strength and sensibility to cut this person out of my life and am also finally not give in to the myriad of thoughts this relationship has plagued me with. I don't have to believe this inner voice telling me I need answers. I'm happy to move from hurt to anger. I'm slowly efforting to develop healthier daily habits such as a daily gratitude practice, and after watching Andrew Huberman's lesson on effective gratitude practices, I realized I didn't have a story of gratitude to reference... Now I do. Thank you for this lesson, and thank you for sharing such a touching story. You're a wonderful speaker and human being.
I went through two years of severe Chronic Fatigue which in turn led to a severe depressive episode (have a history of it). I know I became the complaining whiny person that normally I am not. I know my friends got tired of hearing it; I got tired of hearing myself that way. Happy to report I am feeling great mentally and physically! Thank you, Tara for all you do!! Namaste 🕊☮
20:18 I love this segment, because mastering my inner dialogue is one of the things I struggle with the most. Even when I know what's the right or most beneficial action to my well-being. "Start with the practice of waking up out of our thoughts. ...notice when we're in thoughts so that rather than living inside them, you're aware that they're happening. The point isn't to get rid of thoughts, but just know that they're there so you don't mistake them for reality. You have a choice. "Please, let me remember. I don't have to believe them".
Have yet to watch this vid so maybe she covered this.....but the practice of canceling negative self accusatory thoughts with positive re wording is REALLY helpful to self esteem.
Namaste Tara. You saved my life too - I listened to your Radical Acceptance audio for many lonely and restless nights when I was going through a very tough time in my life. Then I would put bits of it on over the next few years after, to help me ‘remember’. Now that your teachings are on TH-cam, I get to get so many more reminders. I loved your story about your high school best friend here. We’re both lucky you happened to pop into our lives at the right time. Thank you. I love you🙏💖🌟
I've always been a bit dismayed at the way people talk about feelings, such as, "how does that 'make you' feel? "She made me angry". "That makes me sad". Things happen. I can react, or respond. The nature of the reaction is based on the accumulated experiences that are the structure of my "survival ego". A response, a considered observation of events and circumstances, followed by a rational, loving, understanding, response...that is the goal. The Dharma is called a "practice" for a reason. "What we practice grows stronger." -weezi-💖🙏💜🙏🤠 Thank you Tara 💖 🙏 Buddha Dharma Sanga💖🙏
43:46 The thought becomes the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into the habit. The habit hardens into character. Character gives birth to destiny. So watch your thoughts with care and let them spring from love born out of respect for all beings. To the degree that we suffer we are believing thoughts that are not true and we are caught in some kind of reactive looping that is keeping us identified with something that is smaller than the truth of who we are. Thank you Tara.
I love the way you explain the way the brain functions! I feel this is one of your most significant talks. It holds the key to transformation. By practicing & eventually incorporating these 3 concepts,"Don't believe your thoughts!", etc... I have freed myself from the imprisonment of my mind & its negative thought bias. It wasn't easy & involved a few major crises but was worth it. Thank you so much Tara for your inspiration & valuable guidance.
i have been listening to you about a month now, i am so pleased i have found your channel tara is a wonderfully witty lady filled with honest fun and sincere attitude to help and inform her audience, thank you
I feel a sense of calm watching this video. I got more out of the actual calmness of the soul than the actual message. Wow! It felt a bit like the afterlife. 🌺🌺🔥🔥🏕🏕🏜🏜💚💚❤❤
Thank you very much for being so careing and compassionate.i have borderline personality disorder.and. anxiety. your talks help me get through the day .when im having realy bad anxity attacks .listening to your talks are so powerfull helping me get through. Thank you 👍
A great and inspirational video. One of the stories she recounted is related to what happened to a friend. A long time ago he went through a lot of hardship, and sadly came to the point of deciding to give up on life. What stopped him was an expression of gratitude from a woman he sometimes chatted with on the Internet, who happened to tell him that day over chat that she always liked these special moments talking to him. That inspired him to find the courage to tell his parents about what he had been about to do. With their help he recovered and started a new life. He is now living happily. This always gives me the chills (like now) when I think of this. We really shouldn't underestimate the impact we can have on other people for good or bad with our words and actions, sometimes even the simplest ones...
I remember hearing the story of a man who jumped off the Golden Gate bridge. His suicide note read: I am going to the bridge to jump. If ONE person so much as smiles at me, I won't do it.
eolyt Now it is Aug. 2022 and I just now came upon this encouraging vid. Regarding your comment...... I usually make my You Tube comments encouraging or uplifting ....but I have reacted badly to my neighbor. So now I will stop that negative reaction... and, thank God, NOT follow through with my plan for vengeance. Whew! Could have turned out really bad for me. Karma can be a bitch. 🤔
I agree totally. I listened to this a couple of months ago and now it's pop up again. Time to refreshen!! Thank you Tara for your enlightening words. Peace 🌟💝
Exactly in time as usual thanks to the Universal Law of Love attraction that never mistakes. Beeing trough all this thinking loop attracting the same negative emotions and situations over and over, trying to get rid of them and eventually getting stuck again and again... Living lately on positive affirmations, trying to regain my lost energy with Ho'oponopono, Abraham Hiks Universal Knowledge, Luise Hay Wisdom, Marisa Peer courses, and many more spiritual masters. Now I will definately try to use this kind knowledge and techniques too. Thank you so much.
