All of them. It was chilling to hear you two basically, describe my situation to me more coherently than I ever thought possible. Once we can get back under health insurance, and get our finances squared up better, I will definitely be pursuing a professional that can assist myself, my wife, and likely even my mother with this therapy as we all fit quite squarely into what you have described as "likely helpful if...". God bless!
I resonate with them all. In fact I found this today and last night in my dream I underwent the similar grooming, sexual & physical abuse and rape I suffered as a young girl. I’m glad I found this!
When she says I can't imagine walking around never believing that good things can happen to you, just kinda hit me because I've lived that way almost my entire life.
Sometimes we feel like we have a target pinned on us...we are only human and suffer more from inward thoughts I believe. Often we feel socially awkward and this can lead to making us even more introverted than we already feel. I am hoping we can feel better and not always have the same negative patterns that we often do.
There's lots of good in the world. And some of it you can create/find♡ It's a vicious cycle when you believe only bad will happen, often people won't try or will have very pessimistic views on life and people. Hope is an energy! It changes things
"People who have been through trauma are more likely to be retraumatized" - that is soo true! I have seen that in my life and in the life of others. And now I finally know why: Because you are so used to suppress all negative feelings - you had to to survive e.g. your abusive childhood - so that you then can´t feel warning emotions referring to e.g. a partner either. And so the hell you are going through never seems to end .....
Truth Seeker there is also other elements to that as well. We have had unhealthy examples of behaviour that our brain will seek out because it seeks the familiar so that it can predict outcomes and use your coping mechanisms to survive. The other side of that is we often haven’t learnt boundaries because in abusive relationships they deliberately remove any boundaries we have and any notion of individual sovereignty in order to continue the abuse. We need to learn these skills and prove to our brain we can be in better relationships safely 😊
"Never feel like you're enough ornever feeling safe or never believing in humanity" My girlfriend literally just said that's how she feels and it's not the first time.
Being numb emotionally after trauma.... its functional managment of the huge loads of negative emotions. Society does not allow emotions at work, at the store, even many families do not allow emotions. Oh, and even in relationships, where emotions are allowed, when there are a lot of them (I mean too too many emotions) no relatively normal person in normal life can manage that many emotions from their loved one. One of the therapists Ive been to - went to her for a year before she retired.... she said to me, that once I begin processing my emotions from my bad and traumatic childhood and from the toxicity in my family of origin, i will never stop crying. And this has proved to be so true - I tear up frequently (outside work) and sometimes even sob for a few minutes and then feel better. The majority of relatively normal people never get it and dont have the time to listen to all of it, so we are destined to go to therapy because that is the only place that we can really share our story in full. And sharing is 50% of the healing process.
I'm struggling. I've been doing Trauma based CBT for years, and mentally I'm Healthier than ever before! However since starting, my physical state of FFF is so bad that I'm in chronic 9/10 pain of every moment of every day and don't want to keep living if the pain won't go away.
@@alexandrugheorghe5610Yes! This is the only thing that has finally started to heal my CPTSD. My nervous system is so much better! Long way to go, but it’s working!
Where is the help for ppl who are this wonderful woman ! All the help no matter how more I open up not one talks like they have a clue what to do with you. I love this woman.
For people with dissociative disorders due to trauma, it has to be adapted to be tolerated and not create more harm. Finding a provider that has this skill set is a challenge.
Attempting to complete CBT homework resulted in an involuntary psychiatric ward admission in my 40s - in hindsight, partially due to distress of being unable to recall happy childhood My abuse began prior to third birthday I have since refused to contemplate undertaking CBT sessions or group work; now labelled as "unco-operative"
Please keep Prayers for me🙏 I love listen Dr.Judy Ho talking, I gifts her subscribe thumbs Up 👍 So i can’t not say the word in public. When i felt down i keep pray it’s help me keep holding on in this life
I’ve spent all my money, I’ve tried so many meds and I’m so tired of this depression and I’m constantly thinking of suicide. I lost my mother and brother to suicide. I’m so tired
SteveO I just wanted to say that I heard you. I’m not sure what else would be helpful but I am so sorry you lost your family that way. My mum was suicidal when I was growing up so I have a small idea, but not the same I am sure. I hope you have someone to talk to, hotlines are really helpful if you need them. I try and call when I notice my distress increasing and really pay attention to how they respond to what my life is like. Often they are so kind, when they hear the weight of the pain and tell me I’m doing my best to cope it reminds me not to beat myself up and gives me a different perspective to think about. Often than helps me not escalate. There is an addictive calm that comes when you accept those thoughts and then I know I’m in most danger. Getting in a call before that comes often gives me a mini calm that is enough to shake me out of my thoughts just long enough to let them pass. meds didn’t work for me either, they made me worse but I have gotten better regardless so I know it is possible. Hopefully that helps in some way.
