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I think "life of a millionare" is one of those phony solicitors trying to use your name to sell bad apps. Just have to let u know. I dont appreciate people like that who pray on people just looking to do the right thing spiritually. Watch out!
As a daughter of a narcissistic mother....I totally get everything you are saying. I am 60 yrs. old and volunteer with animal organizations - I'd rather be around animals and in nature than around people. I am so hyper vigilant around people it exhausts me....thank you for sharing your story and allowing other people to feel part of 'life'
@@brianhaney5029 how does one observe with feelings? if an empath becomes aware of something by feeling it, would they have to become a bit of a psychopath to observe what they are feeling without feeling it?
The thing I've found is that people mistake kindness for weakness. They think because I'm kind, that they can walk all over me / manipulate me / tell me what to do. They get the shock of their life or think I'm the one being difficult when I make my own decisions contrary to what theirs might be. My advice is stand firm, because otherwise you'll lose your identity.
So true! I've noticed the same thing. A "no" from a kind person almost works as an electric shock on people. As for manipulative behaviour, l always see it through but l must admit that my kindness unfortunately doesn't let me be firm enough at times. Setting my boundaries is what I'm still learning to do
@@hereforyou5784 being trapped is an illusion. So instead of giving your power away and believing that kindness is the barrier blocking you from standing your ground, it's more empowering when you realise you've had control of your destiny and who you can be this entire time. Find a way to harness empowerment energy within you and raise your vibration. Be within your power. You have the power to be both kind to yourself and others. Standing up for yourself and others.
Same. It's really hurting me in my job. I work with a lot of people who get away with stuff and I'm the bad guy because I notice things or mention it..
As soon as I quickly learned that both empaths & narcissists are the opposite wound of the same spectrum I began shifting my identity immediately. That’s the key to healing, recognizing your own wound first and while being an empath may sound like being an Angel, it’s very bad to the self, it’s the soul being projected way out of body to hyper feel the outside world whilst fully neglecting the inner child. So being an empath is actually a self love deficit wound just like being a narc. One just looks like the devil & the other an angel. Both equally wounded, one towards the self while the other towards the other. No longer mirroring others, no longer taking on their energy as mine, no longer over extending the self, just being balanced is key. Otherwise you will attract the same people and experiences for the rest of your life.
Oh my word. That’s so deep, relevant and the truth I needed to hear just like you said it. 🎉 Thank you so much for this. I’m so tired of the same person over and over in a different body. You speak genius.
I like Aristotle's expression the most, but that's just my preference. "Educating the mind without educating the heart, is no education at all." But specifically to this comment I simply go with; "it would be Arrogant to assume the human race to be the only species bestowed with Life." This would loosely go toward people with some kind of narc God complex...
Two monks walking along a stream encounter an old woman unable to cross. She begs them to help, so one carries her on his back to the far side. Once across and on the bank the old woman berates the monks for getting her dress wet, for taking too long to cross, for making it difficult and dangerous. She doesn't thank them. She goes her way. After a time the monk who carried the old woman tells the other that he didn't understand why the woman was so mad and ungrateful. The other monk says, "you carried the old woman across the stream an hour ago, why are you still carrying her?" ~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
Gosh U jus described my exhausting exchange with my 26 yr old a month ago.... Outside of grief for what I gave up of my own choice, I am again picking up the practice of self luv and prioritizing myself.
Often it's not so much about absorbing negative energy, but fixating on a outcome or someone else's predicament. The mind can cling onto another versus finding true pleasure or compassion within oneself to share.
Wow! That was very wise… I have lost sleep thinking about why the person I helped to do better in life and at work is being ungrateful. This story of the Monks helped me to to look at it with another insight. Thank you for sharing.
I know for a fact that I'm an empath, a people pleaser, overly emotional, too caring, so intuitive it's almost psychic, feel all types of energy, and I love plants, animals, people and nature in general. With the way of the world I hate leaving out of the house sometimes because I get bombarded with all these energies and people trying to take advantage of me.
People trying to be unique with these dumb titles like empath You're just a normal human bring who feels empathy like all human beings and that's not unique
I will be your friend by giving you a high intensity vibe and feel it because it is meant from my heart. And my heart tells me to do this. Tysm for this
I noticed that if you look at some people they can suck your energy from your eyes if you dont look at them you will keep your energy anyone notice this?
I’m an empath and I have spent most of my life closing myself off in order to block out people’s energy. While that worked, it also led to a pretty lonely existence. I’ve been trying to open up more and let people in, but it is overwhelming. Thank you for not just giving theory but also giving some actionable advice on what to do.
Same! I feel like a POS for closing up but I had too... I felt like I was going to explode.... 30+ years of feeling this and not knowing what it was and why no one understood me... or why they craved my attention... I constantly annoyed private people and attracted everyone else... and never knew why.... once I figured it out, I had to shut down to heal myself so I could learn how to create boundaries to protect myself and not mentally break doing so.... it is truly EXHAUSTING.
I have cut myself off from everything and everyone. But it doesn't help having a broken back. I have more going on than just being a empath. If I focused on a candle and it absorbed my energy I would throw it out.
I've only recently realized that being an empath doesn't mean that energies of other people constantly affect you. It's being able to sense other's people energy and then it's up to you what you do with it *(create boundaries or let it drain you)* Many empaths are psychic at the same time, even if you don't realize this, so it's actually a very empowering thing!
I was going “yes ok, yes you are right” untill you said “empowering” lol.. I am so drained at this time that sounds almost the complete opposite of what I’m experiencing at this time.. I was just today thinking: why?? (Yesterday I was present with a couple having major drama with eachother and I was helping my friend (the lady of the couple) paint her new home and was half way painting the kitchen so I felt like I couldn’t leave her with a half paintjob.. I would have left for sure if this wasn’t the case. When I got home I was after a few hours physically shaking, the passive agression from him and the pleading for reason from her without defending herself, was that bad.. (her attitude is something I have done a LOT of in the past so it brought back memories as well) Now this evening finally started to get dizzy with anxiety and eventually began crying. Which has released most of what I had absorbed (toughed it out ARRR) during their battle... Do the nausea is gone.. So just today I was thinking “why am I this sponge” And I figured KARMA. Not angry but just the accumelation of karma which this life has presented me with being an empath and psychic. I am not where you are mentally and that’s completely ok. Maybe next life-time. In any case: cheers to you it is good to see someone experiencing being an empath as empowering. I’m working on it untill I’m done with this karma ❤️🤗
Im 53 years old and I remember my daughters and sons watching a cartoon called Airbender. Its exactly saying what this video is saying. Controlling your spiritual and physical boundaries. Air bending. Good video
I don’t think I can set those boundaries that simply. I’ve been aware of my nature for a decent amount of time, and it seems that in groups of 5 or larger I basically have to go sit in a corner to avoid picking up energy. While this works, it makes people think I’m a fuckin weirdo… 😕
My adopted mom used to scream at me and punish me for being what she called a weak and overly sensitive child😔. One thing I can say about everything she put me through is I learned exactly how not to raise children and exactly how not to treat people. I'm still working on learning to treat myself well
Good luck with your journey. I had a childhood path from 1yr n up, add many orphanages, kidnappings, and fosters, etc. You are Beautiful. YOU Are Worthy. You are AMAZING. You deserve the path of joy and happiness.
That's the benefit of having terrible parents. You get to learn how to better take care of your own future family, and you get the pleasure of proving them wrong. I am not supporting the idea that such people should be parents to begin with. I am just saying that there is always a silver lining.
For my survival, I learned how to read people very well. It kept me safe and allowed me to figure out what to do next. Looking back, that's sad for any child to have to do that. While some children play with toys, others are sitting in silence somewhere trying to figure out what happens next and how to safely move forward.
Pre planning 😢❤ I hope you are going to receive the best energy ever and it carries your heart and body to fulfillment ..Peace love light n Hugh freq vibes loaded with love
A fourth, less discussed, response to trauma is called fawning, or people-pleasing. The fawn response is a coping mechanism in which individuals develop people-pleasing behaviors to avoid conflict, pacify their abusers, and create a sense of safety. So for ennagram 9s people pleasing could be a strong childhood trauma response.
@@evbemma33 makes sense to me. I was raised in fight or flught mode. My father enjoyed doing dangerous things when I was little. Like enjoying my reaction after he said he would kill me, fire his gun to go right past my ear to scare me. It worked. I was only 3 or 4 at that time. I was an expert at trying not to make him mad or anyone else for that matter. Still crosses over in my life today at 68 years old.
When I get in my power, i felt people being drawn to me, only to project their thoughts and feelings onto me. I tried setting boundaries, not absorbing their energy but it got so overwhelming i lost my strength down the road. Now i've cut everyone off and gone back to staying by myself focusing on regaining my balance
You will still absorb some bad energy even when you put a container around you. the energy. When you're done at work and are home cry, scream, go for a walk, meditate, relax with your pet. I do this before and after work to let out all the bad energy I absorbed. And at work I kind of stay in my own thoughts until I'm approached by a co worker or my boss about something.
Being an empath and a barber, I literally have my hands on people's heads all day, by the end of the day I am completely exhausted from energy transfer.
ConanTheBarber, it would be nice if you could listen to Music on Headphones. Draining your good Energy on a daily basis is really bad. I will remember not to talk much to my Hairdresser next time. Thanks for sharing 👍
This was an eye-opener for me. When I was a child, I couldn't talk in crowded places like school. When I had to speak, I would panic and my mind would go blank. I realized that this was because as an empath, I could not define myself in the midst of all the different energies. And in the presence of so much attention, anything you say or do is a risk. I will try to do the meditation you taught me. Thank you very much!
Might explain why I've always sung/talked. So part of me was above the surface of the waves of all the other students, so I could feel that I was actually there and not just a mirror.
Such a good point, I found this to be true for me too. Older I'm better now after realising this. There is too much information and energy to absorb from others I would completely lose myself. This can happen with other personalities too but why I also found it much easier one on one, only one reaction and emotional pattern to absorb and respond to.
I know exactly what you mean. I have learned to recognise where I feel it. When it's someone elses I feel it from my stomach (or Solar Plexus Chakra, I guess.) 😊
I totally understand that! It gets confusing. I have a super empath friend who is older than me and very wise, amd she says you can also pick it from spirits around 😬 I dont mean to creep you out. She just told me she can make diference if an emotion comes her or from some kind of presence in the room which isnt her. She says it happens to all of us but we dnt realize.
I understand that. I can’t stay around my parents for long without ending up feeling stressed, frustrated and irritable...and I’m a caregiver for them! So it’s pretty miserable all too often. I have to do it in small as possible doses and then escape to my own space.
I moved from Kentucky to Colorado to distance myself from family. It was the most liberating thing I've ever done. I live in a tiny home and minimalized all my possessions. I feel so much calm ever since.
After years of being an empath literally the only time I'm really at pieces when I'm completely by myself and sometimes that's a sad place to be cuz they used to call me sweet Michelle when I was in high school everybody did and now there's nothing about me this week as soon as negative people come around me I just run into a monster and I hate it but I can feel their monster inside them and it over takes me and I'm too old for this I want some rest I want peace in my mind
@@skittles2055 oh my God I so relate to you I have two children that are addicted to heroin and because I can't see myself throwing them out on the street every day I have to go through what they feel and it's it's raining every bit of my energy and I live in a small apartment and just trying to get away from it is horrifying but I have to otherwise I'm going to hurt myself or hurt someone else and I know that so to protect myself and others I literally have to run out of my front door sometimes just to breathe and get away from it
I also grew up with a hardcore narcisistic mother, and I ended up tuning myself into her behavior in order to try and understand her and help her, but the problem was that I ended up picking up some of those narcisistic tendencies and got lost in that identity for many years, that's the biggest trap of empaths, we tend to get in tune and understand people so well that we can end up becoming like them, all it takes is self realization to remember who and what we actually are, my good friend accused me of being a narcisist yet he was confused why I was always there for him as those 2 traits contradicted themselves, so as an empath it's critical not to get lost in the identity of those you attune yourself to!