Ive played your videos nearly all day today. I am doing my best to take in what you are teaching us. Thank you for sharing your teachings. I am so grateful and becoming more aware to grow myself. Thank you again. Peace to you and all who learn from you.
I could listen to this episode over and over because it is jammed pack full of solutions to erroneous thinking in a simple and learnable and doable formula. I am a therapist and will refer clients to this episode often! It encapsulates the foundation to gently and lovingly "managing' ones thoughts. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
Wow! I was looking for an answer to this for several days, feeling tormented by the loop of thought 💭 I just did a complete weekend retreat looking for this answer, you are a gift 💝 thank you 🙏🏼 I felt so moved for your invitation, I will practice this I am sure this is the exit and the door into freedom! Blessings! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I recognize your suffering. Depression by itself is can make it hard to move through. With everything else on top that, we find ourselves in unbearable pain. I hope that you are able to find some strength today.
Wow! My answer came so fast that I didn't have a chance to think it away. I am enough. I am connected to all there is. My wounds came from others telling me who I am and what I should do but never paying for the consequences listening to their advice brought me... But the lie was the core belief from childhood neglect abs abuse that I was small, unsafe and alone... And wrong and broken and stupid. In a flash this answer came in and I have always struggled with meditation, taking no thought and being still. I just didn't try this time and the universe caught a second of stillness..... I am enough. I am connected. This, the third in a row that I watched, was a beautiful experience for me.
Perfect love No fear Aug. 2022 here. Big YAY for you. Happy for you. Speaking only for myself ( coming from the same place ) let me share that I often need to hear the same encouraging truths over and over again before it sinks in to become a permanent part of my thinking. Just sayin'. 😊
Tara, thank you.. for your beauty, your tenderness, your compassion and your brilliant explanations. I am going through adrenal fatigue and can really relate to the complaining thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience and your great little anecdotes that keep me laughing at myself. I love you. With blessings and best wishes from New Zealand xxx
Thank you for your calming speech. I been on TH-cam for years hearing many male speakers. I don’t hear the ego Id and the testorone that fuels those American guys. Thoughts, actions. Ideas, responding. Thank you Tara
Thank you (Green) Tara... I feel how you are holding humanity in your loving embrace. You're such a Divine Power House! It is a true blessing to be able to watch your teachings here :) Namaste.
I recently finished the tethered soul, but I got much more out of this. What a wonderful teacher and speaker. Ingenious the way you peppered this talk with these poignant, illuminating stories. Those last two were killers, by the way! Many struggles for me lately with the inner voice basically ruining my day... Serendipitous indeed that I stumbled upon this today. I'll be back for more. THANK YOU ❤️
Very useful talk, I've recently thought of how we can sometimes Gaslight our-self's causing us to focus on untruths and causing fear or anger. Thank you Tara
@@josephwanjiku6853 Yup. The nefarious plan to turn us into a totally fear-based easily manipulated populace is rolling right along. Sad but not frightening. I say.....all we really HAVE to do is....flow with The Big Show and stay UNAFRAID.
true but from this logic the industry is "actual" virtual reality, something concrete, which means people will then in reality live in a "virtual reality" virtual reality or virtuality. I wonder how humanity will be affected when photo realistic VR exists and can be experienced through feelings by the general populace - maybe our capability for things like love and compassion changes when we experience events otherwise only available if one had actually seen them or through intuitive imagination such as lucid dreaming.
Don't believe your thoughts..Come into Presence...Be Kind...More Space ...More Ease...Look at the Trees...Thank you for these words to remember so that we can Respond & not react to others...
I love this video. It speaks to most important things to learn. If one can learn what's conveyed here, so beautifully, they can improve all about their life. Thank you! I love you!
Thank you Tara. I am a Christian but these principles do not belong to any certain religion, they are truth and they are so very helpful. This video made me cry, because it helped me to have hope that I really can do this - I can rewire my brain and I don’t have to stay stuck in this negative loop.
Jesus taught us these things, it's just that most people don't make the connection. The church has delivered superficial teachings of his words.. mostly for bringing people into their fold and unfortunately to gain control, but nonetheless his teachings are way deeper about freedom for all men.
Brought me back to myself. I have studied Masterpath for many years and have daily studies. I am very cautious of other studies however this has been a delightful pause and reminder that we are all in this together and remember to be kind. Baraka bashed. K.C.