There is a heated debate over what personal liberty means? It is your body. Our world is upside I understand those feelings greatly. I'm sorry for the pain you have gone through. Here's a couple of playlists if you want to explore I put together trying to work through all this, drugs didn't help me at all. Diminished capacity to more thoughts of hopelessness. You can't get unraped or unabused. Won't magically bring back your loved ones. th-cam.com/play/PL7gVhPMGKsTYXX7laqXSdYWLixc8aLjqz.html And this one th-cam.com/play/PL7gVhPMGKsTZT84xWV-CvbU7TX94q3WA6.html Hard to believe words on a screen when someone says you matter or are loved. They want to mean it yet, our society sometimes doesn't send that message life is precious. I found the video on Spirit Sickness and the Wounded Healer in the playlist helpful. Just a fact our bodies will not last forever. Want to thrive while here not just survive. The decision is in your hands in reality. It hurts to watch a loved one waste away from cancer. It hurts to be outpriced from life or just feeling alone. I'll never understand the depths of what you are going through it's your journey if I could take that pain away I would in a heartbeat. We can not bring back the ones we love we can think about our own journey. What you want to offer the world or not? It's a journey only you can walk. Hope you find that peace however it may come to you. Our culture shames facing our mortality as something to be avoided, do not talk about death! It happens to all of us. Everyone. It's unhealthy not to face it. I feel that has been part of the issue. US sees death as a failure in life. It's biology. It's reality. You get to explore something that your relatives didn't those playlists are a helpful guide. A blog of your own is a good way to get it out. There is therapy in it your give yourself sharing how life looks through your eyes. Your perspective if it helps even just 1 person it becomes a worthwhile endeavor. You decision tho.
Here- photos.app.goo.gl/UWY8w4dMwfFg2e6o8 And photos.app.goo.gl/yYxgDs5QRvDBCFVx9 I stayed silent about what was going on. What happened the trauma it takes time to find your voice again to develop it. Your version of therapy may not look the same as mine or anyone elses. But, you have one. Preferably not becoming Dexter or a serial killer in general. CEOs and politicians have the market cornered as well as bankers to the Stockmarket currently. We have enough dishonest people unable to properly Express themselves in a healthy manner. You did. By even just writing a comment. Your way of reaching out. Others responded.🖤🌻 It's ultimately your call. No one elses. That in itself is powerful.
Wow. Dr Judy absolutely nailed it, especially at the end with how she summed up the importance and benefits of dealing with trauma. Thx to both for this content!
I wonder if this is why so many are focusing on decluttering their home right now? Are they clearing away the results of trying to cope with their trauma - hoarding?
Med Circle is my favorite go to place for when I want to learn about complex issues, I was wondering, has Med Circle looked at the difference between complex ptsd vs. ptsd?
They did one on BPD vs. PTSD. There is some debate all PTSD is pretty complex we all process trauma differently no one set box. Learned how messed up the psychiatric community really is first hand. Ex's Mom was a psychiatrist was the head of the psychiatric association of Louisiana. The community is a mess. They aren't very well trained on Narcissistic abuse which I've noticed ends up at the root of most of our issues. Here's a playlist & link to the video on PTSD vs. BPD th-cam.com/video/87UhgkE4-qU/w-d-xo.html And the other playlist th-cam.com/play/PL7gVhPMGKsTYXX7laqXSdYWLixc8aLjqz.html Best wishes on your journey.
@@ZestyAqua awesome reply. I curious to know what you mean by the Psychiatric Association being a mess? As in no one agrees on anything really? Or just big egos and idea tribalism? Or just very disorganised? Cheers
If you are going to try CBT then please insist your therapist works on stabilisation and safety first. You need new skills ready for when flashback and triggers come up. Also I wanted to share that I am a very practical and driven person and was ready to deal with my past but CBT did not work for me because of dissociation. I could not remember what triggered me or why, because my brain shut down quickly and I would have amnesia or I would switch personalities. I felt hopeless until my counsellor worked out I was dissociating and we changed approach. I would recommend the presentation on this years Survivorship conference about the mistakes trauma therapists make if you are struggling in therapy. It might not be you, and it gives you some idea how to communicate what isn’t working. Personally I don’t get why CBT is used for trauma, trauma is not logical, you can’t make sense of why people do evil things so I haven’t personally gone back to it but if it works for you that is awesome.
I can't imagine this CBT would really help heal trauma, since it is not in the prefrontal cortex or lingiúistically addressable, even if a lot of good happens with re-finding regular , early habits. Freeing the nervoussystem. Freeing the Kidney system, Liver and Gallbladder.
I agree, this is what I'm experiencing now, Ive been in cbt for 3 months and although it's helped with my day to day coping and healthier habits and perspective, it's just the surface. I still have so much tension and hyper vigilance and intrusive thoughts/images in my mind daily. Things that are deeper to heal than gratitude practices and breathwork can fix. I'm trying to do research to understand what might be better for me
@@jessmercedes2669 Learning to Be one's own best therapist almost seems to be all that I can do. How can trauma-competent health-carers deny me the treatment? the terrible truth might be, they don't really care and want simple and easy patients.