I only realised this about myself recently. I would always feel so horrible and angry at myself for behaving in a way that I knew wasn’t my true nature. I just couldn’t control it, I’m still working on this but it’s really good to know that there are a lot of us experiencing the same thing and we’re becoming more aware of it. Love and peace to you🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@asanda.cconstable9259 yes, I strongly reccomend the book “6 keys for narcisists to change towards their highest self” it’s a process to unlearn everything you adopted but it’s so worth it at the end
@@herzcompass1293 sorry 😐 can anybody see my comment? Like this comment to confirm. I notice some people’s comments get hidden automatically even from the TH-camr thought I would make people aware of this is they are not already.
I needed to hear this , work at a hospital with 90% of women . I can feel the negative energy of many when the walk by . It seems to suck the life out of me and my mood changes drastically from normal or happy to negative and hating where I am . I do like my job and have a very positive personality . That is until I’m around these types of individuals.
@@SaintEuphemia817 no there's more than that. Women are basically evil, especially those who think they should be accepted and tolerated (or even liked/loved) no matter what. I hope there are exceptions, but I've yet to meet one. I rather stay the f away. Mean, toxic and aggressive.
I feel nurses have a weird vibe because I was a nurse and it is almost unbelievable how a person who is supposed to be so good can be so bad..forgive my words...but negative vibes plagued my nursing career and I loved my patients it was the staff like why are you here if a person is in pain give him pain meds you can an hour in advance or an hour later if you get swamped...I had AIDS patients so I said I give it when I legally can and if they had to ask for it I felt ridiculous They were dying folks. One nurse said he is just addicted to his pain med ..I said so what? 😂I mean what a negative vibe so I relate. Stay strong and compassionate
This is so powerful! Empaths usually open themselves up for everyone and it shouldn’t be surprising others are attracted to that while the empaths end up giving all their power away.
That is so true, and you feel drained, tired, and have a desire to shut yourself away for peace, but you can't get yourself to do it - because you care too much.
And the funny part for me is that I don’t open myself up… it’s just like people (first time meeting, random coworkers, literally strangers) will strike up conversation and ended up venting to me and telling me all their personal business (even secrets sometimes) I really dislike and have started to be “selfish” and dismissive because it’s so draining and overwhelming
I remember my sister saying i was the most negative person she had met or known. I just bursted into tears heading that. But it was true i couldnt see joy in life and saw only darkness. Yrs later and its still a process to consciously catch being negative, not perfect but so much better. Heres to groweth!
Is anyone else's sister the younger one? Drives me batty she lectures me about life. I'm the one that had it harder. Both of my parents are the youngest siblings so they identify with her. I'm the oldest, and pretty sure I reminded them of their older siblings that they don't get along with. Plus my dad has always been an alcoholic so I've gotten the full wrath. The funny thing is, she's superficial rainbows and sunshine. Her life's always been a mess because they baby her.
Edit- the person I replied back to took down their post and deleted other posts they made. So it only looks like they said one thing, when they'd actually taken over the whole thread. @@tw.bluesea I guess I prefer to be a grafted tree then. Passive aggressive much? You may have not replied to me but your comment was directed at me as I was the last to post. I know this type of behavior, sneaky aren't you... There was no gentle reminder just your opinion instead of letting me vent in a place that's supposed to be safe. You know nothing about anyone's family tree and the origins of the rot. You are essentially telling the deeply hurt to keep the narcissist close. I've tried your way of thinking and being. Some don't care or respond because they have their own problems and it's all the more hurtful when they double down. You don't fool around with alcoholics and/or narcissists. It's okay to be strong, smart, stand up for yourself, and wonder why the rot occurred in the first place. If you don't find the cause, it will keep coming back. I can visit the rotten tree without having to be a part of it and choosing to grow my own tree a different way. Analysis of why the rot occurred is so my tree may turn out different. Again, it is okay to reflect and point out what is obvious to me, especially to a bunch of strangers, it's venting and it's the truth. I owe no loyalty for the abuse I've suffered, from any of them. I only said what is obvious to be and the nice version. Trashing would have been to give details.
People close to me have said that to me, too. It made me feel really bad about myself until I realized that I am allowed to feel however I feel, I don't have to be positive or smiling if I don't feel like it, I am also so NOT into toxic positivity sh**. If I am unhappy I no longer try to fight it, I just let myself be unhappy, or angry or negative about something because I have realized that it comes from my awareness of reality. I am just being realistic, and let's face it: life is not sunshine and rainbows. I trust my intuition and my ability to assess reality, but it doesn't stop me from enjoying my life and doing what makes me feel good.
Being an empathetic ,others suck our energy. I've been separating myself,and it's making me feel better with myself. Thank you for this valuable information.
Good day. In my own words,I'll explain, Friends ,family, know when a person is weak of heart sensible to all situations, concerning others,and not all but many take advantage of us being kind hearted. Because of this we suffer and even shed tears.(Why do I keep saying ,Yes to everything when sometimes I'm not even to really help in their situation. Then ,not to long ago.I layed to sleep,and tears rolled down,I said ,God almighty U can't keep up with all these people,help me stay humble,but give me a way outv,out, me offending or hurting anyone's feeling. I fell asleep and had this beautiful dream.I was at this lovely lake and their was a pi nice tanke,table, my family members and dome people I did not know. And I started walking away from and in my mind I was saying,I need to get away from them all ,and go under all those tress over ,their, I could speak privately with ,God,and from a distance I could see them but they could not see me,Then I raised my hands to the sky abs I heard a voice say,look at them and I looked and they were having fun and laughing. Then I looked up to the sky and said,they are happy The voice answer keep yourself in distance because weather your their or not for them,they will manage and ,be happy. You to learn to sometimes say,I can't. Your not ,God.i wake-up in the morning and from their on,I have at moment Saud I can't,,, that is a decision you have to make on your own I have been feeling happier since. Your not God. In the morning
One day i had a meltdown from a friend who was constantly telling me her problems and telling me what to do, getting mad at me if i didn't do what she said and after a lot of contemplation , I Blocked Her ! I sometimes feel bad the way i did it with no warning but i just can't be friends with her for my own health. Blessings Emi 🙏🙏💗💗
Empathy is a good quality. If we are surrounded by egoists it doesn't mean that we have to change. We have to set boundaries, yes, but it s a privilege to be emotional an inituitive.
Yes. Same. I grew up in a large family so it was hard to think and ground myself. In my adult age I can’t be social all the. I love to socialize, but I absolutely need the option of being able to retreat and have my own space when needed.
All this time I've been trying to fix this issue in me because everyone around me "the narcissist" tell me I'm too emotional. That I'm wrong. I've become a hermit. And I started to cry when you said that empathy is a super power. I had every single sign you read of the signs of being an empath. I thank you so much, a weight just lifted.
It was so helpful watching this video. I grew up in a household where one parent was a narcissist and the other was depressed and acted like a narcissist as well. They formed a co-dependency and wanted me(as the first-born son) to be part of it. As a result my upbringing was constant being berated, constantly being shamed, constantly being blamed. And I wasn't given space to be myself and operate in my own energy because separateness was equated to selfishness...
Oh we have similar parents. Both of them physically abused me. They all think about them that my siblings and specifically me burdens of their lives as if I was the one who gained satisfaction when they made us 🤬
This is one of the clearest explanations and descriptions i’ve heard of narcissists and empaths and how empaths learn to people please to survive. This was very eye-opening and as an empath, I found the suggestions so helpful!!! Thank you so much for this video!
“Feeling safe in someone else’s frame”That’s the piece I’ve been missing! this video just changed my life! I just got into this and I can feel my energy so intensely
@-GinΠΓ Τάο I totally disagree! The very fact that we have separate physical bodies with private thoughts indicates that also mentally we are of separate frames from each other, making us very much disconnected. Otherwise I'd be able to read your mind 😉 and human life would be pretty boring knowing everyone and everything. This makes my frame completely different from your frame, and the physical perspective of LIFE AND THE UNIVERSE from each of our separate frames is different and unique. So no, everything isn't connected. Only on the smallest quantum scale, atoms, electrons, etc. You don't under physics if you think everything is connected. We're made of the same stuff, but we're not the same in our views at all. So life and the universe, time and space, are subject to individual relativity.
I LOVE the drawing of narcissist (arrows absorbing) and empath (arrows giving). Very simple drawing but there is not much more to say. Narcissist sucking you in, your energy, you good will, until you feel empty, exhausted, dead inside.
I humbly say in Jesus my name I am a Deliverance worker for the Lord for the past 11 years I have discernment there is actually 70 scriptures in the Bible about empaths I can pick out a liar everything that you're saying is is dead on and you know what demons do hate empaths so you are dead on as well thank you
It really makes you feel run down doesn’t it. Iv been exploring music with different frequency’s 432hz and 428hz works well for me. I hope you find your balance :) it’s so important for us to find it . Have an amazing day.
Man, this was EXACTLY what I needed to see and hear. I've suffered my whole life of depression and anxiety and it stemmed from my parents divorcing when I was a small kid and I somehow blamed myself for it. My mother is slightlty narcissistic and I really have been in other people's frame most of my life. I conform to the needs, wants, values and everything of the people I interact with, if they are close. My parents, my wife, my friends, people I find of "high status or attractiveness". I've only now started to heal. I've found your content, I'm doing mindfulness meditation daily where on top of the usual "focus back on your breath" type of meditation I do these mental images where I love myself and create my own boundaries, own frame, own container as you put it. Then I go on about my day with this frame in mind and I do another set of meditation at night before sleeping. My wife already said she's sensed a change and I hadn't told her anything about this project, before that. She also admitted that in a way it felt like she's losing me because I wasn't (she used different words) in her frame anymore as much. But the relationship is doing better now since I am fully present with her from my own will and own frame, not just mindlessly trying to please and sort of be there but not really. I'm still at the start of the journey. I'm 38 but I feel I can enjoy the rest of my life a lot more like this.
Yes, this exactly history too. Growing up with narcissistic migrant parents with no extended family support, empathy skills are survival skills. Feeling safe is very important ...great video. I also believe that the empath needs the biggest life lesson of focussing on themselves and their own needs first
“Presence is Magnetic” Recently trying hard to separate my energy, an Empaths can give up and avoid people or can watch this and feel safe in their own container ❤
I had an abusive father, physically and mentally. It took me almost 60 years to realize what being an empath really is. I hope it doesn’t take others so long to do this and understand themselves.
I reach out yo u because it has also taken me 60years to get here where i understand who i am...my separation started at age 2 snd half whwn my mother left me to pursue a better life for all her children....The little girl who was me got a real emothional knock back snd got AFRAID....I BELIEVE now that my mother was is a narcissist BUT it hss been really difficult to define that in her because she is so sweet and kind to everyone and that is one reason why its taken me so long. Now i believe it is a super POWER that i need to us and i kntend on using...It is not too late my dear cos some PEOPLE die with never finding this out...so i send you LOVE power and may you CONTINUE to GROW!
So helpful. I am a retired RN who had to use my empathic skills to care for NICU babies. They can't speak, so my empathic nature became my superpower. And little by little parents realized my superpower which then caused me to be followed on my off shifts to be an ongoing nurse never stopping. It became EXHAUSTING and after 26 years of being an RN, I retired early. I retreated to a cabin in the woods and people sought me out, animals in need found me and well same story all over again. This meditation I believe will help me....I will let yu know. Thank yu and I am going to subscribe to yur channel..Blessings.
