Hey man after putting the email and clicking the button it simply doesn't send anything to the email. I tried with two different emails and I've also tried in the past as you put the link in past videos too. I could never get it
Todd it seems that your site is not working at all. I cant log in into any programs. I have bought verbal game academy and now i cant log in. Are u aware of the problem ?
Hey, Todd, thank you so much for your videos. After putting my email for the text guide, I never got the email for the guide, I think the site is not working
Oddly, the best success I ever had was on a facebook comment thread. I made a comment, this woman replied to me in a joking manner. I replied back to her and we had this playful banter going. We friended each other and it turned out she was local to me. Eventually we planned on a date. I met her mom and it turned out I know her mother! Worked with her many years ago! She had tried setting the two of us up before but my date didn’t want to be set up by her mom. Two years later we got engaged. Three years after that I lost her after a long illness. But I truly believe we were destined to be together. Just not for the rest of our lives, just hers.
@@Clownboy15 I could be taken as you just being there, but not actually wanting to. As in, not till the rest out both lives, but just hers. But I get you didn't mean it like that, which I stated previously, just the wording was very odd
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
I went from having stupid neutral conversations on bumble to being able to get to a date in five minutes with most women. I had dates lined up I didn’t have time for them all and then got a girlfriend, what a waste.
Did you achieve this just by following advices like from this video, or did you use Todd's execute the program or some other product like playing fire?
How do you suggest responding to women on Bumble who just says "hi" or send a gif? I mirror it with a hello or gif if that's what they sent me. In some countries they never send a second message 80% of the time. What is your solution to get the conversation flowing after a woman does the absolute minimum to preserve the match? I've also noticed 90% these same women never delete me, It's like they are a collector of matches.
@@davidlowery8601 you need to come out boldly from the start with flirting, teasing and sexual innuendo in most texts, try to be creative and work with their profile. If you just answer with boring nice statements you will be like 90% of guys out there and get ghosted. Don’t worry about offending her, it’s much better that some women think you’re a douchebag than they all think you’re boring. My current girlfriend told me she couldn’t believe my profile was so outrageous and I didn’t seem to care what people think. Don’t be a nice guy worried about the judgments of others. I strongly recommend you listen to Dan Bacon’s videos on text game, they helped me to level up in no time. You can thank me later. 😉
I'm a recently separated dad, pushing 40 years and 200lbs. Your videos have been a godsend. I honestly wish I had access to this material (as opposed to cringe/sleazy/phony PUA stuff) before I got married.
But Todd _is_ what the mainstream calls cringe/sleazy/phony PUA. If Todd isn't PUA, then who is? Neil Strauss and Mystery both stopped teaching 10+ years ago.
@@Raphael4722 uh, sure, but I found it to be easily translatable to "just a great guide to being good with women". In the different videos, I've seen Todd: - Decry lying and cheating (not ENM, obv). - Not rely on "dirty/dark" tricks like negging. - Talk about inner game and confidence. - Truly believe this isn't zero-sum, and that it benefits women as well. Of the things I still dislike, are some references to girls having less intellectual ability (selection bias?), and "having the upper hand" in relationships. Thankfully, I have other relationship experts to guide me (as well as experience), and for everything else - there's this channel 😎
I’m 61 and have dated several different ladies for nearly 4 years. His advice is spot on. If you’re in shape, make sure your photos show your whole body. Ladies want to see that you are in shape. If you’re not in shape, join a gym and go 3-5 times per week. I am not a 9 or 10; closer to a 7. But, I am very respectful in my communications. I have gotten more action in the past 4 years than most 20 and 30 somethings. Ladies in their late 40’s to early 60’s are not afraid to move quickly for top guys as they know that the Pickens are slim.
My experience with online dating: chat for 10 messages, Ask her out, she usually says yes and completely ghosts me after i try to set up a time for the date.
*The key to getting crazy results is having a killer profile, being authentic in your messages, and not being afraid to put yourself out there. Consistency and approachability go a long way in online dating!*
The primary reason why a lot of men aren't getting matches or getting likes right away is not because they aren't supermodels or because of their bad profile pics or whatever, it's because of the asymmetry of the male to female ratio is so high and so while yes you can improve your self and your profile etc. and that might translate into a bit more than you're currently getting you're never really going to beat the gender disparity. And now that women have had it so absurdly good for so long if any app were to actually control for the disparity it would fail because women would be getting less likes and would leave the app for the ones that give them higher validation returns.
Online dating is 99% photos, if your photos are good and the girl likes it, the only thing you can do to ruin everything is writing her a stupid message, but if your photos are not good you can be the coolest person of the world with the most exciting and interesting bio of the world, there's nothing to do the girl will never match you and will never answer to your texts
@@Fred-zt5ky I understood this by comparing my profile with that one of my friends. My friends had extremely good photos and they were writing really boring messages and they got dates, I had very ugly pictures (I'm honest about this, my pictures really suck) and I was writing all the cool messages Todd suggests and even using a lot of my creativity, I never got an answer (I also paid for premium versions), why? Because online dating is all about photos and I also add that since nowadays everyone uses dating app, it is an extremely random game, girls get hundreds of likes per day and they randomly chose to match with 1 or 2 guys, to me online game is not worthy, going into the streets and approaching girls face to face makes the difference. Cold approach on the streets, bars, clubs or whatever in real life makes the difference because you get higher quality girls and you deal with real pain, discomfort and real difficulties, instead online on a dating app you are in an extremely comfortable situation and you don't face real life (I don't know if you get what I mean)
Good photos only just peak interest, your description is what make the women have the urge to message you, in other words having game is more important than how attractive you’re are. There’s proof women swipe left on men that are highly attractive and nice pics. Women are 100x more picker on online dating, you have to find someway to stand out from millions of other dudes with generic descriptions.
Hey Todd! Excellent advice here overall. The one thing that stuck out to me here was remembering that she chose me. She chose to come out on a date with me. That should give us a lot of cinfidence given the landscape of online dating!
The problem is men and women thinking they have more options because one person was interested in them. Therefore they keep searching for more and more options online the moment the other person isn't perfect or screws up. Online dating was designed to keep people on the sites forever.
Hey Todd! I just came across your channel this morning, and have sat here watching a few videos. I’m a pretty attractive high value guy, and I don’t necessarily need help in dating as I already do a lot of the things you mention. However, I just got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago, so I’m watching dating videos just to brush up on my technique as it relates to the modern scene, as I prepare to inevitably re-enter the dating pool at some point, after such a long hiatus. I just wanted to comment & show my appreciation for your content. I’ve watched a lot of dating channels over the years, and your approach is very refreshing. You make a lot of common sense points, and a few I was even nodding my head in agreement, as you presented things in ways I hadnt considered, and others being things that I know that other guys may not. Just wanted to say good job & keep up the great work. Your channel is different than others & I think that’s awesome for some of your other viewers that may really need the guidance. Take care Todd.
I WAS a model, I’m tall, have great pics, hooked up with hundreds of chicks IRL but SUCK at online datimg, they don’t show your bio unless you pay and jokes are always awkward over text. seems hopeless most of the time. much easier to just approach
Also, I live in Miami where thousands of guys have yachts and private planes.. being attractive doesn’t always cut it down here, especially for just being one profile out of a million
@@virtual240 no, looks only make it easier to get in the door for a brief second of opportunity.. once you’re there, you have to have higher social status than her, be confident, be funny, be intelligent, make more money than her, have a home/nice assets, have big future plans to demonstrate security. the list goes on and on and on.. and that’s just to meet the average girl’s delusional standards. Start stepping into 9’s and 10’s in big metro areas, you better have a yacht.
thing about online is attraction first, personality later. what’s the first thing you see before you start swiping? photo first before reading bio right? same goes for the women that check our profile, and I agree with Todd, your photo game has to be on point.
