5 Physical Signs of Past Trauma That Most People Miss
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These are the 5 physical signs of unaddressed past trauma that most people miss.
Some people may not even realize that they have unresolved trauma. Whether it's due to dissociation or other avoidance strategies, trauma and trauma symptoms often go unaddressed in trauma survivors. In this video, triple board-certified psychologist Dr. Judy Ho breaks down 5 physical signs of trauma that often go unnoticed.
She breaks down....
- What a chronic feeling of fight or flight feels like and why it's a sign of unaddressed trauma
- Personal anecdotes from past patients who spotted these hidden signs of trauma and was able to overcome them
- Why chronic fatigue is a sign of unaddressed trauma
- Why chronic pain results from unaddressed trauma
- How unaddressed trauma affects children vs. adults
- How unresolved trauma affects the gut-mind connection and autoimmune responses
- Why unresolved trauma leads to migraines
About somatic experiencing therapy:
Somatic Experiencing (SE) therapy is a groundbreaking type of therapy that allows survivors to work through their trauma in a more digestible, gradual way. This body-focused therapy helps patients manage and overcome trauma through a focus on nervous system functions and physiological symptoms.
As a triple board-certified neuropsychologist, Dr. Judy Ho understands the impact of trauma on memory, and its relationship with our “fight or flight” response. In our MedCircle series, she sheds light on how somatic experiencing therapy uniquely maneuvers these functions of the human body to lead to better mental health outcomes.
Effective trauma therapy and trauma treatment looks different for everyone. This cutting-edge approach to trauma may be one you or someone you love can add to your treatment toolbox.
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Which one of these symptoms have you or someone you love experienced? How did you work through it? Let us know in the comments below - we want to hear your story.
Watch the rest of this video series on how to work through symptoms of trauma through somatic experiencing therapy HERE: bit.ly/322Qi7S
MedCircle I have I question. I have all of the symptoms that are being brought up right now. But, I don’t know where this trauma is coming from. How do I work on remembering a potential event(s) that has caused me these responses if I don’t remember?
Numbers 1- 3 are what I experience. I took a screenshot of the description of the therapy and will discuss it tomorrow with my therapist who is helping me with CPTSD. It will be my second session.
Please look into sleep disturbances due to PTSD.
*Hey I think it'd be really helpful if MedCircle did a video on rapid metabolizers that metabolize medications too quickly to gain any relief from their disorders like anxiety, depression, chronic pain, ect. I rarely find anyone talking about this! People who for one reason or another who cannot gain any relief from medication and don't get relief from most types of "normal" therapy are VERY lost and the steps they need to take are not as easy to find as most topics nowadays, what do you think?*
All of them. Most of my life.
The dog is a good model of mental health - looks totally relaxed. Probably had a good puppyhood.
He discharges his anxiety with trembling and shaking.
Animals are not that different from humans, they have simmilar anatomy.
The more likes comments have, the more likely they are wrong:en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_ad_populum
This comment was very funny to me. You seemed like a very laid back person to make that kind of comment lol
@@MrDominic600 Literarily discharges, brain sends electrical signals to muscles when you are nervous.
I can't remember a time in my life that I've not felt hyper vigilant, stressed, I have no idea what it would feel like to feel peacful
Same here. 😟
My heart goes out to you. Sending you a virtual hug. ❤️
Same
Jesus gives you peace.
@@hannahonovwakpor6316 amen
Ugh, same. 😞
Recap:
1. Chronic sense of fight or flight
2. Chronic fatigue (no matter how much you sleep) R/T constant state of fight or flight
3. Sense of chronic pain
4. GI distress/disturbance & autoimmune diseases w/unknown etiology
5. Chronic headaches
Yep, that's me.
This is all me.
MIFNP Same
Sounds like adrenal fatigue too. Typical for chronic stress reaction.
This is me....but its all a symptom of undiagnosed autism (diagnosed at 32) and childhood sexual abuse and neglect. Fun times! I have a great therapist and a good psych cocktail, but i still keep my shoulders up next to my ears.
I have all of these too.
I do want to add that when dealing with stress (I have CPTSD) and going through all of these natural responses, like crying, shaking etc, I get really disturbed reactions from people who witness that. I get labeled "crazy", people act as if I'm a mean person, people refuse to talk to me anymore, or start telling nasty stories about me. In my opinion it's society who doesn't allow people to deal with stress, or have these natural responses. Showing emotions is acted upon as if it were a crime. That doesn't make it easier for those dealing with trauma.
DOES"TAROT"HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT?🤔
Pegasusy's Tarot Club I too have CPTSD. non-combat my aces score is 10 (of course it is) and I just look through bystanders in the event of my sub-conscious launching into a mechanical self defense episode. I’m probably twice as dangerous as society at large estimates. I don’t care. I get treatment weekly. Full hour of trauma therapy every single week.
:Further : I’m a PA CPS (Pennsylvania Certified Peer Specialist). QPR Suicide Prevention Counselor and a Wellness Coach. These credentials I acquired to learn about myself. I’m not finished by the way, All my life people would say variations of this: what’s wrong with you? You’re off the chain
There’s no need to talk about or re live events to release the emotions associated. I’m ex military and had the same experiences so was determined to find better ways. Things are evolving in practical psychology where we we can do in hours what traditional therapists can’t seem to do in years. I’ll show you a video of a bunch of clients after just one session if you like, the results just don’t compare..
I totally agree. I have tried to hide these emotions for a really long time and I think that is why I'm going through the issues I am going through now. My family and friends made me feel like the way I was feeling was wrong and I should just get over it or bottle it up. It really hasn't helped but at least I realize it now and I'm working on it
Unique Phoenix 8633 here’s some people I’ve worked with over the years and this is just to show you what’s possible after 1 session. We don’t need to talk about past traumas to release the emotions they’re creating.
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Happy to chat if you have any questions and I wish you well 😊
“If we could somehow end child abuse and neglect, the eight hundred pages of DSM (and the need for the easier explanations such as DSM-IV Made Easy: The Clinician's Guide to Diagnosis) would be shrunk to a pamphlet in two generations.”