@Claudia - have you looked into the polyvagal theory? I am currently working with a therapist that uses that theory in her practice. I’m looking for a different therapist just because she is out of network - but seriously it’s helping me do some amazing work. I was referred to this video by a therapist I am considering switching to because he is in network. I’m not sure yet if it’s for me.
It's because growing numb and being in a denial state is part of it. You are in the stages of grief. Yes, trauma that doesn't involve death still involves grief. Mini death in you in a way. I denied being raped. The trauma wrote it off. Didn't change what happened all hits later. Realizing this PTSD exists is a good start to healing. Little Shaman, Dr. Ramini to Inner Integration are great TH-camrs and resources. I made the mistake of going to psychiatrists. Don't unless you want to be drugged into oblivion. With very nasty side effects with zero actual guidance or coping skills. Be mindful where the trauma came from? Write about it, privately to yourself that helps. Understanding what caused it. That helped me. Might help you. Recovery is a hard road. Your brain blocks trauma so it can protect you. Sadly, it manifests in other toxic ways. Wish I had found this over 15 yrs ago. All the data on TH-cam and elsewhere because years of my life was just lost. Wasted away throwing money at lousy care. Sending you ♡.
@@ZestyAqua I'm really sorry to hear you had such a difficult experience trying to find the right care and I'm happy you're on a better path now after suffering something truly awful. It's very hard to find someone who understands some of these more complex patterns. Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it and it gives me insight into some of the struggles and patterns that have numbed me and stunted my life. It is my prayer that you keep growing in strength and resolve, finding lasting peace and happiness as you navigate life. 🙏🏾
@@YananoBere Thank you for your kind words. photos.app.goo.gl/yYxgDs5QRvDBCFVx9 photos.app.goo.gl/f1cwErUWhbka2S6K8 I'm forming a transparent non corrupt marketplace. Something healthier so we can get support as we should. Net-works. I'm sorry for whatever brought you to here and reading my words, you are not alone. I've discovered how often females are devalued especially when vulnerable very wealthy individuals take advantage of that. Because they can. In this journey things went down a very unexpected path. I've learned more at malignant narcissists (cancers on society) to cultural narcissists. In this process it suddenly made sense. All of these abusers are enabled to continue. Love thistlefarms.org we need more of that. Once I started writing I realized how much I kept quiet. Who would listen? Well, I am listening and I do care. However you go about your journey please, tell your story in your own words as you find your voice again. Listen to yourself you don't have to share until you are ready. It does help. It will hurt worse before it gets better. Many end up cycling through psychiatrists and pills. I did that lost chunks of my life. My ex's Mom is a psychiatrist she was the head of the psychiatric association of Louisiana and was no help. I had no idea what grooming was to sex trafficking. I was not aware how bad modern slavery has gotten. All of it we consumers have power. We hold that power. Whatever your story is mine ended up with something I can believe in. Myself.❤❣ I hope you forgive yourself not the abuser or whatever happened. I was numb for a very longtime gaslighting myself. I'm here for you if you just want to even randomly comment. As you find your voice again know someone cares. Truly. I get it feeling isolated and alone. Think Elizabeth Cady Stanton in "The Solitude of Self" sums up struggles nicely. We have to be our own best friends. Our souls hold value as the body fades. Body is temporary the energy goes on. Was close to atheist before I broke down and prayed.🙏 definitely got an answer back. Thought "Great, now I'm delusional." The pieces suddenly fit. Found my purpose it made way more sense then peace. That peace I hope for you as well. Thank you for reaching out.
Using the term, Evidence Based Treatment, as if that proves it's a bona fide best option doesn't instill much confidence in me. It feels too much like, if you have to tell me how good you are...
I would love to learn more about EMD ER because eventually down the road I will be going through that because of my diagnosis which are now five of them
Hi! MedC, can you give some information and perspective on Ipseity Disturbance/Self-disorder? I think I have it but I don't show any symptoms of schizophrenia like hallucinations etc. I'm just not able to understand the hell is wrong with me or if anything is wrong in the first place. Hope you see this
I've been thru everything she described. Absolutely know I need therapy however, no funds. It's been a disaster all the way around. After rape as well as physical to verbal abuse and emotional to watching my Dad die of cancer. Illness. All of it. It's fucking exhausting. Don't really drink hate the feeling. Don't use drugs. Tried various prescriptions plus therapy ended up losing jobs on short term disability. So, if she has the answer I'm all for it because I'm ready for euthanasia.
I guess no one read the part where your ready for euthanasia..where do you live? You can get state run therapy from your health provider if you get free health care. How old are you? You sounds like your too young to be thinking in this fashion..i want you to tell me your problem specifically so I can help you...
@@ZestyAqua Yes I get all that..for sure..i have been there. Life can be so cruel and some people can make it much worst..but some people can also make it better..sending you much love and positive vibes.