Hey Todd, I would just like to express my gratitude to you for all you have done for me in my life. You have helped me in so many areas of my life and I think you are really spreading important knowledge to so many and changing tons of lives in the process. Thanks man ❤
I like the closing remarks, like she made the decision to go on a date with YOU. important to remember that you already have some qualities she wants, evidenced just by her choice of you, and the date just started.
The bottom line is that on a date you still have everything to prove. You need to keep up the act of being fun, flirty, interesting while all the girl has to do is be beautiful and giggle. Girls have it fucking easy... unless they are ugly.
@@ChooseFreshAtSubway Exactly, if you're talking most of the date, you're doing something wrong, she's not interested/attracted. Attracted make a effort to engage and impress you
for the last point, need to be close to where you live or 20mn taxi max. If you ask for girl to join you, the next question is time to go in your appartement, i noticed that the max time is 20mn, girl will still go with you. Another thing not mentionned is date timing, sometimes it's ok to do first date/first bed, but you too "slow" and so if she must wake up early she will decide to go home, so you need to be max 2h date and get time to go home with her and have a moment, so she have time ( if she must leave or course ;) ) to back home after bed time. For instance, if you start at 20h, you need to be in bed at 22h30 , if you go midnight and she must wake up at 6 you dead, but if she can leave at mignight from your home, she will come with you. Seems to be very stupid but just some experienced situations.
Todd, I've managed to level up my profile to where I'm getting decent quality matches. Took me a long time over the years researching & tweaking making profile changes however, now what I notice is that as the quality of women goes up they are much more flakey in comparison to girls of lower value. Almost like they don't seem fully convinced. So would this be my text game I need to work on or do I need to play more of a numbers game than ever ? Online dating is like a puzzle but once you start to see positive results, it is empowering having abundance of options.
higher quality women are flaky because theyre talking to ten dudes at once. you need to be more and more slick yet aggressive the higher quality your matches get relative to your own status. if youre super hot and rich, playing it cool may be your best bet. if youre lower 'status' like me, beinf more flirty and sexual is a good play, because even rich hot guys can suck at that
That’s what I notice too. So that’s why you gotta take fitxfearless advice and take their interest with a grain of salt. Just because a girl showed initial interest doesn’t mean she wants you…just have an abundance mindset. For example with Hinge I’d argue if she matches with you after responding to her prompt but doesn’t respond back, if she responds/messages 1st but never mentions anything about your bio, never gives a compliment, etc, etc, then her interest is not that high and you shouldn’t assume things will go off without a hitch 🤷♂️.
What Mr. Todd doesn't realize he's putting out advice that worked 10 years ago when you had to pay for PUA content. The online dating game changed a lot and the truth is it's on its decline. He pretends that a majority doesn't even know how to optimize their profile like PUAs did when online dating was in its infancy. Getting matches is really not the issue, and most dudes probably know these days how to make them appear more attractive than they actually are - and so are the chicks! The issue today is how to get a reasonable conversation going that could eventually lead to a date. Chicks are not flaky but social media screws with their minds by inflating their virtual sexual market value which results in the attention span of a fruit fly. Meaning, they don't talk to 10 dudes simultaneously, but 100s, which makes them think their options are endless, and the grass could be even greener with the next, and the next... Too many options make you choose less, so they hardly end up having a reasonable convo with guys and meet up with nobody. I get so many matches of hot chicks but hardly get any responses, let alone a convo going that could go somewhere, and my game is pretty tight. The odds are worse or better depending on the country/culture, but to summarize, it is no comparison to 10 years ago when it was cool and a lot of fun. Also, today you can't even be sure you are talking to sb real or a fake or manufactured profile, and the chicks worry the same about guy's pimped profiles, they can smell that from far, so why polish your profile to a persona you are actually not, and waste the time meeting a chick that liked your profile but actually not you... Something to think about. Things will only get worse with fake and pimped profiles and interactions, so my prediction is that online dating will eventually not work anymore, and it's definitely a huge waste of time. My advice is, to go out, become social, and interact with real people and real women in real life! Good luck!
@@firsthelix6726 Agreed. Conversations with the "hotter" chicks would always end up dry and boring, I'd end up carrying the convo, asking questions, fuck even sometimes i feel like im probing and prying lol. They either respond with a very vague and short answer or a "lol"/"lmao" like jesus there's no way you're this hot and this freaking boring at the same time. I'd lose interest or they think I'm a weirdo for trying to get to know them a bit more. Now my new approach is just asking them straight up when they'd want to meet. Cut to the chase, let's them know you're interested and then feel it out when you see each other. For the most part there is really no need to try to get to know someone on a dating app, these girls have an abundance mindset which in turn makes them have a shorter attention span for you regardless of how you look or how your profile is setup, it just is what it is, and I do agree that social media has played a big role with making these girl act all big headed. Last thing is, if a chick flakes on you or shows no interest - MOVE ON.
It’s all about the profile and pics. I was lazy didn't get too many matches.( always been told I’m handsome) so I gave up and deleted. I decided to actually put some effort in the pics. I got a tripod with a phone holder and a Bluetooth button to take the picture($10 amazon. Took pictures doing man shit, cut firewood, building stuff, stuff i like. The quality and amount of matched increased by a lot. The part I’m still working on is the text game. This guy is exactly right start there build off that. Good luck. Online dating is probably here to stay
Solid advice on clothes. Just buy it, do a photo shoot, take it back... And even more interesting. Go to a suit store, get a action shot of the tailor measuring you...
Quality video, but the remember why your there part really resonated with me. I just got back into online dating 2 weeks ago after a 10 year hiatus. It’s been going good. Wayyy more matches then I thought I’d be getting
How to go about online dating when you’re 53 but look 43 and play like you’re 23 ??? All my girlfriends have been at lest 10yrs younger. Never did online dating what app do you suggest?
I am very tall and I figured that when I wrote my hight explicitly in the first sentence my number of matches tripled. Another thing that works for me is the following first message: "Would you like to get to know each other? Do you prefer to chat first or meet immediately" (I am translating from Russian, m b you can phrase this better). I am not very active on tinder recently, but roughly all 10 girls that I wrote to replied and eventually fixed the date. So, I guess, you don't need to invent anything, just write straight what you want.
@@Nojarocom многие девушки прямо пишут что не любят долгих переписок в профиле. После того как я им пишу так как выше, обычно отвечают, что лучше быстрее встретимся. Некоторые при этом все же пишут что хотят для начала обо мне что-то узнать. Попереписываемся 1-2 дня, потом встречаемся. Ну или не встречаемся, но обычно это потому что выясняется что-то типа что у них есть дети и уже я не вижу смысла встречаться.