― Dr. John Briere, World renowned mental health trauma expert
Rikko K 🙌this
SOMEHOW END IT?PUBLIC EXECUTIONS FOR ANY ADULT ABUSING ANY CHILD...PROBLEM SOLVED.
@@ericking4072 not helpful. Very often those who abuse others have been abused themselves. Basically what you say it's kill pretty much almost everyone.
No. Faith in public health allows for the truth (people unfortunately suffering in nature), whereby our disciplined nurturing instincts can resurrect the suffering self.
@@ericking4072 The death penalty has been shown in studies to not deter crimes of other kinds. So I don't believe that it would deter this type of crime either.
I want a hug from that sweet doggy.
G Fleming oh, me too!
I loved the way the dog was looking at him :D
I had to laugh when he yawned. His owner is lulling him to sleep😴
Wow i thought the same. I want to hug him is what I thought. Beautiful sweet big dog.
i'd rader go with a hug from that sweet psychologist
I just recently was diagnosed with PTSD..
1. I have always felt, "disconnected," or always waiting for something else to happen. Not being able to live in the moment type thing.
2. My stomach hurt a lot as a child and throughout my earlier years. We never knew why.
3. I had chronic headaches all throughout my life as well.
4. I sleep a lot and I always feel tired.
I didn't realize how much suppressed emotions could have in our body. I recently started reading, "The Body Keeps The Score."
Alexia Gibson it’s a great book
Ash Willis I have to take breaks in between reading it bc sometimes it’s hard but I agree. It’s a great book.
Alexia Gibson it’s such a great book and sometimes pretty intense but it’s worth it. I found it more helpful to listen to it on audible.
The Body Keeps The Score
Trauma and Recovery
Complex PTSD: From surviving to thriving.
All these books have helped me
Me too 😊!
I told the domestic violence shelter advocates that despite leaving the abuse, I feel like I’ve lived multiple lifetimes, like my body is tired down to a subatomic level. I don’t know how to live in the moment. I am constantly in flight mode. Even while I’m asleep.
my body is tired beyond this lifetime too and I'm trying to find ways to release the physical stress. yoga, especially yin yoga helps me to dissolve the tensions and sometimes i also have trouble sleeping. what helps me a great deal is doing a body scan meditation while i'm actually already in bed and tucked in. it takes your awareness through every part of your body and you consciously relax it - most of the time i even fall asleep before it even ends. you could give it a go and see if it's helpful for you too: th-cam.com/video/jmQOn1EIcH0/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=EkhartYoga ❤️
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I have said more than a few times that I am tired down to my soul. I've been through a few life times of living and dealt with a lot of emotional abuse in those lives. Sounds like what you are saying.
I can relate it sucks for sure
Try meditation.
This is incredible. i am 60 and have had nearly all these symptoms for decades. goodness this is a great resource for much younger people. this information was not available 45 years ago plus. thanks
Same here. I have gotten better with catching a blow up before it gets out of hand, but it's still work. This solution sounds promising.
Trauma-releasing exercises (David Berceli) help! DVD costs about $20. Most people can do these and generate a “trembling” response that discharges the stuck (frozen) energy.
Celestial Fortuna--I have come to see those of us like this. They are still alive, & that shows an incredible amount of strength.
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I’m only 22 and I’ve only just now started to learn about my CPTSD. It got to a point of being completely debilitating. This is the first I’m hearing of somatic experiencing therapy. It gives me hope to live and love again. I’m so grateful for people sharing information like this. It LITERALLY saves lives. Peace and love to anyone in the comments💗
haha...the adorable puppy is thinking, "those humans are so complicated!" LOL....
So true😍🐾🐶
LOL. So true. The dog is thinking "what are they talking about? I'm ready for a nap"
Looks like he have to work en something he do not relay like ...
Nope....lucky enough to not even think that!
Well it's dog it's okay!
Yes chronic fatigue for 16 years, anxiety, hyper-vigilant, mostly from a traumatic abusive childhood/mother.
did u recover?
Very true, I was in a very stressful narcassistic relationship that became very physical and emotionally abusive. I really thought I was dealing with bipolar disorder until I started to see a counselor and started finding out I was dealing with the trauma of the relationship with my ex.
Thank you for sharing. There's a significant need for education on the epidemic of intimate partner violence that should began in middle school.
Glad they're in your past. Fellow narcissistic abuse survivor here. Hugs
@@teadoss8853 Seriously, it needs taught to small children! Early Childhood Development [ECD] is critical to get right--or at least decent. If kids reach middle school, even grade school, it can be too late to get back on the right track--bad damage has been done.
We have Billions of people who are survivors of abuse, neglect, etc. bad ECD, with Trillions of dollars spent annually to try to fix the symptoms, mislabeled as stand-alone illnesses.
Treating it......good luck.......not all counselors know how, or, do not understand how useful it can be....so they might have the tools on hand, but never use them on most CPTSD clients. One nice counselor would use the tools on military vets, but not their spouses, or not their private clients.
BEWARE of "counselors" who don't really know their stuff, lack proper credentials given by higher education, have not processed their own issues, etc.
There are loads of "good-hearted" well-meaning people who claim to be counselors, but, are not...horrible damage can be caused by well-meaning but not properly educated ones, or, who have not processed their own issues---many are in religious communities.
same ! this was mindblowing; I seriously thought I had bibolar or ADHD till i saw this
A friend of mine was sexually abused when she was eight years old. I asked her whether she wanted to seek therapeutic help, but she declined and basically said, she didn't feel like she needed it. Meanwhile, she is always on high alert. She is the most easily startled person I know. It's so hard to watch her put it off, because I know one day she will realize that she actually needs help and of course on that day I will be there. But I wished she did it rather sooner than later, because I want her to live the best life possible.
Maybe send her this video it might trigger her to get help
You are a good friend!
She will process it when she's ready. I was in denial I had ptsd in my 20s, despite flashbacks, nightmares, depression, anorexia, panic attacks, self-injury, and an exaggerated startle response. More memories started to come back in my 30s, and at the age of 40 my body basically said "You must deal with this NOW." I would not have been able to handle the memories in my 20s, I wasn't ready, and I would have committed suicide. It takes as long as it takes, unfortunately.