@@ZestyAqua Yes maybe they should have euthanasia..but that's a Pandora's box for case's that are entirely suicide based..you know what I'm saying. If you think abortion and the death penalty are hot button issues..open up that can of worms. I feel like giving up sometimes too.. but the hope of a new tomorrow is as sappy as it sounds a driving force, right. Who knows how your going to impact someone for the better..and yes it's a uphill climb most of the time and who knows if the view is worth it..but if you don't climb you won't every know for sure.. kinda like playing the lottery..and anyway when we're dead that's it, game over..so we might as well live our lives as best we can, while we still have it..theres probably a badge for that in the end..so much love to you..
@@佩里-f1m Belgium has a pretty good program and you are correct. Death happens no matter what. Ask A Mortician a TH-cam channel has good insight. th-cam.com/video/yH_sfcZQO9c/w-d-xo.html One of her interviews. th-cam.com/video/GeoytABadXw/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/pWo2-LHwGMM/w-d-xo.html We aren't guaranteed time here. We will go thru death as will everyone or being we have ever known that's just reality even if it's uncomfortable. And how old are you? We didn't ask to be born, at least I didn't anymore that you ask to be abused or rape. What grows in my body is my choice. The hot button issue on abortion my body, my choice. Reminds me of the Dr. Hicks case where he sold babies from the 50s to 60s they went to have abortions after rape, incest and overall being used for affairs then discarded. They wanted an abortion he sold the children, which is a crime or moral dilemma? He induced labor then sold the baby. $1000. It was that or live with an illegitimate child. Who broke the law? I recall laws backing lynching to slavery. I was a man's property, legal for a number of very long centuries based on my gender. Bottomline it's our bodies. If someone doesn't wish to be alive that should have a humane way to end it. Especially given how expensive our medical system is in the U.S.
Wish there was trauma therapy where I live. All the so called therapist I have seen tell me I just have to learn to live with my PTSD. I can’t live like this anymore. I want to get better. I need help
Well your therapist isnt wrong. All therapy is just a long winded way of telling you to just suck it up and soldier on using mental tricks and meds. Im not against it, but it is what it is.
There's no cure. they just help give u healthy coping skills to help live with/process your trauma and help u manage your emotions. They do try to help make your symptoms less severe or help make them happen less often.
CBT works on the cognitive brain, trauma affects the subconscious brain, so how can CBT help, I've tried and know several others who ha e all found it's no help at all.
IM TRYING TO GET ON UR CBT SERIES & SOMETHING🌈🌟🙏 IS BLOCKING IT !💜🙉💜🙉💜🙉💜🙉💜🙉💜🙉💜🙉 I ALSO TRIED UR LINK FOR SUPPORT & THERE ALSO, DID NOTHING, DIDN'T TAKE ME THERE!
I wish that they hadn’t put that time scale on it. I have been in therapy 7 years and I’m just coming into phase 3 if that helps. But I also know people with my diagnosis who are in phase 1 30 years on. Personally I think I’ve progressed pretty quickly.
Well you're way ahead of me. Lol. Ahead of a lot of people who are too terrified to crack all that open for fear they'll drown in it. You really should be quite proud of yourself. Nine months is nothing to scoff at. Good job.
Typical CBT therapist half listening for 10 minutes or less and then goes on a mission to "fix it" reframing: "here's what's wrong with you, blablabla" now do "blablabla" it's repugnant and disconnected from reality. You can almost see it in the therapist body language, watch how she moves with an easy big mac solution for everything. Disgusting!
Why does she have to put so much focus on her outer appearance, clothes, make-up, high-heels a s o? It does not increase my trust in the content she delivers, that she sends all these look-at-sexy-me-signals out to the public, although she probably is very competent.
Maybe that's just her personality? Some women are just into looking good. Plus she is pretty before all the added stuff at least. Yes though she doesn't look like an 80s shrink all professional in a suite coat. I don't mind it maybe it's her bubbly personality.
Sometimes wearing your best clothes make you feel more confident and put together. It's a kind of self-care and expression of individuality too. A lot of people dress up for themselves and not for others.
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All of them.
It was chilling to hear you two basically, describe my situation to me more coherently than I ever thought possible.
Once we can get back under health insurance, and get our finances squared up better, I will definitely be pursuing a professional that can assist myself, my wife, and likely even my mother with this therapy as we all fit quite squarely into what you have described as "likely helpful if...".
God bless!
I resonate with them all. In fact I found this today and last night in my dream I underwent the similar grooming, sexual & physical abuse and rape I suffered as a young girl. I’m glad I found this!
It's confidential 😉
All of them. Now I know what kind of therapist I need to seek out. Thank you for this video. So much.
I realize it is quite off topic but does anyone know of a good place to watch new tv shows online ?
When she says I can't imagine walking around never believing that good things can happen to you, just kinda hit me because I've lived that way almost my entire life.
Sometimes we feel like we have a target pinned on us...we are only human and suffer more from inward thoughts I believe. Often we feel socially awkward and this can lead to making us even more introverted than we already feel. I am hoping we can feel better and not always have the same negative patterns that we often do.