I think the worst I’ve felt very strong is people’s emotions. It makes me feel sad, crier, and overwhelmed. Also, certain strong dark energy can causes me anxiety and I can feel it in the air. I have been working to trying not to care for others and it seems hard to do that. I definitely think that sometimes it feels like a curse.
Same here, the only cure for me seem solitude... When I'm alone for hours, there's the only way to "charge the batteries", even after meeting sympathetic people in good mood. When I meet angry, sad, nervous, or specially FAKE people who pretend being nice... it drains me ALOT and I just feel like rag after. I need way more rest and being alone to feel "balanced" again, it's so exhausting. Not mention meeting with my narcistic mother... It's the literally worse.
Have you found any techniques to help? I know this video suggests meditation but honestly I'm so sensitive that even with grounding exercises, I still physically feel other people's energy. The only thing that really helps is smudging with sage and it's frowned upon in most workplace environments, unfortunately. I'm starting to think that I need to save up a bunch of money and move out to the woods like a hermit. I really wish I had some kind of solid guidance with this shit because it could be a superpower 90% of the time, instead, it's severely impacting my interactions with others and draining me thin.
First thought... separateness was selfishness, but too many my whole life have said a little selfishness is healthy. I guess it's somewhat related. I can't help someone to their feet if I can't get off my OWN knees. So much more impactful to hear these truths from someone who has been through it rather than those who only know it by studying other's experiences.
Sometimes their negative energy is at first disguised as fake positive energy,and your defenses slip a little because you want to be fair and non judgemental to the person. But inside- you know better. If you're not feeling right- then something is wrong with the situation.
All my life I have felt controlled and manipulated, to the point of where running away from everyone was my only option.. now I control my surroundings and the peace and quiet is amazing!| you've taught me so much! Thank you Aaron!
What helped me get passed it was self worth and saying things like "no I don't have to deal with this," or "I deserve better." And sort of leveling myself so that I don't feel like I'm below anyone.
Yeees perfect timing for me too. I just came from taking a tea late in the evening in my favourite quiet cofee shop wanting to breathe deeply and read a book. 3 diferent waiters sat on my table to tell me their love problems. The last one even showed me all the legal documents of his divorce for me to help with it 🤔 when I truly have no idea of laws 😅😅 and ended up drinking next to me very sad, and I ended up almost crying too with the whole story. I am happy to help but sometimes I do need time alone to recharge myself, and here in India where I live boundaries are not socially acepted. So I end up overwhelmed and not going out much. I feel there is a diference between helping and ...just leting anyone put their problems on you all the time, because sometimes its not even an interaction its more like you are a bag for people to put their problems on. But can't say no bcs I feel sorry and also bcs its uncomfortable to me it they get angry or ofended. So yeah... Having a hard time with it right now 😵 This video helped a lot
Oh you are a relationship coach! Hey , how to reject a guy without hurting him? I am a white person in India and get aproached constantly simply bcs of my skin color, which I dont like at all. Also I really need time alone to find spiritual peace. I do feel guilty thou when I reject, even if I know I am just aproached basically as a piece of meat. I simply say I am married but the villatge is starting to know me and they see there is no husband 😅 so many people dnt believe it anymore. Any special technique I could use? I dont get aproached at all like that outside India so I am a bit lost.
This has changed my life. I had an “Awakening “ last summer. It was terrible, I’m still recovering. I thought I was crazy at first. I literally never understood why I seemed to be so different. I thought everyone could feel the energy of people, trees, animals. It was like being punched when I realized what an “Empath” was. This meditation probably saved my life. Thank you Aaron. Great name BTW. 😉😎🙌
Wow. The way he explained power of focusing on your own body, hand, feets, skin, ...that's the key for an empath. Meditation is just so powerful practice for empaths❤️
I grew up with a mother who suffers from mental illness, bipolar disorder and depression, it was very tough. I am definitely an empath and that’s why I got into the medical field to help ppl. It has been hard for me growing up to say no and in standing up for myself. I enjoy helping ppl and I just want everyone to be happy. As I have gotten older I have experienced in different situations and in jobs some ppl would take my kindness for weakness and feel the need to test me, but I actually gained more confidence through these experience and as I got older going through more and more forced me to speak up. It gave me the strength to stand up for myself by making me stronger and going through hard and uncomfortable situations over and over again from different ppl eventually forced me to set healthy boundaries. I learned from it and to do better for myself the next time. Sometimes through tough times you can choose to come out stronger and wiser. We all are just going through life learning lessons and living a human experience. 🧡😊✨🙏
Sometimes I feel kindve bad because as I’ve gotten older, “I’m now 48 years old” I don’t care as much about people and their problems as I used to, sometimes I feel like the crap I’ve had to endure has made me jaded to the point that I’m not as kind as I once was, but that’s also part of life and how life educates you
Same. Seems like you are aware of it. I have tried to just tap into the energy I remember having as a child. The more I'm aware everyone is struggling and may not be same as me. I try to be gentle but more so with myself.
I’m the same. I think I sometimes seem cold or heartless when really I’ve had to learn to set hard boundaries with family members. It’s too easy for me to get sucked into old patterns so I have to set that boundary way out there.
Yep, but I've learned tough love and how to protect the innocent from the evil. I'm a warrior and survivor now. I never wanted to be. I wish I could still be naive, and yet protected and a protector, but that is not a luxury I have anymore.
I’m an empath and didn’t find out till this year! 30 years old! I’ve always said I’m able to read people, but didn’t know it was a thing. I also now know almost every man I’ve been with is a narcissist! I was always feeling crazy! Now I know it’s just a gift!!
I am narcissist.U can save some empats life sending me raspberry pi.I have some empath prisons here,u can save them.Just send me raspberry pi 400 so me touch empaths in internet otherwise i will touch them in reality
This is so me, what you're saying is making me cry.. my youth, my whole life.. now I'm 52 yrs old and with meditation I was able to start making changes and finally started to experience some freedom and be just me in my head, hard to describe, like feeling only my emotions and not others.. but still have a lot of work to do to control my empathy, differences my own pain from others..
I feel you, my dad has remarried a few times and I’ve often felt mistreated and emotionally abandoned by the adults in my life. These videos are really helping me reclaim my existence ❤
Love it! Love it! This explains why I feel such responsibility and guilt when toxic family chafed at my boundaries. I have been conditioned to calibrate to them. Now I can shut down the toxic dialogue in my own head and match my mental health to my behavior choices.
Thank you! Sensitive people are usually extroverted feelers, so boundaries are crucial and it is still challenging! You have to teach yourself to be self-full and focus on what you really want without hurting someone else. Learning to say NO is so key for us. Learning to take time to recharge without external stimulation is crucial in my opinion. Excellent points, thank you!
YES!!!! “I felt familiar with being in somebody else’s frame to control me” and now I’m going through it to reprogram myself…. It’s absolutely a process, but I KNOW my light will shine bright again 🙌
This candle meditation was exactly what i needed! One day i was walking in nature and i intuitively just picked a cone from the ground and stared its details and felt the separateness and got much more grounded but will definitely add this candle meditation to my routine as an empath!
Thank you, I never knew why people told me their problems but this totally makes sense. Always knew I was an empath and always thought it was funny that random people would tell me such intimate things. Thank you!
Same!! Even when I was younger like teenager age… and now in my 30s, it’s even worst People always want to vent to me and tell me all their problems and/or secrets… it’s draining I’ve started creating boundaries but I feel like it makes me look bad to ignore what they’re saying and change the subject or to lie and say that I need to get off the phone to do something
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade this happens to me too and I see it as a blessing cause I learn from all these strangers stories. I know more about how the world works through humans opening up to me.
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade i feel you! Like i love helping IF they listen even if it’s draining but those people constantly complaining i cant stand i get soooo drained
@@mrmeekcreices same, but us empaths must be careful in not emotionally attaching to their stories and their energy from those stories. Don't fully attach to how they feel. Tell yourself "my feelings are not their feelings". It helps me a lot.
Hi Aaron, I totally relate to your message. I am a 62 year old Gay man grew up in a large family and a sick mother. I have never been in a relationship because I never understood why I was the way I am. I'm still learning today. Thank you for your message.
It's like walking on egg shells..my whole life is functioning based on reading others mood, emotions and body language. It's very sad, I get anxious and fearfuI around many loved ones....i feel my best or happiest when I am alone. That's when I don't need to cater or entertain anyone else. It's even sadder that I would rather be surrounded by strangers than people I know... As an heyoka empath, I don't heal until I draw boundary, but then my health already deteriorated from all years of caring for others. I am exhausted physically and emotionally
Please know you have the power to overcome this I will send positive vibes. I may have a not so perfect life but I have energy to loan ya if you promise to do the same if My energy vampires are full.😂❤love you
A straight reflection of my journey as an empath. Mind blown. Like for real! I’ve been sharing this with others from my own experience and it’s so empowering to see someone talking the same talk. I’m so greatful right now.
The "Develop My Own Frame" hit so close. I can't believe I have not come across this concept before. Yes, I recently in my late 30s have found that I am like a sponge absorbing people's energies or aligning myself in their frames when I used to not do this in my confident 20s. When you said "when you are present you will be magnetic!" That resonated very hard with me. And I just realized why energy vampires and evil folks do the random crazy things they do, it's all so that we focus on them and trade our confidence and magnetism over to them. When I am present, and in my own frame I completely feel immovable, am grounded, and can see trainwrecks without any fear of the train wreck cursing me or me being contagious to it. Thank you sooo ❤ much for this wisdom. Ironically, I was only able to look up this video today because I set some boundaries at my office departure time, and am using this extra hour for myself. So go figure, when you prioritize yourself and your boundaries good things actually come you way. ✌️ ❤
Thank you so much Aaron. At the age of 50, I am finally learning to be able to live on my own. Your video made it click for me on why I felt I needed a man in my life. I needed to create my own “safe space” my own bubble, whatever we choose to call it. This was a “popping like popcorn” moment for me! I am on my way to creating my own space that I can survive AND thrive in & I am so excited!!! Fear does not rules my life anymore; excitement for the future that I create now rules my life! Yes, it was lots of hard work & being honest with my self about why I was doing certain things and acting certain ways. Your video was like the icing on the cake of my journey🙌 I am no longer dependent on a man for my happiness or security. I depend on me now. Maybe someday along the way I will meet a partner that is emotionally healthy and ready to share their time with me, but until then I will continue on my journey and live life to the fullest!❤️✌️ Here’s to all of us Empaths!, that we may realize our gift and use it to better our life & the lives of others😘❤️ I am a nurse btw & at first my career was draining and I still have to be careful but being an empath has allowed me to be a great nurse for my patients and their families. I could keep going on but I must go watch the Steeler game!🥰🙌🏽 Love yah all my fellow Empaths!❤️😘
I'm so glad Aaron Doughty talks about empath from a gender neutral place and I'm very happy to see not only women but also men coming out saying empowering things about something they've encountered as empaths. Thank you so much Aaron for encouraging everyone to be in touch with their emotional intelligence.
Thanks for the video♥️ Parents were narcissists. Moved us away from family. Controlled my life. Like you, I can spot a liar. Your videos always help. So grateful.