I was sexually abused at 10 years old. I thought I was fine for many decades. But now (age 46) I felt the need to deal with it. It helped that my husband asked me what I went through. Describing it in detail really helped the tears flow. I had never really said more than, "Yeah my grandpa molested me". But a few weeks ago I got very descriptive about the disgusting look on his face as he did what he did to me. Maybe ask your friend out of genuine curiousity. Ask her to be detailed, and to tell you what she was feeling and thinking in the moment. I believe it may be helpful to get the process started.
Maybe show her these comments. I was sexually molested by my older brother, and I never got therapy until my body started shutting down and my relationships began to crash and burn. If she has any memories at all of her abuse, she should process them, as hard as it is and will be.
I personally understand how hard it will be. My processing journey had to go the way it did because I didn’t have the emotional/social/coping skills or support system to go through it earlier.
Now, therapy has taught me to be stronger with or without others. Learning to be able to rely on healthy others instead of just myself. :) I have CPTSD, btw, so understand the hyper vigilance, the easily being startled, and have nightmares and flashbacks.
Anyone who takes that courageous step to heal, it is possible. You CAN heal, and even if you’ve been through Hell, you can come out on the other side and find out how to truly begin living life.
There r more symptoms, hyper vigilance is a big one and being extra jumpy and sensitive to noises, light. OCD can flare up as well
Hyper vigilance, and exaggerated startle response ( being extra jumpy) are my worst as well, although as I have gotten older, I am having migraines too ( not headaches so much, because I can stop that with painkillers, before the headache starts, but interrupted vision and flashes of silvery light.)
Exaggerated startle response, tends to come in episodes for me, like something will trigger it, and it can take years to shake it off. At its worst, ANY slight sound or movement will cause me to put down whatever I may be holding, cower back, throw my arms over my head, and literally run away, before my consciousness kicks in, and then I will stop where I am and freeze until I know for sure of what is happening next. All of this occurs spontaneously, in less than a single second, and will occur so many times in a day, that it is almost continuous. It is at this point that I resort to medications, which help a lot, but don't stop it altogether. Outside of these episodes, I am still jumpy, but I can function.
Vanessa ou yang i am so sorry to hear about what you've been going through, ur not alone in this... i have the same symptoms and much much more. I am hopeful that all this shall pass as does everything in life. Praying u only get better and better with time... sending you lots of positive blessings and much luv 🙏🏻💕💕💕
@@daliaserhal3359 : Thank you. You are very kind, and you deserve better than to be going through as well.
Vanessa ou yang if u ever feel like u need to talk bout it wth someone who'll understand, just ping me. I'm here. Much much love 💕💕💕
@@daliaserhal3359 : Thank you. And please feel free to do the same with me if you need to. You would be a lovely person to be friends with 🤗
I’ve been in a perpetual state of fight or flight for over 25 years. I’m now 62 and just now realizing the extent of my life long traumatic experiences.
6. Frequent colds and/or infections due to body being in constant stress, and never in rest and maintenance mode. Often seriously impacts the imunesystem. Skinconditions and exemas and acne are other common manifestations of poor imune system and high inflamatory levels. That is such a common and important physiological manifestation of trauma, that I thought it deserved an inclusion in that list. (I'm not a HC pro). Thanks for yet another valuable episode! 🙏😊
Niclas Vestman-- Ever heard of LICHEN-PLANTUS? A rare skin immune system illness. Took my beautiful skin, & ravaged it. Except on my face. YEA! : )
Niclas Vestman--I would like to speak to you? What you said SO well. IS MY LIFE. Then when the doctors see the trauma I have had. They know there is some kind of connection. But, can't stop it. My dad lived to be 100 yrs. old. His mom 104 yrs. old. I KNOW IF I LIVE TO 70. It will be a miracle. My hands have had so much damage happen to them. I have to use plastic for everything. Because my thumbs won't grasp anymore, & I have broken all my nice stuff. Email: patricia.lee.wright.pw@gmail.com
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@@patriciawright8786 I have oral Lichen Planus.
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OMG 😳 This is me. Chronic migraines lasting days, autoimmune arthritis and fibromyalgia, severe anxiety ...disability wow 😬
I really like your name. I believe that's the therapy that's needed - self-soothing positive self-talk, meditation, nutritious food, developing positive relationships with good people, sufficient fresh air, decent preparation for sleep, such as a warm shower or bath, listening to music or stories on audible that are read in a soothing tone of voice.
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Just so you know, that could also be misdiagnosed Lyme disease. I have Lyme AND c-ptsd. Also, the more trauma you have the more likely you are to develop an autoimmune disease. Read "The Body Keeps the Score." Take the ACE questionnaire.
This is probably why I feel so tired all the time, sometimes I don't even have the energy to eat and move around in the first place which makes the tiredness worse. I also have already been told I probably have cptsd
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Sometimes, I'm soooo hard on myself and trained my brain to be in control all day long, having to take care of everything and everyone around me all day long, that I literally force myself to watch a sad/heart wrenching drama or show so that the tears will come out, and release all of the stress and PTSD-like symptoms. Breathing exercises, stretching, walking my dog, and eating healthy but satiating foods also help me to calm my nerves.
Kimberly Litterine That may be something you have to discover for yourself by trying out a variety of things, day by day. A good therapist has helped me a lot, too--so I don't have to "burden" my partner, bffs, or daughter with too much of my heavy stuff. In those sessions, I can let it all out without fear of judgement, or worse, being used against me later, among other things I have had to deal with when I don't choose the right person to divulge my deepest thoughts.
It makes me think of the old adage "If you're going through hell keep going."
ya. i like that 1 2.it's a gd thng 2 remember
Well no..... if you are going through hell, turn around and leave
@Louis76 basically it means if you're going through a horrible time, don't allow yourself to stay in that "space." Keep moving forward until you make it all the way through to the other side.
@Louis76 you're very welcome. There's an old country song that says, "If you're going through hell, keep on going. You might get out before the devil knows you're there."