@@Nojarocom вообще, мне 36 лет. В этом возрасте уже женщины сами за тобой бегают. Как я написал, я высокий, симпатичный, в неплохой форме (без лишнего веса, спортивный), зарабатываю значительно выше среднего (в профиле это не написано, но видно фотки из разных стран). Единственное что плохо - это что фотки обычные, я специально не фотогрфировался. Говорят, это важно. В результате найти мэтч несложно. 2-3 мэтча за день запросто. Причем они сами часто пишут первыми. Правда, по итогу обычно ничем это не заканчивается. Почти все - это мои ровесницы или на 2-3 года младше. И все какие-то скучные (написаны какие-то интересы, но рассказать нечего) так себе социальные скилы (поддержать разговор, чувство юмора), часто бедные и неухоженные (ну, блин, если идешь уже на свидание как женщина, что нельзя как-то нормально одеться а не приходить в мятой футболке или свитере с катушками? Или голову хотя бы помыть? Ну и, блин, иметь нормальное настроение и иногда улыбаться?). Короче, интереса не вызывают. Такое чувство, что они уже махнули на все рукой и даже на тиндер не надеются. Просто приходят, на 100е свидание, типа, а вдруг что выйдет, но уже с таким вот отчаявшимся настроем. Либо попадаются с детьми, но заранее не предупреждают. Ну или папика ищут, чтобы обеспечил им отдых в обмен на услуги. Значительно реже бывают лет 5-7 моложе. Но тоже пока никто не заинтересовал. Я это к тому, что несмотря на то что мэтчей много, результатами в Тиндере я недоволен. По моему опыту, девушки значительно более высокого качества попадаются если знакомиться в быту. Например, где-нибудь в пабе или по работе, через общих знакомых. Оказывается, что и девушкам на 10 лет моложе я вполне интересен, при этом сами они, что ли, более содержательные и у нас больше общего по части интересов, чем у случайных знакомых с тиндера. Я вот думал еще фотографии лучше сделать на тиндер, посмотреть м б что изменится. Но уже поздно :)
I appreciate the positive attitude Todd brings to the table but the truth is that some men are just not what women want no matter how good their profile is. Sometimes it’s better to give up with your dignity in tact.
It works both ways, you’re not going to be a match for everyone. Stop blaming everything on ‘women’ and just accept the fact that you’re not a prize, no one is. Online dating heavily favours women, the male algorithm will only show your profile for 1-2 days before moving it to the back of its queue. It’s the exact same as the way Instagram, Facebook & TH-cam algorithms work.
@@Kennymacdougall If you are "very good looking" but you got no online dating results, then you must have been making a very big blunder with your online dating technique or strategy somehow. The biggest factor in online dating is photos, by far, so a "very good looking" guy can DEFINITELY get results if you're doing things well and not making huge mistakes.
@@Paul-yk7ds Nope, it's the algorithm. There simply is no such thing as online dating strategies. It's just purely to sell something, not to actually help.
If you are swiping, and you already swiped though all the women in the area, how do you improve afterwards? Does the algorithm on these apps show you the people that you swiped left on or who swept left on you again?
@@maggomens6014 if you delete your profile and recreate it, will everything be reset? If you're using the same phone number and email to register, for example, they may remember you.
I got this same problem,I arrived in a beach city with supposedly lots of tourists,and after a week of swiping (very selectively) it says there's no people around u(with 100km radius)🤦♂️
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@@jeffreycheng5984 I Agree, it's crazy out there, if you have something to lose, she will get part of it, and the Judge will give it to her with a smile...
Getting attention for me is not the problem. Converting endless chats into real world dates is. Plenty of women message but they never want to get off the app!
What I have found, especially with the 7+/10 women is that most are there for validation. They don't really want to go on dates. They just want you to validate that they are attractive and can get your attention. Also a lot are just looking for IG Snapchat and OF followers. Most hot girls on there are so inundated with male attention its very difficult to stand out. Table is tilted, the game is rigged. But nowadays you pretty much have to just stick with it and hope you get lucky.
McD's is OK, or a bar / pub type bite to eat is OK - such as Wetherspoons here in the UK. Plus she can expect all she wants. What she gets is what she gets. You just have to frame it in the right way - eg an indirectly indicated "I'm not the same as all those other men".
I think the algorithm pushes some accounts more than others. Like the ones who already get swipes will be more pushed while the others may get less featured
If that’s the case then it’s not normal behaviour. It’s a date, not a special forces mission, just go on it and be NORMAL. Stop overthinking it and just have a normal human interaction for once.
@@Jay-ob4ti sorry but it doesn’t change the fact that tips Todd has given are the same as what Sof units are using. Even in the older videos some of the tips are Similiar to those that I have read in a hostice negotions manual.
Professional nomad here. When i end up in capital cities it`s madness, the apps are constantly buzzing. When I work in remote areas... :))))) well, quite the very opposite. It`s so creepy that you can hear the crickets in the background. Not to mention the country and the more or less traditional views on such lifestyle. To cut it short - not too many people discuss the difference between capital cities and province areas. Sometimes it`s not about you and the effort you`re putting. The place might not be favorable at all :))). Great video. I would only be unpleasant and mention a last element - workout, lose weight, look physically desirable
Theres one point im not agreeing with and it’s about the bio. in my experience girls are way more attracted to your profile if you have something short and genuine funny in it rather than Information about who you are. Girls like the mystery. Don’t just give them everything about you. Id say i have a decent success in online dating
9:53-You NEVER pay. That’s the only complaint I have about your video. They are marketing to non premium users. If you’ve never paid sure you may not get a ton of likes, the few people who see your profile are probably going to be better quality. And honestly that kind of goes against what you said about your profile being like a business. It takes time.
I don't want to sound like an a-hole, but I always feel bad for the ones as described here "that look like your lunch ladies and 300 lbs" because they must have such a hard time on these dating apps. As hard as some guys have difficulties, there prob is a large category of women that get very very little hits. Luckily, weight is something one can improve on - most of the time. It just takes effort and time. And a lot of times, overweight people look pretty decent once them slim down.
If you get a reply, get to the point say you want a date this place and time. She don’t reply or anything other then sure, convo over. Worked for me a few times
I'm 25 and I don't know anyone in my age group that is of sane mind that would do dinner dates. Am in in a specific subgroup or is it an age thing? Anyway, dinner dates are crazy
OMG! I'm SO glad I found your videos. I'm recently divorced 60yrs old and online dating is extremely new for me. The common sense you apply is refreshing and like YEAH that make total sense. Do you have any strategy for 50+ in online dating that is different form 30 and under?
I got remotivated to take action again. I don’t know abt your Tinder selection, but mine is so bad. Most the the women seem like they could pass as middle schoolers. I don’t think i ever seen a truly attractive female on Tinder.
These videos should be labeled “For entertainment purposes only” No disrespect to Todd but dating apps aren’t going to work for most guys as far as getting girls you would actually want to meet
what if you’ve done that for 3 years and did all research about, hired 2 photographers. and watched all online dating tips and you have 0 dates in 3 years including just friends. and re did my account 4 times with different professional photos because i was suspecting that my account was shadow banned but nothing. and also i have decent game since i have success in real life but NOTHING online
you already know the answer. it's because you're ugly, or really short. not trying to be mean here, just saying how it is. dating and especially online dating is extremely hard for ugly or very short guys. sorry bro
I heard you DON'T want to pay for the membership with Tinder. According to the source, not paying and not over swiping is what gets you highest in the algorithm. Again, I'm talking Tinder specifically. Other apps my be different.
I don't think haircuts are relevant at all. I've had long rockstar hair before, I've shaved my head before, I've had a short and professional haircut, and I've tried everything in between. Nothing happens. Women judge you based on whether you have a handsome face and a lean or muscular body. If you are too thin or too fat, it will make you look unattractive, and women will be disgusted by you. You can make your face look more handsome to some extent by having a normal body mass index. But if you don't have a good head shape or good facial features, women won't like you, and there's nothing you can do about it. This is why I don't believe you should waste your time or money on professional-looking haircuts if your goal is to be attractive to women. If you are about to go on a job interview, then yes, cutting and styling your hair will help you because it makes you look professional. But your girlfriend is not your boss, and dating is completely different from job searching. If women on dating sites see that you haven't gotten a haircut in months, they aren't going to care. They care about your natural facial attractiveness and your physique. It's not fair, but it's true. Women don't have to be fit or thin to be attractive. Extra weight makes them curvy or plus size. It doesn't make them unattractive, but overweight men are always unattractive. If they weren't, then plus-size male models would exist. Plus-size models are always female. It's unfortunate that men are harshly judged for their appearance and women aren't, but it's the reality we live in.