There's lots of good in the world. And some of it you can create/find♡ It's a vicious cycle when you believe only bad will happen, often people won't try or will have very pessimistic views on life and people. Hope is an energy! It changes things
"People who have been through trauma are more likely to be retraumatized" - that is soo true! I have seen that in my life and in the life of others.
And now I finally know why: Because you are so used to suppress all negative feelings - you had to to survive e.g. your abusive childhood - so that you then can´t feel warning emotions referring to e.g. a partner either. And so the hell you are going through never seems to end .....
Truth Seeker there is also other elements to that as well. We have had unhealthy examples of behaviour that our brain will seek out because it seeks the familiar so that it can predict outcomes and use your coping mechanisms to survive. The other side of that is we often haven’t learnt boundaries because in abusive relationships they deliberately remove any boundaries we have and any notion of individual sovereignty in order to continue the abuse. We need to learn these skills and prove to our brain we can be in better relationships safely 😊
Thats why i cant stand the whole "face your fears/get out of your comfort zone" push that can easily erase years of progress in an instant
"Never feel like you're enough ornever feeling safe or never believing in humanity"
My girlfriend literally just said that's how she feels and it's not the first time.
Being numb emotionally after trauma.... its functional managment of the huge loads of negative emotions. Society does not allow emotions at work, at the store, even many families do not allow emotions. Oh, and even in relationships, where emotions are allowed, when there are a lot of them (I mean too too many emotions) no relatively normal person in normal life can manage that many emotions from their loved one. One of the therapists Ive been to - went to her for a year before she retired.... she said to me, that once I begin processing my emotions from my bad and traumatic childhood and from the toxicity in my family of origin, i will never stop crying. And this has proved to be so true - I tear up frequently (outside work) and sometimes even sob for a few minutes and then feel better. The majority of relatively normal people never get it and dont have the time to listen to all of it, so we are destined to go to therapy because that is the only place that we can really share our story in full. And sharing is 50% of the healing process.
Dr. Judy so eloquently and her presentation is so on point
Such a great topic. My dog had died and I still in so much pain.🙊 Thank u for video.
Sorry Emily...when you lose someone so loyal it is only natural to feel pain. Hang in there.
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I am so very sorry for you loss...i hope you can find peace ..many prayers
I'm really sorry. It must be so hard. You're not alone.
@@NonyaSmith Thank you 🌷
I'm struggling. I've been doing Trauma based CBT for years, and mentally I'm Healthier than ever before! However since starting, my physical state of FFF is so bad that I'm in chronic 9/10 pain of every moment of every day and don't want to keep living if the pain won't go away.
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@@alexandrugheorghe5610Yes! This is the only thing that has finally started to heal my CPTSD. My nervous system is so much better! Long way to go, but it’s working!
Where is the help for ppl who are this wonderful woman ! All the help no matter how more I open up not one talks like they have a clue what to do with you. I love this woman.
Can you guys please do a series on EMDR, if you haven’t already!
For people with dissociative disorders due to trauma, it has to be adapted to be tolerated and not create more harm. Finding a provider that has this skill set is a challenge.
Cathy that’s true, my therapist explained that to me but luckily I don’t have a dissociative disorder so I’m hoping it will be helpful for me
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Attempting to complete CBT homework resulted in an involuntary psychiatric ward admission in my 40s - in hindsight, partially due to distress of being unable to recall happy childhood
My abuse began prior to third birthday
I have since refused to contemplate undertaking CBT sessions or group work; now labelled as "unco-operative"
Please keep Prayers for me🙏
I love listen Dr.Judy Ho talking, I gifts her subscribe thumbs Up 👍
So i can’t not say the word in public. When i felt down i keep pray it’s help me keep holding on in this life
I’ve spent all my money, I’ve tried so many meds and I’m so tired of this depression and I’m constantly thinking of suicide. I lost my mother and brother to suicide. I’m so tired
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Please don’t give up. You matter and you can get well and feel better. Never doubt that.
SteveO I just wanted to say that I heard you. I’m not sure what else would be helpful but I am so sorry you lost your family that way. My mum was suicidal when I was growing up so I have a small idea, but not the same I am sure. I hope you have someone to talk to, hotlines are really helpful if you need them. I try and call when I notice my distress increasing and really pay attention to how they respond to what my life is like. Often they are so kind, when they hear the weight of the pain and tell me I’m doing my best to cope it reminds me not to beat myself up and gives me a different perspective to think about. Often than helps me not escalate. There is an addictive calm that comes when you accept those thoughts and then I know I’m in most danger. Getting in a call before that comes often gives me a mini calm that is enough to shake me out of my thoughts just long enough to let them pass. meds didn’t work for me either, they made me worse but I have gotten better regardless so I know it is possible. Hopefully that helps in some way.
There is a heated debate over what personal liberty means? It is your body. Our world is upside I understand those feelings greatly.
I'm sorry for the pain you have gone through.
