QUIT : 1. People pleasing 2. Watching the news 3. Judging people based on political party 4. We can't afford 5. Long to-do lists 6. Beating myself up 7. Bying cheap 8. Carrying guilt of relationships that didn't last 9. Being controlled by calender ( let the days just happen), make Plans and adjust if needed 10. Putting of your dreams Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏 BTW : You look amazing ! 55? No way !
At 53 I stopped bemoaning the fact that I never found lasting love, got married or had any children. I now feel lucky that I got to keep my life to my self instead of giving it away piece by piece to others. I feel lucky and I feel free.
I am so happy you have quit seeing your life through a negative lens and are seeing the blessings instead! There is so much power in that! There is no stopping you now!
I quit people pleasing after the pandemic, it's life changing. I need to quit the news. I also need to bin to do lists as well. Thank you for this video. X
This is your first video I’ve ever seen and I was impressed. You made excellent points in a very pleasant way and you have an awesome smile. Keep up the great work 👏
That was an eye opener for me when you said you wanted to please your mother, you liked to see her happy. My mom was never happy. I must have always known there wasn’t pressure on me to please her, or see her happy. It would never happen. That’s deep.
Thank you for the comment. I was a bit shocked by myself when I first said it too. I’m so sorry you never had a happy mom. That must have been so difficult for you.
Love your wisdom & solid advice! ❤ I definitely became more aware & started making transformative changes in my mid-40s. Thank you for the reminder to continue growing and walking on the path of positivity & strength. Truly appreciate your wonderful video! 😊
I quit hosting every event. I am 68 and 2 yrs ago I chose to not host every event with family and friends. Sadly some events now no longer take place but I am okay. I loved 37 plus years of hosting but now it is for 4-8 people when I do and not for 12-30 plus. I don’t know about others but as I have aged my stress level is less and frankly I did not WANT the pressure. Thanks for the video.
When I got married, my mother-in-law told me holidays were now my responsibility/). She always helped me but she said she did her years of service and it was my turn. I loved that!
Thank you! And yes, in my newer videos, the volume and sound effects have been addressed:). Sadly, I can't correct an already posted video, but thank you so much for the feedback!
I am 56, and I can relate to all of these. My favorites, and ones that I do myself, are: going after dreams (it does keep a person young), no watching or reading "news", quit saying "I can't afford," and quit buying cheap (it's not worth buying cheap stuff, anyway). Regarding the political affiliation point, I totally agree with you. Nobody knew what Johnny Carson's political affiliation was, for example, and that was good. Another thing I quit doing is talking about getting older; age really is just a number, and I feel as young as I did when I was in my 20s and 30s. You are a dead ringer for Lynda Carter, by the way. Keep up the great work!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I agree about the age thing and I am trying to quit that one too! And thanks for the compliment:). I wanted to be Lynda Carter when I was a kid!
❤Great Morning thanks to ya ❤🙏 I’m Linda, Pa. just found ur channel!!! I subscribed!!! Love this video!!! It’s so me, sent me confirmation!!! Thanks for all ur hard work ❤
I know what you’re saying about the relationship part. I need to do more of not blaming myself when friendships and relationships don’t last. It’s a two way street.
Hi Carrie, I loved this! I turned 55 this year and can relate to all 10 on your list. So happy that I ran across your video and to be a new subscriber.🥂🩷
Love # 3 and totally agree. And # 1...i never thought of that before. My mother is still living and i can see how many times my decisions and EVERYTHING is done within the frame of pleasing her. I dont want my children to feel that way.
I don't think I would have thought about it before my mother died either. I wish she was alive so I could please her one more time though! Thank you for the encouragement!
Hi Carrie I’m new to your channel I’ve subscribed as I love your topics especially this one I’m 60 and I’m starting to wake up to a lot of things as I’ve been a door mat all my life so I’m quitting so called friends offend me with their sarcasm and take my help and support but are never there for me I’ve stepped back from this I’m taking care of mental health and self care and diet I’m choosing to live my life according to what serves me and leaving what others think behind me no more control it’s done and some don’t like it because they are no longer in that control 😊thank you for your video
Oh wow! I am so happy to be a part of this wellness journey with you!! You will find that the more you do what is right for you and your family, the stronger you will get and the more peace you will have. It is hard and some people will not understand, but the ones who truly love you will celebrate with you as you grow.