Tara I am so happy to have seen you doing your work I love your worm calming voice your passion for what you do and your sense of humor. I enjoyed your speech and I am looking forward to seeing more of you. Thank you
When she spoke about “that boy” And said how she befriended him - thought to myself, she saved his life. I didn’t necessarily think so literally so I was blown away but the ending to that story. I believe it too - one good friend you connect with is all you need and can change the course of your life. I had one, at HS, for 1 year then his family moved away. HS was the worst after that and I hated most days.
I am listening to this as I battle deep suicidal ideation, truely in a state of physical and mental shock and pain. I am weak, and my heart is broken. Tara, this is the most wonderful, comforting and enlightening talk that is so pertinent to help get through these moments of utter hell and resistance and depression and stagnation. 😭🙏💗
Good advice. #1. Don't believe your thoughts.....they are real but not true. God bless you 🙏
@@mickjersey6278 😭🙏🏻
I hope you will always know you are never alone, no matter how dark the room there’s always light
As we all know, life can get tough, just know that it also gets better. Hang in there. You've made it this far. Through tough times. You are strong and brave. Wait for good things. Think good things. Keep away from negatives. Find a good group that understands the issues you've had to deal with. If it makes you feel better, stick with it, if not then find yourself a different type of support. Just get out to a safe place and take a walk. Breathe deeply. Feel how good the sun feels, how good it feels to breathe, appreciate the beauty of the day and life, of the simple things. Start there. Remind yourself of this. Take life back to a simple place, a place that's easy to handle. Stay in that place until you feel better. Find new friends. Friends that will love you, because you are a thoughtful person that deserves love. Open your heart to nice people, nice people that also have open hearts. All love and hugs to you. You are in my thoughts.
Scarlett, you ARE the perfect person to work on a suicide hotline to help talk down others from committing suicide. No matter how weak you feel mentally, there is someone much weaker than you that needs your help. In life everything happens for a reason. You have what it takes to help others even if you think you can't help yourself. Remember that is the only reason we are on Earth. We are here as part of a whole. As long as we remember that and not focus on ourselves individually, we will serve. By serving others, you will cure your sorrows. We love you Scarlett. It's time to help others now. So don't delay any longer. Call or Google to see how you can start your mission in your city. Forget the past and the future. Live for now only..... always. We are with you and so are loved ones you may have lost because they are using me to communicate this message to you.
1. Don’t believe your thoughts.
2. Pause and come back to the present moment.
3. Remember love
I was just about to write this to engrain it. Thank you 🙏❤️
Inspired Yoga Tribe I forgot about this, thank you!
Place hand over heart & Think... How wonderful the freedom of response. #ThankYou #TaraBrach
Very well said. Thank you
Jane Doh I’m 54. I’m just realizing that EVERYTHING we think we Know....I’ve made it all up.
A course in miracles. My thoughts are meaningless.
finally a preacher that doesn't yell at you like a sinner, but a beloved student of spirituality
I feel the same. If I'm listening to someone and they raise their voice I instantly turn them off.
'Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to chose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.' Viktor Frankl-
Wow
Your space your thoughts, don't worry about the rest of us. Only life in that body can deal with that brain!
stimulus and response is a unitary movement, only humans are dumb enough to think they are separate. no matter how you call it, response or reaction, the instrument we use is the same. Mechanically repeating empty words and phrases do not make it real.
@@s.muller8688 This might be true for those with a Fixed mindset, but though there is an undeniable connection in the Stimulus - Response circuit, there is so much evidence that this can be retrained. There are not only spiritual but also cientific techniques to re-educate our responses in a natural and authentic way. Whoever would want to understand the science behind this, could just start by checking the not-so-new concept of Neural Plasticity.
@@vivsgm7538 whatever you think you are retraining, is simply a modification of thought. Thought is what keeps us going round in circles. stimulus and response are not under any circumstances related to time Your claims are completely and utterly false. and you have no way to back any of this up.Neuroscience knows nothing about the human mind. and Neural plasticity is another new age mind trick.
1)please don't believe your thoughts 2) pause, back to presence 3) remember love.... mindfulness strengths our pre-frontal cortex . I can go to bed now
I’m less than 20 minutes into your talk and I want to comment. First, you are the answer to my asking source energy for assistance with my insecurities that have grown so strong over the past couple of years, but have also been with me for ever. I study psychology, spirituality, metaphysics, nap, you name it, and I work at a counseling center. I hear therapists say “they” and “people that,” etc., which makes me feel like “those people. I seriously began to think there was something really wrong with me. When you speak, you say “we,” which really lessens my feeling that I’m damaged. It’s more inpowering. And your message is simple and true. It’s a low period for me and you lift me up. Thank you! I may be back when I finish listening.
Follow brain in a nutshell...... she tells you.....You are NOT BROKEN
Thank you, you stated this so well
Hey thanks for pointing that out. That often times when we're criticizing society, duh, we're part if society. And that those types of words can be separating and alienating. When really we all have a lot of work to do.