Haircuts matter and I personally wouldn't date an overweight girl. Of course, there are many other factors, but being well groomed is important to women.
@@dualscreengrant I'm not rich (I'm a student). I'm not sure how handsome I am. Probably an average face. For a while, I looked homeless (crazy hair, I wore old tshirts, in ok shape) and didn't get much female attention. Now I go to the gym 6 days a week, brush my hair, and wear nice clothes. It has made a big difference in how much attention I get from women. Maybe a good haircut doesn't matter too much by itself, but the little things add up.
The reason we hope guys are at least sorta attractive is because eventually, down the line, we are going to have to sleep with you! It's not unfounded.
Internet dating does not make dating easy for men- it makes hookups easy. Hook ups and dating are 2 different things. Online dating makes the dating part practically impossible. People are addicted to the swipe- even after a great date they will go home and keep swiping. Thats the truth.
Todd I really need answerd one question, I can't find anything on your channel about that. I am often loosing girls after the first or second date. They seem to chase and double text and I always think ok, she likes me. I suggest the next date and then she looses interest. Especially if I have to ask her out a secound time. Should I be mor patient and wait for her to ask me out if we already met each other for example 2 times?
Why are you asking for a date in the first place? Just tell her that you are planning to do something fun and she can join you if she wants. And anyway from my experience it's easier to close the girls on the first date. If you didn't even make out with her on the first date then it's a failure.
I agree with Lin T, it might be a problem with what you're doing on the first dates. That said, I would disagree with Konstantin saying you need to make out on the first date. Personally my strategy is just a short simple first date, 1-2 hours of chatting in a cafe or park, include some flirting and touching but no kissing usually. I kinda follow Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) model from his book "Get to Sex Fast." He suggests how to handle the first date to set it up to escalate smoothly on the second date, not the first date.
Agree with most of this material. Don't agree that women are necessarily choosing a particular man from a dating sight because they like him. Just pragmatic reality here. There are plenty of women out there who will be willing to endure the brief company of a man just to get something in return for free. This is especially true in the modern age of feminism. Also, dating apps, for whatever claims are made for or against them, probably have a rate of "success" that is on par with any other method . In some ways they are a better method because you have a certain level of pre-screening the prospective date before you ever have to be in the same space with them. Also, getting "rejected" by someone online is definitely less stressful than getting rejected in-person and save time, money and effort.
This is why I don't put too much bio info on my page. Don't judge me right off the bat because of what I have on my profile, get to actually feel my vibe and the energy I give off in person first. My bio literally says "Just gotta come find out" it leaves a mysteriousness and also vets out the one's who are curious and wants to see where things go and the one's who are just there for attention and waste your time.
True. I live in a small town in South Africa. I just leave my Tinder account up just in case. But most of the women on the app in my area are on average 2/10s 😬
I have another problem. I am polish and I live in Switzerland. I earn good money, look pretty good and so on. In my country I have even 5 likes daily, in Switzerland maybe 5 weekly, and most of them are really shity.. Most of the women think that I am low value only because of my nationality
Sorry, but this sounds like you'll have to create some alter ego persona, that's not even you at all, to fake your way into hooking up with a semi-hot girl, who also happens to be faking her way through this whole process as well. I'm all for honest self reflection and self improvement, but how about everyone just stop faking and lying and start hanging out in person again?
Anyone feel even if you did get all these matches and dates at the end youd start feeling like dang if it wasnt for tinder i wouldnt have gotten a date with her if I saw at approached her at the library or something?
Hope you enjoy! My complete online dating system is coming soon at: toddoda.com And the text guide is at: www.toddvdating.com/onlinemsg/
Hey man after putting the email and clicking the button it simply doesn't send anything to the email. I tried with two different emails and I've also tried in the past as you put the link in past videos too. I could never get it
Todd it seems that your site is not working at all. I cant log in into any programs. I have bought verbal game academy and now i cant log in. Are u aware of the problem ?
@@masterypursuer2068 For me, it said that updates would be sent later. It's just a waiting list for now
Hey, Todd, thank you so much for your videos. After putting my email for the text guide, I never got the email for the guide, I think the site is not working
How can I contact you personally brother.. I am Doctor working in Saudi Arabia.. Game here in my city is tough.. Need your expert advice
Oddly, the best success I ever had was on a facebook comment thread. I made a comment, this woman replied to me in a joking manner. I replied back to her and we had this playful banter going. We friended each other and it turned out she was local to me. Eventually we planned on a date. I met her mom and it turned out I know her mother! Worked with her many years ago! She had tried setting the two of us up before but my date didn’t want to be set up by her mom. Two years later we got engaged. Three years after that I lost her after a long illness. But I truly believe we were destined to be together. Just not for the rest of our lives, just hers.
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Okay, I was with you till that last sentence. I know what you meant, but it still sounded very badly as if definitely could be taken the wrong way.
@@TIOLIOfficial how do you mean?
@@Clownboy15 I could be taken as you just being there, but not actually wanting to. As in, not till the rest out both lives, but just hers.
But I get you didn't mean it like that, which I stated previously, just the wording was very odd
It really does suck. Women get on there and suddenly think they're going to land 9s and 10s, even though they're a 6 at best.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@@BonnieSetliff this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
I went from having stupid neutral conversations on bumble to being able to get to a date in five minutes with most women. I had dates lined up I didn’t have time for them all and then got a girlfriend, what a waste.
@@anderslennartsson1828 thanks, just feels like I’m leaving money on the table 🤪
Did you achieve this just by following advices like from this video, or did you use Todd's execute the program or some other product like playing fire?
@@greenlitlleman just watching videos, also Dan bacon
How do you suggest responding to women on Bumble who just says "hi" or send a gif? I mirror it with a hello or gif if that's what they sent me. In some countries they never send a second message 80% of the time. What is your solution to get the conversation flowing after a woman does the absolute minimum to preserve the match? I've also noticed 90% these same women never delete me, It's like they are a collector of matches.
@@davidlowery8601 you need to come out boldly from the start with flirting, teasing and sexual innuendo in most texts, try to be creative and work with their profile. If you just answer with boring nice statements you will be like 90% of guys out there and get ghosted. Don’t worry about offending her, it’s much better that some women think you’re a douchebag than they all think you’re boring. My current girlfriend told me she couldn’t believe my profile was so outrageous and I didn’t seem to care what people think. Don’t be a nice guy worried about the judgments of others. I strongly recommend you listen to Dan Bacon’s videos on text game, they helped me to level up in no time. You can thank me later. 😉
I'm a recently separated dad, pushing 40 years and 200lbs. Your videos have been a godsend. I honestly wish I had access to this material (as opposed to cringe/sleazy/phony PUA stuff) before I got married.
A very alive journey awaits you.
But Todd _is_ what the mainstream calls cringe/sleazy/phony PUA. If Todd isn't PUA, then who is? Neil Strauss and Mystery both stopped teaching 10+ years ago.
uh this is pua bud
@@Raphael4722 uh, sure, but I found it to be easily translatable to "just a great guide to being good with women". In the different videos, I've seen Todd:
- Decry lying and cheating (not ENM, obv).
- Not rely on "dirty/dark" tricks like negging.
- Talk about inner game and confidence.
- Truly believe this isn't zero-sum, and that it benefits women as well.