You are so right about the things you give up… specially the news, the media and political influencers! it is something personal we don’t want to discuss or share opinion with … ( same as religion) but lately it is getting worse and I m … of it!
Une bonne philosophie de vie. Cette liste de 10 actions à éviter. La joie et vie ne se limitent pas à notre façon de faire, il faut certainement aussi être conscient du sens de la vie. ❤
@@karenday9109 I tried to adjust this video and haven't been able to. I am correcting the problem in my new videos, so I hope you will give me another chance.
@@karenday9109 I have desperately tried to fix it, but TH-cam doesn't let you adjust audio after you have uploaded. I am adjusting the volume in future videos. I hope you will give me another chance!
I know that it's not related to the content of the video but you seem like a reasonable person that I can ask. I'm 28 y.o and interested in women around your age. However, don't know where/how to approach. Can you share some tips or what would you appreciate if a man my age would do to "peruse" you?
That is an interesting question, and one I have never been asked as a coach:). I know there are women my age who do date younger men, but I don't know them. Most women I know wouldn't date someone who could be their son, but it happens. You have succeeded in stumping me!! I hope you find the love you are looking for.
I am so sorry about the bell. I am new to editing and am learning as I go. There will be no bells in future videos!! I hope you will give me another chance!
Thank you so much for the feedback. I am new to editing and am still figuring out what works for my audience. I will remember your comment as I edit my next video. I hope you will give me another chance:)
Traveling to another state (11 hours journey) to attend my friends wedding, is it people’s pleasing or just a maintenance of friendship? The wedding is next week and the travel cost is giving me anxiety.
That is a good question, but yes, that is people pleasing if you go into debt and cause yourself anxiety just to make someone else happy. I have been in that position myself (which is why it made the list), and the true cost of people pleasing is just too great. Remember how you feel right now the next time you feel compelled to spend money you don't have to please someone. We need to stretch ourselves and do good for others (often at a cost to ourselves), but if our motives are only people pleasing to not be hated or talked about then it is time to stop.
Thank you for letting me know that. I am new to editing and am working hard to learn how to put out quality videos. I hope you will give me another chance.
I agree with needing to help people. I have just found that I am better at doing it when I'm not depressed about the world events. But my husband keeps me updated on what is important, so I am not living in the dark which I appreciate!
Yay! I am so happy you quit taking on the guilt of failed/ended relationships!! That is just baggage we don't need to carry around! And thank you so much for the sub!! Your support means the world to me!
I am so sorry. Some people have expressed having trouble hearing this video. I am new to editing and am working to correct the problem in the future. I hope you will give me another chance.
I am so sorry. I am new to editing and am learning as I go. I don't know what happened to the volume, but I am making adjustments in future videos. I hope you will give me another chance!
What are you going to give up to improve your life???
QUIT :
1. People pleasing
2. Watching the news
3. Judging people based on political party
4. We can't afford
5. Long to-do lists
6. Beating myself up
7. Bying cheap
8. Carrying guilt of relationships that didn't last
9. Being controlled by calender ( let the days just happen), make Plans and adjust if needed
10. Putting of your dreams
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏
BTW : You look amazing ! 55? No way !
Thank you so much for watching and paying attention! And you are too kind:)
Sorry she look older
I agree that after 50, we need to be more about us and accept who we are. ❤
@@DorisRecetasyMas yes! It is a great time to find a better balance for life. Prioritizing self-care helps us to be better for everyone else.
As Christian you have help people
At 53 I stopped bemoaning the fact that I never found lasting love, got married or had any children. I now feel lucky that I got to keep my life to my self instead of giving it away piece by piece to others. I feel lucky and I feel free.
I am so happy you have quit seeing your life through a negative lens and are seeing the blessings instead! There is so much power in that! There is no stopping you now!
I quit people pleasing after the pandemic, it's life changing. I need to quit the news. I also need to bin to do lists as well. Thank you for this video. X
You are making great progress!!
Your vulnerability is beautiful to see. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. ❤
Thank you so much:)
I love this! So many good points! Thanks again. You are the best I have heard on this!
Why, thank you so much:)
Thank you Carrie!
You are so welcome:)
This is your first video I’ve ever seen and I was impressed. You made excellent points in a very pleasant way and you have an awesome smile.