This is really helpful to me as a therapist - I use this phrasing to generalize/describe patterns, not thinking that it could come across as othering. I'm going to think of how I can rephrase these types of remarks. Thank you!
@@witbrodt Thank you for your kind message, and for excusing my typos. It’s funny that when we point out individual’s short comings, we tend to make the whole person wrong, and mostly we/I do it to myself. So it’s somewhat comforting to know that others share my short comings.
I hope they never take this video down. I'm gonna need to watch it over and over again.
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@@aravindj6550 I can't download it from here. Hmm.
Me, too.
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Insightful. Wise. Soulful. Funny. To listen again & again to Tara talk on Thoughts, Presence & Love was my first response❣️ Keep flying Butterfly 🌺
This haunting diagnosis of BPD from my early 20's has been ruining my life since my earliest years and BPD seems to be more of a spiritual issue, and turning turning to this video in desperation to find how to respond and not react. I've been told I'm extremely reactive in the past and my current relationship of 4 years is suffering due to my instability, along with my job, my very few of what's left of my half friendships and family. Thank you for this video. It's helpful
I have listened to this several times over the course of years. As talks go, this one approaches perfection; inspiring, educational, emotional, funny and an acute pointer to Spirit. Thanks, Tara.
Me too ❤ helps so much
"Thoughts are never reality they are at best a representation that's useful..... And they're often misguided.." Every time I feel fear in my body I'm going to sit with it and say "this is a thought creating this fear in my body". I feel like if I can do that one thing, it will be a stepping stone to turning in the optimal direction. Thank you Tara Brach!
Quote : The thought becomes the word, the word manifests as the deed, the deed develops into the habit, habit hardens into character, character gives birth to destiny.
Lightness, clarity,kindness,humores,sourire ,namastê from Brasil
Very simple
and destiny can lead to problemos, ese, so *watch it*, see?
Explains why the world is in a mess
And Seth says that the Belief becomes the Thought. Very important.
WOWOWOW I don't know how you told that story without crying; I;m sure everyone who heard it cried. Thank you for all your practices. You are making such a difference in the world and my life.
This was incredibly healing. As I write this, Covid-19 rages through our country and our planet. Minneapolis is burning, and violent hatred is overtaking sanity. I can feel it in my heart. I understand why people want to burn. Last night, I wanted to burn. But, then, I found this. Thank you so much for helping me to center by disbelieving thoughts, being here now and remembering love. In this way, I can move forward and be strong for what is to come.
Daneeta Loretta Jackson
God bless you 🙏.
Around minute 18 she actually mentions police killings, particularly of African Americans. She said, "we can see the fear and the fear meeting each other."
Absolutely...it's best to remain in love....that has the biggest effect on this situation...resist not evil...love is always the answer
I burned sage and stayed indoors.
Daneeta Loretta Jackson the American President needs to watch this !
Not sure why anybody would give this video a dislike?
Perhaps they just don't understand the messages being conveyed?
This woman appears to be totally committed to simply helping people with all the negativity of modern life.
My heart was hurting when I found this video. I’m grateful for the teaching. I was believing my thoughts that I hurt my friend deliberately, rather than sharing a delight I have in words. My sharing triggered her and she accused me of DELIBERATELY hurting her.
I took in her words and believed the thought that I was hurtful, not loving. My heart and stomach have been aching from that thought.
This meditation brought me great relief. My thoughts were much like a child’s, believing that I wasn’t a good person. I got to hear them, to recognize that they are REAL, but NOT the truth. That “child-me” now knows that her love is REAL and she/I is safe and not “awful” or “wrong”.
Blessings!
Thank you Tara, for making your talks available here on TH-cam.
Martha Holmes its not like it costd anything to post this.
Martha Holmes its not like it cost her anything to post this here.
Its not like it cost her anything to post this here this is just a commercial for herself.
Its not like it cost her anything to post this here this is just a commercial for herself not a public service messge.
I used to totally believe my thoughts and act on them right away...most times I regretted it and things didn't get better.Im learning slowly to just observe my thoughts but still get trapped in them.Love this talk and so glad I came upon this video now🌻🍃🦋
Thx for this comment. Illtry to )
Like many people, I grew up with a deeply stressed mother who used me as a scapegoat for her anxieties and disappointments. She put a huge amount of fear into me; she was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive every day, saying horrible things about me and inculcating me with fear. This was all secretive; she did not abuse me in front of others, including my father, who was away at work. So this secret abuse stayed with me most of my life. I was saved by being loved and appreciated by my father and everyone else around me, but I still have to fight insecurity and self-denigration. Meditation and discussions like this have changed everything. I love Tara’s guidance about self-acceptance and self-compassion. It puts me in a place of peace I needed so badly. ❤❤❤❤❤ I particularly love the message that the good thoughts accrue, so life can become better and better. PS Tara you’re a riot! I love your funny side.