This video just changed my whole life, made me burst into tears a few times watching, roller coaster of emotions, but after watching I have another sense of understanding and peace, thank you so much, I can’t find the words to express my gratitude
You are fortunate to have come into this realization at a young age and you can help people your age. You are awesome AARON! Beautiful! Yes it’s not easy being an empath! 🙏❤️🌈 Namaste
Never heard a better explanation than this video. Absorb negative energy exactly! ❤️ God said its through the broken that he favours, his work is done through us and blessings are given. I don't see my empathy as a curse no matter how draining it can be. It is definitely a blessing. Prayer is my meditation
That's why I love Sagittarius. Ty Aaron, yes I feel everything since I was very young. Cancer sun n moon. Capricorn rising. Hate crowds. I only let loose on my channel . Everyone tell me everything. But I have the need n purpose to listen n resonate. I do that w object's n candles all the time to make my mind go blank n forget about everyone n everything else.
I'm an empath and I have been setting healthy boundaries for the first time in my (42 years of) life, this year. I have already lost 2 of my closest "friends", and 2 of my lovers. And I don't even care! So, I don't fit your agenda anymore? I don't meet your selfish needs? Bye then. 👋🏼🖕🏽 I have also connected with my best friend (also an empath) on another level as we're raising our vibrations together. (Not phisically together, unfortunately.)
Thanks for the replies. I've just seen them 🙂 Just to update, I may have lost some "friends" which would have really triggered my abandonment issues. But thanks to Aaron's videos I "let go of the outcome" and have made twice as many friends as I lost. Genuine people who like me for me and don't have a hidden agenda. (As far as I know 😅)
Gosh...if I could only have the courage to cut people who drain me off. I go the opposite way as you in terms of making better friends- I dont make ANY friends or hang out socially anymore. I cant handle it. It just hurts because I used to be such a social butterfly. Sometimes I struggle to leave the house. I even hate answering the phone- instant anxiety.
It's incredibly difficult to finally locate ourselves, but damn doesn't it feel great not to carry others negative energy and baggage any longer? If I told you my story of liberation at the age of 38 you'd probably be saddened. As an empath I cannot help but hurt for others pain and suffering yet I still struggle to have empathy for myself. Doesn't matter though, as long as I continue standing up for myself and walk the path towards mindfulness. 🥰
@@OG_HazelGrrl Girl, this shitty pandemic has done so much mental damage to all of us that it's frightening. You deserve some mindfulness! I started falling back into my derealization safe zone when SD restrictions were lifted and I said, "Nope, I worked too hard and too damn long in therapy 4 times per wk to let this shit cripple me again"! You can do it, I believe in you!!!!!
I really needed to hear this right now! I work in customer service and those “Karens” of the world really frustrate and upset me. I needed to find a way to protect myself emotionally. I hate how others can influence my emotions like that. I just tried your “awareness of your own energy” trick and that helped me so much when finishing up my last ticket with a difficult customer. You have a new subscriber! Edit: and your story was SO relatable. I knew being raised my an alcoholic and narcissistic parent really has affected me, but know the root of my issues is people pleasing and having no emotional boundaries really helps me know where to start on my mental health improvement journey.
Thank you for this revelation. Focus on your separateness. Observe thoughts. Be present within yourself. Be in your own purpose. Set boundaries. Feel safe and grounded in your own energy.
The ex stepmom was a blessing in disguise. To give you a gift to teach you how to better treat yourself when dealing with other ppl. There are MANY gifts in disguise here on this planet. When at first glance looks unfair or cruel (and sometimes they can be) but you wind up walking away truly better and stronger and equipped with tools to help you better navigate life. 😊 Too much me me me is unhealthy and too much empathy is self destructive too. You have to balance. The middle. Know when to give how much and to who. You can be helpful and giving and somewhat "selfish" in a healthy way. You CAN take care of yourself and others at the same time!. And its OK! Its a turn off to be around overly giving ppl pleasers as im always suspicious of their motive behind why they are doing it and same for me me me meeee ppl who care for no one and nothing else. Balance is key 🔑 It is not selfish to take care of oneself even if it LOOKS selfish to OTHER ppl. We cant worry about other ppls feelings like that. Thats their own responsibility. We are only responsible for ourselves and how we choose to feel think and believe. We must learn to give back to ourselves. It shouldnt be one side or the other 😊
I'm setting boundaries and I got to see that it does work and I don't have to feel guilty about because things work out for the best most times for everyone. Crazy how it works🤔
Yep, things really do fall in place, and we actually don't need to stress ourselves out that much. Through boundaries we honor our intuition, what we feel, what we need. Boundaries are a must. They are about respect and self respect.
wow, i really need this right now. Thank you. I'm in therapy because I hate going to work and being around people, especially when I can't leave. I have to be able to escape, which is an added problem. I feel this is a great key to my healing. I had the exact type of mother. Yes, this is definitely a God-send for me today.
This video explains perfectly why I quickly say “THANK YOU” and laugh so hard on the inside that I laugh a little bit on the outside as well, whenever a non-empath tells me I am being selfish Lolol… (pats self on back for having mastered B-b-b- Boundaries Biatch!!)
This helped me sooooo much -- but i can absorb people’s pain/emotion/sickness…. And then I have to transmute that energy. You’re so right: be in Flow rather than pushy. I love this “separation” and grounding into my own energy. Costco overwhelms me!!
Boundaries...boundaries...People always talkin bout boundaries! I thought of them as things I needed to observe. I never really fully understood that I needed to assert my own and HOW to do so effectively. For so long, and even now, I do so in a very strident and abrasive way that gets the
I've found out something weird, so I am an empath and I get easily distracted and nervous around other people. Last time I had meeting with my boss that I am always slightly nervous about. Before that meeting I have met the person I dislike from my highschool and we didn't talk but the meeting made me feel so defensive and different than usual. So I've discovered at meeting with my boss I felt much more confident and grounded in my body only because someone made me feel defensive and angry before. So I guess for some people it's better to get that separation from others feeling to get grounded. It's not my first time when I actually feel much better after someone annoys me, cause it makes me feel grounded and I don't try to be nice for others after that.
@@vanguardoftruth4166 Not the same, but it can go hand in hand. If you feel bombarded with all kinds of stimulation around other people it can definitely make you feel anxious. And make you not want to interact with people as much.
In your anger, you took back some of your power! I love it. Being angry ALL the time would be disempowering of course, but empaths usually need some anger to bring them back to center, to reclaim their right to be themselves and not afraid to be themselves. I love this story as I've noticed the same thing with scary parents/step-parents/bosses/controlling people in general. I would have to get a little angry in order to get the courage to be fully in my power. The more I do it though, the easier it gets over time to maintain my own energy and boundaries without always needing anger to facilitate it.
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THANK YOU Aaron! your amazing!
Hi Aaron Can you maybe Make more videos of The After Life about the souls
If someone puts their energy me. Can I use it or does that make me an energy vampire
Keep up the great work! You are such a blessing to so many people waking up. Namaste
I think "life of a millionare" is one of those phony solicitors trying to use your name to sell bad apps. Just have to let u know. I dont appreciate people like that who pray on people just looking to do the right thing spiritually. Watch out!
As a daughter of a narcissistic mother....I totally get everything you are saying. I am 60 yrs. old and volunteer with animal organizations - I'd rather be around animals and in nature than around people. I am so hyper vigilant around people it exhausts me....thank you for sharing your story and allowing other people to feel part of 'life'
Ive always said the same thing!!
Same :)
@@Scotty2650 IKR!
Thank you for helping animals 💕 I feel exactly the same.
So cool to hear about a kindred spirit…narcissism in my life
“Observe, don’t absorb.” That’s brilliant. Thank you.
@J C
Right. That’s good too.
But in regards to being an empath, it’s the idea of not taking on other peoples negativity.
Observe, don’t absorb.
@@brianhaney5029 how does one observe with feelings? if an empath becomes aware of something by feeling it, would they have to become a bit of a psychopath to observe what they are feeling without feeling it?
@@YesBruv105 tbh you're probably onto something. Yes. We all become a bit of a psychopath, but we can control it.
Exactly.
Don't observe , keep focused for me
The thing I've found is that people mistake kindness for weakness. They think because I'm kind, that they can walk all over me / manipulate me / tell me what to do. They get the shock of their life or think I'm the one being difficult when I make my own decisions contrary to what theirs might be. My advice is stand firm, because otherwise you'll lose your identity.
So true! I've noticed the same thing. A "no" from a kind person almost works as an electric shock on people. As for manipulative behaviour, l always see it through but l must admit that my kindness unfortunately doesn't let me be firm enough at times. Setting my boundaries is what I'm still learning to do
Same here:(
@@hereforyou5784 being trapped is an illusion. So instead of giving your power away and believing that kindness is the barrier blocking you from standing your ground, it's more empowering when you realise you've had control of your destiny and who you can be this entire time. Find a way to harness empowerment energy within you and raise your vibration. Be within your power. You have the power to be both kind to yourself and others. Standing up for yourself and others.
Same. It's really hurting me in my job. I work with a lot of people who get away with stuff and I'm the bad guy because I notice things or mention it..
@DJ: Time & time again.
As soon as I quickly learned that both empaths & narcissists are the opposite wound of the same spectrum I began shifting my identity immediately.
That’s the key to healing, recognizing your own wound first and while being an empath may sound like being an Angel, it’s very bad to the self, it’s the soul being projected way out of body to hyper feel the outside world whilst fully neglecting the inner child. So being an empath is actually a self love deficit wound just like being a narc. One just looks like the devil & the other an angel. Both equally wounded, one towards the self while the other towards the other. No longer mirroring others, no longer taking on their energy as mine, no longer over extending the self, just being balanced is key. Otherwise you will attract the same people and experiences for the rest of your life.
This comment is gold. 💛
Wooow you make my day like therapy
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Oh my word. That’s so deep, relevant and the truth I needed to hear just like you said it. 🎉 Thank you so much for this. I’m so tired of the same person over and over in a different body. You speak genius.
What a beautiful perspective. You hit the nail right on the head. You awesomely have changed my clarity and outlook.
“You learn nothing from life if you think you’re right all the time.” 🙏🏽
You talking to me
So true!
Try telling most youtubers that!!
Yo jt ❤️
I like Aristotle's expression the most, but that's just my preference.
"Educating the mind without educating the heart, is no education at all."
But specifically to this comment I simply go with; "it would be Arrogant to assume the human race to be the only species bestowed with Life." This would loosely go toward people with some kind of narc God complex...
Two monks walking along a stream encounter an old woman unable to cross. She begs them to help, so one carries her on his back to the far side. Once across and on the bank the old woman berates the monks for getting her dress wet, for taking too long to cross, for making it difficult and dangerous. She doesn't thank them. She goes her way. After a time the monk who carried the old woman tells the other that he didn't understand why the woman was so mad and ungrateful. The other monk says, "you carried the old woman across the stream an hour ago, why are you still carrying her?"
~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
Whoa! That hit deeper than I expected it to.
Gosh U jus described my exhausting exchange with my 26 yr old a month ago.... Outside of grief for what I gave up of my own choice, I am again picking up the practice of self luv and prioritizing myself.
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Often it's not so much about absorbing negative energy, but fixating on a outcome or someone else's predicament. The mind can cling onto another versus finding true pleasure or compassion within oneself to share.
Wow! That was very wise… I have lost sleep thinking about why the person I helped to do better in life and at work is being ungrateful. This story of the Monks helped me to to look at it with another insight. Thank you for sharing.
I know for a fact that I'm an empath, a people pleaser, overly emotional, too caring, so intuitive it's almost psychic, feel all types of energy, and I love plants, animals, people and nature in general. With the way of the world I hate leaving out of the house sometimes because I get bombarded with all these energies and people trying to take advantage of me.
😰😢well exactly as me....