Keep up the great work 👏
Thank you so much!!!
That was an eye opener for me when you said you wanted to please your mother, you liked to see her happy. My mom was never happy. I must have always known there wasn’t pressure on me to please her, or see her happy. It would never happen. That’s deep.
Thank you for the comment. I was a bit shocked by myself when I first said it too. I’m so sorry you never had a happy mom. That must have been so difficult for you.
Love your wisdom & solid advice! ❤ I definitely became more aware & started making transformative changes in my mid-40s. Thank you for the reminder to continue growing and walking on the path of positivity & strength. Truly appreciate your wonderful video! 😊
Thank you so much! I am so happy you are choosing transformation over stagnation!!
Great video. Love it. Going to implement all 10 of these. Thank you ❤️
Thank you!! I'm excited to hear about how transformed your life will be!!
This video was fantastic! Thank you. Made me think about things very differently. You nailed so many of the difficult topics.
Wow! Thank you!! That means so much to me!
I quit hosting every event. I am 68 and 2 yrs ago I chose to not host every event with family and friends. Sadly some events now no longer take place but I am okay. I loved 37 plus years of hosting but now it is for 4-8 people when I do and not for 12-30 plus. I don’t know about others but as I have aged my stress level is less and frankly I did not WANT the pressure. Thanks for the video.
When I got married, my mother-in-law told me holidays were now my responsibility/). She always helped me but she said she did her years of service and it was my turn. I loved that!
I thought this was such a great list thanks for sharing
Thank you so much! I made a second list too. In case you want to see ten more:)
Great video, Great advice, beautiful and Smart Woman 💫
Could i suggest you to high your voice volume and reduce (or eliminate) music with alarm sound?
Thank you! And yes, in my newer videos, the volume and sound effects have been addressed:). Sadly, I can't correct an already posted video, but thank you so much for the feedback!
@@CarrieOnCoaching 😀💚
I am 56, and I can relate to all of these. My favorites, and ones that I do myself, are: going after dreams (it does keep a person young), no watching or reading "news", quit saying "I can't afford," and quit buying cheap (it's not worth buying cheap stuff, anyway). Regarding the political affiliation point, I totally agree with you. Nobody knew what Johnny Carson's political affiliation was, for example, and that was good. Another thing I quit doing is talking about getting older; age really is just a number, and I feel as young as I did when I was in my 20s and 30s. You are a dead ringer for Lynda Carter, by the way. Keep up the great work!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I agree about the age thing and I am trying to quit that one too! And thanks for the compliment:). I wanted to be Lynda Carter when I was a kid!
Positive messages. I’m giving up expectations of people and future events and hopefully will be more accepting and less disappointed.
Those are great things to give up! Thank you for sharing!!
I really like your life assessment and wisdom! Thank you. ❤
Thank you so much!
i’m 26 and i have to say you look BEAUTIFUL!! ❤❤❤
Awwww, thank you:)))
❤Great Morning thanks to ya ❤🙏 I’m Linda, Pa. just found ur channel!!! I subscribed!!! Love this video!!! It’s so me, sent me confirmation!!! Thanks for all ur hard work ❤
Thank you so much!! Im so happy to have you as part of my journey!!
I know what you’re saying about the relationship part. I need to do more of not blaming myself when friendships and relationships don’t last. It’s a two way street.
I hope you will make that change! It is empowering!!!
Thank you, Great video!
Thank you so much!
Hi Carrie, I loved this! I turned 55 this year and can relate to all 10 on your list. So happy that I ran across your video and to be a new subscriber.🥂🩷
Thank you so much!! Welcome to my channel!!
I needed this today! Thank you for your positivity! Xoxo
I am so happy it helped you! Thank you for the encouragement!!
Great points! Love your video.
Thanks so much!
Love # 3 and totally agree. And # 1...i never thought of that before. My mother is still living and i can see how many times my decisions and EVERYTHING is done within the frame of pleasing her. I dont want my children to feel that way.
I don't think I would have thought about it before my mother died either. I wish she was alive so I could please her one more time though! Thank you for the encouragement!
Liked and subscribed!
😊
Thank you so much!!