I spend a lot of time being fearful , not enough time, now I stop that track and enjoy myself this day, this hour this minute. Great reminder for me!
I have just gotten away from a malignant narcissist. I’m ready to put all the negativity behind me and focus on positives. Your talk teaches me how to do that. Thanks
Her talk has really touched my soul. I’m so grateful she crossed my path tonight.
I am currently in the process, after several long years of dark night of the soul, of learning how to dream and believe and manifest again. I keep beating myself and thinking myself hopeless and feeling in despair that my life will never change, whilst also knowing that manifestation comes from vibration and that miracles can change things in the blink of an eye.
So how amusing, on yet another day when my autistic, ADD brain was rattling round in circles, to appreciate that I am manifesting exactly what I need to help move me forward, every single day. Thank you Tara, for creating this talk, with all its beautiful humour, so that it could show up in my feed in Divine Timing. This is not a new practice to me, but the way you present it reached parts that other teachers did not reach! Sending peace and love.
Big hugs everyone - if we can get through 2020/21, we will cope with anything 2022 throws our way.
Thank you Tara, I found you through Psychology Today. I want to share this with the world! This talk was truly a life saver for me. I had a nightmare of a childhood and it's continued my whole life. Your talks and meditations were instrumental in helping me put the pieces together. I was misdiagnosed with depression all my life, in and out of psychosis, prescribed anti depressants, cocktails of prescriptions. obsessive behaviors that made me literally brush the enamel off my teeth. Drugs and Alcohol trying to self medicate. At 57 I was diagnosed with bipolar. I started DBT Therapy, even though I knew it was helping some I was still in a fog. I came to realize l couldn't pay attention and realized I had a learning disorder. I changed Dr.s again and it was determined that I've also been living with attention deficit, another new medication! Finally it all started to make sense.. I've come to accept that this was my path. I'm feeling like I'm awakening for the 1st time in my life at 58. I'm not hating myself anymore and I have found the love and light that was always there. I'm on the path with so much gratitude. I can't thank you enough .
Have you read Pete Walker's book on complex PTSD? It's a life-changer.
Thank you so much McFraneth
All the best on your awakening journey Marisa. I too am learning so much from these videos. Tra is just an amazing person to share her teachings with us all. Peace to you.
@@mishuk5043 yes we are. warriors all of us.
Glad FOR YOU😇
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I just want to love this a thousand times lol! The space between your thoughts and the reaction can save so much turmoil in our lives! Also where the sacred is!! Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🥰💓
Thank you Tara for a message of hope and healing. The people of the world need you.
Hello 👋how are you doing?
There is a lot of wisdom and healing in this. Hard part is doing it over and over during tough times when brain is flipped. It beautifully captures the spirit and essence of traditional religions while not being religious at all.
This is all you need. For years THINKING my thoughts are real. No, they are not, they are visitors, not 'me'. Blessings beautiful Tara 🙏
This was a profound listen for me. I've been stuck for a year and a half, unable to perform any of what are all manageable tasks. Anxiety and depression over everything surrounding my mom's passing, the onslaught of a physically and emotionally painful mystery affliction that resulted in me isolating myself from all my friends and family, spending most nights in the bathtub alone with my thoughts that vacilated between suicide, questioning my sanity, and anger/playing the victim. Then came a person that even still, I have to fight making excuses for, but is clearly a narcissist. I'm grateful to finally have the strength and sensibility to cut this person out of my life and am also finally not give in to the myriad of thoughts this relationship has plagued me with. I don't have to believe this inner voice telling me I need answers. I'm happy to move from hurt to anger. I'm slowly efforting to develop healthier daily habits such as a daily gratitude practice, and after watching Andrew Huberman's lesson on effective gratitude practices, I realized I didn't have a story of gratitude to reference... Now I do. Thank you for this lesson, and thank you for sharing such a touching story. You're a wonderful speaker and human being.
So many powerful messages and such a beautiful soothing speaking voice delivering it with humour and caring.
Very soothing and peacefully encouraging our nature of Love to flow without interruption from mind! Thank you🥰
Well said; that's why I love listening to Tara....
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I went through two years of severe Chronic Fatigue which in turn led to a severe depressive episode (have a history of it). I know I became the complaining whiny person that normally I am not. I know my friends got tired of hearing it; I got tired of hearing myself that way. Happy to report I am feeling great mentally and physically!
Thank you, Tara for all you do!! Namaste 🕊☮
20:18 I love this segment, because mastering my inner dialogue is one of the things I struggle with the most. Even when I know what's the right or most beneficial action to my well-being. "Start with the practice of waking up out of our thoughts. ...notice when we're in thoughts so that rather than living inside them, you're aware that they're happening. The point isn't to get rid of thoughts, but just know that they're there so you don't mistake them for reality. You have a choice. "Please, let me remember. I don't have to believe them".