I just sometimes feel so bad about it people are taking advantage of me and I just get lost 😞
Me too, I'm a wet mess in this society
People trying to be unique with these dumb titles like empath
You're just a normal human bring who feels empathy like all human beings and that's not unique
Yes! I’m glad to know there’s others lol. Love y’all! Wish y’all lived close to me. I need good people around me!
You just described me!!!!
I'm 66. I don't have one single friend at all. I only discovered the truth about myself being highly empathic . It all makes sense now.
Myself as well.
Same
No friends is way better than fake friends.
If it wernt for narcissists I'd have no friends at all 🤦♂️. In end that's how it went😂🤷♂️
I will be your friend by giving you a high intensity vibe and feel it because it is meant from my heart. And my heart tells me to do this. Tysm for this
As an Empath who has been around narcissistic abuse, this is super helpful
Me too thank you Aaron
I'm happy to hear that! Much love and light to you
Narcissist/empath, Christ like/Antichrist like, self servers and those in service to others.
Me too x
I noticed that if you look at some people they can suck your energy from your eyes if you dont look at them you will keep your energy anyone notice this?
I’m an empath and I have spent most of my life closing myself off in order to block out people’s energy. While that worked, it also led to a pretty lonely existence. I’ve been trying to open up more and let people in, but it is overwhelming. Thank you for not just giving theory but also giving some actionable advice on what to do.
Yes. I also learned how to cut myself off but IT IS LONELY! SO I will be practicing this! 🙂
Same! I feel like a POS for closing up but I had too... I felt like I was going to explode.... 30+ years of feeling this and not knowing what it was and why no one understood me... or why they craved my attention...
I constantly annoyed private people and attracted everyone else... and never knew why.... once I figured it out, I had to shut down to heal myself so I could learn how to create boundaries to protect myself and not mentally break doing so.... it is truly EXHAUSTING.
U just explained my whole life story
I have cut myself off from everything and everyone. But it doesn't help having a broken back. I have more going on than just being a empath. If I focused on a candle and it absorbed my energy I would throw it out.
Same. INFJ ugh 😑 I shake from the overstimulation of new peoples energy when I’m alone after and trying to process.
I've only recently realized that being an empath doesn't mean that energies of other people constantly affect you.
It's being able to sense other's people energy and then it's up to you what you do with it *(create boundaries or let it drain you)*
Many empaths are psychic at the same time, even if you don't realize this, so it's actually a very empowering thing!
I was going “yes ok, yes you are right” untill you said “empowering” lol.. I am so drained at this time that sounds almost the complete opposite of what I’m experiencing at this time.. I was just today thinking: why?? (Yesterday I was present with a couple having major drama with eachother and I was helping my friend (the lady of the couple) paint her new home and was half way painting the kitchen so I felt like I couldn’t leave her with a half paintjob.. I would have left for sure if this wasn’t the case.
When I got home I was after a few hours physically shaking, the passive agression from him and the pleading for reason from her without defending herself, was that bad.. (her attitude is something I have done a LOT of in the past so it brought back memories as well)
Now this evening finally started to get dizzy with anxiety and eventually began crying. Which has released most of what I had absorbed (toughed it out ARRR) during their battle... Do the nausea is gone..
So just today I was thinking “why am I this sponge” And I figured KARMA. Not angry but just the accumelation of karma which this life has presented me with being an empath and psychic. I am not where you are mentally and that’s completely ok. Maybe next life-time.
In any case: cheers to you it is good to see someone experiencing being an empath as empowering. I’m working on it untill I’m done with this karma ❤️🤗
Im 53 years old and I remember my daughters and sons watching a cartoon called Airbender. Its exactly saying what this video is saying. Controlling your spiritual and physical boundaries. Air bending. Good video
@Imen Tawtaw yes, the hard part is not letting it make an impact on you and letting go...
I don’t think I can set those boundaries that simply. I’ve been aware of my nature for a decent amount of time, and it seems that in groups of 5 or larger I basically have to go sit in a corner to avoid picking up energy.
While this works, it makes people think I’m a fuckin weirdo… 😕
unfortunately u cant set boundaries with emotionally abusive parents 😔
Boundaries, cutting cords regularly, reiki, grounding, forest-bathing, and just staying away, at times. Have a happy life for yourself, guilt-free.
I’m printing this! Thank you.:)
This happened to me 2020 , I stood up for myself and all my siblings stop taking to me , months later I’m actually happier
Same here it took a while, I’m not happier but I don’t miss them.
Wow...this happened to me too...I thought I was by myself!
Me too, much better accepting that I need to let them go.
Wow glad to here I’m not alone , it’s got our best
It gets easier. Stay strong.
My adopted mom used to scream at me and punish me for being what she called a weak and overly sensitive child😔. One thing I can say about everything she put me through is I learned exactly how not to raise children and exactly how not to treat people. I'm still working on learning to treat myself well
Good luck with your journey. I had a childhood path from 1yr n up, add many orphanages, kidnappings, and fosters, etc.
You are Beautiful. YOU Are Worthy. You are AMAZING.
You deserve the path of joy and happiness.
That's the benefit of having terrible parents. You get to learn how to better take care of your own future family, and you get the pleasure of proving them wrong. I am not supporting the idea that such people should be parents to begin with. I am just saying that there is always a silver lining.
Same here. I learned exactly what not to do.
You can do it!!
Interesting, I learned how not to raise children from my parents too. they were so Narcissistic
Narcissist’s first wounded me, then they were the catalyst to my healing. I learned how to handle them and myself so damn well.
For my survival, I learned how to read people very well. It kept me safe and allowed me to figure out what to do next. Looking back, that's sad for any child to have to do that. While some children play with toys, others are sitting in silence somewhere trying to figure out what happens next and how to safely move forward.
Pre planning 😢❤
I hope you are going to receive the best energy ever and it carries your heart and body to fulfillment ..Peace love light n Hugh freq vibes loaded with love
A fourth, less discussed, response to trauma is called fawning, or people-pleasing. The fawn response is a coping mechanism in which individuals develop people-pleasing behaviors to avoid conflict, pacify their abusers, and create a sense of safety. So for ennagram 9s people pleasing could be a strong childhood trauma response.
Preplanning is my overdeveloped competency.
@@evbemma33 makes sense to me. I was raised in fight or flught mode. My father enjoyed doing dangerous things when I was little. Like enjoying my reaction after he said he would kill me, fire his gun to go right past my ear to scare me. It worked. I was only 3 or 4 at that time. I was an expert at trying not to make him mad or anyone else for that matter. Still crosses over in my life today at 68 years old.
When I get in my power, i felt people being drawn to me, only to project their thoughts and feelings onto me. I tried setting boundaries, not absorbing their energy but it got so overwhelming i lost my strength down the road. Now i've cut everyone off and gone back to staying by myself focusing on regaining my balance
You will still absorb some bad energy even when you put a container around you. the energy. When you're done at work and are home cry, scream, go for a walk, meditate, relax with your pet. I do this before and after work to let out all the bad energy I absorbed. And at work I kind of stay in my own thoughts until I'm approached by a co worker or my boss about something.
@@Red-ej6he solitude helps to find balance (at least for me)😌 thanks for the tips🍀👍🏻
Have you tried frequency music? Can release negative energy and much more. One fav of mine- Sapien medicine
I need to do that
@@Red-ej6he I would scream too if I had to work for a boss.
Being an empath and a barber, I literally have my hands on people's heads all day, by the end of the day I am completely exhausted from energy transfer.
Learn reiki healing , it help u enormously
Me too as a hairstylist!!!
ConanTheBarber, it would be nice if you could listen to Music on Headphones. Draining your good Energy on a daily basis is really bad. I will remember not to talk much to my Hairdresser next time. Thanks for sharing 👍
I did hair for 15 years and didn't know I was empath. I just knew I would be very tired at end of day with people sharing their stugles.
I am so sorry:(
This was an eye-opener for me. When I was a child, I couldn't talk in crowded places like school. When I had to speak, I would panic and my mind would go blank. I realized that this was because as an empath, I could not define myself in the midst of all the different energies. And in the presence of so much attention, anything you say or do is a risk. I will try to do the meditation you taught me. Thank you very much!
Might explain why I've always sung/talked. So part of me was above the surface of the waves of all the other students, so I could feel that I was actually there and not just a mirror.
Exactly how it was for me in middle and highschool
Wow!. Me too. Thank you for the insight on that!
Such a good point, I found this to be true for me too. Older I'm better now after realising this. There is too much information and energy to absorb from others I would completely lose myself. This can happen with other personalities too but why I also found it much easier one on one, only one reaction and emotional pattern to absorb and respond to.
I’m like that but it’s my autism
what helps me is telling myself "my feelings are not their feelings". it helps me a lot.
I have been trying to learn when to recognize when energy is mine and when it is coming from someone else. Sometimes it’s so hard to tell.
I know exactly what you mean.
I have learned to recognise where I feel it. When it's someone elses I feel it from my stomach (or Solar Plexus Chakra, I guess.)
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I totally understand that! It gets confusing. I have a super empath friend who is older than me and very wise, amd she says you can also pick it from spirits around 😬
I dont mean to creep you out.
She just told me she can make diference if an emotion comes her or from some kind of presence in the room which isnt her.
She says it happens to all of us but we dnt realize.
@@TheOnemanmoshpit yeeeees! I am happy to see its not just happening to me. Thats why its impossible to eat if there is a difficult energy around.
@@TheOnemanmoshpit that’s really interesting! I’ll try to pay attention to that!
@@Yulia.chandrika definitely!! Sometimes I notice a feeling out of nowhere and I definitely wonder if it could be coming from a spirit!
My parents negative depressing energy be getting to me all the time, which is why i isolate myself as much as i can.
I understand that. I can’t stay around my parents for long without ending up feeling stressed, frustrated and irritable...and I’m a caregiver for them! So it’s pretty miserable all too often. I have to do it in small as possible doses and then escape to my own space.
I moved from Kentucky to Colorado to distance myself from family. It was the most liberating thing I've ever done. I live in a tiny home and minimalized all my possessions. I feel so much calm ever since.
@@skittles2055 I’m 43 and now I know why my parents were so stressed.
After years of being an empath literally the only time I'm really at pieces when I'm completely by myself and sometimes that's a sad place to be cuz they used to call me sweet Michelle when I was in high school everybody did and now there's nothing about me this week as soon as negative people come around me I just run into a monster and I hate it but I can feel their monster inside them and it over takes me and I'm too old for this I want some rest I want peace in my mind
@@skittles2055 oh my God I so relate to you I have two children that are addicted to heroin and because I can't see myself throwing them out on the street every day I have to go through what they feel and it's it's raining every bit of my energy and I live in a small apartment and just trying to get away from it is horrifying but I have to otherwise I'm going to hurt myself or hurt someone else and I know that so to protect myself and others I literally have to run out of my front door sometimes just to breathe and get away from it
I also grew up with a hardcore narcisistic mother, and I ended up tuning myself into her behavior in order to try and understand her and help her, but the problem was that I ended up picking up some of those narcisistic tendencies and got lost in that identity for many years, that's the biggest trap of empaths, we tend to get in tune and understand people so well that we can end up becoming like them, all it takes is self realization to remember who and what we actually are, my good friend accused me of being a narcisist yet he was confused why I was always there for him as those 2 traits contradicted themselves, so as an empath it's critical not to get lost in the identity of those you attune yourself to!
I didn’t realize this about myself until I read this. Thank you.
I only realised this about myself recently.
I would always feel so horrible and angry at myself for behaving in a way that I knew wasn’t my true nature.
I just couldn’t control it, I’m still working on this but it’s really good to know that there are a lot of us experiencing the same thing and we’re becoming more aware of it.