Hi Carrie I’m new to your channel I’ve subscribed as I love your topics especially this one I’m 60 and I’m starting to wake up to a lot of things as I’ve been a door mat all my life so I’m quitting so called friends offend me with their sarcasm and take my help and support but are never there for me I’ve stepped back from this I’m taking care of mental health and self care and diet I’m choosing to live my life according to what serves me and leaving what others think behind me no more control it’s done and some don’t like it because they are no longer in that control 😊thank you for your video
Oh wow! I am so happy to be a part of this wellness journey with you!! You will find that the more you do what is right for you and your family, the stronger you will get and the more peace you will have. It is hard and some people will not understand, but the ones who truly love you will celebrate with you as you grow.
@@CarrieOnCoaching thank you 🥰
Loved the video!!! ❤ Thank you!!
Thank you! I'm so happy you liked it!
I'm from iraq. I subscribed to your channel. Keep going you are doing great 👍💯
Welcome!! Thank you so much for joining me here! Thank you so much for the encouragement!
@@CarrieOnCoaching I'm so grateful for your quick response. Wish you the best
You are so right about the things you give up… specially the news, the media and political influencers! it is something personal we don’t want to discuss or share opinion with … ( same as religion) but lately it is getting worse and I m … of it!
I'm so happy you liked it. Keep your head about you the next couple of months!! You've got this!
❤it’s me again lol “I just ❤🙏You” maybe I will have to call off work to Benj watch You 😮❤🙏❤️
Oh wow!!! That blesses me so much! Thank you!
Good luck very true thank you
Thank you!
Nice video, audio is a little weird. Your voice is soft but sound effects are loud. Consider compressing the sound if you can.
Thank you. I am working at improvements with my new videos. I'm not sure what I am doing wrong, but I will conquer it!!
@@CarrieOnCoaching thanks for accepting my feedback! Best to you in continued success
@@brekedekdang39 thank you!
Great video! You look beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤I’m 57 and I quit coffee, only cause I HAD to (heart problems). 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Thank you so much! I have had to quit coffee a few times in my adult life, but it always finds its way back into my life:)
Hi carrie you have beautiful hair ❤
Thank you!
New sub here. I 100 percent agree with you.
Thank you so much!!!
We will never regret putting our loved ones first who truly values us .❤
Amen! And there are times we need to put loved ones first who don't value us, but we just need to do it for the right reasons!
Well said!
Thank you!
You are so beautiful and thank you for this video it’s all so true
Thank you so much!
thank you interesting video
Thank you so much!
Une bonne philosophie de vie. Cette liste de 10 actions à éviter. La joie et vie ne se limitent pas à notre façon de faire, il faut certainement aussi être conscient du sens de la vie. ❤
I agree!!
Excellent advice ❤
Thank you so much!! I hope it helps you to quit some things:)
Can't hear you
I am so sorry. I will be working on the volume issue.It seems to be a hit or miss for some. I hope you will give me another chance in the future!
@@jbellbird9050 thank you. I thought I had. I am making improvements with my new videos.
Turn it up 🤷♀️
@@karenday9109 I tried to adjust this video and haven't been able to. I am correcting the problem in my new videos, so I hope you will give me another chance.
@@karenday9109 I have desperately tried to fix it, but TH-cam doesn't let you adjust audio after you have uploaded. I am adjusting the volume in future videos. I hope you will give me another chance!
Thx.volume is too low.Same here,being the youngest.Blessings ❤
Thank you for letting me know about the volume. I am adjusting that for future videos.
I am 62
Learning a lot from you
Thank you! That is so encouraging to hear!!
I know that it's not related to the content of the video but you seem like a reasonable person that I can ask.
I'm 28 y.o and interested in women around your age. However, don't know where/how to approach.
Can you share some tips or what would you appreciate if a man my age would do to "peruse" you?
That is an interesting question, and one I have never been asked as a coach:). I know there are women my age who do date younger men, but I don't know them. Most women I know wouldn't date someone who could be their son, but it happens. You have succeeded in stumping me!! I hope you find the love you are looking for.
Good information but yikes… that bell😞
I am so sorry about the bell. I am new to editing and am learning as I go. There will be no bells in future videos!! I hope you will give me another chance!
Thank you
love the video but the ringing startles me so I only watched half. thank you
Thank you so much for the feedback. I am new to editing and am still figuring out what works for my audience. I will remember your comment as I edit my next video. I hope you will give me another chance:)
Absolutely. Cheers
@@Laura-rx9mp thank you! You are too kind!!