Thoughts are not reality (subcortical looping) - Love it.
Lord, thank you for sending thí tape my way today!
Have yet to watch this vid so maybe she covered this.....but
the practice of canceling negative self accusatory thoughts with positive re wording is REALLY helpful to self esteem.
Namaste Tara. You saved my life too - I listened to your Radical Acceptance audio for many lonely and restless nights when I was going through a very tough time in my life. Then I would put bits of it on over the next few years after, to help me ‘remember’. Now that your teachings are on TH-cam, I get to get so many more reminders. I loved your story about your high school best friend here. We’re both lucky you happened to pop into our lives at the right time. Thank you. I love you🙏💖🌟
Where can I listen to the radical acceptance audio?
Where can I listen to the radical acceptance audio?
This talk is so powerful - one of her best ever. I’ve listened to it several times and still get so much from it. Thanks Tara!
yes you are very right. but it came too late for me.
I've always been a bit dismayed at the way people talk about feelings, such as, "how does that 'make you' feel? "She made me angry". "That makes me sad".
Things happen.
I can react, or respond.
The nature of the reaction is based on the accumulated experiences that are the structure of my "survival ego".
A response, a considered observation of events and circumstances, followed by a rational, loving, understanding, response...that is the goal.
The Dharma is called a "practice" for a reason.
"What we practice grows stronger."
-weezi-💖🙏💜🙏🤠
Thank you Tara 💖 🙏
Buddha Dharma Sanga💖🙏
Hi 👋how are you doing?
Beautiful awakening and tears of clearing. Back to the heart knowing and trusting to let it light my way. Thank you so much!
What a beautiful human you are Tara and to all of us that are here to grow and heal.
43:46 The thought becomes the word.
The word manifests as the deed.
The deed develops into the habit.
The habit hardens into character.
Character gives birth to destiny.
So watch your thoughts with care and let them spring from love born out of respect for all beings.
To the degree that we suffer we are believing thoughts that are not true and
we are caught in some kind of reactive looping that is keeping us identified with something
that is smaller than the truth of who we are.
Thank you Tara.
It’s frightening Sussana
it happened to me
@@Onlinesully me too!!!!
To Sussana Lee
From Jo-Anna Lee
Thank you for YOUR comment. Just now re learning these truths. At 76 I say to myself...
BETTER LATE THAN NEVER.😄
It's so awesome that there have been 470,000 views of this good information, Thankyou Tara Brach
Hello 👋how are you doing?
I love the way you explain the way the brain functions! I feel this is one of your most significant talks. It holds the key to transformation. By practicing & eventually incorporating these 3 concepts,"Don't believe your thoughts!", etc...
I have freed myself from the imprisonment of my mind & its negative thought bias. It wasn't easy & involved a few major crises but was worth it. Thank you so much Tara for your inspiration & valuable guidance.
And I've learned it takes constant vigilance and TIME. But it is very freeing. 😊
i have been listening to you about a month now, i am so pleased i have found your channel tara is a
wonderfully witty lady filled with honest fun and sincere attitude to help and inform her audience, thank you
I feel a sense of calm watching this video.
I got more out of the actual calmness of the soul than the actual message. Wow!
It felt a bit like the afterlife.
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Please don’t act o your thoughts. I’ve been there I tried a few times. Both my parents succeed. Keep listening. I don’t know you but I love you.
Thank you very much for being so careing and compassionate.i have borderline personality disorder.and. anxiety. your talks help me get through the day .when im having realy bad anxity attacks .listening to your talks are so powerfull helping me get through. Thank you 👍
A great and inspirational video. One of the stories she recounted is related to what happened to a friend. A long time ago he went through a lot of hardship, and sadly came to the point of deciding to give up on life. What stopped him was an expression of gratitude from a woman he sometimes chatted with on the Internet, who happened to tell him that day over chat that she always liked these special moments talking to him. That inspired him to find the courage to tell his parents about what he had been about to do. With their help he recovered and started a new life. He is now living happily. This always gives me the chills (like now) when I think of this. We really shouldn't underestimate the impact we can have on other people for good or bad with our words and actions, sometimes even the simplest ones...
I agree! The new Joker movie I feel like brings this concept across very poignantly. ❤
I remember hearing the story of a man who jumped off the Golden Gate bridge. His suicide note read: I am going to the bridge to jump. If ONE person so much as smiles at me, I won't do it.
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Now it is Aug. 2022 and I just now came upon this encouraging vid. Regarding your comment......
I usually make my You Tube comments encouraging or uplifting ....but I have reacted badly to my neighbor. So now I will stop that negative reaction...
and, thank God, NOT follow through with my plan for vengeance. Whew! Could have turned out really bad for me. Karma can be a bitch. 🤔
This could not have come to me at a better time. It really hit home and helped. I plan to listen again, so much to take in. Thank you.