Of the things I still dislike, are some references to girls having less intellectual ability (selection bias?), and "having the upper hand" in relationships. Thankfully, I have other relationship experts to guide me (as well as experience), and for everything else - there's this channel 😎
unless you're not dating seriously, then I can't recommend game if you're looking for 'the one'
Online dating is a national security threat.
I agree
Return of LONG HAIR TODD!
His power is at its MAXX now!
Dude, fuck all that. Why would I go through all that effort if the other person is going to act like a flake?
I’m 61 and have dated several different ladies for nearly 4 years. His advice is spot on. If you’re in shape, make sure your photos show your whole body. Ladies want to see that you are in shape. If you’re not in shape, join a gym and go 3-5 times per week.
I am not a 9 or 10; closer to a 7. But, I am very respectful in my communications.
I have gotten more action in the past 4 years than most 20 and 30 somethings. Ladies in their late 40’s to early 60’s are not afraid to move quickly for top guys as they know that the Pickens are slim.
My experience with online dating: chat for 10 messages, Ask her out, she usually says yes and completely ghosts me after i try to set up a time for the date.
Girls that are 4's act like 9's on dating apps 😂
It's the simps fault.
Sure, because the numbers are in their favor. It's not rocket science. Don't online date. It's that simple.
*The key to getting crazy results is having a killer profile, being authentic in your messages, and not being afraid to put yourself out there. Consistency and approachability go a long way in online dating!*
So glad you're still doing this. Thanks for having the balls to keep going!
The primary reason why a lot of men aren't getting matches or getting likes right away is not because they aren't supermodels or because of their bad profile pics or whatever, it's because of the asymmetry of the male to female ratio is so high and so while yes you can improve your self and your profile etc. and that might translate into a bit more than you're currently getting you're never really going to beat the gender disparity. And now that women have had it so absurdly good for so long if any app were to actually control for the disparity it would fail because women would be getting less likes and would leave the app for the ones that give them higher validation returns.
exactly, treat it like a sales pipeline. awesome vid todd
Online dating is 99% photos, if your photos are good and the girl likes it, the only thing you can do to ruin everything is writing her a stupid message, but if your photos are not good you can be the coolest person of the world with the most exciting and interesting bio of the world, there's nothing to do the girl will never match you and will never answer to your texts
facts.
@@Fred-zt5ky I understood this by comparing my profile with that one of my friends. My friends had extremely good photos and they were writing really boring messages and they got dates, I had very ugly pictures (I'm honest about this, my pictures really suck) and I was writing all the cool messages Todd suggests and even using a lot of my creativity, I never got an answer (I also paid for premium versions), why? Because online dating is all about photos and I also add that since nowadays everyone uses dating app, it is an extremely random game, girls get hundreds of likes per day and they randomly chose to match with 1 or 2 guys, to me online game is not worthy, going into the streets and approaching girls face to face makes the difference. Cold approach on the streets, bars, clubs or whatever in real life makes the difference because you get higher quality girls and you deal with real pain, discomfort and real difficulties, instead online on a dating app you are in an extremely comfortable situation and you don't face real life (I don't know if you get what I mean)
Good photos only just peak interest, your description is what make the women have the urge to message you, in other words having game is more important than how attractive you’re are. There’s proof women swipe left on men that are highly attractive and nice pics. Women are 100x more picker on online dating, you have to find someway to stand out from millions of other dudes with generic descriptions.
Hey Todd! Excellent advice here overall. The one thing that stuck out to me here was remembering that she chose me. She chose to come out on a date with me. That should give us a lot of cinfidence given the landscape of online dating!
The problem is men and women thinking they have more options because one person was interested in them. Therefore they keep searching for more and more options online the moment the other person isn't perfect or screws up. Online dating was designed to keep people on the sites forever.
Hey Todd!
I just came across your channel this morning, and have sat here watching a few videos.
I’m a pretty attractive high value guy, and I don’t necessarily need help in dating as I already do a lot of the things you mention.
However, I just got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago, so I’m watching dating videos just to brush up on my technique as it relates to the modern scene, as I prepare to inevitably re-enter the dating pool at some point, after such a long hiatus.
I just wanted to comment & show my appreciation for your content.
I’ve watched a lot of dating channels over the years, and your approach is very refreshing. You make a lot of common sense points, and a few I was even nodding my head in agreement, as you presented things in ways I hadnt considered, and others being things that I know that other guys may not.
Just wanted to say good job & keep up the great work. Your channel is different than others & I think that’s awesome for some of your other viewers that may really need the guidance.
Take care Todd.
I WAS a model, I’m tall, have great pics, hooked up with hundreds of chicks IRL but SUCK at online datimg, they don’t show your bio unless you pay and jokes are always awkward over text. seems hopeless most of the time. much easier to just approach
Also, I live in Miami where thousands of guys have yachts and private planes.. being attractive doesn’t always cut it down here, especially for just being one profile out of a million
@@bs667 And how exactly did you learn this?
@@bs667 And what your best advice would be? Honestly, I doubt that Todd can seduce girls through the text without showing photos as you said.
Did they hook up with you strictly because of your looks?
@@virtual240 no, looks only make it easier to get in the door for a brief second of opportunity.. once you’re there, you have to have higher social status than her, be confident, be funny, be intelligent, make more money than her, have a home/nice assets, have big future plans to demonstrate security. the list goes on and on and on.. and that’s just to meet the average girl’s delusional standards. Start stepping into 9’s and 10’s in big metro areas, you better have a yacht.
thing about online is attraction first, personality later. what’s the first thing you see before you start swiping? photo first before reading bio right? same goes for the women that check our profile, and I agree with Todd, your photo game has to be on point.
Hey Todd, I would just like to express my gratitude to you for all you have done for me in my life. You have helped me in so many areas of my life and I think you are really spreading important knowledge to so many and changing tons of lives in the process. Thanks man ❤
I like the closing remarks, like she made the decision to go on a date with YOU. important to remember that you already have some qualities she wants, evidenced just by her choice of you, and the date just started.
The bottom line is that on a date you still have everything to prove. You need to keep up the act of being fun, flirty, interesting while all the girl has to do is be beautiful and giggle. Girls have it fucking easy... unless they are ugly.
Women are gatekeepers of sex men are gatekeepers of relationships. So of course, it's far easier for women to get sex.
Even ugly women have it easier than most guys
The girl should be doing most of the talking on a date bro. Gotta ask shit to get her going
@@ChooseFreshAtSubway Exactly, if you're talking most of the date, you're doing something wrong, she's not interested/attracted. Attracted make a effort to engage and impress you
Frame switch
"I'm gonna go through your excuses" 😂
for the last point, need to be close to where you live or 20mn taxi max. If you ask for girl to join you, the next question is time to go in your appartement, i noticed that the max time is 20mn, girl will still go with you. Another thing not mentionned is date timing, sometimes it's ok to do first date/first bed, but you too "slow" and so if she must wake up early she will decide to go home, so you need to be max 2h date and get time to go home with her and have a moment, so she have time ( if she must leave or course ;) ) to back home after bed time. For instance, if you start at 20h, you need to be in bed at 22h30 , if you go midnight and she must wake up at 6 you dead, but if she can leave at mignight from your home, she will come with you. Seems to be very stupid but just some experienced situations.
If you have to borrow clothes to take Dating app photos, you don’t need to be dating
On most platforms, men outnumber women 5-1...
Online dating especially suck in Jamaica, mostly unintelligent, gold digging, and riff raff girls are online
join some sort of club. that's a gauranteed way to meet some interesting women. like a Learning Spanish Language Club or Photography Club
Can't be much worse than the Philippines...