@@penderyn8794 no keep going, you can't reverse the journey when the light is at the other end hell. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Thanks for the psychological help...
But I REALLY like that puppy. It's great how he asks for your attention and realizes he NEEDS it, and how he needs to be recognized...just like we have to do if we're going to address our "issues". We're so good at sweeping things under the rug, and dogs don't do that.
I was prepared to gag and roll my eyes thinking the "solution" would be just to pump someone's body full of drugs, however, the information provided here actually gives me a calm. Suppression of one's symptoms do nothing but prolong your suffering. I am happy with the method mentioned in the video because it addresses the problem, it does not ignore it.
Yes! Vacations always make me uneasy and it finally dawned on me why... I can't look forward to it, but dread vacations. I also used to love Christmas, but now feel anxiety-- because of the verbal and emotional abuse that always comes along with it.
Ive never felt safe during hollidays , so much put on , exagerated kindness, fake ness
The constant anxiety, chronic body aches, ulcers
Chronic fatigue - oh yes! I struggled to engage with a book about trauma for 2 years. Every time I started to read, I would get overwhelmingly tired after just a few pages. I realised that it meant it was very close to home, even though I wasn't actually triggered, it was the expectation of it happening. I had been low contact with my parents for years but after I had gone explicitly no contact by explaining that I would not engage with their inappropriate behaviours any longer, the curse was lifted and I was able to engage with the book, which is extremely validating and reflects my lived experience back to me.
I absolutley agree that being a ''wild human'' as in ''animal in the wild is HEALTHY. Stop social stigma on trembling, crying etc when humans keep healthy when expressing real time. xxx
Crohn's survivor here.....mine is also directly connected to my stress level and unresolved trauma. I don't have a lot of the other physiological connections like allergies or food intolerances, etc..... What I have a lot of, is a history of chronic and constant trauma, that was never properly treated. I will spend the rest of my life unwrapping all that I have seen and experienced; and my autoimmune responses manifest in relation to that.
I just broke down in tears at the part about being tired/sleepy or feeling unmotivated... because I’ve always been self-motivated and an outgoing fun-loving person. I’ve experienced and immense amount of emotional trauma throughout my life but working from home for 9 months and going thru having been in a relationship with a narcissist has truly taken a toll on me. This Covid needs to end so I can get out and break the mundane days. I’m using this time tho to meditate and heal.
Sending you Love.
I'm so glad you have broke that relationship.be kind to yourself and sleep as much as you need.sleep is so so healing.
Thanks for having the dog on your videos. Its nice to have calming, carefree visual when watching videos about heavy topics like this
Wow, now I know why I feel so fatigued most of the time. I can sleep for 18 hours and still feel tired. I know I have suffered a lot of trauma in my life, so the challenge now is how to resolve these traumas.
I suffer from PTSD and when I saw the puppy give the host love it made me stop crying
Going to the gym, exercise; and playing guitar, singing, etc helps to release all of my trauma, tension, etc. It doesn't and will never get rid of it. But it helps to cope with life. I don't know where I would be without either one of those.
Rewiring your neurons is the real cure
I sing too bro loud asfuk
I think it's an important point that most people who've experienced childhood abuse are not only encouraged but expected to develop our own ways of coping... This (in my opinion) is the beginning of the disassociation between what helps and what harms.
I am a SEP (somatic experiencing practitioner) in Austin Texas. This is such a gentle and useful way to resolve trauma. Our bodies always know way ahead of our heads what’s going on.
Glad for you! 💕 God forbid I would find an SEP here in South Carolina! Where are they?
@@dbirdeycapozzi9807 I've been considering a move to South Carolina! :o)
I want a special someone who looks at me the way that dog looks at Kyle. :)
go to a pet shelter plenty of animals ready and waiting for someone to return the look :-)
@@SuperKiddles I have four cats, a dog and a chicken...I was referring to a human looking at me that way.
@@nacarreira777 hmmmmm good luck with that : - )
@@SuperKiddles Believe me...I know!
@jay hahahaha...I have five children
Yes I'm always tired. I have dreams and I'm so tired when I wake up. Like uve been working all night long.
A sign of PTSD or C-PTSD. Definitely get meds and help if it affects your REM sleep.
Everything makes sense putting this to my past too bad therapists don’t put these together 🙃
They seem to always be looking for a DSM diagnosis that they have a bias towards seeing.
I actually recognise all 5 signs, and I can say they definitely relate to traumatic events, both from childhood and adult life.
Kelly the lab is a great addition to this kind of conversation about human pain, trauma and other physiological discomforts and suffering.
I was diagnosed 20 years ago with Fibromyalgia. Pain, fatigue all of the symptoms you stated have me stunned. I am a product of childhood trauma. I suffer social anxiety, from depression though it is nowhere as bad as when I was younger. The flight or fight is with me always. Oh my goodness
I’ve got all of these. PTSD right here; the Army sure can mess up your life. My sleep issues are so messed up. I’ve almost fallen asleep while driving, even short distances, many many time.
My friend couldn't handle being near insects because of his training for the army.I can handle insects better and I do not like
insects ....
The army is weird.... they take usually innocent uneducated poor children, give them fairly poor wages and make them die for schemes created by elites.... I dont want to die for a state.... I want to die helping community and family
I'm glad you didn't die while driving! You mentioned falling asleep many times. It happened to me a few times years ago. But was due to my dumb choices (thinking I could go for a 3 hour drive without sleep). I'm sorry to hear about yours being related to PTSD. It's scary when you fall asleep behind the wheel. You hear the horns of the cars around you and are thankful they woke you. But part of you is so tired that you don't actually care. You're so out of it that you're not even aware of the danger. :o
I have " fibromyalgia " and I've been looking into the connection between trauma and chronic pain and this video has helped me so much!!!! Ty
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My trauma came from being ill and growing up in Boston Children’s. I’m 26 now and I’ve had 59 surgeries. My whole life I never known what it’s like not to be in pain.
Literally have every symptom. Thankfully I'm with a Dr who's listening to me.