I was just getting ready to post the same thing. Lol I guess a lot of us need this insightfulness.
Same
I agree totally. I listened to this a couple of months ago and now it's pop up again. Time to refreshen!! Thank you Tara for your enlightening words. Peace 🌟💝
Exactly in time as usual thanks to the Universal Law of Love attraction that never mistakes. Beeing trough all this thinking loop attracting the same negative emotions and situations over and over, trying to get rid of them and eventually getting stuck again and again... Living lately on positive affirmations, trying to regain my lost energy with Ho'oponopono, Abraham Hiks Universal Knowledge, Luise Hay Wisdom, Marisa Peer courses, and many more spiritual masters. Now I will definately try to use this kind knowledge and techniques too. Thank you so much.
And again and again and again and again and again and........
Ive played your videos nearly all day today. I am doing my best to take in what you are teaching us. Thank you for sharing your teachings. I am so grateful and becoming more aware to grow myself. Thank you again. Peace to you and all who learn from you.
Patricia Chalmers Now one year later. Did you notice any changes in your life?
I"m so grateful to have discovered you and your teachings...so poignant and actionable...beautiful...it's really getting in. Thank you!
I could listen to this episode over and over because it is jammed pack full of solutions to erroneous thinking in a simple and learnable and doable formula. I am a therapist and will refer clients to this episode often! It encapsulates the foundation to gently and lovingly "managing' ones thoughts. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
Wow! I was looking for an answer to this for several days, feeling tormented by the loop of thought 💭 I just did a complete weekend retreat looking for this answer, you are a gift 💝 thank you 🙏🏼 I felt so moved for your invitation, I will practice this I am sure this is the exit and the door into freedom! Blessings! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
For me it takes a superhuman effort to respond and not react. But I will continue to work on this for the rest of my life.
I really enjoyed this satsang. Thank you Tara and everyone present, including my own loving presence. ❤ Namaste and thank you Tara.
I recognize your suffering. Depression by itself is can make it hard to move through. With everything else on top that, we find ourselves in unbearable pain. I hope that you are able to find some strength today.
Wow!
My answer came so fast that I didn't have a chance to think it away. I am enough. I am connected to all there is. My wounds came from others telling me who I am and what I should do but never paying for the consequences listening to their advice brought me... But the lie was the core belief from childhood neglect abs abuse that I was small, unsafe and alone... And wrong and broken and stupid.
In a flash this answer came in and I have always struggled with meditation, taking no thought and being still. I just didn't try this time and the universe caught a second of stillness..... I am enough. I am connected. This, the third in a row that I watched, was a beautiful experience for me.
Beautiful❤️
@@rhondapelletier2141 How nice, this was from last year. I guess it’s time to watch it again.🤍🕊
Perfect love No fear
Aug. 2022 here.
Big YAY for you. Happy for you.
Speaking only for myself ( coming from the same place )
let me share that I often need to hear the same encouraging truths over and over again before it sinks in to become a permanent part of my thinking.
Just sayin'. 😊
@@joannaedwards6325 thank you for this nice interaction. Enjoy your day!
@@perfectloveIAM
U R so welcome. ✌
Tears as I listen. My issues started in my childhood. My mums in hers. All the poverty and struggle. Rainbows and hope xxx
Thank you Tara, I’ve found this talk so helpful and love the gentle, mindful way you deliver it. God Bless you.
Don't know how I found this video, but I love her voice. Love what she says too.
Tara, thank you.. for your beauty, your tenderness, your compassion and your brilliant explanations. I am going through adrenal fatigue and can really relate to the complaining thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience and your great little anecdotes that keep me laughing at myself. I love you. With blessings and best wishes from New Zealand xxx
Thank you for the reminder. Your story of your friend brought me to tears.....
This talk is just incredible and so so important. And thank you for making it watchable on TH-cam!!!
Thank you for your calming speech. I been on TH-cam for years hearing many male speakers. I don’t hear the ego Id and the testorone that fuels those American guys.
Thoughts, actions. Ideas, responding. Thank you Tara
Thank you (Green) Tara... I feel how you are holding humanity in your loving embrace. You're such a Divine Power House! It is a true blessing to be able to watch your teachings here :) Namaste.
I'm blessed receiving the 3 powerful invitations. Thank you so much.
“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open.” This!! ❤️
I keep coming back to remind myself all the time.
What a wonderful, soothing voice, and a great public speaker. Thank you.
I love her already! What a gifted teacher she is..
I'm grateful for your words, Tara. I'm deeply impacted by your message and your presence. Thank you.
I recently finished the tethered soul, but I got much more out of this. What a wonderful teacher and speaker. Ingenious the way you peppered this talk with these poignant, illuminating stories. Those last two were killers, by the way! Many struggles for me lately with the inner voice basically ruining my day... Serendipitous indeed that I stumbled upon this today. I'll be back for more. THANK YOU ❤️
She's deep and wise and her voice is soooo relaxing 😎
Trust the loving. ❤ Recently I've been caught between my parents and my kids. They both need me and I want to be present with both equally.