@@CarrieOnCoachingalso thevolume.Great to find you❤
Yes, the ringing was really loud and speech sound was very low. Content superb ❤
Quitting...after 50th age...10 Heads: line : challenge : I remember MADAM Ms MOTHER Theresa sacrifices...Amazing...
Thank you!
You have beautiful hair .
Thank you!
Love all of these. I’m 54 and really resonate.🪶
Thank you! I hope you are able to quit some of these things too!! It is quite liberating!
You are a stunning woman 😊
Thank you:)
Traveling to another state (11 hours journey) to attend my friends wedding, is it people’s pleasing or just a maintenance of friendship?
The wedding is next week and the travel cost is giving me anxiety.
That is a good question, but yes, that is people pleasing if you go into debt and cause yourself anxiety just to make someone else happy. I have been in that position myself (which is why it made the list), and the true cost of people pleasing is just too great. Remember how you feel right now the next time you feel compelled to spend money you don't have to please someone. We need to stretch ourselves and do good for others (often at a cost to ourselves), but if our motives are only people pleasing to not be hated or talked about then it is time to stop.
@@CarrieOnCoaching
You are right. Thank you
Very nice 👍
Thank yoU!
@@CarrieOnCoaching you are welcome. Good night
You are so beautiful and wise ❤ you look much younger than your age
Thank you so much:)
volume too low.
Thank you for letting me know that. I am new to editing and am working hard to learn how to put out quality videos. I hope you will give me another chance.
@@CarrieOnCoachingwhat a nice response ❤
The bell is killing me
I am so sorry. There will be no more bells in future videos:). I am new to editing and am learning as I go. I hope you will give me another chance.
As Christian you need to help people and i do watch the new when i was my own
But since got married my husband
Every one too noses today
I agree with needing to help people. I have just found that I am better at doing it when I'm not depressed about the world events. But my husband keeps me updated on what is important, so I am not living in the dark which I appreciate!
I quit drinking years ago, best thing I did for myself.
That is awesome!
The bell is way way way way too loud
Sadly, I can't fix that in this video, but just know, I will not be using the bell in future videos!!
Same here!!!
There is so much power in quitting things that no longer serve us!!
Great
Thank you!
Thr relationship point I can relate to soooo much..I used to blame and hate myself for not being a better person..no more!
Great vid. New sub
Yay! I am so happy you quit taking on the guilt of failed/ended relationships!! That is just baggage we don't need to carry around! And thank you so much for the sub!! Your support means the world to me!
Will sub, but maybe change your mic pls❤
Thank you! I am fixing the volume issue. Thanks for giving me a chance!!
@@CarrieOnCoaching No problem
What? We can not hear you.
I am so sorry. Some people have expressed having trouble hearing this video. I am new to editing and am working to correct the problem in the future. I hope you will give me another chance.
New sub 🎉😊
Thank you so much!!
I quit wearing heels! 😂
Me too!!
I quit having a "normal" life at age 40
Normal is boring!!
You look damn good fot 50
Thank you!
I can't hear you
I'm so sorry. I am working on correcting this problem. Editing is new to me and I am still learning. I hope you will give me another chance!
💯😇❤️🙏
Thank you!!
Say what? Can't hear you 😮
Politics. Religion. and sex preferences. 😅
Thanks for sharing!!
Quit this earth and move to mars . 😊😊
Lol! I kind of like this planet:).
give me a call sweetheart I’m 59 am I too old for you ? , 😉
@@edwardwd3zk You are funny, but I think my 68 year old husband might have a problem with that!! LOL
Too soft!
I am so sorry. TH-cam will not allow me to adjust the volume, but I am fixing that in future videos. I hope you will give me another chance!
Use earbuds! It works!
Youngest of 3 girls here and this year I’ve been actively choosing to be more selfish w my time and emotions!!🤌🏾🤍
Self care is so important!!
What? We can not hear you.
Yes it was difficult. Had to follow along on transcript to get all this good information.
I am so sorry. I am new to editing and am learning as I go. I don't know what happened to the volume, but I am making adjustments in future videos. I hope you will give me another chance!
I'm so sorry! Thank you so much for finding a way to still watch. I will make it easier on you in the future!!
Just turn up the volume, I’m hard of hearing and heard her
@@acer4237 Thank you!