Here's a couple of playlists if you want to explore I put together trying to work through all this, drugs didn't help me at all. Diminished capacity to more thoughts of hopelessness. You can't get unraped or unabused. Won't magically bring back your loved ones.
th-cam.com/play/PL7gVhPMGKsTYXX7laqXSdYWLixc8aLjqz.html
And this one
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Hard to believe words on a screen when someone says you matter or are loved. They want to mean it yet, our society sometimes doesn't send that message life is precious.
I found the video on Spirit Sickness and the Wounded Healer in the playlist helpful.
Just a fact our bodies will not last forever. Want to thrive while here not just survive. The decision is in your hands in reality. It hurts to watch a loved one waste away from cancer. It hurts to be outpriced from life or just feeling alone. I'll never understand the depths of what you are going through it's your journey if I could take that pain away I would in a heartbeat. We can not bring back the ones we love we can think about our own journey. What you want to offer the world or not? It's a journey only you can walk. Hope you find that peace however it may come to you. Our culture shames facing our mortality as something to be avoided, do not talk about death! It happens to all of us. Everyone. It's unhealthy not to face it. I feel that has been part of the issue. US sees death as a failure in life. It's biology. It's reality. You get to explore something that your relatives didn't those playlists are a helpful guide. A blog of your own is a good way to get it out. There is therapy in it your give yourself sharing how life looks through your eyes. Your perspective if it helps even just 1 person it becomes a worthwhile endeavor. You decision tho.
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I stayed silent about what was going on. What happened the trauma it takes time to find your voice again to develop it. Your version of therapy may not look the same as mine or anyone elses. But, you have one. Preferably not becoming Dexter or a serial killer in general. CEOs and politicians have the market cornered as well as bankers to the Stockmarket currently. We have enough dishonest people unable to properly Express themselves in a healthy manner.
You did. By even just writing a comment. Your way of reaching out. Others responded.🖤🌻 It's ultimately your call. No one elses. That in itself is powerful.
Wow. Dr Judy absolutely nailed it, especially at the end with how she summed up the importance and benefits of dealing with trauma. Thx to both for this content!
I wonder if this is why so many are focusing on decluttering their home right now? Are they clearing away the results of trying to cope with their trauma - hoarding?
Love the guest appearance at the end. So cute.
Med Circle is my favorite go to place for when I want to learn about complex issues, I was wondering, has Med Circle looked at the difference between complex ptsd vs. ptsd?
They did one on BPD vs. PTSD. There is some debate all PTSD is pretty complex we all process trauma differently no one set box.
Learned how messed up the psychiatric community really is first hand. Ex's Mom was a psychiatrist was the head of the psychiatric association of Louisiana.
The community is a mess. They aren't very well trained on Narcissistic abuse which I've noticed ends up at the root of most of our issues. Here's a playlist & link to the video on PTSD vs. BPD
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And the other playlist
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Best wishes on your journey.
@@ZestyAqua awesome reply. I curious to know what you mean by the Psychiatric Association being a mess? As in no one agrees on anything really? Or just big egos and idea tribalism? Or just very disorganised? Cheers
I've been trained in tf-cbt about 5 years ago and was advised that this modality is only used for kids/youth and not adults. Has this changed?
there is some emerging research on adults. I also got trained as it only being for children/youth
Thank you Dr.Judy 💜
If you are going to try CBT then please insist your therapist works on stabilisation and safety first. You need new skills ready for when flashback and triggers come up. Also I wanted to share that I am a very practical and driven person and was ready to deal with my past but CBT did not work for me because of dissociation. I could not remember what triggered me or why, because my brain shut down quickly and I would have amnesia or I would switch personalities. I felt hopeless until my counsellor worked out I was dissociating and we changed approach. I would recommend the presentation on this years Survivorship conference about the mistakes trauma therapists make if you are struggling in therapy. It might not be you, and it gives you some idea how to communicate what isn’t working. Personally I don’t get why CBT is used for trauma, trauma is not logical, you can’t make sense of why people do evil things so I haven’t personally gone back to it but if it works for you that is awesome.
Can someone please tell me what is the difference between Trauma focused cognitive-behavioral therapy and Cognitive processing therapy?
Thank you for this information it’s very helpful! Appreciate a lot.
I just enjoy watching ur dog 🐕
I can't imagine this CBT would really help heal trauma, since it is not in the prefrontal cortex or lingiúistically addressable, even if a lot of good happens with re-finding regular , early habits. Freeing the nervoussystem. Freeing the Kidney system, Liver and Gallbladder.
I agree, this is what I'm experiencing now, Ive been in cbt for 3 months and although it's helped with my day to day coping and healthier habits and perspective, it's just the surface. I still have so much tension and hyper vigilance and intrusive thoughts/images in my mind daily. Things that are deeper to heal than gratitude practices and breathwork can fix. I'm trying to do research to understand what might be better for me
@@jessmercedes2669 Learning to Be one's own best therapist almost seems to be all that I can do. How can trauma-competent health-carers deny me the treatment? the terrible truth might be, they don't really care and want simple and easy patients.
@Claudia - have you looked into the polyvagal theory? I am currently working with a therapist that uses that theory in her practice. I’m looking for a different therapist just because she is out of network - but seriously it’s helping me do some amazing work. I was referred to this video by a therapist I am considering switching to because he is in network. I’m not sure yet if it’s for me.