Solid advice. Thanks for not suggesting games and bs.
Todd, I've managed to level up my profile to where I'm getting decent quality matches. Took me a long time over the years researching & tweaking making profile changes however, now what I notice is that as the quality of women goes up they are much more flakey in comparison to girls of lower value. Almost like they don't seem fully convinced. So would this be my text game I need to work on or do I need to play more of a numbers game than ever ? Online dating is like a puzzle but once you start to see positive results, it is empowering having abundance of options.
higher quality women are flaky because theyre talking to ten dudes at once. you need to be more and more slick yet aggressive the higher quality your matches get relative to your own status. if youre super hot and rich, playing it cool may be your best bet. if youre lower 'status' like me, beinf more flirty and sexual is a good play, because even rich hot guys can suck at that
That’s what I notice too. So that’s why you gotta take fitxfearless advice and take their interest with a grain of salt. Just because a girl showed initial interest doesn’t mean she wants you…just have an abundance mindset.
For example with Hinge I’d argue if she matches with you after responding to her prompt but doesn’t respond back, if she responds/messages 1st but never mentions anything about your bio, never gives a compliment, etc, etc, then her interest is not that high and you shouldn’t assume things will go off without a hitch 🤷♂️.
What Mr. Todd doesn't realize he's putting out advice that worked 10 years ago when you had to pay for PUA content. The online dating game changed a lot and the truth is it's on its decline. He pretends that a majority doesn't even know how to optimize their profile like PUAs did when online dating was in its infancy. Getting matches is really not the issue, and most dudes probably know these days how to make them appear more attractive than they actually are - and so are the chicks! The issue today is how to get a reasonable conversation going that could eventually lead to a date. Chicks are not flaky but social media screws with their minds by inflating their virtual sexual market value which results in the attention span of a fruit fly. Meaning, they don't talk to 10 dudes simultaneously, but 100s, which makes them think their options are endless, and the grass could be even greener with the next, and the next... Too many options make you choose less, so they hardly end up having a reasonable convo with guys and meet up with nobody. I get so many matches of hot chicks but hardly get any responses, let alone a convo going that could go somewhere, and my game is pretty tight. The odds are worse or better depending on the country/culture, but to summarize, it is no comparison to 10 years ago when it was cool and a lot of fun. Also, today you can't even be sure you are talking to sb real or a fake or manufactured profile, and the chicks worry the same about guy's pimped profiles, they can smell that from far, so why polish your profile to a persona you are actually not, and waste the time meeting a chick that liked your profile but actually not you... Something to think about. Things will only get worse with fake and pimped profiles and interactions, so my prediction is that online dating will eventually not work anymore, and it's definitely a huge waste of time. My advice is, to go out, become social, and interact with real people and real women in real life! Good luck!
Both. Also it’s every semi decent looking woman. They all got tons of options
@@firsthelix6726 Agreed. Conversations with the "hotter" chicks would always end up dry and boring, I'd end up carrying the convo, asking questions, fuck even sometimes i feel like im probing and prying lol. They either respond with a very vague and short answer or a "lol"/"lmao" like jesus there's no way you're this hot and this freaking boring at the same time. I'd lose interest or they think I'm a weirdo for trying to get to know them a bit more. Now my new approach is just asking them straight up when they'd want to meet. Cut to the chase, let's them know you're interested and then feel it out when you see each other. For the most part there is really no need to try to get to know someone on a dating app, these girls have an abundance mindset which in turn makes them have a shorter attention span for you regardless of how you look or how your profile is setup, it just is what it is, and I do agree that social media has played a big role with making these girl act all big headed. Last thing is, if a chick flakes on you or shows no interest - MOVE ON.
The more I hear about modern dating the more I feel like I can’t be bothered with it. 🤷♂️
Seems like to much freaking work tbh! It was easier to date in the early 90’s before social media and shit !
It’s all about the profile and pics. I was lazy didn't get too many matches.( always been told I’m handsome) so I gave up and deleted. I decided to actually put some effort in the pics. I got a tripod with a phone holder and a Bluetooth button to take the picture($10 amazon. Took pictures doing man shit, cut firewood, building stuff, stuff i like. The quality and amount of matched increased by a lot. The part I’m still working on is the text game. This guy is exactly right start there build off that. Good luck. Online dating is probably here to stay
Solid advice on clothes. Just buy it, do a photo shoot, take it back... And even more interesting. Go to a suit store, get a action shot of the tailor measuring you...
long time viewer. Concise and useful info everytime
Quality video, but the remember why your there part really resonated with me. I just got back into online dating 2 weeks ago after a 10 year hiatus. It’s been going good. Wayyy more matches then I thought I’d be getting
That's because you are new meat. It will level out. Enjoy while you can
@@davidlowery8601 lol damn. I’ve only been using face book dating, haven’t even tried anything else. If it slows down then I’ll switch to another
I don't want to go out dating every day or night. I just want to get to know them firstly before going out daily...
How to go about online dating when you’re 53 but look 43 and play like you’re 23 ??? All my girlfriends have been at lest 10yrs younger. Never did online dating what app do you suggest?
I am very tall and I figured that when I wrote my hight explicitly in the first sentence my number of matches tripled. Another thing that works for me is the following first message: "Would you like to get to know each other? Do you prefer to chat first or meet immediately" (I am translating from Russian, m b you can phrase this better). I am not very active on tinder recently, but roughly all 10 girls that I wrote to replied and eventually fixed the date. So, I guess, you don't need to invent anything, just write straight what you want.
Bro dating in Russia is completely different dynamics.
TALL + the dating is much difference in Russia
Встречаемся или месяц переписки?))
@@Nojarocom многие девушки прямо пишут что не любят долгих переписок в профиле. После того как я им пишу так как выше, обычно отвечают, что лучше быстрее встретимся. Некоторые при этом все же пишут что хотят для начала обо мне что-то узнать. Попереписываемся 1-2 дня, потом встречаемся. Ну или не встречаемся, но обычно это потому что выясняется что-то типа что у них есть дети и уже я не вижу смысла встречаться.
@@Nojarocom вообще, мне 36 лет. В этом возрасте уже женщины сами за тобой бегают. Как я написал, я высокий, симпатичный, в неплохой форме (без лишнего веса, спортивный), зарабатываю значительно выше среднего (в профиле это не написано, но видно фотки из разных стран). Единственное что плохо - это что фотки обычные, я специально не фотогрфировался. Говорят, это важно. В результате найти мэтч несложно. 2-3 мэтча за день запросто. Причем они сами часто пишут первыми. Правда, по итогу обычно ничем это не заканчивается. Почти все - это мои ровесницы или на 2-3 года младше. И все какие-то скучные (написаны какие-то интересы, но рассказать нечего) так себе социальные скилы (поддержать разговор, чувство юмора), часто бедные и неухоженные (ну, блин, если идешь уже на свидание как женщина, что нельзя как-то нормально одеться а не приходить в мятой футболке или свитере с катушками? Или голову хотя бы помыть? Ну и, блин, иметь нормальное настроение и иногда улыбаться?). Короче, интереса не вызывают. Такое чувство, что они уже махнули на все рукой и даже на тиндер не надеются. Просто приходят, на 100е свидание, типа, а вдруг что выйдет, но уже с таким вот отчаявшимся настроем. Либо попадаются с детьми, но заранее не предупреждают. Ну или папика ищут, чтобы обеспечил им отдых в обмен на услуги. Значительно реже бывают лет 5-7 моложе. Но тоже пока никто не заинтересовал.