Emotionally abused as a child and married a narcissist who did that also. I have major depressive disorder and anxiety. I suffer from IBS and PMDD along with several kinds of different headaches. Hormones are ran sacked and I have a hard time sleeping. Some days I don’t want to do anything and by 8 pm at night I get super depressed that I wasted the whole day. I get so exhausted that I cry myself to sleep or I take it out on the hubby. He’s a amazing man! I rely on my faith, my doctor and the meds. Next month I’m having a full hysterectomy to remove the hormone issue. I pray it helps!
I hope you are doing much better now! Take care!!
I have all of these. Diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and C-PTSD recently. Been working with a therapist for over a year. Been slow progression as I dissociate a lot in session as well as in my everyday life
tamia saavedra holy shit you described me in a paragraph, also here is a link about disassociation disorders www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/dissociative-disorders/what-are-dissociative-disorders If you need help navigating the page let me know, it confused me at first.
Thanks . I've been in Therepy off and on for years . Never did any good . I am now 64 years old and realizing ONLY RECENTLY I have had a lot of crap that was never addressed . I told my worker the other day out of sheer agsaserbation ( can't spell either ) that I need to talk about a " few things " , I'm pissed off . Been through a lot and it was never addressed . So , thanks . Realized this a few weeks ago and you validated it !
Yes I many people our age me being 70 year old are realizing things about our illness and brain problems and reasons the very same way as you. ,pray for your well being x
been suffering since 2010. First they diagnosed Addisons disease. Now, coming up a year ago they changed their minds to Fybromyalgia which I still don't accept. I have been a pro dancer and singer most of my life, I'm now 41 and can't stoamach singing live. As a kid ive always lived off my nervous. As I've older my anxiety has gone through the roof, making me agraphobic at times. I know this is more to do with my past and there's huge chuncks of memory that have just dissappeared plus my dyslexic which really doesn't help!
I can relate
@@goddesslv1 Thanks Laura x
This is a great video! As a person I never had a stress, until one day, I really had a very bad stress lasting for four months. I could not sleep, then the physical symptoms started appearing (cannot sleep, etc). I started having autoimmune problems. I learned a lot from TH-cam, then I control what I eat, practice breathing, stress management, etc. It has been a year now, but I still have a small numbers of symptoms. But it is much better.
I’ve never heard of this before but it makes perfect sense. I wish more mental health providers would look for trauma before diagnosing and prescribing meds. I tried to bring up childhood experiences with several different providers but they were all more interested in current “symptoms” and what pill to try next. I wish I could explore that unresolved trauma but I can’t even pretend to know where to start. I think it would be tremendously healing.
-Write a timeline of your trauma
-Keep it chronological
-Add to it as you remember
-Decide when and where you're going to blast through it
For example, I've told my husband most of my memories. But I haven't let all my feelings out out of fear of embarrassment or appearing over dramatic. I can't afford to visit a therapist (no insurance).
But I don't want to feel like I'm talking to myself in a room alone. So I decided to record myself with my phone. I'm going to look at the camera and talk to my parents. I want them to know all of my bad memories. How they've hurt me and affected my life. I don't miss my childhood. I'm glad I'm not a helpless child anymore.
I got the idea from a video where a therapist was instructing other therapists on helping patients. She said to talk about your memories until you can express them without emotion.
Next you need to analyze any wrong thinking and beliefs you have. It's important to work to correct wrong thinking. I will enlist my husband's help with this.
Please contact me if you'd like to exchange ideas and tips.
I have all 5.... the first time I did breathwork was the most incredible experience! It felt like I was back inside my body (after) while I was having an outer body experience... (During) . It helped me to realize how much trauma was stuck in my body. ❤️
This is one of the most important or the most important top video about psychotherapy.
Doesn’t matter what we’re going through or what type of therapies we’ve try, without somatic experiencing therapy, none of them are complete.
It’s not always easy to practice it especially when we’re alone but the transformation that come after is mind blowing!
Had all of the symptoms until therapy. Thank god and those physical symptoms were top issues. The resolved the more I talked about childhood traumas.
It was explained to me that our emotions begin in our minds, and are felt in our bodies. That is why emotions are referred to as “feelings.” So, it makes sense that unresolved trauma can manifest as pain elsewhere in the body. It is also my understanding, that in acupuncture and the study of the bodies meridian points, explains where what kind of emotion is being carried by the body. For example- Grief is often carried in the lungs. (That is what an acupuncturist once told me.). The study of the meridian points would be of some help too... Thanks for the video! Have a great day☺️
With respect, acupuncture is a pseudo science. Also, yes emotions and thoughts have a physical manifestation in the body because emotions are literally physical in nature. Everything mental is physical. Biochemistry at work.
I jusst saw my Psychiatrist and he stated to me that even though I had to have great coping skills to deal with my past, I haven't completely dealt with it, the sympoms that I'm feeling is saying this
Thanks to MedCircle and the wonderful professionals featured I can finally see my way out of a cycle I never knew I was in. My appreciation is boundless.
Yes, MedCircle is the best! I find myself on their videos more than any other.
Let go let god! I’m realizing the importance of forgiveness and Giving our burdens to the most high🙏🏻
Amen
Everytime one of these videos pop up I can't help but notice how amazingly beautiful the guest speakers always are.
This happens to me too. I was diagnosed with CPTSD with depression, anxiety and dissociative tendencies. This is due to childhood trauma. I have chronic upper back pain and reoccurring BV.
This is what I was diagnosed with as well. Kinda strange how our symptoms are so similar. The dissociative parts that have been giving me the most distress lately. That damn fight or fight is always on, always. It’s exhausting. I find myself sitting completely mindless only realizing it when I come back. My partner has been asking a lot lately, Are you ok? I immediately answer yes but he can see it happen. I feel bad for him, there is nothing he can do, it just is what it is.
Sometimes I feel like no matter how much work I do, it will never go away.
I hope you'll keep at it. I've found in processing my own trauma that it gets worse before it gets better. It's always darkest before the morning light.
What worked for me was to write a timeline of events. From my very first memory of trauma (age 5) to the last time (age 45). I took my time and filled in details later as I remembered them. Everything is chronological now and I'm ready to scream and cry out my feelings. I'm going to do it as if I speaking to my parents (who have already passed on). I need to tell them how they've hurt me and affected my life.