Love and peace to you🙏🏾🙏🏾
🙏❤ yes!
@@asanda.cconstable9259 yes, I strongly reccomend the book “6 keys for narcisists to change towards their highest self” it’s a process to unlearn everything you adopted but it’s so worth it at the end
@@herzcompass1293 sorry 😐 can anybody see my comment? Like this comment to confirm. I notice some people’s comments get hidden automatically even from the TH-camr thought I would make people aware of this is they are not already.
I needed to hear this , work at a hospital with 90% of women . I can feel the negative energy of many when the walk by . It seems to suck the life out of me and my mood changes drastically from normal or happy to negative and hating where I am . I do like my job and have a very positive personality . That is until I’m around these types of individuals.
Once a month we are specifically designed to not be people pleasers
@@SaintEuphemia817 no there's more than that. Women are basically evil, especially those who think they should be accepted and tolerated (or even liked/loved) no matter what. I hope there are exceptions, but I've yet to meet one. I rather stay the f away. Mean, toxic and aggressive.
I feel nurses have a weird vibe because I was a nurse and it is almost unbelievable how a person who is supposed to be so good can be so bad..forgive my words...but negative vibes plagued my nursing career and I loved my patients it was the staff like why are you here if a person is in pain give him pain meds you can an hour in advance or an hour later if you get swamped...I had AIDS patients so I said I give it when I legally can and if they had to ask for it I felt ridiculous
They were dying folks. One nurse said he is just addicted to his pain med ..I said so what? 😂I mean what a negative vibe so I relate. Stay strong and compassionate
This is so powerful!
Empaths usually open themselves up for everyone and it shouldn’t be surprising others are attracted to that while the empaths end up giving all their power away.
That is so true, and you feel drained, tired, and have a desire to shut yourself away for peace, but you can't get yourself to do it - because you care too much.
And the funny part for me is that I don’t open myself up… it’s just like people (first time meeting, random coworkers, literally strangers) will strike up conversation and ended up venting to me and telling me all their personal business (even secrets sometimes)
I really dislike and have started to be “selfish” and dismissive because it’s so draining and overwhelming
I remember my sister saying i was the most negative person she had met or known. I just bursted into tears heading that. But it was true i couldnt see joy in life and saw only darkness. Yrs later and its still a process to consciously catch being negative, not perfect but so much better. Heres to groweth!
My sister said that to me too. So hurtful
Negative energies aren't exuberant.
It's full of self conflicts, and it associated with body aches.
Is anyone else's sister the younger one? Drives me batty she lectures me about life. I'm the one that had it harder. Both of my parents are the youngest siblings so they identify with her. I'm the oldest, and pretty sure I reminded them of their older siblings that they don't get along with. Plus my dad has always been an alcoholic so I've gotten the full wrath.
The funny thing is, she's superficial rainbows and sunshine. Her life's always been a mess because they baby her.
Edit- the person I replied back to took down their post and deleted other posts they made. So it only looks like they said one thing, when they'd actually taken over the whole thread.
@@tw.bluesea I guess I prefer to be a grafted tree then. Passive aggressive much? You may have not replied to me but your comment was directed at me as I was the last to post. I know this type of behavior, sneaky aren't you... There was no gentle reminder just your opinion instead of letting me vent in a place that's supposed to be safe.
You know nothing about anyone's family tree and the origins of the rot. You are essentially telling the deeply hurt to keep the narcissist close. I've tried your way of thinking and being. Some don't care or respond because they have their own problems and it's all the more hurtful when they double down. You don't fool around with alcoholics and/or narcissists. It's okay to be strong, smart, stand up for yourself, and wonder why the rot occurred in the first place. If you don't find the cause, it will keep coming back.
I can visit the rotten tree without having to be a part of it and choosing to grow my own tree a different way. Analysis of why the rot occurred is so my tree may turn out different. Again, it is okay to reflect and point out what is obvious to me, especially to a bunch of strangers, it's venting and it's the truth. I owe no loyalty for the abuse I've suffered, from any of them. I only said what is obvious to be and the nice version. Trashing would have been to give details.
People close to me have said that to me, too. It made me feel really bad about myself until I realized that I am allowed to feel however I feel, I don't have to be positive or smiling if I don't feel like it, I am also so NOT into toxic positivity sh**. If I am unhappy I no longer try to fight it, I just let myself be unhappy, or angry or negative about something because I have realized that it comes from my awareness of reality. I am just being realistic, and let's face it: life is not sunshine and rainbows. I trust my intuition and my ability to assess reality, but it doesn't stop me from enjoying my life and doing what makes me feel good.
Being an empathetic ,others suck our energy. I've been separating myself,and it's making me feel better with myself.
Thank you for this valuable information.
Emi can you share how you have been able to separate yourself?
Good day.
In my own words,I'll explain,
Friends ,family, know when a person is weak of heart sensible to all situations, concerning others,and not all but many take advantage of us being kind hearted.
Because of this we suffer and even shed tears.(Why do I keep saying ,Yes to everything when sometimes I'm not even to really help in their situation.
Then ,not to long ago.I layed to sleep,and tears rolled down,I said ,God almighty U can't keep up with all these people,help me stay humble,but give me a way outv,out, me offending or hurting anyone's feeling. I fell asleep and had this beautiful dream.I was at this lovely lake and their was a pi nice tanke,table, my family members and dome people I did not know. And I started walking away from and in my mind I was saying,I need to get away from them all ,and go under all those tress over ,their, I could speak privately with ,God,and from a distance I could see them but they could not see me,Then I raised my hands to the sky abs I heard a voice say,look at them and I looked and they were having fun and laughing. Then I looked up to the sky and said,they are happy The voice answer keep yourself in distance because weather your their or not for them,they will manage and ,be happy. You to learn to sometimes say,I can't.
Your not ,God.i wake-up in the morning and from their on,I have at moment Saud I can't,,, that is a decision you have to make on your own I have been feeling happier since.
Your not God. In the morning
One day i had a meltdown from a friend who was constantly telling me her problems and telling me what to do, getting mad at me if i didn't do what she said and after a lot of contemplation , I Blocked Her ! I sometimes feel bad the way i did it with no warning but i just can't be friends with her for my own health. Blessings Emi 🙏🙏💗💗
Narcissists are such parasites. For empaths, it really puts a target on our backs.
Exactly! Recharge yourself .....by setting at Calm and Peaceful place.
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Empathy is a good quality. If we are surrounded by egoists it doesn't mean that we have to change. We have to set boundaries, yes, but it s a privilege to be emotional an inituitive.
Until it hurts you. Balance is key
You just explained to me why I get so very tired after interacting with people any people. Thank you. I really needed that.
Yes. Same. I grew up in a large family so it was hard to think and ground myself. In my adult age I can’t be social all the. I love to socialize, but I absolutely need the option of being able to retreat and have my own space when needed.
This is a life changing lesson for every empath/psychic. Boundaries are an essential part of physical, spiritual and psychic survival.
All this time I've been trying to fix this issue in me because everyone around me "the narcissist" tell me I'm too emotional. That I'm wrong. I've become a hermit. And I started to cry when you said that empathy is a super power. I had every single sign you read of the signs of being an empath. I thank you so much, a weight just lifted.
THIS JUST COMPLETELY CHANGED MY LIFE AT 56 years old!! I can PHYSICALLY feel myself “in” my own body!!!
You still young.👍
It was so helpful watching this video. I grew up in a household where one parent was a narcissist and the other was depressed and acted like a narcissist as well. They formed a co-dependency and wanted me(as the first-born son) to be part of it. As a result my upbringing was constant being berated, constantly being shamed, constantly being blamed. And I wasn't given space to be myself and operate in my own energy because separateness was equated to selfishness...
I get that, separateness and individuality to insecure people is selfish.
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Same here. They called me selfish and ungrateful all the time.
Oh we have similar parents. Both of them physically abused me. They all think about them that my siblings and specifically me burdens of their lives as if I was the one who gained satisfaction when they made us 🤬
This is one of the clearest explanations and descriptions i’ve heard of narcissists and empaths and how empaths learn to people please to survive. This was very eye-opening and as an empath, I found the suggestions so helpful!!! Thank you so much for this video!
“Feeling safe in someone else’s frame”That’s the piece I’ve been missing! this video just changed my life! I just got into this and I can feel my energy so intensely
@-GinΠΓ Τάο I totally disagree! The very fact that we have separate physical bodies with private thoughts indicates that also mentally we are of separate frames from each other, making us very much disconnected. Otherwise I'd be able to read your mind 😉 and human life would be pretty boring knowing everyone and everything. This makes my frame completely different from your frame, and the physical perspective of LIFE AND THE UNIVERSE from each of our separate frames is different and unique. So no, everything isn't connected. Only on the smallest quantum scale, atoms, electrons, etc. You don't under physics if you think everything is connected. We're made of the same stuff, but we're not the same in our views at all. So life and the universe, time and space, are subject to individual relativity.
I LOVE the drawing of narcissist (arrows absorbing) and empath (arrows giving). Very simple drawing but there is not much more to say. Narcissist sucking you in, your energy, you good will, until you feel empty, exhausted, dead inside.
Narcissts are looking for supply from other people. So emapths are the best source.😢
Demons scream when they hear your voice. Keep going. Your message is spot on.
It's true Sir. God bless you so much. I am learning to use this gift and painful journey.
I humbly say in Jesus my name I am a Deliverance worker for the Lord for the past 11 years I have discernment there is actually 70 scriptures in the Bible about empaths I can pick out a liar everything that you're saying is is dead on and you know what demons do hate empaths so you are dead on as well thank you
“The key here is to focus on your separateness.”…thank you for this.
Dude this is TRANSFORMATIVE. Thank you my man. 🔥🙏❤️
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Lots of people pleases are narcs.
I'm an empath and I've always felt like people took advantage of me and my kindness.
This video has shifted my perspective.
Thank you ❤
I’ve been feeling sick and tired from absorbing other’s energy, this helps a lot. Thank you 🙏❤️🙋♀️💕👍
It really makes you feel run down doesn’t it. Iv been exploring music with different frequency’s 432hz and 428hz works well for me.
I hope you find your balance :) it’s so important for us to find it . Have an amazing day.
my truth...also . ☮ ❤ , my virtual friend
I’m sick at the moment from going through this. It’s so terrible.
@@rachael_615 I sympathise with you. Surround yourself with nature. And hopefully your get some strength back.
@@tm949 I hope so! My kids father is a narcissist and trying to take my kids and hurt me anyway possible and it’s driving me crazy. 😞
Man, this was EXACTLY what I needed to see and hear.
I've suffered my whole life of depression and anxiety and it stemmed from my parents divorcing when I was a small kid and I somehow blamed myself for it. My mother is slightlty narcissistic and I really have been in other people's frame most of my life. I conform to the needs, wants, values and everything of the people I interact with, if they are close. My parents, my wife, my friends, people I find of "high status or attractiveness".
I've only now started to heal. I've found your content, I'm doing mindfulness meditation daily where on top of the usual "focus back on your breath" type of meditation I do these mental images where I love myself and create my own boundaries, own frame, own container as you put it. Then I go on about my day with this frame in mind and I do another set of meditation at night before sleeping. My wife already said she's sensed a change and I hadn't told her anything about this project, before that. She also admitted that in a way it felt like she's losing me because I wasn't (she used different words) in her frame anymore as much.
But the relationship is doing better now since I am fully present with her from my own will and own frame, not just mindlessly trying to please and sort of be there but not really. I'm still at the start of the journey. I'm 38 but I feel I can enjoy the rest of my life a lot more like this.