Я это к тому, что несмотря на то что мэтчей много, результатами в Тиндере я недоволен. По моему опыту, девушки значительно более высокого качества попадаются если знакомиться в быту. Например, где-нибудь в пабе или по работе, через общих знакомых. Оказывается, что и девушкам на 10 лет моложе я вполне интересен, при этом сами они, что ли, более содержательные и у нас больше общего по части интересов, чем у случайных знакомых с тиндера. Я вот думал еще фотографии лучше сделать на тиндер, посмотреть м б что изменится. Но уже поздно :)
you know the worlds f-d when you gotta become an analyst to get human decency
Yes the dating culture is fucked thanks to the creation of the internet sadly ! We are done 🌎🔥
I appreciate the positive attitude Todd brings to the table but the truth is that some men are just not what women want no matter how good their profile is. Sometimes it’s better to give up with your dignity in tact.
True, I gave that up years ago when after 2 years I still got 0 matches and I am very good looking.
It works both ways, you’re not going to be a match for everyone. Stop blaming everything on ‘women’ and just accept the fact that you’re not a prize, no one is.
Online dating heavily favours women, the male algorithm will only show your profile for 1-2 days before moving it to the back of its queue. It’s the exact same as the way Instagram, Facebook & TH-cam algorithms work.
@@Kennymacdougall 'and I am very good looking' idk man
@@Kennymacdougall If you are "very good looking" but you got no online dating results, then you must have been making a very big blunder with your online dating technique or strategy somehow. The biggest factor in online dating is photos, by far, so a "very good looking" guy can DEFINITELY get results if you're doing things well and not making huge mistakes.
@@Paul-yk7ds Nope, it's the algorithm. There simply is no such thing as online dating strategies. It's just purely to sell something, not to actually help.
I ask out women after matching very quickly, and it often STILL doesn't work.
Thats because its simply to early.. try getting her exited then make your move, its basicaly 50% increased chance she wants something more
I get a lot of fake profiles for example on Facebook Dating interacting with me. How do I prevent these fake profiles from wasting my time?
Better profile. Better pics. Papa Todd's.
Do you know if he has a good Tinder profile?
Underrated comment.
If you are swiping, and you already swiped though all the women in the area, how do you improve afterwards? Does the algorithm on these apps show you the people that you swiped left on or who swept left on you again?
Make a new profile
@@maggomens6014 if you delete your profile and recreate it, will everything be reset? If you're using the same phone number and email to register, for example, they may remember you.
I got this same problem,I arrived in a beach city with supposedly lots of tourists,and after a week of swiping (very selectively) it says there's no people around u(with 100km radius)🤦♂️
I have swiped a load in my city and i know that after these interactions there wont be many more left. Its time to play it slowly and carefully
7 years without women. 17 years off the sex. Not ashamed. Fly solo and live your best life. Avoid the state divorce laws. Be careful out there!
You haven’t had a women in 17 years? Lol that ain’t the way bro
@@Jonasdelrey Thanks for sharing that.
@@jeffreycheng5984 YW anytime
"Live your best life! Have incredible relationships, just don't get state divorce laws involved. They will dictate your finances in the likely event your marriage becomes non-functional! Be careful out there! I wanna keep ya outta my office!"- Jonathan Noble Esquire. Pennsylvania divorce attorney who has practiced in fields of divorce and family law for 20 years.
@@jeffreycheng5984 I Agree, it's crazy out there, if you have something to lose, she will get part of it, and the Judge will give it to her with a smile...
Getting attention for me is not the problem. Converting endless chats into real world dates is. Plenty of women message but they never want to get off the app!
What I have found, especially with the 7+/10 women is that most are there for validation. They don't really want to go on dates. They just want you to validate that they are attractive and can get your attention. Also a lot are just looking for IG Snapchat and OF followers. Most hot girls on there are so inundated with male attention its very difficult to stand out. Table is tilted, the game is rigged. But nowadays you pretty much have to just stick with it and hope you get lucky.
Cause they ain't trying to bang. I miss running through chicks in the early 2000s no problem. Now these 4's think they're 9's and have kids 😂
What if the woman doesn't drink or is unwilling to do strictly drinks and expects food as well? Or if neither of you have pullable logistics?
well doesnt have to be alcohol. maybe substitute it with coffee or something
McD's is OK, or a bar / pub type bite to eat is OK - such as Wetherspoons here in the UK.
Plus she can expect all she wants. What she gets is what she gets. You just have to frame it in the right way - eg an indirectly indicated "I'm not the same as all those other men".
I usually suggest chatting at a cafe, or walking and talking in a park.
@@Paul-yk7ds yup I do the same, those are perfect for first dates, very cheap or free, easy to leave if she's ugly etc
Where is the text guide? Thanks
www.toddvdating.com/onlinemsg/
so we’re taking advice from a married man on how to sleep with more/ girls from dating apps…gotcha makes total sense
You should though.
@@Granato787 nah i’m good
I was thinking of just taking video with many poses and screenshot the clips I want and crop the fluff. Thanks for the video.
I think the algorithm pushes some accounts more than others. Like the ones who already get swipes will be more pushed while the others may get less featured
Just watched videos about special forces and how they prepare for a mission. They are pretty much the same as Todd is giving for dating
If that’s the case then it’s not normal behaviour. It’s a date, not a special forces mission, just go on it and be NORMAL. Stop overthinking it and just have a normal human interaction for once.
@@Jay-ob4ti sorry but it doesn’t change the fact that tips Todd has given are the same as what Sof units are using. Even in the older videos some of the tips are Similiar to those that I have read in a hostice negotions manual.
Professional nomad here. When i end up in capital cities it`s madness, the apps are constantly buzzing. When I work in remote areas... :))))) well, quite the very opposite. It`s so creepy that you can hear the crickets in the background. Not to mention the country and the more or less traditional views on such lifestyle. To cut it short - not too many people discuss the difference between capital cities and province areas. Sometimes it`s not about you and the effort you`re putting. The place might not be favorable at all :))). Great video. I would only be unpleasant and mention a last element - workout, lose weight, look physically desirable
Theres one point im not agreeing with and it’s about the bio. in my experience girls are way more attracted to your profile if you have something short and genuine funny in it rather than Information about who you are. Girls like the mystery. Don’t just give them everything about you. Id say i have a decent success in online dating
Keep it up bro we'll support you
9:53-You NEVER pay. That’s the only complaint I have about your video. They are marketing to non premium users. If you’ve never paid sure you may not get a ton of likes, the few people who see your profile are probably going to be better quality. And honestly that kind of goes against what you said about your profile being like a business. It takes time.
My boy looking more and more like Vigo Mortensen and Christopher Walken had a baby.
Great tips! You've got to always convey value as a man in every single way, it's a jungle out there
I don't want to sound like an a-hole, but I always feel bad for the ones as described here "that look like your lunch ladies and 300 lbs" because they must have such a hard time on these dating apps. As hard as some guys have difficulties, there prob is a large category of women that get very very little hits.
Luckily, weight is something one can improve on - most of the time. It just takes effort and time. And a lot of times, overweight people look pretty decent once them slim down.
If you get a reply, get to the point say you want a date this place and time. She don’t reply or anything other then sure, convo over. Worked for me a few times
Watch this video a year ago and a year later still single still never been on a date and now a little self destructive 😂😅😢😢😢😢fml
Only top 10% of the men get all matches. Dating apps are time wasters.
This guy just gets women.
Love it
Hej. I am new there, can you give me 1 advice:
I don't drink alcohol at all and don't want to do it. Where should I take a girl on a date?
Twist in the end of the video: ha-ha, got you! April's fools y'all! Tinder actually sucks. Now go do those cold approaches, you wimps!