I got the idea from a video where a therapist was instructing other therapists on how to help patients. I have no health insurance, so I'm DIY'ing this on my own. They said to talk about your memories until you can express them without emotion. Then analyze any wrong thinking and beliefs you have and work to correct that wrong thinking. I'm feeling better already, but am taking my time. Feelings often come in waves (as I'm sure you know).
Wishing you the best! Please contact me if you'd like to exchange ideas and tips on what's helping.
@@kenelskenels8573 Very true… I found that integrating it instead of trying to make it go away has been very helpful. I don’t need them to acknowledge anything anymore, I don’t want to be held in the past I have a bright future even though it feels like most my life has been in the dark. I will be 50 this week, and I refuse to give any more of my life to pain and suffering. Processing is very important and I learning to except what has happened has transformed me buy my responses. It does get dark before the dawn, and my time is now dawning :-)
Finally someone who gets it! I’m too scared to open up to my GP about these somatic symptoms, one for fear of being a complainer, two for fear that there’s no cure available through modern medicine so I’m flogging a dead worse and wasting both our time. This whole process makes me feel even more helpless and vulnerable and is triggering in and of itself.
Constant hyper vigilance in fight, flight or freeze mode ✅
Chronic fatigue tick✅
Chronic pain ✅
IBS ✅
Chronic headaches ✅
This black cloud that is always weighing heavy over me - stole the words right from my mouth!
Look forward to learning about somatic experiencing! Thanks so much x
Yes it was my first time really hearing the truth on trauma. I do have Crohns and I do remember someone telling me that I have trauma or a emotion that I never dealt with ., I have suffered such bad pain I thought I was nuts . In the last 12 years of relieve I have been learning techniques and let me tell you it really works and it’s the only way to heal our body . This was wonderful , our body’s can heal start self care and really understand that it’s ok we go through trauma. Wow life gets better 💫🙏😳thank well said 😇
I believe I grew up in a ‘fight or flight’ - modus. Heavy criticism daily by father, bullying/ teasing by sister who coped by picking on me, a mother who did not speak up once, in front of us. I shouted at my father a n7mber of times. Got signs of ptsd from an early age. I have never had proper treatment, but thinking of it, since my life is passing by sitting on the fence, wartching. I have experienced panic attacks, restlessness, inable to focus, exhaustion in periods.Claustrophobia.
Discovering a chiropractor has been so helpful ... My father damaged my back and neck in 1975 ... Plus constant stress still adds to body pain ...
Yes, yes and more yes’. I would love to find what my specific “trauma” is. Once I figured out my mother was my trigger and went no contact with her, things have gotten somewhat better but still have a way to go. Thanks for the videos. They really help.
Carol Nolen check out Jerry Wise videos also. He talks about no contact, etc. This is very helpful too.
My father is my trigger. When I stopped interacting with him, I felt like a heavy weight was lifted. It's sad though because we all want to have great relationship with our family, but it's not my reality.
I'm always tired; 'always feel like i trained hard for 2h the day before...joints pain,
but i know i had many traumas before, i was a doorman for 12 years plus i am afflicted
with the inherited spirit of rejection. I had a crazy life, now i can't get out of my home. 'seeing doc soon.
That sounds horrible, and I can completely relate - I am diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia and I had to give up most of the things I loved - like hiking, going by bike etc. I do hope that you find a good doctor and a good therapy and that you will finally feel better!
I wish you all the best. :-)
Omg. My daughter made me watch this video because she thinks i have ptsd, and now i think shes right! I think im in shock right now. Lol. Im definately going to view more of your videos because this one all by itself has explained so many things.. im actually gonna watch it again. You gave me answers to things i didnt know i still thought about. Thank you
I have bookmarked this page so I can view you other videos. I have been dealing with many traumatic experiences and depression for many years. The most traumatic time has been in the past 3 years and specifically since my adult daughter died unexpectedly in April of this year. Link that with the COVID and this past 6 months have been the hardest in my adult life. I am seeing so many people traumatized over the current state of the world at work and elsewhere. Thanks for the series!
I learned about somatic experiencing through this video! It totally makes sense that trauma is bottled up inside if the body doesn't fully process or experience the stress it's supposed to.
I'm diagnosed with C-PTSD, anxiety, and depression. I definitely related with all your points, and this video was extremely helpful for me!
Woah. I've had all 5 and now I have 3-4 because I'm slowly working out my past issues. However, it has taken over 10 years. Staying positive!
I cover my deep feelings of fight or flight, deep fear, anxiety and pain with like a passive aggressive, irritability and pushing away kind of thing. Especially with my beloved, because I really don’t feel safe. It’s like the one thing that disconnects me from spirit and everything good, whenever this trauma is triggered. Breathwork has been helping!
I have nearly all of these symptoms and have recently been diagnosed for PTSD.
Thomas Rygiel Hi I’m just curious because I am trying to figure out what is causing all of the symptoms, did you remember the Trumatic event or did it kind of have to be pulled out of you? I ask because I don’t remember but I’m pretty sure that was trauma
@@jennifermason6628 I endured a series of traumatic events. There were a couple events that happened early in my childhood that I had no recollection over, that had to be "pulled out" of me. While others were so blatantly traumatic there is no way I could forget them. So, it was a mixture of both; for me.
@@theswede4124 how are u doing now? And are those blatantly traumatic experience some what healing?
From the time period of late 2013 all the way until 2017 I had all of those signs, what I can reveal is that time period was the most difficult and highly stressful period of my life. Fight/flight responses my body had never stopped , high levels of anxiety , digestive issues started around that time, autoimmune responses and much more. During that time it started when my university mis marked my grades for an assignment , the consequences of this mistake jeopardised my place on the course and I had my student status terminated. I recall my physical response was that of a fight/flight one. The assignment was looked into , I was allowed back on the course and then two months later had an e mail terminating my status again over the same assignment. This effected my course structure , which then effects student funding/finance. The situation was looked into again and it turned out said assignment had actually had a high passing grade throughout all this time and was never entered into the system. However the damage was done and the University failed to do their part in informing student finance england, I had no funding/loan and the university refused to do anything about it. This was one of many situations at that time that led to all the signs mentioned in the video
My gosh, that's so horrible to hear about. I can't imagine living through that. How unfair. It sounds like you went through a lot.