Such beautiful words. You seem like an amazing person and you definitely should be enjoying your life. Keep going 👏 👏
@@TheWilDOn31 Thank you!
Thank you for your peace and presence. Spiritual hugs and kisses.
Encouraging words. All the best.
What mediation links did u use? Did you have any trauma or how to heal wound?
Yes, this exactly history too. Growing up with narcissistic migrant parents with no extended family support, empathy skills are survival skills. Feeling safe is very important ...great video. I also believe that the empath needs the biggest life lesson of focussing on themselves and their own needs first
Agreed 💯
Exactly 💯
“Presence is Magnetic”
Recently trying hard to separate my energy, an Empaths can give up and avoid people or can watch this and feel safe in their own container ❤
I had an abusive father, physically and mentally. It took me almost 60 years to realize what being an empath really is. I hope it doesn’t take others so long to do this and understand themselves.
I reach out yo u because it has also taken me 60years to get here where i understand who i am...my separation started at age 2 snd half whwn my mother left me to pursue a better life for all her children....The little girl who was me got a real emothional knock back snd got AFRAID....I BELIEVE now that my mother was is a narcissist BUT it hss been really difficult to define that in her because she is so sweet and kind to everyone and that is one reason why its taken me so long. Now i believe it is a super POWER that i need to us and i kntend on using...It is not too late my dear cos some PEOPLE die with never finding this out...so i send you LOVE power and may you CONTINUE to GROW!
59 so yeah right there with you
So helpful. I am a retired RN who had to use my empathic skills to care for NICU babies. They can't speak, so my empathic nature became my superpower. And little by little parents realized my superpower which then caused me to be followed on my off shifts to be an ongoing nurse never stopping. It became EXHAUSTING and after 26 years of being an RN, I retired early. I retreated to a cabin in the woods and people sought me out, animals in need found me and well same story all over again. This meditation I believe will help me....I will let yu know. Thank yu and I am going to subscribe to yur channel..Blessings.
Good luck
Did you publicly state that you are retired, " please do not bother me as I no longer work as a caregiver?"
I think the worst I’ve felt very strong is people’s emotions. It makes me feel sad, crier, and overwhelmed. Also, certain strong dark energy can causes me anxiety and I can feel it in the air. I have been working to trying not to care for others and it seems hard to do that. I definitely think that sometimes it feels like a curse.
omgg same
It's a burden. Empaths shoulder the burden for everyone. It's exhausting.
Same here, the only cure for me seem solitude... When I'm alone for hours, there's the only way to "charge the batteries", even after meeting sympathetic people in good mood. When I meet angry, sad, nervous, or specially FAKE people who pretend being nice... it drains me ALOT and I just feel like rag after. I need way more rest and being alone to feel "balanced" again, it's so exhausting. Not mention meeting with my narcistic mother... It's the literally worse.
Have you found any techniques to help?
I know this video suggests meditation but honestly I'm so sensitive that even with grounding exercises, I still physically feel other people's energy. The only thing that really helps is smudging with sage and it's frowned upon in most workplace environments, unfortunately.
I'm starting to think that I need to save up a bunch of money and move out to the woods like a hermit. I really wish I had some kind of solid guidance with this shit because it could be a superpower 90% of the time, instead, it's severely impacting my interactions with others and draining me thin.
Same! We are not alone. ❤
I'm a "super empath" and I am never viewed it as a curse but a gift. Thanks for sharing
First thought... separateness was selfishness, but too many my whole life have said a little selfishness is healthy. I guess it's somewhat related. I can't help someone to their feet if I can't get off my OWN knees. So much more impactful to hear these truths from someone who has been through it rather than those who only know it by studying other's experiences.
Just lable the selfishness you initially spoke of as "self-full" and it's a very positive statement.
@@JudeScott007 as in being "full of yourself"? That's not positive.
@@TheWilDOn31 It's all about a HEALTHY BALANCE.
When you are present you are magnetic. 🔥🔥🔥
My life was a joke 😢
I’ve been having a major hard time not taking other people’s negative energy personally lately.
Same here!
Me toooooo :/ I get angry af too
Sometimes their negative energy is at first disguised as fake positive energy,and your defenses slip a little because you want to be fair and non judgemental to the person. But inside- you know better. If you're not feeling right- then something is wrong with the situation.
@@mariedockery738 like fr it’s annoying
All my life I have felt controlled and manipulated, to the point of where running away from everyone was my only option.. now I control my surroundings and the peace and quiet is amazing!| you've taught me so much! Thank you Aaron!
Sad ya gotta do that , but I hear ya . Just run from the bad ones
What helped me get passed it was self worth and saying things like "no I don't have to deal with this," or "I deserve better." And sort of leveling myself so that I don't feel like I'm below anyone.
Amen!
Perfect timing❣️🙏💫
Absolutely.💝
Hello teacher 👋
I came to say exactly that.
Yeees perfect timing for me too. I just came from taking a tea late in the evening in my favourite quiet cofee shop wanting to breathe deeply and read a book.
3 diferent waiters sat on my table to tell me their love problems. The last one even showed me all the legal documents of his divorce for me to help with it 🤔 when I truly have no idea of laws 😅😅 and ended up drinking next to me very sad, and I ended up almost crying too with the whole story.
I am happy to help but sometimes I do need time alone to recharge myself, and here in India where I live boundaries are not socially acepted.
So I end up overwhelmed and not going out much.
I feel there is a diference between helping and ...just leting anyone put their problems on you all the time, because sometimes its not even an interaction its more like you are a bag for people to put their problems on.
But can't say no bcs I feel sorry and also bcs its uncomfortable to me it they get angry or ofended.
So yeah... Having a hard time with it right now 😵
This video helped a lot
Oh you are a relationship coach! Hey , how to reject a guy without hurting him? I am a white person in India and get aproached constantly simply bcs of my skin color, which I dont like at all. Also I really need time alone to find spiritual peace. I do feel guilty thou when I reject, even if I know I am just aproached basically as a piece of meat.
I simply say I am married but the villatge is starting to know me and they see there is no husband 😅 so many people dnt believe it anymore.
Any special technique I could use?
I dont get aproached at all like that outside India so I am a bit lost.
yes! separateness!!! That is what I call being 'divinely selfish'. In order to give we must fill our own cup first. Much love to all!
Yes, it's so important. I had to learn that too. To help others I have to look after myself first.
This has changed my life. I had an “Awakening “ last summer. It was terrible, I’m still recovering. I thought I was crazy at first. I literally never understood why I seemed to be so different. I thought everyone could feel the energy of people, trees, animals. It was like being punched when I realized what an “Empath” was. This meditation probably saved my life. Thank you Aaron. Great name BTW. 😉😎🙌
read "being nobody going nowhere" by Khema filled with different methods of meditation
Yeah separation is what I need. I've always felt that without knowing how to put it into the right words. Focus my energy on myself. Bingo 💥
Wow. The way he explained power of focusing on your own body, hand, feets, skin, ...that's the key for an empath. Meditation is just so powerful practice for empaths❤️
I'm crying. This feels so true. Thank you.
I grew up with a mother who suffers from mental illness, bipolar disorder and depression, it was very tough. I am definitely an empath and that’s why I got into the medical field to help ppl. It has been hard for me growing up to say no and in standing up for myself. I enjoy helping ppl and I just want everyone to be happy. As I have gotten older I have experienced in different situations and in jobs some ppl would take my kindness for weakness and feel the need to test me, but I actually gained more confidence through these experience and as I got older going through more and more forced me to speak up. It gave me the strength to stand up for myself by making me stronger and going through hard and uncomfortable situations over and over again from different ppl eventually forced me to set healthy boundaries. I learned from it and to do better for myself the next time. Sometimes through tough times you can choose to come out stronger and wiser. We all are just going through life learning lessons and living a human experience. 🧡😊✨🙏
This video is a game changer for me. Staying in your own energy first.
“The key is to work on your separateness!”👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Now it's impossible to failed
Always aiming
Sometimes I feel kindve bad because as I’ve gotten older, “I’m now 48 years old” I don’t care as much about people and their problems as I used to, sometimes I feel like the crap I’ve had to endure has made me jaded to the point that I’m not as kind as I once was, but that’s also part of life and how life educates you
Yep life either breaks you or it builds you.
Same. Seems like you are aware of it. I have tried to just tap into the energy I remember having as a child. The more I'm aware everyone is struggling and may not be same as me. I try to be gentle but more so with myself.
I’m the same. I think I sometimes seem cold or heartless when really I’ve had to learn to set hard boundaries with family members. It’s too easy for me to get sucked into old patterns so I have to set that boundary way out there.
@@chaimomma9198 or you learn what to let into your life and protect yourself 🤷♀️
Yep, but I've learned tough love and how to protect the innocent from the evil. I'm a warrior and survivor now. I never wanted to be. I wish I could still be naive, and yet protected and a protector, but that is not a luxury I have anymore.
I’m an empath and didn’t find out till this year! 30 years old! I’ve always said I’m able to read people, but didn’t know it was a thing. I also now know almost every man I’ve been with is a narcissist! I was always feeling crazy! Now I know it’s just a gift!!
I am narcissist.U can save some empats life sending me raspberry pi.I have some empath prisons here,u can save them.Just send me raspberry pi 400 so me touch empaths in internet otherwise i will touch them in reality
@@TarverdiyevRafael im so pretty. can we share some pi? haha
@@djg8383 why not,let do it right now
@@TarverdiyevRafael lol
Same here!
This is so me, what you're saying is making me cry.. my youth, my whole life.. now I'm 52 yrs old and with meditation I was able to start making changes and finally started to experience some freedom and be just me in my head, hard to describe, like feeling only my emotions and not others.. but still have a lot of work to do to control my empathy, differences my own pain from others..
I feel you, my dad has remarried a few times and I’ve often felt mistreated and emotionally abandoned by the adults in my life. These videos are really helping me reclaim my existence ❤
❤peace
Love it! Love it! This explains why I feel such responsibility and guilt when toxic family chafed at my boundaries. I have been conditioned to calibrate to them. Now I can shut down the toxic dialogue in my own head and match my mental health to my behavior choices.
Thank you!
Sensitive people are usually extroverted feelers, so boundaries are crucial and it is still challenging!
You have to teach yourself to be self-full and focus on what you really want without hurting someone else. Learning to say NO is so key for us. Learning to take time to recharge without external stimulation is crucial in my opinion. Excellent points, thank you!
I’m not so sure being sensitive is usually associated with being extroverted. My experience has been the opposite.
YES!!!! “I felt familiar with being in somebody else’s frame to control me” and now I’m going through it to reprogram myself…. It’s absolutely a process, but I KNOW my light will shine bright again 🙌
2024. Watching this to remind myself. Thanks, Aaron. 😊
This candle meditation was exactly what i needed! One day i was walking in nature and i intuitively just picked a cone from the ground and stared its details and felt the separateness and got much more grounded but will definitely add this candle meditation to my routine as an empath!
On point. Creating separation and boundaries is so important for empaths.
Thank you, I never knew why people told me their problems but this totally makes sense. Always knew I was an empath and always thought it was funny that random people would tell me such intimate things. Thank you!
yes. I thought maybe they just need to talk and it doesnt matter who it was with.
Same!! Even when I was younger like teenager age… and now in my 30s, it’s even worst
People always want to vent to me and tell me all their problems and/or secrets… it’s draining
I’ve started creating boundaries but I feel like it makes me look bad to ignore what they’re saying and change the subject or to lie and say that I need to get off the phone to do something
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade this happens to me too and I see it as a blessing cause I learn from all these strangers stories. I know more about how the world works through humans opening up to me.