I think I have acute PTSD... 👀 How am I only realising this now
It's because growing numb and being in a denial state is part of it. You are in the stages of grief. Yes, trauma that doesn't involve death still involves grief. Mini death in you in a way.
I denied being raped. The trauma wrote it off. Didn't change what happened all hits later. Realizing this PTSD exists is a good start to healing.
Little Shaman, Dr. Ramini to Inner Integration are great TH-camrs and resources.
I made the mistake of going to psychiatrists. Don't unless you want to be drugged into oblivion. With very nasty side effects with zero actual guidance or coping skills.
Be mindful where the trauma came from?
Write about it, privately to yourself that helps. Understanding what caused it. That helped me. Might help you.
Recovery is a hard road. Your brain blocks trauma so it can protect you. Sadly, it manifests in other toxic ways.
Wish I had found this over 15 yrs ago. All the data on TH-cam and elsewhere because years of my life was just lost. Wasted away throwing money at lousy care.
Sending you ♡.
@@ZestyAqua I'm really sorry to hear you had such a difficult experience trying to find the right care and I'm happy you're on a better path now after suffering something truly awful.
It's very hard to find someone who understands some of these more complex patterns. Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it and it gives me insight into some of the struggles and patterns that have numbed me and stunted my life.
It is my prayer that you keep growing in strength and resolve, finding lasting peace and happiness as you navigate life. 🙏🏾
@@YananoBere Thank you for your kind words.
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I'm forming a transparent non corrupt marketplace. Something healthier so we can get support as we should. Net-works.
I'm sorry for whatever brought you to here and reading my words, you are not alone. I've discovered how often females are devalued especially when vulnerable very wealthy individuals take advantage of that. Because they can. In this journey things went down a very unexpected path.
I've learned more at malignant narcissists (cancers on society) to cultural narcissists. In this process it suddenly made sense. All of these abusers are enabled to continue.
Love thistlefarms.org we need more of that. Once I started writing I realized how much I kept quiet. Who would listen?
Well, I am listening and I do care. However you go about your journey please, tell your story in your own words as you find your voice again. Listen to yourself you don't have to share until you are ready. It does help. It will hurt worse before it gets better. Many end up cycling through psychiatrists and pills. I did that lost chunks of my life. My ex's Mom is a psychiatrist she was the head of the psychiatric association of Louisiana and was no help.
I had no idea what grooming was to sex trafficking. I was not aware how bad modern slavery has gotten. All of it we consumers have power. We hold that power.
Whatever your story is mine ended up with something I can believe in. Myself.❤❣
I hope you forgive yourself not the abuser or whatever happened. I was numb for a very longtime gaslighting myself. I'm here for you if you just want to even randomly comment.
As you find your voice again know someone cares. Truly. I get it feeling isolated and alone. Think Elizabeth Cady Stanton in "The Solitude of Self" sums up struggles nicely. We have to be our own best friends. Our souls hold value as the body fades. Body is temporary the energy goes on.
Was close to atheist before I broke down and prayed.🙏 definitely got an answer back. Thought "Great, now I'm delusional." The pieces suddenly fit. Found my purpose it made way more sense then peace.
That peace I hope for you as well. Thank you for reaching out.
it can be any level of trauma, it doesn’t have to be very
Using the term, Evidence Based Treatment, as if that proves it's a bona fide best option doesn't instill much confidence in me. It feels too much like, if you have to tell me how good you are...
You guys are awesome
I would love to learn more about EMD ER because eventually down the road I will be going through that because of my diagnosis which are now five of them
reach out to your local mental health service to get a referral for a therapy that fits for you
Hi! MedC, can you give some information and perspective on Ipseity Disturbance/Self-disorder? I think I have it but I don't show any symptoms of schizophrenia like hallucinations etc. I'm just not able to understand the hell is wrong with me or if anything is wrong in the first place. Hope you see this
TFCBT is indeed very challenging to budding Psychotherapists.
I understand sir
keep me in your prayers
Will do. Hope your doing better now
thank you mam
I've been thru everything she described. Absolutely know I need therapy however, no funds. It's been a disaster all the way around. After rape as well as physical to verbal abuse and emotional to watching my Dad die of cancer. Illness. All of it. It's fucking exhausting.
Don't really drink hate the feeling. Don't use drugs. Tried various prescriptions plus therapy ended up losing jobs on short term disability. So, if she has the answer I'm all for it because I'm ready for euthanasia.
I guess no one read the part where your ready for euthanasia..where do you live? You can get state run therapy from your health provider if you get free health care. How old are you? You sounds like your too young to be thinking in this fashion..i want you to tell me your problem specifically so I can help you...
@@佩里-f1m Bless your heart. No, you can't nor can you get unraped. But, plenty of debt. You get that.
@@ZestyAqua Yes I get all that..for sure..i have been there. Life can be so cruel and some people can make it much worst..but some people can also make it better..sending you much love and positive vibes.