That's terrible !! I hope there's legal recourse,and you can sue them.
When I was little, almost every night I complained that I have stomach ache. Only nowadays I realize that it might have been caused by stress because of constant fights and argues between my parents.
I broke into tears hearing all of this. I've been going back and forth to the Drs for years now trying to figure out why my body has random weird symptoms that have now become chronic and interfering.
Feels freeing in a sense to be just that much closer to figuring out my puzzle.
Now to find the help and do the work. I refuse to let my trauma affect my kids anymore than it may already have.
Thank you all for doing this whole channel. Understanding myself better helps more than anything else at the moment.
Great info! Very first time ever hearing about 'somatic experience therapy' and I plan to look into it more. Will be very hard for me to do especially when I grew up being told, "I shouldn't feel that way". I will first need to give myself permission to feel anything at all and give myself lots of grace.
I just wanted to mention for anyone wanting to avoid therapies based on Buddhism. They are:
-Somatic Therapy
-Schema Therapy
-Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
It's too bad, but a good alternative is:
Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT)
which DBT is based on, but without all the mumbo jumbo :)
This is my first time hearing about Somatic Experiences or even that trauma can be held in the body and cause pains. I was diagnosed very recently with PTSD. My mother passed away two years ago, and I have encountered many traumatic experiences in the past. As of recent, I have had chronic chest and back pains that no one can explain, I even convinced myself I was having a heart attack and took myself to urgent care to get an EKG done. My panic attacks/fight or flight responses are very frequent, and I still try to brush them off and not deal with them. Thank you so much for posting this insight on trauma, with this I will try to take better care of myself by allowing the natural bodily responses to follow through. Thank you.
Chronic fatigue has been the issue for me, now I understand where it is coming from!
Many years ago I was out with one of my friend's and a guy was chatting her up. I was chatting to his friends, they were soldiers or something military ish, one guy asked me why I keep checking all the exits all the time and that's when I realised, I'm hyperviligant.
Thank you Judy and Kyle! Amazing episode (as usual). Love the lab 😍 Kyle you are a godsend, please don’t stop. You are doing a service that helps people heal & learn to actually look forward to living. Much love. ❤️ ❤️❤️
I have all of these symptoms - diagnosed with PTSD over a year ago.
I have chronic cystitis due to pelvic floor dysfunction and have lived with the pain since childhood. Since being diagnosed at 21 (all doctors before then told me it was all in my head- no infection present means it must not exist) the quality of my life has increased immensely. When I saw a physical therapist to address the pelvic floor muscle dysfunction, they mentioned it could have been influenced by childhood abuse. My jaw dropped- all the sudden I was allowed to openly acknowledge past abuse and was able to understand my pain without blaming myself.
I can totally relate to this. I remember that I had an aversion to visiting someone in the hospital for years. It finally occurred to me that it had to do with when I was a child and my mother was very sick and in the hospital. I have all of the symptoms she mentioned. I will check out the sensory therapy.
Nothing wrong with a good cry , mum taught me that . Don't know why people get so uptight when people cry . They seem to think that they have to try to help you by making you stop . Crying is like laughing , or going to the bathroom , ,It's normal !!!!!
sometimes crying actually hurts me... its coming from a deep place , I still do it but I can feel I'm holding it in still ...
Yes! 8:30 I was one of those that didn't realize they were "not" dealing with trauma but definitely reacting with it. My Fight or Flight was FIGHT all the DAMN TIME lol and unfortunately therapy only made it worse. They obviously were not listening to what i saying. These videos have been helped me cope and learn more about myself. I'm still practicing on healing and becoming a better me! Thank you for making this accessible for those who are trying to do better!
Wow!!!! What you just now said about the fight or flight feel made me realize that it is precisely that constant feeling the biggest factor that plays into my constant procrastinating!!!!
Yes, hyperviligent and stress eating. I attending a group meeting where the councilor would talk us through "grounding" exercises
Thank you for addressing the not knowing about past trauma. And this incredible somatic therapy! Never heard of it, been working for 27 years wondering about why I don’t feel that I am where I could be. Going to the series now. Very intrigued. Thank you MedCircle! And Dr Judy Ho!
My first husband had a heart attack while I was with him. Immediately I had a severe headache and my right arm was in pain from the shoulder to the fingers. The pin lasted for about 3 months.
I'm going to add chronical gastric and/or intestinal disturbances, and recurring insomnia and nightmares. CPTSD can go on for half of your life until you start connecting the dots. Best wishes to everyone.❤
These videos are incredibly helpful. The first few times my body would start shaking prior to falling asleep, I really started to think I was just permanently broken. But now it’s like “you do you boo” and it doesn’t bother me. everyday the severity of my somatic experiences lessen. Thanks!
This was amazing. I'm a Life Coach and have been in such a "freeze" mode that it's affecting how I show up (or don't) significantly in my work and with my family. I’ve been to therapy in the past, but I am just now learning about my unprocessed trauma in my body and how it could be a cause/reason. I'm going to learn as much as I can for myself and then bring this to my clients. Thank you for your work here, for sharing and for teaching us. I'm about to dive into the resources 😉
Wow, I quickly said yes to 1 out of 4. My history of having to take pain (physical and emotional), but not allowed to say ANYTHING has played some part in my chronic pain today. I hope this new technique can be used to help many. It would be great if it can start with the military coming off of violent deployments. Thank you for the info!
Adding...I take motrin for headaches and back pain a lot. But I'm not on migraine medicine. Perhaps I should actually answer 1-5.