@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade i feel you! Like i love helping IF they listen even if it’s draining but those people constantly complaining i cant stand i get soooo drained
@@mrmeekcreices same, but us empaths must be careful in not emotionally attaching to their stories and their energy from those stories. Don't fully attach to how they feel. Tell yourself "my feelings are not their feelings". It helps me a lot.
9:01 "Yes, You've Already Done That Though If You're An Empathic Person." 💯
Hi Aaron, I totally relate to your message. I am a 62 year old Gay man grew up in a large family and a sick mother. I have never been in a relationship because I never understood why I was the way I am. I'm still learning today. Thank you for your message.
You are perfect as you are ❤❤I love you
It's like walking on egg shells..my whole life is functioning based on reading others mood, emotions and body language. It's very sad, I get anxious and fearfuI around many loved ones....i feel my best or happiest when I am alone. That's when I don't need to cater or entertain anyone else. It's even sadder that I would rather be surrounded by strangers than people I know... As an heyoka empath, I don't heal until I draw boundary, but then my health already deteriorated from all years of caring for others. I am exhausted physically and emotionally
heyokas dont walk on eggshells UNLESS UR MOMS MEXICAN ICE CUBE (crying and running away)
Please know you have the power to overcome this I will send positive vibes. I may have a not so perfect life but I have energy to loan ya if you promise to do the same if My energy vampires are full.😂❤love you
A straight reflection of my journey as an empath. Mind blown. Like for real! I’ve been sharing this with others from my own experience and it’s so empowering to see someone talking the same talk.
I’m so greatful right now.
The "Develop My Own Frame" hit so close. I can't believe I have not come across this concept before.
Yes, I recently in my late 30s have found that I am like a sponge absorbing people's energies or aligning myself in their frames when I used to not do this in my confident 20s.
When you said "when you are present you will be magnetic!" That resonated very hard with me.
And I just realized why energy vampires and evil folks do the random crazy things they do, it's all so that we focus on them and trade our confidence and magnetism over to them.
When I am present, and in my own frame I completely feel immovable, am grounded, and can see trainwrecks without any fear of the train wreck cursing me or me being contagious to it.
Thank you sooo ❤ much for this wisdom.
Ironically, I was only able to look up this video today because I set some boundaries at my office departure time, and am using this extra hour for myself. So go figure, when you prioritize yourself and your boundaries good things actually come you way. ✌️ ❤
The timing of seeing this video is priceless! Thank you so much for the guidance and direction 🙏💖
Thank you so much Aaron. At the age of 50, I am finally learning to be able to live on my own.
Your video made it click for me on why I felt I needed a man in my life. I needed to create my own “safe space” my own bubble, whatever we choose to call it. This was a “popping like popcorn” moment for me!
I am on my way to creating my own space that I can survive AND thrive in & I am so excited!!!
Fear does not rules my life anymore; excitement for the future that I create now rules my life!
Yes, it was lots of hard work & being honest with my self about why I was doing certain things and acting certain ways.
Your video was like the icing on the cake of my journey🙌
I am no longer dependent on a man for my happiness or security.
I depend on me now.
Maybe someday along the way I will meet a partner that is emotionally healthy and ready to share their time with me, but until then I will continue on my journey and live life to the fullest!❤️✌️
Here’s to all of us Empaths!, that we may realize our gift and use it to better our life & the lives of others😘❤️ I am a nurse btw & at first my career was draining and I still have to be careful but being an empath has allowed me to be a great nurse for my patients and their families.
I could keep going on but I must go watch the Steeler game!🥰🙌🏽
Love yah all my fellow Empaths!❤️😘
I'm so glad Aaron Doughty talks about empath from a gender neutral place and I'm very happy to see not only women but also men coming out saying empowering things about something they've encountered as empaths. Thank you so much Aaron for encouraging everyone to be in touch with their emotional intelligence.
Thanks for the video♥️
Parents were narcissists.
Moved us away from family.
Controlled my life. Like you, I can spot a liar. Your videos always help. So grateful.
This video just changed my whole life, made me burst into tears a few times watching, roller coaster of emotions, but after watching I have another sense of understanding and peace, thank you so much, I can’t find the words to express my gratitude
I did the candle meditation, thank you I felt so much peace. I was definitely taking on my family’s anger and insecurities.
You are fortunate to have come into this realization at a young age and you can help people your age. You are awesome AARON! Beautiful! Yes it’s not easy being an empath! 🙏❤️🌈 Namaste
Never heard a better explanation than this video. Absorb negative energy exactly! ❤️ God said its through the broken that he favours, his work is done through us and blessings are given. I don't see my empathy as a curse no matter how draining it can be. It is definitely a blessing. Prayer is my meditation
How would you describe negative energy.
That's why I love Sagittarius. Ty Aaron, yes I feel everything since I was very young. Cancer sun n moon. Capricorn rising. Hate crowds. I only let loose on my channel . Everyone tell me everything. But I have the need n purpose to listen n resonate. I do that w object's n candles all the time to make my mind go blank n forget about everyone n everything else.
I'm an empath and I have been setting healthy boundaries for the first time in my (42 years of) life, this year.
I have already lost 2 of my closest "friends", and 2 of my lovers. And I don't even care!
So, I don't fit your agenda anymore? I don't meet your selfish needs?
Bye then. 👋🏼🖕🏽
I have also connected with my best friend (also an empath) on another level as we're raising our vibrations together. (Not phisically together, unfortunately.)
I hear you! Remember everyone awakens st their time. 🙏❤we have to be gentle and loving with our boundries❤
Thanks for the replies. I've just seen them 🙂
Just to update, I may have lost some "friends" which would have really triggered my abandonment issues. But thanks to Aaron's videos I "let go of the outcome" and have made twice as many friends as I lost. Genuine people who like me for me and don't have a hidden agenda. (As far as I know 😅)
Gosh...if I could only have the courage to cut people who drain me off. I go the opposite way as you in terms of making better friends- I dont make ANY friends or hang out socially anymore. I cant handle it. It just hurts because I used to be such a social butterfly. Sometimes I struggle to leave the house. I even hate answering the phone- instant anxiety.
It's incredibly difficult to finally locate ourselves, but damn doesn't it feel great not to carry others negative energy and baggage any longer?
If I told you my story of liberation at the age of 38 you'd probably be saddened. As an empath I cannot help but hurt for others pain and suffering yet I still struggle to have empathy for myself. Doesn't matter though, as long as I continue standing up for myself and walk the path towards mindfulness. 🥰
@@OG_HazelGrrl Girl, this shitty pandemic has done so much mental damage to all of us that it's frightening. You deserve some mindfulness! I started falling back into my derealization safe zone when SD restrictions were lifted and I said, "Nope, I worked too hard and too damn long in therapy 4 times per wk to let this shit cripple me again"!
You can do it, I believe in you!!!!!
Wearing light colors is also good. I look great in black but since I learned how it makes you more of a sponge. I never wear black now.
I really needed to hear this right now! I work in customer service and those “Karens” of the world really frustrate and upset me. I needed to find a way to protect myself emotionally. I hate how others can influence my emotions like that. I just tried your “awareness of your own energy” trick and that helped me so much when finishing up my last ticket with a difficult customer. You have a new subscriber!
Edit: and your story was SO relatable. I knew being raised my an alcoholic and narcissistic parent really has affected me, but know the root of my issues is people pleasing and having no emotional boundaries really helps me know where to start on my mental health improvement journey.
Thank you for this revelation. Focus on your separateness. Observe thoughts. Be present within yourself. Be in your own purpose. Set boundaries. Feel safe and grounded in your own energy.
The ex stepmom was a blessing in disguise. To give you a gift to teach you how to better treat yourself when dealing with other ppl. There are MANY gifts in disguise here on this planet. When at first glance looks unfair or cruel (and sometimes they can be) but you wind up walking away truly better and stronger and equipped with tools to help you better navigate life. 😊
Too much me me me is unhealthy and too much empathy is self destructive too. You have to balance. The middle. Know when to give how much and to who. You can be helpful and giving and somewhat "selfish" in a healthy way. You CAN take care of yourself and others at the same time!. And its OK! Its a turn off to be around overly giving ppl pleasers as im always suspicious of their motive behind why they are doing it and same for me me me meeee ppl who care for no one and nothing else. Balance is key 🔑
It is not selfish to take care of oneself even if it LOOKS selfish to OTHER ppl. We cant worry about other ppls feelings like that. Thats their own responsibility. We are only responsible for ourselves and how we choose to feel think and believe. We must learn to give back to ourselves. It shouldnt be one side or the other 😊
I'm setting boundaries and I got to see that it does work and I don't have to feel guilty about because things work out for the best most times for everyone. Crazy how it works🤔
I met a narcissist through my son and that taught me all about boundaries very quickly!
Yep, things really do fall in place, and we actually don't need to stress ourselves out that much. Through boundaries we honor our intuition, what we feel, what we need. Boundaries are a must. They are about respect and self respect.
wow, i really need this right now. Thank you. I'm in therapy because I hate going to work and being around people, especially when I can't leave. I have to be able to escape, which is an added problem. I feel this is a great key to my healing. I had the exact type of mother. Yes, this is definitely a God-send for me today.
Needed to be reminded of this, thank you - still learning to navigate through today’s world as an empath. It’s been really tough, but enlightening.
This video explains perfectly why I quickly say “THANK YOU” and laugh so hard on the inside that I laugh a little bit on the outside as well, whenever a non-empath tells me I am being selfish Lolol… (pats self on back for having mastered B-b-b- Boundaries Biatch!!)
This helped me sooooo much -- but i can absorb people’s pain/emotion/sickness…. And then I have to transmute that energy. You’re so right: be in Flow rather than pushy. I love this “separation” and grounding into my own energy. Costco overwhelms me!!
Boundaries...boundaries...People always talkin bout boundaries! I thought of them as things I needed to observe. I never really fully understood that I needed to assert my own and HOW to do so effectively. For so long, and even now, I do so in a very strident and abrasive way that gets the
...that gets the wrong results...
That's reacting, rather than responding.
I absolutely love it. So so true. They say I am a cold person or I have no emotions... but it's only if I need to use it automatically
I totally got everything you said. I've tried to explain how hard it is for me to be around other people but nobody gets it.
Stop trying to explain this to ANYONE. They will make you regret it. Keep it between you and God.
I cannot even begin to express how very much I needed this right NOW. 🙏❤️ Thank you so much.
I've found out something weird, so I am an empath and I get easily distracted and nervous around other people. Last time I had meeting with my boss that I am always slightly nervous about. Before that meeting I have met the person I dislike from my highschool and we didn't talk but the meeting made me feel so defensive and different than usual. So I've discovered at meeting with my boss I felt much more confident and grounded in my body only because someone made me feel defensive and angry before. So I guess for some people it's better to get that separation from others feeling to get grounded. It's not my first time when I actually feel much better after someone annoys me, cause it makes me feel grounded and I don't try to be nice for others after that.
Social anxiety is not empathy
@@vanguardoftruth4166 Not the same, but it can go hand in hand. If you feel bombarded with all kinds of stimulation around other people it can definitely make you feel anxious. And make you not want to interact with people as much.
And Anger may strengthen your aura
To be angry is more benificial than to be scared
In your anger, you took back some of your power! I love it. Being angry ALL the time would be disempowering of course, but empaths usually need some anger to bring them back to center, to reclaim their right to be themselves and not afraid to be themselves. I love this story as I've noticed the same thing with scary parents/step-parents/bosses/controlling people in general. I would have to get a little angry in order to get the courage to be fully in my power. The more I do it though, the easier it gets over time to maintain my own energy and boundaries without always needing anger to facilitate it.