Can’t believe how powerful listening to this was for me . Thank you Tara.
Namaste 🙏
I feel hopeful listening to her. I know mindful work isn’t easy But I’m just learning.
Very useful talk, I've recently thought of how we can sometimes Gaslight our-self's causing us to focus on untruths and causing fear or anger. Thank you Tara
Wow, interesting insight! Thank you for sharing.
Such as the Plan Demic
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Yup. The nefarious plan to turn us into a totally fear-based easily manipulated populace is rolling right along. Sad but not frightening. I say.....all we really HAVE to do is....flow with The Big Show and stay UNAFRAID.
Dear Tara thank you from my heart! Your work and care gives so much comfort and love! ❤
Interesting how she mentions we're living mostly in a Virtual Reality, lost in thought.
And yet, the fastest growing industry is Virtual Reality....
JamesScottGuitar If people want to experience Virtual Reality, they should try watching the news. 🤣
true but from this logic the industry is "actual" virtual reality, something concrete, which means people will then in reality live in a "virtual reality" virtual reality or virtuality. I wonder how humanity will be affected when photo realistic VR exists and can be experienced through feelings by the general populace - maybe our capability for things like love and compassion changes when we experience events otherwise only available if one had actually seen them or through intuitive imagination such as lucid dreaming.
@@YayaVye369 thats a horror movie.. the skyhooks had it right.!
Like Inception... in a virtual reality in a virtual reality😁
@@user-fs5fc1vv7y I like the way you put that..🤔
I am 3 minutes in and I can already tell this is going to change my life. Thank you :) x
Holy moly I’m coming back ❤️
Don't believe your thoughts..Come into Presence...Be Kind...More Space ...More Ease...Look at the Trees...Thank you for these words to remember so that we can Respond & not react to others...
Yes, a truely pertinent talk for now, today, this moment.
You speak my truth, thank you Tara for the remembrance and showing up in presence.
Peace and Much Love 🙏⭐🌌💗
Hello 👋how are you doing?
Thankyou for bringing our human
SELF BACK to the awareness of
presence..EVERY moment is...
TRULY a gift.☆♡☆☆☆☆☆
...and I AM GRATEFUL.♡♡♡♡
I love this video. It speaks to most important things to learn. If one can learn what's conveyed here, so beautifully, they can improve all about their life. Thank you! I love you!
Thank you Tara. I am a Christian but these principles do not belong to any certain religion, they are truth and they are so very helpful. This video made me cry, because it helped me to have hope that I really can do this - I can rewire my brain and I don’t have to stay stuck in this negative loop.
Jesus taught us these things, it's just that most people don't make the connection. The church has delivered superficial teachings of his words.. mostly for bringing people into their fold and unfortunately to gain control, but nonetheless his teachings are way deeper about freedom for all men.
Amazing, made me cry. Wish I discovered this sooner. Thank you 🙏🏻
i will share your teaching with others. your voice is calm and soothing, hearing you in my down day, help me.
Sometimes I love the TH-cam algorithm which threw this up. Very interesting talk
I would love to play the first 15 minutes of this lecture in my Women's Group. There are about 6 of us and I really think.that this is what we need.
Love the analogy of the hand/brain. Fascinating! Thank you
Fantastic and the original philosophy of thought stems from Hinduism 🕉
I love this talk. Thank you Tara. Very moving story about the boy and the books and thank you for sharing about your chronic fatigue too.
Thankyou so much. After yrs of studying your words have gone in❤️❤️❤️🙏
I am very blessed to discover you and your way of teaching ...Thank you very much for your beautiful and peaceful voice!
Brought me back to myself. I have studied Masterpath for many years and have daily studies. I am very cautious of other studies however this has been a delightful pause and reminder that we are all in this together and remember to be kind. Baraka bashed. K.C.
Just listened to this and I need to hear more of Tara. Fantastic.
Tara I am so happy to have seen you doing your work I love your worm calming voice your passion for what you do and your sense of humor. I enjoyed your speech and I am looking forward to seeing more of you. Thank you
So full of love... you touched me deeply. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for who you are.
With Much LOVE & APPRECIATION! This is what i am working on!
💜THANK YOU💜
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Thank you,how calm and peaceful, I need this so much❤ so filled with love
When she spoke about “that boy” And said how she befriended him - thought to myself, she saved his life. I didn’t necessarily think so literally so I was blown away but the ending to that story. I believe it too - one good friend you connect with is all you need and can change the course of your life. I had one, at HS, for 1 year then his family moved away. HS was the worst after that and I hated most days.
I found this so helpful . I find that taking that pause before reacting , by responding rather than reacting can be so helpful /useful
Fascinating, so gentle and True❤