@@ZestyAqua Yes maybe they should have euthanasia..but that's a Pandora's box for case's that are entirely suicide based..you know what I'm saying. If you think abortion and the death penalty are hot button issues..open up that can of worms. I feel like giving up sometimes too.. but the hope of a new tomorrow is as sappy as it sounds a driving force, right. Who knows how your going to impact someone for the better..and yes it's a uphill climb most of the time and who knows if the view is worth it..but if you don't climb you won't every know for sure.. kinda like playing the lottery..and anyway when we're dead that's it, game over..so we might as well live our lives as best we can, while we still have it..theres probably a badge for that in the end..so much love to you..
@@佩里-f1m Belgium has a pretty good program and you are correct. Death happens no matter what. Ask A Mortician a TH-cam channel has good insight.
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One of her interviews.
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We aren't guaranteed time here. We will go thru death as will everyone or being we have ever known that's just reality even if it's uncomfortable.
And how old are you?
We didn't ask to be born, at least I didn't anymore that you ask to be abused or rape. What grows in my body is my choice. The hot button issue on abortion my body, my choice. Reminds me of the Dr. Hicks case where he sold babies from the 50s to 60s they went to have abortions after rape, incest and overall being used for affairs then discarded. They wanted an abortion he sold the children, which is a crime or moral dilemma? He induced labor then sold the baby. $1000. It was that or live with an illegitimate child. Who broke the law? I recall laws backing lynching to slavery. I was a man's property, legal for a number of very long centuries based on my gender.
Bottomline it's our bodies. If someone doesn't wish to be alive that should have a humane way to end it. Especially given how expensive our medical system is in the U.S.
My god she is so beautifull ! And so interresting, cant stop listening
I think she is ugly. I don't know too many blondes who are Asian.
Wish there was trauma therapy where I live. All the so called therapist I have seen tell me I just have to learn to live with my PTSD. I can’t live like this anymore. I want to get better. I need help
Well your therapist isnt wrong. All therapy is just a long winded way of telling you to just suck it up and soldier on using mental tricks and meds. Im not against it, but it is what it is.
There's no cure. they just help give u healthy coping skills to help live with/process your trauma and help u manage your emotions. They do try to help make your symptoms less severe or help make them happen less often.
That puppy 🐶 over there has come to end the isolation but no one is paying attention to him! 😢
CBT works on the cognitive brain, trauma affects the subconscious brain, so how can CBT help, I've tried and know several others who ha e all found it's no help at all.
Omg! This is me .
Anyone know what triple board certified means??
Lolol I heard that and was like wow.... sounds like hype words to me. It's like saying non-gmo organic.
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Hi Elena, please email support@medcircle.com and I will help you figure out what's going on!
Lol the first think I thought were “red pants” and then “wow nice legs in those red pants” lol
8:30 You don't know how lucky you are.
Doc,that outfit is 🔥🔥🔥💥💥👌🏾👀👀👀👀
The guy in the glasses has no idea, he only just read a chapter on PTSD…
When you’re 9 months into a trauma-focused programme and you’re still on the first stage :/ :/ :/
onetimethingokay Everybody progresses at their own pace. You’ll get there :)
I wish that they hadn’t put that time scale on it. I have been in therapy 7 years and I’m just coming into phase 3 if that helps. But I also know people with my diagnosis who are in phase 1 30 years on. Personally I think I’ve progressed pretty quickly.
Well you're way ahead of me. Lol. Ahead of a lot of people who are too terrified to crack all that open for fear they'll drown in it.
You really should be quite proud of yourself. Nine months is nothing to scoff at. Good job.
Can you guys please explain? What stages and how do they determine if you are ready for the next stage?
I don't understand the point about her red pants - sounds so unprofessional! If we did that in a therapeutic session, we could get sued.
Typical CBT therapist half listening for 10 minutes or less and then goes on a mission to "fix it" reframing: "here's what's wrong with you, blablabla" now do "blablabla" it's repugnant and disconnected from reality. You can almost see it in the therapist body language, watch how she moves with an easy big mac solution for everything. Disgusting!
She's just explaining the process in this clip, not treating someone in it.
She talks way too fast
You can put the video on 0.75x speed if that helps you follow her better.
Why does she have to put so much focus on her outer appearance, clothes, make-up, high-heels a s o? It does not increase my trust in the content she delivers, that she sends all these look-at-sexy-me-signals out to the public, although she probably is very competent.
Maybe that's just her personality? Some women are just into looking good. Plus she is pretty before all the added stuff at least. Yes though she doesn't look like an 80s shrink all professional in a suite coat.
I don't mind it maybe it's her bubbly personality.
It's really not that deep. She choisies how she wants to look and that's just that
Sometimes wearing your best clothes make you feel more confident and put together. It's a kind of self-care and expression of individuality too. A lot of people dress up for themselves and not for others.
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If memory serves me, there is clinical evidence that CBT combined with cognitive hypnotherapy outperforms CBT alone.