I get a few matches yet they NEVER respond
I'm 25 and I don't know anyone in my age group that is of sane mind that would do dinner dates. Am in in a specific subgroup or is it an age thing? Anyway, dinner dates are crazy
OMG! I'm SO glad I found your videos. I'm recently divorced 60yrs old and online dating is extremely new for me. The common sense you apply is refreshing and like YEAH that make total sense. Do you have any strategy for 50+ in online dating that is different form 30 and under?
Try local speed dating events and social mixers.
I got remotivated to take action again. I don’t know abt your Tinder selection, but mine is so bad. Most the the women seem like they could pass as middle schoolers. I don’t think i ever seen a truly attractive female on Tinder.
if i do all off those things to improve my profile, than what are girls going to do to be more attractive ?
What dating sites do you use? And how do you avoid an identify the scam artist?
🤣 Your advice on style and getting a haircut 😂 I'm dead I love you man. You are a legend
These videos should be labeled “For entertainment purposes only”
No disrespect to Todd but dating apps aren’t going to work for most guys as far as getting girls you would actually want to meet
No! It's just about luck! The right person needs to come at the right time per incident.
Excelent video! Thanks todd
Yo Tod V. I think there's a problem, when you enter your email address to the get the guide you mention it doesn't work and gives an error message.
what if you’ve done that for 3 years and did all research about, hired 2 photographers. and watched all online dating tips and you have 0 dates in 3 years including just friends. and re did my account 4 times with different professional photos because i was suspecting that my account was shadow banned but nothing.
and also i have decent game since i have success in real life but NOTHING online
you already know the answer. it's because you're ugly, or really short. not trying to be mean here, just saying how it is. dating and especially online dating is extremely hard for ugly or very short guys. sorry bro
7.5 at least or 0 msg
Hey Todd , 26 years old I’m single and is it too late for me to get better?
Yes, you should become a monk.
Sucks if you're 5'8" most women want 6ft or more....
I heard you DON'T want to pay for the membership with Tinder. According to the source, not paying and not over swiping is what gets you highest in the algorithm. Again, I'm talking Tinder specifically. Other apps my be different.
stupid game either way
you play against the corporation and against most of the women, who are entitled
Tinder is rigged
I don't think haircuts are relevant at all. I've had long rockstar hair before, I've shaved my head before, I've had a short and professional haircut, and I've tried everything in between. Nothing happens. Women judge you based on whether you have a handsome face and a lean or muscular body. If you are too thin or too fat, it will make you look unattractive, and women will be disgusted by you. You can make your face look more handsome to some extent by having a normal body mass index. But if you don't have a good head shape or good facial features, women won't like you, and there's nothing you can do about it. This is why I don't believe you should waste your time or money on professional-looking haircuts if your goal is to be attractive to women. If you are about to go on a job interview, then yes, cutting and styling your hair will help you because it makes you look professional. But your girlfriend is not your boss, and dating is completely different from job searching. If women on dating sites see that you haven't gotten a haircut in months, they aren't going to care. They care about your natural facial attractiveness and your physique. It's not fair, but it's true. Women don't have to be fit or thin to be attractive. Extra weight makes them curvy or plus size. It doesn't make them unattractive, but overweight men are always unattractive. If they weren't, then plus-size male models would exist. Plus-size models are always female. It's unfortunate that men are harshly judged for their appearance and women aren't, but it's the reality we live in.
Haircuts matter and I personally wouldn't date an overweight girl. Of course, there are many other factors, but being well groomed is important to women.
You are probably rich and handsome. I bet you get a lot of dates without trying.
@@dualscreengrant I'm not rich (I'm a student). I'm not sure how handsome I am. Probably an average face.
For a while, I looked homeless (crazy hair, I wore old tshirts, in ok shape) and didn't get much female attention. Now I go to the gym 6 days a week, brush my hair, and wear nice clothes. It has made a big difference in how much attention I get from women. Maybe a good haircut doesn't matter too much by itself, but the little things add up.
I’m pretty much screwed…
The reason we hope guys are at least sorta attractive is because eventually, down the line, we are going to have to sleep with you! It's not unfounded.
Problem is I dont drink alcohol. Coffee?
Its the tinder Toddler!
Internet dating does not make dating easy for men- it makes hookups easy. Hook ups and dating are 2 different things.
Online dating makes the dating part practically impossible. People are addicted to the swipe- even after a great date they will go home and keep swiping. Thats the truth.
Todd has to be the best current day gentleman helping all of us out…
Todd I really need answerd one question, I can't find anything on your channel about that. I am often loosing girls after the first or second date. They seem to chase and double text and I always think ok, she likes me. I suggest the next date and then she looses interest. Especially if I have to ask her out a secound time. Should I be mor patient and wait for her to ask me out if we already met each other for example 2 times?
Why are you asking for a date in the first place? Just tell her that you are planning to do something fun and she can join you if she wants. And anyway from my experience it's easier to close the girls on the first date. If you didn't even make out with her on the first date then it's a failure.
Check what you're doing on the first date. Loads of advice on how to speak and act on the first date on this channel and others.
I agree with Lin T, it might be a problem with what you're doing on the first dates. That said, I would disagree with Konstantin saying you need to make out on the first date. Personally my strategy is just a short simple first date, 1-2 hours of chatting in a cafe or park, include some flirting and touching but no kissing usually. I kinda follow Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) model from his book "Get to Sex Fast." He suggests how to handle the first date to set it up to escalate smoothly on the second date, not the first date.
Step 1: Be a good lookin model.
Agree with most of this material. Don't agree that women are necessarily choosing a particular man from a dating sight because they like him. Just pragmatic reality here. There are plenty of women out there who will be willing to endure the brief company of a man just to get something in return for free. This is especially true in the modern age of feminism. Also, dating apps, for whatever claims are made for or against them, probably have a rate of "success" that is on par with any other method . In some ways they are a better method because you have a certain level of pre-screening the prospective date before you ever have to be in the same space with them. Also, getting "rejected" by someone online is definitely less stressful than getting rejected in-person and save time, money and effort.
This is why I don't put too much bio info on my page. Don't judge me right off the bat because of what I have on my profile, get to actually feel my vibe and the energy I give off in person first. My bio literally says "Just gotta come find out" it leaves a mysteriousness and also vets out the one's who are curious and wants to see where things go and the one's who are just there for attention and waste your time.
be in love and be romantic. feelings over logic
My experience is that all of the even remotely attractive ones either never respond or are scammers.
If you live in a small town you're screwed, might as well not even try. I stopped using online dating and it made my life better.
True. I live in a small town in South Africa. I just leave my Tinder account up just in case. But most of the women on the app in my area are on average 2/10s 😬
Where is the text guide?
www.toddvdating.com/onlinemsg/
I have another problem. I am polish and I live in Switzerland. I earn good money, look pretty good and so on. In my country I have even 5 likes daily, in Switzerland maybe 5 weekly, and most of them are really shity.. Most of the women think that I am low value only because of my nationality
Tell them you from Ukraine instead)))
As a lady who is doing online dating i was a guy to be consistent
Sorry, but this sounds like you'll have to create some alter ego persona, that's not even you at all, to fake your way into hooking up with a semi-hot girl, who also happens to be faking her way through this whole process as well.
I'm all for honest self reflection and self improvement, but how about everyone just stop faking and lying and start hanging out in person again?
Anyone feel even if you did get all these matches and dates at the end youd start feeling like dang if it wasnt for tinder i wouldnt have gotten a date with her if I saw at approached her at the library or something?
Hey that online dating text guide you have up isn’t working when I put my email in
contact support@toddvdating.com