Honestly it keeps popping up randomly in videos I watch and I think after I learn to do it for myself I’d like to learn how to help other people do it too. This is remarkable and so valuable. Thank you both so much. Your doing gods work 🙏❣️
The somatic part completely made perfect snse to me .. .. Im living thru an extremely traumatizing experience and when she was talking about ways to cope, the first thing that came to mymind," was a hot bath"
And how soothing and relaxing that space is, also i love quiet little areas... No people, just a quiet sunny nook i can hide in. Tolet y brain heal from this twwo years od fight or flignt mode ive been in....
Im soo hooked, and cant wait to practice and learn more
Now I want to do SE so bad. I’ve done EMDR. It’s helpful, but I think I need more and I don’t have the energy to relive those traumatic events through EMDR again.
Don't want EMDR anymore either. It takes too much out of me; I don't want to talk about it anymore either... I just can't keep relieving hell over and over again.
I just have to make myself stop thinking about crap; then change my focus. Do my best to move forward.
If you have someone who specializes in EMDR they should have enough techniques in their tool belt so that you aren’t having to revisit the trauma again and again. Rather it can be done in flashes/snapshots. My therapist used at least three different techniques including tapping to see which was the least stressful for me as well as the quickest. Don’t give up, you deserve to heal and find peace in your life! All the best! 🙏✨
All of these. Lately I’ve had increased fatigue and also a feeling I should go back to therapy because something is new. Also.. I had this chronic dream as a young adult where I was on my back on a platform with my hair hanging over the edge. I’m terrified Ann old witch is coming to chop off my hair! My mom washed my hair as a child by having me lay on the counter, hair in the sink. It terrified me. Once I connected the two, the nightmare stopped.
You're the only person that mentioned dreams in the comments. It's interesting to hear about. I imagine there's other people who have experienced chronic dreams also. I usually dream that there's two of my parent, the good one and the evil one. The evil one is usually out to get me in the dream and I wake up scared to death. I'm in my 40's and this has been happening on and off since my childhood.
@@kenelskenels8573 hi. Yes, I firmly believe the subconscious sends messages to help us through life and to remind us of what we have survived. I was born to two people who were not fit to raise a girl- a pedophile and his selfish , childish wife. I got your dream about an evil person! That’s how father appears. He wants to kill me. And mother is the Queen martyr on her thrown. They have no clue what they did to my psyche and my ability to function in a healthy relationship- with anyone. I’m retired on SSDI with CPTSD. I try to stay active physically and with the grandkids. 2020 , January, I became Vegan. I want a kinder world. I’m sorry that you deal with trauma, probably every day.
@@sharimccann2522 Thanks for the kind words. YES, every day. I deal with past trauma for at least some portion of my day... every day. You also? Very happy for you that you can somehow function. Hearing that you're retired, you must look back over your life and all the years. What a joy it must be to have your grandkids to enjoy. You mentioned wanting a kinder world... and I imagine your desire must be SO much more because of them! Wanting it to be a good world for your grandkids.
My son became vegan 4 years ago and I realize there's so many foods available that I have no reason not to myself. Some of them are so delicious I would buy it even if I wasn't vegan. I'm slowly getting there. Definitely a healthy way to go.
I'm sorry to hear about the CPTSD. That has to be so rough. You described your mom similar to mine "the Queen Martyr on her throne" lol. It's nice to relate knowing I wasn't the only one. LOTS of resentment and anger. She could do no wrong, and I could do no right. It was such a surface relationship. I hope you found closeness and love in your life? My husband is the greatest! I'm sooo lucky. He helps me a lot. Hoping you have someone who understands and listens too.
At what age did you connect the word pedophile to your dad? I was molested by my grandfather when I was 10. I never really thought of it until recently (I'm 46) that he was a pedophile. He messed with other young girls also. Are your parents still alive?
@@kenelskenels8573 hi! Thank you for the nice note! First thought- our mothers must be similar. I lived a life that now haunts me. I didn’t realize just how much damage they did until the past five or so years. Primarily because I kept trying to have a “normal” relationship with sick people. My father was and is a man-child. He’d pick fights with me-10 years old until I left. Just to cause drama, make mother upset with me- because it was always my fault. I was a child. She’d play peace maker and then attempt to make me feel bad that she had to. There was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I helped at home, was an A student, the whole 9 yards. To this day I don’t know why he hated me so much. We are estranged. I will never go back to “his” house again. He makes sure people know this is his house- his rules. My brothers were spared the abuse but our lives were all negatively affected. Father recently molested my sickly niece. She loved them so much, but he’s a predator and mother the martyr. It was during a visit with them. She’ll never go back. She frail and weak from crones disease. She has a wonderful husband who takes good care of her. He was livid- wanted to call the police but she wouldn’t let him. He’s 86. What all has he done? He should be in prison . I knew immediately when he started touching and attempting to kiss me he was a monster. He’d follow me around the house- always had to know where I was. That behavior I found particularly disturbing. He’d look at me in the tub snd shower. I was not safe anywhere in that house. I fought him; eventually told mother. She stayed with him, choosing him over me. She never offered any comfort, never “mothered “ me. Yes, they still are alive, regrettably. Because I’m still put in situations where they are there. But I do my best to avoid them. I know there is an entire psychological profile for each of them and at times can distance myself enough to find answers I need. The “whys.” I do have three amazing grown children who know everything and support me. I had to warn my girls. And 7 grandchildren who often keep me hanging in there for just one more day. Married 4 times,,,,I could truly write a semi- autobiography! But I can’t trust men any longer. I’ve made peace with living alone- with my cats! Every crazy lady has cats😁. I’m so happy for you that you have a loving, supportive husband. He must be a wonderful human being. One other thing,,,, I became an advocate for children; helping to insure their safety from predators. I taught week long sessions on personal body safety to elementary kids for a while. And I’m that woman who says “your child is tired, not naughty. Go home.” I will always be that woman- protecting children and animals. I could go on and on! 63 trips around the sun- 45 of them fighting back. Fighting for myself. Because I’m worth fighting for. Much love snd peace of mind to you! Shari
Amazing! I have been working with clients on fully experiencing feelings. Being able to sit in and through emotional responses have become essential in my life and practice. I'm glad I found this channel today.
Fight or flight plus Fatigue, pain for sure & still figuring things out. So informative & thank you.
I watched twice to remind myself.